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Speaker 2: Today, we're gonna be talking about something that's very important,
Speaker 2: something that hits home because I also come from a
Speaker 2: single mother, a hardworking mother, and now as a single
Speaker 2: mother myself, I understand more than ever the importance of
Speaker 2: the terminology child support.
Speaker 1: So today we're gonna be talking about child support.
Speaker 2: I know it's a very sensitive topic, and obviously for
Speaker 2: those that I have been watching Love and Hip Hop Miami,
Speaker 2: I know that that has been a topic of conversation
Speaker 2: because of Safari. You guys know that Safari and I
Speaker 2: have been day and try to figure things out, and
Speaker 2: that has been a big topic of conversation. Should you
Speaker 2: date someone that doesn't pay child support? What about if
Speaker 2: he pays child support? Should that be something that should
Speaker 2: be any of your concern? All those child support questions,
Speaker 2: I think is important when you are in a relationship,
Speaker 2: when you're finishing a relationship, how you should go about it,
Speaker 2: Should you go about it? When is it important for
Speaker 2: you to put your foot down and actually take it
Speaker 2: the legal route.
Speaker 1: Is it worth it taking it the legal route? Is
Speaker 1: it more.
Speaker 2: Beneficial financially or can it actually be more damaging as
Speaker 2: a man?
Speaker 1: How are you.
Speaker 2: Supposed to handle that situation from being, you know, a
Speaker 2: parent who pays child support. I know I've shared here
Speaker 2: all about my personal life and how over the last
Speaker 2: year I've been raising you know, my kids, my children
Speaker 2: on my own, and of course I'm not the only
Speaker 2: one out here that's been going through the same thing.
Speaker 2: I know there's a lot of single parents, male and female,
Speaker 2: who have taken all the responsibility, some by choice, some
Speaker 2: haven't had a choice but to do it. But there's
Speaker 2: a lot of single parents who can relate. And that's
Speaker 2: why to me it was so important to do this episode.
Speaker 1: I mean, I.
Speaker 2: Saw what my own mom had to go through raising
Speaker 2: me as a single, hardworking mother, So I feel very
Speaker 2: close to this topic, not just because of her, but
Speaker 2: obviously because now, unfortunately the patterns have repeated, and I
Speaker 2: am now in her same shoes, and I know that
Speaker 2: there's a lot of people that know exactly where I'm
Speaker 2: coming from. So when things are hot and heavy in
Speaker 2: a romantic relationship, you're not thinking about what would happen
Speaker 2: if kids are involved, and what would happen if things end.
Speaker 2: You're in the moment of love and seeing things on
Speaker 2: the good side, the positive side. You know, you think
Speaker 2: that things are gonna last forever, and no one ever
Speaker 2: really bothers to think, what if things don't work out?
Speaker 1: Will this person really still hold me down?
Speaker 2: Will this person still have enough love for me at
Speaker 2: least in the back of their heart of their mind
Speaker 2: to think about how this separation cannot only be damaging
Speaker 2: to me emotionally and to a certain extent for a
Speaker 2: lot of relationships financially as well, when you become codependent
Speaker 2: of your partners, but in this case, when you have
Speaker 2: children involved in many occasions, the man for the most part,
Speaker 2: and women as well, because I know that a lot
Speaker 2: of women use their children to manipulate men. I don't
Speaker 2: want to put all the weight on men because I
Speaker 2: know that there's a lot of women that purposely use
Speaker 2: their children to manipulate, to take you know, put that
Speaker 2: financial all responsibility on the man, to the point that
Speaker 2: now this man is paying more than half of his
Speaker 2: you know, of his check, not only for the child,
Speaker 2: but now to also feed that woman's lifestyle. As the
Speaker 2: twenty twenty two the average cost of raising a child
Speaker 2: is around sixteen thousand dollars per year. And that's like
Speaker 2: the average, because I know it's.
Speaker 1: Way more for me.
Speaker 2: I mean, my babies drink a gallon of milk a
Speaker 2: little bit more than a guy in milk, plus diapers
Speaker 2: and white peas, and health insurance and clothing and toys
Speaker 2: and this and that, and you know, any incidents that
Speaker 2: can occur.
Speaker 1: You also have to be prepared for that financially too.
