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Speaker 1: It was nstoms are don't you think? No? No, no, no no,

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Speaker 1: white man. I'm just like, well, we're here, no, right,

422
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:29,119
Speaker 1: So let me ask you this question because this is

423
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:32,480
Speaker 1: how I get approached. Is it awkward for you or

424
00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 1: do you feel like you say awkward things in approaching

425
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:39,000
Speaker 1: a black woman, because so as as you know that

426
00:22:39,359 --> 00:22:42,280
Speaker 1: I'm awkward around, but now I'm asking you what is

427
00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 1: the because when white guys approached me, I feel like

428
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,360
Speaker 1: probably questions this is a question for the wrong person. Well,

429
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:50,879
Speaker 1: I want to ask him because this is what else

430
00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 1: are we going to get a straight white You're in here,

431
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 1: bro a question thinking because you clearly can't feel awkward,

432
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 1: like you're immersed, I know. And he's like, what do

433
00:22:59,960 --> 00:23:01,200
Speaker 1: you feel like when you go to a white girls

434
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:03,840
Speaker 1: are weird? I mean, but so every white guy who's

435
00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 1: approached me, one of their first questions is you only

436
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 1: date black guys? Huh? And I feel like it's maybe

437
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 1: because I don't to me white guys like small, skinny,

438
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 1: slim black girls, because that's what what white culture has

439
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 1: perpetuated for four d years. Right, So when a white

440
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 1: guy does approach me, why, like the first thing that

441
00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 1: is said, like, you don't funk with white guys, do you?

442
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 1: And I would work with white And I feel like

443
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:31,640
Speaker 1: I wasn't and I feel like I'm fetishized. I think

444
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 1: I think that it comes from a place of deep

445
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:39,120
Speaker 1: um self consciousness and and and uncomfortableity with talking about race.

446
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:40,679
Speaker 1: And I think it also speaks to the fact that

447
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:45,080
Speaker 1: like white people and white culture at large has this

448
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:50,719
Speaker 1: incredible difficulty like simultaneously saying that people are different from me,

449
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 1: like saying you, like recognizing and appreciating that you are

450
00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:55,119
Speaker 1: black and that comes with a whole list of things

451
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 1: that are awesome and great and cool and culture and

452
00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 1: all that stuff, and not fetishizing. It's like it's impossible

453
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 1: for the white community to recognize that someone is different

454
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 1: without making it weird or or not just weird, but

455
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 1: you know, problematic and sort of weird. It's fun, Like

456
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:12,159
Speaker 1: it makes me not even be interested in talking to

457
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,920
Speaker 1: a white guy because in which I'd never have been

458
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: with a white guy because of that reason. It's so

459
00:24:20,400 --> 00:24:25,440
Speaker 1: generally are pretty shitty at flirting. Yeah, I'm not gonna

460
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:28,400
Speaker 1: stay here and just give that. No, no, no, no.

461
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:31,120
Speaker 1: I just think it's I think it's wildly exacerbated when

462
00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,960
Speaker 1: you add into the fact that so many white men

463
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:38,679
Speaker 1: uh aren't around black people, let alone black women, all

464
00:24:38,720 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 1: too much. And then you put them in an environment

465
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 1: where you're at a bar or something and there's alcohol,

466
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:44,680
Speaker 1: and then they feel like they need to say something

467
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:46,679
Speaker 1: like slick to get your attention or something, and they

468
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 1: think they're probably being funny and cube and it's so

469
00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:53,320
Speaker 1: fucking awful. I had a guy tell me one time, like, um,

470
00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:54,720
Speaker 1: what are you drinking? Can I buy you a drink?

471
00:24:54,720 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 1: And I was like yeah, and he was like that's race.

472
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 1: That is what happened to a friend of mine in

473
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 1: a work environment where he was at he was our

474
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 1: work happy hour, and somebody says his white colleague says

475
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 1: to him, you know, can I get you a drink?

476
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:18,719
Speaker 1: And uh and and my friend says yeah, sure, and

477
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 1: he goes, oh, hennessy, and like, can you imagine being

478
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:28,879
Speaker 1: a working So wait, speaking of this, what do you

479
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 1: like to do play basketball like this is so good

480
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: out Wait no, but bro, so I just want to

481
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 1: say I took work. I took my white co worker

482
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 1: out with me last night. I went to the little

483
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 1: movie party um and Hennessey sponsored after him. Do you

484
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:48,879
Speaker 1: know she asked me what Hennessey was? What? Well, we

485
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 1: can't say no, but she had right she asked me.

486
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,479
Speaker 1: She was like, I don't mean to ask. She was like,

487
00:25:55,680 --> 00:26:00,200
Speaker 1: what kind of liquor is this? Hennessey to Seriously, every

488
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:04,399
Speaker 1: white people get nervous about something they whisper. Well, somehow

489
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 1: that takes away from the this was this was an

490
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:10,720
Speaker 1: urban crowd. Well, this was an urban crowd, black crowd.

491
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 1: It was a black I used urban a lot. It was.

492
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 1: It was an urban crowd. And so listen, I'm not

493
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 1: even a lot of you. They gave me my brisk

494
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:21,080
Speaker 1: band and they had to get more risk bands. I

495
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 1: felt like I had to stand there and protect her

496
00:26:23,000 --> 00:26:25,160
Speaker 1: and make sure she got her guy there wriskband because

497
00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,119
Speaker 1: the black girls was just gonna walk all over her.

