WEBVTT - In the Name of Love and Babies on The Brain 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:07.280 Hey, guys. 0:00:07.440 --> 0:00:10.440 I'm Larstup Hippin and I'm Marcus Jordan, and we're back 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:13.160 with our second episode of Separation and Anxiety. 0:00:13.240 --> 0:00:15.320 We missed you, guys, definitely missed you guys. 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:17.919 Today we will discuss one aspect of our relationship that 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:20.960 people have strong opinions about, and that's our age gap. 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:23.759 Ben, I feel like people are really curious about the 0:00:23.800 --> 0:00:24.200 age gap. 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:26.720 I definitely feel like people are interested in want to 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:29.680 learn more, and so I guess, what are your thoughts about? Obviously, 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:31.840 I don't think it really matters a big deal to 0:00:31.880 --> 0:00:33.640 either one of us, because, like I said, you're a 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:35.680 young soul. I feel like I'm an old soul. But 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:38.040 you know, talk through your experience with it, you know. 0:00:38.120 --> 0:00:40.640 I feel like I in my mind, I always think 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:42.479 of like, what I date a guy that was sixteen 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:44.120 years older than me, and I would and I was 0:00:44.120 --> 0:00:46.199 with someone that was, you know, ten years older than me. 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:48.919 I've been with guys who were fifteen years older than me, right, 0:00:49.040 --> 0:00:50.560 So I feel like for me, if I would date 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:53.840 someone older, I don't necessarily were prom dating someone younger. 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:56.440 And I feel like, you know, it really depends on 0:00:56.480 --> 0:00:59.160 your level of maturity for sure that to me is 0:00:59.200 --> 0:01:01.319 like the number one thing. I think it's like your 0:01:01.400 --> 0:01:04.000 level of maturity where you are in your life. And 0:01:04.040 --> 0:01:06.200 I feel like a lot of men, my personal opinion, 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:10.000 once they know who they are, feel good about themselves, 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:13.399 and then their level of maturity is way more than 0:01:13.400 --> 0:01:15.639 someone that could be older and it's kind of lost 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:17.320 and doesn't have a sense of who they are. 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:19.679 Yeah, I think it's very situational, you know. I think 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:22.080 it depends on kind of what the person goes through, 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:25.119 what their experiences are. I guess what their life goals are, 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:27.440 you know, and so you know, I definitely feel like 0:01:27.600 --> 0:01:30.200 age is just a number and it's more about the 0:01:30.240 --> 0:01:33.120 actual chemistry between you know one another, And so what 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:36.360 exactly is our age gap? We're sixteen years apart, I know, 0:01:36.440 --> 0:01:39.559 sixteen years. It feels like we're the same age honestly when. 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:41.160 We're hanging other game, I know, I feel like that. 0:01:41.200 --> 0:01:43.960 I think one of the misconceptions of things people think 0:01:44.000 --> 0:01:46.759 about when they're talking to age gap is like can 0:01:47.319 --> 0:01:48.680 one person keep up with the other? 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:50.840 And I feel can you keep up with me? 0:01:51.040 --> 0:01:53.240 I feel like can you keep up with me? You know? 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:56.120 I feel like we both have motors that you know, 0:01:56.360 --> 0:01:58.160 turn in different at different times, but I feel like 0:01:58.200 --> 0:01:59.440 you keep up with me and I keep up with 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:00.000 you pretty well. 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:01.640 I feel like we're at the same pace. 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:03.640 I know, and we're both social. We both have a 0:02:03.680 --> 0:02:06.160 lot going on in our independent lives, but I feel 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:08.080 like we do a good job of involving each other 0:02:08.200 --> 0:02:09.400 on our day to day you know. 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:11.280 I feel like we're a lot alike in so many 0:02:11.280 --> 0:02:11.960 different ways. 0:02:12.160 --> 0:02:14.760 I think so too. I think obviously growing up in Chicago, 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.519 both of us, and having those that is our foundation 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:20.480 in our roots. I think there's a lot of similarities 0:02:20.520 --> 0:02:21.639 in our personalities. 0:02:21.800 --> 0:02:22.919 I agree, no totally. 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:25.600 And so, what have been some of the most hurtful 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:28.240 comments you've seen with regards to our age gap. 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:31.000 I feel like people think that they're like I feel 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:33.680 like they've called me your auntie and I'm like, hello, 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:36.320 what are you talking about? Like, what are you talking about? 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:39.679 I didn't even know you. Yeah, yeah, I feel like 0:02:39.720 --> 0:02:40.560 that's kind of hurtful. 