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Speaker 1: Hi, Catherine. Hi, Chelsea.

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Speaker 2: Hi, he just had beautiful three days of skiing love Doug.

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Speaker 1: Doug is in doggy daycare.

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Speaker 2: My friend told me about this dog walker and she's like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: she's great. I send my dog once a week. And

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Speaker 2: so the dog walker came over to my house and I'm.

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Speaker 1: Like, how many days are possible? She's like, we do

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Speaker 1: it seven days a week.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I'll take five. He needs a lot of

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Speaker 2: fucking exercise, this dog. And he is such a moose.

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Speaker 2: He's like my sister said, it's a cross.

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Speaker 1: Between a gorilla and I. I was a lion.

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Speaker 3: I've got a lions, like a full lions man.

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Speaker 1: I know, he's so funny looking. Oh my god. So

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Speaker 1: now I'm training him. I am training him.

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Speaker 2: I have a parenting coach, I have a dog walker,

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Speaker 2: and I'm also taking parenting classes with my friend for

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Speaker 2: her kids.

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Speaker 1: It takes a village, Chelsea. So I am literally deep in.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what has happened in my life, but

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Speaker 2: I'm learning a lot and a lot of really good

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Speaker 2: stuff about parenting in case I ever have to parent

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Speaker 2: a vagabond, which apparently I do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, the thing is a tired dog is

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Speaker 3: a good dog, so getting him in playdates and everything,

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Speaker 3: that's perfect.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, he's very friendly.

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Speaker 2: She said, he's very She sent me a text to

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Speaker 2: dog Walker and she said he is one of the

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Speaker 2: most compassionate, compassionate, caring dogs I've ever met. And I'm like,

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Speaker 2: what a funny thing to say about a dog compassionate?

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Speaker 2: How did he just demonstrate that compassion.

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Speaker 1: Whose soul is in him? He must be an old

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Speaker 1: time I don't know. Maybe it's my mom. She's got No,

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Speaker 1: it's definitely not my mom. She wouldn't be like that.

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Speaker 2: But anyway, it's pretty cute and Bertice is really perking up.

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Speaker 2: She tries to play with him and then she like

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Speaker 2: barks at him, and it's pretty cute.

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Speaker 1: They have a nice relationship and it'll keep changing too.

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Speaker 3: It's like they say, like the first three days the

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Speaker 3: dog is like adjusting. The first three weeks, they're like

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Speaker 3: getting to know whoever else is in the house. In

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Speaker 3: the first three months, like after three months they're sort

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Speaker 3: of like in the home. And you know, even today,

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Speaker 3: like Mimsy and Wendell are like snuggling and they just

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Speaker 3: started doing that.

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Speaker 1: This week and it's just lovely. That is cute.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, I had a full house this weekend

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Speaker 2: in Whistler. I had about nine people sleeping out my house,

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Speaker 2: and my house doesn't really fit nine people, so it

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Speaker 2: was close quarters and fun and a lot of my

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Speaker 2: friends I have just kid It's like a daycare here.

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Speaker 2: There's just kids running through my house all the time.

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Speaker 2: It's so funny.

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Speaker 1: But you love a.

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Speaker 3: Teenager, and you know what, teenagers I think love you too,

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Speaker 3: because you're not afraid to talk about this stuff like

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Speaker 3: their parents won't talk about with them anyway.

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Speaker 2: So I have shows this weekend, That's what I'm doing.

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Speaker 2: I have a show tonight in Saskatoon, so I'm heading

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Speaker 2: out soon. And then I have a show tomorrow night

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Speaker 2: in Winnipeg, Canada. And then we added another Sydney show,

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Speaker 2: we added another Vancouver show Awesome, and we're adding a

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Speaker 2: bunch of shows.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well, Los Angeles has floated away over the last several days.

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Speaker 1: That's what's happening over here. Was it really bad?

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Speaker 3: The river at the La River is like a monster.

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Speaker 3: It's crazy, and apparently a lot of parts in the

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Speaker 3: valley are totally flooded.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, I don't know it. It would rain for

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Speaker 2: a week last week, so there was no skiing here.

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Speaker 2: Now it's sunny, but it's like an ad for climate change.

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Speaker 2: The mountain it's so bear and you're like, I mean,

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Speaker 2: you can ski, but it's like it's not what it's

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Speaker 1: So yeah, it's a bummer. Anyway.

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Speaker 2: We have a very funny guest on the show today.

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Speaker 2: She's a comedian. She's a hot mess. I met her

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Speaker 2: on Instagram as I meet all my young lovers, and

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Speaker 2: you should follow her because she does a really good

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Speaker 2: impersonation of Chris Jenner. That's how I first found her.

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Speaker 2: But she does a lot of impersonations. Her name is

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Speaker 2: Anna Roysman. Hi, Anna, Hi, Where are you Anna?

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Speaker 4: I'm in New York.

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Speaker 1: Oh is this where you hail from New York?

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Speaker 5: I hail from Philadelphia, but yeah, I'm in New York mostly.

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Speaker 2: Right now, Catherine, I don't know if you're familiar with

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Speaker 2: Anna and in the way that I am, but I

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Speaker 2: found her. I discovered her because she does these ridiculous

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Speaker 2: impersonations of the Kardashians. Ye, well, of Chris Well, Chris

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Speaker 2: really Jenna, right, is the one that from the Kardashians

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Speaker 2: do you do all of them or do you just Chris.

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Speaker 5: I just do Chris. I could probably do the other ones.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, well you do a lot of you do

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Speaker 2: Steve from Sex and the City do a lot of

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Speaker 1: I was like, have you seen this fucking girl? You

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Speaker 4: I died.

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Speaker 5: I know, I flew across the country as her, which

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Speaker 2: That's really really funny. But you do a great impersonation.

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Speaker 2: And I like any impersonations of all the because there's

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Speaker 1: So kudos to you, Anna, And I know you're a comedian.

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Speaker 1: I saw you at my one of my shows at

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Speaker 4: We met there, yes, which was so fun. I was

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Speaker 4: a killer show.

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Speaker 1: Ah, thank you.

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Speaker 2: So you're a comic and I'm just learning about you

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Speaker 2: and I want to learn more about you.

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Speaker 4: Thanks.

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Speaker 5: First of all, I'm so honored to be on here,

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Speaker 5: and I just have to say when you shared that

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Speaker 4: Last year, I.

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Speaker 5: Was in like my darkest time ever and I literally

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Speaker 5: said to my Boyfri and I'm gonna I'm gonna just

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Speaker 4: Like she would never fly a commercial. This will be

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Speaker 5: And then I obviously thought I'd do it for like

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Speaker 4: He wanted to kill me. We're like on the plane

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Speaker 5: And when you shared it, I was like I cried.

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Speaker 5: I was just like, oh my god. So many people

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Speaker 4: So thank you. You really picked me up at a

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Speaker 2: Oh well, I'm happy to listen. Every time we're in

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Speaker 2: That is like the way the world works like the

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Speaker 2: not you don't have it anymore, someone will say you

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Speaker 2: changed my life, or you did this or did do that.

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Speaker 2: So you always have to pay attention to those things.

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Speaker 2: That's something I used to think was corny, and now

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Speaker 2: right track. Everything is only temporary. When you're going through

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Speaker 1: It to be or not.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's so true.

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Speaker 5: Do you like when people come up to you out

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Speaker 2: I don't really care as long as people don't ask

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Speaker 2: like like I'm a prostitute or something. I mean, that's

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Speaker 1: Really.

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Speaker 2: It's it's like, why would I get up for my

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Speaker 1: What do you think I work for you? It's just

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The other thing is when people try to take pictures

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Speaker 2: When you're feeling down or something bummed you out, or

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Speaker 5: I had a guy who once messaged me on Instagram

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Speaker 5: after I'd be like, I just saw you walking around

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Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, one of the dumbest things people

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Speaker 2: say to you, you're so small everyone, You're so small

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm sorry that that thank you.

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Speaker 2: I think I think thank you, or you're so much prettier.

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Speaker 2: You're so much prettier in person.

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Speaker 1: I love that one. And you're like, Akay, how.

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Speaker 4: Big and ugly was I online for you? On a screen?

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Speaker 1: For you?

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Speaker 7: I know? I know?

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Speaker 1: So what's your story? Anna? Tell me?

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Speaker 2: Like how you got into comedy and like what you

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Speaker 2: want to do and where you're headed?

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Speaker 4: I mean, how I got into comedy. It's funny.

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Speaker 5: I grew up thinking i'd be a very serious Broadway actress, like.

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Speaker 2: Will you look like you could be a veterinarian a doctor?

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Speaker 2: Like you look like a more serious person than you are.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 5: It's the glasses, you know, and they gave me a complex.

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Speaker 5: When I first started auditioning, my agents literally would say like, hey,

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Speaker 4: And I was like the Tina fe effect, like what

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Speaker 5: And then they'd be like, actually, they're looking for a

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Speaker 4: Then I'd be like, who am I?

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Speaker 5: They do that much to your face? No, I thought

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Speaker 4: You need to be delusional to do something like that.

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Speaker 1: How old are you? I'm old?

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Speaker 4: I'm thirty seven.

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Speaker 5: I listened to ze Way's episode and I was like,

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Speaker 1: I never said what about ze Way? What a bitch?

