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Speaker 1: You know and I don't want to be in this
Speaker 1: constant state of trauma and upset. Let me say, first
Speaker 1: of all, I heard you say I don't want to,
Speaker 1: but I want to offer you that instead of affirming
Speaker 1: because you're damning, you're you're important, You've got power, instead
Speaker 1: of affirming what you don't want, just make another choice.
Speaker 1: So I'm choosing to. I'm no longer choosing to be reactive.
Speaker 1: I'm choosing this because choices your power. What's up, everybody,
Speaker 1: I'm Gammy and this is positively gam Every week I
Speaker 1: have raw, in depth conversation with inspirational people pushing for
Speaker 1: change on everything from aging, relationships, politics, wellness, to the
Speaker 1: current issues facing the black community. In this episode, we're
Speaker 1: going to be discussing how to cope as a society
Speaker 1: saturated with trauma. Joining us today is yan La van
Speaker 1: zand iyan La is one of the most celebrated writers
Speaker 1: and speakers, and she's among the most influential and acclaimed
Speaker 1: spiritual life coaches. Iyanla embodies a no nonsense approaching her message. Currently,
Speaker 1: Illanla is the host and executive producer of the award
Speaker 1: winning breakout hit iyan La Fixed My Life, the number
Speaker 1: one reality show on OWN. Thank you so much, Illanna
Speaker 1: for joining us. I feel so blessed today and I
Speaker 1: actually am feeling the need to talk to you today.
Speaker 1: Congrats on your new podcast, Everything's Podcast Now. So good
Speaker 1: for you, I know, thank you so much, thank you
Speaker 1: so much. I'm enjoying it. But how has it been
Speaker 1: for you fixing other people's lives? You know, I don't.
Speaker 1: Everybody says that I don't. I don't really fix their lives.
Speaker 1: I give them the information that they need to fix
Speaker 1: their own life. You know. People come with their story
Speaker 1: and with their beliefs and with their everything, and you know,
Speaker 1: I go in to interrupt the patterns that they have
Speaker 1: and provide them with a different perspective on not only
Speaker 1: what the problem is, but what they need to do
Speaker 1: or not to get to where they want to be.
Speaker 1: So it's been quite a journey eight you. It has been.
Speaker 1: And I'm a huge fan. I'm I watched you know
Speaker 1: all the time, and I must say that you really
Speaker 1: find some really creative ways to get people to really
Speaker 1: look at themselves and to look honestly at what's going
Speaker 1: on because and and that's hard work. Well that's hard
Speaker 1: work because most times we're in such denial we don't
Speaker 1: want to see ourselves, you know, and particularly for people
Speaker 1: of color, we don't want to move into anything with
Speaker 1: the consciousness that there's something wrong with me. So when
Speaker 1: we when you start telling people that there's another way,
Speaker 1: what they hear is you did it wrong. And for
Speaker 1: people who have been oppressed or denied or help back
Speaker 1: for so long, that's a hard thing, but it is
Speaker 1: also a common human challenge that just reflection, self reflection.
Speaker 1: It's hard, you know, But I think my team. I
Speaker 1: have an incredible team of producers that support me and
Speaker 1: coming up with what we call our launch pad and
Speaker 1: our exercises, and then I just go in and do
Speaker 1: the work. That's the easy part. Oh, that's the easy part. No,
Speaker 1: that's the hard part. Actually, I was thinking earlier and
Speaker 1: I had this conversation with Will and with Jada constantly
Speaker 1: about compassion, and I was like, why am I charged
Speaker 1: this year and all within all with everything that's going
Speaker 1: on with trying to live my life from a more
Speaker 1: compassionate space, and it's just been so very challenging for me.
