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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's my tape.

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Speaker 2: Man, listen to my tape.

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Speaker 3: If I was your best friend, I want you. I

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Speaker 3: want you around me home till I'd be your best friend.

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Speaker 4: If you'll promise you'll be my girl, Promise.

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Speaker 3: You'll be my He said, he's just a fresh uh huh, now, girl,

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Speaker 3: that's up potential. Come on, man, he said, he's just

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Speaker 3: a friend. If I's your rest friend, I want you.

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Speaker 5: What's up?

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Speaker 6: Nice?

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Speaker 7: Okay, this is good Mom's bout choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 7: I'm FeelA, and what's up? What up?

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Speaker 5: What up? Happy Wednesday? Happy home Day? How was your weekend?

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Speaker 5: We had a really big weekend. It was the Good

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Speaker 5: Mom's Brunch. Shout out to everybody who came out.

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Speaker 8: It was super super fun and it was so cool

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Speaker 8: meeting everybody and brunching and chilling and all.

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Speaker 5: The babies, all the cute babies. It was. It was

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Speaker 5: much more than I expected. Yeah, I was so happy

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Speaker 5: to like connect with some of you guys that came out.

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Speaker 5: And yeah, the babies were super cute. I don't think

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Speaker 5: else read. Thank god we had that back room, that

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Speaker 5: back area, because our children, all these children are running

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Speaker 5: around acting a fool I'm pretty sure Altrida blacklisted us.

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Speaker 8: We're never gonna be able to hold any kind of

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Speaker 8: function in the fucking Alterido again.

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Speaker 5: But the brunch was bombed. The brunch was bomb and

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Speaker 5: the kids had fun. There was like four tantrums, which

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Speaker 5: I thought was great. That's true, that's average. I was

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Speaker 5: totally blocking.

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Speaker 7: Out, I know some of the One of the moms

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Speaker 7: came she came up to me.

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Speaker 5: She was like, I'm so sorry, and I was like what, Oh, like,

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Speaker 5: this is parenthood, this is parent life. Also. Oh, also,

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Speaker 5: my episode of Insecure came out on Sunday, so that

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Speaker 5: was really dope. My homegirl Ashley shout out to Ashley Runway.

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Speaker 5: She let us use hers theater and we all got

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Speaker 5: in there and watched the episode, which was fucking hilarious.

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Speaker 5: My boy Prentice Penny wrote the executive producer of Insecure,

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Speaker 5: and he also wrote that episode. That ship was and

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Speaker 5: I'm not I don't think it was funny because I

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Speaker 5: was in it, Like that ship was fucking funny. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: it was such a good episode. So if you haven't

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Speaker 5: caught up on Insecure, definitely definitely recommend.

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Speaker 8: Catch up and catch Eric cat Bible Bay Bible study bab,

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Speaker 8: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Bible study Bay, Bible Bay, Church Bay. Let me lead

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Speaker 5: you to the light, Bay, I don't know. I would

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Speaker 5: prefer to just be on season four, That's what I

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Speaker 5: would prefer, Okay, But anyway, No, it was such a

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Speaker 5: good day.

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Speaker 7: I just felt like that was such a I was.

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Speaker 5: So tired from the brunch and then that, but I

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Speaker 5: just felt so grateful all day, like the love that

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Speaker 5: like we received and the love that like you guys

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Speaker 5: showed me later on, Like I just appreciate all you

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Speaker 5: guys that just came out. So looking forward to our

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Speaker 5: next good Mom's meetup, We're definitely going to plan a

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Speaker 5: kid free meetup, probably a happy hour or something where

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Speaker 5: we can have cocktails, talk about our really talk about

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Speaker 5: our glories. Because I thought we were going to do

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Speaker 5: that at this brunch. There was no There was no

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Speaker 5: there was no fucking way. There was no fucking way.

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Speaker 5: But anyway, we have a special guest today, my good

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Speaker 5: friend London Brown, comedian, actor, overall funny man, black activist.

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Speaker 5: If you don't know who London is, London he's in

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Speaker 5: the comedy circuit Heavy, heavy, heavy, hilarious. Also he's on

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Speaker 5: Ballers if you like ballers, Uh, check him out on

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Speaker 5: their Jesus Yeah, London.

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Speaker 4: Hey, what's happening here? Dog going it?

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Speaker 5: We're happy to have you. No, thank you, Yeah, we

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Speaker 5: we you're what our third male guest?

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Speaker 8: Third?

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Speaker 5: Second? Single? Mail? Second? Wait? Who's our Wait? Who's man? Man?

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Speaker 5: And that?

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Speaker 7: You know Van Linked?

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Speaker 5: You know, I know who? You know? We had him

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Speaker 5: on our show. He was ready and then we had

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Speaker 5: our couple, our porn couples. Do you have cans?

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Speaker 7: Do your dad?

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Speaker 4: I'm not a dad yet?

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Speaker 5: A single?

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Speaker 4: Sure?

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Speaker 7: Right now you can pleade the physio.

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Speaker 5: Wait, so are you.

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Speaker 7: Single or not?

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Speaker 4: I'm not in relationship.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I'm not in a relationship works working first, but

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Speaker 4: Thing I'll be.

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Speaker 9: I mean, once I get It's like it's hard by myself.

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Speaker 9: So like I'm trying to really think about a full

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Speaker 9: a full blown relationship. That means I gotta I have to.

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Speaker 4: Go to the movies.

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Speaker 8: Yes, you don't have to, don't you like one of

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Speaker 4: Yeah? But not over work.

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Speaker 9: I like work, I know that's not I mean I

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Speaker 9: nothing to do it and I've done that before. Where

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Speaker 9: I say, you know what, well do a club. I said,

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Speaker 9: you know what, she wouldn't go to the movies and

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Speaker 9: go to the movies. Then I go to the movies,

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Speaker 4: the club.

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Speaker 7: Then I feel then, so you're a workaholic basically.

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Speaker 4: I guess I don't know if that's what you call it.

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Speaker 9: I just like working, But I don't know if that's

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Speaker 8: Maybe so No, I think there's a time for everything.

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Speaker 8: If it's just you feel your time to focus on work,

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Speaker 8: that's what you should do. You're being honest and saying

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Speaker 8: I don't have time. Yeah, just entertain you and your

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Speaker 4: It's just sometimes I just don't like the idea of

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Speaker 9: Like, when you're in a relationship, you have that's part

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Speaker 9: make some time something.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Sometime you feel like that any people telling you what

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Speaker 5: to do. Yeah, it's annoying. I feel you. I mean,

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Speaker 5: you do. You're in a relationship, you have to account

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Speaker 5: for people's feelings to check in, but get phone din

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Speaker 5: but why you know, like because it dies? Oh my god,

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Speaker 5: I know we have some card events to talk about.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, Kanye. Kanye's right.

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Speaker 10: Well, I saw some of the rants, but I was

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Speaker 7: Just one or no, it was a three fourth series.

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Speaker 5: I was confused about what was said. What did Nick

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Speaker 7: Right?

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Speaker 5: Nick says this fucking this up. You know, he was

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Speaker 7: We don't need to go there because it seemed real personal.

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Speaker 5: And so Nick was kind of like speculating. He alluded

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Speaker 7: Well, Nick Cannon did date Kim Kardashian.

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Speaker 7: You said someone else? A Drake dressed Drake.

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Speaker 7: You know, I'm not saying like it's not true, but

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Speaker 5: Why? Why I even entertain it? What do you mean

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Speaker 5: an obligation to protect. To protect your wife, buddy, your

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Speaker 5: and she gets her feelings hurt. But at the same time,

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Speaker 5: multiple people like which all we all have. But publicly

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Speaker 5: did you see Kanye's right? Yeah, but he say, oh,

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Speaker 5: he was like, don't talk about my wife.

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Speaker 9: It's like the fact that she's googleble and in all

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Speaker 9: the her.

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Speaker 4: Escapades he married into that. You want somebody low key,

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Speaker 4: I should marry low key otherwise.

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Speaker 10: You got the most high key bitch of all time.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, so you as a man, don't feel like he should,

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Speaker 5: Some some sort of right to be like, don't speak

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Speaker 5: feel like that's what men say all the time. Don't

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Speaker 5: speak on my wife, don't speak on my family. You know,

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Speaker 5: that's like that thing. So he's you know, she's.

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Speaker 4: Peaks on her.

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Speaker 9: I'm saying she's already she was already that before he

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Speaker 9: with that kind of attention, oh man.

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Speaker 4: The fact that she had a sex tape that you

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Speaker 4: can just you can google and pull up.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you're on the front.

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Speaker 7: Cool.

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Speaker 5: You couldn't do it. I couldn't, no matter how how

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Speaker 5: in love you were with this fine she was how

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Speaker 5: much money and sweet?

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Speaker 9: The fact that I'm way too little for that, The

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Speaker 9: fact that she was that comfortable, and that it was

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Speaker 9: all the fake of because all guys know that the

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Speaker 9: woman possibly have been with somebody else before them.

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Speaker 5: Not know want to live in the world.

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Speaker 9: All I'm saying is that there are some guys who

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Speaker 9: deal with virgins and they've been dealing with that kind

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Speaker 9: of thing.

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Speaker 4: I'm not good.

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Speaker 9: We can't say that all women have been with all guys.

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Speaker 9: There are still some versions out there.

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Speaker 4: Now where you don't think there's any versions left that.

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Speaker 9: Good that we can't say that there are a lot.

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Speaker 4: Okay, I say a lot.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, it takes a certain It does take a certain

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Speaker 5: He likes that fact that men want to fuck his wife.

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Speaker 10: Want to fuck your wife she's a sex.

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Speaker 5: No, I will, I mean just act like more like

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Speaker 6: I don't like people who like like black people who

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Speaker 5: And that's what I like. Yeah, Niko is kind of

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Speaker 4: On m all right.

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Speaker 7: So as a black man hearing that.

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Speaker 5: Those women talk about you know, black men like that,

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Speaker 9: That's those kind of white girls called rape?

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Speaker 4: God, this white girls are crazy. Wow, you gotta watch.

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Speaker 9: They got that tone, man, I don't know what that is,

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Speaker 7: The guy, fetishizing.

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Speaker 9: It's not even if they're not even connected or he

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Speaker 7: The black experience.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's why that's scared because yeah, because.

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Speaker 8: You meant when you said you said because you said stereotypical.

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Speaker 7: You know, I like like a thug, tall.

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Speaker 4: What was tennis? It's the experience because at the end

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Speaker 9: Men, we just have a different it's just a different

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Speaker 9: White guys are just white guys can take them scuba

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Speaker 7: Other things that we can do.

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Speaker 9: We can do those kinds of things, but when it

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Speaker 7: Don't put it down.

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Speaker 9: If listen, black guys, but black people, wea can dance

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Speaker 9: on beat people right, just like.

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Speaker 5: We have I can't. I can't.

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Speaker 7: I'm black and I can't dance on beat. No.

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Speaker 5: I can shake my ass and don't ask me to

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Speaker 7: We have an air about us, We have a confidence.

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Speaker 8: We have a genestic qua like there is something about

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Speaker 8: They think they even think that looks like which is

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Speaker 5: How in the fuck did they think they could say this, Like,

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Speaker 13: Out loud, out the one they don't think about press

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Speaker 9: Air that that a lot of people, a lot of

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Speaker 4: They cut in front of you, they have some gum

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Speaker 9: It's the same thing that allows that makes them feel

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Speaker 4: That's us in the same it's in the same little

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Speaker 8: Just that Yeah, it's just like listen, I fucked black

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Speaker 10: This is my second one second one, I mean.

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Speaker 5: Even like your second well, I'm at the Rodeo life

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Speaker 7: And you know, I'm just shocked that.

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Speaker 5: They have to be, but there's no I don't think

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Speaker 5: you canceled, Like that is out of control.

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Speaker 9: But that's part of this not to control. That's part

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Speaker 9: I'm like, no, they have they can get away with things.

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Speaker 4: We just can't get away with it's just not I mean,

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Speaker 5: He gets paid leave.

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Speaker 9: He had eyebro would have been living longer. You know that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that they didn't feel anything.

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Speaker 8: It was just and and I don't care how the

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Speaker 7: They learn What they learned was to not say that ship.

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Speaker 8: On the podcast, she says it in the podcast, everyone's

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Speaker 8: gonna write us what did black people?

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Speaker 5: And they still press up a load like which you knew.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, And that's why even when I date white guys,

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Speaker 5: But I think a lot of times people's racism usually

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Speaker 7: But I think a lot of racism really comes.

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Speaker 5: Out when people get angry, you know, or they get irritated,

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Speaker 4: What you're saying.

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Speaker 9: Racism, definitely, racism comes out when the white privilege is ineffective.

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Speaker 4: So if you ever want see.

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Speaker 9: Racism, just put a white person in the corner of

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Speaker 9: where the white privilege does not work, you'll get the

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Speaker 9: insults you'll get they'll get loud, they'll turn around, they

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Speaker 5: It's like a seven step.

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Speaker 9: Insults will come at you, and then after that they

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Speaker 9: with what.

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Speaker 4: Are you talking about.

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Speaker 9: There's a whole little thing that I know because I

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Speaker 9: deal with this all the time on Instagram and I'll

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Speaker 9: say something, I say, Yo, things are unfair in America

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Speaker 9: in the fact. Go to the facts, not emotional, not

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00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:07,320
Speaker 9: about hating white people anything like that, just some simple

444
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 9: facts that.

445
00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:12,439
Speaker 4: Stayed like yo, that was wild. It didn't feel anything

446
00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:13,439
Speaker 4: it was just it was.

447
00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 5: Like, you know, that's why I heard it's not like.

448
00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 8: Poor guy to man, I'm sorry, and you know, and

449
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 8: this is a warning for black men and not to

450
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 8: say don't date out of your race.

451
00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:30,800
Speaker 7: I like people I dated out of my race.

452
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 8: But you have to, you guys, to be more careful,

453
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:39,160
Speaker 8: you know, because that's what I always think, like, who

454
00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:41,040
Speaker 8: are you dating? You have to really know because when

455
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,720
Speaker 8: some ship pops off, they're going to show their true

456
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 8: colors and you're gonna have to be held accountable for

457
00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:51,720
Speaker 8: who you lay down with, you know, right, anyway, thank you.

458
00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,719
Speaker 5: Anyway, they need to get they need they need to

459
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:57,000
Speaker 5: be out.

460
00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:58,639
Speaker 7: They're canceled for me.

461
00:22:59,119 --> 00:23:00,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, I don't know.

462
00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 10: I tried to listen to them too, and it's just

463
00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 10: a lot of that.

464
00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:05,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, it's a lot of that, not even

465
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:07,560
Speaker 5: just racism, just a lot of the way they just

466
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 5: the way they talk about shit just sounds just.

467
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 7: Like just like that stupid.

468
00:23:14,359 --> 00:23:14,719
Speaker 5: Anyway.

469
00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:18,400
Speaker 7: Oh my gosh, speaking of race and.

470
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:24,280
Speaker 5: Black bodies, what was that story you're telling you about

471
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 5: the Princess the wrecket Ralph?

472
00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 8: Okay, so I guess there's a Disney movie coming out

473
00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:33,400
Speaker 8: called bracket Ralph and there's like a collaboration of all

474
00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:36,720
Speaker 8: the past Disney princesses. They're going to make an appearance

475
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:41,639
Speaker 8: in this Disney movie. But apparently they just released some

476
00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:45,120
Speaker 8: photographs with the princesses, and Tianna looks the black princess

477
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,040
Speaker 8: from Princess and the Frog, the only one there is.

478
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 10: It looks different. She's like lighter.

479
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:55,520
Speaker 5: I think she went through a Snapchat film.

480
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:57,960
Speaker 8: Yeah, she went through Snapchat fist, so she highlights and shit,

481
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:00,639
Speaker 8: her hair is a little less keen, Your lips are

482
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 8: a lot less full. And so I guess there is

483
00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 8: an uproar from the people that what the fuck happened

484
00:24:05,960 --> 00:24:06,639
Speaker 8: to Tianica.

485
00:24:06,840 --> 00:24:07,879
Speaker 5: That's not what she looked like.

486
00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:10,640
Speaker 7: And apparently the woman.

487
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 10: Who plays her, yeah, said she noticed it, and she.

488
00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:20,399
Speaker 8: Went to talk discussed it, and there was a meeting

489
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:26,160
Speaker 8: and apparently the c g I c CGI technology, it's

490
00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:29,680
Speaker 8: very difficult to uh match the tones and make the

491
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 8: mis rich as the original animation. And I said, bitch,

492
00:24:34,280 --> 00:24:37,000
Speaker 8: I saw my wana. Okay, the water looks like real

493
00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:40,520
Speaker 8: wet water. The hair was shiny. Shit, there's nothing you can't.

