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Speaker 1: Hi am Kate Hudson, and my name is Oliver Hudson.

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Speaker 2: We wanted to do something that highlighted our.

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Speaker 1: Relationship and what it's like to be siblings. We are

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Speaker 1: sibling val No, no, sibling, you don't do that with

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Speaker 1: your mouth.

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Speaker 3: Revelry.

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Speaker 2: That's good.

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Speaker 4: It's the best of sibling revelry.

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Speaker 1: We have Anthony Anderson here, who's been a friend of

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Speaker 1: mine for a long long time.

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Speaker 5: Yes, to see if he feels that he is powerful powerful?

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Speaker 1: Hey, you know what, I always have to watch my back.

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Speaker 6: Okay, okay, I have a quick question, Kate, where the

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Speaker 6: hell are you? Because album looks like he's in his cloppet.

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Speaker 6: I mean I can see his dirty draw.

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Speaker 4: Kate's like an English countryside.

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Speaker 6: He's in a dark English manner.

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Speaker 4: She's actually a universal city at the Harry Potter Exhibit. Im,

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Speaker 4: I'm in my son's room, man like.

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Speaker 1: I don't have my own space in this house, so

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Speaker 1: I just have to find any place that I can

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Speaker 1: settle down in.

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Speaker 2: What was your first like job job?

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Speaker 6: Oh, my first job job, My first job job that

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Speaker 6: I got.

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Speaker 7: I thought as a as as an entertainerous art.

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Speaker 6: I was Captain Craving's I was at Howard University and

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Speaker 6: this gourmet dessert delivery company needed a mascot, so they

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Speaker 6: they came to Howard. I don't know how I ended

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Speaker 6: up at Howard and they wanted an actor, and so

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Speaker 6: they came into the School of Fine Arts and they

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Speaker 6: said what they were doing.

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Speaker 7: So I met with these guys.

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Speaker 6: And I got the gig and I shot this little

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Speaker 6: UH commercial for them UH in d c this little

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Speaker 6: regional thing for them, and they loved it so much

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Speaker 6: that they made me the mascot. But my job was

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Speaker 6: actually this was this was this was Uber East before

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Speaker 6: there was Uber East.

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Speaker 7: I used to do.

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Speaker 6: I had to deliver the the dessert to UH to

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Speaker 7: I was like, yo, man, I'm not acting. I was like, yo,

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Speaker 7: I'm a.

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Speaker 6: I'm I'm but it was it was my first because

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Speaker 6: I was in full costume. I was Captain Cravings, my

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Speaker 6: name Cravings. I had on a black pair of dance tights.

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Speaker 7: I had on some Chuck tailors with UH. Fortunately there

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Speaker 7: are no pictures to Cooper.

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, where can we find these again?

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Speaker 6: I had some bedazzled Chuck tailors. I had on a

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Speaker 6: white Cravings catering sweatshirt. I had on a pink cake.

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Speaker 6: I had on uh some silver, a silver.

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Speaker 7: Long Ranger mask rhymestone and got to match.

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Speaker 6: And on the back of the cake it said Captain

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Speaker 6: Cravings and it said if you ever need to be saved,

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Speaker 7: And I had to fucking that was my first acting.

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Speaker 8: Now did you have to show up delivering things in

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Speaker 8: the outfit?

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Speaker 7: That was the only way. I couldn't deliver the things.

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Speaker 4: You must have gotten so laid and.

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Speaker 6: I said, ever, I said, if anybody ever orders this

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Speaker 6: from Howard University, it will never be delivered by me.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's a good that's a good person.

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Speaker 8: That was.

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Speaker 7: That was my first action gig. Now my first professional gig.

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Speaker 2: Like what you got your sad card?

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Speaker 9: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: On my resume was.

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Speaker 6: I want to It was a Roger Foreman film called

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Speaker 6: Alien Avengers. Uh and I was in it with George

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Speaker 6: wyn And I'll never forget this. At the end of

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Speaker 6: the day, I went to say goodbye to George and

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Speaker 7: We had these double bangers.

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Speaker 6: He was sitting on the step of the double banger

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Speaker 6: with an ice chest full of beer and I was like,

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Speaker 2: Real, it's real.

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Speaker 6: It really isn't the type of tears. I had a beer,

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Speaker 6: but George went at the end of the day, Wow,

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Speaker 6: Alien Avengers Roger Corman film was.