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Speaker 2: I was like Seaway, You're a fucking asshole. She lied

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Speaker 2: I wasn't even Stone Catherine, So what's It's almost like

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Speaker 2: For everyone listening, she was our guest and she said

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Speaker 1: You idiot. Of all the people she could have lied to,

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Speaker 3: I was like, Oh, she would have gotten her showtime

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, Well, kudos to her forgetting, for being believable.

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Speaker 5: I was like, there's no way I'm going to be

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Speaker 2: And here I remember I remember having this age line,

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Speaker 2: Because I waited tables for like seven or eight years,

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Speaker 4: I was the worst server too. I did it for

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Speaker 1: I just didn't want the human interaction, like the people

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Speaker 2: I was just like, don't talk to me, you know

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Speaker 4: Oh, I think we're like out of it.

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Speaker 2: I did the same thing at Chaia Brasserie in Venice, California.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't open bottles of wine like I just would

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Speaker 2: neither does anybody else. Oh my god, see Way probably

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Speaker 1: Actually she definitely does. Yeah, that's so funny.

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Speaker 2: It's like, I'm not going to bring a tray with

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Speaker 1: I'm not domesticated.

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Speaker 5: No, And I also would never pick up more than

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Speaker 2: Yeah, when you come over a but take one plate

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's crazy. I started to feel that, like the

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Speaker 5: I feel like a long time ago when I first

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Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, they give me like six minutes all

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Speaker 5: it instead of the twenty people at this comedy club

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Speaker 1: So, I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I started doing that like a while ago, and I

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Speaker 4: And then I guess I hosted a game show. I

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Speaker 1: No, what's it called.

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Speaker 5: It was called HQ Trivia. It was like on your

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Speaker 5: We had like celebrities host like The Rock hosted, like

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Speaker 4: Now that's cool. And I just I leaned in, you know, I.

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Speaker 4: We've been together almost eight years.

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Speaker 4: Now they don't even that's not even a question.

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Speaker 4: I never cared. I was never obsessed with marriage. I

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Speaker 5: Like I have nieces now, and I'm like, they think

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, I never wanted my own kids, you know.

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Speaker 1: So you're you're you're you like long term relationships, I guess. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: It's refreshing to hear that, like, you know, so many

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Speaker 2: So now to see all these women like, no, I'm

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Speaker 2: cruising into this really sweet spot, especially abudding up against

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Speaker 2: Roe v Wade being overturned and the way men are

448
00:16:45,440 --> 00:16:48,520
Speaker 2: and you know how stupid most of them can act

449
00:16:48,600 --> 00:16:51,920
Speaker 2: at times, and embarrassing it is as a society that

450
00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:55,520
Speaker 2: men get away with such nonsense behavior and we're we're like,

451
00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:58,720
Speaker 2: we're over here, we've had our shit together. This whole time,

452
00:16:58,760 --> 00:17:01,800
Speaker 2: and nobody has been giving us the wheel to drive.

453
00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:05,240
Speaker 2: So I'm true, Yeah, that's really refreshing. How do you

454
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Speaker 2: feel about children the same way you feel about getting married?

455
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Speaker 4: Yeah?

456
00:17:08,240 --> 00:17:10,639
Speaker 5: I never wanted kids. I love kids, kids like me,

457
00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:12,440
Speaker 5: but I never wanted to have kids of mine.

458
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Speaker 1: You say, I mean, do you have proof if that

459
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Speaker 1: children like you?

460
00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:17,240
Speaker 4: Yes?

461
00:17:17,359 --> 00:17:19,840
Speaker 5: Because I always have candy on me, and my sister's

462
00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:21,880
Speaker 5: three year old thinks I'm like the fucking.

463
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Speaker 1: God, like you know, or a child molester.

464
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Speaker 4: I know it's a candy on me. Watch out.

465
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Speaker 2: I actually speaking of child molesting. I got a ride

466
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Speaker 2: home from a child last night. I was flew in

467
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Speaker 2: from I. So I flew in from LA to Whistler.

468
00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:40,679
Speaker 2: I'm back in my I have a little ski a

469
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Speaker 2: situation of whistle that I'm obsessed with skiing. So I

470
00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:46,760
Speaker 2: came back yesterday and I stopped at my friend's house,

471
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Speaker 2: which is like forty minutes away, and she had dinner

472
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Speaker 2: and friends over and then everyone kind of fell asleep.

473
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Speaker 1: But I'm like, well, I don't want to sleep here,

474
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Speaker 1: like I just got home. I want to go to

475
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Speaker 1: in my bed. And this like nineteen year old kid was.

476
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Speaker 2: Like I'll drive you to Slirt's like forty minutes and

477
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Speaker 2: I was like, are you are you?

478
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Speaker 1: Do you have a license? I was like, how old

479
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Speaker 1: are you? Can you drive in the snow? He's like

480
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Speaker 1: I'm nineteen and I was like okay.

481
00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:13,359
Speaker 2: And then I like, you know, observed him for a

482
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Speaker 2: good forty five seconds and thought, yeah, actually this is

483
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Speaker 2: the guy I want to drive me home.

484
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Speaker 4: You were like, let me set you up in Z

485
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Speaker 4: way I know another nineteen year old.

486
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Speaker 2: Said, I only hang out with nineteen year olds these days,

487
00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:25,359
Speaker 2: so I want to introduce you to someone.

488
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Speaker 1: But yeah, he drove me home and it was really cute.

489
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Speaker 2: I had my dog, Bernice because my friend was dog

490
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Speaker 2: sitting and he drove me home and it's like a

491
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Speaker 2: forty minute drive, and uh yeah, it was really funny.

492
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Speaker 2: I was like, he's like, I could give you ride

493
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Speaker 2: anytime you need one.

494
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Speaker 1: Chelse Ll.

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Speaker 4: You have a new driver, and I know I have

496
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Speaker 4: a new.

497
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Speaker 1: Nineteen year old driver. That's something I would totally do well.

498
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Speaker 3: And he's not legal drinking age, so it's definitely likely

499
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Speaker 3: to be over.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't drink at all. We talked about lots of

501
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Speaker 1: drugs and alcohol on the way.

502
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Speaker 7: Home.

503
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Speaker 1: Yeah, he doesn't. A lot of kids don't drink.

504
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Speaker 8: Now.

505
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Speaker 1: It's weird. Yeah, it's funny. They're all straight edge.

506
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Speaker 2: They're not into it because I think alcohol is, like,

507
00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:01,800
Speaker 2: you know, it's seen its finest hour.

508
00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:04,159
Speaker 1: There's so many other.

509
00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:07,960
Speaker 2: Avenues to explore with mushrooms and microdosing, and I think

510
00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:09,320
Speaker 2: people are more on that train.

511
00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:12,640
Speaker 3: Yes, kids these days think that alcohol is boomer technology

512
00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:13,480
Speaker 3: is what they call it.

513
00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:15,639
Speaker 1: And I think that's oh, just great. I think am

514
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Speaker 1: I a boomer?

515
00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:17,960
Speaker 2: I'm the opposite of a boomer, but I am a

516
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Speaker 2: boomer probably. No, I think I'm younger than a boomer.

517
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Speaker 1: Yeah. By the way, Catherine, I like that merch hat

518
00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:25,080
Speaker 1: that dear Chelsea hat. I needed a black hat today,

519
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Speaker 1: and here we are.

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Speaker 4: That's so cute.

521
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Speaker 2: Where's our merch at Chelseahandler dot com, Chelsea Handler dot com.

522
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Speaker 1: Okay, quick shout out to merch.

523
00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:34,280
Speaker 2: Okay, so you know, okay, did you get the lowdown

524
00:19:34,320 --> 00:19:37,080
Speaker 2: of what we're doing today. We're basically gonna have fun

525
00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:39,280
Speaker 2: with our callers. They call in for real shit and

526
00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:40,359
Speaker 2: we give them real advice.

527
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Speaker 4: I can't wait, I've listened.

528
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Speaker 1: Okay, great, all.

529
00:19:42,960 --> 00:19:44,159
Speaker 2: Right, so we need to take a break, and then

530
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Speaker 2: we're going to be right back. Okay, and we're.

531
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Speaker 3: Back, We are back, We're back okay, and uh, these

532
00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:56,240
Speaker 3: are all going to be centered around things that you

533
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Speaker 3: have something to do with or you've talked about.

534
00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:02,200
Speaker 2: And so, okay, are you comfortable with questions about anal penetration?

535
00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:02,520
Speaker 1: Anna?

536
00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:03,720
Speaker 4: Absolutely?

537
00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:06,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, perfect, There is one about porn. So that's why

538
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:08,879
Speaker 3: I was like, wait, they're they're not all about you.

539
00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:11,680
Speaker 3: But did you know I've post my ass all over Instagram?

540
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:13,720
Speaker 1: Though I know that you wake up and do anal

541
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Speaker 1: every morning.

542
00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:16,879
Speaker 2: I mean, anyone worth their salt does that. That's the

543
00:20:16,880 --> 00:20:17,800
Speaker 2: first thing on the menu.

544
00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 5: I promise my Instagram followers when Pennsylvania turned blue, I

545
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:22,960
Speaker 5: would do ten photos of my ass on Instagram and

546
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Speaker 5: amazing I did.

