1 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:08,479 Speaker 1: Hey, babe if Lalla, Welcome to the bonus episode at 2 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 1: Begive Them Lalla Podcast. Hi T T. How do you feel? 3 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:15,240 Speaker 2: Honestly? 4 00:00:15,360 --> 00:00:18,319 Speaker 1: You were great on the regular episode. Oh yeah, you 5 00:00:18,400 --> 00:00:18,840 Speaker 1: carried that. 6 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:23,640 Speaker 2: No, well, thank you, I will say. When you hunkered 7 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 2: down in a house for three days, yeah, and don't leave. 8 00:00:27,960 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 2: You're excited to do stuff. 9 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:35,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, while I'm struggling to put a thought together, you're 10 00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:37,239 Speaker 1: making me laugh so hard. I always know when you 11 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: feel comfortable because your thoughts are pretty effortless and you're 12 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 1: really freaking funny. So I appreciate that. So we recorded 13 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:50,120 Speaker 1: the normal episode and then I look at my phone 14 00:00:50,680 --> 00:01:00,680 Speaker 1: and Dody posted us following each other. I didn't know 15 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: it was that funny. 16 00:01:04,080 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 2: It's just funny from the previous episode about we were like, 17 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:09,960 Speaker 2: let's it's Instagram. Yeah that it doesn't mean him. 18 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,320 Speaker 1: Well, that's how we all feel, by the way, like 19 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: the beef is real when I click unfollowed, and the 20 00:01:15,880 --> 00:01:19,960 Speaker 1: love is real when I click refollow a follow back. 21 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 1: I'm a follow back girl. But I also wanted to 22 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 1: add before we jump into the Q and A because 23 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: I completely forgot again that it was recording day. So 24 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: I just did a Q and A for the bonus, 25 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,400 Speaker 1: But she and I were talking Dody and I and 26 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: I just and Courtney Berman was here as well, who 27 00:01:40,400 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: I was so excited to see. I hadn't seen her 28 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: in so long. She's been in the friend group for 29 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: many a year. You guys will probably remember her from 30 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: shooting Brittany's boudoir shoot. So she's really cool. She's fun, 31 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: she's normal, she's a go getter, born and raised in 32 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: Los Angeles. But we were talking about what Trump's beef, 33 00:01:59,040 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: and I'm like, when someone gets sick, even if you're beefing, 34 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: you put it aside. Baby's coming into the mix. Beef 35 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:10,680 Speaker 1: gets put to bed, and I would say, obviously death 36 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:17,359 Speaker 1: right beef gets trumped. Anyway, I'm just so thrilled because 37 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: once I found out Doty was pregnant, I just have 38 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: such a soft spot in my heart for pregnancy, and 39 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 1: there's so many things. As I get older, I learned 40 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: that when time passes, you can never get moments back. 41 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:32,679 Speaker 1: So for me, it's like, I'm really bummed. And I 42 00:02:32,680 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 1: said this to Dody. I was like, I it makes 43 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: me really sad that you and I could not be 44 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: part of each other's pregnancy journeys. So I really hope 45 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: that you'll be at Meredith's shower because it'll never happen again. Yeah, 46 00:02:46,600 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 1: and with that, I respect whatever decision you make, but 47 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:50,639 Speaker 1: you're welcome. 48 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 2: To come and it will never happen again. No, even 49 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 2: if you have another baby, that shower it's done, right, 50 00:02:56,360 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 2: done and done. 51 00:02:57,440 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 1: And no one does a second baby shower, Like maybe 52 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:02,119 Speaker 1: you do a baby's sprinkle, but still like you don't 53 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 1: do the whole gift thing. It's just like the excitement 54 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: in this sounds so rude. I was so excited about Sosa, 55 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 1: but the feeling of the first time becoming a mom, 56 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: it's like nothing else. Yeah, Dodi has a very warm heart, 57 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: and I will always say that. 58 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 2: I can tell you that even because you guys beefing, 59 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 2: Like even when we would see each other, Me and 60 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 2: she would even make it a point and be like, hey, 61 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:28,360 Speaker 2: how are you Yes, so. 62 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:32,840 Speaker 1: So I'm very happy anyway. The el Green asks thoughts 63 00:03:32,880 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 1: on the new cast for VPR at sir, Lol, So 64 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: I've seen pictures and I don't want anyone to get 65 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: hung up on the photos because if you remember correctly, 66 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: there I think it was season ten. They released the 67 00:03:49,200 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: cast photos of us, you guys, and we all looked 68 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:56,000 Speaker 1: so they made Katie's eyes either closer together or something. 69 00:03:56,480 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 1: They made us all look. 70 00:03:58,520 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 2: Not like ourselves. 71 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: We looked like, yes, I looks like wax figures. 72 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 2: So I know one of the girls that is going 73 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 2: to be on the new season. Okay, and I met 74 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 2: her like a year ago. We've been in touch, we've 75 00:04:10,800 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 2: seen each other and we call each other on Instagram. 