1 00:00:01,840 --> 00:00:06,880 Speaker 1: Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I Heart Radio Podcast. Hi, 2 00:00:07,760 --> 00:00:11,480 Speaker 1: it's time to wind down again. Hi. Hi, I'm kind 3 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:13,120 Speaker 1: of in a mood. I'm just gonna put that out there, 4 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:16,480 Speaker 1: like right now. Well it's gloomy, that's I think that's 5 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: definitely a problem. Um, it's like it rain. It's raining 6 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 1: today in l A. At sixty degrees, and I think 7 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:29,840 Speaker 1: I definitely get like weather depression. I love this weather, 8 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 1: you do, It's my favorite weather. It makes me want 9 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:36,680 Speaker 1: to do everything. Are you serious? Oh my gosh. It 10 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: makes me want to crawl into like just a hole 11 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:42,680 Speaker 1: and in my bed and just watch like movies, which 12 00:00:42,720 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 1: is great, but like I want to be productive today 13 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: and I just feel like I've just been lagging and 14 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:49,840 Speaker 1: I'm just I don't know, I'm just kind of like 15 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: And I just got back from Nashville too. I was 16 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: in Nashville all last week and I love l A. 17 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: But I just feel like depressed coming back and I'm 18 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: like bummed about that? Is it? Because the sun is 19 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: an out well, I mean the weather is like amazing 20 00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: always in l A. So I know I can't complain 21 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: because it's usually sunny seven. But I think again, like 22 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: I love Nashville, and that's where I really want to 23 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:17,840 Speaker 1: raise Jolie. But what do you love about Nashville? Like, 24 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,400 Speaker 1: first of all, our our house is well when we're 25 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:22,319 Speaker 1: selling it, which is also really sad, and a lot 26 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: of memories with that. But it's just we can afford 27 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: a house in Nashville. We can't afford a house here 28 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:30,399 Speaker 1: in l A. And what we're renting right now is 29 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 1: way more than our mortgage in Nashville. And it's just 30 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: I mean champagne problems, you know. Again, Like we have 31 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: a house. We're so thankful, but it's just it's just 32 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 1: difficult when you know what you can have in Nashville 33 00:01:42,040 --> 00:01:43,679 Speaker 1: and then you come here and you're like, oh, I'm 34 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 1: in a like a thousand square foot place. Yeah, it's 35 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:51,240 Speaker 1: a completely different lifestyle. And it's like schools for like 36 00:01:51,360 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: every school in Nashville's and ten. So it's like in here, 37 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, it's a fool Like I 38 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 1: don't I don't want to I don't want to pay 39 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: for private schooling. You know. I was like I I 40 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: loved our public schools, and so I don't know, it's 41 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: just I think I'm just in a mood and then also, 42 00:02:04,640 --> 00:02:08,080 Speaker 1: like you know, Mike and I spent like about a 43 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: week apart, and then you know, you just have to 44 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 1: kind of get back into like groove of like being 45 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: around someone. Wait a second, did you did we do 46 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: the episode last week? And then you left for Nashville? Yeah, 47 00:02:20,600 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: and he came. He came with me for Mother's Day. 48 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: So we had like the weekend together and it was 49 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:26,919 Speaker 1: such a nice weekend and we went to the park 50 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 1: and then it was you know, and then I had 51 00:02:28,639 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 1: a few shows I had to play. I had a 52 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 1: show for Diamond Resorts, and then I was in Ohio 53 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: and it was great. But then, like you know how 54 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: again like when you spend time by yourself and then 55 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 1: you get back with your husband and you're like, okay, 56 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: like this is we're back in this groove. And then 57 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:44,680 Speaker 1: but then we're back in our little box and nella, 58 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: so it's just again it's like just getting back in 59 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 1: like the rhythm of things. And then I'm like I 60 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:52,920 Speaker 1: felt myself like nitpicking, and I'm like, well, why isn't 61 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:54,639 Speaker 1: it like I don't know, I just like I just 62 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: like came home. I think like, well, I know this 63 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: is called the wine down. So I'm done. Why I 64 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:03,079 Speaker 1: just had to like put that out there. So sometimes 65 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,240 Speaker 1: I just I'm not getting the mood. Well, I want 66 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:08,920 Speaker 1: to go back to episode two when Mike came in 67 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:13,280 Speaker 1: and you guys really shared we did you really shared 68 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:18,400 Speaker 1: relationship stuff? I mean, you were an open book. I was. 69 00:03:18,639 --> 00:03:21,600 Speaker 1: I was amazed, Well, what happened did you guys drive 70 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:23,800 Speaker 1: together that day? Because I want to know what was 71 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: talked about in the drive home. I was honestly worried, 72 00:03:27,480 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 1: like what was going to be said? And when we 73 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 1: got out of it, he's like, that was so much fun. 74 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: What I know. He's like, I had the best time. 75 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: He's like, he goes, there's something so empowering about being 76 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: behind the mike and having you know. He's like, yeah, 77 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 1: does it suck to be the person that's the person 78 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: that caused harm and pain for someone? Yeah, that's that's 79 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: difficult and it sucks that it's out there. But at 80 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 1: the same time, he goes for the first time because 81 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: we've always had a major debate because I've always wanted 82 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: to talk about the infidelity because I'm like, it's already 83 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 1: out there, so it's like, why are you trying to 84 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 1: pretend like it's not there and that you didn't cheat 85 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:05,120 Speaker 1: on me, you know, so it's like, let's talk about it, 86 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 1: let's help other people. And I don't think he didn't. 87 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:10,480 Speaker 1: I don't think he's never gotten that until he came 88 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: on the show, because he realized. He's like, wow, like 89 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,560 Speaker 1: you can help people, and you can share your experiences 90 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,640 Speaker 1: and and you know, help people get through things. And 91 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:22,799 Speaker 1: I've also shared a bunch of Instagram stories that people 92 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 1: have dm me and just saying like like thank you 93 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 1: for you know, sharing your story, and you know, I 94 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:29,520 Speaker 1: let my husband listen to it, and you know, because 95 00:04:29,560 --> 00:04:34,720 Speaker 1: my husband isn't as um, you know, he doesn't he's 96 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 1: not what Mike was doing. He's not listening to my 97 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:39,360 Speaker 1: feelings and he's defensive. So it's we were able to 98 00:04:39,480 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 1: help some people. So that's that's awesome. Do you think 99 00:04:42,320 --> 00:04:44,600 Speaker 1: that that empowered him? Yeah. I think he was like 100 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:46,680 Speaker 1: super excited about and he had kind of talked about 101 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: speaking out about infidelity, especially with like football and stuff 102 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:54,159 Speaker 1: like that, but it needs to be his time. But 103 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,159 Speaker 1: I think stuff like this is getting him like Okay, 104 00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: like I I can talk about it in a positive 105 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:01,480 Speaker 1: way because I'm like, look, dude, I don't want to 106 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: go back through all the stuff and say everything you did, 107 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,960 Speaker 1: because that's hard for me, that's triggering. But if we 108 00:05:07,040 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: can say, yes, you cheated, Yes these things happened, but 109 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 1: this is how we're working on things. This is how 110 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:17,800 Speaker 1: we're fixing the problem. And again, you know, it's not easy, 111 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: and it's you know, there are some things that it's 112 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 1: hard to go back in time and relive. But it's 113 00:05:25,320 --> 00:05:27,159 Speaker 1: just I want to be able to give back and 114 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 1: help people. And the amount of messages that I've gotten 115 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 1: with people saying like thank you for doing this, and 116 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: I honestly want to say thank you for sharing your 117 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: stories with me because I don't feel as alone, like 118 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: they don't feel as alone, but I'm like selfishly, one 119 00:05:39,040 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: of the reasons why I'm sharing so much is because 120 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 1: I don't want to feel alone. I don't want to 121 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: feel like I'm the only woman that feels this way 122 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:47,039 Speaker 1: or has been hurt or cheated on, or has triggers 123 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:51,480 Speaker 1: or depression or you know, I mean, I have major, 124 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: you know, insecurity issues about how I look and you know, 125 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:56,880 Speaker 1: why did you pick her and not me? And why 126 00:05:56,920 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: don't I look like that? So it's like there's so 127 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:00,040 Speaker 1: many things that go with it that I'm like, I 128 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 1: want to be able to share so that I don't 129 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 1: feel alone too. So you sharing other people because they're 130 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: resonating with you, and then I feel that way too, 131 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 1: Oh my god, like thank you And I'm like, no, 132 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:14,880 Speaker 1: thank you, like because you're you're sharing your stores with me, 133 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 1: and I'm like, you feel that way too, like you're 134 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: you get upset to like I'm not the only crazy 135 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 1: wife that is yelled at my husband or you know, 136 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: gone off one day, or do you feel like you're 137 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: getting validation, like your feelings are actually valid. I just 