547
00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:27,200
Speaker 2: And I was like, I love when we can combine

548
00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,520
Speaker 2: politics and sex. That's my favorite two of my favorite

549
00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:34,760
Speaker 2: topics interpersonal relationships. Well, I like the emotional psychodrama that

550
00:20:34,760 --> 00:20:36,760
Speaker 2: goes with it. Two, but I love sex and I

551
00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:37,760
Speaker 2: love politics.

552
00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:40,640
Speaker 4: There you go, you would love that post. It was, Yeah,

553
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Speaker 4: I think my ass turned Pennsylvania blue.

554
00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:45,359
Speaker 1: I did it.

555
00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:47,840
Speaker 2: It's like the opposite of blue balls. It's like blue

556
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Speaker 2: ass smurf ass.

557
00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:55,680
Speaker 3: Well very appropriately. This email starts, am I the asshole? Probably,

558
00:20:57,119 --> 00:21:00,359
Speaker 3: Zan says Dear Chelsea, Am I the asshole? That's what

559
00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:03,439
Speaker 3: I'm needing reassurance on I was in a relationship for

560
00:21:03,520 --> 00:21:06,520
Speaker 3: six months. We started talking in May, met in June,

561
00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:09,720
Speaker 3: and became official in August. We ended New Year's Eve.

562
00:21:10,440 --> 00:21:12,879
Speaker 3: In short, he felt as though I was not integrating

563
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Speaker 3: into his life. The first incident came in the form

564
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Speaker 3: of a wedding in October. He told me his cousin

565
00:21:18,480 --> 00:21:20,720
Speaker 3: was getting married in January. It was a big moment

566
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Speaker 3: for the family and he wanted me to attend. I

567
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Speaker 3: told him it made me feel uncomfortable to meet the

568
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Speaker 3: entire family so soon into the relationship. I felt steps

569
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Speaker 3: were being skipped, such as meeting individual members beforehand, and

570
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Speaker 3: given that it's a destination wedding, the cost included felt unreasonable.

571
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Speaker 3: He did not take it well. Ultimately, I bought a ticket,

572
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Speaker 3: but he never forgave me for hesitating. The second incident

573
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Speaker 3: involves his friends. Being thirty three, I've phased out of

574
00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:50,240
Speaker 3: the twenty somethings enjoyment of alcohol. Him being twenty six

575
00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:53,520
Speaker 3: hasn't their idea of a good time as to be expected,

576
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,880
Speaker 3: always involves drinking. Because of this, I don't fully enjoy

577
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Speaker 3: the moments we're all together. And when I asked him

578
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Speaker 3: if there was ever a time he and his friends

579
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Speaker 3: got together and didn't drink, he couldn't really give me

580
00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:06,359
Speaker 3: an answer, but he said I was being selfish and uncompromising.

581
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:09,399
Speaker 3: I feel like I am and was being rational, But

582
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 3: his voice in my head and the accompanying guilt make

583
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Speaker 3: me question myself.

584
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Speaker 1: Am I the asshole? Zan is Xana gay Man is Zanna? Yes? Yes, oh,

585
00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 1: z Zan, You're not being an asshole at all. That's

586
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Speaker 1: like good.

587
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Speaker 2: All the red flags you identified them, You hesitated when

588
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Speaker 2: you didn't want to go to the wedding.

589
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Speaker 1: You for the right reasons.

590
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Speaker 2: There's nothing wrong with being like circumspect about meeting people's families.

591
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Speaker 2: They're being overwhelmed, and also the cost that was put

592
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Speaker 2: into it. No, I don't think you were an.

593
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Speaker 1: Asshole at all.

594
00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:41,880
Speaker 2: I think you were actually had boundaries and were stating them,

595
00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 2: and you were being told that your boundaries aren't going

596
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Speaker 2: to be respected.

597
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Speaker 3: Yeah, six or seven months, because it sounds like, you know,

598
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Speaker 3: they started talking in May and this wedding was in January,

599
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 3: like six or seven months kind of feels like plenty

600
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Speaker 3: of time.

601
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Speaker 4: To meet the family.

602
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Speaker 3: And I get that it's like overwhelming being all at once,

603
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Speaker 3: but I think it's okay to be uncomfortable. But that

604
00:23:01,160 --> 00:23:02,959
Speaker 3: feels like pretty appropriate timeline.

605
00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,440
Speaker 2: Yes, it is appropriate, But if the person doesn't want

606
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,280
Speaker 2: to do that, then the person doesn't want to do that.

607
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 2: You can't make someone go and you're going to meet

608
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Speaker 2: my whole family all in one fell swoop.

609
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Speaker 1: I can imagine a lot of people. That would make

610
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Speaker 1: a lot very nervous.

611
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Speaker 2: First of all, I would fucking run towards that wedding

612
00:23:16,240 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 2: because I love shit like that. But I have a

613
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:22,160
Speaker 2: different personality type, right, Like I get it, Like if

614
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Speaker 2: that's overwhelming to some people, some people have serious like

615
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Speaker 2: social anxiety and whatever.

616
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I think it's valid to not do

617
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Speaker 1: anything you don't want to do.

618
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Speaker 5: I agree with you one thousand percent. I think it's

619
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Speaker 5: like you were honest with this person.

620
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Speaker 4: If they made you feel bad, then that's on them.

621
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Speaker 5: If you're like, hey, I don't know how I feel

622
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Speaker 5: about meeting your whole family, that's okay, you know, and

623
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Speaker 5: then you know it's not going to work.

624
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Speaker 1: Out.

625
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Speaker 5: I guess if they can't understand where you where your

626
00:23:46,359 --> 00:23:49,680
Speaker 5: boundaries are. I made my boyfriend meet my parents three

627
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Speaker 5: weeks into dating, so I'm no one.

628
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Speaker 4: I'm bad.

629
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I never have any like rules around that.

630
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Speaker 2: But also when you ask if you're an asshole, usually

631
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Speaker 2: the assholes.

632
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Speaker 1: Aren't asking that question.

633
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so we'll problem solved and they're not the

634
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Speaker 2: Zan Zan zan.

635
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Speaker 5: Oh, and I wanted to address the drinking thing. That's ridiculous.

636
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,400
Speaker 5: If Zan doesn't want to have a drink, who gives

637
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:12,720
Speaker 5: a ship?

638
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:16,360
Speaker 1: Yeah? No, one's what are you in.

639
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 4: The DARE program where they're like, come on, I had

640
00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:20,480
Speaker 4: a drink? Are you not? Are you a loser? You

641
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:21,399
Speaker 4: can't hang out with us?

642
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:21,680
Speaker 1: No?

643
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:25,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, right right yeah, And I think that is just

644
00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:26,439
Speaker 3: sort of a clear sign that you're not in the

645
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:29,160
Speaker 3: same place in life as this other guy.

646
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Speaker 4: So well, thanks Anne, I'm glad Zan got out.

647
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:36,840
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, okay, what's next? Next up?

648
00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,960
Speaker 3: Our next one is a caller, and this is Elena.

649
00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:43,919
Speaker 3: Elena is currently in Puerto Rico. She's on vacation, but

650
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 3: she's calling in. Dear Chelsea, I heard you answer a

651
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 3: question about porn in your last interview with ze way,

652
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Speaker 3: and it brought up another question for me. I haven't

653
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 3: felt comfortable talking about it because the second a woman

654
00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:57,919
Speaker 3: brings up porn in any questioning way, I feel like

655
00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 3: we're labeled as prudes. I'm not against using porn. I

656
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 3: completely believe in and support healthy porn consumption. But I

657
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,160
Speaker 3: recently found out that my boyfriend of two years has

658
00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 3: several OnlyFans subscriptions, paying for these girls monthly, even messaging them,

659
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 3: talking to them, and tipping them for custom nude sets.

660
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 1: Oh.

661
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 3: To me, this feels adjacent to cheating, though obviously not physically.

662
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,160
Speaker 1: It feels like a betrayal, and I was really hurt

663
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Speaker 1: by it.

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Speaker 3: When we talked about it, he said he didn't think

665
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Speaker 3: it was a big deal at all and quote people

666
00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:33,440
Speaker 3: in healthy relationships do this all the time. It felt

667
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 3: like a shitty response. Honestly, my gut says it's not

668
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:39,399
Speaker 3: normal or fine. To me, this crosses a line for me.

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Speaker 3: With the payment and messaging. Looking at a potential future

670
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Speaker 3: with him as a possible husband makes me really nervous

671
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Speaker 3: after this, and I don't want to deal with this

672
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Speaker 3: when I'm six months pregnant with his kid.

673
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Speaker 1: I've gotten mixed advice.

674
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Speaker 3: Women tell me to run, some men say give him

675
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Speaker 3: another chance, and other men even say this type of

676
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 3: porn consumption is totally normal and natural. I'd love to

677
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 3: hear your advice on this. I appreciate your show and

678
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:01,920
Speaker 3: all of your advice.

679
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Speaker 1: Elena.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Elena, Hi, Hi, this is Anna, she's our special

681
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Speaker 2: guest day Anna Roysman.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Elena, I'm with you.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like that. I'm not into that

684
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:15,400
Speaker 1: paying's messaging what.

685
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is like that's flirting with if it was

686
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 2: if it weren't an oly fan site and he was

687
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 2: messaging anyone on the side, wouldn't you.

688
00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:26,399
Speaker 1: Be put off by that? That's that is kind of cheating.

