Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife,
Speaker 1: and she couldn't.
Speaker 2: She cleaned and cared for her children and the man
Speaker 2: of the house, and of course she didn't talk back.
Speaker 2: She was both obedient and soft by nature. She was
Speaker 2: a good woman who always made good choices. That shit,
Speaker 2: we're good Mom's bad choices.
Speaker 3: You single mom who said fuck the patriarchy shared all
Speaker 3: their bad choices and.
Speaker 2: Sound out they were so bad.
Speaker 3: After all, we're experts, overshares and your new besties.
Speaker 2: Sit back and enjoy the ride.
Speaker 1: I can.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to good Mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 2: I'm Nila. Happy hump day, bitches, Happy hump day, bitches.
Speaker 2: It's July. We are deep middle of the summer. Baby
Speaker 2: julyon July. July. In July, I'm not Lying's not June.
Speaker 2: Is julying you? Julying is definitely julyon. Oh God means
Speaker 2: the right is due?
Speaker 3: Oh is it every motherfucking month?
Speaker 2: Every four week? The rent is Just take a deep breath,
Speaker 2: because the rent is due today. Guys.
Speaker 4: It's Wednesday, which means it's July third, right, I mean
Speaker 4: it's about to be late, about to be late.
Speaker 2: Take a deep breath, a collective breath.
Speaker 4: Okay, it's gonna be okay, you have a roof over
Speaker 4: your head, it's all day. They'll get it when you
Speaker 4: got it, even though mine just gets automatically debited from
Speaker 4: my account.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I just did it because I was Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean, I guess it's best to do that.
Speaker 3: So you're just don't even worry about it because I'm
Speaker 3: the bit chip four fifty seven.
Speaker 2: On the third.
Speaker 3: Like, I'm like, I I know I have to pay it.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna wait till the very last moment of the
Speaker 3: second of the day because I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't think I need to.
Speaker 4: When did rent become a thing I don't have to pay?
Speaker 2: Too? Invented rent?
Speaker 4: Like when there were just huts, Like people weren't renting
Speaker 4: huts and shacks? Like, when did we what is the
Speaker 4: word commande? Commoditized, commoditized, monetize, commoditize, commodity, commodity, you know
Speaker 4: what the fuck I mean, start charging people to live civilly?
Speaker 3: I mean, it's uh, what's the word I'm looking for?
Speaker 2: I don't know. Even consumerism, consumers of America America. I'm
Speaker 2: over it.
Speaker 3: I really was just thinking like, what is life supposed
Speaker 3: to be if you just exist? What if we could
Speaker 3: just live comfortably, eat delicious food and be healthy and
Speaker 3: just commune, Like, what would life be if we weren't
Speaker 3: constantly on the rat race of fucking success?
Speaker 4: And according according to America, it's savagery. I feel like
Speaker 4: we were doing that before and then they were like, savage.
Speaker 3: That's propaganda, America, the representation of America is savagery. And
Speaker 3: then they've painted it in red, white and blue and
Speaker 3: stars and white picket fences and white people and pies
Speaker 3: and shit and told us this is democracy. And then
Speaker 3: all the meanwhile fucking villaging, pillaging and fucking murdering other
Speaker 3: people in other countries and telling.
Speaker 2: Us this is life.
Speaker 3: Come over here, and now they're just acting nuts, and
Speaker 3: we're exposing and peeling the peeling the lid back on
Speaker 3: the savagery that is America and has always been America
Speaker 3: that created America. America was built in savagery. And here
Speaker 3: we are acting like we didn't know for the last
Speaker 3: fucking six hundred years, but bitch, we did. We just
Speaker 3: ignored it. But now we're here with this orange monster
Speaker 3: and ice.
Speaker 4: On that note, fuck Ice. Fuck Trump, there's a genocide
Speaker 4: happening in Gaza. Free Congo, Free Africa, Free everybody.
Speaker 3: And while we're at it, Lord, free me from this shit.
Speaker 3: Get me the fuck out of this country if you can.
Speaker 3: I'm thinking about getting it loped so I can be
Speaker 3: it in Jamaican's citizen. Yeah, as soon as possible, because
Speaker 3: I actually I will deport myself. Just just give me
Speaker 3: the ticket fees. I'll get the fuck out myself.
Speaker 2: I'm over it.
Speaker 3: I was at breakfast just now, and you know, we're
Speaker 3: in Hollywood, or right across the street from Universal shout
Speaker 3: out to go good media and this beautiful location in
Speaker 3: Hollywood Hills. We were right across the street from Universal Studios,
Speaker 3: and I'm overhearing all these very Hollywood conversations.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, my audition and oh this new production.
Speaker 3: And this guy's like, oh hi, George, I just got
Speaker 3: my new penthouse on the street.
Speaker 2: And I was like, I'm over this city. I don't
Speaker 2: want to hear about your script. Jill. I don't give
Speaker 2: a fuck.
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, I lived here too long.
Speaker 3: But I think also I'm fresh off the plane from
Speaker 3: Costa Rica, and just like the conversation is different, and
Speaker 3: I know this is my life and this is where
Speaker 3: I live and where I've grown up, but I think
Speaker 3: I might be at might be at the end of
Speaker 3: Hollywood living.
Speaker 2: Speaking of fresh off the plane from Costa Rica.
Speaker 4: When I got fresh off the plane from Costa Rica,
Speaker 4: I had to go to an influencer event that night
Speaker 4: with my mom and I sat next to these nice
Speaker 4: ladies and they were like, so, what do you do,
Speaker 4: because that's the best way to start a conversation. And
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, you know, I do a lot
Speaker 4: of things. And they're like, and I just like, I
Speaker 4: just got back from Costa Rica. I was doing a retreat.
Speaker 4: They're like, oh, did you did you fly private there?
Speaker 4: And the girl next to her was like why would
Speaker 4: she fly private there?
Speaker 2: And I and I was like, thank you God.
Speaker 4: And I couldn't even believe this bitch asked me this
Speaker 4: stupid ask question.
Speaker 2: I was like, by the way I looked at her,
Speaker 2: I was like what.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, fresh off of like my nervous system
Speaker 4: being regulated, eating fresh fruits, like frolicking in the jungle
Speaker 4: with couples, and like just doing God's work, and you're
Speaker 4: asking me if I flew fucking private to Costa Rica.
Speaker 2: No, bitch, I didn't fly private? What like? What? And
Speaker 2: what did the girl? She was like, oh, I know.
Speaker 2: She was like, I'm sorry. That was like not grounded.
Speaker 2: It's just sometimes I'm in these spaces and you just
Speaker 2: never know. And I was like, well, you should just
Speaker 2: assume to just never fucking ask you stupid ask a question.
Speaker 4: Let me tell you I flew private. I was like,
Speaker 4: why it was so hard for me to be at
Speaker 4: that event. I didn't say a lot of words, and
Speaker 4: I could not wait to go home. I felt like
Speaker 4: I felt like a deer in headlights there.
Speaker 2: That's literally how I feel every time I go to
Speaker 2: the gym.
Speaker 3: I'm like, am I as my older self like nosy
Speaker 3: and I can just overhear everybody's conversation automatically. I never
Speaker 3: felt this bothered by people speaking until this, like this
Speaker 3: era of my life, and I just want everyone to
Speaker 3: shut the fuck up, Like I, you're not talking about
Speaker 3: anything important, shut up. So I'm like, and I did.
Speaker 3: I've invested in headphones just so that I don't have
Speaker 3: to hear other people speak outside.
Speaker 2: I realized, if it's time I have headphones at the gym.
Speaker 4: First of all, what do you were doing? You were
Speaker 4: headphone less at the gym. I wasn't, but were you
Speaker 4: listening to the gym music?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Until I realized this is not gonna worry you were
Speaker 4: probably working out for fifteen minutes. I left the gym
Speaker 4: and immediately went to Best Buy, like I wouldn't go back.
Speaker 2: I had to get them. And it wasn't even the
Speaker 2: gym music.
Speaker 3: It was everybody having ridiculous, fucking, ridiculous, first world problem
Speaker 3: fucking conversations that I was just like, everybody is tone
Speaker 3: deaf as fuck, and we live in Hollywood and we
Speaker 3: live in LA and like, it's so odd that you're
Speaker 3: not even like supposed to speak on the things that
Speaker 3: are going on, Like we can't even say, like this
Speaker 3: shit is crazy, this is nuts, and fear that someone
Speaker 3: to be like, well I voted for him or.
Speaker 4: All today speaking of that and speak just speaking in general.
Speaker 4: I mean, I don't know how you feel about this.
Speaker 4: I said it in our group chat, but no one
Speaker 4: said anything. And I always feel like I'm the bitch
Speaker 4: of the group. So whatever, someone at the table today,
Speaker 4: I was at this meeting and they're like, what's everyone doing?
Speaker 4: For fourth of July and everyone's fucking quiet. I was like,
Speaker 4: there was like no plans, no plans. You know, there's
Speaker 4: like a whole protest of Fourth of July this year
Speaker 4: of like, you know, not investing in the economy, not
Speaker 4: celebrating coming away.
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure it's every year.
Speaker 4: No, it's specifically this year because they're dragging people off
Speaker 4: the streets and Fourth of July is supposed to be
Speaker 4: in celebration of our independence, so.
Speaker 2: I mean yes.
Speaker 4: And also the this year is exponentially worse than most years.
Speaker 3: No, this year is not exponentially worse the most years.
Speaker 3: We're just no, we're just paying attention. No, it is
Speaker 3: no baby.
Speaker 4: No America has been I'm not saying that America hasn't
Speaker 4: been bad.
Speaker 2: It's a clear has been bad, but it's worse this year.
Speaker 2: It's been bad. You were people getting.
Speaker 4: Ripped from their families and in mass rates like they
Speaker 4: have been this year, last year.
Speaker 2: Globally and in generally.
Speaker 4: I'm not arguing whether or not it's bad, but it's
Speaker 4: you're gonna You're not gonna say that this year is
Speaker 4: what's happening right now is not worse than that is bad.
Speaker 3: What I'm saying is people have been acting and against it.
Speaker 4: It's not.
Speaker 2: But I'm not arguing always and that I'm not arguing,
Speaker 2: So that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Like, I understand you're plight against UH the fourth of
Speaker 3: July and not supporting the economy, but unfortunately, this is
Speaker 3: the economy in which we exist in and so every
Speaker 3: other day we're supporting the economy.
Speaker 4: No I know, but but but but we are seeing
Speaker 4: how our boycotting of certain targets.
Speaker 2: We actually have a lot of economy power.
Speaker 4: We have a lot of money power in this economy,
Speaker 4: and we often don't take advantage of it because we
Speaker 4: would rather party or hang out with our friends.
Speaker 2: And that's fine, we can still do that.
Speaker 4: But I just think that it's it's easy for people
Speaker 4: to just ignore things when they don't feel like it's
Speaker 4: directly impacting them. And I'm not saying and I'm not
Speaker 4: saying that America hasn't historically been bad, like but I
Speaker 4: can't let you say that right now is not worse
Speaker 4: than it was last year.
Speaker 3: I just think it's worse because we are it's in
Speaker 3: the media and we have social media and it's exposed.
Speaker 3: I don't think it's worse. I think it's been bad.
Speaker 3: I think it's been I'm not saying that it's not been.
Speaker 2: Bad in different ways. And now just argue with me.
Speaker 2: I'm not arguing with it. You've brought up a conversation.
Speaker 4: I'm just wondering, like, but like, you're gonna sit here
Speaker 4: and tell me that what's happening right now is not
Speaker 4: worse than what's been happening before.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying it hasn't been bad. There's been slavery
Speaker 2: in America, and I'm not arguing that.
Speaker 3: They're saying when you have people don't have the choice
Speaker 3: to ignore it right now because we have access to
Speaker 3: visually seeing it, and even in this time when we
Speaker 3: can see it, we still see people ignoring it. So
Speaker 3: I'm saying, just because the veil has been lifted, it
Speaker 3: doesn't mean that it's it's always been terrible. I don't know,
Speaker 3: but with this particular situation and we have visuals of it,
Speaker 3: yes it's bad, but it's been equally as bad in
Speaker 3: other and other ways, just period. And we have a
Speaker 3: fucking schmuck of a president who's not hiding it.