76 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 2: Don't but she is beautiful. Yeah, And I even saw 77 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 2: like the photo of her still looks beautiful, but I 78 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 2: was like, that's not her. 79 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: Right, So someone said it all the photo almost looks 80 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:33,720 Speaker 1: like someone went into that like AI type thing and 81 00:04:33,839 --> 00:04:37,400 Speaker 1: described the old cast and it just shot out images 82 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: of like what this robot thinks that like James Kennedy 83 00:04:41,880 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 1: looks like if I were to explain him, or who 84 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: uh Arianna or Shina looks like. And then it just 85 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: like shot out images and they're like, all right, here's 86 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:54,760 Speaker 1: the cast and like maybe they're missing I don't know, 87 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: and eyebrow because I think Shena was missing an eyebrow 88 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:00,080 Speaker 1: in one of the photos. Sounds the cast photos so well, 89 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 1: I have here's the thing I don't want to give 90 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:06,840 Speaker 1: them a hard time. They've got large shoes to fill 91 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 1: when it comes to stepping into a season twelve of 92 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,719 Speaker 1: a show that's existed for eleven years, a cast that 93 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:14,840 Speaker 1: people have rocked with. 94 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:20,359 Speaker 2: Yes, Easton hot take, Okay, I have a feeling that 95 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 2: they're trying to revamp vander Pump because she wants people 96 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 2: in her restaurant again. Because I've never seen Sir more 97 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 2: dead ever I attend to class near Okay, it's always. 98 00:05:34,839 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 1: Dead, all right, I'm gonna I'm going to I feel 99 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: like back that up with since the pandemic, La is dead. 100 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 1: Praying to God that having so many big events like 101 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 1: the Olympics. I think it's the World Cup. I'm praying 102 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: that the city gets cleaned up, revived the night like 103 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 1: nightlife is dead. 104 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 2: But let me tell you, but is it dead because. 105 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: The pandemic change it? 106 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 2: There is a pandemic, but not even me, Like that's 107 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 2: the thing I just told you in the regular episode 108 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:09,719 Speaker 2: about Miami. Don't I love Miami just for like, I. 109 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 1: Don't think Miami is affected at all. 110 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 2: I like just the geographical area that it is in. 111 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:19,320 Speaker 2: I love that area. I don't like going out. Is 112 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 2: it a new thing with kids not drinking. People just 113 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 2: not go out at night like that is My other thing, 114 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 2: is the night life just dead because of the new 115 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 2: generation not drinking, wanting to go to bed early, like 116 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 2: they take care of their body, they're eating curst. 117 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: Let me tell you something, The coffee shops are popping. 118 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:42,120 Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying, Like mornings, if you really want 119 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:45,920 Speaker 2: to party and go out, it's eight am and grabbing 120 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 2: coffee with your friends. That is right up as right. 121 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 122 00:06:49,200 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 2: But that's where I'm saying, like, will a night life 123 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:55,040 Speaker 2: ever be revived if people don't want to go out 124 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 2: at night? Because I'm that person. If you started a club, 125 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:01,480 Speaker 2: I'm not going no, no, no no. See. So that's where 126 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 2: I'm like, does LA need to restructure into somehow having 127 00:07:07,240 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 2: an early bird special? 128 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:11,840 Speaker 1: Yes, four thirty to give me the fuck, I will 129 00:07:11,840 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 1: be there. And by the way, I go to dinner 130 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: at four thirty often and it is. 131 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:18,880 Speaker 2: Poppin' right, That's what I'm saying. So I don't think 132 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 2: them it will ever be revived for a night life 133 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 2: in a sense. 134 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: Okay, I don't think it has anything to do with 135 00:07:25,440 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 1: the restaurant. I think the Vanner Pump rules is iconic. 136 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:31,240 Speaker 1: They're not ready to give it up. That's give it 137 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:34,640 Speaker 1: a new wave. And I hope that people are kind 138 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:38,480 Speaker 1: and respectful and give Vanner Pump Rules two point zero 139 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: a chance. 140 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 2: And well they should. The cast. I mean, like I said, 141 00:07:42,080 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 2: I know the girl. 142 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: New cast did nothing to you. 143 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 2: No, and the new cast will be good. All you 144 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 2: have to do is separate the shows. Yes they're the 145 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 2: same name, but you can't compare the two. They're very different. 146 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 2: Yes that's the number one thing that they have to do. 147 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:59,280 Speaker 2: But even see you next Tuesdays, they're like when it 148 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:03,080 Speaker 2: is packed her so fun the vibe. So I'm excited 149 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 2: for that to hopefully be revived with people going in 150 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:08,680 Speaker 2: to see the cast and things like that, because I'll 151 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 2: be there. I will do fucking vip table though. 