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Speaker 1: y'all know I keep it a book. The job market

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Speaker 1: has been brutal, now not brutal trash, especially for women

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Speaker 1: continues to widen. I know all of that sounds dire,

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Speaker 1: but here's what I want y'all to know. You do

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Speaker 1: not have to wait for the system to save you.

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Speaker 1: That's exactly why I created the Mandy money Makers Group

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Speaker 1: coaching community. It is a coaching community that is built

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Speaker 1: for us by us. Inside the community, we're not just

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Speaker 1: talking about how to negotiate or to how to get

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Speaker 1: the job that you want. It's about finding purpose in

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Speaker 1: your career. It's about finding communities and others, feeling seen,

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Speaker 1: feeling heard, and also having a sounding board and a

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Speaker 1: mirror to reflect your own magic, your own sparkle right

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Speaker 1: back to yourself. In this community, you'll get group coaching

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Speaker 1: led by me, but you also get peer to peer

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Speaker 1: accountability with proven tools and resources that can help you

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Speaker 1: do what we have always done since rise. Even when

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Speaker 1: the odds are stacked against us, despite all the challenges,

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Speaker 1: we will rise. If you're interested in joining the Mandy

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Speaker 1: and help you tap back into your magic so that

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Speaker 1: you can lead your career with intention and heart and

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Speaker 1: your own intuition, trusting that again, please join us. You

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Speaker 1: or go to mandymoney dot com slash community. That's Mandy

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Speaker 1: I would love to see y'all there. Enrollment is open,

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Speaker 1: so please go check out mandymoney dot com slash community today. Hey, hey,

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Speaker 1: ba fam, it's your girl, Mandy Money. How y'all doing?

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Speaker 1: How are we doing? It's been a journey these past

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Speaker 1: I completely avoided social media for about forty eight hours

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Speaker 1: Like I'm making this book for y'all and put them

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Speaker 1: it's my show and all that, and I'm going to

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Speaker 1: out to me for accomplishing that, and I was thinking

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to have as much bandwidth for one

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Speaker 1: on one coaching for a while. I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: be taking on new VIP coaching clients. You know, I

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Speaker 1: with those clients. So while I'm finishing the book, I

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Speaker 1: can't do that, but I thought I would. Y'all know

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Speaker 1: the Negotiation masterclass, Nail Your Negotiation. It's my five step

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Speaker 1: framework to becoming an incredible negotiator in your nine to five.

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Speaker 1: but I've actually taken that webinar and I've turned it

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Speaker 1: It's my masterclass that I think hundreds, if not thousands

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Speaker 1: I totally forgot the Mandy Moneymakers community. So this is

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Speaker 1: I lead these coaching sessions where we share what's happening

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Speaker 1: in our careers. We get support. You know, you can

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Speaker 1: you accountable to the goals that you're setting for yourself,

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Speaker 1: is the working business update. Now let's get into what's

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Speaker 1: happening in the world the government shut down. Have I

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Speaker 1: mentioned to y'all, So my husband works for the federal government.

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Speaker 1: This man has been showing up to work for a

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Speaker 1: a row. Like this is some real beat us. And

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Speaker 1: although you can say, okay, well, the millions of federal

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Speaker 1: workers who are working without pay right now typically will

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Speaker 1: get reimbursed, you're also having situations where this administration is

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Speaker 1: this shutdown, as a way to identify more areas to cut,

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Speaker 1: which is like diabolical. Thank goodness. The most recent update

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Speaker 1: system for still doing the damn thing and protecting us

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Speaker 1: from these shenanigans. A federal judge just this week actually

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Speaker 1: has indefinitely blocked the administration from carrying out these layoffs

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Speaker 1: they were going to be heading again over four thousand

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Speaker 1: workers at agencies like the Health and Human Services, Housing

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Speaker 1: can happen. These things can then get challenged at the

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Speaker 1: Supreme Court level. Now, the unfortunate thing is, y'all know

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Speaker 1: about how judges are impartial. The Supreme Court has been compromised.