Speaker 2: So if you count what it would cost until they're
Speaker 2: about eighteen years old, you're looking at about almost three
Speaker 2: hundred thousand dollars, and that's a lot of money that realistically,
Speaker 2: the way that we're living today, not everybody can financially
Speaker 2: afford that. And I think that as women as men,
Speaker 2: when you're single, you're not really ever thinking about the
Speaker 2: responsibility financially of raising a child. But it also comes
Speaker 2: from the fact that nobody really talks about it. There's
Speaker 2: a lot of pressure on having children. Everybody talks about
Speaker 2: having children, to the point that now we have a
Speaker 2: big community of people that don't want to have children
Speaker 2: because of the fear of the financial responsibility. And let's
Speaker 2: not only just talk about the financial responsibility, but overall
Speaker 2: the emotional.
Speaker 1: Responsibility of having a child.
Speaker 2: It's a lot in this case, like me, you know,
Speaker 2: I wasn't prepared to not only have one, but two.
Speaker 2: You know, there's a lot of people out of here
Speaker 2: there having triplets and they're surely not prepared for that.
Speaker 1: And I know that there's a lot of government assistance.
Speaker 2: And that's a great thing too, But regardless of that,
Speaker 2: it's a lot of weight because no matter how much
Speaker 2: anybody else can come in and help you out, you
Speaker 2: still feel like it's your responsibility. You brought them into
Speaker 2: this world. It is your responsibility to make sure that
Speaker 2: everything their education, their food, you know, everything is on point.
Speaker 2: Most people don't think of how much a child really costs,
Speaker 2: And to me, it's like, why isn't anybody People only
Speaker 2: know how to say it is expensive, but why isn't
Speaker 2: anybody being specific and letting you know ahead of time,
Speaker 2: like listen, okay, if you guys want to you know,
Speaker 2: have children, or if you're planning on it, because a
Speaker 2: lot of people decide to plan it. I want to
Speaker 2: do it after I'm thirty five. I want to do
Speaker 2: it after my thirties. I want to do it after
Speaker 2: twenty eight, twenty five, whatever the case may be. For
Speaker 2: those that plan it, congrects to you, there's many people
Speaker 2: that don't planet. So therefore you have to be prepared
Speaker 2: to understand that this comes with housing, education, food, medical bills, clothes, childcare,
Speaker 2: especially if you're a single parent you know, or maybe
Speaker 2: may not have the support of the grandparents to you know,
Speaker 2: help out here and there. Daycares are very expensive. Let's
Speaker 2: not even go to nanny's if you have a nanny
Speaker 2: at home. I'm hearing like anywhere between fifteen hundred a
Speaker 2: week in my case for the twins. So if you
Speaker 2: have like two kids, it doesn't matter regardless of the age.
Speaker 2: You're kind of looking at those numbers, right, It's a lot.
Speaker 2: All those things are things that you have to think
Speaker 2: about when you select your partner. Hopefully, if you've chosen,
Speaker 2: you know, the right person, you won't have to struggle to,
Speaker 2: you know, through these things.
Speaker 1: But if not, you're gonna go through it.
Speaker 2: And trust me, you're gonna get it, cause no matter
Speaker 2: how much money you have, you're still gonna go through it,
Speaker 2: especially emotionally, the fact that you may not have that
Speaker 2: person who helped you create this child or these children
Speaker 2: not be there to support you emotionally.
Speaker 1: It's a lot.
Speaker 2: You lose money in the beginning because you take time
Speaker 2: off from work to have the baby. Obviously, I'm talking
Speaker 2: about the women and for the men. You know, you
Speaker 2: guys still get to put in that work. Obviously knowing
Speaker 2: that you know when you go home, if you're still
Speaker 2: going home to that woman, you know you still have
Speaker 2: to cater to her. But yes, women for the most part,
Speaker 2: have to take some time off to heal. I personally
Speaker 2: didn't take any time off. I was working, literally, like
Speaker 2: in the hospital. When I got out of the hospital
Speaker 2: the week after, I was literally taking flights. I don't
Speaker 2: recommend it to anyone, but the pressure of the responsibility
Speaker 2: of having to have a you know, a child and
Speaker 2: you have to provide for them. And let's pray that
Speaker 2: your child doesn't come out with any health conditions, because
Speaker 2: if they do, you have to also be prepared for
Speaker 2: that financial responsibility as well. So it's a lot I personally,
Speaker 2: Like I said, I was working the whole the whole
Speaker 2: time through I know a lot of hard working women
Speaker 2: that till the.