152 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 1: All right, I hope I'm saying this right. COLEI Gray. 153 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:17,040 Speaker 1: She said, how do you feel motherhood has changed you? 154 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 1: I and you probably wouldn't know this, or maybe you 155 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:27,640 Speaker 1: you have noticed since Uh I've had children. But I 156 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: tend to kind of think through things that I'm going 157 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: to say or do before I actually say or do them. 158 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 2: Your intentions are very different now. 159 00:08:41,040 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: I do things with intent curiousious. I tend to look 160 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: at the repercussions. Not always. I'm still like, I'm still 161 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: a person as we all are, but I just think 162 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:56,880 Speaker 1: that before I put on an outfit or I do anything, 163 00:08:56,920 --> 00:09:00,360 Speaker 1: that's me trying to get my law law back. I 164 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:05,439 Speaker 1: feel a little self conscious, which I normally don't feel 165 00:09:05,440 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 1: that way. And I don't know if that has to 166 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 1: do with kids, but it's like I want to set 167 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 1: a good example. I want to make them proud, but 168 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:14,920 Speaker 1: I also want to be myself still. 169 00:09:14,679 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 2: And being yourself is going to make them proud. That's 170 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:20,160 Speaker 2: the other thing. Rock on a hard spot. How are 171 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 2: my kids gonna view me? Well, doesn't matter. Be you 172 00:09:23,160 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 2: and authentically you and your kids will love it. 173 00:09:25,400 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: Let me tell you something. When Ocean's giving me a 174 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 1: really hard time and it's like an all day thing 175 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:31,840 Speaker 1: and I have to like really put my foot down, 176 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,600 Speaker 1: bring down the hammer, and at the end we have 177 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:37,560 Speaker 1: our like nightly talk and we say, you know, we're 178 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: going to do better tomorrow. Mommy loves you. The other night, 179 00:09:41,559 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 1: she goes, Mom, it's okay. You just have to be 180 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 1: okay with the fact that you weren't a great mom today. 181 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: Oh and I'm like, what that is so rude? Well, 182 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:53,720 Speaker 1: then you need to be okay with the fact that 183 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: you weren't a great kid today. 184 00:09:55,440 --> 00:09:58,400 Speaker 2: Do you got that? I got that she's smart enough. 185 00:09:58,440 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 2: Then I would argue with her. 186 00:10:00,480 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you guys, I didn't tell you this 187 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 1: in the regular episode. So with the baby shower, there 188 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:07,559 Speaker 1: were a lot of kids here and the playroom is 189 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 1: a mess. All good, that's what a playroom is for. 190 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 1: But I mom made a joke and was like, and 191 00:10:11,400 --> 00:10:14,240 Speaker 1: I bet you cleaned up the whole playroom, and she goes, no, 192 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:17,360 Speaker 1: I did not, because, if you think about it, jeej, 193 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:20,120 Speaker 1: I had so many friends up there and we were 194 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 1: all making a mess, and so I didn't clean anything 195 00:10:22,880 --> 00:10:25,280 Speaker 1: up because what I'm going to do is have another 196 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: playdate and make them clean up. 197 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:29,360 Speaker 2: The mess to make it Wow. 198 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 1: I mean, that is so smart. I thought she was 199 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: gonna say, we're gonna make it dirty again, But she's 200 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:37,760 Speaker 1: gonna bring kids over to delegate and put them to 201 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: work to clean up her mess. LEFA, that is funny, 202 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:49,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say. Lola dot Sarda said, how do I 203 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:52,760 Speaker 1: get my crazy ex to stop calling my phone? He 204 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:55,240 Speaker 1: won't leave me alone? That's a tough one because I 205 00:10:55,280 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: want to say block him, but god forbid, he's crazy 206 00:10:59,240 --> 00:11:02,480 Speaker 1: and does something. You need documentation of him calling you 207 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:03,320 Speaker 1: a ton of time? 208 00:11:03,400 --> 00:11:06,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, like, what is the because she gave me no 209 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 2: harassment three calls after x amount of time? Or what 210 00:11:10,360 --> 00:11:13,679 Speaker 2: is the it to be out an harassment? Like how 211 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 2: many calls in X amount of time? 212 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:18,560 Speaker 1: I'm not a lawyer, so I don't know. I mean, 213 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:23,079 Speaker 1: I think what I would say is, if you want 214 00:11:23,160 --> 00:11:25,200 Speaker 1: him to stop calling you, you need to send a 215 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 1: text message that says I will not be answering your 216 00:11:27,800 --> 00:11:30,680 Speaker 1: phone calls, please leave me alone if he continues to call, 217 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:32,079 Speaker 1: Like I don't trust. 218 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 2: That needs to be good place. 