Speaker 1: It's just been really difficult and during this everything, with
Speaker 1: everything that's going on, and this year has been so
Speaker 1: traumatic for so many reasons. We have the pandemic, we
Speaker 1: have the Black Lives Matter, protests, we have all the
Speaker 1: police brutality that actually has been going on for years
Speaker 1: and years now, we have the writers and the storming
Speaker 1: of the capitol, Like, how do let's start with, how
Speaker 1: do you personally deal with the state of affairs in
Speaker 1: this country and not lose your mind because I'm I
Speaker 1: get so full of anger and frustration. God is so
Speaker 1: for me. God is, God is in charge, God knows,
Speaker 1: God is moving, God is shifting, God is changing. And
Speaker 1: so I don't have a story about anything that's going
Speaker 1: on because I know that everything is exactly as it
Speaker 1: needs to be in order for what is required to unfold.
Speaker 1: So I I you know, I haven't had no trauma,
Speaker 1: I haven't had no upset. You know, every now and
Speaker 1: then the thing that makes me crazier than anything else
Speaker 1: is they repeat the same thing over and over. Give
Speaker 1: me some new information. So you know, I just don't
Speaker 1: watch it. But I think that everything And you know,
Speaker 1: I look at this, We're looking out and I'm looking
Speaker 1: in and I'm saying, okay, I do that. How do
Speaker 1: I lie, change my story, bullying myself, deny? How do
Speaker 1: I do that? And once I get it clear in me,
Speaker 1: when I see it out there. I know what it is.
Speaker 1: It doesn't bother me. We are looking at ourselves else
Speaker 1: But because as we said earlier, it's so hard for
Speaker 1: people to reflect and self reflect, we're making it about
Speaker 1: what's going on out there? What are you doing in here?
Speaker 1: Turn the spotlight in instead of making it a spotlight
Speaker 1: that goes out. Everything that we're seeing is what we
Speaker 1: as human race do. This is the truth being revealed.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm so excited. I'm excited personally. I know that's
Speaker 1: a little strange, but it's very no not I understand,
Speaker 1: I understand what you're saying. It's just you know, in
Speaker 1: the moment, it's just it's just typically difficult for me
Speaker 1: to go into that space. If the minute you think
Speaker 1: it's happening out there, it's happened, you'll get upset about
Speaker 1: the minute you think, oh, look what they're doing, Look
Speaker 1: what they're saying, as opposed to how do I do that?
Speaker 1: Have I done that? Okay? And then when I get
Speaker 1: it in here, when I see it out there, I said, oh,
Speaker 1: I know what that is. I know what that is. Okay,
Speaker 1: I know what you're doing. I don't need the news
Speaker 1: or anybody to tell me the truth because I know
Speaker 1: the truth in me, so when I see it out there,
Speaker 1: I just say, thank God, I'm better now. I'm better now,
Speaker 1: you know. So, Yeah, compassion is the thing. I have
Speaker 1: compassion for us right now because we've prolonged and denied
Speaker 1: and we assisted for so long to the universe has
Speaker 1: now just dumped it all in our lap at one time.
Speaker 1: But that's because we didn't take the clues along the way.
Speaker 1: We know that racism exists. We know that white superiority
Speaker 1: is the foundation upon which this this country was built.
Speaker 1: We know that people have in order to maintain their
Speaker 1: position or deny other We know it, and then we've accommodated,
Speaker 1: we've tolerated it, We've gone along with it, and universe,
Speaker 1: you know, God is saying enough until we surrender, and
Speaker 1: surrender is coming. We're not. Yes, yes, that is a
Speaker 1: good word. I'm familiar with that word as a recovering addict.
Speaker 1: I'm familiar with that word surrender. So it's surrendering to
Speaker 1: to what is happening so that change can occur. Is
Speaker 1: that a good way of absolutely looking at it? And
Speaker 1: you know what else gave me? All change is preceded
Speaker 1: by chaos. Think about when you want to clean your
Speaker 1: closet out. In order to do the closet, you gotta
Speaker 1: take everything out, and the bed, the floor, the shoot,
Speaker 1: you find the two things that you bought at you
Speaker 1: never wore. Everything is all over. So it's chaos and
Speaker 1: you have to sort through the chaos in order to
Speaker 1: recreate order. And that's what's going on. Like that is
Speaker 1: such a good way to put it. Let me ask you, though,
Speaker 1: what are some techniques that we can use in order
Speaker 1: to to confront you know these? For me, it's still
Speaker 1: I still call it trauma, so that we're not keeping
Speaker 1: it all bottled up inside or have this emotional outbreaks.