Speaker 1: Data they give birth, they're working.
Speaker 2: They don't have the privilege of like, oh, I'm just
Speaker 2: gonna take this time off.
Speaker 1: You don't get to do that. You have to put
Speaker 1: in the work. This is crazy. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you guys do.
Speaker 2: But in twenty eighteen, according to the US Department of
Speaker 2: Health and Human Services, non because pudo parents across the
Speaker 2: country own more than listen to this, one hundred and
Speaker 2: fourteen point six billion dollars in child support.
Speaker 1: You got to be kidding me.
Speaker 2: God, I don't even know where to go from there,
Speaker 2: because I know so many especially in the African American
Speaker 2: community and minority communities, there's so many men that end
Speaker 2: up going to jail because they can't afford to pay
Speaker 2: child support. I know that everybody has to be responsible,
Speaker 2: everybody has to put in their car, but in many
Speaker 2: occasions it is tough out here. Financially you could barely
Speaker 2: do that, and on top of that, now you have
Speaker 2: the responsibility of a judge telling you exactly how much
Speaker 2: you have to pay, not to mention that in many occasions,
Speaker 2: and I think it's unfair. I almost feel and god,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I don't even know how to say this,
Speaker 2: because the women is gonna come for me. But if
Speaker 2: there were to be like a card where you can
Speaker 2: see exactly what the money is being used for. But
Speaker 2: then at the same time, as a mom mom, like
Speaker 2: if I were to get child support, who cares? You
Speaker 2: know how I use the money as long as a
Speaker 2: child is being taken care of. Because if I use
Speaker 2: the money to pay the house, well that's where your
Speaker 2: child lives in. If I use the money to pay electricity,
Speaker 2: well that's where the child lives in. You know, if
Speaker 2: it's for clothes, if it's for food, if it's for
Speaker 2: whatever it is. Even if it were to be for
Speaker 2: a small vacation, I don't see it bad because why
Speaker 2: should it be just the mother's responsibility to pay for
Speaker 2: those things and the father to just pay for the essentials.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: When it comes to child support is a very iffy line.
Speaker 2: The same way I think is real iffy when there's
Speaker 2: you know, men that financially you know, they don't get
Speaker 2: it like that, and they're putting them these high ass
Speaker 2: child support balances that they have to pay off the
Speaker 2: same way that I see women asking for twenty forty thousand.
Speaker 2: I need sixty thousand dollars a month in child support.
Speaker 2: I need ten thousand dollars in child support.
Speaker 1: Can someone please?
Speaker 2: Can? I need somebody to please inform me how does
Speaker 2: this work? Because I know it goes based off the
Speaker 2: amount of money that the man makes, and I know,
Speaker 2: or you know, for the most part is a father,
Speaker 2: because women also in many occasions pay for child support.
Speaker 2: But I kind of sometimes thinking is unfair, like when
Speaker 2: these are these ridiculous amount of numbers for babies that
Speaker 2: are like one, two, three, maybe even at to ten
Speaker 2: years old. Where exactly is it that you're spending thirty thousand,
Speaker 2: fifty thousand dollars a month in anyways, That's just me,
Speaker 2: But if you feel where I'm coming from, please feel
Speaker 2: free to hit me up on exactly a matter and
Speaker 2: let me know your opinion on this topic. Here's another
Speaker 2: important point, the mental health aspect of raising a child
Speaker 2: without financial or emotional support. Listen, that is a lot,
Speaker 2: because God knows how many nights I've cried myself to
Speaker 2: sleep only because no parent prepares himself, for the most part,
Speaker 2: to be a single parent, and if you do, one
Speaker 2: thing is what you think and another one is to
Speaker 2: actually go through it and live the experience yourself. No
Speaker 2: one wants to have all the responsibility of having to
Speaker 2: take a child, take care of a child by yourself
Speaker 2: at nighttime.
Speaker 1: You can't sleep.
Speaker 2: You have to make sure that your child is being fed,
Speaker 2: you know, the diapers are being changed, and you're emotionally
Speaker 2: being there and nurturing for a child because it's not
Speaker 2: their responsibility or their fault what you may be going through.
Speaker 1: So it's a lot.
