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Speaker 1: M y Happy Wednesday, guys, and thank you for tuning

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Speaker 1: into this week's episode of Dear Cheekies. This is a

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Speaker 1: place where I can hear directly from my listeners and

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Speaker 1: want to note that if you are suffering an issue

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Speaker 1: or hardship that requires immediate attention, please seek professional help.

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Speaker 1: And without further ado, let's hit that play button and

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Speaker 1: here from Anna so Chick. He's a big hug from Denver, Colorado.

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Speaker 1: I've been following you for a very long time now,

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Speaker 1: very proud of you. I have a question, or more

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Speaker 1: it comes to like my boyfriend's family. I always feel

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Speaker 1: like if I go to a family event that I'm

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Speaker 1: going to be judged and he's going to look at

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Speaker 1: you're not pretty enough, and what are you gonna wear?

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Speaker 1: And what if you don't look good, and I'm very

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Speaker 1: that and not care. Oh and I thank you likewise,

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Speaker 1: God bless you, thank you for your question. I get it.

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Speaker 1: I totally get it. Family friends, you always want them

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Speaker 1: telling yourself like he loves me, he's obviously with me

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Speaker 1: for reasons, and just knowing who you are in your

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Speaker 1: I said, it's their loss. I think you're overthinking, girl.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I think you're overthinking. I think you

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Speaker 1: with kindness, be nice even if they're not nice to you,

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Speaker 1: Or when they flip me off on the freeway, girl,

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Speaker 1: know what, I know what I have to offer in

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Speaker 1: it's a little harder because it's his family, But Mama,

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Speaker 1: if he's with you, and he's been with you for

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Speaker 1: this long and you have been dealing with it, he

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Speaker 1: saying sending you hag Mamasita, you got this and just

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Speaker 1: from Elena. Let's hear it, Hi, chickies, how are you um?

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Speaker 1: A question I have for you is what advice would

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Speaker 1: elenam Okay, this is a great question. Met up. What

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Speaker 1: I do personally? I like following, first of all, on

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Speaker 1: You know, using a bunch of hashtags are really important,

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Speaker 1: look at Samoa, I think good things. Elena sending you

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Speaker 1: I'm ready to move on, and it'll happen when you

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Speaker 1: least expect it, don't look for it. It's just open

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Speaker 1: your heart of saying I'm ready. I want to be

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Speaker 1: does take time. But God is good and he will

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Speaker 1: guide you through this. So get yourself a motivational book

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Speaker 1: Is I hope I helped the Mandolso you got this.

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Speaker 1: You got this, girl, You've got this. I feel you,

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Speaker 1: I feel you. Well, that's all the time we have today,

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Speaker 1: you guys. Thanks to Anna Elena for your questions. Your

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