219 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,560 Speaker 1: Right, Like I come from back in the day before 220 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:39,680 Speaker 1: I experienced a lot of life. It's like my ex 221 00:11:39,800 --> 00:11:42,320 Speaker 1: is calling me a ton Like I'm over it. He's annoying, 222 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: but like I wasn't in fear. Right now that I've 223 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 1: seen some shit, I'm like, I need documentation. I need 224 00:11:49,040 --> 00:11:50,920 Speaker 1: to put in writing that I want him to stop 225 00:11:50,960 --> 00:11:54,320 Speaker 1: calling me. I need to uh let him know that 226 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:56,880 Speaker 1: if he continues, this is what will happen, and then 227 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 1: follow through with it. So the only I mean if 228 00:11:59,880 --> 00:12:03,160 Speaker 1: you're in fear, I would definitely like stay on your toes. 229 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 2: I don't know how long he has been or this 230 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:09,360 Speaker 2: has been going on, but if it's I mean, if 231 00:12:09,400 --> 00:12:12,040 Speaker 2: she's been dealing with this for over a month, in 232 00:12:12,080 --> 00:12:14,280 Speaker 2: my opinion, I would probably reach out and try to 233 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:17,719 Speaker 2: get a restraining order. Yeah, because now you I mean, 234 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:19,839 Speaker 2: if you, you probably have enough text calls to be 235 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 2: like I am I'm in danger or but then on the. 236 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:26,960 Speaker 1: Flip side and he gets Lodge doesn't freaking protect you 237 00:12:27,240 --> 00:12:30,400 Speaker 1: at all. It's like when you watch enough, it's like 238 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:32,320 Speaker 1: a restraining order. So what's that a little piece of 239 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:34,680 Speaker 1: paper that says he can't come around? And when he 240 00:12:34,840 --> 00:12:37,520 Speaker 1: comes around? What do I do? If she has called 241 00:12:37,600 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 1: us she needs like, there's nothing that anyone can do. 242 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: You just hope that they're afraid of the law. 243 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, which the only thing that I would say to 244 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:47,360 Speaker 2: her is if there's no kids involved in there needs 245 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:50,080 Speaker 2: to be known communication and he's just doing it. Change 246 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:50,520 Speaker 2: your number. 247 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 1: I agree with that. I go back to don't change 248 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,199 Speaker 1: your number because you need documentation. 249 00:12:55,800 --> 00:13:00,520 Speaker 2: But the document I mean, yes, but he'll get your number, 250 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:03,400 Speaker 2: your new number and you'll get new documentation. Is how 251 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 2: I feel. And if you get a new number and 252 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 2: you had your old phone with like the text from 253 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 2: the old number, and you get a new one and 254 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:10,080 Speaker 2: then you have that, you could be like he see 255 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:10,640 Speaker 2: me twice? 256 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:13,760 Speaker 1: Help heap everything. Well, that's what I'm saying exactly, Like, 257 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 1: don't turn the phone in because you changed your number 258 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:19,200 Speaker 1: and you kept all your old texts. Oh I certainly did. 259 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 1: I have like three phones with a bunch of on them. 260 00:13:21,880 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 2: And like you could. Yeah, so that's what I would do. 261 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 2: Change your number. If he gets the secondary number, that's 262 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 2: when you would, in my opinion, reach out for help. 263 00:13:30,160 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: Right, I agree with you a nik dot gov says 264 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:36,199 Speaker 1: Easton what are you looking for in a life partner? 265 00:13:36,240 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 1: You deserve to find your person. 266 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:40,959 Speaker 2: That is the sweetest thing. And thank you. I really 267 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 2: do have to say how many people are sweet to 268 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 2: me on this podcast. 269 00:13:43,600 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 1: Oh I love that for you. 270 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 2: So thank you to everyone who has been very nice 271 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 2: and supportive. Even through the loss of my father, I 272 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:51,160 Speaker 2: got a lot of good ride in. 273 00:13:51,200 --> 00:13:52,559 Speaker 1: So and even through the dreadlocks. 274 00:13:52,600 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 2: Yeah I forgot I had him. 275 00:13:57,920 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 1: Do you know what you're looking for in a person? 276 00:14:01,160 --> 00:14:04,600 Speaker 2: No, I think I'm in. I think I'm in Britain spot. 277 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:06,680 Speaker 1: Doing trying to find yourself. 278 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, like I need to find my forever me, to 279 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:12,720 Speaker 2: find somebody else. And like right now I'm still like 280 00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:15,600 Speaker 2: trying to figure out what do I actually love, right, 281 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 2: and like even like I want to have a career, 282 00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 2: you know, not that I'm not working my way into one, 283 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:23,400 Speaker 2: but like I am in love with fashion, so like 284 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 2: I'm thinking I would love to get myself into fashion. 285 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:30,800 Speaker 2: And I would love somebody world artsy world, yeah, yeah, 286 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 2: very yeah, just like somebody like I don't know, it 287 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:40,320 Speaker 2: sounds weird, just an imaginary or an imagine imaginative companion 288 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:44,080 Speaker 2: that can be and dream together. I love that and 289 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 2: make things happen. But like I look like you want. 290 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:48,400 Speaker 1: To live in the song A Million Dreams. Yeah, and 291 00:14:48,440 --> 00:14:49,280 Speaker 1: the Greatest Showman. 292 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:51,560 Speaker 2: But like I want her to have her own things, 293 00:14:51,640 --> 00:14:55,160 Speaker 2: so like it's not even like me saying like I 294 00:14:55,200 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 2: don't want to support, It's like I want her to 295 00:14:57,240 --> 00:14:59,800 Speaker 2: have her own things so that her confidence is there, 296 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:03,280 Speaker 2: she is or her she is her own person. 297 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 1: Right, You guys don't like your identities don't lie within 298 00:15:07,200 --> 00:15:07,600 Speaker 1: each other. 