WEBVTT - Ophira has FIRE 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:36.960 Flame Flame. 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:44.320 If you watch your coffee time the baby you know 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:47.240 the name Flame my bro also known as my Roe Flame. 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:50.640 Come in with last and come in with Jim Love loundes. Baby, 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:52.800 you better catch it when you can drop a knowledge 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:56.960 from fatherhood to politics, shouting now comics, just paying homage. 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:57.400 What's up? 0:00:57.440 --> 0:00:57.760 Tips? 0:00:57.960 --> 0:01:00.520 Yeah you know she raised shot towns on speaking to 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:03.480 the grown a second, we're gonna last cut him and 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:05.360 kick it and at again. We leave her with just 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:07.840 a lifted spirits. Think you want to revisit so your 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:10.120 first like a listen, you'll folks are your slip oh 0:01:10.200 --> 0:01:11.040 folks that we dig it. 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:15.039 Hey, no this do what you do? Ca no this 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:15.839 do what you do? 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:18.240 Can no do what I do? 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:19.360 And no. 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:38.760 Week. 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:42.600 Hey hey, hey, welcome to this week's episode of Laughing Learning. 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:44.840 I am your host, Blaming Roe. I also have my 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:48.600 beautiful co host you know her as icon or Toots, 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:51.320 but her name is Bobby Clippers, who just celebrated her 0:01:51.720 --> 0:01:57.279 thirty ninth birthday. That was your birthday present, Bobby allows 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:00.480 you to be thirty nine again. So that was the birthday. Yeah, 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:02.600 that's what we need to do and we are so glad. 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:04.320 You guys are here. I want to start out this 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:07.360 week with just saying prayers to the people that are 0:02:07.400 --> 0:02:09.480 all afflicted by the wars all over the world. I 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:12.320 absolutely hate wars because at the end of a war, 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:14.520 you never know what it was about, and so many 0:02:14.680 --> 0:02:18.400 unnecessary casualties happen. So that is our take on the war. 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:20.359 I'm not taking side on this. I just hate that 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:22.360 it's all going on. And I want to say prayer 0:02:22.400 --> 0:02:25.120 to I beloved President and President Biden. I know everybody 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:26.920 has their feelings about who they feel how they feel 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:29.960 about whom, but I feel a great presidence of Biden, 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:32.200 and I pray that he gets back to American soil 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:35.840 safely and unharmed because he's over there repairing fences that 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:38.480 another president broke. I ain't gonna get into that. We 0:02:38.600 --> 0:02:41.480 get into that another week. But this week, this week, 0:02:41.880 --> 0:02:44.400 we have a very special treat for you guys. Oh 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:46.560 my god. So you know, like I'm a parent in comedy, 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:50.440 we have come across another parent in comedy who is phenomenal. 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:54.720 She is from ALBERTI camp is it Alberta? Alberta? Let 0:02:54.760 --> 0:02:58.840 me say the word Burda, Calgary. That was a car. 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:04.519 I had something in my car Okay, So we want 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:06.760 to welcome to a very special guest this week, and 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:08.679 I want you, guys, all my claimants and all the 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:11.079 listeners out there left and learned to give her thumbs 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:14.440 around the clause. She is a fantastic comedian, phenomenal parent, 0:03:14.480 --> 0:03:16.440 and a person that you need to get to know. 0:03:16.960 --> 0:03:20.360 Makes a noise they jump for of Fira Eisenberg, Mazing Jones. 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:28.480 Oh, hello, Yes, I grew up in Calgary, Alberta, Canada, 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:31.280 which sounds like a you're like, all right, that is 0:03:31.320 --> 0:03:35.120 a place. But just to be clear, I left. 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:41.760 Oh it's cold in Canada. I might have left too. 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:44.840 Yeah, I live. I've been living in New York for 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:46.080 almost twenty years. 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:47.360 What bought you? 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:52.880 Yeah, exactly, I guess stand up, Really, I was, you know, 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:56.760 I was toiling around in Canada, actually Toronto at the time, 0:03:57.160 --> 0:04:00.520 and everyone in Toronto kept talking about like a bigger 0:04:00.560 --> 0:04:02.920 scene in New York, and I thought, well, I should 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:07.600 get there before I know what it's like to fail 0:04:07.720 --> 0:04:08.880 and have consequences. 