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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hi ladies, Hi, Hi, who wants to just hop right in?

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Speaker 1: I get a whine about it, but we're gonna wait.

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Speaker 2: So I think, can I get.

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Speaker 1: Like a wine day? That seems depressing, But.

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Speaker 2: You know it's so funny, is we were we were

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Speaker 2: on the phone chatting about Oh no, you texted the

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Speaker 2: whole group. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, well kat oh, I

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Speaker 2: just love you guys so much. We're really I think

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Speaker 2: we're all just really trying to navigate December.

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Speaker 1: What happened? No, I just thought it was cute.

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Speaker 2: Because I was coming on the chat to just like,

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Speaker 2: you know, to say what I wanted to say to

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Speaker 2: you guys. And then I was like, I'm gonna pin

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Speaker 2: all of it. So I moved that whole text over

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Speaker 2: to my notes and just pinned it. And then I

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Speaker 2: was like that, and then I started making marks next

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Speaker 2: to things that would be an overshare and then I

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Speaker 2: might regret later. You mean, like everything, Wait, was I on?

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Speaker 1: Was I on the text? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: So then you before or you even knew, you would

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Speaker 2: have no way of knowing I did that. You said

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Speaker 2: I have something I need to talk about, and then

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Speaker 2: you go never mind, I'm saving for the podcast. And

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Speaker 2: I was like, that's my girl. Okay, so you've got

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Speaker 2: something too, I do, and it's a wine it is okay,

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Speaker 2: let me think of a host Charlie Fast Wait, guys,

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Speaker 2: I say there's a suite. This is very shout out specific.

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Speaker 2: I won't say her last name. But I didn't realize

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Speaker 2: that people are binging us that have just found this podcast,

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Speaker 2: and it feels so cozy to me. So Lauren has

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Speaker 2: been dedicated to all of Wine Down and she is

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Speaker 2: almost caught up, I know. And she said, I don't

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Speaker 2: know what I'm gonna have to do when I have

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Speaker 2: to wait a week. Oh that's so sat and I

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Speaker 2: love that. So Lauren, I love you, and I think you're.

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Speaker 1: That's the way I would do it, like TV. I

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Speaker 1: love it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's been ging it all. Yeah, I thought it

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Speaker 2: was really cute. So I get about why. I just randomly,

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Speaker 2: you know, our social girl. She'll send you know, follows

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Speaker 2: and whatever, and a lot of times it's very much

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Speaker 2: like three thousand follows, three thousand unfollows, you know. So

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Speaker 2: it's like there's no real true game. I couldn't know

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Speaker 2: those things right. Well, the funnest. I was like, I

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Speaker 2: wonder what it's been like in the last ninety days,

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Speaker 2: and it was like twelve thousand unfollows for forty thousand follows.

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Speaker 2: So I'm like, okay, you know, so it's but it's

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Speaker 2: one of those things where I we lose, so we

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Speaker 2: are getting, we are gaining, Yeah, listeners that can to

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Speaker 2: to you know, to hear us or whatever. And the

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Speaker 2: last week's episode, I can't you guys so much joy

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Speaker 2: because of all when they kept saying I'm a Catherine,

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Speaker 2: I'm a Christen, I'm a Jana in the group, and

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Speaker 2: like this has been like oh Catherine's face talking about

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Speaker 2: sexual stuff. And then even Alan so funny he walked

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Speaker 2: in he goes REPG. So it's like and it's I

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Speaker 2: always know, it's really funny to me. The ones that

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Speaker 2: he listens to, like when he sees the clip that

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Speaker 2: you know funny, Yeah, President, I actually a download, thanks babe.

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Speaker 2: He goes Yesterday's in the living your and he goes, well, baby,

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Speaker 2: you're just you're sharing a lot. I'm down, And I said,

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Speaker 2: just tumble, little baby. I can't tumble hush, You're going

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Speaker 2: to get.

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Speaker 1: Any comfortableness in my face and my laugh and everything

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Speaker 1: about that. I just was dying laughing all over again.

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Speaker 2: I had the mcdeale moment where you just opened up

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Speaker 2: that door and jump if you wanted out the thing.

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Speaker 1: It's so funny about all of that. I was thinking.

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Speaker 1: I was like, it all makes me so uncomfortable that

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Speaker 1: like no one would ever know truly, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean, Like no one would never know if I

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Speaker 1: wasn't gee you know what I mean? Because you are

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Speaker 1: makes me so uncomfortable. I would never talk about it.

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Speaker 1: And that's actually gave me a lot of satisfaction watching that,

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Speaker 1: because the truth is is I just don't like to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like a lady in the streets the sheep.

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying. It just really made me laugh because

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Speaker 1: I was like, no one will ever know.

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Speaker 2: Okay, anything you want to share.

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Speaker 1: No wed from that conversation.

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Speaker 2: But I do, you know, as the your ends, and

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Speaker 2: we'll have more of a you know, a the appreciation

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Speaker 2: piece with the podcast, but you know we do. It's

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Speaker 2: fun to make people laugh and then have the the

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Speaker 2: deep combos too, which we really cover, which we really

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Speaker 1: It is definitely my favorite to be the I'm I'm

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Speaker 1: the Catherine, I'm the Jana. It's just so fun because

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Speaker 1: that's what's so great about us. We all have such

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Speaker 1: different personalities and.