0:02:40.880 --> 0:02:44.200 I feel like that's been the comment, not necessarily you 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:46.520 being my auntie, but I feel like, more so you 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:49.760 used to babysit me or you were at my birthday 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:52.520 parties growing up when I was a kid, and obviously 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:55.880 we didn't know each other, our families weren't so intertwined 0:02:55.919 --> 0:02:58.600 as people think. Yeah, and so I wouldn't say it's 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:00.800 necessarily hurtful, but I feel like that the comment that 0:03:00.840 --> 0:03:03.880 I feel that I have to restrain myself from, you know, 0:03:04.000 --> 0:03:08.400 responding to, just because you know, I feel like a 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:11.920 lot of people have it wrong, and you know, sometimes 0:03:11.960 --> 0:03:13.600 I want to correct them, but I just don't. 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:15.680 I know, it's kind of crazy how people think they 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:17.680 know us when in reality they really don't know anything 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.440 about like who we are as a couple or even 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:23.840 like I feel like I never really defend myself one 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:25.000 of those I'm not one. 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.680 Of those people like you defend yourself more than I do. 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:29.440 I feel like, definitely don't defend yourself. 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:30.840 I feel like every now and then you jump in 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:33.239 the comment section of an Instagram post and try to 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:34.800 set the record straight, you know. 0:03:34.800 --> 0:03:36.760 I feel like when I've had enough and then I 0:03:36.760 --> 0:03:38.840 feel like, okay, fine, I have to like clear the 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:41.120 air with this or that. Then I'm more apt to 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:44.160 like go on social media and like say something. But overall, 0:03:44.160 --> 0:03:46.560 I feel like, you know, I was talking to Yami 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:49.600 about this about how when you are with someone that's 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:52.400 a celebrity, whoever is like the celebrity that you're with. 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:55.119 When you leave, people automatically think you are the worst 0:03:55.120 --> 0:03:57.960 person for leaving that person. Yeah, and just because someone 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:01.960 is like a great athlete, at doctor or whatever it is, 0:04:02.000 --> 0:04:05.160 it's not make them a good partner, but doesn't necessarily 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:06.680 mean they're going to be a good partner for you 0:04:06.720 --> 0:04:07.920 at home. And I feel like a lot of people 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:10.200 don't see it like that. They think that if you 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:13.880 are a superstar of an artist or whatever, like, oh 0:04:13.960 --> 0:04:16.480 my god, why would they break up? When when you 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:19.120 live with someone, you forget that they're a celebrity. They 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:22.040 are just a regular person. They are just a regular person. 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:25.560 You don't view them as you know, this person is 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:27.440 you know, God, you don't see it like that anymore. 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.000 You really think they're normal. 0:04:29.160 --> 0:04:31.599 Yeah. I think it's really easy for people, you know, 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:34.400 sitting at home or behind a phone to throw stones. 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:36.960 And I feel like, yeah, you know, when you're involved 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:39.479 in the situation and it's your day to day, you know, 0:04:39.600 --> 0:04:42.080 then there's a different perspective and there's a different, you know, 0:04:42.200 --> 0:04:44.640 component to it. So you got to live in your truth. 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:47.080 You've got to be happy and makes that are best. 0:04:46.920 --> 0:04:49.920 For you, and that's you know what does Sophie always say. 0:04:50.800 --> 0:04:52.000 You got to protect your mental You. 0:04:51.960 --> 0:04:54.359 Got to protect your mental. She always says that. I 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:55.960 feel like, you've got to protect your mental You got 0:04:55.960 --> 0:04:57.400 to do what's right for you. Everyone else to do 0:04:57.480 --> 0:04:59.080 it's right for themselves. 0:04:58.600 --> 0:05:02.960 Exactly, exactly, And so moving on, I guess you know, 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:05.360 do you have any friends or know any people that 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:08.040 are dating and have a similar age gap to us? 0:05:08.080 --> 0:05:09.560 Like I feel like, yeah, I feel like we have 0:05:09.640 --> 0:05:10.840 so many friends. 0:05:10.520 --> 0:05:13.400 But I would say that, like it is more common 0:05:13.640 --> 0:05:16.080 that the age gap the man will be older than 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:18.320 the woman. Yeah, and I feel like this is a reverse. 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:21.400 You know, obviously you're older than me, and so do 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:24.280 you think that there's a double standard with you know 0:05:24.600 --> 0:05:27.280 that times yet or you know, talk to me about it. 