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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and I Heart Radio podcast. Hello, everybody,

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Speaker 1: we are scrubbing in. It is Monday. It feels like

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Speaker 1: it hasn't been that long since we were last with

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Speaker 1: y'all here in the studio. Really, yeah, I feel like

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Speaker 1: it feels like a long time because last we greeted Tuesday,

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Speaker 1: so it really hasn't been a full week. And we

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Speaker 1: had like a scrubbing in Facebook Live, so it felt

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Speaker 1: like we scrubbed in a little bit there too, That's true.

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Speaker 1: I heard about that I didn't see because I famously

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Speaker 1: don't have Facebook, but I heard the audio my wife

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Speaker 1: is watching popped on which was pretty funny too. At

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Speaker 1: the end. Are you making a statement by not being

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Speaker 1: on Facebook? Yes? What is the statement? I don't like

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Speaker 1: Facebook just because like it stirs up like the The

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Speaker 1: honest reason is in two thousleven, my dad got like

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Speaker 1: really offended that there wasn't enough like pictures of him

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Speaker 1: and I on there, and I felt that it was

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Speaker 1: a really silly thing. So I said, this is how

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Speaker 1: a little like Facebook isn't a big deal. This is

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Speaker 1: how little means to me, and I deleted it right

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Speaker 1: in front of him to be honest with you, there

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Speaker 1: are times where if it wasn't literally my source of

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Speaker 1: income in my job, that I would delete every part

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Speaker 1: of social media. Oh not me. I know you love it,

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Speaker 1: love it you were you were, I was in it

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Speaker 1: deep Facebook. I could do it. Honestly. It wasn't for

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Speaker 1: the Facebook, the scrubbing and Facebook group, Uh, I would

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Speaker 1: be fine not having a Facebook. Oh yeah. I feel

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Speaker 1: the same way about Facebook specifically, if it wasn't for

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Speaker 1: the I don't even get on there. Like before we

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Speaker 1: had the Facebook group, I didn't even really get on

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Speaker 1: Facebook because all I saw was like there was like

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Speaker 1: people that I didn't even know how I was friends

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Speaker 1: with them, and it was like political and like fight

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Speaker 1: you know, which I don't like. Like I've considered getting

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Speaker 1: back on because I've heard how wonderful the Facebook group is,

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Speaker 1: but I just get the cliff notes from Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: the good thing about the Facebook group, once you're a part,

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Speaker 1: it pretty much takes over your whole Facebook feed. I

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Speaker 1: don't remember see anything to that's all I go on for.

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Speaker 1: So we we had a great uh live and I

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Speaker 1: felt like people had some good suggestions of what of

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Speaker 1: what we could do. So we're gonna We're gonna make

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Speaker 1: the rounds? Is that what they call it? Yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: time to make round Make our rounds, make our rounds.

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Speaker 1: I feel like we should get some sort of like

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Speaker 1: sounder for next time, maybe like a sound like like

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Speaker 1: Dr Tilly, Dr Rad do the rounds in the background,

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Speaker 1: like an imaging like maybe we could ask files to

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Speaker 1: make it or something. Absolutely we could do that right

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Speaker 1: like pages working on it now, paging the doctors to

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Speaker 1: make the rounds or something, and then we like it

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Speaker 1: could be paging doctor, paging doctor Tillian, doctor Rad. And

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Speaker 1: then that's like it's like and then okay, we're making

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Speaker 1: the round okay, yeah, okay, So we'll have that ready

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Speaker 1: for y'all next week. Yeah, m so are the rounds like?

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Speaker 1: Is that? Our life up dates are like okay, all right, um,

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Speaker 1: can we go into your what you were doing last night?

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Speaker 1: My whole weekend? We haven't go back to. Remember, I

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Speaker 1: wanted to get set up with Pao. Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: Pat Paul Gasol, this is so funny, writes me, and goes,

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Speaker 1: I'm deep into Instagram right now. I'm in a deep

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Speaker 1: hole and I'm one basketball player. So for some reason

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Speaker 1: going from like basketball player to basketball I don't even

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Speaker 1: know how I ended up there. So she sends me

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Speaker 1: and goes, I'm looking at how do you say at

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Speaker 1: pop Pal? It's like, I don't know, Yeah, I don't

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Speaker 1: know much about Oh yeah, I already talked his Instagram.

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Speaker 1: I don't know much about basketball, and I knew his name,

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Speaker 1: so I kind of started laughing, thinking like, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: that'll that'll be an easy one to get. I told

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Speaker 1: stuff up upon his page and he liked this, posting

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Speaker 1: a lot of stuff from like charity, and he does

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Speaker 1: a lot of charity work. And I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: this guy's and he's like really tall, and he's like

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Speaker 1: I was like what about this guy? And thatckup responds

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Speaker 1: like l O L because it was and then he

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Speaker 1: I felt like the FBI. She was like, I wonder

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Speaker 1: link to his girlfriend's Instagram. But honestly, it was just

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Speaker 1: so funny because like, I don't know why picturing you

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Speaker 1: with an athlete does not work in my head. I know,

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Speaker 1: like Tim Tebow was like a he's like a rare

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Speaker 1: just kept going and I was like, look at this guy,

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Speaker 1: I really, are you going for the ullstars though, like

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Speaker 1: she didn't go for any like average joke, top top tier.

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Speaker 1: Literally that's what I felt. Like. That so funny. Well,

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Speaker 1: and then I was then I stumbled into um getting

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Speaker 1: cahoots cahoots that I don't remember much from this is

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Speaker 1: hashtag major hope he's not listening, uh thing that The

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Speaker 1: only thing that I think would attract him to listen

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Speaker 1: is when you would give like a teaser being like

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Speaker 1: I messaged a guy from that I went to college

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Speaker 1: with swipe up to literally totally otherwise I think we're good. Okay, Um,

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Speaker 1: so I went to college with him, and I've been

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Speaker 1: like following. You know, we just I felt a lot

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Speaker 1: haven't seen in years, so I don't really remember much

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Speaker 1: about him, but he's cute and like, I don't know,

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Speaker 1: I remember my friend Macye telling me years ago like,

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Speaker 1: oh you should try and date bloody blah. I can't

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Speaker 1: remember why. And so then um, I was like looking

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Speaker 1: and then we just kind of had a little nice

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Speaker 1: little bolley back and forth that Becca I needed her

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Speaker 1: help with because I'm just I'm just not cool when

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Speaker 1: it comes to talking to guys like I'm not. That's

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Speaker 1: hard to believe really because you're just I don't know,

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Speaker 1: like when I know, like I haven't seen you talking

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Speaker 1: in that capacity, I guess, but you're just so comfortable

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Speaker 1: with everybody and you're such a charming young lady. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Find it hard to believe. But it's not so good

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Speaker 1: when you're like trying to lay it on you know, right, yeah,

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Speaker 1: something I think you really get in your head about

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Speaker 1: in your head and you're like, is this my Is

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Speaker 1: to another conversation? Like that's what you kept saying, like

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Speaker 1: It's casual. Like we were we were asking if he

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Speaker 1: figure out how to do that in a roundabout way,

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Speaker 1: and Becca just really hit the nail on the head

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Speaker 1: with a good question. I said, are you dating anyone

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Speaker 1: that's that's good? Get some solid gold? Right? There's so

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Speaker 1: many to hear that. That was the struggle was to

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Speaker 1: Like I don't know. I guess you shouldn't feel that

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Speaker 1: think it's because I'm in vacation mode. So like I'm

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Speaker 1: doing that, I went into this idle hands. Honestly, I'm

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Speaker 1: nervous because she just started her vacation. There's a lot

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Speaker 1: to go into the darkness. Yeah, but that's exciting. I mean,

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Speaker 1: y'all we all went back and forth for a little bit.

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Speaker 1: It's when you know, like there's not a follow up

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Speaker 1: question or something obvious for you to comment on a

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Speaker 1: for a little bit more. Search for more basketball players tonight.

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Speaker 1: Yeah I don't like that. Yeah, yeah, we're over that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that was quick. That's cool. Players have a reputation generally.

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Speaker 1: I think athletes in general have a reputation. But it's

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Speaker 1: so interesting because like they're all married. That doesn't mean anything.

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Speaker 1: Sorry harsh Um, but um, yeah, I pictured you look

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Speaker 1: more with like I hate to say, like a banker,

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Speaker 1: but like, oh we should talk about that too, what

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Speaker 1: the banker and why we're soulmates? Oh yeah, you know what,

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Speaker 1: we'll do that after, like during a new game of clue,

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Speaker 1: like the basketball player the banker, is there a cobbler

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Speaker 1: or a shoe repair van your hanging out there could

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Speaker 1: be and then like, don't put it past um, yeah,

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425
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426
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Speaker 1: off triwink dot com slash Becca did you see the

440
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,400
Speaker 1: cute little girl on our Facebook group? Saying it? I

441
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,919
Speaker 1: love when people share those. It's so cute. She's probably

442
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:00,880
Speaker 1: like five, I would say, in like four or five.