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:09.320 You know. 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:11.120 I was just, I used to call it. I was 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:14.400 just at the I was still at the like really 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:17.480 happy to have Ikia furniture point in my life. 0:04:19.800 --> 0:04:20.400 Been there. 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:23.960 Yeah, I'm not going to say it's changed. By the way, 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:25.119 I'm not going to say it's changed. 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:28.240 I wasn't ture if it was a boy or school 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:30.880 that brought you, what got you into comedy? 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:34.600 You know what. I was just talking to another comedian 0:04:34.600 --> 0:04:36.520 that I'm on a tour with right now about how 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:39.360 the first time I saw stand up comedy was at 0:04:39.360 --> 0:04:44.039 a club in Calgary, Alberta. And I didn't like it 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:46.240 at all, like live stand up comedy. I'd seen it 0:04:46.240 --> 0:04:48.560 on television, et cetera, but live stand up comedy, and 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:50.359 I didn't like it. I thought it was very male. 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:53.560 I thought it was very hateful. I thought it was 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:57.880 nothing to do with me. And this comedian said back 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:00.719 to me, he goes, but you still did it. 0:05:01.080 --> 0:05:07.760 Huh, Well, isn't that. Isn't that what life is? When 0:05:07.800 --> 0:05:10.719 you see something that doesn't doesn't affect or doesn't work 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:13.000 for you, if you get into it to make the change. 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:15.039 So even if you get in common to make it 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:17.520 more positive. But you said nothing affected to you, and 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:19.960 you reached out to other people and you found your tribe. 0:05:19.960 --> 0:05:22.160 That is what it is. You have to find your 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:25.320 tribe in comedy because comedy is subjective. You know. Some 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:27.719 people may like the mean and the and the rout. 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:30.120 Some people may like the joy, Some people may like 0:05:30.200 --> 0:05:33.320 the fun facts, you know, the simple stuff. Animal. Animal 0:05:33.400 --> 0:05:36.760 jokes work with everybody. Animal jokes work with everybody, unless 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:39.719 it's abusive. But I love that. I love that. I 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:41.719 was gonna ask you, so, what was this scene like 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:45.880 in Alberta, Canada, and albert and alert Calgary a bt 0:05:46.160 --> 0:05:48.520 different from New York because I love East Coast common, 0:05:48.720 --> 0:05:50.719 I love East Coast com Yeah. 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:52.919 So I actually the very first time I stepped on 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:55.960 stage was in Vancouver, so as far west as you 0:05:56.040 --> 0:06:01.080 can go in the darn country, and it was you know, 0:06:01.360 --> 0:06:03.880 I think it was. I had no perspective, but I 0:06:03.920 --> 0:06:07.720 thought it was pretty good. I thought it was very open. 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:11.000 I was with other amateur comedians, and let me tell you, 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.320 there was a lot of women. There was people of 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:17.359 different ages, different backgrounds. It actually never occurred to me 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:22.080 until much later that there was so much kind of 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:25.880 like white male energy in stand up because a bunch 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:28.640 of the amateurs that I was around, they were just 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:31.320 all different, Like, it never didn't occur to me that 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:34.039 it would be weird to start when you were fifty five, 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:36.400 or that it'd be weird to start if you were 0:06:36.400 --> 0:06:38.279 in high school. Like, it was just so much variety. 0:06:38.720 --> 0:06:41.800 So in that way it set me up pretty good, 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:44.559 and then I learned the other lessons later. 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:48.760 Comedy is definitely a learning process. Every time you get 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:51.320 on stage, that's young comedy, solid fame, you will find 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:55.560 something new about you, not about the audience. What about you. Yeah, absolutely, 0:06:57.040 --> 0:07:00.000 I'm looking. We have questions that I want to ask you. 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:01.440 So you're the youngest of six. 0:07:02.240 --> 0:07:06.279 Yes, it feels like when I say that, I'm talking 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:11.040 about being a child from a different generational era, because 0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:16.320 it's kind of rare that people have six kids rolling around. 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:19.360 Oh my biggest question is if you was the baby 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:21.440 of six, did you ever get anything new or was 0:07:21.520 --> 0:07:22.680 everything a hand me down? 