Speaker 1: Hi Tribe.
Speaker 2: On this week's episode, we are discussing manifestation, masturbation.
Speaker 3: Side chicks and how many men have them.
Speaker 2: That applies the Rapper is fucking smart.
Speaker 3: Exploring hierarchy and ethical non monogamous relationships.
Speaker 2: In an anal alleyway. Hori, you don't want to miss
Speaker 2: enjoy Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica
Speaker 2: and I'm Mila, and it's Wednesday.
Speaker 3: How are you doing, dear?
Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm good. It's hot outside.
Speaker 2: My daughter is home from school because she's sick, and
Speaker 2: I was definitely going to try force her to go
Speaker 2: to school like the good bad mom I am, but
Speaker 2: she really couldn't breathe, so I had to just say.
Speaker 1: Fine, now she couldn't breathe. She's very stuffy.
Speaker 2: There's like a lot of fires happening right now in California,
Speaker 2: specifically in the valley, and so there's a lot of
Speaker 2: smoke in the air, and me and my daughter just
Speaker 2: have the worst allergies, so she's she's suffering a bit.
Speaker 1: So I'm good, though, how are you?
Speaker 3: I'm good. I found a lot of guilt this morning.
Speaker 3: I was trying to wake up Luna for school. She
Speaker 3: just would not wake up, like literally dead bodied, limp,
Speaker 3: like not responding. And I know it's our fault, like
Speaker 3: me and Erica do this. We've been doing this for
Speaker 3: three years. But I guess now that she's about to
Speaker 3: be in first grade, like the guilt is overwhelming because
Speaker 3: first of all, I get in trouble when she misses school.
Speaker 3: I get in trouble when she's late to school that
Speaker 3: I kind of send me to gail Well for sure.
Speaker 3: And so this morning, I was like, it's my fault,
Speaker 3: Like my child went to sleep at eleven thirty last
Speaker 3: night because I left Erica's at like ten, and she
Speaker 3: went to bed because her mother prioritizes podcasting over a
Speaker 3: school night. So I've been meaning to talk to you.
Speaker 3: We're gonna have to put an end to this because
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna go to jail over too many missed
Speaker 3: absences and tarties. And then I'm like coaching my daughter
Speaker 3: to lie. I'm like, tell them you had a dentist appointment.
Speaker 3: She's like, but I did it. I'm like just so warm.
Speaker 3: So I just I've been I had to coach my
Speaker 3: I had to coach myself this morning, like I let
Speaker 3: her sleep in because she wouldn't wake up, and I
Speaker 3: just lay there and I was like, it's okay, you're
Speaker 3: her mom. They can't tell you what to do. And
Speaker 3: then I was just like channeling Erica, like it's not
Speaker 3: I just made the decision that she wasn't gonna go.
Speaker 3: I'm like, she's just gonna be late. I'm just gonna
Speaker 3: lie about it, and it's fine. I'm gonna write a
Speaker 3: note and no one can tell me shit. Like I
Speaker 3: get so much anxiety about things that are not in
Speaker 3: my control, and I'm just like, are you alive?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: You are, so that's all that matters. So I'm just hey,
Speaker 3: we need to stop having late night ass fucking podcasting
Speaker 3: meetings that don't end till eleven on school nights and
Speaker 3: be if anyone else's experiencing guilt or anxiety from shit
Speaker 3: that's out of your control, this is your weekly sign
Speaker 3: to let that shit go.
Speaker 1: Amen.
Speaker 2: Amen, I agree. I mean my daughter went to went
Speaker 2: to bed late. I mean obviously you were here, so
Speaker 2: she went to bed promptly after you left. But yeah,
Speaker 2: you can't. Those days are done. Those days are done.
Speaker 1: Shall we pull a card, Yes we shall.
Speaker 2: Maybe the cards will tell us what's in our future
Speaker 2: as far as better structure for our children.
Speaker 3: Please God give us the answers. I'm really excited because
Speaker 3: one of our listeners, who is so fucking kind and
Speaker 3: probably so annoyed of us, hearing us a bit about
Speaker 3: our other deck that we don't like. We got a
Speaker 3: beautiful new deck in the mail, and it's called the
Speaker 3: Tarot of Bohemian Secrets, and it's called like it's all
Speaker 3: photography and it's all like black images. It's they photographed
Speaker 3: it in Haiti and they use like just things that
Speaker 3: they could find and like locals, and it's so beautiful
Speaker 3: and it gives such a good in depth understanding of
Speaker 3: each card and like the origin of Tiro. So I'm
Speaker 3: really excited to like really get into my witchiness with
Speaker 3: this new deck. Bet. The first card that we've picked
Speaker 3: in our new deck is Page of Swords, and this
Speaker 3: deck it's the Page of Machetes, but in the regular
Speaker 3: deck it's the Page of Swords. So the meaning of
Speaker 3: the Page of Swords or Machetes. The gifts are care, courage, severity, curiosity, communication, inspiration,
Speaker 3: and mental agility. The challenges are malevolence, cruelty, mental instability
Speaker 3: or intellectual immaturity, failure to recognize facts, aggression and destruction.
Speaker 3: You are very eager to execute an idea that you
Speaker 3: have been having. You've been you are very eager to
Speaker 3: execute an idea that you have been having or someone
Speaker 3: else shared with you. You're quite passionate about it, and you
Speaker 3: cannot wait to share the progress with others. It is
Speaker 3: time to be talkative, open up and talk about these
Speaker 3: ideas constructively. Maybe we're supposed to be revealing to the people.
