1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: This is Unbreakable with Jay Glacier, a mental wealth podcast 2 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: build you from the inside out. Now here's Jay Glacier. 3 00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:18,440 Speaker 2: Welcome into a very special Unbreakable and Mental Wealth podcast 4 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 2: with Jay Glazer. I'm Jay Glazer, and this is the 5 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:25,320 Speaker 2: most special guest I've ever had on in my entire life. 6 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:28,200 Speaker 2: And before I get to her, just a quick word 7 00:00:28,240 --> 00:00:31,160 Speaker 2: here from our title sponsor, Carolyn. If you're like many people, 8 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:33,160 Speaker 2: you may be surprised to learn that one in five 9 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 2: adults in this country experienced mental illness last year. Yet 10 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 2: far too many fellow receive the support they need. Carolyn, 11 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:43,199 Speaker 2: behavioral Health is doing something about it. They understand that 12 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 2: behavioral health is a key part of whole health, delivering 13 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 2: compassionate care that treats physical, mental, emotional, and social needs 14 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 2: and tandem, Carolyn behavioral health raising the quality of life 15 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 2: through empathy and action. All right, folks, welcome into Unbreakable 16 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 2: Mental Wealth Podcast with Jay Glazer. 17 00:00:59,120 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 3: As you're listening to the. 18 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 4: I am in Italy on my honeymoon, Yes, my honeymoon, 19 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:06,840 Speaker 4: but I want to make sure we had some content 20 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 4: here for all of you who've been walking this walk 21 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 4: together with me for. 22 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 3: The last few years doing this podcast, but. 23 00:01:13,680 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 2: Also walking this walk with now my wife Rosie Tennis 24 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 2: and I now. 25 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:19,679 Speaker 3: Last week we had part one. 26 00:01:20,040 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 2: This week is part two of a podcast where I 27 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 2: really hope you can enjoy and be lifted up by 28 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 2: a lot of the lessons that Rosie has to offer 29 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:34,959 Speaker 2: up from her life, the things she's overcome. She's really 30 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:37,679 Speaker 2: excelled from a girl who grew up in a tidy 31 00:01:37,720 --> 00:01:40,760 Speaker 2: little place in Millanora in Idaho to getting to the 32 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 2: hot top of Hollywood and creating a business where she 33 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 2: started with one Kiosk hit a mall in Idaho and 34 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:48,680 Speaker 2: then two, then four, then one brick and mortar store, 35 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 2: than thirty stores. But also a lot of things we've 36 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 2: done and she's helped me with with my mental health journey. 37 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 2: If I didn't have all the work that I've had 38 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 2: on myself last few years, and if I didn't have 39 00:02:02,280 --> 00:02:04,640 Speaker 2: all of you to do this with, I wouldn't have 40 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:08,040 Speaker 2: really gotten the tools to be in this relationship and 41 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 2: to be on my honeymoon right now. 42 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:11,560 Speaker 3: I would have sabotaged. I would have pushed away. 43 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 2: I would have done everything I've done the past to 44 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,359 Speaker 2: ruin every other relationship I ever had Rosie. 45 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 3: I'm not going to do that. 46 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 2: So I hope you can enjoy Part two of Rosie 47 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 2: Tennyson our podcast as we're enjoying our honeymoon. I hope 48 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,640 Speaker 2: you could all enjoy our journey with us. The way 49 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:32,799 Speaker 2: this came about is wonderful. People over at Fox Sports 50 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,359 Speaker 2: Radio and a lot of people out there have said, man, 51 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 2: we have never seen you better. We've never seen a 52 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 2: better version of Jay Glazer. And I said, well, Rosie's 53 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 2: really the reason why. My beautiful fiance, Rosie Tennyson, She's why. 54 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 2: And you know, I finally, after all these years, found a. 55 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,120 Speaker 3: Partner who could really lift me up. But I feel comfortable, 56 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 3: it's safe for the first time in my life. 57 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 2: And they said, great, let's get Rosie and I said, no, now, now, now, 58 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:00,960 Speaker 2: I'm not getting Rosie on, Absolutely not. And they said, 59 00:03:01,000 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 2: do you know how many people you could help and 60 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 2: give hope to if the two of you came on 61 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:09,560 Speaker 2: and just talked about not only Rosie's life, which is unbelievable, 62 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 2: like she's the reality show of all reality shows and 63 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 2: the success story of success stories for all little girls 64 00:03:15,520 --> 00:03:18,120 Speaker 2: out there trying to make it, but also just the 65 00:03:18,160 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 2: hope that we can give people that it's never too 66 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 2: late to find love, and also to give people insight 67 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 2: into what she does to help me when my crazy 68 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:31,119 Speaker 2: gets out of control, when my gray gets really dark 69 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:33,919 Speaker 2: and deep, what she does to help lift me up 70 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:35,000 Speaker 2: and to be there for me. 71 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 3: So I am this better version. 72 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:41,400 Speaker 2: So this is for Don and Scott m Horri and 73 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 2: Justin and everybody else out there who has said this. 74 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 3: Is the best version of Jay Glazers they've seen. Everybody. 75 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 3: Welcome my beautiful fiance, Rosie Tennyson. 76 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 5: Thank you, babe. 77 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 3: Introduction, It is quite the introduction. 78 00:03:56,400 --> 00:04:01,760 Speaker 2: And so what was your favorite acting modeling job? And now, 79 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 2: like she'll come up with and by the way, here's 80 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 2: the thing that the crazy part. 81 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:06,720 Speaker 3: Rosie ended up. 82 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 6: Graduating, ohla in broadcasting, Yeah, broadcast journalism because she wants 83 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 6: to be a sports reporter. 84 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:15,839 Speaker 5: Yeah right. 85 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:17,040 Speaker 3: And I don't. 86 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:19,839 Speaker 2: Know this until a year ago, Like hello, Like, Rosie, 87 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 2: how do you fail to tell me this? And then 88 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 2: tells me she was a researcher in Fox Sports in 89 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 2: the early nineties, like the same thing I did, but 90 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 2: to start my career at CBS logging game tape. 91 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:34,360 Speaker 5: And I'm like, I'm telling. 92 00:04:34,120 --> 00:04:37,800 Speaker 3: You why now we saw playmate sitting there doing and 93 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:39,159 Speaker 3: she is over there on the research. 94 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 2: You're like you you got a kid me and like again, 95 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 2: she doesn't tell me this till like recently. 96 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 6: Like oh, by the way, long, I was only there 97 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 6: for a couple of weeks and that I ended up 98 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 6: like like going on to what I do now. 99 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:50,920 Speaker 5: But it was fun. 100 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 3: It was oh so okay, okay, okay, so you do that. 101 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:57,560 Speaker 2: And then after that, you know, I've told you guys, 102 00:04:57,600 --> 00:05:00,200 Speaker 2: it's it's never too late to make a change, right, 103 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 2: I've talked about this. You've changed your life in the 104 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 2: fraction of a second, and you decide to you decided 105 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:08,280 Speaker 2: to get out of modeling all together, you and your 106 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 2: sister together at your height, right. 107 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:14,320 Speaker 5: Well, yeah, we had we modeled for years and years 108 00:05:14,360 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 5: and years. 109 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 6: But then after a while I kind of was like, 110 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 6: you know what, I kind of just the I just 111 00:05:18,680 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 6: lost the thrill and wanted to do something else. 112 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:23,360 Speaker 5: So I remember I was thinking, gosh, what could I do? 113 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 5: What can I do? 114 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 6: And then I was watching this Oprah show called Find 115 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,360 Speaker 6: Your Passion and they were like telling you if you 116 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:33,160 Speaker 6: could do anything, and a genie came down and said, hey, 117 00:05:33,200 --> 00:05:34,360 Speaker 6: you know you could do whatever you want. 118 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 5: It's not no one's telling you you don't have the experience, 119 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 5: you're too old, or this or that. What would you do? 120 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:41,479 Speaker 6: And my sister and I were like, we would probably 121 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 6: do something in fashion because we used to like design 122 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:46,160 Speaker 6: our own clothes and all this stuff. So that's what 123 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:47,600 Speaker 6: we kind of were like, well, wait, what. 124 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 5: If we did something in fashion? 