WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: From A Threeesome To A Throuple (Ft. Assante)

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<v Speaker 1>If you would like to have us answer your questions.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome you on to another episode of You've Got Decisions

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<v Speaker 2>on this motherfucker Hunt Day. I'm joined by a very

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<v Speaker 2>special guest to help give you bitches some advice.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>Have one third of the friends on with me and

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<v Speaker 2>one of my very good best friends.

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<v Speaker 4>A Sante.

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<v Speaker 2>This motherfucker okay, period period period, to help me out.

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<v Speaker 4>Before we get started with this.

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<v Speaker 4>Real and raw experiences.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, now, clearly I kidnap Assante for a little bit.

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<v Speaker 4>So if y'all want to hear.

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<v Speaker 4>The holland Mandy on the high Line. I'm talking yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And y'all know Ida meant one fourth of pretty Ricky

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<v Speaker 1>Son now.

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<v Speaker 4>I wish I could say for real.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry, okay, And speaking of Bandy on the hotline, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just gonna play a voicemail from someone who loves Bandy

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<v Speaker 2>on the hotline. By the way, if you want to

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<v Speaker 2>leave a voicemail, you can call ninety seven three nine

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<v Speaker 2>like this one.

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<v Speaker 5>Hey, uh, Mandie on the hotline one of your listeners.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm actually driving on my way to work right now.

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't really have a question head on that I

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<v Speaker 5>could think of, but I'm a huge fan of the show.

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<v Speaker 3>I just pre ordered the audio play, and I hope

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<v Speaker 3>you guys keep doing what y'all doing.

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<v Speaker 5>I enjoy selective ignorance, and I enjoy everything both of

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<v Speaker 5>you guys put out as a collective. But yeah, maybe

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<v Speaker 5>i'll call back with some advice if I can speak

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<v Speaker 5>on it a little later down the line. But I

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<v Speaker 5>appreciate trying to keep doing what y'all doing.

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<v Speaker 1>We appreciate you.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, what is that kind of slow slow gym ship?

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<v Speaker 4>Is that? That was a little dirt that was vanish mom? No,

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<v Speaker 4>because I was on Instagram and it was a song

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<v Speaker 4>that was on my status for whatever reason because I

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<v Speaker 4>had listened to them. A little dirt, what's wrong? A

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<v Speaker 4>little dirt? Nothing we'll do. We won't do a little dirt.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't peg you as at you as a as

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<v Speaker 1>a little Dirk fan.

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<v Speaker 4>Look that list, the list of people you peg. I know,

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<v Speaker 4>it's immaculous. That's crazy. Unfortunately, unfortunately I am not listen listen, No,

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<v Speaker 4>it was Dirk. Apparently he's fine or something. Was it

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<v Speaker 4>a little Dirk or apparently it's fine.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it a little Dirk in jail?

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<v Speaker 4>It's it's a clone.

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<v Speaker 1>It's got to be a clone.

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<v Speaker 2>It's because I used to see that his little his

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<v Speaker 2>little leather shorts and.

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<v Speaker 4>He couldn't dress for ship. It needs to be a

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<v Speaker 4>conversation about that for real, because they find out like

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<v Speaker 4>Gucci came back looking real good, Gunna been like fitness and.

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<v Speaker 2>Said it, let's send everybody to jail. Then when they

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<v Speaker 2>come out, baby, that's okay.

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<v Speaker 4>That's no, no, no, let's let's not crap. Let's not

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<v Speaker 4>we're voted for now.

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<v Speaker 3>No.

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<v Speaker 4>Clean out.

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<v Speaker 1>Wrong, But there is like whatever workouts they do in jail.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, don't get me wrong. This is gonna sound terrible,

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<v Speaker 4>but I always said to myself, I just sounded terrible. Okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 4>I always say if I got locked up, then I

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<v Speaker 4>wouldn't have nothing to do but to work out, like

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<v Speaker 4>you know what you well, that's I want to say

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<v Speaker 4>that he do that say he was in jail, he

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<v Speaker 4>said he had the best time of his Like, whoa,

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<v Speaker 4>there's this gay man he was he's about say, I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know his fucking name. You go here, tell you're.

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<v Speaker 1>The only fans nigga who's now like you?