Speaker 3: You know, we did just sign a big We are
Speaker 3: about to sign this very important contract this probably this week,
Speaker 3: and maybe this maybe the biggest contract of our of
Speaker 3: our professional podcasting for careers exactly.
Speaker 2: And so maybe it's just getting in anticipation with sharing
Speaker 2: with the tribe and the community about what we are
Speaker 2: have been working on and what we are going to
Speaker 2: be continuing to work on over the next few months
Speaker 2: and then releasing our baby to the world.
Speaker 3: This deck is really cool because it kind of talks
Speaker 3: about each card means and so you know, there's cups,
Speaker 3: those pet there's pinnacles, there's machetes, there's uh rooms. I
Speaker 3: think it's called something else in a different deck, but
Speaker 3: Basically it says that for swords or machetes, it's how
Speaker 3: does my how does my shadow side manifest itself in
Speaker 3: my mind? So this card reveals how the suppression controls
Speaker 3: your mind. Look at the challenges this card brings. So
Speaker 3: I guess it's it's dealing with your shadow side and
Speaker 3: the things that maybe you don't talk about, you don't reveal,
Speaker 3: and what you suppress and how that controls your mind.
Speaker 3: So cups are also like how your how your emotions manifest.
Speaker 3: Pinnacles are also how your shadow side manifests and material
Speaker 3: concerns like money. So we're about to be witches real
Speaker 3: soon with this new book.
Speaker 2: How are you other than Luna not going to sleep
Speaker 2: and or going to sleep too late, and uh all
Speaker 2: the other life steps.
Speaker 3: You know, I'm just taking it one day at a time,
Speaker 3: reminding myself there's just one step at a time. And
Speaker 3: also I'm really trying to prioritize my gratefulness and my gratitude.
Speaker 3: We are about to sign a very very very very
Speaker 3: big contract, and you know, like even with other shit
Speaker 3: going on in my life, I have to keep remembering, like, bitch,
Speaker 3: your dreams are coming true, like everything else can fall
Speaker 3: at the wayside, you know, not everything else obviously, like
Speaker 3: everything's in motion. But it's so easy to get caught
Speaker 3: up on the things that are like not that big
Speaker 3: of a deal, and I just don't want to die.
Speaker 3: One day and like my life flashed before my eyes
Speaker 3: and I'm like, damn, bitch, you was so stressed about
Speaker 3: the fucking shit that really didn't matter. Fuck Spectrum, you know.
Speaker 2: Like you're doing like like like they imagine needs to said,
Speaker 2: you might need to write Spectrum a cease and desist.
Speaker 3: Okay, no, I'm gonna pay them. I've just like stop
Speaker 3: calling me though, you know, it's just you know, keeping
Speaker 3: things in perspective. We get, I get. I get so
Speaker 3: caught up on just things that like eat away at me.
Speaker 3: I really get, like in my body, my stomach turns
Speaker 3: like butterflies when things are not perfect. But things are
Speaker 3: never going to be perfect, but also they kind of
Speaker 3: are perfect, like things are really we have manifested a
Speaker 3: shit ton of things that are actually happening, and we're
Speaker 3: about to go on a trip. We're about to go
Speaker 3: on multitude of trips this summer. As you know, we
Speaker 3: were some summer vacation taking bitches and this is our season.
Speaker 3: Last year, we weren't really able to thrive in their
Speaker 3: vacation state of mind like we wanted to. But just
Speaker 3: being grateful and prioritizing my gratefulness and my health and
Speaker 3: that I'm in a good position and whatever I don't like,
Speaker 3: I am free to work on every day, every second.
Speaker 1: Amen you are.
Speaker 3: What's going on with you? How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm good? I you know.
Speaker 2: I this weekend we got together with our friends and
Speaker 2: I really fucking needed that. Like I don't know, it's
Speaker 2: been a minute since I have sat down and had
Speaker 2: brunch and brunched with friends, and I just remember that
Speaker 2: bitches really do fucking love brunch. I fucking love brunch.
Speaker 2: I miss brunch like I've never needed brunch so bad.
Speaker 2: And you know, prior to this brunch, I had been
Speaker 2: feeling very overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: I've been stressed.
Speaker 2: Like me and Jamila have like a few, like different
Speaker 2: projects that we're working on outside of the podcast, and
Speaker 2: they're really stretching us and like asking a lot of
Speaker 2: us and like tapping into things that like we aren't
Speaker 2: necessarily experts up, but we've had to become like fast
Speaker 2: experts in and so I've been really kind of stressed
Speaker 2: about that, and I've just been stressed. Basically, when I
Speaker 2: get stressed, I'm like crazy, I'm just not like a
Speaker 2: really great person, and I don't mean to be. I
Speaker 2: am like short with people. I'm like I don't have patience.
Speaker 2: So I needed to I text my friends that I
Speaker 2: was like, hey, guys, please come fill my cup? Can
Speaker 2: we all fill each other's cups? Can we all just
Speaker 2: get together please and just like go eat and not
Speaker 2: talk about work, even though of course I ended up
Speaker 2: talking about work because I needed to actually solicit my
Speaker 2: tribe on some serious ideas that that me and Mila
Speaker 2: have going on and we needed their expert opinions. But
Speaker 2: I feel ever since that, ever since the weekend, I've
Speaker 2: been feeling so much better because I was not.
Speaker 1: I felt like I was not in a great place.