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:26.320 Oh my goodness, everything was a hand me down. All 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:28.840 my clothes for sure. And on top of that, my 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:34.240 mother very old fashioned. She was a very good seamstress. 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:38.320 So even if things like were being handed down and 0:07:38.320 --> 0:07:41.960 there were the wrong size, or my brothers, she would 0:07:42.480 --> 0:07:47.320 change them. She would just change them. On the other side, 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:51.680 I had my barbies had the most amazing clothes. My 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:55.320 mother would make clothes from my Barbies and they I 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:59.240 had fur hats for them and really cool like green 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:03.720 plastic see through raincoats from all just the different fabric. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.520 And so yeah, my barbiees had a high fashion that 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:11.440 were a couture. They had bespoke couture outfits. 0:08:11.680 --> 0:08:16.840 Oh that is that is so funny because your obsession 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:25.160 was putting clothes on body, My was taking them all. Bobby, 0:08:25.200 --> 0:08:27.040 feel freez up in here whatever you want. 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.600 I know, I'm just listening to her talk about making 0:08:29.600 --> 0:08:31.559 clothes because my mom did it, like the butt tricks, 0:08:31.600 --> 0:08:34.520 remember the butt Tricks patterns and whatnot. 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:37.840 And my mother did the same thing. She would take 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:38.240 for us. 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:40.679 She would take somebody else's outfit and or stuff they 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:43.040 were getting rid of, and she would she never because 0:08:43.040 --> 0:08:45.520 she had herself. She was one of eleven, my mom, 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:48.679 so they were pour so she would always be making 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:50.960 people's clothes over and so she would do that for me, 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:54.000 and that way nobody else knew that had handed them down, 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:55.400 that that's exactly they'd look. 0:08:55.280 --> 0:08:58.400 And go, that looks familiar. But she'd remake everything. I 0:08:58.440 --> 0:08:58.760 love it. 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:00.439 She was never so nice. I'm going to have to 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:02.160 tell her. She was a miserable mother. She never made 0:09:02.200 --> 0:09:03.720 clothes for any of my dolls. 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:06.760 I never had. You know what the irony of this 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:10.320 whole conversation is that when we were big families, I 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:11.920 didn't have a big family. My mama only had three, 0:09:11.920 --> 0:09:14.600 but my grandmother had like nine kids. I don't think 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:16.400 that we knew that we were poor. They were just 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:20.800 having kids and we were never hungry. You know, Thames 0:09:20.880 --> 0:09:23.360 were tight, you know, but I don't think we knew 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:26.160 we were poor. Now the Internet makes you remind you 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:29.320 that you're poor, you're you're less, saying you're not as 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:31.000 good as That's what they make you try to believe. 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:32.280 I don't teach my child. 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:35.480 You know. The reason the one thing I knew that 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:38.120 there was different is that when I grew up, it 0:09:38.160 --> 0:09:41.200 was it was a time of economic prosperity for my 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:47.920 family comparatively, And so I was given ballet lessons. I 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:51.240 wanted ballet lessons, and I was given ballet lessons, and 0:09:51.320 --> 0:09:55.840 no other of the kids had extracurricular activities paying for 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:59.200 an extra curric Are you crazy? But I got ballet lessons. 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:02.080 And I will tell you that somehow that ended up 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:05.480 making me a stand up because I went through I went. 0:10:05.559 --> 0:10:09.120 I went through all these ballet lessons from elementary school 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.640 all the way through high school. And my school was 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:14.839 pretty serious and I worked hard, but I was never great. 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:18.760 And they would give out awards, and I remember at 0:10:18.800 --> 0:10:21.959 the end of I think I was, you know, fourteen, 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:26.840 everyone got awards like best Pirouette or Amazing Jette or 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:30.280 whatever it was, and I got Miss Personality. 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:37.000 Oh that's the that's what you just showed up with ward. 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:43.320 Nothing says you're not gonna be a dancer. 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:46.360 Yeah, oh my god. 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:48.800 That's but it probably did get you ready because you 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:51.120 were comfortable be in front of a stage, you know, 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:51.920 in front of people. 