Speaker 1: Well, yeah, Wlita.
Speaker 2: Have you ever heard of a motto honey, or a
Speaker 2: motto mummy or a moto puppy?
Speaker 1: You know, like, have you ever been a thrill chaser?
Speaker 3: Totally?
Speaker 4: It started when I was three years old with my daddy.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, you would take me in the front
Speaker 4: of his motorcycle.
Speaker 3: I was so thrilled.
Speaker 4: Of course, Then when men came around, yeah, I would
Speaker 4: a little leather hear, a little spanky there, I mean
Speaker 4: on the chair, and oh, if.
Speaker 3: You can picture it, I'm good.
Speaker 2: I feel like I want to say, unfortunately I can
Speaker 2: picture it.
Speaker 3: But but have you been a biker boy.
Speaker 2: No, I'm more of a scooter sized guy, a little cutie,
Speaker 2: a little noodle cutie, more scooter, you know, razor scooter.
Speaker 2: I was like my left leg in there and just
Speaker 2: like zoom through the neighborhood.
Speaker 1: But that's where I stayed.
Speaker 2: After that, I didn't graduate to a much more thrill
Speaker 2: seeking adventure. I scream a little bit when I'm gon vespa, but.
Speaker 3: That's still exciting on two wheels.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 3: I actually love vespas. Yeah, they're they're.
Speaker 1: Great welcome listeners. This is date my a Wilita.
Speaker 2: First, I am your host the Vico or Thiefs, joined
Speaker 2: by the multi talented A Wilita Liliana Monte. She's gonna
Speaker 2: sort through three lovelorn contestants before sending one of them
Speaker 2: off on a one on one date with our star dater.
Speaker 3: Oh I'm so excited. Let's meet our main dater this week.
Speaker 3: What do you think? I think she will be my favorite?
Speaker 3: Are you always say that, Liliana? It sounds good because
Speaker 3: they are all perfect.
Speaker 1: That's right, that's me.
Speaker 3: Who am I helping with love today?
Speaker 2: Our main dater this week is Sonia. Sonia is truly
Speaker 2: young at heart, she says. All the younger lesbians hit
Speaker 2: on her at the bars. Sonia lives in Long Beach
Speaker 2: and loves riding her bike and even meets up with
Speaker 2: a group of lesbians who ride on Sundays and call
Speaker 2: themselves the Lesbian Little Rascals.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, wow, I want to meet these little rascals.
Speaker 2: Sonia is looking for her forever and is trying to
Speaker 2: really take her time to acknowledge red flags. Oh, that
Speaker 2: is a tough one to go through.
Speaker 4: There's always a few of them out there always.
Speaker 2: She is looking for emotionally mature women and sees meditation,
Speaker 2: spirituality in being able to communicate when something is not
Speaker 2: going well as an indicator of emotional maturity.
Speaker 1: Hells, yes, we love to hear that she is.
Speaker 2: Old school and the way that she will pay for
Speaker 2: the date will open the door.
Speaker 1: And considers herself a gentle woman.
Speaker 2: Sonia's love language is quality time and for someone to
Speaker 2: woo Sonia, they should notice the little things.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, pay attention out there.
Speaker 1: All right, So what do you say?
Speaker 2: Should we find Sonya someone who can pay attention to
Speaker 2: the details and go on a ride with her.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, let's do it.
Speaker 1: So yes, welcome Sonya, come on, hello, Hello, Hi? Are
Speaker 1: you doing so good to see you? We're so excited
Speaker 1: to get to know you.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 1: You said you're looking for your forever.
Speaker 2: Right, I am and really trying to make time to
Speaker 2: acknowledge red flags.
Speaker 1: What does that look like for you?
Speaker 6: You know what? I'm just gonna be honest.
Speaker 7: I no longer like try and be intimate with anyone
Speaker 7: immediately because that can blind me.
Speaker 4: To to yes, little blinder song, they come on immediately.
Speaker 6: I've never been married. I would like to be married.
Speaker 7: So I'm really taking my time in building a friendship
Speaker 7: and finding someone who's compatible with me and emotionally mature.
Speaker 3: Mm mmmmm mmm mmm what you're going to know now?
Speaker 4: You said you're looking for an emotionally mature woman, So
Speaker 4: please tell me what are the characteristics for you that
Speaker 4: make up an emotionally mature woman.
Speaker 7: You know one of my favorite sayings that I'm a
Speaker 7: lady of many sayings, is a relationship success isn't determined
Speaker 7: on how well you get along. I actually get along
Speaker 7: well with a lot of people. It's how well you disagree,
Speaker 7: and that, for me, is an indicator if we can
Speaker 7: go the next step. Once you have that disagreement, how
Speaker 7: do you process what you're feeling?
Speaker 6: Do you emotionally shut down?
Speaker 7: Which you know some people need their time to process
Speaker 7: what they're going through.
Speaker 6: But explain that to me.
Speaker 7: You know, I need some time to think and then
Speaker 7: I can come back to you and conversate. But to
Speaker 7: shut down and then never discuss it again, which I
Speaker 7: find so many women do. They talk, and then no
Speaker 7: one talks about the actual issue until it comes up again.
Speaker 7: So I'm no longer going to deal with that type
Speaker 7: of madness. I want to see how people process when
Speaker 7: they're angry. You know, I'm not the type that's going
Speaker 7: to tolerate any type of drama, so to speak. That's
Speaker 7: why I think spirituality is important. Someone who knows about meditation,
Speaker 7: who really has done some healing, who's really explored themselves,
Speaker 7: then I don't have to worry that they may not
Speaker 7: know how to have a difficult conversation with me, because
Speaker 7: they're going to be aware of where they're coming from.
