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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in. Wow, lots has happened since

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Speaker 1: we were here last This last week has felt like

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Speaker 1: a year in the best way. You what it's Celsie,

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Speaker 1: isn't It's so bubbly And I just didn't want to

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Speaker 1: be disrespectful to you, Okay, um So anyways, Yeah, So

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Speaker 1: we had Mark's birthday, which was on Tuesday, and then

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Speaker 1: did you celebrate Saturday? What was the Saturday? We had

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Speaker 1: a party here at the house and it was just

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Speaker 1: absolutely perfect and I couldn't have asked for anything more.

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Speaker 1: It was wonderful. I did I Did I know that

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Speaker 1: you and Tanya were both cancers? That I know this? Yes? No, Mark,

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's a balance between you and I.

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Speaker 1: He's not like an well I don't know about men cancers,

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Speaker 1: but no, he's very cancery. Okay, we're very emotional. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: very Um well, I have to get back to something

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Speaker 1: else about you too. And then but then we had

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Speaker 1: Tanya's birthday which was on Sunday, but we celebrated on Saturday,

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Speaker 1: correct Because Red Star, who is still such a mystery

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Speaker 1: to us. All, I just like calling him Red Star

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Speaker 1: for continuity purposes at this point, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: can we just switch it to his name? It's like,

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Speaker 1: I know, weird and like he had shown up on

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Speaker 1: the Morning show on that in that Instagram post on

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Speaker 1: the what am I'm blinking on the morning show on air?

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Speaker 1: And what's the thing you do? That's small show that

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Speaker 1: you are part of, UM, and you all kind of

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Speaker 1: talked about like his name, and He's like, you can

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Speaker 1: call me whatever. So then when we were on the

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Speaker 1: way to his house for the surprise, like do I

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Speaker 1: call him his name Red Star? And so like conflicted.

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Speaker 1: Now I don't know, I kind of like red Star. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm I'm into Red Star is like the

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Speaker 1: podcast name. Even though sometimes I say his full name

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Speaker 1: on accident. I don't know if it ever gets naturally shift.

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Speaker 1: But you know it's odd though, to hear Ryan call

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Speaker 1: him by his real name and not Socrates. I agree,

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Speaker 1: I agree, So for now we keep him as a

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Speaker 1: Red Star. So Red Star UM basically planned Tanya's whole

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Speaker 1: birthday party. Like so he was texting me my mom

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Speaker 1: this whole birthday planning because I was like he was

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Speaker 1: just like handled the whole thing. So Tanya, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I'll let you tell your half. But when she arrives,

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Speaker 1: she immediately goes to do help him with this, and

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Speaker 1: I was like, no, he literally did everything because I

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Speaker 1: was just like I was shocked at the attention to detail,

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Speaker 1: like the bar menu was. Then he named him like

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Speaker 1: rat on the Rocks, which is like, my my favorite

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Speaker 1: drink was to keel on the rocks, and then he

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Speaker 1: did like a Sonsia's strug or something and the modern Woman,

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Speaker 1: and then the menu was exactly what I like to eat,

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Speaker 1: like beat salad and fish and stuff, and the all

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Speaker 1: of everybody's place setting had little butterflies on them. And

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Speaker 1: one of my girlfriends, Jerome, he like had her make

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Speaker 1: and butterflies, and the balloons had a little butter but

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Speaker 1: it wasn't like an like an obnoxious amount of butterflies.

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Speaker 1: It was just subtle details, subtle details, and there was

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Speaker 1: like it was like it was just so above and

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Speaker 1: beyond that I thought for sure you played a part.

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Speaker 1: But then I realized he did every single thing, and

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Speaker 1: I was just like I started crying all over again. So,

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Speaker 1: you know, for years I've been Tanya's significant other when

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Speaker 1: was impressive. It was impressive and like, in like a

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Speaker 1: He was like texting me and be like, do you

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Speaker 1: he basically was like, I'm gonna I'm gonna take you

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Speaker 1: actually used to work at iHeart. She um started her

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Speaker 1: I saw Emily, the name pop up on his like,

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Speaker 1: this butterfly farm that's an Encinitas, which is like a

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Speaker 1: So I know I'm a cancer and we're emotional and

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Speaker 1: I feel like for so many years throughout my twenties.

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Speaker 1: I would pray, and I would just like ask for

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Speaker 1: like the meaning of like why you know, why it

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Speaker 1: hasn't happened for me? Is this gonna happen? I always

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Speaker 1: I mean what he did for you, Like I know

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Speaker 1: a lot of people who have been in relationships for

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Speaker 1: just very like you said, he thought through every detail.

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Speaker 1: He gives this like beautiful speech when he's when we're

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Speaker 1: things that need to happen. But sure enough, she got

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Speaker 1: cast as Ariel. And then as soon as she did

429
00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:39,760
Speaker 1: her show, I put those together and I've watched it

430
00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:43,359
Speaker 1: every day since and it's uh, it's I will never stop.

431
00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:46,520
Speaker 1: I don't think. So. Yeah, it's like her on stage

432
00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:50,880
Speaker 1: and she has a beautiful voice. It's very nice. She's fifteen. Yeah,

433
00:20:50,920 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 1: she's she's has a beautiful voice. But the next which

434
00:20:53,600 --> 00:20:55,840
Speaker 1: is like switches to an old video of her when

435
00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:59,280
Speaker 1: she was like three, singing and he edited together. Yeah,

436
00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:02,040
Speaker 1: it was really Yeah, it turned out exactly. It really

437
00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:04,280
Speaker 1: turned out actually better than I expected it too, And

438
00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:06,520
Speaker 1: I didn't really notice that at the end she kind

439
00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:08,760
Speaker 1: of winks at the camera. That was kind of I

440
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:11,080
Speaker 1: had forgotten that far. So that was a perfect ending

441
00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:13,280
Speaker 1: for it. Yeah, it really turned out. Actually, did she

442
00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:17,280
Speaker 1: get her voice from you? I always say this, and

443
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:20,040
Speaker 1: everyone in the family jokes about that and laughs at me,

444
00:21:20,119 --> 00:21:22,639
Speaker 1: but I say, yes, I was in every choir offered

445
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:24,960
Speaker 1: at my high school. I just don't sing regularly, I

446
00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:30,399
Speaker 1: don't sing publicly, but yes, multiple times in the shower

447
00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:34,359
Speaker 1: in my car. It's a concert every single day. But

448
00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:38,800
Speaker 1: I don't know that anyone would be like, well, I

449
00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:43,199
Speaker 1: don't know. I think it's from me, but yeah, it

450
00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,680
Speaker 1: was really good. Um yeah, I'm trying to think what else.

451
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 1: I mean, it felt this weekend. This week felt like

452
00:21:49,320 --> 00:21:54,440
Speaker 1: a blur blur. I'm sure it did for you, but yeah,

453
00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:57,520
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, my mom wasn't Yeah, my

454
00:21:57,600 --> 00:21:59,840
Speaker 1: mom was in town, which was so much fun and

455
00:22:00,080 --> 00:22:02,879
Speaker 1: helped me with my house and just like it was

456
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 1: really a much needed trip. Like when she left, I

457
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:10,120
Speaker 1: was devastated because that was her first time being out

458
00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 1: here and like over four years, I think, because like

459
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 1: normally we always go back to the South to visit family,

460
00:22:18,880 --> 00:22:23,880
Speaker 1: and um, finally last time I was there and um,

461
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:26,160
Speaker 1: may I just I was like, will you please come

462
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:28,800
Speaker 1: out and just visit like my house and help me

463
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:30,560
Speaker 1: with it because she has a real eye for like

464
00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 1: design and stuff like that. And so she came out

465
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:35,439
Speaker 1: and it was just fun to kind of show her

466
00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 1: my life because she hears about it, but she like

467
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:41,000
Speaker 1: her being a part of it was really fun. You

468
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 1: forget how like no matter what age you are, how

469
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:51,960
Speaker 1: like how much you need your mom like I. She

470
00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,000
Speaker 1: I woke up every morning because I don't really drink

471
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:56,399
Speaker 1: coffee unless I get it like ice or something. But

472
00:22:56,440 --> 00:22:58,520
Speaker 1: she makes her coffee every morning. So I bought a

473
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Speaker 1: coffee maker for her, and I woke up every morning

474
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:05,879
Speaker 1: to like her rearranging furniture, drinking her coffee. So it

475
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:08,399
Speaker 1: was cute. I had a lot of fun. That is fun. Oh,

476
00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 1: I forgot to mention that Becca, like, uh, I posted

477
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Speaker 1: the video of the post its that you made in

478
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Speaker 1: my house. Uh, and everybody's like Becca. That was such

479
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:20,520
Speaker 1: a Tanya move of Becca, like you know what it

480
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,320
Speaker 1: really is? Like she really wanted to speak to my

481
00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:26,680
Speaker 1: love language. So yesterday we came. Last night, we came

482
00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:28,840
Speaker 1: and brought a red Star and I came to bring

483
00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:31,119
Speaker 1: all the flowers back to my apartment so that I

484
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 1: didn't have to do it Monday morning when I came

485
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:35,440
Speaker 1: back to do the radio show. And so we were

486
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:39,600
Speaker 1: bringing the flowers in and I noticed, Uh, these like

487
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:43,280
Speaker 1: post it's on the thing I like my kitchen. It's

488
00:23:43,320 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 1: like a who's been in my house? Like this is

489
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 1: super weird, I said, I after something like after you

490
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 1: gave Mark your homework assignment on the podcast or whatever.