Speaker 2: I'm lucky that I have my mom to support me
Speaker 2: with my girls, and I'm so grateful for her, But
Speaker 2: a lot of people don't have that, and I feel
Speaker 2: terrible for those that don't because I can only but
Speaker 2: imagine the pressure the responsibility, how drain emotionally and physically
Speaker 2: you have to be of having to go through the
Speaker 2: process of raising a child all by yourself.
Speaker 1: That is a lot.
Speaker 2: Something that no one ever wants to talk about either,
Speaker 2: is the fact that you burn out as a parent.
Speaker 2: You burn out like there is no off time. You
Speaker 2: can't turn that off, and you'll never be able to
Speaker 2: be like.
Speaker 1: You can't unparent yourself. You will be a parent for
Speaker 1: the rest of your life.
Speaker 2: No matter how old your child gets, you will always
Speaker 2: feel the responsibility to check out for them, protect them,
Speaker 2: make sure that they're, you know, going through the.
Speaker 1: Right path, and all those things.
Speaker 2: So I'm saying this only because I know in my
Speaker 2: case how easy it is for a father to show
Speaker 2: up in the picture after the mother has done all
Speaker 2: the work and you're just like, oh, these are my kids.
Speaker 2: That's my daughter, that's my son, after the mother had
Speaker 2: to be the one to put up with all the
Speaker 2: sleepless nights, the extra part time jobs, all those things.
Speaker 2: And here's another question I have to Should you want
Speaker 2: to ask for child support from a person who doesn't
Speaker 2: want to be involved? Should you force a man or
Speaker 2: a woman for the most part of man. Should you
Speaker 2: force a man to have to financially provide for a
Speaker 2: child that they may not want. What about those parents,
Speaker 2: those fathers that from the beginning said I don't want
Speaker 2: this child.
Speaker 1: Should they have to?
Speaker 2: I don't know, that's a really good important question to
Speaker 2: me because I wonder how do the men feel in
Speaker 2: that aspect when women say I want to have this
Speaker 2: child because I want it, but then now the man
Speaker 2: says I never wanted it. I told you from the
Speaker 2: beginning I didn't want to. So now they're being held
Speaker 2: responsible for this child. But at the same time, I
Speaker 2: don't know this. These topics get real complicated. I've seen
Speaker 2: so many things on social media and on Instagram to
Speaker 2: talk about it all the time, so I.
Speaker 1: Always wonder that part, and I also want to know.
Speaker 2: I would love to talk to a woman that is
Speaker 2: the mother who's paying child support, the mother that is
Speaker 2: the one that's paying child support to the man. I
Speaker 2: would love to know if there's any women out there
Speaker 2: there's been through it or that's going through it. I
Speaker 2: want to hear your set of the story. And my
Speaker 2: father never gave, you know, pay any child support. I
Speaker 2: would not, never, ever in the history of my life,
Speaker 2: put the father my children and child support. I'm not
Speaker 2: going to be that parent because I just feel like
Speaker 2: if it doesn't come from your heart, if you don't
Speaker 2: want to be that provider, if you choose not to
Speaker 2: do it, I will never pressure you into doing it,
Speaker 2: and then I'm also very prideful. I don't ever see
Speaker 2: myself doing that. But a lot of people are saying, oh,
Speaker 2: you're such a dumb ass. You really should Who cares
Speaker 2: you didn't do these kids by yourself? Is there responsibility too?
Speaker 2: How do you guys feel about it? Please let me
Speaker 2: know here in the comments. While also going back to
Speaker 2: the burnout, you know how parents burnt out and get
Speaker 2: exhausted and get tired. I mean, I know that you
Speaker 2: guys have heard about the work burnout, but now there's
Speaker 2: also parental burnout. Okay, the intense physical and mental exhaustion
Speaker 2: and feeling drained and tired all the time. As a parent,
Speaker 2: you know, there definitely has to be a balance for
Speaker 2: that because I know that children it's not their faults
Speaker 2: that you're exhausted and that you're tired.
Speaker 1: But in the world that we live.
Speaker 2: In, where you're consistently working, where there's so much pressure
Speaker 2: from society and these high standards of what are the
Speaker 2: right parenting you know, skills and ways should be, is
Speaker 2: very very draining, and having children that don't understand the
Speaker 2: pressure of society because they're being children, it's a lot
Speaker 2: of pressure men to leave emotionally, physically, that all that
Speaker 2: on parents.