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Speaker 1: But for now, at least these workers are safe. And

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Speaker 1: on top of that, like the politicization of social safety

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Speaker 1: nets is always just like makes my blood boil. And

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Speaker 1: the latest example of that is that the SNAP benefit

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Speaker 1: program is going to be expiring November first, because Congress

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Speaker 1: has not been able to agree on a budget. One

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Speaker 1: in eight Americans. Something like forty two million Americans rely

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Speaker 1: on benefits to help them buy their groceries. On November first,

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Speaker 1: USDA dot gov. It says Senate Democrats have now voted

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Speaker 1: twelve times to not run the food stamp program. Bottom line,

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Speaker 1: the well has run dry at this time. There will

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Speaker 1: inflection point for Senate Democrats. They can continue to hold

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Speaker 1: it's sickening, it's disgusting, And the fact that it's like,

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Speaker 1: what we stand for, what I thought we stood for.

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Speaker 1: It's a hot mess, and it may even be illegal.

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Speaker 1: We've already seen we've seen state attorney generals from several

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Speaker 1: choosing not to. And they're doing it because they want

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Speaker 1: to turn us against this so called enemy, the Democrats,

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, I do want to encourage you to

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Speaker 1: with state dollars. And then also you can check out

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Speaker 1: banks in your area. You just put in your zip

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Speaker 1: code and so hopefully you know, while this is all

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Speaker 1: getting ironed out, and who knows when the hell Congress

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Speaker 1: will get it together, and you know the White House

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Speaker 1: will get it together. But in the meantime, there are

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Speaker 1: resources and help for y'all. And if you are struggling

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Speaker 1: and you need help from the broad Ambition community, you know,

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Speaker 1: send me a DM, send us a message broad Ambition

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Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com, or hit me up on

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Speaker 1: Instagram at Brown Ambition Podcast on IG. I really want

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Speaker 1: to hear from y'all, especially if you're being impacted by this.

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Speaker 1: I just want to say also, I'm really sorry, and

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Speaker 1: my heart goes out to y'all. It's it's just, there's

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Speaker 1: no way to say it. Just it just sucks. It

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Speaker 1: time using human beings for political gain for you know,

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Speaker 1: it's hard enough, but then to have families can't afford

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Speaker 1: groceries because of what's happening in Washington is honestly despicable

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Speaker 1: and anyone who's responsible for this should clearly be ashamed

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Speaker 1: of themselves. Truly, while this is all happening, and that

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Speaker 1: the Trump is first of all, he's watching the World

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Speaker 1: Series in Japan. He ain't even worried about what's happening

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Speaker 1: in his own country. He's all, you know, traveling the world.

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Speaker 1: He's trying to celebrate this so called ceasefire with Israel

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Speaker 1: that actually lasted like what point five seconds before they

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Speaker 1: were again killing Palestinians, like what they are demolishing. Have

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Speaker 1: you all seen demolishing the East wing of the White

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Speaker 1: House to build a three hundred million dollar ballroom. You

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Speaker 1: can't make this shit up, okay, And that's not the

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Speaker 1: disgusting part. And actually I found this out because my

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Speaker 1: you know, in defense of Trump saying, well, this is

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Speaker 1: pair dollars. And so I'm doing my research for the show,

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Speaker 1: and you know what, to my relative and Georgia, you're right, honey,

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Speaker 1: it's not being funded by taxpayer dollars. You know who

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Speaker 1: is funding it, Big corporations. You're Amazon's, your Meta, your

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Speaker 1: crypto bo boys, the same people, the CEOs of all

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Speaker 1: those big companies that showed up to his inaugural and

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Speaker 1: we wondered what that could mean and what they would

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Speaker 1: be showing up to kiss up to him for. Well,

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Speaker 1: now we're seeing it. This is pure political pay to play. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So here's the list provided by the White House. We

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Speaker 1: have Amazon, Apple, Booze, Alan, Hamilton, Caterpillar, Inc. Coinbase, Comcast,

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Speaker 1: hard Rock International, Google, HP, Lockheed Martin's, Meta, Microsoft, Pallunteer, Ripple,

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Speaker 1: T Mobile. I'll give you all the full list in

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Speaker 1: the show notes. But these these companies, these billionaires are

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Speaker 1: clearly paying and donating to this ridiculous project because they're

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Speaker 1: hoping for more favorable policies, regulations, and tax terms so

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Speaker 1: that they can further enrich themselves. It could not be

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Speaker 1: more obvious, and in fact, in some cases, Trump has

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Speaker 1: literally said, I will settle lawsuits against you if you

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Speaker 1: just donate million dollars to the building of this ballroom.