Speaker 2: But other than that, I've been feeling aside from work stresses,
Speaker 2: life has been pretty good. Like I you know, I'm
Speaker 2: still in my Dick Talks. It is now week three
Speaker 2: of the May Dick Talks. For those that have been
Speaker 2: joining me on the journey, was it. I just actually
Speaker 2: added Slack to our Patreon, so now the whole tribe
Speaker 2: can kind of talk and can talk amongst each other,
Speaker 2: which is really exciting. So if you guys are on Patreon,
Speaker 2: make sure you go check out the slack link that
Speaker 2: I posted so you guys can join the conversation.
Speaker 1: But I'm just really excited too because I I am.
Speaker 2: Not fucking and I feel good and like one of
Speaker 2: my niggas is like kind of like falling off the wayside,
Speaker 2: and I'm.
Speaker 1: Okay with that.
Speaker 2: I'm totally cool with that, like because I have no
Speaker 2: soul attachment to him. My pussy is not attached, like
Speaker 2: and the thing is like I knew if we had
Speaker 2: sex like it was gonna be bomb. Like I know
Speaker 2: the dick is good, I know the connection is there
Speaker 2: for sure, but there's a lot of other things that
Speaker 2: are not aligned. And I'm so glad that I didn't
Speaker 2: cross that line because a bitch would be fucking confused
Speaker 2: right now wasting my time thinking about this nigga when
Speaker 2: I have like four hundred thousand other things I have
Speaker 2: to think about. So I feel grateful that, like I
Speaker 2: don't I that I'm that I've continued on this journey.
Speaker 2: And I'm also grateful that our girl Samaya is going
Speaker 2: to be joining us this weekend. If you guys don't
Speaker 2: know who Sexual Essential is, you guys definitely have to
Speaker 2: check her out. She is a hands on sex educator.
Speaker 2: She's just a shit like I think I've I know,
Speaker 2: I've talked about her. I talked about her all the time.
Speaker 2: She does courses, these amazing virtual zoom classes where women
Speaker 2: are learning how to masturbate, learning how to suck dick,
Speaker 2: learning how to ride dick, and like really learning.
Speaker 1: That's all I have to say this, just really learning.
Speaker 1: That's all I'm going to say about that.
Speaker 3: She has a gift to the world. Like her, she's
Speaker 3: fulfilling her purpose and like sending everyone knowledge, like all
Speaker 3: the sex knowledge that they need. I can't be happier
Speaker 3: about the work that she's done.
Speaker 2: Patrons who are joining on the Dick Talks a masturbation
Speaker 2: manifestation course, which I guess is a course that she
Speaker 2: had originally taught on her Patreon for a while, but
Speaker 2: then she retired that course and now she's bringing it
Speaker 2: back specifically especially for us. And manifestation and masturbation is
Speaker 2: such a powerful tool and something that I've used over
Speaker 2: the last year and I've seen results. I actually used
Speaker 2: it the other day and I hadn't done it, probably
Speaker 2: I hadn't done it for like a few months, but
Speaker 2: I was like, you know, let me just stop being
Speaker 2: so horny and thinking about it niggas and bitches all
Speaker 2: the time, and think about my goals real quick while
Speaker 2: I uh, while I get there and the tool is
Speaker 2: just so powerful. It also just feels it's a different
Speaker 2: type of release when you come. I don't know, I
Speaker 2: don't really know how to describe it, like I really
Speaker 2: it's it's a little bit of that, but it's more
Speaker 2: so like when I come and I'm like thinking about sex,
Speaker 2: I'm like exhausted after like I'm tired. I'm like, that's
Speaker 2: how I put myself to bed, you know. But when
Speaker 2: I do that and I think about like my goals
Speaker 2: or something specific that I'm manifesting, I feel like awake afterwards,
Speaker 2: like I feel activated and like motivated, which is why
Speaker 2: usually I try to do them that like midday, not
Speaker 2: at night because the bit you need to go to bed.
Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm just really excited for Samia to come
Speaker 2: and teach teach the tribe on on Thursday.
Speaker 1: All about that.
Speaker 2: So if you guys are interested, just click the link
Speaker 2: in our bio and join the Dick Talks Challenge. You
Speaker 2: don't actually have to dig talks be a part of
Speaker 2: this Dick Tooks either. We're having so many amazing conversations
Speaker 2: with women that I don't I don't even know if
Speaker 2: all of them are abstaining from sex, but it's just
Speaker 2: it's just a necessary conversation conversations that we're having every
Speaker 2: Thursday night on Zoom, and I kind.
Speaker 1: Of like want to keep it going forever, like I really.
Speaker 3: I know, I feel like I need it. I really do.
Speaker 3: I you know, I can't lie. I haven't been abstaining
Speaker 3: from sex, but because I've been going to the meetings,
Speaker 3: this so much feels like because I've because I've been
Speaker 3: going to the meetings, it's highlighted so much of like
Speaker 3: how much good sex can confuse you and cloud you,
Speaker 3: and like it really does infiltrate your feelings. And then
Speaker 3: we even discussed about how women release more serotonin during
Speaker 3: sex than men do, and it just like it does
Speaker 3: a tribute to like how we you know, men always
Speaker 3: say women are getting clingy or we get emotionally tied
Speaker 3: to men after we have sex. It's true, you know,
Speaker 3: like I can just being able to talk to my
Speaker 3: tribe and hear what they're going through and hear their
Speaker 3: experiences while I'm like literally doing getting dumber by the
Speaker 3: second each fuck I can. Definitely, it's definitely empowered me
Speaker 3: because Lord knows, I'm a slow loaner, a slow learner,
Speaker 3: and I'd love connecting with our tribe. And it's such
Speaker 3: proof that. Like obviously we podcast every week and we
Speaker 3: put our business on the internet, but it's so nice
Speaker 3: to be able to hear from everybody else, you know,
Speaker 3: like it's a two way conversation or like a four
Speaker 3: hundred way conversation really, And I'm just like I feel
Speaker 3: so every I feel like every time I'm like taking notes.