138 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:32,839 Speaker 1: feel comforted. Yeah, I feel like there's an army of 139 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:36,479 Speaker 1: wind down listeners that get us, that get me, that 140 00:06:36,600 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: get you, that get like what we're going through, and 141 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: you know that we can be like a safe place 142 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: to be able to share and say like, hey, this 143 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:47,279 Speaker 1: is what worked for me. You know, I don't know 144 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:48,719 Speaker 1: if it's gonna work for you. Like this one girl 145 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 1: reached out to me last night and she's like, what 146 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:54,039 Speaker 1: do I do? And I'm like it's so hard. I'm like, 147 00:06:54,120 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 1: but this is what I did, this is what helped me. 148 00:06:57,040 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 1: And if you guys are both working, you know, like 149 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:01,159 Speaker 1: blah blah blah. But it's like this is also away 150 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,480 Speaker 1: from me to like also realize too with the work 151 00:07:04,920 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: two years down the road, there are things that have improved, 152 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: so I can look back and be like, God, I 153 00:07:09,480 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 1: know how crappy that feeling is right now, and you 154 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: grew through it. There is like some silver lining through 155 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 1: the hardships. And has anybody reached out with any date 156 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:21,920 Speaker 1: night ideas? Oh my gosh. So yeah, someone said, I 157 00:07:21,960 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: like the popsicle stick one, so either you put it 158 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: in a jar and you just pull out a popsicle stick. 159 00:07:27,480 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: So I'm exciting our anniversaries tomorrow it is, yeah, three years. 160 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:37,920 Speaker 1: Well he has to work, but um I planned a 161 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 1: weekend day for us on Saturday. So I'm really excited 162 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 1: about that. So I'll share that on but yeah, no, 163 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: so I am pumped about that. Um so yeah, we'll see. 164 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:51,480 Speaker 1: Will that be the first that will be the first 165 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: date night? Yeah, And I've kind of curated it, and um, 166 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:59,240 Speaker 1: he planned last year, so we kind of we alternate anniversary, 167 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 1: Like who plans it? That's nice? Yeah, so and but 168 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 1: again it's like the anniversary is triggering, so I have 169 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: to like be present and do you plan on being intimate. 170 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: Is that like the agenda? I hope so, But I 171 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:18,440 Speaker 1: feel like whenever I like, I want to and then 172 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:20,120 Speaker 1: if he isn't, then I get let down and then 173 00:08:20,120 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: we get a fight, and then I'm like, oh, why 174 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: don't you want to sleep with me? You want to 175 00:08:22,960 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 1: sleep with X, Y and Z. Why not? So it's 176 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 1: like it's I have to like just let the mood 177 00:08:28,600 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: take the But sure, I'm an ed love that. I mean, 178 00:08:33,160 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 1: are you concerned because there's the extra pressure because I know, 179 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 1: and that's what one of the things like he always 180 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 1: has a hard time with because he feels the pressure. 181 00:08:43,559 --> 00:08:46,760 Speaker 1: But I don't, like, why should there be pressure on intimacy. 182 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 1: It's like two people love each other, they should have 183 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:55,200 Speaker 1: sex and touch each other and kiss. But issues he does, 184 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 1: I know, but he's struggling with something else. Of course 185 00:08:59,280 --> 00:09:01,360 Speaker 1: it is. That's why you guys are working on it, 186 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:04,960 Speaker 1: because you're not in the same place when the all 187 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:07,440 Speaker 1: time you had sex since you're getting divorced. Oh for 188 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 1: hour ago, we need to find you a man to 189 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:19,960 Speaker 1: just go to town. You're kidding, kidding, Okay, do we 190 00:09:19,960 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 1: talk about that in the next episode? Next episode? Next episode, 191 00:09:23,200 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: we are we're going there. We're going down on sex, 192 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 1: no pun intended, no, but no. Episode four I'm excited 193 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: for So this next episode, Um, we're going to talk 194 00:09:35,960 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: about sex and intimacy, which is which is touchy for 195 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 1: a lot of people because some people want to have 196 00:09:41,160 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 1: a lot of sex. Some people are like I'm tired, Yeah, 197 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to, and then there's a lot of 198 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 1: well everybody a different appetite. And we have an expert. 199 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:54,000 Speaker 1: I'm so excited, you know, we can ask her all. 200 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:56,840 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be like, all right, just sit here 201 00:09:56,960 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 1: for like five hours and talking about this. So, yeah, 202 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:02,520 Speaker 1: you guys, Episode four is going to be a really 203 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:04,320 Speaker 1: good one. And I'm excited that you guys wanted us 204 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:07,360 Speaker 1: to talk about sex intimacy because that's something that is 205 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: a huge problem marriage, not just marriage. You know, I've 206 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 1: had some relationships to where it's just it's been one 207 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:21,080 Speaker 1: sided or not. It's it's very interesting, like the dynamics 208 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:24,240 Speaker 1: of sex. So we'll talk about that little about it. Well, 209 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:27,680 Speaker 1: it's so weird because I was in a relationship for 210 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:31,680 Speaker 1: almost how long are we married for again? Almost seventeen years? 211 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: When did then? When did the sex stop? Oh? Boy? 212 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:40,439 Speaker 1: I mean we're probably having sex once a year after 213 00:10:40,559 --> 00:10:45,719 Speaker 1: I had my son, so probably seven six years ago. 214 00:10:46,520 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 1: M yeah, because of you or him? Me. Oh, you 215 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: just don't like sex. No I do. I just didn't. 216 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:59,360 Speaker 1: I just didn't want to him in that situation. I 217 00:10:59,400 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 1: feel like you're just so much better because you are 218 00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:05,599 Speaker 1: just you know exactly what you do want not you 219 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:06,760 Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like you're like, I don't want 220 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 1: to be in that relationship. But that's because I'm old. 221 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 1: You're not old, so I mean older, I've had a 222 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: tune of life experience, and there's no you don't. You 223 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 1: don't want to waste your time when you know, when 224 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:20,960 Speaker 1: you know, you just have to. You have to move forward. 225 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:24,559 Speaker 1: You have to otherwise you die. Eastan, do you have 226 00:11:24,600 --> 00:11:28,000 Speaker 1: a girlfriend? I'm happily married. Thank you very well, that's right. 227 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 1: How often do you guys have sex? Uh? I mean 228 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: like like perre a couple of times a week. Yeah 229 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: that's normal. Yeah, like for young, young couple. I guess 230 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:49,920 Speaker 1: yeah maybe maybe I don't know, but I can't wait 231 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:53,320 Speaker 1: to find share share before we go to the episode, Well, 232 00:11:53,400 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: next episode, UM, send us some emails. Jane Kramer at 233 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:59,120 Speaker 1: I Heeart Media dot com and uh, tell me about 234 00:11:59,120 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 1: your sex life? So what I not in like the 235 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:06,679 Speaker 1: graphic novel? Way please because we have gotten some of 236 00:12:06,679 --> 00:12:09,840 Speaker 1: those emails and those are scary. How about questions only? 237 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:13,840 Speaker 1: Questions only? Yes, that would be great, not dirty stories. 238 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: I don't feel like reading a fabio novel right now. Okay, 239 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:22,880 Speaker 1: So I um so okay. So we have two really 240 00:12:22,880 --> 00:12:25,320 Speaker 1: amazing guests coming on the show today. We have Shiva 241 00:12:25,440 --> 00:12:30,760 Speaker 1: Rose and she's honestly, she just she's knows at all. 242 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:33,360 Speaker 1: And she's She's got an amazing book called Whole Beauty, 243 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:36,720 Speaker 1: Daily Rituals and Natural Recipes for Lifelong Beauty and Wellness. Um, 244 00:12:36,760 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 1: so I'm really excited to ask her some questions. I 245 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 1: know you're her daily routine seems incredible, incredible, She's a goddess. 246 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:46,000 Speaker 1: And then we have Sirie Daily coming on the show. Um, 247 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: she's got a really amazing blog. She's married to Carson Daily, 248 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 1: so I'm excited to see how she balances mom life. Yes, 249 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:58,079 Speaker 1: oh and here she is. Hi. Okay, So how how 250 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 1: do I how do I explain in like, if you like, 251 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:03,600 Speaker 1: how do I explain you? Because I was trying. I 252 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 1: was talking about the book, but It's like I just 253 00:13:05,040 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 1: feel like you know everything. So I just said, like, 254 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 1: this is Shiva Rose who knows everything like holistic wellness 255 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:18,040 Speaker 1: UM learning how to be awake, learning how to feel 256 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:22,880 Speaker 1: hashtag woke but not. But I also feel like that's 257 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 1: become too cliche. But yeah, but just like being your 258 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:29,760 Speaker 1: ultimate self? How did you get into this UM? Well? 259 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:32,320 Speaker 1: When I was are we are? We? Oh? Yeah? We are? 260 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, tell me everything. When I was twenty six, 261 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: I was dying. I had my first daughter and I 262 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 1: was diagnosed with I was so exhausted I couldn't recover 263 00:13:42,760 --> 00:13:45,160 Speaker 1: and I ended up going to a rheumatologist because a 264 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:49,000 Speaker 1: dermatologist saw something on my back and uh, they tested 265 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:52,439 Speaker 1: me and found out I had a rheumatoid arthritis, lupus, 266 00:13:52,559 --> 00:13:55,040 Speaker 1: and sclurre derma and I had a year to the 267 00:13:55,080 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 1: one doctors told me I had a year to live. 268 00:13:57,320 --> 00:13:59,839 Speaker 1: So this was AIX and this sort of a catapulted. 