WEBVTT - Sonia: Chivalry Isn’t Dead, Is It?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, Wlita.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you ever heard of a motto honey, or a

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<v Speaker 2>motto mummy or a moto puppy?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, like, have you ever been a thrill chaser?

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<v Speaker 3>Totally?

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<v Speaker 4>It started when I was three years old with my daddy.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, you would take me in the front

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<v Speaker 4>of his motorcycle.

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<v Speaker 3>I was so thrilled.

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<v Speaker 4>Of course, Then when men came around, yeah, I would

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<v Speaker 4>a little leather hear, a little spanky there, I mean

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<v Speaker 4>on the chair, and oh, if.

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<v Speaker 3>You can picture it, I'm good.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I want to say, unfortunately I can

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<v Speaker 2>picture it.

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<v Speaker 3>But but have you been a biker boy.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I'm more of a scooter sized guy, a little cutie,

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<v Speaker 2>a little noodle cutie, more scooter, you know, razor scooter.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like my left leg in there and just

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<v Speaker 2>like zoom through the neighborhood.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's where I stayed.

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<v Speaker 2>After that, I didn't graduate to a much more thrill

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<v Speaker 2>seeking adventure. I scream a little bit when I'm gon vespa, but.

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<v Speaker 3>That's still exciting on two wheels.

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<v Speaker 5>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>I actually love vespas. Yeah, they're they're.

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<v Speaker 1>Great welcome listeners. This is date my a Wilita.

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<v Speaker 2>First, I am your host the Vico or Thiefs, joined

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<v Speaker 2>by the multi talented A Wilita Liliana Monte. She's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>sort through three lovelorn contestants before sending one of them

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<v Speaker 2>off on a one on one date with our star dater.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I'm so excited. Let's meet our main dater this week.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you think? I think she will be my favorite?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you always say that, Liliana? It sounds good because

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<v Speaker 3>they are all perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right, that's me.

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<v Speaker 3>Who am I helping with love today?

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<v Speaker 2>Our main dater this week is Sonia. Sonia is truly

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<v Speaker 2>young at heart, she says. All the younger lesbians hit

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<v Speaker 2>on her at the bars. Sonia lives in Long Beach

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<v Speaker 2>and loves riding her bike and even meets up with

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<v Speaker 2>a group of lesbians who ride on Sundays and call

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<v Speaker 2>themselves the Lesbian Little Rascals.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, wow, I want to meet these little rascals.

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<v Speaker 2>Sonia is looking for her forever and is trying to

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<v Speaker 2>really take her time to acknowledge red flags. Oh, that

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<v Speaker 2>is a tough one to go through.

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<v Speaker 4>There's always a few of them out there always.

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<v Speaker 2>She is looking for emotionally mature women and sees meditation,

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<v Speaker 2>spirituality in being able to communicate when something is not

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<v Speaker 2>going well as an indicator of emotional maturity.

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<v Speaker 1>Hells, yes, we love to hear that she is.

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<v Speaker 2>Old school and the way that she will pay for

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<v Speaker 2>the date will open the door.

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<v Speaker 1>And considers herself a gentle woman.

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<v Speaker 2>Sonia's love language is quality time and for someone to

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<v Speaker 2>woo Sonia, they should notice the little things.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, pay attention out there.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, So what do you say?

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<v Speaker 2>Should we find Sonya someone who can pay attention to

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<v Speaker 2>the details and go on a ride with her.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, let's do it.

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<v Speaker 1>So yes, welcome Sonya, come on, hello, Hello, Hi? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you doing so good to see you? We're so excited

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<v Speaker 1>to get to know you.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>You said you're looking for your forever.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I am and really trying to make time to

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<v Speaker 2>acknowledge red flags.

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<v Speaker 1>What does that look like for you?

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<v Speaker 6>You know what? I'm just gonna be honest.

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<v Speaker 7>I no longer like try and be intimate with anyone

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<v Speaker 7>immediately because that can blind me.

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<v Speaker 4>To to yes, little blinder song, they come on immediately.

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<v Speaker 6>I've never been married. I would like to be married.

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<v Speaker 7>So I'm really taking my time in building a friendship

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<v Speaker 7>and finding someone who's compatible with me and emotionally mature.

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<v Speaker 3>Mm mmmmm mmm mmm what you're going to know now?

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<v Speaker 4>You said you're looking for an emotionally mature woman, So

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<v Speaker 4>please tell me what are the characteristics for you that

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<v Speaker 4>make up an emotionally mature woman.

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<v Speaker 7>You know one of my favorite sayings that I'm a

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<v Speaker 7>lady of many sayings, is a relationship success isn't determined

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<v Speaker 7>on how well you get along. I actually get along

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<v Speaker 7>well with a lot of people. It's how well you disagree,

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<v Speaker 7>and that, for me, is an indicator if we can

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<v Speaker 7>go the next step. Once you have that disagreement, how

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<v Speaker 7>do you process what you're feeling?

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<v Speaker 6>Do you emotionally shut down?

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<v Speaker 7>Which you know some people need their time to process

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<v Speaker 7>what they're going through.

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<v Speaker 6>But explain that to me.

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<v Speaker 7>You know, I need some time to think and then

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<v Speaker 7>I can come back to you and conversate. But to

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<v Speaker 7>shut down and then never discuss it again, which I

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<v Speaker 7>find so many women do. They talk, and then no

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<v Speaker 7>one talks about the actual issue until it comes up again.

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<v Speaker 7>So I'm no longer going to deal with that type

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<v Speaker 7>of madness. I want to see how people process when

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<v Speaker 7>they're angry. You know, I'm not the type that's going

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<v Speaker 7>to tolerate any type of drama, so to speak. That's

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<v Speaker 7>why I think spirituality is important. Someone who knows about meditation,

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<v Speaker 7>who really has done some healing, who's really explored themselves,

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<v Speaker 7>then I don't have to worry that they may not

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<v Speaker 7>know how to have a difficult conversation with me, because

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<v Speaker 7>they're going to be aware of where they're coming from.

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<v Speaker 7>All I can do is be aware of where I'm

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<v Speaker 7>coming from and be honest with my feelings and take

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<v Speaker 7>into consideration their feelings.

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<v Speaker 6>And work through it.

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<v Speaker 7>It's not always about being right, it's about coming to

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<v Speaker 7>an agreement, a solution, so to speak.

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<v Speaker 6>So that's why to me, spirituality.

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<v Speaker 7>However that looks to them because that's such a broad term,

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<v Speaker 7>But I need to know they know how to do

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<v Speaker 7>the work when they're angry, when they're emotional.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, I need someone mature.

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<v Speaker 4>Now, Sonia us old school gals have to stick together.

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<v Speaker 3>So what does chivalry mean to you?

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<v Speaker 7>Chivalry means to me, And it doesn't have to be

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<v Speaker 7>a male or female.

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<v Speaker 6>It obviously can be both.