Speaker 4: As well, and we have a present we have a
Speaker 4: different president as well like, of course the president before,
Speaker 4: I'm not saying was any better. Well I would say
Speaker 4: he was somewhat better than this president, But I'm just
Speaker 4: I'm not arguing whether slavery was bad and whether or
Speaker 4: not people have been marginalized.
Speaker 2: And taken from their families and all those things.
Speaker 4: I'm just saying right now, this time, specifically in America,
Speaker 4: time is fucked up. Is way worse than where we
Speaker 4: were last year on this day.
Speaker 3: Sure, Okay, I'm just all that to say, yes, I know,
Speaker 3: we probably it's very we shouldn't support this holiday as
Speaker 3: it doesn't really pertain to us as Black Americans in
Speaker 3: this country. It really never has. We shouldn't really support
Speaker 3: any of this shit, but we do. And so I
Speaker 3: understand not supporting and coming around and paying for barbecues.
Speaker 2: But I also feel deeply that.
Speaker 3: We are contributing to the economy period because we exist
Speaker 3: here and obviously everyone can't just like up and leave,
Speaker 3: including us, but we.
Speaker 4: Add to the economy on substantially more on certain holidays.
Speaker 3: If we spend the money on the fifth or on
Speaker 3: the third, we're going to eat regardless. But what I
Speaker 3: do think is like it is important to gather it
Speaker 3: is important to find pleasure in these times. It is
Speaker 3: important to find joy. It is important to find community
Speaker 3: and friendship and do things together like that is going
Speaker 3: to be literally the antidote to a lot of this heavy, heavy,
Speaker 3: heavy vibe.
Speaker 2: I agree.
Speaker 4: I just think that we don't have to do it
Speaker 4: all the day that is celebrating America.
Speaker 2: I mean, we don't have to do on the day.
Speaker 3: But I don't think if we do it on the
Speaker 3: day before the day after, it's going to make much
Speaker 3: of a difference. I don't think us refraining from experiencing
Speaker 3: joy with each other is going to change the game
Speaker 3: if we do it on Saturday instead of Friday.
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm I'm, I'm I'm an agreement.
Speaker 2: I'm going to show up. I mean, I feel the
Speaker 2: same about Thanksgiving barbecue.
Speaker 4: I just think that sometimes I just feel like America.
Speaker 4: I feel like are some of our friends. I feel
Speaker 4: like there is this like mass ignoring of what is
Speaker 4: happening because certain people are not directly impacted. And like
Speaker 4: I understand, like living in joy and pleasure and all
Speaker 4: that shit.
Speaker 2: I get it.
Speaker 4: It's the antidote to pain and the antidote to just
Speaker 4: all the negative stuff.
Speaker 2: That's happening.
Speaker 4: But I also think that turning a blind eye to
Speaker 4: it and still contributing to a country that doesn't give
Speaker 4: a fuck about us doesn't also do anything either. It
Speaker 4: literally perpetuates the same thing over and over and over
Speaker 4: and over again.
Speaker 3: I don't think anybody, I don't think anyone in our
Speaker 3: friend group has the I don't think most people have
Speaker 3: the ability. I mean, obviously people do the ability to
Speaker 3: turn a blind eye. I think sometimes there's an overwhelm
Speaker 3: of what can I do to support? What can I
Speaker 3: do to fight the system? What can I do to
Speaker 3: get out? And if you if you submerge yourself in
Speaker 3: the anxiety and the stress and the violence that exists it,
Speaker 3: it's becomes overwhelming and then it becomes there. It becomes
Speaker 3: h anxiety written like there is what if we don't
Speaker 3: celebrate July fourth on Friday.
Speaker 4: I'm not even saying I'm not saying playing into the anxiety.
Speaker 4: I'm just saying not participating in certain things. That's that's
Speaker 4: all I'm saying. I'm not saying to then go in
Speaker 4: and like start feeling anxious, and well.
Speaker 3: That's what happens sometimes when you when you because I
Speaker 3: do it I'm super impathed. I can overwhelm myself with
Speaker 3: everything that's going on in the world, including like all
Speaker 3: these fucking people getting ripped away from their families. Like
Speaker 3: that shit is like it's disgusting, and it's very like
Speaker 3: slave like and it's very triggering. And so if I submerge,
Speaker 3: like completely go deep down that hole, then it becomes
Speaker 3: it can become heavy just.
Speaker 2: On a day to day basis, And so it is heavy.
Speaker 3: Where where's the world where we have a plan and
Speaker 3: a goal to exit this place, make change, do something,
Speaker 3: and also exists in a way in a manner that's
Speaker 3: healthy and that's still nourishing ourselves and our souls so
Speaker 3: that we can we have the ability to find a
Speaker 3: way to get the fuck out of this shit and
Speaker 3: to make peace and to make a change in the world.
Speaker 3: But sometimes I think because we have social media and
Speaker 3: we have propaganda on the news, or we have select
Speaker 3: you know, media being fed to us, I think sometimes
Speaker 3: the plan is to overwhelm us with despair so that
Speaker 3: we don't have the joy and the wherewithal to move forward.
Speaker 3: I think sometimes it's intentional, like let me like because
Speaker 3: that's what they want. They want you to be miserable.
Speaker 3: They want you to be scared, they want you to
Speaker 3: be in fear. So how do we go, like, what
Speaker 3: is it that we could do to obviously not turn
Speaker 3: a blind eye and be like it's not happening. It's
Speaker 3: obviously happening, and many people are affected. Most of our
Speaker 3: friends are brown or black, so I think people are
Speaker 3: seeing it. But then it's like, well, how do we
Speaker 3: keep the morale and the like the emotional health of
Speaker 3: the mental health in our in our personal lives, within
Speaker 3: our families in order to thrive and make it out
Speaker 3: of this chapter of whatever the fuck we're in right now?
Speaker 3: Like I feel like it's energetically we have to do both,
Speaker 3: and it's difficult because it's heavy.
Speaker 2: But how do we find balance in that? That's all
Speaker 2: I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Like I feel I'm the most conspiracy theorist, anti America
Speaker 3: bitch that there is. My middle name is literally Asada.
Speaker 3: I want to get the fuck out of here as
Speaker 3: much as anybody. I don't even know why we're still here,
Speaker 3: but I do feel like it is important to not
Speaker 3: let that the negativity over overrun your life, because then
Speaker 3: you will just be a slave to it.
Speaker 4: I agree I don't think not celebrating on fourth of
Speaker 4: July means that you're letting the negativity overrun your life.
Speaker 4: I don't think that not celebrating Thanksgiving is like you saying,
Speaker 4: because you don't really celebrate Thanksgiving either, really, right, So,
Speaker 4: like picking and choosing the things that you want to
Speaker 4: participate in is what makes you feel good.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 4: So that's all I'm saying is like for some people
Speaker 4: they want to they can celebrate all of them and
Speaker 4: it's fine, and it doesn't you know, it doesn't make
Speaker 4: it money. Yeah, And for other peoples it does, like
Speaker 4: it feels like, okay, like people are gettingripped away from
Speaker 4: their family. Do I feel like celebrating Fourth of July?
Speaker 2: No? But do I feel like hanging out with my friends? Sure?
Speaker 4: I'm not saying one or the other can't exist. All
Speaker 4: I'm saying is that like when we decide to continue
Speaker 4: to align ourselves with these holidays on these days, injecting
Speaker 4: money into a coconomy that doesn't give a fuck about us.
Speaker 4: To me, that feels counterintuitive. I'm not saying don't celebrate
Speaker 4: with your friends, don't be in pleasure, don't combat your
Speaker 4: stress with connection and doing all those things. I'm just
Speaker 4: saying that, that's all.
Speaker 2: I'm saying, no, And I understand that.
Speaker 3: And unfortunately, we are on a daily regular basis because
Speaker 3: rent is due today, We're having to feed our families
Speaker 3: within this economy. We're having to feed the economy one
Speaker 3: way or another.
Speaker 2: It is.
Speaker 3: It's inevitable. There's no way we can go around that.
Speaker 3: So I'm saying like, yes, and.
Speaker 2: But I'm saying, but you feed.
Speaker 4: Yes, There's a difference between paying rent and spending four
Speaker 4: hundred dollars at the grocery store for fourth of July.
Speaker 4: There's a difference between making your family dinner tonight and
Speaker 4: spending four hundred dollars at the grocery.
Speaker 2: We're gonna have to eat dinner every day and spend.
Speaker 4: Buying Tyson or whatever the fuck chickens you're gonna buy that.
Speaker 4: I mean, I am in alignment with the people that
Speaker 4: are literally oppressing us.
Speaker 2: I am very I don't shop at the supermarket. I'm
Speaker 2: not talking about you.
Speaker 4: I'm just I'm not I'm not I'm not attacking you,
Speaker 4: first of all, I'm talking about just overall in America.
Speaker 2: You're attacking me.
Speaker 3: But I understand, like this is the I think this
Speaker 3: is the world that we're all living in. It is
Speaker 3: a double edged sword, you know what I mean. Like
Speaker 3: there's also the understanding like people are off this day,
Speaker 3: this is the one day they're off. This is what
Speaker 3: people are waiting for. This is what like even as
Speaker 3: Black Americans, Fourth of July is big for us.
Speaker 2: Barbecuing is big for us.
Speaker 4: But I'm just saying all I'm saying too, Okay, we
Speaker 4: can get off this topic because I don't want to
Speaker 4: go on this because this this I feel like somewhat
Speaker 4: of that mindset could have. Also is why we have
Speaker 4: taken so long to boycott certain things, and now we
Speaker 4: see how impactful are dollars are. And it took forever
Speaker 4: and ever and ever for us to finally say I'm
Speaker 4: not shopping at Target anymore and people to be like,
Speaker 4: oh shit, we really, we really Target's fucked up right now,
Speaker 4: like they're fucked up. And a lot of that, I
Speaker 4: would say, like seventy five percent of that is because
Speaker 4: of us.
Speaker 3: And I think as black people are as in just
Speaker 3: people as a community in general.
Speaker 4: People as a community, because it's not just black people
Speaker 4: that aren't shopping at Target, it's people that'sup. DEI doesn't
Speaker 4: just affect black people, affects women, it affects brown people,
Speaker 4: it affects all different types of people, and those people
Speaker 4: have chosen to say, you know what, I'm done.
Speaker 2: I'm cool.
Speaker 4: And so I'm just saying, like, it took so long
Speaker 4: for those Everyone was like, Okay, well I really need
Speaker 4: to buy that fucking laundry detergent at Target.
Speaker 2: Oh, I really need.
Speaker 4: And then it finally someone said, you know what, I
Speaker 4: can buy it somewhere else. And now they see the
Speaker 4: impact that they have. So I'm just saying, like, at
Speaker 4: what point in a society do we wake up and
Speaker 4: realize our impact and how little silly things like going
Speaker 4: to the grocery store on fourth of July impact the
Speaker 4: like impact things.
Speaker 3: I feel that we've had these conversations of times, not
Speaker 3: just to this year. We've done it in twenty twenty
Speaker 3: when there was George Floyd. We've had discussions, but we
Speaker 3: didn't do shit. And no there's poy Gods. They last
Speaker 3: temporarily and then we come back around. You know, Target
Speaker 3: probably not recover from this. It's a huge conglomerate. These
Speaker 3: are all valid things that I agree with. Our spending
Speaker 3: power is huge in the black community. We don't even
Speaker 3: this is also a programming and a system that has
Speaker 3: been created intentionally that we are giving our money into
Speaker 3: places that do not go back into our communities. I
Speaker 3: think over these last few years, this is something that
Speaker 3: we've all been a little bit more conscious of. And
Speaker 3: because the veil is being lifted, Black people, brown people,
Speaker 3: people in general are becoming more intentional about where they spend,
Speaker 3: going to smaller business versus two bigger businesses that are
Speaker 3: probably fueling these type of things. But I think it's
Speaker 3: a slow process, and so sometimes I think when we're like,
Speaker 3: let's just not shop on Friday.