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Speaker 4: Uh and were you were you hyped? Was this just huge?

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Speaker 10: Oh?

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Speaker 7: It was huge for me?

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Speaker 9: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what I mean, yeah it was.

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Speaker 7: It was huge for me. It was it was one

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you know, uh, maybe two scenes uh in something

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Speaker 7: But it was fun and I got to work with

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Speaker 7: some great people. And I get to say that was

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Speaker 7: my play of the same. That was how I got

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Speaker 7: my SAG card.

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Speaker 1: Hugh Jackman, Well, Hugh, I want to hold on. I

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Speaker 1: want to start this whole thing off by saying that.

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Speaker 1: Before you came on, I asked Kate a very poignant question,

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Speaker 1: because I know that you guys get a thousand of

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Speaker 1: the same questions every single day when you're doing these

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Speaker 1: press junkets, right, But I asked, Kate, what does Hugh

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Speaker 1: Jackman smell like? Because she's with you all the time,

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Speaker 1: through the sweaty moments, through the tender moments, and you know,

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Speaker 1: she gave a very nice answer. So why don't you

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Speaker 1: why don't you tell me?

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Speaker 8: And then I thought, well, this is a really fun

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Speaker 8: thing to do with any co star. I feel like you,

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Speaker 8: I said, like grass, like freshly cut grass.

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Speaker 11: Wow, you like that?

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Speaker 12: First of all, I love that smell. I told you,

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Speaker 12: men like grass.

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Speaker 4: That's how I smell. That is not me.

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Speaker 10: I mean in the past maybe, I'm sure there's been

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Speaker 8: But even in those moments, you're always kind of there's

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Speaker 8: like a freshness. Yeah, you're And then we went into

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Speaker 8: other Coast stars and then even the guys, even the

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Speaker 4: Well, the ike the ike parent holds smell was spot on.

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Speaker 4: She said, like it's a Michelin star brisket.

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Speaker 2: Caramelized.

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Speaker 12: That's very edible like that.

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Speaker 4: Australia is where you made you know hey in the beginning,

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Speaker 4: correct and as an actor. And then did you then

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Speaker 4: graduate to sort of the States or were you were you?

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Speaker 4: Were you a known entity in Australia before anyone knew you?

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Speaker 10: And I sort of came out from drama school and

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Speaker 12: I wasn't Nicole Kidman or Russell Crow, but.

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Speaker 3: I was there.

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Speaker 12: And then I went to England to do Oklahoma.

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Speaker 10: And that was a big hit over there, and I

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Speaker 12: It was like I was here and then.

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Speaker 4: Massive, Oh shit. So it was literally Oklahoma to x Men.

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Speaker 12: Right. I auditioned with a perm in my hair. I

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Speaker 10: I remember the Carfe agent going, I don't think the

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Speaker 10: baseball CAP's a great idea, and I took it off.

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Speaker 12: She was, I think it's a good idea.

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Speaker 4: Well do you remember your audition for X Men?

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Speaker 3: I mean totally you do.

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Speaker 4: Did you bring the voice already? Is that your interpretation?

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Speaker 10: I think I can't remember that, but I remember. Here's

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Speaker 10: was a long show. We came down a five. I

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Speaker 10: I ran into town and I'm waiting to do this audition,

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Speaker 10: and I remember just going.

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Speaker 12: They knew I had a show, and I was like,

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Speaker 10: And finally I did the dick thing i'd sort of

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Speaker 10: someone left. I knocked on the door. I said, guys,

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Speaker 10: I said, that's cool. I've got a show to do,

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Speaker 12: But I was pire.

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Speaker 10: I was pissed and didn't give a shit, and in

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Speaker 10: whatever nerves I had about doing it, I was just

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Speaker 10: didn't give a ship. Yeah we done, We're fucking done.

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Speaker 3: Let's go.

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Speaker 12: And I walked out the door and they were like,

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Speaker 12: my next audition, I was like, what would you like?

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Speaker 11: Oh well, I'll never get in that one again.

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Speaker 13: Oliver hugs, and I'm actually live with an incredible guest,

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Speaker 13: Mel Robbins and my mother. I'm speaking quietly now. I've

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Speaker 13: read her book Let Them Theory, and it's incredible. But

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Speaker 13: which is I will work my way in right now.

