WEBVTT - The Unwritten Rules of a Relationship: “Princess Treatment” Vs. “Bare Minimum” 0:00:02.120 --> 0:00:05.840 Hey, that folks, it is Friday, May eighth. What does 0:00:05.880 --> 0:00:10.640 it mean to treat a lady like a princess? Well, 0:00:10.720 --> 0:00:13.000 you're going to get a very different answer if you 0:00:13.039 --> 0:00:17.680 ask men, then if you ask women. And with that, Robes, 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:19.759 I will ask you. And as I say, well, don't 0:00:19.840 --> 0:00:22.320 everybody to this episode of Amy and TJ. Robes has 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:24.720 been holding this from me and I'm not sure exactly 0:00:24.800 --> 0:00:27.440 what direction, uh this is going to go? 0:00:27.760 --> 0:00:31.520 Well, this is actually so interesting. Our producer Sam Overtihart 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:35.720 sent an article to us about the title was eleven 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:39.440 things men see as princess treatment versus what women see 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:42.080 as the bear minimum. And so I went and I 0:00:42.200 --> 0:00:45.960 looked at what these eleven things are and I laughed 0:00:46.040 --> 0:00:49.880 because apparently I'm a princess because you pretty much do 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:52.160 every single one of these things. 0:00:52.200 --> 0:00:55.000 Okay, you're a princess in a guy's eyes, in your eyes, 0:00:55.080 --> 0:00:57.200 you're just normal to a woman because these are the 0:00:57.200 --> 0:00:57.800 bare minimum. 0:00:58.280 --> 0:01:00.240 And perhaps this is one of the many reasons is 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:02.360 why I love you so much, because I have never 0:01:02.480 --> 0:01:05.880 this is a true statement, I have never been in 0:01:05.920 --> 0:01:10.200 a relationship or even dated someone casually who's done all 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.959 of these things the way you do, so you are 0:01:13.120 --> 0:01:16.760 an exception. And it's interesting because this whole concept and 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:22.880 this whole discussion arose from a TikTok video from last year. Okay, 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:25.280 so a woman, she was thirty seven years old. Her 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:27.160 name was Courtney Palmer. The New York Times did a 0:01:27.200 --> 0:01:30.880 big article on this. She went on a video that 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:33.600 garnered millions and millions of views and lots of reactions, 0:01:33.640 --> 0:01:38.720 saying that she is a princess, that she gets prince's 0:01:38.720 --> 0:01:42.759 treatment from her relationship. And she says, this was her quote, 0:01:42.760 --> 0:01:44.800 the kind of set people off. If I'm at a 0:01:44.840 --> 0:01:47.680 restaurant with my husband, I do not talk to the hostess, 0:01:48.120 --> 0:01:50.680 I do not open any doors, and I do not 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:53.640 order my own food. And basically just went on to 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:57.920 talk about that her husband treats her like a princess. Okay, 0:01:58.120 --> 0:02:00.680 so then she started listening to all the things he says. 0:02:00.760 --> 0:02:02.880 I think she's not using that word right, she means 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:03.760 captive or. 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:05.640 Oh no, but she likes it. 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:05.880 I know. 0:02:05.960 --> 0:02:08.480 Yes, some people did talk about like, I'm sorry, they're like, 0:02:08.680 --> 0:02:11.680 instead of progression, they were doing hashtag regression. But she 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.240 also went on to say, and it prompted a lot 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:16.360 of women, So there became this viral trend. 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:17.600 It's still going on now. 0:02:18.200 --> 0:02:20.640 You see a husband sitting in a chair a lot 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:24.000 of times by a pool, but outside somewhere outside, and 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:26.880 the woman has a garden hose with a spray hose 0:02:26.919 --> 0:02:30.639 attached to it, okay, and she starts listing like things 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:32.560 that she thinks he should do for her, and he 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:35.200 either says bare minimum or princess treatment. 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:38.440 If he says princess treatment, she squirts him with the hose. 0:02:38.560 --> 0:02:41.200 It's actually really funny, and the guys are going along 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:43.200 with it, but they're being honest about what they think 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:46.359 is too much to ask for. Wow, in a relationship, 0:02:46.560 --> 0:02:48.320 it's actually really really funny. 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:50.160 Do you want to check out the tic? There are 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:52.000 a lot of videos. I was laughing, You're like, what 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:52.880 are you watching? 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:55.960 What's the different thing with the hose? If it's princess treatment. 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:58.800 If he says princess treatment, you scored him with the hosts. 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:03.440 Why because he's wrong, because it's the bare minimum? And 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:05.840 this way at least the question though, like whatever the 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:08.920 woman thinks she deserves, like whatever she thinks the I mean, 0:03:08.960 --> 0:03:11.240 it's been from paying for my nails and hair to 0:03:12.800 --> 0:03:16.000 you know, when you go to the store picking up 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:18.600 a little something. You know, I'll like, you know, if 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:22.800 he thinks that's Prince's treatment or bare minimum. But the 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:26.320 different things that she expects him to do, and they 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:30.080 don't know what she's going to ask. It's really funny. 