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Speaker 1: right now, and hey, enjoy a Second Date Update.
Speaker 3: Second Date Updated.
Speaker 4: Occasionally on this segment we get return callers who come
Speaker 4: back multiple times seeking our help and dare I say
Speaker 4: our wisdom?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: WHOA what do they say about people who are psycho
Speaker 1: and they try the same thing over and over again
Speaker 1: expecting the different results.
Speaker 3: That's saying it's too wise for me.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 4: Funny thing is today's return listener only knows about us
Speaker 4: because we called him for a second date.
Speaker 3: Update.
Speaker 2: What the heck did you go out with him?
Speaker 5: Jeff?
Speaker 2: And now he's not calling you bath? Is that what's
Speaker 2: going on?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 4: I mean he was on a second date where we
Speaker 4: reached out to him. Oh yeah, he was on the
Speaker 4: receiving end of the call, and not surprisingly, he instantly
Speaker 4: fell in love with us.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I thought we were desperate.
Speaker 3: Secondary going Hey, have you been on any New Days?
Speaker 4: His name is Chase, and I don't know if you'll
Speaker 4: remember him, but he was the guy who kept postponing
Speaker 4: his dates because he said he was really really focused.
Speaker 3: On self care and not overstressing.
Speaker 1: Wait, this is a bathtub guy, right bathtub?
Speaker 6: Yep?
Speaker 4: He was having too good of a time in the
Speaker 4: bath and decided, you know what, I'm going to stay
Speaker 4: in here and skip my date.
Speaker 1: And I will say I love a man who just
Speaker 1: has discovered the magic of a bath.
Speaker 4: Chase, We respect you and your self care. Welcome back
Speaker 4: to the show Man, Thanks go.
Speaker 6: Good to be back in a bubble bath.
Speaker 8: Right now, bro, I'm not taking a bath right now,
Speaker 8: so you reached out to us this time because apparently
Speaker 8: you went out with a different girl than the last time.
Speaker 3: Or is this the same one?
Speaker 6: No, this is a different girl.
Speaker 5: This girl's name is Kathy.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, where'd you meet her.
Speaker 6: Online?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 4: I thought I was gonna say in the bathtub when
Speaker 4: I was so okay, she just popped up and I
Speaker 4: was like, okay, well, guess what did.
Speaker 2: You just come from?
Speaker 1: Up the story?
Speaker 4: All right?
Speaker 3: Cool? You met her online? What did you guys do?
Speaker 6: Yeah, honestly we talked at first, and then eventually we
Speaker 6: found the time we were both free, and we went
Speaker 6: out to a restaurant.
Speaker 2: Okay, sounds pretty so far.
Speaker 4: And did you actually make it to this restaurant or
Speaker 4: was self care getting in the way?
Speaker 6: Now, we made it to the restaurant, Believe it or not.
Speaker 6: You can take care of yourself and still make time.
Speaker 2: Learning lessons from your time on the show last time?
Speaker 3: So much? Okay, how did how did the restaurant go
Speaker 3: with Cassie?
Speaker 6: I thought we had a good time. We did that
Speaker 6: thing where you're looking at random strangers and you're like
Speaker 6: making up crazy backstories about them. Oh yeah, so I
Speaker 6: love that Okay, Yeah, Like we we talked about her job.
Speaker 6: She's a nurse, which is really cool. So when we
Speaker 6: were telling backstories, we would come up with like crazy
Speaker 6: scenarios of r injuries. Oh that's at the bar. What
Speaker 6: if he was impaled by a spear gun? What would
Speaker 6: you do with her?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: This definitely sounds like a very romantic topic of conversation.
Speaker 4: Hope you didn't spend all of your time on er
Speaker 4: horror stories.
Speaker 6: So of course we talked about other things. Like one
Speaker 6: of my favorite questions to ask on a first or
Speaker 6: second day is what was your favorite cartoon as a kid.
Speaker 2: That's a great question. That's a hard question, dude.
Speaker 6: If you say Looney Tunes, maybe you have a silly,
Speaker 6: fun attitude.
Speaker 1: Oh, you like use it to judge people's personality.
Speaker 2: If you say Spongebobb your what was your answer?
Speaker 6: Well, funny enough, you just said it. Mine was spunge
Speaker 6: Bob him as a human being?
Speaker 4: All right, Okay, team SpongeBob Brooks is animaniacs. Does that
Speaker 4: mean that she's sexually repressed and has a weird relationship
Speaker 4: with family members?
Speaker 1: No, it's that I know all the capitals of the
Speaker 1: United States do not listen to Wacko's song.
Speaker 3: Clearly No, that's epic song.
Speaker 4: Okay, did she have a good answer for a cartoon show?
Speaker 6: Yeah, her favorite with Scooby Doo. Maybe, like you know
Speaker 6: true crime show.
