Speaker 1: Hell We Suck At Being Newlyweds Hayla Miller Key and
Speaker 1: Jared haven An iHeartRadio podcast. Hello everyone, and welcome to
Speaker 1: an all new episode of Help We Suck At Being Newlyweds.
Speaker 1: We have an incredible guest on with us today is
Speaker 1: none other than Jade herself. Thanks for coming on, Hi,
Speaker 1: thank you for having me. Congrats by the way, Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm so excited for you, thank you, thank you,
Speaker 1: and I'm happy to have you on here. You've been
Speaker 1: married for seven years, so us crazy feel it feels
Speaker 1: like forever, like we've been married, like I can't even
Speaker 1: remember life before marriage now, but it also goes by
Speaker 1: so quickly. Is it weirder to think of life before
Speaker 1: marriage or life before kids? Definitely life before kids, because
Speaker 1: that changes everything, right, So getting married, especially three, will
Speaker 1: do it to you. There is a whole different ballgame.
Speaker 1: But I mean getting married, if you've known each other
Speaker 1: for a while or you've lived at each other for
Speaker 1: a while, it really doesn't change that much, right. So
Speaker 1: it's more the kids. I think that's the big game
Speaker 1: changer because then your life revolves more around raising children.
Speaker 1: So wait, did you just have Wait? When was your
Speaker 1: seven year anniversary? Was it January January twenty fourth? Wow,
Speaker 1: I know rap, that was seven years ago, that wedding. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I saw yesterday for I guess for Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1: That's seven years ago is when the episode aired. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and I got I got like a little timeline reminder.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my gosh, I cannot believe I
Speaker 1: forgot that it aired on Valentine's Day. That's right. I
Speaker 1: forgot about two That was during Ben's That was like
Speaker 1: the twentieth anniversary special. Yeah. Yeah, and you and Ashley
Speaker 1: had a nice little cameo. Jesus Christ, it's all a
Speaker 1: lawns fall. It's always all lawns fall. That's yes, seven
Speaker 1: years ago. I'll never forget the moment where JJ came
Speaker 1: to sit at the table and because they were teasing
Speaker 1: us about your first song featuring a celebrity musician, and
Speaker 1: j J was like, dude, Seal is singing their first song,
Speaker 1: Seal is here. That is awesome. And then of course
Speaker 1: he came out singing Kissed by a Rose. I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: this is the coolest thing ever. Oh God, what a day. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it was pretty epic. Did you know it was going
Speaker 1: to be seal or was that a surprise to you guys?
Speaker 1: Do I can't remember, no, so Matt Nathanson saying, when
Speaker 1: I walked down the aisle and we knew that one,
Speaker 1: but Alan was like, I want to keep it as
Speaker 1: surprised for you. Who's going to be like your first
Speaker 1: song as husband and wife. And but I don't know
Speaker 1: if you remember, but our wedding was stalled by two
Speaker 1: hours and that's why everybody was so dry by the
Speaker 1: time I walked down the aisle because they were just
Speaker 1: feeding everybody liquor. And I heard it was because Steel
Speaker 1: was like giving them drama. He was like in the
Speaker 1: bathroom and refusing to come out and didn't want to
Speaker 1: play for oh my god, yeah something. There was some
Speaker 1: kind of drama. So but then obviously it worked out
Speaker 1: and it wouldn't be a Bachelor Special episode if there
Speaker 1: wasn't drama. You know, really, do do you ever regret
Speaker 1: having it on television? Are you happy you did it?
Speaker 1: Um like little pieces that I regret. So obviously it
Speaker 1: was amazing. It was a beautiful wedding. I don't think
Speaker 1: I could have asked for anything more that way, But
Speaker 1: having it be a production even though they made it
Speaker 1: feel more like a wedding than a TV set. There's
Speaker 1: just things that I wish I would have gotten more of,
Speaker 1: like we didn't. I thought we would have had a videographer,
Speaker 1: which I should have asked for, but I thought we
Speaker 1: were going to have more wedding footage, so I was like,
Speaker 1: they'll take care of that for me. But I literally
Speaker 1: don't have any wedding footage of our wedding besides what
Speaker 1: aired on television, and some of our vows are cut out.
Speaker 1: Like there's just things that I wish that we would
Speaker 1: have had that you get in a normal wedding. Like
Speaker 1: the photographer was rushed because they were running behind on production,
Speaker 1: so I don't have as many like wedding photos as
Speaker 1: I wanted and things like things like that. But I mean,
Speaker 1: they paid for all of our family, all of our
Speaker 1: friends to come out to California and so like yeah,
Speaker 1: so I mean I can't complain because they footed the
Speaker 1: whole thing. But it's just like now I'm seven years
Speaker 1: married and on our anniversary, we don't even have like
Speaker 1: anything true that we can watch back besides what was
Speaker 1: produced as a show, which is which is like chunks
Speaker 1: of our wedding throughout you know, it's like little scenes
Speaker 1: so with like drama sprinkled into it. Yeah yeah, and
Speaker 1: like people asking like like people like I remember Chris
Speaker 1: Harrison was asking people to do the mesnics, so like
Speaker 1: people were like doing like a fake cry, and there
Speaker 1: was like the top Villains and like all these things
Speaker 1: that were kind of sprinkled into that episode and so
Speaker 1: it wasn't like just about our wedding. So yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: do you think for your tenure you would have like
Speaker 1: a vow renewal slash redo not a redo wedding, but
Speaker 1: like a sort of ceremony. I always like the idea,
Speaker 1: but people always say that's like the killer of marriages
Speaker 1: and to never do a vow renewal. Why though, I
Speaker 1: don't get it because Ashley says that too. She says
Speaker 1: she never wants to renew her vows. But I don't
Speaker 1: get why. I don't know. I think they they say
Speaker 1: like if you're needing to renew your vows, like if
Speaker 1: it's more about the vows, then maybe your marriage is
Speaker 1: already going a bad direction. So I'm like, maybe we'll
Speaker 1: have more of just like a party, you know, like
Speaker 1: another just like aware a wedding dress. We'll have a party,
Speaker 1: like my kids will get to be there, which I
Speaker 1: think would be really special. So maybe something more like that.
Speaker 1: That's fun. We just had Trista on and she had
Speaker 1: a valornewel for her tenth and she wants to have
Speaker 1: another one for her twentieth. So yeah, maybe I should talk. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I should talk to her then, because they're like like
Speaker 1: top notch relationship goals. Yeah serious. I mean, like you know,
Speaker 1: a vow of course is like the biggest promise you
Speaker 1: can give, but like you know, I I need to
Speaker 1: make promises all the time, So like, I don't think
Speaker 1: there's an issue if I'm like, oh okay, yeah, let's read.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I understand why you want to, like
Speaker 1: the idea of not renewing it you don't have to.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, like I think it's also
Speaker 1: different for you and Tanner because like you guys said,
Speaker 1: you didn't have you have this beautiful, incredible wedding, but
Speaker 1: it was it was also I'm sure if you have
Speaker 1: an idea Jade in your head of like, okay, well
Speaker 1: what I would do is this, You can do that now, right? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean they did give me everything I asked for.