Speaker 7: All I can do is be aware of where I'm
Speaker 7: coming from and be honest with my feelings and take
Speaker 7: into consideration their feelings.
Speaker 6: And work through it.
Speaker 7: It's not always about being right, it's about coming to
Speaker 7: an agreement, a solution, so to speak.
Speaker 6: So that's why to me, spirituality.
Speaker 7: However that looks to them because that's such a broad term,
Speaker 7: But I need to know they know how to do
Speaker 7: the work when they're angry, when they're emotional.
Speaker 6: You know, I need someone mature.
Speaker 4: Now, Sonia us old school gals have to stick together.
Speaker 3: So what does chivalry mean to you?
Speaker 7: Chivalry means to me, And it doesn't have to be
Speaker 7: a male or female.
Speaker 6: It obviously can be both.
Speaker 7: It's opening the door or it's you know, I pay
Speaker 7: for most of the dates, but you know, on the flip.
Speaker 3: Wait, when are we going to dinner?
Speaker 5: Wait?
Speaker 7: Wait on the flip with my partner to maybe cook
Speaker 7: for me or take me out sometimes. But I am
Speaker 7: that one that's gonna be thoughtful. I'm gonna make the
Speaker 7: coffee for you in the morning. I'm gonna, you know,
Speaker 7: make sure your towels warm when you get out of
Speaker 7: the shower. I'm really dorky that way, and I just
Speaker 7: want to take care of my person a warm towel.
Speaker 2: Would you say acts of service is one of your
Speaker 2: love languages?
Speaker 6: I absolutely am acts of service.
Speaker 1: What other love language do you like to receive?
Speaker 7: I love quality time, and that's another thing with dating
Speaker 7: at my age. My son is an adult now, so
Speaker 7: I do help take care of my mom, my elderly mom,
Speaker 7: but I still have quite a bit of time. And
Speaker 7: of course I have a lot of friends, but I
Speaker 7: don't want to spend all my time with my friends
Speaker 7: no more. I love my friends are always going to
Speaker 7: be there. I want my person and I want someone
Speaker 7: that ask time to be there, live life together.
Speaker 6: That's what I'm looking for. So I'm going to go
Speaker 6: on this journey with me.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 4: I know that you grew up in the LA Area, correct, yes,
Speaker 4: and that you have a lot of friends from childhood.
Speaker 4: That that was the hardest people to come out to
Speaker 4: explain that to me.
Speaker 7: Why even harder than my parents was coming out to
Speaker 7: my best friends. Because they're a couple, a man and
Speaker 7: a woman. I introduced them in high school. They have
Speaker 7: been together thirty million years together. He is my friend
Speaker 7: since we were like three and four years old. And
Speaker 7: he's a macho construction man, old school I mean, but
Speaker 7: he's a good guy. He's my best friend. Of course,
Speaker 7: his heart is amazing. But they knew and told me
Speaker 7: before I came out to them. So I was living
Speaker 7: with my first partner, my baby mama. To them, she
Speaker 7: was my best friend roommate, and we went out one
Speaker 7: night and me and her were having a discussion of
Speaker 7: where we left the money or the wallet or something,
Speaker 7: and I guess she overheard it and she wrote me
Speaker 7: a letter. My best friend wrote me a letter and
Speaker 7: basically said that she knew I was gay and that
Speaker 7: you know, it's okay, and and part of it was
Speaker 7: she's very funny. Part of it was how come you
Speaker 7: never hit on me? But that it was all good.
Speaker 7: And I remember thinking, how dumb was I? You know
Speaker 7: how dumb was I.
Speaker 6: Of course they loved me for who I am.
Speaker 7: And at work, it too was a little difficult because
Speaker 7: so many people knew me as straight. And then the
Speaker 7: woman I came out with, she also was straight from work,
Speaker 7: so that was challenging.
Speaker 3: Sonia.
Speaker 4: Of course they knew you from a lifetime, so of
Speaker 4: course they knew they were just waiting for you.
Speaker 3: But what was that fear of telling them?
Speaker 7: I guess I thought they may not be part of
Speaker 7: my life anymore, or that they would judge me.
Speaker 6: I guess I knew that they wouldn't.
Speaker 7: It's just I was just gonna play dumb because I
Speaker 7: was out everywhere else. I just wasn't out with them.
Speaker 7: And to this day I have that letter. It's pretty funny.
Speaker 2: Oh, I love that. I want to know about more
Speaker 2: about your relationships. What have you learned from your long
Speaker 2: term relationships? What are some things that you are like? Oh,
Speaker 2: I love that, and I want to see that in
Speaker 2: a future partnership. And what are some things that you're like?
Speaker 8: You know what?
Speaker 2: I see this as a pattern, and I don't want
Speaker 2: to see that anymore.
Speaker 6: I'm pretty good with most of my exes.
Speaker 7: I consider myself to really only have three three nine
Speaker 7: year relationships. That's kind of my point, but I no
Speaker 7: longer want it to be my point. I'm going to
Speaker 7: say two of them I probably should have left after
Speaker 7: year three, but we want to talk about that. What
Speaker 7: I did learn is I'm no longer accepting really bad
Speaker 7: behavior just because.
Speaker 6: I love them.
Speaker 7: You know what I learned. I want to date someone
Speaker 7: that really doesn't heavily drink. That's what I've learned out
Speaker 7: of most of my relationships. Someone that heavily drinks. I
Speaker 7: think that that's okay. You know, you go out and
Speaker 7: party here and there, but some of the drinks a lot.
Speaker 7: You know, when you argue, it gets different, it's challenging.
Speaker 7: I'm past all that, So that's one thing that I've learned,
Speaker 7: and just really take my time and build a friendship.
