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Speaker 1: heart Radio and People's Choice Awards. It never gets old.

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Speaker 1: At what point should we get rid of that? I

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Speaker 1: that interest for sure. Um Mike, can I try and

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Speaker 1: play a voicemail that my grandma left me about her

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Speaker 1: trying to vote? Well, mamma, and I would vote for

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Speaker 1: you if I could count the amount of bicycles or

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Speaker 1: It's true, that is tricky. So for some reason he

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Speaker 1: Is that kind of I don't know. I always am like,

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Speaker 1: it's it was very overwhelming the amount of people like

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Speaker 1: this initial which we're going, which we're going to you

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Speaker 1: so that they over they have over the limit voting,

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Speaker 1: we should send videos back. So we should dedicate like

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Speaker 1: and we just as they send us screenshots that they

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Speaker 1: over the limit, we send them videos same thing. Good

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Speaker 1: is a great idea. Thank you. I was like, why

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Speaker 1: Honestly though, I feel like everyone was doing their part,

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Speaker 1: especially our listeners have really like, really said about their game,

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Speaker 1: and also just like people that would randomly text me

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Speaker 1: and be like I'm voting for your post about it.

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Speaker 1: I was like, this is so it was very overwhelming

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Speaker 1: to feel so like supportive. You you took the subtle approach.

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Speaker 1: I took the more aggressive approach. I was bombarding all

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Speaker 1: my friends at the links saying have you voted today?

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Speaker 1: Have you voted? Yeah? Every day and there was one

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Speaker 1: day where she forgot to vote, thank you. There was

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Speaker 1: an extra email addressed in cup for it. So I

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Speaker 1: have the details here. So the finalist voting window begins September,

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Speaker 1: So that's a week from today, and that runs through

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Speaker 1: October nineteenth. That's a long time. I'm up for the challenge.

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Speaker 1: So the whole thing, like until there's a winner, is

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Speaker 1: people voted like it's voted. I think that's it, people's choice.

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Speaker 1: I understand that. I understand that, But there are also

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Speaker 1: people on a committee who are also people. Well those

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Speaker 1: people they they picked the final say no, they picked

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Speaker 1: the nominees. But the people pick their choice. I see,

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Speaker 1: got it, and they are going to choose this this

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Speaker 1: privting podcast, their electoral college, Pop's choicecy. It's a true democracy.

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Speaker 1: All of those people who want to vote are dying

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Speaker 1: to hear about your date with Dean. So many questions

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Speaker 1: about your date with Dean. You guys, the date was

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Speaker 1: really good. Marks Why did y'all like Dean does not

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Speaker 1: He fought the title of that podcast for a long time,

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Speaker 1: this day. Okay, you can get you can get a

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Speaker 1: I'll give you a full recap, but I'm gonna like

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Speaker 1: detail that is not a People's Choice Award explanning attitude

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Speaker 1: took the words right out of your mouth. Um, okay,

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Speaker 1: then then what happens? Then? Uh, we walked back to

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Speaker 1: that's crazy. So I find one, I find the evidence,

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Speaker 1: I have the evidence. Would you rather me tell you

423
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Speaker 1: I'm doing this before I do it, or once I

424
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Speaker 1: get the evidence, then come to you and say you

425
00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 1: are being cheated on? I think because I joked about

426
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,399
Speaker 1: it and put the idea out there, whether I was

427
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 1: actually joking or not. I'd I'd be fine if you

428
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Speaker 1: did it and then told me after out. Yeah, I'd

429
00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:03,359
Speaker 1: be fun. Because then I was thinking of going to

430
00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 1: her and saying I found somebody. Should we do this

431
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:09,080
Speaker 1: together and bring her in on it, or if it's

432
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:11,520
Speaker 1: better for me to do it on my own. Oh,

433
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 1: I need a great question because I don't know. Mark's like,

434
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,240
Speaker 1: I'm torn on this too, because I feel like she'd

435
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 1: want to give the go ahead on this. I know

436
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 1: totally feel like she'd want to give the go ahead,

437
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:24,080
Speaker 1: But would she want to be involved in Maybe not,

438
00:25:24,160 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 1: because she don't do that shut it down. In the

439
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:31,560
Speaker 1: best case scenario, he's not cheating. Well, yeah, that's the

440
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 1: ideal situation. But what's your gut feeling. My gut feeling

441
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:40,679
Speaker 1: is it's opening a Pandora's box. Here's the here's what

442
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 1: I think the advice is. If this woman were to

443
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 1: call us and say, hey, what should I do, we

444
00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:46,199
Speaker 1: would tell her you need to talk to your husband.

445
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:49,359
Speaker 1: You need to figure this out. The second you're hiring

446
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:53,359
Speaker 1: a private investigator to follow your husband over, Yeah, you're right,

447
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 1: you're right. Let's like, let's peel it back a layer

448
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 1: and really get to go back to straight up. Typically

449
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 1: people hire pies when there's already a divorce in right,

450
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:05,919
Speaker 1: you know, happening and they need to find out they

451
00:26:05,960 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 1: will carrying on an affair or not. Yeah, that's what

452
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 1: was happening. She hasn't even like had the conversation where

453
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,240
Speaker 1: she asked him to his face, and yet she's all

454
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 1: tis hiring a PI behind her back. I'm not saying

455
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Speaker 1: don't do it because it's hilarious. I know, like I

456
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Speaker 1: the story great content. I thought to be selfish. I

457
00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 1: know it's so tough. Tough. Do you have to watch

458
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Speaker 1: time at my hands? No, that's the weird thing. You.

459
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:43,200
Speaker 1: I feel like you don't have any time on your hands.

460
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:46,359
Speaker 1: So's true when seeking out a p I. That is true.

461
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,919
Speaker 1: I just get so like, I don't know. So in

462
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 1: a second, we have to get to Becca's topic today,

463
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:54,240
Speaker 1: because this is also very interesting in my opinion. Yeah,

464
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 1: it is. It's fascinating. Okay, um, but first let's talk

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Speaker 1: about frame bridge. I love frame photos in my home.

466
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Speaker 1: I'm trying. I kind of am in the mood of

467
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Speaker 1: like redecorating my apartment and I the one thing that

468
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Speaker 1: I want is like personal framed photos around my my

469
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Speaker 1: apartment because I like being able to walk around and

470
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Speaker 1: see like different parts of my life on display. But

471
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Speaker 1: I'm proud of Would your sisters have any pictures of them?

472
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Speaker 1: Or is it just all your stuff? I guess my

473
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Speaker 1: sisters live with me. They can have it's my place.

474
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Speaker 1: Maybe they'll be featured in the photos. Featured in the photos.

475
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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh so um. But if they wanted to

476
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485
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486
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Speaker 1: you walk in and you see the photo of me

487
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Speaker 1: holding little that's frame Bridge photo. It's so cute, and

488
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Speaker 1: I know that y'all act like paying a photo is

489
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Speaker 1: just so easy, but they send you everything and it's

490
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Speaker 1: just right. I don't need a p I for that.