Speaker 1: So I wanted to be married under a weeping willow,
Speaker 1: and so they didn't, like they married me under that
Speaker 1: like pergola or whatever that thing was. But they brought
Speaker 1: in weeping willows with cranes and put them all around
Speaker 1: like the wedding venue. So it was like they went
Speaker 1: above and beyond a certain things. So that is so cool. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I remember Matt Nathanson plane, he played Bill Murray, which
Speaker 1: that song. It was the first I've ever heard that song,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god, this song is awesome.
Speaker 1: And now I listened to it all the time. It's
Speaker 1: so good. We play it all the time. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: is that Would you consider that your wedding song? Or
Speaker 1: would you consider Kissed by a Rose your wedding song? Um,
Speaker 1: I feel like I have a more emotional attachment to
Speaker 1: Bill Murray, But I mean there's it's it's just epic
Speaker 1: to blast kiss by a Rose, you know, and just
Speaker 1: it's I don't know, it is such a good one. Damn,
Speaker 1: it's such a great song, just the beginning, like everybody
Speaker 1: knows that song. Yeah, so good. Yeah, your wedding felt
Speaker 1: like a wedding that was That was cool because like
Speaker 1: we've been lucky enough to go to I think three
Speaker 1: filmed weddings yours, Carly and Evans and um Kristen Crystals,
Speaker 1: and I yeah, like, by far, your guys felt like
Speaker 1: the most wedding of the wedding. Yeah. I feel bad
Speaker 1: because Christen Crystals, you know, unfortunately didn't work out. But
Speaker 1: their wedding it felt like a TV show. I remember
Speaker 1: that drama. Yeah, I felt bad. It felt like they
Speaker 1: set up the scene just for the drama and like
Speaker 1: the wedding was the background. Yeah. Yeah, it didn't feel
Speaker 1: like it just felt Yeah, it felt like TV show. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but what are you gonna do? I mean, it was
Speaker 1: a TV show, so you know if the shoe fits. Um. So,
Speaker 1: you have obviously been married for seven years, you have
Speaker 1: three kids, potentially wanting a fourth. So what is Listen,
Speaker 1: we're gonna we're talking about dating, We're talking about everything.
Speaker 1: So you can answer any question with as much discretion
Speaker 1: as you'd like. How do you guys get alone intimate
Speaker 1: time with three kids running around the house Because it's
Speaker 1: difficult enough with one child, I can't imagine adding two
Speaker 1: more to the mix. Yeah, for one, I do want
Speaker 1: to normalize I saw this statistic the other day about
Speaker 1: like how much sex couples are having after they have
Speaker 1: a baby, and it varies a lot, but there's I
Speaker 1: don't think people are having as much sex as society
Speaker 1: likes to, like create because there is this whole new
Speaker 1: transition of a baby in your life, and it does
Speaker 1: change everything and it does change a little bit of
Speaker 1: the dynamics of your relationship. But for us, what really
Speaker 1: works because it's definitely like important to us to keep
Speaker 1: that physical intimacy, and I think there are other ways
Speaker 1: that you could be intimate with your partner two that
Speaker 1: don't have to be sex, that can keep you close
Speaker 1: after a baby. But we schedule sex. And I've talked
Speaker 1: about it before and people some people think it's crazy,
Speaker 1: but it's really what works for us. So um, we
Speaker 1: tried to come up with a number that works for
Speaker 1: us and what makes more my husband feel at least
Speaker 1: somewhat satisfied. I mean, I know, if like I was like, hey,
Speaker 1: let's have more sex, he would be like, yeah, yeah, baby,
Speaker 1: let's go, you know. But we schedule it, and so
Speaker 1: we have a night and sometimes it's loose. Sometimes the
Speaker 1: night doesn't work and we're fine with it. We don't
Speaker 1: try to put pressure on it, but we put the
Speaker 1: kids to bed and um sometimes Emmy has a hard
Speaker 1: time going to bed um earlier, so we just have
Speaker 1: to make it work. There's been times where she's almost
Speaker 1: locked in the door at intimate times, but there's definitely
Speaker 1: definitely been those moments where we were like holy crap, like,
Speaker 1: well there's the comforter over. But it's it's something that
Speaker 1: we're trying to prioritize in our relationship because we want
Speaker 1: to have a healthy marriage and we want our kids
Speaker 1: to like see a healthy marriage. So it's for us
Speaker 1: and it's also oddly for them, No, that makes sense.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing with Ashley and I where we
Speaker 1: have to schedule. It's like all right, Tuesday, like yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, you're not like you're not going to be
Speaker 1: at Audreies all that much, and so because it's it's
Speaker 1: and so like you put the kid to bed and
Speaker 1: then you're like all right, like uh, let's you know,
Speaker 1: she like goes to do her thing for a minute
Speaker 1: and then I'll like freshen up and then here we go.
Speaker 1: But you're right, you have to schedule it. There's no
Speaker 1: like impromptu anymore. And it's tough too, because, like you said,
Speaker 1: when you have kids, things change intimacy whiles, but also
Speaker 1: like I don't feel as good as I once did,
Speaker 1: Like I don't work out as much, I don't eat
Speaker 1: as healthy as I once did. Ashley's body changed for
Speaker 1: a while, and then she still like doesn't work out
Speaker 1: as much, and it's just like we're always covered in
Speaker 1: drool and you know, baby food and just changing diapers
Speaker 1: like yesterday, like I picked uson up and it had
Speaker 1: like a will poop on the outside of his diaper
Speaker 1: and it got on my arm. And it's like you
Speaker 1: just don't feel sexy anymore. So it's hard. It's not easy,
Speaker 1: I agree, And and it's it's kind of one of
Speaker 1: those things where it's like it's not spontaneous anymore. And
Speaker 1: maybe that's not like sexy, but it's still something I
Speaker 1: feel like if you're not, I don't know, it just
Speaker 1: needs to be a priority in some ways. But I
Speaker 1: also do think that it's so natural for a woman,
Speaker 1: especially hormonally, to go through those shifts, and so it's
Speaker 1: it's hard, Like I don't want people to feel like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm not having sex right now after having kids or
Speaker 1: having a baby, Like I want that to be normalized too,
Speaker 1: like as long as you and your partner are communicating
Speaker 1: and that, like I said, there's other ways to be
Speaker 1: like intimate with your partner. Like for me, I like,
Speaker 1: I really need conversation with Tanner, Like I need to
Speaker 1: talk about things that aren't children, that aren't like you know,
Speaker 1: like things that I'm already like mentally overloaded with that
Speaker 1: makes me feel close to him so well to hear, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's you need that adult time. Even last night we
Speaker 1: went out to dinner, so we made them so well.
