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Speaker 1: Hey guys, and welcome to this episode of Keep It Positive, Sweetie.

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Speaker 1: And today we are talking about being a boss, okay,

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Speaker 1: and I have none other than the biggest boss lady herself,

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Speaker 1: Kimberly Blackwell. Oh my goodness. First of all, Kimberly, thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for come to sit on the council

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Speaker 1: me today.

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Speaker 2: First of all, you called me and I was like,

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Speaker 2: cis will you do my podcast? I'm like, are you

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Speaker 2: kidding me? Like it was an honor to be asked.

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Speaker 2: I'm extremely proud of you.

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Speaker 1: You know it. I say it all the time.

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Speaker 2: You give me all the time, and I'm just so

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Speaker 2: excited for all that's happening. And you know, I like

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Speaker 2: being a sideline spectator and watching your big life.

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Speaker 3: I'm just proud of you.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, thank you so much. I remember

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Speaker 1: when I first met you, DeAndre trist and a brother

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Speaker 1: of ours, ye shout out to you. What's up stylists

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Speaker 1: just amazing. I met him on Good Morning America because

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Speaker 1: he styles Robin Roberts when I was sould Tyler, and

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Speaker 1: that's how we got cool. And then you you came

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Speaker 1: in town and he's like, come have brunch with us

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Speaker 1: and that's the first time we met, and we ran

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Speaker 1: into each other a few times after that, and then

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Speaker 1: Soul Train Awards around twenty twenty one, we ran each other.

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Speaker 1: That's when we reconnected and the swap numbers.

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Speaker 2: But let me tell you something. What's interesting too, is

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Speaker 2: that I'm really big on energy. So for me at

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Speaker 2: lunch that day, I was kind of curious, Yeah, because

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Speaker 2: we vibed. And I'm very selective in where and how

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Speaker 2: I kind of you know, everybody will say, oh, Kim,

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Speaker 2: you know everybody, and I do know a lot of people,

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Speaker 2: but there aren't a lot of people that I will

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Speaker 2: take the time to nurture something meaningful. And for me,

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Speaker 2: when I saw you again, I was like, okay, and

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Speaker 2: we were able to spend some time together.

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Speaker 1: You know, I have some great clients.

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Speaker 2: You were worthy of an opportunity, and so we did

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Speaker 2: some business together. And from that I was just we

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Speaker 2: went to eat, yeah, and we yacked and yacked and that.

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Speaker 1: I said, do you want me to I said, did

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Speaker 1: you want to bring I know who you had in town?

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Speaker 1: You're like, no, just me and you. Yeah. I was like,

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Speaker 1: I get one. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: You treat me like I'm talent.

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm like, I am that person where I

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Speaker 2: am very humble. I know from where my best blessings flow.

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Speaker 2: And I, you know, stick and move very quietly and selectively,

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Speaker 2: and a lot of folks you will see me show

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Speaker 2: up places by myself. I don't need an entourage, lit

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Speaker 2: a lot of great friends. But and I've also learned

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Speaker 2: trick of the trade. What's that you get better things

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Speaker 2: without a plus one, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: Free game, free game.

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Speaker 2: You don't always need a plus one. And I will

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Speaker 2: say that AM a lot of opportunities.

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Speaker 1: I've been very fortunate.

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Speaker 2: But I knew that evening when we had dinner, that

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Speaker 2: it would manifest into something that I cherish now as

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Speaker 2: a sisterhood.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I just appreciate you, like every time I call you.

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Speaker 1: You just first of all, the energy, like you said,

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Speaker 1: the energy is top tier everything you do. I mean,

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Speaker 1: can y'all just look at the woman.

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Speaker 2: Like, no, first of all, don't even so they were

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Speaker 2: keeping it real. I was like, so, what's the vibe tomorrow?

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Speaker 2: She was like, gir I haven't even gotten that far,

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Speaker 2: so you know, I didn't know what to wear. No,

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Speaker 2: I'm coming to your beautiful home, right. But then you

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Speaker 2: walked outside, and I was like, oh, that's what we're

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Speaker 2: doing today, because you know, you got your own game.

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Speaker 1: You said the bar up you need.

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Speaker 2: So you know a fun fact and I told you so,

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Speaker 2: I am a hyper private person. We'll talk about that,

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Speaker 2: but I did. I said, I'm gonna give a little

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Speaker 2: this my girl. I'm gonna give a little bit to

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Speaker 2: her audience. But fun fact, I've always enjoyed expressing myself

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Speaker 2: through style. And so a lot of folks their first

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Speaker 2: job may have been McDonald's. Mine was retailed. So I

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Speaker 2: was working at TJ Max. I was wearing in that

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Speaker 1: And so my.

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Speaker 2: Freshman year of college, we had a magazine called the

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Speaker 2: Happenings my freshman year, who was the best dress?

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Speaker 1: You?

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Speaker 2: I already know it. So being therein been doing like

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Speaker 2: what coming off from renaissance?

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Speaker 1: Clearly we're still on the renaissance. Yes we are. Oh

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Speaker 1: my gosh, I knew like and I literally went, okay,

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Speaker 1: what would Kim believe?

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Speaker 2: Hey, Kim came chielder day, Kim came chill with Kim still,

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Speaker 2: Kim came shield today again. I just you know, I

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Speaker 2: feel like a lot of times you show up in

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Speaker 2: a way in which you express your energy. I knew

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Speaker 2: here I wanted to be very authentic. I knew I

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Speaker 2: wanted to be very comfortable. I'm actually a little bit

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Speaker 2: afraid because I'm like, if she gets me in an opera,

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Speaker 2: you know I needed to be prepared.

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Speaker 1: But I'm ready for you. Thank you, thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: When I think about being a boss, the first song

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Speaker 1: that comes to mind is Independent by Destiny's Child. Oh

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Speaker 1: my women, Independent, So your hands.

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Speaker 2: Up at come on, soft flex, come on, because girl,

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Speaker 2: I can't sing.

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Speaker 1: I was up screaming last night watching Beyonce. So my

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Speaker 1: notes a little off right now. But no, I want

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Speaker 1: to tell give them a little background of who you are,

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Speaker 1: because a lot of people may not I mean even me,

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Speaker 1: like still like it's still like a mystery about you.

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Speaker 1: Always I was like, it's just something about and I

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Speaker 1: love that you keep that mystique because that's what keeps

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Speaker 1: people curious, and you can just fly into the radar,

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Speaker 1: not people not knowing you. In the room was moving

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Speaker 3: One of the top questions is now what does she do?

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Speaker 1: Literally?

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Speaker 2: I mean literally, there is a lot by way of

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Speaker 2: how I spend my time as a business leader. You know,

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Speaker 2: I own and operate a business. I sait as an

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Speaker 2: LP as an investor, I'm a serial investor across various funds.

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Speaker 2: I'm a corporate director and a publicly traded company. I

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Speaker 2: wear a lot of hats and also in a lot

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Speaker 2: of cases serve in a function of crises management and mitigation.

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Speaker 3: So a lot of the stuff that you all see

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Speaker 3: that you don't see me.

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Speaker 1: We don't. I might be there. Yeah, recently the gathering

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Speaker 1: is so huge in our community, and you were very vital.

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Speaker 3: You know why.

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Speaker 2: There are a lot of lessons in that, and let's

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Speaker 2: talk about that, because I think that for me, what

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Speaker 2: a DM and it had some stuff around it, and

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Speaker 2: I was like, you know, I knew both CEOs, but

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Speaker 2: I didn't like what I was seeing by way of

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Speaker 2: the media and as black business leaders, and these are

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Speaker 2: scale businesses.

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Speaker 3: These are not mom and pops.

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Speaker 2: It really hurt me at my core that that was

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Speaker 2: the narrative and that one. You know, we were at

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Speaker 2: odds publicly and that too. You know, it was a

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Speaker 2: merger and acquisition deal. I do a lot of things

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Speaker 2: and so for me it was like you know, both CEOs.

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Speaker 2: I called Ryan Wilson first, and you know, it was

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Speaker 2: not to be involved. It was actually to check on T. K.

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Speaker 2: of the friendship that we have, he shared some things.

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Speaker 2: At the end, I am folks will tell you I'm

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Speaker 2: a vault. I value you know, confidence in folks being

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Speaker 2: able to share things privately. And I said, well, you

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Speaker 2: know what, I actually think that this is something that

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Speaker 2: could be resolved. I said, and if you're comfortable, because

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Speaker 2: I didn't want to break confidence, I'd ask you to

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Speaker 2: allow me to do what I do. And so he said,

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Speaker 2: you know, if you think you know it's worth your.

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Speaker 1: Time, I'm open to it.

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Speaker 3: I call Ryan Glover. He called me right back.

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Speaker 2: And what I want to say about Ryan Glover is

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Speaker 2: that his baby is like my baby, Haley.

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Speaker 1: She goes to Syracuse. I love her to death.

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Speaker 2: But he and I did not know one another will

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Speaker 2: but you know, he felt comfortable. And you know, one

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Speaker 2: of the things I would say to folks is that

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Speaker 2: you know, I stand strongly on my reputation. Yes, and

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Speaker 2: what I hope it is is that I'm not missy.

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Speaker 2: To your point on privacy, I try to keep my

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Speaker 2: name out of a lot of things. But as a

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Speaker 2: business person, I'm shrew. But I'm also very compassionate as

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Speaker 2: a leader. And he immediately gave that opportunity and we

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Speaker 2: huddled up and for about nine or ten days. They

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Speaker 2: were very long days, but very meaningful days, and there

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Speaker 2: Ryan Wilson, Ryan Glover and myself. Wow, and we were

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Speaker 2: able to resolve it. And the bigger messages, you know,

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Speaker 2: is that a lot of things can be resolved through communication.

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Speaker 2: And they wanted what was best for everyone, and I

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Speaker 2: told them, guys, the gathering spot, as you mentioned, you

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Speaker 2: it is powerful in what they've built by way of community,

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Speaker 2: and so it meant that much to me. And always

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Speaker 2: I tell folks, I like to use my superpowers for

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Speaker 2: who look like us black folks. Sorry that I felt

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Speaker 2: like could have stepped in to help this out sooner.

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Speaker 1: And we have to understand that.

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Speaker 2: When we are putting in positions of influence, it should

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Speaker 2: be to impact always positive. Because I also believe that

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Speaker 2: a greater good. But he also sees if you have

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Speaker 2: it quickly as he gives to you, he would take

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Speaker 2: just a lesson in how we owe it to our

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Speaker 1: Yeah, to get.

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Speaker 3: In the way.

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Speaker 1: I love it. I love that you stepped and you

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Speaker 1: put your Olivia Pup white hat on a little and

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Speaker 1: fixed it. It's hand and it is handled. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: love it. I love it. So. You were born in Cincinnati, Ohio,

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Speaker 1: in a household with both parents, played basketball and volleyball

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Speaker 1: growing up, and you talked about how your mother would

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Speaker 1: call you and your siblings geniuses. Let's talk about the

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Speaker 1: impact of receiving words of affirmation that actually built the

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Speaker 1: confidence and strong sense of self worth and self belief

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Speaker 1: at a very young age. Yeah, I know it's so important.

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Speaker 2: It is very important, and I feel very blessed and

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Speaker 2: fortunate my parents. Last week's celebrated fifty five years of marriage.

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Speaker 2: They met in the fourth grade, They went to prom together,

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Speaker 2: they went to college together. You know, that doesn't mean

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Speaker 2: that they have not probably had, you know, their own

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Speaker 2: And then it's like today, you don't know the kids

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Speaker 1: You know it is.

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Speaker 2: And I am of the belief that I am very humble.

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Speaker 3: People are like, you're so personable, I would not be right.

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Speaker 2: So that's how I was raised. But what I would

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Speaker 2: And not my Instagram world, my real life. Hey, because

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Speaker 3: I like that people don't know.

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Speaker 2: And so what I will also tell you too is

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Speaker 2: I'm talking about secure and what I'm not willing to

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Speaker 1: To, you know, say not just for me?

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Speaker 3: And again they're you in that space. You know, it's.

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Speaker 2: That we really want the things that don't cost, the thing.

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Speaker 1: That money cannot buy. That is so true.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm just saying and so, and I don't you know,

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Speaker 2: Because you're gonna have a great partner yea. And it

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Speaker 2: What I know, in where women are today, young women

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Speaker 3: You can have both. I've seen it. Yeah, I've seen it,

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Absolutely. I went through years of my life where

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Speaker 2: Know what works for them. It works, you know what

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Speaker 2: I mean? And so whatever works for whomever you.

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Speaker 1: Know, you like it. I love it period, exactly. Know

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Speaker 2: I honestly believe you could have it all. I seen,

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Speaker 1: I know that's right to speak it.

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 2: But but I like how you just said, because see

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is different. Yeah, and take your time. I

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Speaker 3: I think a lot of times we want to rush thing.

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Speaker 3: But it's gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: I've already claimed my victory. I know this, But you

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Speaker 1: I've learned that even in this relationship, there are things I.

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Speaker 1: Wrong, it is. Yeah, well I love it speaking of

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Speaker 2: Now, my friend might say differently. At times, I'm extremely

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Speaker 2: You gotta you know you're you're thinking for two Yeah,

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Speaker 2: absolutely know. And I am extremely considerate. And what most

440
00:25:03,359 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 2: people will say is that I have a giving heart,

441
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,760
Speaker 2: almost to the point where I'm too giving.

442
00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:18,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm now you're on my street street Yeah, give, give,

443
00:25:19,080 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 1: give and be like And I had to have a

444
00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:24,760
Speaker 1: conversation with TALR about this about and I can shows

445
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:26,439
Speaker 1: with you because you probably feel the same way. Have

446
00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:28,359
Speaker 1: you ever found yourself like you give, give, give, and

447
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 1: you feel like you're not getting it back, and you're like, hey,

448
00:25:30,800 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 1: you start to kind of get frustrated.

449
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's let's shift gears out of uh dating relationships

450
00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 2: and go to friendships. Yeah, I have gone through some

451
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 2: things where when.

452
00:25:45,480 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 3: I tell you I am a.

453
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,680
Speaker 1: Girls girl, you are what you.

454
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 3: Are and I will give beyond measure.

455
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Speaker 2: But what I realized too, and this is not anything

456
00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 2: against you know, any particular friend. It's just that I

457
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,120
Speaker 2: realized that I needed to stop expecting me from other

458
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 2: people because the things in which and how I would

459
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 2: operate as a friend may not be the way they

460
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 2: would operate.

461
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 3: Doesn't mean they're a bad person.

462
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Speaker 2: It just means that I needed to manage and shift

463
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Speaker 2: my expectations.

464
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Speaker 1: Yep, absolutely, that's what Tyler told me. He was like,

465
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Speaker 1: take money out of it, take what you do out

466
00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:29,879
Speaker 1: of it. And Denore said the same thing a lot

467
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 1: of times, with whoever you're sowing into may not sow

468
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 1: back into you. And Tyler's made a great comment. He said,

469
00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:37,639
Speaker 1: you know, Chrystal, he said, I used to look around

470
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,800
Speaker 1: me like I'm doing all this for these people and

471
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Speaker 1: like I'm not getting anything in return. And God told

472
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Speaker 1: them how they can't do it to the level you

473
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Speaker 1: do it. They'll never be able to do what you

474
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Speaker 1: do for them. And he said, you just got to

475
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 1: look at their heart, how you feel when you're around

476
00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:52,439
Speaker 1: them and do you feel loved? So truth?

