1 00:00:01,680 --> 00:00:04,439 Speaker 1: If you would like to have us answer your questions. 2 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:07,880 Speaker 2: If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or 3 00:00:07,920 --> 00:00:16,120 Speaker 2: a terrible throuffle, guess what You've got decisions, You've Got Decisions. 4 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:19,799 Speaker 2: Welcome you on to another episode of You've Got Decisions 5 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:22,640 Speaker 2: on this motherfucker Hunt Day. I'm joined by a very 6 00:00:22,680 --> 00:00:26,480 Speaker 2: special guest to help give you bitches some advice. 7 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:27,080 Speaker 3: Y'all. 8 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 2: Have one third of the friends on with me and 9 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 2: one of my very good best friends. 10 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 4: A Sante. 11 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 2: This motherfucker okay, period period period, to help me out. 12 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,239 Speaker 2: If you guys want to send in your questions, make 13 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,640 Speaker 2: sure you send them holes into Decisions pod at gmail 14 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 2: dot com. 15 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:47,919 Speaker 4: Before we get started with this. 16 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:51,600 Speaker 2: Week, as always, I'm going to read a lovely review 17 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:55,800 Speaker 2: about our book, our New York Times bestselling book, No 18 00:00:56,120 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 2: Holds Barred, a dual manifesto of sexual exploration and power. 19 00:00:59,760 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 2: This this one comes from Lenny, who writed us five 20 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 2: stars over on Amazon. Pre ordered as a loyal twenty 21 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 2: seventeen or Hive member. I've been following Mandy and Weezi 22 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:13,440 Speaker 2: four years now. Reading their book just solidified how far 23 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:16,399 Speaker 2: these two ladies have come along in their journeys the 24 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 2: stories inside this book make them feel even more personable 25 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 2: than how they already work. If you haven't joined the Patreon, 26 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:26,840 Speaker 2: I also highly recommend Bitch Me Too. They share a 27 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:29,600 Speaker 2: lot of themselves with their fans there as well. Love 28 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 2: you guys, and continue educating the people through. 29 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 4: Real and raw experiences. 30 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 2: Yes, now, clearly I kidnap Assante for a little bit. 31 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 4: So if y'all want to hear. 32 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:45,040 Speaker 2: Me talk about my recent experience with the new nigga 33 00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 2: in my life, go on over to patreon dot com 34 00:01:47,840 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 2: backslash Horrible Decisions because we're still horrible for this very 35 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 2: special edition. If you got decisions, I'm gonna blend Mandy on. 36 00:01:56,760 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 4: The holland Mandy on the high Line. I'm talking yeah. 37 00:02:05,640 --> 00:02:08,120 Speaker 1: And y'all know Ida meant one fourth of pretty Ricky 38 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:09,040 Speaker 1: Son now. 39 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 4: I wish I could say for real. 40 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 2: Sorry, okay, And speaking of Bandy on the hotline, I'm 41 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 2: just gonna play a voicemail from someone who loves Bandy 42 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 2: on the hotline. By the way, if you want to 43 00:02:25,360 --> 00:02:29,200 Speaker 2: leave a voicemail, you can call ninety seven three nine 44 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:31,840 Speaker 2: three two zero two two seven and leave a voicemail 45 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 2: like this one. 46 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 5: Hey, uh, Mandie on the hotline one of your listeners. 47 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 5: I'm actually driving on my way to work right now. 48 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 5: I didn't really have a question head on that I 49 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 5: could think of, but I'm a huge fan of the show. 50 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:52,960 Speaker 3: I just pre ordered the audio play, and I hope 51 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:54,640 Speaker 3: you guys keep doing what y'all doing. 52 00:02:55,320 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 5: I enjoy selective ignorance, and I enjoy everything both of 53 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 5: you guys put out as a collective. But yeah, maybe 54 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 5: i'll call back with some advice if I can speak 55 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 5: on it a little later down the line. But I 56 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:15,160 Speaker 5: appreciate trying to keep doing what y'all doing. 