Speaker 1: So on Valentine's Day we went out to dinner, and
Speaker 1: we went out to dinner as a family, so my
Speaker 1: parents made reservations, so as my parents, my brother in law,
Speaker 1: my sister, their daughter, and then me and Ashley with Dawson.
Speaker 1: And first of all, I'm the definition of the person
Speaker 1: who hates going on on Valentine's Day because it's such
Speaker 1: amateur hour. Because everybody who never goes out goes out
Speaker 1: of Valentine's Day. So it's packed, it's crowded. People that
Speaker 1: never leave the house are leaving the house and they're
Speaker 1: just the worst. And so I'm like, we let's celebrate
Speaker 1: a different time. But anyway, we went out to dinner.
Speaker 1: It was nice, but like you said, it's impossible to
Speaker 1: have adult conversations when they're children are at the table
Speaker 1: because you're always just focusing, Like even when I try
Speaker 1: to listen, my other eye and so is Ashley's. Were
Speaker 1: always like watching Dawson because he's like grabbing things. He
Speaker 1: broke a pepper shaker yesterday because it was just like
Speaker 1: out of it was barely in his reach and he
Speaker 1: just like grabbed it for a second. It just and
Speaker 1: we're like oh, and then he's like grabbing plates. So
Speaker 1: it's like impossible to have adult time. And I was
Speaker 1: thinking about that last night, exactly what you talked about,
Speaker 1: where it's like, man, I wish as much as I
Speaker 1: love having the kids here, I wish we got a
Speaker 1: babysitter for the kids so we could actually sit down
Speaker 1: and just like talk because you need that adult conversation. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think that's something Tanner and I've kind of realized
Speaker 1: is we need to hire a babysitter more for date
Speaker 1: nights because we rely a lot on his mom and
Speaker 1: she's only she has a very limited availability and He's like, well,
Speaker 1: we should be doing this more, and we should be
Speaker 1: doing this more, but it's too hard with kids. I
Speaker 1: was like, it is not. We just don't prioritize going
Speaker 1: on dates by just hiring somebody else. You know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm getting out there and having those adult conversations and
Speaker 1: getting to just be a couple. How much would you
Speaker 1: have to vet the person in order for them to
Speaker 1: become a babysitter of your kids? That's the problem, right,
Speaker 1: because I think about you, because you just said, like Tanner,
Speaker 1: it's not that hard. We just need to hire a babysitter.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, someone tells me that Jade would be
Speaker 1: much more nervous about the babysitter than Tanner. It is hard.
Speaker 1: It is hard to trust somebody to take care of
Speaker 1: your child who you love in a door and want
Speaker 1: to be taken care of a certain way. It's there's
Speaker 1: some surrender in it, you know. But it's also like
Speaker 1: I'm going to turn on the furbow and make sure
Speaker 1: oh yeah, oh watching the living room or you know,
Speaker 1: like the dog camera's coming, handy for watching the babysitter
Speaker 1: and the kid interact, Like making sure that everything's going smoothly. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I always tell them, I'm like, there's a nanny camera
Speaker 1: right here, but oh yeah, there's a dog. The dog
Speaker 1: cameras on, like there's it's very visible. They know that
Speaker 1: we're watching. Yeah, Jade, if you could describe your relationship
Speaker 1: in one word with Tanner when you first were newlyweds,
Speaker 1: I know I'm putting you on the spot right now,
Speaker 1: but I want you to describe your relationship in one
Speaker 1: word with you and Tanner when you guys were first newlyweds.
Speaker 1: And I want you to describe your relationship in one
Speaker 1: word right now. And I'm curious what word you would
Speaker 1: use if you would use the same word. If you'd
Speaker 1: use it, I would imagine it'd probably be different words.
Speaker 1: But what word comes to mind? I want to say,
Speaker 1: just like more spontaneous. We were just having fun like
Speaker 1: we were. We got married early. We only knew each
Speaker 1: other for seven months, so we were still in that
Speaker 1: like really, I mean, we knew each other and we
Speaker 1: knew we wanted to get married and everything, but we
Speaker 1: were still really getting to know each other. So I
Speaker 1: still think it was more exciting. But also he went
Speaker 1: back to work and after we got married or after
Speaker 1: the Bachelor. I guess that chlarette for him, and so
Speaker 1: he was working like sixty hours a week, so he
Speaker 1: was busy too. But it just felt like we always
Speaker 1: were just having We were just always spontaneous, like on
Speaker 1: the days he had off, we were just doing fun
Speaker 1: stuff together. Yeah, what about now, So spontaneous, will say,
Speaker 1: is the word you're going to use for nuliods, which
Speaker 1: I like, And if you had to use one word
Speaker 1: right now, chaos, that is pretty accurate surviving. I know,
Speaker 1: you guys just I mean when we were there, I
Speaker 1: remember talking to Ashley. She was so when we went
Speaker 1: to your house, because you know, with three kids and
Speaker 1: then you add Dawson in that mix, it's just like
Speaker 1: constantly all over the time. And she was like, I
Speaker 1: want to be able to like talk to Tanner and Jade,
Speaker 1: you know, and hang out them. But it's like, well,
Speaker 1: of course we can, and we want to, but it's
Speaker 1: tough because it's like we got kids running around everywhere,
Speaker 1: and so, yeah, you guys are in constant chaos. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know. I think it's kind of funny. When you
Speaker 1: guys were here, we were all just sitting on the
Speaker 1: floor in the room and just letting like literal little
Speaker 1: toys being chucked around our heads just so we could
Speaker 1: sit and chat. Yeah, seriously, but it works. Yeah, gotta
Speaker 1: do what you gotta do, Like you said, survival mode.
Speaker 1: But then so you're talking about survival mode. But when
Speaker 1: we were there, you were very open about I want
Speaker 1: a fourth kid. Oh yeah, I'm crazy. I don't know.
Speaker 1: There's just something in like my heart of hearts that
Speaker 1: feels like there's just one more kid out there that
Speaker 1: will complete our family, and it just feels that waits me.