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:35.000 But this article kind of consolidated the top eleven things 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:38.680 that most women consider bare minimum, and it's not every 0:03:38.680 --> 0:03:42.840 woman's yes. And look, I think based on your age 0:03:42.880 --> 0:03:44.920 and your experience and where you live in the country, 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.040 you might feel differently about some of these things. 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:48.800 But I agree with all of them. 0:03:48.920 --> 0:03:51.120 Okay, okay, this is hilarious. 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:53.920 So the number one thing that they did, I don't 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:55.720 know if it's in any order, it's just number one 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:57.880 opening her car door. 0:03:59.240 --> 0:04:00.960 So wait, this is Princess Street. 0:04:00.960 --> 0:04:03.640 Nobody, No, no, babe, I'm telling you you are the first 0:04:03.680 --> 0:04:07.200 man other than my father who has consistently, repeatedly and 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:10.200 by the way, never once missed opening my car door. 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:12.680 I have told you about previous relationships where I've been 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:16.440 told you think you're a feminist, then you need to 0:04:16.480 --> 0:04:18.320 go ahead and do things for yourself. So as long 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:20.840 as you have that mindset, I'm not opening a doorway. 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:23.880 Wait, we have me one second? Are we This list 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:28.279 is of things that guys actually think is princesstre correct. 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:32.520 Okay, I knew you would like this because you actually 0:04:33.480 --> 0:04:35.800 are on the minimum. Would you say that that is 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:36.680 bare minimum? 0:04:36.720 --> 0:04:42.040 You can't get barer minimum than that. The day that 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:45.679 that is you just I've just broken up with people 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:49.200 still get the damn door for them. No, it doesn't matter, 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:50.680 it's the door. 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:54.599 And the funny thing is in this article it actually 0:04:54.640 --> 0:04:57.200 states exactly what I have been told by other men. 0:04:57.360 --> 0:05:01.040 Some men claim that since women want to be so independent, 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:02.800 they should do things for themselves. 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:05.320 Okay. Is there some segment of the population of women 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:06.920 who don't want you to open the door. 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:09.599 Probably, But I think always offering to or doing it 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:11.960 like obviously, if someone tells you I can do it 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:13.839 by myself, I don't want you to do it anymore. 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:17.760 Then you respect what she wants. This is fascinating most women. 0:05:17.960 --> 0:05:22.280 I think the depreciation car door we are walking towards 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:26.760 a vehicle. You go to anyone other than my father. 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:29.240 That is absolute insanity. 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:31.280 And my father does it for my mother every time. 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:35.760 That's okay, people raise differently. It shouldn't get too harsh 0:05:35.839 --> 0:05:37.160 on anybody else who doesn't do it. 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:40.800 But my god, yep, all right, number two this. 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:42.480 I'm scared to get through this list now. 0:05:42.560 --> 0:05:43.120 Number two. 0:05:44.160 --> 0:05:46.200 You don't do this one as often, but you absolutely 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:51.120 have planning dates. That for a lot of women is 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:54.000 a huge complaint that men do not take the time 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:58.839 to plan dates and they basically expect the woman to 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:01.799 kind of create the social calendar. And it is something 0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:04.320 that's considered chivalrous. I mean, as a woman to have 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:09.880 a man say I have planned when you made reservations recently, 0:06:10.440 --> 0:06:14.760 that was so amazing, Like, we love it. I don't 0:06:14.760 --> 0:06:16.960 know that I consider that the bare minimum. But I 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:19.680 also don't think it's princess treatment. I think it's lovely 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:22.520 and as wonderful as often as it can happen. 