Speaker 1: The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan, Part one
Speaker 1: Behind a Thing with a member of the show.
Speaker 2: Welcome to the weekend to Amy, joins me. Thanks for
Speaker 2: coming on, Amy, glad to be back. We got some
Speaker 2: things to talk about this weekend. Now, you haven't been
Speaker 2: on Best Bits since you shared the big news, So
Speaker 2: how are you feeling?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel okay. I feel better than I I mean,
Speaker 3: time helps with everything, so it has been a little bit.
Speaker 3: So I'm feeling better.
Speaker 2: And in case anybody miss it, I don't want to
Speaker 2: just say big notes, but nothing but Amy and her
Speaker 2: boyfriend broke up. It's been a couple of weeks since
Speaker 2: you shared, but you haven't been on Best Bits. We
Speaker 2: haven't got to really like have a moment to talk
Speaker 2: about it. But I'm glad you're feeling good and time
Speaker 2: does heal.
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm you know, after being with someone for a
Speaker 3: year and a half, it's it just feels different and
Speaker 3: I don't really know what will happen. I'm just trying
Speaker 3: to focus on myself and the kids and have seen
Speaker 3: him and gone to sporting events and we're cordial. Everything
Speaker 3: is good like it was very I don't know the word.
Speaker 3: I think I said on the show, like it was
Speaker 3: just a really healthy breakup.
Speaker 2: Are you feeling like what kind of things are you
Speaker 2: feeling now? Because obviously you had your divorce, you healed,
Speaker 2: you went through that whole process. Then you get in
Speaker 2: a relationship and now you're having this breakup, Like is there.
Speaker 2: I imagine that a lot of people can relate to
Speaker 2: those feelings. So that's why I want to see if
Speaker 2: you can kind of talk to him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it's very different than a for the
Speaker 3: the divorce feelings.
Speaker 1: And after putting yourself out there and you're going through that.
Speaker 3: I think thankfully because it was so like I said,
Speaker 3: a healthy breakup and felt peaceful and honest. The whole
Speaker 3: relationship was good for my nervous system. It showed me
Speaker 3: that I can be in relationship. So it gives me hope,
Speaker 3: whether it's with him or somebody else down the line.
Speaker 3: But I'm not I think I was eager for that
Speaker 3: relationship because yeah, I hadn't experienced it before, and now
Speaker 3: that I have, I'm like, Okay, I'm not someone right
Speaker 3: now that is. I can't wait to get in my
Speaker 3: next relationship at all. I don't want to rush it.
Speaker 3: I think someone even commented on maybe the Instagram posts
Speaker 3: that went up about our breakup. They're like, how many
Speaker 3: dads are these kids going to have? And I was like, okay, what,
Speaker 3: I had a boyfriend, he wasn't their dad. Their dad
Speaker 3: is their dad. I mean, well, technically if they're saying
Speaker 3: that been three because they have their biological dad who
Speaker 3: has never been in their life at all whatsoever. And
Speaker 3: then they have their adopted dad, which is my ex husband,
Speaker 3: and he is very much their everyday dad. And then
Speaker 3: their dad has a girlfriend and she plays a role
Speaker 3: in their life. And then I had a boyfriend and
Speaker 3: he played a role in their life. And he actually
Speaker 3: still communicates with them and they'll send text or if
Speaker 3: they've got questions. And he ran a lot of track
Speaker 3: and has trained like he did track in college and
Speaker 3: yes that was a long time ago, but he gets
Speaker 3: the gist of how to train and to run and
Speaker 3: to run fast, like I don't know how to train
Speaker 3: a runner. And yes, Stevenson has track coaches and I
Speaker 3: think someone said, let his dad do that. Okay, well
Speaker 3: his dad is helping him with that, But you have
Speaker 3: someone that track is literally took up a huge chunk
Speaker 3: of their life and they can help. So I love
Speaker 3: that Stevenson can go to him and say, you know,
Speaker 3: do you have any tips for this, or he can
Speaker 3: just take it upon himself to say, don't forget what
Speaker 3: I taught you about doing this when you're running and
Speaker 3: how you pace yourself.
Speaker 2: And I love that you guys are still communicating because
Speaker 2: I also imagine having kids in the mix just adds
Speaker 2: another rash to all of that.
Speaker 1: You can't just totally clean.
Speaker 3: Break and say bye never no, And in some people's
Speaker 3: situations they might need to do that. In our situation,
Speaker 3: we didn't, and it was important to us that we
Speaker 3: didn't just disappear out of the kids' lives. And I
Speaker 3: understand that may not be the case for everybody, and
Speaker 3: of course that may have an expiration date if somebody
Speaker 3: else gets into a relationship. I get that, but neither
Speaker 3: one of us are quickly trying to move on. And
Speaker 3: that's just not at the top of my list of
Speaker 3: things to do. And oh, what I was also going
Speaker 3: to say, is we even though they were involved, he
Speaker 3: was involved in my kids' lives, it wasn't everyday stuff
Speaker 3: like nobody was living together. He wasn't taking on a
Speaker 3: dad role. Of course, he would be there for the
Speaker 3: kids if they needed anything, but same thing with his kids.
Speaker 3: I had a I had boundaries at times, like I
Speaker 3: wasn't their mom, and if we advanced in our relationship,
Speaker 3: I might take on more of a role, but I
Speaker 3: tried to respect the fact that I wasn't and at
Speaker 3: the same time, Alex would respect the fact that he's
Speaker 3: not their dad.
Speaker 1: So yeah, well, people.
Speaker 2: On the internet always have a once kewed view of
Speaker 2: a situation versus the entire scope of our relationship.
Speaker 3: Right And I'm not taking my kids around just introducing
Speaker 3: them to random men, like.