269 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:02,560 Speaker 1: You just had your daughter. I just had my daughter 270 00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: and I wasn't recovering, and I was like, ah, this 271 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:12,080 Speaker 1: motherhood is how do people do it? Uh? And that 272 00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:14,839 Speaker 1: sort of got me onto the path because, uh, when 273 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:18,080 Speaker 1: I was told that diagnosis, I have a really rebellious nature, 274 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:21,240 Speaker 1: and something in me was like, watch, I'm gonna turn 275 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:25,640 Speaker 1: that year into a hunter exactly. There's something in us, 276 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:28,960 Speaker 1: in US warriors that I was like, this isn't my story. 277 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:32,080 Speaker 1: And then a friend of mine recommended this holistic doctor 278 00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 1: and he told me he would get me on the 279 00:14:33,760 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 1: path to healing within a year. And I didn't start 280 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:40,200 Speaker 1: feeling great for many years, and I went through ups 281 00:14:40,200 --> 00:14:42,280 Speaker 1: and downs and roads and turns and this and that. 282 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:46,160 Speaker 1: But finally, I think in the last nine ten years, 283 00:14:46,160 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 1: I've been feeling, you know, my optimal self. My hormones 284 00:14:50,040 --> 00:14:53,480 Speaker 1: are level, my autoimmune conditions are in remission. And that's 285 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:57,000 Speaker 1: all because of the holistic approach. It's it's diet, it's 286 00:14:57,120 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 1: uh products that you use. It's getting rid of all 287 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:02,160 Speaker 1: the toxic chemicals in your home. It's spirituality. It's a 288 00:15:02,160 --> 00:15:05,720 Speaker 1: connection to nature. It's getting into touch with your goddess self. 289 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: It's doing Yoni exercises. It's like it's so much, you know, 290 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 1: I need you Just to come to my house for 291 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:16,160 Speaker 1: a month changed my way of life. And well, that's 292 00:15:16,160 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 1: what this this book is truly about. Because I started 293 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:22,120 Speaker 1: a blog, so I was married to an actor. I 294 00:15:22,160 --> 00:15:26,320 Speaker 1: was in the Hollywood work know about eight nine, nine, 295 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 1: ten years ago, we got divorced. I'm sorry, thank you, 296 00:15:30,000 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 1: thank you, but I think thank you reed no, but 297 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:37,600 Speaker 1: I have a partner now in Texas, Texas. I'm moving 298 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:40,640 Speaker 1: there in a year or two. Yes, so, uh, what 299 00:15:40,800 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 1: what happened was ten years ago. You know, your life 300 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 1: sometimes breaks apart, but it actually breaks open. It's all perspective. 301 00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:51,040 Speaker 1: I understand you, yes, because if sometimes we don't know 302 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:54,160 Speaker 1: it at the time, when everything is crashing down around us, 303 00:15:54,480 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 1: it's just a way of your of you going to 304 00:15:57,200 --> 00:16:00,200 Speaker 1: the next level. It's like rebooting the computer. So I 305 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:03,200 Speaker 1: did not know that at the time. But ten years ago, 306 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: when it crashed and all my auto immune flare ups 307 00:16:05,880 --> 00:16:08,040 Speaker 1: were coming back, I had two daughters to raise. So 308 00:16:08,080 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 1: I just went I said, you know what, I'm going 309 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 1: back to zero. I'm gonna start. I'm going to get 310 00:16:12,440 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 1: this house in nature. I'm gonna start growing my own food. 311 00:16:15,920 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 1: I'm stopping to the acting. Even though I love acting, 312 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: it wasn't fulfilling me. And I just started from ground zero, 313 00:16:22,680 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: and I started my blog, The Local Rose, to sort 314 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:28,760 Speaker 1: of document this journey. And then the book is a 315 00:16:28,760 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: culmination of that because there's so many things. It's not 316 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:35,480 Speaker 1: just recipes, it's not just a meditation. It's so many 317 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 1: different things. It's a lifestyle. So what do you think, 318 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:40,720 Speaker 1: like someone that wants to start this approach, what what 319 00:16:40,760 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: would be the first because to me, like right now 320 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:44,960 Speaker 1: I'm hearing all this sounds amazing, but I'm overwhelmed. Yeah, 321 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:46,240 Speaker 1: oh my god, i have to get rid of everything 322 00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:49,640 Speaker 1: mouse And so what was like, what's the first step that, like, 323 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 1: I would say, take three. Take take a moment in 324 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:55,840 Speaker 1: the morning when you're clear, and just tune into yourself. 325 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:59,560 Speaker 1: Sit down on a on a bare you know, rug 326 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:02,160 Speaker 1: some and just look out the window or just close 327 00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:04,560 Speaker 1: your eyes and just tune into yourself. I would say 328 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 1: it starts with that. It starts with connecting to that energy, 329 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 1: that source energy, and whatever that source energy is for you. 330 00:17:10,680 --> 00:17:12,960 Speaker 1: It could be God, it could be nature, it could 331 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:16,720 Speaker 1: be soul, it could be spirit um, whatever that is 332 00:17:16,840 --> 00:17:19,240 Speaker 1: for you. It's like a little like buzzing, I don't 333 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:21,520 Speaker 1: I mean, you know something, it's just a little whisper, 334 00:17:21,720 --> 00:17:25,000 Speaker 1: But it's connecting to that essence of spirit or soul, 335 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:28,200 Speaker 1: something bigger than us. And that's like the beginning, I think, 336 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:31,480 Speaker 1: and all these things can actually make it louder. And 337 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:33,679 Speaker 1: then how do you act on a them? Um? How 338 00:17:33,720 --> 00:17:36,119 Speaker 1: do you act on it? Yeah? So like with so okay, 339 00:17:36,160 --> 00:17:37,840 Speaker 1: like today I woke up and I'm like feeling a 340 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:40,760 Speaker 1: little depressed, Like what what changes? Like what route do 341 00:17:40,800 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 1: you go to? Like a dress? Well, gratitude, which we've 342 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:45,879 Speaker 1: all heard is huge. That that's sort of like that 343 00:17:45,960 --> 00:17:49,200 Speaker 1: does that every every day her gratitude because the gratitude 344 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:52,920 Speaker 1: really is like the entryway into that world. And then 345 00:17:53,240 --> 00:17:55,000 Speaker 1: would you say like five things you're great? Like what 346 00:17:55,200 --> 00:17:57,120 Speaker 1: what do you? Yeah? I mean I go through I'll 347 00:17:57,160 --> 00:17:59,159 Speaker 1: go through the list. If I'm really low and I 348 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:02,400 Speaker 1: can't like get it, you know, together, to even connect 349 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 1: to source, then I will start with just a gratitude list. 350 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:06,919 Speaker 1: Is that the first thing you do in the morning? 351 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:09,080 Speaker 1: I want to know what is the first thing you 352 00:18:09,160 --> 00:18:12,600 Speaker 1: do when your eyes open? Thank you? Um. I have 353 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:14,960 Speaker 1: a skincare line which came to me in a meditation. 354 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: So the first thing I do spray my face with 355 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:19,119 Speaker 1: my radiant rose water and then I go where do 356 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:25,480 Speaker 1: we get that up? It's like a super vidom for 357 00:18:25,640 --> 00:18:28,600 Speaker 1: your skin. It really plumps you up. And um and 358 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:30,480 Speaker 1: then I go do a living tea. I drink that. 359 00:18:30,560 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 1: So it's in the book. I'm I'm like a spiritual 360 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:36,119 Speaker 1: practice horse. So it depends how much time we have. 361 00:18:37,080 --> 00:18:44,240 Speaker 1: We want your whole daily routine to the spiritual horse. 362 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:48,080 Speaker 1: I want to become one because I feel like, I mean, honestly, 363 00:18:48,400 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 1: I'll be honest. I start my day looking at Instagram 364 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:53,680 Speaker 1: and it sucks the life out of me. I know, 365 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:56,400 Speaker 1: I know. It's the very first thing that I do, 366 00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:58,480 Speaker 1: and I'm like, and then the second I'm on there, 367 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:00,760 Speaker 1: I find myself comparing myself to other people and I 368 00:19:00,800 --> 00:19:02,880 Speaker 1: get the breast and I'm like, what am I doing? 369 00:19:02,960 --> 00:19:04,800 Speaker 1: And it's and I'm doing it. I know what I'm doing. 370 00:19:04,840 --> 00:19:07,639 Speaker 1: But it's systematic the way that it's formed with the 371 00:19:07,680 --> 00:19:10,600 Speaker 1: dopamine hits. I mean, I'm I do it too, we 372 00:19:10,760 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 1: do you, but I but I'm making it. Definitely you 373 00:19:17,080 --> 00:19:18,840 Speaker 1: have you can't start the day that way because it 374 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:22,920 Speaker 1: is it's made to release and and get dopamine hits. 375 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:24,720 Speaker 1: It's that's what it is. Every time you get to 376 00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 1: like it's like a dopamine. It's a reaction and it 377 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:29,320 Speaker 1: depletes us. At the end of the day, it depletes 378 00:19:29,320 --> 00:19:31,919 Speaker 1: the dopamine in our brands, the serotonin. So what we 379 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:34,520 Speaker 1: have to do is start bringing that in, especially as women. 380 00:19:34,920 --> 00:19:38,679 Speaker 1: Women are made to receive, which is so crazy, but 381 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:41,240 Speaker 1: when I got this concept, I mean, we're we're vessels, 382 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 1: we're receptible, so we're supposed to receive. So we can't 383 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:47,840 Speaker 1: give to our children, our family, or community, the world 384 00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 1: unless we're receiving. So first thing you have to do 385 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 1: is receive energy in the morning. So what I would 386 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:57,160 Speaker 1: do is I meditate every morning, even if it's three minutes. 387 00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:58,480 Speaker 1: I mean, I have a twelve year old at home, 388 00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:01,360 Speaker 1: now animals, I have, you know, life, but I have 389 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:03,640 Speaker 1: to do that first thing before you get out of bed. 390 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:05,680 Speaker 1: I get out of bed and I drink this tea, 391 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:13,720 Speaker 1: special tea which is the vodka or later did you 392 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:18,000 Speaker 1: say it's called living tea and it's it's it's a 393 00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:20,119 Speaker 1: meditative tea and then you just sit in silence and 394 00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 1: drink it and meditate. And I do that and then 395 00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,040 Speaker 1: I do a Kundalini yoga. It's the recipe three minutes. 