Speaker 3: It's like Bible study. You know, you go to church
Speaker 3: on Sunday, but during the week you need the Bible
Speaker 3: study to keep you going. You know, like you get
Speaker 3: the episode on Wednesday, but you need the Bible study
Speaker 3: on Wednesday to really dig in, so you really talk
Speaker 3: about the scriptures. So I'm super I am. I'm like
Speaker 3: I want it.
Speaker 2: I don't want it to end to you guys, you know,
Speaker 2: like I know sometimes you guys are We've like I
Speaker 2: always to hear people say, like when they're listening to us,
Speaker 2: like it feels like, you know, like they're talking to
Speaker 2: their girlfriends and stuff, but like we can't hear you.
Speaker 2: So it's nice to like hear you. Like, So, I
Speaker 2: don't know, I'm just I'm I'm just I love that
Speaker 2: we are able to talk to people in in in
Speaker 2: the person, in the person, in the virtue, in the
Speaker 2: virtual human and see faces and like mouths move and like,
Speaker 2: you know, put a face to a name an Instagram handle,
Speaker 2: you know, it's it's.
Speaker 1: It's kind of cool. So anyway, other than that, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm pretty good.
Speaker 2: Me and uh my, my other lover that I went
Speaker 2: on my secret vacation with.
Speaker 3: Well, can you like name? We haven't named our base
Speaker 3: and we haven't named our bays in a long time.
Speaker 3: We've been like, I feel like ever since we got
Speaker 3: those boyfriends, we know, we feel like we've totally we
Speaker 3: haven't come back to our bays, but we've been single
Speaker 3: for some time now. We obviously denounced the boyfriend thing
Speaker 3: that didn't work for us, So like, are you gonna
Speaker 3: give your bay's name? I really need you to give
Speaker 3: I really need you to give more detail you're like
Speaker 3: living a dream right now somewhat and you're just really,
Speaker 3: what am I gonna call him?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't want to give the other one a bay.
Speaker 2: He's not a bae. He doesn't he doesn't qualify as he's.
Speaker 3: Not keep talking about you, I think mm.
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna call him fine as fine now, So okay, okay,
Speaker 2: so fine asbe He's amazing, like we okay, there's just
Speaker 2: like he's fine. He is fine friend, you know, like
Speaker 2: because of practice, because I've a lot of expectation and relationships.
Speaker 2: It's it's taken time, you know, Like it's started off
Speaker 2: with happy Bay and then like it went on like
Speaker 2: and then after Happy Bay, and.
Speaker 1: What are other bays I had? I can't even remember
Speaker 1: all the.
Speaker 2: Bays Happy Bay, Happy Bay, Trembling lip started off with
Speaker 2: Trembling lip Bay. It started with trembling lipe Hat Babay. Okay,
Speaker 2: that was that was broke Broke Bay. Broke Bay was
Speaker 2: like episode one or two. There was a car Bay.
Speaker 2: He was the first bae the Dirty Carpet. Yeah, he
Speaker 2: didn't start with he started with Trembling Lip Bay. Who
Speaker 2: was the guy that I went to Abisa with and
Speaker 2: that lives here, and like we were just being practicing
Speaker 2: being like radically honest with one another about like what
Speaker 2: we were doing, like who we were dating. And then
Speaker 2: he ended up leaving me for like a white girl,
Speaker 2: and I was pissed and I was really hurt because
Speaker 2: I couldn't believe that this African man was leaving me
Speaker 2: for a blonde white woman.
Speaker 1: Pissed it.
Speaker 2: We're still friends now, and yeah, he's he's not with
Speaker 2: that white woman anymore. He's with another white woman. But
Speaker 2: you know, I had to accept, like he's just that's
Speaker 2: his thing. That's on brand for him, very own brand
Speaker 2: for him. And and then Happy Bay came along and
Speaker 2: was like, I love you, but I don't want to,
Speaker 2: like I can't be in a monogamous relationship.
Speaker 1: And so you know, I got to practice that.
Speaker 2: I got to feel a lot of things because I
Speaker 2: fell deeply in love with him and like got my
Speaker 2: feelings hurt, but also couldn't really be hurt because he
Speaker 2: told me what his boundaries were up front and then
Speaker 2: proceeded to be probably a hoe for the summertime, and
Speaker 2: you know, exert my I'm I'm non monogamous, wave my
Speaker 2: nominogamous flag and I can do whatever the fuck I
Speaker 2: want to do flag.
Speaker 1: And then Short Bay came along.
Speaker 2: I don't think I ever talked about Short Bay, and
Speaker 2: actually Short Bay popped Short Bay. Someone called me about
Speaker 2: Short Bay today. Someone called me at fucking nine am
Speaker 2: with some tea on Short Bay. Okay, I was like, nigga,
Speaker 2: I ain't got.
Speaker 1: Time, what do you mean? So encolgi about her that
Speaker 1: short Bay is in my friends DMS, and.