477
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 2: And I was like, wow, that is so true, and

478
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:58,240
Speaker 2: I realized that, like, you know, different friends have different

479
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:02,639
Speaker 2: gifts yep, you know. And for me, I love a

480
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:07,199
Speaker 2: good time. I love to laugh, you know, So I

481
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 2: pay attention to energy. I make the shifts as needed.

482
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:16,400
Speaker 2: Who am I laughing with the most? And when I'm

483
00:27:16,440 --> 00:27:23,760
Speaker 2: having a hard time, who's recognizing my hard time? And

484
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 2: are they sometimes giving me a hard time in my

485
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:27,720
Speaker 2: hard time?

486
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:30,679
Speaker 3: Kimberly, Yeah, that part.

487
00:27:32,000 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 2: So you know where and how I look at my

488
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:44,760
Speaker 2: peace now, how I'm giving the heisman in separation is intentional,

489
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:51,200
Speaker 2: but it's not to be received in anything of malice.

490
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,840
Speaker 2: It's just where I am and how I'm looking at

491
00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 2: things and what I need for me.

492
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Speaker 1: I love it. That's so good. That's such a good point.

493
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: But let's I want to double back to like dating

494
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: you and I both, I'm I'm a very hyper masculine

495
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:08,679
Speaker 1: or not hypermasculine.

496
00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 3: Let me go back, No, you hardly hyper masculine.

497
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:12,680
Speaker 1: No?

498
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 2: Well no, okay, so keep on. You're gonna say it

499
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 2: the way you want to say it.

500
00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm hyper independent. I'm not hyper independent, but

501
00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: because of my independence. It does create this like you

502
00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 1: I'm saying, like like you kind of got it, like

503
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,119
Speaker 1: I'm you know what I'm saying, is this facade that

504
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: comes up with this persona where you're like I'm, I'm

505
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 1: and does that interfere with like, well, you know what?

506
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 2: So here's what I'll say. I realized that I own

507
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:47,200
Speaker 2: and operate a business. I realized that I sit in

508
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 2: borerooms and I go in and I am asked to

509
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 2: lead by governance and solving. I know that that requires

510
00:28:55,560 --> 00:29:01,120
Speaker 2: a position to sometimes be stern and direct. But I

511
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 2: realized too that that's what I do. That's not always

512
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 2: who I need to show up and who I am.

513
00:29:11,760 --> 00:29:13,560
Speaker 3: Especially in a relationship.

514
00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 2: Men need to feel needed. They do that, you know,

515
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 2: And so you know, what is it and how is it?

516
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:25,240
Speaker 2: In my soft girl era right that I show up

517
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:27,920
Speaker 2: as a woman and understanding.

518
00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 3: I subscribe to the word. I know what it means

519
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 3: to be submissive.

520
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 2: I have no pride, I tell hey, I have no

521
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:39,959
Speaker 2: pride with you, baby, No none. So I can allow

522
00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:44,560
Speaker 2: myself to be vulnerable in a relationship that I find

523
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 2: is worthy and meaningful.

524
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 1: For me to show up that way.

525
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 2: When you start breaking down Like I used to date

526
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 2: this guy and he used to say cool cool ask him,

527
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 2: you know, because that was the energy that I gave

528
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 2: him initially, but he broke me. Now, okay, So but

529
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 2: you want, you know, I want a man to be

530
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:12,680
Speaker 2: a man.

531
00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 3: I'm not a man.

532
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 2: And in all that I have to do as a leader,

533
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:24,880
Speaker 2: as a manager, as a provider, sometimes I just want

534
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 2: to hook what. Sometimes I want you to say, you

535
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 2: know what, pack your bag, let's go what you know?

536
00:30:35,800 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 2: So you want someone to recognize what you may need,

537
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:44,760
Speaker 2: but you also have to be deliberate and intentional about

538
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 2: what they may need. And I tend to over index

539
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 2: in that because I.

540
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 3: Realize God is so good to me.

541
00:30:54,880 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 2: I'm talking about so good, and I know that there

542
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 2: may be some disparities in the things that actually don't

543
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:09,760
Speaker 2: mean a lot to me. But I recognize that and

544
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 2: how men and or whomever may need to process that

545
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 2: with their partner, because I don't want anyone to feel inadequate.

546
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 3: No, you know, But what I do want you to

547
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 3: figure out is what are you giving me that no

548
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 3: one else is?

549
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 1: Yes? Ooh that's good, you know?

550
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:33,160
Speaker 3: And why and where is it in?

551
00:31:33,600 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 2: Why is it that I run to you when I'm

552
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 2: having a bad day, that I run to you because

553
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 2: I can depend on you to bring a smile to

554
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 2: my face or an inside joke.

555
00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:51,360
Speaker 1: Yeah. I love that, you know. Yeah, that's so true.

556
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 1: That so good. We often talk about faith. You don't

557
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 1: hide your faith none at all. And I love that

558
00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 1: we're going to church together. Yes we had, Yes, yes

559
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 1: we have.

560
00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 2: I mean again, I'm unapologetic in my faith because when

561
00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 2: God has been as good as he is and.

562
00:32:13,600 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 3: Will be for me, I will not hide it.

563
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 2: I also know that in my darkest hours in time,

564
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 2: it's been me and Him.

565
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:31,200
Speaker 1: That's it. That's it.

566
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 3: And so to.

567
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:40,080
Speaker 2: Know what He has done I'm talking about you know, folks,

568
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:43,719
Speaker 2: these kids, you know, they go on Instagram and they

569
00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 2: see X y Z. They want the instant and immediate gratification.

570
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 2: You know, I drove a Honda with a hangar that

571
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 2: held my bumper up. What six hundred square foot apartment

572
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:01,520
Speaker 2: is where I started my business.

573
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 3: Gilded multimillion dollar enterprize.

574
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 2: I write seven figure checks to go into investments.

575
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 3: But for the.

576
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 2: Grace and mercy of God. Wow, And so for me

577
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 2: I am. I know from where my blessings flow. And

578
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 2: if you have a problem with me talking about how

579
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 2: good he is, then we probably not gonna talk a lot. Hello,

580
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 2: because we talk all the time because we can say

581
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 2: and it's not a brag or boast, it's a praise.

582
00:33:31,040 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 1: It is a praise.

583
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 2: Oh you know, because like I said, you know, for

584
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 2: some folks, favorite ain't fair, and it ain't.

585
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 1: That's touching it because it ain't God an't good. Favorite

586
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:46,520
Speaker 1: is not fair. I definitely wantn't touch on that because

587
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 1: I know.

588
00:33:47,560 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm glad you did, because that's a huge part.

589
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 2: You know, if you come to my page. You know,

590
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 2: folks come to my page they want to see, oh

591
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 2: you know, she got the pieces right, and sometimes I do.

592
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 2: But but that's not why I want you to come

593
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 2: to my page.

594
00:34:02,960 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 3: I promise you.

595
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 2: I don't have I figured out that that may be

596
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 2: what lures people to my page.

597
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:09,360
Speaker 1: Yeah I know that.

598
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:11,000
Speaker 3: So I give a piece or two.

599
00:34:11,120 --> 00:34:12,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, but well, I really.

600
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 3: Want you on my page is for that social Sunday sermon.

601
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:17,480
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, you're gonna give it to it.

602
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:20,360
Speaker 2: I'm gonna give it, and I'm gonna give it along

603
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:25,520
Speaker 2: with the word because if I can have and touch

604
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:30,839
Speaker 2: one person on Sunday, who may be struggling, who may

605
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:34,960
Speaker 2: need a word, who may not know him, but can

606
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:37,319
Speaker 2: see what He has done for me, Because if he

607
00:34:37,360 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 2: can do it for me, he can.

608
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 1: Do it for you. Oh my goodness, what I tell

609
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 1: everybody around me? If you see what God is doing

610
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 1: for me, what makes you think he won't do it

611
00:34:46,880 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: for you? Yeah? You know. Sometly times you got people

612
00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 1: around you where they may be jealous or envious or

613
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: not even understanding, like why you and not even thinking

614
00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: I'm mixed? You know what I'm saying, Like you have

615
00:34:57,800 --> 00:34:59,879
Speaker 1: to look around me, like, how do you see again,

616
00:35:00,280 --> 00:35:01,879
Speaker 1: I'm flipping it. Let's do it. Yeah, let's talk.

617
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 3: And I'm mad at myself that I waited too long.

618
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:04,359
Speaker 1: To flip it.

619
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 2: How do you deal with the fact that you are

620
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 2: in a season to where God continues to show you

621
00:35:17,080 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 2: things unimaginable. You have folks in your circle who may

622
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:24,880
Speaker 2: not be excelling at the same pace.

623
00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:28,240
Speaker 1: How do you deal with.

624
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 3: Friends who really want to be good friends but you see.

625
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 1: Because you know, we do see, we see it.

626
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 3: How you deal with it?

627
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 2: Well?

628
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 1: Actually I just talked about this. I'm going through a

629
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 1: purging season where God has revealed a lot of things

630
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,799
Speaker 1: in my life. Yeah, And I think oftentimes people like

631
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 1: us who are givers and we also see the good

632
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 1: at everybody, even when they're not so good. We see

633
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 1: that a little bit of good, like, no, they a

634
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 1: good person, and you just love them and you just

635
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 1: want them to see the good in themselves and change.

636
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:08,239
Speaker 1: And I literally had to just start setting boundaries and like,

637
00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 1: you know, yes, this is no longer serving me, and

638
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 1: sometimes people don't. They're in their own way, you know,

639
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 1: they see that you're going, you're climbing and climbing, and

640
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 1: they're still in the same space. And it's been like

641
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:21,440
Speaker 1: that with not just friends, family relationships. I've had to

642
00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:24,560
Speaker 1: like just really take even to everything around me to

643
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:26,879
Speaker 1: see who's really here for me. And then you start

644
00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:29,000
Speaker 1: looking at the people that are entitled, you know what

645
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:31,359
Speaker 1: I'm saying, to what you have and the people who

646
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 1: have shown jealousy envy, and envy is a really dangerous

647
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:39,880
Speaker 1: thing when it comes to friends. It's really dangerous with anybody,

648
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:41,240
Speaker 1: anybody in your circle.

649
00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,080
Speaker 3: It's very very dangerous.

650
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:46,719
Speaker 2: And it's let me say this, it's dangerous. But you

651
00:36:46,800 --> 00:36:51,080
Speaker 2: know what else, it's disappointing. So it's heartbreaking, it hurts

652
00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 2: it does. I mean it hurts badly.

653
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's lonely. It's like once you have to,

654
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,080
Speaker 1: once you make that steps to be like hey, I

655
00:36:58,080 --> 00:37:01,359
Speaker 1: can't do this anymore. You go through a phase it's

656
00:37:01,360 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 1: a breakup, you know, and it hurts so bad. It's

657
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 1: like God, like why couldn't this person just see it

658
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 1: or just be happy? And like because you're here, you

659
00:37:09,640 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. We all rocking together, we have

660
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Speaker 1: good time together. But they in the corner like.

661
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and like I said, you know, for me, like

662
00:37:17,000 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 2: you know, I tried and this is what I've learned,

663
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 2: and I would challenge you this. Okay, it doesn't have

664
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 2: to be a breakup. It does not have to be

665
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:31,600
Speaker 2: a breakup. The reveal is just that a reveal, and

666
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 2: what you can do is maintain the friendship.

667
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,719
Speaker 3: But it will be different, yeah, you know.

668
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 1: And then you have to have a conversation with that person,

669
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 1: like how do you just moving?

670
00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 3: So you know what, you should have the conversation.

671
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 2: But I have had it where I have not say,

672
00:37:49,840 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 2: you know, but I actually think you should have the

673
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:57,799
Speaker 2: conversation and a real friendship. You should be able to

674
00:37:57,920 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 2: have the conversation.

675
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:00,720
Speaker 1: Well if you had the conversation a few times.

676
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:03,800
Speaker 3: Man, you're coming into my Bible study.

677
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:08,719
Speaker 2: Reverend Cordelia Wallace. Reverend Cordelia Wallace, New York. We do

678
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:11,959
Speaker 2: Bible study on every Saturday, and she has a great

679
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 2: group of women. Shout out to Simone Smith who put

680
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 2: me in the Bible study.

681
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: But what I will tell you is that.

682
00:38:18,960 --> 00:38:21,680
Speaker 2: We talk about that and leadership lessons and learnings, but

683
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:27,120
Speaker 2: also in friendships and how they evolve. After a certain

684
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:31,440
Speaker 2: number of times, then you have to really maybe counted

685
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 2: as this isn't you've tried. Yeah, you know, and you

686
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:41,240
Speaker 2: know you just you move differently, Yeah, you move.

687
00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:41,759
Speaker 3: Differently, you do.

688
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 1: And this is a person I have one situation in

689
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Speaker 1: particularly where like just love her to death, you know.

690
00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:48,880
Speaker 1: And it's more so like you just need to like

691
00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,279
Speaker 1: work on yourself and figure out what that is, whether

692
00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 1: where that unhappiness is stealing from, figure out the trauma

693
00:38:54,560 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 1: is real, its real trauma is real.

694
00:38:56,800 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 3: And sometimes we don't know what other have been through this.

695
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 2: And you could be friends with someone for however many

696
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:10,319
Speaker 2: years and you just don't know where and what they're navigating.

697
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:15,719
Speaker 2: Still still, you know, I pay attention to you know,

698
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:18,760
Speaker 2: a candle loses none of its light by lighting another

699
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:23,319
Speaker 2: you know who? And how are people clapping when you

700
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:25,000
Speaker 2: get those awards and recognitions?

701
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,440
Speaker 1: David John Gray talked about that he did a whole sermon.

702
00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 1: He was like, God, watch this. How you clap? Season?

703
00:39:30,920 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 1: I said, Wow?

704
00:39:31,680 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 3: And what I try to do is I always try

705
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 3: to clap.

706
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:41,399
Speaker 2: I am the person too where I will bring people's names, Yes,

707
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 2: you will into the room. I am always looking at

708
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:48,480
Speaker 2: and I do think that that is one of my

709
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:54,000
Speaker 2: superpowers because you know, I firmly believe that your network

710
00:39:54,080 --> 00:39:55,440
Speaker 2: can determine your net worth.

711
00:39:56,040 --> 00:39:57,320
Speaker 1: I'm moving a lot of circles.

712
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:03,240
Speaker 2: I always challenge people. It is very easy to stay

713
00:40:03,280 --> 00:40:07,359
Speaker 2: in circles that look like us. Get up and get out.

714
00:40:08,400 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 2: You don't want to go to that lunch or that outing.