396 00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:27,359 Speaker 1: So I mean, so you have your two kids at home, 397 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:29,919 Speaker 1: I mean, do you set an alarm because sometimes I 398 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:31,800 Speaker 1: feel like, you know, yes, I look at my Instagram, 399 00:20:31,800 --> 00:20:33,520 Speaker 1: but I'm like, all right, you know now I gotta 400 00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:35,919 Speaker 1: go get Joli. So it's like, should I do you? 401 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,600 Speaker 1: Do you and make intentional time to like set an 402 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:41,360 Speaker 1: alarm to wake up earlier or did I wake up now? 403 00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:46,919 Speaker 1: And rhythm with with you know, your spiritual calling but 404 00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:49,840 Speaker 1: also just you know, you got into rhythm with the 405 00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 1: moon and the sun and all that. But you can 406 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:54,199 Speaker 1: you can, yes, set an alarm and go okay, then 407 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:57,160 Speaker 1: this is the ten minutes for myself before I get 408 00:20:57,200 --> 00:21:00,400 Speaker 1: up mind. So you just have to practice doing it. Yes, 409 00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:02,399 Speaker 1: And at first it's like anything at first, it might 410 00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:05,200 Speaker 1: be it takes twenty one days to break a habit. 411 00:21:05,359 --> 00:21:08,760 Speaker 1: I thought it was three twenty one days to really break, 412 00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:11,719 Speaker 1: and then twenty another twenty one to set new. So 413 00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:14,480 Speaker 1: forty days. If you do a forty day meditation, your 414 00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:18,119 Speaker 1: life will change. Can I can I? Um? Have you 415 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 1: be like my accountability person? Sure, I'll give you my number. 416 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:24,080 Speaker 1: You perfect because I need someone to keep me accountable. 417 00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:26,879 Speaker 1: It's like a spiritual guide to be like because if not, 418 00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 1: I'll be like me. I know it's so easy for 419 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:33,679 Speaker 1: us to fall into that. What you know, what are 420 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:36,160 Speaker 1: your thoughts on I know essential oils are huge, but 421 00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:40,280 Speaker 1: how how much does that really like help with health 422 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:44,080 Speaker 1: and benefits. I love essential always because because it's like 423 00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:47,320 Speaker 1: the ultimate high vibration of the plant, especially if we 424 00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:50,359 Speaker 1: are trying to get plant medicine. I mean, such as rose. 425 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:53,760 Speaker 1: If you are feeling down, rose can really lift you up. 426 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:55,919 Speaker 1: It's the queen of all flowers that's been measured to 427 00:21:55,920 --> 00:22:00,600 Speaker 1: have the highest vibrational uh vibrant vibrancy of the plant. 428 00:22:00,640 --> 00:22:04,160 Speaker 1: And you really do smell it, and factually and scientifically 429 00:22:04,160 --> 00:22:06,720 Speaker 1: it will open your heart, heal your heart, open those 430 00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 1: receptors in your brain. I mean it is, it is 431 00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:12,680 Speaker 1: all proven. I make things from my home to clean 432 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,760 Speaker 1: my house with essential oils, so when you smell that, 433 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:18,600 Speaker 1: it can definitely change. I mean it's such a huge 434 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:24,200 Speaker 1: direct link. Are there any essential oils for sex with 435 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:30,880 Speaker 1: my husband? You know what I mean? Okay? It all 436 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:34,239 Speaker 1: comes down with with how you feel about you, you 437 00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:36,720 Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's all about that. And I 438 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: am fascinated by the men and women, the polarities. So 439 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:41,760 Speaker 1: you you just have to get him to be in 440 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 1: his masculine and you be in your feminine and that's 441 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 1: like and how you do that is by is by 442 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:52,040 Speaker 1: being loving to loving, like like just love loving, and 443 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,239 Speaker 1: then that will turn and then it'll mirror and then 444 00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 1: it will feed you. It'll feed you because men are 445 00:22:57,400 --> 00:22:59,959 Speaker 1: like I mean, it's it's so fascinating to me right now, 446 00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,040 Speaker 1: especially now that I'm in this relationship, just like the 447 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:04,679 Speaker 1: polarities like the more you feed their masculine where they 448 00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:07,919 Speaker 1: feed you're feminine. And you know this is all like 449 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:15,640 Speaker 1: time we're living right now. But I mean, like we like, 450 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,679 Speaker 1: I I feel like we need to go back to 451 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 1: some of the roles that like, you know, like like 452 00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:23,960 Speaker 1: my guy's a cowboy in Texas, Like this is the 453 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:30,800 Speaker 1: hell yeah right, your guys a cowboy? How is he 454 00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:36,399 Speaker 1: responding to? Like crystals? And that's very open because I 455 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 1: think if a man is okay with his masculinity, he 456 00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:41,080 Speaker 1: can be he can like be okay with all that 457 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 1: he's like, Hi, baby, was that Over the weekend? I 458 00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:52,960 Speaker 1: have a male friend that I felt like, how like, 459 00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:57,600 Speaker 1: so I went to the crystal store because I'm very 460 00:23:57,640 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 1: much into crystals. I don't get the crystals. You'll have 461 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:01,680 Speaker 1: to take plan to make smart. Girlfriend. Joey's obsessed and 462 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:03,719 Speaker 1: like really, like you're just like waving around this crystal 463 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:08,160 Speaker 1: that made my face. My sister rose Quartz crystals and 464 00:24:08,320 --> 00:24:12,680 Speaker 1: she met the guy that she married but later yeah, okay, 465 00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 1: but anyway, so you went to the guy's house. Yeah, 466 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:18,520 Speaker 1: and so I bought these the black yes, and I 467 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 1: put them in all four corners of this and I 468 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,760 Speaker 1: was like, he's we didn't think I'm not. You're the 469 00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 1: girl on how to Lose a Guy in ten days 470 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:31,800 Speaker 1: placing Listen. I think men, if they if they are 471 00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:33,600 Speaker 1: in their masculine, they can trust that you're in your 472 00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 1: feminine and you know you have wisdom, wisdom to bring 473 00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 1: to him. I mean at first, he's are they are 474 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,159 Speaker 1: open to that? I mean that guy is a total 475 00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:46,120 Speaker 1: alpha dude and he's a real man. Yeah, and he's 476 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,040 Speaker 1: into it and he has crystals in his chick explain 477 00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:53,840 Speaker 1: he's a musician. Actually his name is Dan Dyer for her, 478 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:57,959 Speaker 1: and he's the most amazing musician. Love the plug. So yeah, 479 00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:01,000 Speaker 1: because he's not really a cowboy, he just the cowboys song. 480 00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:04,159 Speaker 1: So why convinced me in a minute, why I need 481 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 1: to get a crystal in my house? I would say, 482 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,960 Speaker 1: get a crystal in your yoni like do my vagina? Yeah, 483 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:16,560 Speaker 1: like yoni egg time start over crystals and I do. 484 00:25:16,640 --> 00:25:18,560 Speaker 1: I have a whole chapter on that, which is you know, 485 00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:21,240 Speaker 1: an amazing It doesn't that hurt? No, it's it's made 486 00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,120 Speaker 1: in the in the shape of an egg, and it's 487 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,920 Speaker 1: been women have been doing it for five thousand years. 488 00:25:27,400 --> 00:25:30,280 Speaker 1: Said no, I know where have they been doing Because 489 00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 1: you were talking about the issue with your with your 490 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:36,120 Speaker 1: husband earlier. So this is a way where you activate 491 00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:45,040 Speaker 1: your sexuality, your femininity, you get I like to this. 492 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,239 Speaker 1: You won't need to if you use if you use 493 00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:50,520 Speaker 1: a yonig crystal, which they've been doing in China for 494 00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:54,439 Speaker 1: five thousand years. The concubine started it to to please 495 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:57,359 Speaker 1: the emperor and then they realize that it's giving them 496 00:25:57,400 --> 00:26:01,840 Speaker 1: all this magnetic Okay, magnetic. So maybe I'm not there 497 00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 1: yet to putting things. But like what about like can 498 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 1: I can I start with the house? Yes, you can 499 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,280 Speaker 1: start with that, but what is that going to do? Okay? 500 00:26:10,280 --> 00:26:11,560 Speaker 1: But this is what I like to say with a 501 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: yoni egg. Okay, it says that you don't need vagina. Yeah, 502 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:17,960 Speaker 1: I was kidding. It means sacred space. It means sacred 503 00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:21,520 Speaker 1: space and sanscrit So this is the thing. Uh a 504 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,239 Speaker 1: yoni isn't just to carry a child, It's not just 505 00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:26,720 Speaker 1: to have sex with. And this is what we don't 506 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 1: know here in the West. It's like having a beautiful 507 00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,520 Speaker 1: house with a beautiful empty room and you're not using it. 508 00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:36,320 Speaker 1: So when you start realizing the energy you hold in there, 509 00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:41,480 Speaker 1: all of women's desires, their discipline, their will is controlled 510 00:26:41,520 --> 00:26:45,600 Speaker 1: by that chakra. So if that is not activated, if 511 00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:49,600 Speaker 1: it's not strengthened, then you know your will leaks. It's 512 00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 1: like a leaking definitely. You have kids, well there you go, 513 00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,160 Speaker 1: especially after you have a kids. So that's why it's 514 00:26:56,200 --> 00:26:59,719 Speaker 1: like important to get that strengthened in so many ways. 515 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:05,199 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, your listeners feeling, they love it. I 516 00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,320 Speaker 1: live in my own reality so much so that I 517 00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:10,280 Speaker 1: your fantastic. So where do we find you at um? 518 00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:15,320 Speaker 1: I met Local Rose on Instagram, the Local Rose and 519 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:18,040 Speaker 1: Shiva Rose Beauty, which is my beauty products. So we 520 00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,840 Speaker 1: can get the stuff where we get it. I sell 521 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:23,600 Speaker 1: it on my shop because it has to be certified. 522 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 1: That's the thing. You don't want to just type it 523 00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:28,240 Speaker 1: in the computer because you don't want random you want 524 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:32,280 Speaker 1: you want a fight, No neo fright. Jade is a 525 00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:34,600 Speaker 1: kind of jade that's not porous, and it's been used 526 00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:36,560 Speaker 1: for thousands of years. So you can go to my 527 00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:38,160 Speaker 1: site and then I have and if you don't want 528 00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:39,400 Speaker 1: to use me, you don't have to. I don't want 529 00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:41,360 Speaker 1: you know that, I can send you to people who 530 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:44,800 Speaker 1: do it too, because I want I think allating. So 531 00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:48,200 Speaker 1: I'm super excited to read this book. Thank you. I'm 532 00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:52,040 Speaker 1: so glad you have it, so excited. It's called Whole Beauty. 