57 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: We appreciate you. 58 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 4: Now, what is that kind of slow slow gym ship? 59 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:31,799 Speaker 4: Is that? That was a little dirt that was vanish mom? No, 60 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:33,799 Speaker 4: because I was on Instagram and it was a song 61 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 4: that was on my status for whatever reason because I 62 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 4: had listened to them. A little dirt, what's wrong? A 63 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 4: little dirt? Nothing we'll do. We won't do a little dirt. 64 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 4: You know, it's crazy. 65 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:49,160 Speaker 1: I didn't peg you as at you as a as 66 00:03:49,240 --> 00:03:50,080 Speaker 1: a little Dirk fan. 67 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 4: Look that list, the list of people you peg. I know, 68 00:03:53,440 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 4: it's immaculous. That's crazy. Unfortunately, unfortunately I am not listen listen, No, 69 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 4: it was Dirk. Apparently he's fine or something. Was it 70 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 4: a little Dirk or apparently it's fine. 71 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 2: Is it a little Dirk in jail? 72 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:10,640 Speaker 4: It's it's a clone. 73 00:04:10,680 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: It's got to be a clone. 74 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 2: It's because I used to see that his little his 75 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:15,320 Speaker 2: little leather shorts and. 76 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:17,320 Speaker 4: He couldn't dress for ship. It needs to be a 77 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 4: conversation about that for real, because they find out like 78 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 4: Gucci came back looking real good, Gunna been like fitness and. 79 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 2: Said it, let's send everybody to jail. Then when they 80 00:04:28,839 --> 00:04:30,799 Speaker 2: come out, baby, that's okay. 81 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 4: That's no, no, no, let's let's not crap. Let's not 82 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 4: we're voted for now. 83 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 3: No. 84 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 4: Clean out. 85 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:46,760 Speaker 1: Wrong, But there is like whatever workouts they do in jail. 86 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:51,840 Speaker 4: You know, don't get me wrong. This is gonna sound terrible, 87 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:54,440 Speaker 4: but I always said to myself, I just sounded terrible. Okay, Well, 88 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:56,440 Speaker 4: I always say if I got locked up, then I 89 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 4: wouldn't have nothing to do but to work out, like 90 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 4: you know what you well, that's I want to say 91 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 4: that he do that say he was in jail, he 92 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:07,600 Speaker 4: said he had the best time of his Like, whoa, 93 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 4: there's this gay man he was he's about say, I 94 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:16,480 Speaker 4: don't know his fucking name. You go here, tell you're. 95 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:19,120 Speaker 1: The only fans nigga who's now like you? 96 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 4: You he is the only fan See okay, here's the 97 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 4: only bed now. 98 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:28,840 Speaker 2: He makes all this jail content bending over strike niggas 99 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:29,920 Speaker 2: in himself. 100 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 4: There's something wrong with him because there's been like things 101 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 4: happening to him on Twitter. He's like, he looks like 102 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 4: he's mentally like something might be going on with him 103 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 4: in jail. 104 00:05:37,960 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 1: That's a tough environment. 105 00:05:40,120 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 4: It's so imagine being and he's trying to be a 106 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:45,200 Speaker 4: content creator behind bars too. So like what, I. 107 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 1: Don't subscribe, but I watched the free stuff on Twitter. 108 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:52,560 Speaker 4: It's kind of good. I've seen some things. Yes, all right, anyway, 109 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:54,000 Speaker 4: get back to it. 110 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 2: We have a question from Shape from Houston, and Asante 111 00:05:57,760 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 2: helped me with this question. 