491
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:54,920
Speaker 1: I thought about the thirty four reasons why I love you,

492
00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:58,679
Speaker 1: and so she wrote on these like post it and

493
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:01,960
Speaker 1: posted them like all up, been down, like my my banister,

494
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:06,000
Speaker 1: my penis banister staircase, and then like it led up

495
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:08,600
Speaker 1: to my studio with like all these balloons like a son,

496
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: and there was thirty four reasons why she loves me,

497
00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:14,200
Speaker 1: and then like I think around reason twenty it said

498
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:18,520
Speaker 1: I wish you were turning fifteen. My hand hurts, well,

499
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:21,399
Speaker 1: I haven't written. I realized I haven't written anything in

500
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:25,280
Speaker 1: a long time. And it was like and they weren't posted,

501
00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:27,919
Speaker 1: so I had to get tape because they weren't actually sticky,

502
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:31,760
Speaker 1: so I had to get taped. Yeah, I put tape

503
00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:34,919
Speaker 1: on all of them. But my hand, my handwriting so ugly,

504
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:38,439
Speaker 1: and it was like getting worse by the note, and

505
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:40,920
Speaker 1: I was like, I have to finish, Like I'm halfway there.

506
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 1: I have a lot of things to say. I just

507
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,440
Speaker 1: my hand is cramping up. But um, it's very cute

508
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,680
Speaker 1: because it's very not a youth thing. Yeah, no it's not.

509
00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: And I had my Alley wrote me and goes it

510
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Speaker 1: can't wait for my befre She was like Wow. She

511
00:24:56,359 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 1: sent me your story and goes, wow, this is impressive,

512
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,760
Speaker 1: and I go, I was like, yeah, you know that's

513
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: it's Tanya's birthday and she was like, can't wait for mine?

514
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 1: And I was like, this is specific to Tanya, right.

515
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: It was like you literally spoke my love language, like

516
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 1: you like that isn't such a that's a really great

517
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:17,360
Speaker 1: friend thing. It was very much not your thing. Yeah, well,

518
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 1: you know, I figured I didn't I I my gift

519
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:25,959
Speaker 1: isn't here yet, so I wanted to do something that

520
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 1: was for you. I ordered her a gift, but it

521
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,199
Speaker 1: told me it's shipped today. Don't need gifts, like I

522
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 1: don't need gifts or not because you need. I know.

523
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 1: It's very true that every everythingthing. Do you know what

524
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: happened though, is because I was It was like I

525
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 1: was shopping and like when when my mom was here,

526
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 1: we were like shopping and stuff, and I just like

527
00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:51,920
Speaker 1: I couldn't think of anything that was like, oh, Tanya

528
00:25:51,960 --> 00:25:54,640
Speaker 1: would need this or want this, And I was gonna

529
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 1: get her jewelry, but like everyone got her jewelry. ACT

530
00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 1: wouldn't have even had a space to wear jewelry back.

531
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Speaker 1: And so I found something else that I think will

532
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 1: be a hit. It's a puppy notice. Si. Although you

533
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:14,040
Speaker 1: have to say shout out to Danielle Jonas, I still

534
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:15,800
Speaker 1: don't understand. I still don't know how she got Red

535
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: Stars address. But I got these beautiful flowers from Danielle

536
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:23,919
Speaker 1: Jonas to Red I know he goes. They came Friday.

537
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 1: I had to hide them from you, like like that is.

538
00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,480
Speaker 1: I was asking everybody's like, how did she get this address?

539
00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: I know that collection was just truly impeccable, insane, like beautiful,

540
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,639
Speaker 1: a lot of I got a lot of butterflies. Yeah,

541
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:43,639
Speaker 1: the butterfly was definitely naturally a theme for Like, I

542
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 1: found myself looking for anything butterfly and I'm like, what

543
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 1: significant butterflies? That's the only thing that's significant. Um. Well,

544
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 1: we have a very fine guest today and someone who

545
00:26:56,080 --> 00:27:00,159
Speaker 1: really is the definition of a modern woman. Well, Becca's right,

546
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: I'm actually really excited to talk to. Her name is

547
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 1: Rachel Rodgers, and she is the epitome of a modern woman.

548
00:27:04,760 --> 00:27:07,680
Speaker 1: She has this book that's called We Should All Be Millionaires,

549
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:10,879
Speaker 1: And I don't know a ton of her story of

550
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 1: kind of how she got I mean, obviously she's insanely successful,

551
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:16,760
Speaker 1: and I bet it's like a very long story of

552
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 1: how she got to where she is now from like birth.

553
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 1: But I'm hoping she can give us some like really

554
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 1: interesting and unique tidbits because you know, only ten percent

555
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 1: of the world's millionaires are women. It's crazy the millionaires

556
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: out there are men. Well yeah, but think about like

557
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: how far we've come as women, but we still have

558
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 1: so so much further to go. But and yet we're

559
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 1: not millionaires. No, but she basically wrote this book to

560
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:46,439
Speaker 1: teach kind of empower women, like, hey, just just because

561
00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,639
Speaker 1: these stats look the way they do, doesn't mean that

562
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 1: you don't have all the tools to become successful, and

563
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 1: which I think is truly a modern, a modern woman message.

564
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:58,840
Speaker 1: So we are going to take a break and then

565
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 1: we will be right back up with Rachel Rogers. All Right,

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00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:19,439
Speaker 1: you guys, we are back, and we have, as I

567
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 1: said before, a very special guest scrubbing in today. Please

568
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:28,320
Speaker 1: welcome Rachel Rogers. I just want to clap with y'all,

569
00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 1: and I clap for yourself. I kind of want to

570
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:31,680
Speaker 1: set you up because I do think our scrubbers also

571
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:33,679
Speaker 1: say we don't set up our guests very well. Okay,

572
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 1: So I want to give some context. So you, I

573
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 1: guess you're like a multi hyphen in you'll are a

574
00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 1: lot of things. But you did you wrote a book

575
00:28:39,800 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: that's called We Should All Be Millionaires, which is what

576
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 1: we want to really dive into. Um. Your intellectual property attorney,

577
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 1: your business coach, you're a mother. What else is on

578
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 1: your UM? I own a ranch, Um, somebody's wife, and

579
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 1: I'm not an I don't practice IP law anymore, but

580
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 1: I guess I still have those skills your journey, Yes,

581
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:06,160
Speaker 1: exactly so. And the main thing, well, I have kids

582
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:08,920
Speaker 1: and then i'm the CEO of Hello seven and those

583
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:12,520
Speaker 1: those two things take up most of my time. So

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00:29:13,200 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: I don't even know where to begin. Like so, I mean,

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00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:18,959
Speaker 1: you're just listed a bunch of things that are very impressive.

586
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 1: Like where did you kind of take the turn of

587
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 1: your attorney and you wanted to switch gears? Yeah? Well, um,

588
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 1: I wanted to become a lawyer since I was eight

589
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 1: years old because I used to watch my mom would

590
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: watch courtroom dramas and I'd be like, yes, I want

591
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: to be that person advocating for the little person, you know,

592
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 1: and coming in and helping them. Uh. So I went

593
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 1: to law school, which I found to be a traumatizing experience. Honestly,

594
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: I was always a good student, but it was so hard.

595
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:51,120
Speaker 1: Like three quarters the way through criminal lot in my

596
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: first semester, I still didn't know what like men's raea was.

597
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 1: There was like so much Latin that I was like,

598
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:59,480
Speaker 1: what is happening? So it was a real challenge, um,

599
00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:01,640
Speaker 1: But then I overcome it. I wound up graduating with

600
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 1: good grades, but I really didn't like the vibe and

601
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 1: the culture of the legal industry. But I just started

602
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 1: to become a solo lawyer because I didn't really want

603
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 1: to take a job doing anything else. So you're like

604
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 1: your own your own firm essentially exactly. So I clerked

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00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 1: for a judge for a year and then went out

606
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 1: on my own. And my mother was horrified. She was like,

607
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 1: what happened to the six figure job I thought you

608
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 1: were getting. Isn't that what happens next? Not this whole solo,

609
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:31,880
Speaker 1: scrappy solo lawyer thing. Can we not do that? Like? No, mom? Sorry?

610
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 1: So anyway, So I did that for seven years and

611
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 1: I was pretty successful at it. Built it too, almost

612
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:42,200
Speaker 1: just shive seven figures and then you know, a lot

613
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,040
Speaker 1: of my clients were women entrepreneurs running businesses, and they'd

614
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 1: be like, how are you making so much more money

615
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:49,480
Speaker 1: than us? Like what are you doing? So I started

616
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 1: telling them for free, and then someone told me I

617
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 1: should probably charge for that advice. Then I switched and

618
00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: started charging for the business strategy advice instead of the

619
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Speaker 1: legal And it was a transition, like it probably took

620
00:31:00,120 --> 00:31:02,440
Speaker 1: two years to like winding down my law practice and

621
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 1: wind up you know, my UM company, Hello seven. But

622
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 1: it was just like people asked me for it, and

623
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:11,360
Speaker 1: I saw a real need. I think, honestly, the thing

624
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:13,120
Speaker 1: that got me the most excited about it was that

625
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 1: all of the stats showed that, like, you know, so

626
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 1: many women entrepreneurs today, it's like sev still of women

627
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,720
Speaker 1: entrepreneurs never make more than fifty dollars in total revenues.

628
00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 1: So out of that you gotta pay yourself, you gotta

629
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:29,840
Speaker 1: pay team, you gotta pay taxes, business expenses. It's not enough.

630
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, we should all be millionaires instead.

631
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:36,200
Speaker 1: I like that play better. Wait, so because I read

632
00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:39,880
Speaker 1: the staff that says only ten of the millionaires are women.

633
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Speaker 1: M hmmm, are you a millire? I am? I am badass. Yeah, Well,

634
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:49,400
Speaker 1: here's what we really need, we really need to know.

635
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: It's like, what are some obviously, you know, the book

636
00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,000
Speaker 1: really goes into the details of but I think it's

637
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:57,080
Speaker 1: like I think a lot. I'll just speak for myself.