Speaker 7: Because the one relationship that I speak of, you know,
Speaker 7: we took our time. Before we became girlfriends. We were
Speaker 7: seeing each other for quite some time. In fact, we
Speaker 7: were both not wanting a relationship, so we were just
Speaker 7: kind of seeing each other and then kind of fell
Speaker 7: in love.
Speaker 6: So, you know what, I love my friends.
Speaker 7: I wish I could find someone like all my friendships
Speaker 7: but that extra step and being my partner.
Speaker 6: You know, that's what I'm looking looking for a best friend.
Speaker 1: Beautiful, And now tell us about these little rascals. What's
Speaker 1: up with this biker dyke group. I'm so interned.
Speaker 6: I see you're a youngin.
Speaker 7: I know that are actually a little group of It
Speaker 7: was a TV show.
Speaker 3: It was a little group of friends.
Speaker 7: A little group of friends, and there was no adults
Speaker 7: in that show. It was like in the eighties or seventies.
Speaker 3: Seventies, seventies, right, and.
Speaker 7: They had no adults in the show. And these kids
Speaker 7: just had fun. There were brown ones, black ones, fat ones.
Speaker 3: Guray or beautiful, funky.
Speaker 7: Lucky ones and they were the best of friends with
Speaker 7: their dog and they go on adventures. But when I
Speaker 7: joined this group of local lesbians just to be more active,
Speaker 7: they started doing a Sunday morning bike group and it
Speaker 7: tended to be kind of the same women that would join.
Speaker 7: So we built a friendship. We actually have a strong friendship.
Speaker 7: There's probably about six or seven of us.
Speaker 6: Some people show up here and there. But we decided to.
Speaker 7: Call ourselves the Little Rascals because we talk about when
Speaker 7: we ride our bicycles, not motorcycles, bicycles.
Speaker 6: We feel like we're twelve years old. There's nothing like
Speaker 6: that feeling.
Speaker 9: You know.
Speaker 7: I ride my bike a lot out here in Long
Speaker 7: Beach and I just feel so young, so happy. There's
Speaker 7: not a care in the world when I'm riding out
Speaker 7: there and we go on adventures like we found a
Speaker 7: hidden tunnels near the Queen Mary.
Speaker 6: They were lesbian little rascals.
Speaker 1: That's amazing, gorgeous.
Speaker 4: Anything else you want to know, I know exactly what
Speaker 4: you want. And let's hope that we can find someone
Speaker 4: as special as you are.
Speaker 3: Sonia.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we are very very excited. Honestly, this is
Speaker 1: gonna be so much fun.
Speaker 2: So for now, just sit back, relax, and we will
Speaker 2: bring you back after we play some games with these contestants.
Speaker 2: So now let's bring in these gorgeous contestants.
Speaker 1: We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, Malani
Speaker 1: the first.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 3: Well, hello, darning.
Speaker 1: Let's meet all of you.
Speaker 2: First up, we have Onyx onx is looking for the
Speaker 2: homey lover friend.
Speaker 1: To go eat Taco's web.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's a perfect day.
Speaker 1: Absolutely.
Speaker 2: Onyx is what we like to call a top in
Speaker 2: the streets, a bottom in the sheets. She likes to
Speaker 2: be warned and dined a little bit and wants someone
Speaker 2: to pursue her.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 10: Yes.
Speaker 1: She works as a stripper, actress, burlesque dancer, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: almost the.
Speaker 2: Same, and organizes four twenty pop up markets. She's also
Speaker 2: founded Artists Revolts, an organization that focuses on mutual aid
Speaker 2: and harm reduction efforts in marginalized LA communities.
Speaker 1: Fuck Yeah.
Speaker 2: Onyx is California sober and loves the ocean, going to
Speaker 2: the k Spot, eating Ethiopian food, and trying different restaurants.
Speaker 2: She was born and raised in Long Beach and is
Speaker 2: a true Long Beach baby, loving.
Speaker 1: Sublime Snoop Dog, West Coast Hip Hop. Hello, welcome Onyx,
Speaker 1: Bye y'all.
Speaker 2: Next, we have a Dana, Dana You're gonna love.
Speaker 1: This is a terrible pisces a sital the pis CC's placements.
Speaker 2: Dana works as a jeweler metalsmither Hot and centers her
Speaker 2: jewelry making practice around the metaphysical properties of the crystals.
Speaker 1: She works with. Oh my gosh, mysterious.
Speaker 2: Dana came to LA because of more opportunities in opening
Speaker 2: her business and then met someone and while they broke up.
Speaker 1: Eight years later, she is still here in LA.
Speaker 2: In a perfect world, Dana would date someone who is
Speaker 2: a bit edgy or alternative playful, but can also go
Speaker 2: deep and talk spirituality. Dana likes to play pickleball, Yeah,
Speaker 2: go to comedy shows, attend queer events in LA and
Speaker 2: enjoy quality chill time. Welcome Dana. Finally we have Nico.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, today's episode must be the Revenge of
Speaker 2: the Pisces because.
Speaker 3: Nico is a pizy star.
Speaker 1: Nico grew up in south central LA.
Speaker 2: She is well traveled, living in Philadelphia for Underground, the
Speaker 2: Philippines on a scholarship after college and the training for
Speaker 2: her doctorate in Australia and New Orleans.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that passport is a stamp.
Speaker 2: Nko is passionate about adapting to life and different situations.
Speaker 1: She works as a family doctor.
Speaker 5: Oh.
Speaker 2: She is looking for good companionship and always learns a
Speaker 2: lot from partnership. Honestly, that is a good takeaway. She
Speaker 2: is ready to date again after a year since her
Speaker 2: last serious relationship and likes to be romanced by thoughtfulness,
Speaker 2: share time, and surprises along the way.