715
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:15,640
Speaker 2: Go You never know who is in the room. I

716
00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:20,240
Speaker 2: sit at tables and the men deals with a lot

717
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:24,520
Speaker 2: of men, men period, and men that don't look.

718
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Speaker 1: Like you know.

719
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Speaker 2: What's interesting. Some of my biggest advocates are men and

720
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Speaker 2: men that sometimes do not look like us. Some of

721
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Speaker 2: my biggest distractors are women that look like us.

722
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Speaker 4: Keep it positive, sweetie, I said, that's the truth, though,

723
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Speaker 4: you know, but what I realize is that even when

724
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Speaker 4: I know that I stay true to who I.

725
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Speaker 1: Am, you keep it positive, sweetie.

726
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Speaker 2: What and when you do that, you you get passed

727
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:08,160
Speaker 2: into the other side. And what I've learned, and this

728
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:12,760
Speaker 2: is a lesson that my mother's taught me, you always

729
00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:17,760
Speaker 2: take the high road. I'm gonna say that again because

730
00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 2: a lot of times we in these situations. You always

731
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:28,480
Speaker 2: take the high road. It will never fail you. And

732
00:41:28,520 --> 00:41:32,880
Speaker 2: when you take it, it hasn't failed me. And so

733
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Speaker 2: even when I know, and when we said that earlier,

734
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Speaker 2: stop expecting.

735
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Speaker 3: Me from I take the high road.

736
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Speaker 5: Wow, when they go low. And my dear friend Candy

737
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Speaker 5: when they go low, she's.

738
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Speaker 2: A lower I know, but she's a great person. So

739
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Speaker 2: I say that she knows I love her. But what

740
00:42:00,320 --> 00:42:04,759
Speaker 2: I will say to you is that for me, I

741
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:08,399
Speaker 2: would rather because everybody had the three sides, every story,

742
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 2: and they gonna tell their story.

743
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Speaker 3: I'm not the person who runs and feels the need

744
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 3: to tell my side. I'm moving side.

745
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:17,319
Speaker 1: Yeah you do.

746
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 2: I know what I know what road, I know what

747
00:42:20,320 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 2: I did, I know how I did it.

748
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 3: I know circumstances and what and.

749
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Speaker 2: How I tried to always stay as a catalyst, tell

750
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Speaker 2: your story.

751
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Speaker 1: Yeah it's cool.

752
00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:42,640
Speaker 2: Yeah wow, And I also think too people also you

753
00:42:42,719 --> 00:42:47,760
Speaker 2: can tell you know the story, but people are paying

754
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 2: attention to how you're telling the story, and they also

755
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 2: paying attention to how the other person isn't because again

756
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Speaker 2: you you know.

757
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 3: You know how to do it.

758
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:04,040
Speaker 1: That's so good. I love it. What would Jesus do?

759
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:12,839
Speaker 1: Keep it moving? Let him talk? I love it so Kim.

760
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: You are man. Your resume is crazy. You've worked with

761
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Speaker 1: a lot of Fortune one hundred companies such as Nationwide Chase.

762
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:24,799
Speaker 1: Uber actually got to do it activation with Nationwide on

763
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:29,600
Speaker 1: my side, Amen, I'll think it for you Nationwide, it

764
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:30,359
Speaker 1: is on yours.

765
00:43:30,680 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 2: Come on, jingle, come on out.

766
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Speaker 3: Work to make sure they see that.

767
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Speaker 1: Next NeXT's responsive?

768
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Speaker 2: Nation you know, because that's how apfle what what?

769
00:43:50,440 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 1: That's why I love it. I love it. I love it.

770
00:43:53,560 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 1: I want to talk about your experience because oftentimes I'm

771
00:43:56,160 --> 00:43:58,440
Speaker 1: sure you're the only black person or black woman in

772
00:43:58,480 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 1: those rooms. What it is? Is it like gaining respect

773
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 1: from your non millenated companies, because I know you probably

774
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 1: like anybody yourself.

775
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 2: You know, what I like to say is that you

776
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:16,080
Speaker 2: know I have great partners. I mean great partners. You

777
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 2: name some of them, Nationwide, Uber, Amazon, Chase, I mean

778
00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:24,280
Speaker 2: food Lie. Most of my clients have been tenured clients.

779
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 2: I've been doing business with Nationwide.

780
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:26,920
Speaker 3: For fourteen years.

781
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:29,799
Speaker 2: I've been doing business with food Line for over When

782
00:44:29,840 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 2: I partner with a corporation, it's not to be here

783
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 2: today going tomorrow. What I love about them is that

784
00:44:37,080 --> 00:44:40,840
Speaker 2: they actually allow me to go in from an agency

785
00:44:40,880 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 2: of record side as a brand partner, but to learn

786
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:48,920
Speaker 2: the entire business. I consider myself a business leader. I'm

787
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:52,720
Speaker 2: a owner operator, so I understand the sales, marketing, the intersectionality,

788
00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:55,080
Speaker 2: what it looks like in growth channels.

789
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:59,919
Speaker 1: I won't do all that, but all of that say.

790
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:04,759
Speaker 2: What they also understand is that I know consumers. I

791
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:08,680
Speaker 2: know what it looks like in the sense of, you know,

792
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:13,280
Speaker 2: business transformation. I work with companies that are low market

793
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 2: shared that now over index because they go into the

794
00:45:16,440 --> 00:45:20,120
Speaker 2: African American community, they realize our purchasing power, They.

795
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:22,960
Speaker 3: Go on into LATINX communities, they look at women, they look

796
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 3: at millennials, so.

797
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:28,480
Speaker 2: And they let us do it in a way that

798
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:30,960
Speaker 2: maybe a little bit non traditional. I was talking to

799
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 2: an officer at Nationwide literally yesterday and she said, Kim,

800
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:39,920
Speaker 2: what you did for us at Black Enterprise. You brought

801
00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 2: and I took, I took Yandy Smith, I took meanly,

802
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:48,160
Speaker 2: I took Rashida and we talked about I mean, these

803
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:53,800
Speaker 2: are three women scale businesses, multimillionaires, different channels of business.

804
00:45:54,320 --> 00:46:00,000
Speaker 2: But that was a different story for a financial service provider. Yeah,

805
00:46:00,040 --> 00:46:04,279
Speaker 2: but if we don't understand who our consumers are as

806
00:46:04,320 --> 00:46:08,080
Speaker 2: it relates to protecting what matters most, then we're doing

807
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 2: a disservice. And so they can tell their stories in

808
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 2: a way that leads to understanding what financial freedoms look like,

809
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:20,000
Speaker 2: what generational wealth looks like. So what I love and

810
00:46:20,080 --> 00:46:22,000
Speaker 2: what I get to do is that, you know, I

811
00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:26,480
Speaker 2: get to bring a little bit of culture to commerce,

812
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:31,239
Speaker 2: to capital, you know, to consumers and where and how

813
00:46:31,960 --> 00:46:38,600
Speaker 2: companies of corporations, global corporations think differently. And you know,

814
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:41,440
Speaker 2: I go in and do a little corporate thug and

815
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 2: is a lifestyle, you know, yes, life, I love it.

816
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 2: And you know what I say too is important because

817
00:46:51,960 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 2: what I love about what I get to do is.

818
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 3: You know, boardroom, pool hall.

819
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:02,880
Speaker 2: I tell folks my name is good on any boulevard

820
00:47:04,239 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 2: and when you understand the power of knowing who you are,

821
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 2: who you are and how you work with others and

822
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 2: understanding the full diaspora of a community.

823
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:22,240
Speaker 3: It just really becomes game changing.

824
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:24,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can imagine.

825
00:47:25,080 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's so good.

826
00:47:26,160 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, and let me say this too, because you asked

827
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:33,279
Speaker 2: the question, people want people on their team to win. Yes,

828
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:39,120
Speaker 2: you mentioned sports. I'm built to win. You are win

829
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:42,000
Speaker 2: playing small. We all went by two, We went by twenty.

830
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:46,400
Speaker 1: What period literally and we.

831
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 2: Know sports sports and I'm going to a Reds game.

832
00:47:54,360 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 1: Fun fact.

833
00:47:56,040 --> 00:47:59,279
Speaker 2: You know, we've been owners in the Reds since two

834
00:47:59,280 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 2: thousand and six. So you know where I get this

835
00:48:03,320 --> 00:48:07,839
Speaker 2: whole business investor in seeing that, you know, and what

836
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 2: that looks like for folks who look like us to

837
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 2: be in Major League Baseball. I want an NBA team,

838
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:17,520
Speaker 2: y'all hear that it's coming. I want an NBA team.

839
00:48:17,719 --> 00:48:22,160
Speaker 3: But you know, for me, sports is a part of

840
00:48:22,160 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 3: my outlet, you know, it is.

841
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:24,959
Speaker 1: We go to the game.

842
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:29,080
Speaker 2: You know, we have fun and the games aren't experienced

843
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:35,240
Speaker 2: they are, you know, and they're shout out Melissa Procter

844
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:40,839
Speaker 2: cemo at the Hawks. There's nothing will everybody, Jamie and

845
00:48:40,920 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 2: we love you all. There is nothing like in Atlanta.

846
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,239
Speaker 1: It is nothing like I tell people you're gonna get.

847
00:48:46,160 --> 00:48:48,640
Speaker 2: A swag and a surf. Okay, you're gonna get a

848
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:52,360
Speaker 2: little bit of performance. Two chains might be performing. You

849
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 2: know Atlanta's finance.

850
00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 1: Listen, it's just the greatest. Food is good, great, we

851
00:48:58,360 --> 00:49:00,279
Speaker 1: got a good team building. Yeah.

852
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:03,400
Speaker 3: I've been a season ticket holder now for over ten years.

853
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 1: Because you Now, I've been going on my second year

854
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:06,319
Speaker 1: because of you.

855
00:49:06,880 --> 00:49:09,719
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know what, I was so proud of you,

856
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:15,560
Speaker 2: because those tickets ain't cheap. I was like, baby, girl

857
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:22,400
Speaker 2: is doing it what I'm coming to the floor. I'm coming.

858
00:49:23,320 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 2: I said, move out the way. But I will say

859
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:35,799
Speaker 2: this to you too. You never know just what that means,

860
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:38,880
Speaker 2: because you would be surprised at how many people come

861
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 2: up to me and say it means something to see you,

862
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:47,640
Speaker 2: as a black business woman go sit feet on the.

863
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 3: Wood court side knowing you know that.

864
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:56,439
Speaker 2: I and I thought about it, like dang, I never thought,

865
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Speaker 2: you know, I'm just strolling out to my seat. I

866
00:49:58,160 --> 00:50:02,000
Speaker 2: never thought of But for me, it changed how I

867
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:05,759
Speaker 2: looked at a lot of things because folks see what

868
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 2: they can be yes, and how they too.

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00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:12,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, you did that for me, you did now. I

870
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:14,879
Speaker 1: was in the Actually I was in the Atlanta Hawk

871
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 1: suitet last night in the beginning of the concert, and

872
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 1: one of the guys who helps like keep the score

873
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:23,080
Speaker 1: for the team, he sits right in front of me.

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00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:26,840
Speaker 1: He's always like a gesture like hello, yeah, And I

875
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:28,640
Speaker 1: never knew his name. He was like, oh, he's like

876
00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 1: he told me, he's like, this is my wife. This

877
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Speaker 1: is Crystal. He said. You probably don't think I know,

878
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 1: but I've watched your shows on BT, like she has

879
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 1: two shows on BT. I was like, wow, yeah, and

880
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,800
Speaker 1: he was like no, she sits right behind me, and

881
00:50:39,239 --> 00:50:41,560
Speaker 1: it's just like you never know he's gonna sit next

882
00:50:41,560 --> 00:50:44,279
Speaker 1: to you. Literally, one game, I was sitting next to

883
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:46,359
Speaker 1: one of the owners of the Sacramento Kings. Yes, his

884
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:48,440
Speaker 1: wife loved my boots. And then I found out who

885
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:50,360
Speaker 1: he was and I was like, oh, well, my castmates

886
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 1: is from there.

887
00:50:51,239 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 3: You better spit more free game. What I will tell

888
00:50:53,840 --> 00:51:00,720
Speaker 3: you is that those seats have led to very lucrative

889
00:51:00,719 --> 00:51:01,839
Speaker 3: business opportunities.

890
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:04,879
Speaker 1: I can imagine. Yeah, that is crazy, Like the people

891
00:51:04,920 --> 00:51:06,160
Speaker 1: I've met just going to.

892
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:08,839
Speaker 3: Gain proximity, Yeah, is a real thing.

893
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:12,279
Speaker 1: To that, I say, thank you because you exposed me

894
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:14,799
Speaker 1: to something you know that I didn't even I see

895
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:16,839
Speaker 1: people down there, but I knew and we did. We

896
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:17,680
Speaker 1: were going to the game.

897
00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:26,520
Speaker 3: You were like, you did it for yourself, and I'm

898
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 3: extremely proud.

899
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.

900
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 3: Can I say something else too? I just thought about this.

901
00:51:30,960 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 2: So for your fortieth birthday party last year, you invited

902
00:51:35,640 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 2: me and I was like, I wasn't miss it for

903
00:51:36,920 --> 00:51:37,200
Speaker 2: the world.

904
00:51:37,600 --> 00:51:39,480
Speaker 1: Thank you, so think about it.

905
00:51:40,000 --> 00:51:43,320
Speaker 2: We hadn't known one another that long. Now we have

906
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 2: fast tracked of friendship. Yes, And I say this because

907
00:51:48,120 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 2: you don't have to be friends with someone for fifteen

908
00:51:51,120 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 2: years to click and then know that that will be

909
00:51:55,239 --> 00:51:58,200
Speaker 2: a special person in your life for years to come.

910
00:51:58,680 --> 00:51:58,919
Speaker 1: Right.

911
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:06,560
Speaker 3: And I arrived by myself and guess what table? I

912
00:52:06,640 --> 00:52:10,200
Speaker 3: was at table number one.

913
00:52:11,280 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 2: And for me, while I was there to celebrate you,

914
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 2: I could have been at table two hundred and one.

915
00:52:18,280 --> 00:52:19,880
Speaker 1: I was there to celebrate.

916
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:26,120
Speaker 2: You, but seeing and sitting with your parents, seeing how

917
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 2: you curated that table with those who minister to you

918
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:35,799
Speaker 2: by way of faith. Yes, not to mention, of course

919
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:40,040
Speaker 2: she had Tyler Perry at table one. You know it

920
00:52:40,160 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 2: really meant something to me in a way of what

921
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 2: and how God has blessed me with you. Wow, seriously,

922
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 2: because I was thinking to myself, like she doesn't.

923
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 3: Have me anywhere in the room.

924
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:58,359
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people in Atlanta, but I

925
00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:03,680
Speaker 1: took that as the highest form of compliment. Thank you,

926
00:53:03,680 --> 00:53:05,680
Speaker 1: because that's what that's that's what it meant for me.

927
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,360
Speaker 1: I want her at my table.

928
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:10,040
Speaker 3: You just I don't even know if I've ever expressed

929
00:53:10,080 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 3: that to you.

