1 00:00:01,800 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: Hey, folks, it is Sunday, August tenth, and Roeboch went 2 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 1: deep into her bag last week to find our copes 3 00:00:09,960 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 1: of the day. Every day she dug one out from 4 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:18,080 Speaker 1: Yoda and a Nobel Peace Prize winner, And with that, 5 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: welcome to this Sunday Inspiration edition of ABY and TJ, 6 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: where we go through give you a little more background 7 00:00:23,640 --> 00:00:26,720 Speaker 1: insights on our quotes of the day that we used 8 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 1: last week in robes. It was impressive last week, and 9 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: that is the truth. You got a Nobel Prize winner 10 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:33,160 Speaker 1: in there and Yoda same week. 11 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:35,600 Speaker 2: I try to mix it up. I try to get 12 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:39,920 Speaker 2: inspiration from all different types of people, dead, alive, make 13 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 2: believe you name it. 14 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:43,760 Speaker 1: Every most people have FI gears. 15 00:00:44,360 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 2: Sure we can learn from, yes, including Yoda himself. But 16 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 2: you know, Yoda's known for his wisdom, yes, and the way. 17 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:55,959 Speaker 1: He puts the wisdom oftentime. He reverses the subjects and 18 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: the verb right eat. I will like that kind of thing. 19 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 2: He talks like that, Yes, but somehow by doing so 20 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:05,040 Speaker 2: it makes it even more dramatic and more memorable. And 21 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 2: so yes, I thought it was great. In fact, the 22 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 2: reason why I picked this Yoda quote to start off 23 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 2: the week on Monday was because it reminded me of you. 24 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:17,759 Speaker 1: Really. Yeah, all right, So to the first quote we go, and. 25 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 2: Here it is, do or do not? There is no 26 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 2: try Yoda. 27 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 1: I love that line. I use a version of this often, 28 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: do I not? Don't don't tell me I asked you 29 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 1: to do something. You tell me you'll give it a shot. 30 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: I'll try, No, don't, don't just do it, but don't 31 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 1: do it. 32 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 2: You say, either do it or don't do it. Don't 33 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:40,479 Speaker 2: tell me you're gonna try. Tell me you're gonna do it, 34 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 2: tell me you're not gonna do it, which is fine. 35 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 1: Don't. I don't give you credit for the attempt. 36 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:44,760 Speaker 2: You do not. 37 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:45,400 Speaker 1: I don't know. 38 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 2: You're very serious about that. You say this to me 39 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 2: at least once a week. So it was very funny. 40 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 2: As I was looking for a quote, I saw this 41 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 2: sage quote by Yoda and thought, wow, TJ is gonna 42 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 2: love this. This will start our Monday off right. And 43 00:01:57,920 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 2: sure enough you got a twinkle in your eye and 44 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 2: a big old while when you saw the quote. 45 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 1: I liked it a lot. I'm trying to think and roll. 46 00:02:03,680 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: I know you're not gonna remember, so I'm not gonna 47 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 1: put you on the spot. But I should know which 48 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:16,079 Speaker 1: Star Wars movie he said this in. It was Empire 49 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: strikes Back. I do believe, because he was trying to 50 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 1: train him Luke, and Luke wasn't buying it, like, hey, 51 00:02:23,280 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: I can't do that, that's too hard, and and he 52 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: asked him to do something. He said, Okay, I'll try. 53 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:33,239 Speaker 1: He said nope, do or do not? There is no try. Yes, 54 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: it was Empire strikes Back. I think I got there right. 55 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:36,919 Speaker 2: Why do you feel so strongly about that? What's wrong 56 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 2: with an attempt? 57 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:44,600 Speaker 1: Because it leaves wiggle room. It leaves wiggle room for this. 58 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:47,640 Speaker 1: I did my best thing, and that is okay. But 59 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: there's some people in just my mindset, I don't know 60 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: where I get it. I am going to go over 61 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: here and I am going to do this thing, or 62 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 1: I'm not going to do this thing. I'm not going 63 00:02:57,320 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: to attempt to do this thing. That could be a chock, 64 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: or it could be a job, it could be a 65 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:10,080 Speaker 1: project at work. No, don't don't try. Don't tell me 66 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: you're gonna go in there and give this an attempt. No, 67 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 1: I'm going in here and I'm