Speaker 1: Oh god, I have not been sleeping. Let's talk about
Speaker 1: sleep and lack thereof. So some people when they work really,
Speaker 1: really hard, they get really exhausted and they sleep. Some
Speaker 1: people exercise a lot or do run a marathon or something,
Speaker 1: and they sleep. I am the opposite. If I am
Speaker 1: working really hard and doing a lot, I don't sleep
Speaker 1: because I have two speeds on or off. So if
Speaker 1: I'm activated, I'm on and I could wake up after
Speaker 1: three hours sleep, which has happened for three weeks. Sleep
Speaker 1: for three weeks straight. I'm not kidding, like three to
Speaker 1: four hours sleep. I'll wake up at three o'clock in
Speaker 1: the morning for the day. You know that feeling like
Speaker 1: you're praying for a five you pray. I mean this
Speaker 1: morning I got a four forty four, and I was excited.
Speaker 2: That's how sad it is.
Speaker 1: Like you wake up and it's a three, and you're like,
Speaker 1: we are all fucked and it's anxiety and the next
Speaker 1: day is coming. And yesterday I was doing all this
Speaker 1: press for be strong, and I woke up with a three,
Speaker 1: and I was such a bitch the whole day. I
Speaker 1: was in such a mood the whole day because I
Speaker 1: hadn't slept in like three weeks, and then in the
Speaker 1: afternoon I kick in and I'm awake again, Like it's
Speaker 1: hard to get to your body doesn't even know it's
Speaker 1: a sleep because you're so on adrenaline. And the night
Speaker 1: before I was off of a red eye, So the
Speaker 1: night before I slept like three hours on the plane
Speaker 1: and then one hour at home. And what happens is
Speaker 1: I get excited for that go back, Like the one
Speaker 1: hour at home. I don't even care that I only
Speaker 1: slept three hours. I just want to go back, and
Speaker 1: like some more, I get grateful for a nap, but
Speaker 1: you nap and then you fuck it up, and then
Speaker 1: you nap and then you can't sleep the next night.
Speaker 2: But if i'm once, I start sleeping.
Speaker 1: Like let's say I'm like it's a weekend and it's
Speaker 1: been days. Same way on a vacation. I can't lean
Speaker 1: into a vacation until a couple of days. It's like
Speaker 1: taking a steak out of the freezer and defrosting it.
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't happen instantly. So I get to a vacation,
Speaker 1: and if it's a five day vacation, two days in
Speaker 1: I start to like unwind. So what will happen is
Speaker 1: at some point I'll be relaxing, and that'll be relaxing
Speaker 1: next day, and then I'll start melting into sleep and
Speaker 1: I'll be sleeping a lot, falling asleep on the couch
Speaker 1: every second, falling asleep while watching TV.
Speaker 2: I just have hon or off.
Speaker 1: It sucks and I don't do well with drugs like
Speaker 1: I just zolpidem is zambient. I tried to take a
Speaker 1: half of it during this three week non sleep, and
Speaker 1: I didn't realize it the next day and my heart
Speaker 1: was palpitating.
Speaker 2: I was dehydrated, dizzy.
Speaker 1: And I fainted like I passed out in my kitchen.
Speaker 1: I was on the floor. I could not get my equilibrium.
Speaker 1: It seems like poison to me. It is, honestly, it's
Speaker 1: so strong, and the film is on you the whole
Speaker 1: next day, and you're cranky and irritable.
Speaker 2: And I remember it from when I had.
Speaker 1: My talk show because I was in activation mode and
Speaker 1: I had to be up at six in the morning
Speaker 1: every single day, and you're it's two o'clock in the
Speaker 1: morning and you're having anxiety because you know you haven't slept,
Speaker 1: and it's it's the absolute worst.
Speaker 2: So I don't do well with drugs, and they don't
Speaker 2: even work.
Speaker 1: They're like sleep edibles, the melatonin, the magnesium. If you
Speaker 1: aren't sleeping, nothing really works. Like if you're kind of
Speaker 1: in a decent sleeping phase, then something will work. So
Speaker 1: but I also have gotten somewhat better just saying like,
Speaker 1: except that you're not going to sleep, and then at
Speaker 1: some point you will sleep.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: A guy once said to me about his kid who
Speaker 1: wasn't potty trained yet. He's like, I just don't think
Speaker 1: my child's gonna walk down the aisle at its wedding
Speaker 1: with a diaper on, so I think we'll be fine.
