WEBVTT - Ep. 3 Mom World 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:06.880 Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I Heart Radio Podcast. Hi, 0:00:07.760 --> 0:00:11.480 it's time to wind down again. Hi. Hi, I'm kind 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:13.120 of in a mood. I'm just gonna put that out there, 0:00:13.160 --> 0:00:16.480 like right now. Well it's gloomy, that's I think that's 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:20.560 definitely a problem. Um, it's like it rain. It's raining 0:00:20.600 --> 0:00:24.120 today in l A. At sixty degrees, and I think 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:29.840 I definitely get like weather depression. I love this weather, 0:00:30.120 --> 0:00:33.680 you do, It's my favorite weather. It makes me want 0:00:33.800 --> 0:00:36.680 to do everything. Are you serious? Oh my gosh. It 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:39.120 makes me want to crawl into like just a hole 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:42.680 and in my bed and just watch like movies, which 0:00:42.720 --> 0:00:45.599 is great, but like I want to be productive today 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:48.440 and I just feel like I've just been lagging and 0:00:48.479 --> 0:00:49.840 I'm just I don't know, I'm just kind of like 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:51.960 And I just got back from Nashville too. I was 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:55.240 in Nashville all last week and I love l A. 0:00:55.400 --> 0:00:58.560 But I just feel like depressed coming back and I'm 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:01.200 like bummed about that? Is it? Because the sun is 0:01:01.240 --> 0:01:04.360 an out well, I mean the weather is like amazing 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:06.000 always in l A. So I know I can't complain 0:01:06.040 --> 0:01:10.880 because it's usually sunny seven. But I think again, like 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:13.720 I love Nashville, and that's where I really want to 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:17.840 raise Jolie. But what do you love about Nashville? Like, 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:20.400 first of all, our our house is well when we're 0:01:20.400 --> 0:01:22.319 selling it, which is also really sad, and a lot 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:24.600 of memories with that. But it's just we can afford 0:01:24.600 --> 0:01:27.360 a house in Nashville. We can't afford a house here 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:30.399 in l A. And what we're renting right now is 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:33.480 way more than our mortgage in Nashville. And it's just 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:35.880 I mean champagne problems, you know. Again, Like we have 0:01:35.920 --> 0:01:39.520 a house. We're so thankful, but it's just it's just 0:01:39.600 --> 0:01:41.560 difficult when you know what you can have in Nashville 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:43.679 and then you come here and you're like, oh, I'm 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:47.080 in a like a thousand square foot place. Yeah, it's 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:51.240 a completely different lifestyle. And it's like schools for like 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:54.120 every school in Nashville's and ten. So it's like in here, 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:56.040 I'm like, oh my god, it's a fool Like I 0:01:56.040 --> 0:01:57.280 don't I don't want to I don't want to pay 0:01:57.320 --> 0:01:59.400 for private schooling. You know. I was like I I 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:01.840 loved our public schools, and so I don't know, it's 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:04.520 just I think I'm just in a mood and then also, 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:08.080 like you know, Mike and I spent like about a 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:09.880 week apart, and then you know, you just have to 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.120 kind of get back into like groove of like being 0:02:12.200 --> 0:02:15.720 around someone. Wait a second, did you did we do 0:02:15.880 --> 0:02:20.400 the episode last week? And then you left for Nashville? Yeah, 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:22.880 and he came. He came with me for Mother's Day. 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:24.720 So we had like the weekend together and it was 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:26.919 such a nice weekend and we went to the park 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:28.600 and then it was you know, and then I had 0:02:28.639 --> 0:02:30.080 a few shows I had to play. I had a 0:02:30.080 --> 0:02:32.359 show for Diamond Resorts, and then I was in Ohio 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:35.600 and it was great. But then, like you know how 0:02:35.639 --> 0:02:38.440 again like when you spend time by yourself and then 0:02:38.520 --> 0:02:41.160 you get back with your husband and you're like, okay, 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:42.880 like this is we're back in this groove. And then 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:44.680 but then we're back in our little box and nella, 0:02:44.840 --> 0:02:47.120 