125 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 6: What if we start like a clothing company, which was 126 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 6: like something we never would have thought of or never 127 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:55,640 Speaker 6: would have even allowed ourselves to even dream to do. 128 00:05:56,200 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 5: And like, slowly but surely we started like you know. 129 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 3: So you but how old are you are this time 130 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:03,400 Speaker 3: you to reinvent yourself? 131 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 5: It was like probably in your thirties. 132 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, you decided, and your thirties you're going to completely 133 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:10,359 Speaker 2: reinvent your whole life and whole career. 134 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, so I want people to hear that too. That's great, 135 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 3: that's never that. 136 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 6: Extra, yeah, because it's a completely different than what we 137 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:17,679 Speaker 6: were doing. 138 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:19,960 Speaker 5: So we just started off like small, and we got 139 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 5: like a little. 140 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:24,520 Speaker 6: Kiosk and like this is you know, Kiosk in Idaho, 141 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 6: which but we were flying back and so Kiosk. 142 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 3: In them all in Idaho and you were so you 143 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:29,679 Speaker 3: started selling clothes. 144 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:31,719 Speaker 5: We were doing accessories the question. 145 00:06:32,040 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, you were defining them. 146 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 5: Making those little lot rhine start jewelry and stuff like that. 147 00:06:36,760 --> 00:06:37,719 Speaker 5: It was like a little crazy. 148 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:38,520 Speaker 3: So it started there. 149 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 6: Yeah, it started small, and then we like, you know, 150 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 6: several kiosks, and then a friend of ours was telling us, hey, 151 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 6: you know you should combine these into like one store. 152 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 3: But you were still living here. Did you move back to. 153 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 5: Fly back and forth? 154 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:52,039 Speaker 3: So you fly back and forth and you just have 155 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:53,160 Speaker 3: people run those kiosks? 156 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, okay, And then we ended up getting our 157 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:59,360 Speaker 6: first brick and mortar in Santa Monica. This is like 158 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 6: a very sex store, which was like like the start 159 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:03,920 Speaker 6: of like and. 160 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:05,000 Speaker 3: Their store is called Varga. 161 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 5: It's called Vargo, yeah, and it was. 162 00:07:06,880 --> 00:07:08,920 Speaker 3: Named after Alberto Varga, who. 163 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:09,520 Speaker 5: Was the Yeah. 164 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 6: He does like the pennant drawings from like the fifties, 165 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 6: and it's like it's really cool because it was like 166 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,880 Speaker 6: a really cool time like when women were like very 167 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 6: fashionable and they were dressed really like Elizabeth Taylor, Marilyn 168 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 6: Monroe or Rodrey Hepburn. So it's inspired by that kind 169 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 6: of concept, right. 170 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:26,160 Speaker 2: And then so then you get one brick and mortar, 171 00:07:26,640 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 2: and you have since gone on to build this empire 172 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 2: of how many brick and mortars. 173 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 6: We've opened thirty vargas over the course since since then, 174 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 6: since we started, Yeah, thirty stores again a little crazy, 175 00:07:40,240 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 6: no thirty stores. 176 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 2: But again, Han, I love you to go from these 177 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 2: two little girls we're making a dollar an hour working 178 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 2: in these fields of topping corn and hoe and beats 179 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 2: and getting their dad stealing the money from them, to 180 00:07:55,920 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 2: going out and having a very successful get an app 181 00:07:59,280 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 2: off that farm, and I having a very successful career 182 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 2: in modeling and doing authentically and not having to sell 183 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:08,040 Speaker 2: your soul for it, and then in your thirties to 184 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:10,960 Speaker 2: say we're going to pivot and do something completely different 185 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 2: and build something that big on it is incredible. 186 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 3: Thank you, It's incredible. 187 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 2: And Rosie has a hard time with realizing how successful 188 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 2: she's been, how magnificent that is. Like this is the 189 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:26,800 Speaker 2: same two girls who have their arms draped around them 190 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaker 2: in Idaho watching the cars drive to la and you 191 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 2: have both done that. If that ain't the American dream page, 192 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:37,200 Speaker 2: I don't know what it is. And if that ain't 193 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 2: two girls saying I don't care what Uphill battles we have, 194 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 2: we are going to overcome them and make our dreams 195 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 2: come true. 196 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 3: I don't know what that is. 197 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 5: Thank you. 198 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 3: Can you give yourself a little grace and love yourself up? 199 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:52,000 Speaker 5: For I can love myself up. 200 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 6: Yeah, it's hard to give yourself credit, I guess for 201 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 6: all the work because we were always striving to do 202 00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 6: more and do more and do more, and then at 203 00:08:57,640 --> 00:08:59,320 Speaker 6: some point I was like, wait, you know what, We've 204 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:03,080 Speaker 6: already done so much. Sometimes you kind of just need 205 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 6: to just kick back and like enjoy everything that you've 206 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 6: done and see it. 207 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:07,680 Speaker 5: But it's sometimes hard to see. 208 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 2: But that's the thing that's a huge lesson for everybody. 209 00:09:09,960 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 2: It's like, that's where we get in problems, is that 210 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 2: we're we want more and more and more and more 211 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:16,319 Speaker 2: and more, and you never get to enjoy it what 212 00:09:16,480 --> 00:09:19,959 Speaker 2: you have have, have had that exactly what you've done, done, done, done, done, 213 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:22,439 Speaker 2: Like that's a big thing, and that's a huge thing 214 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 2: that gets in trouble in between our ears, you know, 215 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 2: with anxiety and with the grave. 216 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 3: We get stuck in the grave because you don't allow 217 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 3: yourself that grace. 218 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,719 Speaker 2: So if yeah I did this, Yeah I've done this, 219 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:37,959 Speaker 2: and it's a it's a huge thing that we now 220 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 2: work on with Rosie so she could start loving herself 221 00:09:40,760 --> 00:09:43,920 Speaker 2: for all this. Rosie does it with me, so I 222 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 2: can love myself up for all the different things I've done. 223 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 2: I've reinvented myself five different times, you know, with different 224 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:52,680 Speaker 2: things with businesses, charities, and you know, from NFL to 225 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:57,079 Speaker 2: MMA to mental health. Now, god, I've you know, reinvented 226 00:09:57,400 --> 00:10:00,200 Speaker 2: a bunch. But we really have to love ourselves up 227 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:03,559 Speaker 2: for what we've done. 228 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 3: All right. 229 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 2: So now we're gonna shift into how Rosie I met 230 00:10:08,000 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 2: and we. 231 00:10:08,800 --> 00:10:09,559 Speaker 3: Met in COVID. 232 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 2: I had gone to Pittsburgh in a business trip right 233 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,280 Speaker 2: before everything shut down. And I come back to my 234 00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:21,680 Speaker 2: house and my friend Nicki's Heering is there, who's my assistant? 235 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:26,559 Speaker 2: Time she was Eyeing's Eerring's ex wife and she's done Playboy. 236 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,440 Speaker 3: And prices right with Rosie. 