494
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:44,399
Speaker 5: Do on c So you're lying, no, Yeah, I just

495
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:46,439
Speaker 5: don't know how people are still doing this in the

496
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:47,159
Speaker 5: times that we are.

497
00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:48,880
Speaker 7: I mean, I know how they are, but it's just like.

498
00:24:50,040 --> 00:24:53,640
Speaker 5: Maybe maybe it's not that that whole idea that bad

499
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:56,359
Speaker 5: press is good press still like it still works for

500
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 5: they don't need press, but but you know, like everybody

501
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:00,720
Speaker 5: needs a boost.

502
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:04,640
Speaker 8: Everybody wants an extra boost, so let's let's lighten her up.

503
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,240
Speaker 7: Get the people's I don't know. I'm just trying to understand.

504
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:07,880
Speaker 5: I can't.

505
00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 7: I don't understand how. I don't like this happened.

506
00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,840
Speaker 8: I'm not saying that's not impossible, but I just say,

507
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:14,280
Speaker 8: they don't give a fuck, and I think this is

508
00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:16,000
Speaker 8: prettier and this is what they're doing, and they're like,

509
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 8: all right, no one's even noticing.

510
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 4: It's just it's just good old racism. It's just alive

511
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:22,280
Speaker 4: and well it's.

512
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 9: It's just one of those things where people, you know,

513
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 9: there are a lot of like we know that, for example,

514
00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:34,840
Speaker 9: we still celebrate Columbus Day as if he discovered America,

515
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 9: but other people already here, they know that it's all

516
00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 9: written in the books.

517
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:39,680
Speaker 4: Everyone knows the truth.

518
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 5: But it's he came and saved them.

519
00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:45,200
Speaker 8: Yeah, we're still celebratings and then murdered all their dom

520
00:25:45,720 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 8: celebrating Thanksgiving, and it really comes back to the same thing,

521
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 8: like it was a mass genocide.

522
00:25:51,160 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 5: And we're like together.

523
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 4: I mean, we got a president in there.

524
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:58,680
Speaker 9: We talked about touching women inappropriately, and people are like, well,

525
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 9: that's what money, that's what white privilege is. It allows

526
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:04,480
Speaker 9: all these things to just happen. We were like, Yo,

527
00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 9: that ain't I mean, some stuff is like we're really

528
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,200
Speaker 9: like yo, that's not right, and everywhere we're.

529
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 4: Not it's not right. But it still goes like I was,

530
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:15,400
Speaker 4: I was Trump the president.

531
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 9: We we I mean, he wasn't even kind of like

532
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,480
Speaker 9: kind of slide like. Man, sometimes after a couple of

533
00:26:22,520 --> 00:26:25,679
Speaker 9: drinks we eat, you know, I might get a little frisky.

534
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 9: He was not eating, played with the words.

535
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:30,400
Speaker 4: He was like, Yo, this is what I do.

536
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:35,919
Speaker 7: And he's still in there, little hands he grabbed.

537
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:37,360
Speaker 5: Yeah.

538
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:38,800
Speaker 7: No, it's insane.

539
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 5: It's insane. There's no way a black president could have

540
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 5: ever said those words and be the president. No way, none, period.

541
00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:48,840
Speaker 5: But I wonder if Justny's gonna update their c G.

542
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 7: I self, no, girl, the whole movie is already made.

543
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, so they made it with a more lighter person

544
00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:00,240
Speaker 4: woman than the show.

545
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:03,880
Speaker 5: You did a shade they like, they slim down her nose.

546
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:08,480
Speaker 5: They made her hair like golden like Princess Siana is

547
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 5: like a chocolate beautiful princess.

548
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 7: She has like she looks like the woman.

549
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 5: Who plays her.

550
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 7: Yeah, she looks like any good Nami Rose.

551
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 5: Yeah.

552
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:16,439
Speaker 4: Oh so they altered the real person.

553
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 5: No, no, so this is original princess and this is

554
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:21,119
Speaker 5: the new princess.

555
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:27,200
Speaker 4: With the likeness of a Starbucks come.

556
00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 8: Too, well, the must the new movie it is, it says,

557
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:32,199
Speaker 8: But it's Disney instead.

558
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,880
Speaker 4: That's interesting here, right, Oh yeah, they went there.

559
00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 5: The new princess looks like me. She's lights she made

560
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 5: her They made her light skin with like loose curls.

561
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 8: And her nose is like is less round and why

562
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 8: and her lips are looks a little mouth.

563
00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 5: I don't my god, her lips are so small and

564
00:27:49,119 --> 00:27:49,960
Speaker 5: her nose are smaller.

565
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:51,840
Speaker 7: This one looks like the actress.

566
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's right.

567
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 4: They went there.

568
00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 5: Yeah, there's just one of the son of a gun.

569
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:04,000
Speaker 5: You know, they took the X out. Pocahonta, says the

570
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 5: Disney princess.

571
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:09,119
Speaker 8: I read that in the comments because technically she was

572
00:28:09,119 --> 00:28:11,400
Speaker 8: the chief's daughter, which is an equivalent.

573
00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 5: She's the princess of the tribe, right, you had us

574
00:28:14,600 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 5: to live in the fucking kingdom. Yeah yeah, so I

575
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 5: didn't realize that.

576
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 8: But now that they think about all the princess fucking

577
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 8: Disney experiences I've been to.

578
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 7: She's actually one of my favorite princesses.

579
00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 8: They don't have the costume, Like you know, when we

580
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 8: go to the fucking Disney stories, I get all the

581
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 8: princess outfits.

582
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:29,399
Speaker 7: They don't have that one, even if.

583
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:29,800
Speaker 5: They used to.

584
00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:33,280
Speaker 7: Yeah, she's like, she's done. They're done with her. I

585
00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:35,159
Speaker 7: don't know, they're like, oh, it reminds them too much

586
00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:35,639
Speaker 7: of history.

587
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 8: Oh yeah, like oh yeah, maybe we shouldn't remind them

588
00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 8: of the truth in any capacity, even if it's still.

589
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:44,240
Speaker 7: Last Oh my gosh.

590
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 5: Anyway, Disney doesn't care about blood people.

591
00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 7: What about oh that the drama with Cat.

592
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 5: I want to get your perspective on this with Kat

593
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 5: and tik me Hattish this drama with Kat saying what

594
00:28:57,080 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 5: did you say? He basically said that she doesn't deserve No,

595
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:00,520
Speaker 5: I don't.

596
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 7: Think she said that.

597
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:04,040
Speaker 8: I think he said she we need to see if

598
00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 8: she can carry a special when she gets a special

599
00:29:07,360 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 8: by herself, then we'll know she's talented enough.

600
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 4: I think it was. I mean he said a couple

601
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 4: of things.

602
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:18,240
Speaker 9: Yeah, I think well, first off, the Tiffany had I

603
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,960
Speaker 9: just saw her the other night. She's doing well and

604
00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 9: all that good stuff. I think that, like, well, a

605
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:28,640
Speaker 9: couple of things to debunk. One Tiffany had his desk

606
00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:31,760
Speaker 9: have a special. Yeah, in fact, she shot at least

607
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 9: the first one in LA so she can do it,

608
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 9: do the time in the hour plus whatever.

609
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 4: And then I think she got another one. But Cat,

610
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 4: you know again.

611
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:47,680
Speaker 9: Him mentioned I think Kim said the best word.

612
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 4: He said, Yo. Cat Williams could have set up his

613
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,400
Speaker 4: team too.

614
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 8: Over there, and he has his secret the secret camera

615
00:29:58,040 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 8: with the dark standing on it.

616
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:05,920
Speaker 7: Sorry, he's like live. Yeah, he's like Instagram Live, only

617
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 7: for his face.

618
00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:08,520
Speaker 4: I don't know where to put it in.

619
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:10,960
Speaker 5: I'm like, what did you doing over here?

620
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:12,080
Speaker 9: No?

621
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 4: I think Kevin. Kevin made a great point.

622
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 9: He closed it up very well, which was with every

623
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 9: opportunities that Cat feels the women around him didn't get

624
00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 9: a chance to get that Tiffany has gotten. He could

625
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 9: have done that for his team, all the women that

626
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 9: came up under him.

627
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 5: Uh, you're like, what is he doing to them?

628
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:32,760
Speaker 4: Because give him on the roll and that's cool.

629
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,240
Speaker 9: But as far as Kat was that guy at one

630
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:38,440
Speaker 9: point where he he had this using position to get

631
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:41,080
Speaker 9: the spot m and if he didn't move on it

632
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 9: because he wanted to do some other things, that's cool.

633
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 4: But you gotta deal with what your choices are.

634
00:30:46,360 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 5: I mean, you're absolutely right, but I just love Kat

635
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 5: so much.

636
00:30:49,040 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 4: We still like it like Can is too.

637
00:30:51,080 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 10: He's still I know, he's just crazy. He'd just be

638
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 10: saying ship.

639
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 7: And it was like crazy uncle.

640
00:30:57,840 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 5: He is that crazy.

641
00:30:58,880 --> 00:31:00,960
Speaker 8: Uncle who can't get off that stuff, and you wish

642
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 8: he would get because I know he has good intentions

643
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 8: and he'd just be saying, you're doing stupid ship.

644
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 5: But I don't know if his intentions are good really.

645
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 5: You know what I special that I think he was hated.

646
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,600
Speaker 9: He could have think he should have just said this

647
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 9: all the ones up under him. He could have set

648
00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 9: him up to really be their careers to more so.

649
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 4: But it's hard also be considered.

650
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 9: You know, if he's not always solid, silid because of

651
00:31:28,160 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 9: let's say drugs and jails and fights, then that those

652
00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 9: actions affect everybody is abunder Yeah.

653
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 8: Yeah, he has to take accountability for his lack of

654
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:38,560
Speaker 8: because of his own.

655
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:42,480
Speaker 5: Well he represents, he's representing the people that he's going

656
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 5: to bring. So if he's going to jail and doing

657
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 5: drugs and peop, weren't to assume that the people he's

658
00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 5: bringing sh too, you know what I mean? Yeah, So

659
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 5: I don't know.

660
00:31:52,840 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 8: He like adopted like seven kids that weren't his from

661
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 8: his like his one son's mom or something like she

662
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:01,880
Speaker 8: has other children and took them all in.

663
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 10: And ever since I heard that, I was like, oh

664
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 10: my god.

665
00:32:04,280 --> 00:32:05,040
Speaker 5: It's such.

666
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 4: There's some good.

667
00:32:07,520 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 9: I mean, there's some stuff there, but we have to

668
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 9: mend it to like the feeling that you may have

669
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 9: seeing someone pass you that you maybe once was in

670
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 9: front of.

671
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:20,920
Speaker 4: It's all that. You gotta be comfortable. You gotta be

672
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:22,840
Speaker 4: comfortable with that, you know, this isue.

673
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 5: You got to be comfortable knowing that you're not always

674
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 5: going to be number one all.

675
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 7: The time forever.

676
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 8: And I just feel like, as black comedians, there's a

677
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:30,760
Speaker 8: it's a small lane, and if you all could be there,

678
00:32:30,920 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 8: the more the fucking maryer, Like, why we gotta there's

679
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:34,440
Speaker 8: enough firm for everybody.

680
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:35,040
Speaker 7: We could all win.

681
00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 5: We could all be here and be successful and that's good,

682
00:32:38,800 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 5: but they want to like, you know, there's definitely is

683
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:45,360
Speaker 5: like you know, it's kind of like it's I almost

684
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,600
Speaker 5: equate it to like female hip hop, female hip hop,

685
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 5: like there's always only one, Like there's usually one big one,

686
00:32:51,760 --> 00:32:53,720
Speaker 5: like there's all there's other ones that are like one

687
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:56,600
Speaker 5: step down a little bit and in people's minds, you know,

688
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 5: what I mean might not be true, but that's how

689
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,959
Speaker 5: people view it. Like it's like right, like it's Nicki Minaj,

690
00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 5: she's the queen, and then like now Cardi's coming up.

691
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 7: Now Nikki's feeling threatened.

692
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 5: It's like that, and I feel like I could totally

693
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:09,480
Speaker 5: be wrong, but I feel like in the comedy scene,

694
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 5: especially for me, but why Definitely male life, it's always

695
00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 5: like one big one, Like Kevin Hart is a personal.

696
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 8: Now black comedian because there's a lot of big white

697
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:19,840
Speaker 8: men's black comedian.

698
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 5: Most female rappers are black. Yeah, yeah, you can change

699
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 5: or rapper anyway, but wouldn't you say that's true? And

700
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:32,160
Speaker 5: it's like Hollywood makes it seem like there's only space

701
00:33:32,200 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 5: for one Kevin Hart at that level.

702
00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 7: That's what everyone else is like.

703
00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:38,960
Speaker 9: There's definitely a thing in part of that I'm telling

704
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 9: that's why a lot of red issues all like.

705
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:49,240
Speaker 4: The issues of black people's, the problem with the root causes.

706
00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:50,120
Speaker 4: The black people's.

707
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 9: Issues all go back to slavery, which whatever the case is,

708
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:54,760
Speaker 9: I can trace it back.

709
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 4: Factually.

710
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 9: The thing is the fact that we are even what

711
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 9: they call the crabs in the bucket. We got to

712
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 9: go back to you know, the house, nigga field, nigga stuff,

713
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 9: all these petty differences that they use to keep the divided,

714
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:11,560
Speaker 9: you know, divide and conquer, separating rule, all those kinds

715
00:34:11,600 --> 00:34:14,880
Speaker 9: of things. Is as long as we keep fighting with

716
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:19,360
Speaker 9: each other, then we will never unite and really you know,

717
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:24,480
Speaker 9: go against those who are pressing us in the industry whatever.

718
00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:26,080
Speaker 4: It is, so they keep us, they keep us divided

719
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:27,160
Speaker 4: with petty differences.

720
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 9: Letting one of us in at a time, and the

721
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:32,480
Speaker 9: comedy thing and he's the star. White commers don't go

722
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 9: through that. It's a totally different thing, but they all

723
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:39,759
Speaker 9: connected it totally different. So it's unfortunate because so many

724
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:44,319
Speaker 9: talented black comments. But longst we fighting, you know, silliness,

725
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 9: we can't come together and say, yo, let's build and

726
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 9: build our own you know, That's why.

727
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:49,959
Speaker 4: That's what made it so funny.

728
00:34:50,000 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 9: Even with the Oscars, we were fussing about not getting

729
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 9: nominated or not winning any awards, but it's like, why

730
00:34:59,120 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 9: we're fighting. We're finding to be invited to a table

731
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 9: that they don't want us there anyway. So right, it's like, Yo,

732
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,600
Speaker 9: we got to know, Okay, let's take the to take

733
00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:11,400
Speaker 9: the Kanye.

734
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:14,320
Speaker 5: So what you're saying, like, start your own award show.

735
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,040
Speaker 9: Whatever it is, I mean, just just being able to

736
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 9: be accepted or be comfortable with our own thing in

737
00:35:19,960 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 9: the sense of like Kanye was mad about Nike and

738
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:26,200
Speaker 9: how they did him because they took his ideas and

739
00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:27,760
Speaker 9: they want to payform and they said.

740
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:28,520
Speaker 4: Yo, we got your ideas.

741
00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 9: We left just your ideas are great, but you we

742
00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:34,440
Speaker 9: don't need You're Kanye West. Kanye West can have his

743
00:35:34,560 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 9: cousin made some shoes. They gonna sail through the room

744
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,920
Speaker 9: because he already has a major, major brand. But we're

745
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:41,719
Speaker 9: still fighting for acceptance.

746
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:44,880
Speaker 7: Instead of fight for white infrastructure.

747
00:35:45,040 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 9: Other reasons, don't practice that the Asians are not Asian

748
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:52,719
Speaker 9: education is not based on trying to become good so

749
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:56,040
Speaker 9: you work for somebody else. It's about power and control

750
00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 9: and then they'll do for yourself. American school systems are

751
00:35:58,680 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 9: not designed that way, especially for us. We have to

752
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,719
Speaker 9: you know, we've talked to go into this gauntlet of

753
00:36:06,080 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 9: working for others and whatever their rules are is the

754
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 9: acceptance of life and society where I'm like, yo, you know,

755
00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:15,439
Speaker 9: but that's.

756
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 4: Because we don't have any vality in ourselves. Though.

757
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,800
Speaker 9: We don't best in ourselves because we don't we don't

758
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 9: like who we are. Otherwise we would be like, if

759
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:24,879
Speaker 9: we really like ourself, we be like, Okay, we'll get

760
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:25,280
Speaker 9: on oscars.

761
00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 4: Okay, we gonna get the Tyrone's.

762
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:36,080
Speaker 9: We're gonna tyrone. We have more talent parents setting up studios,

763
00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:37,680
Speaker 9: but we're so busy trying to.

764
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 4: We don't like ourselves, not that much.

765
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:42,280
Speaker 5: But we haven't really been conditioned and talk tofe ourselves.

