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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam.

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Speaker 2: This is a John your og Okay Storytime podcast host,

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Speaker 2: and we got some great stories coming up. Before that,

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Speaker 2: we have a quick two minute break from the sponsors

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Speaker 2: that keep the show a lot. My parents laughed at

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Speaker 2: my daughter's performance, so I blew up at them.

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Speaker 1: If you don't like my daughter's performance, you don't like me.

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Speaker 2: Hey, that's my daughter up.

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Speaker 1: That, that's my daughter up that.

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Speaker 2: I had my parents over for dinner this weekend. They're

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Speaker 2: in their sixties, and after dinner, my ten year old

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Speaker 2: daughter asked if she could play us a song she'd

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Speaker 2: been practicing on her keyboard.

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Speaker 1: Ah.

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Speaker 2: She takes lessons. By the way, this comes from user

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Speaker 2: Papa Bear Piano, and if you want to submit your

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Speaker 2: own stories, go to the r slash okay Storytime subreddit.

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Speaker 3: I'm Dakota, and I'm Angie and I'm Keon and we're

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Speaker 3: are to give good advice goofully, but we're not perfect,

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Speaker 3: so keep that in mind as we read Op's story.

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Speaker 2: We might not have all the answers, but we're gonna

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Speaker 2: try our best. It wasn't perfect, a few missed notes,

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Speaker 2: a couple of pauses, but she did really well. She

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Speaker 2: looked up at the end with a massive and I

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Speaker 2: started clapping. My parents started effing laughing, not just a

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Speaker 2: My mom asked if it was her first time playing it,

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Speaker 2: and my dad said it had to have been. God,

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Speaker 2: a dog could have played that better.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: It was like my daughter was shrinking on the spot.

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Speaker 2: She looked down and said, no, I've had two lessons,

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Speaker 2: but doing it with both hands as hard. They just

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Speaker 4: Ain't no way.

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, you did such a good job, baby,

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Speaker 2: why don't you you go upstairs and get ready for bed,

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Speaker 2: and I'm gonna talk with grandma and grandpa. And I'd

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Speaker 2: be like, let's go out back. I want to show

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Speaker 1: It's my first time playing.

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Speaker 4: I'd be like, hey, I want you to try to

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Speaker 4: play that on piano. Let's watch you play that on

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Speaker 4: piano right now.

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Speaker 2: If oh, you can't.

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Speaker 1: Do it right, oh, that's the to you try.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Like I could see like if I started play

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Speaker 5: like that, it could be funny. My feelings would probably

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Speaker 1: But between friends that could be funny. But grandparents to

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Speaker 1: a ten year old, that they take that hard, dude.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, And that's like a formative you've created, like

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Speaker 2: a core memory, yeah, a core feeling.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I stood up. I took their cups and said

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Speaker 2: their drinks and wanted to hear another song. I said,

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Speaker 2: My mom said there was no need to be like this,

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Speaker 2: it's not teaching the real world. You're just nasty little dumps,

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Speaker 2: little poopy, little shoopy buttholes, picking on children and crap

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Speaker 2: like this is why I was so effed up as

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Speaker 2: a kid. Now leave. They got their stuff and left.

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Speaker 2: I sat with my daughter and explained how proud of

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Speaker 2: I asked if she could please play it again, which

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Speaker 2: Now my lovely, brown nosing, golden child of a sister

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Speaker 1: Click.

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Speaker 2: I am not asking if I'm wrong for standing up

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Speaker 2: them out straight away, swore at them in front of

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Speaker 2: this point. And this behavior isn't new, It's decades old,

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Speaker 2: but this is the first time it affected my daughter.

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Speaker 2: Did I go too far? You didn't go far enough?

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Speaker 2: Did I react too much? Should I have tried to

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Speaker 2: be calmer and talk it out? There's an edit? Lots

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Speaker 2: of people think I'm a mom Nope, single dad edit too.

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Speaker 2: I never doubted I was right for standing up for

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Speaker 2: sit down and talk with my daughter about it all,

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Speaker 2: either tomorrow after school or on the weekend. My parents

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Speaker 2: all the commenters that said they wish they had someone

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Speaker 2: able to be that someone. Beating all these comments definitely

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Speaker 2: changed my anger into sadness and the realization that I'm

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Speaker 2: not alone with crappy parents. There are some comments here,

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Speaker 2: but Angie Keon, Yes, what are our thoughts?

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Speaker 5: I think it's always it always frustrates me when people

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Speaker 5: how life works. Like life doesn't mark that way. We're

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Speaker 5: just preparing her for the real world. It's like, okay, well,

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Speaker 5: then you should be fine. Since you are so prepared

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Speaker 5: for the real world, then you should be totally fine

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Speaker 5: with me ketting you out of my house right now,

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Speaker 5: and with me punting you out of my house.

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Speaker 2: Right Welcome to the Welcome to the real world. When

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Speaker 2: you insult my ten year old daughter in front of me,

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Speaker 2: I'm no longer cool with you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, and in front of her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Right.

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Speaker 4: It's one thing to be like behind like like that

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Speaker 4: oh dude, yeah, I wouldn't get I wouldn't get physical.

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Speaker 4: I'd be like, you're out, Like why the fact that

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Speaker 1: Right right, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I think after actually at the we didn't finish our drinks,

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Speaker 2: I'd grab the drinks, row the drinks on them.

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Speaker 2: And this is if the done. The child is not

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Speaker 2: here I'd be like, that's crazy, your drinks are gone,

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Speaker 2: sorry you were raised by those people, yet have not

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Speaker 2: normalized their behavior. Not the aole. Op says, the way

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Speaker 2: will never ever normalize it. I stopped doing so many

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Speaker 2: things out of shame I should have never felt, and

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Speaker 2: commenter says, it didn't stop you from exposing your own

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Speaker 2: Were Op's parents that way with his sister, Op says

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Speaker 2: as perfect to them. Comment three says, not the a hole.

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Speaker 2: You're a dang hero if your parents think that's an

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Speaker 2: acceptable way to talk to a child, they had it coming.

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Speaker 2: Bullies always whine when the tables returned. At most, you

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Speaker 2: She may blame herself or wonder if you'll yell at

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Speaker 2: her understand. At ten, she'll have encountered bullies already, but

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Speaker 2: Comment four, not the a hole. If you still want

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Speaker 2: Since you mentioned she only got your parent's version, OPI says,

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Speaker 2: her mind. I can already hear the well your daughter

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Speaker 2: should practice more. She's like a mini mon Opie responds

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Speaker 2: to a comment asking about his musical background. I joined

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Speaker 2: I quit it not long after. Parents burned that passion,

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Speaker 2: and it effing hurts. I'm so happy for you being

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Speaker 2: comment five. My parents started laughing, not the a hole.

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Speaker 2: What massive see you next Tuesdays. I'm shocked you've kept

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Speaker 2: been like this since I hit around twenty. Not supportive,

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Speaker 2: but also not mocking her anything, you know, and never

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Speaker 2: them around her. And there's an update. Let's just get

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Speaker 1: I agree, let's write it. Yeah, we know how we feel.

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Speaker 2: We cut contact with parents, and sister good job woo.

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Speaker 2: Parents kept messaging that I was being overprotective, didn't know

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Speaker 2: well I've grown with how they raised me. Sister still

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Speaker 2: thought I'm committing some massive crime by talking to my

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Speaker 2: about nine months since the last messages. They've been blocked,

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Speaker 2: that if they continue, they will also be blocked. Goodbye,

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Speaker 2: Nan and Uncle Steve. Got my daughter a piano secondhand

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Speaker 2: off gum Tree. Oh lord are they expensive? Just over

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Speaker 2: five thousand dollars for a small Yamaha, then almost a

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Speaker 2: fifteen hundred to bring it up to scratch with keys

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Speaker 2: and wires, and another one hundred and thirty to tune it.

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Speaker 2: Pianos are expensive. Probably got ripped off. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: She gives it up and I might actually cry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, please, please play piano. I'd love to

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Speaker 2: Please keep using the Yamah. She's eleven now and has

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Speaker 5: My father's new wife snooped around my home, so I

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Speaker 2: it's a breach of my personal boundaries to go snooping

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Speaker 2: I was simply snooping because I care about you.

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Speaker 5: I care about you, and as your new mom, I

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Speaker 2: I took the liberty of taking all the salt out

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we have some comments coming. Number one says, not

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Speaker 1: Not my child, your right to ban her from your house.

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Speaker 1: Number two says, not the a hole. She had no

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Speaker 5: She's nosy, invasive, and I wouldn't be surprised if she

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Speaker 5: I'd guess that she heard about how the house was

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Speaker 5: Your dad is a piece of garbage who is choosing

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Speaker 1: That's a crazy way to say that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna keep that one in the and.

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Speaker 2: They're little fold up in the chamber, put in.

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Speaker 5: Tell him that you're not apologizing, And as far as

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Speaker 1: Stay out of your life too.

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Speaker 5: She's not your mother, never has been, it never will be,

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Speaker 2: Boo, train your animals booooo. Train your animals to only

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Speaker 5: Next, my dad is not the easiest to get along with.

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Speaker 5: My younger brother is trying to convince us that we

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Speaker 5: to really talk about everything. Coming number three, he says,

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Speaker 5: have a family law attorney, draw up power of attorney,

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Speaker 1: That's a little extra.

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Speaker 2: I think you just dish it back. Yeah, dish it

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Speaker 2: Like at the you know, when you next time you're

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Speaker 2: at the barbecue and Shelley's got a plate of ribs,

438
00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:48,120
Speaker 2: you take that away and you say, well, I saw

439
00:19:48,160 --> 00:19:50,359
Speaker 2: the cholesterol medication in your cabinet. I don't think you

440
00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:53,159
Speaker 2: should be eating that, right, And she goes, why are

441
00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:53,679
Speaker 2: you doing this?

442
00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:53,800
Speaker 5: You?

443
00:19:54,200 --> 00:19:56,639
Speaker 2: I just care about you. She goes, that's not you

444
00:19:56,680 --> 00:19:59,000
Speaker 2: shouldn't do that. That's your way out of line. I go, oh,

445
00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:02,040
Speaker 2: you're also out of line for doing that to me.

446
00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:04,879
Speaker 2: Can you agree about that now? So you never ever

447
00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:08,119
Speaker 2: do that again with me? Right right? I respect your autonomy,

448
00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:09,879
Speaker 2: you respect mine. Cool.

449
00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:14,800
Speaker 5: There is another update, though, so let's see what happens.

450
00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:16,000
Speaker 1: So update.

451
00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:18,960
Speaker 5: This is only a small update. Because of everyone telling

452
00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:21,040
Speaker 5: me that she was going to try and take my house,

453
00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:24,040
Speaker 5: I called my dad, which was really heartbreaking. I asked

454
00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:26,000
Speaker 5: him what he would do if someone went through his thing.

455
00:20:26,119 --> 00:20:28,480
Speaker 5: He said it was different because she was worried about me.

456
00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:30,960
Speaker 5: He then told me that he spoke to her about

457
00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:35,760
Speaker 5: his mentally unstable daughter who makes poor choices, and I'm

458
00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:36,359
Speaker 5: not lying.