Speaker 1: But also at the same time, Tanner and I talk
Speaker 1: because Reed is too and he's really getting to the
Speaker 1: point where he's he's not a baby. He's a little
Speaker 1: more independent, he's starting to like become his own more
Speaker 1: of his own person, and so it's like we're almost
Speaker 1: getting to the point where we're almost out of the diapers,
Speaker 1: We're almost out of like the sleep the sleep issues
Speaker 1: and everything. And they'll all be in school, which is crazy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he can go to school next year, so for preschool
Speaker 1: and part time. So I think tannersy is the light
Speaker 1: at the end of the tunnel. Yeah, yeah, but I
Speaker 1: told them, I was like I kind of see it
Speaker 1: the opposite way, because we're almost the era of like
Speaker 1: twenty four to seven parental chauffeur, because they'll be kid events,
Speaker 1: there's kid games, there's like friends friend like social circle
Speaker 1: things going on. Like we'll just be constantly driving our
Speaker 1: kids to their little lives. I don't feel like there's
Speaker 1: much of a light at the end of the tunnel.
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't know, I feel like we're
Speaker 1: entering just as busy of an era. So why not
Speaker 1: just have a little nugget that I just like pack
Speaker 1: in the baby carrier and carry it around everywhere. You're
Speaker 1: really selling this, You're you're making it sound logistically like, yeah,
Speaker 1: that could work. Think about it, because like you're making
Speaker 1: it sound like Tanner, when they're at we're gonna have
Speaker 1: no it's gonna feel like we have no kids, So
Speaker 1: might as well just add one more to the pile,
Speaker 1: because then we'll just have one well kind of yeah,
Speaker 1: when they're in school at least, but then also like
Speaker 1: we'll just be going to baseball games and basketball games
Speaker 1: and dance recitals, like we'll just be busy parents anyway,
Speaker 1: that's not like we're just gonna I think he thinks
Speaker 1: once the kids are in school, We'll just have so
Speaker 1: much more time together. I'm like, I feel like it's
Speaker 1: gonna be just as busy. So throw another one in there.
Speaker 1: Did you always know, Jade, that you were going to
Speaker 1: be this motherly? Like? Did you feel before you had
Speaker 1: because you are the most like loving and endearing and
Speaker 1: just hard working but like there's a word that I
Speaker 1: can't think of, but like you are just like you're
Speaker 1: just an an incredible mom. And so did you always know?
Speaker 1: Did you always feel like you were going to be
Speaker 1: this person? Or were you nervous before you had kids? Like,
Speaker 1: am am I gonna be this? Am I gonna be
Speaker 1: a good mom? Yeah? I don't. I think maybe when
Speaker 1: I was younger, I always wanted to be a mom,
Speaker 1: But before I met Tanner, I really didn't know if
Speaker 1: I wanted kids. I really didn't know if I wanted
Speaker 1: to get married. And I think it was just because
Speaker 1: my parents were divorced. They got divorced when I was
Speaker 1: twenty three, and so I was like an adult child
Speaker 1: of divorce and it really like rocked my whole. Like
Speaker 1: I guess idea of marriage and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I certainly don't want that. And I don't want my
Speaker 1: kids to ever have to feel this, and so I
Speaker 1: think I was like, I don't know if I even
Speaker 1: want to go through that. And that was more of
Speaker 1: me just healing, I think, and growing as a person,
Speaker 1: because once I met Tanner, I was like I could
Speaker 1: see myself having a family with this man. And then
Speaker 1: when we got pregnant, I was instantly I was like
Speaker 1: that woman that was like instantly connected with Emerson. Like
Speaker 1: it was so I told I'm gonna get you guys.
Speaker 1: I get emotional talk about this stuff. I want to cry.
Speaker 1: I swear to God on every podcast. Um. But I've
Speaker 1: told Ashley before, like it was such a spiritual experience
Speaker 1: for me with Emmy UM, which I didn't really have
Speaker 1: but my other two pregnancies. For some reason, it was
Speaker 1: just maybe that's what yeah, maybe or maybe it was
Speaker 1: just like it was just meant to be that moment
Speaker 1: for me just to heal, for healing, I don't know,
Speaker 1: but from then it was just like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: it takes over and I love, I love I love
Speaker 1: being a mom. I it would be weird to think
Speaker 1: about myself not being a mom now. Oh yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I feel like these days you see people like you
Speaker 1: just don't see a bunch of siblings running around anymore.
Speaker 1: So you'll see like a parent half one or two
Speaker 1: and they're like, I'm done. I'm done. So to see
Speaker 1: you see, to hear you say I want to have
Speaker 1: more is really sweet. Oh thank you. Yeah. I mean
Speaker 1: I think statistically people are having less children. It's just
Speaker 1: kind of society. But I don't know, I can tell you.
Speaker 1: I'm just like, maybe I'm just like the weird one
Speaker 1: that's like, I'll take another baby. So I love it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're not the weird one. I told you Jared too
Speaker 1: when you guys were here. It's just I think about
Speaker 1: the future and I think about as older and my
Speaker 1: children as adults, and like wanting to have like a
Speaker 1: tight knit big family so like Christmases and Thanksgivings and everything.
Speaker 1: It's just like I just see like lots of kids
Speaker 1: and lots of I don't know, that's it's something that
Speaker 1: I like. Obviously I can't predict what my children do,
Speaker 1: but it's something I see in my head. Yeah, oh,
Speaker 1: trust me. You know when I think about my childhood
Speaker 1: and being so I have one sibling, but you know,
Speaker 1: we had three cousins. That we were super close with,
Speaker 1: and so it would be kind of like almost like
Speaker 1: five of us at Christmas and Thanksgiving, which created such
Speaker 1: more of like a family dynamic because then you have
Speaker 1: my parents and my own uncle and like you know,
Speaker 1: there like their cousins come over that we saw, so
Speaker 1: there was always a houseful and so that is very enticing.
Speaker 1: Like I love that, and I understand when you were
Speaker 1: talking about it. I totally understand where you're coming from,
Speaker 1: which is why I wouldn't want an only child. But man,
Speaker 1: it's so tough to separate, you know, the struggle you
Speaker 1: have with a newborn versus the payoff that happens later on.
Speaker 1: And we're really getting into the payoff stage with Dawson
Speaker 1: because you know, I've talked about this in the podcast before,
Speaker 1: where like a lot of my buddies were like, when
Speaker 1: you first meet your kid, there's gonna be this overwhelming
Speaker 1: feeling of love that you've never felt in your entire life.
Speaker 1: And to be honest, when I was in the delivery
Speaker 1: room and I saw Dawson for the first time, like
Speaker 1: as incredible of a moment as that was, I'd be
Speaker 1: lying if I said I was smacked in the face
Speaker 1: with this love and this feeling and this spiritual moment
Speaker 1: that you know, I've never felt before. I didn't get that,
Speaker 1: and I remember thinking like I'm a psycho. It's confirmed
Speaker 1: I'm psychotic because I don't feel like I love him.