237 00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 2: When I come home and I have the tennis and 238 00:10:30,920 --> 00:10:33,880 Speaker 2: twins at my house and they are shift face drunk 239 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:36,319 Speaker 2: just sitting there at my house. I'm like, and I 240 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 2: kne who the tennis and twins were. I didn't expect 241 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 2: to ever see them at my house. I'm like, this 242 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:44,680 Speaker 2: is pretty fantastic right here. And Rosie and I just 243 00:10:44,720 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 2: became friends in COVID like you know here in La 244 00:10:48,679 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 2: like no one wants to look at you, and all 245 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 2: our business were closed down, and a couple of different 246 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 2: times we hung out just as friends. And one night, 247 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:00,640 Speaker 2: NICKI and we're gonna end up going off with this 248 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,560 Speaker 2: deep conversation. And I really got to sit there and 249 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:06,480 Speaker 2: talk with Rosie and we started talking about God and 250 00:11:06,800 --> 00:11:09,640 Speaker 2: our faith, right and we just started bonding. 251 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:12,040 Speaker 3: It was about three hours and so. 252 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:14,800 Speaker 2: I shifted over from me as a friend to man, 253 00:11:14,840 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 2: this woman is fantastic, And I said, can I take 254 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 2: you on a date? And You're like, yeah, yeah, yeah, 255 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:26,800 Speaker 2: we could do that, Okay, But I literally go like 256 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:29,440 Speaker 2: what she said to me that night was just so 257 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 2: different than anything else. And what she said by the 258 00:11:32,160 --> 00:11:37,440 Speaker 2: way she had been on I was running an MVP session, right, 259 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 2: I had her come on because she actually wrote Rosie 260 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:43,320 Speaker 2: donated clothes to some of our veterans. She donated a 261 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 2: lot of her equipment her store to a lot of 262 00:11:46,000 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 2: our veterans, right from merging vets and players. So I said, well, 263 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 2: I'd love to have you come on, and I'd love 264 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:53,800 Speaker 2: for these people to thank you. So come on a 265 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 2: session on zoom Man. We had about one hundred vets 266 00:11:56,559 --> 00:12:01,840 Speaker 2: and players and man, really cool putting them together, and 267 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 2: I'm coaching it. 268 00:12:02,880 --> 00:12:06,960 Speaker 3: And Rosie had said to NICKI. 269 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 6: Oh, yeah, So I was watching the session and Jay 270 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:15,679 Speaker 6: is always the one that's like, you know, leaving the 271 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:19,079 Speaker 6: pack over there and cheering up out, just encouraging everybody 272 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:21,520 Speaker 6: and just really really positive. And I was just I 273 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 6: could see how much he was like helping out everybody, 274 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 6: like he's just like being like this motivational person. So 275 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:30,560 Speaker 6: I was just like, wow, this this guy, he's so amazing. 276 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 6: He takes care of all these people. That's what you 277 00:12:33,040 --> 00:12:34,960 Speaker 6: were just like giving, so giving what you're saying. But 278 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:38,320 Speaker 6: I was like, but who takes care of him? That's 279 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:40,320 Speaker 6: what I was just like wondering, because I was like, Wow, 280 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 6: he's so like he's just giving so much for everybody. 281 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 5: But you know, I was just like, he takes care 282 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 5: of him. And then then after. 283 00:12:49,440 --> 00:12:53,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, she said it again, she said yes, and then 284 00:12:53,240 --> 00:12:55,959 Speaker 2: she says to NICKI again, Hey, remember I said, man, 285 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:57,719 Speaker 2: this guy takes care of so many people, but who 286 00:12:57,800 --> 00:12:58,800 Speaker 2: takes care of him? 287 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 3: I think I want to be the one that takes 288 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:01,319 Speaker 3: care of him. 289 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, right, yeah, yeah. 290 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:08,760 Speaker 2: That very same night, I said to her sister, Renee, 291 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:11,439 Speaker 2: Rose has never been married. She said nope. And that's 292 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:14,120 Speaker 2: the other part we'll tell you about Rosie. She said nope. 293 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:17,000 Speaker 2: I said why, and Renee said, because all she does 294 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:20,760 Speaker 2: is take care of everybody else. She's never given herself time, yeah, 295 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:23,960 Speaker 2: right to take care of anybody. She always takes care 296 00:13:24,000 --> 00:13:26,720 Speaker 2: of everybody else. I said, wow, I'm going to marry 297 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:33,760 Speaker 2: your sister. Literally said that to Renee. Renee's like, okay, yeah, whatever, whatever, 298 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:35,280 Speaker 2: sure you are. And I said, now I'm gonna marry 299 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:37,800 Speaker 2: your sister. And it's the first time I've ever felt 300 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 2: like that my life, first time i'd ever and I 301 00:13:39,880 --> 00:13:42,360 Speaker 2: heard what you said from Niki. Then you said, man, 302 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 2: this guy takes care of so many people, but who 303 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:46,079 Speaker 2: takes care of him? I want to be the one 304 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 2: to take care of him. I've just never heard that 305 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:51,360 Speaker 2: in my life. I've never ever ever heard that. 306 00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 3: And I was like, that's my soul name, my wife. 307 00:13:56,600 --> 00:14:00,920 Speaker 2: And again, Rosie here has literally like helped out all 308 00:14:00,920 --> 00:14:03,760 Speaker 2: theer brothers get jobs and move them in with her 309 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:07,679 Speaker 2: and helped her sister and her relationship she's just taking 310 00:14:07,760 --> 00:14:10,400 Speaker 2: care of everybody else and those thirty stores, and she 311 00:14:10,600 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 2: just never given herself grace to say it's my turn. 312 00:14:13,720 --> 00:14:15,959 Speaker 3: So I think at one point you said she's not 313 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:17,160 Speaker 3: gonna happen for you. Yeah. 314 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 6: It was so like I kind of was so career driven, 315 00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 6: and plus I was like, you know, I was kind 316 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 6: of had people, like I was helping out and stuff. 317 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:26,480 Speaker 6: But in doing so, I just looked up and I 318 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:28,680 Speaker 6: was like, wait a second, I realized. 319 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:30,800 Speaker 5: I was like, I didn't get married, I didn't have 320 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:31,360 Speaker 5: a family. 321 00:14:31,480 --> 00:14:33,880 Speaker 6: It's like, you know, I just at one point I 322 00:14:33,920 --> 00:14:36,160 Speaker 6: was kind of depressed because I felt like I had 323 00:14:36,200 --> 00:14:37,680 Speaker 6: just missed the boat and I was just it was 324 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 6: too late, and so I was like wait a second, 325 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:45,280 Speaker 6: you know wow. So I remember like thinking like it 326 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:47,360 Speaker 6: was just not going to happen, but it did. 327 00:14:47,520 --> 00:14:51,600 Speaker 5: It's it's never too late, that's what. It's never too late. 328 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 3: Like that's the also started writing down. 329 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 5: Yeah, I started when I oh, yes, yes, yes. 330 00:14:56,920 --> 00:14:59,200 Speaker 6: So I was like just kind of putting out to 331 00:14:59,240 --> 00:15:01,400 Speaker 6: the universe what I wanted. So I kept like making 332 00:15:01,400 --> 00:15:03,280 Speaker 6: all my passwords. I was like I changed them to 333 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 6: new life. I was wanting a new life. 334 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:06,160 Speaker 2: I was. 335 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 6: I was putting everything like a quite like best life 336 00:15:09,120 --> 00:15:10,800 Speaker 6: this life. So I was like kind of thinking in 337 00:15:10,840 --> 00:15:13,840 Speaker 6: my head like what I wanted to attract, and it 338 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 6: was so amazing. 339 00:15:14,600 --> 00:15:15,080 Speaker 3: Before we met. 340 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:17,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks all our path. Yeah, every new life when 341 00:15:17,920 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 2: we meet twenty twenty. Yeah, new life twenty twenty. Everything 342 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 2: was New Life twenty twenty. It's like if you came, 343 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 2: so instead of you taking. 344 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:26,040 Speaker 5: Care ofbody else wishing, it's wishing. 345 00:15:26,120 --> 00:15:29,600 Speaker 2: First time you allowed myself to say, yeah, I am 346 00:15:29,720 --> 00:15:30,240 Speaker 2: worthy of this. 347 00:15:30,800 --> 00:15:33,240 Speaker 3: I've got to make a change. Yeah that was big. 348 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:35,600 Speaker 6: Yeah, which was so unlikely, and because I just had 349 00:15:35,680 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 6: kind of gotten caught in a red of doing the 350 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:39,560 Speaker 6: same thing over and over and over, and so I 351 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 6: was like, you know what, in order for things to change, 352 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:41,680 Speaker 6: I have to change. 353 00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:42,320 Speaker 5: I have to be different. 354 00:15:42,440 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 6: So when Nicki called me to come over, that was 355 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:47,600 Speaker 6: something I may not have done. But then instead of 356 00:15:47,640 --> 00:15:50,200 Speaker 6: saying no, I started saying yes. I was like, Lok, yeah, yeah, 357 00:15:50,200 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 6: I'll come over. Yeah, let'say, yeah, I've seen you all. 358 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 6: So but that one, you know, meeting of coming over 359 00:15:54,800 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 6: to see Nickcki brought me to meet you, which changed 360 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 6: my life. So it's like, you know, you're just like 361 00:16:00,440 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 6: one person away from like your life changing, or when 362 00:16:03,120 --> 00:16:04,760 Speaker 6: you know, like moment away. 363 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:06,120 Speaker 5: Yeah, that changes your life. 364 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:09,000 Speaker 3: So I did that once for us. I did that 365 00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:11,920 Speaker 3: one away as a motivate weekly motivation. I got it 366 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:14,400 Speaker 3: from Rosie. She said, you're one away, You're one meeting 367 00:16:14,440 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 3: away from changing your life. 368 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:19,360 Speaker 2: One opportunity, one opportunity, one dinner day, one person. 