Speaker 1: I totally get it.
Speaker 2: I remember when I used to go home and my
Speaker 2: mom would be crying, you know, in the bathroom, and
Speaker 2: she would try to wipe off her face and act
Speaker 2: like it was all good because of the amount of
Speaker 2: pressure that she was going through. And as a child,
Speaker 2: you don't get it. You just want to have fun
Speaker 2: and why can't you buy me this? And why can't
Speaker 2: you do that? And why are you not going out
Speaker 2: with me? Why aren't we playing in the park?
Speaker 1: Why aren't why? Why? Why?
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 1: Why? Why?
Speaker 2: Now as an adult, I can understand and appreciate the
Speaker 2: sacrifice and how much hard work she had to put
Speaker 2: it in order to provide and be the best prayer
Speaker 2: she could be.
Speaker 1: We have so many parents that feel.
Speaker 2: That they're gonna get judged by their families and friends
Speaker 2: if they actually say that they're depressed from being a
Speaker 2: parent because of the pressure, because of the responsibility and
Speaker 2: many occasions, is your first time being a parent, you.
Speaker 1: Don't know your way around. It's a lot.
Speaker 2: And I always say, there's no guidebook on how to
Speaker 2: live your life. There's no guidebook on how to be
Speaker 2: a good parent. You just learn through experience and life,
Speaker 2: and depression really is a real thing. We see many
Speaker 2: occasions where there's parents that even commit suicide pitting alone in.
Speaker 1: This world of just pressure over all. You know, of judgment.
Speaker 2: Everybody is judging you consistently of everything that you do,
Speaker 2: and on top of that, you're trying to be a
Speaker 2: good parent.
Speaker 1: On top of that, you're being a single parent.
Speaker 2: On top of that, you're financially taking all the responsibility,
Speaker 2: and you're trying to be a happy parent so that
Speaker 2: your kid doesn't know what's going on. It's just so
Speaker 2: much that I feel it should be okay to normalize
Speaker 2: not being okay, It should be okay to normalize saying
Speaker 2: you know what, I need help, I need assistance. I
Speaker 2: don't know how to do this on my own. Like
Speaker 2: this is stressing me out, I can't sleep, I'm having anxiety.
Speaker 2: All those things are important to let it out so
Speaker 2: that you don't end up putting all that stress on
Speaker 2: your children, because they do receive that energy. As much
Speaker 2: as we may think that kids don't see that, kids
Speaker 2: don't know that. They don't they can't feel what's going on.
Speaker 2: They can feel the pressure, the tension in the air.
Speaker 2: So that's something that we also have to consider. We
Speaker 2: don't want to bring our traumas, our pain, our stress,
Speaker 2: our suffering into our children's lives. We don't want to
Speaker 2: raise them in that way because at the long run,
Speaker 2: it does affect them, you know, and especially when they're
Speaker 2: growing up, they're like a sponge.
Speaker 1: They take in.
Speaker 2: Everything that happens in their household, not only the way
Speaker 2: that it feels, but behaviors, the things that they see,
Speaker 2: the way that you speak. All those things affect feeling
Speaker 2: like you're not a good parent.
Speaker 1: It's one of the most common things in this society.
Speaker 2: Every day there's new rules, there's new things, there's new
Speaker 2: studies of what you should do, what you shouldn't do.
Speaker 1: I don't know the way that my mom raised me work,
Speaker 1: we had la chankle, that we had the time out.
Speaker 2: There were times where this Christmas, financially I can go
Speaker 2: ahead and buy I can't buy you all the things
Speaker 2: that you want me to.
Speaker 1: Not this year. This year we're struggling. Maybe next year.
Speaker 2: I think it's okay for parents to also, you know,
Speaker 2: be verbal about financial situations with their children, emotional situations.
Speaker 2: Mommy's not feeling good, Daddy's not feeling good. I think
Speaker 2: it's important to communicate at a very early age. Is
Speaker 2: important for kids to understand because once they step out
Speaker 2: into society, once they step out into the world, nobody
Speaker 2: is gonna be there to comfort them, to be like, oh,
Speaker 2: everything is gonna be okay.
Speaker 1: It's tough out here in this world. It's really really
Speaker 1: hard out here.