498
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 1: I knew her. They weren't like, you know, but do

499
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: you know how bad it is? Okay, So, how you

500
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:35,479
Speaker 1: guys just said the thing about Hennessy. So it's we

501
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 1: weren't slate and so they have all these games and

502
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 1: all this stuff. Yeah, so we don't have a lot

503
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,439
Speaker 1: of New Yorkers. So we're playing it's in Chelsea. Ye,

504
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:46,160
Speaker 1: it's in Manhattan, just like it's like white Girl Heaven.

505
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:50,159
Speaker 1: Well this was by the end of the night. Do

506
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 1: you know what all of our urban friends were calling her?

507
00:26:52,920 --> 00:27:00,119
Speaker 1: I felt to Panga, I feel like white white girls

508
00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 1: from boy this world. Well, yeah, we were sitting she

509
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 1: didn't even know what was what was it her? What

510
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:09,959
Speaker 1: was the payas boyfriend's name? What was the main character's name.

511
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:13,240
Speaker 1: I'm about to man it was Ben Savage played by Bench.

512
00:27:13,560 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: But she was to whip all the boys into shape

513
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: and there and all those different and it was my

514
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 1: first love. I love. So like what you mean was

515
00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:26,840
Speaker 1: assuming that you I haven't seen the picture every recently.

516
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 1: I don't know. You know, all these child the stars

517
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 1: are going wild. She's still bad. It's okay, Well, so

518
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 1: we know you date black girls and whatever do you

519
00:27:33,440 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 1: date white girls? I date beautiful women. That's right. Okay,

520
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:38,360
Speaker 1: when the last time you did a white girl, I've

521
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: never did a white woman. You've never diated a white girl.

522
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:48,479
Speaker 1: You've never did a white white girl? Yeah? Okay, what no, Okay,

523
00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 1: let's back up for a second. Um, I think good food.

524
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,720
Speaker 1: So I think part of it is if you think

525
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:02,040
Speaker 1: about the social circle in which I live, right, I'm

526
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:06,159
Speaker 1: not around white people all that. Yeah. For in my

527
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: personal life, well what am I gonna bring this bit around?

528
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:12,120
Speaker 1: No more? More like and like people will ask like, well,

529
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 1: you know, if you saw a bad white girl, like,

530
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:17,359
Speaker 1: would you talk to her? Sure? Absolutely. I think that

531
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,080
Speaker 1: people hide behind this preference stuff a lot, right when

532
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 1: they say, well, I don't like not like so and so,

533
00:28:22,840 --> 00:28:25,240
Speaker 1: I just prefer this or that. I don't think the

534
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 1: preference like, I don't think I have a preference. I

535
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,200
Speaker 1: just think I have a trend celebrity crush. Who would

536
00:28:29,240 --> 00:28:36,400
Speaker 1: it be? Go, I'm like, shit, always, well no, it's

537
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 1: just the first one that comes to mind. And it's

538
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: the first one that comes to mind where I know

539
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: for damn sure that I like if seconds I pray

540
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 1: for six fun that Oh my god, I felt like

541
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 1: if Rihanna tried to talk to me, I feel like

542
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 1: that's one of those moments where actually what would end

543
00:28:53,560 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 1: up happening is like you just you just get endowed

544
00:28:56,440 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 1: with like superhuman strength and like your best self comes

545
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: and then you start shimming. I don't know I would

546
00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 1: want to tell you I love a shimmier. I don't

547
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 1: even know if i'd be able to. Well, what we

548
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 1: like to do is then after this part, now we're

549
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: going to get into our horrible decision section where we're

550
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 1: doing today. Guys, we're talking about the dudes and don't

551
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 1: of dating, And I think it was only right always

552
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 1: staying here with a beautiful man to talk about baby.

553
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 1: You can't see, but I'm white, so I'm blushing, But

554
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: to talk about the notes of dating, um, and we're

555
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: gonna read off quite a few things, and we would

556
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 1: just like your input on it, um and especially coming

557
00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 1: from you, what maybe females shouldn't do or that turns

558
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: you off in the process of dating. Well, first don't

559
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:44,880
Speaker 1: of dating is don't as a man. I don't call

560
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 1: women females because that just never goes anywhere. You know,

561
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 1: positive you don't call them female women. Really, I don't.

562
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 1: I've never heard of a difference. I mean, I think

563
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:59,160
Speaker 1: that there's this trend uh which I think has a

564
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 1: lot of merit where they by referring to women strictly

565
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:06,239
Speaker 1: by their sex. It's it's kind of it's I think

566
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 1: you think it's too deep in and I don't know,

567
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 1: like motherfuck you imagine a white hotep Oh my god,

568
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 1: I mean I think a white hotel would have to

569
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:19,400
Speaker 1: commit suicide. Type is one of those like um, those

570
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:22,440
Speaker 1: like RASA hippies that are like, I really hope our

571
00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 1: listeners are as lost with this hotep words the funk

572
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: I am because literally google it. It's like ho hl

573
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 1: e t e B my first one. I'm gonna start

574
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: off with a band. Because when I sent Mandy this list,

575
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 1: she didn't agree with me. The first one she sent me.

576
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 1: I was like, bitch, what, okay, go ahead. I'm like

577
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 1: a strong believer in men and women like, uh, like,

578
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 1: you know you pay. I could pay, but I think

579
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 1: men should never split the check. I think it is

580
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 1: at tackiest fucking thing in the world. And then underneath

581
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: this I put women should always at least offer. Mandy

582
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 1: was like, oh, don't if it's a trap, That's what

583
00:30:57,240 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 1: I said. Don't don't pull out to Debby if you

584
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: know you ain't gold white the Dead. No. No. My

585
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: favorite though, was when they when they when they act

586
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 1: like they're going no, when they like take it forever

587
00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: and they're like they're like whip out the water and

588
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:11,800
Speaker 1: then they're like slowly that's the way all day. I

589
00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: just put it down. What happened working fuck is yours? Yeah,

590
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: this is what she does, and I'm just I'm just pinning.