533 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:54,479 Speaker 1: I want to know more about your daily routine, and 534 00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 1: I also want to know how and what kind of 535 00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:01,560 Speaker 1: ritual you do before bedtime. Oh okay, well this is 536 00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:03,760 Speaker 1: this is a good question because I think women can 537 00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:06,720 Speaker 1: do this everywhere we we have. I mean, just like 538 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:09,200 Speaker 1: you take a shower and wash your hair. Your hair 539 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:12,560 Speaker 1: gets dirty, right, your skin gets sturty from just living well, 540 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:15,800 Speaker 1: so does your spirit. Your spirit takes on things just 541 00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:18,480 Speaker 1: because we can't see it. It's like I like to imagine, 542 00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:20,640 Speaker 1: you know, thousands or hundreds of years ago, they didn't 543 00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:22,760 Speaker 1: see bacteria, so they didn't believe it. They would operate 544 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:25,400 Speaker 1: on people without an you know, an aseptic, so it's 545 00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:27,919 Speaker 1: the same thing with our spirit or energy are sold. 546 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:30,760 Speaker 1: We like start collecting things. So one way to get 547 00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 1: rid of this. I love to take baths. Love to 548 00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:37,600 Speaker 1: take baths in um, a good bath. And this is 549 00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 1: like it doesn't cost you anything. It's it's you know, 550 00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,080 Speaker 1: what do you put in your bath? I mean, well 551 00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 1: I do, Okay, this is where it gets a little 552 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,560 Speaker 1: too high high bib. But the water has to be good. 553 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,000 Speaker 1: So you know, I have a filtration system on my house. 554 00:28:49,040 --> 00:28:50,280 Speaker 1: So if you can get nice, you know, you don't 555 00:28:50,280 --> 00:28:54,720 Speaker 1: want to. I have great l a water. So that's 556 00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,440 Speaker 1: the only caveat is like, hopefully you have good water. 557 00:28:57,960 --> 00:28:59,920 Speaker 1: Um and if not, then you can buy a hot 558 00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,360 Speaker 1: that you can buy a hacket with cris um as 559 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,560 Speaker 1: salt with him Alayan salt and Himalayan salt is wonderful. 560 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:08,040 Speaker 1: Light candles. If put a crystal in the bath. If 561 00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:10,160 Speaker 1: you're trying to bring in love, put in rose courts. 562 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:14,600 Speaker 1: If you want to say, oh sure, whatever's gonna make 563 00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:16,440 Speaker 1: you feel you know what I mean. That's the thing, 564 00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 1: like I don't want. The thing in the wellness world 565 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:20,800 Speaker 1: that is becoming a problem is now people are like, 566 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,760 Speaker 1: oh my god, I can't eat pasta. I can't have wine. 567 00:29:23,840 --> 00:29:25,960 Speaker 1: I can't. You know, that's the other side. Could never 568 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:29,560 Speaker 1: do that if someone told me that wine pasta course. 569 00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,480 Speaker 1: I mean, I go to Texas and I would like 570 00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:34,960 Speaker 1: wine and eating steak. I'm like happy as a clam. 571 00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:37,280 Speaker 1: You know. It's like you have to live your life too. 572 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:42,000 Speaker 1: You can't be some monastic monk living in some you know, 573 00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:43,880 Speaker 1: some way where you're not enjoying your life. You've got 574 00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:47,040 Speaker 1: to enjoy life. That's about being juicy, that's about being alive, 575 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:49,680 Speaker 1: that's about being you know, in your goddess element is 576 00:29:49,720 --> 00:29:52,960 Speaker 1: about enjoyment. So yes, baths, I would do black termaline 577 00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:55,520 Speaker 1: if you're getting rid of negativity for the day. Lemon 578 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,280 Speaker 1: grass is a great essential oil you can drop. You know, 579 00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,880 Speaker 1: you can mix it first. Don't put it purely in 580 00:30:00,920 --> 00:30:03,160 Speaker 1: the in the water because it can burn. So I 581 00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:05,320 Speaker 1: have like a scrub that you can do with lemon ground. 582 00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,360 Speaker 1: Like there's things you can do in the bath, ritual, 583 00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:09,800 Speaker 1: light a candle, put a mantra on, and then it's 584 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:13,080 Speaker 1: all about like filling yourself back up, releasing in the bath. 585 00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,560 Speaker 1: And then when you're putting the body oils on. Just 586 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,680 Speaker 1: imagine you're anointing yourself and you're filling yourself back up 587 00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:24,240 Speaker 1: and put the phone away. Well, that's what happens. Our 588 00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:27,840 Speaker 1: brains get this. Get into nature, I go. I try 589 00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:29,880 Speaker 1: to walk every day with my dog and I don't 590 00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:32,200 Speaker 1: bring the phone. And yes there's mountain lions and there's 591 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,600 Speaker 1: you know, rattlesnakes right now, but you know what, the 592 00:30:34,640 --> 00:30:37,800 Speaker 1: phone is probably more dangerous than all these elements. Just 593 00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:41,440 Speaker 1: get into nature. My best ideas come to me. And 594 00:30:41,520 --> 00:30:44,160 Speaker 1: that's when how this everything came to me from walking 595 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:46,840 Speaker 1: in my canyons without my phone. Because the E M F, 596 00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:49,040 Speaker 1: you know, it affects your brain, so it's not just 597 00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:51,840 Speaker 1: your imagination. It's like you're literally having a hard time 598 00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:54,560 Speaker 1: to focus because the E m F radiation is so strong. 599 00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 1: Do you dream while sleeping? I do dream, yes, And 600 00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,920 Speaker 1: that's a great way to get you know, journaling, writing 601 00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:05,040 Speaker 1: your dreams down. If you can um listening to your dreams, 602 00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,080 Speaker 1: that's a that's a wonderful thing to do too. So 603 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,240 Speaker 1: I got eaten by shark last night. So what is 604 00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:13,600 Speaker 1: what defends if you're young? Because if you're young, Yanny, 605 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,040 Speaker 1: he would say that you're everything in your dream sweet, 606 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:21,280 Speaker 1: So you know defense, which which practice you're following? Well, 607 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:24,600 Speaker 1: I I absolutely adore. I think you're you're you're beautiful. 608 00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:26,800 Speaker 1: I mean on outside, but it's stunning on the inside 609 00:31:26,800 --> 00:31:30,360 Speaker 1: as well. So I'm just thank you for for shedding 610 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,160 Speaker 1: some light on the things that I know that I 611 00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,720 Speaker 1: have to change in my life with getting more in 612 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,240 Speaker 1: tune and um things I need to get rid of 613 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:42,840 Speaker 1: on a more regular basis and just owning it. Yes, 614 00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:46,200 Speaker 1: owning it because this is an exciting time. This is 615 00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:48,760 Speaker 1: a very exciting time. And the Dolly Llama said, I 616 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 1: don't know if this is accurate, but he said that 617 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:52,880 Speaker 1: the people who are going to save the planet where 618 00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:55,400 Speaker 1: the women of the West. So I feel like we're 619 00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,040 Speaker 1: a very strong time. And I don't mean in that 620 00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 1: like aggressive, like you know way. I'm saying like in 621 00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:03,720 Speaker 1: a love, be kind, kind, informative getting the information out there, 622 00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:07,760 Speaker 1: which is what you guys are doing. So I love it. Yes, 623 00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,520 Speaker 1: thank you so much, Thank you so much for me 624 00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:14,440 Speaker 1: on the show. We really appreciate it. Alright, guys, So 625 00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,320 Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about Mode Cloth because, um, 626 00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:20,800 Speaker 1: I ordered some cute clothing from there. But the greatest 627 00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,640 Speaker 1: thing is it's comfy clothes, but it's also the bathing 628 00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:25,960 Speaker 1: suit was so great? Was it? Oh my gosh, I 629 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:28,400 Speaker 1: loved it. I wore it when this past week weekend 630 00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:31,000 Speaker 1: in Nashville, and I got a cute little one piece 631 00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:33,960 Speaker 1: and it's just it's adorable and it's so great, and 632 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:36,239 Speaker 1: I feel like there's just so many things you can 633 00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:40,960 Speaker 1: get from bridal clothes to you know, swimwear to just 634 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:44,520 Speaker 1: like rainbow bright colors, and it's just I don't know, 635 00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: I think it's fantastic. And what's great about modocloth is 636 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,680 Speaker 1: it's designed by women for women, So there's amazing sizes, 637 00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:53,720 Speaker 1: so you can go from extra small all the way 638 00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:57,240 Speaker 1: up to you know your size. 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What's the color? Do you know? 649 00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:31,440 Speaker 1: I like to do that when my kids aren't around. 650 00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:33,960 Speaker 1: I don't know why, but when they're not around, I'm like, 651 00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:35,680 Speaker 1: I'm going to wear a lipstick. You know what I 652 00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:38,560 Speaker 1: love though, because I was stalking your Instagram, um and 653 00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:42,120 Speaker 1: you're just you keep it really real and that's what. No, 654 00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,800 Speaker 1: but that's what like, that's what I love because I've 655 00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:47,800 Speaker 1: had this conversation with another friend and she's like, I 656 00:33:47,840 --> 00:33:49,760 Speaker 1: just want to show like all the great stuff. I'm like, yeah, 657 00:33:49,760 --> 00:33:52,320 Speaker 1: but as like a mom and me, I want to 658 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,200 Speaker 1: see like all of it. I want to see like 659 00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:56,920 Speaker 1: the real real too. And that's what you. You really do, 660 00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:59,520 Speaker 1: keep it honest and really where you have no makeup 661 00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:01,640 Speaker 1: on I or you, then the next one you look beautiful. 