gonna get this done 68 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,880 Speaker 1: for you, and that's it. I don't know. It's kind 69 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:19,839 Speaker 1: of sick when I'm saying it out loud. It's kind 70 00:03:19,840 --> 00:03:21,120 Speaker 1: of twisted. But I don't know why. 71 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,079 Speaker 2: It's a lot of pressure. I'll say that sometimes when 72 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 2: you just say you're gonna try, it doesn't mean you're 73 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,320 Speaker 2: not giving your best. It doesn't mean you're not giving 74 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:31,080 Speaker 2: your all. You're just taking some of the pressure off. 75 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: Okay, this is just semantics to you. 76 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 2: It is just semantics to me. 77 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, this is practice, this is actual. This is 78 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 1: just think about anything. Hey, I'm gonna go. We need 79 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 1: limes right now in the house. And if you leave 80 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: the house, say TJ and I say, baby, can you 81 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 1: give me some limes? 82 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 2: I'll try because I can't promise. What if I can't 83 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 2: find the limes? 84 00:03:56,040 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: No, bring me back the limes, or don't. If you 85 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: don't find him at the first store or the second, 86 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: you need to head to the third, the fourth, of 87 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 1: the fifth, because you're going to bring the lines because 88 00:04:07,120 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 1: you're not going to try. You're just gonna do it, 89 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 1: aren't you. Thank you? Yoda? Goodness Ella love them. 90 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 2: You are on fire. Now see that quote? Just fired 91 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 2: you up? 92 00:04:15,320 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 1: I love it. 93 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 2: All right. So the next quote, This is from yes, 94 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 2: a Nobel Peace Prize winner born in eighteen seventy five. 95 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 2: You won't know his name, but I'll give it to 96 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 2: you anyway, Albert Schweitzer. And I've heard versions of this, 97 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,960 Speaker 2: but I loved how he put it. Here is the 98 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 2: quote of the day from Tuesday. Success is not the 99 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:41,920 Speaker 2: key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If 100 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 2: you love what you are doing, you will be successful. Period. 101 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:48,160 Speaker 1: And that one put me in a different mood, back 102 00:04:48,200 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 1: to back days. Yeah, I put poot this one a 103 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: little bit. 104 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:53,080 Speaker 2: I remember, right you did. But see, here's the deal. 105 00:04:53,120 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 2: We all, I think a lot of us define success 106 00:04:56,560 --> 00:05:02,240 Speaker 2: by an accomplishment, an achievement, the money in your bank account. 107 00:05:01,920 --> 00:05:02,400 Speaker 1: The promotion. 108 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:07,479 Speaker 2: Yes, correct, But actual success is being happy, right, I 109 00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 2: mean that is successful. It doesn't matter. All the other 110 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 2: stuff really actually pales in comparison to how you feel. 111 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 2: If you are happy, if you are joyful, that is 112 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:23,360 Speaker 2: success in life. Period. It doesn't matter where you live, 113 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:27,840 Speaker 2: or what clothes you have, or what car you're driving. 114 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:30,440 Speaker 2: That doesn't make you happy, for sure. It doesn't How 115 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 2: many miserable wealthy people have you met? 116 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 1: Nine out of ten of them. 117 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 2: Probably that's actually probably a true state. 118 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: But I don't know. Look, we've people have different issues 119 00:05:41,720 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: here and there. I get where this is coming from. 120 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 1: I am maybe it's because I'm sitting in the sun 121 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: right now and I feel good and got good in it. 122 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 1: Maybe my mindset on this has turned around. But I 123 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 1: am now in one hundred percent agreement with this because 124 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 1: think about what is the thing that drives somebody crazy 125 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: about you? Because you have a nicer car, a nicer house, 126 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:11,359 Speaker 1: because you have nicer clothes, You got better promotion, you 127 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:16,440 Speaker 1: got more money. Yes, people can be jealous, but nothing 128 00:06:16,640 --> 00:06:21,840 Speaker 1: pisses somebody off more to look over and see you happy. Nothing, 129 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: And especially if you're the one with the nicer car 130 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: and now you're supposed to be the one doing better. 131 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,920 Speaker 1: So why is this person lowered down the totem pole 132 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:32,480 Speaker 1: from me over there? Happy as hell? That will drive 133 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:32,960 Speaker 1: people grace? 