369 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:23,520 Speaker 3: You're one away when your life changing, one encounter from 370 00:16:23,560 --> 00:16:27,120 Speaker 3: your life changing. And she started believing that, and she was, 371 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 3: and thank God Almighty had happened because we met. So 372 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 3: now our first date, we were closed in covid and 373 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:36,080 Speaker 3: while we were closed, we went down and took a 374 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:38,960 Speaker 3: bottle of wine down by the beach in Santa Monica. 375 00:16:39,560 --> 00:16:40,480 Speaker 3: It was pretty hilarious. 376 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:43,520 Speaker 2: There was a guy with an acoustic guitar sitting and 377 00:16:43,560 --> 00:16:45,360 Speaker 2: we're still trying to kind of feel each other out. 378 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:48,320 Speaker 2: And we actually we drove to Malibu for a little bit, 379 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 2: because what a bunch you could do. We came back 380 00:16:50,560 --> 00:16:52,880 Speaker 2: to Santa Monica where she lives. I had a bottle 381 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:54,600 Speaker 2: of wine I brought. We sat down there and there 382 00:16:54,600 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 2: was a guy with an acoustic guitars. So who was like, man, 383 00:16:56,600 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 2: this is great, this. 384 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 3: Is by the fair about it, very very beautiful. 385 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 2: Man. 386 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 3: It was perfect, and all of a sudden, the guy says, hey, 387 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:06,080 Speaker 3: you to on a first date? He said yeah. He goes, 388 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 3: I got a song for you, and in acoustics. 389 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:11,680 Speaker 5: Sings, Baby's got bad, Baby. 390 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:16,800 Speaker 3: Got back, Baby got back. He said, baby got back, 391 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:19,679 Speaker 3: Oh my god. And I'm like, babe, just you know, 392 00:17:19,880 --> 00:17:22,680 Speaker 3: this is how my life is. If something crazy get happened. 393 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:23,640 Speaker 3: This is that what's going to be. 394 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:24,640 Speaker 5: It's actually really good. 395 00:17:25,720 --> 00:17:29,119 Speaker 3: But I said, you'll always be entertained. Okay. So now 396 00:17:29,480 --> 00:17:33,520 Speaker 3: our second date, Santa Barbara was open. I called Troy 397 00:17:33,560 --> 00:17:34,640 Speaker 3: Aikman who lives. 398 00:17:34,440 --> 00:17:37,679 Speaker 2: In Santa Barbara, and I say, brother, man, you know 399 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:42,040 Speaker 2: the Tennys and twins. He's like Rosie Renee. I said, yeah, 400 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:44,640 Speaker 2: I know who they are. I said, man, I'm going 401 00:17:44,680 --> 00:17:47,280 Speaker 2: on a date with Rosie. He goes, wow, good for you. 402 00:17:47,680 --> 00:17:49,040 Speaker 2: I said, but I want to take her to Santa 403 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:50,919 Speaker 2: Barbara because La is not open, and I know you 404 00:17:50,960 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 2: live there. Is there a restaurant you can get me 405 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:55,400 Speaker 2: into that you love? He goes, I love this Italian restaurant. 406 00:17:55,440 --> 00:17:57,959 Speaker 2: I'll catch you guys in your set. We drive up 407 00:17:57,960 --> 00:18:01,679 Speaker 2: to Santa Barbara on our second date. We're in there 408 00:18:02,480 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 2: and then we go to Lucky's for a little nightcap 409 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:09,120 Speaker 2: over there, and all of a sudden, our phone start 410 00:18:09,160 --> 00:18:11,320 Speaker 2: pinging and ringing and ringing, bing it and bring it, 411 00:18:11,359 --> 00:18:13,360 Speaker 2: and everybody's like, you're right, You're right, I'm gonna. 412 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 3: I'm doing great. 413 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:17,560 Speaker 2: I'm one of the tennis and twins Santa barbar fantastic. 414 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:19,680 Speaker 2: And her phone's lighting up and then my friend's like, Yo, 415 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 2: you need to come over there. Yo, you need to 416 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:22,920 Speaker 2: come over there. And I'm like, what is going on? 417 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:26,840 Speaker 2: And that was the night of the riots that happened 418 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:31,320 Speaker 2: here in La and her cell phone which shows her 419 00:18:31,400 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 2: store which was in Santa Monica Place, which shows everybody 420 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 2: e looting the entire mind, destroys everything. 421 00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:40,280 Speaker 3: And that's her main store. 422 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:42,800 Speaker 2: So here we are on our second date and they 423 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:45,919 Speaker 2: are putting her out of business, smashed everything every and 424 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:49,240 Speaker 2: we're just watching it from her phone of them smashing 425 00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:52,199 Speaker 2: the windows of the stores next to her. 426 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:54,240 Speaker 3: They didn't get it. They didn't smash her when there's 427 00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:56,359 Speaker 3: two stores. They didn't smash the windows off. 428 00:18:56,240 --> 00:18:58,200 Speaker 5: Right everything else. 429 00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:02,080 Speaker 2: No idea why? And I didn't think they knew you 430 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:04,240 Speaker 2: were black O score, but you got scared. But it 431 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:06,480 Speaker 2: didn't matter to put the whole mall out of business. 432 00:19:06,800 --> 00:19:07,119 Speaker 3: Rosie. 433 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:09,720 Speaker 6: It was like intense National Guard was there. It was 434 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:11,560 Speaker 6: just it was really crazy. 435 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:14,760 Speaker 2: And meanwhile, I'm trying to fly back at one o'clock 436 00:19:14,800 --> 00:19:16,760 Speaker 2: in the morning and get her there. 437 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:18,159 Speaker 3: And even though like what are we gonna do? 438 00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 2: But I also want to make sure, like my my 439 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,680 Speaker 2: house was safe, and so we ended up getting back there. 440 00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:24,440 Speaker 3: Unfortunately, Rosie lost her store. 441 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:26,480 Speaker 6: Yeah, we ended up having to close that store because 442 00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 6: the ball it just it's still it's still struggling because 443 00:19:29,520 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 6: it's just you know. 444 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:32,880 Speaker 2: I still had to pay rent, and then all her 445 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:35,600 Speaker 2: other stores that were closed, she still had to pay 446 00:19:35,640 --> 00:19:35,960 Speaker 2: rent for. 447 00:19:36,000 --> 00:19:40,440 Speaker 5: It was COVID was very really hard. Yeah for you right, 448 00:19:40,520 --> 00:19:42,000 Speaker 5: really good for sure, Yeah for sure. 449 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:44,840 Speaker 2: And here you are in a new relationship and I 450 00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 2: was just like, hey, you know, we did for about 451 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:49,400 Speaker 2: ten months or something like that, and I knew, man, 452 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:50,320 Speaker 2: this girl my soulmate. 453 00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 3: She's it for me. 454 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:55,200 Speaker 2: And Rosie ends up breaking up with me. NFC Championship 455 00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:58,240 Speaker 2: game right after, my babe, We're gonna have a whole, 456 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:00,879 Speaker 2: like our whole off season come, We're really going to 457 00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:03,680 Speaker 2: work on everything, and she said, no, I'm not coming 458 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:04,320 Speaker 2: home today. 459 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:05,880 Speaker 3: I just we need a break. 460 00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:07,720 Speaker 2: I'm like what, she goes, I need to go save 461 00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:09,760 Speaker 2: my store and I know you need a lot of 462 00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:10,640 Speaker 2: attention in time. 463 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:12,399 Speaker 3: And the only way I'm going to do this is 464 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:13,840 Speaker 3: I have to do this. I have to go. 465 00:20:14,200 --> 00:20:16,120 Speaker 2: I'm going to pull this out of debt. And I'm like, no, no, 466 00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:18,280 Speaker 2: I got it. I got I said no, no, and 467 00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:20,200 Speaker 2: she's like, I don't want to be like every other 468 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:22,320 Speaker 2: girl and just take from you. I'm going to do 469 00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:23,359 Speaker 2: this right. 470 00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:23,880 Speaker 5: Yeah. 471 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:25,760 Speaker 6: Well, I mean it was my baby, and I just 472 00:20:25,880 --> 00:20:27,680 Speaker 6: was like, I got myself in this mess. 473 00:20:27,680 --> 00:20:29,840 Speaker 5: I'll get myself out. So I just did what I 474 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:30,240 Speaker 5: had to do. 475 00:20:30,280 --> 00:20:32,840 Speaker 2: It really hard time me because I thought she was 476 00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:36,280 Speaker 2: my soulmate and man, you know me who my mental 477 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:38,440 Speaker 2: health issues believes like you know, the universe is gonna 478 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:41,119 Speaker 2: come crashing that around me and the sky's falling. Skott 479 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:43,399 Speaker 2: fell that day and it came out of nowhere, and 480 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:46,359 Speaker 2: you just kept telling me, no, we're just didn't take 481 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:47,439 Speaker 2: a break till I get. 482 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,360 Speaker 3: Myself out of this. But I'm not having you pay 483 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 3: for it. Yeah. Yeah, And for me, I was very 484 00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:55,919 Speaker 3: conflicting because I'm like, yeah, but then you're abandoning me. 485 00:20:56,240 --> 00:20:59,080 Speaker 5: Yeah, not like I was like, but I was like, no, 486 00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:00,840 Speaker 5: but I'm not. I didn't feel right. 