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502
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Speaker 1: but a lot of people don't have that. They have

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504
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507
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508
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509
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510
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525
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Speaker 1: have something to discuss. It's been news in your personal

526
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 1: life of a sort of a sort um, so, a

527
00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 1: lot of people have you know, been talking about Robert

528
00:30:28,560 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: has a new girlfriend, and they recently just made it

529
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 1: like very Instagram official with a beautiful sunset photo. They're

530
00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 1: like traveling, beautiful, beautiful photo and stah yeah, and it's

531
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 1: just they're like silhouettes. But um, if you click on

532
00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:50,520
Speaker 1: her on her page, you can see that she is

533
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 1: a very studyingly beautiful girl with um an amazing body

534
00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:01,400
Speaker 1: and um yeah, so it kind brought up someone mentioned like,

535
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 1: um oh, like I saw Roberts like official with his

536
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 1: you know, new girlfriend or whatever, and I was like, yeah,

537
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 1: you know, so happy for and whatever, and they're like,

538
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 1: does it bother you that she's so hot? Yeah? Person,

539
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:21,400
Speaker 1: but they were saying they were saying Oh, like, is

540
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:24,960
Speaker 1: that does that make you? It was some they said

541
00:31:25,000 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: it in a way that was like that's a compliment

542
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: to you that like it shows you like what his

543
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 1: standards are or something. I think they may have tried

544
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 1: to go back on what they said something and they're

545
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 1: like they're like, oh, does a body's so hot? I mean,

546
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 1: like that's a compliment to you. I don't know how,

547
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: but I was. It kind of brought up an interesting

548
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 1: thing in my head because I think a lot of

549
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,600
Speaker 1: people when you have an X, you want them to

550
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 1: date someone who's like trollish, you know, totally. You don't

551
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 1: want to like click on their photo and be like

552
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 1: wow do you or what like is that they like?

553
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 1: Is that the am I the type of girl like?

554
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 1: And obviously this is all but I don't know her.

555
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:15,960
Speaker 1: I don't know anything about her, but I would assume,

556
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 1: because I know Robert, that she's probably as beautiful as

557
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: a person on the inside as she is on that totally,

558
00:32:22,120 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 1: because I don't think. I mean, he's traveled with hot

559
00:32:24,760 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 1: bikini models for a long time now, and you know,

560
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,280
Speaker 1: I think he goes for a little bit deeper than

561
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 1: that and actual as such a sweet kind humble you know, yeah, no,

562
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:41,800
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. So, but I thought it was an

563
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: interesting thing because I think in our heads were like, oh,

564
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:47,800
Speaker 1: if you if you were just having a conversation, you'd

565
00:32:47,840 --> 00:32:50,200
Speaker 1: be like, oh, I want whoever they date next to

566
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 1: be just horrendous or like mean, like not a good person.

567
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:57,239
Speaker 1: Yeah I can see that. Yeah, like she's pretty, but

568
00:32:57,280 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 1: she's not nice. You want them unhappy and missing you. Yeah,

569
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 1: that's that's what you want. But I also think there's

570
00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: a difference when you're the one who maybe chose to

571
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: end things. You can be more excited for them when

572
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:15,440
Speaker 1: they find someone who is because right now, because you're

573
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 1: the one that ended it, so you're looking at me.

574
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 1: You dated her after me, you would be dark. I'd

575
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 1: be in my dark room listening to sat Song podcast cancel.

576
00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you have it, scrubbing in with Donna. It's

577
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 1: so true though, And I think also where you are

578
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 1: in life has a lot to do with it too, totally.

579
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, happy, So it's easy to be. And

580
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 1: I think with Robert we have you know, he we

581
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 1: still are very just like supportive of one another throughout

582
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 1: everything we have been, So I think it's easy. I

583
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 1: know we have to get him on here. I know

584
00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:59,040
Speaker 1: I would love to. I also was sending him the

585
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:02,400
Speaker 1: link to vote for us as well. He probably he's

586
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 1: a podcastlest yeah, um, so yeah. I just thought it

587
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:09,799
Speaker 1: was I would like to hear people's like stories if

588
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: this has happened to them, and their reactions. Tanya, if

589
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 1: you break up with somebody, this has happened many times

590
00:34:15,520 --> 00:34:18,279
Speaker 1: and they're dating, now, what do you want to see there?

591
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 1: Because I'm trying to put myself in that situation. They

592
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 1: were dating some male model and be like, yeah, okay,

593
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,920
Speaker 1: I'm writing that category. It inspired me. I'm like, I

594
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: want to eat healthier and work out and look like

595
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,640
Speaker 1: this girl. She is young, so she has an advantage

596
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 1: in that sense, but I do also wanted to make

597
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,439
Speaker 1: a quick p s A to all those people because

598
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 1: I have gotten some messages from people and be like,

599
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: she's like super young, and they're kind of like, why

600
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 1: is Robert dating somebody that's so young. I've dated wilder

601
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,799
Speaker 1: guys than myself. Why does that matter? Like, I feel

602
00:34:50,800 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 1: like we're just at this point where age doesn't matter,

603
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:58,040
Speaker 1: like lay off, She's clearly what well. It also falls

604
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 1: into the stereotype of guys our pervs and they just

605
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 1: want a date nineteen year olds their home. But that's

606
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 1: not the case. He dated Becca who's twenty nine. Now

607
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:08,600
Speaker 1: she's twenty nine. I'm just saying that, I'm just saying

608
00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:11,560
Speaker 1: that it falls into the stereotype. Well anyways, it just

609
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:14,960
Speaker 1: perturbed me. But um, we've known plenty of guys in

610
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,839
Speaker 1: our world that date girls as young as possible, so

611
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: it falls into the category. Okay, fair enough. But I

612
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:25,760
Speaker 1: will say that I'm usually the one that gets dumped,

613
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: So I feel like my reaction is a little bit

614
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 1: different than Becca's because I just start like going through

615
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:37,279
Speaker 1: and then this is actually the worst thing that you

616
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 1: could do. What do they have that I didn't have? Do?

617
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:44,200
Speaker 1: You know, not necessarily it's not necessarily physically, but just

618
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 1: more like I guess emotionally, And does he make him

619
00:35:48,000 --> 00:35:51,359
Speaker 1: laugh more than yeah? Yeah? Well I think in my mind,

620
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:54,320
Speaker 1: I'm thinking Robert's lifestyle was like he was very healthy,

621
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: he loved eating healthy, he loved exercising. Yeah, and it

622
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:02,120
Speaker 1: seems like that's very like huge focus in what she

623
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:05,959
Speaker 1: does is like her healthy, healthy lifestyle. So in my mind,

624
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 1: I'm not you know, I'm like, it makes sense to me. However,

625
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: I do want to put it out there it's not

626
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 1: it's it's not all about looks and who you date

627
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 1: or whatever like, just to clarify that. It's just the

628
00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:23,399
Speaker 1: topic is interesting to me because I think it could

629
00:36:23,440 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 1: go either way based on who broke up with who,

630
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 1: where you are in life, and you know how you

631
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:35,280
Speaker 1: feel about your ax. So she's not ugly. No, My

632
00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:39,800
Speaker 1: my mind always went to, so sad. What does she

633
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:43,320
Speaker 1: What does she have that I don't? And that's so

634
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Speaker 1: sad because just because I wasn't right for this person

635
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 1: doesn't mean I'm not gonna be completely right for the

636
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 1: man that I'm supposed to be with. Just even if

637
00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:56,440
Speaker 1: you're not right for someone doesn't mean you're not right totally. Oh,

638
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:01,759
Speaker 1: I do have to say that I, Um, I had

639
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 1: like a kind of a little bit of a weird week,

640
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: Like I had just like a weird day with work,

641
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 1: and I was feeling kind of low, feeling a little

642
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:12,359
Speaker 1: bit like not good enough, And um, this has nothing

643
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 1: to do with you, Mark, and Mark give me to

644
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 1: look like that. Yeah, it was a bad day. You've

645
00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 1: been a great run for a long time now with

646
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 1: the Morning Show. Yes, it was not morning show later. Um,

647
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:24,920
Speaker 1: so I was getting I was just kind of like

648
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 1: just down on myself and feeling like that, and I

649
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 1: went to actually went to church last night, and it

650
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 1: was all about how we can keep going and keep

651
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:35,759
Speaker 1: going and keep going, and we can burn ourselves out.

