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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold down, Todd. We got it. That's

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Speaker 1: the brother right there. All right, subject, let's get it started.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I am I am darn near fifty

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Speaker 1: years old, and my wife say, Neil, okay, you're not

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Speaker 1: gonna stop. You're gonna stop doing that with these letters.

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Speaker 1: You are just like the cuss. Okay, just say that people,

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Speaker 1: if they wrote it, it's not you customers what they see.

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Speaker 1: I am darn near fifty years old and my wife.

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Speaker 1: Let me just say this. Were you watching CNN when

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Speaker 1: Donald Trump made the s whole comment about Haiti and

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Speaker 1: Africa after comment taking upon themselves to take an advantage

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Speaker 1: of that situation. They did because it's journalism. Yeah, all right,

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Speaker 1: and start being a professional journalism. I am darn near

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Speaker 1: fifty years old and my wife is forty. We've been

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Speaker 1: all have the details. First of all, I love my wife,

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Speaker 1: but it's in all caps. But all caps. But here

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Speaker 1: is the problem. If I want some cookie, I have

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Speaker 1: to initiate it ninety five percent of the time. Sometimes

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Speaker 1: I don't want to feel like I am forcing her

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Speaker 1: of our lives. I have often gone to bed frustrated

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Speaker 1: with the lack of cookie in our life. I have

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Speaker 1: I think she doesn't feel confident in her bedroom skills,

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Speaker 1: You've talked to her about it. You do at ninety

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Speaker 1: five percent of the time. That five percent of the time,

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Speaker 1: maybe that's all you'll have for now. Maybe she is

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Speaker 1: You never know unless you, guys, do have some honest

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Speaker 1: So you're gonna have to talk to her. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I know you want these changes, um, but you it's

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Speaker 1: your wife. You guys are married. You can talk, you

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Speaker 1: can communicate, you can tell her what you like and

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Speaker 1: what you don't like. Steve, well, well, well, well, well

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Speaker 1: because the naked here we go. Yeah, yeah, the married

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Speaker 1: man's plight. Yeah, let's talk about this for a minute.

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Speaker 1: He fifty, she foughty. Is that what he's saying. That's

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Speaker 1: what it says. He damned near fifty his wife foughty.

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Speaker 1: They've been married ten years. They got two kids, both

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Speaker 1: the details else too, because see, two kids under five,

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you exist, but I ain't got time to

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Speaker 1: It's them damn kids. Them kids is wearing her hands out.

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Speaker 1: You got two kids under five, Dog, you got to understand.

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Speaker 1: got time for you. I ain't, Steve. I want this

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Speaker 1: How about that part two of your See this man

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Speaker 1: initiated ninety five percent of the time. Now, before I left,

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Speaker 1: two kids under five. It's them, damn kids. Damn kids,

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Speaker 1: it's wearing this woman out. Them kids are something else.

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Speaker 1: mood killers. They block us. Them kids is actually birth control.

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Speaker 1: I would venture to say that that's probably it. Now,

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Speaker 1: man that's initiating it. Usually ain't that right, Sherlett that's right.

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Speaker 1: Won't I want some hot, fiery give it. Tell your

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Speaker 1: It's just like, nah, our house is this damn dog.

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Speaker 1: You guys have a new dog, right, Yeah, we got

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Speaker 1: smoke cigars, Drake Scott, That's what I want to do

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Speaker 1: the doberman. It's scared of his ass. I wish I wouldn't.

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Speaker 1: What I'm not gonna do it be scared in my house? Right,

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Speaker 1: So it's the kids. Dog ain't nothing you can do.

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Speaker 1: get them kids sent away somewhere, Steve, No, I didn't

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