134 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:36,239 Speaker 2: Yeah? And isn't don't they say? Happiness? Joy that comes 135 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 2: from being of service, It comes from helping others. That 136 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:42,640 Speaker 2: comes from having a kind heart. It comes from investing 137 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:45,240 Speaker 2: in other people and not just being worried about what 138 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 2: you don't have. How many times do I have to 139 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 2: remind myself and I tell my kids this too. It's 140 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 2: not what you don't have, it's not what you're not getting, 141 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 2: it's what you're not giving. And when you can really 142 00:06:57,120 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 2: switch things around and recognize that, when we get out 143 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 2: of our own heads and we get out of our 144 00:07:01,120 --> 00:07:03,679 Speaker 2: own way and we start thinking about being of service, 145 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 2: that is when true joy and happiness comes. What has 146 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:08,840 Speaker 2: nothing to do with what we surround ourselves with or 147 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 2: the food we're eating or the car we're driving. It's 148 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 2: about how we treat people and how we treat ourselves. 149 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:17,360 Speaker 1: So folks keep that in mind. Success is not the 150 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If 151 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: you love what you are doing, you will be successful. 152 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 1: That was Tuesday and Wednesday robes. You stuck with the 153 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 1: happiness theme. This was the longest or the worthiest to 154 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: maybe quote you ever have used, but it was so 155 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: simple it hits. I love this and it might have 156 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 1: been my favorite week. 157 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, I said, I want to put a poster of 158 00:07:39,440 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 2: this on the wall, And if it wasn't so much, 159 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,600 Speaker 2: I might even consider a tattoo. But it's way too much, 160 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 2: like you'd have to put this on your thigh or something. 161 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: You would love leg tattoos. 162 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 2: Oh, I'm not a big fan of leg tattoos, so 163 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 2: that will not be happening. 164 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 1: With if any of you have leg tattoos, do not 165 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:57,000 Speaker 1: show up in shorts. If you're going to meet robot 166 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 1: out of meet and greet somewhere. 167 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 2: I just haven't seen what I like yet. 168 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:03,040 Speaker 1: I don't know why she. I don't know she is 169 00:08:03,080 --> 00:08:04,640 Speaker 1: so anti leg tattoo. 170 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 2: But I like tattoos. I just prefer them not on 171 00:08:08,040 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 2: your leg. All right, So here are the ten Steps 172 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 2: to happiness, according to Sylvia Duckworth, who is a Canadian 173 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 2: teacher and educator and author. She was like in the 174 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 2: classroom for thirty years, so I loved you. Probably had 175 00:08:18,480 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 2: a poster of this in her classroom. But she came 176 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 2: up with the ten Steps to happiness. Wait, she was 177 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:24,400 Speaker 2: a what an educator, a teacher? 178 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: You know what grade? What age? 179 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 2: I didn't look and see, but out of Canada. And 180 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 2: then she's written some books and illustrated so it looks 181 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:32,439 Speaker 2: maybe younger kids. 182 00:08:32,480 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm looking at this now. This sounds exactly what 183 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 1: someone who has been teaching young kids for years would 184 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:39,200 Speaker 1: come up with. 185 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:42,560 Speaker 2: Exactly, and it applies to every single adult and yourself 186 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 2: that you could even imagine. So here are Sylvia's ten 187 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 2: steps to happiness. Complain less, appreciate more, watch less, do more, 188 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 2: judge less, accept more, fear less, try more, talk less, 189 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 2: listen more, frown less, smile more, consume less, create more, 190 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:10,960 Speaker 2: take less, give more, worry less, dance more, hate less, 191 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:12,360 Speaker 2: love more. 192 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 1: I asked you during the week which one of those 193 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:19,840 Speaker 1: you needed needed to do better about you? Name too. 194 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:22,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna put you on the spot just one of those, 195 00:09:22,160 --> 00:09:23,960 Speaker 1: Which one of those you need to do the most 196 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: work on? 197 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 2: Judge less, accept more. That's my number one thing I 198 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:28,920 Speaker 2: need to work. 199 00:09:28,960 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: Well, why do you say that? 200 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:32,320 