Speaker 3: That is so wow. It's incredibles, a lot of Pisces.
Speaker 1: I am here for it.
Speaker 4: Well, they're multi talented and creative, and it's a great lineup.
Speaker 1: Is a great lineup is truly one of hard times.
Speaker 3: We don't see a pisces for months.
Speaker 1: That's true. That's true.
Speaker 3: That's true.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna let you in on a little secret
Speaker 2: right off the bat, our main dater loves to ride
Speaker 2: her bicycles, multiple bikes, and her scooter, so we need
Speaker 2: to know if you can ride with her. Right we're
Speaker 2: calling this game ride or die, playing.
Speaker 1: Off the expression I'll ride or die for you.
Speaker 2: We're going to present different scenarios that might cause some
Speaker 2: rent flags to pop up, and you'll let.
Speaker 1: Us know if you're still down to ride with your
Speaker 1: boo even given the situation.
Speaker 2: So, for example, Leana, would you ride or die if
Speaker 2: your boo calls you babe on the first date?
Speaker 3: Absolutely?
Speaker 4: I will prefer it as a matter of fact, just
Speaker 4: in case we die together, I go with someone's baby.
Speaker 1: Duly noted. Anyway, that's the game.
Speaker 10: So let's start off with would you ride or die
Speaker 10: if your boo only wants you to be a passenger
Speaker 10: and insists on driving everyone and I am including if
Speaker 10: she wants to drive your own car, would you ride
Speaker 10: or die on X talk to me?
Speaker 11: I would ride for sure, because this is La. I
Speaker 11: don't like driving anyway, so.
Speaker 1: That's what's up.
Speaker 11: If I could sit back because I am California, sober right,
Speaker 11: sit back.
Speaker 6: Smoke a joint. They can take me everywhere. That's fine.
Speaker 6: I hope pay for gas. That's good. We can cooperate.
Speaker 2: That's the soup. Yes, passenger Princess, I'm into it. Nico,
Speaker 2: what about you?
Speaker 12: Oh man?
Speaker 5: I think I'd have to explore it somemore and kind
Speaker 5: of get a better feel of why I like to participate.
Speaker 5: And I really liked your riving sometimes, so it could
Speaker 5: be a little tipid. We'll have to see. It'll be
Speaker 5: like a TVD.
Speaker 2: Here here here, absolutely, yes, Dano, what about you?
Speaker 12: You know I kind of agree with Nico. I think
Speaker 12: it's maybe a red flag.
Speaker 3: I would say, a bit possessive.
Speaker 12: I think in the beginning I'd be cool with.
Speaker 9: It, and then maybe later on in the relationship, I'd
Speaker 9: be like, all right, come on, I need to turn
Speaker 9: to Yeah.
Speaker 2: I feel that I feel like for me, I don't
Speaker 2: mind being driven, Like if someone is like in their
Speaker 2: car and they want to drive me around. Absolutely, I
Speaker 2: get it, but I do love driving everywhere. And if
Speaker 2: someone is like, I'll take the keys of your car,
Speaker 2: I'd be like, no, bitch, I'm the same way.
Speaker 3: No, no, I'm such a terrible backseat driver. You do
Speaker 3: not want me as a passenger.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no Noita is going to tell you exactly
Speaker 4: where to go.
Speaker 3: Ohh, which free were you're going to take?
Speaker 1: Noted? Okay, what's your writer guy situation?
Speaker 4: Here's the next one, and it's a classic Would you
Speaker 4: ride or die if your partner wants to you haul
Speaker 4: within the first month?
Speaker 6: Die?
Speaker 3: I die?
Speaker 1: I did it once? Never again?
Speaker 3: How about it? Dana?
Speaker 9: Yeah, from past experience, I'm gonna have to say no, no, Yeah.
Speaker 2: It's a big die. Yeah, thank you Dana. What about
Speaker 2: you and Nico?
Speaker 8: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I just have to retort with another question, why explore
Speaker 5: some more and a little on the tef in side,
Speaker 5: It wouldn't be enthused because you know, there's a lot
Speaker 5: of things about our personalities that might need to just
Speaker 5: like flesh out more than a month can provide, so a.
Speaker 3: Little more friendship and less moving in onis.
Speaker 1: So what about you? You write or die?
Speaker 11: Can I just say, see, maybe it just depends because
Speaker 11: some people, you know what I mean, you meet them
Speaker 11: right away and you have that passion and you could
Speaker 11: be with that person forever. I have heard of those stories.
Speaker 11: And then there's some people that know you should never
Speaker 11: move with them.
Speaker 3: So agreed.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I'm gonna say maybe, depending on the person, depending
Speaker 11: on the passion level.
Speaker 4: Maybe you're here, Yeah, here of couples that move in
Speaker 4: right away and they're totally happy.
Speaker 3: For the rest of their lives. And uh, I don't know.
Speaker 4: I didn't happened to me, so I know it's just
Speaker 4: seldom far and few in between.
Speaker 1: Another writer die, Would you write or die? If they
Speaker 1: are besties with their ex?
Speaker 2: Start us off, Dana? Are you are you down to
Speaker 2: write or die with the ex?
Speaker 9: I cannot pass judgment because I am so Yeah, let's
Speaker 9: do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, right to the sunset with our axes.
Speaker 1: And we can all grab dinner together. Absolutely exactly. Hell yeah,
Speaker 1: honest pain.
Speaker 3: The exit on X.
Speaker 1: What are your thoughts?
Speaker 11: I mean literally what Dana just said, It's like being
Speaker 11: sophig in La is kind of like, who are you
Speaker 11: not going to date that's not friends with their exes.