443
00:25:01,640 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 1: Really cute. Yeah, so cute? Um? What were some Oh? Okay,

444
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 1: can we get like a quick brief for people who

445
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:18,280
Speaker 1: haven't been listening? Yes, okay, so um quick cliff notes

446
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: version of doctor or Dr Wilsh Mr Wilsher. I was

447
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:26,920
Speaker 1: driving to actually church on a Sunday, looking haggard by

448
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,359
Speaker 1: the way, like in a sweatshirt, like ponytail, no makeup,

449
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: just like gross, and this guy pulls up next to

450
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:34,879
Speaker 1: me and he like asked me to roll down my window.

451
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:36,879
Speaker 1: I thought he in directions or something, you know me

452
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 1: and just like you know friendly it could be, And

453
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:42,280
Speaker 1: it was like construction was going on, so excuse me.

454
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:44,800
Speaker 1: We were like stopped there for a while because it

455
00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:47,400
Speaker 1: was like the cops were like the light was broken

456
00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:49,640
Speaker 1: or whatever. So like this guy's either gonna be staring

457
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:50,679
Speaker 1: at me for a long time. I'm going to roll

458
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 1: down my window and help him. So rolled down my

459
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 1: window and he basically was like kind of saying like, oh,

460
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:58,440
Speaker 1: you're so beautiful. UM, I know this is crazy, but like,

461
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 1: can I have your number? I love to take you

462
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 1: out sometime. And like, I don't know what got into me,

463
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 1: but I just like blurted out my number and he

464
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:08,280
Speaker 1: ended up calling me. We talked like an hour and

465
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not going out with use stranger danger,

466
00:26:10,200 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 1: but he talked me into it. Ended up going out

467
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:14,640
Speaker 1: with him. Long story short. We went out a couple

468
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:19,080
Speaker 1: of times. UM. I'd seen him randomly out with like

469
00:26:19,119 --> 00:26:22,479
Speaker 1: other girls prior, so I was like, this guy's clearly

470
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:24,239
Speaker 1: like dating a bunch of which is fine. We were

471
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,480
Speaker 1: never like anything, but it's okay. So then I was

472
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 1: supposed to hang out with him. Like on a Saturday

473
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 1: at eight eight pm, Becca and I are in the Palisades,

474
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:33,600
Speaker 1: which is like for people who don't live in l A,

475
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 1: this is like thirty minutes outside of like nowhere, like

476
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,439
Speaker 1: not close to where he lives at all. And we

477
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:41,679
Speaker 1: were sitting outside on this bench to have lunch and

478
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: guess who's comes walking past our sidewalk holding hands with

479
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 1: another girl the same day that I'm supposed to see

480
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:53,480
Speaker 1: him in like five hours. Mr Wilsher. I literally didn't

481
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:55,280
Speaker 1: even have words. Thank god, Becca like knew that it

482
00:26:55,320 --> 00:27:00,240
Speaker 1: was him. I stepped in had conversation because I was

483
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 1: just like, I can't even like I'm little just to

484
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:04,159
Speaker 1: see you in five hours and you're literally on a

485
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 1: date holding hands with some other chick like and you

486
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: hadn't like talked to him or something about what was

487
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,239
Speaker 1: happening that night, like you hadn't heard from him right

488
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 1: like a firm or something. No, I knew I was

489
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 1: hanging aout them and eight, but I was just gonna

490
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: like go to his house or somethin. It wasn't like

491
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:21,159
Speaker 1: we didn't have like set plans. So cut too. I

492
00:27:21,200 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 1: was like, this is just this guy's bad news. I

493
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 1: just like completely, and I think he knew at that

494
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:29,199
Speaker 1: point too. So I have now found out this is

495
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 1: like apparently like a thing like this guy's like legit

496
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 1: some sort of weird predator, not in like a scary way,

497
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:38,080
Speaker 1: but like this is like his thing, like he like

498
00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: sees people out like in the wild, in like driving.

499
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 1: So I have a friend, I will she will remain

500
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 1: nameless because she is engaged, but um, she had pulled

501
00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:51,240
Speaker 1: up to this restaurant, made eye contact with this guy.

502
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,320
Speaker 1: She's like he was kind of like weird, like gave

503
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 1: me these like weird looks. I was like, hey, blah

504
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: blah blah. And they have like a brief conversation, but

505
00:27:56,880 --> 00:27:58,880
Speaker 1: she wanted to go pick up her food. She wanted

506
00:27:58,880 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 1: to go pick up her food, and then she came

507
00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 1: back at her car and there was a note on

508
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 1: her car from the guy that said, Hey, you're really cute. Um,

509
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,280
Speaker 1: here's my number. Would love to take you out sometimes. Signed.

510
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to say his name, Mr Wilsher, but

511
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 1: it's a very distinct name. It's a distinct name, and

512
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 1: I was like, that's my guy. Cut two another girl

513
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:27,919
Speaker 1: that I know, Yes, at a gas station. He was

514
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:32,280
Speaker 1: getting gas and she was getting gas behind him, and um,

515
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:33,879
Speaker 1: she needed him to pull up a little bit, so

516
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 1: she like asked him to pull up, and he's like,

517
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 1: I'll pull up if you, UM give me your number.

518
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 1: I'd love to take you out sometime. Oh, I guess

519
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:46,880
Speaker 1: what his name was, Mr Wilsher. That's obviously not but yes,

520
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 1: and I'm like it's I can't guarantee it's the same guy.

521
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 1: But the way they physically described him and the name.

522
00:28:55,200 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 1: It's such a distant yeah, like what this guy does

523
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 1: and he just like serially just dates these girls he

524
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 1: meets like out. It's like kind of scary, like it

525
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: gives me like lifetime movie feelings, isn't that ye? Yeah? Right?

526
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 1: Isn't that so crazy? And that's just three people that

527
00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: I know without even like wild isn't that crazy? Wow? Yeah,

528
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:24,280
Speaker 1: I'm really glad that So my new my new rule

529
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 1: of thumb in the dating rule, don't don't rule down

530
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 1: your window, but I have to know one person in

531
00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:34,920
Speaker 1: common with the guy that's smart. It's my new rule

532
00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: because even with Dr W I didn't have any friends

533
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 1: in common. You are, I don't have to go down

534
00:29:41,080 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 1: the path. But if that's my new thing, what if

535
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 1: someone approaches you and has a conversation, like a real

536
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 1: conversation before because this guy seems like he was lobbing

537
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: it out from like yeah, the get go just like

538
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: what's that you want to go out? But like a

539
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: guy who comes up and it's like, oh hey, oh hey,

540
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 1: I see you're reading the Harry Potter. I enjoyed that

541
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 1: book too, like something like that and had a conversa

542
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 1: aation with you first, Yes, about that, but I would

543
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 1: like to figure out who we have and common rule.

544
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 1: It's still applied, it's aid in every way shape of form.

545
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 1: I think that's safe, right. I think that's my new like,

546
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 1: I think that's my new move. And I feel like

547
00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 1: l a such a small world anyway, like you're bound

548
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 1: to like I almost feel like everyone knows everyone in

549
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 1: some capacity or know someone that knows someone. So isn't

550
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:30,479
Speaker 1: that crazy? That is wild? Like on one hand, I

551
00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 1: admire because like there's a lot of dudes I we

552
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 1: see emails come through like oh, you know, I really

553
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:38,680
Speaker 1: like want to ask to grow up, and I'm like

554
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:40,440
Speaker 1: so nervous, like I wish I could just like, you know,

555
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:41,840
Speaker 1: there's a lot of guys that are afraid to like

556
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:46,239
Speaker 1: approach when now just because they're being they're scared um.

557
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 1: So on one hand, I like that. I like the

558
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: idea of walking up to someone in person, like talking

559
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 1: to them. But this is like a crazy extreme that

560
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 1: is not chill. And like the fact that he's just

561
00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: thrown it out willy nilly, like gas stations in traffic,

562
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:08,120
Speaker 1: in traffic and traffic, Yeah, it's creepy. Like, I know

563
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 1: he's like not murdering anyone, but it sounds like the

564
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: beginning of them. I was like, in this guy's home, Oh,

565
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 1: I was so I just remember Tony, He's so hot.

