WEBVTT - "Does It Ever Get Easier?" - Part 2

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be out wait everything that I'm made done, won't

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<v Speaker 2>spend my life trying to change.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm learning love who I am, I get, I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel free, I know everybody of me. It's beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>and that will.

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<v Speaker 2>Always out way if you feel.

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<v Speaker 1>It, but you are, She'll some love too. I give

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<v Speaker 1>there say go day Ana, did you and die out way?

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<v Speaker 1>Happy Saturday? Outweigh.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Leanne Ellington, and we are back to follow up

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<v Speaker 2>last week's conversation, which was all around this common question

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<v Speaker 2>that I get asked all the time, which is does

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<v Speaker 2>it get easier? And that is the million dollar question

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<v Speaker 2>that really doesn't have a simple answer, but we are

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<v Speaker 2>definitely going to simplify it as much as we possibly can.

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<v Speaker 2>So last week we started this important conversation and this

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<v Speaker 2>week I want a more or let's give you a

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<v Speaker 2>checklist that you can literally use to make sure that

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<v Speaker 2>you're teaching your brain ease instead of inadvertently or accidentally

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<v Speaker 2>teaching it to work harder. So let's just start there,

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<v Speaker 2>shall we, So instead of making it so hard and

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<v Speaker 2>so complex, because let's be honest, there is so much

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<v Speaker 2>information that confuses us out there nowadays, and let's be honest,

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<v Speaker 2>everyone is an air quotes expert nowadays too, and of

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<v Speaker 2>course I'm putting expert in air quotes, but to boot,

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<v Speaker 2>every expert is telling you something different to do. And

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<v Speaker 2>you know, maybe it's count carbs or count calories, or

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<v Speaker 2>fake it till you make it, or work harder at

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<v Speaker 2>the gym, and this just confuses the daylights out of us, right,

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<v Speaker 2>And the general theme is that the world is throwing

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<v Speaker 2>more diets and exercise plans at a deeper problem. And

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<v Speaker 2>if you're anything like I was, you might still be

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<v Speaker 2>trying to outdiet or outsmart a deeper problem. And there's

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<v Speaker 2>no shame in that whatsoever. That's why we're having these conversations.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's also no wonder that one of the most

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<v Speaker 2>common questions I get asked by, you know, women like you,

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<v Speaker 2>stressed out dieters, people that are sick of thinking about

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<v Speaker 2>food is leanne does it ever get easier? And so

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<v Speaker 2>why is it that you're going strong and then life

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<v Speaker 2>happens and the slope just gets slippery again, And why

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't your brain just keep the path? So let's talk

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<v Speaker 2>about making it simpler and easier, but in a way

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<v Speaker 2>that your brain actually deems easier, so that we can

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<v Speaker 2>stop teaching our brains to do things the hard way,

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<v Speaker 2>as in, really take the time and energy one time

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<v Speaker 2>to teach your brain a new language and a new

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<v Speaker 2>way of thinking. But it's a language that gets easier

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<v Speaker 2>the more you practice it, and you get better at

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<v Speaker 2>it the more you practice it, so that it just

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<v Speaker 2>becomes who you are versus dieting just gets harder, you

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<v Speaker 2>get worse at it, and we never get good at it. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>So let's talk about that kind of thinking for a change,

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<v Speaker 2>the kind that gets easier. And my simple answer to

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<v Speaker 2>the question of does it get easier is yes and no,

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<v Speaker 2>depending on how you look at it. So yes, it

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<v Speaker 2>gets easier if you're practicing ease, and no, it never

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<v Speaker 2>gets easier if you're always practicing hard. And that's why

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<v Speaker 2>it's so important that you know which one you're practicing, because,

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<v Speaker 2>as you've learned from everything that we talk about here

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<v Speaker 2>on this podcast, your brain gets good at whatever we practice.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you are making things harder, it's because you're

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<v Speaker 2>practicing it in a hard way, right, And all you

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<v Speaker 2>need is some awareness, awareness of how you are practicing

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<v Speaker 2>the hard way. And really, when I say the hard way,

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<v Speaker 2>this is how your brain sees it, so that you

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<v Speaker 2>can shift over to practicing the easy way, as in

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<v Speaker 2>how your brain and nervous system also sees it. So