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Speaker 13: I'm just commentating on their conversation. These two beautiful blondes

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Speaker 11: But you know what you have done, which is so

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Speaker 11: interesting And I've got so many We've got so many questions.

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Speaker 11: But you're also looking at human behavior. You're also looking

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Speaker 11: at where we can go to actually heal. How are

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Speaker 11: you know, the five second rule or whatever, which was

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Speaker 11: thinking of all kinds of reasons why not to do something? Yes,

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Speaker 2: My childhood was fine.

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Speaker 14: It was in my forties when things got horrible.

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Speaker 3: Were you drinking?

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Speaker 2: Oh hell yes, oh you were, absolutely.

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Speaker 3: And that was there was a numbing effect that was

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Speaker 14: To know how bad things got. This is how you

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Speaker 14: know you're failing at parenting. When the kids go to bed,

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Speaker 14: you start drinking. Manhattan's like four or five of them.

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Speaker 14: And then the next thing you remember is when you

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Speaker 14: you up. That's how you know you're failing yet this

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Speaker 14: parenting th Yeah, and so that was happening. Yeah, And

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Speaker 14: what you know, and this is the thing that I

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Speaker 14: talk about a lot because I experienced it, is you

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Speaker 14: can know what to do, but how do you make

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Speaker 14: yourself do it? And that's the fifty million dollars.

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Speaker 4: That's it, right there.

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Speaker 14: That's right there. I knew I needed a job. I

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Speaker 14: and you, of course know this, is that there is

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Speaker 4: It is part of a natural evolution.

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Speaker 9: You know? Well, so this is interesting even for me

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Speaker 8: Also, I wonder how it like leads there's all this,

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Speaker 15: Another book? You know what?

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Speaker 15: What moved you to do it? And what do you want?

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Speaker 9: It's really about how to create that intense excitement and

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Speaker 9: I've done all the books giving you all the tips, tools,

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Speaker 9: So it's not just locate located in your genitals, but

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Speaker 9: They're looking for intense excitement, They're looking for that feeling.

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Speaker 9: So that's what I'm teaching you to do in sex magic,

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Speaker 9: and it uses all those ancient techniques. It's basically making

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Speaker 2: They knew how to get down.

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Speaker 4: Hello, hey, quiet, I'm trying to do an intro. I

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Speaker 3: I'm trying to do an intro.

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Speaker 7: Okay, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: That's what I was going to say before anyone spoke,

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Speaker 8: Kate.

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Speaker 1: Here's what I was going to say. Kate couldn't be

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Speaker 1: but we have another incredible human being here who happened

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Speaker 7: She's also my mother.

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Speaker 4: In this scenario, you weren't here yet, right, Remember.

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Speaker 11: That when did you ever take your script? Is what

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Speaker 11: I want to know.

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Speaker 4: Never I speak to ideas and then the ideas are

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Speaker 16: You're feeling the revelry. I'm feeling it.

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Speaker 1: Feel But you know, look, we've grown up with the

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Speaker 1: Then of course myself and my sister are as well.

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Speaker 1: I've consulted oracles of you know, should I do this

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Speaker 1: You know, Mom's like, okay, hold on speed do speed Dove,

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Speaker 1: speed speed Doc.

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Speaker 3: So I wanted to bring mommy into I know.

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Speaker 4: I'm yeah, this is up John for a long long time.

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Speaker 11: I mean really really happy it meets you, John, I'm

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Speaker 11: excited and all the amazing work that you have done

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Speaker 11: over these years and literally you know, we're brought in

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Speaker 11: with a gift and how you've used it as extraordinary.

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Speaker 11: So you've helped a lot of people. And I know

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Speaker 11: that when you were born and you were a little boy,

453
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Speaker 11: and you were having all of these visions and things.

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Speaker 11: I mean looking at it as a kind of a

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Speaker 11: game for you, you know a little. Did you know

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Speaker 11: at that time the impression that you're going to have

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Speaker 11: on so many people. So anyway, it's a pleasure.

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Speaker 16: Well, thank you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's start there. Where did you grow up?

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Speaker 16: I grew up on Long Island, small town called Glen Cove.

