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Speaker 1: Hi Tribe.

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Speaker 2: On this week's episode, we are discussing manifestation, masturbation.

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Speaker 3: Side chicks and how many men have them.

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Speaker 2: That applies the Rapper is fucking smart.

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Speaker 3: Exploring hierarchy and ethical non monogamous relationships.

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Speaker 2: In an anal alleyway. Hori, you don't want to miss

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Speaker 2: enjoy Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica

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Speaker 2: and I'm Mila, and it's Wednesday.

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Speaker 3: How are you doing, dear?

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Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm good. It's hot outside.

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Speaker 2: My daughter is home from school because she's sick, and

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Speaker 2: I was definitely going to try force her to go

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Speaker 2: to school like the good bad mom I am, but

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Speaker 2: she really couldn't breathe, so I had to just say.

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Speaker 1: Fine, now she couldn't breathe. She's very stuffy.

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Speaker 2: There's like a lot of fires happening right now in California,

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Speaker 2: specifically in the valley, and so there's a lot of

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Speaker 2: smoke in the air, and me and my daughter just

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Speaker 2: have the worst allergies, so she's she's suffering a bit.

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Speaker 1: So I'm good, though, how are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm good. I found a lot of guilt this morning.

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Speaker 3: I was trying to wake up Luna for school. She

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Speaker 3: just would not wake up, like literally dead bodied, limp,

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Speaker 3: like not responding. And I know it's our fault, like

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Speaker 3: me and Erica do this. We've been doing this for

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Speaker 3: three years. But I guess now that she's about to

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Speaker 3: be in first grade, like the guilt is overwhelming because

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Speaker 3: first of all, I get in trouble when she misses school.

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Speaker 3: I get in trouble when she's late to school that

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Speaker 3: I kind of send me to gail Well for sure.

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Speaker 3: And so this morning, I was like, it's my fault,

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Speaker 3: Like my child went to sleep at eleven thirty last

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Speaker 3: night because I left Erica's at like ten, and she

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Speaker 3: went to bed because her mother prioritizes podcasting over a

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Speaker 3: school night. So I've been meaning to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna have to put an end to this because

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Speaker 3: I'm not gonna go to jail over too many missed

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Speaker 3: absences and tarties. And then I'm like coaching my daughter

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Speaker 3: to lie. I'm like, tell them you had a dentist appointment.

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Speaker 3: She's like, but I did it. I'm like just so warm.

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Speaker 3: So I just I've been I had to coach my

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Speaker 3: I had to coach myself this morning, like I let

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Speaker 3: her sleep in because she wouldn't wake up, and I

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Speaker 3: just lay there and I was like, it's okay, you're

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Speaker 3: her mom. They can't tell you what to do. And

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Speaker 3: then I was just like channeling Erica, like it's not

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Speaker 3: I just made the decision that she wasn't gonna go.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, she's just gonna be late. I'm just gonna

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Speaker 3: lie about it, and it's fine. I'm gonna write a

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Speaker 3: note and no one can tell me shit. Like I

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Speaker 3: get so much anxiety about things that are not in

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Speaker 3: my control, and I'm just like, are you alive?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 3: You are, so that's all that matters. So I'm just hey,

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Speaker 3: we need to stop having late night ass fucking podcasting

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Speaker 3: meetings that don't end till eleven on school nights and

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Speaker 3: be if anyone else's experiencing guilt or anxiety from shit

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Speaker 3: that's out of your control, this is your weekly sign

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Speaker 3: to let that shit go.

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Speaker 1: Amen.

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Speaker 2: Amen, I agree. I mean my daughter went to went

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Speaker 2: to bed late. I mean obviously you were here, so

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Speaker 2: she went to bed promptly after you left. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: you can't. Those days are done. Those days are done.

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Speaker 1: Shall we pull a card, Yes we shall.

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Speaker 2: Maybe the cards will tell us what's in our future

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Speaker 2: as far as better structure for our children.