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<v Speaker 4>You he is the only fan See okay, here's the

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<v Speaker 4>only bed now.

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<v Speaker 2>He makes all this jail content bending over strike niggas

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<v Speaker 2>in himself.

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<v Speaker 4>There's something wrong with him because there's been like things

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<v Speaker 4>happening to him on Twitter. He's like, he looks like

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<v Speaker 4>he's mentally like something might be going on with him

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<v Speaker 4>in jail.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a tough environment.

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<v Speaker 4>It's so imagine being and he's trying to be a

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<v Speaker 4>content creator behind bars too. So like what, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't subscribe, but I watched the free stuff on Twitter.

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<v Speaker 4>It's kind of good. I've seen some things. Yes, all right, anyway,

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<v Speaker 4>get back to it.

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<v Speaker 2>We have a question from Shape from Houston, and Asante

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<v Speaker 2>helped me with this question.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, this is straight from Houston, Texas. I just call

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<v Speaker 3>him love for Boysnail. But I'm gonna leave another one

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<v Speaker 3>to make it a little shorter. I have a homegirl

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<v Speaker 3>that me and her had a threesome with somebody in

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<v Speaker 3>my apartments for my birthday as a birthday gift. Since

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<v Speaker 3>that time, like us, three have consistently hung out with

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<v Speaker 3>each other, spent days with each other, you know, at

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<v Speaker 3>each other's apartments, her apartment, in my apartment, his apartment.

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<v Speaker 3>We've been on separate dates and things like that. We've

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<v Speaker 3>been on a couple of days. Like everything seems to

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<v Speaker 3>be real cool and it's very uh, situationship ish, But

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<v Speaker 3>I kind of want to bring up the topic of

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<v Speaker 3>us actually being in a poly relationship or being in

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<v Speaker 3>some type of thrupple. And I'm not really sure how

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<v Speaker 3>to approach a conversation, particularly with Ken. His name is Ken,

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<v Speaker 3>her name is Drea, And I was just looking for

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<v Speaker 3>advice on what you guys think God should do as

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<v Speaker 3>far as like approaching that conversation. And my reason that

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<v Speaker 3>is Keen is because you know, he comes off as

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<v Speaker 3>like a man's man, and I just don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>turn him off from from him, Like I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to like, oh, you know, now, I gotta be something

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<v Speaker 3>extra than what it is. I really don't want anything

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<v Speaker 3>to change. I just want to get those times understood. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 3>any advice you guys could get it would be great.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks. First off, shout out to you and your home girl.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, you other three songs for your birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, oh, but you did that. Yeah, I like that.

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<v Speaker 2>That's amazing, And clearly y'all have brought some nigga in

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<v Speaker 2>that both for y'all were pleased by it because y'all

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<v Speaker 2>both hanging out with him together separately, y'all are all

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<v Speaker 2>doing this?

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<v Speaker 4>How do you you know? Well, first of all, congratulations,

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<v Speaker 4>some of us can't stumble into one good situationship, let

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<v Speaker 4>alone a double like a like a full of poly

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<v Speaker 4>situationship is crazy. So I feel like everything's already there.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what I'm saying. You're just trying to clarify

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<v Speaker 4>or get the terms understood. You said you don't want

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<v Speaker 4>things to change, they would if you're going through this conversation. Look,

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<v Speaker 4>if you have the conversation, things are changing, you know. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>If y'all just gonna keep doing what y'all doing, then

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<v Speaker 4>you know, y'all gonna keep doing what y'all doing. But

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<v Speaker 4>there is something to be said about wanting more and

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<v Speaker 4>maybe trying to potentially see where that can go. So

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like if you want to have the conversation

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<v Speaker 4>down with both of them and just be real, like,

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<v Speaker 4>remind everybody of all the good things that are happening

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<v Speaker 4>and see if they want more of it now.

