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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry letter subject it is over before

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Speaker 1: you know it. Here Stephen Shirley. I'm a twenty nine

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Speaker 1: year old married woman. My husband and I have been

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Speaker 1: married for almost three years. We met at work, and

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Speaker 1: we fell for each other rather quickly. We also began

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Speaker 1: to have sex early on in our relationship. At first,

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Speaker 1: the sex was okay, it was what I needed then,

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Speaker 1: but as time went on, our encounter started to be

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Speaker 1: a problem because he could not last long at all.

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Speaker 1: He was getting all of the pleasure and I wasn't

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Speaker 1: getting any well. We eventually got married. I married him

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Speaker 1: because I loved him and I saw a future with him.

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Speaker 1: But I definitely underestimated the importance of good sex in

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Speaker 1: a relationship. I find myself fantasizing, watching porn and daydreaming

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Speaker 1: about other men. I realized in theory that sex isn't everything,

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Speaker 1: but gosh, darnett, I need some good quality stuff and

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Speaker 1: I needed quick. I don't know how long I can

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Speaker 1: be in this marriage. I have talked to him about it,

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Speaker 1: and he doesn't see this as a problem. What's a

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Speaker 1: girl to do? Please help? Well? Um Two lines that

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Speaker 1: I never thought that would be together. Was um, Well,

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Speaker 1: we eventually got married after you know, you talked about

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Speaker 1: your encounters. Your sexual encounter started to be a problem

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Speaker 1: because he couldn't last that long. But you know you

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Speaker 1: eventually married him anyway, So you said you married him

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Speaker 1: because you loved him and you saw a future with him.

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Speaker 1: But you definitely underestimated how important sex wasn'to a marriage,

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Speaker 1: And yeah, you're right, sex is very important too in

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Speaker 1: a marriage. It is, um, I don't know, have you

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Speaker 1: Perhaps he needs to, um, you know, see a doctor

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Speaker 1: about it. You've talked to him and he doesn't think

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Speaker 1: it's such a big deal, but to you it is

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Speaker 1: a big deal. And you're his wife and he should

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Speaker 1: to go for you? Can she go fast? Just keep up?

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Speaker 1: Oh this is her you know the pace get anyway.

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Speaker 1: I'm just sorry though, I think watching porn and things

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Speaker 1: you know, you're kinda once you're already inadequate husband to

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Speaker 1: think that's necessarily a way to cure this. I if

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Speaker 1: I were you, I would say, you guys need to

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Speaker 1: go and check it out. And perhaps it is a

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Speaker 1: medical condition. Steve, you naked dog. Come on, well, lady,

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Speaker 1: you twenty nine. You got a lot of living in

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Speaker 1: front of you. H living like you've been living for

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Speaker 1: three years. This don't sound like much of a life

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Speaker 1: you got coming. I'm gonna just go on painting picture

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Speaker 1: real dog for you. Ain't no sunnyside to this, dammit.

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Speaker 1: It's raining. M hmm. It ain't partly cloudy. It's raining

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Speaker 1: fully cloudy, damny. And it ain't raining on nobody but

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Speaker 1: you so black cloud following your air where you go.

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Speaker 1: You can't get nothing from him. We all we began.

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Speaker 1: You met at work. You're fell in love rather quickly.

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Speaker 1: He's a nice guy, great guy. But we also began

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Speaker 1: having sex early in our relationship. That what she means

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Speaker 1: is first week, That's what she meant. At first the

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Speaker 1: sex was okay, it was just all right. It never

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Speaker 1: mars never was You never heard bells and saw skyrockets,

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Speaker 1: and you ain't never teared up and cried. You ain't

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Speaker 1: never been in the corner sucking your thumb. You ain't

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Speaker 1: You ain't knock nothing off the night stand. You ain't

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Speaker 1: You ain't told the folk corners up off the sheet.

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Speaker 1: You ain't been into your knuckles. And realize you was bleeding.

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Speaker 1: You ain't that noning. None of that ha happened to you,

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Speaker 1: And realize you would bleed this when this boy up

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Speaker 1: here working, You ain't had none of that because it

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Speaker 1: let's just be honest, it's just that damn good. It's

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Speaker 1: in relationship where you are not using protected sex. Ask

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Speaker 1: him to wear a condom that would give him another

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Speaker 1: asked him to wear a condom that will help him.

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Speaker 1: Now you needed to know that in ten seconds left

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Speaker 1: where you're gonna go to break and we come back.

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Speaker 1: It's going to get dog for you to give. But

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Speaker 1: right now, Steve, come on with part two of your

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Speaker 1: response Strawberry letter. It's over before you know it is

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Speaker 1: the subject all right, Just twenty nine year old married

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Speaker 1: Thank you? Hated breathing? Thank you Jesus. Well, you can

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Speaker 1: thank the Lord if you want to. I have nothing

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Speaker 1: fast now my suggestion you are no, he just have

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Speaker 1: and daydreaming about other men. And we're gonna get back

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Speaker 1: to that. I realized in theory that sex isn't everything,

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Speaker 1: but gosh, done it. No sex is everything. Come on

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Speaker 1: and talk to me. It's nothing you. Cars and houses

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Speaker 1: and don't. How about this room that don't get it?

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Speaker 1: Let me hear one more time. If thank you now

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Speaker 1: listen to me. Now let's go back. I find myself

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Speaker 1: your husband is not poorn star material. He ain't long Gone,

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Speaker 1: he ain't Thunderbolt, he ain't master built, he ain't Matt

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Speaker 1: gonna do it all that? Yeah, you know you're crazy,

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Speaker 1: strip of name too much? Lord, Yeah, you ain't none

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Speaker 1: broke little man shout, speedy guns, honest, quick drama draw, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: mighty mouse, you're over here with all these shot little references.

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Speaker 1: here with him. Now you're watching Point, big boy come out,

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Speaker 1: So what is the answer this? I want to talk

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Speaker 1: to him about it, and he doesn't see it as

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Speaker 1: don't see it that No, because he's getting his what's

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Speaker 1: get it? Somebody else? Will you? But how he do?

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Speaker 1: Walk with me for the got thank you? And she's

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Speaker 1: to hear you use that power. Try. I saw a

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Speaker 1: good belly laugh right there. All right, Steve, we gotta

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