689
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 2: It's flirting with another person when you're in supposedly a

690
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Speaker 2: monogaous Does he know he's in a monogamous relationship?

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Speaker 9: Yes, And I'd even asked him after I found this out,

692
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Speaker 9: whether or not he wanted to continue a monogamous relationship

693
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Speaker 9: or do something else, and he doubled down he said, yes,

694
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Speaker 9: I would I want to maintain a monogamous.

695
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Speaker 2: Relation, of course, because he's getting to watch porn and

696
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:51,679
Speaker 2: flirt and tip other women. No, it's like it's icky.

697
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:53,919
Speaker 2: I mean, I listen, I might be old fashioned, but

698
00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:56,000
Speaker 2: I don't think so. I think I'm pretty fucking with it.

699
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:59,040
Speaker 2: And it's like that, especially even if he wasn't paying

700
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Speaker 2: them and he was DM some girls flirting with them

701
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 2: that would feel bad to you, and for sex, like

702
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,359
Speaker 2: watching them whatever they do on OnlyFans, right, is it

703
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,320
Speaker 2: all sex or is it just like sometimes you show

704
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:11,640
Speaker 2: like your vagina?

705
00:27:11,800 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 1: What happens?

706
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:15,080
Speaker 2: I don't have any OnlyFans accounts that I follow. I've

707
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 2: been trying to get on it, but I have someone

708
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:17,159
Speaker 2: blocked me.

709
00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,280
Speaker 9: No, No, I am all for the girls on only

710
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:22,440
Speaker 9: Fans and so support them.

711
00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: But and so does your boyfriend. So last night very much.

712
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 9: Very much. It's mainly, honestly, just been like nudes from them.

713
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,960
Speaker 9: It hasn't been like custom videos or anything like that.

714
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's all gross.

715
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 9: Yeah, it's like, I don't know, I want to like

716
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 9: support his desires nothing.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, that's that's not a landing or too nice.

718
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:46,240
Speaker 2: You're being a little naive and you're being a little

719
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:49,720
Speaker 2: bit too nice. You don't need to support his porn interest.

720
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Speaker 3: Right, It's not like he's picking up a guitar or

721
00:27:51,480 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 3: like learning another language.

722
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:57,879
Speaker 2: Like that's not your responsibility a and like, yes, of

723
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 2: course kudos to anyone who has an only Fans, But

724
00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 2: if you want your boyfriend or your partner like that

725
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 2: doesn't feel good to you, clearly because you're calling and

726
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 2: it's just it key behavior and there's nothing no no,

727
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 2: I think you need to move on from him, and

728
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 2: also you need to have like a little bit more

729
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:20,760
Speaker 2: and better understanding of what you are and what you're

730
00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 2: not willing to like put up with within a relationship.

731
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Speaker 1: Yeah right.

732
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Speaker 5: I also wanted to say, when you called in, you

733
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 5: give this whole description of like porn and porn, watching porn,

734
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Speaker 5: putting on porn. I mean porn, I'm gonna say, you

735
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:35,679
Speaker 5: know it's art, right, it's a form of art in

736
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 5: the but in only Fans where you're having a connection

737
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 5: with someone who's sending your nudes personally and you paid

738
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:45,040
Speaker 5: them for it, that's a different that's not necessarily a porn,

739
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 5: you know, that's totally I mean people people are dating

740
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:49,840
Speaker 5: online today, you know, that's the same thing as like

741
00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 5: having these like online relationships. I don't know, I think

742
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,520
Speaker 5: it's it's a different level than like him, if you

743
00:28:54,560 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 5: walked in you're like, he's watching porn again on his computer.

744
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 5: That's different than paying for someone to message him.

745
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:04,240
Speaker 9: Definitely. I have just asked different people's advice on this,

746
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 9: as I mentioned in my email, and you know, a

747
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 9: lot of women say the same thing, run get out.

748
00:29:11,280 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 9: A lot of men have mixed advice, like some say,

749
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Speaker 9: pill girl. I am so so sorry. I'm staying at

750
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Speaker 9: a friend's house and the cat is no, I'm so sorry.

751
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 2: First of all, stuff apologizing. You need to like boost

752
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:29,440
Speaker 2: up your self esteem. You're too nice. That's a very

753
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 2: nice quality, but you need to have a little bit

754
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 2: more like gumption and a little bit more.

755
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Speaker 1: You are like a beautiful.

756
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 2: Kind, caring individual who is thinking about a person, and

757
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 2: you need to be thinking about yourself. Actually, you're giving

758
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 2: him a little bit too much credit in this area.

759
00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 2: This is really about how you feel. It doesn't make

760
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 2: you feel good, so it's not going to work for you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, thank you. Yeah, it's not gonna work for you.

762
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Speaker 5: Yeah, you don't need to support his habits of messaging

763
00:29:57,040 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 5: women for naked photos.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, him like a year into a stating I've been

765
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 9: doing for almost two and a half years and about

766
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 9: a year and I asked him, because I was having

767
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 9: some feelings. I wasn't sure if he I just had

768
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 9: a sense there was something going on only fans wise,

769
00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:18,760
Speaker 9: so I asked him, are you you know only fans,

770
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:20,840
Speaker 9: no judgment, it's fine, but I just want to know

771
00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 9: for me, for my future. And he was really adamant

772
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 9: about it. He said, no, absolutely not. Why would I

773
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 9: pay for something like that. So I think it's more

774
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 9: frustrating too that he lied about it.

775
00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:36,440
Speaker 2: You know, and you gave him an opportunity and then

776
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:39,440
Speaker 2: he blew it, so he lied to you. So no,

777
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 2: you deserve better than this. This isn't going to be

778
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 2: good enough for you, period. So are you ready to

779
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 2: break up with him?

780
00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 1: Because you should?

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Speaker 9: Thank you, Chelsey, I've honestly been confused by a lot

782
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 9: of advice that I've gotten, Like men say, it's actually

783
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 9: it's just porn. It's fine, and actually it's more ethical

784
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 9: because it's from only fans, like you're controlling where the

785
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 9: money goes. But I think I think there's a good

786
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,560
Speaker 9: percentage of women on only vans who are still trafficked,

787
00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 9: Like you.

788
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 3: Know, yeah, that sounds like guys who love only vans

789
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:10,800
Speaker 3: only men would say that it's ethical gonna cheat anyway,

790
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 3: so it's better that he's just cheating with someone online.

791
00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 1: Like whatever.

792
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Speaker 2: Don't listen to men and give advice to women about

793
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:20,520
Speaker 2: fucking anything. You need to listen to women, and right

794
00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 2: now you need to listen to us. I can see

795
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:25,719
Speaker 2: this fixture very clearly. I'm sorry that you wasted two

796
00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 2: and a half years of your life, but there is

797
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 2: somebody out there for you that is gonna appreciate and

798
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:33,400
Speaker 2: love you. It's actually it's a sea of men. They're everywhere.

799
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 2: Everywhere you go, there they are.

800
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Speaker 5: And you're gonna be stronger because of this situation. You're

801
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 5: gonna know what you want when you don't want.

802
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: And you need to also use your voice.

803
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 2: Like your voice, I want you to use that as

804
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: a tool for yourself, and I want you to write

805
00:31:46,760 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 2: that down, like you need to get stronger in your voice,

806
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:53,239
Speaker 2: and I mean that actually audibly. And you know you

807
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 2: need to like do some vocal exercises in the morning

808
00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 2: to like ground yourself because you're being This is what

809
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:01,479
Speaker 2: I see when I look at you, somebody who's just

810
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 2: like in the air that is like kind of being directed,

811
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 2: like you're like a hot air balloon. That it doesn't

812
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 2: know where to land because you're kind of being directed

813
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,240
Speaker 2: by someone who doesn't have your best interest.

814
00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:14,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you want to be grounded in who you are.

815
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 2: You want to be a woman like you're a woman

816
00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 2: and you're powerful, and you have all of these amazing

817
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:21,440
Speaker 2: things going for you in your life. And I don't

818
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 2: know half of them, but I already know that's true

819
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 2: because it's true for every one of us.

820
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:28,960
Speaker 1: And this outward focus on that no, no, no, I

821
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:31,160
Speaker 1: don't like that at all. And you're better than that.

822
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:32,520
Speaker 9: Thank you, Chelsea.

823
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 3: To Chelsea's point about you need to listen to women

824
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,120
Speaker 3: about this, it's not because women are always right all o.

825
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 1: We usually are.

826
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:41,480
Speaker 3: It's because the women in your life are echoing what

827
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,400
Speaker 3: is coming up for you, what's coming from your gut

828
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:46,440
Speaker 3: and what your gut is telling you, and the men

829
00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 3: in your life are trying to like dissuade you from that.

830
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 1: It sounds like the women.

831
00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 3: Are telling you exactly how you're feeling, and that's why

832
00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:55,280
Speaker 3: you should listen to them.

833
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 9: Thank you all so much. This is really helpful. It's

834
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 9: so great to get your advice on this.

835
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Speaker 7: Thank you.

836
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 6: Well.

837
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Speaker 1: I'll be thinking about you, honey, follow up with us. Okay,

838
00:33:03,520 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 1: let us know how it goes.

839
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Speaker 2: Let us know when you break up with your boyfriend,

840
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 2: because you will and keep us posted.

841
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 1: We'll have you on our matchmaking segment.