652
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:40,560
Speaker 1: And even in my pursuit of you know, a relationship

653
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: or a husband or you know how that's kind of

654
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 1: been like this thing, and it's like, you can keep

655
00:37:44,200 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 1: going and going, but you have to just have faith

656
00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:48,759
Speaker 1: at the end of the day. Why are you like

657
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:50,319
Speaker 1: burning out on all this? You know what I mean?

658
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 1: You have to have faith that it's all going to

659
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 1: work out the way that God wants it to, you

660
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:55,280
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I was actually talking about

661
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:57,319
Speaker 1: I sent back to this text over the weekend and

662
00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 1: I was just like, so grateful for your your friendship

663
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:01,799
Speaker 1: and for all the people that are in my life.

664
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:05,240
Speaker 1: I really genuinely feel like I have this amazing support

665
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 1: system of people in my life like I don't. I

666
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:11,280
Speaker 1: couldn't build a better foundation of my of my life.

667
00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:15,239
Speaker 1: So why am I always questioning who God has for me?

668
00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:18,200
Speaker 1: He's put all the right people in my life at

669
00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 1: all the right moments, So I think like yesterday last night,

670
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:23,479
Speaker 1: and really everything kind of made me take a step

671
00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:25,880
Speaker 1: back and like calm down a little bit. Yeah, I

672
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:28,319
Speaker 1: loved that you said that. That it really put things

673
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:31,920
Speaker 1: into perspective of being like, he's been pretty faithful with

674
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 1: everyone in my life until this, Like at this point,

675
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:38,800
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna start now. This is like that story

676
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:41,319
Speaker 1: of the guy who's like, you know, drowning. He's in

677
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:43,360
Speaker 1: a boat and he's drowning or something, and he's thinking

678
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Speaker 1: and he says, God is going to help me out

679
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Speaker 1: of this. And then the guy comes up and rescue.

680
00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 1: Bo says, hey, come on you go. No, no, no,

681
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 1: I'm not going with you. God is going to help

682
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:50,880
Speaker 1: me through this. And there's a guy I don't know

683
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 1: how airble. Then we're gonna have no no, no, I

684
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 1: don't want to ride. God's gonna help me through this.

685
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: Then the guy comes in to rescue, playing come on happy,

686
00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:58,279
Speaker 1: no, no no, no, God's gonna help me through this. And

687
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: then he dies and he goes to heaven. He says God,

688
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,200
Speaker 1: how come you did help me? God says, I gave

689
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:03,959
Speaker 1: you a rescue boat. I gave you a hot air balloon.

690
00:39:04,000 --> 00:39:05,560
Speaker 1: I gave you a rescue plan. You know. That's what

691
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So if you say, God, why haven't I

692
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:08,960
Speaker 1: found the one yet? God's like, I gave you all

693
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:10,879
Speaker 1: of these wonderful people in your life, and that's how

694
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Speaker 1: it's supposed to be. No, I don't want to. I

695
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 1: don't want to end up drowning first and then being like,

696
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 1: but I get it. We need a better result than

697
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 1: drown I'll get out, I'll get the boat one. How

698
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 1: about God doesn't just give you your dream man on

699
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:31,280
Speaker 1: your front step wrapped in a boat? Right? Totally? Okay? Yeah,

700
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:33,839
Speaker 1: I thought it was a pretty good analogy. I liked

701
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:38,040
Speaker 1: where I was going. Yes, the result a little suspect,

702
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 1: But speaking of I did find I met a really

703
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 1: sweet podcast listener at church and I told her to

704
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: give her a shout out. Amy. She lives in Baldwin Park. Hey, Gary,

705
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 1: thanks for listening. Okay, Yeah, Nicole Lappin is on the phone.

706
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:57,840
Speaker 1: So for those of you who don't know, she's a

707
00:39:57,840 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 1: New York Times bestselling author. She's reckon as the only

708
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:04,319
Speaker 1: finance expert that doesn't require a dictionary to understand um.

709
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 1: She lends her money saving advice to different TV shows,

710
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 1: print and radio outlets. Her first book was Rich Bitch.

711
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 1: She followed up with Boss Hitch and UM, honestly, this

712
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:19,279
Speaker 1: book I was. I read Boss Bitch, and it really

713
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 1: gives you such helpful tips, like really practical things that

714
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:27,239
Speaker 1: you can use if you are like wanting to um

715
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 1: start your own business or things like that. I found

716
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:32,200
Speaker 1: it really like a lot of takeaways. This has been

717
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: a passionate for yours lately. And tell us why you

718
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 1: wanted her talk to her and why you're so excited

719
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 1: to see her on the phone. Um. I feel like

720
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:43,879
Speaker 1: for me personally, I have so much passion in what

721
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 1: I'm doing and in life, But in terms of um,

722
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:53,520
Speaker 1: actual hard uh skills and things like that, I'm not.

723
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:55,880
Speaker 1: I don't I have no idea. I don't know about money.

724
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 1: I don't know how to talk, I don't know how

725
00:40:57,280 --> 00:41:00,759
Speaker 1: to ask for money. I don't know like even just

726
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 1: kind of am I making sense? Like in the practical sense,

727
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:07,799
Speaker 1: I don't really know what I'm doing in life? Yeah, same,

728
00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 1: especially financially. Yeah, this is not taught as much as

729
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:13,799
Speaker 1: it should be at a very young age. Yeah, just

730
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 1: should be taught in school because this is the things

731
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 1: that I'm struggling with the most right now. Practical things, Yeah,

732
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:21,800
Speaker 1: practical things. I remember being taught how to write a

733
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 1: check and that's about it. Yea. Literally, like there's a lot.

734
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Speaker 1: I have a lot of questions investments and taxes and

735
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:41,920
Speaker 1: right off and estate never is okay, Yeah, yeah, Yeah,

736
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:44,920
Speaker 1: We're so excited to have you on. Tanya is like

737
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 1: about to jump out of her seat. She has so

738
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:48,720
Speaker 1: many questions for you today. So I hope you're ready,

739
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 1: so I gotta do. I'm like, I'm actually super sad

740
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 1: that you're not physically here in studio because I really

741
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:57,840
Speaker 1: could have a heyday. Wait, I want to be in studio.

742
00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 1: I'm in San Francisco right now, but i'll um Wednesday.

743
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 1: I want to consist with you guys. Yeah, we need

744
00:42:05,640 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 1: to have a time when you're in l A and

745
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 1: you can be like a guest host on our show

746
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 1: because I feel like there's gonna be a lot of

747
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 1: people who have a lot of our listeners who are

748
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,160
Speaker 1: going to have a lot of questions for you. Yeah,

749
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: I mean the okay, well, one thing that I really

750
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 1: want to te so first of all, for people that

751
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 1: are listening, Um, she has a lot in this book.

752
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:28,200
Speaker 1: You have like a lot of like small business spending

753
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 1: hacks and then how to raise money without knowing Mark Cuban.

