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Speaker 1: What's up.

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Speaker 2: It's way up with Angela Yee. I'm Angela Yee and

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Speaker 2: y'all know how much I love talking about health, about fitness,

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Speaker 2: but I don't really let it work out. But Shante

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Speaker 2: is here with me today, let's go.

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Speaker 3: Don't You don't have no pressure in working out? You

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Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. It starts with just thinking about

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Speaker 3: something that you want to do. I'll give you props

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Speaker 3: for that.

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Speaker 2: I watch workouts on TV. You know how you lay

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Speaker 2: there in the hotel room and you're.

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Speaker 1: Like, oh, they got to work out.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: And you know what else I do.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be honest and we'll talk about some Shawnte

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Speaker 2: history in a second. But the other thing that I

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Speaker 2: do is I look on Instagram and then I see

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Speaker 2: workouts people do and I'm like, I'm gonna try that later,

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Speaker 2: and I actually save them and then I never do them.

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Speaker 4: But you want to know what something funny.

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Speaker 3: This is gonna sound very shady, but we talk about

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Speaker 3: like when when fitness influencers on Instagram show like six

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Speaker 3: workouts and like do this for a minute, and I'm like,

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Speaker 3: no way, you can't do it for a minute, though,

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Speaker 3: Like they do it for like eight seconds and slow

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Speaker 3: it down. I feel bit, but I don't blame you

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Speaker 3: for not doing.

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Speaker 1: It though I went to I have every intention.

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Speaker 2: And then you see those like thirty day challenges and

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Speaker 2: it's like day one, you know you're gonna do ten

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Speaker 2: push ups, and then day two and I.

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Speaker 1: Just I don't know how many days do you make none?

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Speaker 1: I just look at it. I told you I saved

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Speaker 1: them one day.

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Speaker 2: But that's why I'm glad you're here, because I'm sure

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Speaker 2: I'm not alone that and you Shanty have had quite

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Speaker 2: a journey. Just knowing your whole story of how you

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Speaker 2: got to where you are today, where you the person

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Speaker 2: that everybody knows from insanity, you know, and.

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Speaker 1: Also hip hop abs.

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Speaker 2: That was very important I think for our community because

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Speaker 2: we all want some. We still want some hip hop ads,

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Speaker 2: we do, but let's talk about your history and how

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Speaker 2: you even got there, because this is our first time,

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Speaker 2: you know, sitting down together, and so I just want

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Speaker 2: people to know where you came from.

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Speaker 3: Well, I came from Camden, New Jersey, but you know,

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Speaker 3: I grew up in you know, at the end of

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Speaker 3: the day, I like to tell people I grew up

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Speaker 3: with not a lot of money. So I got a

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Speaker 3: scholarship to college, which came with a food card, and

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Speaker 3: I could eat all the food I wanted and the dominoes.

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Speaker 4: Dominoes delivered with the food cards.

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Speaker 3: So I just remember my freshman year, I would just

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Speaker 3: order Dominoes off the top, like, oh my gosh. And

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Speaker 3: I wasn't running track at the time, and so by

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Speaker 3: the time I got to my sophomore year, first semester,

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Speaker 3: I was fifty pounds heavier than when I left high school,

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Speaker 3: and freshman fifteen people had the freshman fifteen.

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Speaker 4: I had the freshman fifty. And then so what I

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Speaker 4: did was I was like, you know, I forget this.

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Speaker 3: I looked in the mirror, I was like, very unhappy

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Speaker 3: with what I saw, and I was just like, I'm

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Speaker 3: just going to hit the gym. I got on the treadmill.

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Speaker 3: I ran for ten minutes a day for a while.

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Speaker 3: Then I went to the weight room, eventually starting to

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Speaker 3: love fitness outside of track and field because I always

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Speaker 3: played sports, so it was easy to be motivated by

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Speaker 3: like winning, but just internal motivation to want to get better.

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Speaker 3: That was a different strategy for me mentally, and so

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Speaker 3: I changed my major from communications to sports science. And

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Speaker 3: after I did that, I had to teach group exercise classes.

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Speaker 3: Very first class I promoted on the college campus, and

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Speaker 3: I thought it was gonna be like, you know, fifteen

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Speaker 3: twenty people come. Ninety people showed up. So my very

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Speaker 3: first day of ever teaching, I had to teach two

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Speaker 4: And then I like fell in love.

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Speaker 2: Let me ask, how did so many people show up?

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Speaker 2: Like why is it that ninety people showed up? What

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Speaker 2: was it that you did?

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Speaker 3: So I was the guy at the parties in the

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Speaker 3: middle of the circle, and you know, I was. I

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Speaker 3: was very popular on campus for my freshman year, just

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Speaker 3: like being active on campus. I was always involved in

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Speaker 3: and so I actually pledged Alpha pa Alpha fraternity, so

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Speaker 3: I knew a lot of people. And so once that happened,

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Speaker 3: you know, I just like absolutely just got a lot

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Speaker 4: And I was really.

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Speaker 2: Surprised though, right and choreography was was your thing? Really

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Speaker 2: at first?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So at first I did a hip hop of Erobi's class.

