Speaker 1: Letter forget a bit. I've picked our interest so I
Speaker 1: don't know if you know the sam but we have
Speaker 1: songs in the beginning, and I picked that one thing
Speaker 1: along because you're white white? Do you remember this song?
Speaker 1: Get your white as? You don't you know? This? Is
Speaker 1: this like before my time too? I think people here?
Speaker 1: Are you young? How do you think I am? On
Speaker 1: a Friday night? Right? We started making up and pissed,
Speaker 1: but you don't know. I have no idea what this is.
Speaker 1: And that's about that's act. She walked away from me.
Speaker 1: I have no clue. Wait wait, oh my god, how
Speaker 1: old do you think I am? Wait? Where? Like I
Speaker 1: thought you were like maybe our Okay, you don't know
Speaker 1: this song? I've heard of it. Are you about to
Speaker 1: take away my white car? That's gonna be a new one?
Speaker 1: White card was gone. She literally was like, I have
Speaker 1: new cards. I don't feel like your name introduced yourself
Speaker 1: a sample out because you don't know I do. Oh yeah, Like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, well I guess you've already introduced. I
Speaker 1: guess I almost like that was a genuine I don't understand.
Speaker 1: I don't know what I mean. We made it. We
Speaker 1: made it to the chorus and I eventually got it. Okay, um, guys,
Speaker 1: welcome to yet another episode. We're here again. I know
Speaker 1: you guys, like, well, they're not getting sick of us,
Speaker 1: just yeah, apparently all getting sick of me just a
Speaker 1: little bit. So I'm gonna be working with you. Like, Mandy,
Speaker 1: shut the many, shut the up, Mandy, you're kind of
Speaker 1: bitchy is now they're literally because I have a lot
Speaker 1: of followers on Instagram. She really doesn't that a humble
Speaker 1: flex right there saying maybe, like I don't think so maybe.
Speaker 1: So they're leaving comments like we know who wee he
Speaker 1: is now, like I don't know why Mandy has to
Speaker 1: keep throwing shade and I'm just like this. I was
Speaker 1: a one time listener, now first time guests, and I
Speaker 1: never got tired of you. I think it's a nice
Speaker 1: little balance, thank you, because they really don't like each other.
Speaker 1: So um yeah, So I'm really excited to have Sam
Speaker 1: because I like, a month or a month and a
Speaker 1: half ago, I'm on Instagram and somebody with a quarter
Speaker 1: million followers, I'm like exactly, but it was a screenshot,
Speaker 1: like these girls are hilarious. I'm dying, I'm crying on
Speaker 1: the sidewalk. He posted it like two times, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: who is this guy? And then yeah, I remember your
Speaker 1: videos and we all love you for it. I'm Sam
Speaker 1: white Out, or at least I go by Sam white Out.
Speaker 1: My last name is actually white. You'd be surprised how
Speaker 1: many people don't know that. No, I wouldn't have guessed.
Speaker 1: But yeah, So I was walking to the movie Theater
Speaker 1: of all places, and horrible decisions got like thrown in
Speaker 1: my group chat. I'm like, let me give it a chance.
Speaker 1: I wonder what they said when they sent it in
Speaker 1: a group chat A guy, so it's all guys in
Speaker 1: this group chat. Yeah. So I started listening to it
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm legitimately walking down a d
Speaker 1: set in horror Lem and I'm like crying that I'm
Speaker 1: laughing so hard. So wait, quick, wait, well the first one,
Speaker 1: the first episode, it real quick. So a lot of
Speaker 1: our followers come from all walks of life, all all
Speaker 1: over the world. That makes so explain what looks like
Speaker 1: while you're walking down I live in Harlem, which used
Speaker 1: to be used to be a black neighborhood. Gentrification. Sam's there, now, Okay,
Speaker 1: whoa whoall technically you don't count because you didn't even
Speaker 1: like the main sort of like center thoroughfare of Harlem.
Speaker 1: It's where the Apollo Theater is. Fat, It's just it's
Speaker 1: just where everybody is. Where there's mad like street vendors
Speaker 1: with incense and T shirts and all kinds of stuff.
Speaker 1: And I here I am walking down the street normal, yes,
Speaker 1: mad African oils. I always smell great when by every
Speaker 1: time like is this we or we set? You know what?
Speaker 1: It's probably probably So here's this white guy walking down
Speaker 1: the street in the Harlem like a prominent black neighborhood,
Speaker 1: and he's in tears laughing at our show. I love it.
Speaker 1: I'm I was super excited, super excited. So what we
Speaker 1: like to do since you are behind on listening to someone, Well,
Speaker 1: now let's hear about your first Oh okay, yeah, we're
Speaker 1: gonna give you. What do you want to know? We
Speaker 1: just we wanted to know about your dick, That's what
Speaker 1: she meant at first. But no, no, no no, actually around
Speaker 1: how would you enture yourself like for those who don't
Speaker 1: know you? Even though so for those who don't know me,
Speaker 1: my name is Sam white Out. I'm from New Jersey.
Speaker 1: I went to school in Philly and I'm a brother
Speaker 1: of Cap alphasde Fraternity Incorporated, which is a historically black fraternity.
Speaker 1: So how did you get in? As I mean, I
Speaker 1: guess they can let anyone in at the Divine Nine,
Speaker 1: which are the Nine. Uh. Historically, black fraternities and sororities
Speaker 1: are some of the most diverse organizations on their campuses
Speaker 1: a lot of times. And part of that because you
Speaker 1: have not only folks from all over the black diaspora, right,
Speaker 1: You've got African folks, You've got Caribbean folks, You've got um,
Speaker 1: you know, Black American folks. You've got all kinds of people.
Speaker 1: But also these are exactly the organizations that were founded
Speaker 1: on the idea of not discriminating against other people. Right.
Speaker 1: So if you are about that life and you do
Speaker 1: your work, and you do good work for the community,
Speaker 1: and you've got the grades and all that stuff, and
Speaker 1: you know, and it's a good mesh. Like I've never
Speaker 1: heard of a divine out organization, you know, turning someone
Speaker 1: away because they're white or they're actually wanting to I
Speaker 1: was going to ask you what made you choose Kappa
Speaker 1: and I right, you only gonna get you the Simmy,
Speaker 1: But what what what made you choose to be a
Speaker 1: Kappa over any other organization that may have been prominently white?
Speaker 1: I mean, how so I went to Villanova, which is
Speaker 1: a profoundly racists. I mean, like basically Villanova is like,
Speaker 1: uh players, Villanova has every problem that you can imagine
Speaker 1: that that the States has, like as as a country
Speaker 1: Villanova has on campus. Right, So how did you get
Speaker 1: turned out? You black girl? Like? What happened to make
Speaker 1: you join? Okay? So the best think he's been down
Speaker 1: for a while, But I think I think it's much
Speaker 1: less about being down, first of all, its second of all. Um. So,
Speaker 1: I mean the best way I can describe is that
Speaker 1: all the conversations that most not all, but most white
Speaker 1: families don't have, we're normal in my in my family,
Speaker 1: at my dinner table. Right. So, like I grew up
Speaker 1: watching Sydney Partier just as much as I grew up
Speaker 1: watching like even Stevens, right, um. And so I think
Speaker 1: that put me in a position where I was reading
Speaker 1: things and sort of like the idea of talking about
Speaker 1: things and experiencing things that were different from me wasn't
Speaker 1: weird until I get to college and I get to Villanova,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, holy shit, like, what do you mean?
Speaker 1: Of course this is my friend, I've known him forever.