Speaker 12: It's kind of par for the course.
Speaker 11: So it would definitely be a ride because they all
Speaker 11: are they're all friends with their exes.
Speaker 6: Indeed, every single one of them.
Speaker 1: Indeed, indeed, indeed, what about you, Nigo.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I echo the room if you like them for
Speaker 5: the reason. So it didn't work out, but I'm still
Speaker 5: down with my exes, So that's what's up. It's actually
Speaker 5: like a plus if they still have a really relationship
Speaker 5: with the X.
Speaker 3: I know how sweet is so different generations altogether.
Speaker 2: I mean I had an ex that came to this
Speaker 2: episode of My Phone them like cutie. So you know
Speaker 2: that's how it rolls, you know, it's how the cookie
Speaker 2: crumbles in this new generation.
Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, I was like.
Speaker 2: What's up, X, Let's find you a contestant that's gonna
Speaker 2: align with you since we've known each other were quite
Speaker 2: a bit.
Speaker 3: Well, we should all get on those scooters and go
Speaker 3: to the beach.
Speaker 2: Then absolutely absolutely should we play our next game?
Speaker 3: Yes, let's do it. Are you ready, ladies?
Speaker 1: So our next.
Speaker 2: Game is inspired by a little bit of old school romance,
Speaker 2: you know, doors being opened, dad's being paid for.
Speaker 1: I am talking about chivalry.
Speaker 3: A little chivalry goes a long way.
Speaker 2: I agree, I agree, And you know, chivalry doesn't have
Speaker 2: to look like opening doors or paying for the dates.
Speaker 2: Sometimes chivery can be like, hey, you're tired, don't worry
Speaker 2: about it, I'll top you tonight.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like it can look you
Speaker 1: know different.
Speaker 2: So for this game of chivalry is alive and thriving,
Speaker 2: I'm going to ask you all to give us the
Speaker 2: top three things that are chivalrous to you, and the
Speaker 2: more specific, the better.
Speaker 1: NKO. How you feeling, Do you have your top three?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 5: So, I guess I like to receive chivalrous gestures if
Speaker 5: they kind of anticipated some needs, if there was some
Speaker 5: thought on, like where we can get some nibbles and
Speaker 5: some SIPs, or just something to kind of qualm those
Speaker 5: things that might make one kind of you know, frazzled
Speaker 5: or unlike themselves to kind of ground and center would
Speaker 5: be nice.
Speaker 11: I like something.
Speaker 5: I mean, they can curate like a nice like song
Speaker 5: or a vibe when we like hang out that always
Speaker 5: kind of aligns as well. That's quite nice. And I
Speaker 5: love to take pause for like any changes of I
Speaker 5: don't know, like a good sunset or a sunrise. So
Speaker 5: I think just like change you up the sky because
Speaker 5: like pause for that too.
Speaker 2: Ooh, I love that word, like pause for just witnessing
Speaker 2: nature and it's beauty into it.
Speaker 1: Dana, what are your top three chivalrous acts.
Speaker 9: I'm gonna echo a few of them, but I do
Speaker 9: not like to cook. So if anyone is going to
Speaker 9: step up and just take care of that, I am
Speaker 9: all about it.
Speaker 10: Yeah.
Speaker 9: In the past, I've had someone who has like planned,
Speaker 9: you know, after like a long day of work or
Speaker 9: you know, had going through a rough time or whatever,
Speaker 9: it would be just take a day and they've had
Speaker 9: everything planned out for it. Oh, then the last one
Speaker 9: would be I mean I'm a piscey, so yeah, a
Speaker 9: nice evening of like massage and raking and.
Speaker 1: No do you hear raking in there? That was cute?
Speaker 3: Yes, I did. Adorable.
Speaker 12: It is essential, you know.
Speaker 2: Yes, like somatic practices. Absolutely listen here for that. Absolutely
Speaker 2: on what about you?
Speaker 11: I really like fresh flowers, so that's always nice. And
Speaker 11: also something like thought provoking, like anything like, oh, I
Speaker 11: just planned this little insignificant picnic, you know what I
Speaker 11: mean at the park, or I just made this peanut
Speaker 11: butter jelly saliches and we have joints and we're looking
Speaker 11: at the sunset at the beach.
Speaker 6: It doesn't even have to be that big, but or
Speaker 6: it could be really expensive too. Whatever.
Speaker 11: But then, last but not least, I like it when
Speaker 11: people have a backbone, which means that there's some weird
Speaker 11: altercation or something.
Speaker 6: You know, because we do.
Speaker 11: Live in la if somebody tries to mess with us,
Speaker 11: we both try to get the person instead of one
Speaker 11: person being scared like so it's really sexy to me
Speaker 11: if somebody stands up and actually tries to protect me
Speaker 11: because I'm gonna protect them too.
Speaker 6: We both don't do it, but that's hot to me.
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh my gosh, I'm obsessed.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we definitely have hope that chivalry is alive and thriving.
Speaker 2: But speaking of chivalry, unfortunately we have to do something.
Speaker 8: Less polite, which is that we need to say goodbye
Speaker 8: to one person before the next round.
Speaker 3: So with that said, yes, take it away, don't hate
Speaker 3: me for it.
Speaker 4: You are all great, beautiful, talented individual but we do
Speaker 4: have to match a little bit more of the people
Speaker 4: who our main data has things in common with. For
Speaker 4: that reason, today, the person that is not moving forward.
Speaker 1: Isonics thank you so much for being with us.
Speaker 6: Yeah, thank you for having me.
Speaker 13: Bye, y'all, bye, We'll be back after the break. Welcome
Speaker 13: back today, my Hourily the first.