Speaker 2: Because I think we're and I'm not talking about just 201 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,440 Speaker 2: necessarily even judging other people, but judging the situation that 202 00:09:35,520 --> 00:09:37,559 Speaker 2: it's not what I wanted, it's not what I needed, 203 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,960 Speaker 2: it's not what I wanted to happen. Instead, if you 204 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 2: just allow things to be what they are and just 205 00:09:43,600 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 2: accept them, the good, the bad, the ugly, the piece 206 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 2: you get from that is huge. But I it's still 207 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,719 Speaker 2: something that I have to really concentrate and recognize when 208 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:57,560 Speaker 2: I'm doing it, and it's just basically judging the situation 209 00:09:57,800 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 2: and having it not be what you want it to 210 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 2: be instead of just accepting it and giving yourself that 211 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 2: grace and peace. Which one do you think do you 212 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 2: need to work on the most? 213 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 1: See I said it during the week as well. Complain less, 214 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 1: appreciate more. I am quick. I don't just walk around 215 00:10:13,520 --> 00:10:15,560 Speaker 1: complaining about everything going on in life. Actually I've done 216 00:10:15,600 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 1: great about accepting a situation, but I will too often. 217 00:10:23,640 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 1: You know, I'm awful about this. I have a schedule, 218 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 1: I have a plan, I have it laid out, I 219 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,040 Speaker 1: have an expectation of how things are going to go. 220 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:32,400 Speaker 1: And the only reason I end up getting upset and 221 00:10:32,440 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: complaining is when a human being does something to throw 222 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 1: that off. I can screw up my own stuff and 223 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: I'll keep flowing, but when I have to get other 224 00:10:41,480 --> 00:10:42,440 Speaker 1: people involved. 225 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 2: It's true. When we wake up, you're like, what what 226 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:48,080 Speaker 2: what are you doing today? What are we doing today? 227 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:51,560 Speaker 2: And you want to know a plan right away? Yes, yes, 228 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 2: And sometimes I don't have the answers, and I can 229 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 2: see that frustrates you. 230 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:58,600 Speaker 1: Yes, all right, and I get it. But that's one 231 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 1: area where I like, dude, shut up, she did her best. 232 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:07,680 Speaker 2: I tried, I tried, j I tried. I tried to 233 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:09,079 Speaker 2: tell you what the day was gonna look like. It 234 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:13,480 Speaker 2: just didn't end up being what I thought it was. There, 235 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:15,880 Speaker 2: you go, all right, But I love this and I 236 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 2: really do want to find a way to put this 237 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 2: up on the wall. 238 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: So do that, folks, your key to happiness. Complain less, 239 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:29,080 Speaker 1: appreciate more, watch, judge, fear, talk, frown, consume, take, worry, 240 00:11:29,160 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 1: hate less. But you need to do accept, try, listen, smile, create, give, dance, 241 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:39,120 Speaker 1: and love more. I think the worry less dance more. 242 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:42,680 Speaker 1: I think the dance more. I've gotten better about worrying 243 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 1: about stuff because I've you've gotten better. I really recognized 244 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: it's completely pointless. If we could, if we could all, folks, 245 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: if you could stop worrying about shit that's out of 246 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:53,440 Speaker 1: your control, you would be shocked. 247 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 2: And guess what's out of your control? Control almost everything. 248 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:00,920 Speaker 2: The only thing you can control is how you respond. 249 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 2: I've even said I can't control how I feel sometimes, 250 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:06,400 Speaker 2: but I can control how I act on those feelings. 251 00:12:06,440 --> 00:12:10,080 Speaker 1: I have literally worried and waited for days to open 252 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:12,599 Speaker 1: an envelope from the irs, and then I open it 253 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:14,560 Speaker 1: up that oh it's night. Even what I was thinking 254 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:17,440 Speaker 1: was I swear I've done that, like you worried, So 255 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:20,120 Speaker 1: we're off. When I call him back, he's gonna da 256 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:22,439 Speaker 1: da dah nothing. All the things you worry about, they 257 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 1: have to come depend right. 