Speaker 1: Here's my son. How do you feel about it?
Speaker 3: No? Like so, I mean that part when you have
Speaker 3: kids involved, it definitely is an extra layer that makes
Speaker 3: it challenging. And you know, you want to consider all
Speaker 3: everyone's feelings and then as the adults, you have to
Speaker 3: make the one that's best for you, and in that moment,
Speaker 3: that's what was best for us. I don't know what
Speaker 3: time will tell, but uh, I'm being patient and I'm
Speaker 3: open to whatever may happen down the line, but nothing
Speaker 3: is I know for certain that that's just not my
Speaker 3: main focus right now at all. And I'm feeling really
Speaker 3: great about that.
Speaker 2: It's a fun place to be in your life when
Speaker 2: it isn't your focus. Yeah, and you get to enjoy
Speaker 2: other parts to it, whether it's your career, whether it's
Speaker 2: being a mom, whether it's just living alone. Yeah, having friendships,
Speaker 2: finding new hobbies. There is a freedom that comes with
Speaker 2: that of just getting to enjoy your own company.
Speaker 1: So maybe you're in.
Speaker 2: That era right now where you're really starting to feel
Speaker 2: comfortable in that solitude.
Speaker 1: Yeah, which is fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't have a problem in my being alone
Speaker 3: right now. I don't feel lonely. That may not always
Speaker 3: be the case, but right now I'm feeling good. So
Speaker 3: that's where we are, And to anyone else that may
Speaker 3: be in a similar situation, it's not easy, especially after
Speaker 3: you've gone through a divorce and then you find somebody
Speaker 3: and it's been a year and a half, so you think, oh,
Speaker 3: this is clearly lou one and we always knew all along.
Speaker 3: We're not going to keep dating if we don't think
Speaker 3: this is going to work because we have other variables.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're intentionally dating, which also adds more to it.
Speaker 2: When you're fun dating, learning who you are, learning what
Speaker 2: you like there's a different layer of seriousness that comes.
Speaker 2: But at this point in your life with kids and
Speaker 2: there is involvement, and you're older, you understand that, oh,
Speaker 2: this date, I'm not dating you just to have fun,
Speaker 2: Like this is not fundies. No, you're dating for an
Speaker 2: intentional reason. So that just makes things a little bit
Speaker 2: more complex than they would be a typical dating situation.
Speaker 2: So that's why I wanted you to speak on it,
Speaker 2: because you have a different perspective. Me talking about my
Speaker 2: dating was so different.
Speaker 1: I had never been married.
Speaker 2: I was again learning who I was, learning what I wanted.
Speaker 2: It was a different type of dating. You're in a
Speaker 2: different part of your life dating and people can relate
Speaker 2: to that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I think you may be in a different situation,
Speaker 3: like you might be how I you might be where
Speaker 3: I'm feeling with it, But you might be like one
Speaker 3: of my friends who's also divorced, and she likes to
Speaker 3: go out all the time and she wants to meet guys,
Speaker 3: and she was trying to get me the other weekend
Speaker 3: to go out, and I was like, that's just not
Speaker 3: what I want to go do, and she's like, oh,
Speaker 3: come on, we need to go. I met these guys
Speaker 3: and we can go out with them, And I'm like,
Speaker 3: that's not what I want to do. Are you hearing me?
Speaker 1: This is not for me.
Speaker 3: It's not for me. And she's in that season and
Speaker 3: I think that's great and that I may get there,
Speaker 3: but that's just not where I am. And so I
Speaker 3: think we're at.
Speaker 1: This page going out to go and meet people at bars.
Speaker 3: Well, I don't even I don't even know that. I
Speaker 3: would say she's going out to bars. More like there's
Speaker 3: like she's going out with groups of people to like, Oh,
Speaker 3: we're going to go to this dinner. We're going to
Speaker 3: go to the I don't have heard of, like the
Speaker 3: Tornado Room. It's like a small place in leapers Fork
Speaker 3: like it's but she's going with a group and she's like, oh,
Speaker 3: and these three guys they're going to be there. It's
Speaker 3: not like she's going out just to meet guys. But
Speaker 3: she has met people while she's going out, and she
Speaker 3: wants to go out to dinner all the time, and
Speaker 3: she just wants to be out because if you're out,
Speaker 3: it is more of a chance. But it's not like
Speaker 3: she's hitting the bars. I guess I should clarify what
Speaker 3: out in your forties means versus maybe out out younger.
Speaker 2: But oh, I could totally see you doing that then
Speaker 2: the dinners and yeah, but.
Speaker 3: That's not even what I want to do. And I'm
Speaker 3: having to really listen to that and then just understand that, Yeah,
Speaker 3: some of my single friends were going to be in
Speaker 3: different phases of single. That's just I guess the best
Speaker 3: way to put it. Yeah, some singles are ready to
Speaker 3: go out and open to meeting. And I saw too
Speaker 3: if you are into that. There was this one. I
Speaker 3: don't know if it was a matchmaker or something, but
Speaker 3: you have all these things are showing up on my
Speaker 3: feet because well, my friends have been sending me matchmakers
Speaker 3: in my dms and so it pops up on my
Speaker 3: algorithm now. And she was giving a tip of if
Speaker 3: you want to go out, you need to leave the
Speaker 3: house and get out of the car, of like, this
Speaker 3: is going to be the best night ever. I'm going
Speaker 3: to have the best time no matter what it is,
Speaker 3: and that will be more likely to result in you
Speaker 3: having a good time in you potentially meeting somebody than
Speaker 3: sort of going out and being like, oh, I'm not
Speaker 3: feeling that great, I'm not that confident like this sucks.