Speaker 2: I'm like, it is.
Speaker 3: It's a way bigger thing that needs to happen than
Speaker 3: just not shopping on Friday.
Speaker 2: It's a huge it's a huge.
Speaker 3: Machine that we're feeding all year long with separate different holidays,
Speaker 3: with fucking Super Bowl, with the basketball, with everything. This
Speaker 3: is the programming of America. And so as we wake up,
Speaker 3: I think everybody's mind is shifting Amazon just all these things.
Speaker 3: We're recognizing. There's documentaries on Netflix that are accessible and
Speaker 3: people are having the knowledge like, oh my dollar matters,
Speaker 3: and what I do matters, and if we do this together,
Speaker 3: it will shift. But it is also true that we
Speaker 3: have been intentionally separated in a sense to think that
Speaker 3: together our dollar isn't making that much of an impact,
Speaker 3: and we're realizing now that it is. And I agree
Speaker 3: with you. I think those are all valid things. I
Speaker 3: think it's something that has to be consistent, and we
Speaker 3: have to do it all the time and all year
Speaker 3: long for everybody to get it and for.
Speaker 2: It to actually be impactful.
Speaker 4: But it's never gonna be all the time. All you
Speaker 4: have to do one thing at a time for it
Speaker 4: to be consistent. So you start with something like target
Speaker 4: right that you start with something else that you start with,
Speaker 4: whether it's a national holiday that you no longer fuck
Speaker 4: with and that we all agree we don't fuck with
Speaker 4: every year. We don't fuck with that holiday. Okay, check this,
Speaker 4: we're not going to shop here on Fridays.
Speaker 2: Hey, check. That's how it happens.
Speaker 4: It has to happen that way, because it's not possible
Speaker 4: for it to all happen.
Speaker 3: And I think this has been like this is a
Speaker 3: domino effect of it happening slowly, people waking up and
Speaker 3: recognizing and realizing like, oh, there's other routes like let's
Speaker 3: support each other versus these other businesses that don't support
Speaker 3: our communities.
Speaker 2: And so I do.
Speaker 3: I think it's been happening, and that's why we're here
Speaker 3: and we're having these conversations because we know. Now, Oh,
Speaker 3: if I do withdraw my earnings or whatever I do,
Speaker 3: then I know that it's not like it is going
Speaker 3: to make a difference.
Speaker 2: It Target will be fucked up, you know.
Speaker 3: So I think it's absolutely something's true, But I don't
Speaker 3: think it necessarily saying I'm not showing up on fucking
Speaker 3: the fourth of July barbecue is gonna like save the world,
Speaker 3: per se, But it is.
Speaker 2: It's not gonna save the world. That's not exactly. That's
Speaker 2: not the point.
Speaker 4: The point is like chipping away little by little by
Speaker 4: little for the greater good of all of us.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 4: Yes, I agree, I'm not saying the fourth and that,
Speaker 4: but that's the that's the minds that they want us
Speaker 4: to have. Oh it's for the July. I mean, what
Speaker 4: are we gonna do. I mean, it's that's not going
Speaker 4: to change the world. People thought, Oh, Target, that's not
Speaker 4: going to change the world. Oh, boy cutting that's not gonna.
Speaker 2: Change world until it actually fucking does change the world,
Speaker 2: you know, and it's it's slow.
Speaker 3: I think we all have to have the mindset that
Speaker 3: we that our dollars matter, that our choices matter, and
Speaker 3: like if we if we have it on an individual basis,
Speaker 3: then yes, on a larger basis, it's going to be impactful.
Speaker 4: And I want and I like, if you're listening to
Speaker 4: this too, like right now, because there's gonna be a
Speaker 4: thousand and fourth of July sales and I'm we're having
Speaker 4: a fourth of July sale, invest in black, black businesses
Speaker 4: and blessed, invest in brown businesses on fourth of July.
Speaker 4: If you want to buy some shit, invest in those
Speaker 4: businesses because those are the ones that actually are gonna
Speaker 4: benefit you, those are the ones that actually need it.
Speaker 4: Fucking Skims doesn't need your money for the bodysuit, bitch, Okay,
Speaker 4: Like it's okay, you don't need the body suit on
Speaker 4: fourth of July. You do need this motherfucking retreat though,
Speaker 4: So all I'm saying is like redirecting your dollars, Okay,
Speaker 4: Like I don't know where you can go buy black
Speaker 4: owned fried like chicken and like raw chicken and and Barbie.
Speaker 4: I'm just saying, I'm just saying, like for Fourth of July,
Speaker 4: is there a store that we that we could go to.
Speaker 3: I mean, there's local, there's local butchers, there's there's local
Speaker 3: there's a local soul food restaurants in your neighborhood. I'm
Speaker 3: sure there are in mind, and like those are the
Speaker 3: restaurants in the places that you So.
Speaker 2: That's so that's what I'm in farmers market. So that's
Speaker 2: what I'm encouraging.
Speaker 4: So maybe like if we could do that on I'm
Speaker 4: going to have your Jamaican hus been cooking, so that's
Speaker 4: you know, we're already putting back.
Speaker 2: We're supporting the.
Speaker 4: Jamaicans by him making the jerk chicken on Fourth of July,
Speaker 4: but all.
Speaker 3: Of our meats from the Indian butcher by our house.
Speaker 3: We're going to go to the farmer's market. We're gonna
Speaker 3: avoid the supermarkets. I'm not going to go buy fucking
Speaker 3: American flag balloons and my my fucking American flag bathing suit.
Speaker 3: We're gonna do it differently, and that's how we will
Speaker 3: spread our joy, and we could do it in a
Speaker 3: different day if that works for everybody's schedule. I'm not
Speaker 3: pressed about this holiday per se, because obviously America is
Speaker 3: not great, and it's not independent, and it's been a
Speaker 3: fucking shit show, and it's retavoc on other countries and
Speaker 3: even domestically on its own people. So I am not
Speaker 3: in accordance with contributing to this economy. Even further, this
Speaker 3: machine that obviously doesn't give a fuck about black people,
Speaker 3: doesn't give a fuck about brown people, doesn't give a
Speaker 3: fuck about any of the people unless you're in the
Speaker 3: top one percent, and that is an issue.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I'm always going to be with humanity.
Speaker 3: I'm always going to be with the greater good of
Speaker 3: what's going to be the best for the people. That
Speaker 3: is just period. Like I think it's wild if you're not.
Speaker 3: And we're seeing right now that a lot of people
Speaker 3: don't give a fuck about other people, and it's crazy.
Speaker 3: It's fucking disheartening and kind of scary that people just
Speaker 3: generally don't people that we know, people that I've been
Speaker 3: friends with that are just seeing things in plain sight
Speaker 3: and just in fucking denial, like it's not happening, Like
Speaker 3: it's not a terrible thing, Like it's not a big deal.
Speaker 3: Making comments like you don't get it is like.
Speaker 2: No, it's not complicated.
Speaker 3: Murdering people, children and women and people innocently is fucking insane.
Speaker 2: Period.
Speaker 3: I've never been a grey area type of bitch. It's
Speaker 3: either like this is it or is not. I'm not
Speaker 3: gonna not say shit because it doesn't make you comfortable.
Speaker 3: But if you're fucking murdering thousands of people for who
Speaker 3: fucking knows what something's.
Speaker 2: Territory, it's period. That's smoke o'clock. Good thing. I rolled
Speaker 2: the backload before we started. What flavor is? I thought,
Speaker 2: banana Austar.
Speaker 3: You know, shit's too real. There's no flavors. This is straight,
Speaker 3: this is this is just a straight, true wrap. There's
Speaker 3: no sugarcoating this ship. Okay, it's most five minutes, the
Speaker 3: first five minutes of the show. There's no sugarcoating it.
Speaker 3: America is going to hell. Pack your bags, make your plan.
Speaker 3: I don't want to scare everybody. I'm scar I scare
Speaker 3: myself enough every day as I sleep.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, when am we're going to get out?
Speaker 2: When are were gonna get out?
Speaker 3: This isn't my life in my head, my anxiety ridden
Speaker 3: I've literally since I was a child. When I learned
Speaker 3: about slavery, I literally could not understand for the life
Speaker 3: of me, why the fuck after freedom we were still here.
Speaker 3: I just couldn't understand it, Like, why are we here
Speaker 3: in this place?
Speaker 4: Because they convinced us to think this is America, this
Speaker 4: is the greatest place on earth.
Speaker 2: It's programming, it's it's fucking we've made us our own land.
Speaker 2: They think they made us think that our own land
Speaker 2: is full of savages, and.
Speaker 3: It's obviously not true. They've ripped our land of its resources.
Speaker 3: But this is also our land because we are the
Speaker 3: first people and this is our land. We built this
Speaker 3: shit and it's been our land. And I'm just I'm
Speaker 3: not with starving people like the blunt.
Speaker 2: Okay, sorry, murder, I.
Speaker 3: Am with blunts, though big backwards to Honestly, if people
Speaker 3: don't smoke in this era, how are you raw dogging life?
Speaker 2: How the fuck are you raw dogging life?
Speaker 3: Call me if you were sober? You don't smoke weed?
Speaker 3: You don't have wine at night?
Speaker 2: What house way, please?
Speaker 3: Because a bitch needs a blunt by noon at least,
Speaker 3: because like the news, everything is pretty bad.
Speaker 4: Well, if you would like to escape America, join us
Speaker 4: at the Good Vibra treat this summer in Coaster Rica.
Speaker 4: You have to you have to start somewhere, Yeah, because
Speaker 4: I really like Costa. Rica for me is like always
Speaker 4: a wake up call because I can get I get
Speaker 4: like plugged back into the matrix every not every time,
Speaker 4: it's all like there's always there's like every time I
Speaker 4: come back, there's more and more deprogramming that happens every
Speaker 4: time I come back. But when I go there, it's
Speaker 4: such a deep fucking reset to my body in all ways,
Speaker 4: like literally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, that when I come back here,
Speaker 4: it's like it feels it feels.
Speaker 2: Even more foreign to me.
Speaker 4: The land, this land feels even not the land with
Speaker 4: this environment feels even more foreign to me.
Speaker 2: Just feels unnecessary.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So we are running a Memorial Day sale if
Speaker 4: you want to come. I'm sorry, I don't even know what.
Speaker 2: It's called the fuck America Ford. I don't even know what.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's called having a fuck America Fords sale. The
Speaker 3: coat is escape. Honestly, like you think getting your nails done,
Speaker 3: your hair done, and going, you know, to lunch with
Speaker 3: your homegirl is self care it's not. I'm here to
Speaker 3: tell you you got to get on a plane and
Speaker 3: change your whole fucking environment because the net, like the
Speaker 3: the energy here.
Speaker 2: Just the amount of people there is the energy that exists.
Speaker 3: Even in your house with the door closed, you still
Speaker 3: feel that shit, the lights, everything, There's a lot going on.
Speaker 3: You have to literally remove your energetic field from this
Speaker 3: field and go to a new one to be like, oh,
Speaker 3: this is what it feels like to be semi settled.
Speaker 3: Literally when we go out of the country, you know
Speaker 3: how many people are like, are you guys okay? You
Speaker 3: guys are from America? Are you okay?
Speaker 2: Literally we're like no. Every time we are there, they're like, oh,
Speaker 2: we see what's happening.
Speaker 4: Like they're like living in a whole other dimension and
Speaker 4: we're in Fuck, We're in the fucked up dimension.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's dimensions.
Speaker 3: You have to quantum leap to a different dimension, into
Speaker 3: a different energetic field in order to get your mind right.
Speaker 3: And I'm not saying that to get you to come
Speaker 3: to retreat. You really should come. This was affirming having
Speaker 3: men at this retreat. This last couple's retreat we did,
Speaker 3: was like so beautiful to see like just to see
Speaker 3: the love between the couples and to understand how important
Speaker 3: love is in this time, like to have two people
Speaker 3: together and decide to escape just for a week together
Speaker 3: and to pour into themselves and pour into their relationships.