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00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:58,680
Speaker 1: I don't want to give a general like you know,

639
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 1: women whatever. But for me, it's like the drive is there,

640
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 1: the ambition is there, the creativity, the passion is there.

641
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:11,120
Speaker 1: But I don't know with finances and like strategy and business,

642
00:32:11,200 --> 00:32:14,560
Speaker 1: I have no idea what I'm doing. Yeah, and so

643
00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 1: here's what I would challenge. I would challenge you that

644
00:32:16,600 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 1: that's not true. I think you do know what you're doing,

645
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: and I think you probably should just be charging more

646
00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 1: for it, you know. And I think we society wants

647
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,560
Speaker 1: us to believe that we are not good with money,

648
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:29,920
Speaker 1: as women in particular, and especially if you're a woman

649
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:33,320
Speaker 1: of color, even more so. Um, that's the story that

650
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 1: we get. There are media messages that are sent to

651
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 1: women every day. Don't buy Latte's cut coupon, stop shopping

652
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 1: so much. Even the movies, right, like you know, like

653
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:45,840
Speaker 1: Carrie from Sex to the City, right, like she's this

654
00:32:45,960 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 1: badass woman but couldn't afford to buy her apartment when

655
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:51,640
Speaker 1: it went up for sale, right, and like, oh she

656
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 1: has a shoe purchasing problem. Right, Like that's the message

657
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 1: that's always given to us. But men get messages of

658
00:32:57,160 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 1: like there's always an image of a lion and it's

659
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 1: like risks invest, go for it, right, And the reality

660
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 1: is is risk is required to build wealth, especially if

661
00:33:06,600 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 1: you didn't grow up with it, like I didn't, Um,

662
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 1: so you know I didn't. Just to be clear, Sorry,

663
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:17,800
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's sounded like. So you know,

664
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: we are getting these messages all day long that we're

665
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:22,800
Speaker 1: not good with money, we don't know what we're doing

666
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 1: with money, and we believe them, right when the reality is,

667
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,440
Speaker 1: learning how to manage money and learning how to make

668
00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 1: money is just a skill that can be acquired, right,

669
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 1: just like men acquire it, women can acquire it too.

670
00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:37,280
Speaker 1: We're not inherently bad with money. In fact, stats show

671
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:40,440
Speaker 1: that we are better investors, that we we build more

672
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 1: profitable companies when we are leading versus men running companies

673
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:48,320
Speaker 1: of a similar size. Right, So like we actually, according

674
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 1: to statistics, are better at managing businesses and money and investing.

675
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:55,600
Speaker 1: But the messages sent to us all the time and

676
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 1: also the laws, right, Like our grandmothers couldn't get a

677
00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 1: credit card because it was legal, they had to have

678
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 1: a male cosigner. That's not that long ago, right, So

679
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 1: like it's relatively new for women to control their own money. Um,

680
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 1: and so we have to remember that, like that society

681
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:12,839
Speaker 1: is actually set up for us as women to not

682
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:16,120
Speaker 1: win financially, and so this book is really about how

683
00:34:16,120 --> 00:34:17,759
Speaker 1: do we do it anyway? How do we make sure

684
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,400
Speaker 1: we win? And part of it is like the changing

685
00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 1: the story. It starts with that. The first chapter of

686
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 1: the book is called million Dollars Story because it's about

687
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,160
Speaker 1: we have to change the story in our heads that

688
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,000
Speaker 1: we're not good with money or we don't know what

689
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:31,520
Speaker 1: we're doing with money. Nonsense, we do know what we're doing.

690
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:35,840
Speaker 1: We're actually really smart and we're strategic and we're capable,

691
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 1: and we create all these amazing brands all the like

692
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,799
Speaker 1: I mean, look what you all have done with this podcast, right,

693
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 1: like very successful women, right, So like we just need

694
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 1: to charge accordingly, right and raise our prices. That's a

695
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 1: big part of it too. So I do find like

696
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 1: the there's like this aside from the media message and

697
00:34:56,960 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: like what we're told because even Tanya, before you came

698
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:01,799
Speaker 1: on to it, is like, oh my gosh, only ten

699
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 1: of of millionaires or women. And I was like, well,

700
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: think about I mean, we've come so far, but like

701
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 1: we still have so much further to go of like

702
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 1: feeling the the empowerment to demand what we deserve. And

703
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, like, starting out, do you find

704
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:24,800
Speaker 1: that there's because you I feel like talking about money

705
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:26,920
Speaker 1: and finances and how much you make is kind of

706
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: like still a taboo conversation like some you know, people

707
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 1: are scared ask and then people are kind of feel like,

708
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:37,240
Speaker 1: well is that anyone else's business? But I think having

709
00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 1: someone like you who has made it happen and to

710
00:35:41,120 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 1: be able to offer that advice is like a very

711
00:35:44,880 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 1: powerful tool. Yeah, representation, right, we need to see examples

712
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 1: and be like, oh this is available to me, right,

713
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: Like we need to see that visibly. And we're shamed.

714
00:35:57,000 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 1: We're like, we're we're shamed if we have two little money,

715
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:01,879
Speaker 1: and then we're shamed if we have too much, right,

716
00:36:02,200 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 1: and we're not supposed to talk about Trust me, I

717
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 1: get hate mail all the time from people who are like,

718
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,160
Speaker 1: stop talking about how rich you are and I'm like, no,

719
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:12,480
Speaker 1: I will not. You know why, because the world needs

720
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:14,680
Speaker 1: to know that this is possible. Like I grew up

721
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,000
Speaker 1: my parents were in food stamps, and so if I

722
00:36:17,040 --> 00:36:19,799
Speaker 1: could do it right, it's available to so many of us.

723
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 1: And it's not even rocket science. It's just that we

724
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:24,360
Speaker 1: have to believe it's possible. And then we have to

725
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 1: focus on our value and you know, and charge accordingly, right,

726
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: because I think so much we'd think like, oh, well,

727
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 1: I couldn't possibly charge that, or I'm not worth that,

728
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:36,799
Speaker 1: or I can't ask for that raise, and it's like, yes,

729
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:40,480
Speaker 1: you can, yes, and absolutely can. Trust me, some mediocre

730
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 1: white guy who does who's not as anywhere near as

731
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:45,879
Speaker 1: accomplished as you is asking for that raise and getting it,

732
00:36:46,200 --> 00:36:48,879
Speaker 1: And so we need to start demanding it for ourselves.

733
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,160
Speaker 1: And like I think we have to be really clear

734
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:52,839
Speaker 1: on what our value is. We have to be really

735
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 1: clear on what we bring to the table, what our

736
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:58,800
Speaker 1: skills are, and then and really learn how to sell ourselves,

737
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 1: like whether we're entrepreneurs or not, we need to be

738
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 1: entrepreneurial and how we approach our careers um and ask

739
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:06,640
Speaker 1: for the money and really be able to make an

740
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:09,040
Speaker 1: argument in a case as to why we are worth it, right, like,

741
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 1: of course you're not just asking money for money because

742
00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:13,359
Speaker 1: you can you can back it up, right, but we

743
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 1: may we can't. We have impostor syndrome because of the

744
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: laws that were in place, because of the media messages

745
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:22,080
Speaker 1: that we're getting, Like there's a it's by design, right,

746
00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 1: because of sexism. That's why we have imposter syndrome. And

747
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,359
Speaker 1: so you know, we have to just start recognizing our

748
00:37:28,440 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 1: value um and asking for the sale and and really

749
00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 1: turning towards our money. Like half of it is just

750
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:37,719
Speaker 1: pay attention to your money, and pay attention to how

751
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 1: much you're being charged, and have conversations with people, well

752
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 1: how much are you charging for speaking gigs and how

753
00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 1: much are you charging for these kinds of appearances. As

754
00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,920
Speaker 1: soon as we start talking each other and stearing that information,

755
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:49,839
Speaker 1: guess what, everybody starts making more money because it gets

756
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:52,319
Speaker 1: out in the open. You know, you know it's so

757
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 1: true because so I had I have a friend, we

758
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:57,760
Speaker 1: have a friend who also does another female lad podcast,

759
00:37:57,840 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 1: and will never forget the day that she came to

760
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 1: me she said, I want to give you numbers of

761
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:04,799
Speaker 1: what we are making on this podcast because I want

762
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:06,960
Speaker 1: to be transparent and so that you know, so that

763
00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:08,799
Speaker 1: you can you know, you and Becca can really have

764
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,360
Speaker 1: like a a better gauge of you know, what you

765
00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 1: guys are making. I was like, that is so freaking

766
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 1: cool because we're basically the same thing. We're like, you know,

767
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: in air quotes competition. But she's giving me her information

768
00:38:19,120 --> 00:38:21,319
Speaker 1: so that I can stand up for myself and my

769
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 1: value and it's something that I think is So it's

770
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:27,000
Speaker 1: been a battle for me because I struggle with imposter

771
00:38:27,080 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 1: syndrome too, and I'm very grateful because I love what

772
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,879
Speaker 1: I do and so I always do things for free.

773
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:34,480
Speaker 1: Like I'm just like, oh, yeah, they want to do

774
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 1: an extra phone call for this event that I'm doing. Sure,

775
00:38:37,440 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 1: And I remember, I remember our boss Amy was like, no,

776
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:42,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you paid for that call, like you

777
00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 1: don't do things for free, and I was like that's awesome,

778
00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like that's another woman, like

779
00:38:46,840 --> 00:38:49,560
Speaker 1: helping another woman because I just like, yeah, it's fine,

780
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 1: it's gonna be an hour, like I don't care, and

781
00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:53,359
Speaker 1: she's like no, like you get paid for your time.

782
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 1: And I'm starting to kind of it's been a slow process.