so it's just again it's like just getting back in 0:02:47.160 --> 0:02:49.960 like the rhythm of things. And then I'm like I 0:02:50.000 --> 0:02:52.920 felt myself like nitpicking, and I'm like, well, why isn't 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:54.639 it like I don't know, I just like I just 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:58.320 like came home. I think like, well, I know this 0:02:58.400 --> 0:03:00.280 is called the wine down. So I'm done. Why I 0:03:00.280 --> 0:03:03.079 just had to like put that out there. So sometimes 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:05.240 I just I'm not getting the mood. Well, I want 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:08.920 to go back to episode two when Mike came in 0:03:09.080 --> 0:03:13.280 and you guys really shared we did you really shared 0:03:13.760 --> 0:03:18.400 relationship stuff? I mean, you were an open book. I was. 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:21.600 I was amazed, Well, what happened did you guys drive 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:23.800 together that day? Because I want to know what was 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:27.440 talked about in the drive home. I was honestly worried, 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:29.600 like what was going to be said? And when we 0:03:29.639 --> 0:03:32.120 got out of it, he's like, that was so much fun. 0:03:33.000 --> 0:03:35.160 What I know. He's like, I had the best time. 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:37.920 He's like, he goes, there's something so empowering about being 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:41.080 behind the mike and having you know. He's like, yeah, 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:45.240 does it suck to be the person that's the person 0:03:45.320 --> 0:03:49.320 that caused harm and pain for someone? Yeah, that's that's 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:51.640 difficult and it sucks that it's out there. But at 0:03:51.680 --> 0:03:54.000 the same time, he goes for the first time because 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:56.240 we've always had a major debate because I've always wanted 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:58.880 to talk about the infidelity because I'm like, it's already 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:01.040 out there, so it's like, why are you trying to 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:02.760 pretend like it's not there and that you didn't cheat 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:05.120 on me, you know, so it's like, let's talk about it, 0:04:05.200 --> 0:04:08.120 let's help other people. And I don't think he didn't. 0:04:08.200 --> 0:04:10.480 I don't think he's never gotten that until he came 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:13.040 on the show, because he realized. He's like, wow, like 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:16.560 you can help people, and you can share your experiences 0:04:16.680 --> 0:04:19.640 and and you know, help people get through things. And 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:22.799 I've also shared a bunch of Instagram stories that people 0:04:22.839 --> 0:04:25.320 have dm me and just saying like like thank you 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:27.520 for you know, sharing your story, and you know, I 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.520 let my husband listen to it, and you know, because 0:04:29.560 --> 0:04:34.720 my husband isn't as um, you know, he doesn't he's 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.599 not what Mike was doing. He's not listening to my 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.360 feelings and he's defensive. So it's we were able to 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:42.320 help some people. So that's that's awesome. Do you think 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:44.600 that that empowered him? Yeah. I think he was like 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:46.680 super excited about and he had kind of talked about 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:51.400 speaking out about infidelity, especially with like football and stuff 0:04:51.400 --> 0:04:54.159 like that, but it needs to be his time. But 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:57.159 I think stuff like this is getting him like Okay, 0:04:57.240 --> 0:04:59.760 like I I can talk about it in a positive 0:04:59.800 --> 0:05:01.480 way because I'm like, look, dude, I don't want to 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:04.240 go back through all the stuff and say everything you did, 0:05:04.240 --> 0:05:06.960 because that's hard for me, that's triggering. But if we 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:11.000 can say, yes, you cheated, Yes these things happened, but 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:13.520 this is how we're working on things. This is how 0:05:13.600 --> 0:05:17.800 we're fixing the problem. And again, you know, it's not easy, 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:20.400 and it's you know, there are some things that it's 0:05:20.400 --> 0:05:25.279 hard to go back in time and relive. But it's 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:27.159 just I want to be able to give back and 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:29.520 help people. And the amount of messages