487 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:02,879 Speaker 6: About like having him take on all this stuff that 488 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:04,000 Speaker 6: wasn't yours, so. 489 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:06,920 Speaker 3: Which no, I don't know another girl who would have 490 00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:07,199 Speaker 3: done that. 491 00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:09,640 Speaker 2: They would have just said, okay, yeah, if you can 492 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:11,399 Speaker 2: help me out and take care of it, great, and 493 00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:14,920 Speaker 2: she just didn't. And she kept also assuring me this 494 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:18,679 Speaker 2: isn't forever, this is just a break in my mind forever, 495 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 2: that it's no way, and it's the first time I'd 496 00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 2: ever been in a tank, really really in the tank, 497 00:21:26,000 --> 00:21:28,400 Speaker 2: because I'm like, man, this is like I finally got 498 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:30,240 Speaker 2: like this, this soul mad of mine, who I did 499 00:21:30,280 --> 00:21:32,640 Speaker 2: believe was like set up through God because we are 500 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:35,399 Speaker 2: like you have to get me and you have to 501 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:38,320 Speaker 2: get Rosy, and if you get us, you really understand 502 00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 2: how special we are. And we got each other, and 503 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 2: you know, all of a sudden it's gone, and I 504 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:47,280 Speaker 2: don't hear it's just a break. I hear it's forever, 505 00:21:47,800 --> 00:21:50,760 Speaker 2: to the point where I said, well, I don't even 506 00:21:50,760 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 2: want to be in California anymore. And I'm so heartbroken. 507 00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:57,760 Speaker 2: I need to start something for myself, a new life 508 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:01,200 Speaker 2: for myself. And I moved to Arizona, and the day 509 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:05,359 Speaker 2: before I left, Rosie came over to the house to 510 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:07,600 Speaker 2: tell me, Hey, I got my ship straight. 511 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:09,680 Speaker 3: I'm ready to get back. 512 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:12,200 Speaker 2: And I said, well, if you're going to get back, 513 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 2: it's gonna have to be in Arizona because I've moved. 514 00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:20,160 Speaker 2: And that was really hard. Rosie started crying. I don't 515 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:23,919 Speaker 2: see her cry a lot. She started crying, and you know, 516 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 2: I made my decision, and she said, well, I told 517 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:29,399 Speaker 2: you it was just a break. I guess I'll have 518 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 2: to start coming to Arizona. Nobody knows, but you know, 519 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:36,840 Speaker 2: last football season, every single week Rosie flew to Arizona 520 00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:42,639 Speaker 2: from Wednesday, Friday or Saturday every week and fought to 521 00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:47,200 Speaker 2: get me back, which was huge, right, yeah, yep, and 522 00:22:48,160 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 2: eventually said to me, now, backing up here, when Rosie 523 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,639 Speaker 2: first did break up with me, I went into this 524 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:58,240 Speaker 2: horrifically downward spiral. I was already in an odd place 525 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:00,720 Speaker 2: because when I wrote him breakable. People don't know this, 526 00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:03,600 Speaker 2: but I stopped all my treatment for my mental health 527 00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:07,280 Speaker 2: illness and issues, which was all therapy. I threw a 528 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:10,199 Speaker 2: lot of vitamins and ivs and things like that, and 529 00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:12,920 Speaker 2: different therapies. I've usually of three therapists, but I work 530 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,439 Speaker 2: at my mental health. I stopped it all to be 531 00:23:15,520 --> 00:23:18,199 Speaker 2: in as darker places I could be. So when I 532 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:21,760 Speaker 2: wrote Unbreakable, it was so authentic. This is what depression 533 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:25,199 Speaker 2: feels like, this is what anxiety feels like, this is 534 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 2: what ADHD feels like. 535 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:28,720 Speaker 3: And it took a long time to try and get 536 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:29,720 Speaker 3: myself out of that hole. 537 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,480 Speaker 2: And I did that for everybody else sitting at home, 538 00:23:32,560 --> 00:23:33,880 Speaker 2: so I can describe it and. 539 00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:36,560 Speaker 3: Give it word so you will have the words. 540 00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:40,440 Speaker 2: To be able to use moving forward and have conversations 541 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:40,959 Speaker 2: with people. 542 00:23:41,200 --> 00:23:43,120 Speaker 3: So still trying to come out of that. And then 543 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 3: this happened with Rosie. 544 00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,800 Speaker 2: I really went off the deep end and it forced 545 00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:51,359 Speaker 2: me to really go get help that I needed to 546 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:52,199 Speaker 2: change habits. 547 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:55,920 Speaker 3: Forevor and I look now and say, if we didn't break. 548 00:23:55,760 --> 00:24:00,040 Speaker 2: Up, we probably wouldn't have made it, because I really learned. 549 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,800 Speaker 3: How in that time. I went to Thailand and I. 550 00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:04,239 Speaker 5: Learned a lot of work on yourself, did a lot 551 00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:04,439 Speaker 5: of work. 552 00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:06,440 Speaker 3: You did a lot of work on yourself. 553 00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 5: You different, but yeah, but like you weren't worthy of that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 554 00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 5: there was a yeah different things, Yeah, for sure. 555 00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:14,240 Speaker 2: And you did a lot of work and then you 556 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 2: would you say to me, one day, you're gonna put 557 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:16,399 Speaker 2: your captain's hat on it. 558 00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:20,119 Speaker 6: Yeah, this is I was talking about your destiny. When 559 00:24:20,160 --> 00:24:22,359 Speaker 6: you're like you're choosing your destiny, it's like you have 560 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:24,840 Speaker 6: to be the one that puts the captain's hat on 561 00:24:25,000 --> 00:24:26,720 Speaker 6: and then steer your life the way you want it 562 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:29,480 Speaker 6: to go, even if it's not, you know, initially where 563 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:29,959 Speaker 6: you want it. 564 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:31,879 Speaker 5: You have to be like on a little you know, 565 00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:33,680 Speaker 5: might be a little canoe boat. Then pretty soon you 566 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:34,400 Speaker 5: go to the motor boat. 567 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:37,359 Speaker 6: Then, but you're the one with the ability to take 568 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,480 Speaker 6: your life in the direction that you wanted to go 569 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:42,320 Speaker 6: and your destiny, which is what you're really good at 570 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:42,679 Speaker 6: and so on. 571 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:45,920 Speaker 3: To do that, I say, no, I'm worthy of this now. 572 00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:47,640 Speaker 2: So you could that captain that and say no, I am, 573 00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:50,440 Speaker 2: I'm going to steer my boat into Jay's waters. And 574 00:24:50,720 --> 00:24:53,120 Speaker 2: for me, I went to Thailand and I learned how 575 00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:55,240 Speaker 2: to heal that little kid of me, how to feel 576 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:58,320 Speaker 2: like the universe wasn't against me. And really there I 577 00:24:58,400 --> 00:25:01,639 Speaker 2: understood I've been putting all this pain for all these 578 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:07,040 Speaker 2: years so I could help others through THEIRS. And Rose 579 00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:08,920 Speaker 2: and I were talking that we weren't together, but. 580 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:10,639 Speaker 3: I called her from there and I'm like, oh my God, 581 00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:13,600 Speaker 3: I am worthy of being in love. I now know 582 00:25:13,640 --> 00:25:14,520 Speaker 3: why I had this pain. 583 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:16,480 Speaker 2: And by the way, I almost said this, like when 584 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:18,920 Speaker 2: I was out there, this epiphany, like this voice from 585 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,119 Speaker 2: like God in the universe of hey, listen you you 586 00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:22,919 Speaker 2: needed to be in this kind of pain so you 587 00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:26,240 Speaker 2: can help others through THEIRS. But we need you to 588 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:30,400 Speaker 2: understand and see we made all your other dreams come 589 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 2: true to keep you afloat. And that changed everything for me. 590 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:37,359 Speaker 2: You used to always feel like I was cursed with 591 00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:41,399 Speaker 2: this depression, anxiety and the sky is falling mentality, And 592 00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:44,280 Speaker 2: now I felt like God blessed me with these mental 593 00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 2: health issues to help others. And because I want to 594 00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 2: live a life of service, I want to leave something 595 00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,720 Speaker 2: behind in this life. And I know that Unbreakable as 596 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:51,479 Speaker 2: saved lives. 