112 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:02,480 Speaker 3: Hey, this is straight from Houston, Texas. I just call 113 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:04,600 Speaker 3: him love for Boysnail. But I'm gonna leave another one 114 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:09,240 Speaker 3: to make it a little shorter. I have a homegirl 115 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 3: that me and her had a threesome with somebody in 116 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:18,800 Speaker 3: my apartments for my birthday as a birthday gift. Since 117 00:06:20,200 --> 00:06:26,039 Speaker 3: that time, like us, three have consistently hung out with 118 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 3: each other, spent days with each other, you know, at 119 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 3: each other's apartments, her apartment, in my apartment, his apartment. 120 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:39,480 Speaker 3: We've been on separate dates and things like that. We've 121 00:06:39,520 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 3: been on a couple of days. Like everything seems to 122 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:50,760 Speaker 3: be real cool and it's very uh, situationship ish, But 123 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 3: I kind of want to bring up the topic of 124 00:06:56,120 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 3: us actually being in a poly relationship or being in 125 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 3: some type of thrupple. And I'm not really sure how 126 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 3: to approach a conversation, particularly with Ken. His name is Ken, 127 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 3: her name is Drea, And I was just looking for 128 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 3: advice on what you guys think God should do as 129 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 3: far as like approaching that conversation. And my reason that 130 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 3: is Keen is because you know, he comes off as 131 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:32,880 Speaker 3: like a man's man, and I just don't want to 132 00:07:32,920 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 3: turn him off from from him, Like I don't want 133 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 3: to like, oh, you know, now, I gotta be something 134 00:07:40,480 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 3: extra than what it is. I really don't want anything 135 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 3: to change. I just want to get those times understood. Anyway, 136 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 3: any advice you guys could get it would be great. 137 00:07:48,560 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: Thanks. First off, shout out to you and your home girl. 138 00:07:54,840 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 6: Okay, you other three songs for your birthday. 139 00:08:00,960 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: It's like, oh, but you did that. Yeah, I like that. 140 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 2: That's amazing, And clearly y'all have brought some nigga in 141 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 2: that both for y'all were pleased by it because y'all 142 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:15,000 Speaker 2: both hanging out with him together separately, y'all are all 143 00:08:15,040 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 2: doing this? 144 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 4: How do you you know? Well, first of all, congratulations, 145 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 4: some of us can't stumble into one good situationship, let 146 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 4: alone a double like a like a full of poly 147 00:08:28,400 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 4: situationship is crazy. So I feel like everything's already there. 148 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. You're just trying to clarify 149 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 4: or get the terms understood. You said you don't want 150 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:43,720 Speaker 4: things to change, they would if you're going through this conversation. Look, 151 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:46,440 Speaker 4: if you have the conversation, things are changing, you know. Yeah. 152 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:49,319 Speaker 4: If y'all just gonna keep doing what y'all doing, then 153 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 4: you know, y'all gonna keep doing what y'all doing. But 154 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:54,679 Speaker 4: there is something to be said about wanting more and 155 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 4: maybe trying to potentially see where that can go. So 156 00:08:57,440 --> 00:08:59,119 Speaker 4: I feel like if you want to have the conversation 157 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 4: down with both of them and just be real, like, 158 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 4: remind everybody of all the good things that are happening 159 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:09,320 Speaker 4: and see if they want more of it now. 160 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:14,240 Speaker 2: If y'all listen on Patreon, I thought that I could 161 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:18,120 Speaker 2: continue being friends with activate after we broke up, And 162 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 2: so for me, my initial mind goes to how closer 163 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 2: friends are you and this homegirl? Because once you introduce 164 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 2: a romantic relationship into this, and when I say romantic, 165 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:34,960 Speaker 2: I'm talking about clearly the being together. Yeah, because y'all 166 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 2: know I fucked my friends and it doesn't change the 167 