754
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 1: A lot of I feel like really practical things that

755
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 1: people who want to start their own business can really

756
00:42:36,400 --> 00:42:40,239
Speaker 1: learn from, Like just a lot of um like things

757
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 1: that they can utilize in the book. But one thing

758
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:44,520
Speaker 1: I really want you to touch on is I think

759
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:46,879
Speaker 1: something that a lot of women struggle with, and that's

760
00:42:46,920 --> 00:42:51,360
Speaker 1: asking for a raise. I know you go into detail,

761
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: but is there maybe like two or three things that

762
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:55,520
Speaker 1: you can tell our listeners now about kind of how

763
00:42:55,560 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 1: to have that convert, how to go about doing it

764
00:42:57,160 --> 00:43:01,879
Speaker 1: the best way? Oh, it is so crazy, ladies. How

765
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:03,919
Speaker 1: few of us ask for a raise? Have you ever,

766
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:09,880
Speaker 1: by the way, negotiated your own salaries? I've tried driving

767
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:14,600
Speaker 1: the key word not successfully. Why you're here, Nicole listen.

768
00:43:14,719 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 1: I mean we all have this idea of like going

769
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 1: in breaking out into hives. I used to put like

770
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 1: maxw paths under my arm pitst um. Thinking about this idea,

771
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:27,880
Speaker 1: which I think we can all relate to seven percent

772
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:31,400
Speaker 1: of women us for a raise, sevent of men us

773
00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 1: for a raise like this is we've got to get

774
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:36,160
Speaker 1: this together. Because we talked a lot about the waves gaps,

775
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:38,680
Speaker 1: and the only way for us to close it is

776
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 1: to ask for more. It is only our own jam fault.

777
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:44,360
Speaker 1: So a couple of quick things to keep in mind.

778
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 1: First of all, when you're going in and you already

779
00:43:48,160 --> 00:43:51,960
Speaker 1: have a job put together a presentation, you're probably already

780
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 1: putting together deaths and other things for other parts of

781
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:58,759
Speaker 1: your job. It drives me crazy when we go in

782
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:01,960
Speaker 1: and weing it like this not to win it kind

783
00:44:02,000 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 1: of conversation. It is one of the most important conversations

784
00:44:05,600 --> 00:44:08,919
Speaker 1: you're ever going to have. And your boss is probably

785
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 1: not looking over your shoulder all the time if she

786
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: has her own job to do. Obviously she is not

787
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:18,360
Speaker 1: up to speed with like everything that you're doing to

788
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:20,160
Speaker 1: contribute to the the company. So you want to make sure

789
00:44:20,160 --> 00:44:23,360
Speaker 1: you're putting together a list, putting that all together, making

790
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,920
Speaker 1: like a beautiful presentation or something like that. Go to

791
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 1: Kinko's put it together, make it party. I mean when

792
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 1: people ask me for a race, because I have employees who,

793
00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:35,520
Speaker 1: by the way, like we'll read boss Fitch or rich

794
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Speaker 1: Fish and use my own times. I love um. And

795
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Speaker 1: that's something It was like the whole presidentectually, the power

796
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 1: point and all that does. It's really important because as

797
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: an employer of myself, if you're creating value for me

798
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 1: and you're making me money, then like I want to

799
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 1: hook you up, I want to give you more money.

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Speaker 1: But also remember that your overall compensation package is not

801
00:44:57,320 --> 00:45:01,080
Speaker 1: just your basis vallery, So keep in mind some of

802
00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:04,439
Speaker 1: the other perks that could sometimes be more valuable than

803
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: a bumping based salary. Money is awesome, but perhaps working

804
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 1: from home one day a week would be just as

805
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 1: valuable or even more valuable. Perhaps having transportations pay for,

806
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 1: or your cell phone paid for, or some other perk

807
00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:23,800
Speaker 1: could be valuable as an overall part of your compensation package.

808
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:27,040
Speaker 1: And a lot of times employers would rather give you

809
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: something like that because it's right off in another way,

810
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:33,840
Speaker 1: where a bumping based salary might not be realistic. But

811
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Speaker 1: you want to go in with a cast option, a

812
00:45:37,200 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 1: perk option, and a hybrid of both. And then I

813
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:42,799
Speaker 1: want to actually touch on because I got a lot

814
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 1: of emails and messages from girls who um talk about

815
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,080
Speaker 1: wanting to make a career change without taking a huge

816
00:45:49,120 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 1: financial step backwards. And there's something that you wrote that

817
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 1: there was a couple of examples that you gave in

818
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:56,280
Speaker 1: the book, like Martha Stewart Um started when she was thirty.

819
00:45:56,360 --> 00:46:00,080
Speaker 1: Julia Child wrote her first cooking or cookbook for the

820
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Speaker 1: very waying design her first dress at forty. And I

821
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:05,279
Speaker 1: think a lot of women sometimes think it's too late

822
00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:08,439
Speaker 1: for them to have the career change that they want

823
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:11,560
Speaker 1: to and follow their passion. Um, what do you have

824
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:14,360
Speaker 1: a way that they can do this, like without taking

825
00:46:14,360 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 1: that financial hit. I think a really great way is

826
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Speaker 1: to start a side hustle and to figure out if

827
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Speaker 1: you actually have a business going on. Um, they all

828
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:26,359
Speaker 1: have a business in us, right. What if I could

829
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Speaker 1: make you know, an artisanal cup take stop or he

830
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Speaker 1: is you know? And I'll pock a scarf company whoever

831
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Speaker 1: says it for you, Like I'm not here to do

832
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Speaker 1: do Maybe you want to write this book, Maybe you

833
00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:41,279
Speaker 1: want to do something else that you're dreaming about or

834
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 1: doodling about while you're at a job. I think a

835
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: really important thing to do is to figure out, first

836
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Speaker 1: of all, if that's a hobby or if that's a jobby,

837
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Speaker 1: And a lot of times it's a hobby. So if

838
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 1: you're thinking about starting a cupcake shop, you cook cupcakes

839
00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 1: every weekend, for your and or you sell them even

840
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:07,279
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh my god, my cupcakes are delicious.

841
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 1: I have amazing flavors. I have CBD oil flavor or

842
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Speaker 1: whatever for you to up with. You get a girl. Um,

843
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:17,359
Speaker 1: that is not necessarily a business when you take it

844
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Speaker 1: from a place where you're you know, baking for yourself,

845
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:23,320
Speaker 1: baking for your friends, and then all of a sudden

846
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 1: you have to store flour. You all of a sudden

847
00:47:26,120 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 1: then have to uh do accounting, you have to do

848
00:47:29,680 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 1: janitorial work, you have to turn this into a business.