930
00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:14,440
Speaker 2: You just did not know to how you seeming it

931
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 2: yourself and a special You know, there's nothing you couldn't

932
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 2: ask me for that I wouldn't do.

933
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:22,440
Speaker 3: Now that was before the party.

934
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:27,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you came back and like you made time

935
00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:28,200
Speaker 1: to come back.

936
00:53:28,560 --> 00:53:32,040
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something going back, whether it's dating

937
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:35,000
Speaker 2: or anything else, people like O Kim, you know I

938
00:53:35,040 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 2: didn't want to ask you. You're so busy I am.

939
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:40,040
Speaker 2: I'm always busy and gonna be busy. I need to

940
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:43,520
Speaker 2: be busy. It beats the alternative hello. But you're never

941
00:53:43,760 --> 00:53:49,680
Speaker 2: too busy. Word, You're never too busy for the things

942
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:53,200
Speaker 2: that matter. And you create the time, you make the

943
00:53:53,280 --> 00:53:59,200
Speaker 2: shifts you inconvenience yourself in a way that it does

944
00:53:59,239 --> 00:54:02,279
Speaker 2: not feel like an inconvenience because it's an act of

945
00:54:02,360 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 2: love and I have no I will make I show

946
00:54:08,080 --> 00:54:10,799
Speaker 2: up for people. And that's what I That's another thing

947
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 2: if I had to look at what people what I

948
00:54:12,600 --> 00:54:15,400
Speaker 2: hope people see is that she shows up.

949
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 1: Oh, you show up? You do. I've seen you do

950
00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:21,759
Speaker 1: it for other people too. I try, I try, and

951
00:54:21,800 --> 00:54:23,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, how does she even have the time to meet?

952
00:54:23,320 --> 00:54:26,640
Speaker 3: But that remember, that's an example of my parents.

953
00:54:27,040 --> 00:54:32,759
Speaker 1: Yes. Wow, it goes back to I love that code

954
00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:36,080
Speaker 1: switching is so real. Yeah, and you said yeah, but

955
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:39,520
Speaker 1: what people admire most about you is how unapologetic you are.

956
00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 1: You dress, you walk, you speak, you show up at

957
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:47,520
Speaker 1: yourself in every single room. I want to know, other

958
00:54:47,560 --> 00:54:49,800
Speaker 1: than the words of affirmation that she received at home,

959
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:53,239
Speaker 1: how did you just gain this whole? Just like the

960
00:54:53,280 --> 00:54:55,960
Speaker 1: way you even walk into the arena, It's like, who

961
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 1: did like you? Do you have this confidence? And what

962
00:54:59,480 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 1: what made you? Like? I don't have to switch it

963
00:55:01,040 --> 00:55:02,800
Speaker 1: up because you know, I've been been through that. I

964
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,040
Speaker 1: work on Capitol Hill and I be talking, hey, what's

965
00:55:05,080 --> 00:55:09,359
Speaker 1: up man, and then get a good morning to help

966
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:12,279
Speaker 1: you like you know what?

967
00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:16,120
Speaker 3: I feel like that's a part of my superpower.

968
00:55:17,440 --> 00:55:22,600
Speaker 2: I think that when people connect with you in your

969
00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:27,920
Speaker 2: purest form of authenticity, I don't have to switch up.

970
00:55:28,880 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 1: You know, I know I'm.

971
00:55:30,440 --> 00:55:34,640
Speaker 2: Well educated, I'm dual degree, I've you know, gone to Harvard.

972
00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:38,040
Speaker 3: You know what are you kidding me? Cornell? You know

973
00:55:38,120 --> 00:55:38,920
Speaker 3: you name it?

974
00:55:40,600 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 1: That was.

975
00:55:41,840 --> 00:55:45,400
Speaker 2: Let me just say shout out to the Nora her homework,

976
00:55:45,680 --> 00:55:48,720
Speaker 2: because as a producer, she had just about everything.

977
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:51,439
Speaker 3: That might be one little small thing that she missed.

978
00:55:51,680 --> 00:55:54,759
Speaker 2: But I will tell you when I saw where and

979
00:55:54,880 --> 00:55:59,719
Speaker 2: how we were navigating this discussion, one of the most well.

980
00:55:59,440 --> 00:56:01,360
Speaker 3: Prepared that I have.

981
00:56:01,640 --> 00:56:04,759
Speaker 1: And I knew a lot by way of media a lot.

982
00:56:06,000 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 2: So again, but going back to that, and that's that's

983
00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:12,960
Speaker 2: always just knowing too. You know, when you talk about

984
00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:15,440
Speaker 2: making those deposits, you always want to make sure that

985
00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 2: you are continuing to level up.

986
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:20,200
Speaker 3: I never rest on any Laurels.

987
00:56:20,520 --> 00:56:22,200
Speaker 2: And I say that even by way of my clients,

988
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 2: the clients that I've mentioned that I've been with.

989
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:25,960
Speaker 3: For over a decade.

990
00:56:26,239 --> 00:56:29,480
Speaker 2: I never rest on any somebody always chasing I'm looking,

991
00:56:29,719 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 2: you ain't catching me. And so with that too, I

992
00:56:35,160 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 2: think people do business with people they like. And I

993
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:46,840
Speaker 2: also believe in how you show up is with receipts

994
00:56:46,840 --> 00:56:50,640
Speaker 2: and proof of performance. When you put the points on

995
00:56:50,680 --> 00:56:54,960
Speaker 2: the board, you know, they don't have to be your bestie.

996
00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:56,040
Speaker 2: Remember they want to win.

997
00:56:57,280 --> 00:57:02,440
Speaker 3: And the other thing is is that I advise.

998
00:57:02,640 --> 00:57:06,879
Speaker 2: Many C suite leaders and beyond corporate America, many high

999
00:57:06,960 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 2: profile people. They need to feel connected to you. They

1000
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:13,960
Speaker 2: need to know you are a person of integrity. They

1001
00:57:14,000 --> 00:57:17,680
Speaker 2: need to understand your character. And my character is that,

1002
00:57:17,840 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 2: you know, I'm comfortable in my skin. I'm comfortable, you know,

1003
00:57:23,200 --> 00:57:27,080
Speaker 2: one day being in the White House, another day being

1004
00:57:27,200 --> 00:57:32,000
Speaker 2: hanging with you know, my friend Pierre Thomas Akap from QC.

1005
00:57:32,600 --> 00:57:37,560
Speaker 2: You know, I mean I can. I can go and switch,

1006
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:39,680
Speaker 2: but it's not colde sweeling.

1007
00:57:40,640 --> 00:57:44,680
Speaker 3: You know. I may switch exactly, the environment may.

1008
00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:48,600
Speaker 2: Change, but I go in consistently. I will tell you,

1009
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:52,120
Speaker 2: you know, when I'm spending time with people who don't

1010
00:57:52,120 --> 00:57:56,080
Speaker 2: look like me, what I think they like about me

1011
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:58,600
Speaker 2: is that I show up one hundred percent.

1012
00:57:59,240 --> 00:58:01,800
Speaker 3: That's who I am. I love that and we have fun.

1013
00:58:03,080 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 2: I love immersing myself with smart people, and smart comes.

1014
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:13,120
Speaker 2: Brilliance comes in many forms, and you don't have to

1015
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 2: be degreed I am, but you don't have to be

1016
00:58:15,800 --> 00:58:19,160
Speaker 2: for me to learn from you, and I can immerse

1017
00:58:19,240 --> 00:58:24,400
Speaker 2: myself on the boulevard and learn. That's what I want.

1018
00:58:24,480 --> 00:58:26,880
Speaker 2: That's why I spend so much time with young people.

1019
00:58:27,240 --> 00:58:33,160
Speaker 2: You know, you know, you know Rachel Jackson. Yes, so

1020
00:58:33,200 --> 00:58:36,160
Speaker 2: if I'm looking at Rachie, you know, there's a reason

1021
00:58:36,200 --> 00:58:36,600
Speaker 2: people are.

1022
00:58:36,560 --> 00:58:41,920
Speaker 3: Like you always guess what it's mutual. She's teaching me things,

1023
00:58:42,760 --> 00:58:42,960
Speaker 3: you know.

1024
00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:48,240
Speaker 2: I literally, you know, yesterday got a text from Desie Banks.

1025
00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:54,959
Speaker 2: I love what Desie has done and how he has

1026
00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 2: built a mobile enterprise around content.

1027
00:58:59,320 --> 00:59:02,960
Speaker 3: Yes, so what people think.

1028
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 2: They're calling me for because here's my thing. Secure people

1029
00:59:08,520 --> 00:59:10,479
Speaker 2: help other people secure the back.

1030
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 3: So for me, one thing.

1031
00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:21,480
Speaker 2: I'm good at, right, But what they don't realize is

1032
00:59:21,560 --> 00:59:24,400
Speaker 2: that they are also teaching me.

1033
00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:28,080
Speaker 1: Yes, wow, I love that you spoke on how you

1034
00:59:28,160 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 1: work in a performance based industry where they want it's

1035
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:33,480
Speaker 1: all about the point you board they want to win.

1036
00:59:35,320 --> 00:59:38,240
Speaker 1: Does that create any stress or self doubt or anxiety

1037
00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:40,440
Speaker 1: for you? And if so, like, how do you navigate

1038
00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:41,280
Speaker 1: stress and anxiety?

1039
00:59:41,320 --> 00:59:43,760
Speaker 2: And yeah, so here's what I said, going back to

1040
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:46,280
Speaker 2: how we started our route. And you know I'm a

1041
00:59:46,320 --> 00:59:50,000
Speaker 2: performance athlete, you know, I'm a corporate athlete, you know,

1042
00:59:51,000 --> 00:59:56,040
Speaker 2: So I actually like a little pressure, you know, I do.

1043
00:59:57,320 --> 00:59:58,960
Speaker 1: You know, I want you to think.

1044
00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:01,600
Speaker 2: That I might not win, uh huh uh huh, because

1045
01:00:01,600 --> 01:00:07,800
Speaker 2: I'm winning, you know. And so for me, just that

1046
01:00:08,040 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 2: whole drive. I tell folks, and I heard you tell

1047
01:00:12,280 --> 01:00:15,800
Speaker 2: Donor that she works, you know, as hard as you know.

1048
01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 2: Beyonce does no disrespect Donor, But I think that there

1049
01:00:20,520 --> 01:00:22,160
Speaker 2: are not a lot of people who outwork me.

1050
01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:26,720
Speaker 1: I work. And that's what I also like.

1051
01:00:26,720 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 2: For people to understand, is like, you know what, they

1052
01:00:28,840 --> 01:00:30,320
Speaker 2: can see all that stuff, but you know what, the

1053
01:00:30,360 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 2: folks that I work with and partner with as corporate leaders,

1054
01:00:34,640 --> 01:00:37,520
Speaker 2: they will tell you she works.

1055
01:00:37,600 --> 01:00:40,680
Speaker 3: So all that little fluff you all see, she works.

1056
01:00:40,800 --> 01:00:41,200
Speaker 1: They know.

1057
01:00:41,360 --> 01:00:44,920
Speaker 2: I am, you know, mitigating crises at one in the morning,

1058
01:00:44,960 --> 01:00:48,040
Speaker 2: two in the morning, I am doing all sorts of

1059
01:00:48,280 --> 01:00:49,800
Speaker 2: board dexon you know.

1060
01:00:49,880 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 3: I lead esg on the board that I'm on, you know.

1061
01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:57,439
Speaker 2: So for me, I embrace leadership opportunities because I play

1062
01:00:57,480 --> 01:00:57,720
Speaker 2: the win.

1063
01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:01,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, I love that you carry yourself with a

1064
01:01:01,600 --> 01:01:04,440
Speaker 1: lot of confidence, dignity and a strong sense of self

1065
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:08,560
Speaker 1: and you have this undeniable don't try me energy about

1066
01:01:08,600 --> 01:01:11,880
Speaker 1: you don't sweet as pie, but don't try please, don't

1067
01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:14,320
Speaker 1: try her. I want to talk about the challenges of

1068
01:01:14,360 --> 01:01:16,520
Speaker 1: being a woman in the business. And if you were

1069
01:01:16,560 --> 01:01:20,320
Speaker 1: a man of all, this would be celebrated, you know

1070
01:01:20,360 --> 01:01:22,960
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But being a powerful woman like you

1071
01:01:23,000 --> 01:01:25,800
Speaker 1: are alten, it's called challenging. We're called challenging, difficult, and

1072
01:01:25,880 --> 01:01:29,240
Speaker 1: a bit for lack of better words. Have you dealt

1073
01:01:29,280 --> 01:01:30,840
Speaker 1: with any of that? Yeah?

1074
01:01:30,920 --> 01:01:31,520
Speaker 3: I mean you know.

1075
01:01:33,240 --> 01:01:36,360
Speaker 2: You you show up and you show up confident now

1076
01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:38,440
Speaker 2: remember confident yet humble?

1077
01:01:38,640 --> 01:01:41,360
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, yes right, but confident yes?

1078
01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:48,360
Speaker 2: Prepared, over prepared, Oh, you have to be over prepared, collaborative.

1079
01:01:49,880 --> 01:01:56,200
Speaker 2: There are techniques that I use because I'm five to ten. Yeah,

1080
01:01:56,680 --> 01:02:00,760
Speaker 2: I show up and this already the presence. There are

1081
01:02:00,760 --> 01:02:06,240
Speaker 2: certain things I can't control, you know, and so I

1082
01:02:06,280 --> 01:02:10,280
Speaker 2: try to present myself with humility. But I am going

1083
01:02:10,360 --> 01:02:13,080
Speaker 2: to you know, talking to a board member and she's like, Kim,

1084
01:02:13,160 --> 01:02:16,160
Speaker 2: what I love is that you're very direct. And I

1085
01:02:16,240 --> 01:02:18,760
Speaker 2: actually asked, like, you know, directing the way that's off putting.

1086
01:02:18,840 --> 01:02:23,880
Speaker 2: She said, absolutely not, because I'm also coachable, and I

1087
01:02:23,920 --> 01:02:27,800
Speaker 2: think that's what we also have to be, is coachable

1088
01:02:28,280 --> 01:02:31,960
Speaker 2: and realizing that I never want it to be that

1089
01:02:32,080 --> 01:02:35,880
Speaker 2: I don't feel like I'm growing and so you know,

1090
01:02:36,640 --> 01:02:40,440
Speaker 2: I don't know Tyler Perry, but like for me, like

1091
01:02:40,800 --> 01:02:44,160
Speaker 2: I want to talk with a Tyler Perry so I

1092
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:48,640
Speaker 2: can pick his brain and actually make some deposits. Like

1093
01:02:48,760 --> 01:02:53,640
Speaker 2: I love to be around people who are constantly in

1094
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:55,720
Speaker 2: elevation mode.

1095
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Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

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01:02:56,840 --> 01:03:00,440
Speaker 2: So, whether it's Oprah, whether it's Melody Hobson, you know,

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01:03:00,640 --> 01:03:03,920
Speaker 2: whether it's the thunder Ducket, you know, whether it's ros Brewer.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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01:03:04,880 --> 01:03:08,640
Speaker 2: I want the people that I see look to and

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01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:16,000
Speaker 2: admire because they've navigated things that I aspire to.