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<v Speaker 7>It's opening the door or it's you know, I pay

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<v Speaker 7>for most of the dates, but you know, on the flip.

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<v Speaker 3>Wait, when are we going to dinner?

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<v Speaker 5>Wait?

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<v Speaker 7>Wait on the flip with my partner to maybe cook

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<v Speaker 7>for me or take me out sometimes. But I am

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<v Speaker 7>that one that's gonna be thoughtful. I'm gonna make the

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<v Speaker 7>coffee for you in the morning. I'm gonna, you know,

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<v Speaker 7>make sure your towels warm when you get out of

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<v Speaker 7>the shower. I'm really dorky that way, and I just

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<v Speaker 7>want to take care of my person a warm towel.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you say acts of service is one of your

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<v Speaker 2>love languages?

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<v Speaker 6>I absolutely am acts of service.

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<v Speaker 1>What other love language do you like to receive?

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<v Speaker 7>I love quality time, and that's another thing with dating

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<v Speaker 7>at my age. My son is an adult now, so

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<v Speaker 7>I do help take care of my mom, my elderly mom,

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<v Speaker 7>but I still have quite a bit of time. And

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<v Speaker 7>of course I have a lot of friends, but I

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<v Speaker 7>don't want to spend all my time with my friends

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<v Speaker 7>no more. I love my friends are always going to

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<v Speaker 7>be there. I want my person and I want someone

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<v Speaker 7>that ask time to be there, live life together.

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<v Speaker 6>That's what I'm looking for. So I'm going to go

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<v Speaker 6>on this journey with me.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 4>I know that you grew up in the LA Area, correct, yes,

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<v Speaker 4>and that you have a lot of friends from childhood.

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<v Speaker 4>That that was the hardest people to come out to

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<v Speaker 4>explain that to me.

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<v Speaker 7>Why even harder than my parents was coming out to

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<v Speaker 7>my best friends. Because they're a couple, a man and

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<v Speaker 7>a woman. I introduced them in high school. They have

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<v Speaker 7>been together thirty million years together. He is my friend

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<v Speaker 7>since we were like three and four years old. And

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<v Speaker 7>he's a macho construction man, old school I mean, but

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<v Speaker 7>he's a good guy. He's my best friend. Of course,

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<v Speaker 7>his heart is amazing. But they knew and told me

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<v Speaker 7>before I came out to them. So I was living

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<v Speaker 7>with my first partner, my baby mama. To them, she

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<v Speaker 7>was my best friend roommate, and we went out one

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<v Speaker 7>night and me and her were having a discussion of

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<v Speaker 7>where we left the money or the wallet or something,

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<v Speaker 7>and I guess she overheard it and she wrote me

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<v Speaker 7>a letter. My best friend wrote me a letter and

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<v Speaker 7>basically said that she knew I was gay and that

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<v Speaker 7>you know, it's okay, and and part of it was

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<v Speaker 7>she's very funny. Part of it was how come you

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<v Speaker 7>never hit on me? But that it was all good.

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<v Speaker 7>And I remember thinking, how dumb was I? You know

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<v Speaker 7>how dumb was I.

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<v Speaker 6>Of course they loved me for who I am.

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<v Speaker 7>And at work, it too was a little difficult because

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<v Speaker 7>so many people knew me as straight. And then the

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<v Speaker 7>woman I came out with, she also was straight from work,

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<v Speaker 7>so that was challenging.

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<v Speaker 3>Sonia.

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<v Speaker 4>Of course they knew you from a lifetime, so of

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<v Speaker 4>course they knew they were just waiting for you.

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<v Speaker 3>But what was that fear of telling them?

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<v Speaker 7>I guess I thought they may not be part of

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<v Speaker 7>my life anymore, or that they would judge me.

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<v Speaker 6>I guess I knew that they wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 7>It's just I was just gonna play dumb because I

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<v Speaker 7>was out everywhere else. I just wasn't out with them.

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<v Speaker 7>And to this day I have that letter. It's pretty funny.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I love that. I want to know about more

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<v Speaker 2>about your relationships. What have you learned from your long

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<v Speaker 2>term relationships? What are some things that you are like? Oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I love that, and I want to see that in

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<v Speaker 2>a future partnership. And what are some things that you're like?

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<v Speaker 8>You know what?

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<v Speaker 2>I see this as a pattern, and I don't want

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<v Speaker 2>to see that anymore.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm pretty good with most of my exes.

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<v Speaker 7>I consider myself to really only have three three nine

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<v Speaker 7>year relationships. That's kind of my point, but I no

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<v Speaker 7>longer want it to be my point. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 7>say two of them I probably should have left after

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<v Speaker 7>year three, but we want to talk about that. What

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<v Speaker 7>I did learn is I'm no longer accepting really bad

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<v Speaker 7>behavior just because.

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<v Speaker 6>I love them.

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<v Speaker 7>You know what I learned. I want to date someone

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<v Speaker 7>that really doesn't heavily drink. That's what I've learned out

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<v Speaker 7>of most of my relationships. Someone that heavily drinks. I

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<v Speaker 7>think that that's okay. You know, you go out and

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<v Speaker 7>party here and there, but some of the drinks a lot.

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<v Speaker 7>You know, when you argue, it gets different, it's challenging.

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<v Speaker 7>I'm past all that, So that's one thing that I've learned,

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<v Speaker 7>and just really take my time and build a friendship.

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<v Speaker 7>Because the one relationship that I speak of, you know,

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<v Speaker 7>we took our time. Before we became girlfriends. We were

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<v Speaker 7>seeing each other for quite some time. In fact, we

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<v Speaker 7>were both not wanting a relationship, so we were just

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<v Speaker 7>kind of seeing each other and then kind of fell

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<v Speaker 7>in love.

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<v Speaker 6>So, you know what, I love my friends.

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<v Speaker 7>I wish I could find someone like all my friendships

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<v Speaker 7>but that extra step and being my partner.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, that's what I'm looking looking for a best friend.

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<v Speaker 1>Beautiful, And now tell us about these little rascals. What's

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<v Speaker 1>up with this biker dyke group. I'm so interned.

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<v Speaker 6>I see you're a youngin.

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<v Speaker 7>I know that are actually a little group of It

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<v Speaker 7>was a TV show.

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<v Speaker 3>It was a little group of friends.

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<v Speaker 7>A little group of friends, and there was no adults

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<v Speaker 7>in that show. It was like in the eighties or seventies.

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<v Speaker 3>Seventies, seventies, right, and.

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<v Speaker 7>They had no adults in the show. And these kids

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<v Speaker 7>just had fun. There were brown ones, black ones, fat ones.

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<v Speaker 3>Guray or beautiful, funky.

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<v Speaker 7>Lucky ones and they were the best of friends with

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<v Speaker 7>their dog and they go on adventures. But when I

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<v Speaker 7>joined this group of local lesbians just to be more active,

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<v Speaker 7>they started doing a Sunday morning bike group and it

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<v Speaker 7>tended to be kind of the same women that would join.