Speaker 3: I hate having to go out to meet people. Like,
Speaker 3: if you enter the evening with that attitude, you're less
Speaker 3: likely to have the energy that's going to draw the
Speaker 3: attention of somebody. But if you get out of the
Speaker 3: car and be like, I feel great, even if you're
Speaker 3: playing a little mind game with yourself, you may have
Speaker 3: more success.
Speaker 2: I had a matchmaker come on my podcast, and when
Speaker 2: I was talking to her, she said, date or just
Speaker 2: live your life like you're on vacation, because everybody when
Speaker 2: they're on vacation is a different person.
Speaker 3: Right, Well, that's the thing. I just need to, like
Speaker 3: somehow bottle up how I feel on vacation. It comes
Speaker 3: more naturally because when you're on vacation, It's true, I
Speaker 3: go out more, I want to go out to eat,
Speaker 3: I want to do all the things. I want to
Speaker 3: get dressed up.
Speaker 1: But when you're home, you don't feel that way.
Speaker 2: So that's why she was like, you have to start
Speaker 2: treating it like you're getting vacation mode back into you.
Speaker 2: So she described it as that, So maybe that's the
Speaker 2: way you have to It's a.
Speaker 3: Good way to put it, but that's not where I'm
Speaker 3: fine with not being in You're like, I don't want to.
Speaker 1: Be in vacation mode. I want to be on my
Speaker 1: couch enjoying solitude and having fun.
Speaker 3: But that it will be a good reminder for me
Speaker 3: to have when I do get the urge to do that,
Speaker 3: because I'm sure that time will come. It's just not
Speaker 3: where I am right now. It's not a priority.
Speaker 1: Well, and it's okay. You never get there either, though.
Speaker 1: It's okay. You might meet somebody in a totally.
Speaker 2: Unique way that isn't any of those. That's the coolest
Speaker 2: part about it is we never know how we're going
Speaker 2: to eventually meet that person. Life has a funny way
Speaker 2: of working things out, so you may never have to
Speaker 2: leave your couch. Some people have met people from deliveries
Speaker 2: on their porch or yeah, you never know what you
Speaker 2: might run into. So life happened in funny ways. But
Speaker 2: if you don't, that's okay. Yeah, but I enter it. Well,
Speaker 2: thank you for the update. I needed to know how
Speaker 2: you were headspace, where you were at. We don't get
Speaker 2: to talk a lot of girl chat on the show sometimes,
Speaker 2: so I wanted to check in on you. Thank you,
Speaker 2: how you're doing all right? We're going to take a
Speaker 2: quick break. We'll be right back talk about some fun
Speaker 2: topics here speaking of just taking different life patterns things
Speaker 2: like that. So all of this Artemis Too stuff when
Speaker 2: they went up, they circled the moon, they came back
Speaker 2: down had me in kind of a different headspace where
Speaker 2: I was thinking, Huh, I could have just like changed
Speaker 2: my whole trajectory.
Speaker 1: Go back to school's.
Speaker 2: Study science, learn to be a pilot, and I could
Speaker 2: go to space. Like I had this moment where I
Speaker 2: was like, maybe I just need to rewrite my entire
Speaker 2: plan for the next thirty years. Do you ever have
Speaker 2: those moments we just want to rewrite everything and try
Speaker 2: something different. No, you don't ever, You just stay on
Speaker 2: the one path. I like where I am well career wise.
Speaker 2: I don't it fills my cup. I like what I
Speaker 2: get to do.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm trying to add some different things to
Speaker 3: my plate and remove certain things that don't necessarily fill
Speaker 3: my cup. So that sort of changes of like, uh,
Speaker 3: I'm not really getting joy from this, but I think
Speaker 3: the filling cup thing matches more because there's some stuff
Speaker 3: I can do that's part of my work. And I
Speaker 3: was explaining it to someone that I'm working with on
Speaker 3: a small project, and she put it to me that
Speaker 3: way of like, oh, it just sounds like that's not
Speaker 3: really filling your cup anymore, and this other thing might
Speaker 3: fill it more. And I was like, yes, that's exactly it,
Speaker 3: Like I can do it and it's fine, but I'm not.
Speaker 3: I'm walking away more drained from it than I am full.
Speaker 3: So I would like to shift that because but I
Speaker 3: have to do it with intention, because I mean, it's
Speaker 3: a job, so I can't just like walk away or
Speaker 3: it's money. I can't just walk away. I mean some
Speaker 3: people might be able to. I'm not in a position
Speaker 3: where I can just walk away, So I have to
Speaker 3: shift some things around. So I guess that's what I'm doing,
Speaker 3: and I'll share more about it later when I have
Speaker 3: it figured out and done. But I am shifting some
Speaker 3: things in what I do and how I diversify my income.
Speaker 3: Like we have the Bobby Bone Show, but we have
Speaker 3: a lot of other side projects that we do that
Speaker 3: bring in money, and I'm trying to shift some of
Speaker 3: those around because some are not bringing me joy and
Speaker 3: I think others will. So I'm trying to create more
Speaker 3: opportunities for the other But I don't have them yet.
Speaker 1: Okay, so this is exciting.
Speaker 3: That's a I know it's not directly answering your question,
Speaker 3: but my big umbrella of what I do, I'm not
Speaker 3: trying to change. I don't think about swapping that out
Speaker 3: for some other life other than maybe not having to
Speaker 3: work at all. I'm just getting to stay home. But
Speaker 3: then I don't know that I would like that either.
Speaker 3: I don't know, but some days you're just over it.
Speaker 3: I think everybody feels that way. Maybe maybe not. But
Speaker 3: I am trying to move some things about and it's
Speaker 3: going to take time and I'm having to be patient.