Speaker 1: What do you mean I'm not? And you know what,
Speaker 1: it's not even like that, because, like I I grew
Speaker 1: up in an overwhelmingly white town. It was just the
Speaker 1: idea that people could be so deeply profound racist and
Speaker 1: sexist and all this combination of ship Ulva near Elizabeth,
Speaker 1: but but is in Pennsylvania just ouside And like I
Speaker 1: mean it started where I mean, I had a particularly
Speaker 1: unpleasant first year. And the way I said is that,
Speaker 1: like I wasn't a fan of Villanova, and Villanova wasn't
Speaker 1: much of a fan of me. Right, So what ended
Speaker 1: up happening was after a first year of all kinds
Speaker 1: of bullshit with with some stuff that was both affecting
Speaker 1: me personally as well as stuff that didn't necessarily directly
Speaker 1: impact me. Um, you know, I got a new room.
Speaker 1: There was this whole thing. President calls my dad to apologize.
Speaker 1: All this ship goes down, right, the president of the school,
Speaker 1: and then uh, sophomore year, Villanova uninvited a speaker from
Speaker 1: campus because he was gay, right, and there was this
Speaker 1: whole uproar and there was this panel, there was this
Speaker 1: whole big thing. I ended up finally finding all the
Speaker 1: other bowl on campus who actually gave a ship, right,
Speaker 1: And that's really when I started getting involved. And at
Speaker 1: the same time, right at the end of my freshman year,
Speaker 1: I met my best friend Josh. And then Josh disappears.
Speaker 1: Josh is black. It couldn't want to be the right
Speaker 1: he could have been Jewish, so I mean Josh and
Speaker 1: then Josh up and disappears, and I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 1: this sucks, But I'm not all that surprised because you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't because of my first year. I did not
Speaker 1: get necessarily as much time to go out and like
Speaker 1: make friends with other people did because the problems with
Speaker 1: my roommate and his you know, Nazi friends and all
Speaker 1: that ship. So the thing is Josh disappears. I just
Speaker 1: want to say that again. So this is like recent,
Speaker 1: this recent young people are oh absolutely, And so then
Speaker 1: Josh reappears in like October. He's like, yo, Sam, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I got so much to tell you, Like
Speaker 1: I really funk with you, but like and I'm like
Speaker 1: I'm like, bro, like where did what? Like are we
Speaker 1: friends again? Like what's going on? He's like, yes, so
Speaker 1: I was becoming a CUE and you're cool. But like
Speaker 1: we didn't know each other like that, so I couldn't
Speaker 1: really tell you. But like now I'm the bras, it's
Speaker 1: lit like, let's have a good time. And that was
Speaker 1: how I became best friends with all the cues, uh
Speaker 1: and really kind of my circle at Zonova and these
Speaker 1: are the dogs, right and then okay, and then I
Speaker 1: met the nups through that, and it was just it
Speaker 1: was one of those things like when I met the nupes,
Speaker 1: like by the end of the night, we kind of
Speaker 1: look at each other like, m are you are you
Speaker 1: thinking when I'm totally a few NUPS cues. Yeah, knows
Speaker 1: my name, No, my my my ex was a Kappa.
Speaker 1: So that's how I was like, well, yeah, I guess
Speaker 1: he is. He's not no longer in college. I want
Speaker 1: to get too. How everyone knows you? How are you
Speaker 1: so popular? Sure? So basically I'm white and I can
Speaker 1: find the beat and basically that's right. We we we
Speaker 1: would make stroll Deo was me and my line brothers,
Speaker 1: and mostly we made them because we were making so
Speaker 1: many strolls up after school and stuff that were like,
Speaker 1: we couldn't remember them, so we would have to make
Speaker 1: the videos to remember them. And then we realized the
Speaker 1: videos were kind of fly, so like oh, ship, like,
Speaker 1: let's put this on Instagram and then it blows up.
Speaker 1: And then a couple of months later, I was in
Speaker 1: Boston hosting an event with the Noops up there, with
Speaker 1: whom I was really close, and someone takes a video,
Speaker 1: which at that point was kind of normal when we're
Speaker 1: strolling an intermission. The video when she posted to Instagram
Speaker 1: automatically posted to tumbler. It was linked back to my account.
Speaker 1: It goes viral, boot makes sense, and then like Nicole
Speaker 1: Bitchy posted media take out. That's how old it was.
Speaker 1: I felt like, so just to tell you, like today,
Speaker 1: I looked you up a little bit just so we
Speaker 1: can ask you questions. And once I googled you and
Speaker 1: then saw TMZ and they're like calling you the coolest
Speaker 1: wike I ever and then I'm like going, I'm like
Speaker 1: shot shout out to my homie Van Lathan. I didn't
Speaker 1: it didn't click to me that that was you until
Speaker 1: I saw that video like in auditorium. That was the
Speaker 1: person I ever saw, and I was like wait what,
Speaker 1: Like it just didn't hit me, and so I was like, wow,
Speaker 1: it's just crazy how I remember? I mean, who didn't
Speaker 1: love you? Like? And it's funny because we talked about
Speaker 1: cultural appropriate appropriation so much and watching that video it
Speaker 1: felt nothing like it, because like you're in the mix
Speaker 1: and it's like you were just well, I think more
Speaker 1: importantly than that, it's that when you know, I didn't
Speaker 1: join Kappa to shimmy. I didn't join Capita to get girls.
Speaker 1: I joined Kappa because it made perfect sense with the
Speaker 1: work that I was doing on campus, and these guys were,
Speaker 1: you know, the kind of people you want to be
Speaker 1: surrounded by. And then when I was gifted this platform
Speaker 1: strength strictly off the fact that I was white, I said, okay,
Speaker 1: well let me use this as an opportunity to talk
Speaker 1: about this ship that matters. Right. That's when Bossip started
Speaker 1: talking about it. And I think that's when people kind
Speaker 1: of said, like, oh, ship like because honestly, like the
Speaker 1: videos of like white people doing dance as well as
Speaker 1: a diamond does and you'll see it on World Star
Speaker 1: like once. Right, Yeah, And so I think that what
Speaker 1: I've tried to do and what I keep trying to
Speaker 1: do is like use that platform for something actually matters,
Speaker 1: particularly because this is the stuff that I've given a
Speaker 1: ship about long before anybody cared what my Instagram was.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because bro, we have so many social justice
Speaker 1: warriors and I'm like that you were a whole last week,
Speaker 1: so now you could be a whole and be a
Speaker 1: social justice person. No, no, no no, no no. What I'm
Speaker 1: saying is I feel like I'm a hoe in a
Speaker 1: social justice person. But what I'm saying I feel like
Speaker 1: some people try to take on this new personality of
Speaker 1: protesting and the result being woke is cool. Now, it's
Speaker 1: definitely people like hotep best. It scares me. But see
Speaker 1: but see that's not even Look the word the word
Speaker 1: woke is is getting all kinds of funked up because
Speaker 1: people hate it out. Yeah, but like Hotep isn't woke hoping.
Speaker 1: Hotep is just sexist and misogynist and like it's so
Speaker 1: scary you don't know what it is? What is hotel?
Speaker 1: It's like, wow, I should not be the one paraphrases
Speaker 1: what hope that? Sam White? Backup? Okay, Hotep is like
Speaker 1: it's like a it's like a faue pan Africanism. Okay,
Speaker 1: you know how they were like the Egyptian earrings and
Speaker 1: ship and they're like, so like we're talking about coconut oil, Twitter,
Speaker 1: We're talking We're talking about We're talking about the parts
Speaker 1: of Twitter that's say like white people aren't real, like
Speaker 1: not even that, like oh, our beautiful black queens need
Speaker 1: to stay stay subservient, that type of But I've seen them.
Speaker 1: They're like white people aren't real. They're genetically modified like
Speaker 1: ship like that, bro, Like it's scary as like we
Speaker 1: have to procreate with each other because white people are
Speaker 1: taking us down. And don't get me wrong, I also
Speaker 1: believe that, but but I have too many walk white friends. Bro.