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Speaker 3: I don't know if you remember the grind workout. This

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Speaker 3: is dating me. I don't know how you are. I'm

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Speaker 3: forty five, so the grind workout with the real world

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Speaker 3: cast remember.

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Speaker 2: Eric needs Oh my gosh, yes I do, so you

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Speaker 2: can date me all you were, We're all day to here,

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Speaker 2: we're in our forties.

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Speaker 3: Go. So, so I taught that particular routine my very

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Speaker 3: first class. I still remember to this day how it goes.

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Speaker 3: And then from there, you know, the rec center was like,

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Speaker 3: can you teach more classes? Can you teach more classes?

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Speaker 3: So then how to get certified and kickbox and step

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Speaker 3: and you know, basic aerobics, you know AffA certified.

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Speaker 2: It's amazing, yeah, because you were making money from a

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Speaker 2: young age then, yo, and you.

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Speaker 3: Know how much money I was making because I was

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Speaker 3: like the only one in town that was like, can

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Speaker 3: I put myself on the back that good I was

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Speaker 3: at the time, I was making fifty dollars a class,

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Speaker 3: which is unheard.

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Speaker 1: Of when I was in college. I was making fifty

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Speaker 1: dollars a shift exactly, and was I Yeah, I had.

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Speaker 2: To work a long time to make that little fifty dollars,

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Speaker 2: so okay, so yeah, it was numbers.

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Speaker 3: So then from there I got into dance, and then

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Speaker 3: from dance I got more into fitness, and then I

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Speaker 3: got into fitness conventions, and then with fitness conventions, I

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Speaker 3: applied to be a presenter and I started teaching.

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Speaker 4: All over the world. I wanted to work.

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Speaker 3: For best International presenter. And then I was in a

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Speaker 3: pharmaceutical industry, you know, health and wellness and pharmaceuticals, and

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Speaker 3: I left that industry because I wanted to be a

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Speaker 3: professional dancer.

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Speaker 4: Moved to LA, started teaching group exercise.

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Speaker 2: And I watch you and so during that time, you

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Speaker 2: also dated somebody who was not very supportive of you.

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Speaker 1: Yes, moving to LA oh oh, you know, yeah, and

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Speaker 2: And I want to talk about that because sometimes the

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Speaker 2: people around you and your circle can actually help dictate

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Speaker 2: whether or not you chase your dreams or I feel

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Speaker 2: like I can't do this, you know, And that's an

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Speaker 1: So can you talk about before moving to LA what

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Speaker 1: that was like for you?

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Speaker 4: Yo? So this is crazy. So I was dating this guy.

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Speaker 3: I still have scars on my body from like him

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Speaker 3: throwing plates at me and stuff like that was wild.

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Speaker 3: So when people say they've been in abusive relationships, they

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Speaker 3: you know, they oftentimes think it's only women that you know,

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Speaker 3: get that abuse. But like you know, especially in same

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Speaker 3: sexual relationships, it happens, right. So I just remember coming

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Speaker 3: home from one of my biggest choreography shows.

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Speaker 4: It was actually my first big choreography show.

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Speaker 3: I got so much like love and support from the community.

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Speaker 4: It was a few different cities that came to this theater.

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Speaker 3: And I got home and I was just happy, and

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Speaker 3: I was in my bedroom and my boyfriend at the

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Speaker 3: time was like, I just want to let you know

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Speaker 1: Like, where was it? What was he doing?

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Speaker 4: Well? He was just jealous. Yeah, And that was the moment.

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Speaker 3: I was like, that was it. Because there's one thing

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Speaker 3: to go through abuse and like having to mentally navigate

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Speaker 3: your way through that, but it's another thing for me

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Speaker 3: to tell me I'm not going to do something that

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Speaker 3: I'm passionate about. And so, like two weeks later, he

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Speaker 3: went to work. I called my brother. I was like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: He was at work. He only worked a mile away.

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Speaker 3: Me and my brother like packed up all my clothes

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Speaker 4: So I moved back to my mom's house.

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Speaker 2: You know, it's important because I did want you to

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Speaker 2: talk about that because sometimes, like you said, people are

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Speaker 2: always like, oh, how could you stay in an abusive relationship?

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Speaker 1: But that was me.

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Speaker 2: I would have did X, Y, and Z, And it's

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Speaker 2: not always easy to get yourself out of that situation.

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Speaker 2: And sometimes we also feel like maybe they're right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, oftentimes it comes to self confidence, self love,

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Speaker 3: and it also comes down to what you experienced as

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Speaker 3: But what I found out was that my confidence was low,

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Speaker 3: So we oftentimes look at people who are getting abused

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, you can't say if that were me,

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Speaker 3: because you're actually not in it, Nor do you know

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Speaker 3: what that person had to go through and what they

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Speaker 3: haven't worked through to be able to not make the

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Speaker 3: you know, I just tell people out there, like, give

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Speaker 3: also give them love and support instead of just judging

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Speaker 3: them for not making the quote unquote right decision, especially

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Speaker 3: when it comes to your physical abuse. But more importantly,

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Speaker 3: to be quite honest, the mental abuse is actually worse

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Speaker 3: because it scars you for much longer.