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:29.599 Well, I feel like growing up, my uncle Abe was 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:32.800 twenty five years older than his wife, right, you know, 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:37.640 Lauren and Jr. They're you know, twenty years apart. Come 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:39.440 Mall and his girlfriend. We just have so many friends 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:42.359 where the guy is so much older than the woman. 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:44.039 I feel like I've seen that time and time again. 0:05:44.080 --> 0:05:45.960 And when I was twenty one, I liked older men 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.320 right like, I feel like that was very normal. But 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:51.080 I feel like in today's you know, it's twenty twenty three, 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:53.280 I feel like age is really just a number and 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:55.960 it's basically how you feel because you know, I have 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.360 friends that are fifteen twenty years younger than me, and 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:01.119 I feel like I'm younger than them. Yeah, my energy 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:02.640 level is like more than they are. There. I'm like, 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:04.839 you're so old for being twenty, Like you're so old 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:05.560 for being thirty. 0:06:05.720 --> 0:06:07.960 Like, yeah, that's why I say it's situational, you know, 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:10.120 I feel like you're what you go through in your 0:06:10.160 --> 0:06:13.040 life kind of you know, impacts your maturity level. 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:15.800 I would say, sure, I agree to Marcus. What's the 0:06:15.800 --> 0:06:18.359 best part of me being a little bit older? 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:20.719 The best part about you being a little bit older, 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:24.320 I don't know. I think your tipperament. I feel like 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:28.320 you're more knowledgeable about things that go on. Obviously you're 0:06:28.600 --> 0:06:33.640 very compassionate and loving and so, you know, having prior 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:37.479 to us dated younger women, I feel like that's something 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:40.960 that's missing. And you know, the dating scene today, I 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:44.000 feel like not everybody is so you know, loving and 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:45.680 giving as you are, and I feel like that comes 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:49.839 with you know, your experiences in life. And so I 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:52.840 think one of the things that I cherish about our 0:06:52.880 --> 0:06:55.640 age gap is just how you know, delicate and loving 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:56.160 you are with me. 0:06:56.640 --> 0:07:00.600 Oh that's so cute when I think about like being 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:04.640 with you and our age differends, and like, what's the 0:07:04.640 --> 0:07:07.800 best part about you being younger than me? Me? Yeah, 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:09.960 I feel like for me, I feel like it's You're 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.040 so much fun. I would say this boy, you you 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:16.120 have like such a great fun like personality, and it's 0:07:16.120 --> 0:07:18.760 really hard because I feel like a lot of people 0:07:18.760 --> 0:07:19.880 are really serious and you're not. 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:22.120 Well, I'm definitely serious. 0:07:23.040 --> 0:07:23.760 You're definitely fun. 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:24.600 I like to have fun. 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:24.880 Yeah. 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:27.480 I think I'm a very optimistic person, and I feel 0:07:27.480 --> 0:07:30.600 like you are like the energizer bunny, and you always 0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:33.360 are looking for what's next, what you know type of 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:37.800 just you know event or something that's going on. And 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:41.040 so I definitely would say that being younger is a 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:42.760 benefit to me because I can keep up with you. 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:45.000 I'm not sure I feel like that to each other. 0:07:45.240 --> 0:07:46.560 I'm not sure if any of these old dudes can 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:47.200 keep up with you. 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:49.400 I don't think so either. To be honest with you, 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:50.800 I don't know. I just feel like it's you. 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:51.520 Thank you. 0:07:51.600 --> 0:07:54.240 I don't necessarily like I never really like when I 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:55.840 was single, I never really said, oh I want to 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:57.920 date a younger guy. That was never on my mind. 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:00.400 I never cared to date someone younger so old I 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:03.200 would have dated someone fifteen, sixteen, twenty years older than me, 0:08:03.400 --> 0:08:06.120 or you know, fifteen sixteen years younger than me. I 0:08:06.120 --> 0:08:08.520 don't ever in my mind when I would be, like, 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:10.680 you know what am I looking for? Age was not 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:12.760 one of those things that was on my list. It 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:15.600 was more about character a person, you know, just like 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.000 who they were, you know, as a human being, rather 0:08:18.040 --> 0:08:20.240 than how old are they? Like that was the last 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:20.920 thing on my mind. 