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Speaker 1: All right, So, Steve, I saw this video on social

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Speaker 1: media media recently of a man who was honest about

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Speaker 1: why he ditched women without any explanation, any closure. I

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Speaker 1: know you say men don't do closure, but he said

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Speaker 1: that the woman he ghosted was either too much for

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Speaker 1: him at the time and that meant to him that

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Speaker 1: he didn't measure up to her. So he was trying

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Speaker 1: to explain and put a button on why you know

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Speaker 1: he did what he did in the past, or was

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Speaker 1: he looking for the past of the path of least

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Speaker 1: resistance here?

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Speaker 2: No, I think women have to understand something, you know,

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Speaker 2: Like I've always told them, I've said, you know a

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Speaker 2: lot of times when a man break up with you,

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Speaker 2: a woman immediately goes, well, what's.

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Speaker 1: Wrong with me?

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Speaker 2: That's not always the case. As a matter of fact,

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Speaker 2: the majority of cases has not anything to do with you.

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Speaker 2: It's something wrong with the man. It's just just brother

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Speaker 2: online admitted that it was him that he couldn't measure up,

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Speaker 2: that he wasn't ready, that he wasn't the man for

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Speaker 2: the job, and that oftentimes is the case. And the

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Speaker 2: reason men don't give you closure is because most men

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Speaker 2: are not going to admit that ain't no, don't no

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Speaker 2: man want to come to you and go, you know, look,

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Speaker 2: I just ain't man enough. You too much. Some men

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Speaker 2: will do it, but a lot of men have broken

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Speaker 2: up with women and just went, hey, look it ain't you,

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Speaker 2: it's me. And then that's it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and what does that mean?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it means what this brother was saying, you

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Speaker 2: were too much for me. You had some requirements I

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Speaker 2: couldn't live up to. Your standards were too high. I'm

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Speaker 2: not enough man for the woman you are. I can't

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Speaker 2: feel the job application requirements out matter. I'm not ready

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Speaker 2: for that. I want a woman who's less than you.

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Speaker 2: I need somebody who's just less because you just too

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Speaker 2: much now. And then they go on and they find

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Speaker 2: women men who are less and try to have relationship

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Speaker 2: with them, and women get mad because how can he

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Speaker 2: just move on and start in a relationship. Maybe he

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Speaker 2: found less. Maybe you know what's stop blaming yourself, what's

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Speaker 2: wrong with me? Stop blaming yourself. It's in your life.

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Speaker 1: Because some men don't care about closure, you know, just

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Speaker 1: they just move on and let you figure it out

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Speaker 1: on your own.

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Speaker 2: And that's usually the case. Because I wrote a chapter.

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Speaker 2: Men don't do closure because normally we don't. And Tommy's

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Speaker 2: exactly right. The majority of the time we just walk, well,

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Speaker 2: know you nothing, you work through it out, and most

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Speaker 2: a lot of men ain't gonna admit to their shortcomings.

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Speaker 2: And then me and we don't feel like it's our obligation.

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Speaker 2: I mean, and in truth, what happened to us was

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Speaker 2: we didn't work. Now we ain't got to get seat

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Speaker 2: now standing here and calling you back to explain why

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Speaker 2: you know what that's gonna lead into.

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Speaker 1: That's the moment that coming at that moment when you

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Speaker 1: decide not to do closure and move on, what is

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Speaker 1: going through your mind? What's going through the mind of a.

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Speaker 2: Man wasn't over? Well?

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Speaker 1: Who was?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Who behind you I'm looking for?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's over.

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Speaker 1: So there's no guilt, there's no remorse.

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Speaker 2: No what I got well, I got to be killed.

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Speaker 2: Were getting out of something that ain't working for me

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Speaker 2: and you I'm doing you a fake. I'm getting out

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Speaker 2: of here now because this ain't working. You may think

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Speaker 2: it's working. But all this arg and and all this

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Speaker 2: what I ain't what you don't do? And where was you?

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Speaker 2: And all this here? No? No, no, no, no, So

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Speaker 2: you ain't got to question me no more, and I

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Speaker 2: ain't got to answer the question. I'm out. I free

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Speaker 2: yourself from having to wonder where I'm at anymore. Good. Look,

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Speaker 2: and that's really how man looks at it. And that's

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Speaker 2: a clean way to get out, because if it's over,

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Speaker 2: it's over the whole the how come? What happened? Why not?

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Speaker 2: We ain't gonna don't really look, it's over. No matter

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Speaker 2: what I say, you're not gonna like to answer. So

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Speaker 2: how about just no answer? And that's usually how me

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Speaker 2: and look at that too. Don't we already know why

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Speaker 2: we leave it? Yeah, of course we know.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let me ask you this. Did you know when

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Speaker 1: you met the woman? Did you know already know that

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Speaker 1: she was too much for you or she was above

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Speaker 1: your prey grade, or you know, out of the signs

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Speaker 1: don't show up till late?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and then and then you got to understand, y'all, fine,

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Speaker 2: this clouds o you right?

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Speaker 1: Say that? All right? Wow, this is good. This is good. Guys.

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Speaker 1: We'll have more of the Steve Harvey Morning Show coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty minutes after the hour. Right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, so Steve,

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Speaker 1: before we left, we were talking about men and they

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Speaker 1: don't do closure. They just move on. And a lot

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Speaker 1: of times it is them, or most times them and

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Speaker 1: not the woman. Did you want to add anything to that?

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Speaker 1: You were saying you already knew when you met the woman. Perhaps,

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Speaker 1: well it was much for you.

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Speaker 2: When we meet a woman. I don't want to say

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Speaker 2: game because every man that meets you not playing a game.

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Speaker 2: But game on. We now have to see what it's

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Speaker 2: gonna take to win you over. Now, if it's a lot,

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Speaker 2: we'll pretend to have a lot, but we can't sustain

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Speaker 2: the pretense, the pretension. We just can't sustain it. And

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Speaker 2: you know, like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I got myself together.

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Speaker 2: I'm holding I'm strong, I'm dedicated, I'm working. And then

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Speaker 2: when she keeps that pressure up, this is what I'm

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Speaker 2: looking for. This is what when did you are you

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Speaker 2: still looking for a job? Did you still how's the

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Speaker 2: job hurt going? How's the business going? And they're gonna

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Speaker 2: cause they gonna be cause women gonna ask you because

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Speaker 2: women want to feel safe, and that's an important thing

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Speaker 2: for a woman. She wants to feel safe, and so

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Speaker 2: in you coming along in her life, whereas the security

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Speaker 2: in this relationship. So it's not that she's a gold

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Speaker 2: digger or nothing like that. She just wants to feel safe. Now,

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Speaker 2: we've created the term goal digging to keep you out

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Speaker 2: of our pockets and keep you from talking about our money.

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Speaker 2: And women are stupid for falling into that trip, let

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Speaker 2: me tell you, because you want to feel safe. And

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Speaker 2: so now once we find out that these safety questions

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Speaker 2: is gonna keep coming, we get nervous and we back out.

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