Speaker 3: But I'm trying to do it well, like I'm the
Speaker 3: person I'm working with like a pirtor to help me
Speaker 3: do it well, and so I'm investing back into myself.
Speaker 3: But then I think it'll end up making me more
Speaker 3: money down the line. So I just have to believe
Speaker 3: that that's what's going to happen. But it may take
Speaker 3: a minute.
Speaker 1: So that is a you.
Speaker 2: Are changing some things, yeah, but you're doing it under
Speaker 2: the side big umbrella.
Speaker 3: I'm not like leaving what I do to go be
Speaker 3: change my major and go back to school and be
Speaker 3: a scientist. And go to the moon.
Speaker 2: I know it is like it was like a random
Speaker 2: I think it's in the days that I have the
Speaker 2: most stress when I just am like, maybe if I
Speaker 2: just become an astronaut, I go to space and that'll
Speaker 2: be a cool experience of my life.
Speaker 1: But then I started thinking about the logistics of all
Speaker 1: of that and it's probably not gonna happen.
Speaker 2: No, I get really overwhem boy that So it's hard
Speaker 2: because much like you said, I love what we do.
Speaker 2: I love the parts of it that you know get
Speaker 2: You get a lot of joy out of It's the
Speaker 2: mundane that makes it harder. But everything comes with the
Speaker 2: mundane side. You have that in everything that you do.
Speaker 2: So I think that's where I'm I just am trying
Speaker 2: to be more in the present moment. But watching them
Speaker 2: do the whole space thing, getting to like have our
Speaker 2: first female astronaut and that whole exp really was like,
Speaker 2: why didn't I further explore my love for space and trying.
Speaker 3: To be a female astronaut To the moon.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, to the moon.
Speaker 2: Sorry, I'm not talking about the Katie Ferry one, the
Speaker 2: what is that group that went well? But there are
Speaker 2: other female yes, yeah, to the Moon that circled around
Speaker 2: the Moon.
Speaker 1: I've got to be on the on that specific mission.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, we have some on the ISS, the International
Speaker 2: Space Station, but no, that like in the idea of
Speaker 2: if they continue that and we land on Mars and
Speaker 2: we do stuff on Mars and we explore other planets.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, that's so fascinating to me.
Speaker 3: But I like watching some of this stuff, but I
Speaker 3: don't have I have zero desire to go myself. That
Speaker 3: seems scary.
Speaker 1: Really. Yeah, if you got a chance today to go
Speaker 1: to space, you.
Speaker 2: Went nope, nope, see, And that's where I'm so curious
Speaker 2: about what that'll look.
Speaker 3: That's what they're like the I don't know the odds
Speaker 3: of dying on that, but it would terrify me to
Speaker 3: go up in a rocket. I just would feel like
Speaker 3: I was going to explode or something. And then, speaking
Speaker 3: of stress, being in space is very stressful on the body. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so I'm good, I know if we give me a
Speaker 3: wonderful perspective and probably so school, so cool, But the
Speaker 3: fear I have inside of me is larger than the
Speaker 3: desire I have to do that, which that's like, I
Speaker 3: just don't I don't like roller coasters. I don't like heights,
Speaker 3: so space is very scary to me.
Speaker 2: So you're not a very adventurous person. I would say,
Speaker 2: adrenaline junkie is not part of you. No, No, that
Speaker 2: is where we differing. Yeah, I have those sides, not fully,
Speaker 2: but I do have some. And I think if somebody
Speaker 2: offered me a chance to go to space today, I
Speaker 2: think I would.
Speaker 3: Go, yeah, and just good for you, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: All bets are off. Yeah, but that's why where I
Speaker 1: think that desire comes from.
Speaker 2: But I also think there's so much normalcy in experiencing
Speaker 2: the world that we are right now, and you just
Speaker 2: have moments where you just lie frustrates you and you
Speaker 2: want to just rewrite everything because it just is frustrating.
Speaker 2: I think that's where I get moments of right now.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Maybe that's because I'm really into my thirties. Now.
Speaker 1: Am I having a midlife crisis? Does that really happen
Speaker 1: at thirty?
Speaker 3: No? I don't think you're having a midlife crisis. I
Speaker 3: think you're having like occasional thoughts or sometimes you're like, okay,
Speaker 3: just make this all change a little bit to make
Speaker 3: it more interesting or you know, different, But life, Yeah, No,
Speaker 3: you're about you're embarking on new adventures, you're about to
Speaker 3: get married, and you're not having a mid life crisis.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: But do you, I mean, do you have a midlife
Speaker 1: crisis that real?
Speaker 3: Some people do, I think they call I think that's
Speaker 3: a generalization for what happens with some people.
Speaker 1: Like you.
Speaker 3: Picture a middle aged man leaving his wife or a
Speaker 3: younger woman and buying a sports car, and it's like
Speaker 3: a midlife crisis. But I think it can show up
Speaker 3: in a lot of different ways, not just that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's just the one we've been just seo about.
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe I do think buy a sports car and
Speaker 3: get married, and then I don't know, then I'll have
Speaker 3: half of the two. Yeah, well my fulfilled Yeah, a
Speaker 3: sports car driving fast, you're adrenaline like, I don't know.