591
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 1: Thing depends entirely on how long y'all have been talking.

592
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 1: Letting your straight friend zoned and you're never getting the

593
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:31,160
Speaker 1: pussy no, no no, no. I'm with and we were together

594
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 1: almost two years. There were times where like if we

595
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: got an expensive meal, I put a hundred in. Also,

596
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 1: I've been in relationships with people who are significantly more

597
00:31:38,920 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 1: financially well positioned than I am, and so all my

598
00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:44,120
Speaker 1: nigas are. So I'm not bringing up my car. I

599
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. Do you know what You're chat

600
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 1: like a bear to mine? I wish you would think

601
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 1: I was, but I'm saying it's been I've been in

602
00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,040
Speaker 1: a situation where it's been the reverse where she makes

603
00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: a hell of a lot more money than me, and

604
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:55,959
Speaker 1: then what happened to that? So we talked about it,

605
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 1: like we you know, I would get like the first

606
00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 1: round to drinks. No, we the same age. Uh, I

607
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 1: would get the first round of drinks and she would

608
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:07,960
Speaker 1: like cover dinner and then I'd cover an uber or

609
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: something like we it made sense together. But that was

610
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 1: also like even you know, Mr fucking progressive Sam, I

611
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:16,960
Speaker 1: absolutely covered the first couple of dinners just because I

612
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 1: just I didn't know if she was going to feel

613
00:32:19,120 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 1: some type of way about this or that. So more

614
00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:23,680
Speaker 1: often than not, I think in the beginning, the guy's

615
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,720
Speaker 1: either going to buy pressure or because he wants to

616
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 1: or whatever, is going to cover everything. But at some

617
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,120
Speaker 1: point you got to have a conversation because I mean, like,

618
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:34,200
Speaker 1: for example, like I was living in like I just

619
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 1: wasn't making enough to be going out to dinner in

620
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 1: New York City or York. Of course you know six figures,

621
00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 1: I'm poor, so yeah, and I was like, Uber, there

622
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:48,719
Speaker 1: in is about a hundred dollars. I don't care if

623
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 1: you're paying for the food, Like I think it depends

624
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:52,760
Speaker 1: on how long you've been talking, and also about like

625
00:32:52,760 --> 00:32:55,520
Speaker 1: communication and all that ship from from a guy perspective,

626
00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: real quick, I want to make sure we sum up

627
00:32:57,240 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 1: at everything at the end. So summing up, you don't

628
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: like the ladies to fake pull out the debit cards.

629
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:04,200
Speaker 1: So ladies, would that be a don't on a date?

630
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 1: But do you really not thinking? No? No, So I

631
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 1: should clarify. I don't like it when it's clear that

632
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:11,600
Speaker 1: you're taking forever because you don't actually want to. I

633
00:33:11,600 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 1: think I have no if someone wants to be generous

634
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 1: and like, there are times where like if it's um,

635
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 1: I don't like. I have split the check before. More

636
00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:21,080
Speaker 1: often than not, I never put myself in a position

637
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 1: where I wouldn't be able to cover it. Do you

638
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:25,600
Speaker 1: the check when you're genuinely interested on somebody in somebody

639
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 1: on the first date, on a first date, you split

640
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 1: the check that I'm not gonna find. That's kind of

641
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 1: but you also run the risk of getting played sometimes

642
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 1: because that's where like the whole like more often than not,

643
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:36,600
Speaker 1: I think the nice guys people just have to pay

644
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 1: the risks. What are you gonna have a refund? Like

645
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:45,080
Speaker 1: I asked me for one? Oh yeah, we talked. We

646
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 1: talked about on the show that guy asked her can

647
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: you just square cash be the dinner? Last night? I said,

648
00:33:54,040 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: go fund yourself, buddy. I I got played once in

649
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:58,520
Speaker 1: New York city when it came to like I realized

650
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 1: after the fact, I was like, oh, ship, she was

651
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: just using you for me, and like no, no, no no,

652
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 1: it doesn't even matter about the sex. It was just like,

653
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,719
Speaker 1: oh damn, Like she just wasn't she hungry? Probably not

654
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,920
Speaker 1: buying groceries. And I was like, I was like, okay,

655
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 1: did you want to eat? She will wherever we going.

656
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:18,800
Speaker 1: I'll tell my home girls to do that. Though sometimes

657
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:20,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, if if they get hit on by some guy,

658
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 1: they don't feel like they're comfortable saying no, I'm like, right,

659
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 1: because especially if like if like you know, when girls

660
00:34:28,560 --> 00:34:30,720
Speaker 1: are obviously you know, we're like, you know, so often

661
00:34:30,719 --> 00:34:32,200
Speaker 1: girls are putt in a position where they feel like

662
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:34,479
Speaker 1: they can't say no or can't like not give the number,

663
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: and especially with how crazy guys can be like that, right,

664
00:34:37,680 --> 00:34:39,439
Speaker 1: and so at that point, I'm like, all right, cool,

665
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,759
Speaker 1: like sort of charge that parts of the game, then

666
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,799
Speaker 1: get your dinner, then bounce, you know, and that way,

667
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: like I've had girls tell me like it kind of

668
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 1: makes up for the fact that it was like, well,

669
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 1: I didn't really want to give you my number in

670
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: the first place, so I'm gonna eat this at what's

671
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:57,799
Speaker 1: one of yours? Okay, ship, okay, Um, you need a minute,

672
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 1: I can get one. Mine are like corny, it's okay.

673
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:03,879
Speaker 1: So I think that it's people a lot of times.

