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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is about one way to spend less time worrying.

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Speaker 1: Recall how many problems your past self worried about that

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Speaker 1: are no longer problems. You have solved plenty of challenges

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Speaker 1: in your life for at least you have outlived them,

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Speaker 1: so most likely you will deal with whatever problem is

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Speaker 1: vexing you now. I was thinking the other day of

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Speaker 1: the year I spent living in Washington, d C. Right

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Speaker 1: after college. I was doing a year long internship, which

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Speaker 1: resulted in some pretty cool professional opportunities. In terms of time,

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Speaker 1: I had more freedom than I have ever had since.

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Speaker 1: I used it to explore the city, go to a

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Speaker 1: lot of museums, read through a list of the greatest

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Speaker 1: novels of the twentieth century, and so forth. In retrospect,

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Speaker 1: that all sounds pretty idyllic. But as I think more

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Speaker 1: carefully about it now, I recall that I had plenty

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Speaker 1: of angst at the time. For one thing, my take

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Speaker 1: home pay was a month and I am not that old.

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Speaker 1: So I was thinking about money, or more specifically, my

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Speaker 1: lack of it. A lot. I was single at the

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Speaker 1: time and went on a lot of dates, but many

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Speaker 1: were quite terrible. So it would turn out that I

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Speaker 1: would meet my husband a year later, I would find

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Speaker 1: ways to earn more money, And if I had known that,

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Speaker 1: then my bad dates would have felt more laughably bad

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Speaker 1: rather than tragic. My being broke would have felt more

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Speaker 1: like a fun adventure rather than a permanent state of affairs.

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Speaker 1: I could have enjoyed my free time without worrying about

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Speaker 1: what on earth I was going to do with my

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Speaker 1: life now. Of course, on some level, I couldn't have

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Speaker 1: known those things, But couldn't I have guessed I've always

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Speaker 1: been a fairly entrepreneurial person. Other people managed to make money,

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Speaker 1: why not me. Lots of people wind up meeting someone

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Speaker 1: special at some point. Wouldn't it make sense that someday

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Speaker 1: I might too? And maybe that future focused confidence is

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Speaker 1: a lot to ask of a year old, But from

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Speaker 1: my adult perspective, I can certainly see that my problems

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Speaker 1: at the time would eventually not be problems. So perhaps

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Speaker 1: I can take that same mindset and apply it to

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Speaker 1: whatever worries I am currently experiencing. Maybe you can too.

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Speaker 1: In an earlier episode, this week, I suggested people dwell

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Speaker 1: in the past and consciously recreate good memories. But of

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Speaker 1: course not all of our memories and experiences are positive.

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Speaker 1: Some alas keep rearing their ugly heads, often at three am.

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Speaker 1: Others we stopped thinking about, but maybe it would be

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Speaker 1: helpful to think of them from time to time. So

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Speaker 1: go ahead and think about something that was bothering you

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Speaker 1: years ago. Choose something that is not actively bothering you anymore.

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Speaker 1: What happened, What did you do to solve the problem,

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Speaker 1: Even if some of the solution was just the passage

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Speaker 1: of time, and how that keeps leading to new invents

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Speaker 1: unrolling time is going to keep passing in the future

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Speaker 1: regardless of what you do. Maybe you can count on

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Speaker 1: it this time around as well. In any case, you

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Speaker 1: have solved a lot of past problems. Most likely whatever

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Speaker 1: is vexing you now will be solved bubble with some

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Speaker 1: creativity or time, or just new events that transpire. If

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Speaker 1: you can keep repeating that to yourself, maybe you can

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Speaker 1: enjoy the now a bit more without worrying about this

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Speaker 1: particular issue. You can enjoy your vacation even if you've

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Speaker 1: got a big presentation. The Tuesday after you get back.

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Speaker 1: You can enjoy a visit with friends, even if the

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Speaker 1: travel arrangements home are going to be complicated. You can

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Speaker 1: enjoy a project now, even if you're not sure the

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Speaker 1: funding is going to be there for your next one.

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Speaker 1: This is much harder said than done, of course, but

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Speaker 1: you have solved problems in the past. If you think

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Speaker 1: about how you have solved things, maybe you will be

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Speaker 1: able to convince yourself that you will solve most things

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Speaker 1: you are dealing with now too, or at least you

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Speaker 1: can try to convince yourself of that. Even reducing anxiety

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Speaker 1: a little bit can help a lot. In the meantime.

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Speaker 1: This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's to making

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