WEBVTT - Resolve to take one night for you

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to resolve to take one night for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Committing to doing something regularly that is not work and

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<v Speaker 1>is not caring for family members will help make you

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<v Speaker 1>a happier person and may help make the new year

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<v Speaker 1>your best ever. In my most recent book, Tranquility by Tuesday,

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<v Speaker 1>I share nine of my favorite time management rules that

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<v Speaker 1>I think can help anyone make the most of their time.

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<v Speaker 1>These are rules that I find myself sharing over and

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<v Speaker 1>over again. At this point, I have lost track of

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<v Speaker 1>how many times I have told people that they really

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<v Speaker 1>need to take one night per week to do something interesting,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a hobby. Let me explain a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>adults lives look very similar. Day to day. People get up,

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<v Speaker 1>get the kids ready, go to work, collect their family.

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<v Speaker 1>At the end of the day, eat, get the kids

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<v Speaker 1>to bed, then watch TV. It's all the same over

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<v Speaker 1>and over, and there's nothing wrong with this per se,

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<v Speaker 1>But multiple nights a week of it starts to get

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<v Speaker 1>a little tedious. People feel a little dissatisfied. They want

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<v Speaker 1>to spend more time on something interesting, but they're not

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<v Speaker 1>sure how it would work. Often people say they want

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<v Speaker 1>more me time, but then they choose flexible things like

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<v Speaker 1>reading more or taking bubble bats, convinced that it wouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>work for them to do anything more complicated. Now, I

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<v Speaker 1>am not saying you have to do something every night,

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<v Speaker 1>but maybe one night a week. Taking one night a

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<v Speaker 1>week for you still leaves six nights a week for

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<v Speaker 1>the normal rooms. Choose one night during the week to

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<v Speaker 1>do something that is not work and is not caring

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<v Speaker 1>for family. Ideally, this should be something outside your home

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<v Speaker 1>that involves a commitment to other people. You sing in

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<v Speaker 1>a choir or play in a band, play in a

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<v Speaker 1>softball league, run with friends, volunteer at a food bank

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<v Speaker 1>on a particular night. Here's why it should be a commitment.

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<v Speaker 1>As a responsible person, you will make a commitment happen. Sure,

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<v Speaker 1>flexible me time is great, but I can tell you

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<v Speaker 1>that your desire to read more or take more bubble

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<v Speaker 1>baths will bump up against someone else's desire for you

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<v Speaker 1>to do something different with the time. What are you

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<v Speaker 1>going to tell them Your bathtub isn't going anywhere. But

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<v Speaker 1>if you have choir practice at seven o'clock on Thursdays.

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<v Speaker 1>You have a better excuse, the practice will happen, You

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<v Speaker 1>will go, You will reap the benefits this more active

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<v Speaker 1>form of self care. Of course, this means you need

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<v Speaker 1>to choose something you truly enjoy. I love to sing,

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<v Speaker 1>which is why I am currently singing in two choirs.

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<v Speaker 1>I normally sing in at least one for a while.

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<v Speaker 1>I assume that, like me, everybody knew just what they'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to do, but I have since learned that this

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<v Speaker 1>isn't the case. Many grown ups don't actually know what

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<v Speaker 1>they like to do for fun. So if that is you,

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<v Speaker 1>you could resolve to spend the next three to six

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<v Speaker 1>months figuring this out, and then spend the next six

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<v Speaker 1>months of the year implementing it. Yes, it turns out

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<v Speaker 1>that fun takes work, but I imagine you can manage one

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<v Speaker 1>night a week. If you've got young kids, you can

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<v Speaker 1>trade off with a partner or a friend, a neighbor

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<v Speaker 1>or another relative and each of you gets one night off.

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<v Speaker 1>Or you could hire a babysitter, or even look for

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<v Speaker 1>opportunities where the kids are accounted for, like you run

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<v Speaker 1>with friends while your kid is out a gymnastics class.

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<v Speaker 1>But don't assume that it just can't work. Resolve to

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<v Speaker 1>take one night a week for you, and you will

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<v Speaker 1>start really looking forward to that night. It will become

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<v Speaker 1>a tent pole in your week with everything fitting around it.

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<v Speaker 1>You will start to change your story. Life isn't all

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<v Speaker 1>work and chores. You are the kind of person who

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<v Speaker 1>does fun things and that can make this next year

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<v Speaker 1>the best year ever. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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