842
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,000
Speaker 2: Yes, oh that's fun. Yeah, I will put you on

843
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:14,080
Speaker 2: our matchmaking segment.

844
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Speaker 1: I love that.

845
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Speaker 9: Thank you so much.

846
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,360
Speaker 4: Okay, bye, Len, good luck bye.

847
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Speaker 1: I love men. It's better.

848
00:33:20,360 --> 00:33:24,480
Speaker 2: It's more ethical to watch porn when you're fucking so stupid.

849
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: I love my brother.

850
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Speaker 2: Over Christmas this year, he was like, Chelsea, let me

851
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 2: I go no, no, let me tell you. Don't don't

852
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 2: tell me anything, and don't start any sentence with let

853
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 2: me no, no, no, I don't let you anymore.

854
00:33:38,960 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: Don't talk to me like that.

855
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 3: But I think this is such an interesting question. Brad

856
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:45,520
Speaker 3: and I, my husband and I were just having this

857
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Speaker 3: discussion the other day. We were watching ninety Day Fiance

858
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 3: and there was a similar situation, and it's like, where

859
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 3: is the line? And I think the line has to

860
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:55,920
Speaker 3: be like when you start having direct conversations, like it's

861
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,480
Speaker 3: not just porn when you start like I mean, yeah,

862
00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 3: giving someone money, but even if you're not giving them money,

863
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 3: if someone's sending you nudes and the DMS, like, no,

864
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:05,400
Speaker 3: that's not just like this is for fun and so

865
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Speaker 3: I can jerk off. This is something more. That's yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's too personalized.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I got mad at my boyfriend of the pandemic.

869
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Speaker 5: He had a weekly D and D zoom game dungeons

870
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Speaker 5: and trackets, and I was like, this is worse than port.

871
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:20,239
Speaker 5: I would feel better if you were actually like girl

872
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:23,640
Speaker 5: and jerking out. I'm like you and your your fourteen

873
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:26,880
Speaker 5: other like high school friends. They're all like men in

874
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:29,760
Speaker 5: their forties and they're like playing characters on their Zoom.

875
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Speaker 1: I can't. I cannot with men in video games. I mean,

876
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:36,280
Speaker 1: it is a boner killer. It is a boner killer.

877
00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 5: I was like, have you heard of OnlyFans I made?

878
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 2: Fuck, that's a boner lift your upper and this is

879
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 2: a boner killer. It's just so like boners and you

880
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 2: don't know which direction they're headed east, west, north or south.

881
00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 4: I was such a bitch. I'm like, let me play

882
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,359
Speaker 4: my saxophone. Remember when I used to do that.

883
00:34:53,000 --> 00:34:57,440
Speaker 5: I'd be like, I'm I'm rehearsing in the other rooms.

884
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Speaker 3: Well, our next question comes from Hobby and he'll be

885
00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:05,760
Speaker 3: joining us on the phone as well.

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00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:09,319
Speaker 1: He is currently unemployed, and I thought that this would be.

887
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:11,560
Speaker 3: A perfect question for you since you had a podcast

888
00:35:11,560 --> 00:35:16,520
Speaker 3: called Unemployed and you know about transitions. So yes, Hobby

889
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 3: says Dear Chelsea. I'm currently working as a reality TV producer,

890
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 3: and while I love the work, the short term contracts

891
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 3: have been causing me some anxiety. Additionally, I had to

892
00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:29,879
Speaker 3: move back to Miami to care for my sick mother

893
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 3: he was living in LA, which added another layer of

894
00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:35,800
Speaker 3: complexity to my life. I admire the stick with itness

895
00:35:35,800 --> 00:35:38,839
Speaker 3: and resilience in the entertainment industry you have, and I'm

896
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,200
Speaker 3: curious to know if you have any advice for someone

897
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 3: like me who feels at a crossroads. How do you

898
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,719
Speaker 3: navigate the uncertainty of short contracts and do you have

899
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:49,719
Speaker 3: any recommendations for building a backup plan or creating other

900
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 3: income streams. Furthermore, given my current circumstances in my life,

901
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 3: I'm contemplating whether I should consider moving back to LA

902
00:35:57,360 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 3: or explore other options. I'd appreciate any insights or wisdom

903
00:36:01,160 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 3: you could share based on your own experiences.

904
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:05,440
Speaker 1: Have HI havevey?

905
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:09,000
Speaker 7: Hey? How's it going good?

906
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 1: How are you?

907
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,959
Speaker 7: I'm good good, I'm chilling, okay.

908
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: So Okay, break it down.

909
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:16,000
Speaker 2: Well, Anna, this will be good for you too, because

910
00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 2: we're all like that in this business. That's what it's like,

911
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 2: so we can relate for sure. It's like job to

912
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 2: job to job to job. No job security ever, ever, ever, No.

913
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:28,640
Speaker 6: Four oh one K, no paid time off, none of that.

914
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:33,600
Speaker 6: And right now that's sounding like mighty tempting. It feels

915
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 6: like I'm missing out on something.

916
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 1: You know, you mean by not having a four oh.

917
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:41,840
Speaker 6: One K yeah, yeah, exactly, yeah, or just like steady

918
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 6: income throughout the year. Right now, Catherine knows, I'm unemployed.

919
00:36:45,440 --> 00:36:47,600
Speaker 6: I've worked it out where I have two shows that

920
00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,919
Speaker 6: I work on that kind of fill up nine months

921
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:52,480
Speaker 6: out of the year, and now these three months January

922
00:36:52,520 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 6: to March, I'm just kind of hanging out, you know,

923
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:59,760
Speaker 6: and applying for gigs and crossing my fingers but nothing yet.

924
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 4: Have you been doing it for a long time.

925
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:05,360
Speaker 6: I've been working in reality TV for like five years

926
00:37:05,440 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 6: or so, producing like two ish years.

927
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, exactly.

928
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:14,879
Speaker 5: Okay, I want to say Mozeltov to you for having

929
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 5: a job nine months in a creative industry nine months

930
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 5: out of the year.

931
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh god about that.

932
00:37:21,200 --> 00:37:23,560
Speaker 5: That's like teachers, you know, they get like a summer off.

933
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 4: I guess, I'm like, you're kind of living their schedule.

934
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:27,600
Speaker 5: But I'm like, if I was employed for nine months

935
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 5: this year, I'd be like, you know, on a beach somewhere.

936
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 5: I'd be in Miami with you. No, not to I

937
00:37:33,400 --> 00:37:35,920
Speaker 5: understand though, that this lull, the three months is it

938
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 5: feels slow and you have no idea what to do.

939
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 6: But yeah, I feel slow, and then the demons start,

940
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 6: you know, creeping back in and telling me that I'm

941
00:37:43,400 --> 00:37:45,800
Speaker 6: never going to have a stable anything, never going to

942
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:47,520
Speaker 6: be able to buy a house, never gonna you know.

943
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:49,320
Speaker 1: Well, that's not true, that's not true.

944
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:51,760
Speaker 2: Those are your thoughts, Like, that's your just like shadows

945
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 2: self telling you your That's what all of us have

946
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 2: and experience when we don't have a lot going on,

947
00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,439
Speaker 2: is our voices saying are you good enough?

948
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:01,760
Speaker 1: Are you going to this happen? That's bullshit.

949
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:03,880
Speaker 2: So first and foremost, we need you to spend these

950
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:06,799
Speaker 2: three months that you have off in a very much

951
00:38:06,840 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 2: more productive way. And you sound like you have since

952
00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,759
Speaker 2: you have a steady income for those nine months out

953
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:14,520
Speaker 2: of the year before you have something more that you're working.

954
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:15,719
Speaker 1: Maybe eleven months out of the year.

955
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 2: I mean, it's a pretty good gig if you can

956
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 2: swing working nine months out of the year and keep

957
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 2: it that way.

958
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:22,240
Speaker 1: I would just say, but you need to put money.

959
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,759
Speaker 2: Aside in every paycheck first of all, for your own

960
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:26,600
Speaker 2: four oh one k for your own You have to

961
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,239
Speaker 2: start all of that shit yourself, and because then you're

962
00:38:29,280 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 2: an island taking care of yourself and you're feeding yourself

963
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 2: before you put yourself out there anymore. And there's a

964
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 2: lot of self esteem that comes with managing your money

965
00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:40,200
Speaker 2: in a very thoughtful, futuristic way.

966
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:42,919
Speaker 1: You're preparing for the future. You can't just like burn

967
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:44,799
Speaker 1: through everything and it feels.

968
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 2: Very good, and you're going to feel a lot safer

969
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 2: and like grounded and protected when you are looking out

970
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:52,319
Speaker 2: for yourself. And there's all sorts of accounts you could

971
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:55,239
Speaker 2: drop and they can take money from your paycheck. You

972
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:57,719
Speaker 2: can put it in yourself like you can design it

973
00:38:57,760 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 2: however you want. But you need to start doing that anyway.

974
00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 2: You know, you're a brown man and you should be

975
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:03,400
Speaker 2: preparing for your future.

976
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 7: Absolutely. Yeah, yeah, I do.

977
00:39:05,120 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 6: I have a rough ira and I do have a

978
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:09,080
Speaker 6: good amount of savings, but it's like I don't know.