Speaker 1: But now I have a love for Dawson that is
Speaker 1: just you know, I think about It's I'm the I
Speaker 1: think about every time I walk down the stairs, like
Speaker 1: if I slip, like I would like I would, I
Speaker 1: would just die for him, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like I would do whatever I need to do to
Speaker 1: make sure that Dawson is safe and protective. And like
Speaker 1: the love that I have for that kid is so
Speaker 1: greater now than I've ever felt in my entire life
Speaker 1: towards anybody. And I love Ashley more than so much,
Speaker 1: but like the love I have for Dawson's different. My
Speaker 1: point being is like it's getting to that stage now
Speaker 1: where I'm like, yeah, like I would love to have
Speaker 1: another one of these, you know, yeah, but man, going
Speaker 1: through the nine months of pregnancy, poor Ashley, like I
Speaker 1: can't believe she wants to do it with how rough
Speaker 1: her pregnancy was, and it's like all right, Ashley, Like
Speaker 1: that's nine another nine months plus a kid, and then
Speaker 1: another year of just like life being chaos. But you're right,
Speaker 1: there is a payoff to it. So it's like, son
Speaker 1: of a bitch, what do you do? What do you do? Um?
Speaker 1: You know it's it's it's just all worth it is
Speaker 1: you make it sounds so easy, but it's not wrong.
Speaker 1: I mean my house is a mess. Um, I never
Speaker 1: really have time for my song. Like, it's not definitely,
Speaker 1: it's definitely not easy. The patients you have to have
Speaker 1: with children is next level. But it's just like you said,
Speaker 1: it's just the most beautiful, deep, unreal love that you
Speaker 1: get for your kids. It's like you said, I love Tanner,
Speaker 1: but my children are like my soul. I don't know.
Speaker 1: So it's like, yeah, there are a piece of you
Speaker 1: that's out into the world. Yeah, And it's like you
Speaker 1: have it. There's such a deep response ability to to
Speaker 1: protect them and make sure they're safe and secure and
Speaker 1: happy and loved, and so it's it's this interesting how
Speaker 1: I don't know, it's just such more of a deeper love. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I think it's deeper. For if I'm being honest,
Speaker 1: my opinion is I just think it's deeper for moms
Speaker 1: than it is for dad's. Like I love Dawson so much,
Speaker 1: but the idea of you know, and I'm so connected
Speaker 1: to them, but I can see how connected Dawson and
Speaker 1: Ashley are. Yeah, maybe it's a mother something because people
Speaker 1: told me that that, like, boy, you know, there's gonna
Speaker 1: be MoMA's boys and daddy's girls. But I don't know,
Speaker 1: Like I see you with your kids and Ashley with Dawson,
Speaker 1: and my friends with their kids, and like there's just
Speaker 1: something about a mom and probably because they literally life
Speaker 1: grew inside of you. Yeah, it's just different. Do you
Speaker 1: feel like some of your kids are closer to you
Speaker 1: and some are closer to Tanner? This is some different ways.
Speaker 1: They're all closer to Ja, let's be I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: definitely more of their safe place. I think, you know,
Speaker 1: if they get hurt, it's obviously I'm the default parents,
Speaker 1: so they come to me. But they have such a
Speaker 1: they have more of a playful even though I think
Speaker 1: I'm a fun mom, they have a playful relationship more
Speaker 1: with Tanner, and so it's just a different relationship. He's
Speaker 1: a little bit more of the law layer though too,
Speaker 1: Like he's a little bit more stern than I am,
Speaker 1: where I'm like more of like I try to do
Speaker 1: really gentle parenting. But it's good. It's a good balance
Speaker 1: because they need that those boundaries too, and those like
Speaker 1: firm I don't want to say like laws, but like
Speaker 1: things that they need to follow. Um. But I think
Speaker 1: we're I don't know. I would say they're probably closer
Speaker 1: to me. But I think as they grow up more
Speaker 1: and Tanner's I think he is going to excel more
Speaker 1: at being like the dad of kids than the dad
Speaker 1: of babies. I think they'll have like really special bonds
Speaker 1: with him that I won't be able to really provide.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I could see Tanner definitely being the dad
Speaker 1: who's going to all the events and whether it be
Speaker 1: sporting events or dance recitals or things like that. I
Speaker 1: can see Tanner being Yeah, like you said, more of
Speaker 1: a kid dad than a baby dad. And I because
Speaker 1: I think I have some of that as well. Like
Speaker 1: I love Dawson as a baby and I'm I love
Speaker 1: being with him. But like I went to the gym
Speaker 1: the other day and there was a dad and his son,
Speaker 1: and his son was probably ten years old and his
Speaker 1: dad he was working out with his dad, and that
Speaker 1: gets me like really excited, like the fact like a
Speaker 1: wild like Dawson and I like I and like the kid. Also,
Speaker 1: I think I related the kid. He was a little overweight,
Speaker 1: and I remember like me being a kid and being
Speaker 1: overweight and then looking at my dad and like my
Speaker 1: dad trying to show me how to like work out
Speaker 1: or like get exercise or like play catch or you know.
Speaker 1: I think I'm very excited for those moments where like
Speaker 1: I get to be like, you know, I'm going to
Speaker 1: be his dad and like he's going to be hanging
Speaker 1: out with his dad. That's what I'm excited about. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the last like three or four minutes of the Super
Speaker 1: Bowl game, when it was like down to the wire,
Speaker 1: Emmy was having so much fun with Tanner watching and
Speaker 1: she was cheering and she was screaming, and she was
Speaker 1: like chatting about every single play, like asking what was happening.
Speaker 1: And I could tell Tanner's faces just like lit up,
Speaker 1: not only because the game was like what was going
Speaker 1: to happen in the game, but also because I think
Speaker 1: it was this moment of connection for them. Yeah, And
Speaker 1: so I think that's really like like when I think
Speaker 1: of you two I think that's more like when dads excel,
Speaker 1: you know, like where I'm more like, actually, I will
Speaker 1: go answer my child in the middle of the night
Speaker 1: every time they cry, like it's just in me, and
Speaker 1: it's definitely not in Tanner, you know, like we're just
Speaker 1: kind of we're just wire different. I think, yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1: In sports were always you know, it's so generic to say,
Speaker 1: but it's true. They were such a big part of
Speaker 1: my bond with my dad growing up. It was a
Speaker 1: way for him to teach me about life with out
Speaker 1: directly saying it to me. You know, about hard work
Speaker 1: and dedication and finishing what you start and trying your
Speaker 1: best and you know, even if you lose, it's okay
Speaker 1: if you just did all you could do. And I mean,
Speaker 1: I hope I get to experience that with Dawson, but
Speaker 1: obvious it's whatever Dawson wants to do. Klin. I wanted
Speaker 1: to ask you. You know, Jan and I have been
Speaker 1: talking about kids and starting a family. How do you
Speaker 1: I've asked Dean about this. We talked about a Dean
Speaker 1: all the time. With Dean settling down and having kids,
Speaker 1: how do you feel about your future with Dan? Do
Speaker 1: you see yourself having kids, a big family. I know Dean,
Speaker 1: because Dean is such a wild card. Who the hell
Speaker 1: I've noticed, Like I feel like he changes his mind
Speaker 1: everything exactly. So like, where do you see yourself heading
Speaker 1: with Dean? Well, I love to use said Jade because
Speaker 1: I and Dean brings this up to me all the time, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to have kids. I
Speaker 1: always saw myself being a mom growing up, and then
Speaker 1: the older I got, I was like, oh, this is
Speaker 1: like a lot of work and a lot of pressure.