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<v Speaker 7>So we built a friendship. We actually have a strong friendship.

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<v Speaker 7>There's probably about six or seven of us.

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<v Speaker 6>Some people show up here and there. But we decided to.

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<v Speaker 7>Call ourselves the Little Rascals because we talk about when

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<v Speaker 7>we ride our bicycles, not motorcycles, bicycles.

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<v Speaker 6>We feel like we're twelve years old. There's nothing like

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<v Speaker 6>that feeling.

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<v Speaker 9>You know.

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<v Speaker 7>I ride my bike a lot out here in Long

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<v Speaker 7>Beach and I just feel so young, so happy. There's

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<v Speaker 7>not a care in the world when I'm riding out

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<v Speaker 7>there and we go on adventures like we found a

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<v Speaker 7>hidden tunnels near the Queen Mary.

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<v Speaker 6>They were lesbian little rascals.

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<v Speaker 1>That's amazing, gorgeous.

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<v Speaker 4>Anything else you want to know, I know exactly what

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<v Speaker 4>you want. And let's hope that we can find someone

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<v Speaker 4>as special as you are.

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<v Speaker 3>Sonia.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, we are very very excited. Honestly, this is

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be so much fun.

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<v Speaker 2>So for now, just sit back, relax, and we will

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<v Speaker 2>bring you back after we play some games with these contestants.

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<v Speaker 2>So now let's bring in these gorgeous contestants.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, Malani

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<v Speaker 1>the first.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello, Hello, Hello.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, hello, darning.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's meet all of you.

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<v Speaker 2>First up, we have Onyx onx is looking for the

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<v Speaker 2>homey lover friend.

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<v Speaker 1>To go eat Taco's web.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's a perfect day.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 2>Onyx is what we like to call a top in

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<v Speaker 2>the streets, a bottom in the sheets. She likes to

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<v Speaker 2>be warned and dined a little bit and wants someone

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<v Speaker 2>to pursue her.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 10>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>She works as a stripper, actress, burlesque dancer, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>almost the.

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<v Speaker 2>Same, and organizes four twenty pop up markets. She's also

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<v Speaker 2>founded Artists Revolts, an organization that focuses on mutual aid

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<v Speaker 2>and harm reduction efforts in marginalized LA communities.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuck Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Onyx is California sober and loves the ocean, going to

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<v Speaker 2>the k Spot, eating Ethiopian food, and trying different restaurants.

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<v Speaker 2>She was born and raised in Long Beach and is

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<v Speaker 2>a true Long Beach baby, loving.

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<v Speaker 1>Sublime Snoop Dog, West Coast Hip Hop. Hello, welcome Onyx,

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<v Speaker 1>Bye y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>Next, we have a Dana, Dana You're gonna love.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a terrible pisces a sital the pis CC's placements.

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<v Speaker 2>Dana works as a jeweler metalsmither Hot and centers her

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<v Speaker 2>jewelry making practice around the metaphysical properties of the crystals.

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<v Speaker 1>She works with. Oh my gosh, mysterious.

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<v Speaker 2>Dana came to LA because of more opportunities in opening

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<v Speaker 2>her business and then met someone and while they broke up.

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<v Speaker 1>Eight years later, she is still here in LA.

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<v Speaker 2>In a perfect world, Dana would date someone who is

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<v Speaker 2>a bit edgy or alternative playful, but can also go

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<v Speaker 2>deep and talk spirituality. Dana likes to play pickleball, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>go to comedy shows, attend queer events in LA and

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<v Speaker 2>enjoy quality chill time. Welcome Dana. Finally we have Nico.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, today's episode must be the Revenge of

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<v Speaker 2>the Pisces because.

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<v Speaker 3>Nico is a pizy star.

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<v Speaker 1>Nico grew up in south central LA.

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<v Speaker 2>She is well traveled, living in Philadelphia for Underground, the

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<v Speaker 2>Philippines on a scholarship after college and the training for

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<v Speaker 2>her doctorate in Australia and New Orleans.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, that passport is a stamp.

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<v Speaker 2>Nko is passionate about adapting to life and different situations.

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<v Speaker 1>She works as a family doctor.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh.

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<v Speaker 2>She is looking for good companionship and always learns a

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<v Speaker 2>lot from partnership. Honestly, that is a good takeaway. She

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<v Speaker 2>is ready to date again after a year since her

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<v Speaker 2>last serious relationship and likes to be romanced by thoughtfulness,

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<v Speaker 2>share time, and surprises along the way.

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<v Speaker 3>That is so wow. It's incredibles, a lot of Pisces.

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<v Speaker 1>I am here for it.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, they're multi talented and creative, and it's a great lineup.

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<v Speaker 1>Is a great lineup is truly one of hard times.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't see a pisces for months.

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<v Speaker 1>That's true. That's true.

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<v Speaker 3>That's true.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're gonna let you in on a little secret

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<v Speaker 2>right off the bat, our main dater loves to ride

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<v Speaker 2>her bicycles, multiple bikes, and her scooter, so we need

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<v Speaker 2>to know if you can ride with her. Right we're

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<v Speaker 2>calling this game ride or die, playing.

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<v Speaker 1>Off the expression I'll ride or die for you.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to present different scenarios that might cause some

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<v Speaker 2>rent flags to pop up, and you'll let.

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<v Speaker 1>Us know if you're still down to ride with your

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<v Speaker 1>boo even given the situation.

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<v Speaker 2>So, for example, Leana, would you ride or die if

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<v Speaker 2>your boo calls you babe on the first date?

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 4>I will prefer it as a matter of fact, just

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<v Speaker 4>in case we die together, I go with someone's baby.

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<v Speaker 1>Duly noted. Anyway, that's the game.

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<v Speaker 10>So let's start off with would you ride or die

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<v Speaker 10>if your boo only wants you to be a passenger

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<v Speaker 10>and insists on driving everyone and I am including if

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<v Speaker 10>she wants to drive your own car, would you ride

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<v Speaker 10>or die on X talk to me?

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<v Speaker 11>I would ride for sure, because this is La. I

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<v Speaker 11>don't like driving anyway, so.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what's up.

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<v Speaker 11>If I could sit back because I am California, sober right,

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<v Speaker 11>sit back.

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<v Speaker 6>Smoke a joint. They can take me everywhere. That's fine.

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<v Speaker 6>I hope pay for gas. That's good. We can cooperate.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the soup. Yes, passenger Princess, I'm into it. Nico,

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<v Speaker 2>what about you?

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<v Speaker 12>Oh man?

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<v Speaker 5>I think I'd have to explore it somemore and kind

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<v Speaker 5>of get a better feel of why I like to participate.

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<v Speaker 5>And I really liked your riving sometimes, so it could

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<v Speaker 5>be a little tipid. We'll have to see. It'll be

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<v Speaker 5>like a TVD.

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<v Speaker 2>Here here here, absolutely, yes, Dano, what about you?