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Speaker 2: We hold our man that way, which I like, like

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Speaker 2: we can agree, we can also just disagree, which I like.

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Speaker 1: I wonder what the roller coasters like binging it though, Oh, it's.

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Speaker 2: Because I had another husband, like the urn, because that's

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Speaker 2: a train wreck. So spoilers spoiler alerts. It's not a

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Speaker 2: train wreck. What it was is a beautiful vulnerability. That

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Speaker 2: is the one thing I think you've taught me. I've

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Speaker 2: said it before, but you the way you own in

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Speaker 2: the past and your drive for love I think is

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Speaker 2: so admirable. And it just like it lets people also

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Speaker 2: feel those things and say those things out loud, so

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Speaker 2: you should not it was not a train wreck. Well,

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Speaker 2: I think what's intriguing? This is better co host than him.

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Speaker 2: But yes, I will say one thing. I will Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I will defend my ex husband in this. He was

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Speaker 2: really good with guests. He had really great guest questions.

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Speaker 2: I'm in the table, my comment, go ahead, Well go

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Speaker 2: for it.

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Speaker 1: Oh now I'm curious.

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Speaker 2: Oh, he's good with guests all over today we'll probably

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Speaker 2: got it. It's fine, but I will say like that

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Speaker 2: is where like he was a good interviewee.

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Speaker 1: Sure, Yeah, I thought he was great on the podcast.

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Speaker 1: I truly did. Yeah, and this is coming from you

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Speaker 1: know I I truly thought he was great on it.

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Speaker 1: I think he was. He's good with people, he's good

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Speaker 1: at speaking, you know, all of those things. What was

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Speaker 1: hard it was knowing when y'all hated each other so much,

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Speaker 2: It is interesting though. And I had a very introspectful

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Speaker 2: like here's your memories the last you know, and it's

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Speaker 2: So now I'm forty two and I think about where

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Speaker 2: It's like and I know that's kind of saying two things.

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Speaker 2: But then I've done so many things. But then I

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Speaker 2: also have paused life for you know, a decade with

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Speaker 2: at home mom part of life, and all of those

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Speaker 2: but it also is like, well, shoot, can you start

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Speaker 2: So it's such a it's like a oh, whoa, whoa whoa,

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Speaker 2: But that whole movie was about essentially like you know

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Speaker 2: still be grateful for those experiences and not be sad

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Speaker 2: to not be where I want to be. So I

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Speaker 2: think that's the piece too, where it's like even my husband,

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Speaker 2: Instead of being sad, it's like holding space for like

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Speaker 2: I'm not where I want to be. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: what what I'm supposed to do. He's like, because I

432
00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:34,959
Speaker 2: don't know where the sheets are. And I go, well,

433
00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:37,159
Speaker 2: this is a really fun fact, man. I go every

434
00:20:37,520 --> 00:20:43,160
Speaker 2: room as a basket and it's labeled sheets. So I said,

435
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,879
Speaker 2: what happens is is I then take those sheets. He's like, well,

436
00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:46,800
Speaker 2: how do I know which one sheets?

437
00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 1: I go.

438
00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 2: They're all color coordinated, I said, which is great. So

439
00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:53,040
Speaker 2: it's like they're all the same color, all the same pillowcases.

440
00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:54,639
Speaker 2: I said, So you take those sheets and you just

441
00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:57,320
Speaker 2: plup them on their bed, you know. So I'm like,

442
00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:01,000
Speaker 2: that's I guess it just doesn't actually get any easier

443
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:01,480
Speaker 2: than that.

444
00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,399
Speaker 1: And that's the thing. And then I started thinking it

445
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:06,359
Speaker 1: would have gotten done in the sense that the cleaners

446
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:08,040
Speaker 1: would have come and it would have been clean ish,

447
00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 1: but like, I want it better. I think that's my thing.

448
00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:14,760
Speaker 1: Like there are certain things where I'm like, it just

449
00:21:14,880 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 1: is what it is, and that's fine and it's no

450
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:18,480
Speaker 1: big deal. But then there are certain things where I'm like, no,

451
00:21:18,520 --> 00:21:20,280
Speaker 1: I think it just needs to be better. A very

452
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 1: good example was also while I was gone, oh sorry.

453
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:27,879
Speaker 2: When KK is in these moods, it gave me life.

454
00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:31,359
Speaker 1: I explained to him something that has always been the

455
00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:33,480
Speaker 1: case about when Ramsey goes to bed and when she

456
00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:36,640
Speaker 1: puts herself away, and the response was, you're just better

457
00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:40,560
Speaker 1: at this than I am. And I was like, I

458
00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,720
Speaker 1: think that's supposed to be a compliment, not what I

459
00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:46,560
Speaker 1: want to hear. It's not about being better. Just do it, Like,

460
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:50,440
Speaker 1: just do I know what the thing is? Like I don't.