Speaker 3: You get you.
Speaker 1: Know, she knows that he knows that we know each other.
Speaker 2: And I said, that's because me and short Pay are
Speaker 2: not like, that's not the relationship we had. There's no tea.
Speaker 2: It's fine, go ahead, do your thing. And that's too
Speaker 2: that like for me, like I used to be like
Speaker 2: possessive and jealous, you know, and for like having that
Speaker 2: conversation at nine am about a nigga that I'm you know.
Speaker 1: We're cool, but I'm not take go do what you do.
Speaker 1: Be free my love both of you, you know.
Speaker 2: And so now that I'm here with fine aspe who
Speaker 2: is very who's non monogamous as well, and but like
Speaker 2: nonminogamy is not what and for me and him is
Speaker 2: the same It's not like I want to be fucking everyone.
Speaker 2: It's just like I just set this expectation here because
Speaker 2: at least if we start here, then like no one's
Speaker 2: gonna get hurt. It doesn't mean that I want to
Speaker 2: be fucking everyone. I very very well may only be
Speaker 2: sleeping with you for a long period of time, for years,
Speaker 2: maybe forever. But if we have this understanding and this
Speaker 2: conversation is ongoing conversation, then it really eliminates the possibility
Speaker 2: of people getting hurt and having these stupid ass expectations
Speaker 2: of like this pussy is only for you and this
Speaker 2: dick is only for me, and so I don't have
Speaker 2: that expectation with fine Espe and it's going great, Like
Speaker 2: I just I'm just really and I'm enjoying him and
Speaker 2: he's awesome and he's so fucking hard so smn. So yeah,
Speaker 2: there's that. So I'm feeling really good about my relationships.
Speaker 2: I'm feeling really I'm in a good place when it
Speaker 2: comes to like how I'm navigating my relationships and the
Speaker 2: people that I'm attracting and the people that i'm meeting
Speaker 2: attracting initially and then being like no, thank you, I'm good.
Speaker 2: Thank you, and honestly, even this person that I'm saying
Speaker 2: no thank you to, I appreciate him because I've attracted
Speaker 2: someone that can be honest about the fact that he's
Speaker 2: not he's not where he's supposed to be at, you know,
Speaker 2: like he told me, like I heard people, and I
Speaker 2: was like, thank you so much for sharing that with me,
Speaker 2: Like I don't love you any less for saying that.
Speaker 2: I appreciate you saying that to me because now I
Speaker 2: can make a choice for myself, you know, and like
Speaker 2: that I've attracted a man that is evolved enough to
Speaker 2: say that to me.
Speaker 4: So that's that's some super that's some super self awareness
Speaker 4: because I just like, as you said that, I'm like,
Speaker 4: do I hurt people?
Speaker 3: The guy I'm talking to, ask me, like, how do
Speaker 3: you feel about me, you know, dealing with or talking
Speaker 3: to or being you know, cool with and meeting up
Speaker 3: with like a friend who we may have had romantic
Speaker 3: history or we may have had like a hookup, but
Speaker 3: we're friends. And you know, I don't want to care.
Speaker 3: I don't care. I don't have time to care about
Speaker 3: what you're doing over there. But like inevitably you start
Speaker 3: fucking somebody and you've developed feelings, and then you care
Speaker 3: because automatic your mind goes into a place of comparison.
Speaker 3: You know, what are you doing over there with that person?
Speaker 3: Are they like trying to get you back? Are you
Speaker 3: gonna be tempted to do this? And I just I'm
Speaker 3: such a lover. I'd be loving so hard and wanted
Speaker 3: to attach and love people so hard. But as soon
Speaker 3: as all the other things come, I'm like, I don't
Speaker 3: want any of it go away. I don't want to
Speaker 3: like you, don't like anyone. It's a fucking headache, but
Speaker 3: it's really I know, but you have to like them
Speaker 3: and then not like and not succumb to all this
Speaker 3: other stupid shit. And that's the stupid shit. Like, honestly,
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck who you go hang out with,
Speaker 3: be a grown up. I don't know, like, tell me
Speaker 3: if it goes good, I don't. I don't like, I
Speaker 3: don't want to be momming anybody. I don't want to
Speaker 3: tell you what to do, and I honestly don't want
Speaker 3: to be told what to do. Everybody knows, Like that's
Speaker 3: my biggest thing. Don't tell me what to do. But
Speaker 3: like I guess generally in relationships rules come up. But
Speaker 3: we've been reading the Ethical Slut, which I'm an ethical slut.
Speaker 3: I'm working on the ethical but but it's it's definitely
Speaker 3: like it's definitely helping me understand just like the tools
Speaker 3: that we can use to better have these conversations and
Speaker 3: to like counteract these feelings of jealousy that don't serve us.
Speaker 3: You know, like my whole thing is just respect me
Speaker 3: and keep it real. You know, if you hurt people,
Speaker 3: let me know, if you'd be looking for love and
Speaker 3: all these other things, just let me know so I'm
Speaker 3: aware and I can make the decision. But you know,
Speaker 3: the traditional way of how we go about things is
Speaker 3: just so it's so counterproductive to your fucking mental health.