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<v Speaker 2>let's take a look at all the ways in which

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<v Speaker 2>you might actually be practicing hard. So the first one

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<v Speaker 2>is control. So this includes things like restriction, deprivation, punishment, persuasion, accounting,

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<v Speaker 2>the wagh, the measuring, the micromanaging, the obsession. Okay, that's

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<v Speaker 2>number one control. Next we have pain. Okay, so this

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<v Speaker 2>means physical, mental, or emotional pain. It might even mean

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<v Speaker 2>social or spiritual pain. Right. Practicing anything that is soul sucking,

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<v Speaker 2>energy robbing, smile stealing, stress inducing, or that you outright

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<v Speaker 2>do not like or do not enjoy, you're practicing hard

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<v Speaker 2>anything that causes And this is number three. Internal discord. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So this includes experiencing guilt or shame or blame. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>you're experiencing a lot of comparisonitis or perfectionism or judgment.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe it's just self criticism, right, and there's definitely we

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<v Speaker 2>talk about that a lot on this podcast. But that

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<v Speaker 2>internal discord, if that's what you're practicing, you're practicing hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Number four is extremism.

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<v Speaker 2>So this means all the black, white, all in, all

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<v Speaker 2>out mentality, rightly, like you're either all in or you're

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<v Speaker 2>all out, using language labeling things as good bad, right?

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<v Speaker 1>Wrong? Should? Should it? Always?

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<v Speaker 2>Never? Or committing to anything that causes you to sacrifice

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<v Speaker 2>your happiness, peace of mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Or freedom for results.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So if you have extremism built into your plan,

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<v Speaker 2>you're practicing hard, your brain will never get good at it.

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<v Speaker 1>Number five too fast or too much?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So that might be that zero to sixty mentality

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<v Speaker 2>like too much, too soon, or unsustainable expectations or unrealistic expectations,

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<v Speaker 2>so you know that lose twenty pounds and twenty minutes

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<v Speaker 2>kind of thought process, or again, just that zero to

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<v Speaker 2>sixty mentality. So if it's too fast or too much,

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<v Speaker 2>you're practicing hard. But also the flip side number six,

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<v Speaker 2>if it's too slow or too little.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So this might show up in the form of being

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<v Speaker 2>kind of noncommittal, right or maybe you're dabbling.

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<v Speaker 1>In a bunch of things and you're staying like interested

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<v Speaker 1>in it.

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<v Speaker 2>But you've never committed to it, like you've never fully

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<v Speaker 2>committed to solving the problem. And then in turn, you're

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<v Speaker 2>living in the gray, so you're like you're not in,

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<v Speaker 2>but you're not fully out either. And for me, honestly,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes like living in the gray feels harder than when

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<v Speaker 2>I'm totally off, you know, or when I'm out, or

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<v Speaker 2>when I'm done, or when I'm resigned. So too slow

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<v Speaker 2>or too little could be considered hard to your brain.

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<v Speaker 2>The other way you practice hard is if something has

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<v Speaker 2>and this is number seven, diminishing return. So anything that

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<v Speaker 2>gets harder the more we practice it, or it just

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<v Speaker 2>never gets easy, or anything that we get worse at

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<v Speaker 2>the more that we practice it, or we just never

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<v Speaker 2>seem to get good at it, you're going to get

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<v Speaker 2>those diminishing returns. And it's never going to be the

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<v Speaker 2>air quotes thing that's going to heal your struggles.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, And so those are.

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<v Speaker 2>Seven main things that your brain could be doing that's

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<v Speaker 2>practicing hard. And this is not the only list, right,

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<v Speaker 2>This is not the the you know, cumulative, end all,

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<v Speaker 2>be all list. There's other things that are not on

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<v Speaker 2>this list, but these are the most common and honestly

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<v Speaker 2>the most sneaky and the easiest traps to fall into

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<v Speaker 2>if you're not aware. Luckily, though, you are now aware

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<v Speaker 2>of all of those ways that you can practice hard.