783
00:38:57,719 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 1: But as I do it, it's starting, I'm starting to

784
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 1: feel a lot like more empowered by it. So my

785
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 1: question for you is, if let's say somebody's on a

786
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:07,880
Speaker 1: job that's salary, so they you know, they clock in

787
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:09,880
Speaker 1: at nine, they clock out at five, and this is

788
00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 1: their salary for the year, how how do they become

789
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 1: a millionaire? They're like setting their salary. Is it important?

790
00:39:15,840 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 1: Do you think that everybody should have some sort of

791
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: business on their own, like on the side. Yeah, Well,

792
00:39:21,800 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 1: there's a couple of ways to do it. One I

793
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 1: just want to say, I love that. And one of

794
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 1: the things that you just pointed out about, like the

795
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:30,520
Speaker 1: so called competing podcast that's giving you their numbers, is

796
00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:33,439
Speaker 1: that putting us in competition with one each with each

797
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 1: other for men's attention is how we are We are

798
00:39:36,800 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: kept small. It's how we're kept out of the financial conversation, right,

799
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 1: and how our value winds up going down because we're

800
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 1: wasting our time worrying about this fictitious competition instead of

801
00:39:47,239 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: getting this money and joining forces. You know. So I

802
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:52,640
Speaker 1: think that's so important. And I think what you just

803
00:39:52,680 --> 00:39:54,839
Speaker 1: said to about that hour that you give away, I

804
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:57,319
Speaker 1: bet you every woman and that's one of the things

805
00:39:57,320 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 1: that I asked women to do is actually a time

806
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 1: study in those books, and like we walk them through,

807
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:04,839
Speaker 1: like do a time study, actually account for your time,

808
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,040
Speaker 1: and when you do it, you're gonna find that you

809
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 1: are leaving money on the table. There are opportunities where

810
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:12,080
Speaker 1: you could be asking for money or where you're just

811
00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:14,239
Speaker 1: giving away your time that that time could be going

812
00:40:14,320 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: towards money making opportunities. Right, So, like we have to

813
00:40:18,640 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 1: just really look at our time and see where are

814
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 1: we leaving money on the table, because all of us

815
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:25,000
Speaker 1: do it. I'm sure I still have places today where

816
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 1: I'm leaving money on the table, you know. Um, So

817
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 1: I just want to address those two things. But to

818
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 1: answer your question, I think the way that someone in

819
00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 1: a nine to five job can make more, but there's

820
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:36,839
Speaker 1: a couple of ways. One they could ask for a raise, right,

821
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:39,640
Speaker 1: and they need to understand like how does this business work?

822
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:41,400
Speaker 1: And how do I add value to this business? How

823
00:40:41,440 --> 00:40:43,799
Speaker 1: do I reduce the stress that my boss might have?

824
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:46,360
Speaker 1: How does me doing what I do and bringing what

825
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:48,520
Speaker 1: I bring to the table. And it doesn't matter if

826
00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 1: you're a waitress and administrative assistant or some fancier, higher

827
00:40:53,040 --> 00:40:56,200
Speaker 1: level job title, whatever, it doesn't matter. It's how am

828
00:40:56,200 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 1: I relief relieving stress for my boss and making the

829
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,920
Speaker 1: case for like why that should be making more money, right,

830
00:41:02,920 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 1: because that's what matters. You have to tap into what

831
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:07,399
Speaker 1: matters to the person who's making the decision and then

832
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:09,320
Speaker 1: make a case for why you should make more really

833
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 1: understand how you help this company be more profitable, you know.

834
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 1: So that's one way that you could do it. Side

835
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:18,319
Speaker 1: hustles is a huge piece for women entrepreneurs especially, So

836
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 1: many women entrepreneurs are starting starting side hustles. Like my

837
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 1: sister has a corporate job, but she sells real estate

838
00:41:23,760 --> 00:41:26,880
Speaker 1: on the side. Now she's also become a real estate investor,

839
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 1: and now she's like a landlord and has a couple

840
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:31,239
Speaker 1: of rental properties, right, and so she's got these other

841
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 1: sources of income. So I think having a side hustle

842
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 1: is a great idea as well, where you could just

843
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: charge for consulting whatever you do in your day job.

844
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:40,359
Speaker 1: You could be like, hey, I advise you on how

845
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:44,680
Speaker 1: to do that for five an hour, right for example. Um,

846
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 1: so that's another way or you could become an entrepreneur

847
00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 1: as well, become an investor, that's an option. So there's

848
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 1: a lot of different ways, but I think it starts

849
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 1: with really understanding your value and like how could I

850
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 1: max out what I want to make? And what I

851
00:41:57,120 --> 00:41:59,720
Speaker 1: actually encourage women to do is just create this million

852
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,359
Speaker 1: dollar or vision, which is just sit down and say,

853
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: what are the things that I want that would make

854
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: a difference in my life, whether it's like for me,

855
00:42:06,160 --> 00:42:07,760
Speaker 1: it was like I wanted to pay for my mom's

856
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:10,000
Speaker 1: rent was a big deal for me. I wanted to

857
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 1: send my kids to you know, extracurricular activities without stress.

858
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 1: You know. I wanted a nicer house for them, to

859
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 1: have a backyard or whatever, and to send them to

860
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:20,799
Speaker 1: like really good schools. So like I did the math

861
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 1: on what is that lifestyle cost and figured that I

862
00:42:23,560 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 1: needed to make at the time of making like a

863
00:42:25,160 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 1: hundred thousand a year, and I wanted to make three

864
00:42:27,280 --> 00:42:29,799
Speaker 1: hundred thousand. And so then I started, once I had

865
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 1: that number in my head of like, okay, two hundred

866
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:34,840
Speaker 1: thousand dollars more a year, it's like approximately twenty k

867
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:37,360
Speaker 1: a month. What could I do to generate another twenty

868
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:40,319
Speaker 1: k a month? And I just started brainstorming, and I

869
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 1: came with the ideas, you know, and then I started

870
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:46,160
Speaker 1: trying some of those ideas, and over time, within three years,

871
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 1: no less than I think it was two years, I

872
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 1: was making three hundred thousand UM. So it's just like

873
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 1: we just have to look at our money, get focused

874
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:57,040
Speaker 1: on and remember what it's buying us, whether that's charitable things,

875
00:42:57,080 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 1: political contributions, right our lifestyle as well. So if we

876
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:03,319
Speaker 1: do the math on it and really get clear what

877
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,239
Speaker 1: is that number, and then start brains Like if you

878
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 1: needed to come up with an extra ten k in

879
00:43:07,520 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 1: the next ten days, I'm sure you could write like

880
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 1: you'd come up with like okay, I could try this,

881
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: or I could reach out to that person that I've

882
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:18,320
Speaker 1: worked with before and pitch them on whatever. Right, Like,

883
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:20,240
Speaker 1: if we really needed to make some money, we could.

884
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,240
Speaker 1: So it's just like starting to make that our regular

885
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:27,640
Speaker 1: thinking instead of conserving it for emergency. It's proactive, proactive

886
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:32,760
Speaker 1: versus reactive. Yes, exactly. I love what you said about

887
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 1: presenting a case of what you add to the company,

888
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 1: because this is like a couple of years ago. But

889
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 1: L M. Pompeo from Grey's Anatomy, she kind of I

890
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 1: think there was this whole article about how she went

891
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 1: and asked for a raise and like she got it,

892
00:43:46,440 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 1: and she was like, and they the way they wrote

893
00:43:49,520 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 1: the article was that basically kind of people were like, well,

894
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go and ask for a raise, and then

895
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 1: she I heard her own podcast and she was like,

896
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 1: that was not my intention for sharing that information. I

897
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:01,400
Speaker 1: knew what the I was bringing in. I knew what

898
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 1: my value was on the show, and so I knew

899
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,919
Speaker 1: going in that I could back up my request with

900
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:11,880
Speaker 1: proof that I was important enough to be paid this amount.

901
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:15,319
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people misconstrued what that

902
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 1: they could just go in and ask for a raise

903
00:44:17,040 --> 00:44:19,080
Speaker 1: without being able to say, like, this is what I

904
00:44:19,080 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 1: had to the company. So I love that you said that,

905
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 1: because I love that you took your attorney skills and

906
00:44:25,040 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 1: you make cases more like you kind of have adjusted.

907
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 1: It's the same thought process, but to a point of being,

908
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:38,240
Speaker 1: you know, an entrepreneur and how you maximize those skills. Absolutely,

909
00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: there's an you know I talked about in the book,

910
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:43,560
Speaker 1: a negotiation where I was on the side of the

911
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,879
Speaker 1: person giving the raise. One of my women employees came

912
00:44:46,920 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 1: to me, or actually I was recruiting someone and the

913
00:44:49,560 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 1: initial salary I offered her, she doubled it. I wounded

914
00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:54,440
Speaker 1: up paying her twice as much as I was planning

915
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:56,279
Speaker 1: on paying her, which I had no intentions that was

916
00:44:56,320 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 1: convinced that I could not afford. But she made such

917
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:00,919
Speaker 1: a case of how she is gonna make my life

918
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 1: easier what she was going to take off my plate,

919
00:45:03,160 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: and I could do the math in my head and

920
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:06,399
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, if she does all of that, then

921
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 1: I could go out and make more money and easily

922
00:45:08,480 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 1: justify this salary and just like getting those things off

923
00:45:11,640 --> 00:45:15,239
Speaker 1: my plate worth every penny, you know. Um, I just

924
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 1: gave a raise last week because I was like, oh

925
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 1: my god, I'm so delighted to like take these things

926
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 1: off my to do list and give it to this person.

