WEBVTT - I Feel a Presence with Matt Fraser 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:03.760 Hey, guys, So we are going on the wind Down Tour. 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:06.800 Michael and I are so excited. We can't wait to 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:10.520 get out there and just talk about life and love 0:00:10.680 --> 0:00:13.800 and laugh, maybe have a few good cries in there. 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:16.319 You never know with wine Down, and we're gonna bring 0:00:16.880 --> 0:00:19.440 you know, people from from the seats, from the audience 0:00:19.640 --> 0:00:21.800 up on stage. We're gonna come out with some microphones. 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:24.639 We're gonna get you all involved. It's very interactive, a 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:26.920 ton of fun and honestly, some nights we don't even 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:27.880 know what's about to go down. 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:29.960 Well, that's the coolest thing about the wind Down Tour 0:00:30.200 --> 0:00:33.120 is that you know, you guys can ask us questions 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:37.279 and you really kind of guide, you guide the night 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:40.159 for us. And so we are going to San Antonio, 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:42.720 We're going to Austin, We're going to Dallas, We're going 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:46.680 to Houston and then Los Angeles and Sacramento. So you 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:50.680 guys get your tickets. Go to janakramer dot com slash 0:00:50.720 --> 0:00:53.080 tour to get your wind Down tickets. So excited to 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:53.600 see you guys. 0:00:53.600 --> 0:00:54.360 Come on out, y'all. 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:59.400 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and Michael Coffin and I'm 0:00:59.400 --> 0:01:02.320 her radio podcast Gang's all here. 0:01:03.880 --> 0:01:04.640 Just another Monday. 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:06.600 I mean. 0:01:08.640 --> 0:01:10.040 You here we go. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.759 No, no, no, I back at it. No, because we've 0:01:12.800 --> 0:01:14.880 got Easton and Mark too. 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:16.720 I know. 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:18.400 How does it feel like to have like the whole gang? 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:21.080 Because last time it was just you and me isolated, 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:23.760 isolated in our emotions. 0:01:23.920 --> 0:01:26.120 Uh huh. No one wanted a part of that. 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:27.960 Everyone's like, nah, you're good. 0:01:28.440 --> 0:01:29.080 You guys got it. 0:01:29.760 --> 0:01:31.720 Even if we've been here last week we hung out 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:32.160 of that one. 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:38.000 Yeah, I was like, come on, somebody throwss the lifeline. 0:01:38.360 --> 0:01:44.280 Hell no. But I mean it's good just to hear 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:47.160 y'all's voices and to be back with everybody and just 0:01:47.440 --> 0:01:48.520 get back into our zone. 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:50.720 Mike, you've kind of learned what you said that you 0:01:50.800 --> 0:01:53.280 caught yourself the other day with the kids where it's 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:55.880 Joelie is just kind of like doing things I think 0:01:55.920 --> 0:01:58.240 to just get a reaction. Even Jason right now too. 0:01:58.800 --> 0:02:00.480 But it's what does she do in you were like, 0:02:00.520 --> 0:02:03.120 you caught yourself to not be like critical. 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:05.320 Yeah, last night I was upstairs with the kids and 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.040 we were playing like before bathtime and everything in the playroom, 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:11.360 and I had Jason my lap and Jolie was playing 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:14.000 with this little toy like ukulele and stepped on this 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:17.799 like a platform plush thing that we have for Jase 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:21.000 to crawl on, and she stepped on the edge of it, 0:02:21.560 --> 0:02:25.360 so it flipped up. She fell forward, and like you know, 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:28.480 usually when kids do that, it's not so much that 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:30.160 they got hurt, but it more scares them and they 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:34.359 still cry. So she got scared. She kind of hurt 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:37.720 her hand a little bit and started crying. And my immediate, 0:02:37.840 --> 0:02:40.000 like the first thought that came to mind of what 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:41.800 I wanted to say was why would you do that? 0:02:43.680 --> 0:02:45.639 Like I literally wanted to say that to our four 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:49.400 year old daughter, and I had to I had to 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:52.040 catch myself and be like, no, it's not what I 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:55.840 want to say, and I calmed down. I was like, okay, hey, Joeli, 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:58.880 are you okay? I'm sorry that happened. Hey, you know 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:01.320 that happened because you stepped in the edge. So if 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:02.720 you want to do that again, just try to step 0:03:02.720 --> 0:03:04.080 more in the middle then it won't fall on you. 0:03:05.360 --> 0:03:07.320 But it was just that was my natural reaction to 0:03:07.800 --> 0:03:09.040 think the other way. 0:03:09.360 --> 0:03:11.160 But I was like, wow, what a cool teaching moment, 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:14.080 because I think I remember my mom and we've brought 0:03:14.080 --> 0:03:16.240 this up a few times too. She yelled at me 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:18.480 and said something like why would you do that? I 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:19.960 was like, well, mom, I don't know. Why won't you 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:22.040 like why don't you teach me? Show me how to 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:24.440 do it right? And it's like I've remembered that so 0:03:24.560 --> 0:03:27.320 much now as a parent because I'm like, it's so 0:03:27.400 --> 0:03:29.760 easy to Joulie, why would Jase? Why would why would 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:31.480 you do that? Like can't you see that it's gonna 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:34.080 fall or that you're gonna hurt yourself for this or 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:36.560 that or other where it's like, hey, don't do this 0:03:36.640 --> 0:03:38.240 because this can happen. Like I think, I don't know 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:40.680 if it's the we expect them to. 0:03:40.720 --> 0:03:45.000 Know that, and I think too a lot of us 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:48.400 receive that. I think every kid has received that at 0:03:48.400 --> 0:03:51.440 some point in time from their parents of why would 0:03:51.480 --> 0:03:54.160 you do that? Use your head? You know how many 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:55.920 times have kids heard that, like why would you use 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:57.000 your head? Just use your head? 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:02.520 Okay, you're getting triggered right now, but I mean that 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:06.080 really was something for you though, Yeah, where it's. 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:09.720 Like, you know, it was just I would feel stupid 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:12.520 and then like shamed and feel like, oh, yeah, why 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:15.760 would I do that? I don't know right, you know, 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:17.800 but it's at least you said you don't. 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:20.159 I think just like being conscious of it, Like there's 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:21.799 gonna be times we're gonna be like what are you thinking? 0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:24.840 But then it's like kind of been like ah, sorry. 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:27.800 You know, and more so now than when they're like sixteen, 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:29.600 and it's like what are you thinking? 0:04:31.320 --> 0:04:33.000 Yeah, but isn't that one like you really want your 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:36.600 parents to be not your friend. I get the not 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:40.440 having your friend, but also not doing kind of what 0:04:40.680 --> 0:04:45.880 happened with I'm like trying to like with the you 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.720 know where it's like they you yes, they might have 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:50.360 really screwed up, but they've come to you and they 0:04:50.360 --> 0:04:52.360 told you the truth. So instead of saying what were 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.960 you thinking, it's like, hey, thanks for coming to me. 0:04:55.200 --> 0:04:56.720 Or if so they got caught. Let's say one of 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:59.400 the kids got caught with like, I would be very 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:01.840 upset with the whole vaping stuff. I'd be so upset 0:05:02.480 --> 0:05:05.919 if I caught one of the kids vaping, especially with 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:07.839 all the I mean, who knows what's going to be 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:11.160 vaping at their age, but like let's just say right now, 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:13.200 if they're older and they were vaping, and I would 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:15.160 be like my first thought would be like, what are 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:18.120 you thinking? Like you could die and they don't know, Like, honestly, 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:19.320 rather you have a cigarette of. 0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:22.480 All of you know, And that's our that's our feelings 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.000 behind it, that's our reaction, right, But. 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:26.040 I would rather be like, Okay, why did you want 0:05:26.040 --> 0:05:28.840 to do this? Is? Are there kids that wanted? 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:29.320 You know? 0:05:29.360 --> 0:05:32.680 Did you feel cool doing it? Instead of saying why would. 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:35.560 You do this? No, for sure, I'm just saying it's 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:38.479 gonna I honestly think when the kids are older, it'll 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:41.080 be more difficult to have that pause like I had 0:05:41.160 --> 0:05:41.600 last night. 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:44.000 Wouldn't you have wanted that from your father? 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:45.640 Oh? I thought I would want it. Every every kid 0:05:45.720 --> 0:05:47.440 would want that from their parents and I and I'm 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.039 practicing it now. Is going to be beneficial for the 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:52.479 when the kids are older, because that's really when they're 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:56.120 going to be developing these skills to learn from and 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:57.920 bring into their you know, young adulthood. 