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:56.720 That that and it built you a character. Because now 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:59.640 everybody is given an award, so there's no distinction of 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:03.200 who's the best, who's the second best is because everybody 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:06.720 now gets ah, you get honorable mention. It makes people weak. 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:09.200 To me, that's just my opinion. I like, these keys 0:11:09.240 --> 0:11:10.000 need to work forward. 0:11:10.320 --> 0:11:10.680 That's true. 0:11:10.920 --> 0:11:13.480 We're glad you participated, but you have to work to 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:15.880 get this trophy. But they don't have that anymore because 0:11:15.920 --> 0:11:18.160 everybody wants to be rewarded for nothing. 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:19.319 That is so true. 0:11:19.400 --> 0:11:19.840 It's true. 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:24.880 I also I also think, like just the discipline of 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:28.640 doing something all the time and maybe not being good 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:31.400 at it. As you know, ballet and that dance did 0:11:31.440 --> 0:11:33.760 not come supernaturally to me. My body was not, you know, 0:11:33.880 --> 0:11:35.760 something like the physical like that. There are people with 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:39.200 just advantages based on how their genetics are put together, 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:41.640 and the rest of us have to work really really 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:45.320 hard to just get okay. And let me tell you 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:48.440 something that is a good thing to learn for stand 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:52.040 up comedy, because stand up comedy requires a huge commitment 0:11:52.400 --> 0:11:55.400 and a lot of discipline. I think some people go faster, 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:58.360 some people start really naturally great, but at a certain 0:11:58.440 --> 0:12:00.280 point you're all going to due. 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:06.880 You gonna do that. Oh yeah, And any comedian, any 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:09.560 comedian work there waiting salt will say I've had some 0:12:09.679 --> 0:12:12.200 lousy nights, And I said that because that's what you 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.679 have to do. It was one show. If you come 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:17.120 take that whole component on was like I wasn't. It 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:20.559 was one show. You might have two shows bad back 0:12:20.600 --> 0:12:22.400 to back. Now if you have three or more, you 0:12:22.480 --> 0:12:27.040 might want to rethink your profession. But but don't. 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:29.679 Don't you learn something now, guys, I mean because I'm 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:32.520 not I'm not a comedian when you have those bad shows, 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:34.640 isn't there something like a pearl that you can pull 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:37.240 away and say I didn't hit the timing right? Or 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:40.320 maybe for this you have to change your set for 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:43.480 a certain audience because you know, if you neither one 0:12:43.480 --> 0:12:45.120 of you are too raunchy. But if you are doing 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:46.600 raunchy things, you're not going to do it in front 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:50.480 of a seven year old audience. No, It's it's like 0:12:50.520 --> 0:12:51.320 a lesson, right. 0:12:51.480 --> 0:12:53.880 I think you have to accept the process of it too, 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:59.240 which is its own kind of interesting mind shift because 0:12:59.440 --> 0:13:02.000 I some times we'll have a string of not great 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:04.880 shows at like a club, and I'll say to another 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:07.240 comedian that I highly respect and look up to, like, 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:09.840 oh my god, I gotta like get through this rut, 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:12.079 and they go, oh, you know, every once in a while, 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:13.600 I'll just do a bunch of shows and I'll even 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:16.040 go I'll say to myself, am I even a comedian? 0:13:16.280 --> 0:13:18.880 And just to know that everyone's always going through that, 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:21.720 And I think that's better because, like you said, Bobby, 0:13:21.760 --> 0:13:24.200 it makes you reflect and go, what's different? What do 0:13:24.280 --> 0:13:26.520 I need to change? Something's not working? I need to 0:13:26.600 --> 0:13:29.439 grow with this instead of just going like, well, just 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:30.959 keep doing it, it will work again. 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:33.840 Yeah, that is that is very true. I fear because 0:13:33.840 --> 0:13:35.960 a lot of comedians take on every show, got the 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:38.560 h and I love. I love when I have a 0:13:38.600 --> 0:13:41.440 string of twelve straight great shows in a row. But 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:43.360 then when at thirteen will come, I'm gonna allow that 0:13:43.400 --> 0:13:46.680 to have more more power of me having a bad 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:49.280 show than the twelve that I'm twelve consistently good shows 0:13:49.320 --> 0:13:51.800 that hey, and you're right here, we do question like, oh, 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:53.920 is this really what I'm supposed to be doing? Should 0:13:53.920 --> 0:13:56.960 I be a comedian? Because it's like that, and you know, 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:59.000 and for us so we've been in a game for 0:13:59.120 --> 0:14:02.400 twenty years, it's still like that. It is October and 0:14:03.559 --> 0:14:06.040 it is recipentis awareness month, and we've seen in your 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:09.439 bio that your mom survived. For me answer so, oh 0:14:09.600 --> 0:14:10.760 thank god. 