662 00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:04,239 Speaker 1: So it's like I love seeing that, right, It's balanced, right, 663 00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:06,240 Speaker 1: I mean sometimes I wear lipstick, but most of the 664 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:12,160 Speaker 1: time I'm in all gray sweat, I haven't showered and yeah, 665 00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:13,680 Speaker 1: I don't want to tell you how long and things 666 00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,440 Speaker 1: like that, but um no, I mean I really have showered. 667 00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:19,640 Speaker 1: But dude, I get it. I went to the first 668 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:25,640 Speaker 1: time today have a shower. Yeah. Yeah. Um. So you 669 00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,560 Speaker 1: have three kids. I do, and we're married to Carson Dale. 670 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,880 Speaker 1: How is that being married to him? Were having the 671 00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:36,400 Speaker 1: three kids or all of it? You know, like it's great. 672 00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,560 Speaker 1: I were like in the thick of it, as they say, 673 00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:42,640 Speaker 1: you know, my kids are nine, five, three. He has 674 00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:46,160 Speaker 1: like twelve jobs, million jobs. How do you balance that? 675 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,799 Speaker 1: That's what was like my biggest question. Seems like so much, 676 00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:50,879 Speaker 1: but really, like you know, he does the Today Show. 677 00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:54,800 Speaker 1: He's home at ten o'clock from that, so he really 678 00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:57,239 Speaker 1: is like hands on and around and I feel like we're, 679 00:34:57,440 --> 00:35:00,200 Speaker 1: you know, we're just doing the normal things like go 680 00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,560 Speaker 1: into flag football and doing all the car pooling. And 681 00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:04,960 Speaker 1: it's very kind of I mean, there are the times 682 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,560 Speaker 1: when it's crazy back and forth and right now the 683 00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:09,719 Speaker 1: voices live and so we live in New York and 684 00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:12,080 Speaker 1: it's hard, but you know, we we balanced it pretty well. 685 00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:15,200 Speaker 1: I think like we're you know, we're a big kind 686 00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:18,960 Speaker 1: of just home family, Like we don't do anything boring 687 00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:20,600 Speaker 1: living in New York. I do. I love it. I 688 00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:26,640 Speaker 1: moved that four years ago. I'm from Minnesota. Oh nice, Um, 689 00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:28,480 Speaker 1: and Carson was born and raised in California, so it 690 00:35:28,520 --> 00:35:31,319 Speaker 1: was like totally new to us. But we love it, 691 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,520 Speaker 1: like we have a great community. Were close to the 692 00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:36,520 Speaker 1: city and we get here enough so we get our 693 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:38,520 Speaker 1: you know, our fix of And how long were you 694 00:35:38,520 --> 00:35:41,040 Speaker 1: guys married? Have you guys been married for? Well, we 695 00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:44,839 Speaker 1: did everything backwards. So we had our first son, and 696 00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:48,640 Speaker 1: then we had our our daughter, Eda, and then we 697 00:35:48,680 --> 00:35:51,640 Speaker 1: got engaged, and then we had our third child, and 698 00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:56,480 Speaker 1: then we got married. We've been married for like two 699 00:35:56,520 --> 00:35:58,719 Speaker 1: and a half years, but we've been together for you know, 700 00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:01,480 Speaker 1: why to go that role? Was it just something where 701 00:36:01,480 --> 00:36:03,719 Speaker 1: you guys didn't really care about the marriage, Like we 702 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:07,200 Speaker 1: knew we were We knew that we were solid, and 703 00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:10,319 Speaker 1: we weren't in a rush, and you know, you wanted 704 00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:13,000 Speaker 1: We knew we wanted to get married eventually. You know, 705 00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:15,480 Speaker 1: it was important to us and and I actually was 706 00:36:15,520 --> 00:36:18,799 Speaker 1: so lovely because our our kids were there ceremony and 707 00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:21,520 Speaker 1: we sympsised our parents like they We did it two 708 00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:25,680 Speaker 1: days before Christmas and Um, two days before we got married. 709 00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,719 Speaker 1: We had our mom's open like an early Christmas gift, 710 00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:31,640 Speaker 1: and it was the invitation to the way it was 711 00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,080 Speaker 1: just us. Oh my gosh, I mean that's what we 712 00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:38,280 Speaker 1: had to surprise them because it was literally on our case. Yeah, 713 00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:41,600 Speaker 1: I'm sure. Now how is it change actually being married now? 714 00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:44,279 Speaker 1: Had did it change? Or are you still? Like? No? 715 00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:46,040 Speaker 1: I mean that we always joked we did all the 716 00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,080 Speaker 1: hard stuff first, you know what I mean? So now, 717 00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:50,400 Speaker 1: um no, you know, like I just did all the 718 00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:52,400 Speaker 1: whole name change stuff and that was really all that 719 00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:56,360 Speaker 1: felt like different. I guess you know. Best advice for 720 00:36:56,680 --> 00:37:02,400 Speaker 1: making it work, try to focus on each other first 721 00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:06,919 Speaker 1: before your kids. That's like what we tried to do. Hard. 722 00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:09,080 Speaker 1: It's so hard, right, Like you go on a date 723 00:37:09,160 --> 00:37:10,719 Speaker 1: night and all you're doing is talking about like your 724 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:14,759 Speaker 1: daughter whatever it is. Stop stop stop stop. So but 725 00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:17,160 Speaker 1: I mean, you know it's just balanced and like trying 726 00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:20,640 Speaker 1: to do like little things and for each other instead 727 00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:22,879 Speaker 1: of you know, on a daily basis, like putting each other. 728 00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:26,359 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's so hard. We do, I mean 729 00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:31,560 Speaker 1: we try. I mean we tried for a while. We 730 00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:33,759 Speaker 1: were in a good groove of like maybe once every 731 00:37:33,760 --> 00:37:37,880 Speaker 1: two weeks even like we'll go out for like date lunches, 732 00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:40,760 Speaker 1: like anytime you can just like get away for like 733 00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:42,440 Speaker 1: like go out for a beer, like just so that 734 00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:45,520 Speaker 1: you can have some time away from your crazy children 735 00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:49,319 Speaker 1: and be a couple. Yeah, exactly talk about each other 736 00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:52,960 Speaker 1: and like like not you know, who's gonna take London 737 00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,799 Speaker 1: to soccer? Like you know, just what's your biggest pet peeve. 738 00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:58,880 Speaker 1: Parenting with him, Oh gosh, I feel like I'm always 739 00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:04,600 Speaker 1: the bad guy. I'm like the nagging mom um. But 740 00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,000 Speaker 1: I don't know so he you know, he's like fun dad, 741 00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:11,240 Speaker 1: and so that's always hard. But because moms, your moms 742 00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:13,040 Speaker 1: are I'm around, like in the mornings, you know, he's 743 00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:14,440 Speaker 1: he's at work, and I have to be the one 744 00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,920 Speaker 1: that's like do this, do this, and do this, do this. 745 00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:20,120 Speaker 1: And you know, my son like moves through quicksands in 746 00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:21,640 Speaker 1: the morning, and I have to Like he's nine years 747 00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:24,400 Speaker 1: old and I'm like feeding him his cereal with like 748 00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:30,640 Speaker 1: a spoon. So so I have to nag and like 749 00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,520 Speaker 1: on those rare mornings when Carson is home, he's like, wow, 750 00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:36,919 Speaker 1: there's a lot of negative energy. I'm like, because I 751 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:40,560 Speaker 1: have to, I have to be you know, so But no, 752 00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:42,719 Speaker 1: I mean I think that we really do balance each 753 00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:45,480 Speaker 1: other out. Well. He's like an amazing, amazing dad, and 754 00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:48,400 Speaker 1: you know, I don't have a ton of what do 755 00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:52,520 Speaker 1: you guys fight about? Tell me that your relationship isn't perfect? 756 00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:56,200 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, is there a perfect relationship? Just like 757 00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:58,200 Speaker 1: you always say. I'm like, oh, they just look I 758 00:38:58,239 --> 00:39:01,480 Speaker 1: know perfect. I oh you see that? Like I like, 759 00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:03,720 Speaker 1: I'm this is what I wonder about Chip and Joanna Gaines. 760 00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:08,960 Speaker 1: I know we need to have them on there on 761 00:39:09,120 --> 00:39:11,400 Speaker 1: here because I want to just be like, tell me, 762 00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:14,160 Speaker 1: you guys are like not perfect, no, no, no, no 763 00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:18,040 Speaker 1: one I know. But it's so funny the perception of like, yeah, oh, 764 00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:20,160 Speaker 1: like you have it everything and like you know you've 765 00:39:20,200 --> 00:39:23,840 Speaker 1: got here's something he does. He like, thank you and 766 00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:28,080 Speaker 1: everything bagel, and he starts to like he likes to like, 767 00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:30,200 Speaker 1: you know, kind of maybe take some bread out of 768 00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,440 Speaker 1: the bagel. And then he scraped some of the seeds off, 769 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:34,120 Speaker 1: which I don't know why because and everything bagel, you 770 00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:37,279 Speaker 1: should want everything on it. And then the seeds are 771 00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:39,319 Speaker 1: like everywhere and it's all and it's all over my 772 00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,239 Speaker 1: clean dish where the clean dishes go, and then all 773 00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:47,720 Speaker 1: the seeds and look at me, I'm like getting drink. 