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Speaker 3: Please God give us the answers. I'm really excited because

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Speaker 3: one of our listeners, who is so fucking kind and

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Speaker 3: probably so annoyed of us, hearing us a bit about

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Speaker 3: our other deck that we don't like. We got a

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Speaker 3: beautiful new deck in the mail, and it's called the

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Speaker 3: Tarot of Bohemian Secrets, and it's called like it's all

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Speaker 3: photography and it's all like black images. It's they photographed

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Speaker 3: and it gives such a good in depth understanding of

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Speaker 3: each card and like the origin of Tiro. So I'm

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Speaker 3: really excited to like really get into my witchiness with

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Speaker 3: this new deck. Bet. The first card that we've picked

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Speaker 3: in our new deck is Page of Swords, and this

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Speaker 3: deck it's the Page of Machetes, but in the regular

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Speaker 3: deck it's the Page of Swords. So the meaning of

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Speaker 3: the Page of Swords or Machetes. The gifts are care, courage, severity, curiosity, communication, inspiration,

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Speaker 3: and mental agility. The challenges are malevolence, cruelty, mental instability

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Speaker 3: or intellectual immaturity, failure to recognize facts, aggression and destruction.

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Speaker 3: You are very eager to execute an idea that you

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Speaker 3: have been having. You've been you are very eager to

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Speaker 3: else shared with you. You're quite passionate about it, and you

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Speaker 3: cannot wait to share the progress with others. It is

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Speaker 3: time to be talkative, open up and talk about these

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Speaker 3: ideas constructively. Maybe we're supposed to be revealing to the people.

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Speaker 3: You know, we did just sign a big We are

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Speaker 3: about to sign this very important contract this probably this week,

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Speaker 3: and maybe this maybe the biggest contract of our of

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Speaker 3: our professional podcasting for careers exactly.

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Speaker 2: And so maybe it's just getting in anticipation with sharing

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Speaker 2: with the tribe and the community about what we are

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Speaker 2: have been working on and what we are going to

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Speaker 2: be continuing to work on over the next few months

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Speaker 2: and then releasing our baby to the world.

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Speaker 3: This deck is really cool because it kind of talks

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Speaker 3: about each card means and so you know, there's cups,

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Speaker 3: those pet there's pinnacles, there's machetes, there's uh rooms. I

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Speaker 3: think it's called something else in a different deck, but

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Speaker 3: Basically it says that for swords or machetes, it's how

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Speaker 3: does my how does my shadow side manifest itself in

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Speaker 3: my mind? So this card reveals how the suppression controls

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Speaker 3: I guess it's it's dealing with your shadow side and

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Speaker 3: the things that maybe you don't talk about, you don't reveal,

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Speaker 3: and what you suppress and how that controls your mind.

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Speaker 3: So cups are also like how your how your emotions manifest.

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Speaker 3: Pinnacles are also how your shadow side manifests and material

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Speaker 3: concerns like money. So we're about to be witches real

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Speaker 3: soon with this new book.

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Speaker 2: How are you other than Luna not going to sleep

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Speaker 2: and or going to sleep too late, and uh all

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Speaker 3: You know, I'm just taking it one day at a time,

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Speaker 3: reminding myself there's just one step at a time. And

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Speaker 3: also I'm really trying to prioritize my gratefulness and my gratitude.

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Speaker 3: We are about to sign a very very very very

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Speaker 3: big contract, and you know, like even with other shit

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Speaker 3: going on in my life, I have to keep remembering, like, bitch,

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Speaker 3: your dreams are coming true, like everything else can fall

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Speaker 3: One day and like my life flashed before my eyes

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Speaker 3: and I'm like, damn, bitch, you was so stressed about

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Speaker 3: the fucking shit that really didn't matter. Fuck Spectrum, you know.

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Speaker 2: Like you're doing like like like they imagine needs to said,

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Speaker 2: you might need to write Spectrum a cease and desist.