Speaker 1: But also I just like I can't see us not
Speaker 1: having kids. But Dean, he's always like, if you are
Speaker 1: so hot and cold about kids, doesn't that worry you?
Speaker 1: But I also know, like I'm twenty seven, I'm not
Speaker 1: quite ready to get pregnant, but I think we would
Speaker 1: have two kids two to three. I'm also terrified of pregnancy.
Speaker 1: There's like a lot that I'm nervous about. But it's
Speaker 1: exciting as well. Yeah, I mean it's so hard because
Speaker 1: it's something you've never done before, right, It's this whole
Speaker 1: new experience, and I feel like that's kind of scary
Speaker 1: in itself, Like, and I don't know, but I think
Speaker 1: I think it's it's sort of like whatever is meant
Speaker 1: to be will be for you. And I think there's
Speaker 1: beauty and couples who don't have kids. I think it
Speaker 1: was beauty and couples who do have kids. So I
Speaker 1: don't know. I think I'm just I'm excited for you
Speaker 1: either way, and I think you would be an amazing mother.
Speaker 1: So thank you. Yeah, I have. I can just you
Speaker 1: have like I don't know, I haven't met you, but
Speaker 1: I just feel like everything I've like heard about you
Speaker 1: and seen about you, you just have a very gentle presence.
Speaker 1: So thank you. I appreciate that. How long did you
Speaker 1: guys wait to have kids? How long were you married?
Speaker 1: So we were married a year and decided to start trying,
Speaker 1: and we got pregnant on I think like the second
Speaker 1: month we started trying, so it was actually really fast.
Speaker 1: I don't think we expected to get pregnant so quickly,
Speaker 1: so we were so by the time Emmy was born,
Speaker 1: we were married a little bit over a year and
Speaker 1: a half. Oh wow. Not to get too into details,
Speaker 1: but I just got off of birth control not to
Speaker 1: try to have kids, just for like my hormones were crazy.
Speaker 1: But was that a factor too, I'm not with our
Speaker 1: first pregnancy, so because I've never really done birth control, um,
Speaker 1: so I think my body was like kind of balanced
Speaker 1: in that way. But I experienced what's called like secondary
Speaker 1: infertility a little bit um where I think my hormones
Speaker 1: after having Emmy we're all over the place, and it
Speaker 1: became actually like more difficult for us to get pregnant
Speaker 1: with Brooks than we initially thought. So that was definitely
Speaker 1: like hormones do play a factor for sure. Yeah. Wow, dude,
Speaker 1: you guys just the women are just powerhouses. The things
Speaker 1: that you guys have to think about and talk about
Speaker 1: and worry about. I mean, just like even something as
Speaker 1: simplistic as and it's not simplistic, but like birth control.
Speaker 1: You know, that's something I've never had. I mean unless
Speaker 1: obviously you know, like you have those moments in your
Speaker 1: early day, you know your twenties, are you on birth control? Okay?
Speaker 1: So am I gonna ask the question? Are you gonna
Speaker 1: bring it up? Uh? But like even like because birth
Speaker 1: control really at Klein, you'd even just said it not
Speaker 1: messes with your body. That's a bad way of describing it,
Speaker 1: because that's a way a man would describe it. But
Speaker 1: like it just affects you, like it affects Ashley in
Speaker 1: different ways. I remember she was very nervous get off
Speaker 1: birth control too, because apparently it helped her with her acne.
Speaker 1: Maybe or no, maybe she hadn't get I don't know.
Speaker 1: There's so much that Ashley takes it, but it's just
Speaker 1: it's a lot. But I don't know if Dean's talked
Speaker 1: about this on the podcast, but he really wants to
Speaker 1: get a vasectomy and before we have kids, because he
Speaker 1: hasn't talked about this. Okay, so he wants to get
Speaker 1: a vasectomy because he doesn't think it's fair that a
Speaker 1: woman has to take birth control. So then when we're
Speaker 1: ready to have kids, he would unsniff himself and we
Speaker 1: would have children. Well that's very nice of them, But
Speaker 1: at the same time, like, is there any downside? Does
Speaker 1: it hurt the potential of having kids if you reverse it?
Speaker 1: That's what I was like, you, we both need to
Speaker 1: research this more. But also I heard there's like there
Speaker 1: could be pain that's involved if you get a vasectomy,
Speaker 1: and so I was like, I don't want you to
Speaker 1: be in pain just because I I don't know. So
Speaker 1: we're talking about it you know what I mean. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: but like even after you heal, there could potentially be
Speaker 1: just everyday pain. Oh god, that sounds terrible. Yeah, he
Speaker 1: should really rethink that that area of the body is
Speaker 1: just it's so weird, how like I'll never forget the
Speaker 1: first time. I mean, just let's be I'll never forget
Speaker 1: the first time I got kicked in the balls. And
Speaker 1: for a guy, it's crazy because you get kicked there
Speaker 1: and immediately my entire body started like I got such
Speaker 1: a stomach ache and then my whole body was hurting.
Speaker 1: It's just crazy how the body's connected and that particular
Speaker 1: area of the body is just like really sensitive. Obviously.