that I've gotten 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:31.640 with people saying like thank you for doing this, and 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:34.760 I honestly want to say thank you for sharing your 0:05:34.760 --> 0:05:36.760 stories with me because I don't feel as alone, like 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:39.000 they don't feel as alone, but I'm like selfishly, one 0:05:39.040 --> 0:05:41.080 of the reasons why I'm sharing so much is because 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:42.800 I don't want to feel alone. I don't want to 0:05:42.800 --> 0:05:44.560 feel like I'm the only woman that feels this way 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:47.039 or has been hurt or cheated on, or has triggers 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:51.480 or depression or you know, I mean, I have major, 0:05:51.560 --> 0:05:54.760 you know, insecurity issues about how I look and you know, 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:56.880 why did you pick her and not me? And why 0:05:56.920 --> 0:05:58.440 don't I look like that? So it's like there's so 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:00.040 many things that go with it that I'm like, I 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:02.560 want to be able to share so that I don't 0:06:02.560 --> 0:06:07.880 feel alone too. So you sharing other people because they're 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:10.760 resonating with you, and then I feel that way too, 0:06:10.800 --> 0:06:12.240 Oh my god, like thank you And I'm like, no, 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:14.880 thank you, like because you're you're sharing your stores with me, 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:17.680 and I'm like, you feel that way too, like you're 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:20.240 you get upset to like I'm not the only crazy 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:23.160 wife that is yelled at my husband or you know, 0:06:23.360 --> 0:06:26.200 gone off one day, or do you feel like you're 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:30.200 getting validation, like your feelings are actually valid. I just 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:32.839 feel comforted. Yeah, I feel like there's an army of 0:06:33.000 --> 0:06:36.479 wind down listeners that get us, that get me, that 0:06:36.600 --> 0:06:39.600 get you, that get like what we're going through, and 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:42.000 you know that we can be like a safe place 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:45.440 to be able to share and say like, hey, this 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:47.279 is what worked for me. You know, I don't know 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:48.719 if it's gonna work for you. Like this one girl 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:51.000 reached out to me last night and she's like, what 0:06:51.040 --> 0:06:54.039 do I do? And I'm like it's so hard. I'm like, 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:56.880 but this is what I did, this is what helped me. 0:06:57.040 --> 0:06:59.120 And if you guys are both working, you know, like 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:01.159 blah blah blah. But it's like this is also away 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:04.480 from me to like also realize too with the work 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:07.960 two years down the road, there are things that have improved, 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:09.400 so I can look back and be like, God, I 0:07:09.480 --> 0:07:13.120 know how crappy that feeling is right now, and you 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:15.320 grew through it. There is like some silver lining through 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:18.960 the hardships. And has anybody reached out with any date 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:21.920 night ideas? Oh my gosh. So yeah, someone said, I 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.640 like the popsicle stick one, so either you put it 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.320 in a jar and you just pull out a popsicle stick. 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:33.000 So I'm exciting our anniversaries tomorrow it is, yeah, three years. 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:37.920 Well he has to work, but um I planned a 0:07:37.960 --> 0:07:41.800 weekend day for us on Saturday. So I'm really excited 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:45.440 about that. So I'll share that on but yeah, no, 0:07:45.560 --> 0:07:49.320 so I am pumped about that. Um so yeah, we'll see. 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:51.480 Will that be the first that will be the first 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:56.280 date night? Yeah, And I've kind of curated it, and um, 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.240 he planned last year, so we kind of we alternate anniversary, 0:07:59.360 --> 0:08:02.720 Like who plans it? That's nice? Yeah, so and but 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:06.400 again it's like the anniversary is triggering, so I have 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:10.880 to like be present and do you plan on being intimate. 