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<v Speaker 2>So now let's take a look at what does your

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<v Speaker 2>brain need to practice easy or practice ease?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so number one is freedom.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is about feeling like we have a choice

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<v Speaker 2>or an abundance of choices, right, feeling like we have

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<v Speaker 2>influence over ourselves and our behaviors rather than those behaviors

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<v Speaker 2>controlling us, or feeling like our brain controls us or

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<v Speaker 2>food controls us.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>Feeling free, like not chained or confined by rules and

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<v Speaker 2>restrictions and especially diets. Right, So your brain needs to

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<v Speaker 2>practice freedom, which is again the opposite of choice being

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<v Speaker 2>taken away from you. Number two, though, might sound a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit counterintuitive now that I just said freedom, But

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<v Speaker 2>number two is actually structure. Okay, so here's the reality.

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<v Speaker 2>Our brains desire and crave predictability and structure. Our brains

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<v Speaker 2>want to know that we can like count on it,

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<v Speaker 2>like count on a system or like a plan. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>But this is very different. The idea of structure is

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<v Speaker 2>very different than control or hard and fast rules or

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<v Speaker 2>feeling imprisoned by that structure. Right, And so the best

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<v Speaker 2>structure for your brain is going to be based on

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<v Speaker 2>principles and thought processes that are in alignment with you

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<v Speaker 2>and your values, but that also make you feel free.

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<v Speaker 2>Remember that, like I was saying, too much control, and

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<v Speaker 2>your inner rebel will chime in and have a field

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<v Speaker 2>day and be like, Nope, we are not doing that.

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<v Speaker 1>So just a little side note.

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<v Speaker 2>One of the things I talk about with my clients

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<v Speaker 2>but right before they graduate, so we can really hone

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<v Speaker 2>in their recipe. One of the things I talk about

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<v Speaker 2>with my clients right before they graduate, so we can

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<v Speaker 2>really hone in their recipe, is this idea of like,

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<v Speaker 2>how can we give you the structure that your brain needs,

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<v Speaker 2>but with freedom built into the beginning, so you're getting

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<v Speaker 2>that happy medium. And it really is like a delicate dance.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a recipe that you need to create.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So number two is structure. Number three is flexibility. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>And so we can't feel totally confined in or boxed

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<v Speaker 2>in by that structure. It has to allow us to

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<v Speaker 2>also experience freedom while we go and enable us to

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<v Speaker 2>adapt to our lives as we go. And that's why

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<v Speaker 2>you know, flexibility is the opposite of hard and fast rules.

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<v Speaker 2>And when you're in that black and white, all or

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<v Speaker 2>nothing mindset. Flexibility doesn't look like a good thing. It

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<v Speaker 2>looks like you air quotes fell off the wagon. And

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<v Speaker 2>so that's why it's like we've got to get aligne

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<v Speaker 2>with this concept of like no flexibility is part of

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<v Speaker 2>it from the beginning, or else this plan isn't going

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<v Speaker 2>to work for me. Right, So number three is flexibility.

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<v Speaker 2>Number four is consistency. Okay, So if you're not able

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<v Speaker 2>to get yourself to do it consistency consistently, I should

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<v Speaker 2>say you are never going to get the returns. You're

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<v Speaker 2>not going to get the return on your investment of

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<v Speaker 2>time and energy and heart and soul. Right, and so

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<v Speaker 2>you are off working in minimums as opposed to maximums

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<v Speaker 2>zero to sixty, and working in minimums in small steps

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<v Speaker 2>and baby steps, in small doses, and doing things consistently

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<v Speaker 2>rather than working in maximums and doing it sporadically, or

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<v Speaker 2>let's be honest, not doing it at all. And so

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<v Speaker 2>consistency trump's intensity all day every day. So it's consistency

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<v Speaker 2>over intensity, which is obviously not a lot of what

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<v Speaker 2>we're doing. A lot of times people are really thinking

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<v Speaker 2>that intensity is the way, like that go harder, go home.

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<v Speaker 1>Kind of mindset. And you know, consistency is the key,

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<v Speaker 1>and consistency.

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<v Speaker 2>Over intensity is the key, which is the opposite of

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<v Speaker 2>what most people are doing, and definitely the opposite of

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<v Speaker 2>like diets and like the weight loss mentality and stuff

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<v Speaker 2>like that. So consistency is number four. Sustainability. Okay, anything

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<v Speaker 2>that we can see ourselves doing not just a week

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<v Speaker 2>from now, but a month from now, three months from now,

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<v Speaker 2>twelve months from now, right, and anything that doesn't fit

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<v Speaker 2>into this category is bound to be a time limited

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<v Speaker 2>thing and will eventually get harder.