459
00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:37,399
Speaker 1: I started crying.

460
00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:39,359
Speaker 5: I asked him if he wanted a relationship with me,

461
00:20:39,440 --> 00:20:42,040
Speaker 5: because his actions were screaming that he no longer wanted me.

462
00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:44,280
Speaker 5: He let out a deep sigh and asked if I

463
00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:46,879
Speaker 5: was still talking to my strength because I was acting

464
00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:50,240
Speaker 5: just like my mother. I am ashamed to say that

465
00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:51,240
Speaker 5: I started.

466
00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:54,119
Speaker 1: Yelling at him over the phone. How dare he treat

467
00:20:54,160 --> 00:20:54,640
Speaker 1: me like this?

468
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:57,760
Speaker 5: How dare he talk about my personal information with a stranger,

469
00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:00,480
Speaker 5: and how dare he act like this is okay? I

470
00:21:00,520 --> 00:21:03,400
Speaker 5: have been medicated since I was fourteen because of him.

471
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,280
Speaker 5: I have given excuses for his actions over the years,

472
00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:09,120
Speaker 5: and tried to be a good daughter, to do things

473
00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:11,760
Speaker 5: that are outside of my character to fit his idea

474
00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:12,640
Speaker 5: of a perfect daughter.

475
00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 1: So if you.

476
00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:16,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think at that point it's like as soon

477
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:20,160
Speaker 2: as he goes yeah, I mean, are you in are

478
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,680
Speaker 2: you seeing your therapist? Because you're just like your mom

479
00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:23,080
Speaker 2: right now?

480
00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:23,440
Speaker 5: Yeah?

481
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:25,760
Speaker 2: I go, Oh, you mean the mom you divorced, So

482
00:21:25,840 --> 00:21:28,600
Speaker 2: you don't want anything to do with me? Right, see,

483
00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:31,880
Speaker 2: you never yeah you until you apologize for being an

484
00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,359
Speaker 2: absolute uh wiener.

485
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:37,680
Speaker 5: Head exactly, And that's incredibly heartbreaking to hear from your dad.

486
00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,320
Speaker 5: I think it's totally fine for you to start yelling

487
00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:43,560
Speaker 5: in that moment. Honestly, I think it seems like that

488
00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 5: answer was no. He answered her question with another question,

489
00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:50,520
Speaker 5: and it sounds like if her answer to that question

490
00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:54,360
Speaker 5: was like, you know, like I either way honestly, like yes,

491
00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,080
Speaker 5: I'm still seeing the therapist. No, I'm still I'm not

492
00:21:57,119 --> 00:22:00,119
Speaker 5: seeing the therapist. Like how would that change it? It

493
00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:03,200
Speaker 5: sounds like either way he would still be like, oh, well,

494
00:22:03,720 --> 00:22:06,520
Speaker 5: I mean, okay, so you still need a therapist.

495
00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:07,520
Speaker 1: So you're acting just like.

496
00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:08,720
Speaker 5: Your mom and I don't want to be around you,

497
00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 5: or oh my gosh, you're not getting the help that

498
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:12,240
Speaker 5: you need because you're just like.

499
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 1: Your mom, and I need to not be around you anymore.

500
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:19,399
Speaker 5: Clearly unaware of how he's affecting these situations, because apparently,

501
00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:22,359
Speaker 5: you know, she needed medication in the first place because

502
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:24,399
Speaker 5: of this guy. So what did he do to the

503
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:28,119
Speaker 5: mom to drive her out of there and drive her

504
00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:31,440
Speaker 5: crazy too? This is wild, but we do have a

505
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:34,159
Speaker 5: little bit more so I hung up the phone and

506
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:37,200
Speaker 5: called my emotional support human, my older brother Damien, and

507
00:22:37,240 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 5: cried to him he was running errands. I was suppose

508
00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:41,919
Speaker 5: because he showed up at my house and brought with

509
00:22:42,040 --> 00:22:45,080
Speaker 5: him ice cream and Bailey's. We saw in my bed

510
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:47,760
Speaker 5: with my dog Chaos and ate ice cream and drink

511
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:51,159
Speaker 5: Baileies strew right from the bottle. The next confrontation is

512
00:22:51,200 --> 00:22:54,160
Speaker 5: with Shelley in a day or two. Also for those

513
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:58,760
Speaker 5: worried if I'm institutionalized or anything, my brother Lachlan gets

514
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:01,040
Speaker 5: the house, I am all going to call my mom

515
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 5: because this has been more upsetting than I thought it

516
00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:05,359
Speaker 5: would be, and she will fly in and rip my

517
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 5: dad a new one, possibly might give Shelley the old

518
00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:11,800
Speaker 5: one two two. Right now, I just need booze and

519
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:14,479
Speaker 5: the comfort of strangers from the internet, and we are

520
00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:17,679
Speaker 5: here to give that to dop. That's unfortunately the end

521
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:18,200
Speaker 5: of that story.

522
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:20,400
Speaker 2: But yeah, I don't even know if your mom needs

523
00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:22,879
Speaker 2: to come out and like yell at your dad, like

524
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 2: it's just it's clear that he I don't know. It

525
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 2: was just like being entirely dismissive. Yeah, and he's taking

526
00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,880
Speaker 2: his wife, which look, even if she is worried about you,

527
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 2: like calling you out over dinner. It's like, it's that's

528
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:38,240
Speaker 2: not She's not worried about you. She's like worried about

529
00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:41,400
Speaker 2: you in the context of like the damage you could

530
00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:46,879
Speaker 2: do to like her husband's image, or like well, like

531
00:23:46,920 --> 00:23:49,760
Speaker 2: I don't know, being like you're severely mentally ill daughter

532
00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 2: who makes poor choices. So it's like it's a selfish concern,

533
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:55,680
Speaker 2: not a genuine concern.

534
00:23:55,880 --> 00:23:58,800
Speaker 5: Absolutely, And that's the end of the story. We're going

535
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:00,959
Speaker 5: to go on to the next one.

536
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:05,240
Speaker 2: My sister refused to let her family vacation without her.

537
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:07,359
Speaker 1: If I can't go, no one can.

538
00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 2: And there is a bigger warning here for emotionally I'm

539
00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:15,400
Speaker 2: twenty seven male. Really curious what people think about this situation.

540
00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:18,520
Speaker 2: My sister forty female and her husband forty one male,

541
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 2: have two kids, nine and seven, both boys. Her husband

542
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,480
Speaker 2: works in finance and she works part time for a

543
00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:30,040
Speaker 2: family friend, so very flexible hours. By the way, this

544
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:33,840
Speaker 2: comes from user alternative Meat for six' nine and if

545
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:35,440
Speaker 2: you want to submit your own, stories go to the

546
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Speaker 2: r Slash okay storytime. Subreddit I'm, dakota.

547
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 3: And I'm angie And I'm, keon and.

548
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,480
Speaker 2: We're here to give good, advice, goofily but we're not

549
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:46,960
Speaker 2: perfect and we don't always have all the. Answers so

550
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,760
Speaker 2: if you've been through this situation or you have something

551
00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 2: to say about, it let us know in the. COMMENTS

552
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:57,280
Speaker 2: ohp SAYS i ran into her husband At costco and

553
00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:00,200
Speaker 2: we were talking about summer plans now that the kidskids

554
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 2: weren't in. School he said they were going to camp

555
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,800
Speaker 2: AND i asked if they were going away. Anywhere he said,

556
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 2: no because my sister wouldn't take time off work and

557
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:11,919
Speaker 2: wouldn't let him take the boys without. Her he was

558
00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 2: talking about how much he wants to travel with them

559
00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 2: and how frustrating it is that my sister won't even

560
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 2: take a few days off for a long. WEEKEND a

561
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:23,240
Speaker 2: little while, LATER i had a similar conversation with my.

562
00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 2: SISTER i asked about summer plans and she said they

563
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:29,520
Speaker 2: didn't really have any because she was. WORKING i asked

564
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: if taking time off would really be a big, deal

565
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 2: and she said not, really but she just doesn't want.

566
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:38,120
Speaker 2: TO i, said what about just letting your husband take?

567
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,679
Speaker 2: THEM i asked this BECAUSE i didn't fully believe what

568
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:44,080
Speaker 2: her husband had told me. Earlier he is a great,

569
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:47,160
Speaker 2: guy but really likes when people feel bad for. Him

570
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:50,520
Speaker 2: he always has some sort of woe Is me type

571
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 2: situation going. On she said he wasn't allowed to do

572
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 2: that and make those type of memories without. HER i

573
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,439
Speaker 2: think that's awful to do to the children and her.

574
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 2: Husband everyone in that family except her wants to. Travel

575
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,360
Speaker 2: it's fine if she doesn't want, to BUT i don't

576
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:09,360
Speaker 2: think she should be stopping. THEM i gently told, her

577
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 2: maybe you could reconsider letting your husband and the boys

578
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:15,400
Speaker 2: go without you so they can experience the things they

579
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:19,680
Speaker 2: want to. Do she freaked out and started screaming about

580
00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:23,360
Speaker 2: how no one is ever on her, side and how

581
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 2: her husband and how a mom a nists and How

582
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:30,439
Speaker 2: i'm going to be one. Two it was. WILD i

583
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:33,200
Speaker 2: apologized and said it was none of my. Business, Anyway

584
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:37,120
Speaker 2: we watched SOME tv and THEN i went. Home any

585
00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 2: advice would be, appreciated real. ADVICE i, mean, sure you

586
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 2: could be, like, hey, buddy she can't like handcuff you

587
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 2: to the house like you and your kids can still,

588
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:50,719
Speaker 2: leave and she'll probably hem in, haw but you know

589
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 2: she's being. Unreasonable the other option would probably be, like

590
00:26:53,520 --> 00:26:56,119
Speaker 2: find every single cool fun thing you can do in

591
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 2: your town and just do it without, her because now

592
00:26:58,320 --> 00:27:00,359
Speaker 2: you're not leaving, town you're not going on. Vacation there you.

593
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:02,440
Speaker 2: Go you're just constantly doing fun stuff without.

594
00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 4: Her, honestly make the best out of. It if you

595
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 4: really can't do a trip, anywhere might as well go

596
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 4: do some fun stuff around the.

597
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 3: Town, exactly go around, town round, town or just like

598
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 3: take day, trip take weekend.

599
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 2: Whatever, YEAH i watch a baseball. Game, Yeah but in

600
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 2: terms of op it's, LIKE i think you just you

601
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 2: give that advice to the, to to your brother in

602
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:29,159
Speaker 2: law and you move. ON i think that's all you

603
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 2: can really. DO i.

604
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:33,720
Speaker 1: Agree Update, Update, update up.

605
00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 2: DATE i posted a few weeks ago about my sister

606
00:27:37,119 --> 00:27:39,479
Speaker 2: who won't take time off work to go on vacation

607
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 2: with her husband because she doesn't want them to have

608
00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:48,439
Speaker 2: memories without. Her, well some interesting developments have. Happened oh. Boy.