927
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 1: So I'm happy to pay them more for that additional responsibility,

928
00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:27,359
Speaker 1: you know. So I walk through exactly how to do it,

929
00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 1: and I think we just need to get comfortable in

930
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:33,560
Speaker 1: general asking for more, right, like just asking for more

931
00:45:33,800 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 1: in general, you know, like in whatever context we can

932
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:40,200
Speaker 1: you know, um, and seeing if we can get it,

933
00:45:40,239 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 1: and really just taking that posture, because I think when

934
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:44,719
Speaker 1: women do that, we're shamed for it and I'm like,

935
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 1: you can take your shame and and you put it

936
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 1: exactly because I don't care. I'm and here's the thing

937
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: that I really want women to understand is, like everyone

938
00:45:57,640 --> 00:46:01,040
Speaker 1: benefits when we make more money. The entire world benefits

939
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:04,200
Speaker 1: when women make more money. And there are statistics, there's

940
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 1: all kinds of research that proves that women contribute to society.

941
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 1: Women take care of children, they start charitable ventures. We

942
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 1: give away to charity at like three times the rate

943
00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,440
Speaker 1: of men. We give away so much more of our

944
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 1: our money than men do who are making the same

945
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 1: amounts as us. Right, So, like society actually benefits when

946
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:28,440
Speaker 1: women benefit. Right, when women are paid equally, When women

947
00:46:28,480 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 1: are paid more, all of society benefits. Our families benefit.

948
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 1: And you know we don't. We don't just spend the

949
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:37,279
Speaker 1: money on shoes and makeup. But you know what, yes,

950
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: shoes in makeup, because I like shoes in makeup, and

951
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:42,720
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with that, right, we should. We should

952
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,160
Speaker 1: spend our money on our pleasure, and we can also

953
00:46:45,200 --> 00:46:48,160
Speaker 1: contribute in a greater way to society. So I think

954
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 1: sometimes we think, oh, it's selfish or I can't do that,

955
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 1: Yes you can, And you know what, you better because

956
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:56,480
Speaker 1: that we need better representation in politics. Right. We need

957
00:46:56,520 --> 00:46:58,520
Speaker 1: to change this world, and the way we're gonna do

958
00:46:58,520 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 1: it is not with a bunch of men who are

959
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 1: making decisions for us. Is we have to get in

960
00:47:02,719 --> 00:47:04,960
Speaker 1: those seats. We have to have money to write checks

961
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:08,480
Speaker 1: to the politicians who want to step in for those roles. Right.

962
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:11,040
Speaker 1: So that's what's going to change the world as us

963
00:47:11,080 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 1: being like, yo, I'm going to write a check to

964
00:47:12,600 --> 00:47:15,800
Speaker 1: solve that problem. Right, So empowering is so true. I

965
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:18,240
Speaker 1: remember when I was I just started using menstrul cups

966
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 1: and I was like doing a lot of research on

967
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:21,879
Speaker 1: them because I was like, have I never heard of these?

968
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:25,000
Speaker 1: I'm thirty four, thirty three years old and I've never

969
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:26,439
Speaker 1: heard of the menstrul cup. And I've had my period

970
00:47:26,480 --> 00:47:28,680
Speaker 1: since i was fifteen, So I was like looking into it,

971
00:47:28,760 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 1: and I was reading a lot of articles about the

972
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:33,560
Speaker 1: woman in particular who started this one specific one, and

973
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 1: she was saying how she kept going to like pitch

974
00:47:35,920 --> 00:47:38,839
Speaker 1: this menstrul cup. It was all men, and they were

975
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 1: just like, why do you need you? Guys have pads

976
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:44,520
Speaker 1: and tampons. She was just like it took a lot

977
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:46,120
Speaker 1: of convincing in a lot, you know what I mean,

978
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:48,319
Speaker 1: because you're just pitching it to men who just they

979
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 1: just get it, but they don't like it's just like

980
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 1: they they don't have you know what I mean, they

981
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 1: don't have periods, so it's like they don't get it.

982
00:47:55,040 --> 00:47:57,880
Speaker 1: And so it is. It's like the more that we

983
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 1: are in these spaces and having these conversation asians and

984
00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:03,960
Speaker 1: opening these doors, the better for all of us exactly

985
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:08,360
Speaker 1: because then you changed my life man, exactly. And imagine

986
00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: how many other genius ideas like that are there to

987
00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:15,880
Speaker 1: benefit women, to to benefit queer people, to to benefit

988
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 1: black people, people of color, like all of these marginalized

989
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:21,919
Speaker 1: people by society, Like they all have ideas for apps

990
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 1: and ways that we can improve our lives that are

991
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 1: not being funded. But if we're the ones sitting at

992
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:29,479
Speaker 1: the table, we get it and we will write that check.

993
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:33,680
Speaker 1: I actually just last week invested in my first like entrepreneur,

994
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 1: like invested in another other business for the first time. Um,

995
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 1: and of course it's a woman owned business and it's

996
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: a tech company, and I'm so excited that I could

997
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:44,160
Speaker 1: like write a check and invest in her idea, you know,

998
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:47,680
Speaker 1: and give advice as well. So it's like, when we

999
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,759
Speaker 1: make money, we can take on those roles and contribute

1000
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:52,960
Speaker 1: in greater ways. I have friends like Rachel Carbo who

1001
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 1: are like creating amazing nonprofit organizations that are serving thousands

1002
00:48:58,080 --> 00:49:00,920
Speaker 1: of women, and I'm like, this is we have so

1003
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 1: much ability to make change that we don't have to

1004
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:06,879
Speaker 1: wait for like male lawmakers to give us. We can

1005
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:08,960
Speaker 1: just decide today that we care and we're gonna do

1006
00:49:09,040 --> 00:49:16,160
Speaker 1: something about it. Listen, you are a Tania. Basically when

1007
00:49:16,160 --> 00:49:18,359
Speaker 1: we started this podcast, her whole thing was being a

1008
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 1: modern woman and being someone who doesn't listen to basically

1009
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:27,239
Speaker 1: what society says and uses your strength and you we

1010
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:29,960
Speaker 1: always say like when people are the definition of a

1011
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: modern woman. When I was like, got your book and

1012
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:34,960
Speaker 1: just reading your bio, I was like, this is basically

1013
00:49:35,120 --> 00:49:39,239
Speaker 1: what we try to represent on the podcast. So I

1014
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 1: just I'm like blown away. I can't wait to read

1015
00:49:41,960 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 1: your book because I think even in in any any industry,

1016
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 1: but I think asking for what you think you deserve

1017
00:49:49,960 --> 00:49:52,640
Speaker 1: or what you deserve is such an intimidating process. You

1018
00:49:52,680 --> 00:49:55,359
Speaker 1: worry about like losing your job or someone being like

1019
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:57,400
Speaker 1: I mean even hearing the word no. Like a lot

1020
00:49:57,440 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 1: of people are like, what's the worst you can do

1021
00:49:59,160 --> 00:50:02,719
Speaker 1: is you can hear no. Well, that's kind of discouraging sometimes.

1022
00:50:02,719 --> 00:50:06,160
Speaker 1: So I think what you're doing and giving women the

1023
00:50:06,239 --> 00:50:10,839
Speaker 1: power to create for themselves what men have been able

1024
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 1: to create for themselves so easily, is like such an

1025
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:17,839
Speaker 1: amazing gift you've you've given to people, Well, thank you.

1026
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 1: And and really I think what I'm doing is just

1027
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 1: pointing out the power we already have. Right, we have

1028
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 1: the power. We don't need to wait for somebody to

1029
00:50:25,760 --> 00:50:27,839
Speaker 1: give it to us. And that's what the rallying cry

1030
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:29,920
Speaker 1: of this book is and why I get so fired

1031
00:50:29,960 --> 00:50:32,360
Speaker 1: up talking about it, because I'm like, come on, people,

1032
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:34,719
Speaker 1: we could do that. Do you do you live in

1033
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 1: l A. No, I live in um Greensboro, North Carolina

1034
00:50:39,080 --> 00:50:43,440
Speaker 1: on a ranch. I was gonna say, dream like, do

1035
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:47,359
Speaker 1: you need more friends? Or I'm actually going to be

1036
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:48,799
Speaker 1: in l A at the end of the month. I'm

1037
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:51,200
Speaker 1: hosting a retreat there, so I will be there for

1038
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:52,839
Speaker 1: a couple of days. So yeah, I'm happy to get

1039
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:56,200
Speaker 1: drinks or something that'd be fun. Yeah, Because No, honestly,

1040
00:50:56,239 --> 00:50:59,759
Speaker 1: like I feel very like invigorated, invigorated by you were saying,

1041
00:51:01,760 --> 00:51:04,440
Speaker 1: I feel very bad. I feel very invigorated by you

1042
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:07,319
Speaker 1: because I think also sometimes again, like Bea says, let

1043
00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 1: you hear a lot of the nose, and you can

1044
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:10,000
Speaker 1: kind of get into a little bit of a slump

1045
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:11,839
Speaker 1: of things. And I feel like I kind of went

1046
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,399
Speaker 1: into a little slump of things, and I'm emerging from

1047
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 1: my cocoon and I'm fired back up. I also just

1048
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 1: like a birthday, so like it's a new year of living,

1049
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 1: and I have this kind of like fire back in me,

1050
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,440
Speaker 1: and like now talking to you, like the fires like

1051
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:25,640
Speaker 1: coming out of me, and I just like I don't know,

1052
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:29,800
Speaker 1: I love. And what you're pointing out is how important

1053
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 1: community is for us. Like women, we need to network,

1054
00:51:33,200 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 1: we need to talk to each other, we need to

1055
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 1: connect with each other. I think we're often taught like

1056
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:40,239
Speaker 1: we need a white male ally to open doors for us,

1057
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:43,400
Speaker 1: and I've had that happen, and I've also had white

1058
00:51:43,440 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 1: men slam doors in my faces, right, So it's it's

1059
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:49,799
Speaker 1: it's it's I don't think that that's the way. I

1060
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:53,320
Speaker 1: think that there are huge, amazing networks of powerful women

1061
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:57,120
Speaker 1: and that we need to share our resources and create

1062
00:51:57,120 --> 00:52:00,680
Speaker 1: opportunities for each other, speak each other's names, and rooms

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00:52:00,680 --> 00:52:03,320
Speaker 1: full of opportunity, right, Like we actually can do it

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00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:06,239
Speaker 1: amongst ourselves. Um So I think we just need to

1065
00:52:06,280 --> 00:52:09,799
Speaker 1: network more and talk to each other. So there's this

1066
00:52:09,840 --> 00:52:11,440
Speaker 1: girl that I was actually talking about earlier. Her name

1067
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 1: is Emily. She was she worked for a company and

1068
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 1: then she got for aload when the pandemic hit, and

1069
00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:17,920
Speaker 1: she took it as an opportunity to start her own business.