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<v Speaker 1>The more we practice it. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>And so one of the things I talk to my

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<v Speaker 2>clients about is like, first of all, I do care,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I'm like, yes, I care about the short run,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I want you to be happy in the short run.

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<v Speaker 2>But like, instead of thinking about, you know, forty five

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<v Speaker 2>or fifty five year old version of you, who do

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<v Speaker 2>you want to be and how do you want to

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<v Speaker 2>be feeling at sixty five seventy five, let's get optimistic

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<v Speaker 2>one hundred and five so that you're not thinking about

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<v Speaker 2>this and you can deal with this now and not

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<v Speaker 2>have to live in it forever, live like working on

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<v Speaker 2>this forever because let's be honest. Most of the people

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<v Speaker 2>I talk to, they're like, leanne, I have been thinking

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<v Speaker 2>about this for so many years. I've been trying to

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<v Speaker 2>figure it out for years, like I just want to

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<v Speaker 2>be done right. And that's where I invite you to

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<v Speaker 2>start thinking ahead, like not just what you could do

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<v Speaker 2>sustain like right now. And there is a time and

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<v Speaker 2>a place. There's short term experiments where you can say, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to do this. It's not a forever thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna do it for three days. But a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of women aren't thinking like that. In like they

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<v Speaker 2>just commit to the next diet, the next diet, and

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<v Speaker 2>they don't think about, like, who do I want to

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<v Speaker 2>be a year, five years, ten years from now, so

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm not dealing with this anymore. And that's where

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<v Speaker 2>the sustainability piece of the puzzle comes into play. Number

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<v Speaker 2>six is practicality, and so it fits within the constructs

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<v Speaker 2>of our lives and our circumstances and our wants and

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<v Speaker 2>our needs as opposed to trying to force it or

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<v Speaker 2>overhaul our life right. And so anything that forces us

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<v Speaker 2>to uproot our lives or sacrifice the things that are

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<v Speaker 2>important to us is.

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<v Speaker 1>Not going to be part of a long term solution.

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<v Speaker 2>And it will never get easier the more you practice it,

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<v Speaker 2>which is again the definition of what your brain needs

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<v Speaker 2>to consider something easy like does it get easier the

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<v Speaker 2>more I practice it?

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<v Speaker 1>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Number seven And a lot of people don't think about this,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's really important.

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<v Speaker 1>Is happiness.

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<v Speaker 2>Anything that adds joy or ease or peace or happiness

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<v Speaker 2>or creates energy is what your brain needs.

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<v Speaker 1>Now here's the thing. It might not always be like.

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<v Speaker 2>Pie in the sky, like happy dance joyful, right, but

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<v Speaker 2>it just can't, at the very least take it away.

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<v Speaker 2>So if anything is taking away your happiness or making

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<v Speaker 2>you miserable beyond the scope of this episode, it's creating

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<v Speaker 2>something called negative neuro associations, and your brain will never

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<v Speaker 2>learn it long term. And then number eight, I think

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<v Speaker 2>is one of the most important ones, but it's also

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<v Speaker 2>kind of the simplest.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it's got to create actual.

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<v Speaker 2>Habit creation, Okay, And here's what I mean by that again,

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<v Speaker 2>And you might think I sound like a broken record,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's so important. Anything that gets easier the more

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<v Speaker 2>we practice it, or maybe it's easy from day one,

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<v Speaker 2>and anything that we get better at it the more

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<v Speaker 2>we practice it, or that maybe we just start off

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<v Speaker 2>good at it. This is what's going to enable us

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<v Speaker 2>to keep practicing it and get the consistency and get.

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<v Speaker 1>The reps that you actually need to create a habit. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is how you practice ease.

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<v Speaker 2>And if you're anything like me, and remember I was

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<v Speaker 2>dieting since I was a kid, this is not the

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<v Speaker 2>stuff that usually comes alongside dieting or thinking about food

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<v Speaker 2>twenty four to seven, right, that the other list when

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<v Speaker 2>we're talking about all the ways you practice hard, that's

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<v Speaker 2>what comes alongside that, right, And that's why you need

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<v Speaker 2>a whole new way of thinking and are really, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>taking a radically different approach, which again might seem foreign

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<v Speaker 2>to a lot of women listening to this right now, right,

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<v Speaker 2>But here's also an important side note, and I'll get

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<v Speaker 2>kind of geeky, but not too geeky. On a brain level,

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<v Speaker 2>short term habits and those long term like always have them,

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<v Speaker 2>actually become a habit in your brain kind of habits.