766
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 8: We've been taught from the beginning of our history, American history,

767
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:50,880
Speaker 8: to hate ourselves and anything that looks.

768
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 9: Like And that's why, that's why even with us, that's

769
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 9: why we have all these different things that you know,

770
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 9: the bleach and stuff and all this stuff that which

771
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:01,000
Speaker 9: goes to my post, which goes to my recent post

772
00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 9: about learning to love ourselves.

773
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 4: Because like, yo, you look. Little Kim was a pretty

774
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 4: black one.

775
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 7: I was just talking about that where we were just

776
00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:12,279
Speaker 7: we're looking back on her videos, We're like, damn, she

777
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 7: was so.

778
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:18,800
Speaker 4: Like y'all were looking like, yo, what is going on?

779
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:21,319
Speaker 9: Then I even looked at Jena seen Janet Jake look

780
00:37:21,360 --> 00:37:23,440
Speaker 9: like she was starting to get kind of interesting.

781
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:28,360
Speaker 5: Like that cat, that cat that cattail.

782
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:33,399
Speaker 10: I was like, make you want to scream because Kim does.

783
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 5: Little Kim does like the cat lady. Now it's gotten,

784
00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,719
Speaker 5: but she's now she's trying to reverse some ship, thinking

785
00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 5: some ship that she went because she went too far.

786
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 5: You can't you can't do.

787
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 9: Yeah, you gotta love ourselves, love ourselves, and then we

788
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,359
Speaker 9: can love each other and then everybody's like you said,

789
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 9: for everybody. Yeah, but you gotta be comfortable enough to

790
00:37:54,160 --> 00:37:56,440
Speaker 9: even know that somebody else may win.

791
00:37:56,560 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 4: And people are not comfortable with anybody else winning.

792
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 9: Thine who gets it gets caddy Like this comedy especially

793
00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:07,680
Speaker 9: is very very competitive. But that's why that's why it's cool.

794
00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 9: When you see Dave Chappelle and Chris Rock and a

795
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,000
Speaker 9: Murphy just hanging like.

796
00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 4: Cool, you get special. Chris Eddie put Chris Rock on

797
00:38:15,719 --> 00:38:16,320
Speaker 4: now Chris.

798
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 9: Rock is his own thing and they just respect. But

799
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 9: a lot of times you have respect for each other.

800
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 7: It takes.

801
00:38:22,920 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 5: It takes you know, understanding who you are and self

802
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:34,439
Speaker 5: confidence and like an evolved person, honestly evolving out of that.

803
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:39,480
Speaker 5: I feel like generational trauma. That's that, that mindset, that

804
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 5: slave mentality that so many, so many of us have.

805
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 5: I was actually having this conversation with a friend of

806
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:49,279
Speaker 5: mine about even like dating as black people and dating,

807
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 5: belaving dating like women black women like being so hard

808
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 5: on men for like stepping out on them, because he

809
00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:58,919
Speaker 5: was saying, I feel like black women are even harder

810
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:01,480
Speaker 5: on men for stepping out on them men in general, like,

811
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 5: are they're pro they're wired differently, their minds are wired differently,

812
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:08,560
Speaker 5: if they are, and their need for sex is different

813
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:11,080
Speaker 5: than a woman's need for sex in many ways it is.

814
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 5: It's it's it's a different need. It's like and I

815
00:39:15,480 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 5: was like, well, do you think like it could be

816
00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 5: even I mean, I hate something they take it so deep.

817
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:22,040
Speaker 5: But like you know, in slavery, a lot of black

818
00:39:22,080 --> 00:39:24,160
Speaker 5: women they didn't know, like their husbands were taken from

819
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:27,720
Speaker 5: them constantly, their husbands, their wives, their husbands were being

820
00:39:27,760 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 5: asked to go into the maid's quarter of the wife.

821
00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 5: You know what I mean, that feeling of being out

822
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 5: of control all the time, like a lot of you know,

823
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:39,880
Speaker 5: you know, just feeling like they have to control everything.

824
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:42,359
Speaker 7: And I was like, do you think that it could

825
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,120
Speaker 7: be like rooted in that way?

826
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:45,520
Speaker 5: Right?

827
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:50,200
Speaker 8: That's funny because I did this client and yeah, I

828
00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:53,240
Speaker 8: do lashes. And she was saying, like how she uncle.

829
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 5: Your lish like that.

830
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 8: She she was in an open relationship, open marriage, but

831
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:05,759
Speaker 8: she's always had a boyfriend on the side, but then

832
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:08,719
Speaker 8: she suggests they have open marriage and she was like, yeah,

833
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 8: I just find it hard. And then her boyfriend, her sideboyfriend,

834
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:14,640
Speaker 8: is also married. It's her first boyfriend that's black. Because

835
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 8: she said most she feels like black women, especially are

836
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 8: always worried about them cheating, cheating, Are you cheating on me?

837
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:23,759
Speaker 8: Are you cheating on me? It's this cheating thing. So

838
00:40:23,920 --> 00:40:25,520
Speaker 8: she was saying, and she's married to a white man.

839
00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 8: I was just thinking, is she just being.

840
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 7: Like is that true?

841
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:30,879
Speaker 8: Like do I find that like in my like black

842
00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:32,879
Speaker 8: women that we're obsessed with like are you cheating?

843
00:40:32,880 --> 00:40:33,319
Speaker 7: Are you cheating?

844
00:40:33,400 --> 00:40:35,840
Speaker 8: Or are all women obsessed with like the cheating, but

845
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:38,839
Speaker 8: that's that's something to consider because when you do feel

846
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 8: something's constantly taken away from you, and not just like

847
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 8: to slavery, but incarceration, Like there's a bunch of different things,

848
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:49,359
Speaker 8: the pipeline, right, and it's like, damn it's I mean,

849
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:51,400
Speaker 8: and not that that's cheating, but just the loss of

850
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 8: or the stepping out of the unloyalty and even I

851
00:40:54,200 --> 00:40:56,440
Speaker 8: think to the point of like not being put on

852
00:40:56,520 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 8: a pedestal or feeling beautiful and thinking like, you know,

853
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 8: good enough people exactly, especially when like he goes back

854
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:05,560
Speaker 8: to what we said before, black men are so highly

855
00:41:05,640 --> 00:41:08,399
Speaker 8: sought after by all racests, so then you feel even

856
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 8: more if you have to compete, you have to compete,

857
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 8: and are you coming back? And I'm like, maybe it

858
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:16,440
Speaker 8: is something rooted in that, you know, Yeah, I was thinking.

859
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 8: I was like maybe I wanted something.

860
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:20,319
Speaker 7: I mean, I'm sure I ain't the first person ever

861
00:41:20,360 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 7: speak on it, but I was.

862
00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 5: Like, yeah, like a philosophy so crite, no, but I

863
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 5: was thinking like it could be you know, like because yeah,

864
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 5: I think a lot of I think guess all women,

865
00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 5: you know, it passes through their mind as my man

866
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:38,360
Speaker 5: being faithful? Is he being loyal? I do think that

867
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:40,920
Speaker 5: a lot of black women they feel that even more,

868
00:41:41,160 --> 00:41:44,279
Speaker 5: like they're always concerned about I think of all my

869
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:46,920
Speaker 5: black friends, and they're always like, that's a co constant

870
00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:49,240
Speaker 5: conversation we have, you know, it's constant.

871
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:51,320
Speaker 10: Even when I think about my mother and my father.

872
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:54,680
Speaker 8: Now that think, but I think that that's constantly what

873
00:41:54,840 --> 00:41:57,919
Speaker 8: I heard, your dad's not coming home? Who's your dad

874
00:41:58,000 --> 00:42:00,960
Speaker 8: with I? Now that I think about it, it's always

875
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 8: been cheating. It's always been another woman. Like then my

876
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 8: dad has like an Asian thing. No literally time, I'm

877
00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:12,040
Speaker 8: like hate all agient Asian. But if you see my mom,

878
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 8: like she looks chinky as shit, you know, my dad

879
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 8: jokes like that's why I did your mom. I thought

880
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,440
Speaker 8: she was Asian, but she's like she like does not

881
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 8: like Asians. But I was so sick of fucking hearing

882
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,319
Speaker 8: this shit my whole life. I think that's why I'm

883
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:25,000
Speaker 8: so opposite.

884
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 5: Like free love, free openness.

885
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 8: Have many girlfriends, I'm like that only girl I know

886
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:33,319
Speaker 8: that is free love as I am. Yeah, like certain friends,

887
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:34,840
Speaker 8: I would like to sleep with my boyfriend because I

888
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 8: trust them.

889
00:42:35,880 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 5: They're my friends, and I would like.

890
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:40,319
Speaker 14: Him to experience like I understand that, which I know

891
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 14: a lot of other black women and women in general, right,

892
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:48,000
Speaker 14: But that could be because I was so traumatized about hearing

893
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:48,839
Speaker 14: about this she so.

894
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 5: Much said, I reversed it. But I think that's absolutely.

895
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 9: You're like, musically, by the age of five, the relationships

896
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 9: didn't want to have as adults are set up in

897
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:01,719
Speaker 9: the first like five years.

898
00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 8: Oh my god, that's just scared to ship lessons because

899
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 8: we have three year olds and what we do in

900
00:43:06,200 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 8: the next two years and for me one year, I'm

901
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:10,000
Speaker 8: just gonna shave how they have relationships.

902
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:10,600
Speaker 5: Got to get it.

903
00:43:11,680 --> 00:43:13,320
Speaker 4: That's real why.

904
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 9: People sometimes tend to keep on themselves dating people that

905
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:19,879
Speaker 9: they know.

906
00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:21,080
Speaker 4: Are no good for them.

907
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:23,720
Speaker 9: But it's a pattern, man, So we have to figure

908
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:28,240
Speaker 9: out what were those boys that the opposite sixth parents

909
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:31,720
Speaker 9: gave us that we're now trying to find as adults.

910
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:34,320
Speaker 4: I keep mind to this patterns, like why I keep.

911
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 9: Doting guys that someone say, yo, I tend to date

912
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 9: guys that I always going to use me.

913
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 4: Why is this? I'm like, you have a giving off

914
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 4: a neediness. Go back to men thirsty. A lot of

915
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:47,839
Speaker 4: women are.

916
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 7: Thirsty because men are thirsty.

917
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 9: Their fathers did not give them enough attention given that

918
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 9: thing they needed. Now you know, because the one we

919
00:43:55,600 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 9: can A mother can make can raise a health responsible daughter,

920
00:44:02,080 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 9: but the father validates her womanhood, so she never gets validated,

921
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 9: and then she's always seeking that thing where it's like, yo,

922
00:44:10,880 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 9: slow down, really, love who you are, Gather that thing

923
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 9: and get together.

924
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:17,720
Speaker 7: What would you say? What's your void?

925
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 5: Or maybe maybe you do longer have it, maybe you've

926
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:22,560
Speaker 5: worked through it.

927
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 9: I'm very the void is affirmation in that you guys,

928
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 9: ever take the love language test?

929
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:30,440
Speaker 5: No, I keep saying that we need to take the

930
00:44:30,440 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 5: love language test.

931
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:33,279
Speaker 9: Basically love language test is just it's a serious of

932
00:44:33,360 --> 00:44:36,440
Speaker 9: questions and according to your response with the question, kind

933
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 9: less you know unless.

934
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:41,200
Speaker 4: You know where you are with things.

935
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 9: For example, I think there's like five categories, which is

936
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:50,239
Speaker 9: like physical touch, gifts, affirmation, quality time, and like something else.

937
00:44:50,560 --> 00:44:55,280
Speaker 9: So anyway, on my list, the lowest one was affirmation,

938
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 9: Like I don't need affirmation. Part of it is because

939
00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:01,600
Speaker 9: when I grew when I'm grew up, I didn't have

940
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 9: my biological father around four, well like before he was

941
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:10,200
Speaker 9: there between one and five roughly. Then after that I

942
00:45:10,280 --> 00:45:13,200
Speaker 9: just had healthy, strong guys around me. But as far

943
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:15,680
Speaker 9: as my father, he wasn't there to ever tell me

944
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 9: that the things I did was good in high school.

945
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:22,320
Speaker 9: Whatever it is, so now people say the flippers that

946
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:25,319
Speaker 9: people say tang London, or when I came in wildin'sme

947
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:29,279
Speaker 9: really good, you look you dress well, or that was

948
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,239
Speaker 9: really funny. I have to do things or even the

949
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:33,400
Speaker 9: way I cook, I played the way I do because

950
00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:36,600
Speaker 9: I don't ever think the things that I do really

951
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:40,200
Speaker 9: are that good unless I do them extremely well. So

952
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:43,279
Speaker 9: it's not that I want to play like that. I

953
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,279
Speaker 9: don't even care to cook, but I don't know how

954
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:48,919
Speaker 9: to just do. I want to do things very very well,

955
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 9: so that I know that what I'm doing is good.

956
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:53,439
Speaker 4: So that is my But I know that.

957
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 7: So you weren't affirmed as a child, and so therefore

958
00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 7: it's hard for you.

959
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 5: Don't want to do anything mediocre. Everything you do you

960
00:45:58,800 --> 00:45:59,480
Speaker 5: put your full foot.

961
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:03,959
Speaker 9: I tried to very well, and by default that would

962
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:08,440
Speaker 9: apply to like a woman as well. Sometimes somewhere, I

963
00:46:08,480 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 9: mean it's just sometimes there have been a woman. She

964
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:14,879
Speaker 9: she she thought I was into her. I'm like, I'm

965
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:17,880
Speaker 9: not into I'm not really into you. I'm just doing

966
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 9: this well because I don't want to do it well.

967
00:46:26,800 --> 00:46:27,719
Speaker 5: That's hilarious.

968
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:31,520
Speaker 9: I get it, but that it has nothing it's not.

969
00:46:31,719 --> 00:46:34,480
Speaker 9: It's that's why I don't. But that's why I don't.

970
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 9: I don't hold around either anymore. I know I don't

971
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 9: hold around.

972
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:42,000
Speaker 5: It is because you want to do well by what

973
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:43,319
Speaker 5: what you believe her standards to be.

974
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 9: I want to do well in the sense of I

975
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:51,600
Speaker 9: try to make sure that she is taking care of properly.

976
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:54,880
Speaker 9: But only But again, I'm not horn right. I do

977
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 9: need to be interested, but you're not.

978
00:46:56,600 --> 00:46:59,760
Speaker 8: But you find yourself saying I am doing all the motions,

979
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 8: but side, I really don't feel that into you.

980
00:47:02,120 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 9: No, no, no, Usually, ideally I would be into women,

981
00:47:05,760 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 9: but sometimes, like.

982
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:11,680
Speaker 4: I most guys. I don't know.

983
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 9: Maybe I feel like most guys. We do work, we do,

984
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 9: we do most of the work.

985
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:20,359
Speaker 5: Goddamn what wait I do I don't know? Maybe wait,

986
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:21,840
Speaker 5: I have a question going back to what you just

987
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,719
Speaker 5: said about affirmation. So like when I so, if I

988
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 5: look when you watch in the door, when you watch

989
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:27,600
Speaker 5: in the door, I said, oh my god, you look

990
00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:29,840
Speaker 5: so nice. Like London. He's always dressed nice, like I

991
00:47:29,880 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 5: even ran into I ran into London at the airport

992
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:35,240
Speaker 5: like three weeks ago and it was early as fuck.

993
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:38,240
Speaker 5: It was like five am and it was like suited

994
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 5: and booted. I was like, where are you going? So

995
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:44,480
Speaker 5: when I tell you that, do you believe me? Or

996
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 5: do you doesn't make you uncomfortable too, because you're not

997
00:47:48,760 --> 00:47:51,440
Speaker 5: used to someone because you know in your childhood maybe

998
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 5: be born affirmed the way.

999
00:47:52,960 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 9: So compliments, I do it with a hard time receiving compliments,

1000
00:47:56,480 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 9: which I actually talk about on stage. So yeah, and

1001
00:47:59,840 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 9: then since I'm uncomfortable with the compliment, but now I

1002
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:05,120
Speaker 9: just used to deflect compliments.

1003
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:06,319
Speaker 4: I still actually still do that.

1004
00:48:06,560 --> 00:48:09,719
Speaker 7: I just yeah, you did it to me.

1005
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:13,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's hard for me to accept compliments.

1006
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 5: But he's returning red right now talking about it.

1007
00:48:17,760 --> 00:48:21,839
Speaker 9: But that's why I just try to do the do

1008
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:23,759
Speaker 9: what I can do for me, so then my brain,

1009
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 9: I'm comfortable.

1010
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:26,760
Speaker 4: Because the way we dress and stuff like that effects

1011
00:48:26,760 --> 00:48:31,279
Speaker 4: our attitude and how we go about stuff. I try

1012
00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:33,360
Speaker 4: to do that. I try to be very kind to people.