674
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:08,799
Speaker 1: I think you should don't confuse honesty with cruelty, right, So, Like,

675
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 1: I think people too often think that, well, I'm just

676
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: being honest is an excuse in like a romantic relationship

677
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 1: to be an asshole, right, Like, there are ways to

678
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 1: successfully and clearly communicate things without being a dick. You know,

679
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:26,280
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that I told that guy I'm genuinely

680
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 1: not interested. I'm sorry, yeah, and he was like, you're

681
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 1: a horse. Yeah. I feel like a little bit of

682
00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:34,440
Speaker 1: upset is normal, like if anybody's gonna be hurt when

683
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,120
Speaker 1: they get you know, curved. But I think that there's

684
00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,360
Speaker 1: a difference between Like, in that case, right, he is

685
00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 1: completely in the wrong. He's being an asshole because you

686
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 1: were cool about it, So I could understand him being pissed,

687
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 1: but not obviously there's no cause to go that far.

688
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:51,879
Speaker 1: But I also think sometimes people will hide behind honesty

689
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 1: to be petty and obnoxious, and being petty in relationships

690
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 1: never fucking works. Actually, one of my rules I had

691
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 1: on here was when it's over, don't start with the bashing, Like, look,

692
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 1: if you fucked with me two weeks ago and now

693
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 1: we're over, now suddenly you think I'm this terrible person, Like,

694
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:10,920
Speaker 1: what does that say about my if that was on you,

695
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 1: what does that say about my judge judgment of character?

696
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: Like I didn't know a week ago. I like that.

697
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:17,799
Speaker 1: I just think, don't be petty and you actually you

698
00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,640
Speaker 1: had an honestly one on here. I'm reading your list now, Yeah, said,

699
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 1: honestly is key? Like they save the petty when you're

700
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,680
Speaker 1: venting to that one or two best friends when you're

701
00:36:26,680 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 1: still mad and they get over it talking about you

702
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:32,240
Speaker 1: everyone I know except you. Okay, Well this is actually

703
00:36:32,440 --> 00:36:37,560
Speaker 1: honestly why More like, um so I put an example

704
00:36:37,600 --> 00:36:39,840
Speaker 1: under each rule that had in mind was key, and

705
00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:44,320
Speaker 1: I put if you run into someone you fucked just yo, that'ship.

706
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 1: Is blowing my mind that people are weird about that,

707
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:49,080
Speaker 1: Like if if I've seen you naked and been inside you,

708
00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 1: we need to be normal in public anything, If anything,

709
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 1: there should be more of a reason why we should

710
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 1: be cool because we literally know each other better than strangers. Well, no,

711
00:36:57,760 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: I mean the honesty part is like, if you're with

712
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 1: some else and you see run into someone you thought,

713
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 1: people get super weird, don't get weird. I was going

714
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 1: to bring this up into if you're dating someone and

715
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 1: you find out that they're friends with someone you fucked

716
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 1: in the past, do you tell the person you're right?

717
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 1: So what do you do in that case? And do

718
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:21,320
Speaker 1: you feel Because I've had that happen where I'm dealing

719
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 1: with a guy and I sucked his friend before I

720
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 1: even knew who he was. Me and his friend had

721
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 1: sucked and he literally held it over my head, And

722
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: see if that's so fucked up? You know, I think,

723
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,239
Speaker 1: like relationships are not about leverage, right, And I think

724
00:37:35,320 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 1: that like, in the situation that I could call I

725
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,600
Speaker 1: was in, I was the friend, right, I was the

726
00:37:40,640 --> 00:37:44,880
Speaker 1: friend who had who had had sex with shorty before starting,

727
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:48,799
Speaker 1: and he and I talked about it, so it was cool.

728
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 1: I have no idea if they talked about it. I

729
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:52,680
Speaker 1: think that they probably should have if they didn't or whatever.

730
00:37:52,719 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 1: But like, I think that it's so weird to me

731
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 1: if you are comfortable enough to have had sex with

732
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 1: someone and then you make ship weird. It's just wildly unnecessary. Now,

733
00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:05,040
Speaker 1: are there situations in which it kind of can be

734
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 1: a little weird, Like if it's like you say that,

735
00:38:07,880 --> 00:38:10,440
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna interject because what happened to me? So

736
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:12,759
Speaker 1: the girl that I was dating, oh, you have listened

737
00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:15,360
Speaker 1: to this. So the guy from the missing Condom episode

738
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 1: dated him for a few months. One of the first

739
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:20,719
Speaker 1: people I started. No, my ex girlfriend and him matched

740
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:23,520
Speaker 1: on bumble And now that they're talking is she feels

741
00:38:23,520 --> 00:38:27,840
Speaker 1: the need to ask her about him. So on the

742
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 1: plane from Europe, right this is a few days ago,

743
00:38:30,719 --> 00:38:35,360
Speaker 1: and she sends me this text to me. I feel

744
00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 1: like this wasn't a question, not that she needed to

745
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 1: ask me, because I don't believe in anybody stopping your

746
00:38:39,160 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 1: love or what you should have going on, you know

747
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 1: what I mean. But this is what she says. Hey

748
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 1: matched with your handsome friend. Ha ha, so funny. He

749
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:50,560
Speaker 1: invited me for dinner, but I have school, so we're

750
00:38:50,600 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 1: going on Friday. I really liked him when I saw

751
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:54,920
Speaker 1: him and you introduced us. Wait, that's your ex. Your

752
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:57,360
Speaker 1: girlfriend texted you that about a guy used to like,

753
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:02,839
Speaker 1: right now, I am dating someone else. Flying You're up

754
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:04,839
Speaker 1: every fucking month to see him, Like until he comes

755
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 1: back to New York. So I'm into other people and

756
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 1: I'm not there anymore. But I still felt like, did

757
00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,360
Speaker 1: you do you know how she just casually dropped that

758
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 1: she's just like flying you know? No, no, no, no, okay,

759
00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 1: no no. I think I just flex like Mandy does

760
00:39:21,400 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: it he followers. She could have right, But the thing is,

761
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:25,120
Speaker 1: though I will be honest with you. I think for

762
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 1: me to have told her no, there should be no weirdness.