299 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:10,680 Speaker 2: I'm not dating you because I'm needing identity and you're 300 00:15:10,720 --> 00:15:12,560 Speaker 2: not dating me for an identity. 301 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 1: Right again my very first boyfriend. The mom said, you don't. 302 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:18,760 Speaker 1: It should never be a fifty to fifty thing. It 303 00:15:18,800 --> 00:15:20,840 Speaker 1: should be two people coming in at one hundred percent 304 00:15:20,880 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 1: to equal two hundred. 305 00:15:21,760 --> 00:15:26,440 Speaker 2: Yeah. So I think that's just somebody who's you know, 306 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:29,960 Speaker 2: can just fit me and just we can just dream together. 307 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:31,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you can sit on the couch and watch 308 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 1: all the movies in the world. 309 00:15:33,960 --> 00:15:36,040 Speaker 2: And I've said it before and I don't know how 310 00:15:36,080 --> 00:15:38,400 Speaker 2: to it'll come off this time. Either. I want to 311 00:15:38,440 --> 00:15:40,320 Speaker 2: be with somebody who I can be with but sit 312 00:15:40,440 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 2: silently with. Oh God, like there is nothing better. And 313 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:45,040 Speaker 2: that was my ex. 314 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 1: You know, like me and her would just not our 315 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 1: ip like she died, but like the relationship, the relationship. 316 00:15:52,560 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 2: Is like me and her could just sit We would 317 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:57,520 Speaker 2: watch a show for like three hours and I look 318 00:15:57,560 --> 00:15:59,760 Speaker 2: at her and just like call her, and she just 319 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 2: and call me. Went back and then we got let's eat. 320 00:16:02,040 --> 00:16:02,840 Speaker 1: That's so cute. 321 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:04,000 Speaker 2: It was just so easy. 322 00:16:04,400 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, but she kind of took your heart through the wringers. 323 00:16:06,480 --> 00:16:08,640 Speaker 1: So she's not the greatest fan, not the biggest fan. 324 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:12,120 Speaker 1: I will say this before we move on. I get it. 325 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:15,800 Speaker 1: You are new into sobriety. You have not reached a 326 00:16:15,880 --> 00:16:19,479 Speaker 1: year and in the program they advise you to stay single. 327 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:22,680 Speaker 2: Stay single a year, yes, and I even so, and 328 00:16:22,760 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 2: it was crazy. I was there's just this girl who 329 00:16:25,760 --> 00:16:28,000 Speaker 2: I've been talking to who we just go to meetings too, 330 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:31,120 Speaker 2: like yeah. And I told my sponsor and he was like, well, 331 00:16:31,160 --> 00:16:33,240 Speaker 2: what is going on? And I was like nothing, I'm 332 00:16:33,280 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 2: just going to meetings and he was like, all right, 333 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:37,160 Speaker 2: please let me know if something does, because I'll have 334 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:39,400 Speaker 2: things to say. And I was like, okay, but him 335 00:16:39,440 --> 00:16:41,240 Speaker 2: just to say that, I was like, I'm keeping distance. 336 00:16:41,360 --> 00:16:43,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to everyone good, but yeah. 337 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:46,480 Speaker 2: It's what do I have now? Nine months? 338 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:49,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, well I'm bad at math almost you'll hit a 339 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:53,200 Speaker 1: year in August. Oh, we got another one from Lola 340 00:16:54,080 --> 00:17:00,800 Speaker 1: Lola dot Sareda also says, how's my hour, girl, Lil Whoa. 341 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:02,400 Speaker 2: I just took her to Palm Springs. 342 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:03,840 Speaker 1: She's thriving. 343 00:17:04,080 --> 00:17:04,679 Speaker 2: She's thriving. 344 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 1: Not if you can't walk for shit, but it's fine. 345 00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:09,280 Speaker 2: No, But I was giving her all the love. She 346 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:13,640 Speaker 2: didn't need help up getting wet herself. Great, she had 347 00:17:13,680 --> 00:17:15,480 Speaker 2: two nuggets in the house. But let me tell you, 348 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:20,399 Speaker 2: let me tell you I pick her up to go outside. 349 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:23,320 Speaker 2: She is on her way to the door, and she 350 00:17:23,440 --> 00:17:26,160 Speaker 2: dropped one right by the door, right out of the door, 351 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 2: and then one on her way, and then just dropped 352 00:17:28,800 --> 00:17:31,560 Speaker 2: one on the grass. So the effort was there. 353 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:32,959 Speaker 1: You know what. That's all you can ask for, if 354 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:34,640 Speaker 1: you think about it. And again, I'm bad at math, 355 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:35,600 Speaker 1: but I've had her. 356 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:40,360 Speaker 2: She's twelve thirteen, how old is she forty? 357 00:17:42,600 --> 00:17:44,879 Speaker 1: She's running the love with her? 358 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:49,280 Speaker 2: Oh, I didn't even tell you, not that ever. Not 359 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 2: very handy. You know, her feet are everywhere. She pooped 360 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:56,080 Speaker 2: in the corner, okay, and she can't get out of 361 00:17:56,119 --> 00:17:58,520 Speaker 2: the corner, and so I'm like going over to like 362 00:17:58,600 --> 00:17:59,400 Speaker 2: I'm sprinting. 363 00:17:59,680 --> 00:17:59,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. 364 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:05,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, she almost felt fell in her own ship. Oh no, 365 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 2: she saved herself. I didn't even have to do anything. 366 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:11,400 Speaker 1: You know what, though, I appreciate how much everyone has 367 00:18:11,480 --> 00:18:14,560 Speaker 1: rallied to take care of her, because she took care 368 00:18:14,600 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 1: of me in like my deepest, darkest moment. She's done 369 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:22,199 Speaker 1: with me, though, Yes, she has been riding like a 370 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:25,399 Speaker 1: real one from the jump. And then I feel like 371 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:27,920 Speaker 1: I abandoned her once I had two children. She fell 372 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 1: to the back burner. I need to give her love. 373 00:18:31,680 --> 00:18:33,760 Speaker 1: But you and Mom have really stepped up, and I 374 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:34,200 Speaker 1: appreciate it. 375 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:39,879 Speaker 2: But she's great, and she is eating well good well 376 00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:41,359 Speaker 2: well so lillo. 