609
00:27:49,000 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 2: Background my sister works part, time, unpaid helping out a

610
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,280
Speaker 2: family friend on their. Farm this family friend has farm

611
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,440
Speaker 2: hands for manual. Labor my sister describes herself as being

612
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:04,159
Speaker 2: the emotional support human to the, animals be that to your.

613
00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 2: Children she started this job in twenty twenty one after

614
00:28:07,320 --> 00:28:09,439
Speaker 2: being a stay at home mom for six. Years she

615
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 2: has a law degree but never. Practiced her husband has

616
00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,760
Speaker 2: a high paying position at one of the big four accounting.

617
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,440
Speaker 2: FIRMS i came back from a short trip and brought

618
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 2: some souvenirs for my. NEPHEWS i swung by their House

619
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 2: wednesday to drop them. Off my brother in law AND

620
00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:26,240
Speaker 2: i chatted for a, bit mostly about my. Trip he

621
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,680
Speaker 2: started talking about how he's going on a work trip

622
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 2: and wishes my sister would go with, him but she

623
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 2: won't take off. Work i'm just nodding and saying things like, oh, Interesting,

624
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:41,440
Speaker 2: oh very, noncommittal Because i'm not looking to get involved.

625
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 2: Again then he starts telling me about her new hobby

626
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 2: that she's picked up because of, work horseback. Riding she

627
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 2: wants a. Horse she's traveling To europe in a few

628
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:55,440
Speaker 2: weeks with the family friend to buy a. Horse apparently

629
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:58,080
Speaker 2: all the best horses come From, europe and she's never

630
00:28:58,440 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 2: which is not.

631
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 5: TRUE i don't THINK i, Really i'm sure we've got

632
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 5: some good horses out.

633
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 2: Here i'm sure, regardless she's never expressed any interest in this,

634
00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 2: before BUT i guess she's a horse girl. Now he

635
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 2: said it's going to cost at least forty thousand dollars

636
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 2: to import this. HORSE i am absolutely dumbfounded by. This

637
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,960
Speaker 2: she won't travel with her husband and, kids she won't

638
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 2: let him travel with the, kids but she'll go off

639
00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 2: To europe to buy a. Horse, somehow my brother in

640
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 2: law is cool with bankrolling.

641
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: This oh my, god.

642
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 2: Forty thousand dollars is what most people make in a.

643
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 2: Year i'm not, poor BUT i can't imagine spending that

644
00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 2: much money on anything other than a, car house or medical.

645
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: Bills and that's just to get the horse From.

646
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 5: Europe that's not about all of the, other like famously

647
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 5: expensive things that go along with.

648
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 2: Horses, yeah taking care of. Horses you gotta stable the.

649
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 2: Horse you gotta take care of the. Horse you gotta

650
00:29:57,440 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 2: feed the. Horse, yeah clean out and make sure the.

651
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 2: Horse this is mentally, okay WHICH i guess you're on top,

652
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 2: of since she'd be emotional support human.

653
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: Right oh my, gosh.

654
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:10,840
Speaker 5: Yikes and then even like getting a, saddle and then

655
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:12,920
Speaker 5: all the things take care of the saddle too is

656
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 5: expensive and self my.

657
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 2: Goodness then my brother in law starts telling me about

658
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 2: how he wanted to take the kids somewhere while she's In.

659
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 2: Europe but she basically said. No he had also suggested

660
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 2: turning this into a family trip where they could all

661
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,719
Speaker 2: go and she could pick out the horse and then

662
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 2: explore a, bit and she nixed that, too saying she

663
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 2: didn't want to have to worry about the kids while.

664
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 2: Traveling it would complicate the trip and the kids might

665
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:43,000
Speaker 2: spook the. Horses so he suggested meeting there once she

666
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 2: picked out a horse and they could stay, longer which

667
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 2: she declined that, too saying she would have to miss.

668
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 2: Work my brother in law was clearly frustrated and. UPSET

669
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 2: i said maybe therapy would, help but he said they

670
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 2: were already in. Therapy there was a family get together

671
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 2: today and my sister was excitedly telling us about her

672
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 2: up coming trip and the horses she's planning to look.

673
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:04,760
Speaker 2: At my mom asked her how her husband felt about all,

674
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,440
Speaker 2: this and my sister, Said i've decided to stop taking

675
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 2: his feelings into. Account these people really just walk around among,

676
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:15,240
Speaker 2: us don't. They these people just we walk by people

677
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 2: like this on the, Street oh, yeah at the, market oh.

678
00:31:19,000 --> 00:31:19,959
Speaker 1: Yeah these people are.

679
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 2: Everywhere at the movie, theater oh.

680
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: Yeah it's it's rare to not run into people like.

681
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 2: This i've decided to stop taking his feelings into. Account

682
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 2: maybe he should stop taking your feelings into account. Too,

683
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: well he can't do. That he can't because THAT i

684
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 2: wouldn't like. THAT i would Like yeah if he did,

685
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:42,560
Speaker 2: that this woman needs to take a big step back

686
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 2: and look at herself in the. Mirror.

687
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 1: Yeah oh my.

688
00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:49,720
Speaker 2: Gosh so after she said, that my mom pointed out

689
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:53,719
Speaker 2: that probably isn't a good attitude to have towards your. Husband,

690
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:57,840
Speaker 2: yeah especially when he pays for everything she. Wants my

691
00:31:57,960 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 2: sister said this was something she needed because she's so

692
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 2: overwhelmed and stressed these. Days my mom did not react

693
00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:10,000
Speaker 2: well to. This she raised her voice at my sister

694
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 2: and told, HER i have no idea what you have

695
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 2: to be stressed. About your husband pays for a housekeeper

696
00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 2: and a, nanny and you don't have to worry about.

697
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:21,800
Speaker 2: Money your work isn't mentally or physically. Taxing your husband's

698
00:32:21,800 --> 00:32:24,400
Speaker 2: an active father who pulls his, weight and ALL i

699
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:27,520
Speaker 2: ever hear from you is complaints about how hard your life.

700
00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 2: Is my sister got pissed and they were both yelling

701
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 2: over each. Other Thank god the kids were playing with

702
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 2: their dad, outside because my sister started saying how she

703
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 2: regrets having children and that they've ruined her.

704
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 1: Life oh my, god.

705
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:45,240
Speaker 2: NIKES i was shocked because her kids are, smart, funny well,

706
00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 2: behaved mostly self, sufficient and overall just great. KIDS i

707
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:51,760
Speaker 2: also don't understand why she would oppose her husband traveling

708
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 2: with just the kids if she regretted, them wouldn't that

709
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 2: give her time away from. Them the whole thing ended

710
00:32:57,600 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 2: when my sister told my mom she's self absor person

711
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,920
Speaker 2: and that it's her fault she's like, this and that

712
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 2: my mom hates seeing her. Happy my mom told my

713
00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:08,960
Speaker 2: sister to get out of the house and offer property.

714
00:33:09,040 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 2: Immediately on her way, out my sister said to, me

715
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 2: you should have defended, me but you just stood. There

716
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 2: you're just as bad as. MOM i don't want to

717
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 2: get involved in any of this, drama But i'm not

718
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 2: sure IF i should give her husband a heads up

719
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 2: about what she said about the. Kids they're in therapy,

720
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:25,800
Speaker 2: together SO i assume this must be a topic they've.

721
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:29,520
Speaker 2: Discussed it's all so. Strange my sister isn't normally like.

722
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:33,680
Speaker 2: This update, two before we get into that doctor brain,

723
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 2: scan honest humor is it a? Tumor?

724
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:42,400
Speaker 5: Honestly because son's, LIKE i don't, know she's so loud

725
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 5: about all of her problems right, now AND i mean

726
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 5: the mom has said.

727
00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 1: That that's kind of all she does is complain about.

728
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:49,280
Speaker 5: Them but LIKE i feel like if she was like

729
00:33:49,320 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 5: this is her whole, life then LIKE i feel like

730
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 5: she wouldn't get married to her.

731
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:55,800
Speaker 1: Husband you, know he wouldn't marry Her.

732
00:33:55,880 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 2: EXACTLY i, think, maybe, uh make sure there's not something

733
00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:03,160
Speaker 2: pressing on the frontal. Lobe, yeah and if there's, not

734
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 2: therapy doesn't seem to be. Working.

735
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:07,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, Absolutely so there's an.

736
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:11,600
Speaker 2: UPDATE i wasn't expecting to make an update less than

737
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:13,400
Speaker 2: a day. Later my plan was to take a day

738
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:15,239
Speaker 2: or two to think about what exactly to say to

739
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 2: my brother in. Law it turns OUT i didn't need

740
00:34:17,880 --> 00:34:19,840
Speaker 2: to do anything because my mom beat me to. It

741
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 2: it may have gotten buried in the, comments but our

742
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:25,399
Speaker 2: parents split due to our dad's. Infidelity after the fight,

743
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 2: yesterday my mom also suspected my sister was having an.

744
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 2: Affair she called my brother in law this morning and

745
00:34:30,640 --> 00:34:33,480
Speaker 2: told him what my sister said and shared her. Suspicions

746
00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:35,880
Speaker 2: my brother in law called me to confirm what my

747
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 2: mom said was. True WHEN i told him it. Was

748
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 2: he asked IF i could take the kids for the

749
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 2: day so he could talk to my. SISTER i don't

750
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 2: know the details of what happened between, them but WHEN

751
00:34:44,760 --> 00:34:47,520
Speaker 2: i brought my nephew's, back my sister's car was. Gone

752
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:49,480
Speaker 2: my brother in law AND i talked outside for a.

753
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,680
Speaker 2: BIT i ASKED i was. Doing he said it pretty.

754
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:56,200
Speaker 2: BAD i found out my wife hates. Us he doesn't

755
00:34:56,239 --> 00:34:58,359
Speaker 2: know for sure if there was a physical, affair but

756
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 2: there were flirty messages with the family friend on her

757
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 2: phone and texts describing a deep hatred for her. Life

758
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 2: he said when he tried to talk to her about,

759
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 2: it she just completely shut down and. Left he's. HEARTBROKEN

760
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 2: i think divorce is, inevitable AND i know my brother

761
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 2: in law is going to fight like the devil for his.

762
00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 2: Kids they're his. World AND i don't know where my sister.

763
00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 2: Is she didn't tell him where she was going and

764
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,600
Speaker 2: hasn't reached. Out i'm assuming she is with the family,

765
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 2: friend AND i hope she's. SAFE a few people asked

766
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 2: why my brother in law didn't suspect an. Affair the

767
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 2: family friend is a, woman and my sister has never

768
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:37,560
Speaker 2: really BEEN lgbtq plus, friendly so it's quite. Unexpected i'm

769
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 2: deeply saddened by this. Outcome it's hard to put my

770
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 2: feelings into. Words there's a large age gap between my

771
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 2: sister and. Me she started dating her husband WHEN i was,

772
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 2: three so practically my whole, Life i've known them as

773
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:51,640
Speaker 2: a unit and thought they were rock. Solid i'm wondering

774
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 2: what holidays will be like. Now so much is going to.

775
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,480
Speaker 2: Shift my mother is furious that my sister would take this,

776
00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 2: path knowing what infidelity. Does she's irrevocably damaged her relationship

777
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:05,480
Speaker 2: with my, sister AND i don't know if they'll ever speak.