1070
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 1: Becau's like I always wanted to event planned, so she started,

1071
00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 1: you know, doing it, and she's doing fairly well, right,

1072
00:52:24,120 --> 00:52:25,799
Speaker 1: But she needed a full time job because she wanted

1073
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:27,799
Speaker 1: health and benefits and all that stuff. She ended up

1074
00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:29,400
Speaker 1: finding a full time job, which is like as an

1075
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:32,279
Speaker 1: executive assistant. And then on the side she still does this,

1076
00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:35,200
Speaker 1: has this company, and I share her name all the

1077
00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:38,320
Speaker 1: time to all my friends because I'm like, she hustles

1078
00:52:38,400 --> 00:52:42,160
Speaker 1: so like I've never seen anybody hustle like that. Like

1079
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:44,600
Speaker 1: it's so it's so cool to see because she's so

1080
00:52:44,640 --> 00:52:46,840
Speaker 1: passionate about it. She want that that's what she wants

1081
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:49,440
Speaker 1: in the long term. But she's like, I know, right now,

1082
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:51,319
Speaker 1: I have to keep a balance because this is my

1083
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:53,239
Speaker 1: main and I don't know, like I want to do

1084
00:52:53,280 --> 00:52:54,880
Speaker 1: that with more people, do you, Like I want to

1085
00:52:54,880 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 1: find more women like her and and hire her to

1086
00:52:58,080 --> 00:53:00,120
Speaker 1: do all the things that I need to do, you

1087
00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 1: know what I mean, like and just kind of create

1088
00:53:01,640 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 1: more of that network because you're so right, you know,

1089
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 1: like we are. I don't know. If we need things

1090
00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:08,839
Speaker 1: then we go on. I don't know, but you're right,

1091
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 1: like we lean to the mail whatever, like order things

1092
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:16,399
Speaker 1: on Amazon, you know, like, yes, exactly, look for opportunities

1093
00:53:16,440 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 1: to support women owned businesses, black businesses, like the organizations

1094
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:21,839
Speaker 1: that we want to support. And one of the things

1095
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:24,160
Speaker 1: that you pointed out with Emily is that not only

1096
00:53:24,200 --> 00:53:26,319
Speaker 1: are you trying to create opportunity for her, but you're

1097
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:28,879
Speaker 1: seeing in her something that she maybe needs to hear

1098
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,640
Speaker 1: you say right to say, like you're such a hard worker,

1099
00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:34,560
Speaker 1: Like I would totally trust you with my friends. I'm

1100
00:53:34,560 --> 00:53:37,680
Speaker 1: going to tell folks about you, and just that alone

1101
00:53:38,239 --> 00:53:41,359
Speaker 1: like empowers her and makes her feel like okay, like

1102
00:53:41,719 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 1: we need to you know, speak what we see into

1103
00:53:44,520 --> 00:53:48,280
Speaker 1: each other. Right, Sometimes we get bogged down by society,

1104
00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:51,280
Speaker 1: like we're sprolling Instagram and seeing all kinds of messages,

1105
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:53,960
Speaker 1: and so we need each other to like lift each

1106
00:53:53,960 --> 00:53:56,600
Speaker 1: other up and remind each other what we're capable of

1107
00:53:56,600 --> 00:53:58,799
Speaker 1: and what our value is. Sometimes we don't see it

1108
00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:02,120
Speaker 1: for ourselves. So if we have of amazing friends that

1109
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:04,319
Speaker 1: can see that in us and point that out, it

1110
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:06,959
Speaker 1: makes such a big difference. Yeah. And I also feel

1111
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:09,360
Speaker 1: like what you said about speaking each other's names and

1112
00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:14,439
Speaker 1: rooms full of people even, like think about how how

1113
00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:16,400
Speaker 1: good it feels when someone says like, oh, yeah, so

1114
00:54:16,520 --> 00:54:18,200
Speaker 1: and so told me about you, or so and so

1115
00:54:18,320 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 1: told me. Even that isn't a direct compliment, but it is.

1116
00:54:23,280 --> 00:54:26,239
Speaker 1: It's an indirect compliment because there they know that you're

1117
00:54:26,360 --> 00:54:29,480
Speaker 1: speaking and like speaking opportunity into their life, which I

1118
00:54:29,480 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 1: think is a really cool thing. Sometimes not hearing it

1119
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:35,879
Speaker 1: directly from the person is a cool feeling because you're like, wow,

1120
00:54:35,920 --> 00:54:39,279
Speaker 1: they're talking, They're talking about me to other people. Yeah,

1121
00:54:39,719 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 1: I love that. Um. Can you tell everyone where they

1122
00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 1: can get your book? Yeah, so we should all be millionaires.

1123
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Speaker 1: Is available at Target, Airport Bookstores, Amazon, all the places.

1124
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Speaker 1: Check out independent bookstores too. Um and I also if

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Speaker 1: you go to Hello seven dot com slash book, you

1126
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Speaker 1: can check out like different resources that we have related

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Speaker 1: to the book available on our site. Amazing And then

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Speaker 1: where else where? Can they follow you on Instagram, Twitter

1129
00:55:07,120 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: or whatever you wherever you are social? Yeah, I tend

1130
00:55:10,760 --> 00:55:14,239
Speaker 1: to hang out on Instagram. It's Rah Rogers e s

1131
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Speaker 1: Q Rogers with a d um and if you want

1132
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Speaker 1: to check out my Shenanigans on my horse ranch, it's

1133
00:55:20,000 --> 00:55:23,480
Speaker 1: at the Rogers Ranch. Well is that an open ranch?

1134
00:55:23,600 --> 00:55:28,560
Speaker 1: Can you visit? Do you have? Like? Yeah, we hope

1135
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 1: to have visitors soon. We have horses and my kids

1136
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:35,120
Speaker 1: are taking riding lessons and we're hoping to have like

1137
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:37,400
Speaker 1: events and be able to host retreats and things in

1138
00:55:37,400 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 1: the future. Um, but we're still kind of getting ready.

1139
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:42,080
Speaker 1: We just bought it last year in the middle of

1140
00:55:42,120 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 1: a pandemic, as you do. Is just ranch, Yeah, just

1141
00:55:46,040 --> 00:55:50,960
Speaker 1: a casual, little ranch purchase of two New Yorkers. My

1142
00:55:51,040 --> 00:55:52,960
Speaker 1: husband's from Brooklyn, I'm from Queens. We don't know what

1143
00:55:53,040 --> 00:55:59,760
Speaker 1: we're doing, but we are good. Thank you for taking

1144
00:55:59,760 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: your and chat with us, and everyone go get your

1145
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Speaker 1: copy of We should all be Millionaires so we can

1146
00:56:06,600 --> 00:56:10,920
Speaker 1: all be millionaires, right exactly. Thank you so much for

1147
00:56:10,960 --> 00:56:16,799
Speaker 1: having me. Bye bye, I'm gonna be a millionaire. Yes,

1148
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:20,279
Speaker 1: we are going to be millionaires. Yeah, and d M

1149
00:56:20,360 --> 00:56:25,399
Speaker 1: and let me know when it happens. We should get

1150
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 1: drinks when you're out here and then we can really

1151
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 1: discuss our plan. Yes, I'll DM, y'all, I'll let you

1152
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 1: if you're free, let me know perfect. By bye. Back

1153
00:56:50,200 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 1: with another powerful woman, we have Lindsay Boyd here. She

1154
00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:56,520
Speaker 1: is the co founder of The Laundress, which is a

1155
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Speaker 1: premium collection of eco conscious laundry and home cleaning product.

1156
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:03,520
Speaker 1: Thank you for coming on, Lindsay. Thank you guys, thank

1157
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:06,560
Speaker 1: you for having me. Okay, I wanted to start out

1158
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 1: with what does like for people? What does eco conscious

1159
00:57:11,200 --> 00:57:13,279
Speaker 1: laundry and at home clean? What does that actually mean?

