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Speaker 1: Here it is Rawberry Letter. Thank you enough for you.

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Speaker 1: Subject He kept an apartment for years. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm thirty seven years old and my husband is forty five.

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Speaker 1: We've been married for eight years, and he's been lying

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Speaker 1: and keeping things from me the whole time. When we

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Speaker 1: started dating, he was living in a two bedroom apartment

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Speaker 1: and it was the ultimate bachelor pad. I was living

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Speaker 1: with my mother because she insisted that I stay there

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Speaker 1: until we got married. Right after the wedding, we bought

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Speaker 1: a historic ranch home that needed a few upgrades. His

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Speaker 1: lease was not up yet, so we stayed in his

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Speaker 1: apartment for five months. When we finally moved to our

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Speaker 1: own home, we were able to buy new furniture. He

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Speaker 1: said he was giving his old furniture to his nephew.

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Speaker 1: I let him handle that and I focused on our

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Speaker 1: new home and fixing it up. I should have helped

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Speaker 1: him move out of his apartment, or at least monitored

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Speaker 1: where all of his furniture went, because I recently found

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Speaker 1: out that he didn't move out of his apartment building. Instead,

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Speaker 1: he downsized to a studio apartment and moved his sleeper

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Speaker 1: sofa to the new place. I found out all of

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Speaker 1: this the other night while we were at a friend's

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Speaker 1: birthday party. One of the guys got drunk and started

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Speaker 1: reminiscing about my husband's cool creep spot, and I could

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Speaker 1: hear him. They all tried to shut him up, but

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Speaker 1: that made it worse. There was no way around it,

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Speaker 1: so my husband confessed that night. He told me that

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Speaker 1: he use the studio apartment as an Airbnb until twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty one, and he made a lot of money from it.

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Speaker 1: He showed me the account balance with my name on

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Speaker 1: the account. But all I could think about were the

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Speaker 1: times he was supposed to be out of town, and

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Speaker 1: I wondered if he lied and was really at the apartment.

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Speaker 1: Shouldn't you share this type of info with your spouse.

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Speaker 1: Are there more secrets? Should I trust him? Wow? What

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Speaker 1: a way to find out about that apartment that he

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Speaker 1: still had it and everything he moved to a studio? Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: just it's coming, it's coming. Hang on anyway, As I

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Speaker 1: was saying, what a way to find out, Yes, he

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Speaker 1: should have told you that he had an airbnb. Of

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Speaker 1: course he should have. But you know how it is

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Speaker 1: when people get drunk at parties and stuff. They do

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Speaker 1: get to talking now, and sometimes they know what they're

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Speaker 1: talking about. Sometimes they don't. In this case, it sounds

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Speaker 1: like he did know he was talking about. In any event,

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Speaker 1: I think he was telling the truth because everyone was

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Speaker 1: trying to shut him up, and he distinctly said creep

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Speaker 1: spot because you heard him, and that's what made your

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Speaker 1: husband confess. I'll give him credit, your husband for having

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Speaker 1: those air and B receipts so you could see him,

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Speaker 1: you could see the account balance and all that. But

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Speaker 1: he didn't give you any of the money, and your

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Speaker 1: name was on the account. I say, no, don't trust him,

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Speaker 1: because if he had you thinking he'd gotten rid of

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Speaker 1: the apartment and he really didn't, he was using it

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Speaker 1: as a creep spot, you know, which that's what creep

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Speaker 1: spot means, to cheat and all of that. Then he

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Speaker 1: definitely could be lying about other stuff. So no, no,

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Speaker 1: he's not to be trusted at this point. Are there

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Speaker 1: any more secrets? They're bound to be if he kept

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Speaker 1: this big secret again, Should you trust him? I say no, Steve,

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Speaker 1: break to makeup that song we do. First you loved me,

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Speaker 1: then you hate me. That's a game for foods. Shirley

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Speaker 1: breaks up more relationships with this damn letter. I was

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Speaker 1: sitting here just waiting to watch her wreck another home.

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Speaker 1: She did not let me die. Break to last. Oh

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Speaker 1: we do nothing in here, says the man cheated First,

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Speaker 1: you loved me? Thinking I'm about to give my answer,

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Speaker 1: my I'm answering my question with a love song that's

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Speaker 1: from the crooner from the Willards Johnson Show back in

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Speaker 1: nineteen ninety one. Nobody knows what you're talking about. Surely

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Speaker 1: stomping a lord, that is it. And I said what

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Speaker 1: I said, I know Sherley thirty seven year old lady,

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Speaker 1: wonderful lady, and her husband is forty five. That's an

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Speaker 1: eight year difference. They've been married for eight years. Ironic.

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Speaker 1: I do numbers like that because I'm always fascinated with them.

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Speaker 1: He's been lying and keep your things for me the

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Speaker 1: whole time. Is that new? Nope? Is that the first time? Nope,

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Speaker 1: hasn't happened in other relationships? Yep? Should it happen in

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Speaker 1: other relationships? Yep? You can't tell everything. And regardless as

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Speaker 1: to whether our person whose name adorns these wonderful letters

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Speaker 1: says this or not, women don't share everything, and they

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Speaker 1: know that they can't, but the moment or man don't

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Speaker 1: share something, here we go. You love down stinking, trifling, honoring,

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Speaker 1: no good dog face being, of course, But I just

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Speaker 1: wanted to say this. I want to apologize to the

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Speaker 1: men that listen to this show. We have to sweat

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Speaker 1: while in your car with your wife on the way

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Speaker 1: to work, dropping her all. I know you've considered skipping

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Speaker 1: over the Strawberry Letter of lately due to the turn

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Speaker 1: of events with Shirley being the home killer that she is.