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<v Speaker 12>You know I kind of agree with Nico. I think

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<v Speaker 12>it's maybe a red flag.

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<v Speaker 3>I would say, a bit possessive.

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<v Speaker 12>I think in the beginning I'd be cool with.

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<v Speaker 9>It, and then maybe later on in the relationship, I'd

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<v Speaker 9>be like, all right, come on, I need to turn

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<v Speaker 9>to Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel that I feel like for me, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>mind being driven, Like if someone is like in their

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<v Speaker 2>car and they want to drive me around. Absolutely, I

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<v Speaker 2>get it, but I do love driving everywhere. And if

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<v Speaker 2>someone is like, I'll take the keys of your car,

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, no, bitch, I'm the same way.

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<v Speaker 3>No, no, I'm such a terrible backseat driver. You do

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<v Speaker 3>not want me as a passenger.

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<v Speaker 4>No, no, no, no Noita is going to tell you exactly

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<v Speaker 4>where to go.

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<v Speaker 3>Ohh, which free were you're going to take?

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<v Speaker 1>Noted? Okay, what's your writer guy situation?

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<v Speaker 4>Here's the next one, and it's a classic Would you

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<v Speaker 4>ride or die if your partner wants to you haul

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<v Speaker 4>within the first month?

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<v Speaker 6>Die?

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<v Speaker 3>I die?

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<v Speaker 1>I did it once? Never again?

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<v Speaker 3>How about it? Dana?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah, from past experience, I'm gonna have to say no, no, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a big die. Yeah, thank you Dana. What about

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<v Speaker 2>you and Nico?

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>I just have to retort with another question, why explore

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<v Speaker 5>some more and a little on the tef in side,

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<v Speaker 5>It wouldn't be enthused because you know, there's a lot

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<v Speaker 5>of things about our personalities that might need to just

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<v Speaker 5>like flesh out more than a month can provide, so a.

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<v Speaker 3>Little more friendship and less moving in onis.

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<v Speaker 1>So what about you? You write or die?

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<v Speaker 11>Can I just say, see, maybe it just depends because

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<v Speaker 11>some people, you know what I mean, you meet them

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<v Speaker 11>right away and you have that passion and you could

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<v Speaker 11>be with that person forever. I have heard of those stories.

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<v Speaker 11>And then there's some people that know you should never

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<v Speaker 11>move with them.

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<v Speaker 3>So agreed.

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<v Speaker 11>Yeah, I'm gonna say maybe, depending on the person, depending

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<v Speaker 11>on the passion level.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe you're here, Yeah, here of couples that move in

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<v Speaker 4>right away and they're totally happy.

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<v Speaker 3>For the rest of their lives. And uh, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't happened to me, so I know it's just

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<v Speaker 4>seldom far and few in between.

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<v Speaker 1>Another writer die, Would you write or die? If they

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<v Speaker 1>are besties with their ex?

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<v Speaker 2>Start us off, Dana? Are you are you down to

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<v Speaker 2>write or die with the ex?

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<v Speaker 9>I cannot pass judgment because I am so Yeah, let's

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<v Speaker 9>do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, right to the sunset with our axes.

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<v Speaker 1>And we can all grab dinner together. Absolutely exactly. Hell yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>honest pain.

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<v Speaker 3>The exit on X.

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<v Speaker 1>What are your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 11>I mean literally what Dana just said, It's like being

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<v Speaker 11>sophig in La is kind of like, who are you

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<v Speaker 11>not going to date that's not friends with their exes.

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<v Speaker 12>It's kind of par for the course.

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<v Speaker 11>So it would definitely be a ride because they all

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<v Speaker 11>are they're all friends with their exes.

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<v Speaker 6>Indeed, every single one of them.

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<v Speaker 1>Indeed, indeed, indeed, what about you, Nigo.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I echo the room if you like them for

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<v Speaker 5>the reason. So it didn't work out, but I'm still

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<v Speaker 5>down with my exes, So that's what's up. It's actually

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<v Speaker 5>like a plus if they still have a really relationship

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<v Speaker 5>with the X.

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<v Speaker 3>I know how sweet is so different generations altogether.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I had an ex that came to this

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<v Speaker 2>episode of My Phone them like cutie. So you know

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<v Speaker 2>that's how it rolls, you know, it's how the cookie

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<v Speaker 2>crumbles in this new generation.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, absolutely, I was like.

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<v Speaker 2>What's up, X, Let's find you a contestant that's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>align with you since we've known each other were quite

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<v Speaker 2>a bit.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we should all get on those scooters and go

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<v Speaker 3>to the beach.

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<v Speaker 2>Then absolutely absolutely should we play our next game?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, let's do it. Are you ready, ladies?

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<v Speaker 1>So our next.

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<v Speaker 2>Game is inspired by a little bit of old school romance,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, doors being opened, dad's being paid for.

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<v Speaker 1>I am talking about chivalry.

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<v Speaker 3>A little chivalry goes a long way.

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<v Speaker 2>I agree, I agree, And you know, chivalry doesn't have

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<v Speaker 2>to look like opening doors or paying for the dates.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes chivery can be like, hey, you're tired, don't worry

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<v Speaker 2>about it, I'll top you tonight.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean? Like it can look you

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<v Speaker 1>know different.

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<v Speaker 2>So for this game of chivalry is alive and thriving,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to ask you all to give us the

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<v Speaker 2>top three things that are chivalrous to you, and the

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<v Speaker 2>more specific, the better.

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<v Speaker 1>NKO. How you feeling, Do you have your top three?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>So, I guess I like to receive chivalrous gestures if

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<v Speaker 5>they kind of anticipated some needs, if there was some

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<v Speaker 5>thought on, like where we can get some nibbles and

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<v Speaker 5>some SIPs, or just something to kind of qualm those

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<v Speaker 5>things that might make one kind of you know, frazzled

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<v Speaker 5>or unlike themselves to kind of ground and center would

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<v Speaker 5>be nice.

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<v Speaker 11>I like something.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, they can curate like a nice like song

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<v Speaker 5>or a vibe when we like hang out that always

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<v Speaker 5>kind of aligns as well. That's quite nice. And I

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<v Speaker 5>love to take pause for like any changes of I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know, like a good sunset or a sunrise. So

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<v Speaker 5>I think just like change you up the sky because

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<v Speaker 5>like pause for that too.

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<v Speaker 2>Ooh, I love that word, like pause for just witnessing

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<v Speaker 2>nature and it's beauty into it.

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<v Speaker 1>Dana, what are your top three chivalrous acts.

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<v Speaker 9>I'm gonna echo a few of them, but I do

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<v Speaker 9>not like to cook. So if anyone is going to

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<v Speaker 9>step up and just take care of that, I am

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<v Speaker 9>all about it.