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Speaker 1: I mean companies like Meta Google, they actually rely a

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Speaker 1: lot on government contracts for their revenue. And in fact,

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Speaker 1: Google and YouTube, which it owns, they were one of

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Speaker 1: the companies that contributed to this ballroom. They paid twenty

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Speaker 1: two million dollars in order to settle a lawsuit that

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Speaker 1: Trump had levied after they suspended him from the platform

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Speaker 1: after January sixth. So the companies that suspended Trump from

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Speaker 1: their platforms after he incited a riot on January sixth

656
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Speaker 1: are now paying twenty two million dollars to build him

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Speaker 1: a party room, to build him a three hundred million

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Speaker 1: dollar karaoke palace, Like, what is happening? This is what

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Speaker 1: we like these companies, these corporations, Like they don't stand

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Speaker 1: on business. They don't stand on nothing. They stand on profits,

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Speaker 1: They stand on their own survival. They stand on covering

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Speaker 1: their own mega mansion bills and paying for their own

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Speaker 1: private jets, Like that's what they care about. They can

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Speaker 1: make these public displays of supporting democracy like taking Trump

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Speaker 1: off with their platforms one second, and then completely pivot

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Speaker 1: once there's a power shift, and once they now have

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Speaker 1: to kiss the ring to get what they need to

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Speaker 1: again make sure that their lights stay on and that

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Speaker 1: they're taking care of right. So it's just yeah, again gross,

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Speaker 1: very gross. But speaking of companies who are getting their

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Speaker 1: come up, ince, first of all, I don't want to

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Speaker 1: ever get excited about people losing their jobs. Like, at

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Speaker 1: the end of the day, this economy is hard to tell.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to celebrate that, but Target continues to

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Speaker 1: suffer at the of the brave consumers myself included, who

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Speaker 1: have been boycotting them ever since they started to roll

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Speaker 1: back their DEI policies at the beginning of this year,

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Speaker 1: and the latest news is that they are laying off

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Speaker 1: eighteen hundred employees and have announced plans for this eight

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Speaker 1: percent layoff and generally have been struggling with stagnant sales

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Speaker 1: and these boycotts. Now, to be fair, Target was struggling

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Speaker 1: even before we started to boycott them, but it clearly

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Speaker 1: isn't helping. So nice to see in some ways that

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Speaker 1: our efforts to vote with our dollars and to use

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Speaker 1: our collective power as consumers can work. My heart does

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Speaker 1: go out to the employees at Target who are going

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Speaker 1: to be losing their jobs as a result of this.

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Speaker 1: At the same time, I'm holding two truths at a time,

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Speaker 1: Like I feel badly for the people who are losing

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Speaker 1: their jobs. I hope that they can quickly find more work.

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Speaker 1: I did read that Target's offering severance packages, and so

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Speaker 1: I hope that'll be taken care of while they make

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Speaker 1: the transition to a new job opportunity. But also like

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Speaker 1: this is, you know, also tied to a really successful

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Speaker 1: boycott and a successful collective action and you know, community

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Speaker 1: that's gotten together and we've agreed we're not ethm with

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Speaker 1: this company. So I want to see I just want

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Speaker 1: to like celebrate that and I want to say that,

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Speaker 1: you know, we did that, we are doing that, and

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Speaker 1: I think we just need to expand that and do

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Speaker 1: it for more companies than just Target. But in the meantime,

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Speaker 1: nice to see that in some ways it's working all right.

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Speaker 1: And lastly, what y'all use AI to help you finish

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Speaker 1: your end of year performance reviews? I was listening to

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Speaker 1: the news earlier and they were saying that JP Morgan Chase,

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Speaker 1: with its three hundred thousand employees, is actually encouraging employees

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Speaker 1: to use chases. But I guess they have a bespoke

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Speaker 1: internal AI platform. They're encouraging employees to actually use that

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Speaker 1: platform to help write their performance reviews. And that got

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Speaker 1: me thinking, would you use AI for your performance review?