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:24.600 Do you feel like that there's anything that I do 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:27.600 because I'm younger that maybe somebody that you dated in 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:29.120 the past wouldn't have done if they were a little 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:29.560 older than me. 0:08:29.680 --> 0:08:33.240 I really don't know. No, I don't think so that's funny. 0:08:33.240 --> 0:08:34.880 I mean, I don't think so. 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:37.680 When I've dated guys younger than you, trust me. I know, 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:39.400 I don't mean it like that. I just mean I 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:41.599 have dated guys younger than you, and I don't I 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:43.600 don't really I just see you for like the things 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:43.880 you do. 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:45.560 You know, Yeah, No, I think it's I think it's 0:08:45.679 --> 0:08:49.280 very much situational and so LARSA, would you say you're 0:08:49.320 --> 0:08:52.320 at your sexiest and most confident point in your life 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:53.679 when it comes to intimacy. 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:56.040 I mean, I know what I'm doing. No, I'm just kidding. 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:59.440 I think so, I feel like I'm really confident. I 0:08:59.480 --> 0:09:02.080 feel really good. I feel like I'm in a really 0:09:02.120 --> 0:09:05.439 good place emotionally, like mentally, and I think that kind 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:08.200 of carries over into your like intimacy. 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:10.599 Yeah, I mean, you're definitely a very confident person. I 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:12.880 feel like we both are. You know, we both really 0:09:13.000 --> 0:09:15.160 could care less of what people think of us. Yeah, 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:17.160 we both work out a lot, so we're trying to 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:19.000 be in our best shape and feel good about our 0:09:19.040 --> 0:09:22.000 bodies and health and wellness, and so, you know, I 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:25.520 feel like there's times when you might be even overly confident. 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:27.000 You throw on some outfits that. 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:29.360 Extra small I get excited. 0:09:29.400 --> 0:09:33.760 I'm like sometimes I'm like, hey, okay, a too confident here. 0:09:33.840 --> 0:09:35.959 But I know, I think it's a good trait to have. 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:38.760 I think it's really important to be confident because I 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:40.320 feel like the world is so harsh. When I read 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:43.080 some of the comments, like the negative comments on Instagram, Twitter, 0:09:43.440 --> 0:09:46.319 I'm like, these people are so mean. And if I 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:48.760 wasn't as confident as I am, if you weren't as 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:51.160 confident as you are, like it would really affect you, 0:09:51.240 --> 0:09:53.880 It would really affect people's mental And I feel like 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:56.400 people don't think about that. They don't think about how 0:09:56.480 --> 0:09:58.520 hurtful some of these things are. And you think, just 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:01.320 because the person is successful or you know they're in 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:04.599 the public eye, that they should sign up for scrutiny. Well, no, 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:07.360 it doesn't work like that. Sometimes you are you know, 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:09.160 you want to be out there doing X, Y and z, 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:12.160 but you're not like ready for all the scrutiny. And 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:14.679 I feel like we're both blessed because we do have 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:17.000 that confidence and where we have that like, I don't 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:19.480 care what people say because I'm going to live my 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:22.280 best life and I am going through separation anxiety with you, 0:10:22.760 --> 0:10:24.800 and I don't care, like life is so good that 0:10:25.120 --> 0:10:27.360 I'm sorry you feel bad, you feel so bad that 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:29.600 you want to talk bad about me, because honestly, I 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:32.200 don't feel bad about you. And even people that like 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:34.840 have said things about us like that are like in 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:38.079 the NBA, like people that I'm like, I feel bad 0:10:38.160 --> 0:10:40.760 for you because look at you, Like I feel sorry 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:43.240 for you because I would never talk anything bad about you, 0:10:43.280 --> 0:10:45.079 But like it's fine that you feel like you need 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:47.959 to comment and say some negative things about us, when 0:10:48.040 --> 0:10:49.680 in reality, like, we don't really care about you. 