Speaker 2: Well, congratulations to our final two contestants.
Speaker 1: This is a time where we would.
Speaker 2: Like to give you an opportunity to dive deeper, be
Speaker 2: more intimate with one on one's caf that I'm gonna
Speaker 2: step out so that hourly then you have that deep
Speaker 2: dive into much more intimate questions. So Nico, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: hand you over for a little cafes lead that holy.
Speaker 3: Lead, that empty How are you, my love?
Speaker 6: Oh good?
Speaker 4: Let's talk a little bit about Nico's love life? What
Speaker 4: is that about these days?
Speaker 3: My love life?
Speaker 1: These days?
Speaker 5: Well, just move back to Los Angeles after I think
Speaker 5: twenty years or so and only been here for two
Speaker 5: months so far, so kind of just living presently and
Speaker 5: having fun and hoping to meet people like to spend
Speaker 5: time with along the way.
Speaker 4: Well, talk to me about two months prior, where were
Speaker 4: you and did you have a relationship during that time
Speaker 4: and what happened before that?
Speaker 5: I was actually living in Bosa, Montana. Now I was
Speaker 5: spending some time with my sister for a while just
Speaker 5: quite nice, and then before that was living in Savannah, Georgia.
Speaker 5: There I had a relationship for a while and we
Speaker 5: just have like different versions of what we imagine life
Speaker 5: to be like in our coming future. So we're both
Speaker 5: on our different journeys.
Speaker 4: What was your version? What did you want in that
Speaker 4: relationship that you were not getting?
Speaker 5: I'm a bit on like thinking about fertility as that
Speaker 5: kind of comes up in like being thirty nine years old,
Speaker 5: so it's like something I want to grapple with and
Speaker 5: kind of want a partner that's down with juggling that
Speaker 5: at some point.
Speaker 12: But also I know, like.
Speaker 5: Fertility timeline and like real relationship timeline sometimes like fall
Speaker 5: on different in paces. So currently just also down to
Speaker 5: connect and you know, meet people along the way and
Speaker 5: see if that's a shared path or there's different versions
Speaker 5: of having really great connections and like intimacy too.
Speaker 3: Would you like to get married?
Speaker 5: I mean, if it works out, great, but I don't
Speaker 5: think it's my end all be all.
Speaker 4: I guess now, do you have a specific communication style
Speaker 4: that you would like your partner to share with you.
Speaker 5: I'm like more of a monerable communicator, but that's something
Speaker 5: I've definitely been honing in and doing a lot better
Speaker 5: these days, that's for sure.
Speaker 4: And so it would be nice if your partner communicates
Speaker 4: a little bit more and then you'd be joining in.
Speaker 5: Yeah, communication, but also like with the era of some
Speaker 5: like intuitive communication too, and sometimes like things always don't
Speaker 5: come out well with the words, so you know, that's
Speaker 5: like one of the ways, but not to discount other
Speaker 5: ways of communicating to So.
Speaker 4: You have a day off and you're both free, how
Speaker 4: do you spend that wonderful day?
Speaker 3: Do you just get up and go and say, let's
Speaker 3: do something? What do you do? What do you do?
Speaker 5: I think it depends on how the context has been.
Speaker 5: Like if it's a day we just need to chill,
Speaker 5: it would be really nice just to sleep in because
Speaker 5: it is such a luxury.
Speaker 3: To not rush too much.
Speaker 5: Right, I think current situation of having the best day
Speaker 5: ever would be to have no set plan, the lots
Speaker 5: of creations of like literally delightful things, and probably like
Speaker 5: pack a little bag with all the with all the
Speaker 5: tricks in the treats so we can kind of just
Speaker 5: see where heart takes us.
Speaker 3: I love that.
Speaker 2: Sorry to interrupt, but there is another piping cup of
Speaker 2: guff see the waiting for you. Thank you so much, Nico, Dana, Dana,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna hand.
Speaker 1: You over for a little hot cup of guff.
Speaker 3: Take it away. Oh let me Dana. How are you good?
Speaker 12: How are you?
Speaker 4: I am doing really well. Thank you for being with us.
Speaker 4: But I'm going to ask you a little personal question.
Speaker 3: Now. Talk to me about your love life in the
Speaker 3: past year or two.
Speaker 9: So I actually have been single for the last year,
Speaker 9: which is the longest I've been single. It was kind
Speaker 9: of intentional. I have been doing the last year a
Speaker 9: lot of self discovery, self work, which has been great,
Speaker 9: like a lot of therapy. For some reason, I have
Speaker 9: like this three year mark, so the last few relationships,
Speaker 9: it's been like three three and a half years.
Speaker 3: Is that something you would doing intentionally?
Speaker 9: I think my problem is when I do kind of
Speaker 9: see red flags, I really really want to make it work,
Speaker 9: so I put in the effort.
Speaker 12: I think it's kind of coincidental that it just kind
Speaker 12: of seems to be three years now.
Speaker 4: You mentioned you would see those red flags and then
Speaker 4: you would try harder to work on the relationship.
Speaker 3: What do you think that is and how have you
Speaker 3: handled that?
Speaker 9: Probably just from growing up in any household where you know,
Speaker 9: my parents that are not together, and it wasn't always
Speaker 9: the greatest, but I've always wanted, you know, a relationship.
Speaker 9: I want partnership, and I really wanted to work. So
Speaker 9: I feel like, I don't know, you know, it's like
Speaker 9: seeing those signs, it's I kind of give people full
Speaker 9: the benefit of the doubt, right and it's like, we're.
Speaker 12: Going to work through this.