Speaker 3: That's what my former father in law like. He was
Speaker 3: a fighter pilot and loved to fly, obviously, and you're
Speaker 3: going so fast that when he got out at the
Speaker 3: Air Force and he wasn't flying as much, he got
Speaker 3: a motor he got a Harley, got a motorcycle. He
Speaker 3: loved to go ride. He wanted to be, you know,
Speaker 3: out on the road. And then that became really dangerous
Speaker 3: for him as he got older, and he ended up
Speaker 3: selling it. He was like, that would be crazy for
Speaker 3: me to be out riding right now, and lost a
Speaker 3: friend that was riding his Harley and got in an
Speaker 3: accident and died. So I think that woke him up
Speaker 3: of like, I don't need to be chasing this right anymore,
Speaker 3: but like I would never I don't have zero desire
Speaker 3: to get on a motorcycle. I and that's on the ground,
Speaker 3: so it doesn't even have to be space. Like I
Speaker 3: don't want to be on a motorcycle. I don't want
Speaker 3: to be on an ATV. I don't I don't want
Speaker 3: to be I don't want to go to the bottom
Speaker 3: of the ocean. It's not just up, it's down. Like
Speaker 3: the people that went down to look at the Titanic
Speaker 3: and then they died. I would not go. I don't
Speaker 3: want to get on a submarine nothing. I don't want
Speaker 3: to do that.
Speaker 1: I'm sensing the theme here.
Speaker 3: I don't want to do scuba diving.
Speaker 1: And all of those things sound so much fun to
Speaker 1: apparently want it right now.
Speaker 3: I apparently wanted to go snorkel.
Speaker 1: You don't even go that far under you stick your
Speaker 1: head on.
Speaker 3: The it's cool, you see cool things. But I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 3: been there, done that. I'm actually shocked. I went skydiving,
Speaker 3: but that was a thirtieth birthday thing and lunchbox and
Speaker 3: I went, and so it was a celebratory, like him
Speaker 3: turning thirty. I'm gonna go do this thing that I
Speaker 3: never thought I would do, and I won't ever do
Speaker 3: it again.
Speaker 2: See, And that's something that's on my list that that
Speaker 2: might be the only thing that actually terrifies me is skydiving.
Speaker 3: But you want to go to space, yeah, because skydiving
Speaker 3: is just thirteen thousand feet.
Speaker 2: Yes, but you're in a rocket, you know, And the
Speaker 2: Brocket seems scarier to me than some little airplane.
Speaker 3: It's gonna got airplane.
Speaker 1: And then you jump out of it, and then you're
Speaker 1: in the atmosphere, not protected, you're just your whole body
Speaker 1: is on the air. But all of that everything you
Speaker 1: just mentioned, I would go do. I just I don't know.
Speaker 2: And it's not like I don't have a desire if
Speaker 2: I also love sitting on my couch, but I do
Speaker 2: have a desire to just go into things and try them.
Speaker 1: But I too like to go fast.
Speaker 2: Like there was one time I was riding a jet
Speaker 2: ski with my dad and he let me drive. I
Speaker 2: was really young and I decided to go really fast
Speaker 2: and I threw him off and he's not very happy.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Like, I'm the lamest jet skier ever. I would
Speaker 3: go so.
Speaker 2: Slow, really like cautionary. You're just coasting instead of actually riding. Yeah,
Speaker 2: what about riding a horse?
Speaker 1: Would you ride a horse?
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I just not very fast, just slow, Yeah,
Speaker 3: just a walking horse. I would love to ride a
Speaker 3: horse that doesn't seem scary to me. I know that
Speaker 3: it can be, but I just need to be on
Speaker 3: a tame horse wearing a helmet. Yeah maybe.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Okay, I learned something new about you here at
Speaker 2: this moment. All Right, we're gonna take another quick break
Speaker 2: and we'll be right back. All right, This one is funny.
Speaker 1: Have you watched Love on the Spectrum Metal on Netflix.
Speaker 3: Bits and pieces? Okay, I'm familiar enough.
Speaker 2: So there was a couple and they recently broke up,
Speaker 2: which is why I think some of the clips have.
Speaker 1: Been going viral recently.
Speaker 2: I haven't watched the whole series, but Abby is the
Speaker 2: girl who's in this clip, and it was funny because
Speaker 2: she was talking to her partner at the time and
Speaker 2: her mom was also there, or his mom, and an
Speaker 2: awkward thing gets brought up in the conversation and she
Speaker 2: just looks at her dog. She says, Clementine has anal issues,
Speaker 2: and that was how.
Speaker 1: She like averted the situation, and it maybe start thinking
Speaker 1: about the times that like when have you ever used
Speaker 1: something to get out of an awkward conversation?
Speaker 2: Like have you ever had awkward moments? And how did
Speaker 2: you get out of it?
Speaker 3: Well, I feel like if I were to say something
Speaker 3: like that, it would make it more awkward.
Speaker 1: Right, But again, love on the spectrum, so she's living
Speaker 1: with it. That was like a personality trait. She that
Speaker 1: was her response.
Speaker 2: She wanted to talk about her dog instead of what
Speaker 2: they were talking about.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I don't know that I have a particular
Speaker 3: example where i've but my friend was just at my
Speaker 3: house the other day and has a child on the spectrum,
Speaker 3: and he said to his mom, he just went away
Speaker 3: for college and he's at a special school and like
Speaker 3: doing great there. But even for his acceptance into the college,
Speaker 3: like he was so direct and said to them, you know,
Speaker 3: there are two hundred and eight universities in the state
Speaker 3: that I could go to, and this is the only
Speaker 3: one I want to be at, so you better take me,
Speaker 3: you know. And I was like, I have to so directed.
Speaker 3: But then he came home for Easter and apparently all
Speaker 3: weekend held his tongue because his mom cut her hair
Speaker 3: off and didn't say anything. But then when he was leaving,
Speaker 3: he hugged her and he's like, goobye, I love you,
Speaker 3: and he's like, don't ever cut your hair. It does
Speaker 3: not look good. And then he walked off and we
Speaker 3: were just laughing at how, you know, because they've been
Speaker 3: working with him on that. I mean, but he's gonna
Speaker 3: say what he's gonna say, you know. Uh. But that
Speaker 3: they were like, god, you know, he went the whole
Speaker 3: weekend without making comment, but couldn't resist at the very end,
Speaker 3: at the very end, walking out the door and just
Speaker 3: telling it to her, like it was like, trust me,
Speaker 3: you do not want to ever cut your hair off again.