461
00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:53,760
Speaker 1: I don't I but I don't get it nothing. He

462
00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:56,000
Speaker 1: didn't respond, yeah, because I think he probably felt like

463
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:59,159
Speaker 1: I wanted to fight, because sometimes I do, but truthfully,

464
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,280
Speaker 1: I just want it to be done right.

465
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:06,920
Speaker 2: And I also just don't like, oh I'm deciding to

466
00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 2: whether I'm saying this.

467
00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,159
Speaker 1: I mean, I just attacked my husband for about twenty No, no, no,

468
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:11,919
Speaker 1: it's not that.

469
00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 2: It's not to diminish so I'm gonna save. I'm just

470
00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:17,879
Speaker 2: gonna say I have worked my ass off my entire life.

471
00:22:17,960 --> 00:22:22,760
Speaker 2: I worked through college. I built a resume that was

472
00:22:22,800 --> 00:22:27,840
Speaker 2: so epic, you know, And and I decided, we as

473
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:33,120
Speaker 2: a family, decided to table that so that I could

474
00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:36,040
Speaker 2: do I could steward well the gifts inside of our house.

475
00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:39,639
Speaker 2: And I everyone knows that I love and enjoy that responsibility.

476
00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:45,879
Speaker 2: And I also deserve the respect that I'm not made

477
00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:49,360
Speaker 2: like this isn't I'm not. I didn't do all that

478
00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:51,639
Speaker 2: so that I could throw away a string cheese wrapper

479
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 2: that it's literally above the garbage can because you couldn't

480
00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:57,239
Speaker 2: open the garbage can. Like that's not it's just not

481
00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 2: fair to me. So it's like disrespectful. It's how I

482
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:02,000
Speaker 2: always feel. It feels like you don't value me, and

483
00:23:02,040 --> 00:23:06,960
Speaker 2: that is the bigger feeling. And that's why I'm psycho.

484
00:23:07,560 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 2: Is not psycho, it's just going like are you kidding me?

485
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:14,000
Speaker 2: Is this really? Like? No one else it goes wow.

486
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 2: You know, Like I remember doctor Phil said something decades ago.

487
00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:20,800
Speaker 2: I've always been an og doctor Philler, and this is

488
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,880
Speaker 2: literally I was probably like in my twenties. He said,

489
00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:24,680
Speaker 2: if you wake up in the morning as a husband

490
00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:26,960
Speaker 2: and you say how can I make my wife's day better?

491
00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:28,600
Speaker 2: And the wife wakes up in the morning and says,

492
00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:30,440
Speaker 2: how can I make my husband's day better? You are

493
00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:31,480
Speaker 2: bound for greatness.

494
00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:32,840
Speaker 1: Yeah.

495
00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 2: All I want to do is just have people wake

496
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:36,880
Speaker 2: up and go like I'm always thinking how I can

497
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:37,600
Speaker 2: make their day better?

498
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:39,199
Speaker 1: Yeah, who's thinking about me?

499
00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:42,760
Speaker 2: I know Preston brust is. I know he is. I

500
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:45,600
Speaker 2: know he is, and it's in different ways, in different languages.

501
00:23:45,760 --> 00:23:48,000
Speaker 2: And but I have never been really an act of

502
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:49,680
Speaker 2: service gal and maybe I'm just turning into one.

503
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:50,440
Speaker 1: Maybe it's changing.

504
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 2: I think what I do appreciate Catherine, what you're saying though, too,

505
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:55,040
Speaker 2: and I totally hear what you're saying as well, KB.

506
00:23:55,160 --> 00:24:00,720
Speaker 2: But with you asked him days ahead of time, put calendar.

507
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:03,280
Speaker 2: I think that's the part where it's like I don't

508
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,240
Speaker 2: know how else I could have. It's like I don't

509
00:24:05,280 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 2: feel seen, I feel heard, and that peace as a

510
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 2: woman it's like I've already said, it's not like you were.

511
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:13,760
Speaker 2: You weren't making Nick read his mind, read your mind,

512
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 2: and that's the death that we have all done as women.

513
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:20,280
Speaker 2: Read my mind for what I need to happen right now. Okay,

514
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 2: so my husband actually didn't know. He's like, well, the

515
00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 2: maids back in Scotland, in England, they put everything away,

516
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:27,840
Speaker 2: so that's I was like, okay, well, that's not how

517
00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 2: it is here. That's how it's never been for the

518
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:32,400
Speaker 2: last two years of you living here, which is why

519
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 2: you know so, but now you know, so maybe there'll

520
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:40,600
Speaker 2: be something you know. But with you, it's like you

521
00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 2: you he Nick knows this, you know, and you gave

522
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:47,359
Speaker 2: him reminders. And that's the part as women where we

523
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 2: go to, I gave you reminders. Now you didn't even acknowledge.

524
00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 2: Now I feel disrespected, I don't feel seen, I don't

525
00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 2: feel heard, and now I'm frustrated. So it's kind of

526
00:24:57,119 --> 00:25:00,400
Speaker 2: frustrating that then they'll maybe get upset about a reaction. Yes,

527
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 2: because hello, we have then a right to be frustrated

528
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 2: that we have set it up so beautifully in this

529
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 2: lovely package for you.