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.680 What did our couples therapists say the other night where 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:06.680 their cortex something in the brain shuts off at at 0:06:06.720 --> 0:06:09.039 like ten and then doesn't come back online till twenty three, 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:13.040 So from like ten to twenty three, there's acting like crazy. 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:16.520 Yeah no, but that's that's basically what they said. They're 0:06:16.560 --> 0:06:19.520 like you just there is no reasoning really right, because 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:21.479 they're not really acting from there. It was that they're 0:06:22.400 --> 0:06:23.680 something some part of the brain. 0:06:24.480 --> 0:06:26.360 I don't know. I don't remember exactly. I don't want 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:27.039 to say it. 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.680 And how you how your kids, how you react to 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:32.960 your kids hurting themselves is an interesting conversation because I 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:36.640 don't know the right answer because I think moms tend 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:39.640 to rush to their child's aid, like, oh my gosh, 0:06:39.640 --> 0:06:41.880 your poor thing. Are you're okay, where dads tend to 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:44.720 be more You're fine, get up, shake it off. And 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:46.560 I don't know what the right answer is because I 0:06:46.560 --> 0:06:49.720 feel like both can have both can backfire. When you 0:06:49.800 --> 0:06:52.479 rush in, oh my gosh, you okay, suddenly they know 0:06:52.520 --> 0:06:54.000 that all they have to do is kind of scrape 0:06:54.000 --> 0:06:55.400 my knee and I can get this kind of love 0:06:55.400 --> 0:06:58.839 and attention, and or they'll even think it's a bigger 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:00.560 deal than it is, especially when the young If your 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:02.560 parent has a big reaction, you're like, oh my gosh, 0:07:02.600 --> 0:07:05.800 I'm really hurt. What But the other element of it, 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:07.480 get up, shake it off. I feel like there was 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:10.120 a message there like you just scraped your knee, you're fine, 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:13.480 get up and keep moving. And I tend to be 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:14.920 more of the get up and keep moving kind of 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:16.600 a guy. But I'm not sure that's the right way 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:16.880 to go. 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:21.600 Devil's Advocate does that then, maybe not teach them how 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:22.360 to have empathy? 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:28.640 Possibly, Well, it's a way to suppress your emotions. It's 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:31.040 a way to like kind of train you to suppress 0:07:31.040 --> 0:07:31.760 certain emotions. 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:35.400 And but I totally would do the same, like come on, 0:07:35.480 --> 0:07:36.280 you got to hear fine. 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:39.520 You're fine, up and not to I mean, I have 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:43.200 very few wins I feel like in life sometimes, So 0:07:43.560 --> 0:07:47.000 to go off of my win last night with the kids, 0:07:48.680 --> 0:07:51.480 I will say, with the topic that we're talking about, 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:53.840 I think it was kind of the best of both 0:07:53.880 --> 0:07:59.559 worlds because Okay, I didn't say, Julie, you're fine, like stop, 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:02.720 you're fine, get up, you're good. And I also didn't 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:06.640 rush over to her. I sat where I was and 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:10.000 I talked to her kindly and softly and said, what 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:13.440 you know, what happened? Do you come here? And she 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:14.920 came to me, and I hugged her and kissed her 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:17.000 and then explained it to her. So it was. I 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:20.200 liked it. I would like to think that it's that 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:21.960 was kind of a way to meet in the middle 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:26.480 where she didn't get this overbearing reaction of oh my god, 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:30.480 but she also didn't get, you know, the dismiss the 0:08:30.680 --> 0:08:31.720 dismissed feelings. 0:08:32.160 --> 0:08:36.800 What if we call it pause parenting, paused parenting, paused 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:39.160 parenting where you take a pause. 0:08:39.679 --> 0:08:42.280 Easier said than done. And then I know, like there's 0:08:42.280 --> 0:08:44.480 gonna be some days where when Jason's older, I'm gonna 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:45.480 be like, dude, stop being a. 0:08:45.440 --> 0:08:48.800 Dick, but stop because that's not that's not what you 0:08:48.840 --> 0:08:50.000 would have wanted from your dad. 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:52.520 No, but I'm saying when it's an important moment, no, 0:08:52.679 --> 0:08:53.920 But there's gonna be times where. 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:55.920 He might do something brushing her teeth an important moment. 0:08:57.400 --> 0:08:59.880 Okay. What I received is a lot more than hey 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:02.080 and playfully stop being a dick. 