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Speaker 2: And I want to ask you, even dealing with the

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Speaker 2: sexual abuse, You've been very open about that as well,

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Speaker 2: how did you, like, how did that stop?

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Speaker 4: So this is so.

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Speaker 3: Wild, So I'm just going to be super candid here.

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Speaker 3: It stopped when I was able to have an orgasm.

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Speaker 3: So my abuser was my stepfather, and he would literally

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Speaker 3: come up in the middle of the night.

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Speaker 4: He would always do it when he came home drunk.

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Speaker 4: I would hear him pull up in.

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Speaker 3: A driveway because we had like a gravel rock driveway,

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Speaker 3: and I just knew what was going to happen. He

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Speaker 3: fought with my mom, which their bedroom was right under

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Speaker 3: So he my mom probably thought like he just went

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Speaker 4: And it was so weird because like I.

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Speaker 3: Actually had the feeling of an orgasm from the time

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Speaker 3: I was eight, but I never ejaculated. And the first

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Speaker 2: You got a lot going on, Sean tis going behind

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Speaker 3: It's a lot going on. You know. Robin Robbers wrote

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Speaker 3: So if you want to be my sugar daddy, honey, nah,

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Speaker 4: Michelle is nothing but what people want you to see.

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Speaker 2: No, And I think that's great because you've always been

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Speaker 3: Well, you know, when I teach group exercise, no one

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Speaker 3: I know you can do way more than what you're

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Speaker 1: Just know it's hard.

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Speaker 3: I do not it's hard, But I actually don't care

441
00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:02,160
Speaker 3: if you can do the push up. I just want

442
00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:04,199
Speaker 3: you to take that into the motivation that's making you

443
00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:07,359
Speaker 3: do the push up to help you achieve things outside

444
00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:08,680
Speaker 3: of the workout in your.

445
00:19:08,600 --> 00:19:10,840
Speaker 2: Life and listen for you. You even said that some

446
00:19:10,880 --> 00:19:12,359
Speaker 2: of the workouts that you have is hard for you

447
00:19:12,440 --> 00:19:12,720
Speaker 2: to do.

448
00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:14,200
Speaker 4: Listen, I ain't got time listen.

449
00:19:14,720 --> 00:19:16,160
Speaker 3: I'll be the first one to tell you I don't

450
00:19:16,160 --> 00:19:19,400
Speaker 3: have time for insanity anymore. You're not like gonna make

451
00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:21,119
Speaker 3: me do a power jump. I mean, I'll do it

452
00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:24,879
Speaker 3: if somebody paid me for real, for real, But you

453
00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:28,000
Speaker 3: know it's hard. I'm not everyone says, you know, it's

454
00:19:28,000 --> 00:19:30,320
Speaker 3: like when you see a person who's fit or they

455
00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:31,720
Speaker 3: do have a six pack. I don't know if you

456
00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,120
Speaker 3: ever heard or have you ever said to somebody like, oh,

457
00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:37,240
Speaker 3: you can eat anything you want. No, Like, the only

458
00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:38,719
Speaker 3: reason why I look like this is because I had

459
00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:42,080
Speaker 3: to have a tremendous amount of will power and commitment

460
00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:45,280
Speaker 3: status in my own brain to stick to the plan.

461
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Speaker 2: You know, people say that as far as getting into shape,

462
00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:51,719
Speaker 2: it's seventy percent diet, thirty percent workout.

463
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Speaker 1: What do you think is the balance.

464
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Speaker 4: I mean it's one hundred percent mental. That's why I

465
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Speaker 4: have a tattoo on my arm.

466
00:19:56,880 --> 00:20:00,440
Speaker 3: It says, conquer your mind, transform your life, because without

467
00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,840
Speaker 3: the mental fortitude to push forward, you're not staying committed.

468
00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:06,640
Speaker 3: Like if your body can do it, if you have

469
00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:10,359
Speaker 3: a healthy enough body to do it, your mind is

470
00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,679
Speaker 3: telling you I'm going to keep doing it. Somebody can

471
00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,440
Speaker 3: work out for a year straight and their mind can flip,

472
00:20:15,560 --> 00:20:17,520
Speaker 3: or they can have one bad day, or someone can

473
00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:19,600
Speaker 3: pass away in their lives or they can get broken

474
00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,000
Speaker 3: up with and it'll all go to shit. If your

475
00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:24,080
Speaker 3: mind is saying like no, like you gotta fight, like

476
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:25,280
Speaker 3: I gotta keep going forward.

477
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Speaker 2: As we are watching people transform their bodies with ozembic

478
00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:32,959
Speaker 2: and all these other regovi and all these other medications,

479
00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:36,720
Speaker 2: and then I'm hearing like clearly was these are medications

480
00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:39,119
Speaker 2: that have been around. People have been using them doctors

481
00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:41,480
Speaker 2: for diabetes and for other things. But now people are

482
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:44,000
Speaker 2: using it because they want to lose weight. And I

483
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:47,360
Speaker 2: understand that sometimes obesity can lead to other diseases.

484
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Speaker 1: So there's that.