Speaker 1: Oh it's a very awakening moment for a man when
Speaker 1: the first time you get like really injured in that area,
Speaker 1: you're like, oh my god, would you ever get a
Speaker 1: sectomy or no, here's down the road. Uh yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean i'd get it. Actually, this is funny enough. When
Speaker 1: we were at Jane Tanders, I was talking to Tanner
Speaker 1: about that, and um, yeah, I mean sure, yeah, I
Speaker 1: guess i'd get a sectomy. I mean again, I don't
Speaker 1: know too much about it. Besides, you know, it's a
Speaker 1: little snip snip. I was under the impression that they
Speaker 1: either like they have to numb it obviously, right, I
Speaker 1: don't know, or like put you under. I thought you
Speaker 1: were under, But I don't know. I don't know, I
Speaker 1: have no idea, So I'd have to research the procedure
Speaker 1: exactly to know. Okay, like, Doc, what what did I'm
Speaker 1: already getting nervous. I'm hitting the mic, like what goes
Speaker 1: on here? What goes on this procedure? But the problem
Speaker 1: is it is such a double standard because we're talking
Speaker 1: about us getting like the sect of me want like
Speaker 1: you know, which is I'm sure traumatizing. But at the
Speaker 1: same time, you guys, you guys have to go through
Speaker 1: us to have one kid, what you guys have to
Speaker 1: go through? Not only because like with Ashley, like she
Speaker 1: was tracking her cycle. She knew what days were the
Speaker 1: best or like what she needed to do, how long
Speaker 1: it needed to take for her to get off birth
Speaker 1: control or this medication or that medication, so like and
Speaker 1: these these are things that like she like spirolacatone, I
Speaker 1: remember I heard a lot about which was like for
Speaker 1: her acting and she couldn't take and like but like
Speaker 1: but that was just one thing that she couldn't take
Speaker 1: while trying to get pregnant, and then she couldn't take
Speaker 1: it during her entire pregnancy, and then while she was pregnant,
Speaker 1: like not only dealing with this life growing inside of you,
Speaker 1: guys kicking literally kicking you from the inside, which is
Speaker 1: insane to think about. But it's just like you're throwing up,
Speaker 1: you're sick, you're gaining weight, you're moody, rightfully so, and
Speaker 1: it's like, damn you got and like I'm talking about
Speaker 1: like this one time, I might have to get like
Speaker 1: a little procedure done just to you know, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to complain about that. Such a man thing anyway,
Speaker 1: But it's like it's like the most like, you know,
Speaker 1: men are. I feel like you're obsessed with their man
Speaker 1: parts though, So it's like your most like prized part
Speaker 1: of your body, I feel like for a man. So
Speaker 1: it's like nerve wracking, right, Oh, well, of course, I mean, well,
Speaker 1: I guess do you think? Yeah, I guess women just aren't.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you're I don't feel that you guys are
Speaker 1: attached to your boobs as much. I feel like those are.
Speaker 1: I don't know, do you think you're more attached because yeah,
Speaker 1: that guy, that part of a body for a guy
Speaker 1: is very like, you know, you're you're very protective over
Speaker 1: because all your life, it's like so much there's so
Speaker 1: much discussion around it, especially when it pertains to sex
Speaker 1: or anything like oh is it big enough or and
Speaker 1: it's just like oh Jesus Christ, like listen, my guy's good.
Speaker 1: I like my guy. He's my number one player. He's
Speaker 1: the first guy off the bench, you know, he's I
Speaker 1: like him all right, And so, uh yeah, I guess
Speaker 1: it's different because girls, don't you guys are that protective.
Speaker 1: I mean, I I think it's just because like for women,
Speaker 1: it's just like again, it's it's worth it to you
Speaker 1: in a way when you have a baby, because then
Speaker 1: it's like my body went through all this for you,
Speaker 1: and so you kind of like attached it to that.
Speaker 1: But it's still like yeah, I mean it changes are
Speaker 1: our whole bodies, so our body never truly goes back
Speaker 1: to being the same. Um. So I think there's some
Speaker 1: hard parts of coping with that, you know, um oh
Speaker 1: I believe it. Yeah yeah, yeah, I mean your vagina
Speaker 1: is torn up to bits or or your cut open
Speaker 1: so it's like there's a lot that goes on with
Speaker 1: our bodies too. But I don't know if I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't think I like emotionally like mourned my vagina. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean I would emotionally mourn my penis if something.
Speaker 1: It's just your little it's just your little guys though
Speaker 1: your balls, like when you when you get a commutelyst
Speaker 1: that's the only they don't touch her. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: I hope you know called Tanner's little guys, because I'm
Speaker 1: sure he's not gonna like that too much. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I think our time is running out. We should really
Speaker 1: just leave off on that. I guess on that Jade
Speaker 1: uh So, actually I wanted to because I was gonna say,
Speaker 1: Jade Roper Tilber, is that do you go by Roper Tilbert? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I go by I go by Jade Roper, I go
Speaker 1: by Jade Roper Tilber, I go by Jade Tilbert. I
Speaker 1: don't know, they all just flow together whatever to me,
Speaker 1: Like legally I'm still Jade Roper, but it all is
Speaker 1: the same. Because we were talking about Trista. When we
Speaker 1: had Tristan on the podcast, it was like, oh, Trista
Speaker 1: Sutter and then I was like, Trista, what is your
Speaker 1: maiden name? She and she it was weird to think
Speaker 1: about for her because she's like, yeah, for it was
Speaker 1: Trister Ryan, I think it is. But she was saying
Speaker 1: how like, yeah, she was that person for thirty years.
Speaker 1: In the past twenty years she's been Trista Sutter. And
Speaker 1: it's like, yeah, that is weird, But I guess it's
Speaker 1: because Ashley hyphenates. It's like she'll always kind of have
Speaker 1: like the iken Eddy name in there, and if you
Speaker 1: do the same, then you always have Roper in there. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't know, it doesn't matter to me. Some people
Speaker 1: are like, does it does it bother you that your
Speaker 1: kids have Tolbert and your last name is legally still Roper,
Speaker 1: Like it's not the same on like medical papers or
Speaker 1: you know, passports and stuff. And I was like, I
Speaker 1: don't know, does that supposed is supposed to bother me? Like?
Speaker 1: My kids are my kids the name? To me? I like,
Speaker 1: I like, I am a Roper so and I and
Speaker 1: I know, like I'm married and we have a union
Speaker 1: and my children have my husband's last name. But to me,
Speaker 1: it doesn't really bother me. Yeah, do you well? The
Speaker 1: reason I got brought up is because I was talking
Speaker 1: a quick story because I told them the last podcast.
Speaker 1: But I went to dinner with my brother in law
Speaker 1: and my sister and their niece was there, and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, she's such a Haven ha ha ha ha.
Speaker 1: And my brother was like, bro, she's a Leary. And
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, that's right. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: that's right. She's not a Haven. That's the weirdest ever.
Speaker 1: So that was like when I was like, oh, wow,
Speaker 1: I wonder if it's weird for you know, Ashley to
Speaker 1: be like Ashley, are you I guess you're still a
Speaker 1: Nike and Eddie, but like you're actually a Haven. Mm. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's it's just I don't know. It's all the same
Speaker 1: to me. Are you taking Dean's Oh no, you're You
Speaker 1: guys are doing a different name together, right, Kaylin, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: we m his mom's made a name is Belle, So
Speaker 1: we're going to take that love and change your last names. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's cool. I'm excited. And our friends actually they just
Speaker 1: got married and my friend did not want to change
Speaker 1: her last name, and they're gonna she wants to have
Speaker 1: like five kids, she wants to alternate who takes each
Speaker 1: last name, so like start with the husband and then
Speaker 1: the next one would take her last name and just
Speaker 1: keep alternating. Really cool. Yeah, yeah, that's interfferent. Yeah, it
Speaker 1: is different. I don't know how it to work, but
Speaker 1: I think it's like, I mean, I do think it's
Speaker 1: still traditional that people to take the husband's last name
Speaker 1: more commonly with um, Like, I don't know, I think
Speaker 1: it is more traditional, but I feel like more people
Speaker 1: just aren't carrying it as I don't know, maybe that's
Speaker 1: just me. Maybe I just like, no, you're right, I
Speaker 1: think it's not as much of a discussion anymore. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know why, Kaylin you when you brought that up,
Speaker 1: it reminded me of like the difference between like a
Speaker 1: Kardashian and Jenner, even though that's two different guys. That's
Speaker 1: like the same but not. Yeah, Jade, you're fantastic. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much for joining us on the podcast today.