Speaker 3: It does not look good.
Speaker 2: It's so cool to expect your life for them, right,
Speaker 2: Like they really are so direct. They're like the versions
Speaker 2: of us that haven't been tainted by everything.
Speaker 1: They're just completely themselves. Yea and it's the coolest thing
Speaker 1: to witness.
Speaker 3: I said, Like, growing up, there were stories like sometimes
Speaker 3: he's a church where you know you had to be
Speaker 3: careful because he might if he hadn't seen it a
Speaker 3: little bit. And you even put on a little bit
Speaker 3: of weight.
Speaker 1: He would tell you that's funny.
Speaker 3: And he would be like, yeah, so you probably put
Speaker 3: on about I don't know, ten pounds And they'd be like,
Speaker 3: oh my gosh. You know. So I haven't had an
Speaker 3: awkward like a moment where I've made it even more awkward.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm sure I have. I just can't call them.
Speaker 3: I'm sure other people might be like, oh, Amy was
Speaker 3: very awkward here, but I either wasn't aware or I
Speaker 3: had blocked it from my memory.
Speaker 1: And I'll tell you what, maybe it'll make you have
Speaker 1: come up with something.
Speaker 2: But I was on a date one time and it
Speaker 2: was just not going very well at all. It was
Speaker 2: actually a date that we talked about on the show
Speaker 2: at one point, but I was there and I was like,
Speaker 2: how do I get out of this without.
Speaker 1: Being mean that I need to leave? And we're sitting there.
Speaker 2: It was a coffee date and I just was like,
Speaker 2: I think I'm going to throw up.
Speaker 1: I like ran to the bathroom and just kind of
Speaker 1: stood there. I didn't I obviously wasn't going to I
Speaker 1: just didn't.
Speaker 3: Know what else to say because they really wanted out
Speaker 3: of there.
Speaker 1: There was no conversation happening. It was rough.
Speaker 2: It was like one of those and I didn't have
Speaker 2: an exit planned and I was exhaust so I was
Speaker 2: just like, I think, I'm I think I have to
Speaker 2: throw up, and I ran away and that was like
Speaker 2: the last moment I came back out.
Speaker 1: I was like, I need to go home.
Speaker 2: And that gave me like my out and I think
Speaker 2: about that a lot that I just abruptly ended the
Speaker 2: conversation with that poor guy by saying, I think I
Speaker 2: need to throw up.
Speaker 3: He's probably wondering what in the world happened to you?
Speaker 1: Yes, and it reminded me of this moment.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you say, my dog's anal glands what.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like Clementine has anal issues.
Speaker 2: So if you need to get out of an awkward situation,
Speaker 2: you can use Clementine has anal issues or I think
Speaker 2: I'm gonna throw up.
Speaker 1: But those are some of the ones that came to mind.
Speaker 1: Still nothing, nothing, happening now.
Speaker 3: I know, but I'll keep that in mind that I
Speaker 3: have to throw up one. Yeah, it's a good one.
Speaker 2: It's a good exit strategy for sure. Just you know,
Speaker 2: if you do decide to start dating to get one day,
Speaker 2: be prepared.
Speaker 3: I mean, I'm definitely guilty of I just can't give
Speaker 3: an exact example, but of not not what you're talking about,
Speaker 3: but saying too much over sharing out of the gate
Speaker 3: with people that I barely know at a social gathering,
Speaker 3: and in my internal dialogue is shut up, why are
Speaker 3: you sharing this with them? So I would say my
Speaker 3: equivalent to that is just sometimes sharing way too much,
Speaker 3: way too soon with people that do not know me,
Speaker 3: like other like I'll just be talking to girls and
Speaker 3: I be like, well, they're not going to be friends
Speaker 3: with me anymore, Like why did I just share that
Speaker 3: very personal detail?
Speaker 1: Do you do you feel awkwardness?
Speaker 2: Like I look at lunchbox, right, he doesn't feel anything awkward.
Speaker 1: Nothing bothers him. He's not impacted.
Speaker 3: Yeah he no. I've gone and done stuff with him
Speaker 3: before and nothing faces him. He does not care. He's like,
Speaker 3: who cares, don't be embarrassed. We're doing like a secret
Speaker 3: recording bit or something. And this dates back years ago.
Speaker 3: I always felt awkward. We used to go to Barton
Speaker 3: Creek Mall in Austin and we would record content and
Speaker 3: he had no shame, like he would walk right up
Speaker 3: to whomever and just I mean, and I was mortified, mortified.
Speaker 2: But do you feel that way now or do you
Speaker 2: feel like you've gotten out of that. No, I was
Speaker 2: still film mortified. Yeah, started back then and still feel
Speaker 2: the same way.
Speaker 1: So I do.
Speaker 2: I admire that quality trade of him. I wish I
Speaker 2: didn't feel shame or embarrassment as much as I do.
Speaker 3: You admire when he we're backstage and he's yelling at
Speaker 3: celebrities with like no shame, Like I walk away. I'm like,
Speaker 3: I am not with this person. I do not know him.
Speaker 3: I am not with him. But to hit I hey,
Speaker 3: shout out to him. Though he always gets really good
Speaker 3: video I know, and ends up, you know, high fiving
Speaker 3: fifty cent or I was gonna say Diddy, but it's
Speaker 3: probably not a good example to use anymore. But somebody
Speaker 3: famous Mariah Carey, uh like fame, fame, fame. I mean
Speaker 3: the country people I feel like we see all the
Speaker 3: time and they're probably like oh my gosh, there's lunch
Speaker 3: walks yelling and they kind of are like, okay, but
Speaker 3: people that were famous like when we were kids. He
Speaker 3: sees them now he freaks out and like I said,
Speaker 3: to his credit, he will get a good video out
Speaker 3: of it. But I put my head down and I'm like,
Speaker 3: I do not know him, and I shouldn't, like who cares?