979
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 6: I don't know if it's like the Cuban I'm Cuban

980
00:39:11,680 --> 00:39:15,280
Speaker 6: and the trauma of coming from parents who came from nothing,

981
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,439
Speaker 6: Like I'm like, you gotta keep saving more, you gotta

982
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:20,040
Speaker 6: keep saving more, you know, Like, but I hear you.

983
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 1: A lot of people feel that way.

984
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 2: Like a lot of people feel exactly the way that

985
00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 2: you do. It's not as I did, to do with

986
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 2: being Cuban. It has to do with the human experience,

987
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:30,680
Speaker 2: you know, you're I mean, not many people go through

988
00:39:30,719 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 2: life going I'm going to be great this whole time.

989
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 1: Everything's going to go my way.

990
00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 7: Yeah, true, true.

991
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 5: Well are we gonna say Anna, I was gonna say, well, yeah,

992
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 5: as a Jew, you know, my parents, they they I

993
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:41,640
Speaker 5: feel sorry for them that I did this, you know

994
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:42,040
Speaker 5: what I mean.

995
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 4: I'm always broke and I'm always I feel for you

996
00:39:44,640 --> 00:39:47,399
Speaker 4: because this is where I am today this morning. Even.

997
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:49,759
Speaker 4: But I was gonna say, you're a producer, and you.

998
00:39:49,680 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 5: Don't have to put yourself in a little category of

999
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:52,960
Speaker 5: just a reality.

1000
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 4: TV producer, because that's a hard job. You're a producer.

1001
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 4: You could produce. You know how many people need producers,

1002
00:39:57,920 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 4: like on a podcast.

1003
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 5: Or first or film or you knows your name out there, Yeah, commercials, advertising,

1004
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,600
Speaker 5: even social media people need people to produce videos for

1005
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:10,719
Speaker 5: Like it's there's so much more work I think as

1006
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 5: a producer, because you're obviously organized. You know how to

1007
00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:16,239
Speaker 5: like book a place or guests or whatnot. You know,

1008
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 5: like you know how to get people together. So I

1009
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 5: think just exercise that and you might find something that

1010
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 5: you like. Even you're like, wait, reality TV, that's so

1011
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 5: of the past, Like look at me, I'm running you know,

1012
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:31,040
Speaker 5: six podcasts now. I always think, take whatever skills you enjoy,

1013
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:34,600
Speaker 5: because you obviously went in a creative route, you chose

1014
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 5: not to go into like a corporate job. Like take

1015
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:39,880
Speaker 5: those skills and just go and try something else with it,

1016
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 5: because I think you seem.

1017
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 4: Like you could do that.

1018
00:40:43,120 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 7: Thank you, thank you.

1019
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 6: Yeah. I also have this like feeling that like I've

1020
00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:48,839
Speaker 6: got to be out in La you know, that's where

1021
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 6: I kind of like set up my like network of people.

1022
00:40:50,920 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 6: I lived there for two years, and like I wrote

1023
00:40:53,200 --> 00:40:55,080
Speaker 6: in the email, like I've been back home with Mom

1024
00:40:55,160 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 6: who's been sick. I have my ninety three year old

1025
00:40:57,520 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 6: grandfather here who I'm also like helping out, you know,

1026
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 6: make you know, a doctor's appointment to whatnot. And my

1027
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,600
Speaker 6: dad is a truck driver who's gone half the time.

1028
00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 6: And so I feel like a little bit of a

1029
00:41:06,640 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 6: how to be home right now here in Miami. And

1030
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:10,839
Speaker 6: I'm sure there's a ton of ton of work here,

1031
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:13,319
Speaker 6: But again, my network's kind of like in La. So

1032
00:41:13,360 --> 00:41:15,480
Speaker 6: I'm kind of like again at that's like cross roads.

1033
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:17,399
Speaker 2: But first of all, you can you can reach out

1034
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 2: to your network in LA and I guarantee you they're

1035
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 2: going to have connections in Miami.

1036
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:22,560
Speaker 1: You can reach out to, you can. There's so many

1037
00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:23,879
Speaker 1: proactive things you can be doing.

1038
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 2: And I think being there for your family is so

1039
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:28,560
Speaker 2: important and meaningful that it's great that you're doing that.

1040
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 2: We spend so much time thinking about what we're not

1041
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:31,839
Speaker 2: doing instead of.

1042
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 1: Thinking about what we're doing.

1043
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 2: Like you are doing something very profound and meaningful by

1044
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 2: being available for your family. That is meaningful, And I

1045
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 2: would choose that any day over the week, over you know,

1046
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:43,200
Speaker 2: any of this business.

1047
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 1: The reality is you have to work, but you can

1048
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:46,480
Speaker 1: have it both ways.

1049
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:49,640
Speaker 2: Like everything is possible, you just have to actually put

1050
00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:51,440
Speaker 2: in the work, which might be a little bit of

1051
00:41:51,520 --> 00:41:53,760
Speaker 2: like trying to figure out who would have a connection

1052
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:57,239
Speaker 2: in Miami. And yes, I love Anna's advice about trying

1053
00:41:57,239 --> 00:42:00,160
Speaker 2: different things, because yeah, you could get a couple days

1054
00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 2: on another job doing something completely different, on a modeling

1055
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:07,919
Speaker 2: shoot or print shoot campaign and and and it'd be like, oh,

1056
00:42:08,080 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 2: I could make a couple I could do this five

1057
00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,120
Speaker 2: days a month when I'm here in Miami, or twenty

1058
00:42:12,200 --> 00:42:14,879
Speaker 2: days a month. You can find other avenues where you're

1059
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:17,480
Speaker 2: making money. You're still in the industry you want to

1060
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 2: be in, but you're getting another look at kind of

1061
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 2: like various different parts of the industry, and they're.

1062
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:25,960
Speaker 4: Gonna love that you have LA experience on your and

1063
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 4: they're gonna be like, oh, wow, he's the real deal.

1064
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,840
Speaker 5: Okay, he lived in LA and produced reality shows like

1065
00:42:31,160 --> 00:42:32,200
Speaker 5: that's that's big.

1066
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:35,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's cool.

1067
00:42:36,040 --> 00:42:36,239
Speaker 4: You know.

1068
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 3: I want you to see these three months not as

1069
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:43,319
Speaker 3: like downtime. We are not making money, but we all

1070
00:42:43,360 --> 00:42:47,440
Speaker 3: know how busy a producer's life can be when you're working.

1071
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 3: So I want you to take these three months and

1072
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 3: think bigger, not what job could I be doing, but

1073
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 3: what's my next career move? I mean, maybe you are

1074
00:42:56,719 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 3: at the point where it's hard to save, but you

1075
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 3: know what I think you need to be looking at

1076
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:04,799
Speaker 3: this more creatively. This is your moment to think about

1077
00:43:04,880 --> 00:43:08,239
Speaker 3: what show do I maybe want to pitch, What ideas

1078
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:10,880
Speaker 3: do I have? How can I level up my career

1079
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 3: to the point where I am making enough money that

1080
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 3: it's easy to put money into a four oh one K.

1081
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:17,799
Speaker 3: I would also say a book I'd recommend for you

1082
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:21,240
Speaker 3: is You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jensen Cero,

1083
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:24,439
Speaker 3: who's been on the podcast before, and that.

1084
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:27,319
Speaker 1: I wrote that book? Did I write it? You're very

1085
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:27,839
Speaker 1: good at it.

1086
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:29,439
Speaker 4: I need to read this book too.

1087
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:29,919
Speaker 6: Now.

1088
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:30,439
Speaker 4: It's great.

1089
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 3: It's kind of less about like what specifically to do

1090
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 3: and more about changing your mindset around money and fixing

1091
00:43:36,239 --> 00:43:38,879
Speaker 3: especially the scarcity thing that you have going on. You've

1092
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:42,319
Speaker 3: got like very much a scarcity mindset and turning that

1093
00:43:42,400 --> 00:43:45,719
Speaker 3: into like training your mind to think in terms of abundance.

1094
00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 2: And I'm going to get to you got to start

1095
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 2: meditating too. Like I say this to almost everybody, but

1096
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 2: it sucking. Makes such a difference to just constantly like

1097
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:57,919
Speaker 2: there's all these mantras, guided mantras about you, and there's

1098
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:00,919
Speaker 2: I promise you if you meditate for like five days

1099
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:02,439
Speaker 2: in a row, you're going to just start to feel

1100
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 2: a lightness and a groundedness that you didn't feel because

1101
00:44:05,560 --> 00:44:09,120
Speaker 2: you're actually giving yourself that time to surround yourself with

1102
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Speaker 2: whatever imagery like calms you or lights or whatever, your

1103
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:18,040
Speaker 2: whatever makes you feel protected, and like just visualizing what

1104
00:44:18,160 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 2: is your safest environment and telling yourself, like, you've got this.

1105
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:23,680
Speaker 1: You're the reason why you've gotten this far to begin with.

1106
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:27,200
Speaker 2: Like you're on your own team, so just make sure

1107
00:44:27,600 --> 00:44:30,200
Speaker 2: that you're always working for that team.

1108
00:44:30,960 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 7: Yeah. Absolutely, I used to meditate it a lot and

1109
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 7: I need to pick it back up. You're absolutely right.

1110
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:36,879
Speaker 7: And I think I need to go to therapy again.

1111
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 7: I know you would say that.