1013
00:48:34,880 --> 00:48:37,880
Speaker 9: I just try to do things very well and then

1014
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 9: especially for other people. That way, I'm always balanced as

1015
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 9: I receive affirmation, staying very balanced, so I'm not just

1016
00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:49,279
Speaker 9: receiving compliments, and then my ego was stroked out of

1017
00:48:49,320 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 9: this world necessarily.

1018
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:52,960
Speaker 4: Now that's now those people bother me.

1019
00:48:52,960 --> 00:48:53,319
Speaker 5: I don't like.

1020
00:48:53,400 --> 00:48:56,240
Speaker 7: I don't like to egotistical people, people.

1021
00:48:56,000 --> 00:48:59,000
Speaker 9: Who are Yeah, that's there's no need to ever be

1022
00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 9: can see did any of that stuff? That's a major

1023
00:49:01,680 --> 00:49:02,839
Speaker 9: red flag for insecurity?

1024
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, that's all it is. Pretty much, you're just sad. Yeah,

1025
00:49:10,040 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 5: it's funny that you bring up those things.

1026
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:14,800
Speaker 8: If we talk a lot about ego and not feeding

1027
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 8: the ego, and also we talked recently about the inner

1028
00:49:17,840 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 8: child thing and how we have to go back to

1029
00:49:19,840 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 8: those that place in order to have help. You have

1030
00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:24,719
Speaker 8: to and like, no matter how much old, how old

1031
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:28,400
Speaker 8: you are, it will constantly keep coming up to way you.

1032
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:31,440
Speaker 8: It's forcing you, it's forcing you, it's making sure I'm comfortable.

1033
00:49:31,480 --> 00:49:33,759
Speaker 8: So you have to go back and address ship that

1034
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 8: happened maybe one through five. I didn't know there was

1035
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:37,000
Speaker 8: a specific age range, but.

1036
00:49:37,120 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 5: Now I do.

1037
00:49:38,120 --> 00:49:40,040
Speaker 8: But you know, like, and you have to dig and

1038
00:49:40,080 --> 00:49:42,400
Speaker 8: you have to face it, and you got to be like, Okay,

1039
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 8: now this is how it's affected me, and how am

1040
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 8: I going.

1041
00:49:44,200 --> 00:49:49,920
Speaker 9: To absolutely, absolutely, absolutely I think because yeah, all of

1042
00:49:49,920 --> 00:49:52,600
Speaker 9: the our adult stuff really traces back to some stuff.

1043
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:52,799
Speaker 11: Man.

1044
00:49:52,840 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 9: That's what Again, it's scary to go back there. People

1045
00:49:56,239 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 9: don't want to go back there.

1046
00:49:57,200 --> 00:49:58,399
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't want to go back there.

1047
00:49:58,600 --> 00:50:02,560
Speaker 4: It's a scary place. It's rough, it's really it is.

1048
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:07,200
Speaker 8: I'm really good at like rationalizing my feelings and moving forward.

1049
00:50:07,600 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 8: Oh you don't like me anymore, Okay, move forward. You

1050
00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:14,920
Speaker 8: can put in a box like I'm gonna cry over

1051
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,600
Speaker 8: for five minutes. I'll be sad for ten now, but

1052
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:19,359
Speaker 8: what are you gonna do. I'm gonna keep being sad

1053
00:50:19,360 --> 00:50:22,400
Speaker 8: while you move forward, you know what. But there's probably

1054
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 8: some not goodness and that that.

1055
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:27,359
Speaker 5: Because you're probably not dealing with everything just pushing forward, right,

1056
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:30,680
Speaker 5: which I think is also like a black woman trait,

1057
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 5: kind of like.

1058
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:33,520
Speaker 7: Well, because we've been dirt so much and we just

1059
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:34,320
Speaker 7: had to push forward.

1060
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:37,239
Speaker 8: Because sometimes even with you, I noticed, I'll tell her

1061
00:50:37,280 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 8: something and she's like, you're not okay, She's like okay,

1062
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 8: I'm like yeah, it's like, no, you're not.

1063
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 4: Black women are the only group of women like you.

1064
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:48,799
Speaker 4: Guys aren't allowed to be like.

1065
00:50:50,400 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 5: I have.

1066
00:50:52,040 --> 00:50:53,560
Speaker 10: Literally, when Erica says that to me.

1067
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 8: It reminds me, oh my god, like I'm doing I'm

1068
00:50:56,600 --> 00:50:59,720
Speaker 8: noticing that I'm doing it, And then when she gives

1069
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:03,080
Speaker 8: me to be sad, then I am like, oh shit,

1070
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 8: I am sad, And why am I pretending that I'm not?

1071
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 8: And why does it take for my friend to say

1072
00:51:08,080 --> 00:51:11,439
Speaker 8: it's okay for me to even recognize that I'm doing

1073
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:11,879
Speaker 8: this shit?

1074
00:51:12,160 --> 00:51:13,799
Speaker 9: But see, now, I'm gonna connect that to the other

1075
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:17,880
Speaker 9: dot from earlier about black men not being around and

1076
00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 9: not sure any they're gonna be there. Black women have

1077
00:51:21,840 --> 00:51:26,640
Speaker 9: taken on the strength or the strengths of black men

1078
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 9: because by systematic design, the black man has been eradicated

1079
00:51:33,600 --> 00:51:36,360
Speaker 9: from the household. So now we get a bunch of

1080
00:51:36,400 --> 00:51:41,480
Speaker 9: black women and mothers who learn to carry the burden

1081
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 9: of the guy, to the point where when a good

1082
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 9: guy comes around, some women don't even want to share

1083
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:47,719
Speaker 9: the responsibility of.

1084
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:50,160
Speaker 4: Taking care of the house with.

1085
00:51:50,160 --> 00:51:53,680
Speaker 9: Him, because like, now, if I give you the responsibility

1086
00:51:53,680 --> 00:51:56,680
Speaker 9: of control running this house and you drop the ball,

1087
00:51:56,760 --> 00:51:59,080
Speaker 9: I gotta i gotta work harder to pick it back

1088
00:51:59,160 --> 00:52:01,160
Speaker 9: up and carry its. A lot of women, they a

1089
00:52:01,200 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 9: lot of black women, They run the show and have

1090
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:06,800
Speaker 9: a hard time sharing that but why is that going

1091
00:52:06,880 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 9: back to slavery When they say, we're gonna take the

1092
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:14,440
Speaker 9: strongest buck and the strongest black alpha males and on

1093
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:18,320
Speaker 9: the plantation, we're gonna beat tar and feather them, and

1094
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:20,520
Speaker 9: we're gonna line them all the women and children shoulder

1095
00:52:20,560 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 9: to shoulder. We're gonna whip his body and we're gonna

1096
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:29,120
Speaker 9: beat these horses until they tear his body into So psychologically,

1097
00:52:29,880 --> 00:52:33,400
Speaker 9: when the black woman and grandmother and aunt and the

1098
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:35,839
Speaker 9: children see this happening to the father.

1099
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:37,399
Speaker 4: It's hard.

1100
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:39,800
Speaker 9: Now the trust that they had and the Goudy's supposed

1101
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:43,759
Speaker 9: to protect them is now being destroyed. Now we have

1102
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 9: a bunch of mothers raising boys with some sort of

1103
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 9: submissiveness to white people, so that there's someone in doing

1104
00:52:53,000 --> 00:52:53,880
Speaker 9: the same thing that their.

1105
00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:55,520
Speaker 4: Husbands and fathers have gone through.

1106
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:57,520
Speaker 9: So now we think we're talking about generations because she

1107
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 9: mentioned earlier as well, there's no real there's no hell.

1108
00:53:00,560 --> 00:53:02,719
Speaker 4: We haven't been healed do any of this.

1109
00:53:03,000 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 9: So now we've got generation after generation after generation of women,

1110
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 9: strong black women just learning to just trauma. I'm gonna

1111
00:53:10,120 --> 00:53:12,480
Speaker 9: take care of it. I'm gonna hold it down. I'm

1112
00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:14,520
Speaker 9: not gonna cry because I have to be strong because

1113
00:53:14,800 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 9: other women get to even it's a different thing. And

1114
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 9: so you know, again this is just to let you

1115
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 9: know everything connects back to the thing. That's why, you know,

1116
00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 9: it's a lot for black women to be a black

1117
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:28,680
Speaker 9: woman that you're dealing with. Like I said, between you know,

1118
00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:32,280
Speaker 9: she's gonna be she's losing. Black women may be losing

1119
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:35,880
Speaker 9: to the other. You know, the scary white women on

1120
00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 9: that phone.

1121
00:53:37,200 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 4: That was scary. That was scary.

1122
00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 9: But I have community, got y'all hold it down very well,

1123
00:53:42,680 --> 00:53:43,040
Speaker 9: thank you.

1124
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:46,640
Speaker 5: But I would say when you said, when you said something,

1125
00:53:46,920 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 5: when you were just saying that about how black women,

1126
00:53:50,480 --> 00:53:52,640
Speaker 5: you know, they don't want, they don't want to give

1127
00:53:52,680 --> 00:53:55,359
Speaker 5: the responsibility to like saybe maybe another man that comes

1128
00:53:55,400 --> 00:54:00,360
Speaker 5: into their household. It emasculates that man, and then that

1129
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:04,239
Speaker 5: man goes seeking validation somewhere else where he can be.

1130
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:05,880
Speaker 8: He can be the man, he can be so off,

1131
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 8: and he can be all the spectrum of being a

1132
00:54:08,040 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 8: human because he is.

1133
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:12,359
Speaker 5: Yeah, so then that's why that's why this cheating thing

1134
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:15,160
Speaker 5: and this whole thing pops up constantly, constantly, constantly. So

1135
00:54:15,200 --> 00:54:17,719
Speaker 5: now I'm now I'm one hundred percent convinced that it

1136
00:54:17,760 --> 00:54:20,960
Speaker 5: is rooted in slavery. I just came to the conclusion,

1137
00:54:23,040 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 5: all all signed up, professor Erica No, no, I definitely, yeah,

1138
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 5: I see the connection. I see the connection now. Okay,

1139
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:37,880
Speaker 5: but speaking about you know, cheating and dating and all

1140
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 5: those things, I wanted to bring London on because I

1141
00:54:40,080 --> 00:54:43,480
Speaker 5: felt like we needed a male perspective on this was

1142
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:44,600
Speaker 5: a suggestion topic.

1143
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:45,400
Speaker 7: This was a suggestion.

1144
00:54:45,440 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 5: I can't remember who did, but hey, girl, thank you.

1145
00:54:49,200 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 5: Can males and females be friends, be actual just just

1146
00:54:55,640 --> 00:55:01,640
Speaker 5: friends crossing the any sexual boundary? Yeah? And you know,

1147
00:55:01,680 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 5: I know there's different spectrums of this because there's like, okay,

1148
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:07,319
Speaker 5: like obviously I'm sure like a man, a guy who's

1149
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:11,359
Speaker 5: not attracted to his girl his friend, can they can

1150
00:55:11,400 --> 00:55:12,200
Speaker 5: be friends? Probably?

1151
00:55:12,239 --> 00:55:16,160
Speaker 8: Like so too attractive opposite sex friendships? Does that work

1152
00:55:16,200 --> 00:55:18,480
Speaker 8: without overstepping sexual boundaries?

1153
00:55:18,680 --> 00:55:18,839
Speaker 1: Right?

1154
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:19,480
Speaker 5: Ever?

1155
00:55:19,840 --> 00:55:20,080
Speaker 7: Ever?

1156
00:55:22,000 --> 00:55:24,719
Speaker 5: Ever, I guess or even And then there's another side

1157
00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 5: of that, like okay, if they do cross sexual boundaries

1158
00:55:27,520 --> 00:55:31,799
Speaker 5: and friends again without crossing it. So like for me,

1159
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:34,839
Speaker 5: the answer to this question, for me, maybe like two

1160
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:37,600
Speaker 5: months ago, would I would say yes, they can be friends?

1161
00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:42,680
Speaker 5: Because I was experiencing this, I had been experiencing this

1162
00:55:42,719 --> 00:55:44,640
Speaker 5: for a long time with someone who was a friend

1163
00:55:44,680 --> 00:55:47,240
Speaker 5: of mine that we've been friends for many, many years,

1164
00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:52,880
Speaker 5: and he and he's attractive, and you know, I know

1165
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,920
Speaker 5: that there's like some sort of thing there, you know,

1166
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:58,279
Speaker 5: but it's like not really annoyed to don't talk about it.

1167
00:55:58,320 --> 00:56:01,360
Speaker 5: And I think at some point in our very long friendship,

1168
00:56:01,560 --> 00:56:04,000
Speaker 5: like I was like, it's off the table, you know,

1169
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 5: like it's off the table.

1170
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:11,680
Speaker 7: We're just friends. But then you got drunk. But we've

1171
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:14,040
Speaker 7: gotten drunk so many times together, you know what I mean.

1172
00:56:14,080 --> 00:56:18,520
Speaker 5: But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, and nothing's ever happened, you

1173
00:56:18,520 --> 00:56:18,960
Speaker 5: know what I mean.

1174
00:56:18,960 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 7: So that's why.

1175
00:56:19,719 --> 00:56:21,920
Speaker 5: So then it did happen, and then you know it's

1176
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:25,680
Speaker 5: you know, we're friends. Now we are friends again, and

1177
00:56:25,719 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 5: it won't happen again.

1178
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:29,880
Speaker 7: I don't think so, but I don't know. So I

1179
00:56:29,920 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 7: don't know.

1180
00:56:30,360 --> 00:56:32,160
Speaker 5: I don't think there's like a definitive answer for me,

1181
00:56:32,200 --> 00:56:33,680
Speaker 5: but I do also I don't think.

1182
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:34,839
Speaker 7: I don't think that.

1183
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,800
Speaker 5: I think at some point you're gonna fuck, You're gonna

1184
00:56:37,800 --> 00:56:38,400
Speaker 5: make out.

1185
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:40,000
Speaker 7: So you're gonna do some inappropriate shit.

1186
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,400
Speaker 8: But you do feel like at this point, because you're

1187
00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:45,080
Speaker 8: agreed to be friends, that there's absolutely no romantic energy.

1188
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:47,319
Speaker 8: And if you move forward and get married, he can

1189
00:56:47,360 --> 00:56:48,000
Speaker 8: come to the wedding.

1190
00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:50,080
Speaker 7: He's absolutely gonna be in my wedding.

1191
00:56:50,120 --> 00:56:52,719
Speaker 8: Okay, so your answer is you don't think that's possible,

1192
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:54,480
Speaker 8: but you do think he can be friends after.

1193
00:56:55,680 --> 00:56:58,240
Speaker 5: If you can communicate and if the other person doesn't

1194
00:56:58,239 --> 00:57:01,239
Speaker 5: take it personally, yeah, I think. So, Okay, what do

1195
00:57:01,239 --> 00:57:04,920
Speaker 5: you think have you like, I mean, as a male, like,

1196
00:57:05,120 --> 00:57:09,080
Speaker 5: I'm sure you've experienced this, Like usually seemed like a

1197
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:11,240
Speaker 5: pretty disciplined guy.

1198
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:14,279
Speaker 4: I try to be if i'm if i'm this is

1199
00:57:14,280 --> 00:57:14,759
Speaker 4: how I feel.

1200
00:57:15,239 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 9: I but this is why I cut my fellowship down

1201
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:19,360
Speaker 9: when it comes to women. I don't know how to

1202
00:57:19,520 --> 00:57:24,000
Speaker 9: just get a fellow meaning like just hanging out with

1203
00:57:24,560 --> 00:57:27,840
Speaker 9: women just because be just chilling with women like that,

1204
00:57:28,280 --> 00:57:33,280
Speaker 9: I couldn't why if something comes up, No, because I'm

1205
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:36,439
Speaker 9: not designed that way. As a straight guy, I'm going

1206
00:57:36,520 --> 00:57:41,480
Speaker 9: to be. I want to find something to be. It's

1207
00:57:41,480 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 9: in my proclivity to be looking at you.

1208
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 5: So that's the difference between men. Well that's not all

1209
00:57:47,840 --> 00:57:51,320
Speaker 5: because no women do that. Because when I, for example,

1210
00:57:51,320 --> 00:57:52,520
Speaker 5: like I went to a high school with a bunch

1211
00:57:52,520 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 5: of guys, I didn't think we're attracted, but you stud there,

1212
00:57:54,480 --> 00:57:55,840
Speaker 5: you found something, you find you.

1213
00:57:57,880 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 4: Like nostri a little higher.

1214
00:58:00,800 --> 00:58:01,480
Speaker 5: Contact like that.

1215
00:58:02,560 --> 00:58:04,280
Speaker 4: I don't do it. That's why I stay.