Speaker 3: Caring about what somebody else is doing all day and
Speaker 3: when they're not in your presence literally does not help
Speaker 3: your schedule or your mental health because just like I
Speaker 3: said at the top of the episode, what I don't
Speaker 3: have control over, I have no like what am I
Speaker 3: supposed to do with that? You know, everybody does as
Speaker 3: their own person, and when they are away from you, you
Speaker 3: have no control over that. And what is really to
Speaker 3: gain from stressing about that? Absolutely fucking nothing, it's a
Speaker 3: waste of time. So it's just I commend you, Erica
Speaker 3: for keeping your head straight and your vagina clear and
Speaker 3: keeping your mind unclouded with without the dicks, because Lord knows,
Speaker 3: dicks confuse things. And honestly, recently, I was with some
Speaker 3: I was just amongst some guys, some good friends of mine,
Speaker 3: and you know, all really good men, professional, you know,
Speaker 3: caring fathers, partners, and they're all telling me how they
Speaker 3: got side chicks. They all have side chicks. You know,
Speaker 3: they have main partners or people they live with or wives,
Speaker 3: but they are indulging in outside relationships. And it's just like, damn,
Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of the times in marriages,
Speaker 3: the women, the women get the short end of the
Speaker 3: stick because women get this this stigma that we can't
Speaker 3: handle honesty, that we're so jealous, that we're territorial. I mean,
Speaker 3: and really the truth is us be real, niggas, be
Speaker 3: the most, but they just don't give us the opportunity
Speaker 3: to to choose. And it's just like I literally was like,
Speaker 3: I don't think I'm gonna get married. I don't. I
Speaker 3: don't think I don't. I don't want to be in
Speaker 3: a monogamous relationship where someone is leading me to believe
Speaker 3: we're having it we're in monogamy, but we're not. And
Speaker 3: you're you're seeking outside really like outside sex or like
Speaker 3: emotional support from someone else, because you can't share that
Speaker 3: with me. It's just like, what the fuck is the
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Speaker 2: having right now, we're not conversations that were being had
Speaker 2: seventeen years ago. Especially they were probably teenagers when they started,
Speaker 2: when they hooked up. They've grown together. Like it's really
Speaker 2: hard to like, it's not impossible, but it's hard to
Speaker 2: have these conversations when you've already made these like set
Speaker 2: in stone agreements with one another and this is who
Speaker 2: I am. But it's like, Nigga, you not who you
Speaker 2: were when you were seventeen. You're not who you were
Speaker 2: when you were twenty four, You're not who you were
Speaker 2: when you were twenty eight. Like these relationships and these
Speaker 2: structures for relationships keep us beholden to like change our.
Speaker 1: Minds about things.
Speaker 2: And it's just it does no one, It does everyone
Speaker 2: a disservice in the relationship and I do believe that
Speaker 2: you can be in a relationship and have these set
Speaker 2: things then and then like I believe that there's relationships
Speaker 2: that maybe started out really traditional that maybe are really untraditional.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 2: Is that common? I feel like maybe not that common,
Speaker 2: but it is a possibility. And that's how you know
Speaker 2: you really found your partner. That's how you know you've
Speaker 2: really found that person that you really fuck with because
Speaker 2: they've allowed you to continue to grow and they've grown
Speaker 2: with you, and they've and they've grown without you, and and.
Speaker 1: That's really what it's about. It's like growing you being able.
Speaker 2: To grow individually and then come together and like check
Speaker 2: in and make sure that there's still synergy there.
Speaker 1: That's what I want.
Speaker 2: It used to make me sad even in the beginning
Speaker 2: of this podcast, or like, well, while I've been exploring
Speaker 2: like what nonmnogamy looks like for me, and like do
Speaker 2: do I want to be married or like do I
Speaker 2: want to be a wife or blah blah blah, that like,
Speaker 2: ultimately I know that people grow out of each other, right,
Speaker 2: and like it doesn't always happen, but it does, and
Speaker 2: like that's kind of sad, Like that that kind of
Speaker 2: kills the fairy tale of like we're gonna be together forever,
Speaker 2: but lately I've kind of flipped that and I don't
Speaker 2: find it sad anymore. I find it kind of beautiful,
Speaker 2: like that like we can I can share in these
Speaker 2: moments with someone and that like maybe it's not for
Speaker 2: us ever, but like that we were able to be
Speaker 2: present with one another and share in those times, and
Speaker 2: that there might be someone else out there that is
Speaker 2: more compatible for me in my future self and that's exciting,
Speaker 2: you know, Like I feel like there's something going on
Speaker 2: inside of my body that is really starting to like
Speaker 2: unravel this deep sense of like territorialness that I've had
Speaker 2: in relationships and expectation. And it doesn't feel painful to
Speaker 2: do because I guess I've been semi. I guess I've
Speaker 2: been doing the work and I've been attracting these men
Speaker 2: that have kind of led me to the space. And
Speaker 2: I appreciate these men, all of them, Like none of
Speaker 2: them have been perfect, but I'm not fucking perfect, but
Speaker 2: they've led me here and I'm I'm I'm happy. I mean,
Speaker 2: I do I want you know. I talked about this
Speaker 2: on one of our calls, and the Diktoks and we
Speaker 2: were talking about manifesting and like what we want to
Speaker 2: manifest and I shared and I'll share here even though
Speaker 2: like I really only want to share with the tribe
Speaker 2: on Patreon, but I'll give you.
Speaker 1: Give you what my my manifestation is.
Speaker 2: And I'm really like in a space of I'm ready
Speaker 2: to manifest you know, my next partner, And I say
Speaker 2: next because I don't know if it's the last, And
Speaker 2: you know, I did that with my with poetry Bay,
Speaker 2: and I got exactly what I asked for. I really did.