1112
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean everyone should be in therapy. I just

1113
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 2: got off the phone with my therapist this morning, you guys.

1114
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 2: I just had a nice one hour session with my

1115
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:46,080
Speaker 2: new therapist. I fucking love this woman.

1116
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:50,360
Speaker 1: Yes, send me your contact, Okay, And right now you

1117
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 1: have the time.

1118
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 4: I wanted to say one other thing.

1119
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:54,799
Speaker 5: You're never going to look back at this time and

1120
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 5: regret being with your family, you know, like in the

1121
00:44:57,719 --> 00:45:00,520
Speaker 5: future you'll look back and be like, need to do

1122
00:45:00,520 --> 00:45:02,719
Speaker 5: that dumb gig in La for like a weekend and like,

1123
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 5: you know, stress myself out, like you'll always look back

1124
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 5: at loving the time with your family.

1125
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 7: So absolutely, no, you're so right, And just.

1126
00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 2: To remember, like I always like to think open instead

1127
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 2: of contract, like when you're thinking about career stuff and

1128
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 2: like dabbling in different things.

1129
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: Don't think you only do one thing.

1130
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 2: Think oh, what else can I do that I don't

1131
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 2: know that I can do yet, Like what else is there?

1132
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:24,399
Speaker 2: And be very open to all the possibilities and maybe

1133
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 2: even if it's a job opportunity, like a couple of

1134
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:28,400
Speaker 2: days work here and there on some sort of production

1135
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 2: that isn't reality based or that you're not that familiar with,

1136
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:34,760
Speaker 2: even if it doesn't sound appealing, like I would beseech

1137
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 2: you to just try it. You know, you don't know

1138
00:45:37,280 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 2: what all the stuff that's out there that you're gonna

1139
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 2: like until you do it, and you can cross it

1140
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:42,319
Speaker 2: off and go that's not for me.

1141
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 1: This is for me.

1142
00:45:43,560 --> 00:45:47,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's that improv rule. Yes and yes, yeah.

1143
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, So Ariana Grande's latest song, Oh yeah.

1144
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:54,680
Speaker 1: What is it? What is it? I think I listened

1145
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:59,280
Speaker 1: to it yesterday, yes, and yes, okay, there you go, Okay.

1146
00:45:59,120 --> 00:45:59,440
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1147
00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:01,919
Speaker 1: She went to say city.

1148
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:04,400
Speaker 5: This is traumatizing for people in comedy. Why does she

1149
00:46:04,480 --> 00:46:07,080
Speaker 5: need I Likedriana Grande until this song. I'm like, I can't,

1150
00:46:07,120 --> 00:46:07,439
Speaker 5: I can't.

1151
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, all right, well, thank you also so so much.

1152
00:46:11,800 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 6: I'm taking this all to heart.

1153
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 2: Okay, and wey bye, Honey, take care great, Harvey's taken

1154
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 2: care of wonderful.

1155
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, this is like I like what you said Anna

1156
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:25,759
Speaker 3: about like it's like a teacher, like this is the

1157
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 3: time he gets to focus on himself, do some soul searching.

1158
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:30,880
Speaker 4: All that stuff.

1159
00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:33,120
Speaker 5: Oh my god, I wish I could work nine months

1160
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 5: out of the year. I was like, that sounds amazing. Unemployed.

1161
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 4: What I'm sorry, We're.

1162
00:46:38,800 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 2: Going to take a break and we're going to be

1163
00:46:40,160 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 2: right back to wrap it up, and we're back.

1164
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 1: We're back. Well.

1165
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:50,319
Speaker 3: Our next question comes from Brittany, and this one's just

1166
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:54,880
Speaker 3: an email. Brittany says, Dear Chelsea, I work in a

1167
00:46:54,880 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 3: male dominated environment, and it's all too common to hear

1168
00:46:57,680 --> 00:47:01,360
Speaker 3: about committed men having affairs on their partner. I recently

1169
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 3: learned about a guy from work, let's call him John,

1170
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:05,959
Speaker 3: who was sleeping with a girl from my work, let's

1171
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:09,800
Speaker 3: call her Jane. Neither John nor Jane are friends of mine. However,

1172
00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:12,160
Speaker 3: I was part of a wedding party this summer with

1173
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 3: John's wife, let's call her Sam. At this point, I

1174
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 3: knew about John and Jane's affair, but I was under

1175
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 3: the impression that it was short lived and had been

1176
00:47:20,120 --> 00:47:22,799
Speaker 3: over for a few months. Before this wedding, I was

1177
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 3: not friends with Sam and didn't feel like it was

1178
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:26,640
Speaker 3: my place to say anything. But then I had a

1179
00:47:26,680 --> 00:47:29,239
Speaker 3: great bonding experience with Sam at the wedding and we

1180
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:32,719
Speaker 3: said we should keep in touch, and I recently learned

1181
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 3: that John and Jane's affair is still ongoing. I feel

1182
00:47:36,280 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 3: terrible for Sam. She's a wonderful person, working mother of five,

1183
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:42,800
Speaker 3: and I feel more inclined to say something at this point,

1184
00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 3: but I'm still not sure if I'm the right person

1185
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:47,240
Speaker 3: to do it, or that I should be getting involved

1186
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:47,560
Speaker 3: at all.

1187
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:49,440
Speaker 1: I just know that if it were.

1188
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 3: Me in this situation, I'd want to know that my

1189
00:47:51,760 --> 00:47:54,320
Speaker 3: husband was having an affair. So should I tell Sam

1190
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:58,279
Speaker 3: or should I stay out of it? Best regards brittany An,

1191
00:47:58,520 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 3: I'll let.

1192
00:47:58,880 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: You go first on this.

1193
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 5: Really, yeah, I I feel like you have to tell her.

1194
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:08,640
Speaker 5: I don't know unless it's been so long you think

1195
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:09,359
Speaker 5: she even knows.

1196
00:48:09,400 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 4: I don't know.

1197
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 5: Obviously she's writing in right, it's on her chest and

1198
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:16,279
Speaker 5: she knows that deep down she probably should tell her,

1199
00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 5: but it wants to feel like, well, maybe if I don't,

1200
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:20,400
Speaker 5: life will move on and it'll be better.

1201
00:48:20,760 --> 00:48:21,439
Speaker 1: This brought back.

1202
00:48:21,480 --> 00:48:23,120
Speaker 5: I literally am like, oh my god. I had a

1203
00:48:23,160 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 5: friend and I knew her boyfriend. She had said, I

1204
00:48:25,560 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 5: think he's cheating on me, cheating on me. And literally

1205
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:29,839
Speaker 5: two years later I met a friend in LA and

1206
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 5: she was the one he was cheating on. And I

1207
00:48:32,560 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 5: connected these dots and I was like, oh, oh my god,

1208
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:38,880
Speaker 5: do I tell my friend? Like I know, she didn't

1209
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:40,359
Speaker 5: know who it was. And I'm like, oh my god,

1210
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,279
Speaker 5: it's someone I know. That's awful, but and I think

1211
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 5: about it still. I ended up saying it after everyone.

1212
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 4: Was broken that no one was with the sky anymore.

1213
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:51,239
Speaker 5: But I was like, yeah, if you know something and

1214
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:53,920
Speaker 5: you respect this person, I would say, you know, be

1215
00:48:54,040 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 5: there for them and support them, and I would tell

1216
00:48:55,800 --> 00:48:58,240
Speaker 5: them maybe I'm I don't know, it's gonna.

1217
00:48:58,000 --> 00:48:58,839
Speaker 1: Be hard either way.

1218
00:48:59,000 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 2: I couldn't agree with more listen as a woman, there

1219
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:03,880
Speaker 2: needs to be more honesty in this world not less honesty.

1220
00:49:04,080 --> 00:49:07,360
Speaker 1: As a woman, it is imperative.

1221
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:08,880
Speaker 2: That we are honest with each other because we have

1222
00:49:09,000 --> 00:49:13,239
Speaker 2: been short shrifted our entire existence and lie to And

1223
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:15,800
Speaker 2: as a woman, I would tell a stranger if I

1224
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:18,879
Speaker 2: knew something about her life because I would want her

1225
00:49:18,920 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 2: to know, and she can do Listen, it's a new friend.

1226
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:24,240
Speaker 2: It's not your close friends, so whatever. If she doesn't

1227
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:26,399
Speaker 2: want to be friends with you after, then that's fine too.

1228
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:29,480
Speaker 2: But I think this is an opportunity for you to

1229
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:31,640
Speaker 2: show up for someone in a way that is meaningful,

1230
00:49:31,960 --> 00:49:34,359
Speaker 2: because it is not fair for her to have five

1231
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 2: children and a husband who's having an affair while she's

1232
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 2: fucking doing everything.

1233
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:39,840
Speaker 1: It's just not fair.

1234
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 2: And I don't think it's in being an interloper when

1235
00:49:42,920 --> 00:49:45,480
Speaker 2: you're telling someone the truth, Like and I've had friendships

1236
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 2: end because of telling the truth, you know, But I

1237
00:49:48,560 --> 00:49:50,600
Speaker 2: will never stop telling people the truth, and I will

1238
00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 2: never stop telling women the truth. There's a feeling inside

1239
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:56,800
Speaker 2: of me, and I think many of us can relate

1240
00:49:56,840 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 2: to it. I'm sure I know both of you are

1241
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:01,480
Speaker 2: going to agree with me that there is a sisterhood

1242
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:04,399
Speaker 2: and we all owe it to each other to think

1243
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 2: of each other first before some guy. We need to

1244
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:12,040
Speaker 2: be on each other's team, and that requires sometimes difficult conversations,

1245
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:13,799
Speaker 2: but moreover, honesty.