849
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 1: Sometimes it doesn't become fuss. And I love testing out

850
00:47:36,080 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 1: aside hustle because sometimes it's just as important to realize

851
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 1: what you don't want to do as realizing what you

852
00:47:41,760 --> 00:47:45,560
Speaker 1: do want to do. Because burning your corporate brawl really tastily,

853
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 1: which actually I did, um is not awesome because you're

854
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:53,840
Speaker 1: going out into the place where it's cool to be

855
00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 1: your own boss. But you're your own boss, and so

856
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: you do have now a really cool boss, but you're

857
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:04,000
Speaker 1: responsible for everything. And a lot of times that I

858
00:48:04,080 --> 00:48:07,760
Speaker 1: think home is preparing you. So I really recommend, even

859
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:11,360
Speaker 1: if it is later in life, like Vera, like J. K. Rowley,

860
00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:15,480
Speaker 1: like all these good ross who started later on. Um,

861
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:19,279
Speaker 1: it's really important to test out your idea. I think

862
00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 1: that is amazing advice because I think there's times where

863
00:48:22,160 --> 00:48:25,000
Speaker 1: I have an idea and I'm thinking, like, this is

864
00:48:25,040 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 1: what I want to do, like once I once I

865
00:48:27,600 --> 00:48:30,560
Speaker 1: really figure out the details of it and financially, like,

866
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:32,560
Speaker 1: this is what I want to do. And I feel

867
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:34,000
Speaker 1: like a lot of people do that and then they

868
00:48:34,040 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 1: get into it and they've spent all this money and

869
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:39,280
Speaker 1: they realize it's not something that they wanted a career.

870
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: It was just a good idea, seemed fun or seems

871
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:45,720
Speaker 1: like a good hobby, and like blurred the lines of

872
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 1: like like you said, a hobby or jobby, yeah, exactly,

873
00:48:50,480 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 1: and having a hobby is awesome, but a job, like

874
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,160
Speaker 1: you have to make money from that. So there are

875
00:48:57,160 --> 00:48:59,480
Speaker 1: a lot of times where it's like, you know, you

876
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:01,839
Speaker 1: guys probably have girlfriends who do this too, where they

877
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 1: want to start a business. This is fully not a business.

878
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:06,560
Speaker 1: In the end of the day, even if you do

879
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:08,799
Speaker 1: start a business, you want to make sure you have

880
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:13,400
Speaker 1: the logistics of nine months at least if daving in

881
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:15,440
Speaker 1: the bank. You want to make sure health care situation

882
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 1: is in order. These are not like super sexy topics

883
00:49:17,960 --> 00:49:20,640
Speaker 1: because our sceneialism is so sexy. It's like I want

884
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:24,480
Speaker 1: to mentally five and five before I get off the ground.

885
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 1: It's like, hold up, wait a minute, like we actually

886
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:30,919
Speaker 1: have to talk about that these not sexy things. Um,

887
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:34,400
Speaker 1: because being broke is not at all um as you

888
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 1: want to have your own back going into it. I

889
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:39,279
Speaker 1: feel like, um, I really want to encourage people to

890
00:49:39,320 --> 00:49:42,239
Speaker 1: actually truly read this book because there's so much that

891
00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,920
Speaker 1: you cover, especially in terms of like if you do

892
00:49:45,120 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 1: want to start your own business, like kind of the

893
00:49:46,719 --> 00:49:49,319
Speaker 1: checklist of things that you should go through before doing it,

894
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:51,360
Speaker 1: and a lot like even for writing a book, like

895
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: she kind of goes through the things that you really

896
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:56,000
Speaker 1: need to like think about, you know, practically, there's so

897
00:49:56,040 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 1: many little things in this book that I think can

898
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 1: help a lot of people that obviously you can't answer

899
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 1: in a phone interview, but it's there's so many practical

900
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 1: things that I really really like encourage a lot of

901
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:12,760
Speaker 1: everybody listening to read this book. Yeah, thank you, you're welcome.

902
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 1: I was really impressed. I really really was, because I

903
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:18,040
Speaker 1: think that there's just like a lot of things that

904
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 1: that you know, um, that we don't think about and

905
00:50:21,520 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 1: you kind of put it all out there like an

906
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,640
Speaker 1: abc D format which is really easy to read and consume.

907
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:31,160
Speaker 1: Thank you well. Ye also twelve steps plan girl, because

908
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:34,240
Speaker 1: the first steps recovery is many. You have a problem,

909
00:50:34,400 --> 00:50:36,800
Speaker 1: and we all have problems. I have more issues than Vogue.

910
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 1: But here's the thing, like, as long as you know

911
00:50:39,760 --> 00:50:43,080
Speaker 1: exactly what that is, you can tackle it. And you know,

912
00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:46,480
Speaker 1: we all want to make more money. We all want

913
00:50:46,520 --> 00:50:54,320
Speaker 1: to hopefully they have more money, but I wish without

914
00:50:54,360 --> 00:50:58,520
Speaker 1: a plan, UH is not going to help anybody. So

915
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 1: it's really important to have a plan and not just thinking,

916
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:05,279
Speaker 1: oh what if I do this, what if I do that?

917
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:09,840
Speaker 1: It's actually about writing it down. Uh, We're worth engineering

918
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:11,879
Speaker 1: to figure out how to get the money to live

919
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:15,000
Speaker 1: the life you want. I agree, but I have one

920
00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:17,960
Speaker 1: more question before before we let you go. Um, I

921
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 1: think we all want a guy who is like great

922
00:51:20,880 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 1: with money, but who also isn't cheap. And I think, um, like,

923
00:51:26,640 --> 00:51:30,360
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm almost too careless with my money,

924
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:35,200
Speaker 1: so I need someone who's a little more frugal but

925
00:51:35,360 --> 00:51:37,879
Speaker 1: not cheat like. I don't like when people are I mean,

926
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 1: smart is not the same as cheap or cheap whatever.

927
00:51:41,239 --> 00:51:43,719
Speaker 1: Cheap is not the same as smart. So I was wondering, like,

928
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:47,920
Speaker 1: should should we be more generous? Is there is there

929
00:51:47,920 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 1: a fault in generosity or fault in being too frugal?

930
00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:54,920
Speaker 1: I mean, but there I've been on some dates with

931
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 1: billionaires who af it's not about having money. I get

932
00:51:59,640 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: where you're thing. I think that, um, you know, the

933
00:52:03,200 --> 00:52:07,959
Speaker 1: idea that you are savvy with your money, um, And

934
00:52:08,120 --> 00:52:10,560
Speaker 1: having a partner that's savvy with their money is so

935
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,839
Speaker 1: so important. It drives me crazy that they're all these

936
00:52:12,880 --> 00:52:16,080
Speaker 1: dating apps and whatever that you can filter for you know,

937
00:52:16,560 --> 00:52:20,560
Speaker 1: height or location or whatever. Like what is more important

938
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:24,840
Speaker 1: than having a guy who's like five eleven or six

939
00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 1: ft versus having a dude who's like hundreds of thousands

940
00:52:28,239 --> 00:52:30,239
Speaker 1: of dollars in debt? Like, why don't we fil free

941
00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:34,400
Speaker 1: for that? I start my own dating you should? That

942
00:52:34,480 --> 00:52:39,240
Speaker 1: should be funny. Infidelity is one of the leading causes

943
00:52:39,280 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 1: of breakups and divorced and a lot of couples do

944
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:45,719
Speaker 1: not talk about this, and so it's driving me crazy.

945
00:52:45,760 --> 00:52:48,239
Speaker 1: I'm a dinner with my girlfriends, which y'all are invited to.

946
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:53,640
Speaker 1: By the way, everything before we talk about money. We'll

947
00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:58,160
Speaker 1: talk about diariea, We'll talk about Keno access whatever, like hello, um,

948
00:52:58,280 --> 00:53:00,239
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, I'm like, so, what your

949
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:03,319
Speaker 1: baby daddy makee? Or like what what's your bank account now?