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Speaker 16: My dad Irish American New York City police officer, career

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Speaker 16: military guy, wow. Mom very Italian, one of eleven. My

463
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Speaker 16: grandmother was very into this subject matter, so therefore her

464
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Speaker 16: children were open to the subject matter. My dad was not,

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Speaker 16: So there was a polar opposite of belief. And my

466
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Speaker 16: dad's rule was make sure my son is never around

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Speaker 16: any of that BS, and my mom made sure that

468
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Speaker 16: I was kept away from it. They wound up divorcing.

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Speaker 16: We moved into my grandmother's house, which I always jokingly

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Speaker 16: referred to as the paranormal hub of activity. But I

471
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Speaker 16: had adopted my dad's philosophy that this wasn't real, So

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Speaker 16: I used to make fun of all the people that

473
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Speaker 16: came to my grandmother's house to do readings, until I

474
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Speaker 16: met one woman who read for me, and she was

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Speaker 16: the woman who put me on my path. And I

476
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Speaker 16: was fifteen, and she told me that I would change

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Speaker 16: the way millions of people looked at her subject matter.

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Speaker 16: And I want to emphasize again, I was fifteen, and

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Speaker 16: she sounded like she was batgit crazy, and I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 16: this woman is delusional. But everything she told me happened.

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Speaker 16: And she told me things that this is no way possible.

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Speaker 16: She could have like I would have had to tell

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Speaker 16: her these things, and then she would have had to

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Speaker 16: know the people that I was connected to. And then

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Speaker 16: she gave me scenarios and outcomes that were not logical,

486
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Speaker 16: and then they happened. And that got my attention. And

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Speaker 16: I say very openly that I didn't go, oh my god,

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Speaker 16: she told me that I was psychic, I'm gonna go

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Speaker 16: do readings. I actually felt violated. I felt like this

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Speaker 16: woman walked around my life. I didn't like it, and

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Speaker 16: I wanted to know, well, if people can do this,

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Speaker 16: like if this, like if was real, how do I

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Speaker 16: stop how do I stop other people from like doing

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Speaker 16: like what if people can just like do that? And

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Speaker 16: that sent me to the public library, where I read

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Speaker 16: every book in nineteen eighty five that was on the

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Speaker 16: shelf at that time was under the occult section, and

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Speaker 16: at that moment I was like, well, this is not psychic,

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Speaker 16: this is common sense. Like we all have these moments

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Speaker 16: of like seeing.

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Speaker 3: Your dead grandfather.

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Speaker 16: And I would ask people like at school, haven't you

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Speaker 16: ever seen a dead grandfather? And the responses were normally no,

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Speaker 16: like you've never ever just hypothetically got a glimpse of

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Speaker 16: somebody in your family that was dead and they were like,

506
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Speaker 16: can't say that I had. So I kind of realized that, Okay,

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Speaker 16: so maybe some of my earlier experiences had to be reframed.

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Speaker 16: And that became a journey of like analyzing what I experienced,

509
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Speaker 16: what I see here and feel how do I perceive things?

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Speaker 16: And then I just dove headfirst and within a year

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Speaker 16: I was doing reading at sixteen.

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Speaker 11: Yeah, what happens when you're seeing things and you don't

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Speaker 11: know why and it feels so real and then you

514
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Speaker 11: wake up the next morning and you feel like you've

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Speaker 11: been blessed. What is that?

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Speaker 3: That's a visit. That's a visit.

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Speaker 2: It's a visit.

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Speaker 3: That's a visit.

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Speaker 16: That's a difference. There's a difference between a visit and

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Speaker 16: a dream. Dreams fade and dreams of this like amalgamation

521
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Speaker 16: of what like kind of comes together in our unconscious

522
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Speaker 16: mind with like life and fears and thoughts, and but

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Speaker 16: a visit is where they're coming through directly to you

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Speaker 16: and they're going to let you know that it's them,

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Speaker 16: and it's usually positive and very vivid. They sometimes look

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Speaker 16: vibrant or young, and there could be little nuggets of

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Speaker 16: information about your future to validate that it was really them.

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Speaker 16: But when you wake up, you won't forget it. You

529
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Speaker 16: could have had it fifty years ago exactly, remember it

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Speaker 16: like it was five minutes ago, because it was an encounter.

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Speaker 16: It was a real meeting.

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Speaker 11: My other bigger question is that I'm filled with so

533
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Speaker 11: much love when I'm talking to someone on the other

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Speaker 11: side from a facilitator like that. What are they feeling?