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:15.160 Is that like the agenda? I hope so, But I 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:18.440 feel like whenever I like, I want to and then 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:20.120 if he isn't, then I get let down and then 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:21.520 we get a fight, and then I'm like, oh, why 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:22.960 don't you want to sleep with me? You want to 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:25.160 sleep with X, Y and Z. Why not? So it's 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:28.480 like it's I have to like just let the mood 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:33.040 take the But sure, I'm an ed love that. I mean, 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:38.000 are you concerned because there's the extra pressure because I know, 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:40.160 and that's what one of the things like he always 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.360 has a hard time with because he feels the pressure. 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:46.760 But I don't, like, why should there be pressure on intimacy. 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:49.679 It's like two people love each other, they should have 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:55.200 sex and touch each other and kiss. But issues he does, 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:59.240 I know, but he's struggling with something else. Of course 0:08:59.280 --> 0:09:01.360 it is. That's why you guys are working on it, 0:09:01.800 --> 0:09:04.960 because you're not in the same place when the all 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:07.440 time you had sex since you're getting divorced. Oh for 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:14.800 hour ago, we need to find you a man to 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:19.960 just go to town. You're kidding, kidding, Okay, do we 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:23.160 talk about that in the next episode? Next episode? Next episode, 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:28.480 we are we're going there. We're going down on sex, 0:09:31.160 --> 0:09:33.800 no pun intended, no, but no. Episode four I'm excited 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:35.960 for So this next episode, Um, we're going to talk 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:39.040 about sex and intimacy, which is which is touchy for 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:41.120 a lot of people because some people want to have 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:44.120 a lot of sex. Some people are like I'm tired, Yeah, 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:46.040 I don't want to, and then there's a lot of 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:50.480 well everybody a different appetite. And we have an expert. 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:54.000 I'm so excited, you know, we can ask her all. 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:56.840 I'm just gonna be like, all right, just sit here 0:09:56.960 --> 0:09:59.600 for like five hours and talking about this. So, yeah, 0:10:00.120 --> 0:10:02.520 you guys, Episode four is going to be a really 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:04.320 good one. And I'm excited that you guys wanted us 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:07.360 to talk about sex intimacy because that's something that is 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:14.120 a huge problem marriage, not just marriage. You know, I've 0:10:14.120 --> 0:10:16.760 had some relationships to where it's just it's been one 0:10:16.800 --> 0:10:21.080 sided or not. It's it's very interesting, like the dynamics 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:24.240 of sex. So we'll talk about that little about it. Well, 0:10:24.280 --> 0:10:27.680 it's so weird because I was in a relationship for 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:31.680 almost how long are we married for again? Almost seventeen years? 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:37.040 When did then? When did the sex stop? Oh? Boy? 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:40.439 I mean we're probably having sex once a year after 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:45.719 I had my son, so probably seven six years ago. 0:10:46.520 --> 0:10:50.480 M yeah, because of you or him? Me. Oh, you 0:10:50.559 --> 0:10:54.440 just don't like sex. No I do. I just didn't. 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:59.360 I just didn't want to him in that situation. I 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:01.800 feel like you're just so much better because you are 0:11:01.880 --> 0:11:05.599 just you know exactly what you do want not you 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:06.760 know what I mean. Like you're like, I don't want 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:08.960 to be in that relationship. But that's because I'm old. 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:12.320 You're not old, so I mean older, I've had a 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:16.120 tune of life experience, and there's no you don't. You 0:11:16.160 --> 0:11:18.120 don't want to waste your time when you know, when 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.960 you know, you just have to. You have to move forward. 