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:51.600 By the way, I think people you know, see our name, 0:10:51.679 --> 0:10:54.120 our last names, and the fact that we're in the 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:56.440 public a lot, and so people feel like they can, 0:10:56.600 --> 0:10:58.840 you know, have an opinion on certain things in our 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.120 personal life. But I feel like, you know, both of 0:11:01.160 --> 0:11:03.760 us being from Chicago, yeah, we're getting growing up tough. 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:06.839 You know. We don't let words affect us. 0:11:06.960 --> 0:11:09.280 No, we're good. I feel like, you know what I mean. 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.240 I just I wish them. I wish they had a 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:13.520 quarter of the happiness that we have. That's all I 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:14.840 could say. I wish them a quarter. 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:16.720 I just I think it's easy for people to throw 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:19.640 stones behind the user name, you know, on social media. 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:21.360 But I feel like when we're in public and when 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:24.160 we see people out in the world, we rarely get 0:11:24.200 --> 0:11:25.360 any type of negative images. 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:26.640 I feel like everyone loves. 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:28.960 Us exactly, so I think it's easy to throw stones 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:29.720 on social media. 0:11:30.040 --> 0:11:32.439 No, I agree. Do we were discuss having kids? 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:36.319 I think there's been conversations around it, right, I. 0:11:36.240 --> 0:11:38.560 Feel like other people ask we don't really exactly. 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:40.199 I feel like when we go, when we meet people, 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:42.360 I'm introducing you to some of my friends, or you 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:44.040 introduce me to some of your friends. I feel like 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:46.560 it gets brought up. But I don't feel like we've 0:11:46.640 --> 0:11:51.200 ever had a one on one private conversation about having children. 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:53.480 Yeah, I don't think so. 0:11:53.679 --> 0:11:55.560 I don't think so, not a serious one at least. 0:11:55.600 --> 0:11:58.480 It's one of those things where like time will tell 0:11:58.679 --> 0:11:59.760 you know for sure. 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:01.840 I feel like we've been together how. 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.600 Long, like almost eight years and not a year maybe. 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:06.920 Closes like nine going on nine months. 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:09.520 No, it's more than that, I think. So, I don't know. 0:12:09.640 --> 0:12:10.640 We're just living our lives. 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:15.080 You guys, almost do you feel I do feel like 0:12:15.320 --> 0:12:17.600 I'm happy because I have four kids, and I feel 0:12:17.640 --> 0:12:20.240 like you don't have kids, So basically would be like 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:23.319 a question for you because I'm really fulfilled with my 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:23.920 four children. 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:26.800 I don't feel like well, and I think that's something 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:30.480 that goes unsaid with dating and you know, having an 0:12:30.480 --> 0:12:33.000 age gap. Sometimes if the man is older, he might 0:12:33.080 --> 0:12:35.160 have kids. If the woman's older, she might have kids. 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:38.160 And so for me, I don't know. I've always viewed 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:41.640 Trophy Room, my boutique, as my baby, you know, and 0:12:41.679 --> 0:12:46.200 so I was always I was always of the mindset that, 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:49.360 you know, I wanted to establish my own name outside 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:53.280 of being Michael Jordan's son, and so for me, Trophy 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:56.520 Room gave me that opportunity as my business, and so 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:59.040 I've always nurtured it and treated it as my child. 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:01.920 And you know, obviously that's not the same as having 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:04.880 an actual baby, but it's occupied all of my time 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:09.640 and energy into exactly, and so having a child was 0:13:09.640 --> 0:13:13.640 always so far out of my mind frame that you know, 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:15.760 I always like to joke and you've heard me say 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:18.120 it before. I've I've made it thirty two years. I'm 0:13:18.120 --> 0:13:21.640 trying to keep the streak going. But you know, there's 0:13:21.720 --> 0:13:26.840 definitely thoughts that I'm having around is it a possibility, 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:29.400 how soon? How you know much? 0:13:29.440 --> 0:13:33.200 Just so you know, like time is clicking, Oh, I know, it's. 0:13:33.160 --> 0:13:35.000 Ticking and clicking, ticking and clicking. 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:36.680 I don't know. I feel like I have four kids, 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:38.600 but I love being a mom and I feel like 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:43.000 I would be open to having maybe like one more child. Yeah, 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:45.400 but you know, I don't know. I feel like I 0:13:45.400 --> 0:13:47.360 would be open to it. I feel like i've my 0:13:47.440 --> 0:13:49.920 sister having her little kids makes me feel like, oh 0:13:49.920 --> 0:13:51.480 I wish our kids were closer in age. 