377 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 1: She a big old underscore, just Ashley Marie underscore. How 378 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 1: do you manage to stay so confident even after becoming 379 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:53,240 Speaker 1: a mom? Asking as a mom of two. 380 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:59,480 Speaker 2: Great almost ever? 381 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:02,120 Speaker 1: Sometimes I look at them and I'm like, you, guys 382 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 1: could pay me a compliment, that'd be cool. I'd like that. 383 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:06,840 Speaker 2: I feel like all of our family is like that, 384 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:10,480 Speaker 2: Like Mom wants us to We all need work, and 385 00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:12,000 Speaker 2: none of us do it because we're like, fuck you, 386 00:19:12,000 --> 00:19:12,919 Speaker 2: you're not giving them to me. 387 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:17,480 Speaker 1: I know it's a give and take. Honestly, Ashley Marie, 388 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 1: I fake it. I truly fake it. 389 00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:22,119 Speaker 2: Fake it till you make it, and once you make it, 390 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:22,879 Speaker 2: keep faking it. 391 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:25,320 Speaker 1: No, Like when People's I came onto the screen season 392 00:19:25,320 --> 00:19:27,800 Speaker 1: four and everyone's like, she's so confident. I'm like, coming, 393 00:19:28,760 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 1: I don't know who you're talking about. I literally could 394 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: not be more insecure. I want to hide in a corner. 395 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:37,360 Speaker 1: But if I show my weakness. These people pray on. 396 00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:42,440 Speaker 2: The Week Vulture Vulture, right, yes, they just waws out. 397 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 1: Circle waiting for me to fall down and look like 398 00:19:45,640 --> 00:19:48,639 Speaker 1: I'm dying. It ain't gonna happen on my watch. It 399 00:19:48,760 --> 00:19:52,119 Speaker 1: is not gonna happen on my watch. Honestly, take a 400 00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 1: hot photo, even if you have to edit it and 401 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:58,000 Speaker 1: look at it. Sometimes I do that. No, no, I'm 402 00:19:58,040 --> 00:20:00,840 Speaker 1: not post it, Okay, just like look at it and 403 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:01,399 Speaker 1: be like, you know what. 404 00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:04,800 Speaker 2: I saw this editing thing like that you could get 405 00:20:04,880 --> 00:20:06,959 Speaker 2: and was on Instagram and like this girl takes a 406 00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 2: picture and like torture whole body. I was like, oh 407 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:14,000 Speaker 2: my god, well yeah, not even by women, Like I 408 00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:16,159 Speaker 2: could get in there and give myself some muscles, and 409 00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:18,240 Speaker 2: then when you see me, you're like, what is this 410 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:20,960 Speaker 2: pit bull that I thought I was meeting? He's a chihuahuah. 411 00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:28,800 Speaker 1: But everyone loves though the El Green says, which of 412 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:32,320 Speaker 1: your former Slash current castmates hate when people ask for pictures? 413 00:20:32,320 --> 00:20:36,359 Speaker 1: Slash spot them out. My number one I think would 414 00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:40,560 Speaker 1: be Jax Taylor. I think he pretends to be annoyed, 415 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,120 Speaker 1: but he also loves like at the same time loves 416 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:50,520 Speaker 1: the attention. Stacy she it depends on the day. I 417 00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:54,280 Speaker 1: think for the most part she would be cool. But 418 00:20:54,320 --> 00:20:55,840 Speaker 1: I think there are times where she's like, I just 419 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:58,040 Speaker 1: want to like be left alone, don't come up to me. 420 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:01,800 Speaker 1: I'm just like kicking it with my kids. Totally understandable. 421 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 1: And then the James can become kind of a dick. 422 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:10,680 Speaker 1: I think he's Katie sometimes gets annoyed as well. 423 00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 2: I think James and zah Er Jacks are in like 424 00:21:13,160 --> 00:21:15,199 Speaker 2: the same boat of life. Yeah, they love it, but 425 00:21:15,320 --> 00:21:17,120 Speaker 2: like I'm too big for it. 426 00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:19,600 Speaker 1: Right, They're like so fucking annoying. I'm like, well, these 427 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:22,879 Speaker 1: people are literally the reason why you're where you are. 428 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 2: It's almost like I think, like, I'm too big for 429 00:21:25,520 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 2: you to come up to me, but where's my security 430 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,000 Speaker 2: to protect me. Well, you're in the middle of it, 431 00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:32,959 Speaker 2: so get ready, buddy, you're going to be coming up 432 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:35,920 Speaker 2: on you got security, right, I don't. 433 00:21:35,760 --> 00:21:41,159 Speaker 1: Know it's it's a hit or miss, which I'm just 434 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:43,960 Speaker 1: gonna say. It could be the addiction. It could be 435 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:46,680 Speaker 1: completely different. Now if you've got two people who are 436 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:50,760 Speaker 1: sober and they're not coming down coming off. 437 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:55,880 Speaker 2: Well, seeing you know, an ex that you know you had, 438 00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:00,359 Speaker 2: and then like seeing Jack's and like actually him trying 439 00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:02,800 Speaker 2: to better himself and things like that, Like you can 440 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:07,920 Speaker 2: tell that that addiction makes you irritable as fuck. Yeah, 441 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:11,159 Speaker 2: I've seen it. Yes, firsthand, we didn't know what was 442 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:15,080 Speaker 2: going on, but yeah, but now to see it, it's 443 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:18,880 Speaker 2: like move, move, move, irritable, irritable, irritable. If you're irritable, 444 00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 2: we have to do something else. 445 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:21,480 Speaker 1: Because I went to the bathroom and now you're in 446 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,200 Speaker 1: a great mood. That's kind of weird. But I think 447 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:26,760 Speaker 1: you just have a lot of energy. This is strange. Wow, 448 00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:27,080 Speaker 1: I know. 449 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:28,960 Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, I just need to make. 450 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:30,960 Speaker 1: Much older than so much. 451 00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,840 Speaker 2: I was energy. God, he's just smelling money and he's 452 00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:35,880 Speaker 2: just got energy. It's crazy money. 