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<v Speaker 2>If y'all listen on Patreon, I thought that I could

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<v Speaker 2>continue being friends with activate after we broke up, And

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<v Speaker 2>so for me, my initial mind goes to how closer

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<v Speaker 2>friends are you and this homegirl? Because once you introduce

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<v Speaker 2>a romantic relationship into this, and when I say romantic,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about clearly the being together. Yeah, because y'all

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<v Speaker 2>know I fucked my friends and it doesn't change the

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<v Speaker 2>dynamic of it, right, But getting into a romantic relationship

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<v Speaker 2>with someone where now you have to show up as

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<v Speaker 2>a partner, we'll change the dynamic of the relationship that

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<v Speaker 2>you have with her. And so for me, I think

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<v Speaker 2>I would sit with first, would I be willing to

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<v Speaker 2>lose this friendship because now I want more? And a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of times where you think you can maintain friendships

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<v Speaker 2>with someone have to romantic relationships, apparently you can't try.

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<v Speaker 4>But she seemed more concerned with the guy.

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<v Speaker 1>So the reason here's my thing about the guy.

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<v Speaker 2>She she brings him up as like a malely man,

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<v Speaker 2>and so for me, I think her concern is maybe

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<v Speaker 2>he's a whole ass nigga, And so how she even

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<v Speaker 2>described it, where she's like, I just don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>he's going to be into doing all that.

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<v Speaker 4>For me, I felt like he's not.

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<v Speaker 1>The one that maybe wants to be tied down.

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<v Speaker 4>I kind of took it. I took it to maybe

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<v Speaker 4>she didn't know she freaked him out with like like

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<v Speaker 4>maybe he thinks, well a title, but like you know,

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<v Speaker 4>maybe he's he's like fucking with the one girl her,

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<v Speaker 4>but like it might be weird for him to be

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<v Speaker 4>like you want to be poly now, girl, Like that's

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<v Speaker 4>like that's your friend, and like, yeah, we had threesomes

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<v Speaker 4>and again, I don't know my feeling right here is happenings.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I mean that's the thing too. We don't

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<v Speaker 2>know how old she is. To me, I actually kind

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<v Speaker 2>of agree with what you're saying. We have been talking

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<v Speaker 2>on this podcast about non monogamy and all these lifestyle.

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<v Speaker 4>Ways of dating because some niggas ain't in all that.

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<v Speaker 1>And ain' not they'd rather just cheat on you.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, So you brought that up to it, like that's

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<v Speaker 4>a good point, like her, but you aren't trying to

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<v Speaker 4>be in other threesome. I'm gonna just keep doing this

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<v Speaker 4>shit over here. Because it's freaky, but like, I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>trying to be in a three right relationship, so it

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<v Speaker 4>could go either way. I him not want to be

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<v Speaker 4>in it, But what I would say is have a

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<v Speaker 4>conversation with him, because I feel like you want to

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<v Speaker 4>talk to him about it first. If you feel secure

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<v Speaker 4>in your friendship with your homegirl that y'all could like

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<v Speaker 4>forego that for a poly relationship, then cool, kudos to you.

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<v Speaker 4>But if you're trying to figure out how you're going

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<v Speaker 4>to approach the topic of being in a poly relationship

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<v Speaker 4>with him, really see where he's at with the relationship

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<v Speaker 4>with you first, and how he would feel about integrating

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<v Speaker 4>another person into that, or what his true feelings are

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<v Speaker 4>about your friendship and what that would mean as far

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<v Speaker 4>as y'all being more than friends now and like how

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<v Speaker 4>like and even for you and your friend, y'all would

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<v Speaker 4>need to have a conversation about that. Like, so I

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<v Speaker 4>agree with that.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you had to have separate conversations with individually

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<v Speaker 2>before bringing.

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<v Speaker 4>It, Separate conversations about where you're at with them, where

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<v Speaker 4>they're at with themselves, and how they feel about everything

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<v Speaker 4>that's been going on together.

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<v Speaker 2>Because also this just rooted from a goddamn threesome. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>are they dating other people?

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<v Speaker 4>Right? What are what are.

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<v Speaker 2>Their interactions sexually and romantic feat outside of this little.

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<v Speaker 4>Tree right because it might be like we're having the threesome.

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<v Speaker 4>That's fun. But then like, oh now it's Wednesday and

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<v Speaker 4>I'm on a day with a nigga and I'm a

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<v Speaker 4>fuck him tonight instead. But I'm gonna see these bitches

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<v Speaker 4>on Friday Saturday. So I did three someme I'm looking

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<v Speaker 4>forward to. But yeah, if they're spending time together and

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<v Speaker 4>maybe accidentally grocery shopping all three of them now, and

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<v Speaker 4>it's like possible split three ways.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it looked like they got three apartments.