1216
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 9: I stay chill, and that's why I don't really like

1217
00:58:07,840 --> 00:58:10,000
Speaker 9: just like it's engaging with.

1218
00:58:10,880 --> 00:58:13,000
Speaker 7: Unecessarily like I keep it real.

1219
00:58:13,440 --> 00:58:15,920
Speaker 8: Do you not have any very close female friends that

1220
00:58:15,960 --> 00:58:16,840
Speaker 8: you've never suffered?

1221
00:58:17,200 --> 00:58:21,440
Speaker 4: I have, I have a publicist. Won't I won't. I won't.

1222
00:58:22,040 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 4: I'm very clear when especially when it come to work.

1223
00:58:24,960 --> 00:58:26,960
Speaker 5: She's your only female friend, she's.

1224
00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 9: My only female my female friends. But as far as

1225
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:32,080
Speaker 9: I have to want to have to engage with.

1226
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 7: Could you have female friends person?

1227
00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:39,880
Speaker 9: I have female friends, but very keep yeah, very surface,

1228
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:40,960
Speaker 9: very very serfous.

1229
00:58:41,000 --> 00:58:43,520
Speaker 4: I don't even I don't flirt. I don't. I just

1230
00:58:43,600 --> 00:58:44,200
Speaker 4: keep it.

1231
00:58:44,680 --> 00:58:46,959
Speaker 10: Just having conversations, not flirting right.

1232
00:58:46,920 --> 00:58:49,840
Speaker 4: Right right for you. But I'm a guy. It's a guy.

1233
00:58:50,520 --> 00:58:53,640
Speaker 4: We're not just passively just saying let's go hang out.

1234
00:58:53,800 --> 00:58:58,000
Speaker 9: We don't just somewhere you have a secret hope undergird

1235
00:58:58,200 --> 00:59:02,040
Speaker 9: there is something I've me can I can.

1236
00:59:01,920 --> 00:59:04,800
Speaker 4: I hang with a woman and it splatonic?

1237
00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:05,160
Speaker 7: Yes?

1238
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:09,080
Speaker 4: Do I prefer to set myself up? No? I stay.

1239
00:59:09,240 --> 00:59:10,120
Speaker 4: I try to stay out of that.

1240
00:59:10,240 --> 00:59:12,360
Speaker 5: So then you don't feel like you can like Okay,

1241
00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 5: me and you are friends and like so you are

1242
00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:18,760
Speaker 5: not you're not full of yourself with me because.

1243
00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:21,240
Speaker 9: You know I'm saying, I just stay very surface. I

1244
00:59:21,240 --> 00:59:23,440
Speaker 9: don't want to have to work that hard as a

1245
00:59:23,440 --> 00:59:23,960
Speaker 9: straight guy.

1246
00:59:24,000 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 5: I don't want to have to do it as a

1247
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:29,720
Speaker 5: friendship with a female surface. That's so like, Okay, you're

1248
00:59:29,760 --> 00:59:34,080
Speaker 5: making me sad for you like off half of the relationships.

1249
00:59:34,080 --> 00:59:35,360
Speaker 5: But tell of relationships you could have.

1250
00:59:36,520 --> 00:59:40,640
Speaker 4: I don't need what is it like, I don't have?

1251
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:41,520
Speaker 4: What is it?

1252
00:59:43,680 --> 00:59:47,640
Speaker 9: No, I can't do listen as a straight guy, we're

1253
00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:50,160
Speaker 9: just not on the leisure of just hanging out with

1254
00:59:50,240 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 9: women just on now. Look, let's just say if we

1255
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:55,120
Speaker 9: were on this was like yo, let's go gagress we

1256
00:59:55,160 --> 00:59:57,800
Speaker 9: leave here, go gressriend eat cool boom. These are a

1257
00:59:57,880 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 9: couple of things they keep. They keep me in the

1258
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:05,720
Speaker 9: friends space with a woman. If she if she has

1259
01:00:05,760 --> 01:00:09,000
Speaker 9: a dude, it means if she has a dude, me

1260
01:00:09,040 --> 01:00:12,240
Speaker 9: and the guy that she's with are close. If it's

1261
01:00:12,320 --> 01:00:17,280
Speaker 9: a sister of one of my friends, something like that,

1262
01:00:17,480 --> 01:00:21,360
Speaker 9: or if she's not healthy, we'll keep friends.

1263
01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:25,040
Speaker 7: Healthy. Like if she said eats well.

1264
01:00:25,040 --> 01:00:30,040
Speaker 9: Like like STD, Yeah, that keeps me very platonic.

1265
01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:31,480
Speaker 4: It can be very platonic.

1266
01:00:32,680 --> 01:00:34,640
Speaker 7: Keep you up in the friend zone.

1267
01:00:35,320 --> 01:00:36,439
Speaker 5: Platonic friend zone.

1268
01:00:36,600 --> 01:00:37,400
Speaker 4: That might be too much.

1269
01:00:37,440 --> 01:00:40,040
Speaker 9: It may be too much, but I'm serious. Those kind

1270
01:00:40,080 --> 01:00:42,640
Speaker 9: of things will keep me. Now, you know, I keep

1271
01:00:42,680 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 9: I keep on the way because I'm as guys were

1272
01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:50,440
Speaker 9: always working kind of so we gotta just you know,

1273
01:00:51,080 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 9: but I've done it. I've done it. She and I

1274
01:00:53,680 --> 01:00:55,040
Speaker 9: are friends and I keep it.

1275
01:00:56,040 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 5: But also but also when me in London work together,

1276
01:00:58,920 --> 01:01:02,840
Speaker 5: I was in a really with baby daddy and so

1277
01:01:03,040 --> 01:01:05,640
Speaker 5: there's so there was that and so.

1278
01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:07,080
Speaker 4: All of that stuff. That's what I'm saying.

1279
01:01:07,080 --> 01:01:09,640
Speaker 5: And we're working, so you know, he keeps work separate, right,

1280
01:01:12,000 --> 01:01:14,400
Speaker 5: but yeah, like.

1281
01:01:14,360 --> 01:01:16,160
Speaker 9: You are like a mystery to me London, Like I

1282
01:01:16,160 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 9: don't know to keep out the way because I don't

1283
01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:20,160
Speaker 9: know the line why I.

1284
01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:22,760
Speaker 4: Keep I keep this with this way so that it

1285
01:01:22,800 --> 01:01:23,600
Speaker 4: doesn't get.

1286
01:01:23,360 --> 01:01:27,320
Speaker 7: All like you know it is You're scared, that's what

1287
01:01:27,360 --> 01:01:27,680
Speaker 7: it is.

1288
01:01:27,840 --> 01:01:28,920
Speaker 5: No, No, it's scared.

1289
01:01:29,000 --> 01:01:31,560
Speaker 8: I think women are really different because I've had this

1290
01:01:31,600 --> 01:01:34,200
Speaker 8: conversation with so many men and I'm like, no, he's

1291
01:01:34,240 --> 01:01:36,120
Speaker 8: not hanging out with you because he thinks you're cool.

1292
01:01:35,920 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 7: Bitch hying up to you.

1293
01:01:39,560 --> 01:01:40,200
Speaker 4: Just keep cool.

1294
01:01:40,240 --> 01:01:42,440
Speaker 9: You just have the way that I mean because otherwise,

1295
01:01:43,200 --> 01:01:46,200
Speaker 9: I mean, even if even if a guy, a guy

1296
01:01:46,240 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 9: may flirt with a girl a few times and he

1297
01:01:48,040 --> 01:01:51,040
Speaker 9: still keeps it, just keep it chill because otherwise, like

1298
01:01:51,960 --> 01:01:54,600
Speaker 9: we're going to want to work to start going there,

1299
01:01:55,000 --> 01:01:57,760
Speaker 9: We're not gonna go there, and let's just let's just chill.

1300
01:01:59,040 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 5: Do you think man and women get your friends?

1301
01:02:02,400 --> 01:02:04,240
Speaker 4: I think I think it is possible. Do we want

1302
01:02:04,280 --> 01:02:04,680
Speaker 4: to do that?

1303
01:02:04,880 --> 01:02:07,080
Speaker 7: No, I think it is possible.

1304
01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:10,280
Speaker 5: But I also feel like like love.

1305
01:02:11,920 --> 01:02:17,520
Speaker 8: God, I say you hear me out, Like love and

1306
01:02:17,600 --> 01:02:21,880
Speaker 8: attraction isn't this black and white thing. It's like a spectrum.

1307
01:02:21,920 --> 01:02:27,720
Speaker 8: And how you explore that love. He has levels. Because

1308
01:02:28,840 --> 01:02:32,200
Speaker 8: you could be intimate with you can probably be inferent

1309
01:02:32,240 --> 01:02:33,760
Speaker 8: with a friend and then go back to being friends.

1310
01:02:33,920 --> 01:02:37,080
Speaker 4: I think guys can do that for sure, because.

1311
01:02:36,800 --> 01:02:37,120
Speaker 14: A lot.

1312
01:02:39,320 --> 01:02:41,720
Speaker 10: And it really genuinely mean that likes.

1313
01:02:43,240 --> 01:02:46,160
Speaker 8: But like, I think it's hard for another man to

1314
01:02:46,280 --> 01:02:49,160
Speaker 8: understand that, you know what I'm saying, Like it's that

1315
01:02:49,200 --> 01:02:51,000
Speaker 8: whole back to what you said in the beginning about

1316
01:02:51,040 --> 01:02:53,480
Speaker 8: like you would hope that the girl you end up

1317
01:02:53,520 --> 01:02:56,360
Speaker 8: with them with little A very small number of men.

1318
01:02:56,520 --> 01:02:59,480
Speaker 8: Men can't like for me, if I dated if I

1319
01:02:59,560 --> 01:03:01,440
Speaker 8: dated a girl and he had a friend that he

1320
01:03:01,560 --> 01:03:04,320
Speaker 8: fucked before, but they're really good friends now and he

1321
01:03:04,360 --> 01:03:06,680
Speaker 8: brings me around that person and we all can like

1322
01:03:07,240 --> 01:03:10,360
Speaker 8: have fellowship, then I'm okay.

1323
01:03:10,440 --> 01:03:12,080
Speaker 5: Like, then, obviously you're not hiding.

1324
01:03:11,840 --> 01:03:12,560
Speaker 7: Something like I'm not.

1325
01:03:12,680 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 5: It's so insecure to think that, Oh, guys did not

1326
01:03:14,880 --> 01:03:15,400
Speaker 5: take that way.

1327
01:03:15,640 --> 01:03:19,400
Speaker 8: Yeah, and I think that's very biased, you know, And

1328
01:03:19,440 --> 01:03:22,360
Speaker 8: I just think like sometimes you have to do things

1329
01:03:22,360 --> 01:03:24,840
Speaker 8: and then you did it and you move forward like

1330
01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:27,120
Speaker 8: it does it. I've had I've said this, guys, I've

1331
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 8: had sex with a lot of my friends.

1332
01:03:29,480 --> 01:03:33,000
Speaker 4: So I just got real I didn't.

1333
01:03:32,800 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 7: Have But me and Tomil have not had sex.

1334
01:03:35,080 --> 01:03:37,080
Speaker 5: Guys, what was supposed to be a mystery if we

1335
01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:39,240
Speaker 5: were keeping up history, Oh yeah we have, we fed.

1336
01:03:41,560 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 5: We never had sex. You're the worst, But no, we didn't.

1337
01:03:44,240 --> 01:03:44,520
Speaker 5: But we do.

1338
01:03:44,720 --> 01:03:46,520
Speaker 7: But we do get that question often, I.

1339
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:48,360
Speaker 5: Know, we have you ever stopped there?

1340
01:03:48,360 --> 01:03:51,200
Speaker 10: And I'm like, why, well, why is it seen that way?

1341
01:03:52,000 --> 01:03:52,120
Speaker 5: Oh?

1342
01:03:52,240 --> 01:03:56,040
Speaker 8: Yeah, because I sucked a lot of my friends. But

1343
01:03:56,360 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 8: in saying that, like, well, I guess not a lot.

1344
01:03:59,480 --> 01:04:01,600
Speaker 10: But I can think of like some friends that I've

1345
01:04:01,600 --> 01:04:04,160
Speaker 10: been friends with for years and have.

1346
01:04:04,160 --> 01:04:06,760
Speaker 8: Had sex with them, and what I would have that

1347
01:04:06,840 --> 01:04:09,840
Speaker 8: person's blessing with when and I get married, And like.

1348
01:04:09,880 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 5: I would kind of like to invite you, but you

1349
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:13,200
Speaker 5: know what I mean?

1350
01:04:13,240 --> 01:04:16,040
Speaker 8: And I could call and call on and have deep conversations,

1351
01:04:15,840 --> 01:04:19,320
Speaker 8: but like the intimacy part is, does it really mean

1352
01:04:19,760 --> 01:04:23,320
Speaker 8: anything more or less than like I recognize you, I

1353
01:04:23,360 --> 01:04:25,120
Speaker 8: see you, I love you, and we had that experience

1354
01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:26,680
Speaker 8: and now the friends.

1355
01:04:26,800 --> 01:04:27,880
Speaker 7: You know what I think?

1356
01:04:28,440 --> 01:04:33,440
Speaker 5: I think what really who navigates this is the woman? Honestly,

1357
01:04:33,560 --> 01:04:36,520
Speaker 5: Like she's the one. Okay, you have some either Okay,

1358
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:38,320
Speaker 5: she's obviously the one who's gonna choose it.

1359
01:04:39,080 --> 01:04:40,440
Speaker 7: Yeah, if we're gonna.

1360
01:04:40,200 --> 01:04:42,560
Speaker 5: Have sex, you know what I mean. You get chemistry,

1361
01:04:42,880 --> 01:04:46,000
Speaker 5: you know, is undeniable. You don't change chemistry. But like

1362
01:04:46,200 --> 01:04:49,760
Speaker 5: ultimately the woman has to say, yes, okay, we's do this,

1363
01:04:49,920 --> 01:04:53,600
Speaker 5: We're doing this, and then she also has to say, okay,

1364
01:04:53,760 --> 01:04:55,960
Speaker 5: we're not doing this anymore, you know what I mean.

1365
01:04:56,000 --> 01:04:58,200
Speaker 5: And then the man has to decide do I want

1366
01:04:58,200 --> 01:05:00,280
Speaker 5: to do this anymore? Like do I want to even

1367
01:05:00,280 --> 01:05:01,720
Speaker 5: be friends with you now, you know what I mean?

1368
01:05:02,480 --> 01:05:04,480
Speaker 5: I think, like I think, really the woman is in

1369
01:05:04,520 --> 01:05:08,040
Speaker 5: control of this narrative, really is.

1370
01:05:08,200 --> 01:05:12,600
Speaker 9: I mean, fore the woman is because ultimately she's the

1371
01:05:13,040 --> 01:05:18,120
Speaker 9: emotional factor in this. Because guys don't have to like women,

1372
01:05:18,240 --> 01:05:19,640
Speaker 9: and we don't have to like the woman to sleep

1373
01:05:19,640 --> 01:05:23,280
Speaker 9: with her, true we just I mean, it really is

1374
01:05:23,440 --> 01:05:26,360
Speaker 9: just it could be just this is not that it's right,

1375
01:05:26,600 --> 01:05:29,840
Speaker 9: and I'm not condoning it, but this is why guy's cheap,

1376
01:05:30,080 --> 01:05:32,760
Speaker 9: because they can be with another woman and not have

1377
01:05:32,840 --> 01:05:34,560
Speaker 9: any emotional ties to her whatsoever.

1378
01:05:34,680 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 4: It could just be the sex.

1379
01:05:37,120 --> 01:05:39,480
Speaker 9: And that's why I can go back home and hold

1380
01:05:39,520 --> 01:05:42,240
Speaker 9: this woman, because this woman has his heart. The girl

1381
01:05:42,280 --> 01:05:45,720
Speaker 9: over there is just it's just physical. There's no attachment.

1382
01:05:46,320 --> 01:05:50,920
Speaker 5: I could have non personal physical relationships and I have.

1383
01:05:51,000 --> 01:05:53,280
Speaker 4: Vaina, but women aren't designed that way by nature.

1384
01:05:53,480 --> 01:05:56,000
Speaker 7: I think that you can, but there's a limit to it.

1385
01:05:56,160 --> 01:05:59,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, whereas men it's like limitless, limitless, that it doesn't

1386
01:05:59,080 --> 01:06:03,200
Speaker 5: matter at all. Yeah, after like after like twenty nine,

1387
01:06:03,400 --> 01:06:03,919
Speaker 5: like all right.

1388
01:06:05,000 --> 01:06:06,560
Speaker 4: Like women, that's why, you know, that's what makes an

1389
01:06:06,560 --> 01:06:07,880
Speaker 4: interesting might be.

1390
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:10,080
Speaker 5: Too much, it's never too much.