597 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:52,720 Speaker 3: I've been you and. 598 00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 2: I read messages of people who are going to commit 599 00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:57,359 Speaker 2: suicide now didn't because of this book. 600 00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,200 Speaker 3: Are people who are so lost. 601 00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,159 Speaker 2: And now found their way because of this book or 602 00:26:01,200 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 2: this podcast or something I said of somebody. We do 603 00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:07,679 Speaker 2: a weekly motivation and that day that person needed to 604 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 2: hear that message, and if they didn't, they might have 605 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:14,680 Speaker 2: made the ultimate wrong decision. You and I we can't 606 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,480 Speaker 2: message again that time, so I understand why we had 607 00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 2: to do it right. So Rosie's coming out every week, 608 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:24,800 Speaker 2: and finally I just kind of wanted to hear from her, Hey, 609 00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,320 Speaker 2: I'll move to Arizona. I want to be with you, 610 00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:29,440 Speaker 2: but I still have my stories back in La so 611 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:31,120 Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to commute. I just kind of want 612 00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:32,679 Speaker 2: to hear that from her. And once she said out 613 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:34,679 Speaker 2: to me, I said, no, I don't want you commute. 614 00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:35,960 Speaker 2: I want to be at the all time. Okay, I'll 615 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:36,840 Speaker 2: move back to California. 616 00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:37,439 Speaker 5: I'll do it right. 617 00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,399 Speaker 2: I'll move California, but if it's a place that on 618 00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:42,320 Speaker 2: the beach that we both love, and we did and 619 00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:43,479 Speaker 2: we did that. 620 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:46,080 Speaker 3: We found a place and I fell more in love 621 00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:47,359 Speaker 3: than I ever could have dreamed. 622 00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:49,240 Speaker 2: And folks, this is what I want you to understand. 623 00:26:49,520 --> 00:26:52,320 Speaker 2: Like I'm I'm fifty four, Rosi and I know she 624 00:26:52,359 --> 00:26:55,480 Speaker 2: don't look it, but we're both in our fifties. It's 625 00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:59,840 Speaker 2: never too late to find love and you know, I 626 00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 2: think we're giving people home. 627 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:02,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, right. 628 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:04,880 Speaker 2: It is never too late. And I absolutely never had 629 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:07,439 Speaker 2: a love this deep. I've never been cared for this deeply. 630 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:10,159 Speaker 2: I've never just been able to just be with someone 631 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 2: without worrying until I met you. 632 00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:16,080 Speaker 6: Yeah, it's really it's very like when you find it, 633 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,639 Speaker 6: it's like really like unbelievable and it's great down it 634 00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:19,959 Speaker 6: with you. 635 00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:23,760 Speaker 5: So it's really cool. It's never too late, too late, 636 00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:24,320 Speaker 5: actually late. 637 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:24,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. 638 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:27,480 Speaker 3: What what's your feelings on all this stuff? Like you 639 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:28,240 Speaker 3: you when. 640 00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:30,960 Speaker 2: I first met you, you were never you wouldn't ever 641 00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:32,280 Speaker 2: allow yourself to feel like this. 642 00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:33,119 Speaker 3: What changed? 643 00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:33,919 Speaker 5: Yeah? I don't know. 644 00:27:34,119 --> 00:27:37,280 Speaker 6: I think I would always like I wanted it, but 645 00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:38,320 Speaker 6: then if it got to. 646 00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:40,399 Speaker 5: I don't know. 647 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:42,680 Speaker 6: I just don't know if I wasn't feeling worthy of it, 648 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:44,680 Speaker 6: or I would sabotage it. 649 00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:45,439 Speaker 5: I don't know. 650 00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:47,439 Speaker 6: It was it was a thing that I had to 651 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:49,720 Speaker 6: go through that I never allowed myself to go deeply 652 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:52,200 Speaker 6: into relationships. I was always on the surface probably I 653 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,360 Speaker 6: wouldn't get it hurt. But this is the first time 654 00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,320 Speaker 6: that I actually allowed myself to go in and give 655 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,560 Speaker 6: love and receive love and to the level. 656 00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,879 Speaker 5: Of that with me because I think it was just 657 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:03,359 Speaker 5: meant to be. 658 00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 6: I just knew, like like you and I are like 659 00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 6: the same kind of going through the same things, and 660 00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:11,479 Speaker 6: you're like very vulnerable, and like I just knew when 661 00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:12,720 Speaker 6: I met you, I was like, this is the guy 662 00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:16,080 Speaker 6: I'm supposed to be with, and you're amazing, and I 663 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:16,760 Speaker 6: just knew it. 664 00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,560 Speaker 5: I don't know something, it's something you don't know until 665 00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:20,120 Speaker 5: it happened. 666 00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,639 Speaker 3: So again, you don't know why things happened. 667 00:28:22,720 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 2: During the time we hadn't broken up, you wouldn't have 668 00:28:25,480 --> 00:28:28,880 Speaker 2: gotten more help for yourself to open your yea, your 669 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,159 Speaker 2: heart up to Moore, I wouldn't have got to do 670 00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,199 Speaker 2: all the work I did in Thailand and with my 671 00:28:33,280 --> 00:28:35,880 Speaker 2: therapist to learn more. So now we're going to kind 672 00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,480 Speaker 2: of finish you off here with the high point for us. 673 00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:39,680 Speaker 3: It was our engagement. 674 00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:43,400 Speaker 2: Now, everybody saw that we got engaged in Santa Monica, 675 00:28:43,440 --> 00:28:46,360 Speaker 2: which is the same spot where we had our first date, 676 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:48,640 Speaker 2: but that actually wasn't the case. 677 00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:49,720 Speaker 3: And nobody knows this. 678 00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:53,680 Speaker 2: So we did it when we did it publicly, when 679 00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 2: I finally got our ring. But the truth is, as 680 00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,040 Speaker 2: I said the year before, I went to Thailand on 681 00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,760 Speaker 2: a mind body spirit to really learn how to do 682 00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:02,520 Speaker 2: breath work. 683 00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:06,200 Speaker 3: And meditation and heal that little kid in me. And 684 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,560 Speaker 3: and I was fighting Muatai and the John Wilwich is fantastic. 685 00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:10,280 Speaker 3: Oh my god. It was the greatest thing ever. 686 00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 2: With my friend Mike Swick, who thought was the first 687 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:16,400 Speaker 2: ultimate fighter and owns a place out there called Aka Thailand, 688 00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:21,200 Speaker 2: and another guy named Christian who's from Sweden who's great kickboxers. Anyway, 689 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,280 Speaker 2: but it was really about I didn'tdrink any alcohol. I 690 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:29,320 Speaker 2: only ate anti inflammatory foods. I did breathwork and meditation 691 00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:32,040 Speaker 2: every day. I work with these monks as my therapists. 692 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:35,760 Speaker 2: I did all this and I'm out there and I 693 00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:37,600 Speaker 2: took a boat ride one day and I'm out in 694 00:29:37,600 --> 00:29:40,280 Speaker 2: the middle of the SIMC in the middle, I mean 695 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,880 Speaker 2: an hour and a half away from shore, in the 696 00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:46,000 Speaker 2: middle of the SIMC, and there's this big rock in 697 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:50,800 Speaker 2: the middle there, and some was sitting and I look 698 00:29:50,920 --> 00:29:52,360 Speaker 2: up and I kind of get in the word and 699 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:55,000 Speaker 2: I start having this conversation with God. 700 00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:56,960 Speaker 3: I start talking to God and I'm in. 701 00:29:56,960 --> 00:30:02,600 Speaker 2: A great moment of healing and peace and some of 702 00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:05,920 Speaker 2: the stuff I'm talking about. Yeah, you're worthy, man, you 703 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:07,880 Speaker 2: just you got to go through this and so you 704 00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:09,520 Speaker 2: can help others through there. So it was just this 705 00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:12,480 Speaker 2: beautiful moment with God who I felt. I really felt 706 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 2: the love of the universe, and I felt like it 707 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,520 Speaker 2: was okay. And I came back and I told Rosie 708 00:30:16,560 --> 00:30:16,960 Speaker 2: about it. 709 00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:20,080 Speaker 3: A year later. This past year, Rosie. 710 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:21,920 Speaker 2: Comes with me back to the same place in Thailand 711 00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:25,080 Speaker 2: called Kamalaya, and I want to her to. 712 00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,080 Speaker 3: Experience for my experience. 