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:11.960 Oh Farah, oh Sarah me? 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:16.439 Are you s yes? Are you look? I hope to 0:14:16.440 --> 0:14:19.680 get mammograms. I hope they haven't. Fan it's a couple 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:21.320 of months in here, but I think they like, don't know, 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:25.120 for a VISCA or something. I'm not sure. How was 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:29.200 how was that when you were diagnosed with that? How 0:14:29.720 --> 0:14:30.040 was that? 0:14:30.080 --> 0:14:33.040 I mean, you know, the the non funny side of 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:36.560 it is that it broke me apart into pieces. I 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:41.080 think because you feel I felt a sense of intense betrayal, 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:45.440 betrayal of my body, betrayal of the world. Like I 0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:46.840 was like, this is not my story, this is not 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:48.840 how it's supposed to be. I don't want to deal 0:14:48.920 --> 0:14:51.880 with this being you know, I grew up in Canada, 0:14:51.920 --> 0:14:54.040 but I've obviously lived in the US for many years. 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:58.520 But dealing with the medical system is very hard. You 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:01.200 have to stand up for yourself lot and really wade 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:04.640 through that. I will say that, you know, when I 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:07.120 was eight, I went on stage a lot, every time 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:11.000 I could throughout all of it, and the stage became 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:16.280 my refuge because you know, you're so active when you're 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:18.920 on stage. You're so active. You know, people talk about 0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:21.720 live in the moment, be present. There's no living in 0:15:21.760 --> 0:15:24.000 the moment like you are when you're on stage. And 0:15:24.080 --> 0:15:28.320 I could kind of pretend I was what the old 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:31.040 O Fera like, I wasn't ready yet to move on 0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:33.040 to whoever I was going to be coming up. I 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:34.760 didn't know who that was because I was in the 0:15:34.800 --> 0:15:37.280 middle of it. But I could be the old O 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:42.600 Fera and I loved it. I loved living in this 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:49.480 kind of suspended fantasy of everything's okay. You know, and 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:52.760 you get the light. I'm sure many of your listeners know. 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:54.360 If I'm listening to all your episodes as a stand up, 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:55.920 they often give you the light when it's time to 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:58.480 get off stage at a club, and I would want 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:00.840 I wouldn't want to get off because I'd be like, 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:03.080 then I have to go back to reality. 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:07.680 As as a person who transy the woman who have breath, 0:16:07.800 --> 0:16:09.360 I want to tell you or something I want to 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:12.040 tell you, thank you for choosing to fight to live 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:15.240 because a lot of times it's mind of a manner 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.760 to peep with me to people because you hear something 0:16:17.800 --> 0:16:20.920 horrible and oh, this is it for me, I'm done. 0:16:20.960 --> 0:16:24.920 It's not. You have to turn it around mentally because 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:27.320 the man controls everything. And I love you. Thank you 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:29.640 for choosing to fight and winning. Thank you for that, 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:31.480 because a lot of people just throw into towel and 0:16:31.520 --> 0:16:33.920 say it's over, I'm done, I'm going to die. This 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.840 is it. It's never it, It's never it, and that 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:38.480 you choose for it to be it. So thank you. 0:16:38.560 --> 0:16:41.680 Yeah, Oh my goodness, that is so so nice here here, 0:16:41.880 --> 0:16:44.840 and it is it is scary, and you know, I 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:48.600 feel like there is I become very aware of, you know, 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:50.680 that kind of life force in you where you kind 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:52.840 of get I don't know, I got a little angry, 0:16:52.920 --> 0:16:54.720 like I was like, I can't wait to get through 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:57.360 this so I can make fun of it, and I 0:16:57.400 --> 0:16:59.560 want to write about it, and I want to I 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:02.520 also so I just wanted I didn't relate to the 0:17:02.560 --> 0:17:04.840 pink