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<v Speaker 10>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 9>In the past, I've had someone who has like planned,

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<v Speaker 9>you know, after like a long day of work or

0:23:06.520 --> 0:23:08.520
<v Speaker 9>you know, had going through a rough time or whatever,

0:23:08.520 --> 0:23:11.000
<v Speaker 9>it would be just take a day and they've had

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<v Speaker 9>everything planned out for it. Oh, then the last one

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<v Speaker 9>would be I mean I'm a piscey, so yeah, a

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<v Speaker 9>nice evening of like massage and raking and.

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<v Speaker 1>No do you hear raking in there? That was cute?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, I did. Adorable.

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<v Speaker 12>It is essential, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, like somatic practices. Absolutely listen here for that. Absolutely

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<v Speaker 2>on what about you?

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<v Speaker 11>I really like fresh flowers, so that's always nice. And

0:23:49.320 --> 0:23:52.919
<v Speaker 11>also something like thought provoking, like anything like, oh, I

0:23:53.040 --> 0:23:56.720
<v Speaker 11>just planned this little insignificant picnic, you know what I

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<v Speaker 11>mean at the park, or I just made this peanut

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<v Speaker 11>butter jelly saliches and we have joints and we're looking

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<v Speaker 11>at the sunset at the beach.

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<v Speaker 6>It doesn't even have to be that big, but or

0:24:05.480 --> 0:24:07.280
<v Speaker 6>it could be really expensive too. Whatever.

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<v Speaker 11>But then, last but not least, I like it when

0:24:10.960 --> 0:24:14.040
<v Speaker 11>people have a backbone, which means that there's some weird

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<v Speaker 11>altercation or something.

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<v Speaker 6>You know, because we do.

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<v Speaker 11>Live in la if somebody tries to mess with us,

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<v Speaker 11>we both try to get the person instead of one

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<v Speaker 11>person being scared like so it's really sexy to me

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<v Speaker 11>if somebody stands up and actually tries to protect me

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<v Speaker 11>because I'm gonna protect them too.

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<v Speaker 6>We both don't do it, but that's hot to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, Oh my gosh, I'm obsessed.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we definitely have hope that chivalry is alive and thriving.

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<v Speaker 2>But speaking of chivalry, unfortunately we have to do something.

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<v Speaker 8>Less polite, which is that we need to say goodbye

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<v Speaker 8>to one person before the next round.

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<v Speaker 3>So with that said, yes, take it away, don't hate

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<v Speaker 3>me for it.

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<v Speaker 4>You are all great, beautiful, talented individual but we do

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<v Speaker 4>have to match a little bit more of the people

0:25:03.640 --> 0:25:07.080
<v Speaker 4>who our main data has things in common with. For

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<v Speaker 4>that reason, today, the person that is not moving forward.

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<v Speaker 1>Isonics thank you so much for being with us.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, thank you for having me.

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<v Speaker 13>Bye, y'all, bye, We'll be back after the break. Welcome

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<v Speaker 13>back today, my Hourily the first.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, congratulations to our final two contestants.

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<v Speaker 1>This is a time where we would.

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<v Speaker 2>Like to give you an opportunity to dive deeper, be

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<v Speaker 2>more intimate with one on one's caf that I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 2>step out so that hourly then you have that deep

0:25:46.560 --> 0:25:50.720
<v Speaker 2>dive into much more intimate questions. So Nico, I'm gonna

0:25:50.720 --> 0:25:54.560
<v Speaker 2>hand you over for a little cafes lead that holy.

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<v Speaker 3>Lead, that empty How are you, my love?

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<v Speaker 6>Oh good?

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<v Speaker 4>Let's talk a little bit about Nico's love life? What

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<v Speaker 4>is that about these days?

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<v Speaker 3>My love life?

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<v Speaker 1>These days?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, just move back to Los Angeles after I think

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<v Speaker 5>twenty years or so and only been here for two

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<v Speaker 5>months so far, so kind of just living presently and

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<v Speaker 5>having fun and hoping to meet people like to spend

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<v Speaker 5>time with along the way.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, talk to me about two months prior, where were

0:26:19.680 --> 0:26:22.639
<v Speaker 4>you and did you have a relationship during that time

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<v Speaker 4>and what happened before that?

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<v Speaker 5>I was actually living in Bosa, Montana. Now I was

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<v Speaker 5>spending some time with my sister for a while just

0:26:29.520 --> 0:26:32.040
<v Speaker 5>quite nice, and then before that was living in Savannah, Georgia.

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<v Speaker 5>There I had a relationship for a while and we

0:26:35.600 --> 0:26:38.000
<v Speaker 5>just have like different versions of what we imagine life

0:26:38.000 --> 0:26:40.680
<v Speaker 5>to be like in our coming future. So we're both

0:26:40.760 --> 0:26:41.800
<v Speaker 5>on our different journeys.

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<v Speaker 4>What was your version? What did you want in that

0:26:44.200 --> 0:26:45.679
<v Speaker 4>relationship that you were not getting?

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<v Speaker 5>I'm a bit on like thinking about fertility as that

0:26:49.080 --> 0:26:51.359
<v Speaker 5>kind of comes up in like being thirty nine years old,

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<v Speaker 5>so it's like something I want to grapple with and

0:26:53.720 --> 0:26:56.040
<v Speaker 5>kind of want a partner that's down with juggling that

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<v Speaker 5>at some point.

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<v Speaker 12>But also I know, like.

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<v Speaker 5>Fertility timeline and like real relationship timeline sometimes like fall

0:27:02.000 --> 0:27:05.639
<v Speaker 5>on different in paces. So currently just also down to

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<v Speaker 5>connect and you know, meet people along the way and

0:27:08.080 --> 0:27:11.240
<v Speaker 5>see if that's a shared path or there's different versions

0:27:11.280 --> 0:27:13.439
<v Speaker 5>of having really great connections and like intimacy too.

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<v Speaker 3>Would you like to get married?

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, if it works out, great, but I don't

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<v Speaker 5>think it's my end all be all.

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<v Speaker 4>I guess now, do you have a specific communication style

0:27:21.520 --> 0:27:23.399
<v Speaker 4>that you would like your partner to share with you.

0:27:23.920 --> 0:27:27.040
<v Speaker 5>I'm like more of a monerable communicator, but that's something

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<v Speaker 5>I've definitely been honing in and doing a lot better

0:27:29.520 --> 0:27:30.520
<v Speaker 5>these days, that's for sure.

0:27:30.880 --> 0:27:33.240
<v Speaker 4>And so it would be nice if your partner communicates

0:27:33.240 --> 0:27:35.000
<v Speaker 4>a little bit more and then you'd be joining in.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, communication, but also like with the era of some

0:27:38.400 --> 0:27:41.560
<v Speaker 5>like intuitive communication too, and sometimes like things always don't

0:27:41.560 --> 0:27:44.320
<v Speaker 5>come out well with the words, so you know, that's

0:27:44.320 --> 0:27:46.719
<v Speaker 5>like one of the ways, but not to discount other

0:27:46.760 --> 0:27:48.320
<v Speaker 5>ways of communicating to So.