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:41,239 Speaker 2: dynamic of it, right, But getting into a romantic relationship 168 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:43,240 Speaker 2: with someone where now you have to show up as 169 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:47,280 Speaker 2: a partner, we'll change the dynamic of the relationship that 170 00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 2: you have with her. And so for me, I think 171 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:52,760 Speaker 2: I would sit with first, would I be willing to 172 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:56,200 Speaker 2: lose this friendship because now I want more? And a 173 00:09:56,200 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 2: lot of times where you think you can maintain friendships 174 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 2: with someone have to romantic relationships, apparently you can't try. 175 00:10:03,800 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 4: But she seemed more concerned with the guy. 176 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 1: So the reason here's my thing about the guy. 177 00:10:09,800 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 2: She she brings him up as like a malely man, 178 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:16,920 Speaker 2: and so for me, I think her concern is maybe 179 00:10:16,960 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 2: he's a whole ass nigga, And so how she even 180 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 2: described it, where she's like, I just don't know if 181 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:24,640 Speaker 2: he's going to be into doing all that. 182 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 4: For me, I felt like he's not. 183 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 1: The one that maybe wants to be tied down. 184 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 4: I kind of took it. I took it to maybe 185 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:37,520 Speaker 4: she didn't know she freaked him out with like like 186 00:10:37,559 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 4: maybe he thinks, well a title, but like you know, 187 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 4: maybe he's he's like fucking with the one girl her, 188 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 4: but like it might be weird for him to be 189 00:10:45,200 --> 00:10:47,199 Speaker 4: like you want to be poly now, girl, Like that's 190 00:10:47,240 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 4: like that's your friend, and like, yeah, we had threesomes 191 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 4: and again, I don't know my feeling right here is happenings. 192 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:55,079 Speaker 2: I mean, I mean that's the thing too. We don't 193 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:58,080 Speaker 2: know how old she is. To me, I actually kind 194 00:10:58,080 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 2: of agree with what you're saying. We have been talking 195 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 2: on this podcast about non monogamy and all these lifestyle. 196 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:07,800 Speaker 4: Ways of dating because some niggas ain't in all that. 197 00:11:07,840 --> 00:11:10,800 Speaker 1: And ain' not they'd rather just cheat on you. 198 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 4: Right, So you brought that up to it, like that's 199 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 4: a good point, like her, but you aren't trying to 200 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:17,079 Speaker 4: be in other threesome. I'm gonna just keep doing this 201 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:18,920 Speaker 4: shit over here. Because it's freaky, but like, I'm not 202 00:11:18,920 --> 00:11:21,079 Speaker 4: trying to be in a three right relationship, so it 203 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 4: could go either way. I him not want to be 204 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 4: in it, But what I would say is have a 205 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:26,880 Speaker 4: conversation with him, because I feel like you want to 206 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:28,439 Speaker 4: talk to him about it first. If you feel secure 207 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:30,560 Speaker 4: in your friendship with your homegirl that y'all could like 208 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 4: forego that for a poly relationship, then cool, kudos to you. 209 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 4: But if you're trying to figure out how you're going 210 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:38,679 Speaker 4: to approach the topic of being in a poly relationship 211 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:41,960 Speaker 4: with him, really see where he's at with the relationship 212 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 4: with you first, and how he would feel about integrating 213 00:11:44,520 --> 00:11:46,679 Speaker 4: another person into that, or what his true feelings are 214 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 4: about your friendship and what that would mean as far 215 00:11:49,280 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 4: as y'all being more than friends now and like how 216 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 4: like and even for you and your friend, y'all would 217 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:54,720 Speaker 4: need to have a conversation about that. Like, so I 218 00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 4: agree with that. 219 00:11:55,360 --> 00:11:58,439 Speaker 2: I think you had to have separate conversations with individually 220 00:11:58,760 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 2: before bringing. 