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Speaker 1: have to look at that because that does happen a lot.

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Speaker 1: Haven't you experienced that where you're trying to take care

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Speaker 2: And I've also had the giving.

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Speaker 1: Tree syndrome where you're constantly giving, and in some cases

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Speaker 1: someone can make you want to give, and it's very

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Speaker 1: enticing when you're in a relationship and you love someone

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Speaker 1: like as much as it's great to take. Remember, gift

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Speaker 1: giving is my love language. But by the way it's

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Speaker 1: supposed to be, your love language is what you want,

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Speaker 1: I like gifts, but gift giving is like the love

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Speaker 1: one day you will just not be able to give anymore.

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Speaker 1: And it will shock the other person because they have

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Speaker 2: Why am I dealing with this?

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Speaker 1: I don't want to do it, And then one day

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Speaker 1: It's like, don't mistake my kindness for weakness, you know,

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Speaker 2: The store is just closed.

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Speaker 1: And it's usually a circumstance where the store is closed

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Speaker 1: trying to rewrite history, and it's you know, usually too late.

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Speaker 1: It's usually too late because you just have been broken down.

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