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Speaker 1: answer it. So the question this time is how do I,

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Speaker 1: as a white privileged person show up at an obviously

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Speaker 1: black outreach program. I'm ready to roll up my sleeves

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Speaker 1: and dig in, but I'm not sure about the reception.

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Speaker 1: Do I just keep showing up? Well, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: answer that for you the best I can, right after

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Speaker 1: these brief messages from ours andner sponsors. All Right, everybody,

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Speaker 1: the question again is this, how do I, as a

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Speaker 1: white privileged person show up at an obviously black outreach program.

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Speaker 1: I'm ready to roll up my sleeves and dig in,

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Speaker 1: but I'm not sure about the reception. Do I just

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Speaker 1: keep showing up? Loaded question here and a lot to

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Speaker 1: unpack first, and I get it. There is this uh

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Speaker 1: preconceived notion about how one person of one race will

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Speaker 1: be received by another person of another race. And I

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Speaker 1: think with regard to that, you need to drop your

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Speaker 1: insecurities about your race or your privilege at the door,

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Speaker 1: most of you. But now I've heard the Turkey person's story,

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Speaker 1: and it doesn't matter if what color you are or

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Speaker 1: what color the people are that you see to serve.

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Speaker 1: If you are committed, consistent, and motivated by the right thing,

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Speaker 1: which is the simple edification of a person who's not

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Speaker 1: as blessed as you, you'll eventually be received well. But

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Speaker 1: if you wear this concern about race and privilege on

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Speaker 1: your sleeve and you and you allow that personal perception

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Speaker 1: of yourself to interrupt the work that you're doing, people

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Speaker 1: will see it and it comes off false. So I

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Speaker 1: would say, you know, drop your concerns about race, drop

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Speaker 1: your concerns about privilege, be consistent, and serve for the

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Speaker 1: right reasons. Second of all, the last part of this

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Speaker 1: just keep showing up. I love that question because I

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Speaker 1: love that part of the question because it's true. Yes,

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Speaker 1: don't expect. Look, when you go to serve people who

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Speaker 1: are in an outreach program, more than likely the people

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Speaker 1: you seek to serve have suffered some kind of trauma,

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Speaker 1: whether it's financial trauma, whether it's abuse. So people that

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Speaker 1: many people that come from situations like that are very

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Speaker 1: very accustomed to having people in and out of their lives,

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Speaker 1: and so a new person showing up a couple of times, honestly,

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Speaker 1: the expectations those people are going to go away just

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Speaker 1: like most people have. And so it does take consistency,

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Speaker 1: very regular consistency, to show that you're uncommon, because in

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Speaker 1: outreach programs and the people you're dealing with, the only

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Speaker 1: thing that is typically common is dysfunction and change. And

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Speaker 1: the thing that looks uncommon is can consistency and not dysfunction.

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Speaker 1: And the way you illustrate that is, yes, by just

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Speaker 1: keep showing up. Last, there's a thing called a Ben

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Speaker 1: Franklin close, and a Ben Franklin closes this you take

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Speaker 1: a blank sheet of paper, You draw a line across

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Speaker 1: the top and a line directly down the middle, and

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Speaker 1: at the top of the first column you put a plus,

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Speaker 1: and at the top of the second column you put

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Speaker 1: a minus. And then you ask yourself, what are all

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Speaker 1: the positives and negatives that are going to come out

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Speaker 1: of this initiative, whether it's starting a business, whether it's

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Speaker 1: getting involved in your community, whatever decision you make, and

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Speaker 1: you list all the positives you can think of, and

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Speaker 1: you list all the negatives you can think of, and

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Speaker 1: if the positives outweigh the negatives, then it's probably something

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Speaker 1: worth doing. And if the negatives out worth a positive,

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Speaker 1: then you need to pause and probably not do it.

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Speaker 1: That's called a Ben Franklin close. And the reason I

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Speaker 1: know about it is because in sales people use that

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Speaker 1: a lot. When you're pitching a product or pitching an idea.

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Speaker 1: You list the positive the negatives, and you say, hey,

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Speaker 1: the positives are way going to aweigh the negatives, So

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Speaker 1: this is a good decision. And candidly, that approach to

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Speaker 1: evaluating initiatives and decisions and lots of different things is

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Speaker 1: a really good approach. When you're going to serve in

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Speaker 1: an outreach program, you're going to serve in disadvantaged communities,

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Speaker 1: You're going to serve in places that have subject that

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Speaker 1: have suffered abject poverty and loss and disenfranchisement. The negatives

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Speaker 1: will probably always outweigh the positives when you start listing them.

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Speaker 1: And what you have to reconcile is whatever or whatever

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Speaker 1: check marks are in the positive column probably wouldn't happen

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Speaker 1: if it wasn't for engagement. So when you go into

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Speaker 1: an outreach type program and you're serving some of the

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Speaker 1: most disadvantaged among us, understand there's going to be losses.

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Speaker 1: Understand there's not going to be a massive list of winds.

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Speaker 1: Understand it's going to be hard, and understand it's going

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Speaker 1: to be difficult, But most importantly, understand the positive that

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Speaker 1: do happen. Every one of them is one hundred percent

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Speaker 1: that positive because they probably wouldn't have happened without your

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Speaker 1: work in the first place. So don't be discouraged by

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Speaker 1: the losses and celebrate the winds, however few they are,

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Speaker 1: because without that work, those few winds would not have

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Speaker 1: been there. And each of those wins can possibly affect

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Speaker 1: somebody's life in ways you can never imagine. So how

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Speaker 1: do I, as a white privileged person, show up in

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Speaker 1: an obviously black outreach program. I'm ready to roll up

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Speaker 1: my sleeves and dig in, but I'm not sure about

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Speaker 1: the reception. Just keep showing up one drop your own

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Speaker 1: concerns about privilege and race at the front door. Trust me.

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Speaker 1: The people who need help ultimately will not give a

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Speaker 1: crap about your color or your privilege if they see

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Speaker 1: that your work is motivated by the right things, and

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Speaker 1: you're going to be consistent and serve them and help

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Speaker 1: them grow their own lives. So don't worry about it. Second, yes,

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Speaker 1: be consistent, because consistency and steadfastness is uncommon, and when

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Speaker 1: you become uncommon, you become important. And the last thing is,

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Speaker 1: don't worry about the losses because mosteturely is going to

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Speaker 1: be some. But celebrate all the winds because the winds

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Speaker 1: that happen probably wouldn't have happened had you not gotten involved,

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Speaker 1: and those winds change lives. Guys. I hope that adequately

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