778
00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 2: AGAIN i feel guilty about not speaking up before my mom.

779
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 2: Did maybe she could still have a relationship with her

780
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 2: only daughter IF i had been the one to say.

781
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:18,279
Speaker 2: Something i'm absolutely devastated for my. Nephews i'm sure they're.

782
00:36:18,320 --> 00:36:21,359
Speaker 2: CONFUSED i remember the feeling of abandonment and fury after

783
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,840
Speaker 2: my dad left and know how much that has impacted

784
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 2: my life in. RELATIONSHIPS i hate that they have to

785
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:29,880
Speaker 2: experience it. Too my heart is just incredibly. Heavy the

786
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:32,719
Speaker 2: whole situation has made me reflect on how quickly things can.

787
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:36,480
Speaker 2: Unravel my sister seemed to have everything the loving husband

788
00:36:36,520 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 2: and beautiful, children financial, security and the freedom to pursue her.

789
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:43,440
Speaker 2: Interests yet she was deeply unhappy and apparently having an

790
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 2: emotional affair with SOMEONE i would have never. EXPECTED i

791
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,239
Speaker 2: keep thinking about the signs that were. There her refusal

792
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 2: to let her family travel without her wasn't about wanting

793
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:54,800
Speaker 2: to be, included it was about. Control her sudden obsession

794
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:57,600
Speaker 2: with horses and willingness to spend forty thousand dollars on

795
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 2: something she had never shown interest in was. Alarming her

796
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:04,200
Speaker 2: statement about not taking her husband's feelings into account was

797
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:06,839
Speaker 2: a massive red flag THAT i should have addressed more.

798
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 2: Seriously what bothers me most is how her children have

799
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 2: become collateral damage in whatever crisis she's going. Through these

800
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: kids did nothing, wrong and yet they're the ones who

801
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 2: will suffer the most from her. Choices my brother in

802
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 2: law is a good, father but no matter how hard he,

803
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,960
Speaker 2: tries he can't shield them from the trauma of their

804
00:37:23,000 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 2: mother abandoning. Them i'm also struggling with my role in

805
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: all of. This SHOULD i have confronted my sister more

806
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:31,440
Speaker 2: directly when she first made those concerning. Comments SHOULD i

807
00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:33,319
Speaker 2: have talked to my brother in law sooner about WHAT

808
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 2: i was. OBSERVING i keep second guessing every, conversation wondering

809
00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:38,879
Speaker 2: if there was SOMETHING i could have said or done.

810
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 2: Differently the family dynamics have shifted. Completely my, mom who

811
00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 2: was already dealing with the trauma of my father's, infidelity

812
00:37:45,320 --> 00:37:47,800
Speaker 2: now has to watch her daughter repeat the same destructive.

813
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 2: Pattern the parallels are too painful to. Ignore it's like

814
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:54,200
Speaker 2: watching history repeat itself in the worst possible. WAY i

815
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 2: feel LIKE op was assigned the fixer position in the.

816
00:37:57,640 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 1: Family, YEAH i could totally see.

817
00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 2: THAT i wonder if there are any other siblings besides

818
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:06,239
Speaker 2: the older, sister because it's CLEARLY opi feels this kind

819
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:09,160
Speaker 2: OF i don't understand where the responsibility is coming. From

820
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 2: like if you confronted your sister at that, event like

821
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,600
Speaker 2: it wouldn't have changed, anything, right there was no, Change

822
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,439
Speaker 2: like nothing you could have said to your sister would

823
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 2: have changed the way she was thinking or. Feeling, YEAH i.

824
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 1: Wonder, if like maybe if the parents didn't.

825
00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 5: Always have a good, relationship like if the sister always

826
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:30,480
Speaker 5: kind of had that idea that the mom was a

827
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 5: self absorbed, Person like maybe they just had a bad

828
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 5: relationship growing up and, ope LITTLE opi so much younger

829
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:37,760
Speaker 5: than all of, that not understanding.

830
00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:38,319
Speaker 1: Exactly what was going.

831
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 5: On maybe he was trying to or maybe he felt

832
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 5: like he could fix things at that point and maybe

833
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:45,719
Speaker 5: that's how that developed or.

834
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:46,960
Speaker 2: Something, yeah you know WHAT i.

835
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:48,880
Speaker 5: Mean he's just trying to make it all stop and

836
00:38:48,920 --> 00:38:51,839
Speaker 5: maybe things maybe people would stop fighting around him since

837
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 5: he was so much. Smaller but that's my guess.

838
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,279
Speaker 1: For how he could become the, fixer but it could Be, yeah.

839
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 2: Let's finish this. Story i'm trying to be there for

840
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 2: my brother in law and nephews while also processing my

841
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,560
Speaker 2: own grief over losing the SISTER i THOUGHT i. Knew

842
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:07,439
Speaker 2: the woman who left yesterday isn't the sister who helped

843
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 2: raise me or WHO i thought would be in my life.

844
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 2: Forever it's like she's been replaced by SOMEONE i don't.

845
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:15,360
Speaker 2: Recognize moving, Forward i'm committed to being present for my

846
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:18,360
Speaker 2: nephews and supporting my brother in law through what's undoubtedly

847
00:39:18,400 --> 00:39:21,600
Speaker 2: going to be a difficult divorce and custody. Battle these

848
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:23,880
Speaker 2: kids need stability and, love AND i want to make

849
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,759
Speaker 2: sure they know they have family who will always be

850
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:29,719
Speaker 2: there for, them even when their mother. Isn't and, YEAH

851
00:39:29,719 --> 00:39:32,240
Speaker 2: i don't know if there's any testimony in divorce, proceedings

852
00:39:32,239 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 2: but if you could be a character, witness being LIKE

853
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:36,400
Speaker 2: i was there at the dinner when she, SAID i

854
00:39:36,480 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 2: don't care for my. Kids they ruin my. Life, YEAH

855
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:42,319
Speaker 2: i have nothing but that disdain for. Them, Right and

856
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 2: that's the end of this. Story then we're gonna move

857
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,160
Speaker 2: on to the next. One, hey It's jan Here, og

858
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:48,960
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869
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: Schools, yeah after.

870
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 6: Many, months my boyfriend agreed to start dating. Again by the,

871
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:27,560
Speaker 6: way this comes from throw a seventy one.

872
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: Six h Two and if you want to submit your

873
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 1: own stories go.

874
00:40:29,520 --> 00:40:32,120
Speaker 5: To the r Slash okay storytime suppered. It I'm, sophia

875
00:40:32,280 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 5: And I'm angie And I'm, keon.

876
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 6: And we try to give our best. Advice but we

877
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 6: haven't experienced most of these situations. Ourselves we only know

878
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:40,959
Speaker 6: what we'd, do so let us know what you would.

879
00:40:40,960 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 6: Do in the, comments And op, says we haven't had

880
00:40:44,640 --> 00:40:47,799
Speaker 6: any relationship problems THAT i know, of because he tells me.

881
00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 6: Everything last weekend we had a bad, fight which resulted

882
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,760
Speaker 6: in my boyfriend leaving in the middle of a. Party

883
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,280
Speaker 6: we didn't speak a lot since then because we needed

884
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 6: time to cool. Off, anyways YESTERDAY i was driving around

885
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 6: a couple of stores AND i saw my boyfriend's car

886
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:03,959
Speaker 6: in the parking.

887
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 1: Lot of a.

888
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:08,319
Speaker 6: RESTAURANT i PROMISED i wasn't thinking anything. BAD i just

889
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 6: wanted to see what was. Up WHEN i walked, IN

890
00:41:11,080 --> 00:41:15,280
Speaker 6: i saw my boyfriend with another. Girl they were sitting

891
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 6: in a booth just talking to each. OTHER i have

892
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 6: no idea who the girl is and have no idea

893
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 6: where they.

894
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:23,000
Speaker 1: Might know each.

895
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 6: Other BOY i don't remember everything in detail BECAUSE i

896
00:41:26,520 --> 00:41:29,560
Speaker 6: was so, upset BUT i ADMIT i did say some

897
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 6: things that weren't really nice BECAUSE i was. Emotional the

898
00:41:33,520 --> 00:41:36,760
Speaker 6: girl looked kind of scared and quickly. Left my boyfriend

899
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:38,719
Speaker 6: tried to go after, her BUT i told them we

900
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:43,400
Speaker 6: as a couple needed to. Talk he told me that

901
00:41:43,480 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 6: he drove her to the restaurant and needed to make

902
00:41:45,520 --> 00:41:45,840
Speaker 6: sure she.

903
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:46,239
Speaker 1: Left.

904
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:49,319
Speaker 6: OKAY i was upset about this because he doesn't like

905
00:41:49,360 --> 00:41:50,279
Speaker 6: it WHEN i drive with.

906
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:53,359
Speaker 5: Him he doesn't like it when you drive with. Him

907
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 5: what it's, Like, well first of, ALL i hear a bad.

908
00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 5: Driver second of, all you're a bad passenger.

909
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:04,320
Speaker 1: Friend you're freaking backseat. Driver you're always telling me to slow.

910
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: DOWN i hate. It yet WHAT i almost started to?

911
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 6: Cry she ended up getting an UBER i, think AND

912
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:12,839
Speaker 6: i asked my boyfriend to meet at my apartment so

913
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:15,399
Speaker 6: we could. Talk he got there before, me and WHEN

914
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 6: i pulled, up he said he wasn't going inside and

915
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:18,799
Speaker 6: would stay in his.

916
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 1: CAR i think you guys are GETTING i think you

917
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:24,880
Speaker 1: guys are breaking. Up AND i think that's a good. Idea,

918
00:42:25,200 --> 00:42:26,319
Speaker 1: YEAH i think it's.

919
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 5: TIME i don't we shouldn't be moving schools for our

920
00:42:30,080 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 5: boyfriends that we already broke up. With come, on, guys, no, no,

921
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:35,439
Speaker 5: no no no.

922
00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:38,840
Speaker 6: No to, summarize. It he was angry at me and

923
00:42:38,880 --> 00:42:41,880
Speaker 6: said he wanted to break. UP i felt blindsided and

924
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:44,240
Speaker 6: said that he was the one, cheating yet he.

925
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 1: Wants to break up with.

926
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 6: Me he was the one with another girl without telling,

927
00:42:48,440 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 6: me and he gets to end. It he called me

928
00:42:51,320 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 6: delusional and said we were over and he would have

929
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 6: some friends pick up his stuff from my.

930
00:42:55,760 --> 00:42:59,600
Speaker 5: PLACE i feel so lost. NOW i don't know what,

931
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 5: happened And i'm honestly.

932
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 1: Pissed that he the, cheater made me feel like the.

933
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 1: PROBLEM i just don't know what to.

934
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 4: Do.

935
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 6: GUYS i tried to text, him but all he responded

936
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 6: was that his friends were coming. Tomorrow i'm just really

937
00:43:12,239 --> 00:43:15,440
Speaker 6: upset AND i don't know what to. Say does anyone have?