Speaker 1: The ride for black people harder than me. So yeah,
Speaker 1: like I'll say some things about Nigga sometimes and James
Speaker 1: will have to come to me and be like, bitch,
Speaker 1: are you nuts? And I'm like, oh, let me show
Speaker 1: my black as. Oh no, it doesn't. You meet white
Speaker 1: people that are like that. So I can't tell you that.
Speaker 1: I really believe all white people are the devil and
Speaker 1: like Hotep ship is like ono, bch hell no, they're
Speaker 1: the devil. Yeah, but they be on the train. See
Speaker 1: what let's just start talking about sex. Well, I wanted
Speaker 1: to go well, and that's what we were gonna say.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you've listened to a lot of
Speaker 1: when we've had guests, but what we like to do
Speaker 1: is a have you ever? And um, So normally this
Speaker 1: you know, gets done taking shots and all that cool ship.
Speaker 1: But UM, gonna read off some questions and I tried
Speaker 1: to make them very basic. Okay, so this so hard
Speaker 1: for us to be basic when talking about we have
Speaker 1: to think on the fly and makes something a little bit.
Speaker 1: We're gonna make it spicy. Okay, have you ever had
Speaker 1: your tail sucked? I'm trying to remember. I think that's
Speaker 1: something you would remember. No, no, no, have you ever
Speaker 1: sucked toes? Actually yes to both? Once. I don't like it?
Speaker 1: Which one? Both? No one can say that they're getting
Speaker 1: your toe sucked is not like an enjoyable experience, because
Speaker 1: we just said last week I almost kicked someone in
Speaker 1: their mouth. Hate it? Okay. I was kind of like wondering, like, Okay,
Speaker 1: what you're gonna do next? And I even said I'd
Speaker 1: rather look at ask than look at toe, Like you
Speaker 1: would rather like to go on record right now and
Speaker 1: say that that is not a leap. I'm willing to wait. Wait,
Speaker 1: you're rather like one toe rather woman. And it was
Speaker 1: for like and a seconds, And you know what's crazy
Speaker 1: everything you just did. It doesn't matter if if someone said, listen,
Speaker 1: if I sit here and give my if I sit
Speaker 1: here and give somebody my pussy for six seconds, I
Speaker 1: can't take it back and be like, well, he only
Speaker 1: fun for six seconds. At the end of the day,
Speaker 1: you suck the toe, you looked to toe, That's what
Speaker 1: it is. Whether you look at asked for six seconds,
Speaker 1: whether you put a toe in your mouth for six seconds.
Speaker 1: You can't sit here and justify it by the length
Speaker 1: of time and the fact that you were drunking it. Really,
Speaker 1: that's my mom, that's what she Well, just the tip. No, bro,
Speaker 1: you had anal sex. If you're traded. I feel like
Speaker 1: it says something though that I haven't done it again
Speaker 1: because I didn't find it to be an experience. But
Speaker 1: you would get your toes sucked again. I wouldn't ask
Speaker 1: for it. If she did it, I'm not gonna stop.
Speaker 1: That's not the same thing. Okay, have you ever had
Speaker 1: a threesome? Absolutely both like um male male female and female.
Speaker 1: I've had one devil's threesome, as they call it, the
Speaker 1: one girl is that. I love that term because apparently,
Speaker 1: according to everyone else, that's a train. So no, no,
Speaker 1: no, no no, I heard that episode. A train is one
Speaker 1: person at a time, and then you said what I said,
Speaker 1: But no, a lot of people, especially well and I
Speaker 1: always hate community, like I hate that I say that,
Speaker 1: but with black guys, it's very kind of like if
Speaker 1: you two guys at one time, that's a train. This
Speaker 1: devil's threesome, the fact that we both I think it's
Speaker 1: because the train makes a girl looks slutty, and people
Speaker 1: think when there's a male male female that's threesome that slutty.
Speaker 1: But you can enjoy the same thing too, So I
Speaker 1: don't really know why they do that. Okay, So I
Speaker 1: have a question in terms, I've had a quote unquote
Speaker 1: regular threesome too. You've had a regular three, which did
Speaker 1: you enjoy more? Mm hmmm. I mean that one, the
Speaker 1: regular threesome, because I was the center of attention on
Speaker 1: that one. But see the thing that I'm really curious about,
Speaker 1: a lot of men try to act like they're not
Speaker 1: so into the quote unquote devil's threesome because they're so
Speaker 1: worried about being called gay whatever. But wasn't have the
Speaker 1: people think I am gay? So what does it matter?
Speaker 1: Do you like that? Did you let was she submissive
Speaker 1: to it? Or were you both all over her? Um?
Speaker 1: I mean it was it was a six seconds no touche. No,
Speaker 1: it was more like, I mean, none of let's you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. It's like all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: she's like, oh ship, we are here, all right, let's
Speaker 1: were you guys cool for her? When she somebody's girlfriend?
Speaker 1: Whoa oh no, no, no, no, no no I met her
Speaker 1: that day. Oh okay. So speaking of this, we're going
Speaker 1: to go back to this college. It was my homie
Speaker 1: and a girl we just met. Okay, okay, So being
Speaker 1: back to it was for the record, it was like
Speaker 1: very like healthy and normal and cool and like everything.
Speaker 1: It was nstoms are don't you think? No? No, no, no no,
Speaker 1: I'm not justifying it for y'all listeners. No, you know,
Speaker 1: condoms were used. Guys, like what do you did? You? Guys?
Speaker 1: Do dp? Okay? I feel like that's advanced. And so
Speaker 1: speaking of threesoms in college, a lot of things happened.
Speaker 1: Have you been a part of a train. No, not really, Okay,
Speaker 1: I thought all you guys did that in college A
Speaker 1: lot of your friend is that not a college thing
Speaker 1: to do? Like run drain? It's definitely a college I mean,
Speaker 1: that's the thing just people do, I think when it
Speaker 1: doesn't happen as much, I mean, I think obviously college
Speaker 1: is one of those places where like winning doubt, you're like,
Speaker 1: fucking see, I'm gonna be honest, I don't think it's
Speaker 1: a train could happen to me now. It's too too
Speaker 1: much in my head about it. I can't see. I
Speaker 1: can't even I can't even be I think it would
Speaker 1: be difficult, not even people knowing, but just the safety
Speaker 1: of letting like four or five men get me in
Speaker 1: a room. I'm too in my head about that. But
Speaker 1: in college I could see me being like, okay, fine,
Speaker 1: only Jeremy, Okay, fine, he can only bring Sam and
Speaker 1: the next thing, you know, Jamal that's it because and
Speaker 1: then yeah, I think it. I think the problem is
Speaker 1: that there are so many ways in which a train
Speaker 1: can be like can turn into like a like a
Speaker 1: misogynistic environment. Like I think that that, more than any
Speaker 1: other type of group sex is absolutely like prone to
Speaker 1: like misogyny and kind of just like treating the girl
Speaker 1: like a whore, which is absolutely not the way that
Speaker 1: I was about to say, he's right, unless you're asking
Speaker 1: for it to be like that way. He's right because
Speaker 1: I think a lot of men are demeaning to women
Speaker 1: that don't want to be that way. Yeah, I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I think you would say three limit, like
Speaker 1: the training has to stop at three cabooses. First of all,
Speaker 1: I don't know what train only got three train cars,
Speaker 1: but I think so what we got his name? So
Speaker 1: these three guys and a girl. How does a foursome
Speaker 1: three guys actually? To be fair, I have heard that.
Speaker 1: I heard it's threesome, foursome orgy. Oh okay, now what
Speaker 1: have you? Then? I feel like the terminology is much
Speaker 1: comment you had. The terminology is much less relevant than
Speaker 1: the fun you end up having. I was about to say,
Speaker 1: because that should sound fun to me, say like the
Speaker 1: other threesomes better. Okay, I get it, because you're interested
Speaker 1: more in the women. And okay, so my last question,
Speaker 1: I'm really interested. Now I'm not even gonna ask girl.