Speaker 1: And I'm going to use my husband and I as
Speaker 1: an example. We have a very different way of looking
Speaker 1: at the pandemic and how we are managing it and
Speaker 1: right now and it is it continues to be an
Speaker 1: area of contention for us. So for me, I've surrendered
Speaker 1: to and respect how he feels about the pandemic and
Speaker 1: how he wants to move about. And I asked him
Speaker 1: to do the same for me. And this morning the
Speaker 1: conversation just went left, like my, my, I don't even
Speaker 1: really want to talk about it, you know what? I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: about the pandemic. I don't feel the need to converse
Speaker 1: about it, like how many people are dying? Like the
Speaker 1: numbers are really high here in California right now, and
Speaker 1: I don't feel the need to discuss that because I
Speaker 1: know that compared to even him, we as a family
Speaker 1: out here are so in tune to it because we
Speaker 1: have to get tested constantly because we're all working and
Speaker 1: so we're constantly being tested. Like I'm on a first
Speaker 1: name basis with the E. M. T That comes to
Speaker 1: do our testing. I see him like two and three
Speaker 1: times a week. We're friends, you know. But yeah, So
Speaker 1: I don't know, how do you have conversation with people
Speaker 1: and not just get all out of whack when you're
Speaker 1: talking talking about any of this. I find myself to
Speaker 1: be on social media constantly. I'm on Facebook when things
Speaker 1: like when the riots are I got something to say
Speaker 1: about everything, and I'm on Facebook, and then after I'm done,
Speaker 1: I'm like, girl, then do you feel better now that
Speaker 1: you because I'm I'm going on there thinking that I'm
Speaker 1: releasing my frustration, But I don't feel that way after
Speaker 1: it's all said and done, I really actually feel even
Speaker 1: more amped up. So then I'm like, maybe I just
Speaker 1: need to not be on social media, maybe I don't
Speaker 1: need to be watching the news, But then I feel uninformed.
Speaker 1: It is traumatic because it's such a abrupt and radical
Speaker 1: change to our habitual problem solving techniques. None of our
Speaker 1: problems solving techniques ROLLA don't respect none of them. Okay.
Speaker 1: So it is quite traumatic because one of the number
Speaker 1: one addictions of human beings, all human beings, is controlling,
Speaker 1: and we have totally lost control. So to be informed
Speaker 1: is one thing, but to want to know what to
Speaker 1: do then stirs up something else in us as human beings,
Speaker 1: which is survival. So I gotta know what to do
Speaker 1: to survive because I can't control this thing. So we
Speaker 1: go here to get some info, and there to get
Speaker 1: some info, and there, and we're listening and this one
Speaker 1: and then somebody says something, and no, that's crazy. And
Speaker 1: you know, so as opposed to trying to make it again,
Speaker 1: trying to make it outkay out there, you gotta get
Speaker 1: okay in here. When this thing first hit, I said
Speaker 1: that ain't got nothing to do with me. I'm not
Speaker 1: having it. I'm not entertaining it, I'm not engaging it.
Speaker 1: But I got to do. Okay, I didn't not know
Speaker 1: toilet paper, and if the toilet paper was pure, I
Speaker 1: was in a lot of trouble because I had no
Speaker 1: toilet paper, you know, so, but I have to do
Speaker 1: so Number one, I was just real clear that, Okay,
Speaker 1: this has to be a lesson and universal lesson that
Speaker 1: we're all learning. What is my lesson? For me, the
Speaker 1: lesson was for the past I don't know, fifteen sixteen years.
Speaker 1: I probably haven't spent two consecutive weeks in my home.