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Speaker 3: Okay, no, I'm gonna pay them. I've just like stop

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Speaker 3: calling me though, you know, it's just you know, keeping

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Speaker 3: things in perspective. We get, I get. I get so

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Speaker 3: like butterflies when things are not perfect. But things are

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Speaker 3: never going to be perfect, but also they kind of

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Speaker 3: shit ton of things that are actually happening, and we're

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Speaker 3: about to go on a trip. We're about to go

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Speaker 3: on multitude of trips this summer. As you know, we

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Speaker 3: were some summer vacation taking bitches and this is our season.

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Speaker 3: Last year, we weren't really able to thrive in their

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Speaker 3: being grateful and prioritizing my gratefulness and my health and

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Speaker 3: I am free to work on every day, every second.

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Speaker 1: Amen you are.

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Speaker 3: What's going on with you? How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm good? I you know.

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Speaker 2: I this weekend we got together with our friends and

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Speaker 2: I really fucking needed that. Like I don't know, it's

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Speaker 2: been a minute since I have sat down and had

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Speaker 2: I miss brunch like I've never needed brunch so bad.

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Speaker 2: And you know, prior to this brunch, I had been

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Speaker 2: feeling very overwhelmed.

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Speaker 1: I've been stressed.

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Speaker 2: Like me and Jamila have like a few, like different

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Speaker 2: projects that we're working on outside of the podcast, and

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Speaker 2: So I needed to I text my friends that I

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Speaker 2: was like, hey, guys, please come fill my cup? Can

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Speaker 2: we all fill each other's cups? Can we all just

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Speaker 2: I feel ever since that, ever since the weekend, I've

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Speaker 1: I felt like I was not in a great place.

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Speaker 2: But other than that, I've been feeling aside from work stresses,

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Speaker 2: life has been pretty good. Like I you know, I'm

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Speaker 2: still in my Dick Talks. It is now week three

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Speaker 2: of the May Dick Talks. For those that have been

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Speaker 2: joining me on the journey, was it. I just actually

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Speaker 2: added Slack to our Patreon, so now the whole tribe

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Speaker 2: which is really exciting. So if you guys are on Patreon,

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Speaker 2: make sure you go check out the slack link that

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Speaker 2: I posted so you guys can join the conversation.

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Speaker 1: But I'm just really excited too because I I am.

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Speaker 2: Not fucking and I feel good and like one of

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Speaker 1: Okay with that.

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Speaker 2: I'm totally cool with that, like because I have no

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Speaker 2: for sure, but there's a lot of other things that

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Speaker 2: right now wasting my time thinking about this nigga when

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Speaker 2: I have like four hundred thousand other things I have

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Speaker 2: And I'm also grateful that our girl Samaya is going

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Speaker 2: to be joining us this weekend. If you guys don't

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Speaker 3: The guy I'm talking to, ask me, like, how do

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Speaker 3: You know, what are you doing over there with that person?

433
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 3: Are they like trying to get you back? Are you

434
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 3: gonna be tempted to do this? And I just I'm

435
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,359
Speaker 3: such a lover. I'd be loving so hard and wanted

436
00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 3: to attach and love people so hard. But as soon

437
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:19,680
Speaker 3: as all the other things come, I'm like, I don't

438
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:21,720
Speaker 3: want any of it go away. I don't want to

439
00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 3: like you, don't like anyone. It's a fucking headache, but

440
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 3: it's really I know, but you have to like them

441
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,119
Speaker 3: and then not like and not succumb to all this

442
00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:36,119
Speaker 3: other stupid shit. And that's the stupid shit. Like, honestly,

443
00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:37,880
Speaker 3: I don't give a fuck who you go hang out with,

444
00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:40,720
Speaker 3: be a grown up. I don't know, like, tell me

445
00:23:40,760 --> 00:23:42,879
Speaker 3: if it goes good, I don't. I don't like, I

446
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:45,359
Speaker 3: don't want to be momming anybody. I don't want to

447
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:47,080
Speaker 3: tell you what to do, and I honestly don't want

448
00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 3: to be told what to do. Everybody knows, Like that's

449
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 3: my biggest thing. Don't tell me what to do. But

450
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:55,919
Speaker 3: like I guess generally in relationships rules come up. But

451
00:23:56,400 --> 00:24:01,679
Speaker 3: we've been reading the Ethical Slut, which I'm an ethical slut.