1391
01:06:11,400 --> 01:06:17,120
Speaker 9: Like women in their forties are different because usually they

1392
01:06:17,120 --> 01:06:18,920
Speaker 9: have they've married, they have kids, and they go on

1393
01:06:18,960 --> 01:06:21,920
Speaker 9: their things. So when they're in their forties, they're really

1394
01:06:22,040 --> 01:06:24,760
Speaker 9: kind of clear about what they want from.

1395
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:27,320
Speaker 4: Like older guys can keep up with him as much.

1396
01:06:27,200 --> 01:06:30,280
Speaker 9: As far as whatever. They're just a lot they're just

1397
01:06:30,520 --> 01:06:34,560
Speaker 9: slightly disconnected. But they find a younger guy than he is.

1398
01:06:35,000 --> 01:06:39,640
Speaker 9: He has the energy and the whatever, this dizazzes that

1399
01:06:39,680 --> 01:06:40,920
Speaker 9: she needs in her forties.

1400
01:06:41,000 --> 01:06:41,480
Speaker 4: So though.

1401
01:06:43,200 --> 01:06:43,960
Speaker 5: Forty year old.

1402
01:06:43,800 --> 01:06:47,480
Speaker 9: Women they they're dynamic with men is totally different.

1403
01:06:47,680 --> 01:06:50,920
Speaker 4: But I think with women under forty.

1404
01:06:52,800 --> 01:06:55,280
Speaker 9: There's a lot of Like women, if they're going to

1405
01:06:55,280 --> 01:06:58,320
Speaker 9: be with another guy, usually they've disconnected from the from

1406
01:06:58,360 --> 01:07:00,560
Speaker 9: the previous guy emotionally a while ago.

1407
01:07:00,600 --> 01:07:01,720
Speaker 4: They've checked out from him.

1408
01:07:02,120 --> 01:07:05,080
Speaker 9: So by the time they move on, I think women

1409
01:07:05,200 --> 01:07:06,840
Speaker 9: move on emotionally.

1410
01:07:07,920 --> 01:07:12,919
Speaker 7: Men do men emotionally guys women?

1411
01:07:13,920 --> 01:07:14,840
Speaker 4: No, No, I'm saying that.

1412
01:07:15,080 --> 01:07:16,880
Speaker 9: Let's just say if a one was in a relationship

1413
01:07:16,920 --> 01:07:19,320
Speaker 9: with a guy and that was her dude, by the

1414
01:07:19,360 --> 01:07:22,440
Speaker 9: time she's when come the time when she's looking at

1415
01:07:22,480 --> 01:07:27,040
Speaker 9: another guy, she's already disconnected emotionally from the relationship guy.

1416
01:07:27,360 --> 01:07:31,000
Speaker 9: So even if they're still together, she's disconnected emotionally or.

1417
01:07:30,960 --> 01:07:34,200
Speaker 5: The guy has just distracted her from the other guy,

1418
01:07:34,400 --> 01:07:35,880
Speaker 5: and she never really dealt with that, and.

1419
01:07:35,840 --> 01:07:39,000
Speaker 7: Now she's just in another relationship or the other guy said.

1420
01:07:40,680 --> 01:07:41,760
Speaker 5: Not now, but my.

1421
01:07:41,760 --> 01:07:46,240
Speaker 10: Past dating life for sure, Like you're an habitual dater.

1422
01:07:47,960 --> 01:07:50,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, but now that's the thing is that we gotta

1423
01:07:50,040 --> 01:07:51,400
Speaker 4: figure out that.

1424
01:07:51,680 --> 01:07:54,120
Speaker 7: This is probably why I know why the childhood and

1425
01:07:54,360 --> 01:07:55,360
Speaker 7: child but just.

1426
01:07:57,360 --> 01:07:58,080
Speaker 4: On those levels.

1427
01:07:58,080 --> 01:07:59,680
Speaker 9: A lot of times we date because we don't want

1428
01:07:59,680 --> 01:08:03,120
Speaker 9: to stop. We need we need time to heal from

1429
01:08:03,120 --> 01:08:04,160
Speaker 9: the relation.

1430
01:08:05,640 --> 01:08:07,560
Speaker 7: We do what we often don't give ourselves time.

1431
01:08:07,680 --> 01:08:08,880
Speaker 4: No, because it's too painful to do.

1432
01:08:10,680 --> 01:08:11,720
Speaker 5: You want someone to love you.

1433
01:08:11,880 --> 01:08:13,280
Speaker 4: To occupy.

1434
01:08:13,280 --> 01:08:15,440
Speaker 9: And this is when relationships become a drug, because we

1435
01:08:15,600 --> 01:08:19,840
Speaker 9: use them as a to fill mechanism to not deal

1436
01:08:19,880 --> 01:08:21,559
Speaker 9: with the previous coming.

1437
01:08:21,560 --> 01:08:24,880
Speaker 8: All this so complicated and correction, I didn't date all,

1438
01:08:25,000 --> 01:08:25,840
Speaker 8: I didn't suck all my.

1439
01:08:27,080 --> 01:08:28,960
Speaker 10: Like thirty like twenty nine percent.

1440
01:08:30,840 --> 01:08:34,280
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, that's like, you know, it's a healthy you know,

1441
01:08:34,520 --> 01:08:35,520
Speaker 5: below average.

1442
01:08:35,880 --> 01:08:36,439
Speaker 7: I just number.

1443
01:08:36,479 --> 01:08:39,640
Speaker 5: I just did that math in my head. Really, like

1444
01:08:39,760 --> 01:08:45,040
Speaker 5: I have thirty friends I fucked too four point zero

1445
01:08:45,240 --> 01:08:52,000
Speaker 5: four because well that one didn't really count. That's hilarious. Yeah,

1446
01:08:52,120 --> 01:08:54,879
Speaker 5: I mean, like, for example, my friend, Carlton.

1447
01:08:55,840 --> 01:08:57,360
Speaker 7: I've known him since.

1448
01:08:58,600 --> 01:09:04,200
Speaker 5: I was eleven, and you know, we went to middle

1449
01:09:04,240 --> 01:09:05,519
Speaker 5: Like we didn't go to middle school together, but like

1450
01:09:05,520 --> 01:09:07,360
Speaker 5: I've just known him all these years. I met him

1451
01:09:07,360 --> 01:09:11,080
Speaker 5: at like a middle school dance I was. I went

1452
01:09:11,120 --> 01:09:12,080
Speaker 5: to an all girls school.

1453
01:09:13,320 --> 01:09:14,040
Speaker 9: He was just there.

1454
01:09:14,360 --> 01:09:16,400
Speaker 5: I don't know, it was like our all girls school

1455
01:09:16,439 --> 01:09:18,120
Speaker 5: trying to get us like a brother's school and have

1456
01:09:18,120 --> 01:09:20,840
Speaker 5: a dance with you know what I mean. And so

1457
01:09:21,439 --> 01:09:25,000
Speaker 5: like I think early on in our friendship, like we

1458
01:09:25,080 --> 01:09:30,080
Speaker 5: had a question on each other, and then I think

1459
01:09:30,120 --> 01:09:32,200
Speaker 5: I started dating with one of his friends or something,

1460
01:09:32,360 --> 01:09:35,160
Speaker 5: and like it just we made out. We made out

1461
01:09:35,200 --> 01:09:36,680
Speaker 5: the first time we met. Me and Carlston made out

1462
01:09:38,000 --> 01:09:41,639
Speaker 5: or maybe like the third time I have another dance. Yeah,

1463
01:09:42,120 --> 01:09:45,880
Speaker 5: but he's an example of someone that like is just

1464
01:09:45,960 --> 01:09:47,840
Speaker 5: my friend, you know what I mean. And I think

1465
01:09:47,880 --> 01:09:49,960
Speaker 5: he's a good looking guy. He's on my type per se,

1466
01:09:50,080 --> 01:09:52,439
Speaker 5: But I think he's a good looking guy. He's funny,

1467
01:09:53,800 --> 01:09:56,280
Speaker 5: I mean. But then again, like I feel like I'm

1468
01:09:56,280 --> 01:09:58,000
Speaker 5: a woman and I have control. If I wanted to

1469
01:09:58,080 --> 01:10:00,920
Speaker 5: like have sex with him, of course he would I probably.

1470
01:10:00,560 --> 01:10:07,560
Speaker 9: Could, you know, Sorry, but it's started it but it

1471
01:10:07,680 --> 01:10:09,719
Speaker 9: started at something there was some sort.

1472
01:10:09,600 --> 01:10:12,400
Speaker 7: Of started with attraction. Yeah, it started with attraction.

1473
01:10:12,479 --> 01:10:14,679
Speaker 10: But we're also attracted to our friends.

1474
01:10:14,840 --> 01:10:17,759
Speaker 7: But I also know we are genuine friends.

1475
01:10:17,800 --> 01:10:20,519
Speaker 5: He's not my friend waving around for me to like,

1476
01:10:21,160 --> 01:10:24,600
Speaker 5: you know, change my mind, right, you know, like we

1477
01:10:24,680 --> 01:10:26,200
Speaker 5: have a genuine friendship of course.

1478
01:10:26,280 --> 01:10:29,000
Speaker 8: But in the event, like if you know someone through

1479
01:10:29,000 --> 01:10:32,559
Speaker 8: somebody else, then you can become friends through that person.

1480
01:10:32,640 --> 01:10:34,600
Speaker 8: But if you just walk into a room of strangers,

1481
01:10:34,960 --> 01:10:37,720
Speaker 8: people who naturally gravitate towards you are people you are

1482
01:10:37,760 --> 01:10:38,360
Speaker 8: attracted to.

1483
01:10:38,360 --> 01:10:39,040
Speaker 5: In some sense.

1484
01:10:39,240 --> 01:10:42,200
Speaker 8: That's how you start conversations, even female and female. There's

1485
01:10:42,240 --> 01:10:45,280
Speaker 8: an energy, there's something that attracts you initially to someone,

1486
01:10:45,320 --> 01:10:48,000
Speaker 8: whether it be platonic, whether it be romantic. So to

1487
01:10:48,040 --> 01:10:51,080
Speaker 8: say that, like you're not somewhat attracted, that's what I'm saying.

1488
01:10:51,080 --> 01:10:54,479
Speaker 8: Like attraction and friendship and relationships, it's not this black

1489
01:10:54,479 --> 01:10:57,400
Speaker 8: and white thing. It's fluid because we're all attracted to

1490
01:10:57,439 --> 01:11:00,519
Speaker 8: each other to some degree, just like we're attracted to flower,

1491
01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:02,280
Speaker 8: you know, and now we're not gonna have.

1492
01:11:02,240 --> 01:11:03,080
Speaker 5: Sex with the flower.

1493
01:11:03,640 --> 01:11:06,160
Speaker 8: But you know what I'm saying, But there is this thing,

1494
01:11:06,320 --> 01:11:08,840
Speaker 8: like there's a flow of energy, so you have to

1495
01:11:08,840 --> 01:11:09,559
Speaker 8: acknowledge that too.

1496
01:11:09,640 --> 01:11:13,280
Speaker 5: There's a gravitational energetic pool. It's true and too and

1497
01:11:13,439 --> 01:11:15,479
Speaker 5: just I just need to go back real quick when

1498
01:11:15,520 --> 01:11:18,000
Speaker 5: I say if I wanted to fuck him, I could,

1499
01:11:18,720 --> 01:11:20,479
Speaker 5: just because I want to make things clear, because I

1500
01:11:20,479 --> 01:11:24,040
Speaker 5: don't want to offend him, because it's there's I'm not.

1501
01:11:24,280 --> 01:11:26,640
Speaker 5: I'm not saying like because I'm so fly, like he

1502
01:11:26,680 --> 01:11:30,160
Speaker 5: will fuck me. It's really rooted in just men. Just

1503
01:11:31,240 --> 01:11:33,800
Speaker 5: it's not you don't have to like try very hard.

1504
01:11:34,479 --> 01:11:37,400
Speaker 5: It's not even that. It's just like their need for

1505
01:11:37,479 --> 01:11:39,639
Speaker 5: sex is different than ours, you know what I mean.

1506
01:11:39,840 --> 01:11:44,560
Speaker 5: Like they see like a decent woman, she had a

1507
01:11:44,600 --> 01:11:48,320
Speaker 5: big booty, and she's like, I'm down. Like they're gonna

1508
01:11:48,320 --> 01:11:50,040
Speaker 5: be like, full fuck it. I'm single. I'm down too,

1509
01:11:50,800 --> 01:11:52,679
Speaker 5: you know what I mean. And he's not the only

1510
01:11:53,360 --> 01:11:55,600
Speaker 5: these He's not the only man like that. You're not

1511
01:11:55,680 --> 01:11:59,760
Speaker 5: no star absolutely, So anyway, I had to make that

1512
01:11:59,760 --> 01:12:05,720
Speaker 5: clear quick. So Yeah, so I think that's the words,

1513
01:12:05,760 --> 01:12:09,519
Speaker 5: including that it's it's not it's possible, but.

1514
01:12:09,560 --> 01:12:10,400
Speaker 7: Also not possible.

1515
01:12:10,439 --> 01:12:11,920
Speaker 8: We're I was going to ask you a question, Yeah,

1516
01:12:12,320 --> 01:12:15,360
Speaker 8: do you think that if you got married to a

1517
01:12:15,439 --> 01:12:17,240
Speaker 8: guy and he had previously slept with one of his

1518
01:12:17,240 --> 01:12:18,960
Speaker 8: friends who he's still very close friends with.

1519
01:12:19,240 --> 01:12:20,280
Speaker 5: Could she come to the wedding?

1520
01:12:22,439 --> 01:12:24,559
Speaker 4: Said remember?

1521
01:12:24,600 --> 01:12:26,439
Speaker 8: I said, like, I remember she said she slept with

1522
01:12:26,479 --> 01:12:28,360
Speaker 8: her friends, but now they're friends again, And I said.

1523
01:12:28,280 --> 01:12:31,560
Speaker 7: Well, then yeah, yeah, I would. I think so it depends.

1524
01:12:31,479 --> 01:12:32,040
Speaker 5: In the future.

1525
01:12:32,040 --> 01:12:34,679
Speaker 8: Would she allowed, Like if it was the opposite, if

1526
01:12:34,680 --> 01:12:37,080
Speaker 8: my husband slept with one of his friends before me,

1527
01:12:37,479 --> 01:12:38,799
Speaker 8: would she be invited to the wedding?

1528
01:12:39,240 --> 01:12:41,640
Speaker 5: I think I'd have to see what their relationship is

1529
01:12:41,760 --> 01:12:43,920
Speaker 5: and trust that there was trust their relationship.

1530
01:12:44,080 --> 01:12:45,760
Speaker 8: But as long as you're included and it's not like

1531
01:12:45,800 --> 01:12:47,320
Speaker 8: no weird sneaky vibes and ship.

1532
01:12:47,520 --> 01:12:51,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, if bitch is acting like she don't like me,

1533
01:12:51,600 --> 01:12:54,120
Speaker 5: and I'll be like, well guess what, he not invited?

1534
01:12:55,040 --> 01:12:57,439
Speaker 10: Yeah, and you're not his friend anymore?

1535
01:12:57,520 --> 01:12:58,240
Speaker 5: That what makes some sense.

1536
01:12:58,240 --> 01:13:00,600
Speaker 8: If she is genuine or not, I will be the

1537
01:13:00,680 --> 01:13:03,120
Speaker 8: judge of that. And you know, I know I can

1538
01:13:03,240 --> 01:13:06,479
Speaker 8: genuinely like be okay with they did not care, But.

1539
01:13:06,560 --> 01:13:08,479
Speaker 5: I don't know because if she's too fine, you know,

1540
01:13:09,760 --> 01:13:11,880
Speaker 5: would you ever ask a man to not be friends

1541
01:13:11,920 --> 01:13:14,639
Speaker 5: with a female friend And if he didn't, would you.

1542
01:13:14,520 --> 01:13:16,800
Speaker 8: Like mind up with him? How my pride is set up.

1543
01:13:16,840 --> 01:13:18,960
Speaker 8: I don't tell people what to do. I don't tell

1544
01:13:19,000 --> 01:13:20,599
Speaker 8: you what you can you're an adult.

1545
01:13:21,040 --> 01:13:23,360
Speaker 5: But what would you feel? What would you feel? Would

1546
01:13:23,360 --> 01:13:25,679
Speaker 5: you end up detaching from him because he didn't detach

1547
01:13:25,680 --> 01:13:28,400
Speaker 5: from that person when clearly he knew that you hadn't

1548
01:13:28,720 --> 01:13:29,479
Speaker 5: were feeling it.