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01:03:16,080 --> 01:03:22,840
Speaker 1: Noting yes, love, that's so good love, Yes, livesten to Sounder, Yes,

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01:03:22,960 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 1: oh my gosherful women. Wow you always. You also talked

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01:03:27,920 --> 01:03:32,040
Speaker 1: about how your privacy is currency, yes, and which is

1104
01:03:32,080 --> 01:03:32,960
Speaker 1: good like I love.

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01:03:33,040 --> 01:03:35,600
Speaker 2: Actually though, let me say, my privacy is currency and

1106
01:03:35,640 --> 01:03:36,560
Speaker 2: I am hyper private.

1107
01:03:37,040 --> 01:03:39,800
Speaker 3: But you got me a little bit today. You did

1108
01:03:39,920 --> 01:03:42,640
Speaker 3: what you said, she got me.

1109
01:03:43,800 --> 01:03:48,240
Speaker 2: I don't talk about my private life, but I do

1110
01:03:48,320 --> 01:03:52,360
Speaker 2: think that there are gems and nuggets.

1111
01:03:52,480 --> 01:03:55,680
Speaker 3: In a macro share that we should.

1112
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:58,600
Speaker 2: We have to do better as women. We have to

1113
01:03:58,640 --> 01:04:03,440
Speaker 2: do better as black women and sharing more of the

1114
01:04:03,560 --> 01:04:09,760
Speaker 2: lessons learnings, and some of that, you know, is inclusive

1115
01:04:09,760 --> 01:04:10,360
Speaker 2: of the warts.

1116
01:04:11,680 --> 01:04:14,200
Speaker 3: You know. I'm always like, man.

1117
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:17,960
Speaker 2: Somebody needs to tell us all the stuff that nobody

1118
01:04:18,400 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 2: said it was cool to tell. And so, you know,

1119
01:04:22,880 --> 01:04:26,080
Speaker 2: as I look at, you know, ways in which I'm

1120
01:04:26,080 --> 01:04:30,240
Speaker 2: trying to navigate content, I want more stories too that

1121
01:04:30,360 --> 01:04:34,480
Speaker 2: actually focus more on the warts, because I've had some,

1122
01:04:35,360 --> 01:04:40,160
Speaker 2: you know, warts, and that's professionally and personally. And I

1123
01:04:40,240 --> 01:04:44,120
Speaker 2: think we have to get comfortable with understanding that. You know,

1124
01:04:44,280 --> 01:04:47,880
Speaker 2: people relate more when you know they see the human

1125
01:04:48,080 --> 01:04:53,720
Speaker 2: side of you, you know, because you know, because everybody

1126
01:04:53,720 --> 01:04:57,360
Speaker 2: sees this side of all the you know, yeah, you know,

1127
01:04:57,400 --> 01:04:59,760
Speaker 2: and I tell folks, you know, you see the glam,

1128
01:05:00,320 --> 01:05:03,080
Speaker 2: you know, but you don't really see the guts. And

1129
01:05:03,120 --> 01:05:05,280
Speaker 2: so you know, a lot of times folks don't see

1130
01:05:05,280 --> 01:05:09,200
Speaker 2: that I'm in my office in Ohio and I'm in there,

1131
01:05:09,280 --> 01:05:12,800
Speaker 2: you know, fourteen sixteen hours a day, if not longer,

1132
01:05:12,960 --> 01:05:14,880
Speaker 2: you know, and I'm there on the weekends, you know,

1133
01:05:15,280 --> 01:05:17,800
Speaker 2: and all of the sacrifice and you know what comes

1134
01:05:17,800 --> 01:05:21,240
Speaker 2: with being an owner operator, you know, all the stuff

1135
01:05:21,240 --> 01:05:24,640
Speaker 2: folks don't necessarily talk about. But you know, I think

1136
01:05:24,760 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 2: as we get more comfortable in who we are, we

1137
01:05:30,440 --> 01:05:35,400
Speaker 2: almost owe it to others to kind of take off

1138
01:05:35,440 --> 01:05:35,920
Speaker 2: the mask.

1139
01:05:36,160 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 1: Yep.

1140
01:05:37,360 --> 01:05:41,600
Speaker 3: I started a women's conference in Summit, and.

1141
01:05:42,360 --> 01:05:46,280
Speaker 2: It's really geared towards c suite corporate leaders who don't

1142
01:05:46,320 --> 01:05:50,240
Speaker 2: really get an opportunity to kind of just be. And

1143
01:05:50,680 --> 01:05:54,760
Speaker 2: it's called Accelerate Her. And it's a community that we've

1144
01:05:54,800 --> 01:05:57,360
Speaker 2: built not just for the Summit, but how do we

1145
01:05:57,600 --> 01:06:01,000
Speaker 2: as women and women of color and black women use

1146
01:06:01,160 --> 01:06:05,360
Speaker 2: our superpowers collectively? And a lot of times you have

1147
01:06:05,440 --> 01:06:07,840
Speaker 2: all these summits. You have the summits that the corporate

1148
01:06:07,920 --> 01:06:10,720
Speaker 2: leaders go to, you have the summons for the culture. No,

1149
01:06:10,840 --> 01:06:13,320
Speaker 2: what I did, honestly was I just went through my

1150
01:06:13,360 --> 01:06:17,320
Speaker 2: phone and I was like, do what I'm calling all

1151
01:06:17,400 --> 01:06:20,000
Speaker 2: the baddies in business and beyond.

1152
01:06:20,560 --> 01:06:21,959
Speaker 3: I got high performers.

1153
01:06:22,280 --> 01:06:23,840
Speaker 1: You did? You had a conflict?

1154
01:06:24,240 --> 01:06:26,440
Speaker 2: You are on some like global Escape. You know you

1155
01:06:26,560 --> 01:06:28,880
Speaker 2: look on We don't know where you are in the world.

1156
01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:31,960
Speaker 1: But I gave you a path. You did.

1157
01:06:32,840 --> 01:06:33,120
Speaker 3: You did?

1158
01:06:33,200 --> 01:06:35,240
Speaker 1: That's right. I forgot. I had to show up her

1159
01:06:35,320 --> 01:06:44,880
Speaker 1: show one. You did? You did Soft Flex number two? Yes? You?

1160
01:06:45,040 --> 01:06:47,080
Speaker 1: Because what I realized too is that.

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01:06:49,920 --> 01:06:53,080
Speaker 2: Just as I mentioned how summertimes my distractors are women

1162
01:06:53,080 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 2: that look, there are far more women who are trying

1163
01:06:56,600 --> 01:07:00,240
Speaker 2: to do good than a few bad, you know. And

1164
01:07:00,280 --> 01:07:03,280
Speaker 2: so what I wanted to do was to look at

1165
01:07:03,320 --> 01:07:07,960
Speaker 2: how we brought all the good apples together, to look

1166
01:07:07,960 --> 01:07:11,480
Speaker 2: at how we drive policy changes, how we drive changes

1167
01:07:11,480 --> 01:07:15,200
Speaker 2: in business and corporate America, how we get women more contracts,

1168
01:07:15,200 --> 01:07:18,760
Speaker 2: how we get we had lovely Ja Ja Jones to

1169
01:07:18,960 --> 01:07:22,160
Speaker 2: come in and do a book workshop, because guess what,

1170
01:07:23,200 --> 01:07:26,200
Speaker 2: not enough of us are writing books and telling our stories.

1171
01:07:27,040 --> 01:07:30,200
Speaker 2: So I had told her, yes, I have women who

1172
01:07:30,240 --> 01:07:32,880
Speaker 2: have are not authors, come up with something.

1173
01:07:33,760 --> 01:07:34,240
Speaker 1: Guess what.

1174
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Speaker 3: She did it? She called me. She's like, girl, you're

1175
01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:38,400
Speaker 3: going to change my life. Guess what.

1176
01:07:38,560 --> 01:07:42,640
Speaker 2: She now has a book academy so that anybody wow

1177
01:07:43,000 --> 01:07:46,439
Speaker 2: can go and learn from a four times New York

1178
01:07:46,640 --> 01:07:48,160
Speaker 2: Times best selling author.

1179
01:07:48,560 --> 01:07:49,960
Speaker 3: Wow, because one day.

1180
01:07:49,840 --> 01:07:52,120
Speaker 2: I feel like I have at least three three books

1181
01:07:52,160 --> 01:07:56,160
Speaker 2: in me. I definitely have a podcast, yes, yes, but I.

1182
01:07:56,160 --> 01:07:56,800
Speaker 3: Need more time.

1183
01:07:57,600 --> 01:07:59,040
Speaker 1: We can't wait for that podcast.

1184
01:08:01,680 --> 01:08:04,200
Speaker 2: Subscriber. I'm gonna need you because I already know the name.

1185
01:08:04,560 --> 01:08:06,360
Speaker 2: The name is unapologetically boss.

1186
01:08:06,440 --> 01:08:07,640
Speaker 1: I've already said market.

1187
01:08:08,200 --> 01:08:13,800
Speaker 2: I love that because you know what, what I feel

1188
01:08:14,360 --> 01:08:21,000
Speaker 2: at my core is that everybody has the potential to

1189
01:08:21,120 --> 01:08:23,559
Speaker 2: be a boss.

1190
01:08:23,920 --> 01:08:25,799
Speaker 3: And that does not mean.

1191
01:08:25,680 --> 01:08:26,959
Speaker 1: You have to work for yourself.

1192
01:08:27,800 --> 01:08:31,840
Speaker 2: You can be a boss inside of someone else's organization,

1193
01:08:32,280 --> 01:08:34,760
Speaker 2: You can be a boss in your community, You can

1194
01:08:34,800 --> 01:08:37,880
Speaker 2: be a boss in the choir. But what is it

1195
01:08:37,920 --> 01:08:45,519
Speaker 2: and how is it that you identify your superpowers to unlock, unload,

1196
01:08:45,760 --> 01:08:50,160
Speaker 2: and unleash and to whatever type of change and impact.

1197
01:08:50,720 --> 01:08:54,400
Speaker 3: Because where I am right now, it's not about success.

1198
01:08:55,360 --> 01:08:56,800
Speaker 3: It's about significance.

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Speaker 1: That was a word. Not about success, It's about significance. Wow,

1200
01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:07,880
Speaker 1: cam Ooh that's good. That's where I heard over there.

1201
01:09:10,439 --> 01:09:13,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, Cause a lot of times we focus on the

1202
01:09:13,200 --> 01:09:18,160
Speaker 2: success part we do. And for me, going back to

1203
01:09:18,760 --> 01:09:20,720
Speaker 2: core tenants, I told you take the high road in

1204
01:09:20,760 --> 01:09:21,760
Speaker 2: another ferry.

1205
01:09:21,960 --> 01:09:25,519
Speaker 3: You know. The other thing is when you do.

1206
01:09:25,439 --> 01:09:29,680
Speaker 2: The right things for the right reasons and in the

1207
01:09:29,760 --> 01:09:32,240
Speaker 2: right way, God takes care of the rest.

1208
01:09:32,400 --> 01:09:38,240
Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow, that's good. You just dropping off. I hope y'all.

1209
01:09:38,560 --> 01:09:40,840
Speaker 1: I hope you got your collection plate. You're catching all these.

1210
01:09:40,800 --> 01:09:44,639
Speaker 2: Nuggets, cause honey, and if you take the collection plate

1211
01:09:44,680 --> 01:09:46,120
Speaker 2: and pay it forward.

1212
01:09:46,360 --> 01:09:49,559
Speaker 1: Oh that was we better talk about you better get

1213
01:09:49,560 --> 01:09:53,240
Speaker 1: out of my note. Okay, okay, okay, but I was

1214
01:09:53,240 --> 01:09:55,000
Speaker 1: gonna talk about I was gonna get to that. But

1215
01:09:55,040 --> 01:09:57,639
Speaker 1: there's something you I both have in common. We worked

1216
01:09:57,680 --> 01:10:01,160
Speaker 1: in politics. Yeah, I intern when I was a junior

1217
01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:04,120
Speaker 1: in college for Senator Lamar Alexander on Capitol Hill in DC,

1218
01:10:04,760 --> 01:10:07,760
Speaker 1: and then in turn got a job my senior year

1219
01:10:07,800 --> 01:10:09,880
Speaker 1: and I ended up leaving school to finish my last

1220
01:10:09,880 --> 01:10:12,880
Speaker 1: semester online, and I worked for the Senate for two

1221
01:10:12,880 --> 01:10:15,160
Speaker 1: and a half years after school before I moved to Atlanta.

1222
01:10:15,200 --> 01:10:16,560
Speaker 3: Toy, I remember when I learned that.

1223
01:10:17,240 --> 01:10:19,000
Speaker 2: You told me all this when we were in Baltimore

1224
01:10:19,040 --> 01:10:21,519
Speaker 2: traveling together, and that's when I learned your story.

1225
01:10:21,600 --> 01:10:22,680
Speaker 3: And actually that's when I.

1226
01:10:22,680 --> 01:10:27,800
Speaker 1: Was like, yeah, she's got it. Oh wow, Yeah, and

1227
01:10:27,840 --> 01:10:30,200
Speaker 1: you I found you worked in the Obama and Trump

1228
01:10:30,240 --> 01:10:33,679
Speaker 1: administrations as a member of the National Women's Business Council.

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Speaker 1: First of all, how did that even come about?

1230
01:10:36,880 --> 01:10:38,960
Speaker 3: Like, that's so, it's so crazy.

1231
01:10:39,080 --> 01:10:43,040
Speaker 2: So I was appointed National Women's Business Council during the

1232
01:10:43,080 --> 01:10:48,120
Speaker 2: Obama administration twenty eleven. This speaks to another thing that

1233
01:10:48,280 --> 01:10:52,720
Speaker 2: has been fortunate for me in that Donna James was

1234
01:10:52,760 --> 01:10:53,839
Speaker 2: then leading the council.

1235
01:10:54,479 --> 01:10:55,160
Speaker 1: I knew Donna.

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01:10:56,720 --> 01:10:59,720
Speaker 2: Donna was actually the person who told me that I

1237
01:10:59,720 --> 01:11:03,200
Speaker 2: should going to my business full time. I started my

1238
01:11:03,320 --> 01:11:07,000
Speaker 2: agency as a side hustle, and I always tell folks

1239
01:11:07,360 --> 01:11:11,160
Speaker 2: your side hustle can become your main hustle, right, But

1240
01:11:11,200 --> 01:11:12,559
Speaker 2: she was the one who really pushed me. And I

1241
01:11:12,600 --> 01:11:14,519
Speaker 2: was like, man, I'm getting my check every two weeks.

1242
01:11:14,600 --> 01:11:15,000
Speaker 1: I'm good.