Speaker 1: It's only two questions? Was it? No? Because we got
Speaker 1: the dudes, indults. Man, they're gonna but I'm just making sure.
Speaker 1: I'm just making sure. So I want to know. I'm
Speaker 1: assuming you've been with a black girl, but I want
Speaker 1: to know how many have you had? More than often
Speaker 1: not been the first white guy. I don't know. And
Speaker 1: do you hate when they say it? Um? Because the
Speaker 1: only thing I hate actually is when people say, well,
Speaker 1: I love white boys, and I'm just like, wait a minute,
Speaker 1: like that just makes me feel I know, it just
Speaker 1: feels creepy, and it also feels weird because I think
Speaker 1: part of the problem is that so many white men
Speaker 1: are deeply problematic and and and particularly problematic with the
Speaker 1: way that they fetish saws uh you know white next
Speaker 1: me uh, black and brown women. So it's like it's
Speaker 1: like to me, Um, it's not that it's as repulsive,
Speaker 1: but it definitely reminds me of how repulsive it is
Speaker 1: when I hear white guys say well I only fun
Speaker 1: with black girls or I really want to get a
Speaker 1: black girl or something like that, and it just it
Speaker 1: just makes me feel weird. Um. But I don't don't
Speaker 1: know if I've been the first white guy, mostly because
Speaker 1: we don't necessarily go through our sexual histories like I
Speaker 1: gonna lie. I definitely told the first of my guy
Speaker 1: like you are his name. It couldn't get more white.
Speaker 1: It has happened, like I mean, it has happened where
Speaker 1: like we're in bed after sex and she's just like,
Speaker 1: I can't fucking believe I just had sex with the
Speaker 1: white man. I'm just like, well, we're here, no, right,
Speaker 1: So let me ask you this question because this is
Speaker 1: how I get approached. Is it awkward for you or
Speaker 1: do you feel like you say awkward things in approaching
Speaker 1: a black woman, because so as as you know that
Speaker 1: I'm awkward around, but now I'm asking you what is
Speaker 1: the because when white guys approached me, I feel like
Speaker 1: probably questions this is a question for the wrong person. Well,
Speaker 1: I want to ask him because this is what else
Speaker 1: are we going to get a straight white You're in here,
Speaker 1: bro a question thinking because you clearly can't feel awkward,
Speaker 1: like you're immersed, I know. And he's like, what do
Speaker 1: you feel like when you go to a white girls
Speaker 1: are weird? I mean, but so every white guy who's
Speaker 1: approached me, one of their first questions is you only
Speaker 1: date black guys? Huh? And I feel like it's maybe
Speaker 1: because I don't to me white guys like small, skinny,
Speaker 1: slim black girls, because that's what what white culture has
Speaker 1: perpetuated for four d years. Right, So when a white
Speaker 1: guy does approach me, why, like the first thing that
Speaker 1: is said, like, you don't funk with white guys, do you?
Speaker 1: And I would work with white And I feel like
Speaker 1: I wasn't and I feel like I'm fetishized. I think
Speaker 1: I think that it comes from a place of deep
Speaker 1: um self consciousness and and and uncomfortableity with talking about race.
Speaker 1: And I think it also speaks to the fact that
Speaker 1: like white people and white culture at large has this
Speaker 1: incredible difficulty like simultaneously saying that people are different from me,
Speaker 1: like saying you, like recognizing and appreciating that you are
Speaker 1: black and that comes with a whole list of things
Speaker 1: that are awesome and great and cool and culture and
Speaker 1: all that stuff, and not fetishizing. It's like it's impossible
Speaker 1: for the white community to recognize that someone is different
Speaker 1: without making it weird or or not just weird, but
Speaker 1: you know, problematic and sort of weird. It's fun, Like
Speaker 1: it makes me not even be interested in talking to
Speaker 1: a white guy because in which I'd never have been
Speaker 1: with a white guy because of that reason. It's so
Speaker 1: generally are pretty shitty at flirting. Yeah, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: stay here and just give that. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I just think it's I think it's wildly exacerbated when
Speaker 1: you add into the fact that so many white men
Speaker 1: uh aren't around black people, let alone black women, all
Speaker 1: too much. And then you put them in an environment
Speaker 1: where you're at a bar or something and there's alcohol,
Speaker 1: and then they feel like they need to say something
Speaker 1: like slick to get your attention or something, and they
Speaker 1: think they're probably being funny and cube and it's so
Speaker 1: fucking awful. I had a guy tell me one time, like, um,
Speaker 1: what are you drinking? Can I buy you a drink?
Speaker 1: And I was like yeah, and he was like that's race.
Speaker 1: That is what happened to a friend of mine in
Speaker 1: a work environment where he was at he was our
Speaker 1: work happy hour, and somebody says his white colleague says
Speaker 1: to him, you know, can I get you a drink?
Speaker 1: And uh and and my friend says yeah, sure, and
Speaker 1: he goes, oh, hennessy, and like, can you imagine being
Speaker 1: a working So wait, speaking of this, what do you
Speaker 1: like to do play basketball like this is so good
Speaker 1: out Wait no, but bro, so I just want to
Speaker 1: say I took work. I took my white co worker
Speaker 1: out with me last night. I went to the little
Speaker 1: movie party um and Hennessey sponsored after him. Do you
Speaker 1: know she asked me what Hennessey was? What? Well, we
Speaker 1: can't say no, but she had right she asked me.
Speaker 1: She was like, I don't mean to ask. She was like,
Speaker 1: what kind of liquor is this? Hennessey to Seriously, every
Speaker 1: white people get nervous about something they whisper. Well, somehow
Speaker 1: that takes away from the this was this was an
Speaker 1: urban crowd. Well, this was an urban crowd, black crowd.
Speaker 1: It was a black I used urban a lot. It was.
Speaker 1: It was an urban crowd. And so listen, I'm not
Speaker 1: even a lot of you. They gave me my brisk
Speaker 1: band and they had to get more risk bands. I
Speaker 1: felt like I had to stand there and protect her
Speaker 1: and make sure she got her guy there wriskband because
Speaker 1: the black girls was just gonna walk all over her.
Speaker 1: I knew her. They weren't like, you know, but do
Speaker 1: you know how bad it is? Okay, So, how you
Speaker 1: guys just said the thing about Hennessy. So it's we
Speaker 1: weren't slate and so they have all these games and
Speaker 1: all this stuff. Yeah, so we don't have a lot
Speaker 1: of New Yorkers. So we're playing it's in Chelsea. Ye,
Speaker 1: it's in Manhattan, just like it's like white Girl Heaven.
Speaker 1: Well this was by the end of the night. Do
Speaker 1: you know what all of our urban friends were calling her?
Speaker 1: I felt to Panga, I feel like white white girls
Speaker 1: from boy this world. Well, yeah, we were sitting she
Speaker 1: didn't even know what was what was it her? What
Speaker 1: was the payas boyfriend's name? What was the main character's name.
Speaker 1: I'm about to man it was Ben Savage played by Bench.
Speaker 1: But she was to whip all the boys into shape
Speaker 1: and there and all those different and it was my
Speaker 1: first love. I love. So like what you mean was
Speaker 1: assuming that you I haven't seen the picture every recently.
Speaker 1: I don't know. You know, all these child the stars
Speaker 1: are going wild. She's still bad. It's okay, Well, so
Speaker 1: we know you date black girls and whatever do you
Speaker 1: date white girls? I date beautiful women. That's right. Okay,
Speaker 1: when the last time you did a white girl, I've
Speaker 1: never did a white woman. You've never diated a white girl.