485
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Speaker 2: I think you know that notion about like, don't just

486
00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:56,640
Speaker 2: take this as a quick fix, but it is important

487
00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:59,720
Speaker 2: sometimes to get medication because you don't want to get

488
00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:02,520
Speaker 2: these diseases. It can't be preventative. But what are your

489
00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:05,240
Speaker 2: thoughts about that? Because I know you have to use

490
00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:09,640
Speaker 2: those pretty much forever, right, is what they're saying.

491
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Speaker 1: For them to continue to work, kind of like Rogain

492
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Speaker 1: for your.

493
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Speaker 4: Hair, Come on Rogain, or you can get the new

494
00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:16,320
Speaker 4: hair transplants. They work.

495
00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:17,360
Speaker 3: They actually are really good.

496
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Speaker 1: But that's another rich will.

497
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Speaker 3: I will get back to your question. But in insanity

498
00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,439
Speaker 3: and in my early days of fitness. I was bald,

499
00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:27,919
Speaker 3: and I was bald by choice because when I was

500
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,119
Speaker 3: in college, I couldn't afford twenty dollars a week for

501
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,800
Speaker 3: a haircut, so I would just start shaving my head.

502
00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:33,639
Speaker 1: Choice.

503
00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,440
Speaker 3: Baby, So right, So I when I started growing my

504
00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 3: hair out in til twenty five, they were like, oh, like,

505
00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:40,280
Speaker 3: is that a wig? Is that that? I'm like, no

506
00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 3: offensive people who do, because I'm like, go for it, like,

507
00:21:42,520 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 3: live your best life.

508
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,200
Speaker 1: But no, bitch, is money money new right?

509
00:21:45,480 --> 00:21:46,880
Speaker 3: You know what I mean? But my money didn't buy

510
00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:50,679
Speaker 3: my hair. But anyway, back to ozepic, semi glue, tide

511
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:52,920
Speaker 3: and all the other fun stuff that people are using.

512
00:21:52,960 --> 00:21:57,280
Speaker 4: So here's my take on that. I equate that to somebody.

513
00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 3: Who's getting breast in plants, who's getting a Brazilian butt lit,

514
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 3: who's getting a mommy tummy tuck. Like, these people are

515
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 3: doing this for whatever reason they need to do it.

516
00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:05,920
Speaker 3: Is it confidence?

517
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:06,320
Speaker 4: Is it?

518
00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:08,480
Speaker 3: Most of the time? It's confidence? Most of the time,

519
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:11,240
Speaker 3: it's something they don't like about themselves, So it's helping

520
00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:15,520
Speaker 3: them actually live a better quality of life by thinking

521
00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:18,399
Speaker 3: of themselves as a better person. This just now happens

522
00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 3: to be a medication. The only thing that it gets

523
00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:27,640
Speaker 3: hairy is that it is very true. These drugs make

524
00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:31,680
Speaker 3: you less hungry, explos your digestive down, digestive system down,

525
00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,359
Speaker 3: and you know it does help you burn the fat

526
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:38,479
Speaker 3: basically because you know that's why people with diabetes takes it.

527
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:43,160
Speaker 3: The thing is there's no support people are getting. It's like, here,

528
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:47,399
Speaker 3: take this and it's a cosmetic drug. But unlike when

529
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:50,000
Speaker 3: someone gets gastric bypassed and they have to go through

530
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Speaker 3: six eight weeks of mental evaluation and mental health support

531
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:57,960
Speaker 3: and going to a counselor teaching them how to get better.

532
00:22:58,000 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 3: This is how your life is going to change because

533
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,399
Speaker 3: you've ever been thin before. They're just giving them the

534
00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 3: drug with no support behind it, and I just think

535
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,960
Speaker 3: that that's the one thing that's missing. If someone chooses

536
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:10,399
Speaker 3: to take this drug and the FDA says it's fine

537
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 3: to take for the rest of their life, cool, but

538
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,160
Speaker 3: are you actually going to change the action that got

539
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:17,240
Speaker 3: you to the place where you were unhealthy?

540
00:23:17,400 --> 00:23:20,359
Speaker 4: Or are you taking it because you have.

541
00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 3: Worked so hard and you you were never able to

542
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:25,360
Speaker 3: lose weight and you were eating as best you can.

543
00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:27,880
Speaker 4: So there's so many different variables for me to.

544
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 3: Be like, oh my gosh, like that's so dumb, Like

545
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 3: I can't believe people can do that.

546
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Speaker 4: I'm like, look, it's your body, you know. I can

547
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Speaker 4: easy say like.

548
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:36,840
Speaker 3: You shouldn't do that, like you should work hard like.

549
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 2: And I think it's hard when people do say oh,

550
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:41,720
Speaker 2: just work out and eat better, because that's if it

551
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 2: was that easy, we would all do it.

552
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:46,400
Speaker 1: It is not that easy, and no one. I think

553
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:47,720
Speaker 1: the thing that we all fall down.

554
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:49,880
Speaker 4: Sometimes you gotta go down to go up.

555
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:54,120
Speaker 3: I think what's really really annoying about that entire process

556
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,400
Speaker 3: is that every person that's listening and every person in here,

557
00:23:57,560 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 3: we've all judged somebody on something.

558
00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 4: But perfection is temporary. Change is constant.