566
00:31:20,440 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: And then when he walked up when we were out

567
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 1: in the restaurant and I saw him, I was like,

568
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 1: Tanya on, like, aim higher, Tanya, Yeah, come on and

569
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 1: set the standards a little higher, especially with someone who's

570
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 1: like walking around with another girl when you have plans

571
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:38,520
Speaker 1: that night, like said, higher standards for yourself in all areas. Totally.

572
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 1: That's what they're They're high now, good pal gasol, very high.

573
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: They're very high. They are very high. Now, you know what,

574
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: I am a goddess and a modern woman and a

575
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 1: modern woman, and I'm just going to collect the love

576
00:31:54,960 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: I deserve. Yes, yes, you should a modern women. You

577
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 1: deserve to be worshiped and treated like a queen. Um.

578
00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 1: We know we never talked about on the podcast that

579
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:13,040
Speaker 1: we like teased at one point thirst trapping. Oh that's right,

580
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 1: so you did some thirst trapping with someone that you

581
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: recently dated. Thank you. Um, we kind of talked about

582
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 1: on a Facebook live, but we deleted it because we

583
00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:24,400
Speaker 1: were teasing it and then we never talked about it.

584
00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:26,960
Speaker 1: But I do think it's a topic that a lot

585
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:30,719
Speaker 1: of people can relate to because search trapping is a

586
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: way of getting someone's attention without having to be annoying

587
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 1: about it, right yeah yeah, Um, So for for for instance,

588
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: I could remember like I remember like the back of

589
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,600
Speaker 1: my hand. Um, you want someone to make a plan

590
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:50,240
Speaker 1: with you, but you don't want to text them and

591
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:53,160
Speaker 1: be like, what am I seeing you again? So you

592
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: post a little cute little photo or boomerang that you

593
00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 1: know they're going to see, and sure you're going to

594
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 1: get that response you're wanting. So, for instance, Tanya had

595
00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: made tentative plans with a guy and he kind of

596
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,640
Speaker 1: said like, oh, I might be able to hang out.

597
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 1: I have some friends in town. I'm going to be

598
00:33:18,560 --> 00:33:21,360
Speaker 1: out with them, So I don't know. So she and

599
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: I told her. I was like, you just say like

600
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 1: you're going out to eat with your friends, like maybe

601
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 1: you can meet up later. Keep it casual, because he's

602
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:31,880
Speaker 1: clearly being casual. So Tanya writes me and she's like,

603
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 1: we're about to be done with dinner and I still

604
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 1: haven't heard from him, and he's like out, Like I

605
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:38,479
Speaker 1: can tell that he's out and stuff, and like what

606
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:42,080
Speaker 1: do I do? So I told her I'm like post

607
00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 1: a boomerang or selfie, like still all done up and

608
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 1: be like Saturday night or something like that, and sure

609
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:55,000
Speaker 1: enough he responds. I even think that's when he called you, babe. Yeah,

610
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 1: he said something like within like ten minutes. It was like,

611
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 1: so way, I felt like I could be a dating

612
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 1: coach after this. Honestly, honestly, it worked twice. It worked twice.

613
00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:09,120
Speaker 1: It worked twice, and so now that's kind of why

614
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 1: I think, like it's not that I don't trust myself

615
00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 1: because I think, like I think I'm good. I obviously

616
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,239
Speaker 1: think I'm a good partner, but I think in the

617
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,279
Speaker 1: beginning stages you have to have a little bit of

618
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: that like game mentality, and I just don't have it

619
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 1: at all. So that's where Becca comes really in strong

620
00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,799
Speaker 1: for me, because she could. She really helps and like

621
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 1: it worked both times, and so he ripped like text

622
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 1: her to make plans and then I was like, don't

623
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 1: don't respond immediately, give it some time. And then like

624
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 1: she didn't respond to later he said something else. It

625
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 1: was amazing. I was like wow, And then what happened

626
00:34:47,600 --> 00:34:49,800
Speaker 1: the next time because it was like you had stored

627
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:53,719
Speaker 1: like old boomerang. This is my favorite, this is my

628
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 1: favorite she had. She had like gotten um taking a

629
00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:00,880
Speaker 1: boomerang of another night that she was like all day

630
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 1: out and she was like, I'm about to be home.

631
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 1: What do I do? And I'm like, she said, I

632
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: have this old boom ring. Should I post it? I'm like,

633
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 1: for sure, you post it and act like you're going out.

634
00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:19,399
Speaker 1: So she did so good, So good. You guys. Thirst

635
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Speaker 1: traps work, I know, but there they have to be

636
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Speaker 1: they have to be the right thirst trap. I was

637
00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 1: gonna say, there there is a trashy thirst trap and

638
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,440
Speaker 1: there's a classy thirst trap. Would you like to define

639
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 1: the difference between the two. Um, I think there's when

640
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Speaker 1: you're trying to like show like too much skin, or

641
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 1: like show your body or do something that I mean,

642
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:41,839
Speaker 1: if you feel comfortable doing that, then go for it.

643
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 1: But most guys are going to respond to that, like

644
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 1: you're going to get that response, but you want the

645
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: right guy to respond. Not that this guy ended up

646
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 1: being the right guy, but he was someone that you

647
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 1: were like genuinely interested in and you did something that

648
00:35:54,719 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: was very like cute and It just made him feel like, Oh,

649
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:58,879
Speaker 1: I want to be a part of whatever she's doing.

650
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:01,799
Speaker 1: You want to be a part. You want them to

651
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 1: want to be a part of your night. You don't

652
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 1: want them to feel like they're just going to have

653
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:11,840
Speaker 1: you for one night. Wow. That I don't even know

654
00:36:11,880 --> 00:36:18,240
Speaker 1: if it was that good, but that was good. Wow.

655
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:21,879
Speaker 1: I'm going to need that aloe again because that just

656
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:27,640
Speaker 1: burned me? Is that the right thing? That was good?

657
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 1: It was on his version of I'm gonna mark that down.

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Speaker 1: Wow it lasts? Um, shall we go into Oh no,

696
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Speaker 1: this is how emails? Oh yeah? Is that? Okay? What's

697
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Speaker 1: our new? So we're gonna title the emails? Um, was

698
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Speaker 1: it postop? Oh? Was that with those yeah? Post right? Yeah,

699
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 1: I mean that makes sense, right, it's like the postop

700
00:38:46,719 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 1: check up notes or whatever our emails. And then they

701
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:52,640
Speaker 1: said when we talk about great when graysown it comes back,

702
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 1: and we talked about grayzonowom me that could be um surgery.

703
00:38:56,880 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 1: Well yeah, because we're like dissecting the show. Yeah, did

704
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 1: you see the new guy from the o C that's

705
00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 1: going to be on there? So happy about it? But

706
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 1: can we also talk about Meredith not having a love

707
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:10,040
Speaker 1: story next season? Did? Yeah? There was some article right

708
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,919
Speaker 1: Erica has some words of wisdom. Okay, the article first

709
00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:18,040
Speaker 1: said Meredith won't have a love story, and then someone

710
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 1: went back and was like, that's not what we meant.

711
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:23,839
Speaker 1: She will still it's less about her like finding love

712
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:26,000
Speaker 1: and more about her like having it something. It's going

713
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 1: to be like her in love with her kids or something. Yeah,

714
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 1: I don't know. I feel like if they came back

715
00:39:32,239 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 1: to say, like to correct themselves, that they were trying

716
00:39:35,160 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 1: to say, like no, no, no, it's not always said Yeah,

717
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,360
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure it hinted that there will be a

718
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 1: love story for her. Well, thank the Lord, because I

719
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 1: read that article and I was like, seriously, but I

720
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:47,840
Speaker 1: wouldn't be surprised because I feel like shawn to rhymes

721
00:39:47,880 --> 00:39:51,800
Speaker 1: really like prides like herself as being like a modern

722
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 1: woman and being like she's not married and she has

723
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 1: two kids and has this like amazing job of like

724
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 1: running the TV war Old, So it wouldn't be surprising

725
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 1: for her to leave Meredith and that like, all right,

726
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 1: I lost my husband. He was the love of my life.

727
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:10,520
Speaker 1: But I'm just like bad bad a surgeon and have

728
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 1: kids and I'm doing it myself. I wouldn't be surprised

729
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 1: if they did that. But you know what, you can

730
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 1: have it all. I agree we are modern, but she

731
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:24,120
Speaker 1: did have it all. But he died well died takes

732
00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:28,440
Speaker 1: it a dark term as he died. Um. Also, you

733
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:31,880
Speaker 1: were watching the Dinny episode again last night. We gotta

734
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:34,560
Speaker 1: like figure out another episode for you to focus on,

735
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:36,400
Speaker 1: which is one episode. It's like a whole arc. So

736
00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 1: it's like five episodes and he watched it a lot,

737
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:42,400
Speaker 1: and that is even for someone who didn't care about Dinny.