258 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:25,760 Speaker 2: How many times have you created like you're anticipating an 259 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:27,640 Speaker 2: argument or someone's gonna say something to you, and you're 260 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 2: in the shower and you actually like create some sort 261 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:35,160 Speaker 2: of contentious argument where you're prepared with your point a point, 262 00:12:35,320 --> 00:12:39,360 Speaker 2: and it never happens. It's hilarious how we all do that, 263 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 2: And it's just we're all we're doing is suffering and 264 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 2: choosing to suffer instead of choosing to dance more. 265 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:48,559 Speaker 1: All right, and folks, we got a Thursday and Friday 266 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: quote coming to you. Also, Robes has pulled out a 267 00:12:51,480 --> 00:12:54,679 Speaker 1: bonus quote. Hopefully by the time we give it to you, 268 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:57,440 Speaker 1: the the ambulance will be done. In the background, he 269 00:12:57,480 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 1: don't know if you Walt can hear it, But we 270 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: are actually still sitting outside in the sun, enjoying a 271 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 1: beautiful landscape as we record today. So if you hear 272 00:13:06,280 --> 00:13:09,320 Speaker 1: any background noise, a little uh, some birds chirping, maybe 273 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:09,760 Speaker 1: so leave. 274 00:13:09,920 --> 00:13:11,560 Speaker 2: I was gonna say that felt a little bit more 275 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 2: like we were back in New York City with the 276 00:13:13,440 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 2: ambulance and the police, so that was just a little 277 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 2: touch of New York City while we're out far far away. 278 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:21,440 Speaker 1: But yes, but yes, we've given you Monday through Wednesday. 279 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: But the Thursday and Friday quote have to do with 280 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:29,400 Speaker 1: the only disability that you have in life and the 281 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:32,480 Speaker 1: next move you need to be making in life. 282 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 2: Before we go to break, I have to tell you 283 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:37,720 Speaker 2: about new leggings I've been living in lately. 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I've never 303 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 2: seen this quote before. 304 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:57,640 Speaker 1: The only disability in life is a bad attitude. We 305 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:00,080 Speaker 1: get where he's coming from with that. I mean, how 306 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:02,800 Speaker 1: much did we talk? You've used several and I think 307 00:15:02,840 --> 00:15:05,560 Speaker 1: and even in recent weeks, talking about how you can 308 00:15:05,880 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 1: can't remember, but you can change your day in a minute, 309 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 1: but just changing your attitude, and it is attitude is everything. 310 00:15:12,320 --> 00:15:14,480 Speaker 1: I had a very difficult struggle this way. I can't 311 00:15:14,480 --> 00:15:16,920 Speaker 1: remember which day it was, but I stopped a run. 312 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: I couldn't get it. 313 00:15:18,720 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 2: It was Tuesday, was a. 314 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:22,800 Speaker 1: Tuesday, not get it together. It was after you gave 315 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,480 Speaker 1: me that crappy Tuesday quote I didn't like about success 316 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:26,760 Speaker 1: meaning the key to happiness. 317 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 2: That is true, but yeah, it took you. It took 318 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 2: you almost the whole day to get out of it. 319 00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 1: But that was all a matter of perspective and attitude. Yes, 320 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:38,040 Speaker 1: I was exhausted. It doesn't help that I didn't get sleep. 321 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:42,280 Speaker 1: But the point is I had a bad attitude and 322 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:46,040 Speaker 1: it impacted my day, It impacted people around me day. 323 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:49,400 Speaker 1: It so yeah, I'm on board with this. It's just 324 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 1: it's so simple, but it's something so hard to do. 325 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 2: You know, I appreciate the fact that after the fact 326 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:57,400 Speaker 2: you can dissect that and recognize it. We all do it. 327 00:15:57,440 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 2: We all have our days, we all have our moments. 328 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:02,240 Speaker 2: But when you can actually even if it takes you 329 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:04,360 Speaker 2: twenty four hours or forty eight hours or a week, 330 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 2: if you can go back and say, you know what, 331 00:16:05,920 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 2: I don't like how I chose to spend my time 332 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:11,120 Speaker 2: that day, and I'm going to really try to recognize 333 00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:14,640 Speaker 2: it earlier and change my attitude. And it really is 334 00:16:14,680 --> 00:16:17,800 Speaker 2: sometimes just a decision you have to make. It takes 335 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 2: a lot of strength and a lot it's very difficult 336 00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 2: in the moment, but the first key is recognizing when 337 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:25,640 Speaker 2: you do it and then saying I don't want to 338 00:16:25,640 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 2: do that anymore. So I love this. It's empowering, but 339 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:30,760 Speaker 2: also just a really cool perspective. I think when we 340 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:33,240 Speaker 2: hear disability, we think it's some sort of physical limitation, 341 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:38,000 Speaker 2: but no, this is a choice, and this is really 342 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:40,840 Speaker 2: the only disability, and you can overcome it, but. 343 00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:43,440 Speaker 1: It limits everything else you want to do in life. 344 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 1: If you have a bad attitude, and