938
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:18,760
Speaker 6: Advice and there is an, edit so a little short. One,

939
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 6: okay people are just being. MEAN i use my ex's

940
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 6: emails so he could get the, notifications but apparently everyone

941
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 6: Thinks i'm a. Villain probably just going to delete, This

942
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 6: and there is an update from the boyfriend's. PERSPECTIVE i

943
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:34,439
Speaker 6: already know what that's gonna. Say oh my, gosh either

944
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:38,479
Speaker 6: this is like a family member or a friend or.

945
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 1: Something, yeah and it's gonna be.

946
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:45,839
Speaker 5: So like, obvious, Right, YEAH i feel like that's very

947
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 5: possible for it to. Happen but if it did, happen

948
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:50,520
Speaker 5: and maybe, op he just left this out of the.

949
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 5: Story BUT i feel like he would be saying that

950
00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 5: in the moment that she's like blowing, abetive you know

951
00:43:58,160 --> 00:43:58,319
Speaker 5: WHAT i.

952
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 1: Mean, well it seems like she was like dreaming AT

953
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 1: i don't.

954
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:05,160
Speaker 6: KNOW i think that it could totally be that he was, cheating,

955
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:09,239
Speaker 6: yeah but it feels like there is a much more reasonable. Explanation,

956
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:12,799
Speaker 6: Yeah and she didn't really let him say, that just

957
00:44:12,840 --> 00:44:13,920
Speaker 6: immediately assumed he was.

958
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:16,279
Speaker 5: Cheating it's like a, date, yeah which is kind of,

959
00:44:16,360 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 5: LIKE i feel like people usually don't cheat like.

960
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 6: That and ALSO i feel like he wouldn't be LIKE

961
00:44:21,120 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 6: i need to go drop her, off right if it

962
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 6: was like he would be like oh.

963
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:26,840
Speaker 1: No it's like, no, no, no.

964
00:44:27,160 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 5: Nothing, YEAH i feel like there's Something, YEAH i feel

965
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:32,520
Speaker 5: like there's something else going on.

966
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:35,000
Speaker 1: Here and she we may have jumped to.

967
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 5: Him, now it's just always best to BacT check and

968
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:42,400
Speaker 5: to like who was, that, yeah and to not respond so,

969
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 5: emotionally and you could even.

970
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 6: Say Like i'm not super comfortable with you having one

971
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 6: on one lunches with the the random GIRLS i don't,

972
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:53,040
Speaker 6: know or something that that could be maybe the thing

973
00:44:53,040 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 6: that you bring. Up let's not go into that on me.

974
00:44:55,760 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 6: Exactly update boyfriend's. Perspective start off BECA i dated all

975
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 6: throughout high. School at the end of our senior, year

976
00:45:03,760 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 6: she decided to break up with me so she can

977
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:09,720
Speaker 6: explore her. OPTIONS i obviously was upset with this BECAUSE

978
00:45:09,800 --> 00:45:12,840
Speaker 6: i thought what we had was, enough but apparently she

979
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:15,840
Speaker 6: wanted to go into college without a burden her words.

980
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:19,040
Speaker 6: Out so freshman, YEAR i made a lot of new

981
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 6: friends and discovered new hobbies of. Mine when sophomore year came,

982
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 6: AROUND i felt like a new. PERSON i had no

983
00:45:25,200 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 6: ideas she planned on transferring until the day she showed.

984
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 6: Up within the first, week she had already made plans

985
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:32,319
Speaker 6: of getting back.

986
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:34,560
Speaker 1: Together, yikes e.

987
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:38,560
Speaker 6: MMM i told HER i needed, time and she respected.

988
00:45:38,560 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 6: That after a, WHILE i was getting, lonely AND i

989
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 6: guess the familiarity of her brought back memories and we

990
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 6: decided to make it. Work she was never really, possessive

991
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 6: or as some of you called, it. Crazy she always

992
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,759
Speaker 6: hated feeling left, out AND i guess her reasoning for

993
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:54,880
Speaker 6: being like this was that she missed out on a

994
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,280
Speaker 6: whole year and wanted to catch up with me. Again

995
00:45:58,360 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 6: it feels like, she's like, said during her entire college

996
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 6: experience around being with this.

997
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:07,040
Speaker 1: Guy which is not what college is. About finding. Yourself

998
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:09,480
Speaker 1: not because there's really too.

999
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 5: Young you can't, like you can't hook on to another

1000
00:46:12,880 --> 00:46:13,400
Speaker 5: person like.

1001
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 6: That you gotta be your. Own what she said was.

1002
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 6: True she did get attention from, guys and although she

1003
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 6: never did, anything she reveled in the fact that she

1004
00:46:22,360 --> 00:46:26,879
Speaker 6: got attention from, others bringing up any chance she got With.

1005
00:46:27,400 --> 00:46:28,680
Speaker 1: But don't, WORRY i wouldn't do.

1006
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:31,759
Speaker 6: ANYTHING i started to understand that the breakup in high

1007
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:33,880
Speaker 6: school was so she could hook up with other people

1008
00:46:34,320 --> 00:46:37,040
Speaker 6: without feeling guilty stop.

1009
00:46:37,080 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 1: It and all she told us was we broke up

1010
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:41,080
Speaker 1: for some. Reason, Yeah she's, LIKE i don't EVEN i

1011
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 1: don't even know. Why we bro so, long like don't even.

1012
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: Remember it was like we're both so like. Blacktop, yeah

1013
00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 1: and THEN i broke.

1014
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:49,440
Speaker 2: Up.

1015
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 6: Yeah she went to a small, school AND i believe

1016
00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:55,320
Speaker 6: that by the time the fun wore, off she wanted

1017
00:46:55,360 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 6: to go back to a stable. RELATIONSHIP i ADMIT i

1018
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 6: shouldn't have stayed, away BUT i GUESS i got used

1019
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 6: to the stability as. Well one of my new hobbies

1020
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 6: was working at an animal. SHELTER i usually go once

1021
00:47:07,360 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 6: or twice a week in the mornings to help out

1022
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 6: for a couple of. Hours one of the other, Volunteers,

1023
00:47:11,920 --> 00:47:13,279
Speaker 6: audrey is the girl at the.

1024
00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 1: RESTAURANT i do not know this girl other than working

1025
00:47:16,040 --> 00:47:16,680
Speaker 1: with her once a.

1026
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:20,080
Speaker 6: WEEK i know she's nineteen and know that she likes,

1027
00:47:20,200 --> 00:47:22,799
Speaker 6: cats and that's about. It on the day of the

1028
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 6: whole restaurant, SCENED i Found audrey crying in the breakroom

1029
00:47:26,880 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 6: ugh kind of separate room where employees and volunteers can,

1030
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 6: go having a. Breakdown when she could finally, talk she

1031
00:47:33,760 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 6: mentioned that her ex boyfriend showed and demanded to speak to.

1032
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:38,719
Speaker 1: Her oh for what she.

1033
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 6: Said he was not a good person and. Partner she

1034
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 6: told him not to come, nearer and he showed up

1035
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:46,840
Speaker 6: at work so she would freak out in. PUBLIC i

1036
00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:49,279
Speaker 6: offered to distract him so she could, leave but she

1037
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:52,520
Speaker 6: said she cannot drive and her brother dropped her, off

1038
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:55,120
Speaker 6: but he was at. WORK i offered to drop her

1039
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 6: off somewhere and she said. Yes another Thing becca did

1040
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:02,520
Speaker 6: not MENTION i also work at the restaurant where we.

1041
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:07,160
Speaker 5: Went she hadn't imagine anything in this. Story she's leaving

1042
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 5: out facts left and.

1043
00:48:08,640 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 1: Right that is. Crazy, yeah she was so, like he

1044
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:18,799
Speaker 1: breaks up with? Me, yeah, dude you don't Even you

1045
00:48:18,800 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 1: didn't know.

1046
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 6: Anything you didn't get any facts sitting across from a.

1047
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:25,799
Speaker 1: Woman, yeah did arrest, him ask? Anything oh my.

1048
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 6: God it was a pretty slow time, there so we

1049
00:48:29,280 --> 00:48:31,920
Speaker 6: sat at a booth so she could compose. Herself she

1050
00:48:32,080 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 6: was very apologetic and obviously very. Upset my manager said

1051
00:48:37,000 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 6: we could stay as long as we wanted Until audrey was.

1052
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:44,080
Speaker 6: Okay around this, Time becka stormed. In she claims she

1053
00:48:44,160 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 6: does not remember what she, said BUT i. DO i

1054
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:50,319
Speaker 6: won't go into detail BECAUSE i don't even want to

1055
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:53,359
Speaker 6: think about. It there were a lot of gross accusations

1056
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:55,800
Speaker 6: thrown at, me and the things she said To audrey

1057
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:59,320
Speaker 6: were straight up. Evil she went on for a while

1058
00:48:59,400 --> 00:49:01,959
Speaker 6: despite me to telling her to, stop and only did

1059
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 6: When audrey got up to. Leave she was still distraught from,

1060
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:10,360
Speaker 6: before and on top Of, becca she looked. Terrified what

1061
00:49:10,440 --> 00:49:12,120
Speaker 6: should have been a way for her to calm down

1062
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:15,880
Speaker 6: and receive support turned into a screaming attack from someone

1063
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:16,800
Speaker 6: she doesn't even.

1064
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: Know, gosh she's so. Awful, yikes so.

1065
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 5: Awful the Second audrey was, Gone becca became very calm

1066
00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:26,800
Speaker 5: and started saying stuff, Like, babe we need to. TALK

1067
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:29,919
Speaker 5: i didn't like. This, well maybe we should have done that.

1068
00:49:30,440 --> 00:49:33,000
Speaker 1: First, YEAH i don't, know crazy.

1069
00:49:33,080 --> 00:49:35,879
Speaker 5: Idea maybe we should have started with the talking then

1070
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:39,080
Speaker 5: and not even gone to any of the. Screaming that

1071
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 5: really sounds like such a like way to reel it back.

1072
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:46,480
Speaker 1: In that's, yeah because she's like screaming and she's, like, Like,

1073
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: babe we should, talk we should. TALK i just LIKE

1074
00:49:49,680 --> 00:49:51,680
Speaker 1: i didn't like. IT i don't like. IT i don't.

1075
00:49:51,680 --> 00:49:54,640
Speaker 5: Know but instead she's like screaming all this horrific. STUFF

1076
00:49:54,680 --> 00:49:55,879
Speaker 5: i get the person she doesn't even.

1077
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:59,000
Speaker 6: Know oh so she was saying like we never had,

1078
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:00,760
Speaker 6: fights we never relationship.

1079
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:03,880
Speaker 1: PROBLEMS i doubt that what one hundred.

1080
00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:07,040
Speaker 6: PERCENT i agreed to speak somewhere else only BECAUSE i

1081
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,360
Speaker 6: THOUGHT i was going to get, fired AND i was so.

1082
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 1: Embarrassed on the way. THERE i felt LIKE i had

1083
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:12,880
Speaker 1: a mid.