1549
01:13:29,680 --> 01:13:35,200
Speaker 8: I am so rooted in my psychicness I know if

1550
01:13:35,280 --> 01:13:37,880
Speaker 8: something's off or not, so I would either have to

1551
01:13:37,920 --> 01:13:40,200
Speaker 8: submit and be like, obviously I'm acting crazy and it

1552
01:13:40,479 --> 01:13:42,760
Speaker 8: is a platonic relationship. But if I know on my

1553
01:13:42,800 --> 01:13:44,840
Speaker 8: gut that there it's like some underlying shit, and you're

1554
01:13:44,920 --> 01:13:47,360
Speaker 8: like not, you're pretending to not see it. Yeah, I'm

1555
01:13:47,360 --> 01:13:51,639
Speaker 8: gonna bag back because I'm telling you, and I'm psychic,

1556
01:13:51,680 --> 01:13:52,280
Speaker 8: I know everything.

1557
01:13:52,960 --> 01:13:54,840
Speaker 5: Would you tell a woman not to be friends with

1558
01:13:55,360 --> 01:13:59,360
Speaker 5: a male that that maybe you felt or you just did,

1559
01:13:59,400 --> 01:14:00,960
Speaker 5: you would just hope that you're a woman, would just

1560
01:14:01,000 --> 01:14:04,200
Speaker 5: know she I think a.

1561
01:14:04,200 --> 01:14:09,439
Speaker 4: Woman with me, Oh my gosh.

1562
01:14:09,600 --> 01:14:12,000
Speaker 9: See I'm kind on that page where I'm like, she

1563
01:14:12,080 --> 01:14:15,320
Speaker 9: can be friends with well, this is too too things

1564
01:14:15,360 --> 01:14:20,599
Speaker 9: to this is Fortunately for me, I'm an elf, alpha

1565
01:14:20,640 --> 01:14:23,240
Speaker 9: male kind of guy, so I don't really feel uncomfortable

1566
01:14:23,920 --> 01:14:27,760
Speaker 9: with other guys. Uh, and not to be self agonizing,

1567
01:14:27,800 --> 01:14:32,720
Speaker 9: but if she feels that other guy is gonna be

1568
01:14:32,720 --> 01:14:37,360
Speaker 9: better than what I can do for her, or if

1569
01:14:37,720 --> 01:14:41,040
Speaker 9: jeopardizing what we got for that guy, she can have

1570
01:14:41,240 --> 01:14:44,000
Speaker 9: that guy, she she gonna feel every bit of it.

1571
01:14:44,040 --> 01:14:46,400
Speaker 4: When I'm going though, that's how she's gonna feel off,

1572
01:14:47,040 --> 01:14:47,280
Speaker 4: you know.

1573
01:14:47,600 --> 01:14:50,040
Speaker 9: And it's not to be funny, But that's why I

1574
01:14:50,120 --> 01:14:52,080
Speaker 9: move as long as I do with women because I

1575
01:14:52,120 --> 01:14:53,479
Speaker 9: know I'm gonna catch now.

1576
01:14:54,080 --> 01:14:55,559
Speaker 4: It doesn't matter if the woman needs some kids.

1577
01:14:55,600 --> 01:14:58,519
Speaker 9: I know I'm comfortable with me to know I'm a

1578
01:14:58,560 --> 01:15:02,680
Speaker 9: real super cool, no core.

1579
01:15:02,680 --> 01:15:03,720
Speaker 4: Heavy issues.

1580
01:15:03,800 --> 01:15:07,880
Speaker 9: I'm not tripping, I'm not abusive, I'm not wilding out.

1581
01:15:08,120 --> 01:15:12,000
Speaker 4: I'm just working. I care about my family. People.

1582
01:15:12,040 --> 01:15:13,880
Speaker 9: I'm gonna look out for you. If you're my friend,

1583
01:15:13,880 --> 01:15:16,240
Speaker 9: you're my friend. Or if we didn't, you know, I

1584
01:15:16,560 --> 01:15:19,720
Speaker 9: hold you down. So if she don't see that, it's

1585
01:15:19,760 --> 01:15:21,360
Speaker 9: all good if that's what.

1586
01:15:21,280 --> 01:15:23,200
Speaker 4: You want to do. But if you go over there,

1587
01:15:23,280 --> 01:15:25,679
Speaker 4: you've got to stay there, don't come back.

1588
01:15:26,960 --> 01:15:30,800
Speaker 9: Don't come back. But I did some girls and they

1589
01:15:30,880 --> 01:15:33,760
Speaker 9: got this is the thing about it real quick, because

1590
01:15:33,760 --> 01:15:37,320
Speaker 9: we gotta get at here. I've dated girls who have

1591
01:15:37,479 --> 01:15:39,639
Speaker 9: like a gay best friend, and he's like, well, he's

1592
01:15:39,720 --> 01:15:45,400
Speaker 9: game the matter. But the issue that straight guys have

1593
01:15:45,439 --> 01:15:48,280
Speaker 9: about these things, it's not that we don't think that

1594
01:15:48,280 --> 01:15:50,519
Speaker 9: the girl's gonna sleep with him, but as guy's was

1595
01:15:50,600 --> 01:15:51,240
Speaker 9: very territorial.

1596
01:15:51,240 --> 01:15:51,639
Speaker 5: So it's the.

1597
01:15:51,640 --> 01:15:56,320
Speaker 9: Idea that another man period slash person best friend. But

1598
01:15:56,400 --> 01:15:58,160
Speaker 9: usually if it's another guy's like the fact that there's

1599
01:15:58,160 --> 01:16:01,240
Speaker 9: another guy just being able to end otain you the

1600
01:16:01,280 --> 01:16:04,080
Speaker 9: way I do, the fact that you think all his everything.

1601
01:16:04,080 --> 01:16:06,760
Speaker 4: He says it is funny me it could be like

1602
01:16:07,439 --> 01:16:09,200
Speaker 4: the beach and then he slipped.

1603
01:16:09,400 --> 01:16:11,519
Speaker 9: Really all right, so he's funny. Alright, funny to me,

1604
01:16:11,760 --> 01:16:15,160
Speaker 9: it's just a guy's thing. But I'm known that the

1605
01:16:15,200 --> 01:16:17,759
Speaker 9: girl wasn't gonna do anything with him and he was married,

1606
01:16:17,800 --> 01:16:19,920
Speaker 9: and but I like, are you funny?

1607
01:16:20,880 --> 01:16:22,920
Speaker 5: Or is it also that because he's still a man

1608
01:16:23,680 --> 01:16:25,920
Speaker 5: and that he would still probably a girl, he's still

1609
01:16:25,920 --> 01:16:34,160
Speaker 5: a man, and like whatever, Yeah, that is what it is.

1610
01:16:34,439 --> 01:16:35,040
Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.

1611
01:16:35,160 --> 01:16:39,000
Speaker 9: Still he's still a man, So I'll be like, just

1612
01:16:39,360 --> 01:16:41,519
Speaker 9: be laughing and Kiki and all the nigga face.

1613
01:16:43,200 --> 01:16:44,679
Speaker 5: You ain't so, so go home.

1614
01:16:45,160 --> 01:16:47,200
Speaker 4: Okay.

1615
01:16:47,320 --> 01:16:50,320
Speaker 7: So, lastly, did you think.

1616
01:16:50,200 --> 01:16:51,000
Speaker 5: Of a horror.

1617
01:16:55,640 --> 01:16:59,760
Speaker 8: Stories Okay, that's one of my stories that you're in

1618
01:16:59,800 --> 01:17:02,840
Speaker 8: life should tell people that a horri is a horror story.

1619
01:17:03,720 --> 01:17:05,040
Speaker 7: Hory is a horror story.

1620
01:17:05,640 --> 01:17:08,680
Speaker 5: Either we were being a house or a level ten,

1621
01:17:08,960 --> 01:17:11,559
Speaker 5: a level ten house, or you were just being you

1622
01:17:11,680 --> 01:17:14,400
Speaker 5: just had like a very traumatizing sexual experience.

1623
01:17:14,960 --> 01:17:17,920
Speaker 7: All right, that got horror.

1624
01:17:19,640 --> 01:17:20,080
Speaker 4: All right.

1625
01:17:20,240 --> 01:17:25,320
Speaker 9: There's one I remember when I was like, all right,

1626
01:17:25,439 --> 01:17:30,000
Speaker 9: I was like sixteen seventeen, and I had me and

1627
01:17:30,040 --> 01:17:32,000
Speaker 9: a boy decided to do this double date, take his

1628
01:17:32,080 --> 01:17:33,240
Speaker 9: girls to a hotel room.

1629
01:17:33,880 --> 01:17:35,000
Speaker 8: What that was the date?

1630
01:17:41,600 --> 01:17:45,960
Speaker 4: So you know, we take this take the girls to

1631
01:17:46,000 --> 01:17:48,040
Speaker 4: the hotel room. He goes into the bathroom with his chick.

1632
01:17:49,040 --> 01:17:51,479
Speaker 9: I'm in the main room with this chick and we're

1633
01:17:51,520 --> 01:17:53,400
Speaker 9: going at it.

1634
01:17:53,439 --> 01:17:56,599
Speaker 5: So I thought like having sex or just like starting

1635
01:17:56,640 --> 01:17:58,759
Speaker 5: to like kiss, was looking.

1636
01:17:58,520 --> 01:18:02,280
Speaker 9: At was it was, and so forth, and then you know,

1637
01:18:02,400 --> 01:18:04,679
Speaker 9: madway through this, she was like, I need you to stop.

1638
01:18:05,479 --> 01:18:07,720
Speaker 4: I was like I was because I'm black. It's the

1639
01:18:07,720 --> 01:18:11,120
Speaker 4: way I made. Can't take it. I'll slow down. No, no, no,

1640
01:18:11,280 --> 01:18:13,320
Speaker 4: she's just a black chick. And she said no.

1641
01:18:13,400 --> 01:18:15,080
Speaker 9: First off, she said I needed to like, can you

1642
01:18:15,120 --> 01:18:16,800
Speaker 9: first take your pants off? I had to get out

1643
01:18:16,840 --> 01:18:17,400
Speaker 9: fully dressed.

1644
01:18:17,439 --> 01:18:18,400
Speaker 4: I was all just moving.

1645
01:18:20,040 --> 01:18:23,519
Speaker 9: And then when we finally got going, when I finally

1646
01:18:23,520 --> 01:18:25,760
Speaker 9: put it in, when I tell you, I finished before

1647
01:18:25,800 --> 01:18:28,479
Speaker 9: it even started. By the time the girls like ooh,

1648
01:18:28,560 --> 01:18:31,360
Speaker 9: letting that fields, I was done over.

1649
01:18:31,560 --> 01:18:33,800
Speaker 4: We laying in bed. It's meet her and disappointment and

1650
01:18:33,920 --> 01:18:34,679
Speaker 4: it's pissed off.

1651
01:18:34,960 --> 01:18:37,599
Speaker 9: Meanwhile, my boys in the bathroom tearing his girl up,

1652
01:18:39,400 --> 01:18:42,880
Speaker 9: and I can't go to work because I rode with him. Yo,

1653
01:18:43,000 --> 01:18:45,479
Speaker 9: you want to watch? I was like, yea, you're gonna

1654
01:18:45,479 --> 01:18:48,640
Speaker 9: watch like a movie or something into like yeah, how

1655
01:18:48,720 --> 01:18:51,559
Speaker 9: I watched going sixty seconds like she had a bunch

1656
01:18:51,560 --> 01:18:57,040
Speaker 9: of little disrespectful When she started, I knew we wasn't

1657
01:18:57,040 --> 01:18:58,640
Speaker 9: gonna come back to this because she started making the

1658
01:18:58,640 --> 01:19:01,120
Speaker 9: bed while I was still in it. I said, this

1659
01:19:01,200 --> 01:19:03,720
Speaker 9: is what this aint gonna go. Good, My boy, come

1660
01:19:03,720 --> 01:19:05,720
Speaker 9: out the bathroom. They've been in there so long, they

1661
01:19:05,800 --> 01:19:09,720
Speaker 9: sweating relationship goals, pet names. They don't built something in there.

1662
01:19:10,200 --> 01:19:14,400
Speaker 9: I was like, yo, oh no, there was time for

1663
01:19:14,479 --> 01:19:18,320
Speaker 9: us to leave. And then they drove me on so fast.

1664
01:19:18,360 --> 01:19:19,920
Speaker 9: I feel like they have to go pick up another

1665
01:19:19,960 --> 01:19:23,559
Speaker 9: nigga to finish it. Oh pulled off and that was it.

1666
01:19:24,320 --> 01:19:26,400
Speaker 4: I don't think I saw her very much after that.

1667
01:19:26,479 --> 01:19:30,639
Speaker 5: Oh my god, no, Sammona in London.

1668
01:19:30,880 --> 01:19:33,080
Speaker 9: I mean, well that's why I was sixteen and which

1669
01:19:33,080 --> 01:19:33,599
Speaker 9: way was that?

1670
01:19:33,720 --> 01:19:37,000
Speaker 4: But that's why. But that's why. Just go back to

1671
01:19:37,040 --> 01:19:37,400
Speaker 4: what I'm saying.

1672
01:19:37,439 --> 01:19:40,280
Speaker 9: That's why now I make sure ideally most things I do,

1673
01:19:40,320 --> 01:19:42,519
Speaker 9: I try to do them very well, very well.

1674
01:19:44,200 --> 01:19:44,759
Speaker 5: Very well.

1675
01:19:45,000 --> 01:19:46,080
Speaker 7: You're gonna get this show.

1676
01:19:47,800 --> 01:19:50,120
Speaker 9: My attempt is to try to do well. I'm not

1677
01:19:50,120 --> 01:19:52,360
Speaker 9: saying perfect, but that's London.

1678
01:19:52,520 --> 01:19:57,120
Speaker 5: Let's call all of London's former house. Hello. Tell me

1679
01:19:57,160 --> 01:19:59,880
Speaker 5: what you read London A level time? How long did it?

1680
01:20:01,680 --> 01:20:02,280
Speaker 7: First question?

1681
01:20:02,439 --> 01:20:02,840
Speaker 5: First thing?

1682
01:20:02,920 --> 01:20:06,640
Speaker 8: First, you master all things that you do.

1683
01:20:06,920 --> 01:20:09,240
Speaker 4: I try to how do.

1684
01:20:09,160 --> 01:20:10,080
Speaker 7: You master like?

1685
01:20:10,880 --> 01:20:12,760
Speaker 5: How did you master sex? Did you.

1686
01:20:15,520 --> 01:20:16,360
Speaker 7: Like workshops?

1687
01:20:16,520 --> 01:20:19,160
Speaker 4: I won't say that. No, it's just this, but this

1688
01:20:19,240 --> 01:20:20,959
Speaker 4: is part why I don't whole around, because.

1689
01:20:20,720 --> 01:20:23,519
Speaker 10: I like to be gets you, to be the good

1690
01:20:23,560 --> 01:20:23,920
Speaker 10: sex guy.

1691
01:20:23,920 --> 01:20:24,880
Speaker 4: And I'm gonna tell you just.

1692
01:20:24,840 --> 01:20:29,160
Speaker 9: The difference between sleeping with a woman multiple times versus

1693
01:20:29,160 --> 01:20:32,080
Speaker 9: holding around the idea is that I like to learn

1694
01:20:32,120 --> 01:20:34,519
Speaker 9: the woman figure out what. That's why I don't like

1695
01:20:34,560 --> 01:20:36,640
Speaker 9: when women ask well this is kind of off, but

1696
01:20:36,760 --> 01:20:39,160
Speaker 9: on when we say, you know, well, what type of

1697
01:20:39,160 --> 01:20:41,840
Speaker 9: woman do you like. I'm like, those questions aren't good

1698
01:20:41,840 --> 01:20:44,840
Speaker 9: because if I name something you are not, then you're

1699
01:20:44,960 --> 01:20:47,439
Speaker 9: you're done. Don't even that's not the focus or what

1700
01:20:47,520 --> 01:20:49,760
Speaker 9: the position is, because how the woman is built will

1701
01:20:49,840 --> 01:20:50,839
Speaker 9: change the position.

1702
01:20:50,880 --> 01:20:52,200
Speaker 4: I like with this one versus that one.

1703
01:20:52,479 --> 01:20:56,439
Speaker 9: But I try to be with a woman and do

1704
01:20:56,680 --> 01:21:00,679
Speaker 9: talking and you like this, okay, whether it means for play,

1705
01:21:00,720 --> 01:21:03,040
Speaker 9: whether it means phone sakes, whatever, whatever it is. Let's

1706
01:21:03,080 --> 01:21:07,439
Speaker 9: find out what your groove is so that as long

1707
01:21:07,439 --> 01:21:10,200
Speaker 9: as she's comfortable then it then it changes the whole dynamic.