0:06:22.680 --> 0:06:25.640 It's you know, if any fellows are listening, and if 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:28.160 anybody wants to pass this along to their fella, this 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:30.040 is one you would put in the category of an 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:33.599 easy win, right. It goes a long way, it does, 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:36.240 and it doesn't take you a lot of effort to 0:06:36.279 --> 0:06:38.680 do so. But yeah, I have you and I have 0:06:38.880 --> 0:06:41.919 such a we're together all the damn time, but we 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.680 have such a routine where we look over again we 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:49.039 know exactly where we're going on certain days at certain times. Yes, 0:06:49.080 --> 0:06:52.960 even so, yes I will plan more. But you did 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:55.640 light up the last You had no idea some stuff's 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:56.760 coming and it wasn't a big deal. 0:06:56.800 --> 0:07:00.279 It's just oh, making a reservation is like you will 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:03.039 win points forever. 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:06.200 For doing that, all right? Number three getting her gas? 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:08.440 What do you mean? Getting her gas like. 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:12.800 Either pumping the gas or someone wrote that they remembered 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:14.920 their father sometimes when she was long on gas, he 0:07:14.920 --> 0:07:16.680 would just if he saw it, would go phillip her 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:18.280 gas tank. She'd come back the next morning and go, 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:21.040 oh my god, he filled my tank up. Some husbands 0:07:21.040 --> 0:07:23.400 do that for their wives. And look, is that the 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:26.120 bare minimum? Or is that princess treatment? 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:30.080 I guess is the question on that princess treatment? Putting 0:07:30.120 --> 0:07:32.840 gas in the car, that's doing something nice. That's almost 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:36.920 similar to taking out the trash. There's something in Volkolk's take. 0:07:37.160 --> 0:07:39.080 I guess it's not supposed to be in these traditional 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:43.480 roles man woman, But oftentimes the assignment of doing something 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:46.040 dirty like that taking out the trash, it goes to 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:49.040 the guy. Gassing up is something dirty. Women shouldn't be 0:07:49.080 --> 0:07:53.440 out there gassing up and she certainly if you're driving me. Yeah, yeah, 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.800 I've been sitting passenger in your car before we pulled 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:57.960 up to a gas station. I did not sit in 0:07:58.040 --> 0:07:58.559 my seat. 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:01.280 I don't think I've ever, by the way, that has 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:05.920 happened in my with a man and I'm driving, and 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.800 I get I opened the and I'll be honest, I've 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:10.240 looked to see, waited for a second. 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:12.560 Nope, not he's not gonna do it. Okay, I guess 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:13.080 I'll do it. 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:17.960 I've actually had that exact experience, and you know what, 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:20.760 I did expect it, and I was disappointed, and I 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:22.800 was a little pissed. I'm not gonna lie. Am I 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:25.360 perfectly capable of gassing up my own car? Yes, I'll 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:28.280 do it all the time. But I feel like yes, 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:32.040 so I have you have never once? You have never once, 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:34.960 whether I'm in the passenger seat or in the driver's seat, 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:37.840 I have never had to wait and see. You've always 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:40.120 immediately gotten out of the car. You've pumped gas every 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:41.000 time we've been together. 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:44.839 I've never seen you pump gas. So I'm not sure 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:45.560 if you are capable. 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:50.680 I am sure you can ask some former partners of mine. 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:51.360 All right. 0:08:52.760 --> 0:08:56.840 Number four letting her wear his coat if it's cold. 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:01.880 Oh my gosh, you give me shit about it, but 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:03.640 you have done it. In fact, there was that time 0:09:03.640 --> 0:09:06.120 in Vegas. You bring up at least once a week, but. 0:09:06.080 --> 0:09:08.680 I only give you shit about it because we talked 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:12.160 ahead of time about you possibly taking something. Now, which 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:16.000 is this fair? Do I? When your cold and something 0:09:16.040 --> 0:09:18.120 turns and it happens, you don't have to ask. I 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:21.040 have offered, and not offer an offer, only give you hell. 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:24.520 When we discussed before we leave for the evening, I. 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.920 Was operating under the bare minimum expectation that you would 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:30.680 just obviously give me your coat. 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:33.640 And I did, and you did. I always do. 