530
00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:11,120
Speaker 1: Yep. Yeah, and it's not like I usually don't. I mean,

531
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 1: I usually have them help me. But I guess the

532
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 1: reality is I do the majority of it, you know.

533
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 1: So then it's like, and that's fine.

534
00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 2: We like our we like to actually put things away

535
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 2: where they actually go.

536
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,000
Speaker 1: Right, But I just I want everyone to help me.

537
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:23,359
Speaker 2: I do.

538
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 1: I want everyone to help me, and they did.

539
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 2: Then it's not all on us. That's why I keep

540
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:28,919
Speaker 2: telling them a little compound interest.

541
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,440
Speaker 1: I'm not even that picky, but maybe that's why I've

542
00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: gotten it to this point too. You know, part of

543
00:25:33,560 --> 00:25:34,760
Speaker 1: me looks at it. I'm like, Okay, I do kind

544
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 1: of clean up after them, or I don't make them all.

545
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:37,600
Speaker 1: I mean, I make them clean their rooms. I do

546
00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:40,359
Speaker 1: they do chores stuff like that. But like I'm like,

547
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: we're going to have to just like start over. I

548
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: don't know my kids are hold Like, I don't even

549
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:47,360
Speaker 1: know at this point. No, But anyway, so I came

550
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:49,879
Speaker 1: home to that and I literally cleaned while the cleaning

551
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 1: ladies were there when I was tired when I got home,

552
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:54,320
Speaker 1: and I was just not very happy about it.

553
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:58,200
Speaker 2: Well, girl, that is an amazing wine. And I feel

554
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 2: validated in my because I was again made to feel

555
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:04,200
Speaker 2: like just such an ungrateful Yeah, personally, and.

556
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 1: I know we go a little crazy, but also like

557
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:06,880
Speaker 1: just help.

558
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but we're not going together. We're not going

559
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:12,199
Speaker 2: crazy for no reason. That's always my thing. I'm not

560
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 2: just flying off the handle being a psycho. Right, I

561
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 2: know this, And this is what I told Alan to

562
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:21,720
Speaker 2: and you know, you know the kiddos, it's actually Mommy's

563
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:25,080
Speaker 2: not upset that she's cleaning. It's how Mommy feels about

564
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 2: not being understood or seen in this moment. So it's

565
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 2: not about the cleaning. I don't mind cleaning. I love cleaning, right,

566
00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:34,199
Speaker 2: It's that I am feeling like it's all falling on

567
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 2: my shoulders, which then makes me feel disrespected, not seen. Yeah,

568
00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 2: and not appreciating that.

569
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:40,919
Speaker 1: I don't do well with feeling like it's all on

570
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 1: my shoulders. Yeah, I definitely I acknowledge that. And some

571
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 1: women do some women actually enjoy that. I mean, I

572
00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: don't know if they enjoy it, but I do have

573
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 1: friends that like choose for it more to be that way.

574
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,639
Speaker 1: That's never been us, that's never been our relationship. We've

575
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 1: you know, that's just not how we work.

576
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:03,399
Speaker 2: So to start now, Wow, a New Year's resolution for

577
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 2: the family. Yeah, would you like to? I got ghosted

578
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 2: by my cleaning ladies, so I don't know.

579
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:11,679
Speaker 1: I had some valuable feedback.

580
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:15,199
Speaker 2: I don't know if we're going to be together. It

581
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:17,640
Speaker 2: was a wild time. She used the microwave but didn't

582
00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 2: clean it. Isn't that weird?

583
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:20,959
Speaker 1: I mean, I've had complaints about all of my complete

584
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:22,400
Speaker 1: I almost texted you to ask.

585
00:27:22,280 --> 00:27:27,879
Speaker 2: For yeah now, but you know, will they ever do

586
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:28,159
Speaker 2: it that?

587
00:27:28,359 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 1: You know?

588
00:27:28,960 --> 00:27:30,960
Speaker 2: We are right? We're well. I just thought it was weird.

589
00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:35,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, a strange thing to use one's microwave, considering

590
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,600
Speaker 2: you're probably only wants to use it. Creamer, what's your wine?

591
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 1: You know what?

592
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 2: It happened again on my birthday. But it wasn't It

593
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:47,199
Speaker 2: didn't involve it didn't involve us, so my wine. It

594
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:49,679
Speaker 2: was just it bothered me and I and I almost

595
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 2: wanted to say something to the person next to me,

596
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 2: which I didn't, but I wanted to. I have I

597
00:27:56,520 --> 00:28:01,080
Speaker 2: get really upset for so one, Like there was a

598
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 2: couple next to us at dinner that were clearly on

599
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 2: a date, husband and wife, probably been married. Let's just

600
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 2: say for a while, you know what I mean, Like

601
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:11,879
Speaker 2: I'm sure they've been married for a while. But the

602
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 2: amount of times that the husband took his phone out no,

603
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 2: during the date. And it's not like he was like