Speaker 3: And then most of them, all of them except one
Speaker 3: couple parents, you know, like really saying this is important
Speaker 3: to me. Whatever walk we take as a family, however
Speaker 3: my lineage goes, it's up to me. Like, these are
Speaker 3: important conversations that we have there. And I think people
Speaker 3: need to come up out of their programming and up
Speaker 3: out of their environment of comfortability to see it for themselves,
Speaker 3: how other people are living and like, this is not it.
Speaker 3: You have to experience it and taste it and feel
Speaker 3: it to know that it exists.
Speaker 2: Amen. Yeah, And we have two retreats.
Speaker 3: So July thirty first, Yeah, August fifth, m August eighth.
Speaker 2: August July thirty first through July fifth, and then July
Speaker 2: eighth through the thirteenth.
Speaker 4: Yeah, two retreats. This is our women's retreats. This is
Speaker 4: our like, this is our annual summer retreat. You've seen it,
Speaker 4: you've heard us talk about it. It's time to come.
Speaker 4: It's time to come. We're giving a major discount. It's
Speaker 4: eight hundred dollars off this week only. This code is
Speaker 4: only gonna work.
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Speaker 4: Just click the link in this episode, or check out
Speaker 4: the Good Vibe Retreat on Instagram and use code escape
Speaker 4: and escape with us out of this weird fucking place
Speaker 4: and come to Costa Rica. If you can't afford it,
Speaker 4: just put down a deposit, pay a little bit, and
Speaker 4: then you can pay the shit later. We have payment options.
Speaker 4: Don't worry. Just bring that ass with us because you
Speaker 4: need to plug yourself out of the matrix and see
Speaker 4: why we can't not go, why we're always in Costa Rica.
Speaker 4: I feel like when I sit down this couch, I'm like,
Speaker 4: I've been sat here in a while, and I was like,
Speaker 4: I feel like we are like not here a lot anymore.
Speaker 4: I feel like we are away a lot, Like we're
Speaker 4: plotting our exit, whether or not we realize it or not.
Speaker 2: It's by design.
Speaker 3: And I realized we asked for this, like there was
Speaker 3: a time before or it got so bad, or it
Speaker 3: felt like it was getting so bad, and we were like,
Speaker 3: I want to get out of here and now God is.
Speaker 2: Like, how about now, how about now? You know?
Speaker 3: And yeah, whether we want you or not, it's happening.
Speaker 3: And honestly, we've had people, We've had women come in
Speaker 3: the retreat who now live in Costa Rica and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 3: this is the beacon of light that I needed. Like
Speaker 3: you have no idea how changing your environment will change
Speaker 3: your reality and make shit happen for you, Like you think, No,
Speaker 3: I don't know the first step of doing any of
Speaker 3: those things. Just go on the trip and then it
Speaker 3: will come to you. Like the divine lives in nature.
Speaker 3: You will get the messages, you will get all the things,
Speaker 3: the blessings, all the things that church promises you checks
Speaker 3: in your mail on Friday and surprises. That is what
Speaker 3: happens when you like convene with nature. Those are the
Speaker 3: blessings that you'll get. And I know because somehow we've
Speaker 3: manifested every year we get out of this bitch less
Speaker 3: and less and less and less and less and less.
Speaker 3: And I do believe it's because we've stepped away. It
Speaker 3: made it more realistic, It made that shit if possible.
Speaker 2: Amen, our network is going.
Speaker 3: To be like can you guys not can you refrain
Speaker 3: from talking about the government.
Speaker 2: Shout out to black Efect, we love you. Thank God.
Speaker 3: When you're with a blackety black network, you can have
Speaker 3: blacketty black conversation.
Speaker 2: Also shout out to Charlemagne. Happy birthday, cancer brother. I
Speaker 2: know was your cancer.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was his birth It was his birthday I
Speaker 4: think a few days ago. So happy birthday, Charlemagne.
Speaker 2: It was also my birthday a few days ago. Yes,
Speaker 2: happy birthday, boo. Thank you. I'm very I had a
Speaker 2: really nice birthday. You know.
Speaker 3: I'm turning twenty four and just being out of the
Speaker 3: country and just chilling and doing not much was really, really,
Speaker 3: really really what obgineded and it made it really clear, like.
Speaker 2: Where are we going this year and my life?
Speaker 3: And I was like, I wasn't in America when I
Speaker 3: brung it in, and I don't want to be in
Speaker 3: America much longer. It's very clear. But yeah, we've been
Speaker 3: doing this for a long time. I think when we
Speaker 3: first started, I just I was like about to celebrate
Speaker 3: my twenty ninth, my thirtieth, or my twenty ninth birthday.
Speaker 2: Let me start it. Yeah I just turned thirty.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, so did I just turned thirty two. Then
Speaker 3: you were thirty when we started. I was twenty nine
Speaker 3: when I turned thirty. Yeah, so wow, wow wow wow.
Speaker 2: So don't do the math. Also, so she's twenty four
Speaker 2: and twenty five, so I'm twenty four, and I.
Speaker 4: Know that was confusing, but I'm twenty five and she's
Speaker 4: twenty four.
Speaker 2: We're going backwards. We have ten year olds. Still don't
Speaker 2: do any math.
Speaker 3: My cousin Chris told me singing Happy Birthday and blowing
Speaker 3: out the candles is a fucking ceremony and it's a
Speaker 3: ritual that's making us age. If you don't sing the
Speaker 3: song and you don't acknowledge it, it doesn't exist.
Speaker 2: And I was like, you're right, who even made this
Speaker 2: shit up?
Speaker 3: Sounds beautiful. I wouldn't just go with how I feel.
Speaker 3: I like that speaking at twenty four years old. That
Speaker 3: brings us to our next topic. It's very very important.
Speaker 3: Oh I did it Love Island? Oh shit, A bunch
Speaker 3: of fucking under thirty year old people with abs and big.
Speaker 4: Boobs, no in a Fiji and fucking a ways catch
Speaker 4: me up because I meant, I know. I was supposed
Speaker 4: to watch the Isoland yesterday, but my brain couldn't do it.
Speaker 2: I couldn't turn it on. I have to feel like
Speaker 2: I have to be in the right mindset. You know what,
Speaker 2: You're right, because I tried to watch it the other
Speaker 2: day and.
Speaker 4: I had just specific Oh, there was no way Orlando
Speaker 4: was watching it, and it was pissing me off. Do
Speaker 4: you know what I tried to watch when we got back.
Speaker 4: Have you ever seen the bear? Have you watched the
Speaker 4: show The Bear Bitch? They're yelling and screaming at each
Speaker 4: other the whole time. There's certain shit. I can't I
Speaker 4: could not watch.
Speaker 2: You know what. I watched what's it called my planet planet?
Speaker 2: I watched that. I watched birds evolve. You have to
Speaker 2: be it's important. Like that's another thing.
Speaker 3: When you leave out your environment, you do pay attention
Speaker 3: to the things you.
Speaker 2: In dust and jest.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like literally in your body and also like visually
Speaker 4: and like just inaudibly as well.
Speaker 2: Like I couldn't. I could not. I was like, can't
Speaker 2: just put on the animal planet?
Speaker 3: I know, you know, I'm somewhere between, like everything is fine,
Speaker 3: ignore it, You're happy, my friends are healthy, everything's good.
Speaker 3: I'm protected, everything's fine. I have time, and.
Speaker 2: We're gonna die. That's like the two voices in my
Speaker 2: head that's like, I think that's like what America wants.
Speaker 2: Am I going crazy? No, I'm pretty sure everyone that's
Speaker 2: listening can relate to that.
Speaker 3: I literally feel like Dory sometimes, like just keep swimming,
Speaker 3: just keep swimming, just keep swimming. Everything is hard, hard,
Speaker 3: and then like you have to come down because otherwise
Speaker 3: I'm like, we need to build a bunker. Orlando, go
Speaker 3: get seventeen gallons of water. He's like, where we're gonna
Speaker 3: put it. I don't fucking know. In the closet do
Speaker 3: we have canned food? Ask Orlando, Like, every three to
Speaker 3: six months, into my closet. Every three to six months,
Speaker 3: I go a little bit like a copy of apocalyptic crazy,
Speaker 3: and I demand that we buy canned foods that are
Speaker 3: still there. And then it does. The world doesn't end.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, I'm coming to a point where, like, bitch,
Speaker 3: if it ends today, it's a good day.
Speaker 4: Everyone get their passport just I just want to just
Speaker 4: throw it out there. Random thought right now, high thought,
Speaker 4: My high thought is everyone make sure your passport is
Speaker 4: not expired. Make sure it's not expiring. Then in the
Speaker 4: next three months, because it gets really challenging to travel.
Speaker 4: If your passport is close to expiring, so I think
Speaker 4: six months, make sure you go after this episode. Please, please,
Speaker 4: for the love of God, go check your passport status.
Speaker 4: You don't have your passport? Why why you are you're
Speaker 4: asking to be a slave to America if you don't
Speaker 4: have your passport, like.
Speaker 3: Truly, make sure you have a copy of your birth certificate.
Speaker 3: I'm saying this like I have any any information.
Speaker 4: There's a few things, actually, I've been saying all the.
Speaker 2: Time. It's like all the things you have to have.
Speaker 4: Intact in order in order to get the fuck out
Speaker 4: of here quick maybe I don't know.
Speaker 2: And also get global global entry.
Speaker 3: Because except every time I come through it and they
Speaker 3: just they just look at me and they're like jimmy
Speaker 3: map And I'm.
Speaker 4: Like, I know which cha que doesn't have Global entry
Speaker 4: and has been pissing me the fuck off. Okay, when
Speaker 4: we when we landed at six am, I was like,
Speaker 4: we should just go over there and just let's go see.
Speaker 4: And he was like being resistant, and I was like, naked,
Speaker 4: I will leave you behind, no, And I was like,
Speaker 4: if I'm not staying around. When we were in Costa
Speaker 4: Rica and some shit popped off out here. I was like,
Speaker 4: I think we need to talk about like what if
Speaker 4: shit hit the fan? Like what is what are you
Speaker 4: willing to do? Like because I don't want to be
Speaker 4: I don't be arguing with you and like negotiating with
Speaker 4: you when shit is going on, like are you going
Speaker 4: to stay? And like are you trying to stay? Are
Speaker 4: you down to like leave this bitch because some people
Speaker 4: are gonna stick around and find out and other people
Speaker 4: are gonna have not you know what I said, but
Speaker 4: you'd be surprised, like COVID Like that really highlighted how
Speaker 4: people react in times of turmoil and chaos, and it
Speaker 4: was shocking to see how some people react.
Speaker 2: You were like, oh.
Speaker 4: Shit, I didn't think you were going to become a recluse.
Speaker 4: I didn't think that you were going to like you know,
Speaker 4: like all these things everything. I think it's also important
Speaker 4: just to have the conversations with the people that you love,
Speaker 4: like what is the plan if anything were to happen,
Speaker 4: just so we all know, like we're not shocked and
Speaker 4: fucking disappointed if and when she hits the fan.
Speaker 2: Anyway, tell me about Love Island anyway. In a lighter note,
Speaker 2: this is why we need shows like Love Isoland anyway, Yeah,
Speaker 2: lighten it up.
Speaker 3: It's a bunch of twenty something year olds that are
Speaker 3: all hot, hot, hot according to American standards. I'm really
Speaker 3: dough happy that there's now I'm only on like episode four, there's.
Speaker 4: Now Who's Who to hear about Huda? Okay, so I
Speaker 4: what's up with who? Everybody liked her and now they're
Speaker 4: turning again.
Speaker 2: I don't know. Iwards the end.
Speaker 3: I'm only on episode four, so I'm right now at
Speaker 3: the point where I'm starting out to like her.
Speaker 4: Okay, But because she was well loved at first, right,
Speaker 4: everyone was fucking with Who at first.
Speaker 2: I don't know why.
Speaker 3: Shout out to Love Island for casting more than two
Speaker 3: black people and them not being like ambiguous black people.
Speaker 2: But like, there's some chocolate girls.