763
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 1: It didn't work out with him and I. She's more

764
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:32,439
Speaker 1: of an introvert. So is he think I get along

765
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,280
Speaker 1: better than her? And I didn't. I think being honest

766
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:35,840
Speaker 1: with me like she did was good. I would have

767
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:38,799
Speaker 1: wanted a little more, you know, like, hey, are you

768
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: cool with this? Instead of oh, we're going out Friday

769
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: catch eight pm. But I definitely wouldn't ask if you're

770
00:39:43,000 --> 00:39:44,839
Speaker 1: cool with it because I don't care. But I think

771
00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 1: that it's one of those things like, hey, hey, just

772
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:48,960
Speaker 1: want to let you know I want to put on

773
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,080
Speaker 1: your radar. Actually, I take that back. You're right. I

774
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:54,920
Speaker 1: don't think she should have asked me for a permission anyway. Um,

775
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 1: oh all right, let me go for the number three.

776
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:58,879
Speaker 1: I really like I don't even know if this is three,

777
00:39:58,960 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 1: might be six seven eight. Leaving toothbresh or items and

778
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 1: getting too cleaning. I'm so tired of men telling me

779
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:10,479
Speaker 1: about women that do this, that just push it on them.

780
00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 1: Leave little things in their car, take these side pictures

781
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 1: so you know it's their apartment, or like their wrist

782
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:21,000
Speaker 1: or like their shoe. I think it depends. I think

783
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,800
Speaker 1: it's I think it depends how long they've been dating.

784
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:26,799
Speaker 1: But I mean, I don't leave stuff. I'm like more

785
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:31,120
Speaker 1: of a thief. Like so I'm gonna take your basketball shorts.

786
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:35,239
Speaker 1: Oh like the hat this guy loved, Like this guy

787
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 1: this guy recorded the last time we recorded, the maroon

788
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:47,799
Speaker 1: had I had with the face on it. No, ya

789
00:40:47,880 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: loved it over and I loved it, And now it's

790
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 1: my favorite hat and he's not getting it back. You know,

791
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:54,279
Speaker 1: it's weird. I haven't had that happening. Oh no, no, no,

792
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 1: I haven't had cleaning is come in the form of

793
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 1: leaving ship behind or taking side pictures or whatever like

794
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: that that has happened to me in the past. But

795
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 1: like I just I think part of it is, you

796
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 1: know people, you've got to be able to figure out

797
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:12,880
Speaker 1: our people talking to you because they want the status

798
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:14,400
Speaker 1: and won't be able to tell their friends that this

799
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:18,160
Speaker 1: is someone I'm talking definitely happens with like popping people. Bro,

800
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. I'm talking to people don't care

801
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: about regular people. You tell me chicks. I've never like

802
00:41:23,200 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: they had to have done it with you. I know

803
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 1: I've had shorties twice take a picture of me while

804
00:41:27,719 --> 00:41:31,440
Speaker 1: I was asleep. Who did they post it? No, we

805
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:35,919
Speaker 1: definitely didn't get that far because I had a little

806
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:37,839
Speaker 1: like spice Sins go off like wait the funk up?

807
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:41,319
Speaker 1: You know, and I was just like I was just

808
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 1: like like why you can get overly cleaning or start

809
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 1: assuming that things are going faster than they are, Like

810
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 1: I feel I feel like I hear about it. Way

811
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 1: to communications just so much so important. I also think,

812
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:53,800
Speaker 1: I mean, we should absolutely have this under the umbrella

813
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 1: of like a lot of men are trash and like

814
00:41:56,320 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 1: really take advantage. And I think that that like, what

815
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,880
Speaker 1: are you saying You're supposed to be sticking up for

816
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 1: the bros. No, No, I'm saying that, Like, um, I

817
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:11,840
Speaker 1: think what sucks is that so often, uh you know,

818
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:14,440
Speaker 1: you have like a breakdown of communication and there are

819
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: ways in which, like gender norms can come into play

820
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 1: in a way that's really fucked up and that you

821
00:42:18,920 --> 00:42:20,920
Speaker 1: men don't like to explain what I interject for a

822
00:42:20,920 --> 00:42:24,360
Speaker 1: second communication? You mentioned, Um, it's crucial. What do you

823
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 1: think about the question what are we? Women? Asking that? Oh?