Speaker 2: I wasn't specific enough, and that's what I've realized. There
Speaker 2: were definitely some bullet points that needed to go underneath
Speaker 2: some of the things. And I want to encourage y'all
Speaker 2: to do the same, like make that list, like if
Speaker 2: you're if you're in the space right now to start
Speaker 2: manifesting your partner. And this is the advice that my
Speaker 2: mom gave me, is be very specific, like super specific,
Speaker 2: and ask for every fucking little thing. Don't be like
Speaker 2: modest and like think, oh that's too much, Like I
Speaker 2: can't ask for a rich nigga and a big dick,
Speaker 2: Like no, bitch, yes you can, and you should and
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Speaker 3: And under the big that it works, that it works,
Speaker 3: that he wants to do sex, that he's sexual, and
Speaker 3: that it gets hard, like you have to get super specific.
Speaker 3: It's not just big girthy dick has sex drive gets hard.
Speaker 3: You know, you got to get super specific with all
Speaker 3: the things. Don't think for one second because me and
Speaker 3: Erica are testament that if you're not specific, it will
Speaker 3: come just like you've listed it without the specifics okay,
Speaker 3: And you can't do nothing with a big, non sexual dick, okay.
Speaker 3: I Also, I am trying to untangle my territorialness because I'm
Speaker 3: like free and open and I want to be able
Speaker 3: to do what I want to do and you know,
Speaker 3: go do what you want to do. But I'm the
Speaker 3: primary partner, you know, like I'm the Hello, I'm number one,
Speaker 3: and don't for one second think that I'm not, and
Speaker 3: don't even put it that way. And also like, because
Speaker 3: there is there is openness, whether it's not, there's no hierarchy.
Speaker 3: But I'm finding like I don't know if I'm okay
Speaker 3: with this or not but like I want to be
Speaker 3: at the top of the hierarchy and then I'm fine
Speaker 3: with everything that happens underneath me. But I don't even
Speaker 3: know if that's like really living the ethical open life,
Speaker 3: because it's probably something within me that I have to
Speaker 3: check that makes me feel like I need to be
Speaker 3: put on this pedestal. In order for you to explore openly, you.
Speaker 2: Have to know too, Like there's that pedestal, Like that
Speaker 2: pedestal is a danger.
Speaker 1: It's dangerous up there because if.
Speaker 2: One leg just like knocks out, like the whole thing
Speaker 2: falls over, you know, Like that's why the pedestal thing
Speaker 2: is like it's I feel like it's a slippery slope.
Speaker 3: What do you mean if one leg falls out?
Speaker 2: Like if one leg and that pedestal, what does a
Speaker 2: pedestal usually has about three legs? If one is out,
Speaker 2: the shit gonna fall over.
Speaker 3: Bitch, you say, like I won't be number one, and
Speaker 3: then someone else will have to take like come and
Speaker 3: take my place.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying that a man's attention, especially if you're
Speaker 2: going to allow him to go and and be free,
Speaker 2: like you say, and you want to be the main one,
Speaker 2: you can't guarantee that you are going, like you're going
Speaker 2: to get all of his attention all the time when
Speaker 2: you open up that door.
Speaker 1: Like that's just not how the world works. That's not
Speaker 1: how life works. That's not how niggas work.
Speaker 2: You have to know that, Like even like that's why
Speaker 2: I like we need to have Bayon because they let you, Like,
Speaker 2: you have to know that, Like there's going to be
Speaker 2: a newness when a man meets someone new. There's going
Speaker 2: to be something that you don't have that she has,
Speaker 2: and that's what attracted him to her, you know, And
Speaker 2: if you are going to really live this like open life,
Speaker 2: which for me, like I don't necessarily want to live
Speaker 2: an open life. And that's what I've realized too, Like
Speaker 2: I do want partnership, I do want sacredness in my relationship,
Speaker 2: but I want constant communication with my partner. But is
Speaker 2: it okay if if if he falls in love with
Speaker 2: someone else. Am I not going to be hurt?
Speaker 1: Of course? I'm going to be hurt, of course, But
Speaker 1: I can't what am I supposed to do? I'm not
Speaker 1: about to make no nigga love me. That don't work.
Speaker 2: I try to do that already, bleaching my hair and
Speaker 2: doing all that dumb shit like.
Speaker 1: No I'm not, I'm not, and like I'm bomb, so
Speaker 1: I'll find someone else.
Speaker 3: That's our struggle to become ethically open and non jealous.
Speaker 3: It's an every day it's an everyday battle to be
Speaker 3: a non jealous individual and just to subscribe to free love.
Speaker 3: You know, there are risks that you take, and it's
Speaker 3: not even a risk. It's just letting life happen and
Speaker 3: being okay with it and just understanding that, like we're
Speaker 3: all in our journeys and we're all gonna shift and
Speaker 3: evolve and love differently. And if I find you in
Speaker 3: the journey and it works good, if you stay good,
Speaker 3: if you keep going cool.
Speaker 2: It's just about working on yourself and like everything else
Speaker 2: will fall into place.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: I was on the Shade Room, very classy news source
Speaker 2: earlier today and flies, you know, plies just be dropping
Speaker 2: the knowledges. He just be, he'd be knowing shit. I
Speaker 2: wish we could applies on the podcast I need. I
Speaker 2: would love to talk to him, but he posted this
Speaker 2: on I guess it was Twitter, and he said, you
Speaker 2: don't fix your breasts, your ass, your stomach, your hair,
Speaker 2: your lashes, your nails, your lips, your knees, et cetera.