Speaker 3: We're probably never going to see Mariah Carey again, and
Speaker 3: if we do, at another work event or something, she's
Speaker 3: not gonna remember. So who cares.
Speaker 1: Yep, which is what his like whole theory is. And
Speaker 1: I wish I had it. I don't. I just don't.
Speaker 1: I don't even in normal public settings from I'm by
Speaker 1: myself with that famous people, I just I get embarrassed
Speaker 1: so easily.
Speaker 2: Like and I feel shame more often than I should
Speaker 2: from ringe. Cringe, Yes, cringe is the word I'm looking for.
Speaker 2: So that's one one quality trait I admire I do
Speaker 2: not have. That's one of my flaws. I look at
Speaker 2: it more like good for him. That makes me happy
Speaker 2: for him. But I don't know that I want it
Speaker 2: like I don't admire.
Speaker 1: Like I want that.
Speaker 3: I wish I had that for myself like, like, I think,
Speaker 3: I'm good.
Speaker 1: Did you know that we have lizards in Tennessee?
Speaker 3: I think so? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, but skink? Do you know what skink is?
Speaker 3: I do not.
Speaker 1: I learned this new amphibian. It's a version of it
Speaker 1: of a lizard and a skin drop from my garage
Speaker 1: door when I opened it.
Speaker 3: Oh, I'll have to look it up. See if I've
Speaker 3: ever seen a skink before.
Speaker 1: I bet you have.
Speaker 2: I think we have more often skinks than we do
Speaker 2: like full blown lizards. Like the lizards that we would
Speaker 2: typically see, they're a little bit more slimy and quick,
Speaker 2: and they come in all different colors, so you'd pis
Speaker 2: seem in your garden if you've been out doing stuff
Speaker 2: outside of your house.
Speaker 3: But oh yeah, if I saw this, it would kind
Speaker 3: of freak me out because it looks like a little snake.
Speaker 1: It does.
Speaker 3: They're some lizards are kind of cute. But this one
Speaker 3: is not to me at all whatsoever.
Speaker 2: Uh Well, this one fell out as I was trying
Speaker 2: to get into my garage and was then proceeding to
Speaker 2: hide behind a kennel that I had out.
Speaker 1: In the garage. I was just sitting there on my
Speaker 1: thing and I they're good to have around though.
Speaker 3: I think they said they're harmless to humans and they
Speaker 3: eat insects, snails and spiders, which okay, I feel like
Speaker 3: we need other spider seeds some other things. But my
Speaker 3: house is full of stink bugs right now, but they
Speaker 3: don't or my back porch and in my garage. They're everywhere,
Speaker 3: the little but I did not know they were stink bugs.
Speaker 3: Cell was like, they don't stink. I haven't googled it yet,
Speaker 3: but evidently I was talking to a friend and I
Speaker 3: was like, oh my gosh, these bugs are everywhere. They're like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 3: those are stink bugs, I said, but they don't smell,
Speaker 3: so I didn't think they were stink bugs. And they
Speaker 3: said if you squash them, that is when they smell.
Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, well, I haven't squashed them,
Speaker 3: because yep, okay, that's what they are. I just googled
Speaker 3: them brown mammorated stink bug.
Speaker 2: They're everywhere, and I think they can also blend in.
Speaker 1: I think they can be green.
Speaker 3: They camouflage. Yeah, I feel like.
Speaker 1: Is it okay?
Speaker 2: Because I've definitely seen them in different colors and I
Speaker 2: didn't know if that meant there's different variations of the
Speaker 2: stink bug.
Speaker 3: Okay, it's killing the stink bug causes it to release
Speaker 3: a pungent, foul smelling chemical odor, which is primarily defense mechanism.
Speaker 3: It can linger stained surfaces. Ooh, so be careful potentially
Speaker 3: attract more stink bugs to your home. It's best to
Speaker 3: remove them gently instead of crushing them.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I have not crushed one, and I gently removed them outside,
Speaker 3: like if they're on my screen porch, I put them out,
Speaker 3: and then some of them have made their way into
Speaker 3: my house and I'm trying to get them out. But
Speaker 3: good to know. So, yeah, stink bugs everywhere.
Speaker 2: Oh, stink bugs are crazy in the South, like Tennessee.
Speaker 1: If you go anywhere they will add a certain season
Speaker 1: or certain timeframe, they will just be swarmed. So is
Speaker 1: that what your deck looks like?
Speaker 3: I guess yeah they were yeah, ye last night specifically
Speaker 3: up on my screened in Like I have a screened
Speaker 3: in porch and the top of the screen they were
Speaker 3: just crawling all over it.
Speaker 2: And I capture my skink and bring it over to
Speaker 2: your ports to eat them.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, but I feel bad. I don't want to
Speaker 3: kill them, but but that's.
Speaker 1: What they do.
Speaker 2: That's what I have skinks and you have stink bugs.
Speaker 2: Weird names for amphibians and insects, you.
Speaker 3: Know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Who decided? I'm they look at the lizard and say
Speaker 1: that's a skink. I don't know of all names, or
Speaker 1: look a bug and say that's.
Speaker 3: A stink fun entomologist. I guess I took entomology in college?
Speaker 1: Did you?
Speaker 3: Was that part of your I don't remember the details.