Speaker 3: I was like, okay, I see some representation, because sometimes
Speaker 3: I actually shows.
Speaker 4: I saw a chocolate girl like tonguing this white boy down.
Speaker 2: She was sucking the ship out of his life. I
Speaker 2: know what you're talking about.
Speaker 3: Their their name is or It's like the female of Orlandia, Orlandia.
Speaker 2: She wasn't sucking the ship. I don't even know what
Speaker 2: was going on. I saw that clip. I was like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm going to watch this at some point.
Speaker 3: First of all, they're all basically making out with each
Speaker 3: other because they're literally just go down the line and
Speaker 3: just like make out down the line, like we'll just
Speaker 3: they all make.
Speaker 2: Out with each other. Do they all get tested before?
Speaker 3: That's what Sai, They're gonna get Mono. I was like,
Speaker 3: they probably tested for Mono because there's so much making out.
Speaker 4: But I heard I haven't heard Mono in so long
Speaker 4: when he said it teat it doesn't exist anymore.
Speaker 2: I think it's extinct. I don't think so. No, it
Speaker 2: does exist, Just don't Mono still exists? Anyway?
Speaker 3: A bunche of twenty seven year olds just houring out
Speaker 3: in the house. It's like literally they're like, let's see cheating.
Speaker 3: Let's put all this wait.
Speaker 2: So are they try trying to find love?
Speaker 3: You're trying to find love? Or they just trying to
Speaker 3: find love? Okay, but I would ever love you can
Speaker 3: find it twenty four to twenty five.
Speaker 2: Is there an incentive if they find it? I did
Speaker 2: think it a hundred thousand dollars if they find love.
Speaker 2: I think it's unclear.
Speaker 3: Okay, anyway, fucking Hohoda fell in love the first day
Speaker 3: within hours with like the black Ken Barbie and she's cute.
Speaker 3: She's a Middle Eastern but oh no, is there's drama
Speaker 3: because don't don't duh.
Speaker 2: She's a mom. Who who does a mom? She's twenty four.
Speaker 3: She didn't tell him for the first three episodes that
Speaker 3: she was a mom, and then when she tells them,
Speaker 3: she's like, I have to tell you something.
Speaker 2: How old is your kid? Five?
Speaker 3: And she's like, He's like what, and she's like, I'm
Speaker 3: a mom. He's like, oh, yo, yo, I can't even
Speaker 3: look at you right now, look at me.
Speaker 2: He's like I can't. I just I'm trying to process this.
Speaker 2: I'm like you atot she told you she's a fucking
Speaker 2: fucking well, it's kind of weird if, like, you know,
Speaker 2: he's probably reab I mean, I don't know. I'm not
Speaker 2: going to give this nigger the benefit of doubt, but bitch,
Speaker 2: why are you lying? Well? I feel the same way,
Speaker 2: like it is a little weird.
Speaker 3: Now it's a weird, and I made a big deal
Speaker 3: like picture should have said it, like why are you
Speaker 3: like that's the scarlet?
Speaker 2: The scarlet? Why would you child?
Speaker 3: But I do understand the propaganda against moms. She's a
Speaker 3: young mom.
Speaker 4: A lot of there's the young men who are like,
Speaker 4: I'm not going to do any fody with I mean
Speaker 4: I would, I mean, I'm not evening a lie. We've
Speaker 4: talked about this early on in the podcast, like I
Speaker 4: think you led with a luna, but like I when
Speaker 4: I first started dating, like I was like, it took
Speaker 4: me a while to feel comfortable, and it took me
Speaker 4: a while to like, yeah, feel comfortable even talking about
Speaker 4: that and feeling like because.
Speaker 2: You feel less word they tell you you're lesson.
Speaker 4: You have baggage, you feel less valuable, like you're not
Speaker 4: like the prime pick, Like you can't you're not.
Speaker 2: Going to have the first baby with this person. You
Speaker 2: have this experience, you have a baby daddy. He's gonna
Speaker 2: be he's going to be beating me up. Yeah, he's
Speaker 2: a round. You might go around and fuck him, you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's all these these negative but so it
Speaker 3: was interesting to see that dynamic and she still hasn't
Speaker 3: she's only told the women.
Speaker 2: The guys don't. The other guys don't know.
Speaker 3: But they're in love with literally in like two hours
Speaker 3: and they're like doing all these challenges where they're just
Speaker 3: making out with each other. Basically, each challenge is a
Speaker 3: different way to make out with each other, and.
Speaker 2: They're all like for real. Literally, they like.
Speaker 3: At one point everyone got blindfolded and they're like, Okay,
Speaker 3: we're just gonna tap you on your shoulder and you
Speaker 3: can go around and make out with whoever you want.
Speaker 3: Everybody's blind button, be quiet because you remember who's sitting
Speaker 3: next to you, and they're.
Speaker 2: Just like that grows. That sounds horrible. Maybe when I
Speaker 2: was like they even interroed, you know it.
Speaker 4: That was re appealing when I was like a teenager,
Speaker 4: because it's exciting. You maybe haven't made out that many times.
Speaker 4: You're hoping that maybe your crush actually chooses you. That's
Speaker 4: exciting as an adult, a twenty five year old adult,
Speaker 4: I don't want just like any random guy thinking he
Speaker 4: can just come over make out with me.
Speaker 3: Like no, it's on National TV. It was like, is
Speaker 3: this video? Is this in the contract? I mean, I
Speaker 3: guess the perk is. They're all like magazine.
Speaker 2: It's ridiculous. I was like, this doesn't seem appealing.
Speaker 3: But if you're drunk and you're twenty maybe so they
Speaker 3: blindfolded everybody, like you could literally make up with multiple people.
Speaker 2: You can make up everybody. And then they this is
Speaker 2: really what fucked me up? Are they you supposed to
Speaker 2: guess at the end who was no? Okay?
Speaker 3: But then at the end, while they're still all blindfolded,
Speaker 3: they introduced two new people and they also made out
Speaker 3: with people. All these people you haven't even seen, laid
Speaker 3: eyed on these people. I'm like, what contract we're kind
Speaker 3: of released for me? The mofuck a half?
Speaker 2: Because this is crazy. It was wild. Okay, I watch it.
Speaker 2: I can't wait.
Speaker 3: I know I'm mature for twenty four, but wow, this
Speaker 3: is crazy.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 3: But then now Hoota, for some reason, these last two episodes,
Speaker 3: she's always fucking crying.
Speaker 2: Every time I see her. She's like, I've seen her.
Speaker 2: She has like really long eyelashes, right, yeah, are they
Speaker 2: fake or the okay?
Speaker 4: And every time I've seen her she's crying on the
Speaker 4: allways crying.
Speaker 2: I'm like, She's like, yeah, me and him, we're locked in.
Speaker 2: We go together.
Speaker 3: They call us mom and dad in the house. The
Speaker 3: other guy, Ace, who's actually he's like on the internet
Speaker 3: dancing a lot.
Speaker 2: You've seen him.
Speaker 3: She's like, he's like, you do realize this is Dave four?
Speaker 2: How many days is it's been?
Speaker 3: Literally I'm on day four, But how many days is
Speaker 3: six weeks?
Speaker 2: Oh wow? And she's like and he's and she's like,
Speaker 2: I know, and I don't care. I'm like, sounds like
Speaker 2: cancer energy. I'm not like that sounds like I mean
Speaker 2: it sounds like like waterside energy, like your mine. We
Speaker 2: are sound like scorpio energy, like we're locked in.
Speaker 4: Your mind at four, I'm intuitive at my heart. My
Speaker 4: soul told me I had a dream. I saw a
Speaker 4: bird land on a fence. He was my she was
Speaker 4: my grandmother. She told me, you're maked, Like, what are
Speaker 4: you talking about?
Speaker 3: She's crying. The new girl gets introduced. There, she's making out.
Speaker 3: They picked, she's making out with her man. She's on
Speaker 3: the side like crying. I'm like, this is the most ridiculous, dramatic,
Speaker 3: stupid shit I've ever watched, and I'm watching it here.
Speaker 2: We are okay, Well, so those are that's what's happening
Speaker 2: on Love Island.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, please leave your comments about Love Island.
Speaker 4: I need to know your thoughts on Love Island. Hudah
Speaker 4: and who's your favorite character? Who's your favorite character?
Speaker 2: I like Channing? Why am I called him a character?
Speaker 2: Are they characters?
Speaker 3: They're just they're just yeah, other characters, they're just people.
Speaker 2: Who are your favorite person? Channy? I think her name
Speaker 2: is Channy. Why what's up a Channy?
Speaker 3: She's just non problematic, she's not acting nuts so far.
Speaker 2: So she's pretty like she have a boyfriend or she's
Speaker 2: kind of.
Speaker 3: Just I think everyone else is a little bit more open.
Speaker 3: It's just fucking Houdah and the other nigga that they
Speaker 3: think that they go together. But yeah, it's very interesting.
Speaker 3: I like that that curly headed white boy too. He's cute.
Speaker 2: It's not the one who's getting his lip sucked. Maybe
Speaker 2: he's cute. He was cute. What was she? I told
Speaker 2: you girl? Chocolate girl was like.
Speaker 4: I was like, and then he she like sucked his
Speaker 4: lip and he he like went away and I could
Speaker 4: see his full face on camera, and I was like,
Speaker 4: that was a fine white boy.
Speaker 2: Who was fine.
Speaker 3: There's a fine little white boy on there who's right
Speaker 3: in my age range since I'm twenty four.
Speaker 2: Perfect.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I wish they would stop. I don't know,
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's mom's doing it. To themselves
Speaker 3: like let's bring let's bring back making single mom cool again.
Speaker 3: I thought, that's but our brand, like this is what
Speaker 3: we represent makes being a single mom cool again. It's
Speaker 3: not something to be ashamed of. It's not baggage. It's
Speaker 3: actually I know how to keep someone alive. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: you can find love again, like good love.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I actually know a little bit more kind of
Speaker 4: value yourself a little bit more once you become a parent.
Speaker 2: Not a little bit more, you kind of for anyone.
Speaker 3: If you're not a parent yet, if you're not a parent,
Speaker 3: you might haven't found true value.
Speaker 2: You haven't found like you haven't really valued up yet
Speaker 2: all the way. It's true. It's so true.
Speaker 3: And I started being a mom, I was like, huh,
Speaker 3: I've been putting up with absolute bullshit.
Speaker 2: I was like, do I love myself? I can't.
Speaker 3: It's not possible that I loved myself before this because
Speaker 3: look at who I was choosing. It is such a
Speaker 3: level of to self love that is true. Okay, love
Speaker 3: island any any other things in the news.
Speaker 2: I think there was something with.
Speaker 4: Be Simone and like her crying about not shopping at
Speaker 4: a department store that I wasn't aware people were still
Speaker 4: really shopping at anyway, and she had a shop at
Speaker 4: H and M and her friend doesn't think she's a
Speaker 4: good friend.
Speaker 2: There was a long pause. I don't know.
Speaker 4: I really think that Bi Simone's trolling us, guys. I
Speaker 4: really think we have got to stop watching these videos
Speaker 4: because she's doing it on purpose.
Speaker 2: That's my theory. She knows the fuck she's doing. She's
Speaker 2: an actress. Now you think this is true, you think
Speaker 2: all this shit is real?
Speaker 3: Okay, I just think it's I think it's true. I
Speaker 3: think this is who she is.
Speaker 2: I mean, I think, of course a lot of acting. Listen.
Speaker 4: I think that that we are witnessing who she is
Speaker 4: because she'll also like, I think that she also knows
Speaker 4: what she's doing, which is also revealing of who she is.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the H and M shit. You can't shop at Bloomingdale's.
Speaker 3: I don't know when the last time I stepped a
Speaker 3: fucking foot in Bloomingdows.
Speaker 2: I'm just like, that's why.
Speaker 4: I'm like, how can you be this socially unaware and
Speaker 4: on the Internet.
Speaker 2: It's not like that.
Speaker 4: It's like, like, how can you actually have a phone
Speaker 4: be this socially unaware?
Speaker 2: And then like do that.