738
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:47,560
Speaker 1: Those were like heavy episodes, but they're so good. Maybe

739
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:49,480
Speaker 1: we can find a new arc for you to pay

740
00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:52,319
Speaker 1: attention to. Yeah, in like a later season maybe. Yeah,

741
00:40:52,360 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 1: I've been like going deep into the old Grays episodes. Yeah,

742
00:40:56,080 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: I haven't watched in so long. I listen, I've had

743
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:03,439
Speaker 1: I had way more years if that's all I did.

744
00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 1: That's true, you've only been in it for like a

745
00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:09,080
Speaker 1: year and a half. Um, okay, so are we going

746
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 1: to do some post stop emails? Call your name? I

747
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:15,799
Speaker 1: do like the ghost to buy the I T Guy one,

748
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 1: So let's read it. Okay. This is from Alyssa. I

749
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 1: went on a date recently with a guy from the

750
00:41:20,880 --> 00:41:22,839
Speaker 1: I T department of my work. We've known of each

751
00:41:22,840 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 1: other for a couple of years, and I always put

752
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:26,359
Speaker 1: my best put on my best flirt when he comes around,

753
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:28,319
Speaker 1: and we matched on bumble and set up a date.

754
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:30,239
Speaker 1: The date was amazing. We clicked and had a great

755
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:33,840
Speaker 1: little makeout sessh before we left, Then silence. We said

756
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 1: nothing for about five days, and we ran into each

757
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: other twice at work within that time. So on the

758
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 1: fifth day, I sent him a text saying, Hey, I

759
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: assumed you text me by now, so I wanted to

760
00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:43,760
Speaker 1: tell you I'd be thrilled to go out with you again,

761
00:41:44,000 --> 00:41:45,480
Speaker 1: but if you're not interested, you shall let me know.

762
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:47,319
Speaker 1: Normally shouldn't be a big deal, but since we could

763
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 1: bump into each other at work, I just wanted to

764
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 1: come to an understanding so we're not awkward around each other.

765
00:41:51,680 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 1: He replied that his grandma wasn't doing well and that

766
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,480
Speaker 1: was the reason for his silence, but should definitely go

767
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 1: out again soon now again five days later, just silence.

768
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: I decided not to text him again until he texts me.

769
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 1: But I want to know what you guys think. Is

770
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:04,360
Speaker 1: he using his family as an excuse to ghost me?

771
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,879
Speaker 1: Am I overthinking it context He's thirty two, I'm twenty four.

772
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:09,640
Speaker 1: I don't believe it's an age thing because he always

773
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:11,919
Speaker 1: knew I was younger, and ABVI his bumble age rage

774
00:42:11,960 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 1: was set specifically, I know what I think you want

775
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:23,040
Speaker 1: to go first, Um, I think that he I personally

776
00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:26,880
Speaker 1: think that he's not fully interested and doesn't want like,

777
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 1: didn't want to make it uncomfortable in case you did

778
00:42:30,000 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 1: to each other. But he didn't really handle it the

779
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 1: right way, so he just sent that into her. That's

780
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:41,839
Speaker 1: what I think. I think, And this is the optimism

781
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 1: side of me. Yeah, we need that when things are going,

782
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:47,000
Speaker 1: When things are when you're having issues at home or

783
00:42:47,040 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 1: like like his grandma's sick, the last thing you're thinking

784
00:42:49,600 --> 00:42:52,800
Speaker 1: about is like dating somebody. So if that is the case,

785
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:54,719
Speaker 1: I may definitely don't think you should be aggressive and

786
00:42:54,760 --> 00:42:57,000
Speaker 1: like you don't think you need to ask him out,

787
00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:59,279
Speaker 1: But I think just give him some space and like

788
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:02,279
Speaker 1: he'll come out. I mean, I think what she's doing,

789
00:43:02,360 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 1: like not texting him, is the exactly what she should

790
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:07,400
Speaker 1: be doing. Yeah, I don't know if he's using his

791
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:10,160
Speaker 1: I'm hoping he's not using his grandma as an excuse,

792
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 1: But I think people kind of will do anything to

793
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 1: get themselves out of an awkward, uncomfortable situation. Yeah, I

794
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 1: don't want to be cynical. But to me, I think

795
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:26,359
Speaker 1: he's not that indoor and he's using the grandma. Uh

796
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 1: not that cool to do, you know what, Alyssa regardless,

797
00:43:32,120 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 1: I'm ready. I'm ready. You are a modern woman and

798
00:43:34,560 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 1: you are a queen, and you deserve to have this

799
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:40,919
Speaker 1: I T guy asking you out and taking you out

800
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:44,839
Speaker 1: and making reservations and making out and making out and

801
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:46,799
Speaker 1: saying I can't wait to pick you up at six

802
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:48,759
Speaker 1: thirty pm because we have a seven o'clock dinner at

803
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:50,239
Speaker 1: this place that I know you mentioned on our first

804
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 1: day that you wanted to try and guess what we're

805
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:53,840
Speaker 1: going to try it because I listened to you. Yeah,

806
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: that's exactly everyone, That is exactly what you deserve. Wow.

807
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:03,080
Speaker 1: So a great monologue, he Lissa, let's move on from

808
00:44:03,080 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 1: the I T Guy. Yeah, let's move on. Move on

809
00:44:06,360 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 1: from the I T guy to the IT guy. All right,

810
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:17,720
Speaker 1: that pot that surgery is done, that pops done. Um, alright.

811
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 1: I like the ones with um the friends are all

812
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:26,879
Speaker 1: in relationships because that's like story of my life right now,

813
00:44:27,120 --> 00:44:32,320
Speaker 1: slash friends are all out of town? Where is that? Oh? Yeah? Yeah? Um?

814
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:35,319
Speaker 1: And then I like the one that says, um, my

815
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 1: friend won't jump over puddles for me. I don't didn't

816
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 1: read it, but it sounds interesting. Friend won't jump puddles

817
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 1: for me? Yes? Is that a metaphorical puddle? Or is

818
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 1: that it's a metaphor? All right, all right, let's see

819
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 1: this next one. Friends, our own relationships. Let's let's dive

820
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 1: into this. This is from Lacy. I am the very

821
00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 1: very single friend in my friend group. Whenever my friends

822
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 1: want to do something, I'm always a last resort because

823
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 1: they know I'm just surround. I'm twenty three. For reference.

824
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 1: Here's my current situation. My friend and I are going

825
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:08,719
Speaker 1: into a concert. I texted and basically said, Hey, how

826
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:10,840
Speaker 1: adventurous are you feeling good to another concert? Because I

827
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: found tickets to this one for a great price. Her response, OMG,

828
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,239
Speaker 1: where is he playing at? I've been dying to see him?

829
00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:18,359
Speaker 1: How much for tickets cost? U? I love to tell

830
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 1: insert boyfriend's name here because he loves him just as much.

831
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:23,719
Speaker 1: I replied back with dates and then try to end

832
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:25,800
Speaker 1: the texts. Tried ending the text by asking if this

833
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:27,560
Speaker 1: meant I would be the third wheel, followed by a

834
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 1: bunch of ha has and the crying laughing emoji. That

835
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: should do the trick right to hopefully make it lighthearted.

836
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:34,880
Speaker 1: Is it jealousy that I don't have a boyfriend. Maybe,

837
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:36,879
Speaker 1: but I'd like to think of myself as a modern woman.

838
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 1: I'm completely happy that my friends are happy in their relationships.

839
00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:41,879
Speaker 1: I'll love to hear any advice on what you guys

840
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:44,120
Speaker 1: would do in the situation if it keeps happening. I

841
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: haven't been in this situation, but I don't think I

842
00:45:46,200 --> 00:45:52,000
Speaker 1: would consistently ask to bring my boyfriend along. So I mean, honestly,

843
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 1: if I were if if like Tanya called me and

844
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 1: she was like, hey, I have tickets. I found tickets

845
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:00,400
Speaker 1: to this concert, would you want to go with me?