774 00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:51,399 Speaker 1: I'm well, I'm also like a clean freak. He would 775 00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,440 Speaker 1: probably that would be his complaint about me, where it's 776 00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:57,040 Speaker 1: like let the seed, let the seeds fall down. It's okay, 777 00:39:57,080 --> 00:40:00,040 Speaker 1: but it's not okay. You don't have a dog and 778 00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:05,480 Speaker 1: I have. Who's better at new math? At what a 779 00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:11,520 Speaker 1: new math? The common core? None of us? Well, actually 780 00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,479 Speaker 1: I probably am because I was really like I liked 781 00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:16,359 Speaker 1: math in high school. But but no. My son's nine, 782 00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:19,160 Speaker 1: he's in third grade. He brings home his homework and 783 00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:21,799 Speaker 1: I'm like, well, but you could just do it this way. No, Mom, 784 00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:23,719 Speaker 1: that's not the way I'm supposed to do it. I 785 00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:26,080 Speaker 1: have to do it this way, and I don't understand it. 786 00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:28,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, but but this is the answer. Just do 787 00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:32,000 Speaker 1: it this way. Right. So my kids are still I 788 00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:34,879 Speaker 1: still count on my fingers, So yeah, there's they're so 789 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,920 Speaker 1: screwed with me. I would like, go talk to your dad. 790 00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:42,239 Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, here's a calculator, yea here. Um, 791 00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,040 Speaker 1: so you're a blog? Can you can you tell me 792 00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:47,040 Speaker 1: about that? Because I think it's fascinating. But for the 793 00:40:47,040 --> 00:40:49,600 Speaker 1: listeners that haven't, yes, Um, I write a blog called 794 00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:52,920 Speaker 1: Seriously Delicious and I started it actually shortly after my 795 00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:56,880 Speaker 1: first child was born. Because I missed before that I 796 00:40:56,920 --> 00:40:59,880 Speaker 1: was in television. You have a very successful career. Well 797 00:40:59,880 --> 00:41:01,600 Speaker 1: I was, you know, I was a segment producing and 798 00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:04,480 Speaker 1: I've missed that kind of like creative kind of I 799 00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:07,640 Speaker 1: was doing kind of comedy writing and missed that, and 800 00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:10,120 Speaker 1: I missed having like a voice and an outlet where 801 00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:13,879 Speaker 1: I could, you know, engage with things other than my son. 802 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:17,120 Speaker 1: But also another purpose, another purpose. So I started this, 803 00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:19,440 Speaker 1: this food blog, so there was there was that part 804 00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:21,399 Speaker 1: of it, and then I also obviously wanted to kind 805 00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:24,640 Speaker 1: of keep track of all these meals I was making suddenly, 806 00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:27,600 Speaker 1: and um, food has always been a passion of mine, 807 00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:29,239 Speaker 1: and I started, you know, I'm like, oh, now I 808 00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:31,880 Speaker 1: have to keep these like this little human alive, and 809 00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:33,480 Speaker 1: like I have to cook dinner every night and things 810 00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:35,439 Speaker 1: like that. So it kind of just became a place 811 00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:38,399 Speaker 1: for me to to to create recipes, to talk about them, 812 00:41:38,520 --> 00:41:40,920 Speaker 1: to keep it again like real and just talk about 813 00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:43,160 Speaker 1: life and and so I've been doing that for like 814 00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:47,000 Speaker 1: eight years. And um, what's your favorite thing to make? 815 00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:53,360 Speaker 1: People to bake? Baking is definitely is definitely my favorite 816 00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:56,120 Speaker 1: because it's such a like calming process for me. So 817 00:41:56,200 --> 00:41:58,480 Speaker 1: like just chocolate chip cookies on the Saturday or something, 818 00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:01,440 Speaker 1: or I love to do like a big like I 819 00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,279 Speaker 1: don't know, like a roast, like a stew and the 820 00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:07,319 Speaker 1: something some comfort food. I'm very like comfort food, or 821 00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:09,759 Speaker 1: I mean because I grew up in Minnesota and we 822 00:42:09,840 --> 00:42:12,759 Speaker 1: just war it's like winter all the time and you 823 00:42:12,800 --> 00:42:19,560 Speaker 1: just want Yeah, yes, is there one dish that Carson 824 00:42:19,760 --> 00:42:23,479 Speaker 1: is always like, oh, please make this this one thing. Yes, 825 00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:27,040 Speaker 1: we do a lot of um, like a roasted chicken 826 00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:29,680 Speaker 1: and it's actually in my cookbook. And then we will 827 00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:32,840 Speaker 1: shred the the chicken and will turn it into like 828 00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,920 Speaker 1: a taco night. So like we roast the chicken, we 829 00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:38,719 Speaker 1: shred it. Then we like roast garlic because actually, like 830 00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:42,960 Speaker 1: roasted garlic in your tacos is delicious. And then we'll 831 00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:46,040 Speaker 1: do cotilla cheese and cilantro and all the fixings and 832 00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,200 Speaker 1: have like taco taco nights. So we do that a 833 00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:50,400 Speaker 1: lot fun. Yeah, he loves that, and then the roasted 834 00:42:50,480 --> 00:42:52,160 Speaker 1: chicken is just great on its own too. You don't 835 00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:55,320 Speaker 1: you don't have to make a tacos. Did your kids 836 00:42:55,480 --> 00:43:00,520 Speaker 1: naturally eat everything? Okay, So that's a great question because 837 00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:01,920 Speaker 1: my daughter is going she's two and a half and 838 00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:04,160 Speaker 1: she's going through an incredible phase where now she won't 839 00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:05,839 Speaker 1: even eat macaroni and cheese, which is like the one 840 00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,680 Speaker 1: thing that she would only And I'm like, all right, 841 00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:11,200 Speaker 1: and my doctor said, just start saying like it's either 842 00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,640 Speaker 1: this or that, so give her an option or she 843 00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:15,680 Speaker 1: doesn't eat. But the problem is now she's not eating. 844 00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:17,560 Speaker 1: It's been like three a's and she will not eat dinner. 845 00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:19,759 Speaker 1: So I'm like, what, it's like she doesn't want to 846 00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:21,160 Speaker 1: try anything. She doesn't want to try the chicken. She 847 00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:23,600 Speaker 1: doesn't want to it's like she's just like no. My 848 00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:25,520 Speaker 1: kids were all about the same age. They were about 849 00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:28,840 Speaker 1: eighteen months old and they like just hit this switch 850 00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,960 Speaker 1: where they decided, no, I don't like what I just 851 00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:36,359 Speaker 1: ate yesterday. And I think it's exactly And so I mean, 852 00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:38,560 Speaker 1: my son is showing me like the light at the 853 00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:41,080 Speaker 1: end of the tunnel. He's nine, he's now nine. I 854 00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:44,719 Speaker 1: have to wait no, no no, no, no, no no, but 855 00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:48,440 Speaker 1: maybe no, but he's he's like slowly getting there. And 856 00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:52,040 Speaker 1: my girls are My girls are three and five, and 857 00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:54,840 Speaker 1: do they help you cook? They do, and so that helps. 858 00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:56,480 Speaker 1: I think it helps to get them in the kitchen, 859 00:43:56,960 --> 00:43:59,560 Speaker 1: to let them you know, like touched with their fingers. 860 00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:03,800 Speaker 1: The ngreen Ian's um to give us give some input, 861 00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:05,160 Speaker 1: like what are you guys in the mood for? Not 862 00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:07,000 Speaker 1: that then they you know, most of the time they're 863 00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:10,000 Speaker 1: like chicken fingers and French ries. Okay, what else? But 864 00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:11,480 Speaker 1: I really do think it helps. They do like to 865 00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:13,080 Speaker 1: be in the kitchen. They especially like to help me 866 00:44:13,120 --> 00:44:17,000 Speaker 1: bake because of course they like lick the spoon. Yeah, 867 00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:18,960 Speaker 1: making chocolate chip quickies is my favorite thing to do 868 00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:22,319 Speaker 1: because I don't the batter YEP, the mixer and then 869 00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,080 Speaker 1: the bowl and then someone talked about later on in 870 00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:27,280 Speaker 1: life that it could cause you stomach aches or whatever. 871 00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:31,880 Speaker 1: Equal because I'm still going to eat it. I do it. 872 00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:33,600 Speaker 1: I'm bad. And you're on the Today Show a lot 873 00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:35,920 Speaker 1: with Carson? Yes, yeah, so how is how is that 874 00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:38,520 Speaker 1: working with him? Is that just awesome? It's really fun 875 00:44:38,600 --> 00:44:41,200 Speaker 1: to go. We do like cooking segments together from time 876 00:44:41,200 --> 00:44:43,520 Speaker 1: to time, and it feels like very organic, like we're 877 00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:46,120 Speaker 1: just at home, and everyone else at the show is 878 00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:50,160 Speaker 1: so awesome too, So like it all feels very family, 879 00:44:51,120 --> 00:44:53,640 Speaker 1: you know, like a family. Savanna and I have become close. 880 00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:55,480 Speaker 1: She actually wrote the foreword for the cookbook, and so 881 00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,239 Speaker 1: it's really fun when we go There's but it's it's 882 00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:59,120 Speaker 1: still I'm like, this is the Today's Show. I had 883 00:44:59,120 --> 00:45:01,680 Speaker 1: to pinch myself. It's incredible. I mean I grew up 884 00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:04,880 Speaker 1: watching it and it's live and it's you know, a 885 00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:07,160 Speaker 1: host on that. Yeah, so it's still it's all surreal 886 00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:10,120 Speaker 1: and and yet like Neuron feels right and organic at 887 00:45:10,160 --> 00:45:11,880 Speaker 1: the same time. So I don't know, how did you 888 00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:15,480 Speaker 1: How did you feel when Apple turned the Personal Assistant 889 00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:18,440 Speaker 1: into Syria? Oh my gosh, I woke up. I still 890 00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:20,480 Speaker 1: like I remember that morning. I woke up to like 891 00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:23,000 Speaker 1: all these texts from people I went to high school 892 00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:25,680 Speaker 1: with them, like what happened? Like how do you fee? 893 00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:28,279 Speaker 1: And they were just making jokes And now, I mean, 894 00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:30,040 Speaker 1: I just I can't go to Starbucks. I don't know 895 00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:31,920 Speaker 1: why I haven't learned in all of these years. I 896 00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:35,279 Speaker 1: don't know why I still give my name because they're like, what, 897 00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:38,279 Speaker 1: I don't have a Starbucks name? Why don't I do this? 898 00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:43,600 Speaker 1: I know they Siri and Vanessa feeling I'm going to 899 00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:46,399 Speaker 1: go with that because they're always go Jana Janna. I'm 900 00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:50,080 Speaker 1: like Jenna, I'm like, yeah right, Jannah never mind. I'm 901 00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:52,960 Speaker 1: like Vanessa, Vanessa even that that's there's a lot of 902 00:45:53,000 --> 00:45:56,800 Speaker 1: letters in Vanessa. I'm gonna say, like sam yeaheah exactly, 903 00:45:57,360 --> 00:46:02,160 Speaker 1: pan No, but that yeah, that's that's gotta be. Hey, 904 00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:04,799 Speaker 1: sirih uber drivers, they're like, wait, is that really your 905 00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:13,440 Speaker 1: name's what's the weather? Like? Everyone has a funny joke, 906 00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:17,960 Speaker 1: Hey Sirie, how many cups is four tables? Or we 907 00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,960 Speaker 1: have Alexa, but Alexa doesn't like me, and I think 908 00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:23,200 Speaker 1: she honestly knows Alexa hates that my name is Siri. 909 00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:25,120 Speaker 1: Did she but she just not? Does she not listen 910 00:46:25,160 --> 00:46:26,600 Speaker 1: to you? She doesn't listen to me in my house, 911 00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:29,520 Speaker 1: she listen to everyone else. I'm like, I'm really bratty 912 00:46:29,560 --> 00:46:32,480 Speaker 1: with her. I started screaming she won't listen to me, 913 00:46:32,560 --> 00:46:33,880 Speaker 1: and then like my mom will be in kind of 914 00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,200 Speaker 1: just like you just have to be more polite, and 915 00:46:36,239 --> 00:46:40,440 Speaker 1: she's like Alexa, please stop, and and Alexa stops. She 916 00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:43,920 Speaker 1: just doesn't like you. You're too pretty. She's jealous. She's jealous. 