713 00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,080 Speaker 2: It was for her, but I disguised it and mastered 714 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,360 Speaker 2: as come out there with me so you can learn 715 00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:35,240 Speaker 2: these same things from these monks and the breath work 716 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,400 Speaker 2: and meditation so you can help me along with it. 717 00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,040 Speaker 2: I take Rosie out there and she's like. 718 00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:43,120 Speaker 5: I was like, but this is you know, I'm doing it. 719 00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:44,840 Speaker 6: But these monks aren't going to be able to relate 720 00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:47,120 Speaker 6: because I was, you know, I'd lost my great business 721 00:30:47,200 --> 00:30:47,880 Speaker 6: and all this stuff. 722 00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:49,200 Speaker 5: So I was like, they're not going to know what, 723 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:52,040 Speaker 5: you know, But actually it was great. They really do. 724 00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,280 Speaker 5: They're very like, yeah. 725 00:30:58,080 --> 00:31:02,160 Speaker 2: Crying like crazy, and like she's lost her mother and 726 00:31:02,200 --> 00:31:04,760 Speaker 2: she's trying to do with that and her stores. She's 727 00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:07,640 Speaker 2: you know, she you know, close those stores that were 728 00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:09,520 Speaker 2: giving her problems. And it's been a lot that's gone 729 00:31:09,520 --> 00:31:12,920 Speaker 2: on in her life. She's got her condo burned down twice, 730 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,040 Speaker 2: like not once, but twice. She's been through a lot, 731 00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:19,040 Speaker 2: and you shipped her and she just starts hysterical crying. 732 00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:23,360 Speaker 2: And then even these these monks start helping you big 733 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:24,360 Speaker 2: time with they're great. 734 00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:26,120 Speaker 6: Yeah, they were actually like they give you like these 735 00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:29,240 Speaker 6: analogies that you wouldn't like expect, but they're really good. 736 00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:32,040 Speaker 5: They're very good, like that really great, Like I. 737 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:33,080 Speaker 3: Think I've used it here before. 738 00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:36,960 Speaker 2: We're like, for a great example, Rosie is telling this monk, Yeah, 739 00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,560 Speaker 2: I just don't feel worthy of you know, Jay's love. 740 00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:43,000 Speaker 6: Like all these crappy things happening to me, like with 741 00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:45,600 Speaker 6: just everything and everything everything. So when the good things 742 00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:47,840 Speaker 6: start happening, mat Jay and was like, you know, all 743 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:50,640 Speaker 6: these good things, they felt like unworthy or like even 744 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:52,920 Speaker 6: worried that like, oh God, something bad's going to happen, 745 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:54,560 Speaker 6: you know, because I was in that. 746 00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,440 Speaker 3: Little that was your story, that was your rock story, that. 747 00:31:57,480 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 5: Was my racket. I was running with the monks as. 748 00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:01,760 Speaker 3: To her, Rosie, what's what's your favorite food? 749 00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:06,520 Speaker 5: And you say that R and D chicken sandwich, And. 750 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,360 Speaker 2: Then monk Luly says, you love that chicken sandwich. She says, yeah, 751 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,840 Speaker 2: you get a great pleasure of that chicken sandwich. Yeah, 752 00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 2: when you're eating that chicken sandwiches, think anybody else thinks 753 00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,040 Speaker 2: you shouldn't enjoy that chicken sandwich. 754 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:17,560 Speaker 5: You're not worthy of the chicken sandwich. 755 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,920 Speaker 3: And you said no, that's like, she goes, You're. 756 00:32:20,760 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 6: Just enjoying, Like like what happens? You know, you get 757 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:24,680 Speaker 6: another bite of Are you worried that the person over 758 00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:26,960 Speaker 6: at the other tables thinking that you're not worthy of 759 00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,520 Speaker 6: that chicken sandwich that you're eating? And I was like no, 760 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:32,320 Speaker 6: she goes, you're just enjoying your chicken sandwich until it's gone. 761 00:32:32,360 --> 00:32:34,360 Speaker 5: And I was like, yeah, I'm doing the prize. And 762 00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,160 Speaker 5: she's like, well, this is this is you, this is 763 00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:37,720 Speaker 5: your life. 764 00:32:37,720 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 3: This is your life's chicken sandwich. 765 00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:40,880 Speaker 5: So enjoy it. 766 00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:44,160 Speaker 6: Don't don't worry about what anybody else is like over there, 767 00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:46,840 Speaker 6: worried that you don't deserve that, or you shouldn't have that, 768 00:32:47,040 --> 00:32:49,160 Speaker 6: or the fries, or because you're not thinking that when 769 00:32:49,200 --> 00:32:50,760 Speaker 6: you get your favorite meal, you're just eating it and 770 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:51,520 Speaker 6: enjoying it. 771 00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:54,240 Speaker 5: She's like, that's this your like's the chicken. 772 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:57,920 Speaker 3: Your life is the chicken sandwich. And it changed everything 773 00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:00,200 Speaker 3: for Rosie. She literally looked a love out. 774 00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:03,520 Speaker 5: That's a really cool, right. 775 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:03,600 Speaker 3: Nobody's against me. 776 00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:08,320 Speaker 2: There's nothing against me and she and it changed Rosy 777 00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:10,520 Speaker 2: and it changed her so much. 778 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:12,479 Speaker 3: I saw this huge change. 779 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:15,240 Speaker 2: Or I take her on the boat ride, totally different 780 00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:18,479 Speaker 2: boat coming, totally different place everything, and all of a sudden, 781 00:33:18,520 --> 00:33:21,600 Speaker 2: we're getting the sunset and I look, we come over 782 00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:23,880 Speaker 2: these rocks and I look over and I go, oh 783 00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:26,320 Speaker 2: my god, we're at the same exact spot I was 784 00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:29,200 Speaker 2: at last year when I was having that talk with God. 785 00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:31,520 Speaker 3: Oh my god. I never thought i'd see that place again. 786 00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:34,000 Speaker 3: Oh my god. I said, baby, this is the place 787 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:35,960 Speaker 3: I told you about. This is the place. This is 788 00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:37,760 Speaker 3: where I told you I had that talk with God. 789 00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,000 Speaker 2: She's like, well, it's literally in the middle of the 790 00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:42,760 Speaker 2: Siam c and this's like rock comes up and there 791 00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:43,800 Speaker 2: could be any other place. 792 00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:45,920 Speaker 3: We could have been a different boat company. 793 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:49,560 Speaker 2: We're in the same exact place. And I turned a 794 00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:53,000 Speaker 2: Rosie and I said, maybe I promise you. I'll always 795 00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:56,960 Speaker 2: love you, admire you, appreciate you. Most of all, I 796 00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:58,320 Speaker 2: will always take care of you. 797 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:00,120 Speaker 3: And love you. 798 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,840 Speaker 2: I guess I'm ask you to marry me, and she says, 799 00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 2: well are you, and I go, uh, yeah, yeah, yeah, 800 00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:08,120 Speaker 2: I am. 801 00:34:07,880 --> 00:34:10,239 Speaker 3: I ask you to marriedy like I wanted, expecting it. 802 00:34:10,280 --> 00:34:13,680 Speaker 3: But it's the same place, she says. 803 00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 2: I said, yes, yes, Well I didn't have a ring, 804 00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:20,360 Speaker 2: so we had uh, we had cutlery, and there was 805 00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:21,640 Speaker 2: a string around the cutlery. 806 00:34:21,880 --> 00:34:23,759 Speaker 3: So I pulled the string off the cutlery and. 807 00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:26,080 Speaker 2: I put that on her finger and she wore that 808 00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:28,120 Speaker 2: for a couple of weeks without anybody knowing that we 809 00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:30,360 Speaker 2: were engaged. We didn't tell anybody she had this a 810 00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:32,279 Speaker 2: little piece of string around her finger. I'm not going 811 00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:35,200 Speaker 2: to show off that I got engaged to Rosie with 812 00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:36,960 Speaker 2: a little piece of string on her finger. I'm gonna 813 00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,719 Speaker 2: look like the cheapest bastard who ever lived. So it 814 00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:42,160 Speaker 2: really wasn't until we went out. We went ring shopping. 815 00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:44,360 Speaker 2: We did it all and we got her ring, and 816 00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:47,520 Speaker 2: then I said, let's go back to the original spot 817 00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:49,080 Speaker 2: of our first date, and I got down on my 818 00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:51,640 Speaker 2: knee and I did a proper engagement. That's when the 819 00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:54,239 Speaker 2: world found out that we were engaged. But we were 820 00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:55,960 Speaker 2: actually engaged for two days earlier. 821 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:58,439 Speaker 6: Beautiful engagement and one that could only happen like once 822 00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:00,000 Speaker 6: in a lifetime and once in a while. 