452
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 3: I'm working on the ethical but but it's it's definitely

453
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:14,040
Speaker 3: like it's definitely helping me understand just like the tools

454
00:24:14,080 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 3: that we can use to better have these conversations and

455
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 3: to like counteract these feelings of jealousy that don't serve us.

456
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:23,679
Speaker 3: You know, like my whole thing is just respect me

457
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 3: and keep it real. You know, if you hurt people,

458
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:27,960
Speaker 3: let me know, if you'd be looking for love and

459
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 3: all these other things, just let me know so I'm

460
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 3: aware and I can make the decision. But you know,

461
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:36,439
Speaker 3: the traditional way of how we go about things is

462
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 3: just so it's so counterproductive to your fucking mental health.

463
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:45,800
Speaker 3: Caring about what somebody else is doing all day and

464
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 3: when they're not in your presence literally does not help

465
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 3: your schedule or your mental health because just like I

466
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:53,080
Speaker 3: said at the top of the episode, what I don't

467
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:55,119
Speaker 3: have control over, I have no like what am I

468
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 3: supposed to do with that? You know, everybody does as

469
00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 3: their own person, and when they are away from you, you

470
00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 3: have no control over that. And what is really to

471
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 3: gain from stressing about that? Absolutely fucking nothing, it's a

472
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 3: waste of time. So it's just I commend you, Erica

473
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:15,479
Speaker 3: for keeping your head straight and your vagina clear and

474
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:20,440
Speaker 3: keeping your mind unclouded with without the dicks, because Lord knows,

475
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:25,159
Speaker 3: dicks confuse things. And honestly, recently, I was with some

476
00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 3: I was just amongst some guys, some good friends of mine,

477
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Speaker 3: and you know, all really good men, professional, you know,

478
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Speaker 3: caring fathers, partners, and they're all telling me how they

479
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 3: got side chicks. They all have side chicks. You know,

480
00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 3: they have main partners or people they live with or wives,

481
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,960
Speaker 3: but they are indulging in outside relationships. And it's just like, damn,

482
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 3: I feel like a lot of the times in marriages,

483
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:59,520
Speaker 3: the women, the women get the short end of the

484
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485
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486
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487
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Speaker 3: the most, but they just don't give us the opportunity

488
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:17,439
Speaker 3: to to choose. And it's just like I literally was like,

489
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Speaker 3: I don't think I'm gonna get married. I don't. I

490
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491
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492
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493
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Speaker 2: seventeen years ago. Especially they were probably teenagers when they started,

522
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Speaker 2: when they hooked up. They've grown together. Like it's really

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524
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Speaker 2: have these conversations when you've already made these like set

525
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526
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528
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Speaker 2: when you were twenty four, You're not who you were

529
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Speaker 2: when you were twenty eight. Like these relationships and these

530
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:35,560
Speaker 2: structures for relationships keep us beholden to like change our.

531
00:28:35,440 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 1: Minds about things.

532
00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 2: And it's just it does no one, It does everyone

533
00:28:41,320 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 2: a disservice in the relationship and I do believe that

534
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 2: you can be in a relationship and have these set

535
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 2: things then and then like I believe that there's relationships

536
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 2: that maybe started out really traditional that maybe are really untraditional.

537
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:53,000
Speaker 1: Now.

538
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 2: Is that common? I feel like maybe not that common,

539
00:28:57,680 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 2: but it is a possibility. And that's how you know

540
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Speaker 2: you really found your partner. That's how you know you've

541
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 2: really found that person that you really fuck with because

542
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Speaker 2: they've allowed you to continue to grow and they've grown

543
00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 2: with you, and they've and they've grown without you, and and.

544
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Speaker 1: That's really what it's about. It's like growing you being able.

545
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 2: To grow individually and then come together and like check

546
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 2: in and make sure that there's still synergy there.

547
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Speaker 1: That's what I want.