Speaker 4: That's why I feel like either she is trolling us
Speaker 4: or she must be I don't, I don't know.
Speaker 3: It just lets me know she's not a bad bitch,
Speaker 3: Like a bad bitch doesn't care, Like I just better
Speaker 3: go to fucking h and M or Macy's or fucking
Speaker 3: Steve Madden or fucking blow me dwn. I was like,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be a bad bitch. It's that's never gonna
Speaker 3: be the part that phazes me, Like You're never gonna
Speaker 3: catch me crying. I'm gonna be a bad bitch regardless,
Speaker 3: Like this is It's just I think that there's the
Speaker 3: internet is so it makes people unaware, like you think
Speaker 3: you're popular, like you have you brought your friend on
Speaker 3: your show to ask if you're a good friend, and
Speaker 3: she couldn't even fucking answer, Like you're completely unaware.
Speaker 4: She might just I don't know if she's well. I
Speaker 4: just maybe there's a mental health happening, issue happening. I
Speaker 4: don't know, because I'm literally like, how can you be
Speaker 4: this socially unaware?
Speaker 1: This?
Speaker 2: Are you on the spectrum?
Speaker 4: Because like this like what the fuck are you talking about?
Speaker 4: Like are you Like That's why I'm like this has
Speaker 4: to be a joke at this point, do you.
Speaker 2: Think social media is making true? And for those on
Speaker 2: the spectrum, this is not a time on people on
Speaker 2: the spectrum.
Speaker 4: If you're on the spectrum, great, I'm happy this is
Speaker 4: amazing for you. You are a fucking genius. But she, this
Speaker 4: is a different type. This is a different this is
Speaker 4: a different level of unawareness. And I'm just like, I
Speaker 4: don't get it.
Speaker 2: It's performative.
Speaker 3: It's completely like no sense of reality.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I think it's weird.
Speaker 4: And I feel like her friends have told us what
Speaker 4: kind of like where she's lacking, which is probably.
Speaker 2: She let us.
Speaker 3: She made the clip for her friends telling us about herself,
Speaker 3: so that's how we know.
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. She's trolling us. Gotta stop, we
Speaker 4: gotta stop. We have got you know what. We're boycotting America.
Speaker 4: We are boycotting watching be Simone crown the Internet. We're
Speaker 4: not fucking doing it anymore.
Speaker 2: If you say it down, don't, I am done. Please,
Speaker 2: I'm calling for a nation wide boycott.
Speaker 3: No more target, no more entertaining Besimone's tears.
Speaker 4: No, no, it's done. It ends here, Like seriously, I can't.
Speaker 2: I can't do it anymore.
Speaker 3: She's like, like the churchy shit is I feel like
Speaker 3: it's like performative too, Like how is someone telling you
Speaker 3: you're like a terrible friend and you're.
Speaker 2: Like Jesus, oh Jesus.
Speaker 3: Like you don't call it him now, you should have
Speaker 3: been asking Jesus when you was being a bitch, like,
Speaker 3: oh my gosh, if if I'm telling you like bitch,
Speaker 3: you weren't really being that good of a friend.
Speaker 2: And you're like, oh, Jesus, let's pray about it.
Speaker 3: No, bitch, I'm not uh uh, it's ridiculous, And then
Speaker 3: you have the nerve to to spiritual spiritual blash, yeah
Speaker 3: about fucking sage that Jesus made and crystals and shit, like, girl,
Speaker 3: I think you're I think she says stuff because she
Speaker 3: he's trolling eyes. She thinks that people are gonna rally
Speaker 3: behind it. It's time that we put our foot down.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm done. This is this is word. I'm gonna
Speaker 4: sign a petition. Hit the type form. What's that petition?
Speaker 2: Dot org.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna make her fucking We're not going to be
Speaker 4: entertaining any more. Vismone crying for the rest of twenty
Speaker 4: twenty six, five through twenty six for the rest of time,
Speaker 4: So she's gonna have to figure something else out.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 4: I'm this is You're welcome visimone because I'm really pushing
Speaker 4: you to expand and like really just you know, try
Speaker 4: to get to the next space because the crying shit
Speaker 4: has got has gotta stop, gotta stop, the unrelatability, she's
Speaker 4: gotta stop. Like I know that you're a real person
Speaker 4: in there theater that is not a real place, but
Speaker 4: people are real. So it's just like that's what's more concerning.
Speaker 4: The Internet has created like these avatars. Yeah, yeah, like
Speaker 4: everyone's playing a character.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's strange.
Speaker 3: That's why I feel so at odds with the Internet
Speaker 3: all the time. I'm like I want to participate, I
Speaker 3: want to post a picture, but.
Speaker 2: They're so stupid, I.
Speaker 4: Know, And that's why it's scary for the kids to
Speaker 4: be on the internet. But then also like it's summertime,
Speaker 4: you guys, and also like get on the internet because
Speaker 4: I need a fucking break.
Speaker 2: We need to find like the good apps, like the
Speaker 2: educational apps. There's you know, our kids are on cover Star.
Speaker 3: I know because Luna just showed me all of IRI's
Speaker 3: every single post. Last night, I looked at what they
Speaker 3: got the most highest rates. What were they them eating?
Speaker 4: And then our land like how many how many people
Speaker 4: are watching our kids on the internet.
Speaker 2: And I was like, seventeen hundred cover stars for our
Speaker 2: kid kids. I don't know. Oh god, okay, I saw
Speaker 2: the videos. I'm sure they were adorable. Oh yeah, really
Speaker 2: they really put a lot of effort.
Speaker 4: I know they care. Iri said, or was it Luna?
Speaker 4: She said she wanted to be in uh social media?
Speaker 2: Oh no, I was I think it was irish. She
Speaker 2: wanted to be in creator Creator Camp. That's so they're
Speaker 2: telling me. Art's like this also broadcasting.
Speaker 3: She wants to be broadcasting broadcast And at first I
Speaker 3: was like, I was like when she wanted to change? Okay,
Speaker 3: So our kids went to overnight camp while we were
Speaker 3: wearing Costa Rica. It was their first time. They couldn't
Speaker 3: have phones. They got to be independent. It was really
Speaker 3: like it was nice for them to go for a week,
Speaker 3: but there's different things they could do. So Luna has
Speaker 3: this fucking camp call me at fucking seven and am
Speaker 3: and Costa Rica talking about Luna would like to switch
Speaker 3: out if Trapeez and go to girl power. I was like,
Speaker 3: what girl power. I was like, what are they gonna
Speaker 3: do there? Paint their nails, learn rifles they're gonna do.
Speaker 2: I was like girl power.
Speaker 3: I'm like, her mother is girl power? What the fuck
Speaker 3: would she learned girl power for. I'm like, tell her
Speaker 3: stop being a follower and do with her first mind.
Speaker 3: And she goes, your mom said, how about you.
Speaker 2: Try this today.
Speaker 3: And tomorrow we'll check back in. I was like, that's
Speaker 3: not what I said, but sure. The next day calls
Speaker 3: me again, seven of them. I'm like, hello, She's like
Speaker 3: Luna to know if she got hear look in the background.
Speaker 3: They won't pass through the phones. I think they're gonna
Speaker 3: make the kids like miss home. And I was like, really,
Speaker 3: I talked to Iri oh that she wouldn't pass the phone.
Speaker 3: What And I was just like whatever, okay, fine. I
Speaker 3: was too tired. I didn't want to argue. I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: but she was telling me broadcasting in social media, and
Speaker 3: I'm like, this is why you do this at home.
Speaker 2: This is where the world is going.
Speaker 3: I was like, there's a way to ethically like integrate it,
Speaker 3: because it's happening anyway.
Speaker 2: I don't know we can give them our social media
Speaker 2: following when they turn eighteen. You're welcome, You're welcome. We
Speaker 2: built it to undred five hundred thousands.
Speaker 4: Can you imagine if that's like the new currency for
Speaker 4: your children?
Speaker 2: What if we got a cake and it said like
Speaker 2: five hundred k. Kind of genous, it's kind of genius.
Speaker 2: Why like what? Like? I don't know, Yeah, what am
Speaker 2: I gonna do with this? Take it?
Speaker 4: I've done everything I can do. I mean, the two
Speaker 4: point zero time for a rebrand.
Speaker 2: Your mom showed a little bit of nip on the
Speaker 2: internet for you.
Speaker 4: The only rule is you can't delete anything, keep it
Speaker 4: as you're like.
Speaker 2: Being out of touch.
Speaker 3: And then for her eighteenth and then we're gonna give
Speaker 3: the girls. You guys ready, we're going to give them
Speaker 3: our social media following.
Speaker 2: Well, Jamila's gonna give We're gonna give them both our TikTok.
Speaker 3: Unfortunately that we could have had more to give in
Speaker 3: that department.
Speaker 2: But we're going to keep the newsletter though. We're gonna
Speaker 2: need that. Oh my god, Man's christ anyway.
Speaker 3: I don't know what's saving you guys this summer, but
Speaker 3: we're back into motherhood. So I really highly recommend take
Speaker 3: the kids to camp overnight camp.
Speaker 2: It was overpriced as fun.
Speaker 4: I mean, I think it was good, they loved it,
Speaker 4: but you know what, it was expensive.
Speaker 2: But I was also thinking, like, you have my kid,
Speaker 2: like this is kind of priceless. Take her, entertain her
Speaker 2: all day fucking long, feed.
Speaker 4: Her, make core memories.
Speaker 2: I don't have to do anything. Main thing.
Speaker 4: I don't have to do anything, yo, and then that
Speaker 4: is kind of priceless. Well for me, that price, Like
Speaker 4: as I as I was like experiencing her being there
Speaker 4: because the kids couldn't have their phone, which was I
Speaker 4: was really stressed out about. But then I realized, because
Speaker 4: they had this app and I don't know what kind
Speaker 4: of technology they have where they take these pictures automatically,
Speaker 4: your kid is like tagged and uploaded. But it brought
Speaker 4: me peace knowing like, Okay, at least I can still
Speaker 4: see her.
Speaker 2: You can write them letters and they can write you back.
Speaker 4: But as I was seeing these pictures and seeing all
Speaker 4: the fun she was having, I was like.
Speaker 2: I didn't want to do done to that shit, but
Speaker 2: this is important.
Speaker 4: She needed this, So start saving now for next summer. Okay,
Speaker 4: if you haven't done it already, start saving now for
Speaker 4: next summer to send your kids to fucking sleep away camp.
Speaker 2: That is, that is.
Speaker 4: Number one of getting through fucking the summer as a parent.
Speaker 4: That I wished I knew earlier. I mean, I don't
Speaker 4: know if I would have sent her earlier. Maybe last
Speaker 4: year I would have, but I feel like at some
Speaker 4: point it's time if your kids are around eight, to
Speaker 4: now send them. There were fifteen year olds there. Really
Speaker 4: there's pairs like I don't know what to do with Joss. Really, sixteen, bitch,
Speaker 4: you gotta go. There was I think the I think
Speaker 4: it's I think fifteen is the catusk.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then you become a counselor your counselor training. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I think I was kind of at first. I was
Speaker 3: when I woke up when she for the first day,
Speaker 3: I was like thinking of her, like, damn, she's waking
Speaker 3: up in a foreign place, in a foreign bit.
Speaker 2: She's on a retreat. Yeah, she was. Literally they were
Speaker 2: retreating while we were retreating, well sort of yeah, the
Speaker 2: same time.
Speaker 4: So it's just like, but you know what, I went
Speaker 4: to a sleep away camp in Martha's Vineyard when I
Speaker 4: was like eleven, and core memories, like for real like,
Speaker 4: I'll never forget that camp. It was called it was
Speaker 4: the Shenandoah, and we were on a boat and we
Speaker 4: were like helping man the boat.
Speaker 2: It was like an.