yes, I've got 345 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:48,880 Speaker 1: I recognize it immediately. I started talking to you about 346 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:51,480 Speaker 1: it immediately, and still couldn't get myself out of it. 347 00:16:51,520 --> 00:16:54,040 Speaker 1: I got immediately Okay, this is what's going on. I 348 00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:57,640 Speaker 1: know what's up. And I still couldn't bring I wasn't 349 00:16:57,640 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 1: mad at anybody, was taking anything out on anybody. I 350 00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:02,720 Speaker 1: just could not get out of my own way. 351 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:05,440 Speaker 2: It happens. We're human. We're human, and I think part 352 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:08,639 Speaker 2: of those days are recognizing what we don't want to 353 00:17:08,640 --> 00:17:11,879 Speaker 2: do and making the change. But we don't change unless 354 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:17,120 Speaker 2: we're uncomfortable. And sometimes discomfort is basically the whole point 355 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:19,199 Speaker 2: of feeling it. It is it. The whole point of 356 00:17:19,200 --> 00:17:22,280 Speaker 2: feeling discomfort or being uncomfortable is to recognize that we 357 00:17:22,320 --> 00:17:24,239 Speaker 2: want to make changes, and so I think it's an 358 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:27,120 Speaker 2: important part of life to be uncomfortable sometimes. 359 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:30,159 Speaker 1: So folks remember that the only disability in life is 360 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:32,960 Speaker 1: a bad attitude. Thank you mister Scott Hamilton for that. 361 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:37,919 Speaker 1: And then the Friday was another short, sweet, simple and 362 00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:39,560 Speaker 1: hugely impactful. 363 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:41,919 Speaker 2: That's right, this comes to us from an unknown source. 364 00:17:42,480 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 2: Your next move matters more than your last mistake. So 365 00:17:47,480 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 2: let's just go back to your Tuesday bad attitude. You 366 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:53,160 Speaker 2: turned it around and you have actually had the most 367 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 2: amazing attitude for the days it followed. Right, So not 368 00:17:57,160 --> 00:18:02,520 Speaker 2: to harp on a bad moment or a bad move 369 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:05,800 Speaker 2: or a bad decision, but when we start ruminating about 370 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:07,360 Speaker 2: what we should have done or we could have done, 371 00:18:07,400 --> 00:18:08,960 Speaker 2: or what we didn't do or what we wished we 372 00:18:09,000 --> 00:18:12,000 Speaker 2: had done, now we're just continuing to suffer. So I 373 00:18:12,080 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 2: like the idea that you can put it in your 374 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:16,200 Speaker 2: past and keep it in the rear view mirror because 375 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:20,359 Speaker 2: your next move matters more than your last mistake. 376 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:23,080 Speaker 1: Who is human nature? We can't help, but when you 377 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 1: make them. Anybody listening to us right now, think about 378 00:18:26,480 --> 00:18:30,159 Speaker 1: that mistake you made yesterday, Like, stop and think for 379 00:18:30,200 --> 00:18:32,560 Speaker 1: a second. You made some mistake, you screwed something up. 380 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:37,360 Speaker 1: Have you spent more time thinking about that mistake than 381 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:40,239 Speaker 1: you have about the next thing you're going to do 382 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:43,199 Speaker 1: to maybe make up for it or do better the 383 00:18:43,200 --> 00:18:45,639 Speaker 1: next time. Are you still stuck on that mistake? That 384 00:18:45,760 --> 00:18:49,440 Speaker 1: is human nature to do so. But man, the only 385 00:18:49,480 --> 00:18:51,840 Speaker 1: thing that matters what you're doing next. 386 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:53,639 Speaker 2: Exactly what you going to do next. Let it go, 387 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:55,880 Speaker 2: Let it go, let it go. I mean that is 388 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:59,639 Speaker 2: that freeing statement that I have to tell myself often, 389 00:18:59,680 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 2: like but it go, let them, Mel Robbins says, Gabby 390 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:07,480 Speaker 2: Bernstein says, make the next right choice, like, these are 391 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:09,520 Speaker 2: all things we can take with us when we're ruminating 392 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:12,560 Speaker 2: and we're sitting and we're spinning and refrustrated. Make the 393 00:19:12,600 --> 00:19:15,280 Speaker 2: next best choice. So, yes, here's the quote for you 394 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:18,360 Speaker 2: one more time. Your next move matters more than your 395 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 2: last mistake. 396 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:22,000 Speaker 1: Hi, bonus quote for you. All that Robes has plucked out. 397 00:19:22,040 --> 00:19:23,800 Speaker 1: I'm seeing it for the first time right now. Not 398 00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:26,639 Speaker 1: sure how I feel about it, but I'll I'll listen 399 00:19:26,680 --> 00:19:28,880 Speaker 1: to it. I'll listen to you say it, and maybe 400 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:29,959 Speaker 1: I'll feel differently about it. 401 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 2: Okay, So here's your bonus quote for the week. There 402 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:37,600 Speaker 2: is only one thing more precious than time, and that's 403 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:41,240 Speaker 2: who we spend it on. I love this because this 404 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:44,760 Speaker 2: is basically I read it like this, This is not 405 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:50,119 Speaker 2: just permission to but actually encouragement to know your boundaries, 406 00:19:50,160 --> 00:19:53,639 Speaker 2: to know when to say no, to know how many 407 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:56,560 