Speaker 4: Is transfers into adulthood or they soon to be serial killers.
Speaker 3: But that's probably not sa that's true? Okay yourself? Well
Speaker 3: this okay?
Speaker 4: Now, now the conversation sounds like it's more fun. How
Speaker 4: did the night end?
Speaker 6: Well, you know how, we were having a really great time.
Speaker 6: I thought I was gonna get a kiss. Maybe happening.
Speaker 3: I didn't know.
Speaker 2: Is that because you didn't make the move or what?
Speaker 5: You know? I leaned in and she didn't reciprocate.
Speaker 6: I wasn't going to push it any farther.
Speaker 2: Gentleman way to do it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, So I just got in my Honda Civic and
Speaker 6: drove home.
Speaker 2: You slink away, You feel like crap.
Speaker 4: I've been there, bro, I love every girl I've ever met.
Speaker 2: Up on the making model of his car was.
Speaker 4: Okay, you have pride in your car. Sure, So what's
Speaker 4: happened since that date? Have you been able to stay
Speaker 4: in touch with Cassie?
Speaker 6: I've tried to make another date. The problem is I
Speaker 6: just I'm phusy a lot with my company, so it's
Speaker 6: been hard to find the time that worked. And now
Speaker 6: I just kind of feel like she's ignoring me.
Speaker 3: So you're super busy, but you will make.
Speaker 6: Time for her, Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, well we can tell her that.
Speaker 5: I know.
Speaker 1: But it's always like kind of a turn off when
Speaker 1: people are like, I'm really super mping, you know, It's
Speaker 1: like that feels like maybe she thinks you don't like her, honestly, yeah,
Speaker 1: because that always feels like an excuse In.
Speaker 4: Times like these, I tend to ask myself what would
Speaker 4: SpongeBob do? And what he would do is he would
Speaker 4: come back and you would call Cassie on the radio
Speaker 4: and try and get you a second date.
Speaker 2: I feel like you go jellyfish hunting.
Speaker 3: But yeah, SpongeBob things at once. We're gonna attempt a
Speaker 3: few of them when we come back. I gotta know
Speaker 3: about that. We're gonna do with a second date update
Speaker 3: right after this second date update.
Speaker 4: It's kind of interesting the question our listener Chase asks
Speaker 4: women on every first date.
Speaker 3: He likes to ask, what's your face? Rich Childhood Cartoon.
Speaker 2: I love that question.
Speaker 3: I think everybody loves that question.
Speaker 2: I actually want to know yours.
Speaker 3: Jeff, You're never going to know that from me. We
Speaker 3: don't know each other that well. Oh come on, I'll
Speaker 3: dare you ask something so deep in person?
Speaker 2: You know what it's gonna be, deftails. It's got to
Speaker 2: be about a rich uncle. There's no way.
Speaker 3: Okay, it's Arthur if you have to know the introverted barking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, with the really sassy sister.
Speaker 4: Now, Chase says he can tell a lot about a
Speaker 4: person based on their cartoon answer and his date Cassie
Speaker 4: said Scooby Doo, which is a sign that she could
Speaker 4: be into true crime. It's so funny, whereas he's a
Speaker 4: SpongeBob fan who's more silly and wacky and wears square
Speaker 4: shaped clothes. Yeah, but opposites do attract sometimes, and Chase
Speaker 4: wants to see if we can make that happen for
Speaker 4: him today, Brook, what's your take?
Speaker 1: I really think that she thinks that you don't like her, because,
Speaker 1: like he says.
Speaker 2: I mean, didn't you say, Chase, like you kept telling her?
Speaker 2: God him so busy. But I'll fit you in.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I get that, It's it's not what I meant to,
Speaker 6: and I hope she doesn't see.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying it's a bad thing.
Speaker 1: I just think that's what's happening, and I think you
Speaker 1: can totally come back from it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And if it turns out that we can't get
Speaker 4: you a second date at the end of this, is
Speaker 4: it okay if we blame it on those meddling kids
Speaker 4: and dog.
Speaker 6: Too, if need be, I suppose that'd be okay.
Speaker 2: Masks, are you wearing to take off after this?
Speaker 3: We're gonna call that plan B.
Speaker 4: But for now, let's just dial Cassie see if she
Speaker 4: picks up and try to get this second date done.
Speaker 4: Here we go, Hello, Hey, we're looking to talk with Cassie.
Speaker 4: She Hey Cassie, my name is jeff from the radio
Speaker 4: show Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 7: Hey Cassie, Yeah, thank you, but I'm not interested though. Sorry.
Speaker 3: Oh well, we're not.
Speaker 4: We're not trying to tell you anything. We're asked to
Speaker 4: call you by one of our listeners that went on
Speaker 4: a date with you recently.