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:05.400 Okay. I'm just trying to play devils with you here 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.880 because I just want you to be cautious, because you 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.080 you don't want the same pattern repeating no. 0:09:12.200 --> 0:09:14.720 For sure, trust me, I'll be very conscientious of that. 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:19.000 Speaking on the topic of the children, though I don't 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:23.160 look at comments really often, but with being back on 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:25.679 the podcast. I'm looking at comments just on the podcast app. 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:26.480 Oh don't look. 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:29.520 No, it's the worst, the worst. I think if either 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:31.080 one of us look at it will end up fighting 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:34.360 each other. But I did, I did. I did see 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:38.320 a few, and I've seen these before that I can't 0:09:38.320 --> 0:09:41.640 not address and I have to defend you me. Yes, 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:47.400 because a few people commented about how you talk about 0:09:47.520 --> 0:09:51.640 Jolie and like shaming you and how you are and 0:09:51.679 --> 0:09:56.920 playing playing favoritism and all this bullshit, and it got 0:09:56.920 --> 0:09:59.640 me irate. I was like, only if y'all could see 0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:03.040 how is to our kids on a daily basis, y'all 0:10:03.040 --> 0:10:06.839 wouldn't have to say no. Seriously, it gets me roughed 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:09.439 up because that's unbelievable. They don't see what behind what 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:11.800 goes on behind closed doors. And this is our podcast. 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:13.520 We can speak our opinions, we can vent, we can 0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:16.360 talk about our kids annoying us and being little head 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:19.760 sometimes because they are. Anyone who has kids understands that 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:21.400 you want to be able to call them that sometimes 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.559 because they are. And yeah, right now, Jace, it's hard 0:10:24.559 --> 0:10:26.000 for him to do any wrong because he's one years 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:27.600 old and he's the most adorable little boy in the 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:31.320 world and Jolia is four going on fourteen and she 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:34.760 acts like it, So I mean, it's inevitable we're gonna 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:37.439 feel that way at times. But this just because we 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:39.720 vent or Gina vents about that or talks about it 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:42.760 and jokes about it, doesn't mean that she plays favoritism. 0:10:42.840 --> 0:10:46.400 Doesn't mean that she speaks that way to Jolie. She's 0:10:46.440 --> 0:10:48.480 the best mom I know and would do anything for 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:50.960 both kids and loves them equally. So it just pissed hery. 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:54.040 It pissed me off when I started seeing that stuff 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:57.760 because I was like, that's one area that no one 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:02.000 has a right to comment about because they don't know. 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:07.400 Mm hmm, So thanks, babe, I appreciate that. My soapbox, Ma, well, no, 0:11:07.440 --> 0:11:12.040 I appreciate it. You know, people are just gonna That's 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:14.480 why I said something there on my Instagram because someone 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:18.839 was basically called me. You know. So when we've had 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:23.920 the conversation our last podcast, everyone there was a like 0:11:24.240 --> 0:11:27.960 ninety percent was super positive. And then I made the 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:31.319 mistake of reading comments on a on a other website 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:36.000 and those were all obviously terrible, but one of the 0:11:36.000 --> 0:11:39.800 girls on my Instagram left like a really like nasty DM, 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:41.880 and was just like, you know, you're basically an idiot 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.360 for staying and like that's not showing your kid's strength. 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:47.640 And because of your daughter and how you treat her 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:49.960 like a baby, she's going to be like basically messed 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:52.520 up until she's fourteen or and jas won't talk until 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:55.760 he's fourteen, and then kind of like mocking Jolly's speech delay, 0:11:57.240 --> 0:12:00.480 I know. And I was like, look, you can go 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:04.240 after me and my love life all day long. I 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.880 don't care. I've got thick skin, but you talk about 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:09.760 my kids and making fun of Jolie and making fun 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:13.720 of how like I'm a parent, or criticizing how I parent, 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:16.400 or that Jase isn't gonna talk till he's fourteen because 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:19.000 you know I treat him like a baby. Like it, 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:22.400 