559
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:05,280
Speaker 3: So we have to stop focusing on judging people and

560
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 3: be like, how am I going to actually change myself to.

561
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:08,359
Speaker 4: Be a better person.

562
00:24:08,840 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 3: You know, if they're grown, if they're above over eighteen,

563
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 3: they have to decide what it is that they want

564
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:15,479
Speaker 3: to do for themselves. I just wish that something like

565
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:17,640
Speaker 3: ozempics and we glue tye, these peptides that are helping

566
00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 3: people lose weight. I wish more support, yeah, just you know,

567
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 3: either weekly or monthly support to be like, how are

568
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 3: you doing?

569
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 4: Did you change your diet? But oftentimes doctors, no shaded doctor,

570
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 4: A lot of doctors.

571
00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 3: Want to give you medicine before they want to give

572
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Speaker 3: you the guidance on how to change and how to

573
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:36,639
Speaker 3: eat and how to exercise. So I just think that

574
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Speaker 3: there's needs to be a bigger conversation around it because

575
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Speaker 3: there's some people who are taking it that they probably

576
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:42,560
Speaker 3: see that they don't need to take it, and they

577
00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:46,240
Speaker 3: would be much more mentally healthy and more confident by

578
00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 3: doing it themselves.

579
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Speaker 2: Now, let me ask this about yourself personally, since we've

580
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 2: been doing this this whole time, but you've also been

581
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,760
Speaker 2: doing a different fitness journey now, right, you've been doing

582
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:04,119
Speaker 2: the these fitness competitions, yes, and so your body has changed.

583
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:07,120
Speaker 2: How is that for you mentally? Because I know sometimes

584
00:25:07,160 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 2: we're so used to seeing ourselves a certain way that

585
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:12,960
Speaker 2: now you're bigger as far as you know, bulking up,

586
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:13,760
Speaker 2: How is that for you?

587
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:14,119
Speaker 3: Yo?

588
00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 4: So it's I'm gonna be super honest.

589
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 3: So when I first started the journey, I had shoulder surgery,

590
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 3: so everything changed, like I couldn't do my hit training

591
00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:24,280
Speaker 3: or insanity, didn't want to do it anyway, you know,

592
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:25,120
Speaker 3: Burbie suck.

593
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 4: But anyway, so.

594
00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 3: I started to know. So I started lifting weights and

595
00:25:29,400 --> 00:25:32,159
Speaker 3: I got this amazing trainer name is Kristin and she

596
00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 3: just like Kristin Bennett, and she just whooped my ass

597
00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 3: in a jim.

598
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 4: And throughout that process, I loved it.

599
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:40,840
Speaker 3: I remember getting the two hundred and twenty pounds and

600
00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,159
Speaker 3: looking different, and each time I would weigh myself and

601
00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 3: I would staying two hundred and twenty pounds. My body

602
00:25:45,680 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 3: was changing. But simultaneously as that was happening, you know,

603
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:52,400
Speaker 3: I'm a forty plus year old man, and I realized,

604
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:54,360
Speaker 3: like one day, me and my husband were having an

605
00:25:54,359 --> 00:25:55,119
Speaker 3: intimate moment.

606
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,719
Speaker 4: And so afterwards, I was like, yo, he ain't as

607
00:25:58,760 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 4: strong as he was before.

608
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:04,199
Speaker 3: I'm like something, something's happening up, you know what I mean.

609
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm like down there is not feeling the same.

610
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:09,479
Speaker 3: So I went to the doctor and I was just like,

611
00:26:09,760 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 3: you know, what can I do about this? I mean,

612
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:13,639
Speaker 3: I wasn't like I could still perform, but it just wasn't.

613
00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:16,360
Speaker 1: It wasn't wasn't it wasn't all the way.

614
00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:17,880
Speaker 4: It wasn't wasn't exactly.

615
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:20,399
Speaker 3: So then he was like, you know, we have you know,

616
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:23,760
Speaker 3: testosterone support for men, and so I actually got my

617
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 3: first like testosterone actually got pills the first time, like

618
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:31,359
Speaker 3: pellets that they release every now and then. Anyway, I

619
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:34,479
Speaker 3: switched to like getting testosterone shots and it changed everything.

620
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 3: I became like happier, more energy. I even slept better,

621
00:26:39,359 --> 00:26:42,400
Speaker 3: and uh my husband realized that I got stronger, if

622
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:45,760
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, quote unquote. So it just

623
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:47,719
Speaker 3: made me. It just made me become so much more

624
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,119
Speaker 3: confident that I just told my my trainer. I was like,

625
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 3: I think I want to compete, and she was like,

626
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 3: are you sure? And she actually said to me, she

627
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 3: was like, I'm worried more about the mental effect that

628
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 3: it's going to have on you rather than the physical effect.

629
00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 4: She was like, cause you're gonna feel strong, you' gonna

630
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:02,200
Speaker 4: look good.

631
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 3: And I was like why and she's like, because on

632
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 3: show day you're not gonna look how you really look,

633
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 3: because on show day you're basically taking your body and

634
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:17,560
Speaker 3: trying to emphasize your kinesiology, right, You're trying to like

635
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 3: your muscular skeletal system. You're like, how rip can I be?