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:37.640 But but the thing is, sometimes anything I was gonna 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:40.040 wear was going to be disruptive to my cute outfit. 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:43.880 But like wearing your guy's jacket always is a wonderful accessory. 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:47.760 Bro, is that case princess? The case we're talking about? Yeah, 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:50.640 you were acting like a princess. I was. 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:52.840 I'll admit it that because when I knew that I 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.719 might get Vegas the air conditioning it's so. 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:57.120 Cold, well, we were going to it. 0:09:57.200 --> 0:09:59.400 You didn't have to wear it at all, Like we 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:01.360 were going to a place where it was secure that 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:02.920 all we had to do is sit it down, your 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:06.360 whole out and your whole outfit, no problem, and you 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:08.360 would have only had to use it in an emergency, 0:10:08.440 --> 0:10:10.720 which you did have, and which means I had to 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:13.160 take off a garment that I had been excited about 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:14.280 wearing for a year. 0:10:14.480 --> 0:10:16.480 So true, It's so true, all. 0:10:16.440 --> 0:10:17.920 Right, But do you think that, by the way, just 0:10:17.960 --> 0:10:19.720 having a woman expect that a man would do that? 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:21.520 Is that princess treatment or bare minimum? 0:10:22.640 --> 0:10:25.320 Hey there, I have a jacket on and the woman 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:27.400 standing next to me is cold. You should give that 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:28.080 to a stranger. 0:10:28.200 --> 0:10:29.360 Okay, very cool? 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:33.160 All right, this is this one's funny, and then we'll 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:34.600 go to the breakout for this one. But this one 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:36.000 made me laugh because I did a little bit of 0:10:36.040 --> 0:10:39.760 a deeper dive. Number five taking care of her when 0:10:39.800 --> 0:10:43.400 she is sick. Prince's treatment or bare minimum? 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:47.120 The how bare are can you get? Then? 0:10:47.200 --> 0:10:47.280 That? 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:49.600 Yep? Okay? Well. 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:55.880 Psychology Today did an entire article on why marriages are 0:10:55.920 --> 0:11:00.000 more likely to end when wives get sick. It's hilarious, 0:11:00.280 --> 0:11:04.080 but they just basically said that women are considered to 0:11:04.120 --> 0:11:07.440 be the caregivers and the nurturers and so when the 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:11.760 wife gets sick, then the other person has to start 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:15.959 packing up duties like cooking, cleaning, and caring for her. 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:20.280 And oftentimes they see that men just don't handle it. Well, 0:11:20.360 --> 0:11:22.080 that was a larger study, but it made me laugh. 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:24.240 What is it talking about? In that study? People have 0:11:24.360 --> 0:11:27.680 like more serious illness, like long term type. 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:29.960 It can be serious, but it also can just be, 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:32.160 you know, something where you have like a nagging this 0:11:32.320 --> 0:11:34.880 or a nagging that that It actually can lead to 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:38.520 the end of relationships when women get sick versus when 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:38.880 men do. 0:11:39.040 --> 0:11:41.240 They say, it's nothing changes. 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:43.840 That You're talking like a sprained ankle. If a woman 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:44.920 is out a commission for. 0:11:44.920 --> 0:11:47.120 A while, it might just be the final straw. 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:51.240 May we are her, but. 0:11:51.360 --> 0:11:54.520 Stepping up when someone's sick, obviously, I think most people 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:56.880 listening will agree that is bare minimum. 0:11:57.080 --> 0:11:58.559 That is not princess treatment. 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:03.480 No, oh of course you Oh my god, I thought 0:12:03.520 --> 0:12:05.240 it was the other way around. Like if you were 0:12:05.280 --> 0:12:09.319 thinking about breaking up and then she gets sick, now 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:11.480 you can't leave her because she's sick. 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:17.040 They get out, What am I getting out of this now? Nada? 0:12:17.200 --> 0:12:18.240 I'm out? All right? 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:24.120 When we come back, we have actually we have one, two, three, four, 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:26.079 We have five more, but they're hill. We'll try to 0:12:26.080 --> 0:12:28.200 go buy quicker. But these are really funny, So stay tuned. 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:39.520 We got five more for you. Welcome back everyone to 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:43.959 this very fun discussion about whether or not certain expectations 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:47.240 that most women have in relationships are really truly just 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:51.200 the bare minimum in a relationship, or are they princess treatment? 