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Speaker 11: Do they have emotions? Where are these entities? What do

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Speaker 11: they feel like? Because when Daddy says to me, you know,

537
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Speaker 11: make sure you you know, put away the butter. You

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Speaker 11: know that was something you always told me. No one

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Speaker 11: knows that. But what did Daddy feel?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 11: When my mom came to me and said things to

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Speaker 11: me about the laughs we had and sofas in the car.

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Speaker 11: My point is, I would like to know that they're

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Speaker 11: in some form that is real. So when you're doing

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Speaker 11: this and you see the people, you hear them, they're

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Speaker 11: speaking to you, you're sharing. What do you think they're feeling?

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess the idea is consciousness. What is consciousness?

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Speaker 1: When we die?

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Speaker 3: Does our consciousness die?

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Speaker 16: So I think that they're more real than we are.

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Speaker 16: I think the vibration and the frequency that they operate

552
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Speaker 16: on is a more real dimension of the essence of

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Speaker 16: who we truly are, and that here in the physical form,

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Speaker 16: we're lowering our vibration and we're now playing a role. Right,

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Speaker 16: You guys are amazing actors, and you've been in so

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Speaker 16: many different things, but at the core, you're you. But

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00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 16: you played roles. You're not the roles you played. However,

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Speaker 16: each role you played contributes to who you are and

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Speaker 16: your body of work. So if our soul is the actor,

560
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Speaker 16: and the lifetimes that we've been in are the roles,

561
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Speaker 16: we're an amalgamation of all of that, and then that

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Speaker 16: tapestry we've all been a part of. You have been

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Speaker 16: probably in multiple lives and multiple incarnations and now this

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Speaker 16: just reinforces what your relationship dynamic is, and that's love, right.

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Speaker 16: The pure essence of who they feel like is coming

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Speaker 16: from a place of love, and that's what they want

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Speaker 16: to convey. So I always want people to know that

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Speaker 16: they're okay, we're not They're they're doing all right, and

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Speaker 16: they're they're still with us. And when they come through,

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Speaker 16: they're gonna come through with like regular, everyday, trivial, mundane things,

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Speaker 16: things that are not groundbreaking or earth shattering, but stuff

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Speaker 16: to say, hey, I know that you did that, and

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Speaker 16: by the way, I was with you when you did

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Speaker 16: that exactly.

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Speaker 11: I mean, I don't want to go into stuff in

576
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Speaker 11: my life, but truly it's what it is. But I

577
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Speaker 11: wanted to say and have thank you so much for

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Speaker 11: being here, I miss you so much, and so forth.

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Speaker 11: But these are very human sort of longings and emotion.

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Speaker 16: They don't have that. Now, that's a reason.

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Speaker 4: That's what I want to get at.

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Speaker 16: That is really important. Many people will say, well do

583
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Speaker 16: they miss me? And I have to be honest to

584
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Speaker 16: be like, not really, and they go, what do you

585
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Speaker 16: mean they don't miss me? And I'm like, well, they

586
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Speaker 16: still have us, we miss what we don't have physically,

587
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Speaker 16: but there's still participants in our lives, so they don't

588
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Speaker 16: miss it because they're with us. They're still connected. And

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Speaker 16: I always want people to include them, like people include

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Speaker 16: them in the negative times, but they don't always include

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Speaker 16: them in the positive times. So I'm like, always be

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Speaker 16: fifty percent of the equation when it's a you know,

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Speaker 16: a boring day. It's like on my Instagram feed one day,

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Speaker 16: I was like, you know what, there's nothing going on

595
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Speaker 16: in my mom's past, Like there's no birthdays, there's no adversaries.

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Speaker 16: I posted a photo of her and me when I

597
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Speaker 16: was a little boy, and I just put it up

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Speaker 16: as a as a post just to honor my mom.

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Speaker 16: And I thought about it after the fact and I

600
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Speaker 16: was like, you know, she's probably like in the other side, going, look, look, look,

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Speaker 16: my son just posted something on Earthogram.

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Speaker 4: You know, look look, And there's no there's no reason.

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Speaker 16: For me to have done it, but just to include

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Speaker 16: her and honor her in a way that I was

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Speaker 16: feeling

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Speaker 4: A