Speaker 1: So when they said stay home, I had to get
Speaker 1: adjusted to not being busy, really just gets still, and
Speaker 1: that for me was traumatic. You know that about that?
Speaker 1: So here I am. I'm home. I'm not out in
Speaker 1: the world not doing my work. Who did you are?
Speaker 1: You know? So for many of us that was the issue.
Speaker 1: So you have the not being in control. What do
Speaker 1: I need to do to survive? And now my whole
Speaker 1: motus outa runde has been shifted, So that was challenged.
Speaker 1: And many of us had to be home with people
Speaker 1: that we love but don't like, so that was a
Speaker 1: whole another thing. So I think your question, when I'm
Speaker 1: hearing you ask, is how do you communicate compassionately with
Speaker 1: someone standing in a different way than you are. So
Speaker 1: compassion really is about seeing the position or suffering of
Speaker 1: another and taking action to alleviate the something. Like you said,
Speaker 1: you don't want to talk about it. Maybe somebody else does,
Speaker 1: but that's because their lack of control and their fear
Speaker 1: and their coping mechanism. Maybe talking about so how do
Speaker 1: you have compassion? And I think I heard you say
Speaker 1: it was your husband, so you can't tell him talk
Speaker 1: to me about that? What's said abound you? Okay, we're
Speaker 1: only gonna talk about this from six am to seven am,
Speaker 1: from noon to twelve thirty, from four pm to four
Speaker 1: five o'clock, and that's it. Other than that, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: ask you not to talk about its TV, and if
Speaker 1: you do, I'm gonna leave the room. Can we agree
Speaker 1: to that as opposed to he shouldn't be or they
Speaker 1: shouldn't be, or why do they compassion? See the position
Speaker 1: or the suffering of another person and then take action
Speaker 1: to alleviate the suffering without sacrificing yourself. You can talk
Speaker 1: about it for half an hour. You don't even have
Speaker 1: he's talking, You don't even have to respond. Your job
Speaker 1: is to listen and then what is your internal dialogue
Speaker 1: while he's talking, you know, like a lot of times,
Speaker 1: you know, people talk to me about everything in the supermarket,
Speaker 1: in the wal market, and in my brain, I'm in
Speaker 1: my mind, I'm saying, I don't have nothing to do it.
Speaker 1: It's I am not on this committee. I am not
Speaker 1: on the heel of your mother committee. This is what
Speaker 1: I'm saying in my brain. But I'm looking at her
Speaker 1: because she needed to talk. And when she was finished,
Speaker 1: I said, you should go online and get on my
Speaker 1: mailing list because my newsletter might be helpful to you.
Speaker 1: But got it. So that's what compassion is about, putting
Speaker 1: seeing where the other person is, seeing sense and feeling
Speaker 1: where the other person is and whether they're in a
Speaker 1: form of suffering or a form of fear or anger
Speaker 1: or whatever, and then doing what is required, what you
Speaker 1: can do without sacrificing your steps self to put an
Speaker 1: end of there, whatever it is they're going, because we
Speaker 1: we are traumatized. Yeah, and I guess I really have
Speaker 1: to open my mind and be mindful while we're having
Speaker 1: the conversation because he senses from me that my attitude is, oh,
Speaker 1: here we go again. That is not compassionate. That's not compassionate,
Speaker 1: and it's not helpful. I remember the day when George
Speaker 1: Floyd was murdered and everybody was in such uproar, and
Speaker 1: I said, thank you God for that angel named George
Speaker 1: Floyd who came to remind us yet again that we
Speaker 1: have to deal with this racism and we have to
Speaker 1: deal with these abuse. So now they're finding court officers, firemen,
Speaker 1: were tired police, retired military, all involved in this assault
Speaker 1: on the White House. So if they would go against
Speaker 1: a building because they didn't like what was going on
Speaker 1: in the building, what do you think they're going to
Speaker 1: do the people that they don't like, you know? And
Speaker 1: so I I my heart goes out to the Floyd
Speaker 1: family and the Martin family and the all of the families.