1243
01:11:15,040 --> 01:11:20,760
Speaker 2: She was like, you have something that corporations pay for

1244
01:11:20,960 --> 01:11:23,320
Speaker 2: in the way in which you think differently and are

1245
01:11:23,479 --> 01:11:27,240
Speaker 2: able to bring business impact in the sense of driving

1246
01:11:27,280 --> 01:11:32,519
Speaker 2: it forward. So Donna was appointed first to lead the

1247
01:11:32,560 --> 01:11:36,200
Speaker 2: council and she called me and she said, I.

1248
01:11:36,160 --> 01:11:37,800
Speaker 3: Need for you to serve Wow.

1249
01:11:38,360 --> 01:11:41,439
Speaker 2: And what I also say is that one people see

1250
01:11:41,439 --> 01:11:44,120
Speaker 2: things in you before you see it in yourself.

1251
01:11:44,720 --> 01:11:47,559
Speaker 3: But what I couple that with is that if.

1252
01:11:47,439 --> 01:11:50,599
Speaker 2: You are a known performer again, it goes back. People

1253
01:11:50,600 --> 01:11:54,240
Speaker 2: want people on their team designed to win. When I

1254
01:11:54,320 --> 01:11:57,000
Speaker 2: was appointed to the council, it was designed it's the

1255
01:11:57,080 --> 01:12:02,400
Speaker 2: National Women's Business Counsel. Are three kind of stakeholders are

1256
01:12:02,439 --> 01:12:07,000
Speaker 2: the President of the United States Congress and the SBA

1257
01:12:07,120 --> 01:12:12,080
Speaker 2: Small Business Administration. So my focus was our focus was

1258
01:12:12,160 --> 01:12:15,200
Speaker 2: how do we get more women in the sense of

1259
01:12:15,280 --> 01:12:20,679
Speaker 2: access to contracts, Opportunities capital because we are underfunded, yet

1260
01:12:20,720 --> 01:12:25,000
Speaker 2: we are the highest and fastest growing population of business owners.

1261
01:12:25,800 --> 01:12:29,679
Speaker 2: And when we look at organizations and VC currently under

1262
01:12:29,720 --> 01:12:33,840
Speaker 2: attack is the Fearless Fund, you know, And if we

1263
01:12:33,880 --> 01:12:37,759
Speaker 2: didn't have organizations like the Fearless Fund or Collab Capital

1264
01:12:37,760 --> 01:12:42,080
Speaker 2: where I serve as an advisory member that with Jewel,

1265
01:12:42,160 --> 01:12:46,439
Speaker 2: Melanie and that team, they are giving monies to scaled

1266
01:12:46,520 --> 01:12:52,560
Speaker 2: founders and areas around innovation and underrepresented groups. Those programs

1267
01:12:52,600 --> 01:12:57,960
Speaker 2: and funds wouldn't exist if the monies were going to

1268
01:12:58,120 --> 01:13:02,000
Speaker 2: then if you look back at women of color, a

1269
01:13:02,200 --> 01:13:07,840
Speaker 2: fraction of one percent goes to female founders. Remember I'm

1270
01:13:07,840 --> 01:13:12,840
Speaker 2: a female founder. I'm a black female founder. Founded my

1271
01:13:13,040 --> 01:13:17,639
Speaker 2: business out of a one bedroom apartment, crazy, self funded.

1272
01:13:19,439 --> 01:13:22,000
Speaker 2: Nobody gave me any money. I didn't go to mom

1273
01:13:22,120 --> 01:13:27,880
Speaker 2: and dad self funded. Now there are programs designed to help,

1274
01:13:28,200 --> 01:13:32,000
Speaker 2: there are funds designed to help. And so for me

1275
01:13:32,120 --> 01:13:35,680
Speaker 2: to sit on that council, it became away as a

1276
01:13:35,720 --> 01:13:40,360
Speaker 2: catalyst through public policy for me to drive forward that change.

1277
01:13:40,880 --> 01:13:44,240
Speaker 2: And I really and firmly believe that, you know, in

1278
01:13:44,400 --> 01:13:46,920
Speaker 2: order for us to look at how we impact, we

1279
01:13:47,080 --> 01:13:50,640
Speaker 2: have to have women and men who are courageous and

1280
01:13:50,720 --> 01:13:53,600
Speaker 2: convicted who are willing to get in the way to

1281
01:13:53,680 --> 01:13:55,799
Speaker 2: shake it up for others when they can't.

1282
01:13:55,840 --> 01:13:57,320
Speaker 3: And so you know, I served on it.

1283
01:13:58,280 --> 01:14:02,240
Speaker 2: I was supposed to roll off, but then Carla Harris,

1284
01:14:02,240 --> 01:14:05,599
Speaker 2: who I loved dearly as well, came on and she says, Sis,

1285
01:14:05,640 --> 01:14:08,559
Speaker 2: I need you to stay. And I stayed longer and

1286
01:14:08,600 --> 01:14:12,200
Speaker 2: extend up my term. And because it didn't matter to

1287
01:14:12,240 --> 01:14:15,679
Speaker 2: me who was in the White House, because the women

1288
01:14:17,000 --> 01:14:18,000
Speaker 2: who needed.

1289
01:14:17,640 --> 01:14:19,519
Speaker 3: The funds hadn't changed.

1290
01:14:20,520 --> 01:14:22,880
Speaker 2: And so we need to make sure and this is

1291
01:14:22,920 --> 01:14:26,400
Speaker 2: how my position on politics took. You know, we need

1292
01:14:26,400 --> 01:14:28,840
Speaker 2: to make sure that we have folks in the room,

1293
01:14:29,360 --> 01:14:32,160
Speaker 2: in both rooms, because if we.

1294
01:14:32,160 --> 01:14:34,760
Speaker 3: Don't have folks on the other side.

1295
01:14:34,960 --> 01:14:39,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, who's speaking up? And how we're driving to change one?

1296
01:14:39,479 --> 01:14:45,320
Speaker 1: That's so good? Wow, no one gets anywhere along. I

1297
01:14:45,400 --> 01:14:47,479
Speaker 1: want to know, who are some people that have played

1298
01:14:47,479 --> 01:14:49,600
Speaker 1: pivot rolls. You just spoke up a few that have

1299
01:14:49,600 --> 01:14:51,320
Speaker 1: played pivotal rolls to help you get to where you

1300
01:14:51,400 --> 01:14:51,920
Speaker 1: are today.

1301
01:14:52,040 --> 01:14:59,680
Speaker 2: Yeah. I mentioned Donna James, I mentioned the way I

1302
01:14:59,720 --> 01:15:03,720
Speaker 2: look at Carla Harris. I serve as a member of

1303
01:15:03,760 --> 01:15:07,960
Speaker 2: the Executive Leadership Council. It is a group of black

1304
01:15:08,120 --> 01:15:12,040
Speaker 2: officers of the Fortune one thousand that rank within two

1305
01:15:12,760 --> 01:15:16,280
Speaker 2: of the chairman of those organizations. At the time when

1306
01:15:16,320 --> 01:15:21,600
Speaker 2: Carla was the board chair, they were not really accepting entrepreneurs.

1307
01:15:21,640 --> 01:15:25,000
Speaker 2: We were not the basis of how that organization was founded.

1308
01:15:25,680 --> 01:15:28,760
Speaker 2: But she said to me, Kim, you know, we need

1309
01:15:28,800 --> 01:15:32,559
Speaker 2: people who think differently. And at the time I never

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Speaker 2: really thought of myself and going into the organization. Had

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Speaker 2: always been an advocate and a partner outside and driving

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01:15:38,800 --> 01:15:42,920
Speaker 2: my member companies in the sense of the PMM portfolio

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01:15:43,160 --> 01:15:47,640
Speaker 2: because I believed in its mission, and she was a

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Speaker 2: primary advocate in me. You know, getting into that organization

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01:15:52,000 --> 01:15:54,639
Speaker 2: that will take a lot of pride around how we

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Speaker 2: change how corporate America does business.

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Speaker 3: So Carla Donna, you know.

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Speaker 2: I've also had women step up who don't necessarily look

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01:16:06,640 --> 01:16:09,280
Speaker 2: like me in the sense of our melanin.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: It was a woman Asian Philippine from the Philippines that

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Speaker 2: put me on.

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Speaker 3: My first corporate board.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And so again I go back to where I met

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01:16:25,640 --> 01:16:30,799
Speaker 2: her at Gwyneth Paltrow. She hosts something where founders get together,

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Speaker 2: very small group of us, and we're talking about how

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Speaker 2: we change the ecosystem, what it looks like, and also

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01:16:36,640 --> 01:16:40,760
Speaker 2: just really looking at restoration and where and how we

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01:16:40,800 --> 01:16:45,280
Speaker 2: build community. Served on a panel afterwards, talked to her.

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01:16:45,320 --> 01:16:47,960
Speaker 2: She was a former a CEO of care dot Com.

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01:16:48,160 --> 01:16:51,280
Speaker 2: Spent ninety minutes with her and within six months was

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Speaker 2: on my first.

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Speaker 3: Corporate board as a publicly traded corporate director.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: I say that because again, I don't take lightly where

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01:17:06,200 --> 01:17:13,840
Speaker 2: I am invited into rooms and so mentorship, advocacy, sponsorship,

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01:17:14,320 --> 01:17:17,200
Speaker 2: While many do it for me, I'm going to do

1339
01:17:17,240 --> 01:17:21,559
Speaker 2: a multiplier for others. And so when names come up

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01:17:21,640 --> 01:17:25,479
Speaker 2: for board opportunities, I bring up names, when names come

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01:17:25,560 --> 01:17:29,800
Speaker 2: up for corporate sponsorship, and you know how we look

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01:17:29,840 --> 01:17:34,160
Speaker 2: at personal service agreements, I bring you know, names up.

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01:17:35,479 --> 01:17:38,559
Speaker 2: Where I am focused now is just as I go

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Speaker 2: back to that significance track.

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01:17:40,479 --> 01:17:46,759
Speaker 3: Yes, I'm really big now on where that dash.

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01:17:46,800 --> 01:17:49,960
Speaker 2: And you know what my life I hope represents is

1347
01:17:50,040 --> 01:17:57,840
Speaker 2: I really want to create a lot more black and female,

1348
01:17:58,080 --> 01:18:04,200
Speaker 2: not just millionaires multi millions, right, And I believe in

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01:18:04,320 --> 01:18:08,880
Speaker 2: the power of monetizing content. I believe in the power

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01:18:09,000 --> 01:18:12,759
Speaker 2: of media. Yes, I believe that a lot of folks

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01:18:12,800 --> 01:18:16,960
Speaker 2: sit in positions of talent. I want them to develop

1352
01:18:17,160 --> 01:18:21,200
Speaker 2: the rigor and the muscle around business ownership and what

1353
01:18:21,320 --> 01:18:26,120
Speaker 2: that means to kind of create currency from their talents.

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01:18:26,160 --> 01:18:27,760
Speaker 2: You and I were talking the other day and we

1355
01:18:27,760 --> 01:18:30,840
Speaker 2: were talking about this whole writer strike and how you

1356
01:18:30,960 --> 01:18:37,799
Speaker 2: have learned the power of diversifying your streams of income.

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Speaker 1: And I was gonna call you and ask you that

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01:18:40,080 --> 01:18:40,719
Speaker 1: I was.

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01:18:42,200 --> 01:18:46,280
Speaker 2: And I was proud again to hear whearing how you're

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01:18:46,280 --> 01:18:49,880
Speaker 2: doing it. You know, I tell folks, you know, I've

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01:18:49,920 --> 01:18:55,240
Speaker 2: been fortunate to build wealth in investing in real estate,

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Speaker 2: commercial residential, investing in art, developing a collection worth seven

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01:19:06,439 --> 01:19:07,120
Speaker 2: plus figures.

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Speaker 3: When jay Z talked about art, I was like, what

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01:19:10,960 --> 01:19:11,360
Speaker 3: tell them?

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01:19:11,760 --> 01:19:12,720
Speaker 1: Jay? Right?

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01:19:13,960 --> 01:19:21,200
Speaker 2: And through business ownership. Business ownership creates wealth. And so

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01:19:21,280 --> 01:19:24,559
Speaker 2: when you look at all these different streams and you

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01:19:24,640 --> 01:19:26,599
Speaker 2: look at the ways, and just like I said, if

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Speaker 2: I had a book passive.

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01:19:29,120 --> 01:19:34,160
Speaker 3: Income, how am I making money when I'm sleep?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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01:19:37,560 --> 01:19:40,679
Speaker 2: And I'm also looking at too, how do I Because

1374
01:19:40,720 --> 01:19:42,880
Speaker 2: I sit in a lot of deal flow.

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01:19:43,520 --> 01:19:45,360
Speaker 1: They call me deal flow diva.

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01:19:45,560 --> 01:19:48,960
Speaker 2: Right, I sit in a lot of deal flow. And

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01:19:49,000 --> 01:19:50,519
Speaker 2: what I say to folks too is I can help

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01:19:50,560 --> 01:19:51,120
Speaker 2: you with the deal.

1379
01:19:54,120 --> 01:19:55,240
Speaker 3: But I am very true.

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01:19:55,560 --> 01:19:58,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I put myself in a deal. I know

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01:19:58,960 --> 01:20:02,040
Speaker 2: the value what I do. A lot of people can't

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01:20:02,040 --> 01:20:02,519
Speaker 2: afford me.

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01:20:02,920 --> 01:20:05,639
Speaker 1: Right, Hello, Hello, But it.

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01:20:05,560 --> 01:20:08,760
Speaker 2: Comes to various forms, you know. Yeah, and so do

1385
01:20:08,840 --> 01:20:10,120
Speaker 2: you want one hundred percent or nothing?

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01:20:10,560 --> 01:20:10,760
Speaker 1: Right?

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01:20:11,320 --> 01:20:15,439
Speaker 2: Or do you want eighty percent of something that you

1388
01:20:15,479 --> 01:20:17,639
Speaker 2: know can change your life?

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01:20:17,720 --> 01:20:20,880
Speaker 1: Exactly? I know that's right. We're gonna close with you

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01:20:20,960 --> 01:20:23,680
Speaker 1: giving just a few tips on what you would tell

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01:20:23,720 --> 01:20:26,680
Speaker 1: young women who are trying to be business women, just

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01:20:26,680 --> 01:20:29,960
Speaker 1: like you, get in these corporate spaces, because some people

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01:20:30,000 --> 01:20:32,760
Speaker 1: just don't know, you know, trying to navigate certain things.

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01:20:32,800 --> 01:20:35,600
Speaker 1: What are some tips that you may tell them to

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01:20:35,640 --> 01:20:38,800
Speaker 1: even navigate those or even if they're battling with like

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01:20:38,800 --> 01:20:41,160
Speaker 1: the institute and fear of like how do I go

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01:20:41,200 --> 01:20:42,719
Speaker 1: in these rooms and carry myself?

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01:20:42,840 --> 01:20:47,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll give you a few nuggets, so one understand

1399
01:20:47,920 --> 01:20:50,160
Speaker 2: what you can afford to do and not to do.