604
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:19,720
Speaker 2: and I was like, Okay, maybe he's a doctor, you

605
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:24,399
Speaker 2: know what I mean, maybe this is maybe it is

606
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 2: so I knows the cheeks was like he's right there,

607
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 2: and so I'm just like a lean back. He's just

608
00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:32,159
Speaker 2: on Instagram. No, you know what I mean, he's not

609
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 2: a doctor. Like no, And but like literally the amount

610
00:28:38,600 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 2: of times. And what I did then was I looked

611
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:43,200
Speaker 2: at the wife and the wife is just like, you know,

612
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 2: putting her head down, like looking away, but like it

613
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 2: made me sad, Like it makes me sad, and I

614
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 2: wanted to be like, dude, put your fucking phone down,

615
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:55,040
Speaker 2: and like why you're on a date with your wife? Like,

616
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 2: I don't know, it really bothers me? Does that bother

617
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 2: you guys? No? I just imagine Alan having a whine

618
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 2: about it. It was like I took jan out for birthday

619
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 2: dinner and all she did was he at the table,

620
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,200
Speaker 2: which is really bad to me. I'm really have a

621
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:09,600
Speaker 2: love I actually just have a hate hate with the phone.

622
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 2: I know that the phone is an essential piece of

623
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 2: our business, specifically with my husband. It is he doesn't

624
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,720
Speaker 2: have an office, he doesn't have a computer. This is

625
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 2: an hour and fifteen minutes so during a dinner. But

626
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 2: that's it. We just we're just be like, hey, sorry,

627
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:24,640
Speaker 2: I want to check make sure that the sitter is good,

628
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like I'll do that every

629
00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 2: once in a while, just to make sure that baby's down. Yeah,

630
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,400
Speaker 2: you know, but the just like scrolling in a date.

631
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 2: I don't cat.

632
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 1: I know you Like, I mean, I'm kind of bad

633
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 1: about it, so I can't say a whole lot, but it.

634
00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 1: Nick's not terrible at that. The kids can be, though,

635
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 1: And so I've started to notice that. I'm like, all right,

636
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 1: I'm talking to you and I and Emmy did point

637
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 1: out to me one time, she's like, you're not very

638
00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 1: good at either. I was like, you, you are so right,

639
00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 1: I'm not. I am trying to teach you so y'all

640
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 1: will be better at it. But like I need to

641
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,880
Speaker 1: be good too. But I have really started if I'm

642
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 1: even if she's on it already, because a lot of

643
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: time she'll already be on it and I'll start talking. Yeah,

644
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 1: She's like, but I was already doing something, and I

645
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,520
Speaker 1: was like, totally understand, So why don't you say, hey,

646
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 1: just give me one second, let me finish doing that,

647
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 1: and then put it down. So I'm trying to teach

648
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 1: them to do better, and I am trying when people

649
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 1: are talking to me to do better. But if we're

650
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 1: just like sitting there, I am bad at scrolling. Even

651
00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 1: on a date, I try not to be Oh god,

652
00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 1: it's been so long since we've even been on a date.

653
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 2: I feel like, oh, when's the last date night you've had?

654
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:27,480
Speaker 1: A wedding? That was all we've definitely had.

655
00:30:27,720 --> 00:30:30,360
Speaker 2: Oh well yeah, yeah, but one.

656
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been a while.

657
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 2: It's been a long time for us.

658
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 1: I mean dinner, you know, like when the kids aren't home,

659
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 1: like we'll just run and get dinner. But it doesn't

660
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 1: feel like I can, you know. But I do try

661
00:30:39,480 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 1: to do better at it. But if like we're both

662
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 1: like not in a conversation, I think we'll kind of

663
00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:46,760
Speaker 1: naturally just pick it up sometimes and then just kind

664
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:47,720
Speaker 1: of naturally put it down.

665
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 2: Like I'm good for silence when it's at like if

666
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 2: we're in a date or whatever. Yeah, but if it's

667
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,960
Speaker 2: like a prolonged silence, I start to go really heady,

668
00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 2: and I'm like, do we not have anything to talk about?

669
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 2: Like you know that is so you I'm like, why

670
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 2: is what do we even talk about? Like is it

671
00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 2: not interested in one? Like yeah, I don't know.

672
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: I just think keep run out of things to talk about. See.

673
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 2: That's where I'm like, That's how I feel sometimes, I

674
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 2: totally because we just talk five day when things talk,

675
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:17,360
Speaker 2: when things happen, I think, yeah, see, and we're never

676
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 2: going to run out because we never see each other.

677
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 1: Yeah maybe, And I mean truly, it's like a I

678
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:25,360
Speaker 1: text in the moment when anything happens, So once we

679
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 1: get to the end of the day, it's like it's like.

680
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 2: I love that you do that we already the kind of.

681
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just like a I don't know, just

682
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:34,800
Speaker 1: kind of a reaction, like we're not once to necessarily

683
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:36,479
Speaker 1: like call and talk on the phone if we're traveling

684
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, but I've texted him

685
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 1: everything that's happened that day, you know what I mean.