I was just like f you. Basically I ended up 0:12:22.400 --> 0:12:23.960 putting it on my story, but then I took it 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:25.280 down because I was like, you know what, I don't 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:27.120 want to put the negative out there because I know 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:29.400 there's enough positive. But I did say something where I 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:32.600 was like, I I just don't want to say people 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:36.240 that well, I just don't understand people who can say 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:39.240 mean things about other people's kids, Like I can sometimes 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:42.040 like that. You know, there's the kid at the playground 0:12:42.040 --> 0:12:45.680 and I'm like, hey, I'm gonna don't hurt my kids 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:46.760 or be nice. 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:49.000 And oh, yeah, you have no problem going up to 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:49.640 a little kid, and. 0:12:49.920 --> 0:12:53.079 Well, I know, but I would never like be mean 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:53.480 or something. 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:55.559 Oh you've been mean, You've always been respectful. 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:58.000 But so I just don't get people that say mean 0:12:58.040 --> 0:12:59.840 comments online. It's just really bothered me. 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.560 I get that that's rough, that is really rough, and 0:13:02.600 --> 0:13:05.719 it's scary that that's you know, well you should read 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:07.760 those and blah blah blah. And people just love being 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:10.360 anonymous on the internet. But it's scary that people have 0:13:10.440 --> 0:13:12.680 that in them, that they have those thoughts. 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:14.160 Right, And I get. 0:13:14.240 --> 0:13:18.360 And I had my friend Brandon, who's so sweet, Brandon Leslie, 0:13:18.360 --> 0:13:19.920 they're a married friend of ours, and you know, he 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:22.760 sent me message he's like, look, he's like, when you're 0:13:22.760 --> 0:13:24.400 in this world, He's like, you're not going to have 0:13:24.440 --> 0:13:27.680 one hundred percent approval, right, you just aren't. And that 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:30.440 somewhat kills me because I want people to like me, 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:32.360 but them at the same time, what I want, what 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:35.360 I want, honestly is I want people to disagree with me, 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:40.320 but still respect me. That's what I want. I disagree 0:13:40.320 --> 0:13:42.720 with a lot of my friends. I disagree with a 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:45.920 lot of you know, I disagree with my friend's political background, 0:13:46.000 --> 0:13:48.240 but I still love her. I'm not going to be disrespectful. 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:51.520 That's all I usually ask is you can disagree with me, 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:53.120 but don't be disrespectful and that. 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:56.320 But that's just the whole theme of society where that's 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:59.400 why politics, religion, all those things are such you know, 0:13:59.600 --> 0:14:02.280 hot time topics or you know, hot buttons for people 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:06.000 at over the holidays or at big gatherings or family 0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:10.720 reunions or whatever, because people just tend to get disrespectful 0:14:10.800 --> 0:14:14.600 and heeded about their opinions or going against someone else's 0:14:14.600 --> 0:14:17.080 opinions when it comes to those kind of things. Yeah, 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:18.720 so it's just, I mean, it's just the way it is. 0:14:19.160 --> 0:14:21.480 We have our guests here. I'm super excited. We'll introduce 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:23.200 them in a minute, but first let's take a break. 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:33.000 Okay, I am real excited. 0:14:33.480 --> 0:14:34.400 Who isn't. 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:36.680 Do you want to do the intro? 0:14:37.640 --> 0:14:39.400 Janea's nervous of saying the name incorrectly. 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:40.720 I just want to I don't want to mess up 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:43.000 Alexa's name because she's beautiful and she deserves the biggest 0:14:43.160 --> 0:14:43.640 entrance ever. 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:47.560 So everyone, welcome to our studio. Mister Matt Fraser and 0:14:47.680 --> 0:14:52.800 Alexa Pepagotis, Yes, thank you. 0:14:53.040 --> 0:14:53.520 I got it. 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:54.880 He almost got it. 0:14:55.240 --> 0:15:00.640 What I messed up? Matt Peas, I said, go didn't? I? 0:15:00.800 --> 0:15:04.040 You put the goat in it? 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:05.040 Very difficult. 0:15:06.120 --> 0:15:09.600 So on e meet the Frasers Monday, ten ninth Central. 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:11.840 How much fun are you guys having doing this together? 0:15:12.680 --> 0:15:16.200 Oh my god, it has been a blast, literally a blast. 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:18.560 I know it's not often. I mean, you guys know, 0:15:18.640 --> 0:15:20.760 it's not often that you get to work with the 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:23.040 person you're in love with and with, so to do 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:25.640 it all the time. Plus our families is like a 0:15:25.680 --> 0:15:26.320 dream come true. 