636
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 3: How symmetrical can I be? And she was like on

637
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 3: that day, do not get attached to that face. And

638
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 3: it's so interesting. I remember like looking at pictures like

639
00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 3: a couple of days later, and I was just like, oh,

640
00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 3: I'm like, I look so good that day for the show,

641
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,040
Speaker 3: but I'm like, that is not the face.

642
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 4: But here's the thing that's like really tough.

643
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:40,200
Speaker 3: So then I had to go into a place where

644
00:27:40,240 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 3: the judges were like, I got I won, you know,

645
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 3: five first place metals and I made it to Nationals. Okay,

646
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 3: so I'm going to right your little flex there. So

647
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:52,160
Speaker 3: I'm going to Nationals in July. And so my coach

648
00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,159
Speaker 3: was like, now you have to bulk up, and they

649
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 3: were like he and my coach, he and my trainer,

650
00:27:57,760 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 3: Justin and Christen were like, he said, you got to

651
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:00,879
Speaker 3: get to two thirty five and she's like, you have

652
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:02,879
Speaker 3: to get the two hundred and forty pounds now. Mind you,

653
00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 3: why did I start this journey in the first ways

654
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 3: Because I was two hundred and twenty eight pounds and

655
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:09,919
Speaker 3: I hated the way that I look. So there was

656
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:12,919
Speaker 3: a total mental fuck that was happening as I was

657
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 3: gaining weight. And the one thing that I absolutely hated

658
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 3: about myself when I saw myself in the mirror that

659
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 3: day is like my full face, right, and I like

660
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 3: still struggle with that today. Like my husband's like, oh

661
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 3: my god, you're absolutely beautiful. And anytime somebody hits on

662
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,320
Speaker 3: me in the gym, thank you very much. When you

663
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 3: hit on me at thirty five, I appreciate it. You

664
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 3: have no idea, so just keep on hitting on me.

665
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,040
Speaker 4: But so that's the only thing that's like really tough.

666
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 4: And I love my body.

667
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:40,920
Speaker 3: I love the thickness, you know what I mean. Thicker

668
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 3: than a snicker is a real thing. And you don't

669
00:28:43,480 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 3: have to eat snickers, but you can. I'm a snicker,

670
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 3: but you know. So I love the body. I loved

671
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:52,280
Speaker 3: the building of mysel I can feel it. But I

672
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 3: still kind of have a problem with the full face

673
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 3: thing that I'm working through it.

674
00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 2: And oh, my weight goes to my face whenever I

675
00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 2: gained like three pounds. My face is like the first

676
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 2: thing I feel like you could always tell looking at

677
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 2: my face right before I get my period.

678
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,000
Speaker 1: My face is like yeah, I see it.

679
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,120
Speaker 2: Yeah it's annoying because then I annoying. I hate certain

680
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 2: like angles.

681
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 4: But no one else thinks that way about us.

682
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 1: Now, I hear it.

683
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 4: Now we're on the same page. You're on the same page.

684
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 3: Like I look at somebody like even when I see

685
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 3: guys who I think are hot that were in, you know,

686
00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 3: a show, and I see them in their bulky face,

687
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,880
Speaker 3: I'm like, damn it even hot or bigger. Like when

688
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 3: somebody says that to me, I'm like, it doesn't apply

689
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 3: to me. You know what. I'm saying something with you.

690
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:32,440
Speaker 2: I saw that you also, because since you're so open,

691
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 2: I saw you on I guess it's called X now

692
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 2: saying that you feel you have sex like three to

693
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 2: four times a week.

694
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 4: Absolutely, Okay, Oh follow me on X follow me.

695
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've seen some X on x X.

696
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 3: I actually just showed I actually just showed two in

697
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 3: the thirty five pounds of feet back here because I'm

698
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:54,240
Speaker 3: like listening to the Yeah I don't know X. But yes,

699
00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 3: me and my husband have been together thirteen years. And

700
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 3: let me tell you something. So the V too, Yes,

701
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 3: the V is there. I don't go too low, not there,

702
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:06,719
Speaker 3: but Angela, you are taking me. You're taking me all

703
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:10,000
Speaker 3: the way there and I'm here for it. Yeah, you know,

704
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 3: I think. So here's one thing. So I almost partner

705
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:16,719
Speaker 3: with this cockering company, and when we were going through

706
00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:19,200
Speaker 3: the process of partnering with him, you I found a lot.

707
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:22,200
Speaker 3: I found out a lot and learned a lot about

708
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 3: you know, male health down there. And one of the

709
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 3: main reasons people get testicular cancer and things like that

710
00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:31,240
Speaker 3: is because they don't use it. And the one reason

711
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 3: why people really get you know, limp down there is

712
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 3: because you know, you have to use it.

713
00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 4: If you don't lose it, use it.

714
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 1: You lose. So you got and my husband, first of all.

715
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,720
Speaker 3: My husbands, he's fifty two. He doesn't look at you

716
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 3: can follow him on X to Scott Blocker and I'm

717
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 3: forty five and I'm like, bro, like you're outperforming me.

718
00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 3: Like I gotta pull up, you know what I say.