686
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 2: No, I think that Allen and I are not like

687
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:42,880
Speaker 2: that at all. Yeah.

688
00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 1: I started noticing that that's different from people. That's why

689
00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 1: I bring that up because I had pointed out with

690
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 1: some other like just cheer mom froms At one point,

691
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:52,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, you talked him at the end of

692
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 1: the day, and she's like, yeah, I'm updating them through

693
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 1: my day. I was like, oh, like I've you know's

694
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 1: everything that's happened today. Yeah, we kind of do. That's

695
00:31:58,200 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: kind of what we do.

696
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 2: And I'm like, can you believe you know, Like I

697
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 2: kinda yeah, but I don't. We also like I miss

698
00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,840
Speaker 2: really big pieces of his business and stuff because it's

699
00:32:07,880 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 2: moving so fast, and.

700
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: I do miss like business stuff. Now. We used to

701
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 1: talk about business stuff a lot, but we kind of

702
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:12,440
Speaker 1: like that.

703
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:14,800
Speaker 2: I love talking business with my husband.

704
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 1: I used to. I'm glad we don't as much anymore. Yeah,

705
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 1: it's aggervational business. So I'm just like, I don't even

706
00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:22,479
Speaker 1: want to know half the time. So now I think

707
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 1: it's just better that I just don't even know what's

708
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: going on a lot of the time because it'll frustrate me.

709
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 2: Business pressing is hot to me. Yeah, you know, like Preston, Preston,

710
00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:33,480
Speaker 2: I do need to do. We do like talking business, like, okay, data,

711
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:34,560
Speaker 2: tell me about that cod like if.

712
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 1: He has like a business thing or whatever. I'm like, ooh,

713
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 1: you should do this or that, Like I do love

714
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 1: that stuff to have a good brain. And so maybe

715
00:32:40,200 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 1: we would talk more about that on date night now

716
00:32:42,120 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 1: because we don't during the day.

717
00:32:44,360 --> 00:33:00,120
Speaker 2: I need a date night. Kimora Lee Simmons reacts. It's

718
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:03,960
Speaker 2: to shock of daughter Aoki Lee dating a man who

719
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 2: is forty four years older. So she's opening how she

720
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 2: really felt about her daughter twenty one then dated a

721
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:14,520
Speaker 2: sixty five year old back in twenty twenty four. She

722
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 2: tells the host on this podcast that she found it

723
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 2: predatorial but wants to let her daughter make her own mistakes.

724
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:25,000
Speaker 2: They recently were not recently, but they briefly spent time

725
00:33:25,040 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 2: together in twenty twenty four before parting ways. As a mom, ladies,

726
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 2: how would you handle that situation?

727
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 1: Did you say? Twenty one and sixty five?

728
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, forty four years apart?

729
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:42,960
Speaker 1: Wow? Wild, that's hard. I mean, what can you actually

730
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 1: do when they're a twenty one year old? Not much,

731
00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 1: but I can promise you I'm giving my opinion.

732
00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, do you think is an acceptable gap?

733
00:33:53,000 --> 00:33:55,239
Speaker 1: That's not it for me. I hate I mean, and

734
00:33:55,720 --> 00:34:00,840
Speaker 1: the come out I just I think a lot of

735
00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:03,400
Speaker 1: it is that you're still so close to eighteen, like

736
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:08,319
Speaker 1: you're not far removed from still being a child. So

737
00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: that does feel I'm sorry, I agree, it feels a

738
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:12,360
Speaker 1: little predatorial to me.

739
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:13,279
Speaker 2: Well think about it.

740
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:14,279
Speaker 1: We're gonna come with me for that.

741
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 2: But I have been born and I've lived to you

742
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 2: guys know me in this moment in forty four years.

743
00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.

744
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:23,480
Speaker 2: That is a huge that is eight I mean, he

745
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,359
Speaker 2: has kids, he's had, you know, grandkids.

746
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 1: It's hard. That's hard.

747
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:29,320
Speaker 2: That's a really big gap.

748
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:32,919
Speaker 1: Having said that, if my daughter said, I hear you,

749
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: I hear what you're saying, I still choose I would

750
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:39,240
Speaker 1: never cut anyone out. I would never not be kind,

751
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:40,800
Speaker 1: I would never not do any of those things. But

752
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:42,600
Speaker 1: I would definitely be very honest.

753
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, man, I thought my seventeen year gap

754
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:48,279
Speaker 2: was a Yeah, it was a big one. And then

755
00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:50,520
Speaker 2: you look at like, you know, David Foster and Katherine mcpee,

756
00:34:50,560 --> 00:34:54,160
Speaker 2: their difference is thirty four to thirty five years. But

757
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:57,319
Speaker 2: isn't she thirty something years old? Well, David Foster's seventy five,

758
00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 2: she's forty, So I don't know.

759
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:01,760
Speaker 1: Why that's also a little different. She just still feels

760
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:02,960
Speaker 1: so young at twenty one.