548
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 2: It used to make me sad even in the beginning

549
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 2: of this podcast, or like, well, while I've been exploring

550
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 2: like what nonmnogamy looks like for me, and like do

551
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 2: do I want to be married or like do I

552
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 2: want to be a wife or blah blah blah, that like,

553
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 2: ultimately I know that people grow out of each other, right,

554
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 2: and like it doesn't always happen, but it does, and

555
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 2: like that's kind of sad, Like that that kind of

556
00:29:43,400 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 2: kills the fairy tale of like we're gonna be together forever,

557
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 2: but lately I've kind of flipped that and I don't

558
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 2: find it sad anymore. I find it kind of beautiful,

559
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 2: like that like we can I can share in these

560
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 2: moments with someone and that like maybe it's not for

561
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 2: us ever, but like that we were able to be

562
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,480
Speaker 2: present with one another and share in those times, and

563
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 2: that there might be someone else out there that is

564
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 2: more compatible for me in my future self and that's exciting,

565
00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 2: you know, Like I feel like there's something going on

566
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,240
Speaker 2: inside of my body that is really starting to like

567
00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 2: unravel this deep sense of like territorialness that I've had

568
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 2: in relationships and expectation. And it doesn't feel painful to

569
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:32,080
Speaker 2: do because I guess I've been semi. I guess I've

570
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 2: been doing the work and I've been attracting these men

571
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:37,120
Speaker 2: that have kind of led me to the space. And

572
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,840
Speaker 2: I appreciate these men, all of them, Like none of

573
00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 2: them have been perfect, but I'm not fucking perfect, but

574
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 2: they've led me here and I'm I'm I'm happy. I mean,

575
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 2: I do I want you know. I talked about this

576
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 2: on one of our calls, and the Diktoks and we

577
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,720
Speaker 2: were talking about manifesting and like what we want to

578
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 2: manifest and I shared and I'll share here even though

579
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 2: like I really only want to share with the tribe

580
00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 2: on Patreon, but I'll give you.

581
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Speaker 1: Give you what my my manifestation is.

582
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,240
Speaker 2: And I'm really like in a space of I'm ready

583
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 2: to manifest you know, my next partner, And I say

584
00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 2: next because I don't know if it's the last, And

585
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 2: you know, I did that with my with poetry Bay,

586
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 2: and I got exactly what I asked for. I really did.

587
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 2: I wasn't specific enough, and that's what I've realized. There

588
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 2: were definitely some bullet points that needed to go underneath

589
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Speaker 2: some of the things. And I want to encourage y'all

590
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Speaker 2: to do the same, like make that list, like if

591
00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:30,720
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592
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Speaker 2: manifesting your partner. And this is the advice that my

593
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Speaker 2: mom gave me, is be very specific, like super specific,

594
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595
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596
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597
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598
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Speaker 3: I Also, I am trying to untangle my territorialness because I'm

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633
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Speaker 3: go do what you want to do. But I'm the

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636
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Speaker 3: and don't for one second think that I'm not, and

637
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Speaker 3: there is there is openness, whether it's not, there's no hierarchy.

639
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Speaker 3: But I'm finding like I don't know if I'm okay

640
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641
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642
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646
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Speaker 3: put on this pedestal. In order for you to explore openly, you.

647
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:25,520
Speaker 2: Have to know too, Like there's that pedestal, Like that

648
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:26,520
Speaker 2: pedestal is a danger.

649
00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:29,320
Speaker 1: It's dangerous up there because if.

650
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:32,680
Speaker 2: One leg just like knocks out, like the whole thing

651
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:35,560
Speaker 2: falls over, you know, Like that's why the pedestal thing

652
00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:37,600
Speaker 2: is like it's I feel like it's a slippery slope.

653
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 3: What do you mean if one leg falls out?

654
00:34:40,160 --> 00:34:42,840
Speaker 2: Like if one leg and that pedestal, what does a

655
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,359
Speaker 2: pedestal usually has about three legs? If one is out,

656
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 2: the shit gonna fall over.

657
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,560
Speaker 3: Bitch, you say, like I won't be number one, and

658
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 3: then someone else will have to take like come and

659
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 3: take my place.

