WEBVTT - Conversation breeds conversation

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that conversation breeds conversation. The more you talk

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<v Speaker 1>with a person, the more you have to say to

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<v Speaker 1>each other. Far from exhausting topics, When you know about

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<v Speaker 1>a person's daily life, you are able to pick up

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<v Speaker 1>on these threads and expand from there. So plenty of

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<v Speaker 1>people with full lives would like to have closer relationships

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<v Speaker 1>with their extended families, but when they find time in

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<v Speaker 1>their busy schedules to get together, they sometimes discover that

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<v Speaker 1>they don't have much to talk about. After a lackluster

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<v Speaker 1>family dinner, you might decide that you are just not

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<v Speaker 1>that close to the relatives and downgrade your relationship to

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<v Speaker 1>a we will see you at Thanksgiving sort of thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think there is another option. My Best of

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<v Speaker 1>Both World's co host Sarah hart Unger noted that with

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<v Speaker 1>her extended family, she has found that the more you talk,

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<v Speaker 1>the more you have to say. She has a group

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<v Speaker 1>text going with her family where they share details of

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<v Speaker 1>daily life, so when she sees her family, they already

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<v Speaker 1>know about their recent search for a car. Or her

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<v Speaker 1>foray into pilates, and she knows the headlines of their

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<v Speaker 1>lives too. All of this suggests conversation topics that can

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<v Speaker 1>be continued. Now. I know that group texts could get

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<v Speaker 1>a bad reputation. It is true that some people hijack

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<v Speaker 1>them or post a lot, but you can be judicious

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<v Speaker 1>about these things. You don't have to include every relative

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<v Speaker 1>on every group text. Maybe you have one for the

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<v Speaker 1>few that you are closest to and include them on

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<v Speaker 1>the details of your life. If you haven't had one going,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe just try starting one. You might have to do

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<v Speaker 1>the first few posts, or be strategic about posting things

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<v Speaker 1>that loop the others in, like mentioning your kid's dance

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<v Speaker 1>class and asking your sister if she remembers the tap

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<v Speaker 1>class you two took together on a thread with all

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<v Speaker 1>your siblings. But this is kind of like starting a fire.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes it takes some work, but then it can go

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<v Speaker 1>for a while. If you are not into texting, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>there's something else that works. Emails might so do quick

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<v Speaker 1>phone calls with some relatives. You might worry about not

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<v Speaker 1>being able to get off the phone when you have

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<v Speaker 1>a million things to do, but you can, in fact

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<v Speaker 1>start each conversation with boundaries. I'm picking up Jane at

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<v Speaker 1>soccer and need to go as soon as she gets

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<v Speaker 1>in the car, but I just wanted to check in

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<v Speaker 1>that sort of thing. But when you talk frequently text frequently,

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<v Speaker 1>you start to get enough details that conversations can actually happen.

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<v Speaker 1>I have had the happy experience a few times in

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<v Speaker 1>my life of meeting people in person who have listened

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<v Speaker 1>to lots of my podcasts, so they know enough details

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<v Speaker 1>of my life that they automatically share things from their

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<v Speaker 1>lives that they know I will find interesting, and they

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<v Speaker 1>ask questions that they know I'll probably have something to

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<v Speaker 1>say about. It makes the conversation so much easier versus

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<v Speaker 1>when you don't know much about each other, so you're

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<v Speaker 1>always just grasping for common ground. Oh, Cleveland, I was

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<v Speaker 1>in Cleveland once. It can be rough knowing lots of details.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's you skip all that. A group chat or email

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<v Speaker 1>thread lets you get to that happy place. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to have something to talk about with the

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<v Speaker 1>people in your life, unicate with them more frequently and

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<v Speaker 1>share more specifics. Real conversation now makes real conversation later

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<v Speaker 1>easier and richer. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura

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