719
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 3: The testosterone help soon. But yeah, we have a lot

720
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 3: of fun after Still.

721
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 1: So what happened with the Cochrane company.

722
00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:03,560
Speaker 4: They didn't want to pay me enough money.

723
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 1: Okay, if I'm showing my cock your.

724
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 3: Own, it's going to be some money behind it.

725
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 1: Do you hear you should develop your own I think

726
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 1: so too.

727
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 4: Actually, one of the woman who.

728
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:14,600
Speaker 1: In that case, you know, I've had a.

729
00:31:14,600 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 4: Request to get for me and my husband to gets.

730
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:21,160
Speaker 1: I mean, there's a real.

731
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:22,840
Speaker 3: Demand for that, I know, but I'm like, that's a

732
00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 3: one time purchase. I got to figure out how to

733
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 3: make passive income from it. Now.

734
00:31:26,320 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 2: Some people use them enough and they got to get

735
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 2: a new one if it gets worn out. Moving on, listen,

736
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 2: we got to talk about dig Deeper, because that is your.

737
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 1: This whole time, you know, speaking of dil dos.

738
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 3: Okay, let's get back on the fitness train.

739
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 1: Back to that.

740
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:50,239
Speaker 2: So let's talk about dig Deeper and why you just

741
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 2: decided to develop this new program for people.

742
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 3: It actually goes back to what I was saying about

743
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,959
Speaker 3: my shoulder surgery. I just realized that as I've gotten older,

744
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:01,760
Speaker 3: train in the way that I was training before. While

745
00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 3: I felt really great in cardiovascular health, there's nothing better

746
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 3: than putting on muscle. The energy and where people have

747
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 3: to understand, especially women, because y'all say, oh, you're not

748
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 3: gonna get bulky.

749
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 4: I'm like, no, you're not gonna get bulky. It's not possible.

750
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 3: However, you turn your body into a fat burning machine

751
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 3: the more muscle you have. But to make that more

752
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 3: like in Layman's terms, you will increase your metabolism. The

753
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 3: more muscle you have and so you know, a large,

754
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 3: a large part of my audience for home fitness is women.

755
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 3: It's way above eighty percent. But at the same time,

756
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 3: women carry more fat than men. Naturally. You have boobs,

757
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 3: your hips, you have your cycle, you know these, all

758
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:46,560
Speaker 3: of these things going to play and so what I'm

759
00:32:46,600 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 3: trying to do. Obviously, guys they follow it, they get it,

760
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 3: you know whatever. But I want women to understand, like,

761
00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:55,240
Speaker 3: building muscle is not a bad thing. It is literally

762
00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 3: your best friend.

763
00:32:56,520 --> 00:32:59,080
Speaker 2: And now I agree it helps your metabolism. That's why

764
00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 2: my trainer to always tell me you have to do

765
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 2: strength training because I love doing cardio, I will run,

766
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 2: I will do all of that, but strength training is

767
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 2: so hard for me. But it definitely does. And I

768
00:33:09,400 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 2: think with your pasture it helps so much. As we're

769
00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,239
Speaker 2: getting older and we're all like looking down like this,

770
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 2: even being able to work these muscles in your back,

771
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 2: that's what's going to really help you with any type

772
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 2: of pain that you have there too. And I notice

773
00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 2: when I do follow a regiment, it does help.

774
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 3: Yes, so perfect, I love it. You just gave a

775
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:28,960
Speaker 3: plug for dig Deeper. And what I do is I

776
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 3: teach people. It's designed in three different phases or collections,

777
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:34,040
Speaker 3: if you will. And the first one is like these

778
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,920
Speaker 3: giant circuits that just get your muscles sore, get the

779
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:39,760
Speaker 3: moving I'm teaching how to activate. Then it goes into

780
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 3: like super set and time under tention, where you gain

781
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 3: more control of your muscles.

782
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,440
Speaker 4: You really start to build. And then it goes to.

783
00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:49,200
Speaker 3: The build phase where that's where a lot of people

784
00:33:49,440 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 3: find it difficult, but it's more fun because the weight

785
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 3: is a little bit heavier, and that's where a lot

786
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:54,520
Speaker 3: of women get afraid.

787
00:33:54,560 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 4: They're like, oh, that wasths too heavy.

788
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:56,200
Speaker 3: I'm gonna you know.

789
00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 4: I'm like, that's me, this is it, but this is

790
00:33:58,400 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 4: a good day.

791
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:01,320
Speaker 3: But remember the first you were I don't know about you,

792
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:03,160
Speaker 3: but like for people out there, the first time you're

793
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 3: able to do a push up, and how powerful that felt, right,

794
00:34:05,880 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 3: you know?

795
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,760
Speaker 4: I mean, that's just like the consistency that's building your strength.

796
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:11,160
Speaker 2: Even a plank for me, if I remember when I

797
00:34:11,200 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 2: was doing yoga all the time, and then I was

798
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:15,040
Speaker 2: able to plank for sixty seconds. At first, because I

799
00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 2: couldn't do it, my whole body would be shaking. And

800
00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:19,840
Speaker 2: then after I kept going and kept going and I

801
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 2: was able to do that for sixty seconds.