660
00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:57,839
Speaker 2: I'm just saying that a man's attention, especially if you're

661
00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 2: going to allow him to go and and be free,

662
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:02,720
Speaker 2: like you say, and you want to be the main one,

663
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 2: you can't guarantee that you are going, like you're going

664
00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 2: to get all of his attention all the time when

665
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:08,920
Speaker 2: you open up that door.

666
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:12,000
Speaker 1: Like that's just not how the world works. That's not

667
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 1: how life works. That's not how niggas work.

668
00:35:14,200 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 2: You have to know that, Like even like that's why

669
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:19,719
Speaker 2: I like we need to have Bayon because they let you, Like,

670
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:23,360
Speaker 2: you have to know that, Like there's going to be

671
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 2: a newness when a man meets someone new. There's going

672
00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:29,359
Speaker 2: to be something that you don't have that she has,

673
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 2: and that's what attracted him to her, you know, And

674
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:36,320
Speaker 2: if you are going to really live this like open life,

675
00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 2: which for me, like I don't necessarily want to live

676
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:41,759
Speaker 2: an open life. And that's what I've realized too, Like

677
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 2: I do want partnership, I do want sacredness in my relationship,

678
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 2: but I want constant communication with my partner. But is

679
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:51,360
Speaker 2: it okay if if if he falls in love with

680
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:52,839
Speaker 2: someone else. Am I not going to be hurt?

681
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 1: Of course? I'm going to be hurt, of course, But

682
00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 1: I can't what am I supposed to do? I'm not

683
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: about to make no nigga love me. That don't work.

684
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:03,440
Speaker 2: I try to do that already, bleaching my hair and

685
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,120
Speaker 2: doing all that dumb shit like.

686
00:36:05,400 --> 00:36:12,239
Speaker 1: No I'm not, I'm not, and like I'm bomb, so

687
00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:13,280
Speaker 1: I'll find someone else.

688
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 3: That's our struggle to become ethically open and non jealous.

689
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 3: It's an every day it's an everyday battle to be

690
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:24,120
Speaker 3: a non jealous individual and just to subscribe to free love.

691
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:27,520
Speaker 3: You know, there are risks that you take, and it's

692
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 3: not even a risk. It's just letting life happen and

693
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:32,840
Speaker 3: being okay with it and just understanding that, like we're

694
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:36,040
Speaker 3: all in our journeys and we're all gonna shift and

695
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,440
Speaker 3: evolve and love differently. And if I find you in

696
00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:42,280
Speaker 3: the journey and it works good, if you stay good,

697
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 3: if you keep going cool.

698
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 2: It's just about working on yourself and like everything else

699
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 2: will fall into place.

700
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 1: You know.

701
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:51,440
Speaker 2: I was on the Shade Room, very classy news source

702
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:56,280
Speaker 2: earlier today and flies, you know, plies just be dropping

703
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,480
Speaker 2: the knowledges. He just be, he'd be knowing shit. I

704
00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 2: wish we could applies on the podcast I need. I

705
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:05,879
Speaker 2: would love to talk to him, but he posted this

706
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:08,560
Speaker 2: on I guess it was Twitter, and he said, you

707
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:11,439
Speaker 2: don't fix your breasts, your ass, your stomach, your hair,

708
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:15,760
Speaker 2: your lashes, your nails, your lips, your knees, et cetera.

709
00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 2: And you wonder why you still ain't happy because you

710
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 2: ain't never fixed your soul. Damn plies applies with talking

711
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,120
Speaker 2: that shit, and it goes both ways. Cause for niggas,

712
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 2: like niggas aren't usually fixing their bodies. They're usually trying

713
00:37:29,480 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 2: to get to the bag right. They feel like they're

714
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 2: going to get to this bag and suddenly everything's going

715
00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:37,120
Speaker 2: to fall into place. And I've seen it happen time

716
00:37:37,160 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 2: and time again. It doesn't make you more happy like

717
00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:43,960
Speaker 2: it's just it doesn't make you happier in relationships like

718
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:46,239
Speaker 2: you getting all this work done, you're gonna find your

719
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 2: dream man, and you're still going to be unhappy because

720
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:52,360
Speaker 2: you're not happy with yourself. All summer is dedicated to

721
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:57,759
Speaker 2: working on loving myself even more and manifesting you know,

722
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 2: my my next partner in whatever form that means same.