Speaker 1: But I've just seen all of these people as angels
Speaker 1: who have come and made a masterful, mighty sacrifice to
Speaker 1: wake us up. And we still ain't woke up because
Speaker 1: you know, we marched and screened and protested, which we
Speaker 1: needed to do for what three four months? You don't
Speaker 1: even hear George Floyd's name, So what are we gonna do?
Speaker 1: Everybody is talking about the fact that those protesters or
Speaker 1: rioters or insurrectionists or whatever they're being called today, we're
Speaker 1: able to roll up in the capital, thousands of them
Speaker 1: in the street, and people will say out loud, well,
Speaker 1: you know, it couldn't have been black people, and we'll
Speaker 1: say it. But what we're gonna do? What's our ask?
Speaker 1: What's our approach? What are we gonna do? What are
Speaker 1: we gonna do? We're just sitting here, one thing up
Speaker 1: our nose and the other one twiddling in our hair. Well,
Speaker 1: what are we gonna do? And until we get clear
Speaker 1: about what we're asking and what we're willing to do
Speaker 1: to get it, it's gonna keep happening. Thank you? Can
Speaker 1: you please say that again in Yana because I I
Speaker 1: feel so so strongly about it, and I'm just not
Speaker 1: I still am not clear on exactly that. What is
Speaker 1: our ask? And how are we going to hold this
Speaker 1: administration accountable or whoever we think needs to be held accountable?
Speaker 1: How are we going to do that? At? What is
Speaker 1: our act? That's the first thing, because until we're clear
Speaker 1: about the ask, we don't know who to approach. We
Speaker 1: don't have to approach. And you know I've said this
Speaker 1: for years everybody, please forgive me. Don't send me no
Speaker 1: emails and and send me dirty letters. I've said this
Speaker 1: for you, I've said it to all my friends and
Speaker 1: all my community leaders. For years. We've been affirming no justice,
Speaker 1: no peace. And I'm like, wait a minute, hold up,
Speaker 1: that's not what we want to say. We don't want
Speaker 1: to say no justice, no peace. We want to say
Speaker 1: justice now, peace now. But we the very thing we've
Speaker 1: been saying is exactly what we have, no what we're getting,
Speaker 1: and no justice for And I'm like, oh, we can't.
Speaker 1: But you know, we get into the slogans and we
Speaker 1: get into the thing, and that's what we want to do. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no. So we've got to get clear about the ask.
Speaker 1: If we're asking for justice, what does that look like?
Speaker 1: And the other thing is, you know, I know you.
Speaker 1: I'm a child of the fifties and the sixties. I'm
Speaker 1: a panther and you know, snick and the at all
Speaker 1: of this, and we had leaders, and so everybody is
Speaker 1: looking for a leader. But the piece that I find
Speaker 1: was then that I can't quite put my finger on now.
Speaker 1: Back then, there was a communal commitment to whatever it was,
Speaker 1: whether it was the free breakfast program or whatever, voting
Speaker 1: rights or early chilement education, there was a communal commitment.
Speaker 1: But now we are so busy, you know, with everything else,
Speaker 1: and we get all into personalities or I don't like
Speaker 1: this when you can't trust that, when you can't do this,
Speaker 1: you can't do that, and this cancel culture where we
Speaker 1: don't tolerate mistakes and we don't tear people down. So
Speaker 1: there's no focal point. I don't even want to say leadership,
Speaker 1: but there's no focal point. And then the people that
Speaker 1: we have elected, you know, they don't seem to be
Speaker 1: coming out to ask us. So anyway, that's my little soapbox.
Speaker 1: But what do we ask? No, But it's important, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's important, Like how do we get that? How do
Speaker 1: we get back into that space? Is there? I don't
Speaker 1: want to say committee, but who are the leaders that
Speaker 1: we gathered together together to get us focused. Here's from
Speaker 1: the gammy again. You know, I come up out of
Speaker 1: that community spirit. So we've become such individuals and seeking
Speaker 1: such individual fame and glory and advancement and notice and recognition,
Speaker 1: until the things that would support and matter to us
Speaker 1: all can't seem to come together, and we're so eager
Speaker 1: to be against something that we have lost the to
Speaker 1: know how to be for something. Against this, Oh I'm
Speaker 1: against that, I'm against you, I'm against him, I'm against her.