1246
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:16,680
Speaker 1: There is no way you can go wrong with being honest.

1247
00:50:17,640 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, and it'll be hard at first, but you know

1248
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:23,359
Speaker 5: she'll be better for it, Like it will, she'll learn

1249
00:50:23,480 --> 00:50:24,440
Speaker 5: to handle this.

1250
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:26,319
Speaker 2: It's not going to get where she might be like

1251
00:50:26,400 --> 00:50:28,319
Speaker 2: fuck you and I don't want to hear this and

1252
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 2: I don't believe you, and it might ruin your relationship, but.

1253
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:32,759
Speaker 1: I still would do it. I would. I would say

1254
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: it's more important to be honest.

1255
00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:37,560
Speaker 3: Do you think there are any safeguards that she could

1256
00:50:37,640 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 3: take in telling because she works with this guy, Like,

1257
00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 3: my one concern is that this is going to affect

1258
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:46,360
Speaker 3: her career negatively because she'll be known as like the

1259
00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 3: person who outed John like for having this affair.

1260
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that's going to be an issue.

1261
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:55,879
Speaker 2: But they're just colleagues, right, Yeah, it's not like he's

1262
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:57,319
Speaker 2: her boss or something that.

1263
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, not as far as I mean, Yeah, I don't know.

1264
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:02,359
Speaker 2: You know, when you get into like don't tell them

1265
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 2: I told you, like that is all very Yeah.

1266
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 1: It's like it's irrelevant.

1267
00:51:06,400 --> 00:51:09,600
Speaker 2: It's almost like, yeah, I'm telling on you and you're

1268
00:51:09,600 --> 00:51:12,480
Speaker 2: gonna hate me, so you're gonna just have to pony

1269
00:51:12,560 --> 00:51:15,479
Speaker 2: up to that. Yeah, I'm sorry, but I'm not gonna

1270
00:51:15,480 --> 00:51:18,080
Speaker 2: watch this happen. It's gross. I want to see it,

1271
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:18,400
Speaker 2: you know.

1272
00:51:19,080 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 3: And I think sometimes when we're carrying the weight of

1273
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,839
Speaker 3: someone else's secrets, we don't give enough weight to how

1274
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:26,480
Speaker 3: that affects us. Like I know someone who kept a

1275
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 3: very similar secret to this for years, for a long

1276
00:51:29,719 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 3: long time about something that was going on, and it

1277
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 3: really truly impacted her.

1278
00:51:34,400 --> 00:51:36,240
Speaker 1: Health in a in a huge way.

1279
00:51:36,560 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 3: So I think we can't really underestimate how how impactful

1280
00:51:40,760 --> 00:51:42,239
Speaker 3: carrying someone else's secrets can be.

1281
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:44,359
Speaker 1: M Yeah, I mean she.

1282
00:51:44,400 --> 00:51:46,360
Speaker 4: Lost me when she said she had five kids, Like

1283
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:47,360
Speaker 4: she's home caring.

1284
00:51:47,160 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 5: For five kits and off a holiday party like looking

1285
00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:52,600
Speaker 5: up with someone like stakes are raised.

1286
00:51:52,880 --> 00:51:55,440
Speaker 2: Yes, Yeah, I just don't understand these women either that

1287
00:51:55,520 --> 00:51:57,759
Speaker 2: have affairs with men who have five children and have

1288
00:51:57,800 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 2: a wife at home, Like what are you telling yourself

1289
00:52:00,400 --> 00:52:02,760
Speaker 2: that this is a good this is a good karma

1290
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:05,879
Speaker 2: for you and for there's there's children involved, Like, It's

1291
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 2: just it's gross.

1292
00:52:08,520 --> 00:52:13,040
Speaker 3: So yeah, anyway, brittany time to tattle okay.

1293
00:52:13,320 --> 00:52:16,120
Speaker 1: Anna Roisman, You've been such a delight. Anna. Tell everyone

1294
00:52:16,160 --> 00:52:18,839
Speaker 1: how they can watch you find you all of your shit.

1295
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 4: Thanks.

1296
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 5: You can find me anywhere online at Anna Roisman A

1297
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 5: N N A R O I S M A N.

1298
00:52:25,360 --> 00:52:28,960
Speaker 5: I post a lot of dum celebrity impressions and stuff.

1299
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:31,440
Speaker 5: I have fun doing it, you know, especially when they

1300
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:33,360
Speaker 5: like it. When they don't like it. It's a little

1301
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:35,560
Speaker 5: touch and go. But you know, for the most.

1302
00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 1: Part, do you get a lot of feedback from celebrities

1303
00:52:37,600 --> 00:52:38,239
Speaker 1: who don't like it?

1304
00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:38,880
Speaker 7: You know.

1305
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:41,359
Speaker 4: I used to get blocked from Instagram a lot.

1306
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 5: I get warnings a lot, and I think someone was

1307
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 5: reporting me, which was scary. And that's Hilaria Baldwin. And

1308
00:52:47,160 --> 00:52:48,479
Speaker 5: I'm okay with it now, you.

1309
00:52:48,360 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 1: Know, Laria Baldwin, what a mess.

1310
00:52:52,239 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 4: People think I'm her on diktok. It's a little scary.

1311
00:52:54,680 --> 00:52:57,400
Speaker 5: That was an accident. We do look alike, I guess

1312
00:52:57,480 --> 00:53:00,279
Speaker 5: you can say. But oh, and I want to say.

1313
00:53:00,480 --> 00:53:02,600
Speaker 5: You can listen to my podcast. It's called Big Wigs.

1314
00:53:03,080 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 5: My friend Andrea and I do impressions together. We do

1315
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:08,719
Speaker 5: Chris and Courtney together, and we shoot the shit and

1316
00:53:08,800 --> 00:53:11,279
Speaker 5: talk about things that are in pop culture and we

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Speaker 5: have fun.

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Speaker 3: Hearing you two like do Chris and Courtney together at

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Speaker 3: each other is hysterical.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, that's our show for today. And I hope

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Speaker 2: I see you again. I'll see you when I'm in

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Speaker 2: New York next.

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Speaker 4: I would love that. I'll be in La also, I'll

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Speaker 4: find you. I can't wait. I gotta go out with Jamie.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, good luck with everything. I love watching your success.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna love you crushing it for a long time.

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Speaker 2: So yes, I'll see you again soon. And thanks for

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Speaker 2: coming on the podcast for having me.

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Speaker 4: You're the best.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you for sure.

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Speaker 4: Thanks Anna.

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Speaker 2: Bye, guys, thank you bye, okay bye, okay. So show

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Speaker 2: dates coming up Canadian show dates. These are for Canadians, guys.

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Speaker 2: I'm coming February ninth. I'll be in Winnipeg, Victoria, BC

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Speaker 2: is March eighth. Then i will be in Salt Lake

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Speaker 2: City April fourth, and Denver April fifth. I'm coming to

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Speaker 2: Arizona at Maricopa April twelfth. April thirteen, I'll be in Brooks,

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Speaker 2: California at the Cash Creek Casino, and then I'm going

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Speaker 2: to be in Santa Rosa Sunday, April fourteenth. I'm coming

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Speaker 2: to Richmond, Virginia, Baltimore, Maryland on April twentieth, Gary, Indiana,

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Speaker 2: Prior Lake, Minnesota. Coming to Oklahoma, Norman, Oklahoma on May

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Speaker 2: third and May fourth. I will be in Thackerville, Oklahoma

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Speaker 2: for my rescheduled Windstar World Casino date. And I want

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Speaker 2: to make sure that I give a shout out to

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Speaker 2: our show for Netflix. As a joke Festival, I put

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Speaker 2: together a show with some of my favorite comics. It's

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Speaker 2: May eleventh at the YouTube Theater Downtown, which I've never

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Speaker 2: performed in, so that's going to be fun. It's a

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Speaker 2: pretty big I have Matteo Lane, I have Fortune Themester performing,

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Speaker 2: I have Sam Jays on the show and Vanessa Gonzale.

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Speaker 2: So we it is called a Jew two Mexicans, No

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Speaker 2: a Jew, two gays in a Mexican, No a Jew.

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Speaker 2: Three gays at a Mexican. So it's political correctness at

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Speaker 2: its finest. And then I will be in Verona, New

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Speaker 2: York on May twenty sixth, and then I'm coming to

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Speaker 2: Australia in July and New Zealand July fifth, Auckland and

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Speaker 2: I'm coming to Wellington, New Zealand.

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Speaker 1: Melbourne, Brisbane, Sydney.

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Speaker 2: So those are all my dates for that are up

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Speaker 2: and available, so get your tickets.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to see you. Yeah, that's it.

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Speaker 3: If you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an email

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Speaker 3: at Dear Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com and be

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Speaker 3: sure to include your phone number. Dear Chelsea is edited

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Speaker 3: and engineered by Brad Dickert executive producer Catherine Law and

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Speaker 3: be sure to check out our merch at Chelseahandler dot

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Speaker 3: com