0:11:21.240 --> 0:11:24.559 You have to otherwise you die. Eastan, do you have 0:11:24.600 --> 0:11:28.000 a girlfriend? I'm happily married. Thank you very well, that's right. 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:34.000 How often do you guys have sex? Uh? I mean 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:40.000 like like perre a couple of times a week. Yeah 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:47.120 that's normal. Yeah, like for young, young couple. I guess 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:49.920 yeah maybe maybe I don't know, but I can't wait 0:11:49.960 --> 0:11:53.320 to find share share before we go to the episode, Well, 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:56.120 next episode, UM, send us some emails. Jane Kramer at 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:59.120 I Heeart Media dot com and uh, tell me about 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:03.360 your sex life? So what I not in like the 0:12:03.400 --> 0:12:06.679 graphic novel? Way please because we have gotten some of 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:09.840 those emails and those are scary. How about questions only? 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:13.840 Questions only? Yes, that would be great, not dirty stories. 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:19.280 I don't feel like reading a fabio novel right now. Okay, 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:22.880 So I um so okay. So we have two really 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.320 amazing guests coming on the show today. We have Shiva 0:12:25.440 --> 0:12:30.760 Rose and she's honestly, she just she's knows at all. 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:33.360 And she's She's got an amazing book called Whole Beauty, 0:12:33.480 --> 0:12:36.720 Daily Rituals and Natural Recipes for Lifelong Beauty and Wellness. Um, 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:38.720 so I'm really excited to ask her some questions. I 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:43.560 know you're her daily routine seems incredible, incredible, She's a goddess. 0:12:43.640 --> 0:12:46.000 And then we have Sirie Daily coming on the show. Um, 0:12:46.040 --> 0:12:49.240 she's got a really amazing blog. She's married to Carson Daily, 0:12:49.280 --> 0:12:52.720 so I'm excited to see how she balances mom life. Yes, 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:58.079 oh and here she is. Hi. Okay, So how how 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:01.920 do I how do I explain in like, if you like, 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:03.600 how do I explain you? Because I was trying. I 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:05.040 was talking about the book, but It's like I just 0:13:05.040 --> 0:13:06.760 feel like you know everything. So I just said, like, 0:13:06.800 --> 0:13:12.920 this is Shiva Rose who knows everything like holistic wellness 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:18.040 UM learning how to be awake, learning how to feel 0:13:18.720 --> 0:13:22.880 hashtag woke but not. But I also feel like that's 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:27.000 become too cliche. But yeah, but just like being your 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:29.760 ultimate self? How did you get into this UM? Well? 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:32.320 When I was are we are? We? Oh? Yeah? We are? 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:36.680 Oh yeah, tell me everything. When I was twenty six, 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:39.280 I was dying. I had my first daughter and I 0:13:39.320 --> 0:13:42.320 was diagnosed with I was so exhausted I couldn't recover 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:45.160 and I ended up going to a rheumatologist because a 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:49.000 dermatologist saw something on my back and uh, they tested 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:52.439 me and found out I had a rheumatoid arthritis, lupus, 0:13:52.559 --> 0:13:55.040 and sclurre derma and I had a year to the 0:13:55.080 --> 0:13:56.640 one doctors told me I had a year to live. 0:13:57.320 --> 0:13:59.839 So this was AIX and this sort of a catapulted. 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:02.560 You just had your daughter. I just had my daughter 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:05.280 and I wasn't recovering, and I was like, ah, this 0:14:05.520 --> 0:14:12.080 motherhood is how do people do it? Uh? And that 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.839 sort of got me onto the path because, uh, when 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:18.080 I was told that diagnosis, I have a really rebellious nature, 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:21.240 and something in me was like, watch, I'm gonna turn 0:14:21.320 --> 0:14:25.640 that year into a hunter exactly. There's something in us, 0:14:26.120 --> 0:14:28.960 in US warriors that I was like, this isn't my story. 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:32.080 And then a friend of mine recommended this holistic doctor 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:33.720 and he told me he would get me on the 0:14:33.760 --> 0:14:36.920 path to healing within a year. And I didn't start 0:14:36.960 --> 0:14:40.200 feeling great for many years, and I went through ups 0:14:40.200 --> 0:14:42.280 and downs and roads and turns and this and that. 