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Speaker 1: And honestly, I would be surprised if y'all weren't using

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Speaker 1: AI for your performance review? Who wants to do it? Without?

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Speaker 1: Like it can make things so much simpler? AI can't

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Speaker 1: write your performance review for you. There's no way it can.

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Speaker 1: It can glean just from what Internet sources what you

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Speaker 1: personally have done and accomplished and contributed for the past year.

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Speaker 1: But it can definitely be a thought partner, and for

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Speaker 1: anyone who's like staring at those internal systems, like you're

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Speaker 1: in workday or whatever it is, and you're trying to

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Speaker 1: quantify your contributions for the year, and you start to

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Speaker 1: just like your eyes glaze over and you're like, oh Lord,

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Speaker 1: what am I gonna What am I going to write?

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Speaker 1: I could really see AI being a helpful tool, and

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Speaker 1: I think that it can be a thought partner. It

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Speaker 1: can help you kind of like streamline your thoughts and

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Speaker 1: make your assessment really clear and focus on things that matter.

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Speaker 1: So here's something to consider if you're going to use

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Speaker 1: AI for your performance review. You know, give it a

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Speaker 1: give it a little bit of a spiel, like say, like,

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Speaker 1: give it a brain dump. Here's everything I've done the

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Speaker 1: past year, you know, focus on here's my title, here

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Speaker 1: are my main responsibilities. If you have KPIs or objectives

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Speaker 1: you were meant to hit this year, tell the AI

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Speaker 1: about that. Tell the AI what your biggest wins are

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Speaker 1: you know, talk about projects that you've led, also anything

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Speaker 1: that's quantifiable, like how much revenue was generated, how many

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Speaker 1: customers did you serve? Like did you improve any processes?

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Speaker 1: Did you save any time? And if you're struggling with

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Speaker 1: even quantifying what you've achieved, I think AI can also

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Speaker 1: help you there. So you can even tell it what

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Speaker 1: you've done and then ask for ideas on how you

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Speaker 1: can quantify these in a meaningful way that will stand out.

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Speaker 1: You can talk about like, Okay, here are the skills

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Speaker 1: and things that I've grown over the past year. You

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Speaker 1: can ask the AI to help you sort of put

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Speaker 1: together a little blurb about just the impact of your work.

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Speaker 1: You know, has your work benefited the team you work

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Speaker 1: with or your company at large? Have you mentored anyone

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Speaker 1: or helped your colleagues? You know, what feedback have you

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Speaker 1: gotten from your peers, your managers, your clients, and like

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Speaker 1: areas of growth that you may have. You can also

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Speaker 1: ask the AI to help you kind of tease that out.

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Speaker 1: And I think using it as a thought partner makes

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Speaker 1: a lot of sense. So I want to hear from

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Speaker 1: y'all though, BA Fan, are you going to use AI

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Speaker 1: for your performance reviews. Are you is it like, do

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Speaker 1: you think this is like ethical? Unethical? What I mean

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Speaker 1: at this point if there, I feel like managers are

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Speaker 1: going to use AI right, like they'd be crazy not

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Speaker 1: to as well. So why shouldn't we be using AI

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Speaker 1: as well to give ourselves the best shot at getting

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Speaker 1: a great performance review? And you know that directly ties

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Speaker 1: to your dollars. You want to get that raise, that bonus,

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Speaker 1: you want it to be good, right, Iva fan, That's

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Speaker 1: all I got for you this week. Thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for listening to Brown Ambition. Don't forget to check

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Speaker 1: the show notes for all the resources. The freebie I

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Speaker 1: so much for the support and for all the love,

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Speaker 1: and I will see y'all real soon. Thank you. Take care.

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Speaker 1: If you want the full discussion, if you want the

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Speaker 1: has been going on, just in the interest of time,

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Speaker 1: because there is so much to cover on today's show

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Speaker 1: real for a second, and y'all know I keep it

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Speaker 1: a book. The job market has been brutal, now not

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Speaker 1: brutal trash, especially for women of color. Over three hundred

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Speaker 1: thousand of us have disappeared from the workforce this year alone,

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Speaker 1: and not by choice, but because of layoffs, disappearing DEI programs,

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Speaker 1: that sounds dire, but here's what I want y'all to know.

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