846
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 1: I would never like be like, oh, can I bring

847
00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:05,920
Speaker 1: the person I'm dating, like, or let me tell the

848
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 1: person I'm dating. I would just assume that, yeah, it's weird,

849
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 1: So I think it's I don't know. I think I

850
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 1: never I've always like overly cautious about this, Like even

851
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 1: if people like you can bring someone, I always want

852
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 1: to make sure like they're welcome and that it's okay

853
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,320
Speaker 1: for me to bring someone before I just assume, because

854
00:46:24,719 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 1: sometimes people just want one on one time and they

855
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 1: don't want your significant another there and they want it

856
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:31,840
Speaker 1: to be their friend time, and um, sometimes it is

857
00:46:31,920 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 1: hard for the friend that is the single one and

858
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,759
Speaker 1: they're always the third wheel. Like that gets old after

859
00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:38,400
Speaker 1: a while. But you should be able to enjoy your

860
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:40,880
Speaker 1: friendship without feeling like you always have to be the

861
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:44,600
Speaker 1: third wheel. Totally. I think that. Um, like I feel

862
00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:48,440
Speaker 1: like I'm like lazy. You are me right now in

863
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:50,479
Speaker 1: terms of like, oh, I feel like either my friends

864
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:53,960
Speaker 1: are like out of town or in relationships. But I

865
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 1: think that your your friendships should be at a point

866
00:46:57,760 --> 00:46:59,880
Speaker 1: where like, I don't feel like I'm ever that the

867
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:02,239
Speaker 1: wheel if I'm hanging out with my friends and their

868
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 1: significant others ever, and it's so and I still have

869
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:08,719
Speaker 1: like my relationship with my friends that makes sense, Like

870
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:10,520
Speaker 1: I don't feel like I'm missing any part of my

871
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 1: relationships with my friends the fact that they're seeing somebody

872
00:47:14,440 --> 00:47:16,719
Speaker 1: right which I think is really important. And I think

873
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:18,480
Speaker 1: it's like, I think it's worth the dialogue if you

874
00:47:18,560 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 1: feel like this this specific friend is like keeps making

875
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 1: you the third wheel. Um, I think it's worth it

876
00:47:24,600 --> 00:47:26,440
Speaker 1: to have the conversation and just be like, look like

877
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 1: but also be respectful because you want your friends to you.

878
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:31,719
Speaker 1: We all you want your friends to be happy, and

879
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:33,239
Speaker 1: like the goal is for all of us to be

880
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:37,560
Speaker 1: you know, one big happy family together. Um. But I

881
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 1: think if you're feeling like your friendship is slipping or

882
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 1: you're lacking something in that, like, I think just having

883
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 1: an open dialogue, um, wouldn't hurt. Yeah, And I think

884
00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:50,279
Speaker 1: that your friend. I think a lot of times people don't.

885
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 1: People get so like in that happy place in their

886
00:47:53,719 --> 00:47:55,920
Speaker 1: relationship that they don't even realize they're doing that. A

887
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:57,760
Speaker 1: lot of times, I think they're just it's like second

888
00:47:57,840 --> 00:47:59,880
Speaker 1: nature to be like, oh, I'm going to tell I mean,

889
00:48:00,000 --> 00:48:02,040
Speaker 1: tell him about this so like that sounds funny, loves

890
00:48:02,120 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 1: that band without even thinking like, oh, that's making her

891
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:07,720
Speaker 1: feel put her and it's putting her in a weird spot.

892
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 1: Like she might not even notice that she's doing it often.

893
00:48:10,480 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 1: So I would definitely say it's worth a conversation. Just

894
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:15,560
Speaker 1: be like, hey, sometimes when I write you and you

895
00:48:15,640 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 1: know about plans that we might have, I would I

896
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 1: would like for it to just be at it's like,

897
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 1: and and for us to have a date since you

898
00:48:22,440 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 1: have dates with him all the time. Yeah, it's all

899
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 1: about keeping balance. Yeah, it's all about balance. But it's

900
00:48:28,320 --> 00:48:30,600
Speaker 1: like it's also realizing too, like your friendship is going

901
00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 1: to change a little bit, you know. I mean like

902
00:48:32,160 --> 00:48:34,600
Speaker 1: when there's a person that comes in to their life,

903
00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:37,520
Speaker 1: like that's it changes the dynamic, but it's not for

904
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:40,920
Speaker 1: the bad if your friendship strong enough, like it's totally

905
00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:43,760
Speaker 1: normal and fine. She's like moving to a different area

906
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:47,279
Speaker 1: when you're still living close by, you know. Yeah, I'm

907
00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: so anxious about that. I mean, it's just like life changes,

908
00:48:53,320 --> 00:48:55,759
Speaker 1: people grow, like I always get. I always feel like

909
00:48:55,760 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 1: when people are like, oh, you've changed, like that's not

910
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 1: always a bad thing. Like I feel like we should

911
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:05,440
Speaker 1: always be like changing and evolving, like hell, yeah i've changed.

912
00:49:05,480 --> 00:49:08,840
Speaker 1: Thank God I'm not the girl too. And like the

913
00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: way that I think of things and how I bew things,

914
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 1: like I hope that it's changed. That's what should say

915
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,239
Speaker 1: next time someone says you've changed, I would say thank you,

916
00:49:17,600 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 1: because you're not want to meet the tonya five years ago.

917
00:49:20,520 --> 00:49:24,360
Speaker 1: I'll tell you that much was pathetic. I have a

918
00:49:24,480 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 1: modern woman now. I have started saying that to myself,

919
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:32,919
Speaker 1: and I'm not a woman modern man. If I would

920
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 1: have known then what I know now and I have

921
00:49:35,719 --> 00:49:41,080
Speaker 1: the confidence that I have now. Then watch out. Yeah,

922
00:49:41,440 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 1: well they didn't even know what was about to happen.

923
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:47,719
Speaker 1: Would you jump puddles for your friends though? That's the

924
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:50,759
Speaker 1: that's the next question. Yeah, I love that it's from anonymous.

925
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:54,239
Speaker 1: I love anonymous. I'm my best friend's matron of honor

926
00:49:54,280 --> 00:49:56,879
Speaker 1: in her wedding. We just wanted to trip her bachelorette party.

927
00:49:56,960 --> 00:50:00,120
Speaker 1: The trip costs around four When she was my and

928
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:02,359
Speaker 1: she was in my wedding, she spent nowhere near as much,

929
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:04,800
Speaker 1: and she was the determining factor that made us not

930
00:50:04,920 --> 00:50:06,440
Speaker 1: able to take a trip because she was afraid the

931
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 1: other girls wouldn't pay her back. I feel like I

932
00:50:08,920 --> 00:50:11,000
Speaker 1: would cross oceans for her, but she won't even jump

933
00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:13,600
Speaker 1: up huddle for me. Ever since she started dating her

934
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:16,480
Speaker 1: now fiance, she has neglected her friendship. I've confronted her

935
00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:18,560
Speaker 1: several times about it, and she says she'll change. I've

936
00:50:18,560 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 1: seen no change at all. I feel like I'm always

937
00:50:20,640 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 1: the one initiating the plans and she bails, or she

938
00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:25,160
Speaker 1: just doesn't care about plans because she's always with her fiance.

939
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:27,280
Speaker 1: It's hard and I don't know if I should continue

940
00:50:27,280 --> 00:50:35,360
Speaker 1: being friends with her. That's tough. Yeah, it's hard. I

941
00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:38,400
Speaker 1: struggle with this because sometimes I feel like I'm in

942
00:50:38,440 --> 00:50:43,400
Speaker 1: a place where I'm mentally like ready to do anything

943
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 1: for my friends and up for whatever, and then there's

944
00:50:45,760 --> 00:50:50,880
Speaker 1: times where I'm just kind of yeah, no, no, no, sorry,

945
00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:52,879
Speaker 1: not let no. I feel like I let them down,

946
00:50:53,320 --> 00:50:56,520
Speaker 1: like I yeah, I feel like I think because honestly,

947
00:50:56,640 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 1: I think, especially recently, I've realized like how all amazing

948
00:51:01,600 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 1: the friends are in my life, and I feel like

949
00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:06,239
Speaker 1: there's a lot of times where I'm kind of more

950
00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:08,560
Speaker 1: down if I'm down or like not in the mood

951
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:12,480
Speaker 1: or whatever that I feel like I struggle with being

952
00:51:12,560 --> 00:51:14,680
Speaker 1: the friend of them that they are to me. Um.

