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Speaker 1: I've ever been left waiting.

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Speaker 2: By the phone.

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Speaker 1: It's the Fred Show. Iris, Good morning, welcome to the program.

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Speaker 1: How are you good?

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Speaker 2: How are you?

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Speaker 1: We're doing great, Thanks for being here. What's going on

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Speaker 1: with this dude, Matt? We got to know how you

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Speaker 1: met about any dates you've been on. Give us some

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Speaker 1: context and backstory, all that good stuff, and then what's

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Speaker 1: going on now?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Thank you? So, yeah, we met on we met online.

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Speaker 4: We met on Facebook dating.

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Speaker 1: Actually, so yo, hear about that one too often. I

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Speaker 1: heard there's a lot of people on there, though, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, is it like I don't. I don't know

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Speaker 1: how I know this, but I saw that there was

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Speaker 1: a part on there that you can make it. You

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Speaker 1: don't know anybody, like, it'll never pop up in anyone

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Speaker 1: that you know. Oh that's a good idea. Not that

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Speaker 1: anyone will be surprised to see me on any form

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Speaker 1: of a dating app. I mean, I'm single, but I

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Speaker 1: guess if you weren't single and you were trying to

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Speaker 1: poke around on that thing anyway. Okay, so Facebook dating,

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Speaker 1: we don't hear a lot about that, but you you

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Speaker 1: you met someone on there?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: No, and and like actually went out on a date

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Speaker 4: which is rare. Like meeting someone you know online and

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Speaker 4: then actually having it results in a in a real

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Speaker 4: life date feels feels pretty rare.

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Speaker 1: So why is it rare? Do you not date very much?

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Speaker 1: Or why why is it rare for you to go

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Speaker 4: I mean, I feel like dating these days, especially online

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Speaker 4: dating in general, is really hard to actually meet someone

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Speaker 4: who wants to meet in real life. I'm also a

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Speaker 4: single mom, which complicates things, right, so it's like two strikes.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that could be hard to coordinate. All right, So

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Speaker 1: you met this guy, you had a great date, You

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Speaker 1: felt like everything went really well, things kind of came together,

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Speaker 1: except you have not heard from him since then, and

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Speaker 1: that's bugging you, as it would anybody.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it feels especially weird because I have to say

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Speaker 4: it was a pretty great date, Like it wasn't just okay,

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Speaker 4: it was a really good date, not hear anything, Okay.

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Speaker 4: To have him ghost me after that just feels very odd.

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Speaker 4: He'd also been really respond to like up to the date,

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Speaker 4: you know what I mean, like as we were planning it,

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Speaker 4: as we were talking, you know, texting, So I okay, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: just it feels odd. It feels very odd.

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Speaker 1: Well, let me call. Uh, we're going to play a song.

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Speaker 1: Come back, we'll call Matt. You'll be on the phone.

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Speaker 1: We're going to ask these questions. At some point. You're

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Speaker 1: welcome to jumping on the call, and hopefully we can

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Speaker 1: straighten this out and set you guys up on another

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Speaker 1: great date that we pay for.

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Speaker 4: That would be amazing.

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Speaker 1: Iris. Yes, all right, let's call Matt. You guys met

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Speaker 1: on Facebook Dating, which is not a dating app that

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Speaker 1: we hear about very often on waiting by the phone.

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Speaker 1: But you guys connected, you went out, you had great conversation,

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Speaker 1: You really felt like the date went well, and you

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Speaker 1: don't date a whole lot, so you were excited about

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Speaker 1: the prospect here. But you have not heard from this

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Speaker 2: Why that is it?

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Speaker 1: All right, let's call him now. Good luck, Iris, Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Hell Hi, this is Matt.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it is Matt.

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Speaker 1: Hey, mag good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling

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Speaker 1: from the Fred Show, the morning radio show, and I

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Speaker 1: have to tell you that we are on the radio

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Speaker 1: right now and I would need your permission to continue

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Speaker 1: with the call. Can we chat for just a second

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Speaker 5: Uh, yeah, I guess I mean it's a little weird.

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Speaker 2: You said you're a radio show.

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Speaker 1: I know, it's a little awkward. Thanks for listening, by

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Speaker 1: the way, But no, we're calling on behalf of a

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Speaker 1: woman named Iris, who I guess you met recently on

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Speaker 1: uh maybe on Facebook dating or something, and then you

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Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean I went out with her.