1708
01:21:10,439 --> 01:21:13,799
Speaker 9: I try to make the woman feel very comfortable first

1709
01:21:14,120 --> 01:21:16,280
Speaker 9: before anything. I'm not somebody if I'm going to get

1710
01:21:16,320 --> 01:21:19,000
Speaker 9: some or not. In my mind as an alpha male,

1711
01:21:19,040 --> 01:21:21,639
Speaker 9: I'm like, I'm going to just how am I going

1712
01:21:21,680 --> 01:21:24,200
Speaker 9: to I'm gonna go about this, And that's not to

1713
01:21:24,200 --> 01:21:28,400
Speaker 9: be that's not to be egotistical, but that's I just

1714
01:21:28,400 --> 01:21:29,559
Speaker 9: focus on whatever it is I want.

1715
01:21:29,600 --> 01:21:31,280
Speaker 4: So I'm like, if that's what I want.

1716
01:21:31,120 --> 01:21:35,960
Speaker 7: Then you can learned through listening to what a woman's.

1717
01:21:35,400 --> 01:21:38,400
Speaker 4: Listeners are listening and not moving fast at all.

1718
01:21:38,400 --> 01:21:39,880
Speaker 7: I don't that is good.

1719
01:21:40,760 --> 01:21:43,240
Speaker 9: I'm the chip usually in the relationship as far as

1720
01:21:43,479 --> 01:21:45,400
Speaker 9: how I move like I feel like I'm the valuable one.

1721
01:21:45,439 --> 01:21:48,240
Speaker 5: So it hasn't been ninety days yet.

1722
01:21:49,479 --> 01:21:51,800
Speaker 4: Slow slow down.

1723
01:21:51,880 --> 01:21:56,920
Speaker 7: I told you about that freaking. We're just netflexing the

1724
01:21:57,000 --> 01:21:57,479
Speaker 7: no need to.

1725
01:21:57,400 --> 01:21:59,760
Speaker 4: Rest if you're gonna get it anyway, So take you

1726
01:21:59,800 --> 01:22:01,680
Speaker 4: to she will make her feel comfortable.

1727
01:22:02,280 --> 01:22:07,760
Speaker 9: Be fun, fun, sexy fun should be more fun than

1728
01:22:08,560 --> 01:22:09,040
Speaker 9: gonna be fun.

1729
01:22:09,040 --> 01:22:11,160
Speaker 4: But just making fun and comfortable.

1730
01:22:11,160 --> 01:22:12,599
Speaker 10: Showing some fun sexy fun tonight.

1731
01:22:12,600 --> 01:22:15,160
Speaker 7: I hope, not expecting too much. Just want some sexy fun.

1732
01:22:15,920 --> 01:22:19,760
Speaker 5: I'm using that fun. Come in with some fun sexy fun.

1733
01:22:20,600 --> 01:22:24,680
Speaker 7: Oh my goodness, Okay, cool, all right, well.

1734
01:22:26,040 --> 01:22:28,559
Speaker 5: I guess we'll wrap it up. Thank you for coming.

1735
01:22:29,320 --> 01:22:32,160
Speaker 8: Thank you man, it's very nice to have your perspective

1736
01:22:32,320 --> 01:22:33,639
Speaker 8: on these things.

1737
01:22:33,680 --> 01:22:35,680
Speaker 10: I'm happy you're here. It's nice meeting you.

1738
01:22:35,960 --> 01:22:38,519
Speaker 5: Yeah, you want to follow London on Facebook so you

1739
01:22:38,560 --> 01:22:41,200
Speaker 5: can see all his because I'm super pro black myself.

1740
01:22:42,160 --> 01:22:44,559
Speaker 5: She was reading me something posts. I was like, yeah, exactly,

1741
01:22:44,600 --> 01:22:49,559
Speaker 5: how I feel so mean. I just I was reading

1742
01:22:49,560 --> 01:22:52,960
Speaker 5: her this one post about calling your children mixed or

1743
01:22:52,960 --> 01:22:55,240
Speaker 5: by racial or whatever, and you're saying one drop of black.

1744
01:22:55,280 --> 01:22:56,520
Speaker 7: You know it's the dominant.

1745
01:22:56,120 --> 01:22:59,320
Speaker 8: Color kids that they're half black and half something else

1746
01:22:59,320 --> 01:23:00,320
Speaker 8: because they're gonna be very.

1747
01:23:00,280 --> 01:23:03,040
Speaker 9: Confused and they go into I want to get look

1748
01:23:03,400 --> 01:23:05,519
Speaker 9: prepare them only I'm not trying to.

1749
01:23:05,600 --> 01:23:07,840
Speaker 4: I just I just want I just want people to

1750
01:23:08,080 --> 01:23:10,559
Speaker 4: I want them to look out. You've hurt with the reality.

1751
01:23:10,640 --> 01:23:14,200
Speaker 7: Later on, it was it's so true.

1752
01:23:14,240 --> 01:23:17,679
Speaker 5: And you know what, Actually I had this experience last

1753
01:23:17,680 --> 01:23:20,240
Speaker 5: week with Jamila. I took her to meet my dad

1754
01:23:20,400 --> 01:23:24,000
Speaker 5: with my dad with barbecuing, and my dad was talking

1755
01:23:24,040 --> 01:23:27,800
Speaker 5: about the NFL and like he'd had this really traumatizing

1756
01:23:27,840 --> 01:23:32,160
Speaker 5: experience early on in his career playing for the Colts

1757
01:23:32,200 --> 01:23:33,680
Speaker 5: where he went out on the field and there was

1758
01:23:33,680 --> 01:23:36,559
Speaker 5: a big banner held up by some guys. No, it

1759
01:23:36,600 --> 01:23:38,000
Speaker 5: was on the it was like pinned up.

1760
01:23:38,040 --> 01:23:38,840
Speaker 7: Yeah, it was pinned up.

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01:23:38,840 --> 01:23:41,519
Speaker 5: There was a banner like they hung over the whatever,

1762
01:23:41,760 --> 01:23:44,240
Speaker 5: the stadium ledge or whatever, and it was a huge

1763
01:23:44,240 --> 01:23:45,760
Speaker 5: picture of him. You know.

1764
01:23:45,880 --> 01:23:46,880
Speaker 7: I told my mom the story.

1765
01:23:46,880 --> 01:23:49,880
Speaker 5: It's so crazy, and she had a different perspective on it,

1766
01:23:49,920 --> 01:23:52,400
Speaker 5: not different, like different, but like so it was a

1767
01:23:52,439 --> 01:23:56,479
Speaker 5: baby with his number on it, twenty nine, and a

1768
01:23:56,479 --> 01:23:59,080
Speaker 5: black baby with the number twenty nine eating and eating chicken,

1769
01:24:00,160 --> 01:24:02,360
Speaker 5: eating a Friday's a chicken with a watermelon on one

1770
01:24:02,400 --> 01:24:04,240
Speaker 5: side and a stack of money on the other side.

1771
01:24:05,600 --> 01:24:09,320
Speaker 7: And the banner stayed up for three quarters.

1772
01:24:09,439 --> 01:24:11,880
Speaker 5: It wasn't until the third quarter that it was removed. Yeah,

1773
01:24:11,920 --> 01:24:15,200
Speaker 5: and so my dad was playing this whole game just

1774
01:24:15,920 --> 01:24:21,439
Speaker 5: blatant disrespect racism right in Indiana. Indiana, Indiana. It's like

1775
01:24:21,520 --> 01:24:25,599
Speaker 5: the start of the KKK. It's where it was, where

1776
01:24:25,640 --> 01:24:29,639
Speaker 5: it began. And my little sister, so, my little sister

1777
01:24:30,800 --> 01:24:33,080
Speaker 5: were was my father, my father's daughter, and she has

1778
01:24:33,120 --> 01:24:34,840
Speaker 5: a different mother than I do. Her mother is a

1779
01:24:34,880 --> 01:24:36,479
Speaker 5: white woman from Indiana. I love her.

1780
01:24:36,520 --> 01:24:37,160
Speaker 7: She's so sweet.

1781
01:24:37,640 --> 01:24:39,760
Speaker 5: This is nothing really to do with her, because I

1782
01:24:39,760 --> 01:24:43,200
Speaker 5: don't think that she even realizes what she's doing. But

1783
01:24:43,320 --> 01:24:45,879
Speaker 5: my little sister, well, my dad was telling the story,

1784
01:24:46,920 --> 01:24:49,960
Speaker 5: was laughing and like thought it was the funniest thing

1785
01:24:50,600 --> 01:24:54,200
Speaker 5: and didn't understand how fucked up it was. And she

1786
01:24:54,360 --> 01:24:57,120
Speaker 5: was just like, oh, that didn't happen, ha ha, Like

1787
01:24:57,160 --> 01:25:01,160
Speaker 5: it was this jo like totally like almost dismissed sing him.

1788
01:25:01,720 --> 01:25:04,160
Speaker 5: And so was her mom, honestly.

1789
01:25:04,280 --> 01:25:07,880
Speaker 10: And Indiana and people are are cool, nice people like.

1790
01:25:07,920 --> 01:25:09,880
Speaker 5: Oh, Eric, because I'm telling that story, It's not like

1791
01:25:09,920 --> 01:25:15,000
Speaker 5: that the finest man in Indiana find's black men in Indiana.

1792
01:25:15,960 --> 01:25:18,360
Speaker 5: But when I heard that, when I saw how my

1793
01:25:18,400 --> 01:25:21,080
Speaker 5: sister was reacting, I was like, oh, I got scared

1794
01:25:21,120 --> 01:25:23,240
Speaker 5: for her, which I still I'm actually gonna talk my

1795
01:25:23,320 --> 01:25:25,240
Speaker 5: dad about it because it kind of traumatized me. I

1796
01:25:25,320 --> 01:25:27,200
Speaker 5: was like, my little sister is going to walk through

1797
01:25:27,200 --> 01:25:29,960
Speaker 5: this life not realizing that she what it means to

1798
01:25:29,960 --> 01:25:31,840
Speaker 5: be a black woman like she. I know she knows

1799
01:25:31,840 --> 01:25:34,040
Speaker 5: that she's black, but I don't think she really understands.

1800
01:25:34,640 --> 01:25:37,160
Speaker 8: And that happens when you were raised by a white woman,

1801
01:25:37,200 --> 01:25:39,920
Speaker 8: because she is not she's she doesn't know.

1802
01:25:39,920 --> 01:25:43,920
Speaker 7: She's telling what she's doing, and she thinks that she's

1803
01:25:43,960 --> 01:25:44,599
Speaker 7: protecting her.

1804
01:25:45,080 --> 01:25:47,960
Speaker 5: And she's like, nope, baby, you don't have to get it.

1805
01:25:48,080 --> 01:25:49,360
Speaker 7: You don't have to give in to that ship.

1806
01:25:49,439 --> 01:25:52,280
Speaker 5: There's there's no racism, or maybe not no racism, but

1807
01:25:52,320 --> 01:25:54,880
Speaker 5: she's saying, you don't have to let that define you,

1808
01:25:54,920 --> 01:25:55,960
Speaker 5: and that's absolutely right.

1809
01:25:56,080 --> 01:25:59,320
Speaker 7: She doesn't. But the facts are the facts, you know

1810
01:25:59,360 --> 01:25:59,720
Speaker 7: what I mean?

1811
01:25:59,800 --> 01:26:01,160
Speaker 5: And truth is the truth, and you need to be

1812
01:26:01,160 --> 01:26:03,200
Speaker 5: able to recognize that shit. And I just wonder how

1813
01:26:03,240 --> 01:26:07,280
Speaker 5: often she's discriminated against it doesn't even realize it, you know,

1814
01:26:07,439 --> 01:26:11,800
Speaker 5: because she doesn't understand how the cool the world is,

1815
01:26:11,840 --> 01:26:16,600
Speaker 5: how race affects you. And when she was laughing, I

1816
01:26:16,680 --> 01:26:19,040
Speaker 5: was like, oh my god, Like what the fuck? I

1817
01:26:19,080 --> 01:26:20,680
Speaker 5: was like, oh my god. I needed like I need

1818
01:26:20,680 --> 01:26:22,920
Speaker 5: to hang out with him more like she needs she

1819
01:26:22,960 --> 01:26:25,719
Speaker 5: needs to understand, like this is not a laughing matter.

1820
01:26:25,800 --> 01:26:29,200
Speaker 5: Your father was targeted. Like and that's when I told

1821
01:26:29,240 --> 01:26:31,160
Speaker 5: my mom the story. She's like, where where was this

1822
01:26:31,200 --> 01:26:33,760
Speaker 5: in Indiana? She's like, oh, She's like, it's probably the

1823
01:26:33,840 --> 01:26:36,800
Speaker 5: year you were born. She's like, and she's like, maybe

1824
01:26:36,800 --> 01:26:40,840
Speaker 5: you were the baby. I was like, what's so fun?

1825
01:26:40,880 --> 01:26:44,519
Speaker 5: I was like, yeah, I was the baby. To me,

1826
01:26:45,479 --> 01:26:51,000
Speaker 5: the black is black baby anyway. Anyway, Yeah, I follow

1827
01:26:51,040 --> 01:26:53,800
Speaker 5: him on Facebook because his posts are very enlightening, so.

1828
01:26:58,240 --> 01:27:01,000
Speaker 9: Brown and as long as a few more Sundays, you

1829
01:27:01,000 --> 01:27:04,519
Speaker 9: can watch Ballers ten thirty on HBO.

1830
01:27:04,640 --> 01:27:06,720
Speaker 5: You guys, and do you have any upcoming shows in

1831
01:27:06,840 --> 01:27:08,679
Speaker 5: LAMI and I are always doing.

1832
01:27:08,479 --> 01:27:13,240
Speaker 9: Saturday if you're around Saturday nights, I hosted the Common Union.

1833
01:27:13,760 --> 01:27:15,080
Speaker 4: If not, look for me on the road.

1834
01:27:15,600 --> 01:27:20,800
Speaker 9: Coming is five zero four zero West Peokle Boulevard and

1835
01:27:21,000 --> 01:27:22,559
Speaker 9: I have a guest. Let's so follow me on Instagram

1836
01:27:22,560 --> 01:27:23,840
Speaker 9: and I can try to give us some tickets of

1837
01:27:23,920 --> 01:27:24,599
Speaker 9: some fun stuff.

1838
01:27:25,400 --> 01:27:27,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, we should. I'm not going to be out of sound,

1839
01:27:28,560 --> 01:27:30,840
Speaker 5: but London's really funny, so I highly recommend you going

1840
01:27:30,880 --> 01:27:33,120
Speaker 5: if you want to go, laugh laugh at some ship.

1841
01:27:34,479 --> 01:27:36,200
Speaker 4: You guys are great. Thank you so much for having

1842
01:27:36,280 --> 01:27:36,639
Speaker 4: me about.

1843
01:27:36,840 --> 01:27:43,640
Speaker 5: Thank you, thank you, and we will see you next Wenesday.

1844
01:27:44,280 --> 01:27:46,920
Speaker 5: Don't forget to watch Insecure and bring back Bible Day.

1845
01:27:47,720 --> 01:27:51,640
Speaker 5: Ooh hashtag bring back Bible Bay and make sure you

1846
01:27:51,680 --> 01:27:56,320
Speaker 5: follow us on at Good Mom's Underscore Bad Choices. Waiting

1847
01:27:56,400 --> 01:27:57,200
Speaker 5: some more horries?

1848
01:27:57,920 --> 01:28:00,800
Speaker 7: Yeah, please submit more horries. We need more questions.

1849
01:28:01,640 --> 01:28:03,439
Speaker 4: What I'm all right?

1850
01:28:03,680 --> 01:28:05,920
Speaker 7: Bye bye, That's why I'm so hello.

1851
01:28:06,040 --> 01:28:07,000
Speaker 5: What's your best friend?

1852
01:28:07,680 --> 01:28:09,240
Speaker 3: I want you ride all the time.

1853
01:28:09,720 --> 01:28:11,519
Speaker 4: I want you around me all the time. I'll be

1854
01:28:11,560 --> 01:28:14,519
Speaker 4: your best friend. If you'll promise you'll be mother.

1855
01:28:15,160 --> 01:28:18,519
Speaker 3: You'll promise you'll be my He said he's just a friend.

1856
01:28:18,800 --> 01:28:21,120
Speaker 4: Uh huh, now, veryl let's up pretend.

1857
01:28:21,439 --> 01:28:21,800
Speaker 9: Come on.

1858
01:28:23,520 --> 01:28:26,439
Speaker 4: Man, he said he's just a friend.

1859
01:28:27,000 --> 01:28:28,120
Speaker 5: Why what's your best friend?

1860
01:28:28,840 --> 01:28:31,280
Speaker 4: I want you run all the time. I want you

1861
01:28:31,360 --> 01:28:32,320
Speaker 4: my on all the time.

1862
01:28:32,360 --> 01:28:33,439
Speaker 5: I'll be your best friend.

1863
01:28:34,160 --> 01:28:35,759
Speaker 4: If you'll promise you'll be money.

1864
01:28:36,320 --> 01:28:37,679
Speaker 9: Your promise you'll be mone