953
00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:18,759
Speaker 1: But with that being said, I mean, any relationship that

954
00:51:18,840 --> 00:51:22,000
Speaker 1: you're in should be two ways. And there's there can

955
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:23,960
Speaker 1: be times where someone stronger than the other and the

956
00:51:24,000 --> 00:51:26,120
Speaker 1: other one has to step up and vice versa, but

957
00:51:26,719 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 1: I think they're for the most part, it should be

958
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 1: an equal balance of both putting in the effort and

959
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:38,560
Speaker 1: the work of like making the friendship or relationship work. Yeah. Yeah,

960
00:51:38,560 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: I was just gonna say, and a lot of people

961
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:42,359
Speaker 1: say like, oh, I'll change, I'll change when they get

962
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:45,759
Speaker 1: called out, but it really shows you the value of

963
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:50,799
Speaker 1: someone who's willing to like actually step up and do something. Yeah,

964
00:51:50,840 --> 00:51:53,880
Speaker 1: And I think too, I think sometimes, like I I

965
00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:56,920
Speaker 1: do believe that too. I think obviously every relationship has seasons,

966
00:51:57,000 --> 00:51:58,520
Speaker 1: you know. I mean like sometimes you have to step

967
00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 1: up and sometimes they're going to step up, and it's

968
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:03,120
Speaker 1: kind of a seesaw. Um. But I think it requires

969
00:52:03,120 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 1: two people putting in the effort. And I also think

970
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:09,600
Speaker 1: that sometimes I think people are afraid to step away

971
00:52:09,640 --> 00:52:11,640
Speaker 1: from I'm actually really learning this. So I went to

972
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:15,200
Speaker 1: that angel, that angel healer, and she kind of told me, Yeah,

973
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:18,160
Speaker 1: she told me that, Um, She's like, you are an

974
00:52:18,200 --> 00:52:20,160
Speaker 1: EmPATH and you just have this like you have a

975
00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:23,480
Speaker 1: bright light around you and people want to get in that.

976
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:26,040
Speaker 1: She's like, you have to be super aware of the

977
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:27,919
Speaker 1: people that you have in your life on a daily

978
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:31,279
Speaker 1: basis because you give so much that you like you

979
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:33,880
Speaker 1: absorb their energy. And so I'm like, she's like, you

980
00:52:33,880 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 1: got to be really picky and choosy about about the

981
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:37,920
Speaker 1: people that you let in your life. And it makes

982
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:42,560
Speaker 1: me think like maybe this friend of yours, maybe it's

983
00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:44,719
Speaker 1: time to say goodbye, you know what I mean. And

984
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 1: that's okay. Like, if you're not getting what you want

985
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:50,000
Speaker 1: out of that friendship and you feel like you're giving, giving, giving,

986
00:52:50,040 --> 00:52:52,400
Speaker 1: and you're not getting anything back, and you've been trying

987
00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:53,799
Speaker 1: and trying, I mean, it sounds like this has been

988
00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:55,399
Speaker 1: going on for a while, between your wedding and her wedding,

989
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 1: it's got to be at least a couple of years.

990
00:52:57,440 --> 00:52:59,399
Speaker 1: If you've been trying for that long you're not getting

991
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:01,120
Speaker 1: what you want, like it might just be time to

992
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:03,400
Speaker 1: cut ties, you know what I mean, because you're wasting

993
00:53:03,520 --> 00:53:06,840
Speaker 1: so much of your time and your energy on this person,

994
00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 1: and it might just be time to move on. Like

995
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:13,320
Speaker 1: ten years ago, I was in this really really toxic

996
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:16,440
Speaker 1: relationship and I was treating my friends really poorly, and uh,

997
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:19,560
Speaker 1: one of and I didn't really see it, and my

998
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:23,359
Speaker 1: my my best friend told me, He's like, I can't

999
00:53:23,400 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 1: be your friend anymore until you get your act together.

1000
00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 1: And it really like that was like the wake up Yeah,

1001
00:53:28,760 --> 00:53:31,840
Speaker 1: I completely like that was the moment that like I

1002
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:33,439
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, I can't believe this person

1003
00:53:33,520 --> 00:53:35,839
Speaker 1: that I have become and I and that was really

1004
00:53:35,920 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: the path and I was like, maybe I'll never be

1005
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 1: friends with this person again, but at least I'll treat

1006
00:53:40,120 --> 00:53:43,480
Speaker 1: people better in the future. And I got Mac together

1007
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:45,759
Speaker 1: and uh, and you know, I'm still friends with that

1008
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:48,279
Speaker 1: person to this thing, and um, it was really I

1009
00:53:48,600 --> 00:53:50,680
Speaker 1: you know, it was one of the I don't. I don't.

1010
00:53:50,760 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that's what this prison is going through,

1011
00:53:52,560 --> 00:53:54,000
Speaker 1: but like it was. I was a really dark time

1012
00:53:54,000 --> 00:53:55,319
Speaker 1: in my life and that's what I needed to get

1013
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 1: out of it, to realize I was losing something that

1014
00:53:56,960 --> 00:53:59,520
Speaker 1: was so special to me. I can't imagine you being

1015
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:03,400
Speaker 1: dark or not not in a good place so foreign

1016
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:06,799
Speaker 1: to It's amazing what relationships can do, know what I mean,

1017
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:11,359
Speaker 1: like the wrong one like m yeah, that's true. Um,

1018
00:54:12,239 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 1: I feel was there anything else that we needed to cover?

1019
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 1: I always feel like we miss things that we planned

1020
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:21,800
Speaker 1: on covering and then we don't. Oh, people wanted to

1021
00:54:21,840 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 1: bring back ask a guy, So I think we focused

1022
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:26,920
Speaker 1: on that this next week because I think they So

1023
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:31,360
Speaker 1: if y'all have um guy issues or things that you

1024
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 1: want to hear a guy's opinion from, we'll ask Easton.

1025
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:36,800
Speaker 1: Obviously we always have Mark and Easton, but if you

1026
00:54:36,880 --> 00:54:40,640
Speaker 1: wanna have us like call or like, you know, we

1027
00:54:40,640 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 1: should come up with a good question, like what's something

1028
00:54:43,280 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 1: that we really want to ask a guy? Okay, we'll

1029
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 1: think of something. Yeah, we can think of stuff and

1030
00:54:47,960 --> 00:54:49,560
Speaker 1: then if you have any suggestions, put them in the

1031
00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:53,200
Speaker 1: Facebook group and we'll pick the best question and then

1032
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 1: we will work on guys to call to answer that

1033
00:54:57,160 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 1: question like duty dudes. Yeah, but we want like nitty

1034
00:55:00,520 --> 00:55:04,320
Speaker 1: gritty questions like yeah that a lot of people have

1035
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:10,040
Speaker 1: questions about, even if it's like embarrassing or something totally yeah, so, um,

1036
00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:13,560
Speaker 1: you can either. We love emails, so I know the

1037
00:55:13,640 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 1: Facebook group makes it very accessible to get advice from

1038
00:55:16,680 --> 00:55:19,600
Speaker 1: everyone else. But keep sending an emails and if you

1039
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:21,839
Speaker 1: want to post stuff on on the group, just make

1040
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:23,840
Speaker 1: sure you like tag it with ask a guy or

1041
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:27,160
Speaker 1: something so we can start. Yeah, tagus in it. But

1042
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:30,120
Speaker 1: like a good we want like a media juicy ask

1043
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:37,319
Speaker 1: a guy question media and yeah, um, okay, so can

1044
00:55:37,400 --> 00:55:41,320
Speaker 1: we do the uh won't hang out but wants to

1045
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 1: travel with me? That sounds interesting? Before we do that,

1046
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:45,799
Speaker 1: do you know what I want to talk about? Though?

1047
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 1: What do you want to talk about? Lola? Lola? Okay,

1048
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:54,279
Speaker 1: I'm obsessed, Lola, this, Can I tell you why? Please

1049
00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:57,160
Speaker 1: tell me why? Okay. So, Lola is a female founded company.

1050
00:55:57,239 --> 00:56:01,320
Speaker 1: They offer a line of organic tampons, cotton ponds, pads, liners,

1051
00:56:01,360 --> 00:56:04,759
Speaker 1: and all natural cleansing wipes. So the founders, jordanic Here

1052
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:08,640
Speaker 1: and Alexander Friedman, they started the company with a simple

1053
00:56:09,200 --> 00:56:12,640
Speaker 1: and seemingly obvious idea women shouldn't have to compromise when

1054
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Speaker 1: eat and the beauty products that we use, why shouldn't

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Speaker 1: the same be true for our feminine care products. Which

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Speaker 1: is such a Eureka moment. I had this like a

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Speaker 1: couple of months ago. I was like, I eat so clean,

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Speaker 1: I try and use such clean, like as clean as

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Speaker 1: I can, And yet I'm using tampons that have been

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Speaker 1: soaked in like bleach and all these harsh chemicals, and

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Speaker 1: code Becca. Okay, let's do one last email and then

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Speaker 1: you know what. I would like to talk about periods.