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Speaker 2: What's right going on? What's a question here?

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Speaker 1: Okay? Oh we love bossing over here. Okay, Well, she

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Speaker 5: Uh yeah, okay, I mean it's okay, it's a little awkward.

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Speaker 2: But you know, Iris was was really nice.

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Speaker 5: I mean I really liked her when we were talking

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Speaker 5: on Facebook dating. When we went on the date, the

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Speaker 2: And she's gorgeous. She's absolutely beautiful.

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Speaker 1: That's the problem. This all checks out, what's the problem.

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Speaker 5: Then, yeah, okay, I knew that she's a single mom,

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Speaker 2: So but that didn't bother me.

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Speaker 5: You know, I it was fine hearing her talk about

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Speaker 5: At the end of the date, you know, we were

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Speaker 5: I drove her home. We were kissing in my car

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Speaker 2: I wish I could bring you up.

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Speaker 5: But my son sleeping in my bed, okay, and okay,

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Speaker 5: and when I you know, she she's yeah, she said

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Speaker 5: told me that her son is seventeen and in high

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Speaker 1: That oh no, it's because in my mind where I

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Speaker 2: So anyway, it like, you guys agree here that.

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Speaker 1: Seventeen years old or not. I didn't know where this

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Speaker 1: I got iris. You have a lot explaining to do. Girl,

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Speaker 1: Like your seventeen year old son sleeps in your bed

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Speaker 4: Yes he does, there is Look, it's it's complicated.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like it.

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Speaker 4: I feel like when you're a parent, there're certain thing

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Speaker 2: If your seventeen year old sleeps in your bed every night?

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Speaker 1: That yeah, I don't immediately take this to like a

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Speaker 1: I'm really concerned about boundaries here. Like seventeen years old,

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Speaker 1: there's quite the attachment. I mean, what happens I mean,

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Speaker 1: what is he a junior in high school? Senior in

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Speaker 1: high school? No? Yeah, I mean like what yeah, like

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Speaker 4: First of all, he's a he's a rising senior.

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Speaker 3: Second of all, look, I I'm not I'm not trying

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Speaker 4: You're you're not a parent, and you don't understand and

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Speaker 3: My son's mees and well.

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Speaker 4: That that would be a deal breaker for you how

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Speaker 4: I choose to parent my child.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, though, iris Like you can't honestly, no

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Speaker 1: one's judging you or whatever your story is, but you

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Speaker 1: And like, so, what happens if this relationship goes somewhere?

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Speaker 1: Do we have to he has to be out of

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Speaker 4: If things were to progress, it would be a while

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Speaker 4: I'm very protective of him. I thought that was understood

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Speaker 4: in terms of like intimacy there are ways to work

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Speaker 4: around that. Bedtime is our special time, but you know,

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Speaker 4: their afternoon, their mournings, there are other.

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Speaker 2: I can't. I'm sorry, guys, I can't. I mean, this

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Speaker 5: And I think that I am going to withhold the judgment,

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Speaker 1: We're studies now. I'm not sure, honest, I don't know

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Speaker 1: if this is the Sun's thing or the mom I

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Speaker 4: I mean, I would just think, especially because we did

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Speaker 4: supportive of me being a single bomb, which I don't know, maybe.

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Speaker 1: That was maybe that was.

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Speaker 5: But uh no, Yeah, you are welcome you're thinking of

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Speaker 5: me as a back guy. But I'm I'm just doing

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, I yeah, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 5: Max, somebody finds it understandable. I and I totally support

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Speaker 5: that you are supportive of your son, just not in

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Speaker 1: Yeah, in fairness, there are a lot of single listening

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Speaker 1: but so it's not for Matt. Iris, I'll ask the question, Matt,

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Speaker 1: would you like to go out with her again? We'll

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Speaker 1: pay for it, maybe a hotel room too. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: In the middle of the day, didn't didn't look Iris.

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Speaker 1: I I'm I wish you the best, and I just

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know. I just don't. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know. And so that's not he's

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Speaker 1: not going to be interested. And Iris, I wish you

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Speaker 1: the best in whatever's going on. And uh and and

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for sharing with us.

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Speaker 4: There are a lot of studies about them.

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Speaker 1: It's like reattached trying to make this easy. Know there's attachment,

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Speaker 1: there's attachment stuff for I don't, I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: really I'm not going I am not qualified for this conversation.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna get going I don't know. I

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