221 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:02,400 Speaker 4: It, Separate conversations about where you're at with them, where 222 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 4: they're at with themselves, and how they feel about everything 223 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:06,360 Speaker 4: that's been going on together. 224 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:09,320 Speaker 2: Because also this just rooted from a goddamn threesome. Yeah, 225 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 2: are they dating other people? 226 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 4: Right? What are what are. 227 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:16,920 Speaker 2: Their interactions sexually and romantic feat outside of this little. 228 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:18,760 Speaker 4: Tree right because it might be like we're having the threesome. 229 00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:20,839 Speaker 4: That's fun. But then like, oh now it's Wednesday and 230 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 4: I'm on a day with a nigga and I'm a 231 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 4: fuck him tonight instead. But I'm gonna see these bitches 232 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 4: on Friday Saturday. So I did three someme I'm looking 233 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:29,400 Speaker 4: forward to. But yeah, if they're spending time together and 234 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 4: maybe accidentally grocery shopping all three of them now, and 235 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,719 Speaker 4: it's like possible split three ways. 236 00:12:35,240 --> 00:12:37,079 Speaker 1: Because it looked like they got three apartments. 237 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 4: Bitch. 238 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 2: If y'all all just want to save some money, honey, 239 00:12:40,040 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 2: in this economy and. 240 00:12:41,440 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 4: Starting dollars, I might need a bill split two. I 241 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:46,160 Speaker 4: haven't missed peace. 242 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:56,360 Speaker 1: I agree with with with where you're at. 243 00:12:56,400 --> 00:12:58,600 Speaker 2: I think you should talk to them individually, see where 244 00:12:58,640 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 2: they're at, especially outside of each other or outside of you, 245 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:08,840 Speaker 2: and then consider with your friend if you you'd be 246 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:13,120 Speaker 2: willing to you know, potentially ruin that friendship because you 247 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 2: want something more. 248 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:17,880 Speaker 4: Because they actually have already crossed the line they having these, 249 00:13:18,200 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 4: they're in like a poly situationship. So now she's been 250 00:13:20,760 --> 00:13:21,680 Speaker 4: trying to figure out what like. 251 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:24,200 Speaker 2: So that's the other dynamic. First off, you're not in 252 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:25,880 Speaker 2: a poly relationship if. 253 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:28,400 Speaker 4: You just hang out and polly situationship. I think that 254 00:13:28,400 --> 00:13:29,079 Speaker 4: that's the thing too. 255 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 2: I think when we start attaching Polly to things, Polly 256 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:35,880 Speaker 2: is an umbrella term, and there's so many ways a 257 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 2: lot of formation to have that dynamic. And so you 258 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:42,840 Speaker 2: guys have to talk about if it's going to be closed, 259 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 2: if it's gonna be like even. 260 00:13:44,720 --> 00:13:47,000 Speaker 4: Before you bring in a relationship, but I get to 261 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:49,079 Speaker 4: date other people, or like are we dating? 262 00:13:49,320 --> 00:13:52,120 Speaker 1: Do we get all other people and date other people? 263 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 2: So for me too, I would want you to do 264 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 2: a deep dive on all of the different ways Polly 265 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 2: can be exper And then if you're coming with them 266 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:05,920 Speaker 2: with this idea, you need to know your boundaries and 267 00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:07,800 Speaker 2: what really you're comfortable with, you. 268 00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 4: Know what I mean? Yep, So to me, it looks 269 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 4: like it looks like that, Yeah, looks like that. Yeah. 270 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:15,839 Speaker 4: For me, I would. 