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00:58:37,280 --> 00:58:41,600
Speaker 1: Let's talk about periods next podcast. But let's get into it. Okay,

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00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:46,040
Speaker 1: so many things I've been fired up about this topic lately. Okay, well,

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00:58:46,120 --> 00:58:48,880
Speaker 1: let's because such a taboo, like people don't want to

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00:58:48,880 --> 00:58:50,960
Speaker 1: talk about it. But it's like we get our periods

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00:58:51,000 --> 00:58:53,840
Speaker 1: every month. It's just nature. Why do I have to

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00:58:53,880 --> 00:58:57,640
Speaker 1: feel ashamed about it? I don't, but a lot of

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00:58:57,720 --> 00:58:59,640
Speaker 1: people like I don't know, just like you know what

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00:58:59,720 --> 00:59:01,600
Speaker 1: I mean, Like there's just a stigma and it's like

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Speaker 1: I can't talk about it. It's like uncomfortable talk about

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00:59:03,560 --> 00:59:05,320
Speaker 1: and I'm like, no, we're gonna talk about it. We'll

1108
00:59:05,320 --> 00:59:07,520
Speaker 1: talk about that on the next podcast. I can't wait.

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Speaker 1: Um okay, one more email, and then got all right

1110
00:59:11,240 --> 00:59:14,919
Speaker 1: this Erica. I matched with this guy from my town

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00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:16,920
Speaker 1: over a year ago, and I've been texting off and

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Speaker 1: on since. Last night. I got a text from him

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00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:21,640
Speaker 1: after not speaking for about a month. He asked if

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Speaker 1: I want to move to China with him because he

1115
00:59:23,560 --> 00:59:25,919
Speaker 1: plans to get a teaching job over there. He kept

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00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:27,640
Speaker 1: asking if i'd come with him. I can't. I'm in

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00:59:27,680 --> 00:59:29,360
Speaker 1: grad school and has just got a new job, because

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00:59:29,400 --> 00:59:31,680
Speaker 1: it would be fun traveling with me. He also said

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00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:33,800
Speaker 1: he'd want to travel to Ireland with me after I graduate,

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Speaker 1: two and a half years from now. He texted me, Honestly,

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00:59:36,440 --> 00:59:38,040
Speaker 1: it's hard to find that one person in your life

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00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:39,320
Speaker 1: that you're meant to be with. I don't want to

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00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:41,280
Speaker 1: miss that opportunity when it comes, and I didn't know

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Speaker 1: what to say back. It kills me because I think

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Speaker 1: he could definitely be my person, but I don't think

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Speaker 1: he'll ever give me that chance. I don't really want

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00:59:48,040 --> 00:59:49,360
Speaker 1: to cut him off, but I think I need to

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00:59:49,400 --> 00:59:51,720
Speaker 1: say something next time this comes up. He texted me

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Speaker 1: back today saying that he was drunk last night and apologized.

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00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:56,760
Speaker 1: But drunk words are sober thoughts, right, So why won't

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00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 1: he hang out with me? And what should I do

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00:59:58,360 --> 00:59:59,640
Speaker 1: to either get him to commit to me in some

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00:59:59,760 --> 01:00:02,200
Speaker 1: way or shut it down because he's being so noncommittal?

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01:00:02,240 --> 01:00:06,920
Speaker 1: Why are men like this? Mm hmm. What is that

1135
01:00:07,040 --> 01:00:12,120
Speaker 1: called wanting your cake and eating it too? Yeah? I

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01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:15,280
Speaker 1: mean I do believe I've always said drunk words or

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01:00:15,320 --> 01:00:18,920
Speaker 1: sober thoughts, But I also think you're you're just willing

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01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:21,440
Speaker 1: to say whatever when you're lonely, when you're drunk, like

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01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:24,600
Speaker 1: you're able to just say things. And I don't always

1140
01:00:24,680 --> 01:00:27,360
Speaker 1: think that people mean exactly what they say when they're drunk.

1141
01:00:27,400 --> 01:00:30,680
Speaker 1: They might be like, he is interested enough in you

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01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:33,960
Speaker 1: that he like is continued continuing to text you, But

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01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:36,520
Speaker 1: I don't think he deserves like for you to be

1144
01:00:36,720 --> 01:00:38,160
Speaker 1: torn on whether you should be with him or not

1145
01:00:38,200 --> 01:00:41,920
Speaker 1: because he's not doing anything to earn that. Yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I hate to be a day Erica. You don't deserve that.

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01:00:48,520 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 1: You don't deserve that. Yeah, you're a queen Eastern. Why

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Speaker 1: are men like this? I think it's because I mean,

1149
01:00:57,400 --> 01:01:01,680
Speaker 1: and correct me if I'm wrong. Guys are silly until

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01:01:01,760 --> 01:01:05,200
Speaker 1: they meet the one, and then they like that they're

1151
01:01:05,200 --> 01:01:08,480
Speaker 1: supposed to act right. Most most men, including myself, have

1152
01:01:08,560 --> 01:01:11,479
Speaker 1: been dragged kicking and screaming into adulthood by wonderful women

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01:01:11,520 --> 01:01:16,320
Speaker 1: in their life. This guy, um, I don't get a

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01:01:16,400 --> 01:01:18,400
Speaker 1: lot of dudes do this where they like, um, they

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01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:21,280
Speaker 1: won't like commit on a very low level, but then

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01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 1: they'll be like, oh my god, I can't wait for

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01:01:22,640 --> 01:01:24,040
Speaker 1: us to buy a house together, and like things like

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01:01:24,120 --> 01:01:26,560
Speaker 1: that that they don't actually mean. So I think if

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Speaker 1: she took him up on this offer to move to

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Speaker 1: China with him, I think he would bail at the

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Speaker 1: last second because he doesn't actually want that. I think

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01:01:33,840 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 1: she'd be stuck in China like alone exactly, something horrible

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01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:41,320
Speaker 1: would happen. And I because I think this guy likes

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01:01:41,400 --> 01:01:43,200
Speaker 1: all these ideas, but he doesn't like the reality of

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01:01:43,240 --> 01:01:44,840
Speaker 1: It's like they're just texting off and on. They're not

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Speaker 1: even like together, right, right, So cut this guy loose, Yeah,

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01:01:49,680 --> 01:01:52,400
Speaker 1: cut him loose. You need to find let him go

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01:01:52,480 --> 01:01:56,360
Speaker 1: to China, and then you you find someone who wants

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01:01:56,440 --> 01:02:00,480
Speaker 1: to go on a date with you. That's right. So

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01:02:01,240 --> 01:02:03,280
Speaker 1: do I have two things? One we will save for

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01:02:03,440 --> 01:02:05,240
Speaker 1: the podcast next week. Okay, because you brought it up

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01:02:05,240 --> 01:02:06,880
Speaker 1: to me and said you wanted to discuss it. But

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01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:09,400
Speaker 1: now I feel like we're at the end of our podcast,

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01:02:10,080 --> 01:02:12,000
Speaker 1: So let's write that down and remember to bring that

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01:02:12,080 --> 01:02:17,160
Speaker 1: up next week. Loo, can you write that down? Second

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01:02:17,200 --> 01:02:19,640
Speaker 1: thing that I thought of, I'm gonna write in my

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Speaker 1: notes this could be our Aska guy, because this is

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01:02:23,160 --> 01:02:25,480
Speaker 1: something that we both differ that like, we both kind

1179
01:02:25,480 --> 01:02:27,960
Speaker 1: of have a different opinion on I'm not big on

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01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:31,560
Speaker 1: having guys as friends because I'm like, if I like you,

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01:02:32,320 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 1: then if i'm your friend, I'm just gonna start liking

1182
01:02:34,440 --> 01:02:38,640
Speaker 1: you even more. I have recently I had um, a

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01:02:38,760 --> 01:02:41,520
Speaker 1: close friend of mine. She and the guy they were

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01:02:41,560 --> 01:02:44,920
Speaker 1: really good friends, like really really good friends guy girl friends,

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01:02:45,160 --> 01:02:47,760
Speaker 1: and they just recently made the switch into being in

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01:02:47,800 --> 01:02:50,480
Speaker 1: a relationship. And what got my eye was he posted

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01:02:50,520 --> 01:02:53,200
Speaker 1: a photo and was like, um, and they'd tell you

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01:02:53,200 --> 01:02:54,919
Speaker 1: you can't get out of the friend zone or something

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01:02:55,000 --> 01:02:57,120
Speaker 1: like that. So they like successful and they're in like

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Speaker 1: a beautiful relationship, Like there's such a strong couple, like

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01:03:00,360 --> 01:03:03,080
Speaker 1: because they have this foundation of a friendship. So might

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Speaker 1: ask a guy question, is like, how do you make

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01:03:06,360 --> 01:03:09,720
Speaker 1: that flip how do you make that switch? That's a

1194
01:03:09,760 --> 01:03:11,960
Speaker 1: good question, right, It's a good question. But I also

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01:03:12,040 --> 01:03:14,560
Speaker 1: think I don't think anyone ever expects it like I

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01:03:14,640 --> 01:03:16,360
Speaker 1: think it always you always talk to people and they're like,

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01:03:16,400 --> 01:03:19,000
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I just realized, like it was

1198
01:03:19,080 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 1: right in front of me all along, that's happened to me.