Speaker 4: Old camp pirate ship basically. Yes, the camp was on
Speaker 4: a boat. We were like waking up at seven am
Speaker 4: to clean the decks, like we were learning how to
Speaker 4: anchor the fucking boat into the deep sea ocean. We
Speaker 4: were singing sailor songs. It was very white, but I
Speaker 4: very much. Yeah, it was actually me and my two
Speaker 4: cousins were probably the only black people there now that
Speaker 4: I'm thinking about it, but I didn't notice then. I
Speaker 4: was just having a great time jumping off the boat
Speaker 4: in the middle of the ocean, docking on like these
Speaker 4: little islands that like are ininhabited and we have our
Speaker 4: like it was pretty special. That's and so I don't know,
Speaker 4: Like I feel like as parents sometimes we are really
Speaker 4: scared to release the grip on our children because of
Speaker 4: various things like shit has happened. She just happened to you,
Speaker 4: sit is happening. But I feel like you're gonna have
Speaker 4: to release your kids to the world at some point,
Speaker 4: and like being able to give them these experiences in
Speaker 4: like doses that you trust with your gut, that you've
Speaker 4: done your research in that you feel intuitively well doing.
Speaker 4: I felt safe because I knew Luna was going to
Speaker 4: be there, and I knew i Re's other friend was
Speaker 4: going to be there. So I'm like, three of them.
Speaker 4: Ain't nobody gonna mess with them. There's three, you know,
Speaker 4: but like, trust your gut. But I do think I
Speaker 4: encourage parents because I see a lot of parents that
Speaker 4: are like.
Speaker 2: I don't. I would, I don't. My kid don't have
Speaker 2: no play date. I'm like, Dan, your kid I had
Speaker 2: a play date.
Speaker 4: And she's ten, like girl like I that you I
Speaker 4: understand like protecting your children, but at some point, like
Speaker 4: if they have to, it's important for them to have
Speaker 4: these type of experiences.
Speaker 3: A part of protecting your child is integrating independence and
Speaker 3: sovereignty and the ability to putting your.
Speaker 2: Work to test, putting the work that you've done to
Speaker 2: the test too.
Speaker 3: Our jobs are really as parents is we're training them. Yeah,
Speaker 3: we're training them to be prepared for adulthood. And if
Speaker 3: you don't, if you don't, we protect them too much,
Speaker 3: they're not going to be prepared for adulthood. And we
Speaker 3: see what those kind of adults look like, and it's
Speaker 3: could be fucked up there.
Speaker 2: There can't be. They're not sustainable.
Speaker 3: So if you want to have a child, like protect
Speaker 3: them use your intuition, but teach them mostly how to
Speaker 3: use their own intuition and how to advocate for themselves.
Speaker 3: So if they do feel uncomfortable, they're like, eh, eh,
Speaker 3: you're fucking with me.
Speaker 2: Like they already know.
Speaker 3: It's not like some shy meek thing, you know, like
Speaker 3: they don't know how to interact with the outside world.
Speaker 3: I think experiences are the biggest life lessons, you know,
Speaker 3: like trips and stuff like that, like gifts and all
Speaker 3: this shit is cool, but when you put them out
Speaker 3: into the world, that is when they you know, start
Speaker 3: to like learn themselves.
Speaker 2: It's super important. Yeah. Yeah, So I'm really happy that
Speaker 2: we did it, and I'm going to do that the
Speaker 2: next summer. It was really good. You know, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: do that. I'm saving up for two weeks witch, all right.
Speaker 3: I was because we extended our trip once we realized
Speaker 3: they were at camp, We're like, they ain't even they
Speaker 3: ain't even gonna be.
Speaker 2: There get back. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so yeah, that was that was the that was
Speaker 3: the best summer idea we've had thus far. I also
Speaker 3: feel like having barbecues and like joint hangouts and like
Speaker 3: househop is really like our summer has been our summer activity.
Speaker 3: So that ways that the kids could do the kids thing,
Speaker 3: and they don't. They babysit each other. And there I
Speaker 3: demand that if you're going to be in human being human,
Speaker 3: don't be on the fucking iPad.
Speaker 4: Like you can still turn up and your kids will
Speaker 4: be safe in that. And if you need to spend
Speaker 4: the night, bitch the exactly, like, just do it like
Speaker 4: you deserve this, turn up and baby will be just fine.
Speaker 4: She'll be there's thirty other aunties that want to take
Speaker 4: care of the baby.
Speaker 2: Hang out with your friends this summer. It's going to
Speaker 2: save you.
Speaker 3: Like find your tribe, especially those with friends or other
Speaker 3: girlfriends that don't mind around being around babies or kids
Speaker 3: or whatever and still have your summer fun too. Yeah,
Speaker 3: that was one thing. Even as a mom of a
Speaker 3: small child, I still I took that baby everywhere. The
Speaker 3: baby even now literally be like I'm bored. I'd be like,
Speaker 3: oh you want to kick it, Oh you want to
Speaker 3: kick it? Come on, tech your shit on and then
Speaker 3: we'd be out, still tan, and she'd be falling asleep.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh no, girl, we outside at the restaurant
Speaker 2: with my friends. This is not what I meant. I
Speaker 2: wanted to play with slime and go skys out. I
Speaker 2: thought you wanted to go to the Rosevelt.
Speaker 4: And I'm I'm still just happy. I still give the
Speaker 4: fuck about slime. I'm like, your day, that's lime. I
Speaker 4: really have had a very conflicted relationable note it's not
Speaker 4: even been conflicted. I fucking hate slime. I think most
Speaker 4: parents hate slime. But as I've been thinking about Iri
Speaker 4: getting older and the thought of her, like when she
Speaker 4: says she doesn't want slime anymore, I'm gonna know that
Speaker 4: she's like turned into it. There's like a new chapter
Speaker 4: that she's unlocked where slime is no longer important.
Speaker 2: And then now.
Speaker 4: She's stepped into true preteenhood because I don't even I
Speaker 4: don't even consider her a preteen, right, what is preteen like?
Speaker 2: No, not until slime is gone?
Speaker 3: No sixteen playing with slime Like she's preaching I just
Speaker 3: got her slime today as your friend, we're talking about
Speaker 3: they're talking about letting go. This is a this is
Speaker 3: a message for.
Speaker 2: You, my friend.
Speaker 3: You know it's happening one way or another. I was
Speaker 3: when she was at camp. I was writing her and like,
Speaker 3: hey girl, I extended my trip anyway.
Speaker 2: I guess what.
Speaker 3: Somebody broke girl, somebody broke into my mom's car and
Speaker 3: stole your backpack.
Speaker 2: I don't even what was in there.
Speaker 3: And then I was like writing it, typing out and
Speaker 3: I was like, Orlando, is I going to scare her?
Speaker 2: Should I tell her that? He's like, I don't know,
Speaker 2: I should I wait.
Speaker 3: Till she gets out of camp, and I was like, anyway,
Speaker 3: talk to you lady, hate me back, but I was like,
Speaker 3: why am I talking to her?
Speaker 2: Like she's my homegirl? Yeah, and then she just like
Speaker 2: take me back, like why'd they do that? Like not me?
Speaker 4: Having one friend texting with your kid is weird. It's adorable.
Speaker 4: It's it's like cute. You're like, I've have moments where
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my god, my baby's like yeah the
Speaker 4: fuck and oh my gosh, she text me she missed me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what you're thinking of me?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's crazy to get Yeah. That text message would
Speaker 3: literally be like you think they're together at the restaurant
Speaker 3: and shit, I'm like, what are you talking about? Wow,
Speaker 3: growing children is crazy, but definitely releasing the grip. I
Speaker 3: think you said something earlier that it's important, Like I
Speaker 3: know a lot of friends who don't let that their
Speaker 3: kids sleep over or whatever, you know, that don't have
Speaker 3: play dates. And I think sometimes we project our own
Speaker 3: fears of our own abuse or things that have happened
Speaker 3: to us or thinks we've heard happened to us onto
Speaker 3: our kids, and you know, obviously, like I think, trusting
Speaker 3: yourself and your intuition. And I find that I get
Speaker 3: that anxiety when she has sleepovers with friends that are
Speaker 3: not my direct friends. But you know, I've gotten over it,
Speaker 3: and I talked to parents, and I always talk to her, how.
Speaker 2: Do you feel you feel good?
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, you can call me if you need me anytime,
Speaker 3: you know, so we would check in a lot. But
Speaker 3: I do think that it is necessary to kind of
Speaker 3: give your kid the opportunity to have social experiences, because
Speaker 3: you remember how fun sleepovers were, you know, like building
Speaker 3: tents and who else knows what the fuck were doing
Speaker 3: making a mess.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I've had like that was one thing my mom
Speaker 4: did she let me have. I think that's why I
Speaker 4: don't feel so like I'm not. I've never been the
Speaker 4: type of parent that has been like afraid to have
Speaker 4: like Iri to have a sleepover.
Speaker 2: I think she started having sleepovers around four or five,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 4: And also I was a single mom, so I was like,
Speaker 4: I have a deeper incentive to be like please help.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, I do actually need you to take you
Speaker 2: want to go so you know.
Speaker 4: But like you said, like I do, and I totally
Speaker 4: understand why people, you know, have reservations, but like you said,
Speaker 4: it's important, and like I've had, I think I've had
Speaker 4: so much growth, and it's been so even with Iri,
Speaker 4: to see other people and how they live and how
Speaker 4: they exist and appreciate how she lives too, or even
Speaker 4: I remember being a kid and like you know, I
Speaker 4: went to like a bougie private school.
Speaker 2: I would go to these people's houses and.
Speaker 4: Be like, oh my god, wow I can and then
Speaker 4: it became normal, Well I could live like this, yeah,
Speaker 4: you know, and like and that.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And that's done something for me as an adult, like
Speaker 4: the awareness of what I know I can have and
Speaker 4: not that was never really like something I had to
Speaker 4: really understand.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 4: There's a lot of other things I had to understand,
Speaker 4: but like I knew that, like I know that things
Speaker 4: are possible. And I'm not gonna say it's all in
Speaker 4: part because I had to sleepover to people's house now,
Speaker 4: But there was an exposure.
Speaker 2: It's not like something you just see on TV. You're
Speaker 2: actually experience it into the house.
Speaker 3: Like when you when you grow up in Hollywood. You're
Speaker 3: literally you see it's possible. You could touch it, you
Speaker 3: could feel it, you could taste it, and so it
Speaker 3: feels more obtainable versus if you just turn on Fresh
Speaker 3: Prince of bel At or whatever.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Yeah, yeah, yeah, you get
Speaker 2: that break.
Speaker 4: Speaking of summer and like ways to ease the the
Speaker 4: I guess the chaos of being a mom in the
Speaker 4: summertime when your kid is no longer in school and
Speaker 4: you have seven hours of the day not to yourself
Speaker 4: anymore and releasing control is like the other day, I
Speaker 4: let Iri have ice cream in the morning.
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't give a fuck, I don't
Speaker 2: give a fuck.
Speaker 4: Do whatever you want, just not every morning, but but today,
Speaker 4: you know what, fuck it?
Speaker 2: You want ramen? Take the ramen this morning. It's like
Speaker 2: I'm hungry She's like, actually, can I eat ramen.
Speaker 4: This expectation of being a perfect parent the summer, it's
Speaker 4: just not gonna happen.
Speaker 2: It's just not. In fact, it's for this summertime is
Speaker 2: for you to be the imperfect parent. Try on being
Speaker 2: the imperfect parent.
Speaker 3: Give yourself a break, you know, like it's little Johnny's
Speaker 3: schedule will be okay.
Speaker 2: Perfectly fucking fine, perfectly fine.
Speaker 4: Just make sure she brushes her teeth or some shit,
Speaker 4: and maybe not, maybe she doesn't, she'll survive. IRI's been
Speaker 4: having more chores and I actually was online yesterday trying
Speaker 4: to find a chore chart so that I can do
Speaker 4: myself accountable. And I need to get one because I'm
Speaker 4: like not fucking around anymore, Like I really need structure
Speaker 4: in my house. And I feel like this summer with
Speaker 4: her being at the house and wanting to do a
Speaker 4: bunch of shit and messing up all this, I was like,
Speaker 4: why am I doing the.
Speaker 2: Dishes right now?
Speaker 4: She's in the fucking watching Jesse and I'm doing dishes,
Speaker 4: and I was like, no, this is We're done, this
Speaker 4: is done.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So yeah, I think I don't know how. I
Speaker 2: think I think I'm.