Speaker 1: You've never did a white white girl? Yeah? Okay, what no, Okay,
Speaker 1: let's back up for a second. Um, I think good food.
Speaker 1: So I think part of it is if you think
Speaker 1: about the social circle in which I live, right, I'm
Speaker 1: not around white people all that. Yeah. For in my
Speaker 1: personal life, well what am I gonna bring this bit around?
Speaker 1: No more? More like and like people will ask like, well,
Speaker 1: you know, if you saw a bad white girl, like,
Speaker 1: would you talk to her? Sure? Absolutely. I think that
Speaker 1: people hide behind this preference stuff a lot, right when
Speaker 1: they say, well, I don't like not like so and so,
Speaker 1: I just prefer this or that. I don't think the
Speaker 1: preference like, I don't think I have a preference. I
Speaker 1: just think I have a trend celebrity crush. Who would
Speaker 1: it be? Go, I'm like, shit, always, well no, it's
Speaker 1: just the first one that comes to mind. And it's
Speaker 1: the first one that comes to mind where I know
Speaker 1: for damn sure that I like if seconds I pray
Speaker 1: for six fun that Oh my god, I felt like
Speaker 1: if Rihanna tried to talk to me, I feel like
Speaker 1: that's one of those moments where actually what would end
Speaker 1: up happening is like you just you just get endowed
Speaker 1: with like superhuman strength and like your best self comes
Speaker 1: and then you start shimming. I don't know I would
Speaker 1: want to tell you I love a shimmier. I don't
Speaker 1: even know if i'd be able to. Well, what we
Speaker 1: like to do is then after this part, now we're
Speaker 1: going to get into our horrible decision section where we're
Speaker 1: doing today. Guys, we're talking about the dudes and don't
Speaker 1: of dating, And I think it was only right always
Speaker 1: staying here with a beautiful man to talk about baby.
Speaker 1: You can't see, but I'm white, so I'm blushing, But
Speaker 1: to talk about the notes of dating, um, and we're
Speaker 1: gonna read off quite a few things, and we would
Speaker 1: just like your input on it, um and especially coming
Speaker 1: from you, what maybe females shouldn't do or that turns
Speaker 1: you off in the process of dating. Well, first don't
Speaker 1: of dating is don't as a man. I don't call
Speaker 1: women females because that just never goes anywhere. You know,
Speaker 1: positive you don't call them female women. Really, I don't.
Speaker 1: I've never heard of a difference. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: that there's this trend uh which I think has a
Speaker 1: lot of merit where they by referring to women strictly
Speaker 1: by their sex. It's it's kind of it's I think
Speaker 1: you think it's too deep in and I don't know,
Speaker 1: like motherfuck you imagine a white hotep Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I mean I think a white hotel would have to
Speaker 1: commit suicide. Type is one of those like um, those
Speaker 1: like RASA hippies that are like, I really hope our
Speaker 1: listeners are as lost with this hotep words the funk
Speaker 1: I am because literally google it. It's like ho hl
Speaker 1: e t e B my first one. I'm gonna start
Speaker 1: off with a band. Because when I sent Mandy this list,
Speaker 1: she didn't agree with me. The first one she sent me.
Speaker 1: I was like, bitch, what, okay, go ahead. I'm like
Speaker 1: a strong believer in men and women like, uh, like,
Speaker 1: you know you pay. I could pay, but I think
Speaker 1: men should never split the check. I think it is
Speaker 1: at tackiest fucking thing in the world. And then underneath
Speaker 1: this I put women should always at least offer. Mandy
Speaker 1: was like, oh, don't if it's a trap, That's what
Speaker 1: I said. Don't don't pull out to Debby if you
Speaker 1: know you ain't gold white the Dead. No. No. My
Speaker 1: favorite though, was when they when they when they act
Speaker 1: like they're going no, when they like take it forever
Speaker 1: and they're like they're like whip out the water and
Speaker 1: then they're like slowly that's the way all day. I
Speaker 1: just put it down. What happened working fuck is yours? Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is what she does, and I'm just I'm just pinning.
Speaker 1: Thing depends entirely on how long y'all have been talking.
Speaker 1: Letting your straight friend zoned and you're never getting the
Speaker 1: pussy no, no no, no. I'm with and we were together
Speaker 1: almost two years. There were times where like if we
Speaker 1: got an expensive meal, I put a hundred in. Also,
Speaker 1: I've been in relationships with people who are significantly more
Speaker 1: financially well positioned than I am, and so all my
Speaker 1: nigas are. So I'm not bringing up my car. I
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. Do you know what You're chat
Speaker 1: like a bear to mine? I wish you would think
Speaker 1: I was, but I'm saying it's been I've been in
Speaker 1: a situation where it's been the reverse where she makes
Speaker 1: a hell of a lot more money than me, and
Speaker 1: then what happened to that? So we talked about it,
Speaker 1: like we you know, I would get like the first
Speaker 1: round to drinks. No, we the same age. Uh, I
Speaker 1: would get the first round of drinks and she would
Speaker 1: like cover dinner and then I'd cover an uber or
Speaker 1: something like we it made sense together. But that was
Speaker 1: also like even you know, Mr fucking progressive Sam, I
Speaker 1: absolutely covered the first couple of dinners just because I
Speaker 1: just I didn't know if she was going to feel
Speaker 1: some type of way about this or that. So more
Speaker 1: often than not, I think in the beginning, the guy's
Speaker 1: either going to buy pressure or because he wants to
Speaker 1: or whatever, is going to cover everything. But at some
Speaker 1: point you got to have a conversation because I mean, like,
Speaker 1: for example, like I was living in like I just
Speaker 1: wasn't making enough to be going out to dinner in
Speaker 1: New York City or York. Of course you know six figures,
Speaker 1: I'm poor, so yeah, and I was like, Uber, there
Speaker 1: in is about a hundred dollars. I don't care if
Speaker 1: you're paying for the food, Like I think it depends
Speaker 1: on how long you've been talking, and also about like
Speaker 1: communication and all that ship from from a guy perspective,
Speaker 1: real quick, I want to make sure we sum up
Speaker 1: at everything at the end. So summing up, you don't
Speaker 1: like the ladies to fake pull out the debit cards.
Speaker 1: So ladies, would that be a don't on a date?
Speaker 1: But do you really not thinking? No? No, So I
Speaker 1: should clarify. I don't like it when it's clear that
Speaker 1: you're taking forever because you don't actually want to. I
Speaker 1: think I have no if someone wants to be generous
Speaker 1: and like, there are times where like if it's um,
Speaker 1: I don't like. I have split the check before. More
Speaker 1: often than not, I never put myself in a position
Speaker 1: where I wouldn't be able to cover it. Do you
Speaker 1: the check when you're genuinely interested on somebody in somebody
Speaker 1: on the first date, on a first date, you split
Speaker 1: the check that I'm not gonna find. That's kind of
Speaker 1: but you also run the risk of getting played sometimes
Speaker 1: because that's where like the whole like more often than not,
Speaker 1: I think the nice guys people just have to pay
Speaker 1: the risks. What are you gonna have a refund? Like
Speaker 1: I asked me for one? Oh yeah, we talked. We
Speaker 1: talked about on the show that guy asked her can
Speaker 1: you just square cash be the dinner? Last night? I said,
Speaker 1: go fund yourself, buddy. I I got played once in
Speaker 1: New York city when it came to like I realized
Speaker 1: after the fact, I was like, oh, ship, she was
Speaker 1: just using you for me, and like no, no, no no,
Speaker 1: it doesn't even matter about the sex. It was just like,
Speaker 1: oh damn, Like she just wasn't she hungry? Probably not
Speaker 1: buying groceries. And I was like, I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: did you want to eat? She will wherever we going.