1160
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 1: Does it mean clean products or what is it like

1161
00:57:15,719 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 1: for what am I trying to say, like clean for

1162
00:57:18,920 --> 00:57:23,560
Speaker 1: the environment? You're on the right track, Yeah, it's it's

1163
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:28,479
Speaker 1: um Well. The product collection came about sixteen years ago,

1164
00:57:28,760 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 1: and this was before people really cared about what they

1165
00:57:32,800 --> 00:57:36,360
Speaker 1: were doing their laundry with, right, So the collection was

1166
00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 1: designed specifically to remove dry cleaning from your life. So

1167
00:57:40,720 --> 00:57:43,919
Speaker 1: not having those harsh chemicals, the things that are bad

1168
00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:46,919
Speaker 1: for the environment, you know, ultimately bad for your skin

1169
00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:50,840
Speaker 1: and really really harmful for your clothing, So all about

1170
00:57:51,200 --> 00:57:54,800
Speaker 1: the laundre just started to be to be all about

1171
00:57:55,200 --> 00:57:57,520
Speaker 1: preserving the things that you care about, you know, keeping

1172
00:57:57,560 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 1: things in your life longer, not having to throw away

1173
00:58:00,680 --> 00:58:04,680
Speaker 1: the pit stained T shirt, you know, especially when we're

1174
00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:06,880
Speaker 1: spending more money on these shirts and and more money

1175
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:09,520
Speaker 1: on our denim and the everyday clothing that you have

1176
00:58:09,600 --> 00:58:12,640
Speaker 1: to watch even that you don't even dry. Clean UM

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00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:15,560
Speaker 1: so clean. It's kind of like you know, you said

1178
00:58:15,560 --> 00:58:17,600
Speaker 1: clean because a lot of people are for clean beauty,

1179
00:58:17,640 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 1: but you know we're clean clean in the house where

1180
00:58:21,400 --> 00:58:26,480
Speaker 1: or in the house cleaning world. So all plant based UM,

1181
00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 1: highly concentrated so you don't need a lot of water,

1182
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:33,480
Speaker 1: and you can also use it for hand washing or

1183
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:38,000
Speaker 1: for the machine. And it's super versatile, so all machine types,

1184
00:58:38,400 --> 00:58:42,040
Speaker 1: so all loads UM and all water types so like

1185
00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:48,440
Speaker 1: cold water, UM, warm water, hot water, etcetera. And it's

1186
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Speaker 1: more than just about it's it's more than just the

1187
00:58:51,200 --> 00:58:54,080
Speaker 1: product though, it's about the method and really understanding how

1188
00:58:54,120 --> 00:58:57,240
Speaker 1: to properly care for your things. Well, I was just

1189
00:58:57,240 --> 00:58:59,960
Speaker 1: gonna say I so I was. I got the law

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Speaker 1: undress and it's the one for darks, which I've never

1191
00:59:03,360 --> 00:59:07,760
Speaker 1: had a specific detergent that was for darks or like,

1192
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:12,800
Speaker 1: you know, I've like never had that luxury of having that,

1193
00:59:13,400 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 1: and I used it and my clothes smelled so good.

1194
00:59:18,520 --> 00:59:20,640
Speaker 1: I was like, this is the greatest thing ever. And

1195
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Speaker 1: a lot of times when it's a fragrance or like

1196
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Speaker 1: something that smells really good, my skin doesn't react to

1197
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:27,880
Speaker 1: well to it, you know. So it's always kind of

1198
00:59:27,960 --> 00:59:32,360
Speaker 1: like I have to sacrifice the smell of the fragrance

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00:59:32,360 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 1: of laundry detergent to have you know whatever clean clothes

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00:59:36,440 --> 00:59:38,000
Speaker 1: and my skin to be okay. So I was really,

1201
00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 1: you know, I was a little bit nervous because sometimes

1202
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:42,600
Speaker 1: when it smells really good, my skin is like nope,

1203
00:59:42,720 --> 00:59:46,080
Speaker 1: and it didn't do anything. Yeah, And a lot of

1204
00:59:46,080 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 1: the a lot of the products where you have that

1205
00:59:48,280 --> 00:59:53,240
Speaker 1: really heavy fragrance um, typically it's synthetic fragrances. And also

1206
00:59:53,760 --> 00:59:57,880
Speaker 1: it's really comes down to the ingredients like petrochemicals and

1207
00:59:57,880 --> 01:00:01,760
Speaker 1: and those will be skin irritant um. Also, you know,

1208
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Speaker 1: there's allergies to two different fragrances depending on the levels

1209
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Speaker 1: of what they're what's being used. And even with essential oils,

1210
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 1: like it's not just you know, people think, oh, fragrance

1211
01:00:13,200 --> 01:00:15,520
Speaker 1: is bad, but you know, central oils can be very

1212
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:18,440
Speaker 1: volatile and not great for you if you put it

1213
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:20,880
Speaker 1: on your skin. That's why you use coconut oil as

1214
01:00:20,920 --> 01:00:23,120
Speaker 1: a barrier when you're using essential oils. I mean, if

1215
01:00:23,160 --> 01:00:27,080
Speaker 1: you think logically, um that way. So what we do

1216
01:00:27,160 --> 01:00:30,000
Speaker 1: is we have a nice blend of every of fragrance

1217
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Speaker 1: essential oils, a lot no allergy, allergy free fragrances, and

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01:00:34,680 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 1: there's not a lot um, whereas the traditional detergent market

1219
01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:45,600
Speaker 1: has like that heavy, heavy scent that almost doesn't go away,

1220
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Speaker 1: you can never wash it out, which is a designed

1221
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Speaker 1: that you don't but that goes right like it's it's

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01:00:51,360 --> 01:00:53,520
Speaker 1: really really nice because I did a whole I used

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Speaker 1: to use like just I didn't even think about it,

1224
01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 1: like I just buy whatever laundry soap was there forever.

1225
01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:02,680
Speaker 1: And I was struggling chronic chronic U T E S.

1226
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Speaker 1: And the I was asking a lot of our listeners

1227
01:01:05,480 --> 01:01:06,960
Speaker 1: like what do I do, and a lot of people

1228
01:01:07,000 --> 01:01:10,160
Speaker 1: the biggest thing was don't wash your underwear. I mean

1229
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Speaker 1: basically it was don't wash your clothes with these laundry detergents,

1230
01:01:13,520 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 1: but the underwear in particular, because there's so your your

1231
01:01:16,760 --> 01:01:20,280
Speaker 1: vagina is very sensitive to these things irritant. Well, yeah,

1232
01:01:20,480 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 1: your skin gets your skin gets irritated, especially when there's

1233
01:01:25,040 --> 01:01:29,040
Speaker 1: you know, not to get too specific, but they're sweat involved, right.

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Speaker 1: So a lot of people, a lot of dermatologists will say,

1235
01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:35,360
Speaker 1: you can have a reaction like by your braw area

1236
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Speaker 1: or your you know, in a swimsuit. Like that's because

1237
01:01:39,400 --> 01:01:43,240
Speaker 1: your your body chemistry and perspiration are mixing with either

1238
01:01:43,280 --> 01:01:46,200
Speaker 1: what's on your skin you know, from lotions, to also

1239
01:01:46,280 --> 01:01:50,280
Speaker 1: your detergent. So it's really important to be mindful and

1240
01:01:50,400 --> 01:01:52,760
Speaker 1: just just that alone. So there are a lot of

1241
01:01:52,800 --> 01:01:55,640
Speaker 1: things that we wanted to tackle. You know, something that

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01:01:55,680 --> 01:01:58,920
Speaker 1: we that was right for caring for silk, caring for

1243
01:01:58,960 --> 01:02:03,200
Speaker 1: will and cashmere without having to dry clean because um,

1244
01:02:03,360 --> 01:02:05,840
Speaker 1: from our textile background, we knew it was really bad

1245
01:02:05,880 --> 01:02:09,600
Speaker 1: for the fibers. It actually strips the natural oils and

1246
01:02:09,680 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 1: makes our you know, we love Kashmir because of the

1247
01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:14,439
Speaker 1: way it feels. Yeah, and you can tell like once

1248
01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:17,200
Speaker 1: you dry clean, it kind of loses that luster, kind

1249
01:02:17,200 --> 01:02:21,040
Speaker 1: of loses that original reason why we invest in it

1250
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:24,280
Speaker 1: and love the way it feels against our skin. Um.

1251
01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:28,160
Speaker 1: Yet clients that say they they love getting into their

1252
01:02:28,160 --> 01:02:31,640
Speaker 1: sheets at night because it smells so fresh and clean.

1253
01:02:31,760 --> 01:02:36,400
Speaker 1: It's like it's it's a like a comfort thing almost,

1254
01:02:36,520 --> 01:02:39,000
Speaker 1: you know, to have to have to use a really

1255
01:02:39,120 --> 01:02:43,320
Speaker 1: nice detergent. Yeah, it really, it is a luxury. So

1256
01:02:43,360 --> 01:02:47,120
Speaker 1: how do people get their hands on it? Okay? So

1257
01:02:47,280 --> 01:02:50,600
Speaker 1: we well at the laundry dot Com are actually running

1258
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Speaker 1: a promotion now for my birthday, and my birthday is

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Speaker 1: coming up. I'm Leo fiercely a Leo. My birthday July. Um,

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Speaker 1: so we're running a promotion now of percent off on

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Speaker 1: our site, which I would definitely take advantage of, um

1262
01:03:08,360 --> 01:03:10,640
Speaker 1: because you want to load up on everything. But the

1263
01:03:11,080 --> 01:03:14,160
Speaker 1: so seven to three, just to kind of nod to

1264
01:03:14,200 --> 01:03:17,120
Speaker 1: my birthday, last year, I launched a scent um It's

1265
01:03:17,240 --> 01:03:21,360
Speaker 1: really really beautiful. It's it's rose and geranium and jasmine

1266
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Speaker 1: and it's finished off with like nice wood woody amber

1267
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Speaker 1: notes as well. Um. So we have that in our detergent,

1268
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Speaker 1: our fabric conditioner, and our candle that just came out.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, So definitely the laundry dot Com is is

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Speaker 1: the best place for you to be looking for for

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Speaker 1: experience their noticeably amazing results for yourself. Yeah, thank you

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Speaker 1: for coming on and kind of talking us, because I

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01:04:01,640 --> 01:04:03,800
Speaker 1: think that's a topic. A lot of people don't realize

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Speaker 1: the importance of what laundry detergent you're using for your

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Speaker 1: your products, your skin. I mean, I think a lot

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Speaker 1: of people smell something that smells good and use it

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Speaker 1: without even realizing what they're exposing themselves too. So I did. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's like it's life changing because it makes the chore

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Speaker 1: of laundry a lot better. You know, it's not even

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Speaker 1: a chore. You actually enjoy it. It's easy. They're all

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Speaker 1: really easy to use. So well, yeah, thank you for

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Speaker 1: coming on, and I hope you have a very happy birthday. Birthday.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Thank you ladies. All right, violency, thank you,

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Speaker 1: by thank you. Well, the Laundress is celebrating Lindsay's birthday,

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Speaker 1: laundress dot com and use code scrubbing off. Now, some

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Speaker 1: exclusions may apply. All right, So now we're gonna get

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Speaker 1: to Mark's fifty life lessons from fifty years of life.