Speaker 4: Actually late to this to this thing, and I think,
Speaker 4: what do you think is a good age to start
Speaker 4: implementing chores today?
Speaker 2: No, for your kids, I know I'm saying. I think.
Speaker 2: I think nine eight, I think eight nine. I almost
Speaker 2: feel like six. Yeah. Six.
Speaker 4: They need to know that they have responsibilities and we
Speaker 4: are very like like laundry at six, all you gotta all,
Speaker 4: you gotta make it things. Yeah, I can make it
Speaker 4: fun and just like, bring these clothes and wash Moommi's underwear.
Speaker 2: Thanks, get a stole on the washing. Yeah, it's time
Speaker 2: to just let them handle the household chores. Did you
Speaker 2: want to pull a tarot card? Okay, yes, I do.
Speaker 3: You know, while we're waiting for the tarot card, I
Speaker 3: have another announcement. I just thought of it. Psa announcement.
Speaker 3: I'm this is maybe a little bit late, but my
Speaker 3: child Maide Orlando and I watch.
Speaker 2: Straw. Wait, is that the scary movie?
Speaker 4: Oh though, that's the one where she's hunted over like
Speaker 4: that picture I don't know, you know that picture of
Speaker 4: the black woman on the side.
Speaker 2: Of the bed looking all tired.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the cover of the fucking that masurance Now yeah, okay,
Speaker 3: So Taraji be Henson Straw Tyler Perry movie. First of all,
Speaker 3: Lunamatus watch it, so I was like, where did you
Speaker 3: see this before? Like she was like I watched it
Speaker 3: with t t I'm like, okay, within the first forty
Speaker 3: fucking ten minute minutes. But then the first ten minutes
Speaker 3: she gets evicted, they won't give her her check, gets
Speaker 3: fired what and gets gets threatened with her life, Like
Speaker 3: it is so bad. Immediately, I'm like, why the fuck
Speaker 3: are we watching? Everyone said it was so good, she
Speaker 3: did a great performance. But Tyler Perry has got to
Speaker 3: be stopped. He's gotta be stopped. I never seen black
Speaker 3: people depict it so sad and ten minutes it was
Speaker 3: ten minutes of the film, and then it just gets
Speaker 3: worse as it goes. It just it just gradually gets
Speaker 3: worse and worse and worse, and then it gets there's
Speaker 3: just crazy twist at the end, and Lynna.
Speaker 2: Was like, wait, wait, keep watching.
Speaker 3: Mom's gonna get good. I was like, Luna, I was
Speaker 3: like crying but also mad.
Speaker 2: I was like, it was like sad even though it
Speaker 2: was like the acting. Did you watch all the way her?
Speaker 3: Yes, she required it. She may just get off her phone.
Speaker 3: So they had Tiana Taylor there with this tear.
Speaker 2: With a wig. That was not good. Oh no, she
Speaker 2: was a detective, was her acting? It was pretty good.
Speaker 4: Rating went out of ten. What are we doing two Orlando?
Speaker 3: I would say just based on the extreme amount of
Speaker 3: struggle he had to pour into this film that I
Speaker 3: don't think it needed.
Speaker 2: I don't need.
Speaker 3: I don't think any film needs that amount of single
Speaker 3: mom black. It was so sadness. It was really I
Speaker 3: was like, I can't leave my daughter and told me
Speaker 3: to watch this.
Speaker 2: I called her.
Speaker 4: Maybe she thought, like my mom likes she was a
Speaker 4: single mom. She talked single mom stuff. Maybe she'll appreciate that.
Speaker 2: I mean I appreciated it.
Speaker 3: It was a good depiction of being fucked with and
Speaker 3: it's fucking snapping. But I just think Tyler Perry needs
Speaker 3: to be stopped. I want him to make ten joyful Black.
Speaker 2: I don't think he's being stopped at the times.
Speaker 4: In fact, I think there's like a resurgence of Tyler
Speaker 4: Perry that's happening right now, Like he's actually on top.
Speaker 4: He's killing it. He's really killing it in the game.
Speaker 4: I mean, he's that Kerry Washington and movie.
Speaker 2: I respect the hustle you know he's doing a thing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean I love it.
Speaker 3: I love I you know, honestly, what I said to Orlando,
Speaker 3: I said I'd love to get cast in one of
Speaker 3: his films.
Speaker 2: Yeah, say, like that's what I said, I'd love. Actually,
Speaker 2: i'd love Is this your audition talking about it? He
Speaker 2: has to be Orlando.
Speaker 4: Delete that, delete that part because we both might be
Speaker 4: on sister's divorce next month.
Speaker 3: And guess when I'm packing my shirt and going to
Speaker 3: Atlanta so fast.
Speaker 2: So actually we're gonna have to cut that.
Speaker 3: I loved Straw Withji Taraji Pete Henson.
Speaker 2: It was great. It was phenomenal. Well, our friend is
Speaker 2: actually on Tyler Perry Show and I watched it. It
Speaker 2: was pretty good. I know I have to watch that
Speaker 2: one too. Jade Nova shout out to Jade the people.
Speaker 2: She the people. People people like that. Yeah, okay, well
Speaker 2: is it terroot tyme? It is terroot tyme. That was
Speaker 2: is really I had to get that out. The twos today,
Speaker 2: the two pinnacles.
Speaker 4: Upright, multiple priorities, time, management, prioritization, adaptability. When the two
Speaker 4: pinnacles appears in a tarot reading, it's safe to say
Speaker 4: you are juggling your priorities, roles, and responsibilities. For example,
Speaker 4: you may be a working parent, a general manager of
Speaker 4: a business, an administrative assistant in a busy office, or
Speaker 4: someone who works multiple jobs. In the upright position, this
Speaker 4: card notes that you're doing an excellent job of balancing
Speaker 4: these different priorities and you can take on whatever life
Speaker 4: throws at you because you're letting your kid eat ramen
Speaker 4: in the morning. But this too reminds you that the
Speaker 4: line between coping with these demands and losing control is thin.
Speaker 2: Oh shit.
Speaker 4: You need to manage your time, energy, and resources carefully
Speaker 4: so you don't lose your balance. The Two Pinnacles invites
Speaker 4: you to manage your time and your priorities carefully. You
Speaker 4: may benefit from a to do list. Basic time management
Speaker 4: is crucial to your ability to juggle these various priorities
Speaker 4: and keep your head above water. This card calls your
Speaker 4: awareness to the concept of balance and those parts of
Speaker 4: your life when you have it and those where you don't.
Speaker 4: While you can strive for equilibrium, nothing ever stays in
Speaker 4: perfect harmony.
Speaker 2: It's likely.
Speaker 4: So when the Two Pinnacles appears in a terror reading,
Speaker 4: see it as a reminder to be patient, flexible, and
Speaker 4: adaptable as you try to juggle your responsibilities with your family, friends, work, finances, health,
Speaker 4: and new challenges.
Speaker 2: Yep, sounds about right adaptability. Yeah, it's summertime, baby, you
Speaker 2: gotta be adaptable.
Speaker 3: The world is crumbling. It's summertime. Okad is home, and
Speaker 3: you've got to just go with the flow.
Speaker 4: Literally stressing out trying to be the perfect parent this summer, Like,
Speaker 4: don't fucking do it?
Speaker 3: Hot Growls Summer, Hot grow Summer, Hot Mom Summer. Still
Speaker 3: didn't we do that one summer? It's like hot Mom Summer.
Speaker 3: That's been one of our themes. Yeah, and also slut
Speaker 3: over June was one.
Speaker 2: We did that. That's amazing.
Speaker 3: That was one of my favorite. That story was so
Speaker 3: good goodness. Do you have a horri or do we
Speaker 3: have any?
Speaker 2: I don't think we have any written any hories that
Speaker 2: I can share who stories? I mean, it's not like
Speaker 2: a super horry at the retreat.
Speaker 4: So we're at the couple's retreat and they're like we
Speaker 4: we are in the energy of just exploration and adventure
Speaker 4: and just opening things up to one another and witnessing
Speaker 4: couples like their their relationships.
Speaker 2: Open and bloom.
Speaker 4: And that ship made me fucking horny, Like I was
Speaker 4: very horny at the couple's retreat, Like.
Speaker 2: Truly that was at work, but I mean I was
Speaker 2: with my man. My job is to be My job
Speaker 2: is my man. I'm working with my man, and we're.
Speaker 4: Like we're teaching made We're teaching about people into out intimacy. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I mean, like we were showing in one of the
Speaker 4: workshops that we did, we had this feather, and so
Speaker 4: of course I had to practice. So I blindfolded to
Speaker 4: Kim and I traced his body up and down with
Speaker 4: this like beautiful long black feather, and I think, like
Speaker 4: what I loved about this experience too, was like really
Speaker 4: being able to discover parts of your partner that like
Speaker 4: otherwise you may have not known like or been like
Speaker 4: or like yeah, like you know, like are you even
Speaker 4: putting a feather near like your man's balls, Like you
Speaker 4: would think that that tickled, and like I did that,
Speaker 4: nothing happened.
Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, well not the balls, then, huh have
Speaker 2: had about the inner thigh? Oh okay?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, so I guess my cup, my hory is
Speaker 4: just like the exploration of my man with this feather
Speaker 4: and then after that, like like we just his We
Speaker 4: were just so turned on. We like fucked outside. We
Speaker 4: fucked on the patio out by the like in the
Speaker 4: jungle with the sounds and like you just hear the
Speaker 4: birds chirping and the monkeys howling at the tree.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because our little you know, was off tucked off
Speaker 4: in the corner of the jungle. So being able to
Speaker 4: make love outside in nature, like the stickiness of our skin,
Speaker 4: like all of that, it felt like a movie.
Speaker 2: I was like, is this real. I'm like, holy shit, because.
Speaker 4: Like we've been I've been going to Costa Rica, you
Speaker 4: know for a long time now, but never with like
Speaker 4: a lover. I've had rendezvous, but like being able to
Speaker 4: make love with the person that you love in that environment,
Speaker 4: with your nervous system regulated, with like knowing that you're
Speaker 4: in the supportive energy of love literally and I don't know,
Speaker 4: like feeling so in such alignment with like my purpose
Speaker 4: and what I'm and what I'm doing, and like, I
Speaker 4: don't know. It was just like that night I came
Speaker 4: so hard because I was just like literally I felt
Speaker 4: like I was It wasn't always manifesting, I was experiencing
Speaker 4: the manifestation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like it was your it was. It wasn't me
Speaker 2: like wishing for something. It was like, this is it?
Speaker 2: I have it here, the first of my manifestation exactly. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so that's my horry. Beautiful. That was beautiful. Are we
Speaker 2: missing anything? Oh?
Speaker 3: Do you have an affirmation? Do you have an affirmation thinking?
Speaker 3: Don't let those kids stop you from being a bad bitch.
Speaker 2: Don't let those kids stop you from being a bad bitch.
Speaker 2: Not this summer, not ever, it'slot ever, sleetever.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm living it so good. Can't you tell I
Speaker 1: went through a drought. That's until I find a well
Speaker 1: may my have been known earth? I used to be
Speaker 1: broken tail, now got the Blues Dans and might Beyonce
Speaker 1: Jasell throat shots with popping this cow wearing our voices.
Speaker 1: Patriarchy kept it in the box to exploid us. Women
Speaker 1: put the pi and powers.
Speaker 2: So what's point? Do they want me to be good?
Speaker 2: So I made bad choices? Bad mom, not a bad mom,
Speaker 2: but a bad mom.
Speaker 1: Gitter's in put cannapus in their backs, walked in Boston's cap,
Speaker 1: and I blew his cat boss tip dog.
Speaker 2: Now I'm immune to the cat.
Speaker 1: Called Herbie in the waisted straight to it like a
Speaker 1: dollar sign.
Speaker 2: Mother, rent the lover when to it.
Speaker 1: It's like a water sign where you're rent the winter
Speaker 1: essential will when the summertime.
Speaker 2: I do it all. Ain't no one that needs to
Speaker 2: run it by