Speaker 1: I'll tell my home girls to do that. Though sometimes
Speaker 1: I'm like, if if they get hit on by some guy,
Speaker 1: they don't feel like they're comfortable saying no, I'm like, right,
Speaker 1: because especially if like if like you know, when girls
Speaker 1: are obviously you know, we're like, you know, so often
Speaker 1: girls are putt in a position where they feel like
Speaker 1: they can't say no or can't like not give the number,
Speaker 1: and especially with how crazy guys can be like that, right,
Speaker 1: and so at that point, I'm like, all right, cool,
Speaker 1: like sort of charge that parts of the game, then
Speaker 1: get your dinner, then bounce, you know, and that way,
Speaker 1: like I've had girls tell me like it kind of
Speaker 1: makes up for the fact that it was like, well,
Speaker 1: I didn't really want to give you my number in
Speaker 1: the first place, so I'm gonna eat this at what's
Speaker 1: one of yours? Okay, ship, okay, Um, you need a minute,
Speaker 1: I can get one. Mine are like corny, it's okay.
Speaker 1: So I think that it's people a lot of times.
Speaker 1: I think you should don't confuse honesty with cruelty, right, So, Like,
Speaker 1: I think people too often think that, well, I'm just
Speaker 1: being honest is an excuse in like a romantic relationship
Speaker 1: to be an asshole, right, Like, there are ways to
Speaker 1: successfully and clearly communicate things without being a dick. You know,
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that I told that guy I'm genuinely
Speaker 1: not interested. I'm sorry, yeah, and he was like, you're
Speaker 1: a horse. Yeah. I feel like a little bit of
Speaker 1: upset is normal, like if anybody's gonna be hurt when
Speaker 1: they get you know, curved. But I think that there's
Speaker 1: a difference between Like, in that case, right, he is
Speaker 1: completely in the wrong. He's being an asshole because you
Speaker 1: were cool about it, So I could understand him being pissed,
Speaker 1: but not obviously there's no cause to go that far.
Speaker 1: But I also think sometimes people will hide behind honesty
Speaker 1: to be petty and obnoxious, and being petty in relationships
Speaker 1: never fucking works. Actually, one of my rules I had
Speaker 1: on here was when it's over, don't start with the bashing, Like, look,
Speaker 1: if you fucked with me two weeks ago and now
Speaker 1: we're over, now suddenly you think I'm this terrible person, Like,
Speaker 1: what does that say about my if that was on you,
Speaker 1: what does that say about my judge judgment of character?
Speaker 1: Like I didn't know a week ago. I like that.
Speaker 1: I just think, don't be petty and you actually you
Speaker 1: had an honestly one on here. I'm reading your list now, Yeah, said,
Speaker 1: honestly is key? Like they save the petty when you're
Speaker 1: venting to that one or two best friends when you're
Speaker 1: still mad and they get over it talking about you
Speaker 1: everyone I know except you. Okay, Well this is actually
Speaker 1: honestly why More like, um so I put an example
Speaker 1: under each rule that had in mind was key, and
Speaker 1: I put if you run into someone you fucked just yo, that'ship.
Speaker 1: Is blowing my mind that people are weird about that,
Speaker 1: Like if if I've seen you naked and been inside you,
Speaker 1: we need to be normal in public anything, If anything,
Speaker 1: there should be more of a reason why we should
Speaker 1: be cool because we literally know each other better than strangers. Well, no,
Speaker 1: I mean the honesty part is like, if you're with
Speaker 1: some else and you see run into someone you thought,
Speaker 1: people get super weird, don't get weird. I was going
Speaker 1: to bring this up into if you're dating someone and
Speaker 1: you find out that they're friends with someone you fucked
Speaker 1: in the past, do you tell the person you're right?
Speaker 1: So what do you do in that case? And do
Speaker 1: you feel Because I've had that happen where I'm dealing
Speaker 1: with a guy and I sucked his friend before I
Speaker 1: even knew who he was. Me and his friend had
Speaker 1: sucked and he literally held it over my head, And
Speaker 1: see if that's so fucked up? You know, I think,
Speaker 1: like relationships are not about leverage, right, And I think
Speaker 1: that like, in the situation that I could call I
Speaker 1: was in, I was the friend, right, I was the
Speaker 1: friend who had who had had sex with shorty before starting,
Speaker 1: and he and I talked about it, so it was cool.
Speaker 1: I have no idea if they talked about it. I
Speaker 1: think that they probably should have if they didn't or whatever.
Speaker 1: But like, I think that it's so weird to me
Speaker 1: if you are comfortable enough to have had sex with
Speaker 1: someone and then you make ship weird. It's just wildly unnecessary. Now,
Speaker 1: are there situations in which it kind of can be
Speaker 1: a little weird, Like if it's like you say that,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna interject because what happened to me? So
Speaker 1: the girl that I was dating, oh, you have listened
Speaker 1: to this. So the guy from the missing Condom episode
Speaker 1: dated him for a few months. One of the first
Speaker 1: people I started. No, my ex girlfriend and him matched
Speaker 1: on bumble And now that they're talking is she feels
Speaker 1: the need to ask her about him. So on the
Speaker 1: plane from Europe, right this is a few days ago,
Speaker 1: and she sends me this text to me. I feel
Speaker 1: like this wasn't a question, not that she needed to
Speaker 1: ask me, because I don't believe in anybody stopping your
Speaker 1: love or what you should have going on, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. But this is what she says. Hey
Speaker 1: matched with your handsome friend. Ha ha, so funny. He
Speaker 1: invited me for dinner, but I have school, so we're
Speaker 1: going on Friday. I really liked him when I saw
Speaker 1: him and you introduced us. Wait, that's your ex. Your
Speaker 1: girlfriend texted you that about a guy used to like,
Speaker 1: right now, I am dating someone else. Flying You're up
Speaker 1: every fucking month to see him, Like until he comes
Speaker 1: back to New York. So I'm into other people and
Speaker 1: I'm not there anymore. But I still felt like, did
Speaker 1: you do you know how she just casually dropped that
Speaker 1: she's just like flying you know? No, no, no, no, okay,
Speaker 1: no no. I think I just flex like Mandy does
Speaker 1: it he followers. She could have right, But the thing is,
Speaker 1: though I will be honest with you. I think for
Speaker 1: me to have told her no, there should be no weirdness.
Speaker 1: It didn't work out with him and I. She's more
Speaker 1: of an introvert. So is he think I get along
Speaker 1: better than her? And I didn't. I think being honest
Speaker 1: with me like she did was good. I would have
Speaker 1: wanted a little more, you know, like, hey, are you
Speaker 1: cool with this? Instead of oh, we're going out Friday
Speaker 1: catch eight pm. But I definitely wouldn't ask if you're
Speaker 1: cool with it because I don't care. But I think
Speaker 1: that it's one of those things like, hey, hey, just
Speaker 1: want to let you know I want to put on
Speaker 1: your radar. Actually, I take that back. You're right. I
Speaker 1: don't think she should have asked me for a permission anyway. Um,
Speaker 1: oh all right, let me go for the number three.
Speaker 1: I really like I don't even know if this is three,
Speaker 1: might be six seven eight. Leaving toothbresh or items and
Speaker 1: getting too cleaning. I'm so tired of men telling me
Speaker 1: about women that do this, that just push it on them.
Speaker 1: Leave little things in their car, take these side pictures
Speaker 1: so you know it's their apartment, or like their wrist
Speaker 1: or like their shoe. I think it depends. I think
Speaker 1: it's I think it depends how long they've been dating.
Speaker 1: But I mean, I don't leave stuff. I'm like more
Speaker 1: of a thief. Like so I'm gonna take your basketball shorts.