950
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:05,279
Speaker 1: Or whatever? And it's cricket and I'm like, oh, you

951
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:09,919
Speaker 1: just told me about your yea having these conversations because

952
00:53:09,960 --> 00:53:11,719
Speaker 1: it's the only way we're gonna help each other. We

953
00:53:11,760 --> 00:53:13,799
Speaker 1: talked about the race, we talked about trying to raise

954
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:16,880
Speaker 1: money and start a business. These are types of conversations

955
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:18,640
Speaker 1: that we should be having instead of burying our head

956
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:21,080
Speaker 1: in the stand, and especially about guys, like we talked

957
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:24,640
Speaker 1: plenty about guys. We'll talk about everything until like the

958
00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:28,319
Speaker 1: topics of money comes up, and that's where we can

959
00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:32,440
Speaker 1: often get screwed. And you know, I've had a really amazing, smart,

960
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:36,160
Speaker 1: powerful women who have that idea that they're going to

961
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:40,160
Speaker 1: let a dude take care of everything. Bad idea also

962
00:53:40,400 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 1: that they feel offended by prenups. Um. I've have this

963
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:47,600
Speaker 1: conversation recently for learning a lot of celebrity prenups and

964
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 1: I think it's bad ass. Um. I want to ask

965
00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:54,200
Speaker 1: for prenups because I am betting on myself and I

966
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 1: think that we need to slip our mentality around it

967
00:53:57,160 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 1: to feel more empowered and say, no, i'm a office,

968
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:03,319
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask you for a prenup because I'm

969
00:54:03,320 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: going to be making big. And also like even if

970
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 1: you go in without a prenup and you think this

971
00:54:08,640 --> 00:54:12,279
Speaker 1: guy has got it together, like you're very debt too.

972
00:54:12,880 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 1: So if there's a debt you don't know about, like

973
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:18,279
Speaker 1: you don't want to be responsible for that. It's so

974
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 1: funny that you bring this up because we were just

975
00:54:20,040 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 1: I was just talking about this about Justin Bieber and

976
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:25,960
Speaker 1: Haley Baldwin apparently didn't get a prenup, and everyone's saying

977
00:54:26,000 --> 00:54:29,640
Speaker 1: that that is like absurd and insane, how could they

978
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:32,959
Speaker 1: do that? And and my opinion is that like why

979
00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:35,520
Speaker 1: are you see? And this is that goes back to

980
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:39,319
Speaker 1: the reason I suck with money. But I feel like

981
00:54:39,320 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 1: when you plan a prenup, you're like like anticipating a divorce,

982
00:54:42,760 --> 00:54:44,400
Speaker 1: and I don't want a divorce, So like, why am

983
00:54:44,440 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 1: I betting on a divorce happening? No, but I don't.

984
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:49,480
Speaker 1: I think you're I don't think you're betting on a divorce.

985
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:51,719
Speaker 1: I think you're just saying you don't know what's going

986
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:54,719
Speaker 1: to happen. Like you, you might know that how you

987
00:54:54,760 --> 00:54:57,719
Speaker 1: are and how you feel about the situation, that you

988
00:54:57,719 --> 00:55:00,279
Speaker 1: would never do anything in the marriage, but you don't

989
00:55:00,400 --> 00:55:02,319
Speaker 1: know that person's brain or what they're going to do

990
00:55:02,440 --> 00:55:04,200
Speaker 1: or how they're going to act in a certain situation,

991
00:55:04,280 --> 00:55:05,920
Speaker 1: which I know if I did, if I was marrying,

992
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 1: I know. But I'm just saying like people can change

993
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:13,000
Speaker 1: and flip and and then you're stuck. Well that sounds awful.

994
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:15,239
Speaker 1: I mean it is, it is. It's just but it's

995
00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:20,960
Speaker 1: unfortunately like reality. Yeah, but you also don't really look

996
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:23,719
Speaker 1: at contract until something goes wrong, right, I mean you

997
00:55:25,080 --> 00:55:28,040
Speaker 1: for this podcast or whatever, Like the podcast is kicking up,

998
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:30,200
Speaker 1: You're never going to have to look at it until

999
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:33,080
Speaker 1: something happens. So like I have girlfriends who have had

1000
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:37,000
Speaker 1: prenups have burned them together right after. But it's there

1001
00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:39,680
Speaker 1: and it protects you and you worked really hard in

1002
00:55:39,719 --> 00:55:43,040
Speaker 1: your career. So I think women go into this conversation

1003
00:55:43,120 --> 00:55:46,319
Speaker 1: thinking somehow they're getting screwed and sometimes and somehow their

1004
00:55:46,400 --> 00:55:51,080
Speaker 1: work isn't as valuable as their dudes. That is not

1005
00:55:51,160 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 1: the case. That is where we're messing up with this mentality.

1006
00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:57,319
Speaker 1: I think going on to a prenup both isn't just

1007
00:55:57,360 --> 00:56:00,279
Speaker 1: about money sometimes. I mean there are celebrities, Um, I

1008
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:05,000
Speaker 1: think Jessica feel and justin timber Lake, Um, Mark Zuckerberg

1009
00:56:05,040 --> 00:56:08,919
Speaker 1: and his wife personage and have uh different clauses which

1010
00:56:08,960 --> 00:56:12,319
Speaker 1: are enforceable and can be debatable in different places that

1011
00:56:12,440 --> 00:56:16,920
Speaker 1: talk about quality time spent or cheating. So all of

1012
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 1: these stipulations are really important, Like you are just protecting yourself.

1013
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 1: It's hilarious. Some of them are like if you don't

1014
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 1: have date that one or whatever, sillions of doctors. I'm like, yeah,

1015
00:56:34,000 --> 00:56:35,640
Speaker 1: I'm a way to make sure that I get my

1016
00:56:35,800 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 1: day that ye all right, well, Nicole, thank you so much.

1017
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,720
Speaker 1: We really really appreciate you taking the time to scrub

1018
00:56:42,800 --> 00:56:46,320
Speaker 1: in today. Yeah, it was awesome. I can't wait teaching

1019
00:56:46,360 --> 00:56:49,800
Speaker 1: you guys soon. Um and I'm wanting my boss class

1020
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:52,239
Speaker 1: coming out, so I want to see you ladies there.

1021
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 1: You're gonna be my star students. Oh when is that

1022
00:56:56,040 --> 00:56:58,719
Speaker 1: that's coming out next month on my website? Because this

1023
00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:01,360
Speaker 1: is what happened. A ton of boss bitches in the

1024
00:57:01,400 --> 00:57:04,560
Speaker 1: making have you know, wanted to figure out how to

1025
00:57:04,640 --> 00:57:07,720
Speaker 1: take charge of their careers. Um, and we become bosses

1026
00:57:07,719 --> 00:57:09,920
Speaker 1: in different aspects of our lives, whether we're the of

1027
00:57:09,920 --> 00:57:11,680
Speaker 1: our family, whether we're the boss of the business or

1028
00:57:11,719 --> 00:57:15,440
Speaker 1: an entrepreneur working for somebody else. So yeah, I decided

1029
00:57:15,520 --> 00:57:21,040
Speaker 1: to put my professorial hat on um and launched The

1030
00:57:21,080 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 1: Boss that's next week. Also, are our listeners especially are

1031
00:57:25,120 --> 00:57:27,200
Speaker 1: going to be like so intrigued because a lot I mean,

1032
00:57:27,280 --> 00:57:30,760
Speaker 1: I think it's the age of creating and starting your

1033
00:57:30,760 --> 00:57:34,560
Speaker 1: own business. So that's super important. Thank you. So yeah,

1034
00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:36,480
Speaker 1: cool lapping dot com. And we're going to have a

1035
00:57:36,520 --> 00:57:39,160
Speaker 1: community where we're gonna be able to ask a lot

1036
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:41,840
Speaker 1: of questions. We're gonna have work space, We're gonna get

1037
00:57:42,040 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 1: serious here. Yame, Well, I can't wait. I want to

1038
00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:51,920
Speaker 1: meet you some day. Yes, likewise, um Aque, it sounds good.