Speaker 9: And then I think that has been a lot of
Speaker 9: the work too, just realizing that you can't make excuses
Speaker 9: for other people, Like people will show you who they
Speaker 9: truly are and you have to take it for what
Speaker 9: it is, and that's okay. You know, forcing something is
Speaker 9: eventually it's gonna come out in the end. You know,
Speaker 9: you can't fake it until you make it. You know,
Speaker 9: in a relationship, a.
Speaker 4: Lot of people do, Now, what are these beautiful green
Speaker 4: flags that are coming your way with a new relationship?
Speaker 3: What are they? What do you want to.
Speaker 9: See someone who is I think emotionally mature. I have
Speaker 9: big feelings and I have a lot of emotions, and
Speaker 9: I love, love, love, love to connect with people who
Speaker 9: are the same and can go deep. But there's a
Speaker 9: difference between having a lot of emotions and feelings and
Speaker 9: feeling them and then not being able to like regulate
Speaker 9: and you know self sooth. I think that's really important
Speaker 9: to me, is like you can have all that, but
Speaker 9: you need to know how you don't just dun't on
Speaker 9: your partner.
Speaker 3: Right, How do you handle conflict? I know we don't
Speaker 3: want it, but if it happens, what do you do?
Speaker 9: A lot of the times I'll take a bet. I
Speaker 9: have learned from the past, and the way that I
Speaker 9: can react is if you just react immediately to your
Speaker 9: emotion when something comes up, it's usually not the.
Speaker 3: Best reaction or response, right, So.
Speaker 9: Taking a minute to sit with it. And also like
Speaker 9: if it's something like bigger that feels treadering, taking a moment,
Speaker 9: why is it?
Speaker 12: Is it this situation that is really triggering me?
Speaker 6: Or is there.
Speaker 3: Right something else behind the memory of another one? Yeah?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, where you've been which is very hard to
Speaker 4: leave just everything behind. Well, I really hope that by
Speaker 4: the end of the show we are able to connect
Speaker 4: that main data with one of you two.
Speaker 3: And thank you for your answers.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, thank you so much, Dana Elena. These were very
Speaker 1: successful one on one Facto they are you feeling closer
Speaker 1: to knowing?
Speaker 9: Yeah?
Speaker 2: You Yeah, beautiful, beautiful Nico, welcome back, a wilda.
Speaker 1: I think we might have to share one more secret.
Speaker 3: Oh is that time again?
Speaker 2: So our main dater has actually been undercover this whole time,
Speaker 2: listening in since the very beginning.
Speaker 3: Checking.
Speaker 2: Indeed, Alida might have an idea of who she likes.
Speaker 2: But let's see if we have a unanimous decision. So
Speaker 2: muchis Grasies. We're gonna ask you for a quick exit
Speaker 2: and we'll bring back our main contestant.
Speaker 1: Well, amazing Alida.
Speaker 2: I think we might have a unanimous decision on this one.
Speaker 2: So we're all leaning on Dana.
Speaker 3: We're all leaning on you.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think my Sonia is also leaning Yeah,
Speaker 4: is that correct?
Speaker 6: You know what?
Speaker 7: I was definitely fifty to fifty pretty much. Maybe a
Speaker 7: little bit more tournis Dana, but that Nico is thinking
Speaker 7: about children when there's no way that I want a
Speaker 7: baby in my life other than a grand baby.
Speaker 6: Ye, and she said that was a deal breaker for
Speaker 6: her last relationship.
Speaker 3: So god, you know what.
Speaker 4: Also, I don't know if you've been taking notes, but
Speaker 4: if you heard the bios that Vico is reading at
Speaker 4: the beginning.
Speaker 3: She really does have a lot of things in common
Speaker 3: with you.
Speaker 7: The spirituality she's done, the therapy. She seems mature. My
Speaker 7: only thing is she is she wild enough for me?
Speaker 7: Or can she have my wildness?
Speaker 3: Well, hey, you can share and teach. But also remember
Speaker 3: Dana does not cook.
Speaker 6: I don't cook either. I guess we eat out all
Speaker 6: the time.
Speaker 1: Nico is such a cutie.
Speaker 2: I can just see Nico wearing elf ears and being
Speaker 2: a doctor.
Speaker 1: Nymph.
Speaker 2: Uh, very smart, such a such a cutie is so smart,
Speaker 2: so intellectual, very thoughtful.
Speaker 1: As well with her words.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I think ultimately that emotional attunement that Dana
Speaker 2: gave was the one that like won.
Speaker 3: All of our hearts.
Speaker 4: Yes, so, I think at one point though, Nico is
Speaker 4: just such an amazing individual and would be a great
Speaker 4: friend to our main data. Eventually they would go in
Speaker 4: different ways correct, Yes, so different paths.
Speaker 3: But I think we have made our decision and we
Speaker 3: sure we're gonna enjoy it.
Speaker 8: All right, let's bring in the contestants. Welcome back, Welcome back.
Speaker 2: The jury has a verdict, Yes, we do, and I
Speaker 2: will leave that are ready, Yeah, go for it?
Speaker 4: Well, you are both incredible ladies. But the one who
Speaker 4: actually was a little bit closer to our main data
Speaker 4: and how they see live, and for that reason, the
Speaker 4: one meeting our main dat today is Dana.
Speaker 2: Congratulations Dana and Nico, my goodness, you are so sweet,
Speaker 2: so kind. I don't know if you're fantasy nerd, but
Speaker 2: if you ever wear el fears, let me know, because
Speaker 2: I think that will look so great on you, because
Speaker 2: I also wear el fears, like.
Speaker 5: I skipted some once upon a time.
Speaker 3: I think I still have them and I'm back.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, well, thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to LA. I know you mentioned you just
Speaker 2: moved here, so welcome. Congrats on the move and hopefully
Speaker 2: we'll see you soon.