802
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: It was amazing. I couldn't believe it.

803
00:34:23,120 --> 00:34:24,799
Speaker 3: Yeah it's yeahs just over time.

804
00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 4: So dig deeper is all strengths.

805
00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: I'm doing this.

806
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:29,719
Speaker 3: I don't you need a bench in dumbbells. You can

807
00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 3: do it at the gym if you want. You know,

808
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 3: you can stream it and I take you through. And

809
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 3: I'm telling you the results that people are having just

810
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:40,320
Speaker 3: after thirty days, not necessarily not weight loss, like body recomposition,

811
00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:43,279
Speaker 3: just seeing their body change because I always say, like

812
00:34:43,600 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 3: a pound of fat is this big and circumference a

813
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 3: pound of muscle is there?

814
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:51,280
Speaker 4: Okay, so people are so focused on weight loss.

815
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 3: I'm like, focused on fat loss and your body's going

816
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:58,880
Speaker 3: to get smaller and stronger rather than focusing on losing weight,

817
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 3: and you're losing muscle too. That's why just doing cardio,

818
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:04,399
Speaker 3: unless you really like it or you're a marathon runner

819
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 3: or something like that, is not really the thing that's

820
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:08,879
Speaker 3: going to give you the max benefit, especially if you're

821
00:35:08,920 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 3: just a quote unquote regular person that's like, yo, you know,

822
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 3: I'm a mom, I got to go to pick up

823
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 3: my kids, Like what.

824
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 4: Can I do to keep myself strong?

825
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 3: Fine? Forty five minutes a day lift and do some

826
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:23,439
Speaker 3: cardio after and the combination will be great.

827
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:25,800
Speaker 2: All right, well good, Well, I'm definitely going to dig deeper.

828
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:28,160
Speaker 2: I cannot wait to do this work out because I

829
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,080
Speaker 2: am trying to be better and making sure that I

830
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:32,640
Speaker 2: do some strength training because I know it's important for me. Yes,

831
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 2: and you know I always talk about nutrition with my

832
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:38,240
Speaker 2: juice bar about to reopen and all of those things.

833
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 2: So incorporating all of this together, I think is the

834
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:42,919
Speaker 2: most important thing. And I want to make sure it's

835
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,800
Speaker 2: twenty twenty four. You know, we got to lead by example,

836
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:47,799
Speaker 2: and it's January. I see a lot the gingin a lot.

837
00:35:47,840 --> 00:35:50,279
Speaker 2: Let's crowd it already, you know. But anything that you

838
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 2: can do at home is a win to me.

839
00:35:52,120 --> 00:35:57,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's easy, it's accessible, and zero boundaries of barriers

840
00:35:57,719 --> 00:35:59,680
Speaker 3: for you to actually get to the gym because you

841
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 3: can do it at home.

842
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 1: Because sometimes people.

843
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,359
Speaker 2: Like people are watching you when you haven't been working out.

844
00:36:03,400 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 2: You're like, I want to go to the gym and

845
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 2: people laughing at me.

846
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 3: I want to make a point to nutrition because I

847
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,800
Speaker 3: didn't develop a nutrition program with this, even though I

848
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 3: wanted to. But nutrition is majorly important for any kind

849
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:20,960
Speaker 3: of body recomposition or body change, weight gain, weight loss,

850
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:24,240
Speaker 3: weight maintenance. You just have to like roll a thumb,

851
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:28,360
Speaker 3: get in the protein. Get the protein, and don't be

852
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:30,759
Speaker 3: afraid of carbs. If that's the two things I can take.

853
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 4: So people, you know you got to do carbs tonight.

854
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 3: Why like if you actually do strain training tomorrow, you're

855
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:42,320
Speaker 3: gonna burn. Like that's what's burning when you're lifting the carbs.

856
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,160
Speaker 2: And good there's good sugar too. I always tell people

857
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 2: that too, like.

858
00:36:45,800 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 4: Good sugar fruit.

859
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:48,280
Speaker 1: Hey, yeah, fruits.

860
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,640
Speaker 4: You know my favorite thing in the morning.

861
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 3: With my oat meal.

862
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:52,600
Speaker 1: Okay, see there you have it.

863
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:55,000
Speaker 3: Well, I have a trick. I have a quick hack

864
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 3: okay with blueberries. So have you ever been to the

865
00:36:57,760 --> 00:36:59,240
Speaker 3: carnival and you got like a candy apple?

866
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:00,800
Speaker 1: I love candy.

867
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 3: So get some blueberries, a bowl of blueberries if you

868
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 3: want to snack, and then you get some honey and

869
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 3: you just kind of drizzle it over frozen blueberries. Okay,

870
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:12,040
Speaker 3: let us sit there for like sixty seconds, and when

871
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 3: you eat the blueberries, it tastes like candied apples, like

872
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:18,399
Speaker 3: candy blueberries because the honey gets hard and it's so good.

873
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:19,720
Speaker 4: You won't even crave ice cream.

874
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 2: All right, well, look, I feel like you need to

875
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:22,840
Speaker 2: put this nutrition program.

876
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:24,240
Speaker 1: Together to trust and believe.

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