Speaker 1: But what are we for? And where are those communications coming?
Speaker 1: Black radio is gone. I remember Bob Law from years ago,
Speaker 1: night Talk and if you wanted to get some information
Speaker 1: about what was going on in our community, you went
Speaker 1: to Bob Law and night Talk and you get the
Speaker 1: whole Where where do we go now as a community
Speaker 1: to get information? And then because the small stations are gone,
Speaker 1: is these big conglomerations lest your Facebook? But you know
Speaker 1: there's no communal meeting place, there's no communal mind. Yes,
Speaker 1: there are small organizations. You know. Right now everything is
Speaker 1: or isn't black lives matter. If you're not in Black
Speaker 1: Lives Matter, how do you find out what's going on?
Speaker 1: And then if you're in Black Lives Matter or you're
Speaker 1: against this and there against that, it's it's crazy, but
Speaker 1: that's how things are changing. So my thinking, this is
Speaker 1: just my thinking. This don't have nothing to do with
Speaker 1: no behind My thinking is let me continue to work
Speaker 1: with individuals and get individuals clear in their thinking and
Speaker 1: then there being and they'll be guided and directed into
Speaker 1: what to do and how to do it. So that's
Speaker 1: my contribution because if you told me today we're to go,
Speaker 1: I give to the Congressional Black Caucus, United Vigor College
Speaker 1: Run Black Lives, Sank Jude's Children Hospital. But nobody has
Speaker 1: ever called me to collectively have a discussion about anything.
Speaker 1: Never they get my money. They don't call me and
Speaker 1: ask me nothing. And I if I needed you can't
Speaker 1: call nobody. You go on the website contact us and
Speaker 1: they give you an email form. We don't talk. We
Speaker 1: don't talk, So where am I supposed to go? Where
Speaker 1: do we go? But things are changing and they're gonna
Speaker 1: be different, and we have to We're were approaching the
Speaker 1: new time doing the old waves. And that's why so
Speaker 1: many of us are just challenged, right Yeah, And I
Speaker 1: guess you know, so that we can show up and
Speaker 1: be present and available for whatever our calling is. We
Speaker 1: have to learn how to stay calm and be mindful.
Speaker 1: And I know that you have a new app called
Speaker 1: Mind Matters Meditation. Tell them tell us a little bit
Speaker 1: about that. What can we expect to hear on that app? Well,
Speaker 1: you know it really came out of the hysteria and
Speaker 1: the wahalla everybody was experiencing during the stay home order.
Speaker 1: And I would say, your whole bread not at it.
Speaker 1: I don't, I said, but it's your mind. Your mind
Speaker 1: is what you're gonna need to get through this. So,
Speaker 1: because I've been teaped doing this for thirty something years,
Speaker 1: I just combed back through my files, my records, my everything,
Speaker 1: and just put pulled up what I thought was some
Speaker 1: of the twenty most powerful guided meditations that I've ever done.