1084
00:50:12,880 --> 00:50:16,239
Speaker 6: Quarter life, crisis AND i realized that this was just

1085
00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:19,800
Speaker 6: the breaking. Point for the whole time we were. Together

1086
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:23,399
Speaker 6: she would obsess with. Cheating she was always NERVOUS i would,

1087
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:25,800
Speaker 6: cheat or if a guy spoke to, her she assumed

1088
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:28,239
Speaker 6: he was cheating on his girlfriend by talking to. HER

1089
00:50:29,280 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 6: i don't know if it was projecting or some type of,

1090
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:35,319
Speaker 6: delusion BUT i REALIZED i could not keep doing this with.

1091
00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 6: Her on top of, THAT i was upset with what

1092
00:50:38,160 --> 00:50:41,240
Speaker 6: happened With. AUDREY i don't know where she went after,

1093
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:44,440
Speaker 6: that AND i have no way of contacting Her at her,

1094
00:50:44,480 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 6: APARTMENT i told HER i couldn't do this. ANYMORE i

1095
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:50,040
Speaker 6: was done with the relationship and did not want her

1096
00:50:50,080 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 6: in my life. ANYMORE i went into, detail saying that

1097
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:56,480
Speaker 6: what she's doing is not, healthy and for a while

1098
00:50:56,600 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 6: now everything she does has been wearing me. Down, still

1099
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:02,720
Speaker 6: she accused me of cheating and everything.

1100
00:51:02,760 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 2: Else she.

1101
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:07,800
Speaker 6: Wrote this is WHERE i called her delusional and. Left,

1102
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:11,400
Speaker 6: ANYWAYS i wanted to clear some stuff up for anyone.

1103
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:15,279
Speaker 6: Interested my friends plan on picking up some clothes THAT

1104
00:51:15,360 --> 00:51:17,560
Speaker 6: i left at her apartment for, me but at this

1105
00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:19,919
Speaker 6: POINT i don't even want to. Bother she can keep

1106
00:51:19,960 --> 00:51:22,719
Speaker 6: them or throw out WHATEVER i have. THERE i think

1107
00:51:22,760 --> 00:51:24,759
Speaker 6: a lot of your comments got to, her because when

1108
00:51:24,760 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 6: she texted me to check her, email she said that

1109
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 6: was her. Goodbye to our relationship and that she was

1110
00:51:30,640 --> 00:51:34,440
Speaker 6: done and would. Cooperate i'm not SURE i fully believe,

1111
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:37,279
Speaker 6: that but it's time to move on from, this So

1112
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:40,560
Speaker 6: i'm not gonna push. It Hopefully audrey will be at

1113
00:51:40,560 --> 00:51:42,759
Speaker 6: the shelter next week AND i can hopefully talk to

1114
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:46,080
Speaker 6: her and, apologize.

1115
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 1: And that's the end of that.

1116
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 5: Story, folks, Joikes, yeah your girlfriend or ex girlfriend is.

1117
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 1: Little Craig, gray little gig Look Craig gray and good.

1118
00:51:56,560 --> 00:51:57,200
Speaker 1: Things she's out.

1119
00:51:57,239 --> 00:51:59,800
Speaker 2: There, Yeah, sam, here we're gonna get back to the.

1120
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 1: Story but here's three of it's bad from our.

1121
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:05,839
Speaker 5: SPONSORS i left my ex, wife but NOW i want

1122
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:06,480
Speaker 5: to remarry.

1123
00:52:06,520 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 1: Her you being pretty wishy.

1124
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 5: WASHY i made this burner account today SO i could

1125
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:13,680
Speaker 5: really get this off my. CHEST i three to four,

1126
00:52:13,680 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 5: male have been separated from my wife thirty three female

1127
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:18,840
Speaker 5: for a couple of. Years we've known each other since

1128
00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 5: we were kids and have been together since our. Adolescence

1129
00:52:21,840 --> 00:52:25,000
Speaker 5: we separated amicably, because, HONESTLY i was tired of being

1130
00:52:25,040 --> 00:52:27,960
Speaker 5: a less than stellar. Provider for, context my wife is

1131
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 5: a lawyer and worked hard to get to where she.

1132
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:32,200
Speaker 5: Is i'm a state home writer who didn't make any

1133
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:33,399
Speaker 5: real money into the last few.

1134
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:36,520
Speaker 1: Years by the, way this comes From Okay hospital.

1135
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:38,320
Speaker 5: Seventy eight forty, six and if you want to submit

1136
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 5: your own, stories go to the r Slash Okay storytime

1137
00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:42,880
Speaker 5: sepreddits And I'm, Angie I'm, sophia.

1138
00:52:42,560 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 2: And I'm, keon and we're here to give good.

1139
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:47,120
Speaker 5: Advice goofu, Ly but that doesn't mean we have all the.

1140
00:52:47,120 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 5: Answers we are just gonna guess what we're gonna do

1141
00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:51,960
Speaker 5: in this. Situation but it let us know what you

1142
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:56,239
Speaker 5: do in the. Comments but, no so op says. Me

1143
00:52:56,480 --> 00:52:59,160
Speaker 5: being a state homeworker meant That i've always been around

1144
00:52:59,200 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 5: for our kids and an eleven year old girl and

1145
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 5: a twin six year old. Boys if my wife was my,

1146
00:53:05,680 --> 00:53:07,799
Speaker 5: universe my kids are the stars in.

1147
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:08,600
Speaker 1: It oh that's.

1148
00:53:08,640 --> 00:53:11,640
Speaker 5: Cute SO i decided to go and get my crap in,

1149
00:53:11,760 --> 00:53:14,960
Speaker 5: order and she understood since her being the only breadwinner.

1150
00:53:14,560 --> 00:53:17,640
Speaker 1: Wasn't an issue until it, was and we went our separate.

1151
00:53:17,640 --> 00:53:20,799
Speaker 5: WAYS i went and up my craft and have been

1152
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:24,879
Speaker 5: getting more and more job, opportunities So i'm now financially better.

1153
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:27,920
Speaker 5: Off i'm still not making lawyer, money But i'm definitely

1154
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:30,279
Speaker 5: good enough to handle things. Now it's been a few,

1155
00:53:30,320 --> 00:53:33,000
Speaker 5: years and at that, Time i've come full circle with

1156
00:53:33,040 --> 00:53:35,320
Speaker 5: a lot of, things like the passing of my father

1157
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:38,719
Speaker 5: and my own personality, flaws and amidst all the, DISCOVERY

1158
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:41,640
Speaker 5: i discovered something THAT i Think i've always.

1159
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:43,719
Speaker 1: KNOWN i still love.

1160
00:53:43,800 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 5: Her oh this movie People, will he like needed that

1161
00:53:50,200 --> 00:53:52,120
Speaker 5: time because he was, like you didn't, know he's trying

1162
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 5: to figure out. Himself, yeah was satisfied they knew each

1163
00:53:56,440 --> 00:53:57,080
Speaker 5: other since they were.

1164
00:53:57,200 --> 00:53:58,759
Speaker 1: Children who was, LIKE i need TO i want to

1165
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 1: like get a. JOB i don't want. TO i don't

1166
00:54:00,280 --> 00:54:01,399
Speaker 1: want her to be the sole.

1167
00:54:01,520 --> 00:54:04,359
Speaker 5: Provider, Right it's not like you screwed her over in any.

1168
00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:06,399
Speaker 5: Way and it was, like, oh we're breaking up because

1169
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 5: you cheated on.

1170
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 6: Me she just got lost in your own life and

1171
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 6: then you found yourself and you're, like, wait want to

1172
00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:13,200
Speaker 6: find my way back to?

1173
00:54:13,239 --> 00:54:14,200
Speaker 2: You my wife?

1174
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:19,160
Speaker 5: Back, ah big, surprise but bear with. ME i can't

1175
00:54:19,160 --> 00:54:21,279
Speaker 5: shake this feeling in my heart that she's still the

1176
00:54:21,320 --> 00:54:24,200
Speaker 5: one for. Me SO i first felt this a year

1177
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:25,960
Speaker 5: ago WHEN i saw her out a family get. Together

1178
00:54:26,080 --> 00:54:28,239
Speaker 5: she brings my kids and obviously stays to chat with

1179
00:54:28,239 --> 00:54:30,719
Speaker 5: my family since they obviously enjoy her, company AND i

1180
00:54:30,760 --> 00:54:32,120
Speaker 5: couldn't take my eyes off.

1181
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:33,440
Speaker 2: Her a she was.

1182
00:54:33,560 --> 00:54:37,399
Speaker 1: Gorgeous, no, Biggie i'm probably just alone and. Stupid tell.

1183
00:54:37,400 --> 00:54:41,279
Speaker 5: HER a few weeks, LATER i was dropping off our

1184
00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 5: kids at her house after they had spent the weekend with.

1185
00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:46,759
Speaker 5: Me she was in the same dang pajama bottom she's

1186
00:54:46,800 --> 00:54:48,560
Speaker 5: had since, college and her hair was in a.

1187
00:54:48,640 --> 00:54:52,640
Speaker 6: Top bus stopped and he's. Runny she was in a messy.

1188
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:56,120
Speaker 6: Bun she only had a little mass scara on. Yeah,

1189
00:54:56,200 --> 00:54:59,280
Speaker 6: yeah she had a OVERSIZED.

1190
00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:03,799
Speaker 1: T shirt ON r and she was still. Gorgeous Now i'm.

1191
00:55:03,800 --> 00:55:06,319
Speaker 5: Worried SO i talked to my therapist about, it and

1192
00:55:06,400 --> 00:55:08,560
Speaker 5: over the next few, MONTHS i focus on other. THINGS

1193
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:10,880
Speaker 5: i get in better, shape change my, hairstyle and for

1194
00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:12,960
Speaker 5: the first, Time i'm even growing facial.

1195
00:55:12,960 --> 00:55:15,799
Speaker 1: Hair, ooh glow up over.

1196
00:55:15,840 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 3: Here.

1197
00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:20,120
Speaker 5: Oh i'm working on me so THAT i can eventually

1198
00:55:20,160 --> 00:55:22,919
Speaker 5: tell myself that MAYBE i was just lonely and going through.

1199
00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:23,240
Speaker 1: Things.

1200
00:55:23,360 --> 00:55:26,399
Speaker 5: Well six months, later HERE i am to tell you

1201
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:28,799
Speaker 5: THAT i still love to tell.

1202
00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:32,279
Speaker 1: Her tell her you love, her go run after in the.

1203
00:55:32,320 --> 00:55:33,160
Speaker 1: Airport so.

1204
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:35,879
Speaker 5: Cute, NOW i don't know how she, feels But i'm

1205
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:38,279
Speaker 5: sure of it in my heart of, hearts now THAT

1206
00:55:38,360 --> 00:55:41,719
Speaker 5: i love her with every fiber of my. Being, TRUTHFULLY

1207
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:45,560
Speaker 5: i don't Think i've ever. Stopped so what's stopping? Me?

1208
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:49,359
Speaker 1: Now what's what is stopping? You go get the, run

1209
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:53,560
Speaker 1: run to, Her. Apee she's waiting for. You she's. WAITING

1210
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:54,799
Speaker 1: i don't want to.

1211
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 5: Overstep maybe she's not feeling that way anymore until you,

1212
00:55:58,400 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 5: ask it's.

1213
00:55:59,200 --> 00:56:03,200
Speaker 1: True who. KNOWS i also got to be mindful of my.