Speaker 2: of us get an invitation somewhere or to do something, 408 00:19:56,600 --> 00:19:58,480 Speaker 2: to be with someone and you know you don't want 409 00:19:58,520 --> 00:20:01,120 Speaker 2: to go, And then I try to ask myself, if 410 00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:03,159 Speaker 2: this were my last day on earth, would I spend 411 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:05,440 Speaker 2: it with this person or in this way? And if 412 00:20:05,440 --> 00:20:08,680 Speaker 2: the answer is no, you probably shouldn't go. Because we 413 00:20:09,440 --> 00:20:11,199 Speaker 2: always think there's going to be the next time, or 414 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 2: the next moment or the next day, and who we 415 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:16,480 Speaker 2: spend our time with, first of all, has a huge 416 00:20:16,480 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 2: impact on how we feel about everything. But this feeling 417 00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:22,680 Speaker 2: of guilt. Maybe women do this more, where we feel 418 00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:24,280 Speaker 2: like we have to say yes, or we have to 419 00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:26,520 Speaker 2: go with this person, or we have to spend time 420 00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:28,520 Speaker 2: with somebody who we don't really like or we don't 421 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 2: really want to be around. I struggle with this, so 422 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 2: I really liked this quote. 423 00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,600 Speaker 1: I'm laughing now and your daughters giving me a hard 424 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:38,280 Speaker 1: time about this later maybe, but we spend a lot 425 00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:42,399 Speaker 1: of time with them. Last week, got a house, we 426 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 1: got out of town. There's no long we talked about it. 427 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:47,119 Speaker 1: We were in Montalk for the week, and then so 428 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:50,040 Speaker 1: many conversations having with them were about their friends and 429 00:20:50,160 --> 00:20:51,960 Speaker 1: some issues. They have a beef with this person or 430 00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:55,119 Speaker 1: that person. Yeah, but I have to invite this person over, Like, 431 00:20:55,160 --> 00:20:57,720 Speaker 1: why you know you don't. Why do you feel obligated? 432 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:00,639 Speaker 1: Why are you spending time with someone that I just 433 00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:03,359 Speaker 1: heard you for the past thirty minutes say you hate 434 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,520 Speaker 1: what we mean? You have to spend time? No, you don't. 435 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 2: I don't think men do this as much as women. 436 00:21:08,560 --> 00:21:10,960 Speaker 2: I really don't. I think I think women. I do 437 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:13,480 Speaker 2: think this is a generalization, of course, but I do 438 00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:16,560 Speaker 2: think there is real truth to it. I find that 439 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:20,160 Speaker 2: other women we have talked about this, we struggle with 440 00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 2: feeling obligated to include people or to spend time with 441 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 2: people who we don't actually appreciate spending time with. And 442 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:28,720 Speaker 2: it makes no sense. I get that. Why do you 443 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,960 Speaker 2: do that because out of obligation you in particular, Yeah, 444 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:33,600 Speaker 2: I think obligation and guilt. You don't want to hurt 445 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 2: the other person's feelings. You don't want the other person 446 00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 2: to think you don't like them. You don't want them 447 00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 2: to feel bad. So you go ahead and you suck 448 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,080 Speaker 2: it up and you spend time with someone who don't 449 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:43,919 Speaker 2: actually really want to spend time with I. 450 00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:47,639 Speaker 1: Am I certainly we're at a different age now. We 451 00:21:47,760 --> 00:21:50,159 Speaker 1: just don't have that kind of time And you have 452 00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:54,000 Speaker 1: every right, I argue to at this point to have 453 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:56,680 Speaker 1: whatever boundary you want to have. And I don't find 454 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 1: it ever rude. You have seen me do this time 455 00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:02,639 Speaker 1: and again to the when it's uncomfortable. Oh, get uncomfortable. 456 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 2: I'm wincing sometimes swift discomfort. 457 00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:06,879 Speaker 1: So people flat Nope, I'm not going to do that. 458 00:22:06,920 --> 00:22:09,880 Speaker 1: I'm not interested, not something I want to do. Uh No, 459 00:22:09,920 --> 00:22:11,880 Speaker 1: we're probably not going to show up to that. Got 460 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: something else that night, got to you know what, I've 461 00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:15,639 Speaker 1: told it. I got a game that night. I'm not 462 00:22:15,680 --> 00:22:19,200 Speaker 1: coming to your thing. So we are well, And what 463 00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 1: is wrong with having a boundary being an adult, saying 464 00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 1: yes or no to where you want to go and 465 00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,119 Speaker 1: what you want to do. You can be considerate, you 466 00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:29,560 Speaker 1: can be polite, but at what point are you supposed 467 00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:33,440 Speaker 1: to sacrifice time and things you actually want to do 468 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:37,119 Speaker 1: to spare someone's what feelings, the feelings of somebody you 469 00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 1: don't even like. 470 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:39,919 