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01:20:50,200 --> 01:20:53,960
Speaker 2: On when I knew what I when I could afford

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01:20:55,040 --> 01:20:59,200
Speaker 2: to make my side hustle my main hustle. I tell

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01:20:59,240 --> 01:21:05,640
Speaker 2: folks learn in corporate America, learning wherever else on their die,

1403
01:21:05,880 --> 01:21:12,400
Speaker 2: develop the relationships that you may change to where they.

1404
01:21:12,280 --> 01:21:13,080
Speaker 3: Become a client.

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01:21:14,640 --> 01:21:19,439
Speaker 2: Learn systems, look at software look at you know where

1406
01:21:19,479 --> 01:21:23,120
Speaker 2: and how you know companies are thinking about innovation.

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01:21:24,280 --> 01:21:27,880
Speaker 3: Learn AI. We ain't even go there.

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01:21:28,000 --> 01:21:29,800
Speaker 1: We're not going there because that's why we're on strike.

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01:21:29,840 --> 01:21:31,519
Speaker 1: That's part of the reasonhy we're on strike right now.

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01:21:31,760 --> 01:21:34,599
Speaker 1: Why they can literally scan our faces, take our voices

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01:21:34,960 --> 01:21:36,519
Speaker 1: and just pay us a small fee and create a

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01:21:36,560 --> 01:21:39,600
Speaker 1: whole movie and TV show with everything. They don't need

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01:21:39,640 --> 01:21:41,320
Speaker 1: it now.

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01:21:42,120 --> 01:21:44,519
Speaker 2: Yeah, l see see I thought it was like you know,

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01:21:44,720 --> 01:21:47,920
Speaker 2: see I got the little macro, the writers strike and

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01:21:48,040 --> 01:21:50,480
Speaker 2: you know. But but what I will tell you that

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01:21:49,960 --> 01:21:54,400
Speaker 2: they can Yeah, that part of it is. But let

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01:21:54,479 --> 01:21:59,519
Speaker 2: me say this, going back to AI, figure out what

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01:21:59,600 --> 01:22:06,800
Speaker 2: you can do that AI can't. Yeah, because what I

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01:22:06,800 --> 01:22:09,759
Speaker 2: will tell you is that there are forms in business

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01:22:09,800 --> 01:22:12,360
Speaker 2: where AI is going to create efficiencies in business.

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01:22:12,439 --> 01:22:12,559
Speaker 1: Oh.

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01:22:12,760 --> 01:22:18,080
Speaker 2: Absolutely, You're not gonna need to pay it's just what.

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01:22:18,479 --> 01:22:21,240
Speaker 2: It doesn't sound good, it doesn't feel good.

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01:22:21,240 --> 01:22:23,080
Speaker 3: But that is what it is.

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01:22:23,280 --> 01:22:23,800
Speaker 1: Wow.

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01:22:24,280 --> 01:22:26,080
Speaker 2: But what I will tell you to going back to

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01:22:26,120 --> 01:22:32,760
Speaker 2: some of the other things, find a tribe, one that

1429
01:22:33,000 --> 01:22:37,880
Speaker 2: understands what it is that you're wanting to do, not

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01:22:37,920 --> 01:22:42,479
Speaker 2: necessarily the how, but you you're gonna need cheerleaders. That

1431
01:22:42,520 --> 01:22:44,240
Speaker 2: doesn't mean they have to be in your day to

1432
01:22:44,320 --> 01:22:48,160
Speaker 2: day but it does come in many forms. And when

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01:22:48,240 --> 01:22:53,080
Speaker 2: times get hard, you're gonna need someone or some bodies, yes,

1434
01:22:54,040 --> 01:22:58,679
Speaker 2: to help cheer you on. Always invest in continuous learning.

1435
01:22:58,920 --> 01:23:03,840
Speaker 2: I mentioned Hard, Cornell, Northwestern, Dartmouth, all of them.

1436
01:23:04,240 --> 01:23:07,519
Speaker 3: I continue to invest in my learning.

1437
01:23:08,120 --> 01:23:12,040
Speaker 2: So it may not be the ivys, but go take

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01:23:12,080 --> 01:23:17,080
Speaker 2: a webinar, go on YouTube and learn something and they

1439
01:23:17,160 --> 01:23:19,519
Speaker 2: have the ivies now have online courses that you they

1440
01:23:19,600 --> 01:23:23,160
Speaker 2: have that too, and you can go and look up

1441
01:23:23,240 --> 01:23:28,760
Speaker 2: different things and find community because a lot of times too,

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01:23:28,800 --> 01:23:33,760
Speaker 2: there's a great information share across community. For those folks

1443
01:23:33,760 --> 01:23:35,920
Speaker 2: who are wanting to go into business for themselves, there

1444
01:23:35,960 --> 01:23:39,519
Speaker 2: are tons of programs that actually where there are dollars

1445
01:23:39,560 --> 01:23:39,880
Speaker 2: that we.

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01:23:39,840 --> 01:23:41,120
Speaker 3: Are leaving on the table.

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01:23:41,479 --> 01:23:45,879
Speaker 2: Wow, So go and do the homework as it relates

1448
01:23:45,920 --> 01:23:49,120
Speaker 2: to grant funding and where and how you may be

1449
01:23:49,280 --> 01:23:53,280
Speaker 2: eligible to get support. And then I would say, you know,

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01:23:54,760 --> 01:23:59,160
Speaker 2: state of course, whether you're working you know, for yourself

1451
01:23:59,280 --> 01:24:03,280
Speaker 2: or for someone, there will always be hard times, yes,

1452
01:24:04,160 --> 01:24:09,160
Speaker 2: and you have to be so committed to your course,

1453
01:24:09,920 --> 01:24:15,120
Speaker 2: unwavering and if your God fearing, like I am, staying

1454
01:24:15,200 --> 01:24:20,880
Speaker 2: your word, yeah, because there are so many lessons in

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01:24:21,040 --> 01:24:28,360
Speaker 2: the word that will guide you and bring clarity to

1456
01:24:28,800 --> 01:24:32,840
Speaker 2: chaos that we face on the day to day, you know,

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01:24:33,240 --> 01:24:34,400
Speaker 2: and you know shoot.

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01:24:34,080 --> 01:24:38,760
Speaker 1: For the stars. Yeah, you know. Hey, y'all you got

1459
01:24:38,760 --> 01:24:40,640
Speaker 1: it straight from Kimberly Blackwell. I mean, I don't know

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01:24:40,640 --> 01:24:42,719
Speaker 1: what more to tell you or to give you.

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01:24:42,800 --> 01:24:44,480
Speaker 3: Okay, it's been fun.

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01:24:44,280 --> 01:24:46,040
Speaker 1: It's been amazing. Thank you.

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01:24:46,520 --> 01:24:47,920
Speaker 3: Wow, can we go eat?

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01:24:48,280 --> 01:24:51,880
Speaker 1: I'm so hungry. You know, I'm not eating all day?

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01:24:53,200 --> 01:24:53,919
Speaker 3: She hustling.

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01:24:54,320 --> 01:24:56,920
Speaker 1: I had a half a bagel, like literally all day.

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01:24:56,960 --> 01:24:57,639
Speaker 1: I'm starving.

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01:24:58,200 --> 01:25:02,080
Speaker 2: Wait, let me say something before you sign on. And

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01:25:02,120 --> 01:25:06,360
Speaker 2: I've said it throughout. What I love and what I'm

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01:25:06,439 --> 01:25:14,559
Speaker 2: seeing is how women and black women are showing up

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01:25:14,840 --> 01:25:20,599
Speaker 2: for you now on play about Chris and I. You know,

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01:25:20,760 --> 01:25:28,559
Speaker 2: it's a force that you cannot engineer, and what I

1473
01:25:28,560 --> 01:25:36,200
Speaker 2: would say to you is to embrace it and understand

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01:25:37,600 --> 01:25:45,480
Speaker 2: that the favor that God has put upon your life

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01:25:46,040 --> 01:25:50,720
Speaker 2: is something that I know that you will steward in

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01:25:50,760 --> 01:25:54,120
Speaker 2: a way. But just know that you're not doing it

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01:25:54,280 --> 01:25:57,439
Speaker 2: just for you. You're not doing it just for your family.

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01:25:58,040 --> 01:26:03,840
Speaker 2: You're doing it for the almost million but will be millions. Yeah,

1479
01:26:03,880 --> 01:26:08,879
Speaker 2: that pay attention to how you live because your life.

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01:26:09,840 --> 01:26:14,400
Speaker 2: Your life is in the way in what you've seen. Yeah,

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01:26:14,520 --> 01:26:18,280
Speaker 2: a soundtrack for so many wow oof.

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01:26:20,320 --> 01:26:24,160
Speaker 1: Kim Wow. I said what I said. You said what

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01:26:24,200 --> 01:26:27,639
Speaker 1: you said, and I received that. I res I mean, wow.

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01:26:27,720 --> 01:26:28,120
Speaker 1: Thank you.

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01:26:28,479 --> 01:26:28,880
Speaker 3: I love you.

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01:26:29,040 --> 01:26:32,080
Speaker 1: I love you too. Thank you so much. Oh my goodness,

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01:26:32,439 --> 01:26:37,759
Speaker 1: I am so full. Uh. We're gonna do my favorite

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01:26:37,760 --> 01:26:40,040
Speaker 1: part of the show, which is called Positive Outcomes, where

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01:26:40,040 --> 01:26:42,960
Speaker 1: our listeners write into us and we give them advice. Okay,

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01:26:43,040 --> 01:26:46,400
Speaker 1: so it's a listener letter and this one says, Hello, Chrystal.

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01:26:46,439 --> 01:26:49,479
Speaker 1: I'm a forty nine year old detention sergeant in Polk County, Florida.

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01:26:49,760 --> 01:26:52,120
Speaker 1: I've been in law enforcement for nearly twenty years and

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01:26:52,200 --> 01:26:54,920
Speaker 1: want to start a new career. My passion is decorating.

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01:26:55,000 --> 01:26:57,840
Speaker 1: I have a decorating business, a travel agency, and I

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01:26:57,920 --> 01:27:02,280
Speaker 1: make custom crocs all my part time jobs. My dream

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01:27:02,400 --> 01:27:05,080
Speaker 1: is to open up my own venue. Since COVID, my

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01:27:05,160 --> 01:27:07,760
Speaker 1: business took a huge hit because the venues closed down

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01:27:08,000 --> 01:27:10,479
Speaker 1: and now they are too expensive to rent. I have

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01:27:10,560 --> 01:27:12,599
Speaker 1: been praying asking God to leave me in the right

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01:27:12,640 --> 01:27:15,280
Speaker 1: direction and provide me with the resources I need to

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01:27:15,320 --> 01:27:18,040
Speaker 1: open my venue. I'm tired of living in fear of

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01:27:18,080 --> 01:27:21,639
Speaker 1: what might not happen and of failure. I'm also tired

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01:27:21,680 --> 01:27:24,040
Speaker 1: of working in a career that is no longer fulfilling.

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01:27:24,600 --> 01:27:27,280
Speaker 1: How do I get over my fear and pursue my dreams?

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01:27:28,000 --> 01:27:30,200
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's for me.

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01:27:30,760 --> 01:27:35,920
Speaker 1: Or both of us both. Yeah. So I'll say I

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01:27:35,960 --> 01:27:37,880
Speaker 1: had the experience working on Capitol Hill. I did it

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01:27:37,920 --> 01:27:40,800
Speaker 1: for two years, and I got to the point where

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01:27:40,800 --> 01:27:44,800
Speaker 1: I literally was at my desk responding to constituents and

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01:27:44,800 --> 01:27:47,720
Speaker 1: I'm like, what are you doing? And then, for me

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01:27:47,880 --> 01:27:51,600
Speaker 1: in my life, I've noticed when God starts wrestling with me,

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01:27:51,800 --> 01:27:54,120
Speaker 1: and I asked myself the question, Christ, what are you doing?

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01:27:54,600 --> 01:27:57,080
Speaker 1: It's time to do something. It's time to shift some

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01:27:57,120 --> 01:28:00,880
Speaker 1: things around. And I would say that to you, nothing's

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01:28:00,920 --> 01:28:04,040
Speaker 1: gonna be easy. I mean, Kim is a prime example.

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01:28:04,160 --> 01:28:07,040
Speaker 1: She started off in an apartment. Maybe your venue doesn't

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01:28:07,080 --> 01:28:08,720
Speaker 1: have to be as big as a scale that you

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01:28:08,760 --> 01:28:10,240
Speaker 1: want to start it on or that you see it.

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01:28:10,240 --> 01:28:12,120
Speaker 1: It can get there, but maybe you need to just

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01:28:12,160 --> 01:28:14,759
Speaker 1: scale now to something that you can afford and build

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01:28:14,840 --> 01:28:17,320
Speaker 1: up from there. That's what I would say. But I

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01:28:17,400 --> 01:28:20,240
Speaker 1: also would say, don't just quit your day job. You

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01:28:20,280 --> 01:28:24,600
Speaker 1: know you gotta okay bills must be paid exactly, So

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01:28:24,640 --> 01:28:25,880
Speaker 1: I would work on that. It has to be a

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01:28:25,920 --> 01:28:27,880
Speaker 1: side hustle until it becomes your main hustle.

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01:28:27,920 --> 01:28:30,519
Speaker 2: Yea, all things are you attention on well? And what

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Speaker 2: I would add is that you know I am big

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01:28:35,080 --> 01:28:38,639
Speaker 2: on following my gut, and I do think that there

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01:28:38,640 --> 01:28:45,799
Speaker 2: are times when you know you may not wanna admit

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01:28:46,120 --> 01:28:49,840
Speaker 2: or embrace. So if you know that you know without

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01:28:49,880 --> 01:28:51,720
Speaker 2: a shoutowf of a doubt, that this is what you

1532
01:28:51,760 --> 01:28:55,000
Speaker 2: are supposed to be doing, then you stay the course.

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01:28:56,520 --> 01:29:00,080
Speaker 2: For me, I feel that, you know, coming out of

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01:29:00,120 --> 01:29:04,360
Speaker 2: college starting my business, you know, in my early twenties

1535
01:29:04,360 --> 01:29:09,400
Speaker 2: from that apartment, I knew that I was in my purpose.

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01:29:10,840 --> 01:29:17,120
Speaker 2: If this business aligns to your purpose.

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01:29:18,160 --> 01:29:23,559
Speaker 3: And you see your product as being something that is.

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01:29:25,439 --> 01:29:30,960
Speaker 2: Differentiated in the marketplace, and you know that you can

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01:29:31,160 --> 01:29:37,639
Speaker 2: now explore other ways crowdfunding, how you go to friends

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01:29:37,640 --> 01:29:42,559
Speaker 2: and family to look at ways to raise capital. To

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01:29:42,760 --> 01:29:49,120
Speaker 2: your point, I always kept my overhead low so I

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01:29:49,120 --> 01:29:53,559
Speaker 2: didn't start hiring a lot of people. Initially, I contracted people.

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01:29:54,040 --> 01:29:58,400
Speaker 2: So how do you minimize your expenses so that you

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01:29:58,560 --> 01:30:04,160
Speaker 2: can continue to invest more into the business So you can't.