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<v Speaker 4>Bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>If y'all all just want to save some money, honey,

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<v Speaker 2>in this economy and.

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<v Speaker 4>Starting dollars, I might need a bill split two. I

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<v Speaker 4>haven't missed peace.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree with with with where you're at.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you should talk to them individually, see where

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<v Speaker 2>they're at, especially outside of each other or outside of you,

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<v Speaker 2>and then consider with your friend if you you'd be

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<v Speaker 2>willing to you know, potentially ruin that friendship because you

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<v Speaker 2>want something more.

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<v Speaker 4>Because they actually have already crossed the line they having these,

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<v Speaker 4>they're in like a poly situationship. So now she's been

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<v Speaker 4>trying to figure out what like.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's the other dynamic. First off, you're not in

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<v Speaker 2>a poly relationship if.

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<v Speaker 4>You just hang out and polly situationship. I think that

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<v Speaker 4>that's the thing too.

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<v Speaker 2>I think when we start attaching Polly to things, Polly

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<v Speaker 2>is an umbrella term, and there's so many ways a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of formation to have that dynamic. And so you

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<v Speaker 2>guys have to talk about if it's going to be closed,

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<v Speaker 2>if it's gonna be like even.

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<v Speaker 4>Before you bring in a relationship, but I get to

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<v Speaker 4>date other people, or like are we dating?

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<v Speaker 1>Do we get all other people and date other people?

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<v Speaker 2>So for me too, I would want you to do

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<v Speaker 2>a deep dive on all of the different ways Polly

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<v Speaker 2>can be exper And then if you're coming with them

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<v Speaker 2>with this idea, you need to know your boundaries and

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<v Speaker 2>what really you're comfortable with, you.

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<v Speaker 4>Know what I mean? Yep, So to me, it looks

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<v Speaker 4>like it looks like that, Yeah, looks like that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>For me, I would.

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<v Speaker 2>Want you to sit with realistically your own feelings, your

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<v Speaker 2>own boundaries, and before you be like, let's be in

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<v Speaker 2>a poly relationship. You need to go down all the

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<v Speaker 2>different poly relationships and figure out what would even truly work.

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<v Speaker 4>Right and honestly reflect some deep reflection. Are you ready

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<v Speaker 4>for a relationship with two people? Like if you're thinking

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<v Speaker 4>about like could this be more? But you say you

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<v Speaker 4>want to keep things where they're at. If you want

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<v Speaker 4>to keep things where they're at, then you might not

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<v Speaker 4>want to say anything curious, but if you want more

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<v Speaker 4>from it. So I really had that conversation with yourself

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<v Speaker 4>before you step into how you can to have it

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<v Speaker 4>with both of them, you know, either separated together, because

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<v Speaker 4>you could just you know, keep them together and just

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<v Speaker 4>be like, so, what do we all doing? How we

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<v Speaker 4>all feeling? Because some people like to do it like that,

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<v Speaker 4>but I'm the type I want to see what we

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<v Speaker 4>do separately, you know, figure out where you're at, to

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<v Speaker 4>see if I can align the hearts and heads together.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's the thing too, when you talk about

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<v Speaker 2>wanting to be in a relationship as an adult, especially Polly,

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<v Speaker 2>when especially including two or more people, what are the

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<v Speaker 2>things that they have going on?

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<v Speaker 4>Are they coparents? Like somebody like somebody has to know

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<v Speaker 4>how the formula is being put together. Sometimes there's the

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<v Speaker 4>two that come in for the one, but sometimes there's

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<v Speaker 4>the one bringing the two or three or whatever together.

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<v Speaker 4>But you have to somebody that has to have the

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<v Speaker 4>knowledge of how.

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<v Speaker 2>These That's the thing I just brought up, doing any

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<v Speaker 2>of them co parent because maybe now both y'all gotta

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<v Speaker 2>deal with both.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all got to deal with the parent. What if thebody

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<v Speaker 4>wants kids and somebody don't.

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<v Speaker 2>Now were going down the rabbit, But yes, of all

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<v Speaker 2>of those things you actually have to consider before getting

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<v Speaker 2>into a relationship. And so if the sex is fun

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<v Speaker 2>and y'all just like hanging out, the pressure of a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship doesn't.