1039
00:57:51,960 --> 00:57:56,640
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, ladies. By so, how long do

1040
00:57:56,720 --> 00:57:59,120
Speaker 1: I wait before I DM her out or ask her

1041
00:57:59,160 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 1: out to day? She like, you meet somebody who's just

1042
00:58:03,920 --> 00:58:07,120
Speaker 1: born to do what they're doing. Yeah, she has got

1043
00:58:07,200 --> 00:58:09,920
Speaker 1: the energy and the passion. She's great. You know, my

1044
00:58:10,080 --> 00:58:12,600
Speaker 1: friend Brett, she always if someone if there's like something

1045
00:58:12,680 --> 00:58:14,920
Speaker 1: that I don't know how to explain this, Like if

1046
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:17,240
Speaker 1: someone's got something going on. It would be like she

1047
00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 1: has it, you know, like or he has it, he

1048
00:58:22,320 --> 00:58:24,000
Speaker 1: has it. Did you know that her books are available

1049
00:58:24,080 --> 00:58:26,720
Speaker 1: right now on audible? Um? No, but can we talk

1050
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 1: about audible. Both of her books are there. In fact,

1051
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:31,640
Speaker 1: I can give you a little sample right here. All

1052
00:58:31,840 --> 00:58:35,000
Speaker 1: lied to ourselves about money at some point. She is

1053
00:58:35,320 --> 00:58:37,400
Speaker 1: right there on audible dot com. Because that's the best

1054
00:58:37,480 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 1: way to experience a book. This would have been. This

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Speaker 1: it would be an ideal some like way for you

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Speaker 1: T or text Becca TE to five hundred five hundred

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Speaker 1: to get started today. So once again Audible dot com

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Speaker 1: slash Becca T. I just started Crazy Rich Asians. I

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Speaker 1: know I'm behind on that one. My wife and I

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Speaker 1: decided to read together and then we'll go see the movie.

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Speaker 1: Now we see the movie. Yet I always am interested.

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Speaker 1: If I like to read and then see a movie,

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Speaker 1: or see a movie and then read, I can't go

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Speaker 1: the other way. I can't commit to because reading a

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Speaker 1: book takes me a long time. Well, you don't have

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Speaker 1: to read, you can listen, well exactly, but that also

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Speaker 1: takes a long time. That's true. What is it thirty

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Speaker 1: hours or something to get through some of these books.

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Speaker 1: So I'm not going to commit to that. If I've

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Speaker 1: seen the movie, now I know how it's going to end.

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Speaker 1: If I've read the book, I want to see the

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Speaker 1: movie because I want to see how they interpreted it,

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Speaker 1: and if it matches what was in my brain, I

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Speaker 1: go the other way. But anyway, I've started Crazy Rich

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Speaker 1: Asians in my early review. If there's a lot of

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Speaker 1: characters in that book a little confused. Um, we have

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Speaker 1: an email. She called herself a rude, accidental troll. She says, help.

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Speaker 1: I made a major mistake on Instagram tonight and I

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Speaker 1: just knew Becca Tanya Marketings do have advice for me.

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Speaker 1: I was looking through stories and came to the story

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Speaker 1: of a local boutique. A pair of pants came up,

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Speaker 1: and I sent this story to my bff saying those

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Speaker 1: are literally just pajama pants, instead of me sending the

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Speaker 1: picture of my friend though I accidentally deemed the boutique.

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Speaker 1: I was mortified. My friend and husband think I'm all

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Speaker 1: in a tizzy for nothing, but I can't help but

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Speaker 1: feel like one of those rude Internet trolls that just

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Speaker 1: seeks people out to be ugly. What should I do?

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Speaker 1: Should I just let it lie or should I apologize

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Speaker 1: to the boutique? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. A

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Speaker 1: huge fan of all four of you, I never missed

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Speaker 1: a podcast. Well, thank you for that. Yes, thank you. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: what you said wasn't that bad, Like literally they're just

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Speaker 1: pajama pants, which is I mean, I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: don't think that's why I've had people do this where

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Speaker 1: they send me I almost reply. You know how you

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Speaker 1: always send me stories of certain people. It's my favorite thing.

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Speaker 1: Today I almost sent back, and I roll emoji on

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Speaker 1: the person's stories, so I have to I have to

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Speaker 1: double check. But um, I think it's more awkward if

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Speaker 1: you apologize because you didn't say anything that if you

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Speaker 1: said something like those pants are so ugly, maybe that

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01:02:22,040 --> 01:02:23,840
Speaker 1: would be a time to apologize. But you're saying that

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Speaker 1: they just look like put jama pants is and that

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Speaker 1: Oh I mean, this is like if you farted in

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Speaker 1: a studio, you just don't acknowledge, just don't acknowledge it.

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Speaker 1: You just do not acknowledge it, like a silence. I

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Speaker 1: was wondering that you just let it, you just let

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Speaker 1: it lay there. You don't, you don't do nothing, You

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Speaker 1: do nothing. You're mortified. You're mortified when you part in

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Speaker 1: a studio, but you just let it go. You'll get

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Speaker 1: over that, and your your boyfriend and your friend. All right,

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Speaker 1: perfect nothing, perfect conversation. To use the unsend feature, I

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Speaker 1: think Instagram, Oh yeah, I wonder if you could unstable

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01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 1: at this point, they definitely say they haven't. Also, a

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01:03:07,640 --> 01:03:10,520
Speaker 1: listener wrote in saying that we should warn everybody that

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01:03:11,200 --> 01:03:14,920
Speaker 1: when you un send something, the push notification still shows

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Speaker 1: up even though it's it's not just in their message.

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Speaker 1: It's not perfect. And I don't know if this listener

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Speaker 1: was burned by that or not, but I apologize if

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01:03:22,240 --> 01:03:25,000
Speaker 1: I led someone down the wrong path. Oh so like

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01:03:25,160 --> 01:03:28,160
Speaker 1: if someone has their notifications on the yeah, they it,

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Speaker 1: but it's hope that that person is really drunk and

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01:03:30,840 --> 01:03:32,840
Speaker 1: just thinks like that they saw it when they were drunk,

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Speaker 1: and then they're like, oh, man, weird. Exactly one more

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Speaker 1: I wanted to mention. It was on Facebook and I

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01:03:38,240 --> 01:03:39,760
Speaker 1: thought that was interesting. You'd like to get your thoughts

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Speaker 1: on Alexa posted because she's twenty seven, she's married, they

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Speaker 1: have a daughter, and her husband and her were not

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Speaker 1: raised in church, but she started going church recently, in fact,

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Speaker 1: when she was twenties, and not that recently she was twenty.