723
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 3: I'm with you, sis, I need to work on loving

724
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 3: myself and until I get there, like I can start

725
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 3: writing the list, but I realized that there's no time

726
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:21,719
Speaker 3: frame on partnership and on love, but that definitely will

727
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:26,960
Speaker 3: not manifest until I manifest that same energy. For myself.

728
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 3: You know, I rush into something last year during COVID

729
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:34,719
Speaker 3: because that's what COVID did. But you know, and it

730
00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 3: was a good thing. He was a good guy, but

731
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 3: I wasn't ready and that relationship shed a lot of

732
00:38:41,320 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 3: light on that. And and I'm happy. I'm happy to

733
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 3: do the work. And I realize, like I'm excited to

734
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 3: do it because the sooner I do it, the sooner

735
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 3: I can manifest that partner and I can move on

736
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 3: to healing some other shit, into growing in other ways

737
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:00,880
Speaker 3: and like even that much more so, to becoming like

738
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 3: the best version of myself. So I am excited to

739
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 3: take this summer to do those things with my bestie

740
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:12,680
Speaker 3: and to just focus on selfs and just not put

741
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:16,320
Speaker 3: pressure on the relationship part. Like I'm not. I'm not worried.

742
00:39:16,520 --> 00:39:20,480
Speaker 3: I look good. I'm a cool ass bitch. And you know,

743
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:21,399
Speaker 3: niggas will come.

744
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:26,680
Speaker 1: Speaking of them, come, let's do a whori.

745
00:39:31,040 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 3: Who stories.

746
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: I think it's time for a horror story. It's been

747
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:36,080
Speaker 1: a while.

748
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 3: We need to talk about it. We need to talk

749
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:38,840
Speaker 3: about sex.

750
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: I know we need to talk We do need to

751
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 1: talk about sex.

752
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,439
Speaker 2: And also speaking of sex, just side note, you guys,

753
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:45,439
Speaker 2: I know, you guys have seen me post this and

754
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:47,360
Speaker 2: we've been doing an ad with Dipsy.

755
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:50,160
Speaker 1: You guys, I fucking love Dipsy. This is not an ad.

756
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:52,600
Speaker 2: This is just like for real, like Dipsy is my

757
00:39:52,640 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 2: new ship, and it's like an erotic audible. It's like

758
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 2: erotic audible stories. And I was listening to the other day.

759
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:01,719
Speaker 2: There's just one called five years. Go listen to five

760
00:40:01,800 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 2: years on dipsy because the shit I was it made

761
00:40:06,280 --> 00:40:08,280
Speaker 2: me what, It made me come because I was masturbating

762
00:40:08,320 --> 00:40:10,240
Speaker 2: as I was listening to it. It was it was bombed.

763
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:12,319
Speaker 2: So if you guys are not some sex we just

764
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 2: want to, you know, masturbate and need new content, definitely

765
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 2: check out the Dipsy app. With our code, you get

766
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 2: thirty day free trial. It's what is our code, GMBC.

767
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 2: I think you have to you have to.

768
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 1: Click the link.

769
00:40:22,520 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 2: I'm gonna put the link in the episode of this

770
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:28,480
Speaker 2: in the description of this episode. But it's bomb And

771
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 2: also sharonas Jackson has like a little series on there.

772
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:32,759
Speaker 2: You know, the actor from Insecure, and he has an

773
00:40:32,880 --> 00:40:36,320
Speaker 2: xy deep voice and I didn't realize that whatever. Basically

774
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 2: I had sex with Sharona's sort of anyway. Time for

775
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:43,439
Speaker 2: horse stories in the sky. I've been messing around since

776
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:45,759
Speaker 2: we were teens. He is a dom and would set

777
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 2: tasks such as wear a plug to work, et cetera.