Speaker 1: Oh like the hat this guy loved, Like this guy
Speaker 1: this guy recorded the last time we recorded, the maroon
Speaker 1: had I had with the face on it. No, ya
Speaker 1: loved it over and I loved it, And now it's
Speaker 1: my favorite hat and he's not getting it back. You know,
Speaker 1: it's weird. I haven't had that happening. Oh no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I haven't had cleaning is come in the form of
Speaker 1: leaving ship behind or taking side pictures or whatever like
Speaker 1: that that has happened to me in the past. But
Speaker 1: like I just I think part of it is, you
Speaker 1: know people, you've got to be able to figure out
Speaker 1: our people talking to you because they want the status
Speaker 1: and won't be able to tell their friends that this
Speaker 1: is someone I'm talking definitely happens with like popping people. Bro,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. I'm talking to people don't care
Speaker 1: about regular people. You tell me chicks. I've never like
Speaker 1: they had to have done it with you. I know
Speaker 1: I've had shorties twice take a picture of me while
Speaker 1: I was asleep. Who did they post it? No, we
Speaker 1: definitely didn't get that far because I had a little
Speaker 1: like spice Sins go off like wait the funk up?
Speaker 1: You know, and I was just like I was just
Speaker 1: like like why you can get overly cleaning or start
Speaker 1: assuming that things are going faster than they are, Like
Speaker 1: I feel I feel like I hear about it. Way
Speaker 1: to communications just so much so important. I also think,
Speaker 1: I mean, we should absolutely have this under the umbrella
Speaker 1: of like a lot of men are trash and like
Speaker 1: really take advantage. And I think that that like, what
Speaker 1: are you saying You're supposed to be sticking up for
Speaker 1: the bros. No, No, I'm saying that, Like, um, I
Speaker 1: think what sucks is that so often, uh you know,
Speaker 1: you have like a breakdown of communication and there are
Speaker 1: ways in which, like gender norms can come into play
Speaker 1: in a way that's really fucked up and that you
Speaker 1: men don't like to explain what I interject for a
Speaker 1: second communication? You mentioned, Um, it's crucial. What do you
Speaker 1: think about the question what are we? Women? Asking that? Oh?
Speaker 1: Good question, because I'd be asking what are we? What
Speaker 1: are we doing? What are you doing with me? What
Speaker 1: is this? Okay? You just keep coming over and sucking me,
Speaker 1: And now we're going from dinners to take out what
Speaker 1: are we? But then people are and women are scared
Speaker 1: to ask men what they're do. You know what answer
Speaker 1: I get? Chilling? That is a great deflection. Does that
Speaker 1: mean we're just having a good time? And I am
Speaker 1: so over that answer? Men need to we we There
Speaker 1: needs to be a new title, I guess in the
Speaker 1: genre of boyfriend buddy friend, like how I got to
Speaker 1: me flying my ass out number two? I was like, well,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm telling you talk about let's talk
Speaker 1: about let's talk about it. Oh really, we can talk
Speaker 1: about it when you get back. Maybe we should talk
Speaker 1: about it what you're here? But then what don't we
Speaker 1: doing when I'm neck and what happens when I leave
Speaker 1: like men love to keep a female in limbo, and
Speaker 1: I want to ask you because you seem like you
Speaker 1: probably have a women. I have no idea what you're
Speaker 1: talking so for for a man, what makes you go
Speaker 1: from taking it to we're talking, we're dating, we're together,
Speaker 1: And what is that in between bullshit where you're treating
Speaker 1: me just like your girlfriend but I'm not. Okay, A
Speaker 1: couple of things. One, I am absolutely like a hopeless romantic.
Speaker 1: So I this is you know what this is the
Speaker 1: white party, Sam. No. I just think I don't know.
Speaker 1: Like part of it I think is that, uh, you know,
Speaker 1: being nice to someone and like not being an asshole
Speaker 1: can easily be misconstrued as like doing the most. So
Speaker 1: for example, like you know, if I excuse me, like
Speaker 1: if we're fucking, why would I not like include you
Speaker 1: in what I was doing that night? For example? So
Speaker 1: like let's say, oh, I have some of those when
Speaker 1: I getting like, You're like, well he's taking me out?
Speaker 1: No no, no. I meant more in the context of
Speaker 1: like if I'm going to okay, I love the bake cookies.
Speaker 1: If I'm a bake cookies, who are you right now?
Speaker 1: Your black girl friends? And now I'm just trying to
Speaker 1: give my white card back after Okay, but that can
Speaker 1: then be misconstrued as like, oh, we're baking cookies. I
Speaker 1: honestly thought you were, Like, I didn't understand why else
Speaker 1: people eat bake goods unless there's weeding them. Edibles fucked
Speaker 1: me up. Oh me too, bid, But that's the only
Speaker 1: time I'd rather have a nice little communal blunt. Oh well,
Speaker 1: if you like that idea, we should listen to episode
Speaker 1: four where she pissed in a treehouse next to a guy.
Speaker 1: It wasn't a treehouse. He just had four roommates and
Speaker 1: he had a ladder. It's where it was in Brooklyn anyway.
Speaker 1: It was in that explains to bake cookie So you're
Speaker 1: inviting girls to bake cookies. I'm gonna tell you right now,
Speaker 1: a dudevice, what I do think the prose and ship
Speaker 1: like difference. This is exactly why I stopped picturing here
Speaker 1: with like a Vanessa Carlton song in the background soundtrack,
Speaker 1: like you're playing twenty one in the back, I might
Speaker 1: be like, I'm picturing I have a little apron on
Speaker 1: your shirt. Listen, you know it's a day alright, I
Speaker 1: have to skip to the next one. Oh no, you
Speaker 1: skipped grow Oh okay, okay, we we're kind of already
Speaker 1: touched this, but don't being petty. Um. And then I
Speaker 1: think that there's a balance between don't think that you
Speaker 1: are not replaceable and know you're worth right, So, so
Speaker 1: depending on what the other person is looking for, I
Speaker 1: have something fall into this. Depending on what the other
Speaker 1: person is looking for, you might be replaceable, easily replaceable,
Speaker 1: potentially right. So by by saying that, I want to
Speaker 1: ask you because one of mine was like, don't let
Speaker 1: yourself go once you're attached, Like, don't stop going to
Speaker 1: the gym, don't stop dating each other. Is that why
Speaker 1: you said you're replaceable? Because you could be you could
Speaker 1: stop courting the other person. I think that or is
Speaker 1: this in the dating phase? I could think this is not.
Speaker 1: I think if you're dating with somebody, like the whole
Speaker 1: point is it now you do up something that's like
Speaker 1: unique in a in a way that like it's it's
Speaker 1: more on the no your worth side and make sure
Speaker 1: that you're being fulfilled and all that good ship. But
Speaker 1: I think, like especially in early stages of like talking
Speaker 1: to somebody and all that stuff, like It's interesting to
Speaker 1: me when people think that they they act as if
Speaker 1: they have leverage, which you shouldn't be doing in a
Speaker 1: in a relationship at all, and they don't have any leverage,
Speaker 1: right explain, like like making kind of like demands, you know,
Speaker 1: like oh like don't do this or you should do this,
Speaker 1: and it's like what why did you call me back?
Speaker 1: And so no, I get I get that, And I
Speaker 1: guess I can throw in maybe the last doing dope,
Speaker 1: which I feel like is important. And I think this
Speaker 1: leads to a lot of the I guess we're gonna
Speaker 1: call it homemale. I've been saying listener letters, but I
Speaker 1: think homemale fits the show homemale UM. So a lot
Speaker 1: of them come, and I think I'm going to say
Speaker 1: this is the biggest doing dope um to find someone
Speaker 1: compatible in the bedroom, if that makes sense, because it
Speaker 1: seems like so many of our letters, people want to
Speaker 1: explore things and do other things, but yet their partner
Speaker 1: isn't into it. So this leads to the cheating. This
Speaker 1: leads to well why are we together? And I feel
Speaker 1: like people don't understand the think people asks, oh I
Speaker 1: do need? But I think that people should. I think
Speaker 1: people should that that communication at least lead into it,
Speaker 1: like maybe with a porn or say something and just
Speaker 1: say went into right, But I think that's a girl.