824
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 1: Good question, because I'd be asking what are we? What

825
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:34,799
Speaker 1: are we doing? What are you doing with me? What

826
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 1: is this? Okay? You just keep coming over and sucking me,

827
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 1: And now we're going from dinners to take out what

828
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,919
Speaker 1: are we? But then people are and women are scared

829
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 1: to ask men what they're do. You know what answer

830
00:42:44,200 --> 00:42:54,440
Speaker 1: I get? Chilling? That is a great deflection. Does that

831
00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 1: mean we're just having a good time? And I am

832
00:42:57,480 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 1: so over that answer? Men need to we we There

833
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:02,239
Speaker 1: needs to be a new title, I guess in the

834
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 1: genre of boyfriend buddy friend, like how I got to

835
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: me flying my ass out number two? I was like, well,

836
00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 1: you know what I'm telling you talk about let's talk

837
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:13,799
Speaker 1: about let's talk about it. Oh really, we can talk

838
00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:15,239
Speaker 1: about it when you get back. Maybe we should talk

839
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:16,560
Speaker 1: about it what you're here? But then what don't we

840
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,520
Speaker 1: doing when I'm neck and what happens when I leave

841
00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:24,359
Speaker 1: like men love to keep a female in limbo, and

842
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 1: I want to ask you because you seem like you

843
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 1: probably have a women. I have no idea what you're

844
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 1: talking so for for a man, what makes you go

845
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:36,760
Speaker 1: from taking it to we're talking, we're dating, we're together,

846
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 1: And what is that in between bullshit where you're treating

847
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:44,800
Speaker 1: me just like your girlfriend but I'm not. Okay, A

848
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:47,840
Speaker 1: couple of things. One, I am absolutely like a hopeless romantic.

849
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 1: So I this is you know what this is the

850
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:53,319
Speaker 1: white party, Sam. No. I just think I don't know.

851
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 1: Like part of it I think is that, uh, you know,

852
00:43:56,960 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 1: being nice to someone and like not being an asshole

853
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 1: can easily be misconstrued as like doing the most. So

854
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:09,840
Speaker 1: for example, like you know, if I excuse me, like

855
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 1: if we're fucking, why would I not like include you

856
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:16,640
Speaker 1: in what I was doing that night? For example? So

857
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 1: like let's say, oh, I have some of those when

858
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:26,080
Speaker 1: I getting like, You're like, well he's taking me out?

859
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:27,799
Speaker 1: No no, no. I meant more in the context of

860
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:31,280
Speaker 1: like if I'm going to okay, I love the bake cookies.

861
00:44:31,280 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 1: If I'm a bake cookies, who are you right now?

862
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:38,719
Speaker 1: Your black girl friends? And now I'm just trying to

863
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 1: give my white card back after Okay, but that can

864
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:48,239
Speaker 1: then be misconstrued as like, oh, we're baking cookies. I

865
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:51,399
Speaker 1: honestly thought you were, Like, I didn't understand why else

866
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:55,000
Speaker 1: people eat bake goods unless there's weeding them. Edibles fucked

867
00:44:55,040 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 1: me up. Oh me too, bid, But that's the only

868
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 1: time I'd rather have a nice little communal blunt. Oh well,

869
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 1: if you like that idea, we should listen to episode

870
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:08,319
Speaker 1: four where she pissed in a treehouse next to a guy.

871
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: It wasn't a treehouse. He just had four roommates and

872
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 1: he had a ladder. It's where it was in Brooklyn anyway.

873
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:15,759
Speaker 1: It was in that explains to bake cookie So you're

874
00:45:15,800 --> 00:45:17,520
Speaker 1: inviting girls to bake cookies. I'm gonna tell you right now,

875
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: a dudevice, what I do think the prose and ship

876
00:45:25,239 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 1: like difference. This is exactly why I stopped picturing here

877
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 1: with like a Vanessa Carlton song in the background soundtrack,

878
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:35,319
Speaker 1: like you're playing twenty one in the back, I might

879
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 1: be like, I'm picturing I have a little apron on

880
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 1: your shirt. Listen, you know it's a day alright, I

881
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:45,120
Speaker 1: have to skip to the next one. Oh no, you

882
00:45:45,160 --> 00:45:48,960
Speaker 1: skipped grow Oh okay, okay, we we're kind of already

883
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 1: touched this, but don't being petty. Um. And then I

884
00:45:52,000 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 1: think that there's a balance between don't think that you

885
00:45:54,880 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 1: are not replaceable and know you're worth right, So, so

886
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:03,520
Speaker 1: depending on what the other person is looking for, I

887
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 1: have something fall into this. Depending on what the other

888
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 1: person is looking for, you might be replaceable, easily replaceable,

889
00:46:09,640 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 1: potentially right. So by by saying that, I want to

890
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:14,160
Speaker 1: ask you because one of mine was like, don't let

891
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:16,719
Speaker 1: yourself go once you're attached, Like, don't stop going to

892
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:18,600
Speaker 1: the gym, don't stop dating each other. Is that why

893
00:46:18,600 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 1: you said you're replaceable? Because you could be you could

894
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,080
Speaker 1: stop courting the other person. I think that or is

895
00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:26,080
Speaker 1: this in the dating phase? I could think this is not.

896
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:27,919
Speaker 1: I think if you're dating with somebody, like the whole

897
00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:29,400
Speaker 1: point is it now you do up something that's like

898
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 1: unique in a in a way that like it's it's

899
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 1: more on the no your worth side and make sure

900
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:35,480
Speaker 1: that you're being fulfilled and all that good ship. But

901
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:38,040
Speaker 1: I think, like especially in early stages of like talking

902
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:41,799
Speaker 1: to somebody and all that stuff, like It's interesting to

903
00:46:41,840 --> 00:46:44,160
Speaker 1: me when people think that they they act as if

904
00:46:44,160 --> 00:46:46,000
Speaker 1: they have leverage, which you shouldn't be doing in a

905
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 1: in a relationship at all, and they don't have any leverage,

906
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:57,319
Speaker 1: right explain, like like making kind of like demands, you know,

907
00:46:57,600 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: like oh like don't do this or you should do this,

908
00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:02,479
Speaker 1: and it's like what why did you call me back?