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:52.439 Are we expecting too much? 0:12:52.640 --> 0:12:56.040 Men complaining on TikTok and in some articles that we've 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:59.040 seen that these are unwritten rules that they didn't know 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:01.520 about and now they're having tried to try to abide 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:02.520 by that they don't agree with. 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:04.640 Opening the car door is an unwritten rule. 0:13:04.880 --> 0:13:07.839 Yeah, I think, especially younger generation. Let's write it down 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:10.760 the different parts of the country. Yes, all right, here's 0:13:10.760 --> 0:13:12.960 a funny one number is. 0:13:13.040 --> 0:13:15.600 Still a thing in the South, though you said generation, 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:18.199 Are they still being some of those still? 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:20.319 I know my nephews, do I know? 0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.000 I That can only speak through my personal experience, but 0:13:23.040 --> 0:13:26.199 I do think, oh, my goodness, down South versus up here, 0:13:26.720 --> 0:13:32.120 night and day. Okay, number six apologizing sincerely and with 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:35.480 that is vulnerability. So I think women do have this 0:13:35.559 --> 0:13:38.280 bare minimum expectation that Yeah, your partner is going to 0:13:38.320 --> 0:13:41.920 open up to you. They're going to actually sincerely apologize, 0:13:41.920 --> 0:13:42.960 and men think, give me a break. 0:13:43.040 --> 0:13:44.520 I said, I was sorry, Let's move on. 0:13:45.800 --> 0:13:50.160 That's usually what you say to me. Jesus, I'm not 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:51.680 getting the prince treatment. 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:55.440 All right, So both partner should do that. It's not 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:56.600 friends or princess stuff. 0:13:56.880 --> 0:13:58.640 This is another one that's kind of like, come on, 0:13:58.920 --> 0:14:04.360 remembering dates. Look for women, it seems to be a 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:06.920 common complaint that their husbands forget their anniversaries. 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:09.080 And again, we could go ahead and reverse this one too, 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:12.960 because there is a recent, a recent example. 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.520 Yes I remember twenty you did not, And that's okay, 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:17.920 Yes I didn't. That's the end of the world. It happens. 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:19.680 We have a lot of dates to keep up with 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:23.960 between kids and anniversaries and parents and cancer versaries, and 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:27.680 that's true a lottal So that's okay. But yeah, that 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:29.840 almost feels like robes. I don't want to call it 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:35.400 princess treatment. It is aspirational for a lot of men 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:38.240 I have seen. It's something you just have to be 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:40.440 conscious of. You're able to do it. But man, I 0:14:40.440 --> 0:14:44.200 mean as much as we look at our phones, stop 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:48.200 fellas right now, put the dates in your phone, give 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:51.320 yourself a one week reminder and a two day reminder, 0:14:52.080 --> 0:14:54.760 and you should be good, yes, for the rest of 0:14:54.800 --> 0:14:55.240 your marriage. 0:14:55.280 --> 0:14:55.640 It's true. 0:14:55.640 --> 0:14:57.560 We have no excuses, none of us, because we can 0:14:57.600 --> 0:14:59.560 all put it into our calendars. 0:14:59.560 --> 0:14:59.880 All right. 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.720 I know you'll like this one number eight. And again, 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.400 you are the only man who I have been in 0:15:05.440 --> 0:15:07.800 a relationship with who has ever done this. But a 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:10.440 lot of women do expect this, and some men think 0:15:10.440 --> 0:15:13.800 this is ridiculous walking on the outside of the sidewalk. 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:18.080 Yeah, I just I don't know any different. Yeah, I 0:15:18.080 --> 0:15:19.960 don't know any different. I don't I don't know if 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:22.520 that do even women are? Are they aware of it? 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:24.280 And I was aware of it immediately. 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:25.760 Well, at first when you were doing it, I got 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:28.200 confused because I'd have to switch my handbag because I 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:30.520 didn't want to have the handbag like in between us. 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:32.840 And you explain, I'm sorry, it's just the way my 0:15:32.880 --> 0:15:35.760 mom raised me. I walk on the outside of the street, 0:15:35.760 --> 0:15:37.880 and as soon as you said that, I swooned. 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:43.800 I'll be honest, But are do women, though in I 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:46.960 don't know all parts of the country would even expect 0:15:47.040 --> 0:15:49.800 something like that or be impressed by or like that. 0:15:49.960 --> 0:15:50.840 Or I do think. 