453 00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:37,200 Speaker 1: It was so naive. 454 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:42,160 Speaker 2: Wow. Right coming from Utah, I wasn't like just kicking 455 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:45,040 Speaker 2: it with coke heads. I was smoking pot and then 456 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:47,280 Speaker 2: I meet this guy and he's got energy. I was like, 457 00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 2: fucking la the money, the money get you going? Like, 458 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:54,679 Speaker 2: how could you not like waking up getting in your 459 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:57,720 Speaker 2: rolls Royce, It's like, how could you not just wake 460 00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:00,600 Speaker 2: up high? But come to find out he was waking 461 00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:06,199 Speaker 2: up high than high, then high, but irritable back to 462 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,680 Speaker 2: the point irritable and that could change for photos. 463 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:12,600 Speaker 1: Yes, I would say the most gracious people for sure, 464 00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:13,400 Speaker 1: Well thank you. 465 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:17,120 Speaker 2: I really am saying that like you Sheena for sure, 466 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:23,520 Speaker 2: I think Shina is Sheena loves it, Sena loves it. 467 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:25,679 Speaker 2: But I also will say, even being with Sena and 468 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:27,720 Speaker 2: even being with you, if I didn't even know you, 469 00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:32,520 Speaker 2: it's because I am the same way. We don't have 470 00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:36,919 Speaker 2: inviting personalities or auras. Like when you look at us, 471 00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 2: you're not like they're inviting. Let me go say hello. 472 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 1: Yeah. 473 00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:44,479 Speaker 2: Sheena is like very easy to come up to, and 474 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:48,159 Speaker 2: I think that's why, But you don't like it's just 475 00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:50,199 Speaker 2: the way you are. I think more people would come 476 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:52,160 Speaker 2: up to you. When we were in what's it called, 477 00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:54,800 Speaker 2: I don't know, Palm Springs and that girl came up 478 00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,880 Speaker 2: to us at frieda woman and Frida's and she was like, hey, 479 00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:59,359 Speaker 2: I don't want to bother you, but I love you, 480 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,159 Speaker 2: and she just walked away. Yeah, you know like I 481 00:24:02,200 --> 00:24:04,159 Speaker 2: feel like that to her was going to be crazy 482 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:07,439 Speaker 2: because the area you put off and everybody see this bitch, 483 00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:11,760 Speaker 2: come and say hello, Come and come and say hello, 484 00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 2: get a photo. She's all about it. 485 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:17,639 Speaker 1: Orals underscore, Oh says how to say spicy and be 486 00:24:17,680 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 1: a mom first baby, feel pressure to be more reserved, 487 00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:24,040 Speaker 1: but I'm a spicy bitch with a chili. I say, 488 00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:24,760 Speaker 1: be spicy. 489 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:27,680 Speaker 2: No, that's what you want to be. A mom and spicy, 490 00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:28,800 Speaker 2: you can be both. 491 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,320 Speaker 1: Don't deny yourself who you are just because you become 492 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,359 Speaker 1: a mom does not mean, like I think, if you 493 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:37,520 Speaker 1: became a mom and you suddenly got like, became reserved, 494 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:40,159 Speaker 1: be reserved. Don't deny yourself that there's gonna be a 495 00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:42,200 Speaker 1: day where like the hormones level out. I don't know 496 00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:44,200 Speaker 1: how long that freaking takes, but I don't think you 497 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 1: should deny yourself who you are. 498 00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:48,480 Speaker 2: Who you are in that moment. Yeah. 499 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:54,960 Speaker 1: And by the way, I don't intentionally think about, uh, 500 00:24:55,000 --> 00:24:57,320 Speaker 1: like should I wear this? Should I not? It's just 501 00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: something that happened to me. I don't particularly enjoy it. 502 00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,159 Speaker 1: I would like my spice back. I would like to 503 00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:07,640 Speaker 1: be unfiltered like I used to be. 504 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:10,399 Speaker 2: Be grateful you're in the position to have kids and 505 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:12,240 Speaker 2: still still be spicy. 506 00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:15,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, and still, I say rocket, don't feel pressure to 507 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:17,719 Speaker 1: be more reserved exactly. 508 00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:19,760 Speaker 2: And if you feel bad about it, all you got 509 00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:21,880 Speaker 2: to do is look them and go, I'm sorry, I'm spicy. 