909
00:47:03,600 --> 00:47:06,200
Speaker 1: And so no, I get I get that, And I

910
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 1: guess I can throw in maybe the last doing dope,

911
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 1: which I feel like is important. And I think this

912
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: leads to a lot of the I guess we're gonna

913
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 1: call it homemale. I've been saying listener letters, but I

914
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:22,080
Speaker 1: think homemale fits the show homemale UM. So a lot

915
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:23,719
Speaker 1: of them come, and I think I'm going to say

916
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 1: this is the biggest doing dope um to find someone

917
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: compatible in the bedroom, if that makes sense, because it

918
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:35,600
Speaker 1: seems like so many of our letters, people want to

919
00:47:35,960 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 1: explore things and do other things, but yet their partner

920
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:41,400
Speaker 1: isn't into it. So this leads to the cheating. This

921
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:44,160
Speaker 1: leads to well why are we together? And I feel

922
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 1: like people don't understand the think people asks, oh I

923
00:47:47,680 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 1: do need? But I think that people should. I think

924
00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 1: people should that that communication at least lead into it,

925
00:47:57,760 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 1: like maybe with a porn or say something and just

926
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:03,359
Speaker 1: say went into right, But I think that's a girl.

927
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 1: By the way, what well they I tell my guys

928
00:48:06,600 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 1: when they want to, I'll be like, you don't want

929
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 1: to watch the porn I watched. I watched two dudes. Yeah,

930
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 1: I watched gate porn. So I'll be telling them I

931
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 1: don't want to watch that boring street You've never even

932
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 1: watching porn with a girl. Just I guess I'm gross.

933
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:25,080
Speaker 1: We're both filthy and this weekend so he has a

934
00:48:25,120 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 1: projector rather just fun, you better be doing some four

935
00:48:27,760 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 1: play and ship. That's is phenomenal. Anybody watching porn before

936
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 1: is technically you can watch yourself. And I'm going to

937
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:40,320
Speaker 1: teach you guys how the next episode because I just

938
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 1: like we could just use this hm, I will prop

939
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 1: your and watching those And she said, that's watching in

940
00:48:45,719 --> 00:48:47,360
Speaker 1: the gym. So I'm trying to make a video. I

941
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:50,799
Speaker 1: never made a video. Oh my god, let me show

942
00:48:50,800 --> 00:48:53,400
Speaker 1: you one of mine. Oh my god, oh god. If

943
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 1: anyone ever got this phone, jesus, Oh dude, that's why

944
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:57,400
Speaker 1: I keep a past code. I feel like I'll have

945
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:58,680
Speaker 1: a man one day was like, why you always keep

946
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:02,080
Speaker 1: your phone like I mean because of my a Jina? No, seriously,

947
00:49:02,440 --> 00:49:10,399
Speaker 1: and I don't know, but you're popping. Okay, okay, okay, yeah,

948
00:49:10,400 --> 00:49:17,520
Speaker 1: I am relatively boring until we get into the bedroom

949
00:49:17,520 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 1: and then it's all better. Fucking off. You gotta put

950
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:24,359
Speaker 1: a camera, bro, it makes so much fun. I'm telling

951
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 1: not even if you're like sharing the videos like you

952
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 1: don't have to no, no, no no, I know, no, I'm

953
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 1: trying to make a video. But I'm saying like he

954
00:49:31,280 --> 00:49:32,880
Speaker 1: seems like the one that would delete it before I

955
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:38,480
Speaker 1: could even watch it, like upset. I am not a

956
00:49:38,520 --> 00:49:40,239
Speaker 1: freaking quitter, right. If we're gonna do something, we're gonna

957
00:49:40,239 --> 00:49:41,600
Speaker 1: do it all the way. We're gonna this is gonna

958
00:49:41,600 --> 00:49:44,480
Speaker 1: be a cobla. Are you kidding? Don't pull out, don't

959
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,640
Speaker 1: be honest with you. Though I've had some great text

960
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 1: with people that are like not all out there. I mean,

961
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 1: I'm just generally an extra Kickiness is relative, which is

962
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:56,040
Speaker 1: why I said it's important to communicate because people niggas

963
00:49:56,080 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 1: be like I'm nasty. I'd be like, how I'm nasty?

964
00:49:57,960 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 1: Are you? Because I don't think you know he's got

965
00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 1: into like I feel like, yeah, you got to clarify

966
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:05,000
Speaker 1: this is for you. Well, no, this is the clarification

967
00:50:05,080 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 1: that I hope that way too kinky for you. Bro,

968
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 1: you've listened to real quick and I'm gonna we can't

969
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 1: get this when you hear about it, like, is that

970
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:15,799
Speaker 1: like it sounds crazy to you? I'm just curious when

971
00:50:15,840 --> 00:50:17,400
Speaker 1: you hear about a girl and pegging, is that just like,

972
00:50:17,480 --> 00:50:21,359
Speaker 1: oh my god, this mind girl and pegging? Pitt your

973
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:23,759
Speaker 1: ass out of here. First of all, Sam, you're a

974
00:50:23,800 --> 00:50:28,280
Speaker 1: first white guy, and I feel like, hello, what is pegging?

975
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 1: We had to teach something? Girl? A girl with a

976
00:50:30,719 --> 00:50:33,520
Speaker 1: strap arm sucking a guy? Yeah, not my thing, but

977
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:35,400
Speaker 1: I mean, go nuts if that's what some what somebody

978
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 1: wants to do. When you here, is that like too kinky?

979
00:50:37,520 --> 00:50:39,200
Speaker 1: When you hear you're like, okay, this is too advanced,

980
00:50:39,239 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 1: I'd rather not get. But see this is why this

981
00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 1: is what I tell guys when they be like, shout it,

982
00:50:44,000 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: I'm a freak. I'd be like, wait, wait, real quick, clarify,

983
00:50:47,200 --> 00:50:49,239
Speaker 1: are you a nympho or a freak, because there's two

984
00:50:49,239 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 1: different things. You just liking a lot of sex is

985
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 1: way different from you being a freak, and so when

986
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 1: they'd be like, well there's they'd be like, well, name

987
00:50:57,120 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 1: is the freaky ship, And then I started naming the ship.