0:15:51.280 --> 0:15:52.840 I think in the South there is a little bit 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:55.080 more of an expectation. I will tell you Eva interestingly, 0:15:55.120 --> 0:15:58.080 who's dating now twenty three years old, noticed when. 0:15:57.920 --> 0:16:01.120 A guy did that and you immediately like wow. 0:16:01.280 --> 0:16:03.480 So it wasn't that she had an expectation, but man, 0:16:03.520 --> 0:16:05.760 it was a big win in her book to have 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:09.840 a guy do that, because it isn't necessarily standard, especially 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:10.680 here in New York. 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:11.840 But I would actually. 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:14.840 Say, especially here in New York, it's more appreciated because 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:17.560 of all that's going on. Think about all those buses 0:16:18.040 --> 0:16:21.320 spraying water, just the concern that something could come up 0:16:21.360 --> 0:16:23.800 on the curb. It's protective in a lot of very 0:16:23.840 --> 0:16:25.400 speech chivalrous spays. 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:27.080 I even see you shifting. 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:29.640 Look, if there's a shifty homeless man who we don't 0:16:29.680 --> 0:16:32.960 know how erratically he may be behaving, you will actually 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:35.400 shift from the outside to that side to wherever the 0:16:35.480 --> 0:16:39.040 threat is or the perceived threat could be. You will 0:16:39.080 --> 0:16:41.320 shift where you are. And I see you doing it, 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:43.000 and that's very sexy. 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:46.160 Don't think anything. It's just an automatic dude with sabine 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:48.360 walking down the street. It's just a I don't know. 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.320 It's just I don't know anything that is so that 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:53.360 was put in me where OBEs. I guess the guy 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.320 would have to train himself or remember it if you did, 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:58.320 but I don't know any other thing to do. It 0:16:58.320 --> 0:16:59.440 feels awkward to walk. 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:01.400 On the other side, I love it, and I think 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:05.280 if women listening raise their sons like this, they will 0:17:05.320 --> 0:17:08.920 be forever appreciated by the women. 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:09.200 Who they date. 0:17:09.240 --> 0:17:12.679 All right, Number nine giving her flowers and this is 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:16.040 not just about on anniversaries, but actually just showing up 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:18.679 with flowers. There is this there is an expectation that 0:17:18.720 --> 0:17:20.719 you hope your guy is going to do this, and 0:17:20.760 --> 0:17:24.040 when they do, it's a huge win. It's just a 0:17:23.720 --> 0:17:27.560 it's a gesture. The expectation of getting them might be 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:28.359 princess treatment. 0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:31.600 What do you think it's a princess mindset on that one. 0:17:31.640 --> 0:17:32.720 I don't think you. 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:34.320 Mind a princess mindset. 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:36.959 You might end up being let down a little on that. 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:40.760 I don't think most guys usually said, it's mother's day, 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:44.600 it's birthday, and what am I missing? Anniversary? 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:47.560 Yes, yes, but it's so fun when it's just a Tuesday. 0:17:48.600 --> 0:17:52.359 Number ten doing chores without being asked you are like 0:17:53.000 --> 0:17:56.440 and honestly, I didn't have that expectation because I never 0:17:56.520 --> 0:18:00.720 had that experience. So when I saw you just cleaning 0:18:00.880 --> 0:18:05.639 and just doing what you do, it is amazing. Housework 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:08.879 is a huge issue that damages relationships, and some of 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:10.760 it is because, yeah, we do have an expectation. 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:13.119 I have a partner, I work too, and yet it 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:15.959 never seems to be even close to being equal. 0:18:16.600 --> 0:18:20.560 You are very different. You have always been just. I 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:22.600 don't say, babe, can you take out the trash? 0:18:22.880 --> 0:18:25.560 Babe? Could you? Could you? Could you clear the dishes? Babe? 0:18:26.400 --> 0:18:29.800 I never once have I ever asked you to do anything. 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:33.880 No, was that yesterday you walked by the front door 0:18:34.320 --> 0:18:36.560 and yeah, you said, where'd the trash? Cat? I was 0:18:36.600 --> 0:18:38.200 going to take that out on my way and I'd 0:18:38.200 --> 0:18:40.680 already taken it out. I don't know what I don't understand. 0:18:40.800 --> 0:18:44.200 I don't know every household works differently, But what's the expert. 0:18:44.280 --> 0:18:47.879 I don't know if how it works in another house, 0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:52.040 if one person doesn't do anything, if one person doesn't clean, 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:55.199 why are you talking about chores? It's just cleaning up 0:18:55.200 --> 0:18:58.040 after yourself. We all have Thank you for the space. No, No, 0:18:58.280 --> 0:19:02.560 I don't how does it work if one person refuses 0:19:02.600 --> 0:19:03.640 to help around. 0:19:03.520 --> 0:19:05.600 Because they've never had to because their mama didn't make 0:19:05.640 --> 0:19:07.400 them that kind of a thing. But I don't think 0:19:07.400 --> 0:19:10.560