Speaker 1: Help we suck at being newlyweds. So crazy to know
Speaker 1: that's the title. Now. You're awesome, So Jade, obviously everybody
Speaker 1: should be following you on Instagram because you're wonderful where
Speaker 1: you give a lot of mom advice. But I know
Speaker 1: you used to have a podcast, and I didn't know
Speaker 1: if that was on hiatus and if that's coming back
Speaker 1: with Carly, what is the status on that we are
Speaker 1: not doing the podcast as of right now. I don't know.
Speaker 1: It was we were going to take a summer off
Speaker 1: and then it kind of just turned into a longer
Speaker 1: extended break, So I don't know. We're kind of I think,
Speaker 1: like I feel like Carly's kind of in a different
Speaker 1: place in her life, Like our podcast was such a
Speaker 1: podcast about babies and newborns and being like a mom
Speaker 1: of young kids, and so I think it's kind of
Speaker 1: like how you guys you rebranded your podcast because you're
Speaker 1: in a different stage of life now, and so I
Speaker 1: don't know. I enjoy podcasting and talking and to others
Speaker 1: and connecting with others, but I don't know what's happening
Speaker 1: with it. So well, I hope you guys do it
Speaker 1: because I think um or that you do something, because
Speaker 1: I think, Jade, you are someone in the like mommy world,
Speaker 1: so we're I don't mean it like that, but you're
Speaker 1: just someone who I think a lot of people look
Speaker 1: up to and inspired to be a mom like you
Speaker 1: so I think that you would. You would, it would.
Speaker 1: A lot of people would love to hear your opinion
Speaker 1: on things, that's all. Yeah, a lot of great advice.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I think it's it's definitely my passion. I
Speaker 1: like talking about being a mom, and and you know,
Speaker 1: everyone has a different life and a different perspective and
Speaker 1: different you know, backgrounds of where they came from and
Speaker 1: how they raised their children. But I just love connecting
Speaker 1: and peeling back some of those layers and just showing
Speaker 1: like the realness and the rawness of what it is
Speaker 1: to be a mom in society nowadays. So well, Jade,
Speaker 1: thank you so much. You're amazing. Once again, Please come
Speaker 1: back on soon. Yeah, thank you guys for having me.
Speaker 1: And I'd love to come back and chat about anything.
Speaker 1: So I'm always here. Thanks Jane, thank thank you, Bye,
Speaker 1: thank you. Jade is the best. She's like one of
Speaker 1: the best humans ever, not gonna lie. She's wonderful. That's
Speaker 1: my first time ever talking to her. She's she's just
Speaker 1: like a breath of fresh air, so kind, so knowledgeable
Speaker 1: about mom life. Yeah, and she's great. It is weird
Speaker 1: to think about Ashley and I have been very lucky
Speaker 1: to be a part of the Bachelor franchise for quite
Speaker 1: some time, and it you know, I remember at our
Speaker 1: wedding and almost felt like sometimes we live two lives
Speaker 1: where we have like this Bachelor World extravaganza and then
Speaker 1: we have our life in Rhode Island. And I'm sure
Speaker 1: Klin you can attest to that as well, where like
Speaker 1: you go to this, like you have your life with
Speaker 1: Dean in Vegas and it's very like, you know, you
Speaker 1: go to your grandparents and it's just life. And then
Speaker 1: you get to go on these incredible Super Bowl trips
Speaker 1: and like have these awesome opportunities where you get to
Speaker 1: meet people and like go to these VIP things and
Speaker 1: you're like, this is wacky. And I remember at our
Speaker 1: wedding like for the first time it really felt like
Speaker 1: where we had so many of our friends from Bachelor,
Speaker 1: both in front of the camera and behind the camera,
Speaker 1: and then with my like my family and Rhode Island
Speaker 1: and like those two worlds colliding under one roof was
Speaker 1: really cool and so like it's interesting to me because
Speaker 1: I obviously have known you and Dean for so long,
Speaker 1: and I'm like I've known Jade and Tanna for so long.
Speaker 1: You guys are both in the Bachelor world and it's
Speaker 1: just like, oh, yeah, you guys have never met. That's insane.
Speaker 1: It's weird. It is weird, But I feel like I
Speaker 1: know her, Like I watched her season, I watched her
Speaker 1: on Paradise, and yeah, I bet she feels like she
Speaker 1: knows you. Yeah. I love the little community. It's sweet.
Speaker 1: It is sweet. I know it's a weird people. I'm
Speaker 1: sure ask you all the time too about like is
Speaker 1: it weird, you know, being a part of like such
Speaker 1: an incestuous little group. But I never find it weird.
Speaker 1: I like, I just I love it so much. It
Speaker 1: really is kind of like a family. Yeah, and you
Speaker 1: just kind of forget about, like honestly, where you came
Speaker 1: from and the show you came from, and and the past,
Speaker 1: and then it's like you're the person you're with now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: amongst friends, would you ever think of Dean and Rachel
Speaker 1: lindsay weirdly, Oh that's so crazy, that's the craziest ever.
Speaker 1: Yeah no, and then he had many other girlfriends, but nope,
Speaker 1: just think about him and me exactly. Well, that's trust me.
Speaker 1: It's the same thing with ash. Ash dated people on
Speaker 1: TV and so did I so, yeah, like you just
Speaker 1: get over it all right? Well, I think that's going
Speaker 1: to do it for this episode's of help I almost
Speaker 1: said help we suck at being Newlyweds. Yeah, still, it's
Speaker 1: going to take some time. Yeah, we'll get it and
Speaker 1: once whenever Dean comes back. So Dean's still in an
Speaker 1: We haven't talked about Dean's location at all. Dean is
Speaker 1: still in Antarctica. Correct, Yes, he can only text me
Speaker 1: once a day, so I don't really know what he's
Speaker 1: up to her, what he's doing. Hopefully he's safe, hopefully.
Speaker 1: But yeah, but you want to take us out, Yeah,
Speaker 1: make sure you tune in next week, where maybe we
Speaker 1: suck just a little bit less. Yeah, amazing, great job.
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