761
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's like it seems to me that

762
00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:07,879
Speaker 2: it would be easier. Like when I look at Catherine David,

763
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 2: I'm like, they're adorable together like that. It's yeah, so

764
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:13,799
Speaker 2: what it's thirty plus years, But when it's twenty one,

765
00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 2: I see, like that's tough. But I also understand that

766
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:20,480
Speaker 2: they have to make their own their own choices and decisions.

767
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:23,640
Speaker 2: But I would definitely voice my concern.

768
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 1: I mean there's a lot even past that. It's like,

769
00:35:27,480 --> 00:35:30,600
Speaker 1: you're still only twenty and they're gonna you know, I

770
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: mean children and getting old and there's just a lot

771
00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 1: there that will affect a life.

772
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:37,840
Speaker 2: There's still just such a baby.

773
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:39,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's tough.

774
00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 2: Marciano Brunette sues Secret Lives of Mormon wives dem after

775
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 2: sexual assault claims. So In the legal document obtained by

776
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:53,479
Speaker 2: US Weekly Our Friends February. On Friday, December fifth, vander

777
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:57,800
Speaker 2: pump Villas Starr said they that he was falsely described

778
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 2: as a sexual predator, allegations which he has damaged his reputation.

779
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 2: The legal team says basically that he insisted any physical

780
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:11,200
Speaker 2: interaction between them was consensual. So, guys, what does your

781
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 2: take on all this. Have you did you finish watching?

782
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,200
Speaker 1: I did not, Okay, I am up on like what's

783
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 1: going on with them or whatever though.

784
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 2: Because to me is very much like you know, and again,

785
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:24,279
Speaker 2: I think any woman feels scared to come out than

786
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:27,719
Speaker 2: to not be believed in this situation. So that's that's

787
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:30,400
Speaker 2: where it's just like, so they had, but also I

788
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 2: get someone's if it wasn't sorry, you know what I mean,

789
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 2: because then it also does ruin people's reputation too.

790
00:36:36,640 --> 00:36:39,400
Speaker 1: And now we just you know, it's so hard because

791
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:42,400
Speaker 1: once something is said on any way, it kind of

792
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 1: just gets taken. And I've never been a fan of

793
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,399
Speaker 1: like suing for things. I'm just like, we're so soue

794
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 1: happy now, but how else do you kind of clear

795
00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:52,360
Speaker 1: your name in situations?

796
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:52,640
Speaker 2: Now?

797
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 1: You know, that's kind of your only way sometimes.

798
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:57,960
Speaker 2: Are they the two I might be getting my Mormon

799
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 2: wives confused? Are they the two that had they the

800
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:04,279
Speaker 2: fair alleged affair. No, that was Jesse and Marciano. Okay,

801
00:37:04,320 --> 00:37:08,440
Speaker 2: thank you to May apparently also had kissed, but she

802
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:11,480
Speaker 2: said that there was some unwanted touch as well, and

803
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,799
Speaker 2: Marciano said that it's absolutely not the case and so

804
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 2: she's come out to say that she's, you know, he

805
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:19,879
Speaker 2: been sexually assaulted by him, and now he's saying that's

806
00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 2: not the case. And now my reputation is being ruined

807
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:24,719
Speaker 2: because you said X, Y and Z. Well, how does

808
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:26,840
Speaker 2: that feel for him? I'm wondering because he did the

809
00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:29,160
Speaker 2: same thing to Jesse. He said that they had sex

810
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:30,440
Speaker 2: and then later said that they didn't.

811
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:35,879
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, good point feels a little can ruin reputations? Yeah,

812
00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 1: and things right said right, And that's just what I

813
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: think people forget and we as consumers hear it and

814
00:37:44,160 --> 00:37:46,799
Speaker 1: think it as fact, no matter kind of what it is,

815
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, I'm not just saying because obviously

816
00:37:49,160 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 1: I believe a girl when they say that they've been done,

817
00:37:51,040 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 1: just saying, no matter what it is, you hear it,

818
00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:54,319
Speaker 1: you kind of take it as fact. Well, this is

819
00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 1: what happened. Sure, So how do you prove how do

820
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 1: you prove any how do you prove what it's true

821
00:37:59,040 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 1: in any of that?

822
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 2: You known't know. That's tough, but it's not lost on

823
00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:06,320
Speaker 2: me that he said, yeah, that's interesting, really untrue things,

824
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 2: And now that he's dealing with people saying untrue things.

825
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 1: Well, we're allegedly true. Yeah, it's all allegedly right.

826
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:16,280
Speaker 2: My sons are twins, but one of them has special needs.

827
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:19,359
Speaker 2: His brother used to be super protective of him. As

828
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 2: we have entered teenage years, his brother has gone from

829
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 2: his protector to almost his bully to maybe feel more

830
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,919
Speaker 2: included with the other kids. He doesn't want him hanging

831
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,759
Speaker 2: out with him and his friends as much as as

832
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:34,319
Speaker 2: much and excludes him. We have had many conversations in

833
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 2: working with a therapist, but I thought I would see

834
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:39,960
Speaker 2: if you had any advice. I think it's hard to

835
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 2: give advice on a situation we haven't lived at all. Also,

836
00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 2: I know twins have an interesting dynamic no matter the circumstances,

837
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:54,839
Speaker 2: because I've had friends that are twins and it's been

838
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 2: both ways. I've had a twin sisters, two sets of twins,

839
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:02,919
Speaker 2: and one of the sisters they can't even breathe without

840
00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 2: each other and it's so cool to me. And then

841
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 2: the other ones have said like I always hated that

842
00:39:08,880 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 2: I shared a day and felt like everything we did

843
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 2: was shared, and I never got to be an individual.