510 00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:24,680 Speaker 2: I don't know why. And now be spicy. You you've 511 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:25,280 Speaker 2: cleared the air. 512 00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:28,280 Speaker 1: I like spice. What's your favorite and least favorite vacation 513 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:31,080 Speaker 1: slash trips you went on for vander pump Roules. This 514 00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:35,399 Speaker 1: is the easiest. Uh. San Francisco. Hated it, hated it, 515 00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:39,080 Speaker 1: hated it hated all of season eleven. Cried every single day, 516 00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:41,600 Speaker 1: didn't want to film, didn't want to be there, didn't 517 00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:50,480 Speaker 1: want to do anything. It was torture. So now I 518 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:54,040 Speaker 1: can finally say it hated it. 519 00:25:54,160 --> 00:25:56,520 Speaker 2: Well, it's crazy to see like all of these other 520 00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:58,440 Speaker 2: reality TV shows going to like. 521 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,359 Speaker 1: But by the way, why it was fun? We know, 522 00:26:03,440 --> 00:26:05,520 Speaker 1: but we we had like really nice. 523 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 2: Lot Emmy, sorry up for an Emmy, and you guys 524 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:13,520 Speaker 2: you go to San Francisco. 525 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,040 Speaker 1: I think they just knew that the show was probably 526 00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:18,840 Speaker 1: there was nothing to work with. There was truly nothing 527 00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,560 Speaker 1: to work with. We're gonna take a bunch of people, 528 00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,880 Speaker 1: We're gonna drop mad money on a fantastic trip when 529 00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:27,199 Speaker 1: these people don't even want to be here, Get on 530 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:31,120 Speaker 1: a freaking puddle jumper, go to San Francisco, and let's 531 00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 1: call it if you're making it. 532 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:34,200 Speaker 2: Go. 533 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like I that day that we wrapped, 534 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,480 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm so happy. I cried that night, 535 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:48,679 Speaker 1: pure joy. I was like, it's over the day that 536 00:26:48,760 --> 00:26:52,280 Speaker 1: we started. I kept telling myself it'll be I just 537 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:54,480 Speaker 1: wanted over. I just want it over. And I'd look 538 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:56,080 Speaker 1: at how many days we had left. I'm like, oh 539 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 1: my god, we still have a fucking month. I can't 540 00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:58,840 Speaker 1: do it. I would sob them on and being like 541 00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:02,119 Speaker 1: I cannot do this. I cannot do this. When I 542 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,000 Speaker 1: would get days off, when they'd be like, we don't 543 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:08,280 Speaker 1: need you tomorrow, just the best day of it, I'm like, 544 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:11,320 Speaker 1: you have made my fucking day. Normally, when they're like 545 00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 1: you have a day off, I'm like, oh, that's a bummer. 546 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:15,879 Speaker 1: I love filming, not season eleven. Nope, give me all that. 547 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:17,719 Speaker 1: Do you want to just cut me now? Like, I'm 548 00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:20,080 Speaker 1: totally fine with that. You can take the check, don't care, 549 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:23,040 Speaker 1: have it, bye, don't care, good check. 550 00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,120 Speaker 2: I don't even need my last page, just have it. 551 00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,440 Speaker 2: Take it. I'll give one shit. I'm not coming into 552 00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:30,800 Speaker 2: the office to pick up that check. 553 00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:34,520 Speaker 1: The other one that was really rough was uh, season 554 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:39,119 Speaker 1: seven when Dad died and I hadn't been favor and 555 00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,440 Speaker 1: I went to Mexico and got wasted and everyone thought 556 00:27:41,440 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 1: I had done molly or ecstasy or whatever the drug 557 00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:46,120 Speaker 1: is that makes you want people to touch you. 558 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:47,520 Speaker 2: No, that just called your dad dying. 559 00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 1: No, this is called the Sunday Scaries. And I'm having 560 00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,879 Speaker 1: such bad anxiety that I need someone to punch me 561 00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,199 Speaker 1: in the face to make me think about you punching 562 00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:56,960 Speaker 1: me in the face and not how I want to 563 00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:57,760 Speaker 1: crawl out of my. 564 00:27:57,720 --> 00:27:59,400 Speaker 2: Own skin, make me feel something real. 565 00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,440 Speaker 1: Well, because I I hadn't been drinking. My dad died, 566 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,680 Speaker 1: and then I deep dive into the bottle drinking morning 567 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:08,800 Speaker 1: until night. It was absolutely horrible. Yeah, it was horrible. Yeah, 568 00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:10,000 Speaker 1: the worst time of my life. 569 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:11,720 Speaker 2: And that's the thing like back in the day, I 570 00:28:11,760 --> 00:28:13,520 Speaker 2: really will say, like, I think I've always had a 571 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:16,000 Speaker 2: drinking problem. I think it's always been there, Yes, okay, 572 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:20,000 Speaker 2: but I really like when Dad was alive, I never drank. 573 00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 2: I'm literally thinking about it. And the only times I 574 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:26,560 Speaker 2: would get absolutely obliterated. Yeah is that your hard rock 575 00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,440 Speaker 2: event or other events where we would do that. Other 576 00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:31,480 Speaker 2: than that, I would he have to glass of wine 577 00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:36,399 Speaker 2: with Dad. And after that, boy, oh boy, after I 578 00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:39,080 Speaker 2: found him, it was seagrims with a twist of lime. 579 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:43,720 Speaker 1: Oh, damn Nike headache. You guys. I hope you enjoyed 580 00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:47,440 Speaker 1: the episode of the bonus. Thank you for writing in 581 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:50,920 Speaker 1: your questions. I hope I gave you impeccable answers. We'll 582 00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:54,800 Speaker 1: catch you on Wednesday for the regular episode and next 583 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:56,600 Speaker 1: week for the bonus. 584 00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:57,000 Speaker 2: Bye.