917 00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:47,960 Speaker 1: I think it's my name, Like, um, I need you 918 00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:50,839 Speaker 1: to plug your book because everyone needs to get it. Okay, yes, 919 00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:55,000 Speaker 1: it's called Seriously Delicious. It's available wherever books are sold Amazon. 920 00:46:55,600 --> 00:47:02,280 Speaker 1: And that's seriously serious, exactly seriously delicious. One hundred simple 921 00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:05,239 Speaker 1: recipes for the Actually, no, I'm sorry, it says one 922 00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:09,560 Speaker 1: hundred nutritious and not so nutritious recipes for the real 923 00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:13,440 Speaker 1: home cook. Okay, but how very simple? How very simple? 924 00:47:13,480 --> 00:47:17,320 Speaker 1: Because honestly, I have the hardest time with cooking because 925 00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:20,600 Speaker 1: I feel like, when I look at recipes, I'm so overwhelmed. 926 00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:22,239 Speaker 1: So that was my whole goal with the book is 927 00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:25,799 Speaker 1: to strip that away so that it's not intimidating. Like 928 00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:28,040 Speaker 1: without the world views, I'm like, I don't know what 929 00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:31,400 Speaker 1: the all of these things are. Ingredients, first of all, 930 00:47:31,440 --> 00:47:33,839 Speaker 1: you'll probably have or you'll know where to find. I'm 931 00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:36,080 Speaker 1: not going to like make you like, you know, google 932 00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:39,920 Speaker 1: an ingredients and have to get it on like exactly, 933 00:47:40,600 --> 00:47:43,040 Speaker 1: um the black market. I don't make you sift flour. 934 00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:45,759 Speaker 1: It's all just very very approachable, and I add tips 935 00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:47,360 Speaker 1: throughout the book, like, hey, if you don't have this, 936 00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:50,160 Speaker 1: swap it with this, because I don't want My thing 937 00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,399 Speaker 1: is like recipes shouldn't be You should just trust your gut. 938 00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:54,200 Speaker 1: You should be like, Okay, well I don't have that, 939 00:47:54,239 --> 00:47:55,799 Speaker 1: but I can use that and it'll still be good, 940 00:47:55,880 --> 00:47:59,120 Speaker 1: or I'll try that, or you know this is this 941 00:47:59,200 --> 00:48:04,279 Speaker 1: is my my don't take it so seriously, ladies, and 942 00:48:06,440 --> 00:48:14,560 Speaker 1: thank thank you. Um are you eating m far? Are 943 00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:19,839 Speaker 1: you eating a sandwich? Where did you get that? To 944 00:48:19,840 --> 00:48:22,960 Speaker 1: describe it? Okay, I'm like in orgasmic heven right now, 945 00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:26,319 Speaker 1: I know I can tell um. Let me tell you this, okay. 946 00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:29,919 Speaker 1: Chef Michael Parolo is bringing his famed Italian sandwich shop, 947 00:48:30,360 --> 00:48:33,960 Speaker 1: Parolo's Panino, from Miami to the heart of Los Angeles. 948 00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:38,279 Speaker 1: Did you know that it's well, you know what I 949 00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:41,680 Speaker 1: ate before you got here. I saw the box out 950 00:48:41,719 --> 00:48:46,000 Speaker 1: there and I opened it and there was this beautiful 951 00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:51,680 Speaker 1: head of butter lettuce with the most amazing balsamic dressing 952 00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:56,279 Speaker 1: and I devoured it because it is my favorite thing. 953 00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:59,000 Speaker 1: And there aren't very many restaurants that serve butter lettuce, 954 00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:02,880 Speaker 1: and he'd us, but he also serves these amazing sandwiches 955 00:49:02,960 --> 00:49:05,160 Speaker 1: that you're eating. Well, I just grabbed it from out here, 956 00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:07,120 Speaker 1: So where does everybody else go and get it? Well? 957 00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:12,640 Speaker 1: Hold on, it's Italian American traditions and combine bold authentic 958 00:49:12,760 --> 00:49:16,920 Speaker 1: ingredients including homade, meatballs, and house roasted Italian beef and 959 00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:20,200 Speaker 1: that's what you're eating the meat balls. The menu includes 960 00:49:20,280 --> 00:49:23,520 Speaker 1: modern twists on classic favorites, such as the original Italian 961 00:49:23,560 --> 00:49:27,120 Speaker 1: Depp only found at Parolos. How about that? Where's that? 962 00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:35,399 Speaker 1: Tell me where I can go? Rose? There are eleven dollars. 963 00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:39,040 Speaker 1: They're open from eleven to eleven PM between Gardner and Vista. 964 00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:43,359 Speaker 1: So after the club go get you one and they 965 00:49:43,400 --> 00:49:52,320 Speaker 1: deliver and they cat Wow, yeah, stop by and butter 966 00:49:52,400 --> 00:49:59,160 Speaker 1: Lettuce being amazing. Butter Lettuce, if you a visiting, go 967 00:49:59,239 --> 00:50:04,520 Speaker 1: down to Melrose. Can I stake at an email? Here? Um? 968 00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:08,400 Speaker 1: I love your voice. So this is from Rachel and 969 00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:10,440 Speaker 1: she's got an issue here. She's been dating her boyfriend 970 00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:11,799 Speaker 1: for eight months now and he has a five year 971 00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:14,800 Speaker 1: old son. They're great. She and the sun get along great, 972 00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:18,400 Speaker 1: but when he misbehaves, the boyfriend refuses to discipline him 973 00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:22,319 Speaker 1: and driving Rachel crazy and causing stress in the relationship. 974 00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:24,440 Speaker 1: She feels like I could be his mom at some 975 00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:27,640 Speaker 1: points that mom. Should I be able to discipline him 976 00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:29,920 Speaker 1: myself or should I just let this go and get 977 00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:34,240 Speaker 1: out of hand? Also, I get jealous of the boy's 978 00:50:34,360 --> 00:50:37,319 Speaker 1: mother because of the connection they have that I can 979 00:50:37,360 --> 00:50:40,480 Speaker 1: never have with him twofold issues. So start first with 980 00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:44,720 Speaker 1: the discipline. All right, that's tough because if you're gonna 981 00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:48,680 Speaker 1: be in this relationship, Um, I mean what she said, 982 00:50:48,719 --> 00:50:53,239 Speaker 1: she's only three months in. Oh okay, I met three 983 00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:56,200 Speaker 1: months away. Okay, yeah, she met three Okay, so you're 984 00:50:56,239 --> 00:50:59,359 Speaker 1: eight months in. I mean I feel like at some 985 00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:02,240 Speaker 1: point he's gonna have If you guys are really moving 986 00:51:02,280 --> 00:51:04,720 Speaker 1: forward and this is going to be your husband fiance 987 00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:06,960 Speaker 1: fiance and this is going to be your stepson, I 988 00:51:06,960 --> 00:51:09,520 Speaker 1: feel like you need to sit down and talk to 989 00:51:09,560 --> 00:51:13,319 Speaker 1: your boyfriend and be like, hey, like this is I'm 990 00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:15,959 Speaker 1: not okay with this. I would sit down and talk 991 00:51:16,000 --> 00:51:20,120 Speaker 1: with him. I you know, I am very open to 992 00:51:20,280 --> 00:51:23,359 Speaker 1: being a single mom with a son. I am so 993 00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:25,799 Speaker 1: open to my male friends who I'm very close with, 994 00:51:26,440 --> 00:51:29,000 Speaker 1: or people that I hang out a lot with, or 995 00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:33,000 Speaker 1: my special male friend. I always say, I am open 996 00:51:33,920 --> 00:51:40,560 Speaker 1: to you disciplining Rocko verbally if he's doing something that 997 00:51:41,000 --> 00:51:45,240 Speaker 1: is distracting that he's going to hurt himself or someone else, 998 00:51:45,960 --> 00:51:50,600 Speaker 1: or is being inconsiderate and not a good citizen, because 999 00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:53,440 Speaker 1: that is the most important thing. It takes an entire 1000 00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:57,080 Speaker 1: or not being a good citizen. Stop. I have said 1001 00:51:57,080 --> 00:52:00,160 Speaker 1: that before. Oh my gosh. But the thing is is 1002 00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:04,479 Speaker 1: that you know, you it takes it takes a whole 1003 00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:07,560 Speaker 1: village to raise a kid, and if you're spending time 1004 00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:11,880 Speaker 1: with a parent who was single with a child, you 1005 00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:14,759 Speaker 1: have to integrate into that and you need to be 1006 00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:20,120 Speaker 1: able to feel comfortable in keeping that child safe or 1007 00:52:20,239 --> 00:52:24,800 Speaker 1: keeping them from you know, acting out, and also holding 1008 00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:26,759 Speaker 1: your own sanity too. So I mean, the kids like 1009 00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:29,120 Speaker 1: screaming and the dad's not doing anything. I mean, I 1010 00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:32,520 Speaker 1: think it can be very frustrated, but say like, you know, 1011 00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:36,279 Speaker 1: like hey, buddy, like stop calm down. You know, So 1012 00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:39,719 Speaker 1: I think that's totally acceptable. Um, but I think i'd 1013 00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:42,760 Speaker 1: have the conversation first with your boyfriend. And the second issue, 1014 00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:46,839 Speaker 1: I mean, girl, look that is that's our son. And 1015 00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:48,960 Speaker 1: but here's here's what you can have because you know, 1016 00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:51,640 Speaker 1: she's just as jealous, and you know, if I was 1017 00:52:51,640 --> 00:52:53,520 Speaker 1: in the situation, I would be just as jealous of 1018 00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:56,680 Speaker 1: you having a you know, the relationship. But here's the 1019 00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:58,799 Speaker 1: here's what the great thing is is you're now able 1020 00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:00,960 Speaker 1: to have a different kind of relationship with him. You're 1021 00:53:01,000 --> 00:53:06,040 Speaker 1: able to mold a something different from his mom, and 1022 00:53:06,560 --> 00:53:10,520 Speaker 1: have a your own connection. So have your own connection, 1023 00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:13,359 Speaker 1: because they're going to have their own too. Absolutely, that's fun. 1024 00:53:14,040 --> 00:53:17,440 Speaker 1: You can't change that, and you have to respect that. 1025 00:53:18,200 --> 00:53:21,040 Speaker 1: And you know it's only going to make him a 1026 00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:23,759 Speaker 1: better person as he grows up with that, having that 1027 00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:27,040 Speaker 1: close relationships and and yeah, and find something else that 1028 00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,640 Speaker 1: maybe the mom. You know that you do something different 1029 00:53:29,680 --> 00:53:31,200 Speaker 1: with the mom, so then he can see a different 1030 00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:34,080 Speaker 1: version and you guys can again mold a different relationship 1031 00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:37,440 Speaker 1: because that will be then special in its own end. Today, Absolutely, 1032 00:53:38,320 --> 00:53:40,840 Speaker 1: let's talk about next week because some of these questions 1033 00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:42,440 Speaker 1: have to do with the bedroom, and that's going to 1034 00:53:42,520 --> 00:53:44,360 Speaker 1: go in the next week's show, because next week's all 1035 00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:48,320 Speaker 1: about the bedroom. Next week we're getting in bed literally 1036 00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:50,959 Speaker 1: and I'm really excited because we're gonna talk about sex 1037 00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:55,480 Speaker 1: intimacy and yes, we are turning the lights onto the problem. 1038 00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:58,640 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna be answering a ton of emails. Mike 1039 00:53:58,680 --> 00:54:03,680 Speaker 1: will be on the show. He's coming back. He's bad. 1040 00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:07,399 Speaker 1: So um, thank you guys so much for winding down 1041 00:54:07,560 --> 00:54:10,319 Speaker 1: with us today. I'm really excited to wind down next 1042 00:54:10,320 --> 00:54:14,839 Speaker 1: week because we're wandering down. Oh yeah, please feel free 1043 00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:18,160 Speaker 1: to emam me um. Some questions if you guys are 1044 00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,600 Speaker 1: going through it. Janna Kramer at I heart media dot 1045 00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:24,560 Speaker 1: com ye