823 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,760 Speaker 5: Amazing. Yeah, and you're really amazing too. 824 00:35:02,600 --> 00:35:06,560 Speaker 3: So again this is you know, I hope we've given 825 00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:07,120 Speaker 3: people hope. 826 00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:10,280 Speaker 2: I hope we've given people the ability to say, wow, 827 00:35:10,560 --> 00:35:13,200 Speaker 2: there is it is never too late. And also know 828 00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,520 Speaker 2: that by a Rosie story, it's never too late to 829 00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:19,120 Speaker 2: reinvent yourself, never too late to make a change, right. 830 00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:21,520 Speaker 2: And I hope we've also talked more than anything with 831 00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,239 Speaker 2: your partner. Lean into them and make sure they know 832 00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:28,040 Speaker 2: I got you, I'm not going anywhere. I got you, 833 00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:31,560 Speaker 2: and really make them understand. And then the other thing 834 00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:33,000 Speaker 2: that Rosie and I really do. 835 00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:37,840 Speaker 3: Right somewhere lessons. I am very vocal to Rosie about 836 00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:40,520 Speaker 3: what I need. Maybe I need you to hear. 837 00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:43,880 Speaker 2: This, this is what I need from you, and you listen, 838 00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,960 Speaker 2: and same thing she will come to me and say, hey, 839 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,640 Speaker 2: I'm really uncomfortable with this, Jay, I need I need you. 840 00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:53,200 Speaker 3: To hear me on this. This is what I need 841 00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:55,240 Speaker 3: from you, So be very vocal. 842 00:35:55,640 --> 00:35:57,640 Speaker 2: We hear a lot of couple say yeah, he's not 843 00:35:57,640 --> 00:35:59,360 Speaker 2: gonna understand, Yeah he's not going to listen. 844 00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:02,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, she will understand me. You don't know that until 845 00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,319 Speaker 3: you actually sit down and tell them, Hey, I really 846 00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:06,120 Speaker 3: need you to hear me. Here. I'm in a lot 847 00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:06,520 Speaker 3: of pain. 848 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:10,239 Speaker 2: And we've had somebody that we knew who was one 849 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:11,719 Speaker 2: of the most beautiful women we've ever seen in our 850 00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,080 Speaker 2: lives basically tell us she was about to kill herself 851 00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,919 Speaker 2: and she's in a happily married relationship. And I said, 852 00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:20,440 Speaker 2: he needs to understand your pain, and she said he won't. 853 00:36:20,760 --> 00:36:22,920 Speaker 2: I said, well he needs to. You deserve that. And 854 00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,239 Speaker 2: we called them over and said, hey, man, you need 855 00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:26,200 Speaker 2: to read the third. 856 00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:29,200 Speaker 3: Chapter of my book that lays out this is what. 857 00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:32,120 Speaker 2: It feels like to have this anxiety and this depression, 858 00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:34,040 Speaker 2: and what it feels like and what it feels like inside, 859 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:37,440 Speaker 2: just so you understand her, because man, you deserve to 860 00:36:37,520 --> 00:36:39,600 Speaker 2: understand her, and she deserves for. 861 00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:40,800 Speaker 3: You to be her best teammate. 862 00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:45,120 Speaker 2: And he at that time said, oh, I didn't realize 863 00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:48,520 Speaker 2: it was this bad, Okay, and did And you know, 864 00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:51,680 Speaker 2: they're great, but really a lot of times the people 865 00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:54,040 Speaker 2: were closest to we hold the most things back from. 866 00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:57,120 Speaker 2: Give them the grace of being your best friend, give 867 00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,600 Speaker 2: them the grace of being your teammate. Really tell them 868 00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:02,799 Speaker 2: every thing you're going through and don't say, oh, I 869 00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:04,480 Speaker 2: don't want to put more on them. No, that's what 870 00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:07,680 Speaker 2: marriage is about, that's relationships are about. So you have the 871 00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:10,440 Speaker 2: ultimate teammate walking this walk together with you. 872 00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:13,080 Speaker 5: Oh I love that. 873 00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:18,880 Speaker 3: I love that, so baby, I loved having you on. 874 00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:22,600 Speaker 2: I love showing you to the world. It's been fantastic. 875 00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:24,239 Speaker 2: But anything else you want to add, if something you've 876 00:37:24,320 --> 00:37:25,160 Speaker 2: learned from us, or. 877 00:37:26,600 --> 00:37:29,319 Speaker 6: I just think that the communication is really like our 878 00:37:29,360 --> 00:37:31,960 Speaker 6: communication this the second go around is much better. 879 00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:34,600 Speaker 5: So like that's the best thing that we. 880 00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:37,840 Speaker 6: Give each other is like now we're communicating and making 881 00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:40,800 Speaker 6: sure that we're like making sure the other one knows, 882 00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:41,799 Speaker 6: like like what you just said. 883 00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:43,880 Speaker 5: Yeah, so it's it's amazing. It's been really good and 884 00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:44,520 Speaker 5: I want you to. 885 00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:46,799 Speaker 2: Know also, like I've had a lot of milltowns to you. 886 00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:48,359 Speaker 2: Has it ever gotten too much? 887 00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:50,200 Speaker 5: No, No, it's no. 888 00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:52,200 Speaker 6: But but if it does, then you know you just 889 00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,399 Speaker 6: take a little like you know, get a little moment 890 00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:55,680 Speaker 6: and then come back and reset. 891 00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:57,560 Speaker 5: But no, it's a great. Yeah. 892 00:37:57,600 --> 00:37:59,600 Speaker 3: But my point is people think, oh, it's be too 893 00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:01,080 Speaker 3: much in the thought of the person's going to leave 894 00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:01,640 Speaker 3: right now. 895 00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:04,080 Speaker 6: No no, yeah, no, yeah, that's that's what You just 896 00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:07,160 Speaker 6: have to assure them and reassure them, reassure them and 897 00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:09,440 Speaker 6: and you know, reassure them because that's that you've. 898 00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:11,200 Speaker 2: Been on and off forget together now for three years 899 00:38:11,400 --> 00:38:13,600 Speaker 2: and she still reassures me, and she may have to 900 00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:14,600 Speaker 2: for the rest of her life. 901 00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,160 Speaker 5: And the meltdowns are part of it. 902 00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:18,719 Speaker 6: Like, so they make you grow, they make you grow 903 00:38:18,760 --> 00:38:21,200 Speaker 6: closer because you can make it through it. Because sometimes 904 00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:23,560 Speaker 6: people are fearful, like if this happens, the person is 905 00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:24,920 Speaker 6: going to break up with you or it's going to 906 00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:25,440 Speaker 6: end the thing. 907 00:38:25,520 --> 00:38:27,800 Speaker 5: But like, bumpy roads just make you stronger. 908 00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:29,839 Speaker 6: And if your relationship is not strong enough to make 909 00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:32,600 Speaker 6: it through these bumpy roads, then it's not that strong of. 910 00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:35,839 Speaker 5: A relationship, strong enough through the storms, through the storm. 911 00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:36,120 Speaker 3: Yeah. 912 00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:37,680 Speaker 5: So it's like if start. 913 00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:39,520 Speaker 2: With the bumpy roads and then make sure you get 914 00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:42,960 Speaker 2: through those so you could together hold each other's hands 915 00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:44,840 Speaker 2: and get through the storms of life. 916 00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:47,399 Speaker 3: Nobody more than I'd rather go through these storms of life. 917 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:49,960 Speaker 5: Thank you, thank you. 918 00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:52,200 Speaker 3: That is my beautiful fiance. 919 00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:56,160 Speaker 2: Rosie Tennyson, one half of the Tennis and Twins the 920 00:38:56,160 --> 00:39:02,560 Speaker 2: better half. That better clean that up. But also I 921 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:04,480 Speaker 2: did the great part for me is I do get 922 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:08,919 Speaker 2: a sister, Renee. She has been fantastic. And one thing 923 00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:11,200 Speaker 2: you do is you don't get between two twins. You 924 00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,279 Speaker 2: make sure that you foster that relationship more and more 925 00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:15,520 Speaker 2: and more. They started in the room, and you too 926 00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:19,680 Speaker 2: were survivors again, your survivors, and you survived that place 927 00:39:19,719 --> 00:39:22,319 Speaker 2: in Idaho and these journeys and. 928 00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:25,360 Speaker 3: All these you guys are survivors. You were the American 929 00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:26,759 Speaker 3: dream and your mind trip. 930 00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:27,799 Speaker 6: Thank you. 931 00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:30,000 Speaker 3: I love you too, folks. 932 00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,120 Speaker 2: This was the best guest I've ever had, an unbreakable 933 00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:34,120 Speaker 2: hope you enjoy it over the holidays. I hope we 934 00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:36,600 Speaker 2: have given you all some hope and some lessons for 935 00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:38,800 Speaker 2: you all to walk this walk together.