Speaker 2: And you wonder why you still ain't happy because you
Speaker 2: ain't never fixed your soul. Damn plies applies with talking
Speaker 2: that shit, and it goes both ways. Cause for niggas,
Speaker 2: like niggas aren't usually fixing their bodies. They're usually trying
Speaker 2: to get to the bag right. They feel like they're
Speaker 2: going to get to this bag and suddenly everything's going
Speaker 2: to fall into place. And I've seen it happen time
Speaker 2: and time again. It doesn't make you more happy like
Speaker 2: it's just it doesn't make you happier in relationships like
Speaker 2: you getting all this work done, you're gonna find your
Speaker 2: dream man, and you're still going to be unhappy because
Speaker 2: you're not happy with yourself. All summer is dedicated to
Speaker 2: working on loving myself even more and manifesting you know,
Speaker 2: my my next partner in whatever form that means same.
Speaker 3: I'm with you, sis, I need to work on loving
Speaker 3: myself and until I get there, like I can start
Speaker 3: writing the list, but I realized that there's no time
Speaker 3: frame on partnership and on love, but that definitely will
Speaker 3: not manifest until I manifest that same energy. For myself.
Speaker 3: You know, I rush into something last year during COVID
Speaker 3: because that's what COVID did. But you know, and it
Speaker 3: was a good thing. He was a good guy, but
Speaker 3: I wasn't ready and that relationship shed a lot of
Speaker 3: light on that. And and I'm happy. I'm happy to
Speaker 3: do the work. And I realize, like I'm excited to
Speaker 3: do it because the sooner I do it, the sooner
Speaker 3: I can manifest that partner and I can move on
Speaker 3: to healing some other shit, into growing in other ways
Speaker 3: and like even that much more so, to becoming like
Speaker 3: the best version of myself. So I am excited to
Speaker 3: take this summer to do those things with my bestie
Speaker 3: and to just focus on selfs and just not put
Speaker 3: pressure on the relationship part. Like I'm not. I'm not worried.
Speaker 3: I look good. I'm a cool ass bitch. And you know,
Speaker 3: niggas will come.
Speaker 1: Speaking of them, come, let's do a whori.
Speaker 3: Who stories.
Speaker 1: I think it's time for a horror story. It's been
Speaker 1: a while.
Speaker 3: We need to talk about it. We need to talk
Speaker 3: about sex.
Speaker 1: I know we need to talk We do need to
Speaker 1: talk about sex.
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Speaker 2: You know, the actor from Insecure, and he has an
Speaker 2: xy deep voice and I didn't realize that whatever. Basically
Speaker 2: I had sex with Sharona's sort of anyway. Time for
Speaker 2: horse stories in the sky. I've been messing around since
Speaker 2: we were teens. He is a dom and would set
Speaker 2: tasks such as wear a plug to work, et cetera.
Speaker 2: One night he told me to wear a plug and
Speaker 2: we met up. I did some food shopping first with it.
Speaker 2: I did some food shopping first with it in, and
Speaker 2: then we drove around. He ripped my tights and played
Speaker 2: with me while I drove. We pull over in his
Speaker 2: industrial in this industrial estate, behind a shop, he plays
Speaker 2: with me. I give him head in the car. We
Speaker 2: get out and he tells me to bend over this
Speaker 2: metal box. I was too tight, so he took the
Speaker 2: plug out and put it in my mouth first for me.
Speaker 2: There very glad. I douced for the first time. Wow,
Speaker 2: I don't know how. I don't know if I would
Speaker 2: be able to put the plug in my mouth.
Speaker 3: Don't double dip. Don't double dip me. You gotta see
Speaker 3: if you gotta wipe it off, you gotta do something.
Speaker 3: But the button, the vagina in the mouth, we have
Speaker 3: to we have to keep it up. The vagina in
Speaker 3: the mouth. Whatever the ass is its own thing.
Speaker 2: Okay, So uh, he fucks my pussy comes in my
Speaker 2: ass and then puts the plug back in.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: As we leave, the alarm goes off and all the
Speaker 2: lights come on behind the shop.
Speaker 1: I'm a good girl. She ain't nobody's good girl. You
Speaker 1: a liar?
Speaker 2: Pash goodbye. It be them good girls, it'd be the nastiest.
Speaker 2: I'm a good girl, So I panicked that I was caught. Also,
Speaker 2: in later conversation that night, he called me classy. That
Speaker 2: made me laugh, and I reminded him that he did
Speaker 2: just come in my ass in the alley, So how
Speaker 2: classy am I really?
Speaker 3: I just want to be clear. You can You could
Speaker 3: be classy and get fucked in an alley, in the
Speaker 3: ass and put the butt plug in your mouth. Classiness
Speaker 3: is not synonymous with your kinky sex life.
Speaker 1: A men, A men.
Speaker 2: If you guys have any hories that you want to
Speaker 2: send in, please please, please please please do send them
Speaker 2: to info at good momspadchoices dot com. In the subject
Speaker 2: line put hory or horse story and we will gladly
Speaker 2: share them over the interwebs anonymously. Well, I love you,
Speaker 2: my love, I gotta go, though I.
Speaker 3: Love you too, I know, I know, I don't want
Speaker 3: to see you today.
Speaker 1: I don't want to see you either.
Speaker 3: I don't want to come to your house for like
Speaker 3: five days.
Speaker 1: Don't come all right, you guys.
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