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<v Speaker 2>Short term and long term habits live in two separate

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<v Speaker 2>parts of your brain. And so the long term part

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<v Speaker 2>of your brain is driven by ease and pleasure, or

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<v Speaker 2>at least can't be experiencing pain and when your brain

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<v Speaker 2>experiences the opposite of those things, So if it's experiencing

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<v Speaker 2>you know, resistance or force or persuasion like you're persuading

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<v Speaker 2>yourself to do or not do something, or eat or

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<v Speaker 2>not eat something, or constant.

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<v Speaker 1>Hunger for example. Right, that's another example of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>hard your.

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<v Speaker 2>Brain is essentially going to say, like, don't worry, brain,

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<v Speaker 2>we don't have to move this over to the long

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<v Speaker 2>term storage part of our brain. She's not going to

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<v Speaker 2>be doing that very long, right, And nine times out

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<v Speaker 2>of ten, your brain would be right, right, unless you're

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<v Speaker 2>just eking out willpower to do it. So again, it's

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<v Speaker 2>just science, right, And that's when it comes to that

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<v Speaker 2>question of does it ever get easier?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, again, the answer is yes and no.

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<v Speaker 2>It gets easier if you practice easier, and it never

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<v Speaker 2>gets easier if you're practicing harder. And so we become

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<v Speaker 2>whatever we practice, and it really does become a matter

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<v Speaker 2>of what are you practicing. Are you practicing ease or

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<v Speaker 2>are you practicing hard? And yeah, again, you can go

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<v Speaker 2>play the focus on your physical appearance game over and

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<v Speaker 2>over again and never break the cycle, or you can

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<v Speaker 2>do what we're doing right here, and just really change

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<v Speaker 2>your thinking so that you can get different results. But

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<v Speaker 2>if you want to do differently and behave differently, you

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<v Speaker 2>must think and believe differently. It really is as simple

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<v Speaker 2>as that, and the truth is and there's no shame

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<v Speaker 2>in it. But most women won't do this right. Most

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<v Speaker 2>women go start looking for the next diet or the

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<v Speaker 2>next game of control myself, or the next you know,

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<v Speaker 2>action item they can check off like.

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<v Speaker 1>A tick box, right. But those that do that, like

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<v Speaker 1>stop the.

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<v Speaker 2>Definition of insanity of you know, doing the same things

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<v Speaker 2>over and over again and expecting different results, they're the

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<v Speaker 2>ones that are going to find that the journey to

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<v Speaker 2>healing actually begins and the suffering ends and all of

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<v Speaker 2>the good stuff that comes on the other side of

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<v Speaker 2>healing that road can finally begin.

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<v Speaker 1>So that is it for today, outweigh, And if you

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<v Speaker 1>want to.

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<v Speaker 2>Learn more about how to turn off the part of

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<v Speaker 2>your brain that's obsessed with food or obsessed with your

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<v Speaker 2>then head on over to Stressless Eating dot com and

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<v Speaker 2>I've literally peeled back the curtain and walked you through

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<v Speaker 2>the exact strategy. I teach my clients to heal themselves

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<v Speaker 2>from the all or nothing diet mentality for good, but

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<v Speaker 2>without restricting themselves or punishing their bodies, and definitely without

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<v Speaker 2>ever having to use words like macros, low carb or

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<v Speaker 2>calorie burn.

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<v Speaker 1>And so is there for you over at stressless eeating

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<v Speaker 1>dot com and if you like, outweigh.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually have another podcast here on iHeart where I

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<v Speaker 2>talk about all of this self image and body image

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<v Speaker 2>stuff but from the perspective of where brain science intersects

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<v Speaker 2>faith and so it's called What's God Got to Do

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<v Speaker 2>with It?

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<v Speaker 1>And you can access it here on iHeart or wherever

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<v Speaker 1>you get your podcasts. So that's it for today. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>Leanne Ellington and I'll talk to you soon. Bye.