1214
00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:05,239
Speaker 5: Kids last THING i want to do is get their

1215
00:56:05,280 --> 00:56:08,719
Speaker 5: hopes up with something that might never. Happen, lastly how

1216
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:10,440
Speaker 5: CAN i make sure THAT i don't mess this up?

1217
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:13,160
Speaker 5: Again things are going really well for, me But i'd

1218
00:56:13,160 --> 00:56:14,880
Speaker 5: give it all up to have her back in my.

1219
00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:18,359
Speaker 5: Life so reddit do you think y'all can help your boy?

1220
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 1: Out there is out? There god tell her say you.

1221
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:24,080
Speaker 1: Don't maybe she'll say, no but maybe she'll say.

1222
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:24,359
Speaker 5: Yes.

1223
00:56:24,600 --> 00:56:27,040
Speaker 1: Yeah you just got to be ready for either. Thing

1224
00:56:27,360 --> 00:56:30,520
Speaker 1: this is so, Sweete LIKE i found.

1225
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:32,600
Speaker 6: MYSELF i feel Like i'm doing And i'm in a

1226
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 6: better place in my. Life, yeah and it's not going

1227
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 6: to end the same way because you're in a better.

1228
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:40,160
Speaker 5: Place that's the whole reason why you ended in the first,

1229
00:56:40,160 --> 00:56:43,520
Speaker 5: place was to work on yourself and you have so. Much,

1230
00:56:43,600 --> 00:56:47,200
Speaker 5: yeah SO i think you have nothing to fear except

1231
00:56:47,239 --> 00:56:48,160
Speaker 5: for if she's already with.

1232
00:56:48,200 --> 00:56:50,319
Speaker 1: Someone BUT i kind of feel like she's. NOT i

1233
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:50,879
Speaker 1: don't think.

1234
00:56:50,960 --> 00:56:54,160
Speaker 5: SO i kind of feel like she hope. Not but

1235
00:56:54,280 --> 00:56:57,239
Speaker 5: we do have an. Update SO i just got back

1236
00:56:57,239 --> 00:57:00,399
Speaker 5: from the. Date wait, WHAT i just.

1237
00:57:00,320 --> 00:57:01,000
Speaker 1: Got back on the.

1238
00:57:01,080 --> 00:57:05,480
Speaker 5: Day we went to this restaurant that we used to

1239
00:57:05,520 --> 00:57:07,440
Speaker 5: like before we had. KIDS i didn't know what to,

1240
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:10,080
Speaker 5: wear SO i just went kind of business casual and

1241
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:13,759
Speaker 5: she was stunning as per. Usual we ordered appetizers and

1242
00:57:13,800 --> 00:57:16,240
Speaker 5: talked about some lighter, stuff like how our daughter loves,

1243
00:57:16,240 --> 00:57:18,360
Speaker 5: soccer how the boys are starting to look more and

1244
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:20,720
Speaker 5: more like. Me there's some little chunk of, things BUT

1245
00:57:20,760 --> 00:57:23,560
Speaker 5: i love. Them and she made fun of me for

1246
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:26,640
Speaker 5: getting the same appetizer THAT i always get on.

1247
00:57:26,840 --> 00:57:29,880
Speaker 1: You oh my, gosh Why i'm asked with? Perfection?

1248
00:57:30,040 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 5: Right, so as the night goes, on we finish out,

1249
00:57:32,800 --> 00:57:34,720
Speaker 5: DINNER i worked up the nerve to just tell her

1250
00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:37,120
Speaker 5: the truth and do it SO i wouldn't overwhelm. HER

1251
00:57:37,600 --> 00:57:39,440
Speaker 5: i told her THAT i was proud of her for

1252
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:41,800
Speaker 5: everything that she had, done especially in her, career and

1253
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 5: how she's always been a great mom and. Person she

1254
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:47,880
Speaker 5: immediately stopped, eating looked at, me and, said are you passing?

1255
00:57:47,880 --> 00:57:48,200
Speaker 2: Away?

1256
00:57:48,440 --> 00:57:51,520
Speaker 1: Ah she's a such little goof.

1257
00:57:52,280 --> 00:57:56,040
Speaker 5: All needless to, SAY i laughed pretty. HARD i was

1258
00:57:56,080 --> 00:57:58,959
Speaker 5: going to say something corny like, no, BABY i can't hit.

1259
00:57:58,880 --> 00:58:02,160
Speaker 1: A life without, you BUT i figured this wasn't the.

1260
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 1: Time no, baby, BABY.

1261
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:11,160
Speaker 5: I just, said, No i'm. OKAY i just wanted you

1262
00:58:11,200 --> 00:58:12,400
Speaker 5: to know THAT i appreciate.

1263
00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:14,520
Speaker 1: You but in his head he, said no, baby no,

1264
00:58:14,600 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 1: BABY i appreciate.

1265
00:58:15,560 --> 00:58:18,520
Speaker 5: YOU i love, You and she in turn told me

1266
00:58:18,560 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 5: that while she appreciated, it she wished THAT i was around.

1267
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:24,720
Speaker 1: More, oh, Okay i'm gonna be around you all you.

1268
00:58:24,760 --> 00:58:26,120
Speaker 1: WANT i told.

1269
00:58:25,920 --> 00:58:27,960
Speaker 5: Her That i'd never turned my back on our kids

1270
00:58:28,000 --> 00:58:29,919
Speaker 5: and THAT i want to be with them even, more

1271
00:58:30,280 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 5: but she said that it wasn't about the.

1272
00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:38,320
Speaker 1: Kids she wanted me to be around more for. Her, no,

1273
00:58:38,720 --> 00:58:45,680
Speaker 1: SA i can be around you, baby my. GOODNESS i

1274
00:58:45,720 --> 00:58:48,440
Speaker 1: asked her what she, meant and she just unloaded on,

1275
00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 1: me telling, yeah she, did.

1276
00:58:52,360 --> 00:58:54,800
Speaker 5: Telling me that she always believed in me and that

1277
00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:57,520
Speaker 5: WHEN i, left it made her feel like she wasn't good. Enough.

1278
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:00,240
Speaker 5: NO i told her THAT i was so sorry THAT

1279
00:59:00,280 --> 00:59:02,160
Speaker 5: i never meant to make her feel that. Way she,

1280
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:04,919
Speaker 5: said the reason we weren't divorced is because she didn't

1281
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:06,640
Speaker 5: want to admit to herself that it was.

1282
00:59:06,680 --> 00:59:08,720
Speaker 1: Over, oh, okay so maybe we're not. Separated it had.

1283
00:59:08,720 --> 00:59:11,760
Speaker 5: Been separated for three, years y'all were both still in.

1284
00:59:11,800 --> 00:59:14,960
Speaker 1: Love oh that the man that she's.

1285
00:59:14,720 --> 00:59:17,080
Speaker 5: Loved her whole life could up and decide that the

1286
00:59:17,080 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 5: relationship we'd built together wasn't. ENOUGH i stopped her right,

1287
00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:23,520
Speaker 5: there AND i told her, everything AND i.

1288
00:59:23,680 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 1: Mean, everything that she's my.

1289
00:59:26,880 --> 00:59:29,560
Speaker 5: Everything and THEN i can't bear to be a failure

1290
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:31,760
Speaker 5: and let her. Down and THEN i didn't do WHAT

1291
00:59:31,800 --> 00:59:34,520
Speaker 5: i did out of some selfish, desire but BECAUSE i

1292
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:36,320
Speaker 5: wanted to make more out of my life SO i

1293
00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:38,919
Speaker 5: could do more for her and our. Children she said

1294
00:59:38,920 --> 00:59:41,400
Speaker 5: that it felt LIKE i had changed everything about myself

1295
00:59:41,440 --> 00:59:44,160
Speaker 5: BECAUSE i was ashamed of WHO i, was when she.

1296
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:46,439
Speaker 1: Always loved WHO i. WAS i asked her what.

1297
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Speaker 5: She, meant and she pointed out How i'm, dressed How

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00:59:49,120 --> 00:59:52,680
Speaker 5: i've lost, weight even HOW i style my. Hair it was,

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00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:55,320
Speaker 5: like in her, opinion the old me wasn't the real,

1300
00:59:55,440 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 5: me and this person in front of her was just an.

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00:59:58,160 --> 01:00:00,440
Speaker 5: IMITATION i told her that WHO i am on the

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01:00:00,480 --> 01:00:02,560
Speaker 5: outside may have changed a, bit but the man you,

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01:00:02,680 --> 01:00:05,960
Speaker 5: love the one you truly, love is still here in

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01:00:06,000 --> 01:00:06,360
Speaker 5: front of.

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01:00:06,360 --> 01:00:07,960
Speaker 1: You she didn't say much after.

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01:00:08,000 --> 01:00:10,720
Speaker 6: That, YEAH i feel, LIKE i, MEAN i understand her,

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01:00:10,760 --> 01:00:13,400
Speaker 6: point BUT i do think that like when you change

1308
01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:16,800
Speaker 6: your outward, Appearance, uh it doesn't you, know you're not

1309
01:00:16,920 --> 01:00:21,160
Speaker 6: losing usually you're not losing you know what's. Inside it's

1310
01:00:21,240 --> 01:00:23,800
Speaker 6: just making you feel more. Confident and it seems like

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01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:27,400
Speaker 6: that has helped. Him, yeah feel more, confident, Right and.

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01:00:27,360 --> 01:00:28,920
Speaker 5: That's probably like a good thing to kind of get

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01:00:28,920 --> 01:00:30,800
Speaker 5: out of the way, too of like just to make

1314
01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:33,800
Speaker 5: sure like you look, different but you haven't just changed

1315
01:00:33,800 --> 01:00:35,960
Speaker 5: because you like didn't. Like, no it's, like, NO i

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01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:38,520
Speaker 5: feel more confident this, way and that's. OKAY i paid

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01:00:38,520 --> 01:00:40,920
Speaker 5: for dinner and decided to take her. Home maybe it

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01:00:41,000 --> 01:00:43,800
Speaker 5: was all too. Much, No so we're driving back AND i.

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01:00:43,760 --> 01:00:46,080
Speaker 1: Look at her WHILE i. Drive she's still a bit

1320
01:00:46,080 --> 01:00:46,760
Speaker 1: emotional from.

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01:00:46,800 --> 01:00:49,200
Speaker 5: DINNER i plug in MY ox cable AND i play

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01:00:49,280 --> 01:00:51,480
Speaker 5: the Song Always Be My baby By Mariah.

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01:00:51,480 --> 01:00:53,600
Speaker 1: Carey she loves that song so.

1324
01:00:53,800 --> 01:00:56,240
Speaker 5: MUCH i must have heard it a million, times AND

1325
01:00:56,280 --> 01:00:58,520
Speaker 5: i started to sing it to. Her the chorus, goes

1326
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:00,760
Speaker 5: you will always be a part of, me And i'm

1327
01:01:00,760 --> 01:01:03,520
Speaker 5: a part of you. Indefinitely, boy don't you know you

1328
01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:06,640
Speaker 5: can't escape, me, no, darling because you'll always be my.