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Speaker 1: She ended up not going as much now because her

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Speaker 1: husband met her husband, they stopped going. She's really missing it,

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Speaker 1: and she found a church she really wants to go

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Speaker 1: to with her husband doesnt want to go. I don't drive,

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Speaker 1: so I can't go on my own. He'd have to

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Speaker 1: drop me off and pick me up. Should I just

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Speaker 1: go alone or make him go with me? It's a

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Speaker 1: casual church. I can't imagine he'd have a bad time,

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Speaker 1: but he thinks he shouldn't go to church if he

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Speaker 1: doesn't really believe in God. This is what I think

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Speaker 1: about church and faith in what you believe. I think

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Speaker 1: that Soren Dragon in the studio fire about your name, um,

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Speaker 1: I think that if you feel a need and it's

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Speaker 1: important to be in church and that's something that you

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Speaker 1: really care about. I think that you should start, you

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Speaker 1: should go on your own if it's what you really

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Speaker 1: want to do. But I don't think you should force

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Speaker 1: or make people do that they don't what they don't

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Speaker 1: feel comfortable doing. However, I think if he were to

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Speaker 1: experience it and it was casual and it wasn't like

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Speaker 1: a threatening environment where he felt pressured or judged, I

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Speaker 1: think it could be something really great. However, you don't

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Speaker 1: want to make him feel that way, like you don't

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01:05:00,480 --> 01:05:03,240
Speaker 1: want him to feel like he has to go. I

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01:05:03,360 --> 01:05:06,000
Speaker 1: think expressing to him that you would like him to

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Speaker 1: join you at some point is a great thing to do.

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Speaker 1: I think continuing to go on your own is amazing

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01:05:12,600 --> 01:05:14,880
Speaker 1: because it just shows him that it matters to you

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Speaker 1: and you're going to go with him or without him

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Speaker 1: and come back full of love and light and just

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Speaker 1: like let your let your light and your energy be

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Speaker 1: something that he wants to be, like, oh, she comes

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Speaker 1: back always in such a great mood, or you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean to make him want to be a

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Speaker 1: part of it, and I feel like, don't put pressure

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Speaker 1: because I feel like the more you pressure somebody into

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Speaker 1: doing something, the more opposite they're going to go. I

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Speaker 1: think asked him to go one time. I think you say,

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Speaker 1: do me this favor. Let's go one time as a family.

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Speaker 1: Because there's also a daughter to consider here. And my

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Speaker 1: guess is that Alexa would like to raise her daughter

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Speaker 1: in a church environment. And if that's the case and

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Speaker 1: that's important to her, then she's got to figure this out.

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Speaker 1: He may go or he may not. There's a certain

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Speaker 1: kind of evolution that a guy's brain has to go through.

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Speaker 1: He's not going to start on fire if he walks

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Speaker 1: into a church and he doesn't believe. That's fine. You

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01:06:00,080 --> 01:06:01,800
Speaker 1: can also sit through the whole thing and not have

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01:06:01,880 --> 01:06:03,520
Speaker 1: to believe a word of what they're saying. It's it's

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01:06:03,560 --> 01:06:05,680
Speaker 1: something to do with with your family. It's enjoyable, there's

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01:06:05,760 --> 01:06:08,320
Speaker 1: nice music, whatever it is. You can find a way

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Speaker 1: to enjoy that on a Sunday morning. So I think

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Speaker 1: if you ask him to go one time, that's fair.

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Speaker 1: And he says that was awful, I hated it. Okay, fine,

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Speaker 1: my daughter and I'll figure it out from here on end.

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Speaker 1: But it's also very important to a woman, I think,

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Speaker 1: and I mean to me to speak for women. I

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01:06:22,680 --> 01:06:26,440
Speaker 1: think it's important to women that family going to church together,

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Speaker 1: the husband and the daughter together. I think that's important

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Speaker 1: to her. And so I think since that's so important

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Speaker 1: to her, he's gonna want he's going to realize that

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Speaker 1: at some point, and he's gonna want to be part

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Speaker 1: of that. Whether he believes it or not, it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: You go along to support your wife and what she

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Speaker 1: believes it. I agree. And I think that church, I

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01:06:43,560 --> 01:06:48,680
Speaker 1: think there's um like the church is not for just believers,

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Speaker 1: like the church is essentially is for people who don't

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Speaker 1: believe or who don't you know, it's like people welcoming. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's supposed to be and for yeah, for community. So

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Speaker 1: I think, and maybe there's something that he wants you

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Speaker 1: to do, and you could say, like he's that you

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01:07:03,560 --> 01:07:06,640
Speaker 1: don't want to do, and maybe there's that you compromise

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Speaker 1: for each other or you, um compromise seems like to

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Speaker 1: thank you compromising a lot of yea. So it's like

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Speaker 1: you could say he might want you to go to

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Speaker 1: like a athletic event or something you don't want to

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Speaker 1: go to. Yeah, you know, like there's just some things

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01:07:24,880 --> 01:07:27,800
Speaker 1: that you do for your partner, because that's what they

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01:07:27,920 --> 01:07:31,040
Speaker 1: It's important to them, right. So my wife spending a

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01:07:31,120 --> 01:07:36,720
Speaker 1: lot of Iron Man movies. Let me tell you midnight showing.

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Speaker 1: So I agree with Mark's suggestion ask him to go

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01:07:41,920 --> 01:07:45,560
Speaker 1: one time? All right? Well, uh we should say, oh,

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01:07:45,640 --> 01:07:50,280
Speaker 1: thank you? Oh my god, does email from Kelly Anne's

1243
01:07:50,320 --> 01:07:52,280
Speaker 1: really funny? Oh it is funny. Ahead, you want me

1244
01:07:52,320 --> 01:07:54,720
Speaker 1: to do it? Yeah, my sister, listen, I love your

1245
01:07:55,000 --> 01:07:57,800
Speaker 1: podcast so much. We talked every episode about Beccatonia, Amy

1246
01:07:57,840 --> 01:07:59,520
Speaker 1: Ether and Mark the whole game. When if I started

1247
01:07:59,560 --> 01:08:01,320
Speaker 1: listening at in the Facebook group, I love seeing all

1248
01:08:01,320 --> 01:08:03,120
Speaker 1: the conversations there. One day I asked my sister, I

1249
01:08:03,160 --> 01:08:05,560
Speaker 1: wonder what Amy looks like and what her life is like.

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01:08:07,080 --> 01:08:08,320
Speaker 1: You don't want to know what her life is like.

1251
01:08:08,400 --> 01:08:10,840
Speaker 1: But anyway, my sister, who does not watch Craze Anatomy,

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01:08:10,880 --> 01:08:13,000
Speaker 1: I know she's crazy. He says, Oh, she's in the

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01:08:13,080 --> 01:08:15,520
Speaker 1: main picture on the Facebook group. So I go and

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01:08:15,600 --> 01:08:17,519
Speaker 1: I look, and the person as I thought was Amy

1255
01:08:18,000 --> 01:08:22,919
Speaker 1: was Arizona Robbins. I could not control my laughter. Anyway,

1256
01:08:23,160 --> 01:08:25,280
Speaker 1: we love you guys. We'd love to hear more about

1257
01:08:25,280 --> 01:08:27,600
Speaker 1: Amy and see a real picture. There is a picture some.

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Speaker 1: We're on the Facebook group of the whole of all

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Speaker 1: of us. Yeah, I posted it one time. Maybe we'll

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01:08:32,040 --> 01:08:34,439
Speaker 1: pin that one after the people's choice of words are over.

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01:08:34,680 --> 01:08:36,519
Speaker 1: Oh wait, Amy wasn't in it, but I posted a

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Speaker 1: photo of Amy in the comments after that so that

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