Speaker 1: By the way, what well they I tell my guys
Speaker 1: when they want to, I'll be like, you don't want
Speaker 1: to watch the porn I watched. I watched two dudes. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I watched gate porn. So I'll be telling them I
Speaker 1: don't want to watch that boring street You've never even
Speaker 1: watching porn with a girl. Just I guess I'm gross.
Speaker 1: We're both filthy and this weekend so he has a
Speaker 1: projector rather just fun, you better be doing some four
Speaker 1: play and ship. That's is phenomenal. Anybody watching porn before
Speaker 1: is technically you can watch yourself. And I'm going to
Speaker 1: teach you guys how the next episode because I just
Speaker 1: like we could just use this hm, I will prop
Speaker 1: your and watching those And she said, that's watching in
Speaker 1: the gym. So I'm trying to make a video. I
Speaker 1: never made a video. Oh my god, let me show
Speaker 1: you one of mine. Oh my god, oh god. If
Speaker 1: anyone ever got this phone, jesus, Oh dude, that's why
Speaker 1: I keep a past code. I feel like I'll have
Speaker 1: a man one day was like, why you always keep
Speaker 1: your phone like I mean because of my a Jina? No, seriously,
Speaker 1: and I don't know, but you're popping. Okay, okay, okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: I am relatively boring until we get into the bedroom
Speaker 1: and then it's all better. Fucking off. You gotta put
Speaker 1: a camera, bro, it makes so much fun. I'm telling
Speaker 1: not even if you're like sharing the videos like you
Speaker 1: don't have to no, no, no no, I know, no, I'm
Speaker 1: trying to make a video. But I'm saying like he
Speaker 1: seems like the one that would delete it before I
Speaker 1: could even watch it, like upset. I am not a
Speaker 1: freaking quitter, right. If we're gonna do something, we're gonna
Speaker 1: do it all the way. We're gonna this is gonna
Speaker 1: be a cobla. Are you kidding? Don't pull out, don't
Speaker 1: be honest with you. Though I've had some great text
Speaker 1: with people that are like not all out there. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm just generally an extra Kickiness is relative, which is
Speaker 1: why I said it's important to communicate because people niggas
Speaker 1: be like I'm nasty. I'd be like, how I'm nasty?
Speaker 1: Are you? Because I don't think you know he's got
Speaker 1: into like I feel like, yeah, you got to clarify
Speaker 1: this is for you. Well, no, this is the clarification
Speaker 1: that I hope that way too kinky for you. Bro,
Speaker 1: you've listened to real quick and I'm gonna we can't
Speaker 1: get this when you hear about it, like, is that
Speaker 1: like it sounds crazy to you? I'm just curious when
Speaker 1: you hear about a girl and pegging, is that just like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, this mind girl and pegging? Pitt your
Speaker 1: ass out of here. First of all, Sam, you're a
Speaker 1: first white guy, and I feel like, hello, what is pegging?
Speaker 1: We had to teach something? Girl? A girl with a
Speaker 1: strap arm sucking a guy? Yeah, not my thing, but
Speaker 1: I mean, go nuts if that's what some what somebody
Speaker 1: wants to do. When you here, is that like too kinky?
Speaker 1: When you hear you're like, okay, this is too advanced,
Speaker 1: I'd rather not get. But see this is why this
Speaker 1: is what I tell guys when they be like, shout it,
Speaker 1: I'm a freak. I'd be like, wait, wait, real quick, clarify,
Speaker 1: are you a nympho or a freak, because there's two
Speaker 1: different things. You just liking a lot of sex is
Speaker 1: way different from you being a freak, and so when
Speaker 1: they'd be like, well there's they'd be like, well, name
Speaker 1: is the freaky ship, And then I started naming the ship.
Speaker 1: I like, but I think I just like I don't
Speaker 1: want to shot. No. I think you're right, girl. I
Speaker 1: think I'm I think I'm having like a withdrawal because
Speaker 1: I just saw like even a flyer from Atlanta and
Speaker 1: my pussy guy wet. I feel like I can't do
Speaker 1: these New York things right now, like I need to
Speaker 1: go back to the South, Henny. But I think I
Speaker 1: think you're between. Hello, this is a smooth transition for you. Okay.
Speaker 1: When I went from black to white guys, it was
Speaker 1: like all the way Brett was a surfer bro Okay.
Speaker 1: It wasn't even like I went white guy basketball good
Speaker 1: friends like no, it was just a straight and now
Speaker 1: I love it. You know, you know I have gotten before.
Speaker 1: I have gotten like, damn, I wasn't expecting you to
Speaker 1: be this freaky. I've gotten that. That's actually a compliment.
Speaker 1: I think it is a compliment. I think people also
Speaker 1: have like I look like I'm sucking sixteen, especially without
Speaker 1: when I shave. I'm not. You look very young. Actually,
Speaker 1: you look younger in person than you do on your
Speaker 1: pictures and your pictures, like I said, you look like
Speaker 1: very manly, super dressed, super cool. Not that you don't
Speaker 1: look manly now, no, but you just have a baby.
Speaker 1: I definitely have. People are like, you have your model face. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you have your little g Q swag on the grant.
Speaker 1: I just have a really good photographer. Friends, go ahead
Speaker 1: and tell our listeners again where they can find you,
Speaker 1: where they can stalk you or they can arrass you,
Speaker 1: and where they can slide in your d M s.
Speaker 1: He's flushing again, guys, we get to see the red cheeks.
Speaker 1: But this is just so fun to like poke it
Speaker 1: because you just let it happen. We're not, oh not
Speaker 1: at all. But anyways, you can find me on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook,
Speaker 1: SoundCloud at sam white Out. You can text me Nina
Speaker 1: what is it not? One seven three eight? Um? Wait
Speaker 1: is this a real? Like? Is this like? No? No? No,
Speaker 1: no no? What do people text you? I mean people
Speaker 1: text me all kinds and stuff. People ask me for advice.
Speaker 1: People will text me about, you know, maybe about the
Speaker 1: way that something I did or said, and she for
Speaker 1: the scorespace. Guys, go ahead, so they ain't giving us
Speaker 1: no plug. I got my white card taken away at
Speaker 1: the beginning, and I got it back by the end. Okay,
Speaker 1: like just I'm just saying I knew like we were
Speaker 1: bring a cap on and just I was super excited
Speaker 1: about it. But I did the blank on two songs
Speaker 1: for you. It was for you and you. I feel
Speaker 1: like some didn't go for it. I mean, I listened
Speaker 1: to plenty of white. I listened to Dave Matthews. That's
Speaker 1: pretty white, that is it? Yeah? Yeah, okay, Well, and guys,
Speaker 1: you know you, guys can always catch us on Instagram
Speaker 1: at Horrible Underscore Decisions, send us homemail at Horrible Decisions
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com, and you can catch me how
Speaker 1: to send it? You can. You can be someone. We
Speaker 1: we got a virgin who sent us something so um
Speaker 1: and yeah, go ahead and you can catch me. I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna boast because apparently suck it. Don't follow me,
Speaker 1: don't even come for me, really coming from me, because okay,
Speaker 1: so fuck it. Don't follow me, y'all. No, No, I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna say my name. Go ahead, what's your name?
Speaker 1: Shared with them? We see WTF? Now I'm at six
Speaker 1: When we started okay, guys, well, this has been another
Speaker 1: episode of horrible decisions.