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<v Speaker 4>You have a day off and you're both free, how

0:27:51.280 --> 0:27:52.920
<v Speaker 4>do you spend that wonderful day?

0:27:53.040 --> 0:27:55.120
<v Speaker 3>Do you just get up and go and say, let's

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<v Speaker 3>do something? What do you do? What do you do?

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<v Speaker 5>I think it depends on how the context has been.

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<v Speaker 5>Like if it's a day we just need to chill,

0:28:01.000 --> 0:28:03.800
<v Speaker 5>it would be really nice just to sleep in because

0:28:03.840 --> 0:28:05.320
<v Speaker 5>it is such a luxury.

0:28:04.920 --> 0:28:06.240
<v Speaker 3>To not rush too much.

0:28:06.560 --> 0:28:09.080
<v Speaker 5>Right, I think current situation of having the best day

0:28:09.119 --> 0:28:12.440
<v Speaker 5>ever would be to have no set plan, the lots

0:28:12.440 --> 0:28:16.000
<v Speaker 5>of creations of like literally delightful things, and probably like

0:28:16.040 --> 0:28:18.560
<v Speaker 5>pack a little bag with all the with all the

0:28:18.560 --> 0:28:20.760
<v Speaker 5>tricks in the treats so we can kind of just

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<v Speaker 5>see where heart takes us.

0:28:22.920 --> 0:28:23.439
<v Speaker 3>I love that.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry to interrupt, but there is another piping cup of

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<v Speaker 2>guff see the waiting for you. Thank you so much, Nico, Dana, Dana,

0:28:38.600 --> 0:28:39.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna hand.

0:28:39.240 --> 0:28:42.280
<v Speaker 1>You over for a little hot cup of guff.

0:28:44.120 --> 0:28:47.920
<v Speaker 3>Take it away. Oh let me Dana. How are you good?

0:28:48.120 --> 0:28:48.680
<v Speaker 12>How are you?

0:28:49.000 --> 0:28:51.840
<v Speaker 4>I am doing really well. Thank you for being with us.

0:28:52.200 --> 0:28:54.240
<v Speaker 4>But I'm going to ask you a little personal question.

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<v Speaker 3>Now. Talk to me about your love life in the

0:28:56.360 --> 0:28:57.280
<v Speaker 3>past year or two.

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<v Speaker 9>So I actually have been single for the last year,

0:29:00.920 --> 0:29:04.800
<v Speaker 9>which is the longest I've been single. It was kind

0:29:04.840 --> 0:29:07.720
<v Speaker 9>of intentional. I have been doing the last year a

0:29:07.760 --> 0:29:11.040
<v Speaker 9>lot of self discovery, self work, which has been great,

0:29:11.040 --> 0:29:13.320
<v Speaker 9>like a lot of therapy. For some reason, I have

0:29:13.440 --> 0:29:17.360
<v Speaker 9>like this three year mark, so the last few relationships,

0:29:17.360 --> 0:29:18.960
<v Speaker 9>it's been like three three and a half years.

0:29:19.440 --> 0:29:21.240
<v Speaker 3>Is that something you would doing intentionally?

0:29:21.880 --> 0:29:24.240
<v Speaker 9>I think my problem is when I do kind of

0:29:24.280 --> 0:29:27.560
<v Speaker 9>see red flags, I really really want to make it work,

0:29:27.680 --> 0:29:28.760
<v Speaker 9>so I put in the effort.

0:29:28.880 --> 0:29:31.120
<v Speaker 12>I think it's kind of coincidental that it just kind

0:29:31.160 --> 0:29:33.280
<v Speaker 12>of seems to be three years now.

0:29:33.320 --> 0:29:36.680
<v Speaker 4>You mentioned you would see those red flags and then

0:29:36.680 --> 0:29:38.760
<v Speaker 4>you would try harder to work on the relationship.

0:29:39.320 --> 0:29:41.160
<v Speaker 3>What do you think that is and how have you

0:29:41.200 --> 0:29:41.760
<v Speaker 3>handled that?

0:29:42.680 --> 0:29:46.400
<v Speaker 9>Probably just from growing up in any household where you know,

0:29:46.440 --> 0:29:48.840
<v Speaker 9>my parents that are not together, and it wasn't always

0:29:48.880 --> 0:29:52.680
<v Speaker 9>the greatest, but I've always wanted, you know, a relationship.

0:29:52.720 --> 0:29:55.320
<v Speaker 9>I want partnership, and I really wanted to work. So

0:29:55.400 --> 0:29:57.760
<v Speaker 9>I feel like, I don't know, you know, it's like

0:29:57.960 --> 0:30:00.160
<v Speaker 9>seeing those signs, it's I kind of give people full

0:30:00.200 --> 0:30:02.680
<v Speaker 9>the benefit of the doubt, right and it's like, we're.

0:30:02.480 --> 0:30:04.000
<v Speaker 12>Going to work through this.

0:30:04.720 --> 0:30:06.520
<v Speaker 9>And then I think that has been a lot of

0:30:06.520 --> 0:30:09.400
<v Speaker 9>the work too, just realizing that you can't make excuses

0:30:09.440 --> 0:30:11.880
<v Speaker 9>for other people, Like people will show you who they

0:30:11.920 --> 0:30:13.560
<v Speaker 9>truly are and you have to take it for what

0:30:13.640 --> 0:30:16.400
<v Speaker 9>it is, and that's okay. You know, forcing something is

0:30:16.920 --> 0:30:19.520
<v Speaker 9>eventually it's gonna come out in the end. You know,

0:30:19.560 --> 0:30:21.600
<v Speaker 9>you can't fake it until you make it. You know,

0:30:21.600 --> 0:30:23.720
<v Speaker 9>in a relationship, a.

0:30:23.600 --> 0:30:26.280
<v Speaker 4>Lot of people do, Now, what are these beautiful green

0:30:26.440 --> 0:30:29.520
<v Speaker 4>flags that are coming your way with a new relationship?

0:30:29.840 --> 0:30:31.080
<v Speaker 3>What are they? What do you want to.

0:30:31.040 --> 0:30:38.840
<v Speaker 9>See someone who is I think emotionally mature. I have

0:30:38.960 --> 0:30:41.400
<v Speaker 9>big feelings and I have a lot of emotions, and

0:30:41.440 --> 0:30:44.880
<v Speaker 9>I love, love, love, love to connect with people who

0:30:45.080 --> 0:30:47.120
<v Speaker 9>are the same and can go deep. But there's a

0:30:47.200 --> 0:30:50.720
<v Speaker 9>difference between having a lot of emotions and feelings and

0:30:50.760 --> 0:30:53.600
<v Speaker 9>feeling them and then not being able to like regulate

0:30:53.760 --> 0:30:56.640
<v Speaker 9>and you know self sooth. I think that's really important

0:30:56.640 --> 0:30:58.600
<v Speaker 9>to me, is like you can have all that, but

0:30:58.640 --> 0:31:00.600
<v Speaker 9>you need to know how you don't just dun't on

0:31:00.720 --> 0:31:01.680
<v Speaker 9>your partner.

0:31:01.680 --> 0:31:04.680
<v Speaker 3>Right, How do you handle conflict? I know we don't

0:31:04.720 --> 0:31:06.360
<v Speaker 3>want it, but if it happens, what do you do?

0:31:07.160 --> 0:31:09.920
<v Speaker 9>A lot of the times I'll take a bet. I

0:31:09.920 --> 0:31:13.360
<v Speaker 9>have learned from the past, and the way that I

0:31:13.400 --> 0:31:16.800
<v Speaker 9>can react is if you just react immediately to your

0:31:16.800 --> 0:31:20.640
<v Speaker 9>emotion when something comes up, it's usually not the.

0:31:20.600 --> 0:31:23.320
<v Speaker 3>Best reaction or response, right, So.

0:31:23.400 --> 0:31:25.840
<v Speaker 9>Taking a minute to sit with it. And also like

0:31:25.880 --> 0:31:29.360
<v Speaker 9>if it's something like bigger that feels treadering, taking a moment,

0:31:29.680 --> 0:31:30.200
<v Speaker 9>why is it?

0:31:30.320 --> 0:31:33.040
<v Speaker 12>Is it this situation that is really triggering me?

0:31:33.160 --> 0:31:33.640
<v Speaker 6>Or is there.

0:31:33.640 --> 0:31:36.960
<v Speaker 3>Right something else behind the memory of another one? Yeah?

0:31:37.040 --> 0:31:39.280
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, where you've been which is very hard to

0:31:39.480 --> 0:31:42.200
<v Speaker 4>leave just everything behind. Well, I really hope that by

0:31:42.200 --> 0:31:44.880
<v Speaker 4>the end of the show we are able to connect

0:31:44.960 --> 0:31:46.840
<v Speaker 4>that main data with one of you two.

0:31:47.200 --> 0:31:49.080
<v Speaker 3>And thank you for your answers.

0:31:50.280 --> 0:31:54.200
<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, thank you so much, Dana Elena. These were very

0:31:54.280 --> 0:31:58.360
<v Speaker 1>successful one on one Facto they are you feeling closer

0:31:58.560 --> 0:31:59.320
<v Speaker 1>to knowing?

0:31:59.440 --> 0:31:59.640
<v Speaker 9>Yeah?

0:31:59.680 --> 0:32:04.720
<v Speaker 2>You Yeah, beautiful, beautiful Nico, welcome back, a wilda.

0:32:05.040 --> 0:32:07.840
<v Speaker 1>I think we might have to share one more secret.

0:32:08.040 --> 0:32:09.280
<v Speaker 3>Oh is that time again?

0:32:09.640 --> 0:32:12.400
<v Speaker 2>So our main dater has actually been undercover this whole time,

0:32:12.720 --> 0:32:15.120
<v Speaker 2>listening in since the very beginning.

0:32:16.360 --> 0:32:16.719
<v Speaker 3>Checking.

0:32:17.200 --> 0:32:22.360
<v Speaker 2>Indeed, Alida might have an idea of who she likes.

0:32:22.560 --> 0:32:25.480
<v Speaker 2>But let's see if we have a unanimous decision. So

0:32:25.920 --> 0:32:29.320
<v Speaker 2>muchis Grasies. We're gonna ask you for a quick exit

0:32:29.360 --> 0:32:31.600
<v Speaker 2>and we'll bring back our main contestant.

0:32:37.200 --> 0:32:38.640
<v Speaker 1>Well, amazing Alida.

0:32:39.240 --> 0:32:42.480
<v Speaker 2>I think we might have a unanimous decision on this one.

0:32:42.560 --> 0:32:44.240
<v Speaker 2>So we're all leaning on Dana.

0:32:44.080 --> 0:32:45.040
<v Speaker 3>We're all leaning on you.

0:32:45.200 --> 0:32:48.520
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and I think my Sonia is also leaning Yeah,

0:32:48.640 --> 0:32:49.400
<v Speaker 4>is that correct?

0:32:49.840 --> 0:32:50.200
<v Speaker 6>You know what?

0:32:50.360 --> 0:32:53.640
<v Speaker 7>I was definitely fifty to fifty pretty much. Maybe a

0:32:53.640 --> 0:32:57.360
<v Speaker 7>little bit more tournis Dana, but that Nico is thinking

0:32:57.400 --> 0:33:00.360
<v Speaker 7>about children when there's no way that I want a

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<v Speaker 7>baby in my life other than a grand baby.

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<v Speaker 6>Ye, and she said that was a deal breaker for

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<v Speaker 6>her last relationship.

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<v Speaker 3>So god, you know what.

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<v Speaker 4>Also, I don't know if you've been taking notes, but

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<v Speaker 4>if you heard the bios that Vico is reading at

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<v Speaker 4>the beginning.

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<v Speaker 3>She really does have a lot of things in common

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<v Speaker 3>with you.

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<v Speaker 7>The spirituality she's done, the therapy. She seems mature. My

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<v Speaker 7>only thing is she is she wild enough for me?

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<v Speaker 7>Or can she have my wildness?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, hey, you can share and teach. But also remember

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<v Speaker 3>Dana does not cook.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't cook either. I guess we eat out all

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<v Speaker 6>the time.

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<v Speaker 1>Nico is such a cutie.

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<v Speaker 2>I can just see Nico wearing elf ears and being

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<v Speaker 2>a doctor.

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<v Speaker 1>Nymph.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh, very smart, such a such a cutie is so smart,

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<v Speaker 2>so intellectual, very thoughtful.

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<v Speaker 1>As well with her words.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I think ultimately that emotional attunement that Dana

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<v Speaker 2>gave was the one that like won.

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<v Speaker 3>All of our hearts.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, so, I think at one point though, Nico is

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<v Speaker 4>just such an amazing individual and would be a great

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<v Speaker 4>friend to our main data. Eventually they would go in

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<v Speaker 4>different ways correct, Yes, so different paths.

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<v Speaker 3>But I think we have made our decision and we

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<v Speaker 3>sure we're gonna enjoy it.

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<v Speaker 8>All right, let's bring in the contestants. Welcome back, Welcome back.

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<v Speaker 2>The jury has a verdict, Yes, we do, and I

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<v Speaker 2>will leave that are ready, Yeah, go for it?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, you are both incredible ladies. But the one who

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<v Speaker 4>actually was a little bit closer to our main data

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<v Speaker 4>and how they see live, and for that reason, the

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<v Speaker 4>one meeting our main dat today is Dana.

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<v Speaker 2>Congratulations Dana and Nico, my goodness, you are so sweet,

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<v Speaker 2>so kind. I don't know if you're fantasy nerd, but

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<v Speaker 2>if you ever wear el fears, let me know, because

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<v Speaker 2>I think that will look so great on you, because

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<v Speaker 2>I also wear el fears, like.

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<v Speaker 5>I skipted some once upon a time.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I still have them and I'm back.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, well, thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to LA. I know you mentioned you just

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<v Speaker 2>moved here, so welcome. Congrats on the move and hopefully

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<v Speaker 2>we'll see you soon.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, and much success and all you do here.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, thank you, Thank you. Dana. Congratulations. How are you feeling?

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<v Speaker 12>I feel wonderful, Thank you so much.

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<v Speaker 1>Beautiful, amazing.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean, without further Ado, let's go ahead and

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<v Speaker 2>meet the main dater, Sonia, come.

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<v Speaker 1>Ahead and turn on your camera and meet Dana. Sonia.

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<v Speaker 1>First impressions on Dana.

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<v Speaker 3>I think she's cute, Yes, I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>Dana. First impressions on Sonia same same, Yes, Oh, God's amazing.

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<v Speaker 7>I think Dana, you are an attractive lady, but I

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<v Speaker 7>have to tell you, in being a spy and listening,

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<v Speaker 7>you're a lot of what I'm looking for. I love

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<v Speaker 7>how you speak about emotional maturity and how you're doing

0:36:15.920 --> 0:36:18.799
<v Speaker 7>work on yourself and how you purposely took time to

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<v Speaker 7>be single.

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<v Speaker 6>That's exactly what I've been doing.

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<v Speaker 7>So I think we have a lot of common in that,

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<v Speaker 7>and I'm excited to get to know anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, amazing each of you, and please enjoy the ride.

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<v Speaker 3>Have fun. Oh I love it beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>Now we're going to send our condescens away for a

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<v Speaker 2>little virtual day to have fun.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, Coyotes, I know probably more about you than you

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<v Speaker 7>know about me.

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<v Speaker 6>So is there anything that you want to ask me?

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<v Speaker 12>Yeah? Like what do you do and where are you from? Originally?

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<v Speaker 7>I'm born and raised in La in a little city

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<v Speaker 7>called Alhambra.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:36:57.719 --> 0:36:58.040
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I like to ride bi, I love to ride my bikey.

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<v Speaker 12>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>I love sports. Have you heard of Angels City Football Club? Yes?

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<v Speaker 7>Absolutely, I'm a season ticket holder there, so I was

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<v Speaker 7>just there on Sunday.

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<v Speaker 6>I just picked up pick a ball.

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<v Speaker 12>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 7>I like to try new things. I'm really looking for

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<v Speaker 7>someone that's emotionally mature. I think that's why you got selected.

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<v Speaker 7>Some of your answers were almost I could have said

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<v Speaker 7>the exact same thing. I take my time in dating.

0:37:25.480 --> 0:37:27.560
<v Speaker 7>I want to get to know people as friends. I

0:37:27.640 --> 0:37:30.799
<v Speaker 7>want a friendship. I'm not a ue hauler, not at

0:37:30.840 --> 0:37:34.440
<v Speaker 7>all good. What about you?

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<v Speaker 6>What do you like to do?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 12>Pick a ball. I love that you're started.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm a newbie. You got to teach me.

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<v Speaker 12>Yes, I would love to. I try to get everyone

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<v Speaker 12>into it. It's kind of so get ready.

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<v Speaker 7>Oh yeah, I only I only started like a week ago,

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<v Speaker 7>and already I'm going on Saturday.

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<v Speaker 12>Oh yeah, it's so good.

0:37:51.440 --> 0:37:55.200
<v Speaker 9>It's such a like anyone can play and you see

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<v Speaker 9>no joke, like your improvement, and if it gets exciting,

0:37:58.520 --> 0:37:59.520
<v Speaker 9>you're like, this is amazing.

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<v Speaker 6>I already fell my first time I went. You know

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<v Speaker 6>my mind.

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<v Speaker 7>I don't know if you've heard of my bio, but

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<v Speaker 7>I think I'm twelve years old.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm a little older. How old are you?

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<v Speaker 7>I'm forty three, all right, I'm fifty five, okay, so

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<v Speaker 7>but in my head, i'm twelve. Like I'm the youngest

0:38:15.640 --> 0:38:19.080
<v Speaker 7>fifty five person you'll ever meet. Like I'm young at heart.

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<v Speaker 7>I have friends all different ages, so same.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 7>And I love that you're into spirituality and meditation and

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<v Speaker 7>all of that, because I told the ladies that that's

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<v Speaker 7>that's important to me. I don't mind introducing people that

0:38:34.200 --> 0:38:37.680
<v Speaker 7>I meet into that kind of stuff, but it's so much.

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<v Speaker 6>Better when they already know about it and.

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<v Speaker 7>Practice it, and you know, I think it makes a

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<v Speaker 7>difference in how you handle things.

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<v Speaker 12>Yes, agreed totally.

0:38:45.239 --> 0:38:48.000
<v Speaker 7>How you talked about working on yourself just really hit

0:38:48.040 --> 0:38:49.960
<v Speaker 7>with me, and I thought, Hi, I can go to

0:38:50.040 --> 0:38:52.000
<v Speaker 7>sound bath with her, you know, and then we can

0:38:52.000 --> 0:38:53.520
<v Speaker 7>go to pick a ball and then we have a

0:38:53.520 --> 0:38:56.919
<v Speaker 7>pretty pool, you know, like you know. The only thing

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<v Speaker 7>that I have to say was a negative for you, Dana. Right,

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<v Speaker 7>we're gonna have an issue. I don't cook either, No, No,

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<v Speaker 7>we won't. I am very good at going out to eat.

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<v Speaker 7>And there's a million wonderful restaurants.

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<v Speaker 5>In Long Beat.

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<v Speaker 2>Well.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, wow, wow.

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<v Speaker 2>I hope those sweeties headed off. Find us back here

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<v Speaker 2>next week as Leanna and I make some more matches.

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<v Speaker 3>Good work today, Oh, we did good. I like what

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<v Speaker 3>I'm looking at date my ali.

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<v Speaker 2>The first is a production from WV Sound and iHeart

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<v Speaker 2>Media's Michaultura podcast network hosted by me Vico Ortiz, joined

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<v Speaker 2>by the fabulous Lenna Montenegro bait My Auri. The first

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<v Speaker 2>is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel and Sophie Spencer Zavos.

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<v Speaker 2>Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama, Leo Clem, and Nico Raguel.

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<v Speaker 2>W V Sound This This episode was edited by Sean

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<v Speaker 2>Tracy and Sophie Spencer Zavos and features original music.

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<v Speaker 1>By Alva Morello and gave Lopez.

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<v Speaker 2>Special thanks to our team of cubits at WV Entertainment.

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<v Speaker 1>Special Things.

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<v Speaker 2>Also to our hopeful romantics this week, Sonia, Onyx, Dana

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<v Speaker 2>and Nico. Additional thanks to Assault and Lime Media. See

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<v Speaker 2>you next week and in the meantime, don't do anything

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<v Speaker 2>a Wilita wouldn't do.

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<v Speaker 3>Just do it better, okay, Besitos