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:46.160 But finally, I think in the last nine ten years, 0:14:46.160 --> 0:14:50.040 I've been feeling, you know, my optimal self. My hormones 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:53.480 are level, my autoimmune conditions are in remission. And that's 0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:57.000 all because of the holistic approach. It's it's diet, it's 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:59.640 uh products that you use. It's getting rid of all 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:02.160 the toxic chemicals in your home. It's spirituality. It's a 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:05.720 connection to nature. It's getting into touch with your goddess self. 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:10.040 It's doing Yoni exercises. It's like it's so much, you know, 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:11.800 I need you Just to come to my house for 0:15:11.840 --> 0:15:16.160 a month changed my way of life. And well, that's 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:19.120 what this this book is truly about. Because I started 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:22.120 a blog, so I was married to an actor. I 0:15:22.160 --> 0:15:26.320 was in the Hollywood work know about eight nine, nine, 0:15:26.400 --> 0:15:29.800 ten years ago, we got divorced. I'm sorry, thank you, 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:32.480 thank you, but I think thank you reed no, but 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:37.600 I have a partner now in Texas, Texas. I'm moving 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:40.640 there in a year or two. Yes, so, uh, what 0:15:40.800 --> 0:15:42.760 what happened was ten years ago. You know, your life 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:47.120 sometimes breaks apart, but it actually breaks open. It's all perspective. 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:51.040 I understand you, yes, because if sometimes we don't know 0:15:51.080 --> 0:15:54.160 it at the time, when everything is crashing down around us, 0:15:54.480 --> 0:15:57.160 it's just a way of your of you going to 0:15:57.200 --> 0:16:00.200 the next level. It's like rebooting the computer. So I 0:16:00.240 --> 0:16:03.200 did not know that at the time. But ten years ago, 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:05.880 when it crashed and all my auto immune flare ups 0:16:05.880 --> 0:16:08.040 were coming back, I had two daughters to raise. So 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:10.360 I just went I said, you know what, I'm going 0:16:10.400 --> 0:16:12.440 back to zero. I'm gonna start. I'm going to get 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:15.480 this house in nature. I'm gonna start growing my own food. 0:16:15.920 --> 0:16:19.640 I'm stopping to the acting. Even though I love acting, 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:22.440 it wasn't fulfilling me. And I just started from ground zero, 0:16:22.680 --> 0:16:24.760 and I started my blog, The Local Rose, to sort 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:28.760 of document this journey. And then the book is a 0:16:28.760 --> 0:16:31.400 culmination of that because there's so many things. It's not 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:35.480 just recipes, it's not just a meditation. It's so many 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:37.800 different things. It's a lifestyle. So what do you think, 0:16:37.840 --> 0:16:40.720 like someone that wants to start this approach, what what 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:42.600 would be the first because to me, like right now 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:44.960 I'm hearing all this sounds amazing, but I'm overwhelmed. Yeah, 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:46.240 oh my god, i have to get rid of everything 0:16:46.280 --> 0:16:49.640 mouse And so what was like, what's the first step that, like, 0:16:49.800 --> 0:16:52.080 I would say, take three. Take take a moment in 0:16:52.120 --> 0:16:55.840 the morning when you're clear, and just tune into yourself. 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:59.560 Sit down on a on a bare you know, rug 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.160 some and just look out the window or just close 0:17:02.160 --> 0:17:04.560 your eyes and just tune into yourself. I would say 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:07.480 it starts with that. It starts with connecting to that energy, 0:17:07.520 --> 0:17:10.600 that source energy, and whatever that source energy is for you. 0:17:10.680 --> 0:17:12.960 It could be God, it could be nature, it could 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:16.720 be soul, it could be spirit um, whatever that is 0:17:16.840 --> 0:17:19.240 for you. It's like a little like buzzing, I don't 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:21.520 I mean, you know something, it's just a little whisper, 0:17:21.720 --> 0:17:25.000 But it's connecting to that essence of spirit or soul, 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:28.200 something bigger than us. And that's like the beginning, I think, 0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:31.480 and all these things