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:28.360 Well that's that's the hard part work with the film. Well, 0:15:29.040 --> 0:15:32.160 I mean our family tends. Some people think us is hard. 0:15:32.240 --> 0:15:36.120 Yeah, by dead people. I'm not. I'm haunted by the living. 0:15:36.160 --> 0:15:37.440 I'm haunted by my family members. 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:40.080 Yeah. Yeah, Who is it? What inspired you guys to 0:15:40.200 --> 0:15:42.240 kind of combine and do this show together? 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:46.440 So, you know, to be honest with you, I don't 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:47.880 even know. One day, great question. 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:50.760 Yeah, I think that I got to recall one day 0:15:50.760 --> 0:15:55.760 from MGM YEP in Los Angeles, and they learned about 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:58.600 our relationship with one another, and they learned about, you know, 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:02.080 my life as a psychic medium, and they were like, 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.080 you know, this would be an incredible TV show to 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:05.920 you know, see all parts of it, just not you 0:16:05.960 --> 0:16:07.880 as a medium, but also you with your girlfriend, and 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:09.800 you were with your families, and you know how you 0:16:09.800 --> 0:16:12.240 interact with one another. So next thing, you know, meet 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:13.120 the Phrasius was born. 0:16:13.240 --> 0:16:16.480 Well, it's very different. I don't think there's a psychic 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:20.040 pageant Italian like show. 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:22.360 I mean, you got a lot of places to go here. 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:25.360 I mean, it's just a producer's dream I can imagine. 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:26.920 Well no, that's what I love about it though, too, 0:16:26.920 --> 0:16:29.440 because it's not just I mean, it's not just about 0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:32.600 about you. It's it's about the family, it's about the relationship, 0:16:32.640 --> 0:16:34.520 it's about it, it's all of that. So you're able 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:37.520 to not just see the readings, but to see everything 0:16:37.560 --> 0:16:39.680 that goes on in y'all's life as well. So I 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:42.320 think that's a cool new approach. Well, how did they 0:16:42.360 --> 0:16:44.720 how did they find you? What were you doing to 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:46.680 kind of put that out in the universe? Were you 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:49.360 telling the dead people to talk to E like, were 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:52.080 you well, I going to remember. 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:53.880 That before before the TV show, you know, I was 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:56.920 out touring, so I had sold out events across the country. 0:16:56.960 --> 0:16:59.280 I had a two year waiting list for private readings 0:16:59.640 --> 0:17:02.520 before the TV show came about, so, you know, and 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:05.960 Alexa was Miss Rhode Island teen, USA twenty seventeen. 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:08.800 Yeah she was, Yes, she was, Yes, she was. 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:10.840 So you know, I was doing my thing, she was 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:11.960 doing her things. 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:14.080 So, you know, I never really feel like, you know, 0:17:14.240 --> 0:17:16.959 I've gotten many calls over the years of different production 0:17:17.040 --> 0:17:19.960 companies wanting to do a TV show with me. And 0:17:20.000 --> 0:17:22.000 in the beginning, you know, I've gotten calls like to 0:17:22.040 --> 0:17:25.640 do shows like about finding you know, missing and murdered children, 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:28.280 and that just wasn't that to me was like too sad. 0:17:28.440 --> 0:17:30.040 They wanted me to you know, to go into haunted 0:17:30.080 --> 0:17:32.960 houses and you know talk to you know, spirits and 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:35.080 haunted houses, and I didn't want to do that. I 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:37.480 wanted to do something that was going to help people, 0:17:37.600 --> 0:17:39.880 you know, showcase what I did on a daily basis, 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:42.600 but also have my family involved as well. So when 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:44.080 I got a call and they said, listen, we just 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:45.720 we don't want to we don't want to script anything. 0:17:45.720 --> 0:17:47.320 We just want to, you know, have you be you 0:17:47.560 --> 0:17:49.680 and do a show just about you and your life. 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:51.159 I was in, I was signed up, and I was 0:17:51.200 --> 0:17:51.679 ready to go. 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:54.440 That's awesome. So before we talk more about the show, 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:56.679 what's y'all story? Like, how did you guys meet? How 0:17:56.720 --> 0:17:59.240 long y'all been together and all that fun the stuff. 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:01.480 Well, this a real story, that's a fake story. 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:04.160 Yes, so I'll just give you that. 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:09.040 I have the real one, honey, now, honey, yes, I do. 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:12.040 Okay, she'll tell you that. All right, Fine, go ahead, Okay, 0:18:12.200 --> 0:18:14.120 I'll just have my turn. So that's okay. 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:18.160