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01:05:18,680 --> 01:05:22,640
Speaker 1: I don't think he did fifty life lessons. I don't

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01:05:22,440 --> 01:05:24,280
Speaker 1: don't really do any life lessons. But I thought what

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Speaker 1: we need because you love quotes so much, I thought

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01:05:27,120 --> 01:05:30,040
Speaker 1: i'd give you like my favorite quotes of my fifty years.

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01:05:30,920 --> 01:05:35,120
Speaker 1: That wasn't totally the assignment, I understand, but I'm fifty

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Speaker 1: things like can you imagine how boring that would be?

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Speaker 1: Like all right, number thirty three? Okay, so yeah, Britany

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Speaker 1: as I did thirty four, and I actually did. I

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01:05:44,720 --> 01:05:47,920
Speaker 1: said things that you've taught me. That's what I started like,

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01:05:48,160 --> 01:05:50,080
Speaker 1: And then I got to like fifteen, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm moving on to things I love about you. It's

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Speaker 1: a lot like So I respect your decision, Mark, and

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Speaker 1: I would love to hear the quotes. Antonia loves quotes.

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Speaker 1: I still love quotes. I'm interested to hear what by Yeah,

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Speaker 1: these are the These are a lot of quotes that

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Speaker 1: I use with my daughter's alway number one. No, let's

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Speaker 1: start with number five. I don't know if there are

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Speaker 1: in any particular order. Pick your least favorite and say

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01:06:20,480 --> 01:06:22,480
Speaker 1: that one. For whatever, I'll just give you these. So

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Speaker 1: this one I got. I got a bunch of action

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Speaker 1: on this on social media, people like this when I

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01:06:27,280 --> 01:06:30,240
Speaker 1: said this on the show, and and it's funny if

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01:06:30,240 --> 01:06:33,280
Speaker 1: you google this quote, it is attributed to me. But

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Speaker 1: I didn't make this up. And I don't know where

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01:06:35,160 --> 01:06:37,400
Speaker 1: I got it, but I didn't make it up anyway.

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Speaker 1: Being brave and pretending to be brave are the same thing.

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Speaker 1: So that's something I tell my daughters quite a bit

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Speaker 1: because it can be hard. In fact, the people that

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Speaker 1: are brave firefighters, soldiers, whatnot, are often just pretending just

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Speaker 1: to get through it. Correct. Same thing, Uh, this one.

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Speaker 1: Rick dis used to tell me all the time when

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Speaker 1: I worked with him. You weren't worried so much about

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Speaker 1: what others think of you. If you realize how seldom

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Speaker 1: they do. Love that. Yeah, that's good because they're living

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01:07:07,760 --> 01:07:10,040
Speaker 1: their lives. They're worried about themselves. They're not worried about

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Speaker 1: what you're wearing, what you're doing, what you're saying. They're

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Speaker 1: they got their own stuff going on the best time

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Speaker 1: to plant a tree it's twenty years ago. The second

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Speaker 1: best time is right now. M that one, That one is?

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Speaker 1: That one was great because you wouldn't believe how much

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Speaker 1: that comes up in conversation, because everyone regrets the things

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Speaker 1: they didn't do when they had the chance to do it. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that would have been great if you've done that, But

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Speaker 1: you can't change that, So do it now. That's your

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01:07:40,760 --> 01:07:43,720
Speaker 1: next best option. Yeah, it's all right, it's growing on me.

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Speaker 1: It's going to be number five for me. And I

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Speaker 1: didn't ask you to critique. This is not a Tanya,

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Speaker 1: What do you think about these? Nope, none of this

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01:07:52,400 --> 01:07:54,919
Speaker 1: was that. It was this is whatever I mean, Thank

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Speaker 1: you very much. Um, I like this one. This one's

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Speaker 1: too toobody Eastern out here today because this is a

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01:08:00,960 --> 01:08:03,720
Speaker 1: good one for him. Why else are we here if

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Speaker 1: not to live with unreasonable passion for things. Well, that's

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Speaker 1: Eastern in a nutshell, But it's me too. I'm not

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01:08:10,480 --> 01:08:12,800
Speaker 1: as open about it as Eastern is, but it's me too.

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Speaker 1: My passion for the Milwaukee Brewers is insane and stupid,

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01:08:16,640 --> 01:08:19,880
Speaker 1: but it's never gonna change. And for Bruce Springsteen and

1352
01:08:19,960 --> 01:08:22,360
Speaker 1: for Saturday Night Live and for the Green Bay Packers,

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Speaker 1: and it's just it is what it is, and I'm

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Speaker 1: sorry it can be annoying for those around me and

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Speaker 1: the people I live with, but that's what it is.

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01:08:29,280 --> 01:08:31,920
Speaker 1: My birthday gifts last week, every damn one of them

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Speaker 1: at a Brewer's logo on it, and I couldn't have

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Speaker 1: been happier. That's all I want, that's all I need.

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Speaker 1: I'm a simple man. Passions are important and necessary. Agree. Um,

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Speaker 1: when it's all finished, you will discover it was never random.

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Speaker 1: M I love that one. It's a weird one for me,

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Speaker 1: but I like it. And uh, and this one I've

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Speaker 1: used a lot with my kids. Everything will be okay

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Speaker 1: in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end.

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Speaker 1: That's very good because I think a lot of people,

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01:09:06,720 --> 01:09:11,240
Speaker 1: you know, panic of like with anxiety of what's going

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01:09:11,320 --> 01:09:16,680
Speaker 1: to happen, and sometimes bad things happen, but it's not

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Speaker 1: the end of the road. He has like storms, storms,

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01:09:18,880 --> 01:09:21,799
Speaker 1: and they don't last forever. That's a storm and eventually

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01:09:21,800 --> 01:09:24,320
Speaker 1: storm ends. Yes, you're going to get to a place

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Speaker 1: when it's going to be open, and it may not

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01:09:26,280 --> 01:09:28,200
Speaker 1: seem like that's ever going to happen, but you will.

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01:09:28,360 --> 01:09:30,760
Speaker 1: I have a lot of these. Um. I always tell

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Speaker 1: my kids, um uh, why why do you want to

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01:09:35,400 --> 01:09:37,639
Speaker 1: blend in? You know, because their teenage well once about

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01:09:37,680 --> 01:09:39,280
Speaker 1: to be a teenager, when is a teenager, and they

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01:09:39,280 --> 01:09:40,800
Speaker 1: want to look like everybody else. Look, why do you

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01:09:40,800 --> 01:09:42,719
Speaker 1: want to blend in? You were born to stand out.

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Speaker 1: I tell my kids that all the time. And I

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Speaker 1: can't remember. It wasn't the last thing you said, but

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01:09:47,200 --> 01:09:50,240
Speaker 1: the one before it about your passions. Um. Somebody once

1382
01:09:50,280 --> 01:09:52,680
Speaker 1: told me. They said, like, your passions aren't random. There

1383
01:09:52,720 --> 01:09:55,800
Speaker 1: you're calling. Yes, I love that one, need too because

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01:09:55,800 --> 01:10:00,160
Speaker 1: it's so true. It's so true, and I definitely had

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01:10:00,200 --> 01:10:03,960
Speaker 1: that passion for radio growing up. Yeah, So I will

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Speaker 1: leave you with those. Those are all really, really great.

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01:10:07,240 --> 01:10:11,519
Speaker 1: I love not disappointed about any of them. Thank you

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01:10:11,760 --> 01:10:14,639
Speaker 1: that I asked. Thank you you didn't ask, but just

1389
01:10:14,720 --> 01:10:17,920
Speaker 1: because Tanya was critiquing, I was just letting you know

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01:10:18,080 --> 01:10:19,840
Speaker 1: that they were all really great. The tree one I

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01:10:19,880 --> 01:10:23,240
Speaker 1: needed explaining and I got the explanation, and I'm going

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01:10:23,280 --> 01:10:26,280
Speaker 1: to plant something today. Actually, never too late, that's the

1393
01:10:26,320 --> 01:10:28,720
Speaker 1: message of that one. It's never too late. It's not

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01:10:29,439 --> 01:10:31,439
Speaker 1: we learned today. It's not too late for you to

1395
01:10:31,479 --> 01:10:34,880
Speaker 1: become a millionaire. So it's not like the best time

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01:10:34,920 --> 01:10:37,920
Speaker 1: for you start investing was twenty years ago. We didn't

1397
01:10:37,920 --> 01:10:39,920
Speaker 1: do that, So the second best time is right now.

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01:10:39,960 --> 01:10:42,960
Speaker 1: It all ties in. The best time for me to

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01:10:42,960 --> 01:10:46,439
Speaker 1: start investing was in hand sanitizer and toilet paper of

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Speaker 1: two thousand and nineteen. It's true, and I missed it

1401
01:10:51,120 --> 01:10:55,200
Speaker 1: me too, So now I'm looking for the next big thing,

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01:10:56,000 --> 01:11:02,559
Speaker 1: which is not sure. We'll keep you posting, okay, perfect, Um, well, folks,

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Speaker 1: that's all for today. That's all, folks. That's all folks.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for tuning in. We're actually doing a special bonus

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Speaker 1: episode tomorrow. Correct, so I, oh my god, that means

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Speaker 1: you're coming over. That's right, I'll be here. It's exciting.

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01:11:22,280 --> 01:11:27,720
Speaker 1: We're excited. She has to come back to you. I

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Speaker 1: just realized that. Um. I love you all. Have a

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Speaker 1: great week now. We'll talk to you tomorrow. We'll talk

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Speaker 1: to you tomorrow, and uh yeah, thanks for listening as always,

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Speaker 1: love you. Bye.