988
00:50:58,719 --> 00:51:00,759
Speaker 1: I like, but I think I just like I don't

989
00:51:00,760 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 1: want to shot. No. I think you're right, girl. I

990
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,200
Speaker 1: think I'm I think I'm having like a withdrawal because

991
00:51:11,200 --> 00:51:13,200
Speaker 1: I just saw like even a flyer from Atlanta and

992
00:51:13,239 --> 00:51:15,080
Speaker 1: my pussy guy wet. I feel like I can't do

993
00:51:15,120 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 1: these New York things right now, like I need to

994
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 1: go back to the South, Henny. But I think I

995
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:28,880
Speaker 1: think you're between. Hello, this is a smooth transition for you. Okay.

996
00:51:29,000 --> 00:51:30,680
Speaker 1: When I went from black to white guys, it was

997
00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: like all the way Brett was a surfer bro Okay.

998
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:37,239
Speaker 1: It wasn't even like I went white guy basketball good

999
00:51:37,280 --> 00:51:39,759
Speaker 1: friends like no, it was just a straight and now

1000
00:51:39,760 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 1: I love it. You know, you know I have gotten before.

1001
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 1: I have gotten like, damn, I wasn't expecting you to

1002
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 1: be this freaky. I've gotten that. That's actually a compliment.

1003
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:50,759
Speaker 1: I think it is a compliment. I think people also

1004
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:53,640
Speaker 1: have like I look like I'm sucking sixteen, especially without

1005
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 1: when I shave. I'm not. You look very young. Actually,

1006
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 1: you look younger in person than you do on your

1007
00:51:57,640 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 1: pictures and your pictures, like I said, you look like

1008
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 1: very manly, super dressed, super cool. Not that you don't

1009
00:52:02,640 --> 00:52:05,560
Speaker 1: look manly now, no, but you just have a baby.

1010
00:52:06,080 --> 00:52:11,839
Speaker 1: I definitely have. People are like, you have your model face. Yeah, yeah,

1011
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,880
Speaker 1: you have your little g Q swag on the grant.

1012
00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 1: I just have a really good photographer. Friends, go ahead

1013
00:52:19,160 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 1: and tell our listeners again where they can find you,

1014
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:23,319
Speaker 1: where they can stalk you or they can arrass you,

1015
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:24,800
Speaker 1: and where they can slide in your d M s.

1016
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:31,160
Speaker 1: He's flushing again, guys, we get to see the red cheeks.

1017
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 1: But this is just so fun to like poke it

1018
00:52:33,680 --> 00:52:38,759
Speaker 1: because you just let it happen. We're not, oh not

1019
00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:43,200
Speaker 1: at all. But anyways, you can find me on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook,

1020
00:52:43,520 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 1: SoundCloud at sam white Out. You can text me Nina

1021
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:50,280
Speaker 1: what is it not? One seven three eight? Um? Wait

1022
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:54,080
Speaker 1: is this a real? Like? Is this like? No? No? No,

1023
00:52:54,080 --> 00:52:57,080
Speaker 1: no no? What do people text you? I mean people

1024
00:52:57,120 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: text me all kinds and stuff. People ask me for advice.

1025
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 1: People will text me about, you know, maybe about the

1026
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:04,200
Speaker 1: way that something I did or said, and she for

1027
00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:06,799
Speaker 1: the scorespace. Guys, go ahead, so they ain't giving us

1028
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:15,160
Speaker 1: no plug. I got my white card taken away at

1029
00:53:15,160 --> 00:53:17,040
Speaker 1: the beginning, and I got it back by the end. Okay,

1030
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:18,839
Speaker 1: like just I'm just saying I knew like we were

1031
00:53:18,840 --> 00:53:21,000
Speaker 1: bring a cap on and just I was super excited

1032
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:23,200
Speaker 1: about it. But I did the blank on two songs

1033
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:26,359
Speaker 1: for you. It was for you and you. I feel

1034
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:28,280
Speaker 1: like some didn't go for it. I mean, I listened

1035
00:53:28,280 --> 00:53:30,000
Speaker 1: to plenty of white. I listened to Dave Matthews. That's

1036
00:53:30,000 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 1: pretty white, that is it? Yeah? Yeah, okay, Well, and guys,

1037
00:53:38,680 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 1: you know you, guys can always catch us on Instagram

1038
00:53:41,520 --> 00:53:47,000
Speaker 1: at Horrible Underscore Decisions, send us homemail at Horrible Decisions

1039
00:53:47,040 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 1: at gmail dot com, and you can catch me how

1040
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:51,759
Speaker 1: to send it? You can. You can be someone. We

1041
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 1: we got a virgin who sent us something so um

1042
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 1: and yeah, go ahead and you can catch me. I

1043
00:53:56,719 --> 00:53:59,640
Speaker 1: ain't gonna boast because apparently suck it. Don't follow me,

1044
00:53:59,719 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 1: don't even come for me, really coming from me, because okay,

1045
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:07,920
Speaker 1: so fuck it. Don't follow me, y'all. No, No, I

1046
00:54:07,960 --> 00:54:09,799
Speaker 1: ain't gonna say my name. Go ahead, what's your name?

1047
00:54:09,880 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 1: Shared with them? We see WTF? Now I'm at six

1048
00:54:13,280 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 1: When we started okay, guys, well, this has been another

1049
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:19,839
Speaker 1: episode of horrible decisions.