Speaker 7: What what is this? I don't get it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, this is a segment we do call the
Speaker 4: Second Date Update, and we're trying to help him figure
Speaker 4: out if something went wrong on your first meetup and
Speaker 4: hopefully get you two together for another one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it sounds like a pretty normal date.
Speaker 3: I mean, it wasn't that normal, Brook.
Speaker 4: They were making up backstories about spear guns and what
Speaker 4: you would do as a nurse in the er.
Speaker 7: Oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, you're talking about Chase. Yeah.
Speaker 4: So the reason that we're doing this call is because
Speaker 4: Chase told us this whole story, said he had a
Speaker 4: great time with you. Now he's a little bit confused
Speaker 4: about why there hasn't been a second meetup, because if
Speaker 4: we're being honest, he says, he feels like you're ignoring him.
Speaker 7: No, I mean I just kind of well, I just
Speaker 7: kind of felt like I was kind of bouched by
Speaker 7: this guy.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1: That's interesting because we've had Chase on the show before
Speaker 1: and he just seems like such a humble, like nice dude.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 7: Well yeah, I mean he is humble and nice, but
Speaker 7: like when we like connected and I called him, he
Speaker 7: said he was golfing at this golf course and I
Speaker 7: looked it up and it's like a really nice private course.
Speaker 7: You have to be a member.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, looked it up.
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, well, I mean it's it's nice to have
Speaker 7: someone that's financially established, you know, I mean, don't guys
Speaker 7: go golfing if they're not financially was a private.
Speaker 3: Court, Okay, this particular one really impressed you.
Speaker 7: Yeah. Another time we were texting to meet up and
Speaker 7: he said he was at this auction and I'm like,
Speaker 7: auction buying stuff, like poor people don't go to auction.
Speaker 1: If he's buying art, Like come on, yeah, I don't know,
Speaker 1: as I haven't.
Speaker 6: Okay.
Speaker 7: Well, yeah, so I figure, okay, this guy's establish, and
Speaker 7: so we figured out a night to meet and he
Speaker 7: takes me to like a regular chain restaurant.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 7: I was like, okay, that's that's not what I expected.
Speaker 7: And you know, the actual date went well, but then
Speaker 7: he at the end of the night, he drives off
Speaker 7: in a kind of like.
Speaker 2: Did you wait, did you just say you to a
Speaker 2: Honda Civic.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I got the impressions. Then he had
Speaker 7: money and he was you know, well off.
Speaker 2: My god, that's not fair. You did not get the impression.
Speaker 2: You made the assumption. Yeah, a friend of the golf.
Speaker 4: Course, Cassie, did he tell you that he's well off
Speaker 4: with a lot of money or did you just assume
Speaker 4: that based on your conversations?
Speaker 7: I mean, I guess I assumed it because well it
Speaker 7: was based.
Speaker 2: On the conversations. It sounds like based on her research.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I know many many different personal assistants who attend
Speaker 4: art auctions on behalf of my family and my parents,
Speaker 4: and they.
Speaker 3: Are not off.
Speaker 2: I can't tell if you're joking. Did your family really
Speaker 2: do that?
Speaker 3: Why am I being grilled?
Speaker 4: Cassie is the one that is jumping to assumptions here.
Speaker 6: Rich guys just can't get.
Speaker 4: So Cassie, do you feel like maybe you are the
Speaker 4: one at fault here jumping to assumptions about who he
Speaker 4: really is?
Speaker 7: Well, I'm just I'm not interested in beating a low
Speaker 7: value guy to trick me.
Speaker 4: Agree, you should get him on the phone and ask
Speaker 4: him that question, because I need to let you know
Speaker 4: that he is listening to this call on the other
Speaker 4: line right now.
Speaker 1: What he could Chase?
Speaker 3: Are you there and are you a low value man?
Speaker 7: Yes? Or no?
Speaker 6: I mean apparently I am. According to her, you're.
Speaker 2: A good value man. Chase, that's what you say.
Speaker 4: Well, why don't you have a discussion with Cassie about this?
Speaker 4: Because clearly. She feels like you were giving her the
Speaker 4: impression that you were at a certain level well financially,
Speaker 4: and you didn't meet that in person.
Speaker 6: No, I mean, sadly, my plan worked.
Speaker 7: Plan? What plan? Though? What are you talking about?
Speaker 3: Playing games?
Speaker 6: I actually am a member of that golf club, and
Speaker 6: I did attend the art auctions for myself. It was art.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, you're rich rich, then I'm comfortable.
Speaker 2: That means you're wealthy.
Speaker 3: I don't know how you got off. My parents pay
Speaker 3: well on with.
Speaker 4: The civic and the non bouginess, like what's happening?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I own a tech company and sometimes when girls
Speaker 6: hear that, they just end up wanting to date me
Speaker 6: for my money.