271 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:19,680 Speaker 2: Want you to sit with realistically your own feelings, your 272 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 2: own boundaries, and before you be like, let's be in 273 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 2: a poly relationship. You need to go down all the 274 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 2: different poly relationships and figure out what would even truly work. 275 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 4: Right and honestly reflect some deep reflection. Are you ready 276 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 4: for a relationship with two people? Like if you're thinking 277 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 4: about like could this be more? But you say you 278 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:41,840 Speaker 4: want to keep things where they're at. If you want 279 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:43,920 Speaker 4: to keep things where they're at, then you might not 280 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 4: want to say anything curious, but if you want more 281 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 4: from it. So I really had that conversation with yourself 282 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:50,880 Speaker 4: before you step into how you can to have it 283 00:14:50,920 --> 00:14:53,840 Speaker 4: with both of them, you know, either separated together, because 284 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:55,320 Speaker 4: you could just you know, keep them together and just 285 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 4: be like, so, what do we all doing? How we 286 00:14:56,880 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 4: all feeling? Because some people like to do it like that, 287 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 4: but I'm the type I want to see what we 288 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:03,760 Speaker 4: do separately, you know, figure out where you're at, to 289 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:05,760 Speaker 4: see if I can align the hearts and heads together. 290 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 2: I think that's the thing too, when you talk about 291 00:15:07,680 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 2: wanting to be in a relationship as an adult, especially Polly, 292 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 2: when especially including two or more people, what are the 293 00:15:14,520 --> 00:15:15,480 Speaker 2: things that they have going on? 294 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 4: Are they coparents? Like somebody like somebody has to know 295 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 4: how the formula is being put together. Sometimes there's the 296 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:24,880 Speaker 4: two that come in for the one, but sometimes there's 297 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:26,720 Speaker 4: the one bringing the two or three or whatever together. 298 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 4: But you have to somebody that has to have the 299 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:30,040 Speaker 4: knowledge of how. 300 00:15:29,920 --> 00:15:31,680 Speaker 2: These That's the thing I just brought up, doing any 301 00:15:31,680 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 2: of them co parent because maybe now both y'all gotta 302 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 2: deal with both. 303 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:37,120 Speaker 4: Y'all got to deal with the parent. What if thebody 304 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:38,920 Speaker 4: wants kids and somebody don't. 305 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:41,840 Speaker 2: Now were going down the rabbit, But yes, of all 306 00:15:41,880 --> 00:15:43,880 Speaker 2: of those things you actually have to consider before getting 307 00:15:43,880 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 2: into a relationship. And so if the sex is fun 308 00:15:46,680 --> 00:15:49,640 Speaker 2: and y'all just like hanging out, the pressure of a 309 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:51,120 Speaker 2: relationship doesn't. 310 00:15:50,760 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 4: Have to be there. 311 00:15:51,400 --> 00:15:54,400 Speaker 1: Yes, but yeah, as it. 312 00:15:54,360 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 2: Gets a little difficult when you start adding in all 313 00:15:58,240 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 2: of these different scenarios and ways in which you have 314 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 2: to show up. And for me, I love that we're 315 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:10,080 Speaker 2: thinking of these non traditional ways of having relationships, but 316 00:16:10,200 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 2: also the dick, the pussy, the threesome could have just 317 00:16:15,720 --> 00:16:19,880 Speaker 2: been that far that now you also think you want 318 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:22,600 Speaker 2: to be in a relationship with these people, but really, 319 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 2: when you unphil the layers, these might not be people 320 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 2: that make a good partner. And I think that that's 321 00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:29,120 Speaker 2: the last part I want to end on is that 322 00:16:29,520 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 2: a lot of times we have sex with people and 323 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:35,640 Speaker 2: when that oxytocin and hormones and all the science happens, 324 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:38,800 Speaker 2: we get delusion and we start seeing these people is 325 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 2: something more than just the great time that we had. 326 00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:45,120 Speaker 4: In the bedroom? Can I admit I am a very 327 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:49,720 Speaker 4: delusional person. But here's the thing. I love my delusions 328 00:16:49,760 --> 00:16:51,360 Speaker 4: because I know how to separate them. 329 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 1: How do you separate your delusion if you delusion? 