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:53.720 Yeah. Well, and my sister has a baby. Oh yeah, 0:13:53.760 --> 0:13:56.199 you know, so my nephew, and so I'm always around, 0:13:56.440 --> 0:13:59.960 you know, my nephew, and sometimes I get baby feeverround. 0:14:00.160 --> 0:14:02.200 Gonna lie. It's something that I think we'll have to 0:14:02.200 --> 0:14:04.160 discuss down the road at some point. And so when 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:06.560 when do you think that conversation needs to happen. Is 0:14:06.559 --> 0:14:08.960 there a breakpoint where it's like, all right, we haven't 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:11.480 talked about kids, so it's scrapped that out the window. 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:13.720 I mean, that's on you. I have a few, but 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:18.319 if you decide you want to have, you know, Marquiso, 0:14:18.400 --> 0:14:21.320 then we can discuss. I think when you're with someone, 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.680 you kind of like from the beginning, you kind of 0:14:23.720 --> 0:14:25.560 set like you know what you're looking for. And I 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:27.520 feel like you and I were always like from the 0:14:27.680 --> 0:14:29.600 when we first started dating, I feel like we knew 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:31.600 that it was going to be like serious based on 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:33.720 like who we were and where we were in life. 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:36.520 I feel like maybe after like the year mark, then 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:38.360 you start, like, you know, questioning things. 0:14:38.680 --> 0:14:41.720 I feel like we both have different cultural backgrounds, right, yea, 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:45.560 And so I feel like in my background, being that 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:47.360 I played in sports and obviously coming from an a 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:49.880 fluent family, I never really put as much emphasis on 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:53.520 starting a family young as I thank god. Yeah, I 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:55.080 feel like in your culture it might be a little 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:58.800 bit different with your family history. I feel like my culture, 0:14:58.960 --> 0:14:59.920 I had your first child at. 0:15:01.440 --> 0:15:03.920 Yeah, I got married at twenty one, but also I 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:05.800 had like four kids. I had three kids by the 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:07.480 time I was like thirty. I think I so feel 0:15:07.480 --> 0:15:10.240 like thirty one or thirty two. Yeah, but I do 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:13.760 feel like culturally, like Middle Eastern women like we do 0:15:13.880 --> 0:15:16.880 kind of like want to get married, have a family 0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:19.040 like that to us is like the number one priority. 0:15:19.160 --> 0:15:21.920 Like I don't I don't ever view like seeing someone 0:15:21.960 --> 0:15:24.840 like dating someone just to date them and like wasting 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:26.880 my time. And I know it's not like wasting time, 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:29.160 but for me, culturally, like my mom taught us that 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:31.760 like if you were going to be with someone, you're 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:34.320 building a family with them, You're building a life with them, 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:36.160 and you put all your eggs in that one basket. 0:15:36.200 --> 0:15:37.680 So I feel like for me, that's kind of like 0:15:37.720 --> 0:15:38.400 how I grew up. 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:40.680 Yeah, and I feel like I grew up the opposite. 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:43.880 I feel like my mom and my dad were always like, 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:48.000 you know, have fun, you're young, you know, go explore, 0:15:48.280 --> 0:15:51.160 et cetera. And so, you know, I'm coming out of 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:53.200 that mind frame as I'm starting to mature and get 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:55.120 a little older. So you know, time will tell. 0:15:55.360 --> 0:15:58.080 Yeah, I feel like we've got You've got a little 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:00.000 bit of time. I already know you'd be an amazing day. 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:02.360 But like, what kind of dad would you be? Would 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:03.600 you be like a strict dad? 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:06.360 I feel like, you know, the apple doesn't fall far 0:16:06.400 --> 0:16:09.600 from the tree, yeah, right, And I had very strict 0:16:09.600 --> 0:16:13.880 parents and my upbringing was, you know, was unique, and 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:15.880 so I would definitely feel like I would be a 0:16:15.960 --> 0:16:19.040 very hands on parent. You know. I'm overly involved in 0:16:19.200 --> 0:16:20.960 whatever it is that I do, and you really are, 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:23.120 you know. I just think, I don't know, but I 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:25.960 do like the you know, relationship that you have with 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.400 your kids where I feel like you guys are each 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:31.240 other's best friends and you talk every day, and so 0:16:31.320 --> 0:16:33.600 I feel like that, you know, would be a similar 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:36.080 parenting style that I would like to have. 0:16:36.320 --> 0:16:38.120 I love when you give me advice, like when I'm 0:16:38.120 --> 0:16:40.000 trying to give Sophie advice and you chime in, because 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:43.200