Speaker 3: Yes, and much success and all you do here.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, thank you, Thank you. Dana. Congratulations. How are you feeling?
Speaker 12: I feel wonderful, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Beautiful, amazing.
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, without further Ado, let's go ahead and
Speaker 2: meet the main dater, Sonia, come.
Speaker 1: Ahead and turn on your camera and meet Dana. Sonia.
Speaker 1: First impressions on Dana.
Speaker 3: I think she's cute, Yes, I love it.
Speaker 1: Dana. First impressions on Sonia same same, Yes, Oh, God's amazing.
Speaker 7: I think Dana, you are an attractive lady, but I
Speaker 7: have to tell you, in being a spy and listening,
Speaker 7: you're a lot of what I'm looking for. I love
Speaker 7: how you speak about emotional maturity and how you're doing
Speaker 7: work on yourself and how you purposely took time to
Speaker 7: be single.
Speaker 6: That's exactly what I've been doing.
Speaker 7: So I think we have a lot of common in that,
Speaker 7: and I'm excited to get to know anymore.
Speaker 4: Yes, amazing each of you, and please enjoy the ride.
Speaker 3: Have fun. Oh I love it beautiful.
Speaker 2: Now we're going to send our condescens away for a
Speaker 2: little virtual day to have fun.
Speaker 7: Yeah, Coyotes, I know probably more about you than you
Speaker 7: know about me.
Speaker 6: So is there anything that you want to ask me?
Speaker 12: Yeah? Like what do you do and where are you from? Originally?
Speaker 7: I'm born and raised in La in a little city
Speaker 7: called Alhambra.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I like to ride bi, I love to ride my bikey.
Speaker 12: Yeah.
Speaker 6: I love sports. Have you heard of Angels City Football Club? Yes?
Speaker 7: Absolutely, I'm a season ticket holder there, so I was
Speaker 7: just there on Sunday.
Speaker 6: I just picked up pick a ball.
Speaker 12: Yeah.
Speaker 7: I like to try new things. I'm really looking for
Speaker 7: someone that's emotionally mature. I think that's why you got selected.
Speaker 7: Some of your answers were almost I could have said
Speaker 7: the exact same thing. I take my time in dating.
Speaker 7: I want to get to know people as friends. I
Speaker 7: want a friendship. I'm not a ue hauler, not at
Speaker 7: all good. What about you?
Speaker 6: What do you like to do?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 12: Pick a ball. I love that you're started.
Speaker 6: I'm a newbie. You got to teach me.
Speaker 12: Yes, I would love to. I try to get everyone
Speaker 12: into it. It's kind of so get ready.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, I only I only started like a week ago,
Speaker 7: and already I'm going on Saturday.
Speaker 12: Oh yeah, it's so good.
Speaker 9: It's such a like anyone can play and you see
Speaker 9: no joke, like your improvement, and if it gets exciting,
Speaker 9: you're like, this is amazing.
Speaker 6: I already fell my first time I went. You know
Speaker 6: my mind.
Speaker 7: I don't know if you've heard of my bio, but
Speaker 7: I think I'm twelve years old.
Speaker 6: I'm a little older. How old are you?
Speaker 7: I'm forty three, all right, I'm fifty five, okay, so
Speaker 7: but in my head, i'm twelve. Like I'm the youngest
Speaker 7: fifty five person you'll ever meet. Like I'm young at heart.
Speaker 7: I have friends all different ages, so same.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 7: And I love that you're into spirituality and meditation and
Speaker 7: all of that, because I told the ladies that that's
Speaker 7: that's important to me. I don't mind introducing people that
Speaker 7: I meet into that kind of stuff, but it's so much.
Speaker 6: Better when they already know about it and.
Speaker 7: Practice it, and you know, I think it makes a
Speaker 7: difference in how you handle things.
Speaker 12: Yes, agreed totally.
Speaker 7: How you talked about working on yourself just really hit
Speaker 7: with me, and I thought, Hi, I can go to
Speaker 7: sound bath with her, you know, and then we can
Speaker 7: go to pick a ball and then we have a
Speaker 7: pretty pool, you know, like you know. The only thing
Speaker 7: that I have to say was a negative for you, Dana. Right,
Speaker 7: we're gonna have an issue. I don't cook either, No, No,
Speaker 7: we won't. I am very good at going out to eat.
Speaker 7: And there's a million wonderful restaurants.
Speaker 5: In Long Beat.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 1: Wow, wow, wow.
Speaker 2: I hope those sweeties headed off. Find us back here
Speaker 2: next week as Leanna and I make some more matches.
Speaker 3: Good work today, Oh, we did good. I like what
Speaker 3: I'm looking at date my ali.
Speaker 2: The first is a production from WV Sound and iHeart
Speaker 2: Media's Michaultura podcast network hosted by me Vico Ortiz, joined
Speaker 2: by the fabulous Lenna Montenegro bait My Auri. The first
Speaker 2: is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel and Sophie Spencer Zavos.
Speaker 2: Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama, Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel.
Speaker 2: W V Sound This This episode was edited by Sean
Speaker 2: Tracy and Sophie Spencer Zavos and features original music.
Speaker 1: By Alva Morello and gave Lopez.
Speaker 2: Special thanks to our team of cubits at WV Entertainment.
Speaker 1: Special Things.
Speaker 2: Also to our hopeful romantics this week, Sonia, Onyx, Dana
Speaker 2: and Nico. Additional thanks to Assault and Lime Media. See
Speaker 2: you next week and in the meantime, don't do anything
Speaker 2: a Wilita wouldn't do.
Speaker 3: Just do it better, okay, Besitos