Speaker 1: So I don't come from a long line of sleepers,
Speaker 1: and I get anxiety thinking like, oh my god, am
Speaker 1: I gonna look old? Or am I gonna die because
Speaker 1: I don't sleep. But then they talk about people like
Speaker 1: Martha Stewart or I think it's Diane Sawyer that sleep
Speaker 1: like four hours at night. People are wired differently, So
Speaker 1: I'm not a big sleeper, but I think that I
Speaker 1: don't do myself any favors. Let's explain why looking at
Speaker 1: the phone past a certain hour that's gonna get you activated,
Speaker 1: Looking at the screen, looking at emails.
Speaker 2: Sometimes something will happen.
Speaker 1: I've dated people from another coast, And let me explain
Speaker 1: why that's not great. Say there's a discussion at night,
Speaker 1: or you're talking about something and something comes in and
Speaker 1: for you, it's ten o'clock and you look at it.
Speaker 1: Now you're engaged, it's gonna be involved in your sleep.
Speaker 1: Or if something's unresolved at work, it's gonna be in
Speaker 1: your sleep. So you have to try to not do that.
Speaker 1: And of course I break it every second. That's like
Speaker 1: saying try not to eat sugar or dairy or something.
Speaker 1: It's ridiculous. And but what I did do is I
Speaker 1: bought a clock for my bedside for for I have
Speaker 1: different homes, and sorry to be unrelatable, but I happen
Speaker 1: to have different homes, and.
Speaker 2: I got a clock for the bedside.
Speaker 1: So when I go to bed, I just started this,
Speaker 1: take the phone and put it in the other room.
Speaker 1: And last night I did that and I slept I
Speaker 1: think five out I slept six hours, which to me
Speaker 1: is like sleeping twelve hours right now.
Speaker 2: So that's where I stand with that.
Speaker 1: And like I put the magnesium spray on my feet
Speaker 1: and I use a neck heated pillar. I have like
Speaker 1: a neck warming cabinet, almost like the nail salon, and
Speaker 1: I have this thing that has herbs in it. Sometimes
Speaker 1: I'll put like those foot things on that I'm like
Speaker 1: supposed to pull out toxins, like detox footpads. I have
Speaker 1: no idea if they work, but once in a while
Speaker 1: they make me sleep hard. I'm actually going to do
Speaker 1: that tonight. I'm trying. I try to be intentional about it.
Speaker 1: I absolutely suck at it. It is not I wouldn't have.
Speaker 1: The other day, I was talking about philanthropy and I
Speaker 1: was saying being able to raise I've just raised three
Speaker 1: million dollars in a week for California fires, and I
Speaker 1: was saying, that's like a superpower. I'd rather have that
Speaker 1: than flying. I can't honestly say I'd rather have that
Speaker 1: than sleeping. I can't think of another superpower that I
Speaker 1: would want more than sleeping. I would pay I would
Speaker 1: hand you like millions of dollars right now if you
Speaker 1: told me that I could sleep anytime I wanted, Like
Speaker 1: if you told me I could sit on a plane
Speaker 1: and just on command, like snap, almost like those hypnotists
Speaker 1: that snap in the audience, just I would pay it
Speaker 1: right now. I would not drain my bank account. But
Speaker 1: there isn't There's a lot that I would pay to
Speaker 1: be able to sleep. So and sometimes I can't, I
Speaker 1: haven't slept, and I will go get a massage during
Speaker 1: the day, like my nil salon, just to be able
Speaker 1: to sleep. There it's like paying for sleep. It's like
Speaker 1: like if sleep were a hooker, I'd pay for you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like I'm like paying. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I need to release to sleep, So I want to
Speaker 1: pay you to put me to sleep. Someone that I know,
Speaker 1: this guy Mark, who I with last night, who listens
Speaker 1: to this podcast. So hi, Mark said to me that
Speaker 1: I was in the pocket right now, and I really am.
