WEBVTT - One way to worry less

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is about one way to spend less time worrying.

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<v Speaker 1>Recall how many problems your past self worried about that

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<v Speaker 1>are no longer problems. You have solved plenty of challenges

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<v Speaker 1>in your life for at least you have outlived them,

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<v Speaker 1>so most likely you will deal with whatever problem is

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<v Speaker 1>vexing you now. I was thinking the other day of

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<v Speaker 1>the year I spent living in Washington, d C. Right

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<v Speaker 1>after college. I was doing a year long internship, which

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<v Speaker 1>resulted in some pretty cool professional opportunities. In terms of time,

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<v Speaker 1>I had more freedom than I have ever had since.

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<v Speaker 1>I used it to explore the city, go to a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of museums, read through a list of the greatest

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<v Speaker 1>novels of the twentieth century, and so forth. In retrospect,

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<v Speaker 1>that all sounds pretty idyllic. But as I think more

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<v Speaker 1>carefully about it now, I recall that I had plenty

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<v Speaker 1>of angst at the time. For one thing, my take

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<v Speaker 1>home pay was a month and I am not that old.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was thinking about money, or more specifically, my

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<v Speaker 1>lack of it. A lot. I was single at the

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<v Speaker 1>time and went on a lot of dates, but many

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<v Speaker 1>were quite terrible. So it would turn out that I

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<v Speaker 1>would meet my husband a year later, I would find

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<v Speaker 1>ways to earn more money, And if I had known that,

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<v Speaker 1>then my bad dates would have felt more laughably bad

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<v Speaker 1>rather than tragic. My being broke would have felt more

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<v Speaker 1>like a fun adventure rather than a permanent state of affairs.

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<v Speaker 1>I could have enjoyed my free time without worrying about

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<v Speaker 1>what on earth I was going to do with my

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<v Speaker 1>life now. Of course, on some level, I couldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>known those things, But couldn't I have guessed I've always

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<v Speaker 1>been a fairly entrepreneurial person. Other people managed to make money,

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<v Speaker 1>why not me. Lots of people wind up meeting someone

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<v Speaker 1>special at some point. Wouldn't it make sense that someday

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<v Speaker 1>I might too? And maybe that future focused confidence is

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<v Speaker 1>a lot to ask of a year old, But from

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<v Speaker 1>my adult perspective, I can certainly see that my problems

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<v Speaker 1>at the time would eventually not be problems. So perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>I can take that same mindset and apply it to

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<v Speaker 1>whatever worries I am currently experiencing. Maybe you can too.

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<v Speaker 1>In an earlier episode, this week, I suggested people dwell

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<v Speaker 1>in the past and consciously recreate good memories. But of

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<v Speaker 1>course not all of our memories and experiences are positive.

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<v Speaker 1>Some alas keep rearing their ugly heads, often at three am.

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<v Speaker 1>Others we stopped thinking about, but maybe it would be

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<v Speaker 1>helpful to think of them from time to time. So

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<v Speaker 1>go ahead and think about something that was bothering you

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<v Speaker 1>years ago. Choose something that is not actively bothering you anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>What happened, What did you do to solve the problem,

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<v Speaker 1>Even if some of the solution was just the passage

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<v Speaker 1>of time, and how that keeps leading to new invents

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<v Speaker 1>unrolling time is going to keep passing in the future

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<v Speaker 1>regardless of what you do. Maybe you can count on

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<v Speaker 1>it this time around as well. In any case, you

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<v Speaker 1>have solved a lot of past problems. Most likely whatever

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<v Speaker 1>is vexing you now will be solved bubble with some

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<v Speaker 1>creativity or time, or just new events that transpire. If

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<v Speaker 1>you can keep repeating that to yourself, maybe you can

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy the now a bit more without worrying about this

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<v Speaker 1>particular issue. You can enjoy your vacation even if you've

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<v Speaker 1>got a big presentation. The Tuesday after you get back.

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<v Speaker 1>You can enjoy a visit with friends, even if the

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<v Speaker 1>travel arrangements home are going to be complicated. You can

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<v Speaker 1>enjoy a project now, even if you're not sure the

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<v Speaker 1>funding is going to be there for your next one.

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<v Speaker 1>This is much harder said than done, of course, but

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<v Speaker 1>you have solved problems in the past. If you think

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<v Speaker 1>about how you have solved things, maybe you will be

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<v Speaker 1>able to convince yourself that you will solve most things

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<v Speaker 1>you are dealing with now too, or at least you

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<v Speaker 1>can try to convince yourself of that. Even reducing anxiety

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit can help a lot. In the meantime.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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