can actually make it louder. And 0:17:31.520 --> 0:17:33.679 then how do you act on a them? Um? How 0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:36.119 do you act on it? Yeah? So like with so okay, 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:37.840 like today I woke up and I'm like feeling a 0:17:37.880 --> 0:17:40.760 little depressed, Like what what changes? Like what route do 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:42.840 you go to? Like a dress? Well, gratitude, which we've 0:17:42.840 --> 0:17:45.879 all heard is huge. That that's sort of like that 0:17:45.960 --> 0:17:49.200 does that every every day her gratitude because the gratitude 0:17:49.200 --> 0:17:52.920 really is like the entryway into that world. And then 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:55.000 would you say like five things you're great? Like what 0:17:55.200 --> 0:17:57.120 what do you? Yeah? I mean I go through I'll 0:17:57.160 --> 0:17:59.159 go through the list. If I'm really low and I 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:02.400 can't like get it, you know, together, to even connect 0:18:02.400 --> 0:18:05.280 to source, then I will start with just a gratitude list. 0:18:05.320 --> 0:18:06.919 Is that the first thing you do in the morning? 0:18:07.000 --> 0:18:09.080 I want to know what is the first thing you 0:18:09.160 --> 0:18:12.600 do when your eyes open? Thank you? Um. I have 0:18:12.640 --> 0:18:14.960 a skincare line which came to me in a meditation. 0:18:15.040 --> 0:18:16.560 So the first thing I do spray my face with 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:19.119 my radiant rose water and then I go where do 0:18:19.160 --> 0:18:25.480 we get that up? It's like a super vidom for 0:18:25.640 --> 0:18:28.600 your skin. It really plumps you up. And um and 0:18:28.640 --> 0:18:30.480 then I go do a living tea. I drink that. 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:33.400 So it's in the book. I'm I'm like a spiritual 0:18:33.400 --> 0:18:36.119 practice horse. So it depends how much time we have. 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:44.240 We want your whole daily routine to the spiritual horse. 0:18:45.280 --> 0:18:48.080 I want to become one because I feel like, I mean, honestly, 0:18:48.400 --> 0:18:51.480 I'll be honest. I start my day looking at Instagram 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:53.680 and it sucks the life out of me. I know, 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:56.400 I know. It's the very first thing that I do, 0:18:56.560 --> 0:18:58.480 and I'm like, and then the second I'm on there, 0:18:58.520 --> 0:19:00.760 I find myself comparing myself to other people and I 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:02.880 get the breast and I'm like, what am I doing? 0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:04.800 And it's and I'm doing it. I know what I'm doing. 0:19:04.840 --> 0:19:07.639 But it's systematic the way that it's formed with the 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:10.600 dopamine hits. I mean, I'm I do it too, we 0:19:10.760 --> 0:19:17.040 do you, but I but I'm making it. Definitely you 0:19:17.080 --> 0:19:18.840 have you can't start the day that way because it 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:22.920 is it's made to release and and get dopamine hits. 0:19:22.960 --> 0:19:24.720 It's that's what it is. Every time you get to 0:19:24.800 --> 0:19:27.520 like it's like a dopamine. It's a reaction and it 0:19:27.560 --> 0:19:29.320 depletes us. At the end of the day, it depletes 0:19:29.320 --> 0:19:31.919 the dopamine in our brands, the serotonin. So what we 0:19:31.960 --> 0:19:34.520 have to do is start bringing that in, especially as women. 0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:38.679 Women are made to receive, which is so crazy, but 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:41.240 when I got this concept, I mean, we're we're vessels, 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:44.680 we're receptible, so we're supposed to receive. So we can't 0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:47.840 give to our children, our family, or community, the world 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:50.960 unless we're receiving. So first thing you have to do 0:19:51.040 --> 0:19:54.320 is receive energy in the morning. So what I would 0:19:54.320 --> 0:19:57.160 do is I meditate every morning, even if it's three minutes. 0:19:57.160 --> 0:19:58.480 I mean, I have a twelve year old at home, 0:19:58.480 --> 0:20:01.360 now animals, I have, you know, life, but I have 0:20:01.440 --> 0:20:03.640 to do that first thing before you get out of bed. 0:20:04.160 --> 0:20:05.680 I get out of bed and I drink this tea, 0:20:06.200 --> 0:20:13.720 special tea which is the vodka or later did you 0:20:13.800 --> 0:20:18.000 say it's called living tea and it's it's it's a 0:20:18.040 --> 0:20:20.119 meditative tea and then you just sit in silence and 0:20:20.200 --> 0:20:21.560 drink it and meditate. And I do that and then 0:20:21.600 --> 0:20:25.040 I do a Kundalini yoga. It's the recipe three minutes. 0:20:25.119 --> 0:20:27.359 So I mean, so you have your two kids at home, 0:20:27.400 --> 0:20:29.919 I mean, do you set an alarm because sometimes I 0:20:29.920 --> 0:20:31.800 feel like, you know, yes, I look at my Instagram, 0:20:31.800 --> 0:20:33.520 but I'm like, all right, you know now I gotta 0:20:33.560 --> 0:20:35.919 go get Joli. So it's like, should I do you? 0:20:36.119 --> 0:20:38.600