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<v Speaker 4>Have to be there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, but yeah, as it.

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<v Speaker 2>Gets a little difficult when you start adding in all

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<v Speaker 2>of these different scenarios and ways in which you have

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<v Speaker 2>to show up. And for me, I love that we're

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<v Speaker 2>thinking of these non traditional ways of having relationships, but

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<v Speaker 2>also the dick, the pussy, the threesome could have just

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<v Speaker 2>been that far that now you also think you want

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<v Speaker 2>to be in a relationship with these people, but really,

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<v Speaker 2>when you unphil the layers, these might not be people

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<v Speaker 2>that make a good partner. And I think that that's

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<v Speaker 2>the last part I want to end on is that

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of times we have sex with people and

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<v Speaker 2>when that oxytocin and hormones and all the science happens,

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<v Speaker 2>we get delusion and we start seeing these people is

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<v Speaker 2>something more than just the great time that we had.

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<v Speaker 4>In the bedroom? Can I admit I am a very

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<v Speaker 4>delusional person. But here's the thing. I love my delusions

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<v Speaker 4>because I know how to separate them.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you separate your delusion if you delusion?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, because I know that the world sucks curiod. So

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<v Speaker 4>like I know that when I'm having a delusion, it's

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<v Speaker 4>like like this is amazing, not because this is actually amazing, Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>makeing me it amazing. So when I'm thinking about like,

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<v Speaker 4>oh this is so much fun, I might want to

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<v Speaker 4>be with this nigga, I'm thinking to myself, I want

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<v Speaker 4>to be with this nigga in this moment, but this

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<v Speaker 4>nigga is broke or they're not doing anything what they

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<v Speaker 4>like or we I mean, I can have fun with

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<v Speaker 4>the broke nigga. Oh, first off, let's be very clear.

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<v Speaker 4>If y'all go, if y'all go back to.

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<v Speaker 2>Horrible decisions, maybe this was what was it probably pre pandemic,

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<v Speaker 2>So maybe like twenty eighteen, twenty nineteen. I was fucking

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<v Speaker 2>this nigga and he was fucking me so good, and

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<v Speaker 2>we were like smoke blunts listening to Young Thug.

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<v Speaker 4>All the shit.

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<v Speaker 1>He don't want put me on the yr Thug Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>it was so good.

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<v Speaker 2>I considered what things could look like with us hold

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<v Speaker 2>on you ready?

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<v Speaker 1>And he had nine kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Not only did he have nine kids, I fucked him

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<v Speaker 2>and one of his baby mamas.

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<v Speaker 6>This is how But I considered so that it was

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<v Speaker 6>really really, it's so bruh.

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<v Speaker 1>And I literally was like, oh, I could be with

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<v Speaker 1>with nine kids? What was I But so I use

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<v Speaker 1>that as the example of what it's good.

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<v Speaker 2>You really start thinking of all these things it could be,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's like, bitch wake up.

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<v Speaker 1>Ye And so this might be a bitch wake up moment.

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<v Speaker 4>Yep, yeah it was. It was fun. Yep, it could yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>bitch wake up? Yes, all right, you hit another point,

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<v Speaker 4>but a very important one. It could definitely be a

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<v Speaker 4>bitch wake up moment, just a bitch wake up.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm glad you. I'm glad you're enjoying it.

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<v Speaker 4>Glad that could you take that? It was so much

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<v Speaker 4>fun that we are not supposed to be doing that

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<v Speaker 4>on a regular basis, or that's so much fun. You

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<v Speaker 4>don't need to marry that.

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<v Speaker 1>This should be for like holidays and birthdays.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, this is so much fun. We

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<v Speaker 4>only need it on Labor Day after all. The bitches

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<v Speaker 4>don't put the white away like this is when we're

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<v Speaker 4>gonna have this. We don't need to marry this, We don't.

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<v Speaker 4>We don't need to take this home. That's not what's

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<v Speaker 4>happening at period. We don't need to take two people

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<v Speaker 4>home to mom.

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<v Speaker 2>So our advice to you shape from Houston is bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>wake up, douse you bite me fleep.

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<v Speaker 4>up is the greatest lace man.

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