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01:30:03,920 --> 01:30:07,000
Speaker 1: Make the money and go out and buy the burkin Hello.

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01:30:07,200 --> 01:30:11,840
Speaker 2: Okay, Well she said, instead, you're gonna have to reinvest

1547
01:30:12,120 --> 01:30:13,679
Speaker 2: into the business, and that's.

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01:30:13,439 --> 01:30:15,759
Speaker 3: Gonna be a long time coming.

1549
01:30:16,160 --> 01:30:20,240
Speaker 2: Before you upgrade that car or you go get those j's.

1550
01:30:20,840 --> 01:30:24,400
Speaker 2: You may be in whatever sneakers you wearing now and

1551
01:30:24,479 --> 01:30:26,519
Speaker 2: it'll be a minute. But what I will tell you

1552
01:30:26,680 --> 01:30:31,080
Speaker 2: is that if the product differentiation is there, if the

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01:30:31,160 --> 01:30:31,760
Speaker 2: brand and.

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01:30:31,720 --> 01:30:34,320
Speaker 3: The consumer demand is there, why your crocs?

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01:30:35,600 --> 01:30:38,559
Speaker 2: And in this world to which you know, we're seeing

1556
01:30:38,560 --> 01:30:42,240
Speaker 2: it show up in different forms, how do you get

1557
01:30:42,280 --> 01:30:45,920
Speaker 2: creative and resourceful? Have you sent crystals some of your

1558
01:30:45,960 --> 01:30:48,120
Speaker 2: crocs with hurt million followers?

1559
01:30:48,560 --> 01:30:48,640
Speaker 1: Like?

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01:30:48,720 --> 01:30:53,080
Speaker 2: How do you use product placement to bring awareness? And

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01:30:53,400 --> 01:30:56,599
Speaker 2: if you were to get that awareness, could you supply

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01:30:56,680 --> 01:30:59,760
Speaker 2: to demand. There are a lot of things that sometimes

1563
01:30:59,760 --> 01:31:00,479
Speaker 2: we have to.

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01:31:00,439 --> 01:31:04,240
Speaker 3: Look at and a straight talk yeah.

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01:31:03,600 --> 01:31:08,080
Speaker 2: That I sometimes think we're not necessarily ready for. And

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01:31:08,120 --> 01:31:11,280
Speaker 2: that's where the hard questions come. But if you're prepared

1567
01:31:12,520 --> 01:31:14,920
Speaker 2: and your gut says this is a part of what

1568
01:31:14,960 --> 01:31:19,080
Speaker 2: you're supposed to be doing, I believe that that passion

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01:31:19,600 --> 01:31:20,720
Speaker 2: and purpose.

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01:31:22,120 --> 01:31:23,120
Speaker 3: Can turn a profit.

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01:31:24,240 --> 01:31:25,640
Speaker 1: Okay, I love that.

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01:31:25,960 --> 01:31:29,240
Speaker 3: I love that.

1573
01:31:29,960 --> 01:31:31,479
Speaker 1: We do with part what I'm going through and what

1574
01:31:31,520 --> 01:31:35,960
Speaker 1: I'm growing through is so good. And I'll start right

1575
01:31:36,000 --> 01:31:38,400
Speaker 1: now just based on this topic that we're talking about.

1576
01:31:38,720 --> 01:31:41,880
Speaker 1: We're going through the strike right now, and I am

1577
01:31:41,880 --> 01:31:45,760
Speaker 1: going through a season of reinventing the wheel and trying

1578
01:31:45,760 --> 01:31:50,480
Speaker 1: to figure new things out and working on other passions,

1579
01:31:50,640 --> 01:31:52,880
Speaker 1: things that I'm passionate about that are going to other

1580
01:31:53,000 --> 01:31:54,799
Speaker 1: hustle that are going to start at the side hustle,

1581
01:31:54,840 --> 01:31:57,200
Speaker 1: but I see this ended up being the main hustle,

1582
01:31:57,400 --> 01:32:01,080
Speaker 1: you know, so looking into that and really researching and

1583
01:32:01,200 --> 01:32:05,320
Speaker 1: learning something new because I realize now that while acting

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01:32:05,400 --> 01:32:09,240
Speaker 1: brings great money and it provides a great life, it

1585
01:32:10,400 --> 01:32:12,880
Speaker 1: also there's a lot of uncertainties in the future of that,

1586
01:32:12,920 --> 01:32:16,360
Speaker 1: and I'll need to tap into something that I know is, hey,

1587
01:32:16,439 --> 01:32:17,599
Speaker 1: I can't do this, you.

1588
01:32:17,560 --> 01:32:20,800
Speaker 2: Know what I mean, that's the real But acting will

1589
01:32:20,840 --> 01:32:23,320
Speaker 2: come back for you, and it'll come back times three.

1590
01:32:23,720 --> 01:32:25,639
Speaker 3: But to your point, what else?

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01:32:26,000 --> 01:32:29,080
Speaker 1: What else? Yeah? Yeah, So that's what I'm going through

1592
01:32:29,080 --> 01:32:30,000
Speaker 1: and grooving through right now.

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01:32:30,920 --> 01:32:35,439
Speaker 2: I think going through for me is just that after COVID,

1594
01:32:35,680 --> 01:32:41,920
Speaker 2: my business changed where we grew into new areas, and

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01:32:42,000 --> 01:32:46,240
Speaker 2: so that also meant me finding the right talent and

1596
01:32:46,320 --> 01:32:49,240
Speaker 2: skill set because I'm also trying to work differently.

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01:32:50,160 --> 01:32:52,120
Speaker 1: I work very hard.

1598
01:32:52,240 --> 01:32:55,200
Speaker 2: And the Nora can have all this hard work, right,

1599
01:32:56,040 --> 01:33:00,960
Speaker 2: My working harder is I'm trying to work smarter and

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01:33:01,000 --> 01:33:05,280
Speaker 2: I'm also trying to change lives. So right now, what

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01:33:05,320 --> 01:33:09,360
Speaker 2: I'm going through to hopefully get to is my dream team.

1602
01:33:09,800 --> 01:33:14,160
Speaker 2: So I am looking for folks who want to work.

1603
01:33:14,880 --> 01:33:18,720
Speaker 2: I'm looking for folks who want to work because I

1604
01:33:18,800 --> 01:33:26,639
Speaker 2: have a My operational excellent standard is high. I am

1605
01:33:26,680 --> 01:33:31,040
Speaker 2: not the easiest person to work for because the reality

1606
01:33:31,080 --> 01:33:33,960
Speaker 2: of it is is that I'm black. The reality of

1607
01:33:34,000 --> 01:33:36,439
Speaker 2: it is is that I'm a woman. So I don't

1608
01:33:36,479 --> 01:33:40,920
Speaker 2: get do overs in my world. And so for me,

1609
01:33:42,080 --> 01:33:44,439
Speaker 2: and again not resting on any laurels and knowing that

1610
01:33:44,479 --> 01:33:48,400
Speaker 2: people are chasing me, what I put out has to

1611
01:33:48,520 --> 01:33:55,000
Speaker 2: be five star, best class, disruptive, impactful, moves the needle

1612
01:33:55,040 --> 01:33:59,559
Speaker 2: where you know corporations can count where and how we've

1613
01:33:59,680 --> 01:34:02,439
Speaker 2: driven sales and help to grow market share.

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01:34:02,640 --> 01:34:02,960
Speaker 1: Right.

1615
01:34:03,560 --> 01:34:07,519
Speaker 2: And so for me, I'm excited about where I'm going

1616
01:34:07,680 --> 01:34:12,360
Speaker 2: to because I have some really cool things in the work.

1617
01:34:14,920 --> 01:34:19,880
Speaker 2: But I want I'm at this point where I want

1618
01:34:20,439 --> 01:34:23,400
Speaker 2: to change other people's lives, but I'm not.

1619
01:34:23,360 --> 01:34:25,639
Speaker 3: Going to give it away, you know what I mean.

1620
01:34:26,479 --> 01:34:28,960
Speaker 3: But I want you know, I'm looking at acquisitions.

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01:34:29,280 --> 01:34:32,719
Speaker 2: Do I go buy up some boutique firms because they've

1622
01:34:32,760 --> 01:34:36,040
Speaker 2: shown themselves to be of great value? Do I find

1623
01:34:36,040 --> 01:34:40,040
Speaker 2: somebody who actually being your own boss is not always,

1624
01:34:40,600 --> 01:34:41,840
Speaker 2: you know, for everyone?

1625
01:34:42,120 --> 01:34:44,759
Speaker 3: And what I find sometimes is that are folks who.

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01:34:44,600 --> 01:34:48,639
Speaker 2: Are out here, They're like, you know what, Yeah, I'm

1627
01:34:48,680 --> 01:34:51,720
Speaker 2: ready to go work for someone, and that's okay. What

1628
01:34:51,840 --> 01:34:55,280
Speaker 2: I think we've glamorized is this whole thing about being

1629
01:34:55,320 --> 01:34:56,200
Speaker 2: your own boss.

1630
01:34:56,720 --> 01:34:58,240
Speaker 3: I just want people to be a boss.

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01:34:59,200 --> 01:35:04,840
Speaker 1: Period, every position that is. I love that. I love

1632
01:35:04,880 --> 01:35:07,759
Speaker 1: that we do something where we call keep it blank, sweetye,

1633
01:35:07,760 --> 01:35:10,880
Speaker 1: where we fill in the blank. Yeah, and this because

1634
01:35:11,520 --> 01:35:13,200
Speaker 1: just to play off and keep it positive, sweetie. So

1635
01:35:13,280 --> 01:35:15,439
Speaker 1: we're gonna say, for me, I'm gonna say for this show,

1636
01:35:16,040 --> 01:35:19,280
Speaker 1: keep it significant, sweetie, because you said something. It's not

1637
01:35:19,360 --> 01:35:24,200
Speaker 1: about the success, it's about the significance that that stuck

1638
01:35:24,240 --> 01:35:24,479
Speaker 1: with me.

1639
01:35:25,560 --> 01:35:35,240
Speaker 3: Someone say, wow, she stole my words. Let's see, because

1640
01:35:35,320 --> 01:35:44,920
Speaker 3: keep it significant was a good one day, that was

1641
01:35:44,920 --> 01:35:45,320
Speaker 3: a good one.

1642
01:35:45,320 --> 01:35:46,519
Speaker 1: We can we can use the same one.

1643
01:35:46,960 --> 01:35:52,000
Speaker 3: Nah.

1644
01:35:52,240 --> 01:35:59,920
Speaker 2: I want to say keep it this is not really

1645
01:36:00,800 --> 01:36:06,519
Speaker 2: one word. Keep it in love, sweetie, M because I

1646
01:36:06,560 --> 01:36:10,400
Speaker 2: believe if e, if you at your core, do everything

1647
01:36:10,560 --> 01:36:11,400
Speaker 2: rooted in love.

1648
01:36:11,960 --> 01:36:12,719
Speaker 1: I've told you.

1649
01:36:13,120 --> 01:36:18,160
Speaker 2: I'm true, I'm direct. But if you know my heart

1650
01:36:18,240 --> 01:36:24,559
Speaker 2: and my intention is always rooted in love. Ooh, the

1651
01:36:24,840 --> 01:36:31,000
Speaker 2: power in how you receive digest everything I do will

1652
01:36:31,040 --> 01:36:32,760
Speaker 2: be taken in its proper contexts.

1653
01:36:33,640 --> 01:36:36,000
Speaker 1: That's so good.

1654
01:36:35,560 --> 01:36:39,479
Speaker 3: So keep it in love, sweetie, Keep it in love, sweetie.

1655
01:36:39,880 --> 01:36:44,160
Speaker 1: Wow, that was amazing. Ladies and gentlemen, the Kimberly Black Well,

1656
01:36:44,200 --> 01:36:46,599
Speaker 1: thank you so much, thank you so much, so much.

1657
01:36:46,680 --> 01:36:48,920
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, I hope this episode bless you as

1658
01:36:49,000 --> 01:36:50,680
Speaker 1: much as it blessed me. I'm so excited that I

1659
01:36:50,680 --> 01:36:53,160
Speaker 1: got you on the couch a fountain.

1660
01:36:53,000 --> 01:36:56,280
Speaker 2: Right, I'm like, you know, this couch is very powerful.

1661
01:36:56,760 --> 01:36:58,559
Speaker 2: Like I feel like I went to therapy today.

1662
01:36:58,960 --> 01:37:00,800
Speaker 1: Everybody says that when they sit here.

1663
01:37:01,280 --> 01:37:04,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wonder why I might be onto something. You

1664
01:37:04,240 --> 01:37:17,719
Speaker 3: might be onto something. St rite or strike case.

1665
01:37:17,720 --> 01:37:29,599
Speaker 1: Stop that way, say ching l. Don't put us together.

1666
01:37:29,800 --> 01:37:34,920
Speaker 1: Don't put us together, honey, No, but for goods, thank

1667
01:37:34,960 --> 01:37:37,400
Speaker 1: you so much for tuning in. If you want to

1668
01:37:37,439 --> 01:37:40,960
Speaker 1: write into our positive outcomes listener letter right into keep

1669
01:37:40,960 --> 01:37:43,960
Speaker 1: it positive. Sweety at gmail dot com. That is Sweetye

1670
01:37:43,960 --> 01:37:46,519
Speaker 1: with an ie. You can follow Keep it po sweety

1671
01:37:46,560 --> 01:37:48,960
Speaker 1: on all platforms, and you can follow me on all

1672
01:37:49,000 --> 01:37:51,800
Speaker 1: platforms at Love Chris Doorinee and that it's l U

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01:37:51,960 --> 01:37:54,960
Speaker 1: V Kim. Let us know where we can find you.

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01:37:55,240 --> 01:37:59,200
Speaker 2: At Kim Blackwell, p M M. At Kim Blackwell, Paul

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01:37:59,280 --> 01:37:59,880
Speaker 2: Mary Mary.

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01:38:00,200 --> 01:38:02,200
Speaker 1: I love that. All right, we are gonna make sure

1677
01:38:02,200 --> 01:38:05,160
Speaker 1: they tap in. Guys, please follow Kimberly. I'm telling you

1678
01:38:05,160 --> 01:38:08,120
Speaker 1: we're blessed inspired. Every time I go to your page,

1679
01:38:08,120 --> 01:38:10,120
Speaker 1: I'm inspired to make sure you tap into that Sunday

1680
01:38:10,160 --> 01:38:12,280
Speaker 1: because on Sunday she gonna feed yourself.

1681
01:38:12,280 --> 01:38:15,680
Speaker 3: Oh we go to church beside Baptist, but we go

1682
01:38:15,760 --> 01:38:16,120
Speaker 3: to church.

1683
01:38:16,200 --> 01:38:18,280
Speaker 1: We're gonna be in there. Thank you guys so much

1684
01:38:18,280 --> 01:38:20,479
Speaker 1: for tuning in and in the meantime, you know what

1685
01:38:20,560 --> 01:38:23,439
Speaker 1: to do. Keep it positive, sweetie, See you guys later.