330 00:16:53,320 --> 00:16:55,640 Speaker 4: Well, because I know that the world sucks curiod. So 331 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:57,520 Speaker 4: like I know that when I'm having a delusion, it's 332 00:16:57,560 --> 00:17:01,800 Speaker 4: like like this is amazing, not because this is actually amazing, Okay, 333 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 4: makeing me it amazing. So when I'm thinking about like, 334 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:06,399 Speaker 4: oh this is so much fun, I might want to 335 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:09,200 Speaker 4: be with this nigga, I'm thinking to myself, I want 336 00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 4: to be with this nigga in this moment, but this 337 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:14,880 Speaker 4: nigga is broke or they're not doing anything what they 338 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:18,240 Speaker 4: like or we I mean, I can have fun with 339 00:17:18,240 --> 00:17:20,920 Speaker 4: the broke nigga. Oh, first off, let's be very clear. 340 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:24,240 Speaker 4: If y'all go, if y'all go back to. 341 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:31,360 Speaker 2: Horrible decisions, maybe this was what was it probably pre pandemic, 342 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:34,760 Speaker 2: So maybe like twenty eighteen, twenty nineteen. I was fucking 343 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 2: this nigga and he was fucking me so good, and 344 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:39,280 Speaker 2: we were like smoke blunts listening to Young Thug. 345 00:17:39,400 --> 00:17:39,920 Speaker 4: All the shit. 346 00:17:40,119 --> 00:17:43,120 Speaker 1: He don't want put me on the yr Thug Anyway, 347 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 1: it was so good. 348 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:51,120 Speaker 2: I considered what things could look like with us hold 349 00:17:51,160 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 2: on you ready? 350 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: And he had nine kids. 351 00:17:54,400 --> 00:17:56,400 Speaker 2: Not only did he have nine kids, I fucked him 352 00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:57,520 Speaker 2: and one of his baby mamas. 353 00:17:58,280 --> 00:18:02,600 Speaker 6: This is how But I considered so that it was 354 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 6: really really, it's so bruh. 355 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 1: And I literally was like, oh, I could be with 356 00:18:12,040 --> 00:18:15,639 Speaker 1: with nine kids? What was I But so I use 357 00:18:15,720 --> 00:18:17,840 Speaker 1: that as the example of what it's good. 358 00:18:19,119 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 2: You really start thinking of all these things it could be, 359 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:23,959 Speaker 2: and it's like, bitch wake up. 360 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 1: Ye And so this might be a bitch wake up moment. 361 00:18:27,119 --> 00:18:30,760 Speaker 4: Yep, yeah it was. It was fun. Yep, it could yeah, 362 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:33,480 Speaker 4: bitch wake up? Yes, all right, you hit another point, 363 00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 4: but a very important one. It could definitely be a 364 00:18:36,040 --> 00:18:37,919 Speaker 4: bitch wake up moment, just a bitch wake up. 365 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:40,439 Speaker 1: I'm glad you. I'm glad you're enjoying it. 366 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:42,360 Speaker 4: Glad that could you take that? It was so much 367 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:44,760 Speaker 4: fun that we are not supposed to be doing that 368 00:18:44,880 --> 00:18:47,159 Speaker 4: on a regular basis, or that's so much fun. You 369 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:47,919 Speaker 4: don't need to marry that. 370 00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:50,800 Speaker 1: This should be for like holidays and birthdays. 371 00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 4: And I was like, this is so much fun. We 372 00:18:52,320 --> 00:18:54,560 Speaker 4: only need it on Labor Day after all. The bitches 373 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:56,560 Speaker 4: don't put the white away like this is when we're 374 00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:58,880 Speaker 4: gonna have this. We don't need to marry this, We don't. 375 00:18:58,960 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 4: We don't need to take this home. That's not what's 376 00:19:01,040 --> 00:19:04,480 Speaker 4: happening at period. We don't need to take two people 377 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:05,000 Speaker 4: home to mom. 378 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:09,120 Speaker 2: So our advice to you shape from Houston is bitch, 379 00:19:09,119 --> 00:19:11,600 Speaker 2: wake up, douse you bite me fleep. 380 00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:14,320 Speaker 4: There's a lot of advice in there, but bitch wake 381 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 4: up is the greatest lace man. 382 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 2: Yes, if you want more advice from us on you 383 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:25,280 Speaker 2: Got Decisions Again, email us Decisions Pod at gmail dot com. 384 00:19:25,400 --> 00:19:26,919 Speaker 4: Or if you want to leave a voicemail and be 385 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:27,440 Speaker 4: a part. 386 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 2: Of Mandy on the hotline over on the Patreon, it's 387 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:33,280 Speaker 2: ninety seven three nine three two zero. 388 00:19:33,280 --> 00:19:39,119 Speaker 1: Two two sell beach and that's all. 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