Speaker 1: And there's never been something I'm more in the pocket
Speaker 1: about than be strong. And I did Gail King today
Speaker 1: and it was so it felt so clean. I've lived
Speaker 1: in this land of like junk food media, of like
Speaker 1: talking about crap and people caring about my relationships or
Speaker 1: stupid things, just gossip, dumb reality TVs show stuff like
Speaker 1: things I just don't care about, and there's no pep
Speaker 1: in my step, like when I'm talking about things that
Speaker 1: I think matter. So I was talking to Gail King.
Speaker 1: I was so excited to be invited. And she's such
Speaker 1: a legitimate journalist. She's not junk food journalism. She's so thorough,
Speaker 1: she cares so much. She comes into your room for
Speaker 1: such a long time to talk to you ten fifteen
Speaker 1: minutes just to understand what you're talking about, to really convey.
Speaker 1: She has goals for the segment, not for her, for me,
Speaker 1: Like her goal isn't for her. She can't entertain no
Speaker 1: matter what. And I could talk about chicken, salad, caviare
Speaker 1: my nails, my daughter, anything, and she'll do well. But
Speaker 1: she really wants me to get across the message about philanthropy.
Speaker 1: And that really just made me feel whole. And it
Speaker 1: also made me feel whole to sit to talk to
Speaker 1: someone so accomplished and so smart for fifteen minutes plus
Speaker 1: the seven that the segment was and know every inch
Speaker 1: of what I'm talking about. There's no ember has no clothes,
Speaker 1: Like every centilla of what Beestrong represents what we're doing,
Speaker 1: who we're partnering with, what my strategy was, how much
Speaker 1: money we've made, what the goal is, what the problem is.
Speaker 1: Like I just feel I'm so confident it's like you
Speaker 1: walk into a test and like you're gonna get every
Speaker 1: single answer right because you just live it and know
Speaker 1: it by heart.
Speaker 2: And so it feels really good.
Speaker 1: And then I did another show about the Aramez Burkin
Speaker 1: and the Walmart Burkin, which is not about bags. It's
Speaker 1: about class warfare, which I've discussed.
Speaker 2: With you guys.
Speaker 1: It's about the people being fed up about elitism and
Speaker 1: just luxury and money. Like it's just not that error anymore,
Speaker 1: that era has passed. Another thing about the California fires
Speaker 1: and dignity is that someone I know brought up to
Speaker 1: me recently. It's bringing up a lot of discussions about
Speaker 1: fast fashion. You have landfills and you have football fields
Speaker 1: filled with clothes. And now I saw one of the
Speaker 1: guys from Summerhouse or one of those Southern charm talking
Speaker 1: about until tonight, we need you to come in and
Speaker 1: get this close, like because they're at some version of
Speaker 1: a shelter or somewhere with all kinds of stuff. People
Speaker 1: don't want it. They don't have any place to put it.
Speaker 1: They don't want it, they don't want o clothes, Like,
Speaker 1: stop it now, it's got to stop. But the fast
Speaker 1: fashion is meeting. People really want to just get rid
Speaker 1: of their clothes, just dump their clothes out of their closet.
Speaker 1: I even saw by the way I saw an actor.
Speaker 1: I can't think of what show he's from, but I
Speaker 1: saw an actor totally using my line about dignity and
Speaker 1: charity and we want to give gift cards to give
Speaker 1: them dignity. Like he literally was using my script and
Speaker 1: I invented the cash card model for charity. They gift
Speaker 1: cards is a cousin of that, but even that was
Speaker 1: never really done. It was kind of done sometimes, but
Speaker 1: not in a very organized manner. And it was funny
Speaker 1: to see an actor on his socials and get such
Speaker 1: praise for literally saying everything I say and I have
Speaker 1: been saying about dignity in charity and giving people the
Speaker 1: cards to have the dignity.
Speaker 2: It's just funny.
Speaker 1: I definitely was the first person to bring that up,
Speaker 1: and it's interesting to see other people mentioning it. Let's
Speaker 1: talk about relationships and things that can be red flags.