844
00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 2: And so I think developmentally it's probably tricky as a

845
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 2: teenager to go. I really do want my friends and

846
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 2: I want to be my own person, and also, of

847
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 2: course he loves his brother, and then to add the

848
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:34,720
Speaker 2: special needs layer is probably extra hard. But I don't

849
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 2: have the situation, so I don't know that I have

850
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 2: any room to give advice. But maybe this is the

851
00:39:40,600 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 2: point in life where they both get to make their

852
00:39:42,239 --> 00:39:46,640
Speaker 2: own friends, and you focus on them making their own

853
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 2: friendship circles and becoming more individual and it's not that

854
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 2: one's left out if the other one can maybe plug

855
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,279
Speaker 2: in somewhere else, Yeah, that you have more of this

856
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 2: age group.

857
00:39:55,040 --> 00:39:57,680
Speaker 1: I think when it comes to that a it's important

858
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,120
Speaker 1: to always go back to is it bullying or excluding?

859
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 1: I think that's important how you play on the words.

860
00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:05,799
Speaker 1: Is he actually bullying his brother? And if he is

861
00:40:06,040 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 1: addressed that immediately that's unacceptable. We can't have that. If

862
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:15,560
Speaker 1: it's excluding, then clearly this twin probably wants to have

863
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,120
Speaker 1: his own friendships and that's something that's going to have

864
00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:23,280
Speaker 1: to be helped and nurtured on the other side, especially

865
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:26,120
Speaker 1: with special needs, and maybe there's times to say, hey,

866
00:40:26,600 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 1: you can have this time with just your friend, but

867
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,920
Speaker 1: this time I need you to include your brother because

868
00:40:31,960 --> 00:40:35,359
Speaker 1: he doesn't have anybody or he doesn't have this right now,

869
00:40:35,360 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 1: and I think that there's ways to just really just

870
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 1: gonna have to walk it with them and really help

871
00:40:41,520 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 1: guide how they have to handle that. But knowing that

872
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 1: bullying is never okay, but then wanting to have only

873
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:50,080
Speaker 1: friends and not always having to include your brother is

874
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 1: also okay.

875
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:54,799
Speaker 2: So fine line, we walk that fine line with that

876
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:57,840
Speaker 2: piece of it where it's because there's it's all girls

877
00:40:57,840 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 2: in our neighborhood, yeah, at Jolie's age, and it is

878
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:02,839
Speaker 2: just I mean, there are so many fourth grade girls

879
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 2: in this neighborhood and there's only one boy that's in

880
00:41:04,760 --> 00:41:08,319
Speaker 2: first grade. And so obviously Jolie has a lot of

881
00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 2: her friends over here all the time, and it's Jace

882
00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:12,840
Speaker 2: feels left out. And so but I've noticed that I

883
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:15,319
Speaker 2: have been like, let let your brother play, but it's like, no,

884
00:41:15,440 --> 00:41:17,440
Speaker 2: she also needs that time too with her friends. And

885
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 2: so it's finding all right, Jayce, what can we do

886
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:21,319
Speaker 2: special together? Or let me see if I can get

887
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:25,120
Speaker 2: you play date over or but then also remembering, hey,

888
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,200
Speaker 2: so you now we've had you know, his other buddies

889
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:31,280
Speaker 2: come over and they're up there, and I think having

890
00:41:31,320 --> 00:41:33,720
Speaker 2: them happy in the same space but saying like, remember,

891
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:36,719
Speaker 2: like be kind to your brother, be nice, because we

892
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:39,839
Speaker 2: don't want anyone to feel feelings, hurt or feel left out.

893
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely as a whole. So I think that applies

894
00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:48,359
Speaker 1: here perfectly as well. But ladies, well we.

895
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:52,240
Speaker 2: Sure got it out system. Get to clean and ladies,

896
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:57,040
Speaker 2: and yeah, we'll see if we all survive the next

897
00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:01,280
Speaker 2: the next May day. Oh, our family survive is the question?

898
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:03,120
Speaker 1: Real quick? I do have a quick question though, And

899
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 1: did you do no phone Sunday?

900
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:07,880
Speaker 2: We could not because Alan had to work. Ok, we

901
00:42:07,920 --> 00:42:10,840
Speaker 2: are going to Okay, so we are going to It

902
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 2: is still on the stage. He's going to be gone

903
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 2: for a minute, and then when he's back, we're going

904
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 2: to do great. Yes, I have a big news pin

905
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,799
Speaker 2: but I'm pinning for two weeks. Oh oh, I know,

906
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 2: I don't so yeah, see you next week. Bye,