778
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 2: One night he told me to wear a plug and

779
00:40:50,640 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 2: we met up. I did some food shopping first with it.

780
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 2: I did some food shopping first with it in, and

781
00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 2: then we drove around. He ripped my tights and played

782
00:40:58,880 --> 00:41:01,400
Speaker 2: with me while I drove. We pull over in his

783
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 2: industrial in this industrial estate, behind a shop, he plays

784
00:41:05,680 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 2: with me. I give him head in the car. We

785
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 2: get out and he tells me to bend over this

786
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 2: metal box. I was too tight, so he took the

787
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 2: plug out and put it in my mouth first for me.

788
00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 2: There very glad. I douced for the first time. Wow,

789
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 2: I don't know how. I don't know if I would

790
00:41:21,680 --> 00:41:22,839
Speaker 2: be able to put the plug in my mouth.

791
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 3: Don't double dip. Don't double dip me. You gotta see

792
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 3: if you gotta wipe it off, you gotta do something.

793
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:29,400
Speaker 3: But the button, the vagina in the mouth, we have

794
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:31,400
Speaker 3: to we have to keep it up. The vagina in

795
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 3: the mouth. Whatever the ass is its own thing.

796
00:41:35,680 --> 00:41:38,640
Speaker 2: Okay, So uh, he fucks my pussy comes in my

797
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 2: ass and then puts the plug back in.

798
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: Wow.

799
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:46,799
Speaker 2: As we leave, the alarm goes off and all the

800
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 2: lights come on behind the shop.

801
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:51,799
Speaker 1: I'm a good girl. She ain't nobody's good girl. You

802
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:52,320
Speaker 1: a liar?

803
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 2: Pash goodbye. It be them good girls, it'd be the nastiest.

804
00:41:56,320 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 2: I'm a good girl, So I panicked that I was caught. Also,

805
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,680
Speaker 2: in later conversation that night, he called me classy. That

806
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:05,919
Speaker 2: made me laugh, and I reminded him that he did

807
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:07,799
Speaker 2: just come in my ass in the alley, So how

808
00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:09,040
Speaker 2: classy am I really?

809
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:14,279
Speaker 3: I just want to be clear. You can You could

810
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:17,360
Speaker 3: be classy and get fucked in an alley, in the

811
00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,800
Speaker 3: ass and put the butt plug in your mouth. Classiness

812
00:42:20,880 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 3: is not synonymous with your kinky sex life.

813
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 1: A men, A men.

814
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:29,640
Speaker 2: If you guys have any hories that you want to

815
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Speaker 2: send in, please please, please please please do send them

816
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:36,720
Speaker 2: to info at good momspadchoices dot com. In the subject

817
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,960
Speaker 2: line put hory or horse story and we will gladly

818
00:42:40,040 --> 00:42:46,080
Speaker 2: share them over the interwebs anonymously. Well, I love you,

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00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 2: my love, I gotta go, though I.

820
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 3: Love you too, I know, I know, I don't want

821
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:53,240
Speaker 3: to see you today.

822
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:54,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to see you either.

823
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 3: I don't want to come to your house for like

824
00:42:56,800 --> 00:42:57,520
Speaker 3: five days.

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Speaker 1: Don't come all right, you guys.

826
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Speaker 3: Well, well, everybody, have a wonderful week.

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Speaker 1: Make sure you go rate and review us on Apple Podcasts, follow.

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Speaker 3: Moms Bad Choices to get all the inside scoop, and

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Speaker 3: visit us on Instagram. I had Good Mom's underscore Bad Choices.

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Speaker 2: And also make sure you check out our merge. We

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Speaker 2: have some fire merge you guys. We just dropped a

833
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Speaker 2: new tank for the summer and it says Mama comes first,

834
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Speaker 2: because we do and we should. So well check that

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Speaker 2: out and we will see you next week.

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Speaker 3: This is bye solo record.

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Speaker 1: Let's us say us

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Speaker 3: Unzula