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Speaker 1: Now they want him back, but I refuse. Am I

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Speaker 1: the a hole?

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Speaker 2: No keep your brother?

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Speaker 1: What do you adopt me? Yes, you would adopt it.

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Speaker 2: I would adopt you.

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Speaker 1: Now what would you need me? Champ Champ? Yeah, all right, scallo,

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Speaker 1: I'm Champ, Sophia's adopted brother, also her real brother.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is my sister, my adopted son though.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, all right, yes, mother, this is my sister

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Speaker 2: I'm not adopting you anymore.

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Speaker 1: Sophia and She'll be a guest hosting today. So let's

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Speaker 1: get into the story. When I twenty six, Mail was

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Speaker 1: year old son, Eddie. They were struggling in their marriage

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Speaker 1: and had been for years. They thought that having another

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Speaker 1: baby would magically fix things, but they were wrong, as

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Speaker 1: it just caused more problems and strained their finances. We've

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Speaker 1: learned this a lot of times. Babies don't fix relationships,

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Speaker 1: they just make them worse.

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Speaker 2: That's so sad.

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Speaker 1: That was sad. That came out worse than I was.

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Speaker 2: So sad. No, if you're not you can't.

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Speaker 1: Save your marriage a.

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Speaker 2: Baby can't save your marriage.

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Speaker 1: That's what I mean. It's not going to make your

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Speaker 2: It's not the baby's fault. It's your fault.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's a little bit the baby's fault, and

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Speaker 1: you should let them know that. Let's say, like, hey,

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Speaker 1: you are the reason for mommy and daddy's divorce.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they divorce.

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Speaker 1: They should divorce. Okay. So they were in over their

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Speaker 1: begged them not to, but they had made up their minds.

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Speaker 1: Social workers asked other family members if anyone would like

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Speaker 1: to take Eddie. Both my older brothers refused, and my

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Speaker 1: grandparents were too old. So I took my brother in.

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Speaker 2: That's so sad.

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Speaker 3: I mean, that's really great on that brother, But you're welcome.

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Speaker 1: This royally annoyed my parents, and I was threatened with

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Speaker 2: And you know, you know they'll do it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they did it. That is not an idle threatened

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Speaker 2: God, these parents are awful.

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Speaker 1: Divorce them, divorce, divorce your parents.

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Speaker 2: Divor your parents emancipation.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, as Gary Vee would say, fuck your parents'

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Speaker 1: gary Vee. He's like an entrepreneur guy. Anyway, my folks

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Speaker 1: and I love him so much and was proud to

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Speaker 1: but I didn't care. They had never met him, even

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Speaker 2: That's really nice of them.

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Speaker 1: My folks and siblings were pitched. My aunt and uncles

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Speaker 1: Over the years, my folks would be uncomfortable when I'd

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Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, I don't know. It seems like they might

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Speaker 1: Else they want so they want a little bit more,

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Speaker 3: That is unbelievable, that's so, that's so messed up. You

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Speaker 1: Literally, Opie like like you know, stood up and said,

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Speaker 2: Gonna swoop in baby snatch him.

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Speaker 1: Baby snatch He says the kid, I'm daddy, which is true,

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Speaker 3: True, absolutely, because all they want, like the only reason

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And also he's like what like five or six, y.

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Speaker 2: I don't even think you would understand it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly. The other day I caught my mom trying

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Speaker 2: What do you guys think?

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Speaker 3: Because I think no, absolutely not. This Opie is not

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Speaker 1: And the parents like, who are you to say, who's

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so bad, unbelievable.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like my blood's boiling just thinking.

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Speaker 1: So there is a little edit. So okay, So I

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Speaker 2: That's a good dad.

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Speaker 1: I don't really I'm not sure exactly how old Eddie

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Speaker 2: It was on one day. I know that's a long day.

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Speaker 1: Big day. Wow, Yeah, this is I mean, I think

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Speaker 1: op is like literally the furthest thing from an ahold

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he was like, how do we know how old

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Speaker 3: Hey, hey, hey, oh my goodness.

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Speaker 1: I mean I would I adopt my parents kid right now?

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Speaker 3: No no, no, no no no no no no.

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Speaker 3: I locked my boyfriend out of his studio, so he

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Speaker 3: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: Well, if he was being annoying, he's being annoying. He's

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Speaker 2: He's not allowed to work.

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Speaker 1: He's not allowed. You know what I say. If you're annoying,

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Speaker 3: Wait?

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Speaker 2: Those are two different references.

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Speaker 3: Yes, okay, I twenty eight female, lived with my boyfriend

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend is a professional sculptor and has his studio

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Speaker 3: in her house. That's really cool. Yeah, your boyfriend sounds sick.

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Speaker 3: He sounds like a cool guy, sounds like a dope dude.

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Speaker 3: But he apparently is you know, he apparently.

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Speaker 1: But he's a sculptor.

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Speaker 2: But he's a sculptor.

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Speaker 1: Those hands do I don't know.

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Speaker 3: It's in a play. So his studio is in our house.

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Speaker 3: It's in a place I have to walk through to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, anyway, there are also problems with him bringing buyers

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Speaker 3: He again suggested that I should avoid his studio in

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's where Bro, this man's career is gonna be

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 3: I really would have given the key back in an

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Speaker 3: So this is where I might be the A hole.

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Speaker 3: I didn't return the keys until that night. Bro, not

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Speaker 2: This is crazy.

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Speaker 3: He thinks I'm the a hole. But I think for

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Speaker 2: In my own home. Am I the a hole? There

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Speaker 2: is an update? But what do you think so far?

