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Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. That's an actual letter,

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Speaker 1: an actual letter. All right, ladies and Gentlemen's time for

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter with my good friend Shirley Strawberry. All right,

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Speaker 1: thank you, junior. Subject. I don't want your stepdaddy. Dear Stephen, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I need your help. My husband's mother is separated from

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Speaker 1: her husband and she's staying with us temporarily while she

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Speaker 1: works out her marital issues. Meanwhile, she's been up late

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Speaker 1: at night entertaining a younger man. My husband has seen

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Speaker 1: it with his own eyes, but he doesn't know how

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Speaker 1: to confront her about it. My husband said, we need

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Speaker 1: she can leave our home. He's asked me to help

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Speaker 1: out by talking to his mom's husband, which is his stepdad.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't have a good relationship with the stepdad because

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Speaker 1: he is a whore. He slept with two of my

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Speaker 1: mother in law's friends before they met, and she knew

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Speaker 1: that and still married him. Anyway, they are separated now

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Speaker 1: because my mother in law came home one day and

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Speaker 1: a cigarette in her house. He's so foul and we

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Speaker 1: wish she'd divorced him, especially since she's already started dating again. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the goal was to get her out of my house,

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Speaker 1: so I agreed to talk to a stepdad. I went

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Speaker 1: daughter because he has said a few inappropriate things to

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Speaker 1: me before. He offered me a drink and I declined.

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Speaker 1: He told me he's happier without my mother in law

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Speaker 1: there and he wants a divorce. I reminded him that

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Speaker 1: it is her house and he needs to move out.

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Speaker 1: He got upset with me and put me out. Next

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Speaker 1: thing I know, he told my husband that I came

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Speaker 1: over there ready to do a lot more than talk.

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Speaker 1: My husband had the audacity to ask me to tell

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Speaker 1: him exactly what happened, as if he believed his stepdaddy.

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Speaker 1: I'm furious at my husband. This had nothing to do

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Speaker 1: with me and my husband has put me in the

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Speaker 1: middle of it. What to do? Please help? Well, first

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Speaker 1: of all, you let your husband put you in the

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Speaker 1: middle of it, and this is a whole mess right here. Now.

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Speaker 1: I know your gut. I know your gut told you

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Speaker 1: to stay out of it when your husband first asked you.

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Speaker 1: But the most urgent thing was to get your mother

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Speaker 1: in law out of your house. So you went along.

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Speaker 1: You agreed to talk to your stepdaddy, and stepdaddy is

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Speaker 1: the one who needs to go. Clearly, he's the culprit

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Speaker 1: in all of this. He doesn't get along with anyone.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't get along with his wife, his stepson, and

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Speaker 1: he doesn't get along with you. He puts you and

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Speaker 1: your daughter out. He's the one who had the woman

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Speaker 1: in the house. So okay, it's just disrespectful smoking a

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Speaker 1: sick Talking to stepdaddy didn't work, So now it's time

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Speaker 1: to talk to his mom, his son, her son. Your

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Speaker 1: husband is afraid to confront her, and you guys got

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Speaker 1: to talk to him. Though, fear or not, you guys

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Speaker 1: still have to talk to him. I would say, don't

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Speaker 1: talk to her about entertaining the younger man, because she'll

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Speaker 1: only get defensive okay, talk to her about going back

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Speaker 1: to her own house. That he should be the one leaving,

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Speaker 1: not her. Why should she allow him to make her

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Speaker 1: her granddaughter, that doesn't need to be seeing her grandmother

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Speaker 1: with another man. This is crazy. These are all the

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Speaker 1: reasons her stepdaddy or his stepdaddy needs to go and

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Speaker 1: this clown and move on. But first, of course, she

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Speaker 1: going to start affecting your marriage if it hasn't already.

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Speaker 1: I mean, your husband is questioning you right now about

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Speaker 1: Does he believe his stepdad? Yeah? You don't want these problems,

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Speaker 1: You really really don't. So you guys gotta seriously set

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Speaker 1: her down and have a serious conversation with her. Steve,

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Speaker 1: this is crazy, Yeah, it is. Now let me show

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Speaker 1: you why. I think. The whole letter just really explains

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Speaker 1: itself to me. I don't know why she even wrote us,

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Speaker 1: but I do understand why she wrote us. But let

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Speaker 1: They're not getting back together. Let's just understand that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: She's staying with y'all temporarily in you and your husband's house.

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Speaker 1: your husband has seen it with his own eyes, but

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Speaker 1: he don't know how to go to his mom about it.

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Speaker 1: I was thinking right away, man, he's gotta mess him

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Speaker 1: up because he won't hearing her daddy back together. But

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Speaker 1: I don't think, and I don't think that's gonna happen,

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Speaker 1: because which is his stepdad that he wants his mom

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Speaker 1: information for later. He don't have a good relationship with

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Speaker 1: his stepdad who is a whore, Because what Steve, he

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Speaker 1: is a whore. It says it in the letter. It

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Speaker 1: does he is a or. He slept with two of

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Speaker 1: y'all's mother law friend before he before they met, and

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Speaker 1: she knew that and still married him. Anyway, Now they

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Speaker 1: here and chill out. Who do that? Let's smoke over him?

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Speaker 1: So right there, the disrespect is blatant. So while we're talking,

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Speaker 1: I'll explain the rest when we come back. He's so foul.

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter, subject I

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Speaker 1: don't want your stepdaddy. My damn husband's mama then moved

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Speaker 1: y'all calling Mantle issues. Meanwhile, she been entertaining the younger

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Speaker 1: Now she at your house clowning. Okay, on top of

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Speaker 1: all that, your husband has seen it with his own eyes,

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Speaker 1: my life, so I'm enjoying it in this letter. Your

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Speaker 1: your mama's friends for they met, and she married him anyway. Now,

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Speaker 1: the reason they separated because mother in law came home

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Speaker 1: fall y'all never want y'all want her to divorce him

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Speaker 1: you want your mama to go back to the whore. Okay,

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Speaker 1: and your mama just started dating at your house, so

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Speaker 1: because he has said a few inappropriate things to you before,

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Speaker 1: trying to keep do this. He offered me a drink.

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Speaker 1: if it's if it's the wife's house, why did she

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Speaker 1: That's the way I got because it just does so much.

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Speaker 1: The man is a horror. I've never said that to

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Speaker 1: And I got news for you, brother, Your stepdaddy don't

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Speaker 1: off me. You're over here trying to talk to me,

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Speaker 1: But dog, but that's the oldest trick in the book

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Speaker 1: by old cats. Man. The best defense is the best offense.

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Speaker 1: you on d I'm gonna throw a fireball that you

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Speaker 1: your wife came over here to do more than talk

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Speaker 1: and tip the eleven year old girl. Really, man, So

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Speaker 1: what you need to do, really, this should be on

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Speaker 1: demand the wife's husband. He needs to talk to his

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Speaker 1: and stepped to him the right way, go your pardon,

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Speaker 1: bust you upside your head already, don't like you, and

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Speaker 1: get out my mama's house. Poor, Yeah, not for real,

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Speaker 1: then get out here. Just letter crazy? All right, all right, Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: Stave Harvey Morning Show