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Speaker 1: Will be back in my response to try to save

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Speaker 1: this relationship before Shirley says, and I don't have a

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Speaker 1: I'm not breaking him Shirley Nobody's response coming up in

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour, we'll get back into

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Speaker 1: it right after this you're listening to show. All right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter and uh

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Speaker 1: get to your response. He kept an apartment for years

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Speaker 1: is the subject. First of all, I stand by everything

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Speaker 1: I said previous. Today, I will recite the song that's

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Speaker 1: obviously Shirley's motto, break up to make up. That's all

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Speaker 1: we do. Because she loved me, then you hate me.

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Speaker 1: That's a game for foods. Shirley is in the middle

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Speaker 1: of doing what she normally does in the Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna sure to see if I could save

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Speaker 1: this hand's relationship. This couple is eight years apart. They've

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Speaker 1: been married for eight years. She claimed that the man

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Speaker 1: living in a two bad room apartment. It was an

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Speaker 1: ultimate bachelor pad. You was living with your mama because

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Speaker 1: your mamma said you ain't gonna live with no damn body.

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Speaker 1: Tyas getting married, so she didn't move in. We bought

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Speaker 1: then you all got married. You bought up the historic

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Speaker 1: ranch home that needed some upgrades. His lease wasn't up yet,

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Speaker 1: so we stayed in his apartment for five months while

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Speaker 1: he was fixing on the house. I guess when we

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Speaker 1: new furniture. He said he was giving his old furniture

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Speaker 1: to his nephew. I let him handle that. I focused

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Speaker 1: least monitored all of his where his furniture went. No,

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Speaker 1: you shouldn't know. Why Why why you got to focus

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Speaker 1: on focus on the new house. See your arm track

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Speaker 1: quarterback in now, lady, See now you're beating yourself up

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Speaker 1: about something that didn't happen. Why would you have to

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Speaker 1: y'all ball, So take this off your plate of weary

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Speaker 1: and concern. That's not at fault, that's not your problem. Wow.

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Speaker 1: I recently found out that he didn't move out of

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Speaker 1: his apartment building, and now he moved out the apartment.

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Speaker 1: He didn't move out the build. Didn't he downside to

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Speaker 1: a studio apartment that moved to sleep or sofa to

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Speaker 1: the new place. How you gonna have a place down there?

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Speaker 1: And they ain't got no sofa in. It makes no sense,

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Speaker 1: so listen to this. I found all of this out

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Speaker 1: the other night when we were at his friend's birthday party.

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Speaker 1: One of the guys got drunk to his ass. Oh

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Speaker 1: we just drinking. He told fool, a man, you need

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Speaker 1: to stop all this drink right cold have apartment for

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Speaker 1: He had to bring him through them, bring him through,

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Speaker 1: then over here through that third. We have some colds

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Speaker 1: up in the room. Fool shut your damn mother, Shut

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Speaker 1: your damn mother. But they have to be quiet. That's

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Speaker 1: how that's that is. That is how we all met

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Speaker 1: our wives. A man be quiet, and I could hear him.

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Speaker 1: They all tried to shut him off, but that made

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Speaker 1: it work. You tell me to be quiet, I would

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Speaker 1: He had it, and he got another one. This is

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Speaker 1: this is a studio. Why are you going to rum

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Speaker 1: dog how we're being there at the same time. N

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Speaker 1: you're only going that one at a time. There's alway crowning.

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Speaker 1: I can't get a room. There was nowhere around it.

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Speaker 1: So my husband confessed that night. He told me that

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Speaker 1: he used his studio apartment as an Airbnb into twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty one. He made a lot of money from it.

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Speaker 1: He showed me all the account balances with my name

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Speaker 1: on the account. Thank you man, thank you proof with

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Speaker 1: and can continue to make this revenue in here. That

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Speaker 1: he had that decency to make sure that you had

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Speaker 1: to happened to him, that is the surprising life. Now

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Speaker 1: How you think he was buying this new furniture that AIRBP.

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Speaker 1: I do believe it was an Airbnb. He had the

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Speaker 1: He was using it as a way to gain alternative revenue.

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Speaker 1: His drunk friend said it was a creep spot for

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Speaker 1: his drunk friend because he rents it out to him

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Speaker 1: as an Airbnb. He used it as a creep spot.

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Speaker 1: A lot of people rent airbnbs as creek spots. That

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Speaker 1: ain't nothing new man sherlot? All I could think of,

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Speaker 1: what's the time he was supposed to be out of town?

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Speaker 1: And I wondered if he lied and was really at

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Speaker 1: the apartment. Yes, shouldn't you share this type of info

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Speaker 1: with your spouse? Hell no, they're more secrets, believe Yes,

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Speaker 1: he listened to me on the account. What are you

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Speaker 1: talking about? Surely her name is on the account. She

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Speaker 1: didn't even know about it. I have a counsel with

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Speaker 1: my wife's name on it. She don't know about. Are

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Speaker 1: they creeping fun? I can't creep nowhere? I'm yes, Hey Steve,

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Speaker 1: what's up? Yeah? Hey man, how you doing? Don't don't

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Speaker 1: tell nobody else over here? Oh hey, heyst Hey, how

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Speaker 1: you doing? Man? Hey man, do me a favor, man,

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Speaker 1: don't say on that to nobody anybody. And uh, and

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna call you beforehand, and please remove that camera

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Speaker 1: down that's up there in the ceiling on all elevators

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Speaker 1: and everything. Yeah, that's why you don't see my ass

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Speaker 1: the world. You know he's wrong for this? All right?

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