Speaker 2: It, and they might not even recognize that you're doing that, 471 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:42,160 Speaker 2: and be annoyed that you're there to begin with. So this, 472 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:45,320 Speaker 2: this service, this thing you think you're doing actually might 473 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:48,760 Speaker 2: not be benefiting anybody, especially not yourself. So I do 474 00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 2: appreciate this. You're also and I've tried to get better 475 00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:55,960 Speaker 2: at this, but you're unapologetic about it. You don't need 476 00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,120 Speaker 2: to say you're sorry that you're not coming, or you're 477 00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 2: sorry that you can't attend. You're actually not not at all. 478 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:06,120 Speaker 1: But I think that also often sets up a dynamic 479 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:08,200 Speaker 1: in the relationship to where you feel like you have 480 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,080 Speaker 1: to answer to that person. And now you're telling that 481 00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:14,240 Speaker 1: person you have to answer to them you have something 482 00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:17,159 Speaker 1: on Friday night. Nope, I won't be able to make it. 483 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:21,280 Speaker 1: End of story. Your response has always come, oh, I 484 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:24,840 Speaker 1: am so sorry, but I have a da da da da, 485 00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:26,560 Speaker 1: and then a da da da da. If I had 486 00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:28,399 Speaker 1: a da da da da, then maybe I could da 487 00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 1: da da da. 488 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:32,640 Speaker 2: But that you get over explained, like why. 489 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:35,720 Speaker 1: You sound like you're making an excuse? What do you say, 490 00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 1: Diane Sawyer all the time? What is the shortest sentence 491 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:41,120 Speaker 1: but still a complete sentence? 492 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:44,360 Speaker 2: No? Yeah, no is a complete sentence. 493 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:44,960 Speaker 1: We're done. 494 00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:48,600 Speaker 2: I'm still learning it, OK, But Leo Christopher, this author 495 00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:51,280 Speaker 2: who came up with this. I do like what he said, 496 00:23:51,280 --> 00:23:55,399 Speaker 2: and again I apologize that I have to somehow seek 497 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 2: permission from someone else to do what I actually want 498 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:00,439 Speaker 2: to do. But that is what this quote does for me. 499 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:05,800 Speaker 2: There's only one thing more precious than time, and that's 500 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:07,080 Speaker 2: who we spend it on. 501 00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:09,520 Speaker 1: See that last part. Spend it on and spend it 502 00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:11,080 Speaker 1: with can be two different things. 503 00:24:10,960 --> 00:24:14,440 Speaker 2: True, but that's also where you're putting your focus. Whether 504 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,919 Speaker 2: you know, whether you're buying a gift for someone or 505 00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:19,400 Speaker 2: planning a good party for someone, you're spending time on 506 00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 2: that person. 507 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:22,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think that's a very good distinction to make, 508 00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:24,560 Speaker 1: and both can be legit. It's great to sit here 509 00:24:24,600 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 1: and spend time with you, But we spend our time 510 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:33,199 Speaker 1: on a bunch of things. College students, our universities, we 511 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 1: spend time even though we're not often physically there, so 512 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 1: it still applies there as well. You would you know 513 00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,680 Speaker 1: what we I'm gonna insist on one Yoda quote a week. 514 00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:44,879 Speaker 2: I'll see what I can do. I'll see what I can. 515 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:46,520 Speaker 1: Do well, folks, Well, if you got a little inspiration, 516 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,679 Speaker 1: a little fun and maybe related a little bit to 517 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,200 Speaker 1: some of that's back and forth with my dear Robot 518 00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:54,320 Speaker 1: and I, who I absolutely enjoy spending time with. And 519 00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:57,680 Speaker 1: I don't think there's maybe one other person I would 520 00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 1: like to spend more time with than I spend with you. 521 00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:04,119 Speaker 1: What you understand that, So wherever you all may be, 522 00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:06,240 Speaker 1: hope you're enjoying who you're with and what you're doing. 523 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 1: We always appreciate you running with us. And Robes is 524 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,280 Speaker 1: gonna man, you knocked out of the park this week. 525 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:11,600 Speaker 1: You better have some good quotes this week. 526 00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 2: I know I'm the pressures on, but I'm ready to deliver. 527 00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:17,359 Speaker 2: I'm not just gonna try, TJ. I am going to deliver, 528 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,320 Speaker 2: and with that, I'm Amy Roebuck alongside t J. 529 00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:20,720 Speaker 1: Holmes. 530 00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:23,120 Speaker 2: Hope you all have a wonderful start to your week.