Speaker 5: So I purposely took you to a chain restaurant.
Speaker 6: To see how you would react.
Speaker 2: Oh and you liked her. Still, that's so sad.
Speaker 7: And then she no, no, no, I didn't hate it. Look,
Speaker 7: I didn't hear that you fail to test personally. I
Speaker 7: think that's very very smart. I think you should try
Speaker 7: to do that your boid.
Speaker 2: Seriously, Cassie.
Speaker 1: Now you're super interested in him and you think that
Speaker 1: he is awesome.
Speaker 7: Weirdly, I mean, I don't know what you guys here referring.
Speaker 7: But seriously, I've always been interested.
Speaker 2: You know, we record these phone calls. We can play
Speaker 2: him back.
Speaker 7: Well, I mean you might have missed that first part
Speaker 7: because I said, if this is him testing me, then
Speaker 7: you know he's really smart and I respect that, I
Speaker 7: really do.
Speaker 2: I think I think I think she tried to say that.
Speaker 2: Right after he said, oh, it's just a test. She's like,
Speaker 2: that's really smart.
Speaker 3: Are you buying it? Chase?
Speaker 6: Look, I can buy anything I do.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's funny. That's not what I meant. But do
Speaker 4: you believe her?
Speaker 5: I always want to think the best of people. So, okay,
Speaker 5: it wants to send me a few picks?
Speaker 2: Wait wait, wait, you say if she wants.
Speaker 5: To send you what if she wants to send me
Speaker 5: a few picks to so sorry, then.
Speaker 2: That's so rough. Yeah, I mean I want to get stereotype.
Speaker 2: He was a Chase tech company. But now I am,
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 7: Oh my god, you're so funny. I'll show you on
Speaker 7: our date.
Speaker 5: Oh wow.
Speaker 3: Okay, this has been a past here.
Speaker 2: So how quickly he dropped his morals too?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Want to hang out?
Speaker 4: I have to see if both parties are actually still
Speaker 4: interested in another date here because.
Speaker 3: Yes, from you, she said, yes.
Speaker 4: It's a big change from what you said five minutes ago.
Speaker 4: But apparently we misunderstood.
Speaker 3: We heard you wrong.
Speaker 7: You did, you did misunderstood me. I told you, guys,
Speaker 7: I was shocked. I was a little surprised, but I
Speaker 7: didn't hate the restaurant for sure.
Speaker 3: She actually did say the restaurant was okay, okay.
Speaker 4: So Chase, are you guys gonna go out again? Because
Speaker 4: if you do, you're probably gonna have to drop the
Speaker 4: Ikmobile Honda Civic. It's not it's not approved.
Speaker 6: I mean you know, I mean like that new.
Speaker 5: Stuff has been presented on this date.
Speaker 6: So I'm definitely a yes, definitely, yes, you got.
Speaker 8: Okay.
Speaker 2: I hate both of you somehow.
Speaker 3: I think we're jealous of both of Yeah, okay, well
Speaker 3: congratulations did it? Why do we feel bad?
Speaker 6: I don't know.
Speaker 2: It feels wrong. There's some law that we just broke.
Speaker 2: Whatever you do, have fun, all right, send some money
Speaker 2: if you're bored.
Speaker 3: Bro Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4: I think with dates nowadays, if you have a certain expectation,
Speaker 4: like you want a guy who's well often established, like
Speaker 4: Cassie did, you just need to put the survey in
Speaker 4: front of them at the table. Do you make this amount,
Speaker 4: this amount or this amount of circle it and we
Speaker 4: can be done with it.
Speaker 3: And it starts.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like that song on TikTok, Right, I want
Speaker 1: a guy in finance exactly.
Speaker 3: Let's just figure out where you really are.
Speaker 4: That way we can avoid simple misunderstandings like this one.
Speaker 4: No message misunderstood though, and test them.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I think what is funny is that they both ended
Speaker 1: up kind of meant for each other.
Speaker 2: Yeah, both of them are a little sleazy at the end.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're like, well, you know, fine, I'll forgive you, you
Speaker 3: forgive me.
Speaker 6: Let's just hang out.
Speaker 4: But we need to own our part of the misunderstanding
Speaker 4: because we totally misheard her.
Speaker 2: Oh so yeah, a little. I think we did.
Speaker 4: When she said you about the Honda Civic, she didn't
Speaker 4: mean the cars groscy men cute.
Speaker 3: It's a cute cars.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: She also heard said yeah, yeah, well I'm sure we
Speaker 4: misunderstood that one too.
Speaker 3: We don't make enough money to understand her. I feel
Speaker 3: bad forever doubting her.
Speaker 4: And if you want to hear any of our second dates,
Speaker 4: you can go to wherever you get your podcast.
Speaker 3: They're up right now at Brook and Jeffrey
Speaker 7: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning,