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Speaker 1: Welcome to the NFL Legends Podcast, an NFL podcast for

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Speaker 1: the players, by the players. Here's your host, fourteen year

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Speaker 1: NFL veteran and Hall of Famer a Enius Williams. Hello,

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Speaker 1: and welcome to the NFL Legends Podcast. I'm a Nius Williams.

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Speaker 1: Today we have two extraordinary women who, in addition to

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Speaker 1: being the wives of two NFL legends, have made an

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Speaker 1: impact on the NFL community and their own local communities. First,

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Speaker 1: we have a Toya burl Liston, whose husband probably pushed

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Speaker 1: me off being a received the National Football League many times.

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Speaker 1: All right, make sure you tell him that atorya wife

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Speaker 1: of NFL legend and current broadcaster Nate Burleson. And we

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Speaker 1: also have Tia Avril, whose husband Cliff Avril, spent ten

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Speaker 1: season second NFL quarterbacks. Together they have created in Sidelines

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Speaker 1: Are blog and a podcast of their own, which just

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Speaker 1: kicked off the second season. Welcome, ladies, thank you. I'm

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Speaker 1: just referring to we called the former players Legends. I'm

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Speaker 1: just you guys started your own podcast. You going it

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Speaker 1: to your second season. So how about I'm talking to

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Speaker 1: some legendary ladies. How about that? Do that? All right?

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Speaker 1: I want to start with your podcast. It's a lot

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Speaker 1: of times people have ideas and they think about doing things.

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Speaker 1: It's a whole nother thing to do it your podcast,

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Speaker 1: which is fantastic because it showcases the balance between family,

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Speaker 1: commitment and community that comes with being an NFL family.

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Speaker 1: Here's my first question, what inspired you guys to start it?

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Speaker 1: Ta so Atoya has served as my big sister since

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Speaker 1: UM I officially started my NFL journey UM with Cliff

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Speaker 1: in two thousand eleven, and I call her with just

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Speaker 1: about any and everything, any question that is NFL related,

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Speaker 1: like can you help me find a citer because you're

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Speaker 1: in the city without family members and you know you

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Speaker 1: need a little bit of help, or just filling the

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Speaker 1: blank anything. And as we got going, we were like,

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Speaker 1: if I'm asking this question, and I know a lot

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Speaker 1: of other women are also asking um these same questions,

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Speaker 1: and so then we are will started turning like, well

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Speaker 1: maybe we need to start something to yeah, absolutely think

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Speaker 1: about it. And they played in the NFL for eleven years,

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Speaker 1: so I met a lot of different women and we

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Speaker 1: all kind of went through the same things. We you know,

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Speaker 1: we were always around each other, and so when they retired,

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Speaker 1: I thought you know, I met some amazing women with

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Speaker 1: these great voices, things that they want to discuss and

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Speaker 1: talk about. It would be a idea to start a

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Speaker 1: podcast and just get everyone to come together and connect

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Speaker 1: to empower women and just discuss different topics that people

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Speaker 1: and I got together and I'm like, let's do it.

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Speaker 1: She was like, let's do it. And that was it.

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Speaker 1: We were off to the races. So what's your mission,

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Speaker 1: what's your aiming point, what's your goal with this? Well,

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Speaker 1: you know, my goal is just to give women a

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Speaker 1: platform to be able to come on and discuss different

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Speaker 1: topics or things that they may have going on. Um.

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Speaker 1: I leave it open, and I want them to feel

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Speaker 1: comfortable going somewhere where they feel like it's a safe haven.

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Speaker 1: They can say whatever they want to say and there's

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Speaker 1: no judgment. Um. And I want to actually have women

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Speaker 1: the NFL. You know, you have people in the offices

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Speaker 1: put them out there and she let them share their

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Speaker 1: stories how they got there. You know how long they

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Speaker 1: loved football, how long they've watched and what made them

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Speaker 1: a lot of women that I've met, I'd say, especially

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Speaker 1: and so why not celebrating. Yeah, And I think there's

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Speaker 1: also a misconception that because we are NFL wives excuse me,

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Speaker 1: we get we started getting the questions like, well, what's

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Speaker 1: it like to be an NFL wife, And it's like

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Speaker 1: from a different perspective. So, so, where do you guys

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Speaker 1: We just hope to be able to reach everyone, to

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Speaker 1: show women that are out there that there's a platform

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Speaker 1: insidelines podcast dot com. Um. We also have our email

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Speaker 1: which is inside Lines podcast at gmail dot com. And

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Speaker 1: insidelines podcasts. So few few are ways to get in

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Speaker 1: touch with us. Yeah, it's like we're always looking to

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Speaker 1: have other women on to share their stories, but then

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Speaker 1: which most people don't pay attention to. Here's the first question.

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Speaker 1: What circumstances led to YouTube meeting each other? You gonna

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Speaker 1: take that to you. Yeah, we were both in Detroit.

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Speaker 1: Our our husband's play played together in Detroit, UM and UM,

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Speaker 1: I remember going to every year like once this season,

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Speaker 1: a lot of people retiring in Seattle. But I have

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Speaker 1: having that girlfriend is definitely important. Ladies, this has been

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Speaker 1: an incredible podcast. Thanks so much for joining us once again.

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