ribbon campaign. I didn't relate to a lot of 0:17:04.880 --> 0:17:06.560 the stuff that was like, all right, everybody, you have 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:09.600 breast cancer, throwing a pink bow on hop on a bike. 0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:13.240 I was like, no, like, where are where are the 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:16.840 people like me that want the I don't know, goth version, like, oh, 0:17:16.880 --> 0:17:19.600 let's all dress in black and have a bourbon shot 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:26.879 to talk about how things are weird. You know. So 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:29.840 I wanted to. I wanted to be so young, too 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:33.040 so soon and out of nowhere. You know, I think 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:35.719 they apply us with genetics and I didn't have any 0:17:35.800 --> 0:17:38.600 of the markers. So it just felt like, you know, 0:17:38.920 --> 0:17:41.240 and that's the truth of all so many things in 0:17:41.240 --> 0:17:43.440 the medical industry. You want answers. You're like, well, how 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:45.880 did it happen, where's it come from? And sometimes they 0:17:45.960 --> 0:17:48.840 just go, I don't know. Hard, that is so hard. 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:52.840 Somebody's got to be first. Yeah, yeah, somebody's got to 0:17:52.880 --> 0:17:53.359 be first. 0:17:54.280 --> 0:17:56.560 And how many children do you have with I. 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:59.040 Just have one, but he feels like many. 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:03.680 Well, well you were older, right, so I had mine 0:18:03.720 --> 0:18:06.600 really young, so you have tons of energy, So having 0:18:06.600 --> 0:18:08.800 one that's a little. If I ever had one, my god, 0:18:08.840 --> 0:18:10.560 I have to take a nap and a snack just 0:18:10.560 --> 0:18:11.440 to get them out of bed. 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:14.879 I don't know how you thank you, thank you? Flame it? 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:16.439 How many I have? 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:19.080 My pull out game? And my pull out game was 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:26.120 not as tight as you learned. It's called trial by era, 0:18:26.320 --> 0:18:30.600 trial by era. I can't get caught up. But how 0:18:30.680 --> 0:18:34.480 much how much does your child did you take to 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:37.119 use as a material on stage? Because my children have 0:18:37.280 --> 0:18:40.719 become my greatest material from experience. 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:44.800 Oh yes, oh yes, I mean for one, I think, 0:18:45.680 --> 0:18:47.639 I mean it's a gold mine out there. If you 0:18:47.800 --> 0:18:53.320 don't use it, you were missing out. And two I yeah, 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:55.639 so I just so much. And I even host a 0:18:55.640 --> 0:18:57.840 podcast called Parenting as a Joke, which, by the way, 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:01.840 you need to come on, where we talk about funny 0:19:01.880 --> 0:19:04.920 people comedians, because you know, this is a very non 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:07.960 traditional job we have with weird hours and what it's 0:19:07.960 --> 0:19:10.920 like to parent on top of that. So I use 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:15.040 my kid in my act as much as possible, you know, 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:17.720 bearing in mind that I think as he gets older, 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:20.040 I'll have to maybe pull back a little bit because 0:19:20.040 --> 0:19:21.960 I don't want him to ever feel like I'm talking 0:19:22.000 --> 0:19:26.879 about him on stage, you know. But it's a gold mine. 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:30.280 And I also like the fact that I, you know, 0:19:30.359 --> 0:19:33.119 I come from this perspective where I was I was 0:19:33.240 --> 0:19:35.199 child I thought I was going to be childless by 0:19:35.280 --> 0:19:40.400 choice forever. I change my mind and managed to get pregnant, 0:19:40.520 --> 0:19:43.960 you know, by a miracle and have a child. And 0:19:44.080 --> 0:19:47.360 I like talking about it on stage because I want 0:19:48.240 --> 0:19:51.679 I want everyone to kind of look at me and 0:19:51.920 --> 0:19:55.320 just think that it's cool and it's relevant and it's real, 0:19:56.320 --> 0:19:57.960 you know, because I think some people go, oh, like 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:01.320 parenting humor, it's i don't know, like not not cool, right, 0:20:01.400 --> 0:20:04.600 It's like, especially mom humor. They'll be like, oh, it's 0:20:04.640 --> 0:20:07.600 not cool, and I'm like, no, it's totally cool. It's 0:20:07.840 --> 0:20:12.720 it's totally relevant and you're gonna laugh at this because 0:20:12.720 --> 0:20:15.680 it's part of the human experience. And I cannot tell 0:20:15.720 --> 0:20:17.040 you the amount of people that come up to me 0:20:17.080 --> 0:20:20.680 after a show and basically secretly just want to know 0:20:21.320 --> 0:20:24.520 all kinds of things. They're like, did you have fertility? 0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:27.879 Things like people are so curious if they are thinking 0:20:27.920 --> 0:20:30.399 of having a family, like a how are you doing 0:20:30.440 --> 0:20:32.880 it with the night? So many questions. So I feel 0:20:32.880 --> 0:20:35.359 like that's good. I must be hitting some conversation that 0:20:35.400 --> 0:20:36.280 people aren't having. 0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:39.199 And that is what a great comedian is to me, 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:43.080 my opinion, will Field someone who could talk about stuff 0:20:43.119 --> 0:20:47.119 that is relatable to everybody. Now no gender, no sex, 0:20:47.280 --> 0:20:50.719 no size, no color, but it's relatable. So you are 0:20:50.880 --> 0:20:53.600 helping and teaching somebody. But my key is I always 0:20:53.600 --> 0:20:55.399