Speaker 1: So if you are a person who has the light
Speaker 1: and you start to feel someone dimming your light, or
Speaker 1: you start to feel yourself gatekeeping certain things like let's
Speaker 1: say you start to feel your stuff, not talking about
Speaker 1: great things that are happening for you because you feel
Speaker 1: like it'll make the other person feel bad, or in
Speaker 1: some cases, it can be not saying things you're doing
Speaker 1: because you think they'll be jealous. Or if you find
Speaker 1: that you can't openly share things that should be very
Speaker 1: normal and that someone should be happy about, then you
Speaker 1: have to look at that because that does happen a lot.
Speaker 1: Haven't you experienced that where you're trying to take care
Speaker 1: of the other person and make them feel better and
Speaker 1: you're not being taken care of.
Speaker 2: And I've also had the giving.
Speaker 1: Tree syndrome where you're constantly giving, and in some cases
Speaker 1: someone can make you want to give, and it's very
Speaker 1: enticing when you're in a relationship and you love someone
Speaker 1: and you want to love and you want to give,
Speaker 1: like as much as it's great to take. Remember, gift
Speaker 1: giving is my love language. But by the way it's
Speaker 1: supposed to be, your love language is what you want,
Speaker 1: meaning you want to get gifts, And by the way,
Speaker 1: I like gifts, but gift giving is like the love
Speaker 1: language I like to give. My language is to give gifts.
Speaker 1: Let's say that. So if I'm really in love with
Speaker 1: someone or really care about someone. Then it really makes
Speaker 1: me love to give. And in those instances I have
Speaker 1: the problem of wanting and expecting that person to give
Speaker 1: me at least half of what I'm giving. I never
Speaker 1: expect the same because I'm a big physical giver of
Speaker 1: material items. But I'm also a big giver of thought,
Speaker 1: like i'll i'll, I always think of everything, I think
Speaker 1: of the people around the person. But also I'm very
Speaker 1: giving of love. You know, I've had people in relationships
Speaker 1: say to me, you're very loving. I'm not overly, like
Speaker 1: sappy or pushy about it, but I am. And what
Speaker 1: happens with some people who give a lot is it's
Speaker 1: the giving tree the book the giving tree, which is
Speaker 1: you have so many branches and one by one you
Speaker 1: just are giving, and it feels good to give. And yes,
Speaker 1: if someone's not giving as much as you, okay, that's
Speaker 1: fine because you're a big giver. And you keep going,
Speaker 1: and you keep going, and with any luck for your
Speaker 1: own health or mine, you'll have no more branches and
Speaker 1: one day you will just not be able to give anymore.
Speaker 1: And it will shock the other person because they have
Speaker 1: taken so much and they have gotten used to this
Speaker 1: dynamic of you giving it. It's almost like the muscles
Speaker 1: weak for them to give back because they really don't
Speaker 1: have to. And then one day you just shut it down.
Speaker 1: They come back to the tree and there is no
Speaker 1: giving to get there's nothing there. It's like you're just
Speaker 1: all cried out. You're just completely depleted. And when that happens,
Speaker 1: you become devoid and despondent and like kind of dead,
Speaker 1: like you're a dead tree. You're just it's done, there's
Speaker 1: nothing else. And it always surprises people. It's happened to me,
Speaker 1: and it's a great feeling because when you're dating or
Speaker 1: in a relationship, I feel that there's a tipping point
Speaker 1: and it goes in both directions. Obviously people have a
Speaker 1: tipping point and the other party can't always see it.
Speaker 1: It sometimes happened that you're moving along and yes there
Speaker 1: are issues, there are red flex and one day you
Speaker 1: just have to hit the wall and it just all
Speaker 1: and you feel yourself along the way being like why
Speaker 1: am I dealing with this?
Speaker 2: Why am I dealing with this?
Speaker 1: I don't want to do it, And then one day
Speaker 1: you just break and you're done, and the other person
Speaker 1: is in shock because you've taken so much for so long.
Speaker 1: It's like, don't mistake my kindness for weakness, you know,
Speaker 1: that's what it is. And then one day.
Speaker 2: The store is just closed.
Speaker 1: And it's usually a circumstance where the store is closed
Speaker 1: and the other party is in complete shock, and they're
Speaker 1: trying to claw back and freaking out and worried and
Speaker 1: trying to rewrite history, and it's you know, usually too late.
Speaker 1: It's usually too late because you just have been broken down.
Speaker 1: So I find that to be a very interesting
Speaker 2: Dynamic