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Speaker 1: I was friends with Allison for ten years before we

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Speaker 1: started getting romantically involved. So but here's my question, how

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01:03:29,560 --> 01:03:33,040
Speaker 1: good are friends? Like? Was she the one that was

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01:03:33,120 --> 01:03:35,280
Speaker 1: like always talking asking you things like how you do?

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01:03:35,440 --> 01:03:39,360
Speaker 1: We work close? But we weren't best friends? Right, Okay,

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01:03:40,320 --> 01:03:42,160
Speaker 1: because there are some guys in my life that, like

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01:03:42,360 --> 01:03:45,200
Speaker 1: I guess I would consider friends. You don't have any

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01:03:45,320 --> 01:03:47,880
Speaker 1: best friends. No, they're not best friends by any means,

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01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:50,400
Speaker 1: but they're friends, you know. And I'm doing air quotes

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01:03:50,440 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 1: you can't see, but I could see myself potentially wanting

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01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:57,040
Speaker 1: to date them, and I'm like, how do I make

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01:03:57,120 --> 01:04:01,200
Speaker 1: that flip? Well, they have to feel it too, I mean,

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01:04:01,240 --> 01:04:06,320
Speaker 1: it's not like someone has to make the flip, I know,

1212
01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:08,240
Speaker 1: but it has to be like an underlying thing that

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01:04:08,320 --> 01:04:10,720
Speaker 1: both people are feeling. I mean, like look at Jared

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01:04:10,760 --> 01:04:14,400
Speaker 1: and Ashley for instance, Right, Ashley has always had those

1215
01:04:14,440 --> 01:04:18,120
Speaker 1: feelings for him. It was just him realizing it. So

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01:04:18,800 --> 01:04:21,120
Speaker 1: in your case, if you are interested that you could

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01:04:21,160 --> 01:04:23,440
Speaker 1: see it becoming something more, it would take him just

1218
01:04:23,560 --> 01:04:27,920
Speaker 1: realizing it, right Eastern or was how was it with

1219
01:04:27,960 --> 01:04:31,400
Speaker 1: you and now with us? Like I always felt it,

1220
01:04:31,520 --> 01:04:34,120
Speaker 1: but I had been in a similar situation a number

1221
01:04:34,160 --> 01:04:37,240
Speaker 1: of years earlier and I lost that friend forever. I

1222
01:04:37,280 --> 01:04:39,600
Speaker 1: was always afraid because I really traded Allison's friendship. She's

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01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:42,800
Speaker 1: a really incredible person. And then at one point she said, Hey,

1224
01:04:43,680 --> 01:04:46,760
Speaker 1: if like I, I have feelings for you, and so

1225
01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 1: we can't we can't like hang out as much as

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01:04:48,880 --> 01:04:50,840
Speaker 1: we do if you don't feel the same way. And

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01:04:51,040 --> 01:04:53,360
Speaker 1: I was like, I do feel the same way. So

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't want to say it took like

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01:04:54,680 --> 01:04:57,360
Speaker 1: takes like an ultimatum. I mean, I don't know how

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Speaker 1: it was Ashley and Jared exactly, but like I know,

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01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:03,920
Speaker 1: she confriended him about it to a certain extent. Well,

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Speaker 1: and she I mean, I think he realized that he

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01:05:06,480 --> 01:05:11,120
Speaker 1: could lose her when she went on It was almost like,

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01:05:11,200 --> 01:05:14,240
Speaker 1: oh no, like I can't just sit around and watch. Yeah,

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01:05:14,920 --> 01:05:16,440
Speaker 1: that's what happened with Alison too. And she went on

1236
01:05:16,520 --> 01:05:20,720
Speaker 1: win her games. I really like, that's your friend, your

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01:05:20,720 --> 01:05:29,080
Speaker 1: spin off. That's the most like effective way of doing it. Perfect.

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01:05:30,280 --> 01:05:32,960
Speaker 1: That's a good question. I like that ask a guy, right,

1239
01:05:33,840 --> 01:05:36,040
Speaker 1: because then it's like I also I struggle with it

1240
01:05:36,080 --> 01:05:40,439
Speaker 1: because I'm like, if I'm just their friend, how often

1241
01:05:40,480 --> 01:05:42,120
Speaker 1: do I talk to them? Or you know what I mean?

1242
01:05:42,160 --> 01:05:44,280
Speaker 1: Like these friends don't necessarily live in l A. So

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01:05:44,480 --> 01:05:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, do why I just keep reaching like I

1244
01:05:47,240 --> 01:05:48,320
Speaker 1: don't know. Do you know what I mean? Like it's

1245
01:05:48,320 --> 01:05:51,560
Speaker 1: like I don't know how to play it? Yeah? Do

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01:05:51,680 --> 01:05:54,120
Speaker 1: you like that question? Good? I think a lot of

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01:05:54,120 --> 01:05:55,440
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people could be in that

1248
01:05:55,520 --> 01:05:57,640
Speaker 1: situation where they have feelings for a friend who don't

1249
01:05:57,680 --> 01:05:59,720
Speaker 1: know what to do about it. Yeah, like how close

1250
01:05:59,760 --> 01:06:02,560
Speaker 1: to be or how how close to be? At what

1251
01:06:02,720 --> 01:06:05,240
Speaker 1: point do you say something? Or at what point do

1252
01:06:05,320 --> 01:06:07,840
Speaker 1: you walk away and realize that it's not going to happen.

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01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:09,640
Speaker 1: I guess we could ask the guys like, do you

1254
01:06:09,760 --> 01:06:11,800
Speaker 1: have any friend girls that are friends and you're like

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01:06:11,880 --> 01:06:16,640
Speaker 1: that you would potentially see as more? And what would

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01:06:16,640 --> 01:06:18,280
Speaker 1: it take for you to make that switch? Or why

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01:06:18,360 --> 01:06:21,000
Speaker 1: not explore that we get behind the nitty gritty of it.

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Speaker 1: That's good. This is good. I like that. Um. I

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Speaker 1: And I want to give a shout out. Um. One

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Speaker 1: of my sorority sisters, Stephanie, listens to our podcast when

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Speaker 1: she is folding her laundry. I had no idea. I

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Speaker 1: haven't really like spoken to her since we graduated from college.

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Speaker 1: Where she texted me last week and was like, I

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Speaker 1: listened to the podcast while I'm doing laundry. I'm so

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Speaker 1: proud of you. Yeah. It was like just so so sweet.

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Speaker 1: Ioneed to give her Stephanie Nichols. That's what she used

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Speaker 1: to me. Now she's married. Stephanie Peterson. Shout out to Steph.

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Speaker 1: If you guys have something you want to ask us,

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Speaker 1: you don't have to go to Facebook group, go ahead

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Speaker 1: and send an email. It's scrubbing in at iHeart media

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Speaker 1: dot com. That's right. I'm gonna make a note in

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Speaker 1: my notes page of things we're going to talk about

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Speaker 1: next week alright, So they like these teasers too, What

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Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about next week? So Becca's story? Becca story?

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Speaker 1: What do I put in quotes so that you'll remember? Uh?

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Speaker 1: Just like Instagram post, Instagram post? Okay? Um or ask

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Speaker 1: a guy? Is um friend zoned? End zone? Good one?

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Speaker 1: Thank you. So we have to find some guys for that,

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Speaker 1: aside from our Eastern and Mark who are like guys,

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Speaker 1: but especially there people. But I think it's different because

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Speaker 1: they're married, and I think a lot of these questions

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Speaker 1: are like for guys going through this, like with all

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Speaker 1: this dating app and all this stuff. It's unfortunately very

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Speaker 1: different totally. We don't have the guys like Eastern and

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Speaker 1: Marca or define diamonds in the rough. Okay, So those

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Speaker 1: two things is that it? Yeah, for now we'll add um.

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Speaker 1: Thank you all for listening. We love you so much.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for the sounders. Oh yeah, and the sounders. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that was loud Um getting excited camping all right, And

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Speaker 1: on that note, we're gonna call time of Death time

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Speaker 1: of Death. I'm really excited there, huh. I just don't

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Speaker 1: want it to end. I know, you're just like time

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Speaker 1: of Death. I'm like, okay,