Speaker 1: I have one on there that just says, do you
Speaker 1: know how beautiful you are? You know people were freaking out,
Speaker 1: couldn't get their nails done, their head done, you know,
Speaker 1: but you are beautiful. I have another one called you
Speaker 1: know just peace, just how to be in peace. So,
Speaker 1: because my gift is my voice, people recognize my voice
Speaker 1: guide people into a deeper place within themselves because gave
Speaker 1: me We're not gonna do nothing out there. We gotta
Speaker 1: get it right here. And if we're not right in here,
Speaker 1: whatever we do out there is going to continue to
Speaker 1: be chaotic and uh reactive and aggressive. No, we got
Speaker 1: so up. We gotta be the thing that we're trying
Speaker 1: to create. So twenty of my most powerful meditations where
Speaker 1: just listen. You know, I think the longest one is
Speaker 1: thirteen minutes. So if you don't have thirteen minutes to
Speaker 1: get in touch with your mind, then you've got a problem,
Speaker 1: got it that? I feel it would be a perfect
Speaker 1: way for us to close because meditation is something that
Speaker 1: I have committed myself to this year. You know, I've
Speaker 1: talked about it on you know, over and over again
Speaker 1: that meditation is a struggle for me because my mind
Speaker 1: is always raising. But I definitely in this space. And
Speaker 1: what I've been going through, you know, last year and
Speaker 1: into this year is that reactivity, you know, all of
Speaker 1: that negativity and I, you know, and I don't want
Speaker 1: to live like that, you know, And I don't want
Speaker 1: to be in this constant state of trauma and upset.
Speaker 1: So would you kindly close us out and lead us
Speaker 1: through a quick meditation? I would love if you could
Speaker 1: do that. Let me just remind you. Let me say,
Speaker 1: first of all, I heard you say I don't want to,
Speaker 1: but I want to offer you that instead of affirming
Speaker 1: because you're a daming, you're you're important, you've got power,
Speaker 1: Instead of affirming what you don't want just make another choice.
Speaker 1: So I'm choosing to I'm no longer choosing to be reactive.
Speaker 1: I'm choosing this because choice is your power. The other
Speaker 1: thing about meditation or just stealing getting still that most
Speaker 1: people don't realize is the key to it is your breathing.
Speaker 1: That's what you in So let's just do that. If
Speaker 1: you just allow your eyelids to close for just the moment,
Speaker 1: KA and just connect with become mindful and aware of
Speaker 1: your inhale and your ExHAM. Nothing to do. Just be
Speaker 1: aware of your inhale and your ExHAM and whatever the
Speaker 1: rhythm is, whatever the rate is, we can regulate that.
Speaker 1: So you want to inhale for three and exhale two right,
Speaker 1: and inhale one two three and exhale one two three
Speaker 1: not Just relax your shoulders rebelling with face, find the
Speaker 1: rhythm of your breath again and just listen. Listen inside
Speaker 1: within what's going on? What are you here? M what
Speaker 1: do you feel? Listen to your feet, just listen to
Speaker 1: your legs, and you can't do it wrong, So just
Speaker 1: let your mind go to your knees, Listen to your thighs.
Speaker 1: Listen what are you aware of in your feet? Your legs,
Speaker 1: your knees, your thighs, what are you aware of and
Speaker 1: whatever it is, Just stay with the rhythm of your breath.
Speaker 1: You're in and you're out. Listen to your belly, in
Speaker 1: your chest, in your breast, just listen. Just be aware,
Speaker 1: nothing to do. Stay with your inhale and dregs. Listen
Speaker 1: to your shoulders, in your neck now, just listen to
Speaker 1: your face. Just listen, breathing in and and just to
Speaker 1: wage you just had a conversation within yourself. I take
Speaker 1: along deep inhale and let it out. Whenever you're ready,
Speaker 1: you can open your eye lids. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: It has been a blessing to talk with you, and
Speaker 1: I hope that you will come back and join us
Speaker 1: again in the time. It was such a blessing to
Speaker 1: be in conversation with the yall, M vans and today.
Speaker 1: And these are my takeaways. Number One, when we are
Speaker 1: in a state of upset, we tend to look at
Speaker 1: what's going on outside of us. Instead, try turning the
Speaker 1: spotlight inward for understanding. Number two, during these times when
Speaker 1: so many of us are feeling traumatized, try to have
Speaker 1: compassion for others as well as for ourselves. Number three,
Speaker 1: consider the importance and the impact meditation can have on
Speaker 1: your life. Meditation put simply is stillness and the rhythm
Speaker 1: of your breath. And number four, be careful what you
Speaker 1: are firm in your life, remembering that choice is your power.
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