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01:01:06,760 --> 01:01:10,240
Speaker 5: Baby i'm singing the heck out of this, song you,

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01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:13,400
Speaker 5: Guys and she's smiling a, bit especially AS i ruined

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01:01:13,400 --> 01:01:17,280
Speaker 5: the rifts AND i Swear i'm an every gosh dang

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01:01:17,480 --> 01:01:18,800
Speaker 5: where it's, like you'll.

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01:01:18,600 --> 01:01:23,560
Speaker 1: Always be my he's looking at. Her Man, yep.

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01:01:24,400 --> 01:01:28,000
Speaker 5: She's finally singing along with, Me and when the car,

1335
01:01:28,080 --> 01:01:30,280
Speaker 5: STOPS i open my door and get out to open.

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01:01:30,320 --> 01:01:32,120
Speaker 5: HERS i walk her to the front door and tell

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01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:34,640
Speaker 5: her how MUCH i enjoyed. Tonight she says that she

1338
01:01:34,680 --> 01:01:36,280
Speaker 5: didn't know THAT i knew all the words of the,

1339
01:01:36,320 --> 01:01:38,800
Speaker 5: song and of COURSE i know, it because, well it's

1340
01:01:38,840 --> 01:01:41,360
Speaker 5: about us in a. WAY i kiss her hand and

1341
01:01:41,440 --> 01:01:42,880
Speaker 5: ask her if she'd like to go out with me.

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01:01:42,920 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 1: Again she said.

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01:01:44,480 --> 01:01:44,720
Speaker 4: Yes.

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01:01:46,520 --> 01:01:50,440
Speaker 5: Cute now we're home While i'm typing this while she's

1345
01:01:50,440 --> 01:01:52,720
Speaker 5: sleeping next to me on her. COUCH i tucked her

1346
01:01:52,720 --> 01:01:53,920
Speaker 5: in And i'm just watching.

1347
01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:56,160
Speaker 1: Her. Now i'm going to go kiss my kids and

1348
01:01:56,200 --> 01:01:58,720
Speaker 1: get out of. HERE i don't know how long or

1349
01:01:58,720 --> 01:01:59,720
Speaker 1: how far this is going to.

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01:01:59,720 --> 01:02:03,560
Speaker 5: Go but one thing's for, Sure she's still and will

1351
01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:06,480
Speaker 5: always be my. Baby thanks for helping me, out, GUYS

1352
01:02:06,560 --> 01:02:09,200
Speaker 5: i appreciate it so. Much we do have an update

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01:02:09,840 --> 01:02:10,560
Speaker 5: one month.

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01:02:10,680 --> 01:02:13,720
Speaker 1: LATER i hope it's we're married. AGAIN i hope so.

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01:02:13,760 --> 01:02:16,160
Speaker 1: Too AND i love her AND i give her. Kises,

1356
01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:19,440
Speaker 1: yeah AND i give her a, KEYS i GIVE i

1357
01:02:19,520 --> 01:02:22,000
Speaker 1: give her a. Keys but we do have an update

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01:02:22,040 --> 01:02:22,439
Speaker 1: one month.

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01:02:22,520 --> 01:02:25,880
Speaker 5: Later hello, All i'm thankful to those of you who encouraged,

1360
01:02:25,880 --> 01:02:27,520
Speaker 5: me And i'm here to share some news with. You

1361
01:02:27,960 --> 01:02:31,320
Speaker 5: so for, clarification since some people here have been attacking,

1362
01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 5: ME i didn't leave for money's sake. ALONE i left

1363
01:02:34,040 --> 01:02:35,680
Speaker 5: BECAUSE i didn't want to be a burden on her

1364
01:02:35,720 --> 01:02:38,160
Speaker 5: for not making a good enough. Living if that makes

1365
01:02:38,240 --> 01:02:40,960
Speaker 5: me insecure about wanting better for, myself well THEN i

1366
01:02:40,960 --> 01:02:44,040
Speaker 5: guess that's just how it is those attacking. You, Yeah

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01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:48,160
Speaker 5: i'll fight my bite, them fight them right, back clay. Off,

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01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:52,200
Speaker 5: SECONDLY i was stupid to let it get to. Separation

1369
01:02:52,400 --> 01:02:55,000
Speaker 5: there's no, arguing not at. All but you know WHAT

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01:02:55,200 --> 01:02:58,160
Speaker 5: i can see now even clearer than, before that she's

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01:02:58,360 --> 01:03:01,080
Speaker 5: the one for. Me since my last, update we've gone

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01:03:01,120 --> 01:03:03,440
Speaker 5: out a few more, times and now we're thinking of

1373
01:03:03,480 --> 01:03:05,080
Speaker 5: telling our kids about us getting back.

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01:03:05,080 --> 01:03:09,240
Speaker 1: Together her parents.

1375
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:11,680
Speaker 5: Know and my mom does. Too truth is that since

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01:03:11,720 --> 01:03:14,080
Speaker 5: the first, DATE i haven't come back. DOWN i feel

1377
01:03:14,080 --> 01:03:16,200
Speaker 5: like it's going to work this, time And i'll be

1378
01:03:16,360 --> 01:03:18,880
Speaker 5: danked IF i let it slip away from me. Again

1379
01:03:19,560 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 5: So i'm going to talk to my kids about. It

1380
01:03:21,520 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 5: i'll update you guys again if that's what you. Want if, not,

1381
01:03:24,800 --> 01:03:26,600
Speaker 5: well it's been my pleasure and.

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01:03:26,560 --> 01:03:28,440
Speaker 1: We do have an. Update it's WHAT i. Want we

1383
01:03:28,480 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 1: have an, update it's WHAT i. WANT i think we

1384
01:03:30,520 --> 01:03:33,080
Speaker 1: should just get into. It, Yeah i'm so. Excited please.

1385
01:03:33,600 --> 01:03:36,960
Speaker 5: Update hello again to all you lovers and. Friends so

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01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:38,960
Speaker 5: it's been a couple of months and my girl AND

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01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:40,200
Speaker 5: i have been going.

1388
01:03:39,960 --> 01:03:43,480
Speaker 1: Straw his, Girl Girls.

1389
01:03:43,760 --> 01:03:48,080
Speaker 5: Girl our kids have been informed and they are taking

1390
01:03:48,080 --> 01:03:51,480
Speaker 5: it really. Well our, friends both individual and, mutual are

1391
01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:55,040
Speaker 5: very supportive of us getting back. Together i'm most likely

1392
01:03:55,080 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 5: going to move in with her ONCE i can sell my,

1393
01:03:56,880 --> 01:03:59,280
Speaker 5: apartment And i'm thinking of asking her if she wants

1394
01:03:59,320 --> 01:04:02,600
Speaker 5: to get married again down the. Road not right, now,

1395
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:06,520
Speaker 5: obviously But i'll keep you all. Posted and there is

1396
01:04:06,560 --> 01:04:07,160
Speaker 5: a fourth.

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01:04:07,240 --> 01:04:07,680
Speaker 2: Update.

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01:04:08,000 --> 01:04:09,440
Speaker 1: Ah this is an exciting.

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01:04:09,480 --> 01:04:09,680
Speaker 2: One.

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01:04:09,800 --> 01:04:12,520
Speaker 1: AH i just read the. Title read. It oh my,

1401
01:04:12,560 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 1: god read.

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01:04:13,040 --> 01:04:17,400
Speaker 5: It update for remarry it MY x Five september, fifth

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01:04:17,520 --> 01:04:19,360
Speaker 5: twenty four months.

1404
01:04:19,440 --> 01:04:22,360
Speaker 2: Later let's. Go it is so?

1405
01:04:22,480 --> 01:04:25,920
Speaker 1: Happy this is so cute.

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01:04:26,400 --> 01:04:30,480
Speaker 5: Oday, Hey SO i made a post here a year

1407
01:04:30,520 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 5: ago about getting back with my ex and read it

1408
01:04:32,640 --> 01:04:35,040
Speaker 5: was somewhat helpful minus the harsh words and.

1409
01:04:35,080 --> 01:04:38,760
Speaker 1: Insults. Lol SO i was, thinking how SHOULD i propose to?

1410
01:04:38,800 --> 01:04:40,800
Speaker 5: Her i'm thinking a redo of WHAT i did the

1411
01:04:40,800 --> 01:04:43,040
Speaker 5: first time could be, nostalgic BUT i also want us

1412
01:04:43,080 --> 01:04:45,480
Speaker 5: to forge a new path. Together AM i rushing back

1413
01:04:45,480 --> 01:04:47,880
Speaker 5: into something we broke up for a plethora of reasons

1414
01:04:47,880 --> 01:04:50,120
Speaker 5: the first, time most of which were my, fault like

1415
01:04:50,200 --> 01:04:52,240
Speaker 5: not being comfortable with WHERE i was in. Life But

1416
01:04:52,400 --> 01:04:54,840
Speaker 5: i've done the work And i've convinced her That i'm

1417
01:04:54,880 --> 01:04:58,280
Speaker 5: here to. Stay seeing is HOW i can update my original.

1418
01:04:58,280 --> 01:05:00,320
Speaker 5: Post i'm coming here to get some insight on how

1419
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 5: to ask my ex to remarry.

1420
01:05:01,840 --> 01:05:03,680
Speaker 1: Me oh and that's. It that's.

1421
01:05:03,720 --> 01:05:08,880
Speaker 7: All just, say hey, GIRL i love, YOU i ain't

1422
01:05:08,920 --> 01:05:14,000
Speaker 7: never gonna stop love, you and then you, say will

1423
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:14,360
Speaker 7: you marry?

1424
01:05:14,400 --> 01:05:14,480
Speaker 2: Me?

1425
01:05:14,800 --> 01:05:16,800
Speaker 1: YEAH i THINK i think that's a good idea to

1426
01:05:17,320 --> 01:05:20,400
Speaker 1: do something new and. SPECIAL i like. That, yeah, yeah

1427
01:05:20,600 --> 01:05:21,400
Speaker 1: maybe maybe have.

1428
01:05:21,400 --> 01:05:25,520
Speaker 5: Your kids involved some way to help you propose about

1429
01:05:25,880 --> 01:05:26,160
Speaker 5: it's so.

1430
01:05:26,400 --> 01:05:28,520
Speaker 1: CUTE i don't.

1431
01:05:28,400 --> 01:05:32,480
Speaker 5: Know's a million different ways that you, can.

1432
01:05:32,520 --> 01:05:35,040
Speaker 1: But that is just such a sweet. Story.

1433
01:05:35,280 --> 01:05:38,120
Speaker 4: YEAH i tried to see if there's anything.

1434
01:05:38,160 --> 01:05:41,840
Speaker 1: Updated. Yeah, nothing you, know LIKE i already know what.

1435
01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:45,560
Speaker 6: Happened they got married and lived happily ever around.

1436
01:05:45,240 --> 01:05:46,680
Speaker 5: They got, Married, YEAH i, MEAN i guess they had

1437
01:05:46,680 --> 01:05:50,280
Speaker 5: a date for A september, fifth oh, man unless unless

1438
01:05:50,280 --> 01:05:52,000
Speaker 5: that was when the post Was but how.

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01:05:52,080 --> 01:05:54,480
Speaker 1: Lovely but that was amazing