Speaker 2: And if you don't figure it out your own, ain't
Speaker 2: nobody gonna do it.
Speaker 1: And also, by the way, child support is not.
Speaker 2: Only exclusively about money, at least to me, child's support
Speaker 2: is also about supporting your own child, meaning physically being there,
Speaker 2: being supported, emotionally, providing you know, that comfort in that
Speaker 2: safe space where your child knows that you know they
Speaker 2: have both parents right even in mommy and daddy aren't together,
Speaker 2: we both love you. We're both here if you need anything.
Speaker 2: You have a mother and you have a father. I
Speaker 2: think that that the way that society, society, the government,
Speaker 2: the system has really put a lot of emphasis in
Speaker 2: child support, just in the financial aspect of it. That's
Speaker 2: what we have so many good men going to jail,
Speaker 2: and we have so many situations that are happening financially,
Speaker 2: because that's the only thing we talk about. But what
Speaker 2: about having the parent actually taking them to the park,
Speaker 2: spending time with them, asking them questions about their day,
Speaker 2: having memorable moments with your child as they grow up.
Speaker 2: Those things are important to the emotional aspect of child supports.
Speaker 1: It's important and it shouldn't be forced.
Speaker 2: You shouldn't have to force a father to want to,
Speaker 2: you know, have their kids on the weekends if that,
Speaker 2: or during the week or whenever their days are.
Speaker 1: You should have to force them. It shouldn't be a debate.
Speaker 1: It shouldn't be I don't want them.
Speaker 2: I can next month, next week. It shouldn't even be
Speaker 2: like that, and in many occasions it is. I personally,
Speaker 2: this is a tough one for me because I feel like,
Speaker 2: because I've seen the reaction and the way that the
Speaker 2: father my children has been with me and with my girls,
Speaker 2: that I've left the doors open from day one for
Speaker 2: him to want to call, to be part of, to
Speaker 2: be present to there. There was a moment where I
Speaker 2: used to send videos and you know, I used to
Speaker 2: consistently send pictures in this just to see if it
Speaker 2: did something to his heart and wouldn't make him want
Speaker 2: to do it on his own, to ask questions about how.
Speaker 1: Are they doing, where they act.
Speaker 2: In my mind, I would love for my daughters to
Speaker 2: have a good relationship with their father.
Speaker 1: Why not.
Speaker 2: I'm an adult, I'm a woman. Things don't always work out.
Speaker 2: It's happened to many people. You know, things don't always
Speaker 2: work out, But it doesn't mean that they can't have
Speaker 2: a good relationship. I don't know if I would ever
Speaker 2: feel comfortable off the rip just allowing my children to
Speaker 2: go away, you know, with their father, like oh here,
Speaker 2: just take them.
Speaker 1: No right until I felt comfortable enough.
Speaker 2: Maybe perhaps one day when they can speak and they
Speaker 2: can tell me this occurred, or I feel this way,
Speaker 2: I'm comfortable, I'm uncomfortable, whatever it may be.
Speaker 1: I think communication is key.
Speaker 2: But I would love for my kids to have a
Speaker 2: good relationship with their father because I didn't have a
Speaker 2: good one with minds, and I think that it's unfair
Speaker 2: for children not to be able to have both of
Speaker 2: the parents because of the pay parents emotional connections to
Speaker 2: each other. But if I could give you, guys, anything
Speaker 2: to take home with you is seek help. You know,
Speaker 2: sometimes we need professional help, whether it is from an attorney,
Speaker 2: whether it is from a therapist, whether it is just
Speaker 2: from a family member. Sometimes you just need to ask
Speaker 2: how can I go about this?
Speaker 1: What can I do?
Speaker 2: Is there any way that I can have you know,
Speaker 2: some pressure taken on from me? You know, just help
Speaker 2: me out with the babies, with the kids, this week, whatever.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we get caught up in our own feelings when
Speaker 1: all you need to.
Speaker 2: Do was ask for help. And with that being said,
Speaker 2: I am not a healthcare professional, so you know, this
Speaker 2: is just me being exactly I'm out at and giving
Speaker 2: you some of my own.
Speaker 1: Personal tips and my own personal experiences.
Speaker 2: But if you are feeling like you might need, you know,
Speaker 2: need some help, I'll give you a phone number. Whether
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