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Speaker 1: By goodness?

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Speaker 2: Do you think? Sam?

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Speaker 1: Okay? So like, obviously there's a lot of like mental

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Speaker 2: The keys to the studio I think.

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Speaker 1: I think the studio is the apartment, but I think.

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Speaker 3: The way that it was phrased, it sounds like they

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Speaker 1: I interpret it as they both live in an apartment together.

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Speaker 3: Oh my interpretation of the layout.

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Speaker 3: We've got apartment, we have a hallway and there's the

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Speaker 3: Okay, the problem it's in a place I have to

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Speaker 1: So I think the studio and the apartment are one

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Speaker 2: Haw's the studio in our house?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, studio in our house. Okay, so she has to

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So like, and what it sounds like to me is

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Speaker 1: Opie's boyfriend had this place beforehand and when she moved in. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I don't think that you can lock someone out of.

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Speaker 2: Apartment, their own apartment where they work out.

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Speaker 1: Of Yeah, that's pretty shitty. Yeah. I also think like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I mean like I understand having like you know, like

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Speaker 3: But if you can't handle someone like dancing with headphones on, yeah,

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Speaker 3: you should have your own. That's yeah, you should have

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Speaker 1: Like and it sounds like this is you're literally infringing

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Speaker 2: That's his job, that's his job life. He's just.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy. He's like, yeah, he's having fun while working

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Speaker 1: that's crazy. But okay, but there's an update.

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Speaker 2: There's an update.

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Speaker 1: It's I also love this story. It's so interesting.

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Speaker 2: I just like the part where she was like, this

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Speaker 3: Like that's that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Okaye, say Sam, you're annoying of ship in the comments.

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Speaker 2: Oh don't say that, Just say hey Sam.

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Speaker 1: Shut the fuck up? Can you stop dancing? Hey Sam,

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Speaker 1: that's fucking crazy.

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Speaker 2: I guess that is update. I accept that I am

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Speaker 2: the a hole for keys to my boyfriend's studio. It

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Speaker 2: was an a whole moment.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so thank you.

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Speaker 2: I was the a hole. So they said it three times.

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Speaker 1: Good. They deserve it three times they do.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend and I have now discussed several solutions to

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Speaker 3: me hiding his keys.

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Speaker 1: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: I asked my boyfriend if I'm abusive. He said no,

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Speaker 1: Yo okay, oh oh my oh no what.

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Speaker 3: I'm just imagining her saying like, am I am abusing?

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Speaker 1: No, honey, no, no, no, it's fine.

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Speaker 1: Please put the whip away, put the hammer down. You're

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Speaker 1: not abusing. Please please don't smash my sculpture. This is

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Speaker 2: Its gop dancing.

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Speaker 1: Stop dancing. I'm take this tire iron to your kneecaps.

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Speaker 3: I tried to explain this before, but I think I

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Speaker 3: conflict is that my boyfriend's sculpture studio is in a

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Speaker 3: to access the bathroom and yard, and he constantly dances

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Speaker 2: Bringing clients and buyers into the house.

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Speaker 1: Your boyfriend sound so cool. I want to dance.

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Speaker 2: He can dance. You leave his friends behind.

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Speaker 1: She needed to go to the town footloose before the

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Speaker 1: big transition. She would love the town of foot Loose.

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Speaker 3: All of this makes me feel unsafe. It might be

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Speaker 2: She's tough, She's taugh for specify rations.

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Speaker 1: Oh, she has a sixth sense for people having fun

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Speaker 2: I think she needs her own apartment.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree.

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Speaker 3: The presence of strangers in the house also is very

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Speaker 2: Days of anxiety.

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Speaker 1: I will agree.

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Speaker 3: I think maybe having a little bit of warning about

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Speaker 2: Maybe that there's.

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Speaker 3: More that My boyfriend and I have had many discussions

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Speaker 3: he's considerate of my needs in some other areas regarding

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Speaker 2: Again.

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Speaker 3: Lately, we had an argument where I hit his studio

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Speaker 3: but my point is that I can't think well or

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: Sam, what do you guys think? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yes, bro ro it is fine to have you know,

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Speaker 1: like all the the sensory isssues and blah blah blah.

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Speaker 1: But but you probably just need your own apartment. It

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Speaker 1: doesn't feel like you can live with his feel good

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Speaker 2: He can't be controlled, can't be I want.

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Speaker 1: To meet him. I want to meet him. I want

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Speaker 1: to be friends with him.

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Speaker 2: He's a sculpting dancing queen.

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Speaker 1: If that isn't the most eligible or bachelor, I mean

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Speaker 1: you should be a bachelor. Honestly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry, Op, I.

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Speaker 1: You need want to date your boyfriend?

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Speaker 2: You need your own apartment? Op.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, that's that's an a hole if I've ever

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Speaker 3: seen an a hole.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and let's let I've seen many a holes.

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Speaker 2: Yes.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, Well, who's the most eligible bachelor you know?

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Speaker 2: Yet?

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Speaker 1: And I am single again, so I'm not putting myself

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Speaker 1: to singles, single siblings, up to no good in your neighborhood?

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Speaker 2: How does it start?

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Speaker 1: I got in one little fight, my mom got scared.

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Speaker 2: Move with your Hondi and alcohoma.

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Speaker 1: Air stink dune or this is the fade out to

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Speaker 1: the music. Stink dinging, stinky bounce bounce back a chicken,

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Speaker 1: backa chicken