Speaker 3: I just i'm the detail. I mean, I don't know
Speaker 3: if we learned like where the names come from. I'm
Speaker 3: sure we did. But my professor did a pot luck
Speaker 3: and he brought us food like termite pizza.
Speaker 1: I was about to say, did he give you insects
Speaker 1: at the potwock?
Speaker 3: Yes? And did you eat it? Yeah? I think we
Speaker 3: all took bites of different things. Because he also explained
Speaker 3: to us that bugs are in all of our food anyways,
Speaker 3: and there's a certain amount, like in our peanut butter.
Speaker 3: They the FDA, there's a certain a mount that's acceptable
Speaker 3: that are just going out on the ingredient list. Well
Speaker 3: because it's not it's such a minuscule amount, but like
Speaker 3: they can't avoid a crushed up bug leg that ends
Speaker 3: up in your jar of peanut butter.
Speaker 1: I am never gonna like a peanut butter are the same.
Speaker 3: Well, it's an all food or any food. Uh. And
Speaker 3: at least that's what I remember learning twenty years ago.
Speaker 3: I could be wrong, but he would teach class two
Speaker 3: sometimes with hissing roaches crawling all over him.
Speaker 1: He was a very interesting He sounds like an interesting guy.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think he has since passed away.
Speaker 1: I heard, but hissing roaches.
Speaker 2: I mean the only time I've heard of people really
Speaker 2: consuming bugs. Like I went to a Mexican restaurant and
Speaker 2: they had I think it was crickets or something that
Speaker 2: you could have with your quacamole.
Speaker 3: Yeah, cricket tacos or a thing in Mexico. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And then obviously in the tequila. What's the bug that
Speaker 2: you can drink in. Some of the tequila.
Speaker 1: Doesn't know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: Scorpion.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe it's a scorpion instead of it bug in tequila.
Speaker 1: Seeing what pops up? Worms? Oh?
Speaker 3: Worms? Is there a drink that has a scorpion in it?
Speaker 3: There might be that seems dangerous. Scorpion And I.
Speaker 2: Think you're right though, I think that's a thing in
Speaker 2: another one small ones, yes, mm hmm, okay. Scorpion mescal
Speaker 2: is a small batch featuring a real edible scorpion inside
Speaker 2: every bottle, So you could have worm tequila or a
Speaker 2: scorpion tequila.
Speaker 1: So I guess insects all of that's all real.
Speaker 2: Anyways, Sorry that got brought up through variation of talking
Speaker 2: about skinks.
Speaker 1: I just actually really liked their name. But that's all.
Speaker 1: I have anything else you want, Todd before we jump
Speaker 1: out of.
Speaker 3: Here, Amy, Now I'm reading about insect tacos.
Speaker 1: Isn't crickets. I think it was crickets that they tried.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've heard of. Tacos are definitely a thing. I mean,
Speaker 3: not just in Mexico like here.
Speaker 2: That's so wild to me because then I see a cricket,
Speaker 2: or like I see a snail and I got a scargo.
Speaker 3: My mom loved es cargo. Really, I've never tried it,
Speaker 3: but she had these littlees cargo plates and forks that
Speaker 3: were very specific for that, and I got them. I
Speaker 3: have them, but i've never used them. They're in a
Speaker 3: cute little pouch thing.
Speaker 2: Was your mom potentially a Parisian? No, it's a very
Speaker 2: Parisian thing to eat s cargo.
Speaker 3: Oh no, I don't know if she's from Alabama, I
Speaker 3: don't know. Are the bloodline somewhere She was supusted have
Speaker 3: tried it at some point and she liked it. And
Speaker 3: my dad was a foodie, so and they had a
Speaker 3: restaurant in the eighties they served es cargo.
Speaker 1: That it's isn't that wild to think about you? I
Speaker 1: hear you talking about your your parents in that restaurant,
Speaker 1: Like my grandparents and my dad growing up they owned
Speaker 1: a bowling alley and a hotel, and like, that's what
Speaker 1: they did and now's not there? And then it's where
Speaker 1: did it go? What happened?
Speaker 2: And why isn't it staying in the family? Is there
Speaker 2: restaurants still?
Speaker 3: No? No, no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 1: See is that crazy?
Speaker 3: Restaurant business is hard? I think that my dad went bankrupt,
Speaker 3: not because of that restaurant, maybe something else. I can't remember.
Speaker 3: There was multiple restaurants, it just wasn't that one. I
Speaker 3: mean that that one was called Christopher's and he named it.
Speaker 3: My mom's made a name, who was Judy Christopher. So
Speaker 3: he named that restaurant Christopher's. And that was the nicest
Speaker 3: restaurant that hence like steak dishes and the s cargo
Speaker 3: and uh, there was a dish called Oysters Christopher, which
Speaker 3: is so delicious. Kind of craving that and want to
Speaker 3: make it. It's fried oysters, not raw. I cannot do
Speaker 3: a raw oyster at all. But then there was like
Speaker 3: a Southern cooking restaurant called Past the Biscuits Please, and
Speaker 3: then a Mexican restaurant called jac Garcia's Dang. Here a
Speaker 3: lot of restaurants mm hmm yeah, and some would make
Speaker 3: it and some would. I mean, that's that's the restaurant business.
Speaker 3: And then he got into franchises, so then a little
Speaker 3: more stable.
Speaker 1: Any franchises that are still around.
Speaker 3: Mister Gaddy's Shortstop Chicken Express, Are you familiar with any
Speaker 3: of those?
Speaker 1: I think those are all Texas? Yeah, related, But that's crazy.
Speaker 2: He was a little restaurant entrepreneur, restauranteur, restauranteur.
Speaker 3: Hmm.
Speaker 2: There it is, well, Amy tell people whe they can
Speaker 2: find to hear you all that good stuff.
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